This Is Why Women Make ZERO EFFORT
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I love beauty like most men, but stupid will end my interest immediately.
Haven't been single in 21 years but have the same tolerance level for pretty but airheaded women. A few minutes of talk is enough.
I try not to take too much pleasure in this, but there are pretty woman regulars in my gym that I talked to once or twice, realized they are idiots, and I never talk to them again. They end up practically falling down backwards trying to regain my attention, to no avail.
Me too, I'm just as interested in what's between a woman's ears as anything else she has to offer.
Same with bisexual well not a a turn off but a red flag or not even that but something to be weary of. Most bisexual women I've dated have had major mental issues and I'm totally cool with all sexualities like you do you, but men watch out for bisexual women.
Butt ugly won't get your interest at all
Beauty attracts men.
Personality makes men stay.
I have no beauty therefore I will never be in a relationship :P
Personality attracts women
Providing makes women stay.
@@jaywilliams4397 By that logic, seems that only good looking men get women. That's hard to believe because I've seen many women with ugly guys.
You mean gentlemen
Well said, true story.
“The world’s most abundant resource is thirsty men”. Haha, this is so true, and well put.
Greg Woodin yes and thirSty women
@@gingerellacookie5641 More like starving women... in more ways than 1... XD
Thirsty men not liking this
@@hoardajam5619 because its a lie. trust me, ik.
@@ithaca2076 no u
"Being an ugly girl in life is a lot like being a guy......you're gonna have to work" tosh.0
Daaaaaaaang
Except if the girl is ugly she's gonna hit a ceiling pretty damn fast. Whereas the guy can compensate for having low level looks by all kinds of things...
If he succeeds....
@@MrTresto Almost any girl can easily find an average guy who would think that her looks are good enough. If her personality is great, he will be happy to have her.
@@Anakox Fair enough ( and also true ).
Looks fade over time, dumb lasts forever.
Boom.
@Dokkasan owo i go out of my way to avoid attractive women. attractive womens lives are so, so, so easy, why would i want one of them, lol.
"Dumb lasts forever"
I wouldn't say that especially since babys are dumb but they don't stay that forever unless a specific circumstances 🙄
@@masky8161 lmfao nobody is dating babies STFU 🤣🤣🤣
Depends what you mean by "dumb".
A woman is born
A man has to be made
Damn son you are in every UA-cam comment😂
You think so??
Silver Knight i do. Life is much easier for women nowadays in western society where social media and mass media gives them so much validation and free compliments just for being a woman. Governments enforces feminism, laws, quota systems for power positions and rights that favours more women than men. Men are disposable and women only cares for their own problems( which btw all are mens fault) but are never satisfied with equaility. Women are just expected to be good as they are and men have to improve, man up and struggle with the most dangerous jobs( which no woman has interest to introduce gender quotas for), highest mortality and suicide rates. We have to provide with no excuse and still behave in ways that favors women over men. And if we complain we are just haters and toxic.
Very true in the western culture but there are places in the world where women are Made, because this is education that they're given and not HotNails Voucher for gift.
@Brion Stronghold I feel like you're new here, these kind of comments are always here at the top.
the last time I watched a man hit a nail on the head for 12 minutes straight I was working construction.
Good one.
Either that was one really long nail, or he was giving that nail gentle love taps.
I'm stealing this
@EmilM 77 Hitting the nail on the head means "to be accurately right about something."
He should get a nail gun, which would save a lot of time
For me, the main thing that young men should remember is that self improvement should be done for one self, not to impress others, especially women.
Trust me when I tell you that "self improvement for the sake of others" is an all consuming endeavour that if (and when) it fails to achieve the result you expected, like impressing a woman, you'll fall into a cycle of depression that it can be hard to get out of.
Reading this statement is easy but I think it takes time experience and a few heartbreaks before you realise the gravity of it
Excellent wisdom - I think you have it bang on right an it is a shame more effort is not given to teaching this vital truth.
@@siddhantbhoite4667 Oh yeah... I can personally guarantee you that for me it was a life changing heartbreak, that I'm still recovering from.
Self Esteem has to come from the self and for the self or it isn't SELF esteem.
Nice
there are female dating strategy channels, they all teach how to be a gold digger basically
Also interested 👀
They teach how to
TEST,
YIELD From Commodity,
HOW TO ATTRACT THE BEST POSSIBLE GENETICS,
-End of list.
yes!. i was on a thread with a 21yr old girl, we disagreed a bit till she put a link to a womans channel for the "female perspective". i told her that the woman was a gold digger and advising aspiring gold diggers and told her that the woman would ruin her, then i gave her names for conservative female youtubers like The ukrainian lense. 90% of women dating channels are gold digger material, what makes it worse is that women like that view point,, on the conservative channel you mostly find men commenting, ironic
@@crimsonite1524 thats why never marriage its not worth it nowadays it just does not
Yep, the focus of those channels seems exclusively focused on how to keep a man because they recognize just how easy it is to attract one initially.
A woman who’s born beautiful is like winning the lottery, didn’t have to do anything to earn it.
John Smith it screws her over quite often however, as she is the one that gets the bad guy in middle school and high school. Sucks to be beautiful without the protection of fathers and brothers in today’s age.
And the funny thing is, most young women can make themselves prettier with very little effort. Cut out the sweets, wear some makeup, and do your hair.
Men, on the other hand, just need to become a CEO, a surgeon, and work out four hours a day in order to get the attention of most girls in the age of Tinder where most chicks are spoiled rotten for choice.
The Candid Counterbalance We have received so much more benefits than women.
