The Reality of a Woman’s Biological Clock
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- Опубліковано 8 кві 2024
- Charlie Kirk recently went viral for saying that women are no longer in their biological prime in their 30s. This clip has caused many interesting conversations online. Let's talk about it.
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The war of the sexes is ridiculous. We were made to compliment each other not tear each other down. Women need men and men need women.
men didn't start it. just so you know. we were fine for thousands of years until... something called feminism came along.
Imagine being biologically predisposed to love a group of people because of the things that make them different from you, then having those differences weaponized and fed back to you as justifications for hate. That is the situation we live in.
@@tradflutemanhere's your good boy cookies for the day tradsimp 🍪
men didn't start it. just so you know. we were fine for thousands of years until... some people wanted to dye their hair purple.
Yes! Great take
I married my wife at 21 she was 20, had our first child two years later. Our other children came along over the next 8 years. We were happily married for 42 years when I lost her to cancer. The best years of my life.
I’m so sorry for your loss! Sounds beautiful ❤
Lord bless your soul. And give you a beautiful wife again.
I’m sorry for your loss. ❤
I’m so, so sorry for your loss 😔
If you don’t mind sharing, give us a small story of what made those years the best of your life?
Also very sorry for your loss!
I was married at 20, and tried to start a family with my husband when I turned 23. Throughout my 20's & 30's we tried to conceive, we even turned to science, but it didn't work. Finally we gave up, then I got pregnant at 41 & gave birth 5 days after my 42nd birthday. 🎂 I had a natural birth with no epidural and everything went smoothly. My healthy little girl will turn 3 this fall. ❤
Wow that is so cool, congratulations!! What did you do differently?
Congratulations!❤
@@alliegouger664 I guess what we did differently was not try! LOL!
@@lindseychan5493 Have you ever played a grindy video game? When you want an item and farm for it you will never get it, whenever you dont need it is when you will get it. Its like that in real life, law of the universe XD
@@-lord1754 I have! LOL! 😄 I guess the laws work differently for some people though; a friend of mine went off birth control as soon as she & her husband decided that they were ready to have kids. She was pregnant 3 months later. Sometimes ppl get what they want when they want it. 😅
Didn’t find my husband until we were 33; I waited for him. Married at 34 and after struggling with recurrent pregnancy loss, we will have our rainbow baby at 37. Don’t lose hope.
Yes my aunt had her 2nd child at 37
@@Kathakathan11 my mum is having her third at 45. It's harder maybe, but possible
send him my condolences. 💊
@@wtfdtreatswow.... 🙄
@@wtfdtreats I’m sorry for you. I hope you find what you’re looking for.
I feel so seen in this. I'm a single 25 year old Conservative Christian woman who is really struggling to find someone out there who shares my values and my mission. I think it's easy for older conservatives to tell young conservatives that they should get married as soon as possible, but it's really difficult out here and tempting to compromise on what you really want at times.
Follow the Jordan Peterson advice. Are you struggling to find a man who meets your standards, or are you not meeting theirs?
Assuming you’re healthy and maintaining a healthy lifestyle. Go where the men are.
You can be forward. Too forward scares men (we think we are being scammed or pranked).
If you want a man who can rock climb. Go rock-climbing. You’ll find him.
And many in our generation and Gen Z have been brainwashed to not value Faith and hate anyone/anything right of center.
Plus, a lot of women out there are pretty closed minded and have ridiculous high expectations. Maybe they should give the nice guys more of a chance.
You should meet my brother (32)
Tell older Godly married women that you would like to get married to a Godly man. Older people know people who know people. But I'd suggest that they talk to HIM about you... not you about him.
I’m in a similar boat. I’m only 22 but it’s slim pickings out here. I’m very conservative politically and religiously (I’m Lutheran), and it seems impossible to find literally any guy remotely my age who agrees with me on the important things. I meet many “Christian” guys, but most of them turn out to be Christian in name only. There’s no shortage of men, but I can’t seem to find a man that I could see leading me in marriage someday. Everyone tells young women to have high standards, and I agree, but it’s tempting to settle when they seem too high for literally everyone. I know I’m young and I have time, but I know I want kids, and I know my biological clock is ticking.
My aunt just turned 37 and she’s trying to convince everyone that she looks younger than me I’m 17 😂
lol
As a 36 year old man, I can sadly say I see alot of women my age swear on their lives that they look more youthful now, in their mid to late 30's, than they did when they were in their 20's. When in fact, they look more like they're in their mid to late 40's
How about not trashing ur family members on UA-cam.
And? Just leave it 🤷🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️
Lack of confidence. I'm the same age as your aunt and have a niece the same age, would never be that delusional, and I feel great, know I'm not the same wtf
I was a total MORON in my 20s - married a cheater who I refused to have a family with, left him and found my current husband in my 30s decided to try to have ONE baby, Had my 1st at 37, 2nd at 43 and 3rd at 45. Turns out I was really fertile and blessed!!!!! Three incredibly smart, healthy children with NO health or mental issues or developmental issues. All boys. All strong and All being raised in a tight knit family by both a mother and father on a homestead and home schooled. I was given a GIFT by being allowed to be a mother.
God bless you for this post because I don’t want to have a kid right now but I do fear not being able to have a kid… since I have a friend who likes to say after 30 it will be hard for us to have kids… we are turning 30 this year
Sounds like there are 3 future simps in the pipeline.
Amen! God conquers human assumption with His ultimate plans. Sarah laughed in scripture because she too thought it would be impossible. Human intervention only goes so far when God’s will is on us. His Will over our own.
@Doberman before you speak you should know the father. Makes a fuckton of difference in a boys life. They aren't being raised by a boss bitch. That's where simps come from. Take some psych courses and it's clear as hell that the boss bitches caused the plague of the simps
What is wrong with you?
I'm a labor and delivery nurse going on 11 years now, and I can tell you that medically when a woman reaches the age of 35 she is at statistically much higher risk of complications relating to pregnancy. Doesn't mean it happens to everyone, but biologically it is still true. So sad that objective facts are shouted down as "misogyny" or "bigotry."
Bless you for your honesty.
I have a cousin whose a doctor as well as many uncles. As far as they're concerned the idea that after 35 it becomes difficult to have a child is not entirely true. The drop off in fertility at 35 is ore of a gradual slope than a steep decline. There are plenty of women who continue to have healthy births after 35. I wouldn't pay attention to a statistic such as this to tell you about your fertility you should instead be consulting a doctor.
I’m a doctor practising in India. You’re right about the gradual slope. However it’s not just about the ability to conceive.
During the pregnancy the complications in each trimester are far higher as the age of pregnancy goes up. If we meet an expectant mother closer to 40, we label them as high risk.
The stats are a reflection of all of these factors, but I feel like stats are more for us doctors than the patients. They help to us advise patients correctly and pay closer attention to those that need it.
Hope this was helpful 😅
Women know that geriatric pregnancy begins at 35, same as men's sperms count and quality declines around that age.
Conservatives use this to try to make women settle into marrying a man they don't want, staying married no matter what and even pretending to be inferior to men/submit to a man. It's degrading
@ProGrainer Most women know the risks increase at 35. Same as many defects go up with aged sperms.
The problem is as a society we've lost the purpose of dating. Instead of using the dating process to find a compatible spouse, it's used as a good time until someone 'better' comes along to start the process all over again.
Hypergamy or monkey-branching.