If you take women worldwide and ask them if they are grateful for being their own gender - you will find that a large part of women would say they wish they had it as easy as men. Come on, aren’t you grateful you are a guy?
Unless karma turns out to be a real thing lol
@@WomenofHighValue
Well let's see... All of the girls in my master's program got high-paying jobs within weeks of graduating. Several years later, barely any of the guys have even gotten interviews.
One of the girls had the nerve to come back to town the following year and tell all of the un-employed men that one day they're going to have to come to terms with their male privilege.
I looked her right in the face and reminded her, "Kasheequa, you work at the World Bank."
But of course she doesn't make as much as her supervisor, so she's oppressed, and it's all men's fault. *smh
Its pathetic to see all the thirsty dudes on IG commenting on pretty girls photos. I think porn is making things worse for this situation
I like certain girls pictures, but I never comment. That's just thirsty.
Kyle I don’t like or comment on girls’s pictures. Both acts are desperate...
Yeah its so funny they comment on girl with 5millions follower like they have a chance lol so pathetic
@Trevor C that's a solid approach dude, hope you keep going even if you get rejected. Social media is cancer
Yes!! Who the F are all these "models" on IG that have upwards of 1M followers and regularly get 5,000+ likes per photo??? It's absurd and honestly embarrassing reading the thirsty comments. Social media and male orbiters are accelerating this madness and destroying the natural order making it tougher for men. STOP IT.
"i would go for pretty because you can just learn things and become smarter" looks like she already is in the pretty but stupid category judging by that logic haha
Lmao exactly what i thought.
A really pretty woman who also puts in the work to become smarter is a rare bird indeed. Very rare.
@@probro6722 but the question is smart and ugly or dumb and beautiful
No dumb person become smart ,just a person who thinks they are smart
@@kojinmaster Why are you explaining this to me like i didn't understand the saying? When she said that she can be with low IQ and pretty and become smarter, i thought: "oh young lady, that makes no sense, you must be from the dumb and pretty category yourself"
Lol 🙂
It saddens me when I'm talking to a high IQ woman and I bring up a topic like politics, life philosophy, cultural differences etc. and I see her eyes just glaze over. And then I find out she has no hobbies. There's a lot of wasted potential out there.
Why would you care? It's her life and her intelligence. Frankly, it's one less competitor in society. If you want deep conversations, talk to someone else, most likely a man. If you want playful banter and to exercise your social skills, talk to a woman.
@@atl3630 cool guess I'll just never talk to women again. Also dudes are the king of playful banter lol.
dude ive never met a woman with a hobby
@Ricardo Herrera By who?
Being very very smart in those ways gives you opinions... which gives you more disagreeability, and most women want to be percieved a certain way which doesn't involve being particularly controversial. Unless it's feminism, then all bets are off.
I chose my wife by personality and not her status. Going on 15 years of being happily married.
Reassuring to hear this.
Kudos to you, my friend
Here's to another 15 years of marriage for you and your lovely lady
The only way on a succelful marriage is to date waaaaaay down. And even then, they probably think they are an equal to you and try to date up as soon as the possibility arrives.
How many side chicks you got?
@@Labrynthetic lol 0. Happily married.
Nobody ever went on a blind date without saying "I hope he/she is good-looking."
Knowing that 75% of Americans are overweight makes me never want to blind date
I hope I can get her to use a strapon.
I guess you are some what right, but we place character more importance because we just get tired of looks
to quote an old song" "if you want to be happy for the rest of your life never make a pretty woman your wife"
The late great jimmy soul was right.
Had that running through my head yesterday.
From my personal point of view, get an ugly girl to marry you!
But you have to find them attractive, why the hell would you marry someone you don't fancy.
Why marry anyway ?
If I had to sacrifice my looks for my intelligence, I'd take my intelligence. I wouldn't be who I am without my intelligence. I would still be me with burn scars.
You can fix up your beauty with money, but intelligence is largely unchangeable.
Exactly! INTELLIGENCE
@@tamash.5291 yes easy to grow 10 inches grow a handsome face and widen your skeletal frame!
@@azorahai5158 not easy, you need someone who has a phd in breaking skulls
and spend some years in the gym, in the right way
I'd rather be Jeff Bezos than Channing Tatum
Thank you for pointing out that much of men's behaviour is motivated by a desire to appeal to what women want. It raises very interesting implications for women who are admonishing men for their 'toxic masculinity' and lecturing men on the myriad of ways in which they need to change. As I've said before, if you want to change men's behaviour, you first need to change women's preferences. And men are generally smart enough to know that what women say they want is often an unreliable indicator of what they actually want.
wow, very intelligent remark, on the other hand I'm learning that preferences are just that preferences, they don't necessarily are fitness indicators, although many are, but some things are sexy, just because others find them sexy, like a fashion trend, just as irrational, some of those preferences can even become maladaptive, I learned about this in a book called "The evolution of beauty", I liked it, but also gave me a feeling of nihilism.
No wonder your online name is Smirking Nick sir! Very well said my good man! Tips hat 🎩
What /anyone/ of /either sex/ says is usually a bad indicator of what they want. Look at Dan Ariely's research
Women want to feel safe because of some of the particular masculine positive traits related to strength - but not in a way and degree that shows them to be out of control and overtly dangerous (aka not safe again).
Well most men wouldn't wanna be ugly either. I can't judge them
this. I'd rather be handsome and dumb... I'd rather be happy.