Even if you are dating for finding a spouse, you might struggle with having a model of compromise, communication or having commonality enough that you're pulling in a similar direction - rather than pulling apart. If you don't have the skills or habits to live with someone, it might present a barrier. If both parties want to do what they want to do (and expect it to work out as a matter of magical thinking), then that's a problem.
Movies tend to get as far as couples getting together. They do the fireworks phase. They don't necessarily model ongoing healthy relationships. A visual language of luminous beauty maybe doesn't tell you how to behave after your spouse gets the flu.
The dating apps make women and the top 20% of men think that they have more options than they actually do.
Yeah, when they're doing that and giving it up to a lot of different guys because they're being told that's empowering. Guys are taking that ride because the women are giving it away. Both are doing it for different reasons. Both are wrong and unfortunately both are jabbing each other in the eye with their fingers because they're too busy pointing them at each other instead of taking accountability. I also find it strange when I hear GenX crap on millennials when they raised them. Then Millennials crap on GenZ when they raise them. I'm a Xennial...I'm mad at everyone lol. In case there's a crazy in here...I understand that it's not all women. It's never all of any group.
@@moderngentlemanschool Yep, we didn't lose shit as men, the ♀lost it by giving into their *under-evolved biology*
I’m a man. I married at 24. I was courting, actively looking for a wife. My wife is three years older. We have two, sons and four granddaughters. Our fiftieth anniversary was last June.
If I hadn’t been looking for a wife, I doubt I would have found her.
the world isnt the same as it was when you got married.
@@Pikawarps All the more reason to look intentionally.
@@PikawarpsI did the same except I was 19, that was less than 3 years ago. The reason young men aren't finding good women is they're looking in big cities at bars, not in suburbs and rural areas in churches. And vice versa.
@@Pikawarpstotally is cus I’m 22 married and having my first kid. You just have to do it right
@@blakedjamesonthis
I found my husband when I was 34. Had our first baby at 39 and second at 43. While this worked out for me, I don't recommend waiting this long! Getting pregnant at 42 was not easy, and I'm also sad to realize we can never have another child, not because we don't want one, but because I'm just too old now. Love my kids, grateful for my life, just wish I had met my husband sooner.
Thank you! Life doesn’t always go your way. God bless you and yours ❤
Same boat here. But after a couple of miscarriages and one disastrous and one not so great pregnancy, we have two. My wife wanted another but due to her age and history, it just wasn't to be. Life can be a crap shoot. Even if you had known when you were younger, due to circumstances, you still might have only had two. Just focus on being the best mom to the ones you have. : )
I don't want to sound rude but did you think of adoption? If you can that would be so beautiful to love and care for an already existing child that deserves as much love.
How come you didn't find one sooner?
@@BronzeStrowman cause life doesn’t always go your way. Shit happens.
The sad truth is, women have to constantly choose between two lives, if they have any ambitions at all beyond being a mom. (Men don't because they can always find a young enough woman, so they get some extra years on us to get their career established.) Part of me wishes I started having kids at 25 so I could have more of them and be a full-time mom. But I would never have become as successful in my career if I'd chosen that. So I had kids in my 30s and run a successful company, and still feel like I'm doing two full-time jobs and neither of them well, because there's no shortcuts in parenting. (I guess if you're rich you could hire nannies but then you're not really parenting.)
There is no easy answer for women when a society demands the kind of job pace that ours does 😢
Had my first child at 39. No promotion, job title or successful project felt better than when my little girl smiles and says she loves me. Watching her grow and become her own person is more satisfying than anything I've done at work.
I agree so much! I was in school becoming a doctor when I faced an unplanned pregnancy (at 30). I was all stressed about how this was going to affect my residency, etc. but once he came I almost wished I hadn’t wasted all the money on school. 😂
Even better than having your toes, sucked?
@sjm9876 Good news: bidden says that he will free our college debt 😊
My younger sister and her husband had my nephew at 36.
iamme25yagoUnplanned means unintended, dumdum. When people have sex, it’s usually because they want the sex and they were not thinking about kids. Are there also a lot of married couples who have sex with the intention of having kids? Absolutely. Clearly, that is not the case here.
When you attack a person directly instead of attacking their points..... you admit they're right, but you're just upset.
Well yes but the down point of scarring people about not being able to have kids later, is that many people who dont love each other or who are not psychologically ready for kids would hurry to have kids to then end up in divorce and unhappy childhood for those kids
My sister just had twins at 42.
Maybe Brett doesnt know that this things doesnt work the same for every woman.
@@Dimi.cosmicI would argue that's not what he did nor did Brett. Their point was mostly get your priorities straight early and act accordingly. If a family and kids is not that important to you but a career is then go ahead and chase the career. If you know you want kids then be realistic about when you should be making moves towards that. This goes for both men and women.
@@Dimi.cosmic anecdotal evidence does not negate the statistics on the matter, statistically those twins had a way higher chance of a plethora of genetic disabilities and other health issues. Women need to stop being coddled, this is your reality, accept it and stop wasting time
@@Dimi.cosmic exactly she’s not a gynocologist and the stats she found are not true .. if women lost 90% of their reproductive ability by the age of 30 we’ll most of us wouldn’t actually exist… divorce sounds a lot worse then getting married in your 30s vs rushing in your 20s from desperation . The problem is comparison you can’t compare people’s lives at one point in time
@@kamuibluefire8468 she made false claims women lose their productivity 90% by age of 30 . And yes she’s spreading fear
I’m 35, almost 36 with my first baby. He’s 6 months old. I had unexplained infertility until I MIRACULOUSLY got pregnant with my husband/soulmate. Of course I wanted babies in my very early twenties but God had different plans for me and that is also okay. I tried for soooo many years to have a baby and regardless of when it happened, I’m just forever thankful that it did.
I also didn't have kids until over 30. I would have loved to have had them earlier, but me and my husband didn't meet until I was 31. We now have 2 beautiful kids and are growing our family. He was worth the wait!
Congrats to you! I love seeing stories like this, it gives me hope that it's not too late yet. We're struggling with infertility and after so many months and mental health issues due to it I decided to stop trying. I'm trying to get comfortable with the thought of never having children. I want to enjoy life again and not have it determined by infertility anymore.
I was told as a teen to wait until I was in my 30s to settle down. Now that I’m 30 this same person is telling me I need to hurry up with the baby making cause I’m practically infertile…. Thanks a lot sis! I’m already married and about to buy a home so crossing my fingers I will have my first baby by 31.
I graduated college at 22, met my husband at 23 and got married at 28 and then proceeded to have 5 kids. I’m 37. We knew we wanted at least 3 kids and we knew we’d better have them before I turned 35. Are our kids close in age? Yes. Is our house loud? Yes. But we are very happy and love how life turned out.
Better close in age, I have a mate whos like almost 2 decades older than his siblings, crazy ass clown world
My parents had five kids too. Then adopted a sixth later on. But! As a kid with a lot of siblings, if you work hard to help them build healthy relationships with each other it totally pays off. My siblings are my best friends and I wouldn't trade them for the world. People may say five kids is a lot but after having that amount of siblings I know how wonderful it is for the children. And that's coming from the middle kid! It truly is a wonderful thing.
Beautiful. THis is the perfect the case. Women will argue this tho. And thats the problem.
I am close in age with my sister, and she is my best friend. It is easier to relate and talk, so maybe your kids will also be lucky and find friends in one another, even if they fight occasionally and don't get perfectly along throughout childhood.