As an ugly man I can tell you that it's not fun
Being handsome and dumb can still net a sales job that pays a hefty salary. So i would choose the former as well lol
@@julian.castro18 Exactly. Being handsome I probably would turn into someone I don't like and not have the things I value now in my current life, but at least I'd be more happy. What good is being intelligent if you hate your life.
I'm pretty good looking kid as it is, say maybe a 8/10, but I'd still choose the former if it means I can switch over from being 5'5 to 6'2 and become a 10/10 chad. Lmao
"A pretty face don't make no pretty heart..."-- Robert Palmer, "Doctor, doctor"
"She ain't pretty, she just looks that way" -- Northern Pikes, "She Ain't Pretty"
The main problem with men's hierarchy of selection is that selecting beauty over intelligence is that you only engage in sex for less than an hour every day or so, but, you have to live with them for the other 23 hours every day.
Exactly. Still have to deal with them before and after.
I agree, but in my opinion a kind person is more desirable then simply intelligence. A person can be dumb and an amazing person at the same time
@@leahmackinnon1213 I feel like that's just you projecting
If you have a fulltime job its more like 5 hours on weekdays and the weekends
I'm pretty sure you meant the other 25 hours in a day.
Loyalty and honesty are far more important, i really dont care if she is smart or not.
@Dokkasan I know, thats the most important quality period. I dont understand why some people see a woman not being smart as a turn off, when that will probably make it worse if she decides to divorce.
I found one, then she left me after 6 years literally without warning.
@@BobFrostV 6 years? lol she might think you waste her time 🤣
Thank you! Younger people are so concerned about career, abilities and appearances that they forget that none of that matters if they are surrounded by scammers.
@@BobFrostV Oh, there were probably plenty of warnings and red flags long the way... only problem is that most of us men don't speak Womanese so we miss them...
to me this whole thing about men chasing women and showing off their resources on them made no sense.
its like a drug dealer paying a junky so that junky take his stuff....
if men are usually the ones with resources and women the one looking for resources , it should logically be the women chasing men, they are the one looking for security, resources and a strong mate.
from a guys view , what does he gets mate wise ? someone who is smaller, poorer, more fragile, more emotional and prone to emotional response rather then logical response... this whole thing just have me shaking my head and laughing lol
What does the guy get? Sex. That's the primary resource women offer
@@adrianarroyo937 true , but beside sex , there isnt much that she will likely offer . sure companionship and love but overall a women has much more to gain to being in relationship then a man being in relationship.
In my personal life i noticed my life always went much better as a single guy then being in a relationship. I had more time , more free resources , more social and a better overall health.
@@myselfthethird3393 ... You aren't wrong.
Both men and women value sex and intimacy and the possibility of a family... So both benefit from being joined.
Beyond companionship and sex and the possibility of a family... Men also provide for women financially, and with protection (both physical and social)
So women do get more out of marriage than men do.
but women have a good union... And have been able to negotiate some pretty sweet deals for themselves. All based on how desperately men want intimacy.
because we men literally love the being herself, we love womens affection. women are opportunists, thats part of why they dont chase, its a power move, whoever approaches first has less power, even a less than average chick does not want to lose power by approaching or chasing though they may feel like doing it, only when a man is way way above her smv will she make moves and efforts, but still trying not to stray too far from the seat of power
You have discover the great trick! Yet that's how it is lol.
To be fair, if you ask a man if he'd rather be "intelligent but a total wimp" or "tough but a total moron", we'd have the same struggle.
Throughout history men treated women like an object or a possession, beautiful women had some value, and more chances to do better in life if they were beautiful, even now beauty is highly valued. Now a days things seems to be out of balance, because women don't need men anymore, and are not willing to compromise. I am a traditional 48 year old woman, and it is sad to see the division between men and women. I believe that men and women have different qualities that complement each other, and different doesn't mean anything bad, on the contrary. Sadly, the trend is women not wanting to compromise, men prefer to play computer games and stay single, marriage is a thing of the past, and that could create a very lonely future for both sexes.
The ironic thing is that us men have historically shaped this "value" in women.
It is us who put such a premium on looks alone so they never have to develop intellect or personality
I would say most men just need 'a hole'. Women don't have such pressure from ALL men. Just from the ones on the top. The ones that can chose, obviously, would take ALL. Beauty and personality.
So I would not blame on 'us men'.
Test Seven I don’t agree. If more men felt they were in a position to actually choose, things would be very different. The average man views himself as undeserving of more sophisticated standards of women because it lowers his chances of finding “a hole.” The blind pursuit of “a hole” is effectively half of the problem for most men.
@@yellowgreymorals I still can't find in your message the explanation that makes all men the ones 'pushing up' women competition on beauty.
It is known that they are more likely to share a top status man than men are to share a woman (for obvious reason). In the first case they get the genes of the high status, but first of all, they have to be chosen from one of those. How? Improving appearance.
Nowadays they even don't need to do that. Spxrm bank + in vitro.
But appearance gives women higher status so they fight for it, like money gives to men.
Test Seven We’ve come to a point where we are consciously aware of these dynamics (or at least could be if we wanted to), and therefore are able to decide to take them into account. You seem to be separating most men from the men at the top, but what factor separates them? A large part of that would be their bloated perception of women based on their appearance. A woman is high status because we perceive her as such, and when you have a majority of men stammering in admiration at this woman, the men who care less are higher value. Based on your response to the OP, you seem to be focusing on “blame” too much. It is what it is. You could choose to feed into a pretty illusion or not. However, most men do and you have the conditions we know today. I should mention that I’m coming from a perspective that disagrees that it’s just biological (because it demonstrably isn’t).
It's called sexual selection. Similarly, women have valued status and ability to obtain resources.