Not everyone who has delayed marriage and kids is a career-driven feminist. I spent a decade curing myself of a severe eating disorder in order to get mentally and physically healthy enough to enjoy life. This is NOT easy to do, especially without the benefit of professional help. It required all my extra energy, making marriage and family an impossibility during this time. Then suddenly I “wake up” feeling that I am 10 years younger than my peers in terms of life experience. I wouldn’t do it differently because otherwise I wouldn’t be here.
I am proud of you for your recovery! I had a similar journey, just keep putting recovery first ❤️🩹
Your situation is not what people have in mind. Brett referred to this when she said you have to make sure you are emotionally ready before having marriage and children. I wish you had been able to have more support but I congratulate you on your success. It is an amazing accomishment.
Agreed. Sometimes things just happen.
You are the exception to the rule
Exactly sometimes life gets in the way
I think another issue is also to afford a child around your 20s. Especially with prices increasing.
Children are priceless. We always found away to raise our 3 kids in hard times and times when I would be laid off from working because of the economy. God always opens doors when your heart is in the right place and you are willing to sacrifice some of your wants for needed things.
You don’t have to gold plate your children’s lives. Spend time on them, not money.
I'm 25 and still single, living in Europe. Conservatives aren't really a thing here, and even my conservative friends aren't big on religion. They're consider themselves conservative because they agree on the right’s immigration policy, but they're not all about traditional values. When I'm upfront with guys about being a Christian and wanting to wait until marriage for intimacy, they often think I'm nuts and disappear. It's scary because I'm not getting any younger, and being a mom is all I've ever wanted. But my friends just don't get it; they act like I have all the time in the world to settle down and start a family. They don't seem to realize the whole ticking biological clock thing. It's frustrating that getting married young and living that whole family life isn't cool anymore.
Maybe it’s time to travel to USA and get a husband there? You can use bumble travel mode to meet people
Maybe forget the Jesus stuff lol
Coming to America is an option. There are lots of men here who love The Father and the Son who aren't afraid to speak loudly about about His ways. The lines are definitely drawn, people have chosen their sides and the world is divided. We need more warriors of the Most High and they only show up because of woman. Don't give up or bend to those ungodly people who surround you. We need good woman like you to produce strong people who want to follow the True way of life.
I feel you ! 26 yo woman in Europe too. All men around me acting like they have all the time in the world.
@lildel7698 wow? Because there's such a lack of the "Jesus stuff" society is in a complete degenerate decline. Body counts in the hundreds, high rates of diseases, abortions going up, cheating more prevalent, nobody wanting to take a relationship seriously because they can just breakup and start swiping again. It's a mess right now
Why is there always the assumption that women who don't get married/have kids at a younger age is due to climbing a corporate ladder. Maybe they aren't able to find someone. Maybe they never find anyone. I know corporate climbers who are married and those who are not climbing any ladder and remain single/childless.
If it's not the corporate ladder, it's usually partying and sleeping around. Both are their own fault.
There are exceptions yes, but those two are the RULE.
@@dmtaboo_truth7052 Right, buddy. Right.
Aaand there are also - shocker - women who just don't want to have kids....
Some people dont want kids
becuase its the majority of cases. ur personal anecdotes and experience does nothing to change that until a significant amount of the female populous goes through exacctly what you described. THey dont, therefore its not the rule.
Congrats on the marriage, Brett! Love the work as always!! 🫶🏻
As 29 year old, shaming women for not having a kid by 30 is really not helpful. It just stresses me out. I haven’t found the right person and I’m not sure what I should do about that…. It sucks and makes me very depressed. The constant reminder that I failed, does not help.
There's nothing wrong with having a kid after 30.
After 40 on the other hand...
My fiance of 2 years (together for 8) just left me for another woman, so I'm glad we didn't we have kids. I'm 28 now and definitely feel pressured now!
I'm putting myself out there, getting fitter and joining lots of women's groups and singles ministries through my church. Also going through therapy through my church to help heal from my ex.
I look like I'm 20 though, so I'm not too scared. I do worry about my fertility because I have PCOS. Probably should have went ahead and had a kid years ago, but I'd rather have one with my HUSBAND and not my forever boyfriend
I'm hoping that through networking with like minded Christians I can meet someone good ❤
Don't settle for less!
@@thegrumpyhorticulturist yea that’s why I really don’t want to rush things. I’ve seen some rough situations around me when it comes to failed relationships. Like that happened with my mom and she had 3 kids. That’s why I really wanna wait for the right guy. It sounds like you have a good community to rely on. That’s what got my mom through tough times was great friends to pull out of the funk.
It’s not shaming. It’s warning. It’s not shaming you to tell you that your number has been called while you were distracted.
I'm in my mid-thirties. I wanted to be married in my mid twenties. Problem: There is no one out there that worked out so far. I don't want to marry someone that I know will end up in divorce. There are people who don't want children and marriage early on, which is fine. And then they are the unfortunate ones...
Don’t lost hope. My friend met her man at 35, married at 37 and now at 38 she has the most adorable baby girl. I hope you fall helplessly in love with someone who is good for you ❤
My dear friend got married in her 30’s. For years she had good men throwing themselves at her and she was never any of them. I was puzzled why she never gave any of them a chance. Then she met her now husband. Once she met him that was It. He was THE one. He is 5 years younger. It all makes sense now! God was saving her for him. She just turned 41, they just bought a new house, and they have a 4 year old, a 2 year old, and a 6 month old. It is so much better to wait for the right person, you’re wise!
Same! To be honest it feels better to know I am not alone in this, but here’s to hoping for both of us
I had a therapist that didn’t get married till she was 36 because being a social worker she saw what life was like when you didn’t have a husband and father for your child (just biological sperm donors) and she wasn’t gonna settle for just anyone. She now has a godly man for a husband, two adorable little boys, and a career where she genuinely helps people and makes a difference.
@@thegossamerladyTo be honest it feels better to know I am not alone in this, 😂 women can literally walk on fire with the help of validation logic goes like I am happy you didn't found anyone same as me. Women keep other women single so they don't have to be alone.
Those statistics are terrifying, but not surprising in the least. I’m glad I’ve already found my partner for life.
Do well to hang on because the general BS advice and the 200 billion divorce industry will try to get you to leave him. It's in everything. From movies to TV shows, books. Divorce is being pushed by law firms who make billions. This is an influence campaign. No one talks about this side of profit seeking divorce industry
Give it 7 years... you'll get bored and divorce him.
It is the way of wah-men now.
It’s a gingah get the exorcist we must cleanse the lands of this gingah pollution
Congrats Real Queen can have children with Real King i hope you had that your children soon
mrstealyblocks I can't imagine why you're finding it difficult to locate a good woman who will commit to you with that stunning personality.
55% of women between the ages of 25-35 are on SSRIs? WTF?!?! That's absolutely insane.
People getting treatment for their mental health issues is bad?
@@TVClaireBearthat's not treatment that's big pharma sales men paying off doctors like they did in the previous scandals of the 2000s.. That's is a Pill mill for mental health.
There is a mismatch in life
@@TVClaireBear but I think the medications are Wayover prescribed. I spent years on and off medication’s. Took them straight for over 20 years. I finally just stopped. None of them seem to work anyway. And I actually feel better now without them.