Yep, women start their adult life at their peak S.M.V. Its all down from there. while men start their adult life at the bottom of their S.M.V. its all up from there. S.M.V. = sexual marketplace value.
premier1975 mens SMV peak is 36 and it goes slowly down there, so men dont have anything to worry about
@@legendianable thats correct financial and also physically attractive wise u peak in your at 30 -39 rather than 20
Women smv drastically goes down if shes fat, feminist or a single mom but there will always be thirsty simps.
Nick Perry Not really if your wealthy enough and take care of yourself you can definitely get a 20 year old when in your 50s
Nick Perry But I agree men aren’t in their peak in their 50s it’s earlier like in 30s
This is an incredibly well chosen question. Good job!
As a girl, I like approaching others sometimes. But Im afraid of being seen as desperate and needy compared to other girls who never put in effort ;(
Buckle up
a lot of excellent points! Toward the end of the video, I do agree that we are not going to change the nature of men around the world; BUT we can change our own attitudes, and learn to appreciate women who are intelligent, well-mannered, but have average looks; rather than only focus on women who have the best looks regardless of their intelligence or manners.
I only got one piece of dating advice from my Dad, and it was brilliant: "stop salivating over the prettiest girl in class. Everyone else is salivating over her as well, so she has too many options. Look around and see who might be actually interested in you." Thanks Dad.
Wow. Wow. Wow Alexander. Such a non arguable clear and concise, eloquent position. It all makes sense. Could you imagine if there was some people that even then, with so much facts and stats, would try to argue he’s wrong??
The part about women caring only about looks because it's only what men care about is pretty damn eye opening. I've never thought of it like that before.
It's also bullshit.
It's common sense 😂 wtf
It's bullshit. The first thing I look for is looks, but if you don't have a personality or intelligence to go with it, there won't be a second or third date.
But it's not true. Women care about looks because that's WHO they are. They can't become smart or build a personality
I got over 2 million in the bank and I would gladly give 1.5 million of it back if I could change my looks and be in a body of my choosing...
7:05 On this point about men changing their behavior to suit women's desires, Karen Straughan has been echoing that sentiment for years now.
The point she makes is (paraphrasing slightly) "if women just decided one day that the skill of being able to walk on your hands was attractive in a man, imagine how many gyms across the country would be offering classes teaching guys how to walk on their hands."
The point being that large swathes of men will change their behavior on the demands of women.
Lol I believe it. Some guys are so dumb thinking its womens fault they are single when really they are just competing with a lot of other men
have you ever seen those documentaries where all these male birds ridicule themselves prancing dancing and whatnot in order to seduce the female??
90% of these male birds do not reproduce because of competition
YES BIOLOGY IS UNFAIR . if you are born a man you need to fight back because life considers you disposable
"You can learn things and become smarter". No, you become more knowledgeable and educated, not smarter.
I don't remember past generations having to deal with this level of anguish and tragedy in the dating game.
Just to add to what you are saying. "Physically Ugly" men live in the reality of potentially finding that all their self improvement can lead them to, is becoming a "beta provider". They get rejected by beautiful women until these women hit their wall and have had multiple sexual partners and are no longer able to play the dating game to the same extent. That is a raw deal indeed. So in regards to men, men have to take into account that their sexual market value usually consist of both physical standards (height, jaw line, well built) AND self improvement (career, status etc). If women were the only ones benchmarked by looks, you would find loads of women clinging to the 5" semi-ugly guy reading philosophy or the 20 year old nerd doing an it-startup. Even if those guys had a tremendous status in their community, they still do not rank high.
most subscriber here are giga copers who think a good job would get em a hottie xD . not gonna happen today time .
they will awake in a decade and swallow some black pills
@@azorahai5158 I agree with you. Self improvement can be smoke and mirrors sometimes. This is my analysis so far in my own life: Women and men driven by their own desires will often (and probably) attract each other. You see this on Tinder, Night Clubs etc. Men driven by faith, conservative values and vision have the best chance of finding a partner that mirror those values. But if you as a man stoop down to be driven by chasing tail, you are acting like a pig that just wants the finest garbage to chew on. You will still eat garbage.
Clearly nothing you say is true, it's pretty obvious. You find beautiful women with all sorts of men and vice versa.
Most things op has said are true.
Walk down the street, nearly all couples are a looks match.
You can improve yourself all you want, doesn’t matter if you are 5’5”, bald, ugly.
Yes, some people just have ugly faces.
You better not come back at me with some celebrity examples.
I once dated an incredibly attractive 20 year old woman. Very high SMV. After being with her for 3 months, I had to break up with her because I couldn't stand how dumb she was. Her lack of any intelligence was ultimately a turnoff for me.
That's normally the problem with exceptionally attractive women. With few exceptions. Some of them even flaunt their stupidity like it's a badge of honor. Yet they still get a high paying job...
dont look for intelligence in women, you have to be aware that its not there, im not saying women are dumb, you have to have that compartment that sees the woman as just an emotional companion and a for sex and kids. and have male friends for intelligence and hobbies, it is what it is. if you want intelligence, you are looking at 2% of women, most intelligent college educated women just have an excellent memory to do their jobs, they dont have the perpetual curiosity like a man. smart girls visit intelligence, its not their preference, just like a man visits emotions, its not his preference, of the few intelligent and logical girls, you have to understand that it comes at the cost of femininity, femininity traded for logic, and you dont want that
in the end no matter how intelligent a woman may seem. if they have no common sense or good critical thinking skills, theyre just not worth it.
@@crimsonite1524
I love how you spew total nonsense with no regard to what science says. Then you call yourself logical. Quite funny I must admit.
@@BlunderCity and what does science say?
are you going to point to a few exceptions, because exceptions prove the norm. are you saying women are as logical as men, despite all the history behind us
I think as you get older, men appreciate women of similar intellect to themselves and less on looks.
because they don't have hopes to get the real lookers - the very young ones; and men are sexually excited by those who they think they can get.
@@prometheus9443 Or alternatively, older men are no longer looking for a woman based on breeding potential. Perhaps he already has children or has no interest in raising children for other reasons.
@@voiceofwisdom3408 That's what friends are for.
I'm approaching middle age and I care about looks just as much as I did at 18. Although I have learned to appreciate women that I once considered cougars.
@@prometheus9443 It's more about testosterone than anything else
Hypergamy 101. Looks get them through the gate. 35-40, they will sing a different tune. Men will eventually win.
I am constantly rejected by 40 something women. They think they deserve something better than me. The wall does exist, but there are more thirsty men than stars in the universe and this is reversing the reckoning effects of the wall.
The thing is woman care more about how they look than how they act
Men want women to own their mistakes...
Accountability should be up there with putting on makeup..it’s a major character issue that need to be addressed, if women want to attract a quality male.
Thank you Carlos This is all I want from a woman. A true equal!
Agreed... I have a quality long term wife but she still doesn't like being held accountable for not following through on a promise or admitting the disagreement was entirely caused by her attitude and sometimes unreasonable demands.
Greg Nagy ..
It seems nature is often stronger than nurture.
I’m still trying to educate my now grown daughters to own their mistakes. Own their share of responsibility if a relationship fails, or in any errors in judgment they might make..
But also claim ownership of great decisions/choices they make as well.
In life we are a sum of all the choices we make..
THIS is why ill NEVER be in a relationship again.
John Lisle .
I’ve learned that women want a man to lead & provide.
These are things I failed to do with my children’s mother.
If I enter a new relationship in the future, I must be able to put my foot down & be brutally honest with my expectations for what will & won’t be tolerated from a partner.
I of course must also agree with expectations my partner may have of me.
Because my ex & I, chose poorly..
& because I was afraid of loneliness/losing my children,
many serious character flaws were tolerated.
Ultimately, the very important discussion on each other’s character flaws was never had & so, never resolved.
But from this failed relationship came much wisdom.
As social media evolves, I think this concept of high value guy with confidence, ambition and everything is improving for a more "look based" preference. What I'm trying to say is that as men want a beautiful woman who is interesting and intelligent, women want a man who is sucessful and also good looking. Both sides are more demanding and the competition is going through the roof.
No, you are ugly you have problems. PERIOD
My ex explained it to me: How you look is a form of social power and a lot of women focus on style and their sexuality to enhance their social ability. She basically explained that a first impression with someone put together makes a much stronger impression than being a slob in I’ll-fitting clothing and no style (which was her not-so-subtle hint to ditch the anime t-shirts and ‘just woke up’ look I was rocking at the time). I’ll admit, when I look good, I feel good, which changes how
I interact with people. It’s powerful stuff. That said, when I was young, the idea of not being intelligent would have shook my core. As an older dude, it seems a lot of dumb people are having a bit easier time with the whole life thing as they aren’t overthinking the hell out of every damn thing... X-/
This proves that NOT women, but WE as men are really shallow in general. I didn't realised that.
"The world's most abundant resource is thirsty men." 🤣
"Men are expendable." -- Rudy Giuliani
How do we turn this into clean energy?
Peacock and peahen. Not a female peacock. Not unless the feminist transgender ideology got to them too.
Intelligence is harder to come by than beauty, we have plastic surgery for that, but we don't have brain transplants, or brain improvement surgeries.
I would do anything to be intelligent being dumb sucks
@@chuckyyes realizing one is not very bright is a great milestone (see the Dunning Kruger effect), it's the least required to improve. I suggest you let yourself guide by others you deem more intelligent than yourself identify their principles and ask for help, one good way to learn from others is by reading many books, try audiobooks, if you don't get a concept rewind and rewind until you get it, also learn to meditate, it takes time to master it, but it's worth it, I believe there's a special kind of wisdom that opens to us when we quiet the mind, it also helps you have a calmer state of mind, and when we're cool we can think better.
@Pickel Sandwich There are more women that pass through their peak beauty (all of them) years than have intelligence in their life time.
Of all women, the ones that are beautiful, and pass through years of beauty outnumber the ones who have intelligence. Unlike peak years of beauty, intelligence does not vary much over the years (it does a little, but no greater than a standard deviation unless you've incurred brain damage or some other mentally dibilitating issue) , so it is rarer because you either have it or you don't no matter what year you are in.
I miss the old style of interview where you let the girls talk. I don’t mind hearing you talk , but watching their faces while seeing them answer is much better.
I like both styles, but this one tends to help me learn/realize stuff better
As a young female, I have also noticed a lack of resources for self improvement for women beyond vanity. Nothings wrong with that however, a well rounded personality and mind are just as important in my opinion. So although there’s a lack of resources, these videos are still great for me and I can correlate them into my psyche and life. Thanks for making these great videos! 😌
The question could be: How many IQ points would you trade for each added point on the hotness scale?
Exactly!
some lucky ones get the whole package, but for majority there is a trade off...not just on great looks vs intelligence but also a number of other attributes that get evaluated and these again are tied into how many options you have. As someone pointed out above, many women can get both, but at different stages in their life when they have different priorities.