That means 45% are walking around undiagnosed
As a man I think that economy and the system should adjust to the realities of human biology. I see no problem with a woman getting her bachelors by 35 and starting a career at that age. Spending another 20-30 years in the workforce. Her 20's when she is in her biological prime she should have and raise children. Should still be able to start a career, if she so wishes, later in life once the kids are old enough.
Fully agree. Let’s make this normal.
Most of the reason women dont focus on kids first is because of the advice of parents and grandparents. They lived during a time when a womens only option was to be dependent, and they saw many families suffer when their husbands died, left, or subjected his family to his vices. That risk always remains for a dependent woman, and without a foolproof safty net I doubt things will change much.
If only we had a financial system in place for this to be a priority
@@maxgucciardi4507that’s why, as a man, we should be focused on our physical health. And have life insurance. It’s our job, biologically, to work hard to ensure those that need us would be okay if something were to happen.
Sounds horrible. Everything is expensive.
Biological clock also depends on genetics, lifestyle, geographical location, and food supply. My moms cousin just had a healthy, happy, beautiful baby and she is 48. My mom had a pregnancy scare at 50 and still hasn’t hit menopause despite being 53 now. I know friends of mine in their early 20s struggling to get pregnant or keep miscarrying. I also have friends who have healthy, happy, beautiful babies in their early 20s.
But what I don’t see people talking about enough is men’s sperm count/health and how it contributes to miscarriages and deformities in children.
A lady in my community had a miracle baby at age 54...
No. The species limitations are more important. Just like Homo Sapiens Sapiens cannot match the strength of a Lion, the Ovum are almost gone by age 40. Which is why it's rare at age 50.
@@jonathancummings3807you have eggs until you enter menopause. Which is between 45 and 55. With some cases in their 30s and 60s. So you can get pregnant at any time before that. Also, you can freeze eggs in your 20s.
Exceptions do not prove the rule, what don't you ♀get about this.
@@wtfdtreats ummm bro chill. I’m talking about in general. Look at y’all’s sperm counts and health over the last couple years, something is very wrong.
My husband and I had our kiddo at 26 (he was 28/29). Shocked to learn I was the youngest person on the maternity floor 😳 most of the women were considered “geriatric pregnancy”. And one of them was having twins!
Yep.. the absolute state of western civilization 🤕
@@dmtaboo_truth7052not just in the west, it’s happening the world over, in fact much of the world is facing a future population collapse due to rapidly declining birth rates.
Wow,crazy
@@dmtaboo_truth7052 almost like.....
*fmnzm was a mistake...* 🤔
@@dmtaboo_truth7052Why is that bad?
My wife (from the beginning of dating till after we got married) was CONSTANTLY talking about her biological clock. And how we need to start having kids now before her chances go down. She’s only 27, I thought that was plenty young.
Up until very recently I had no idea how true it was, and glad we started when we did.
My mom had her first kid when she was 27! Then had four more after that. Her clock is ticking but you don't need to stress too too toooo much. Especially if you're not planning on having five kids lol
@@nikaoheeg23But you don't know that! Plenty of women struggle to get pregnant, suffer repeat miscarriages, etc. It often takes TIME to successfully have a healthy baby. And if you want more than 1 then you might need tons of time because you might need to recover from scary complications, you might have an extremely difficult child who doesn't leave room in your life for another baby for YEARS (needy clingy sleepless children cannot be predicted, you don't get to pick your child's temperament, nor whether they're Autistic, ADHD, etc.), maybe baby #1 came easy but then it takes years to get pregnant again or multiple miscarriages before getting another healthy baby. Miscarriage is extremely common! You need to leave time for that reality! Not everyone can just pop out 5 healthy babies in a row, in fact, MOST women can NOT.
@SENSEF struggling to get pregnant can also be the man's fault, not the woman's. I doubt spending a million years on birth control is helping women though
What about the issue of our economy and not being able to afford starting a family. Not everyone wants to raise a baby with government help. That is also why women aren't having families before 30.
PRECISELY, glad you get it too
Brett thank you so much for this balanced take! I am single 24-year old Christian woman (basically a spinster where I'm from) and it's hard to constantly hear about how people need to get married young and start having kids when I deeply desire to be married. I was worried when I saw this title, but I was super encouraged by this video!
I’m 36 and feel like I have a Scarlett letter across my chest for no reason. I want husband and children but haven’t met the right man who loves God and I can’t settle.
You have PLENTY of time
My dad was 41 and mom was 38 when they had me. I'm the youngest out of 5. They were married over 50 years before my dad passed away.
Me too. The youngest of the 5 of us was born when my mother was 2months to her 39th Birthday and my father was 43
Do you wish they had been younger? How was it growing up with older parents? We were surprised by twins at 40 and 44 last year. They are babies 4 and 5 for us.
Brett is so pathetic here.she thinks she will be happy all her life with her husband. I think she will get divorced in her 30s or sonner.
Studies show that the biggest issue is "first pregnancy at older age" and it makes a huge difference for a 40yo if you're a 5th child and not the 1st.
@@gosias751I like her, but not just because she got married it means she is better than the rest of us. Also circunstances are different for each one.
The problem with trying to avoid red flags is that nowadays EVERYTHING is a red flag. At least, according to TikTok and various youtube videos.
It's like they say
"Don't date the people you find ugly, but please... Don't wait for mister perfection - you aren't perfect either"
Sounds cool, but then you remember that there no between ugly and perfection "I just feel he is ugly now, his socks are weird... Ick"
Heheee, that's right😂
Being on tiktok is a red flag 😆
They have an illusion of unlimited options right now because they are hot, young and in demand. But everyone ages out of it and then the reality becomes obvious
I’m 30 and gen z makes fun of me when I meet them. A lot of the young people are so incredibly immature it surprises me
Why is being 30 funny? Because you're "old"? Or a "millennial"?
There has always existed immature young people in every generation, and likely always will.
I think your final summary was spot on. Well said! 👏
Let me tell you, the whole “wall” thing got to me. I have one daughter age 1 1/2, and have been trying with my husband for number two. I’m 34, and I was panicking. Luckily I just found out I’m pregnant with baby number 2 😊 just needed a good vitamin and to track my cycle effectively.
@iamme25yagosir, this is a Wendy’s
@iamme25yago oh u were there when they did it? weird..
Congrats! ❤
@iamme25yago How did you know she faked it? Were you in bed with them?
@iamme25yagoweirdoooo
Something that is critical is don’t waste your time in a relationship that will never result in a marriage. It is easy to move in and live with someone who is pleasant but not a spouse.
100% I was with my ex with whom we agreed to get married & have children after 5 years being together. (I was established in my field of work and we agreed that I'll be the main bread winner.). 11 years passed. [I was 21, she was 19, when we first started] She kept putting off to have children in lieu of the work I was making 2.5 times more than, and what was making her feel miserable. With that and other complications in the relationship, after working very hard to salvage what we had, I ended and moved on. I'm now happily married with our first born on the way (soon).
Great episode Brett. Glad you took this middle stance, as i do think the common right stance of "You're 24, you better hurry or else," is so harmful. First they rush the young impressionable people into marrying from panic. Then when things in marriage aren't looking so good, they tell them to repair the marriages because "divorce is not an option." Then things keep going down hill, kids come along. Maybe there's abuse or cheating. Finally the marriage ends, and what they hear, often from the same people is, "What took you so long to get out?" Followed by, "Men don't want to date single mothers, FYI."