Scott Mathers - ric’s question/comment could be asked of both men and women.
@@aminahshaban Yes, true. Hookups vs relationship also influence the answer to ric's question.
That's not how it usually goes. Most dudes will go for the smart, fun, intelligent women are picked. Pick a random normie vs pretty person, pretty person is more likely to be more IQ
Happy new year friendos!
Happy new year :)
The root of the problem here is civilization, dictating the outcome of relationships between men and women. Little to no resources in society=roles go back to their natural state. Lots of resources available in society= things go confusing and bad.
This is a good way of indirectly asking a woman what she values in a man more in terms of attraction: Intelligence or looks.
Women value the looks of a man over his intelligence.
i have a theory that suggests that women dont actually value one type of man above all others. not a rich man or looks, but multiple types of men at the same time, i believe a man should strive to have several qualities of those types of men.
and the men are; the daddy, women idolise their fathers. the good looks, women want a man other women can be jealous of. the mysterious guy. the rich guy. the manly man. the good dad and family guy.
womens emotions switch and they seem to want a type of guy depending on their emotions and stage in her life
The key is to be in the right circumstance when a woman wants a type of person like you.
@@joejones9497 very well put remark, it reminds me of "Marriage Story" just came out in Netflix, if you haven't seen it, it might be worth watching.
This is amazing stuff. I’m in a long relationship, and happy, and have kids. But I wish that UA-cam existed when I was 19, there are amazing advice and insights in everyone of your videos.
I just got hip to your page and I wanna extend a quick thanks to you for being wise, honest, and straightforward with this kind of information that the men of these arising generations need and will continue to need! You do us a great service!
In fairness to women, I think many men would also struggle to decide between being granted looks or intelligence.
Perhaps.
I try to look as good as possible, but I preffer intelligence AT LEAST 1.000 times over looks.
I’m going to challenge your conclusion, Alexander, that blame for the superficiality of humans rests on the shoulders of men and women equally. I’m actually surprised that you reached this conclusion given the title of this video and your solid understanding of evolution.
You claim that men are superficial because they select women based on physical attractiveness and that women are superficial because they are primarily concerned with their physical attractiveness, and that this is equally the responsibility of both sexes. Sexual selection hasn’t been an even playing field for the bulk of human evolutionary history. Although nature has been a cruel mistress when it came to exerting pressures on both sexes, sexual selection had tilted heavily toward the preferences of females. Female beauty has only been selected for by a small group of high status males at the top of hierarchies (those men who have options because they have managed to attract a variety of them). Male sexual selection has only existed in the wake of female sexual selection. The evidence of this is found in male behavior and human attractiveness. If sexual selection were equal between the sexes, we would expect humans to be as physically attractive as men are ambitious, but that’s clearly not the case. Most men are disposed to ambition in one way or another. Most people are not beautiful.
And let’s not ignore the fact that women are more selective of male physical attractiveness than men are of female physical attractiveness. A woman always has more options than a man. If she has a choice between a rich, intelligent, ugly man and a rich, intelligent, handsome man, she will choose the latter. Some man will want a rich, intelligent, and ugly woman; the problem is that she feels entitled to choose a higher status man, but the higher status man has no need for her wealth and intelligence because he’s already been forced to get those things in order to be sexually successful. Women don’t experience that pressure. Those women who want to have children get them simply for being born with a uterus. Putting on makeup and doing their hair can slightly improve their prospects for minimal effort. Of course, human culture has gone through some extreme changes of late, with women entering the workforce, but this still holds true in most cases.
My claim is not that women are to blame and men aren’t. I don’t believe it makes much sense to speak in such terms. The most reasonable thing to say is that natural selection has molded us into a species wherein the sexes perform functions disproportionately.
Finally, low status men don’t get to select women based on attractiveness. What choices they have are illusory and only exist in the small wake created by female selection. Most men take what they can get. High status men have more options, but they will continue to select beautiful women. They will want their children to have a better chance at reproducing as well, and physical attractiveness helps both sexes.
Hoping Alex replies to this!
I was thinking the same. Sexual selection is a female "right", not male. Almost all females reproduce. Almost no males reproduce. Males don't get to chose
I agree with everything but look at this a lot of women have a easier time securing the man but the high percentage of those relationships don’t last because of society propaganda and programming which in tail leads to a lot of marriage and relationships ending because of push for superficial reasons which means it doesn’t not last so for both men and women getting to getting together for money or looks as soon as either disappear the end is near
"You can learn things and become smarter"
They treat beauty as if it were permanent.
@@igt3928 Even old and ugly ones have hundreds of guys lined up. What's your point? That they can't pull Chad anymore? They still get dozens of chad-lites.
@Tommy Hass Keep on dreaming. The "wall" was made-up to get young men into the hamster wheel. Even fat 60 year old women get hundreds of messages from young and attractive guys. Test it yourself with a fake account on Tinder etc. if you don't believe me.
@Tommy Hass Or just horny. How many messages do you get? Or the average guy? My point still stands.
They’re so dumb lol
Im a muscular tough man and I grow tired of 'Flaky Fake Females!'
There definitely are female focused improvement channels. They are not necessarily marketed as 'be a better person to attract me', more so 'be a better person so you can be more mature and emotionally stable'. They have more of a mental health focus then the men's versions do. Many of them do talk a lot about relationships, both romantic and friendships.
The problem is, women continue to have the same attitude towards attracting men even after deciding not to have children or reaching an age where they can have children. You don't want children, so why do I have to show off my good genetic?
thats logical thought, women are emotional
AJ Key the same reason women have to be hot or beautiful to attract someone . It’s a sign of good genetics.
Looking good does not necessarily correlate good genetics. Women with massive hips have superior birthing genetics but guys usually go for women with smaller hips these days.
@@BOG0690 thats a short term soceity trend shaped by the media (from homosexual fashion designers, They had to use women so they selected the most boyish/skinny looking ones. This was then transfered to the young people which grow up seeing this as the "top beauty")
"So you wouldn't really change anything?" Would be a funny next question
just realized Im 13 wtf, but still alot of stuff to learn about on here never too young ig
You are lucky to get this knowledge this young.
Glad to see young men are learning early
@@buddhamaster322 thanks
@@NBNJNB_ You are very lucky to have all this insight into sexual psychology at such a young age. We were completely clueless at that age, and even when much older. It's not fun, I can tell you that. I suggest you also watch some other content, with more practical guidelines, such as from Darius M or LFA. You will save yourself from so much headache if you apply some of that knowledge into your life.
You lose money chasing women you never lose women chasing money.
Great video. It’s hard to hear the truth at times however we need this!
The major problem is physically/beauty wise women concentrate on the wrong stuff...instead of worrying about shoes or whatever...they should concentrate on HITTING THE GYM...getting in shape, losing weight
I always wondered why I was the minority in self improvement channel’s comment sections - like Jordan Peterson. Most of it sounds like common sense but they’re good reminders to not get overwhelmed.
I’m a female, if that makes things more clear.
Same
Women are over represented in the spiritual movement which is a form of female self improvement, such as you tubers such as Teal Swan. There is also quite a few female you tubers that explain how to get into female dominated professions such as Nursing and Elementary teaching such as Hello 3rd Grade, Pocketful of Primary & Nurse Nacole. Female self improvement also shows up in crafting, knitting and art content which is also very female dominated
Teal Swan has some good insights IMO, also stuff I don't agree with
To be fair, I'd rather be drop dead gorgeous over smart. At least I could finally become a chad lmao
What is a Chad? I am not from the US but have seen this reference a couple times before..
@@vcassol6989 Chad Thundercock-or just “chad”-is a derogatory name given to attractive men who are sexually successful with women.
Chads are only successful with young women, aged 16-21 about. Anything older will gravitate more towards the guys income
Doesn't help.
Yeah being good looking but dumb won’t earn you any money unless you’re literally among the most attractive men in the world.....
P sleeve ain’t worth being stuck in a dead end career
This video TOTALLY got my attention. It says something we already knew but not in this clean and definitively not trivial way.
Very good, Alexander is one of the best guys talking about the dating cene
There is nothing wrong with not being intelligent. You are given what intellect you have pretty much at birth according to the science.
I would be attracted to a pretty girl who might not be all that bright but is personable and kind.
Now dumb and evil is another matter.
I know the video is more a what would you rather be video, but both choices have their merits as long as other positive accompanying traits are present.
Long story short, women won't maximum payout, while exhibiting minimal effort
0:37 This is confusing intelligence with knowledge.
Market pressure is quite a statement, so true
Despite the advantages women have in the relationship department, we have more advantages IF we are seeking to realize high ambitions. We just don't have the barriers they do in terms of business.
This ignores the aspect of the men who are born TALL with a strong JAW, and overall a good looking FACE. If anything those guys win because they inspire the raw arousal from the woman. These guys coping with earning a big salary, inventing stuff, etc are just compensating for not having it all naturally. If the naturally good looking guy puts even an ounce of effort into all of those other things too, it's OVER for the uglier guy. The world is more deterministic than we want to believe.
I am following the male version channels trying to be the best of me, and I am a woman and there are many like me.
Nico Robin - I firmly agree and know many women, actually countless women who watch “male version channels.” It never occurred to me once whether or not these speakers were targeting their videos towards a specific gender audience, especially since the more views they get and the broader the audience, the more profit they make. People should assume self-improvement is for everyone and anyone. If people constantly define the world solely in terms of sex, they will only create deeper division and animosity, as all of the endless comments above clearly illustrates. Ironically, the creator had a very positive & constructive recommendation/conclusion, but it appears the vast majority of commentators completely and unfortunately missed his ultimate point.
Optimistic note: A smile adds a couple points to a woman's looks. Then longer term a good personality (constency, effort, etc.) adds more. And even longer term - loyalty adds even more.
There is a path for less attractive women!!! ---------Having followed that path I think my 65 yr old wife is gorgeous!
I love your wife too.
Congratulations 🥳 on your marriage and being proud of your wife ✊ So admirable and commendable
It's a blessing in disguise: ambition, status and confidence are all learned behaviours that you work on and get better with age. Looks are pretty much fixed, you can put on a nice outfit and a fresh coat of paint but once you hit the wall - you're done for. A lot of men seem to be getting butthurt about how easy attractive women have it - not realising that the "average" woman is not necessarily that attractive, and they don't always get it as easy. And worst still, there's absolutely nothing they can do to change it - if they aren't naturally good looking then they will NEVER attract a high value male, no matter how much they change their behaviours. I thank my lucky stars that I was born a male, though I might not get free entrance to clubs or people approaching me on the street, my success in this area is purely a function of how much work I put into it. Count your blessings guys.
Loved your video mate.. you nailed it. Your friend asked a great question and you answered it so well. Makes so much sense.
Would be interesting to see how this applies to high intelligent people. In my experience, these people refuse to bow down to social pressure on how to behave and how to look, which in fact would make them less desirable. Meaning, they would have much harder time finding suitable mate, unless they find one just like them. Since the Gauss is unavoidable, it will be very unlikely for a highly intelligent person to find one just as (or more) intelligent.