It can be a big mess. Everyone, take your time, but always be working on it.
My wife is 5 years older than me, we met when she was 33.
When I seriously began considering marrying her, we had a frank conversation about when to start trying for kids because of all of the science surrounding this issue. Of course, this also meant I had to step up, not only to be a husband and provide in all the ways I ought to, but to prepare to be a father immediately. For a late-20's perpetually single bachelor, that's a pretty hard corner to make.
Examining how men play into this discussion, let's remember that men are generally, statistically more immature than women of the same age (let alone older women). Therefore, there's an angle where not only women need to be realistic about what they want and can do, but where men also need to understand and take on the role that's required of them.
So absolutely, these topics need to be talked about if there's any hope for serious, healthy romantic relationships that begin at later ages.
To anyone wondering, it all worked out great for us; we were both on the same page, she became pregnant after we had been married for a few months (again, that was the reality we were preparing ourselves for, folks), and we now have 2 beautiful kids.
The second best title I have had, well beyond company titles up to & including CEO is when late teen adoptive daughter called me Dad was after grandson who called me 'Ampa came up to me, pulled on my pant leg - motioned me to bend over to his height. Throwing both arm back he yelled out - GRANDPA! When daughter came home he was playing singing Grandpa,Grandpa,Grandpa...Grandpa,Grandpa,Grandpa,Grandpa...Grandpa,Grandpa,Grandpa.
She asked- isn't that driving you nuts?
No. He has tried for longest time to say that. He is proud of himself 🥰
Congratulations on your wedding Brett🎉
Pleasantly surprised- I always expect these videos to lean toward the "Stop being too feminist to settle down! You don't have any eggs left!" side, which is always depressing for those of us ladies who are 30-something and unmarried, but not on purpose out of some selfish ambition or something. Thanks, Brett!
I married my husband when I just turned 25... it took over 9 years to finally fall pregnant. I was told that I would never have children and it was a lost cause.
It would've been so much easier in my 20s, however... we are so blessed to have 2 beautiful little boys now (2.5yr and 6m), and I couldn't be happier.
My body struggled, I will be 37 in June... but it was totally worth it ❤
I can relax now, because I’ve come to terms with the fact, that I’ll be alone for the rest of my life.
Same
Bruh dont think lile that u never know!
same 🥲🥲
same
Hard truth, and also the same here. That is why we go to make the best of our single life and surround ourselves with good family and friends.
Had my daughter in December at age 34 and plan on having a large family if we are so lucky! I am SO happy my husband and I waited when we did because we were both absolutely self-absorbed and unprepared in our twenties. I wish we had the chance to start earlier (just wasn't in the cards then) but I certainly hope women don't think they are "too old" to have kids just because they aren't in their twenties. Software engineer and chef turned stay-at-home mom here and I'm the happiest I've ever been!
I'm glad you're having kids that being said you got lucky and while we are all self absorbed in our 20's of you and your partner were even slightly decent people you probably would've adapted just fine back then.
My mom was 34 when she had me, 36 when she had my sister. My old boss was 36 when she had her twins, 38 when she had her youngest. A family friend was 42 when she had her last. Another woman I know had her first at 30 and second at 37. All perfectly healthy babies. Good for you.
I've told young people that it's better to be lonely because of what you don't have than to be miserable because of what you do have. Choose wisely.
Why don't you just tell them NOT TO CHOOSE THINGS THAT MAKE THEM MISERABLE?
@@m.l.5230 I said choose wisely.
I’ve got many women in my church who married in their mid 30’s and have 3-4 healthy children also popping child after child. I go to a church of around 500 people and this is the case for most of them. Yes biology is a reality I agree but God also does miracles period. If you have a desire to be married and you are a God fearing woman with good values, it will happen for you. Just wait, pray, trust God, put yourself out there and trust that God is faithful.
Popping? What a horrible word in this context
Yeah… Well, I’m 37 turning 38 soon. Still waiting on God to make it happen for me… and honestly, I’m tired of waiting on God. Just a few months ago, I’ve come to terms that I won’t ever have kids. It’s probably not in God’s plan. As for marriage.. it’s 50/50 for me. Seems God wants me to be with someone who’s already gone through having his first wedding, wife, house, kids.. I don’t want to marry someone who feels our whole marriage is just a replay for him, but it looks more and more like those kind if men are my only choices now.. and I’m not ao sure if I want that.
People need to learn to live with ageing
That’s not the point. The point is get married in your twenties and have a family. Age well and raise kids to get married and continue on the family legacy.
@@Foxie770 but people waste there money trying to stop aging and stop there lives to look”good”
You missed the point completely
@@Foxie770The point is to get to know yourself if you even want marriage or not. Not everyone is called to marry. When you pressure people into marriages they don’t even want, they end up hating themselves, their spouses and their children. I say live and let live
@@breebelcher3793it’s was just a comment
Something I've been struggling with is the fact that I have a 9 month old baby and when people find oit I'm 21 they always make the comment "oh your just a baby yourself" I feel like this is so discouraging especially for women my age who havnt had their babies yet but are trying or planning on having babies young and that is the response they get.
Don't pay attention, people will always say something inappropriate. My grandma is trying to persuade me to have kids and naming some ridiculous reasons for that which don't make sense to me, so I just don't worry about other people's opinions.
If you decided to have a baby at 20, that's only your decision and no one has a right to criticise it. Sometimes people say stuff like that as a joke, not realising that it can be hurtful for the person they say it to.
I HATE when people say that!! I'm late 30s, and do NOT see an early 20s person as a baby. We have artificially extended childhood so far that it's destroying people's minds.
I had my first at 21 and people used to stop me to ask if I was babysitting or if she was my little sister 🙄 now I'm happily on baby number 4 at 27. The more time goes on the less you care what people say 🙂
Bret I really think you’re such a great catalyst for our generation and the conversations you start up with your video topics are spot on
Coop! This topic you've been covering is fire 🔥
Ladies, it's called compromise, not settling. Guys do it all the time.
No they don’t. 💀 The men who compromised, ended up cheating. This is why people talk about the man’s dream girl.
So glad I took the "family" life arc. I didn't find my hubby until I was 25, but we got our 2 kids into the world in the next 5 years. I still had a fulfilling career up to my retirement from the military.
How did you maintain your relationship in the military? I ask because I’m signing up as well and plan to retire in the military whilst having a great marriage. I’ve heard the statistics are rough when it comes to that lol
@@gaiusaugustusgermanicus471 It can definitely be trying. Make sure you remember to cultivate your marriage. By this, I mean to be mindful of putting effort into your relationship. The job can be demanding and you may find yourself exhausted when you get home. Even in those times, there are small acts you can do even if just verbal. Also communicate! When it comes to your career choices, your spouse should be included to at least give an opinion. Honestly, one of the keys to a happy marriage, military or not, is acknowledging it won't always be easy, but you need to actively choose your significant other everyday. Hope this helps. We are 22 years married and happy.
waste of taxpayer money tbh
@@TT-zl7ir These days, it definitely is. I hope we don't end up in WW3, but the conflicts keep coming.
This was the best one I’ve ever seen you do and not just because of the topic but the application and insight was amazing as well as the balancing of the two extremes
When my husband and I started dating, we were both liberal. Me, moreso. Now, I'm very conservative and he's center-right. Our values align, and we have two incredible children. Planning on at least one more. God can change our hearts to ensure our folly gets flipped upside-down to allow us to grow the next generation. People can change, thankfully!
Brett: twenties are your child bearing years.
Me: 27, struggling to survive and finish college and felling with zero energy to deal with anything more than college, work and church.
Ps: God help me, because I don't know what I'm gonna do
Edit: I finished the video, thanks for no shaming us single women I was getting scared at the beginning of the video.
College = waste of time and money.
@@dmtaboo_truth7052 I understand where you come from but I need it to get a better job. Where I am from you are exploited in jobs like customer service, jobs that you can do without a degree. So if I want to have a decent quality of life and at some point have the chance to live, not just survive, the most dign way to do so is by studying.
You need some shaming, college? Really?
I’m 26 and in a very similar situation. It will get easier with time. You got this! ❤
For once, she didn't do that. Is she finally understanding?
14 year old me wanted to be married and have kids by 21 ~ 18 year old me had been brainwashed into the selfishness of the girl boss era and whiplashed by the “boy crazy” label of people around me into the fear of ever getting into a relationship. I am now almost 30 have never gone on a date and fear I will never find someone. It’s regrettable but I have to live with my decisions and pray that the right man comes along soon.
Don't give up 🙏
I bet you have a dozen or more "right men" right there, in your friend zone because none of them are 6ft+ tall, none of them earn the millions that you want half of, none of them have a private jet. Yet every single one of them is a good person, could be a great father and a great life partner by every metric that actually counts except you discounted them.
1. Workout and stay fit
2. Lower your standards of guy that you want to marry
@@TheWarforged Who hurt you?
Woof not 21 .. 21 year olds are babies
Thank you for this content. I’m starting to send these topics to my mother when she asks me why I’m not married. It’s tough to explain that it’s complicated and not from a lack of trying. Needless to say I’m very patient and truly believe in becoming a better person so that when the time comes I’m informed and prepared.
As a woman who has wanted to get married and be a sahm since I was 18, I agree with what you said at the beginning. A lot of men have left the dating pool, and now that I'm 25, I'm still waiting. Interestingly, many women from my church who were feminists before they found faith are now married or dating. I don't believe men want what they say they want. Look at all these women stepping down from OF or p**n and already in Christian marriages. If I turn 30 and I'm still single, and I hear men talking about wanting more traditional women, I'll end up in a mental hospital. 😵💫😵💫😵💫😵💫
24. SAME. At this point I just wonder if I’m hideous or have the personality of a slug. Good for those girls, but no one ever told me you could do your best to do things right and wind up alone anyway. 🥲
You’re probably gonna have to approach the guy
When we say traditional we mean no tattoos no blue hair not necessarily a religious chick
Sadly, I think the American Church has abandoned young men and offer nothing to them anymore. It's got to be the smallest demographic of church members/participants in the country. Best wishes on your search.
Lol hahaha you’re so cute and funny. BUT, FOR REAL, THOUGH! I’m happy for that OF girl who just converted. I wish her the best! Men claim they don’t want girls like that. I’m pretty conservative and nearing 40 and still no kids, no man…. I dunno, maybe I’m just not pretty enough that guys would rather choose ex corn stars before me.
Can't ya'll just let women over 30 live? Sheesh.
But they (and men too) need to be told not to wait until 40 to have kids.
They have to be accountable just like men are
We do, but they keep complaining about not being able to have families
I just don’t understand the point of these videos. Best case scenario it makes people feel bad about where they’re at.
the point is making money. Daily wire is in the business of making money.
This. I have found I’m growing more and more disinterested with Brett’s videos specifically on “relationship advice”. Easy for her to say since she just got married in her early 20s which Doesnt help those who are single or past their early 20s. She is insanely lucky in this regard, but that also makes her rather disconnected from the problem. She’s been out of the dating pool for a while, having dated this guy then being engaged etc. It’s like asking a millionaire how to get by as basic retail worker in the current economy.
I think the hoped-for benefit is that these videos are cautionary warning signs to women still young enough to do something about it. But yeah, it's often carelessly cruel to women who end up single in their 30s due to circumstances outside their control, when there's nothing they can do about it now either. I think the only videos that get this right are those that are gentle in tone to take into account the huge diversity in the audience, and don't mistakenly talk to the audience as if it's entirely composed of people who need 'tough love'.
It’s only feeding men’s bias and disgust with women who find themselves single in their late 20s-early 30s. Are we trying to get people closer and bring back family values? If so - this content isn’t helping, it’s just feeding more anger and resentment. I completely get it- I wish I had made different decisions in my early 20s, but here we are. I’m trying to make the best of it and hoping to find someone soon to start a family with, but content like this doesn’t make it easier to find a good loving man.
Nothing they could do about it? Like the majority of men who are totally invisible to most women? Even unattractive women can get laid easily 😂
I'm 33, childless, & unmarried. My severe depression has caused me to lose 7 years of the most important years of my life which therefore makes me even more depressed. The 5 years before, I lost as well to drug addiction which is what my depression is linked to. I never wanted kids & it wouldn't have been smart for me to have kids during my addiction or depression but the older I get I do think about what life would be like if I did get married & had kids. I know marriage & kids isn't for everyone but that's what us women are hardwired for.
Brett totally fails to mention a massive reason why a lot of people aren't "working towards" having kids, even if they do want them and that's the economy. When people are still scraping by to afford the basics like housing by age 30 ofc children aren't a priority. Equally important is providing a good life for a child. I am fairly comfortable and would have a baby in a heartbeat except I know if I did I'd end up struggling and wouldn't be so comfortable anymore.
That's bullshit people didn't stop having kids during the depression!! It's literally in our DNA to reproduce. If you wait till you can afford kids you'll never have them. It's just excuses to be selfish. Not to mention that statistics show women all want the top 20% of men because of decades of princess treatment. And who voted for socialism you guessed it the same liberal women
Actually, in the past 4 years, there has been a dramatic increase in women in their late 30s, early 40s having children. Doctors are finding out that 35 is no longer the scary age but their mid-40s. It has a lot more to do with the health of the woman than just her age. A 37 year old who takes care of her body is going to have an easier time with pregnancy than a 22 year old who does not take care of her body. I also know a lot of women that struggled with fertility in their 20s and got pregnant really easily in their 30s. I think the chemicals in our food and our air have done more to negatively impact fertility than anything else. I am very concerned about that. I do agree, though, that it is important to focus on finding the right person, not the first person.
Your correct I do however think 40 is pushing it for kids because they need the attention and the work young and no one wants to be 60 with a senior in high-school
I, personally, would not want a child at 40. However, the women I know that had them at 40 look and act so much younger than their younger mom counterparts. They credit their children for keeping them young.
I’ve been pregnant in my 20s and my 30s and I can tell you age definitely doesn’t make pregnancy any easier. It is in fact harder because no matter how healthy we are our bodies are in fact older.
@@Kwildcat13😂they do in Ohio
@@Kwildcat13my mom and dad had me and my brothers in their 40s, and it’s been a pretty hard run for her; she and my dad are still pretty great parents, but it’s been more difficult due to their age+mobility issues
As a young girl I only heard about bad experiences with men from my female family members.. I did not know that worthy men exist and what's more I can have one of those. It took me a long time to believe that I deserve and there are good men in this world. I had to stop listening to unhappy people even if they are my relatives and think for myself. Later I found many good examples of happy couples and I also became one of them together with my partner.