I found a channel today called Sara Lena. Its mainly towards black women, but she talks about how women can self improve themselves for men. I watched a few of her video and for the most part, she was on point with her advice for women.
You, dammit, should have been there for me when I was 18, now I am 63. Thanks for informing, it is good.
Saying that we can't change the world by changing ourselves is 100% counterintuitive.
Societal change begins on an individual level. Entire societies do not just wake up one morning and suddenly change.
We should be the change we want to see in the world. That is how movements are started and society is changed. 💪
Finally someone said this ! Well done you. The first educator Ive heard say it. Its us men that willingly surrender our power and dignity to women
A pretty woman who doesn't know anything IS ugly.
There are a lot of female improvement channels, I know because I watch them. One example is Karina Alourde she is a feminity channel and it's an entire genre on UA-cam. Another example is School of Affluence, some do not like her channel however she focuses a lot on elegance, fashion and having manners as a lady for self improvement and having standards for oneself.
This.
Cool 👍
Ok
School of affluence teaches girls how to be a golddigger. I'm surprised your on here praising that channel lol but you do you booboo
@Brittany Venti: School of Affluence is just a golddigger 101.
9:34 - 9:58 Can't say I can agree with the implications here. I do understand that it sucks for these women... But to me, it's generally the opposite than what you paint it as.
The women that are unattractive generally do not get the same treatment as attractive women, and that starts very early in their life, even pre-teen. This means that the less attractive ones are basically forced to develop other qualities to survive, while the beautiful ones can use their appearance and have a much easier path. That is why generally extremely beautiful women are obnoxious, and less attractive women are more pleasant and have more developed personalities.
Yes, there are exceptions, but this is the general trend. And when these beautiful women hit the wall is when they might start developing what the non-attractive ones started developing since their early life.
@@Pezerinno those are usually angels, they have the looks and personality, not forgetting being able to hold real conversations and having real interests
im 27, the girls who peaked early and are now hitting the wall, gotten fat and all realise that their best bodies are behind them and i can see the sadness in their eyes, even in pics, the decreasing attention brings them misery, its sad because some of them were not bad people, they just never saw this happening so quickly, in my view women are hitting the wall earlier than in past generations, im not sure but it seems like in our grandfathers generations from pics i see, women hit the wall in their mid 30s, but in out generation its 25, a whole decade or so early
Couldn't have said it better and came to that conclusion early in life, myself. Just by observing. Exceptions aside.
Fantastic insight
damn honest true right here Gent...for any guys already expected more from a women just want you to know you are not alone here Bro
Dude, this blew my mind. Yeah, I can see you have a really good point.
matthew hussey comes into mind for me. He is an exception and he is a man, giving women advice to improve their personality. I watched him in the past and concluded this: if women need to be told, that they also need to put some effort into their personality and they are willing to pay money for this advice, then the powershift begins.
@Ricardo Herrera I think this will be a part of our evolution.
What elements do you have to support the fact that women don't have personality? A preposterous assumption especially since personality is highly subjective.
@@BlunderCity never said that. My statement was, that they put no effort in it. Every child has a personality, but this doesnt mean that every child behaves well from the beginning... and unfortunatly most people put more effort into their personality only when they feel pain... women feel the pain of negleted love way later than men do. My other statement was that this is why now women are willing to pay for a personality coach.
@@dragomir9375
OK well we may be in disagreement about what "personality" means then. The way I see it, you don't really work on your personality, it's something that evolves very slowly. You can't ape it. That's the difference between personality and behaviour. Personality is how you come across naturally. Behaviour is how you act and most of it somewhat deliberate.
In any case, you're still not answering the question. What evidence do you have that women don't do what men do personality wise.
You do realise that debates about broad concepts (such as personality) are meaningless unless you define the terms. There is also the reality that this is all highly subjective.
So what is personality? How do you measure it? Big 5 psychometric tests? Myers-Briggs? Anything that you want it to be?
@@BlunderCity I will not edit my initial post, but just for you I rephrase my statement according to your definition.
Women dont feel the pressure to control their natural behaviour until years later in comparison to men. The bad part of their behaviour gets easier forgiven until they reach an certain age regarding relationships. Men need to adapt as soon as possible.
The fact that Alex still holds the egalitarian view that women are equal to men is the reason he will forever fear to grasp the actual solution to the problem.
Happy 2020 though
The Feral Wolf what is the actual solution?
@Solus Digur exactly
By minute 3.
I said, "AND THAT IS WHY I AM THE PRIZE".
Realize it men & embrace it.
Binary questions that make you pick between two extremes are very stupid, except for living in a warm climate vs a cold climate.
Every boy is instructed to Man up.
No girl has ever been instructed to Woman up.
To woman down you mean maybe. I think the term know your place has been used before in this context, probably for both genders. So i guess not much has changed. We want it, we think it did, we say it has, but not really.
You are Heavenly Angel.
Love from Far away India.
Women just want to be hot enough to attract a man who'll do all the thinking FOR them.
And slaving !
Can we get the equality of the draft for ww3
Nah they’ll go ahead and wear the burka if it came down to it 😂
When she said she'd rather be stupid and pretty, because she could study and become smart, I realized that she had already arrived.
Right on the money with a lot of the information here Alex! Impressive!
I would also like to mention that there is something we can collectively do in the raise our standards department. Establishing a new family system called “3 girls in love” can replace monogamy and increase the value of women and children, and a large amount of men considerably.