Fingers crossed for all still searching.god bless you
Just looked up your wedding. It was so beautiful Brett, and that dress!!! Congratulations!♡
honestly, I give up. Im pushing 30 and I've recently been told my fertility is compromised. I realized too late how much I wanted to be a mom, and even now, it brings me to tears
Maybe I can find joy and fulfillment elsewhere in life
You can freeze your eggs. Its pretty cheap compared to ivf but it might be a good peace of mind.
Adopt? - There are Hundreds of thousands of orphans who need a home.
Don’t adopt they are psychopaths but I hope freezing eggs and surrogates are an option. I’m on a similar boat in that my left ovary is busted.
@@mikewizoski7593what wrong with adopting, what-about the babies without a family
Find a man of character (forget the "666" rule) and adopt!
I’m a 28 year old guy. After a few relationships that didn’t work out, I’m still trying to find a good woman to share life with. I am trying to trust God and I’ll always prefer to date someone close to my age. If that means I don’t have kids until I’m 35, I’m ok with that. It would mean a lot to me to be with someone with some shared life experience and maturity.
The amount of people in the comment section who thinks the only value a woman has is youth and eggs is sad... we are way more than that...
Sometimes USA sounds weird knowing it's a 1st world country. Here in México all the girls know this info ever since biology in school, all the way to the last semester of their classes before college. It truly feels weird seeing how many people inside the States don't address this as much as it needs to.
Ok Brett. Time to build your own dating site. We believe in you.
I feel like so many ppl not dating because everyone is selfish asf! It’s all about me, me , me , me.
It is not selfish, it is personal choice and people are allowed to choose the lifestyle that they want.
And some people choose not to date because of their past experience, you never know, please have some respects
You need to learn to be happy with yourself first before you can love others.
Yes and?
You obviously don’t have feelings that are based on knowing much about people’s actual experiences.
That’s the first time I’ve ever heard that not dating is selfish 😂
I agree people need to be better informed on this. Percentage of egg cells stats are a bit misleading - I mean if we include fetal development, a girl has already lost over half of her egg cells *at birth*. The 10% left at 30 is still around 100,000-200,000 for most women, 200-400x more than will develop into eggs and be released. It isn't actually number of egg cells that is the concern for most women, but the hormones that control development and release which tend to be inconsistent and not in full swing until around 20 (so eggs that develop often aren't the best quality compared to what develops at 25) and start becoming inconsistent and not working as well in the mid-to-late 30s, depending on some nutrition, genetic, and other factors. You can have thousands of potential eggs, but without the hormones to develop well and release them, they can't do much.
Different factors of women's reproduction 'peak' at different ages and have some variability between individuals and many other health factors including nutrition so there is no one perfect age; however, all other things being equal, the 'prime years' -- defined as with the highest likelihood of of quality wellbeing for mother and child during and after pregnancy, and lowest likelihood for mother and child of pregnancy or childbirth related injuries, disability, or death is 24-34.
More important for both - particularly for those who want large families, is waiting 18-24 months between a birth and starting to try for the next child - the more difficult the previous pregnancy, the longer the recommendations. The risks to the mother of having not fully regained the nutritional and physical tax of pregnancy are often ignored. They can be mitigated to an extent for those who want them closer through nutritional blood panels to monitor any potential deficiencies and women's physiotherapists who can monitor for early signs of weakening of core muscles and injuries that can be treated with exercises before they become lifetime disabilities. This is something I wish had been better understood when I was younger when it was just treated as if you're period has returned, everything is okay... it's more complicated than that if we value health of mother and child.
Such important context, thank you for sharing this
I had my first at 32, my 2nd at 36. Then I had a "surprise" pregnancy at 45 that ended in miscarriage and another miscarriage at 47.
should have stopped at 32 tbh, why risk problematic births and babies.
When I look at pictures of my mom in her thirties, she looked great. Even after she had me and my brother she looked great. She had me and my brother in her late thirties. She doesn't recommend it, but she met my dad late. Even now in my mom's late fifities, she doesn't look too bad.
Yess ❤❤ instead of negativity this is positivity we need to hear and coming from a 27 yo
@iamme25yago No, but she's pretty and looks like she could pass for a little younger.
Goals. I took good care of myself and I protect my skin pretty well so I can age like your mom.
Why it's sounds like "I identify as younger"
Interesting obsession of looking young, instead of being young
It's not about how one appears. It's about biological age. Humans usually don't get past age 100. Most don't get past 85. So about age 40 is fundamentally "Middle Age".
I love how Brett just sneaks the ad in there so smoothly
My husband found me at 28, got married at 29. Of course, I wish I met him sooner but this was how it was meant to be. I got pregnant right away and I wouldn’t have been as fertile at 20-26 as I am now because in my early twenties I was vegan and underweight. I’m way healthier now.
I’m not arguing with the stats but I think fertility is so nuanced. Don’t write a gal off because she’s in her late twenties.
As a man that’s 35 I find women in their 30s very attractive the fact that supposedly they are less fertile doesn’t matter as long as I find someone that love me of course I want to be a dad but if you find that one person that completes you it doesn’t matter to most men
They aren't less fertile. Actually sometimes quite the contrary. Somewhere about 10 to 15 years before menopause a.womans body begins regulating her hormones more.efficiently in hopes of concieving. She.may drop multiple eggs each month and have much more regular cycles aka ovulation.
Thank you for saying something healthy ❤❤ coming from a man
I'm 34. I got pregnant while actively trying not to get pregnant and know many others who did as well. It really just depends on so many other things, then just age. So, I'll pray that you find someone beautiful, kind, and loving to share your life with.
I got pregnant at 30 by accident while I was extremely ill and I thought I couldn't possibly get pregnant or carry a healthy pregnancy to term, but I did! Now I am almost 40 and I hope to have more children, but I haven't found the right man yet... Had to leave the father of my child because he was abusive to me.
@@sara_sofia_1984Sorry you had to live through abuse
I keep hearing about all these girlbosses that work corporate jobs because they were manipulated into them. Although all the women I know work in restaurants and retail, maybe some are teachers or nurses.
True. I want to know where these girl boss jobs are. I took whatever job I could get. Most other working ladies I know did the same except the teachers and nurses who did it for passion. Most women are trying to survive out here.
They're in tech and media. But both of these sectors are shrinking from a hiring perspective, so for this and other reasons, girl-bossing feels dated.
@@tradfluteman even still it’s hardly representative of the common modern woman. I also really don’t think even those or some women that might have better medical jobs or law jobs are doing so out of a desire to be more a more masculine “boss”. I think they just know that they need a job and a better one is better.
@@taylorhardaway8031 Media/entertainment/tech has a disproportionate impact on culture. People in these sectors can get away with ignoring what is actually representative or democratic, for a depressingly long time, as long as it generates buzz and ad revenue. And if it doesn't do those things, even if it's very, very impactful for most people; like fixing the horrible healthcare system in the US; it will get marginalized. Anyway, I don't think you would dispute that the narrative in these sectors for women has had a bias towards career development, at the cost of family development, for at least the last 10 years. Maybe you would dispute whether this bias has been good or bad, or whether it has materially impacted people's lives. Or am I misunderstanding you?
@@tradfluteman no, and I kind of lost you in the middle, but I don’t see any manipulation happening. There is definitely pandering in tv shows and stuff towards career women, but it’s vague and usually just silly and not a big deal. Brett and other conservative talking heads keep talking like there is this army of women climbing corporate ladders, when I’m just not seeing it. It would only be a small percentage of the population even if slightly trending in that direction. Marriage and children are happening later and less, but that’s just being logical about commitments and trying to make enough money to survive, not because of she- hulk.
Keep sharing and keep trying to help young women please
Ive never been on twitter. I have no interest in public discourse to that extent. Im 35 i feel like that crap is for teens and young 20s.
Just want to say thank you Brett. You have helped me so much to find my voice and not be afraid to share my opinions.
I took ages to feel ready for a baby, nothing to do with career or anything and I was 34 in 2020 when we decided to try….then the world fell apart and as I’d been on the pill since I was 18 which was masking PCOS I had to get on the list for fertility treatment which took A VERY LONG TIME! I finally got my medication in April 2023 and immediately got pregnant and my daughter is now 4 months old but I’m sad that I lost so much time as I would like a second baby but I’m nearly 38 now so kind of have to rush.
That segue into the RuffGreens Ad read made me smile.
The funny thing is that I never look forward to sponsorship ads but I'm always curious how Brett will incorporate ruff greens within her video!
Wow gee thanks for this Brett. I feel so much better not being able to find anyone at my age despite my efforts to approach the guy first and starting a small chat trying to know them 🤷♀️
Lower your standards to a hard working guy that will be loyal.
If I was a woman I could find a man to marry in a week. Give me three months and I could get an 8 or 9 to marry me.
For your sake the best age difference is 4-7 years older than you. Even 10 years plus has lots of potential. More guys with their money in order in their 30s
@iamme25yagoWhat does that mean? That they’re supposed to approach someone they don’t find attractive..? That makes zero sense.
it;s better to know the truth than to live in a lie
@@goldenknightsfanatichaha no…
Its just common sense. Men are not in their primes after 30 as well. Peak male fertility is around 25-29 years old. Sperm quality begins to decline at 30.
About 35 men really start dropping off in desirablity, too. Young women don't want an old man either. I laugh when dudes talk about how they get better with age. Most really don't
Looks wise you're definitely right but men technically dont have a biological clock when it comes to having kids.
@@rachelm2961 Lmao yes they do. Man I lost track of how many women I see with dudes 10+ their age. It's crazy.
@robertslaten8015 I know very, very few that last with that wide of an age gap. And I can assure you most young women don't want old men.
@@rachelm2961we don't actually, a lot of men cope with the idea that they will be on their prime after 30s. The reality is no women want an old saggy dude, (only if he's a millionaire lol)
I met my husband at 22, we married at 25 and started our family at 30. We have four kids, completely naturally in my 30s and our last at 38. Home births, zero issues or complications.
I'm 22. At my current age I would never date a man above 30, when there are men in their 20s around me. Sperm quality begins to decline at 30 and at 45, semen value reduces greatly. I don't want to have issues conceiving because I chose a guy over his prime.
People aren't ready to have this conversation. They're too busy hating women.
Same for me
30 to 45 lmao thats a big window😂 … Keep coping. Older men will always be sought after. Meanwhile, Your eggs are decreasing by the day. Tick tick tick 😉.
Girl same for me. I don't understand why men think women in their 20s want them other than for their money... The average age gap for couple is 2.5 years... That's because women don't go for older men like they seem to think. Also, many studies indicate that the greater the age difference between the couples, the greater the odds of them getting divorced.
The fertility decline at 30 is minuscule. There are much better reasons for avoiding large age differences like lower relationship satisfaction and higher divorce rates.
I'm 34. Virgin. I don't have a husband yet, but I pray to God I find someone. My dream my entire life is to be a wife and mother. I really hope one day I can have that. I struggle from severe anxiety and depression. I'm working my hardest to be better. I put my faith in God that I will find a man and have the family I've dreamed about. 🙏
Keep the faith ❤
@@wallflower777 Thank you! I'm holding on strong
Bless you I hope you find your guy
@@MikeTheD thank you so much! I hope so too.
I’m in the same boat; virgin, haven’t been in a serious relationship due to trauma in my late teens; waiting and praying for the man God will hopefully put in my path
Another great episode. Btw, thank you for reading one of Candace's tweets. I miss her
I thought the same. I miss Candace hope to see her back on yt soon
I just realized you talk pretty fast like Ben. Kind of made me chuckle and wonder why i just realized this. At any rate, you do good stuff. Like the material you cover.
I just can't with the transitions to adds xD they're hilarious!
After years of failures, misadventures, and waiting, I’m finally on track to marry a lovely lady this year. On our wedding day I’ll be 38 and she’ll be 33. Hoping and praying we can start having kids right away, cuz we got some serious catching up to do 😅
Good luck brother! All the best!
I didn't meet my wife until I was 29 and a half. I'm three years older than she is. We didn't marry until just before my 31st birthday. We didn't have kids for seven years. In all we were eventually blessed with four healthy wonderful kids. I am fully aware how atypical it is to have kids that late and just how almost unbelievably fortunate we are. I've told all of them don't wait as long as we did it likely won't go as well for you.
Wise words to your children. Yes you were incredibly blessed but glad it worked out for you!
Sadly, it ain't working like that
I got married at 18 had my first child 21, my second two years later and married happily for 33 years. Very happy that I did everything when I was young.
Its not the best decision for everyone but glad it worked out for you. I can't imagine having children at 18 when you're basically a child.
Spot on as always!
I am 37, single, never been married. I gave up on dating because I just couldn't meet a nice guy in my area. I spent my 20s healing from trauma, and I didn't feel like a stable person until my early 30s. I don't even know if I want to give birth to my own children anyway. I'd rather wait until I'm settled in my life and adopt a child who needs stability and love. Even if it takes a long time. I'll do it.
What is this traauma everyone talks about ? Like that phrase is overused and cringe now
You'll be waiting forever.
Lots of nice guys around. You are not attracted to them. The problem is you.
Could you ellaborate on this trauma? I've never met anyone in person who "lost" years of their lives because of that.
And as another reply said, if you didn't find anyone in your area "nice", that means you didn't feel physical attraction any of them. Attraction comes before any prospect of relationship.
@@minnesotajude8447 You would screech if a woman said that to a man.
It's too late- men with anything to lose are avoiding the women desperate for marriage
Definitely 100%
Until marriage laws are re-evaluated it's only going to get worse and worse. I believe people can have happy long relationships without legally marrying each other, but the biggest obstacle is that men are increasingly not wanting to marry, and women are steadfast in the dream to become married with no knowledge of what happens to divorced men with children.
@@visible4850 *absolute monogamy under patriarchal dominance* is the only inevitable solution.
All roads lead to this. 💊
I understand that men are screwed over by the laws, but I will not even date someone who has decided marriage is not for them. It's too important to me to make that commitment in front of God and my community before cohabitation, changing my name, having sex, or having children. Obviously, he'd need to be conservative and Christian as well. I'll be sad if I never find a good man to be my husband, but I could never compromise on this. @visible4850
Never sign a contract to which the other party is incentivized to break. There's a reason 70% of divorces are initiated by the wife. Heads they get your house, a car, part of your pension/savings, tails, they get all that plus a recurring monthly payment. There is no upside for most men, which is why so many un-alive themselves after having their lives ruined. My ex, who I was with for 8 years, without marrying, even admitted to false claims of DV with her ex-husband to get a higher divorce settlement.