Had my first baby at 27 and immediately felt the natural urge to put him above my career, even working from home with him a majority of his life. I’m due with my second just before I turn 30 and we’ve spent the last 2 years setting up our finances so I can stay home. I work in a high achieving industry and I know zero moms who are happy they are at work instead of being with their kids.
I had my second 9 months ago and I was wishing and still wish I wouldn’t have had to go back to work. I want to stay home with my kids and be a housewife. I’ve only recently thought that I don’t want to climb the corporate ladder. That’s not the path I want my life to take.
Just curious, do you wish you didn’t work in a high achieving career then? I just graduated college and started at a high achieving job. It’s a blessing ofcourse financially and starting off, but I also want to structure my life in a way that in the future, I’m able to have time for family and not be so work dependent. It also worries me because even though I just started, I want my potential partner to make more than me and be the provider, but that means that many guys right now are not a compatible since many guys around my age don’t work such a well to do job, atleast right now.
I think its something to do with people realizing that nobody actually wants to work 12 hours ago for a company that hates you and will do everything in their power to pay you less.
as a youngster, i concur. it seems that most now only want to hook up or “casually date” people. finding someone who wants to commit long term nowadays is like looking for a needle in a haystack.
I absolutely love this! I got bullied growing up for saying I wanted to be a stay at home mom. I am now 23, married to the love of my life, stay home with my two wonderful kids, am pregnant with our third child, and absolutely loving my life! Update to add!!! We just found out at our 20 week ultrasound, we’re having twins!!!
23?! Damn 😂 I’m 25 (female) and no kids. Still working on doing what I wanna do with my life, gonna leave the Army soon after 4 years active.. new chapters and none involve no kids anytime soon.
@@SuicideboysGrey59 that’s awesome that you are doing what you wanna do with your life but like I said in my comment, this is what I wanna do with my life
@@BrieMomOf4 never said it’s bad just mind blowing for me is all. Personally I consider 23 young.. like just having dropped the teen off your legal age or being able to count the years back you graduated HS on one hand young. Different strokes for different folks is all.
@@iisunzo I was married for over a year before I had my first child. Just because people choose a different life than you think they should, does not mean it’s the wrong choice. You are disgusting!
I'm a man. I remember when I hit 30 I freaked out for like 10 seconds because I was never married and had no kids. I wasn't "focused" on my career. I just worked. A lot. Had no choice. I'm a man. We don't get the privilege of choice between work and family. Whether we have a family or not, we work.
Yeah, the same here. I had my kid with 34, not by choice, but because in my country and generation it was imposible getting a stable income before... i had to work travelling a lot between my 25-32, so i could only spent a few days a month with my girlfriend, now my wife. I would have liked to have my kid before, but I'm pretty happy nowadays
@eyeh8ul I'd just like to point out that "the privilege of choice between work and family" is not female privilege; it's rich privilege. There are mothers that work because they can't afford not to.
A hardworking man is what a family needs! Sounds like you will make a great father! If my parents waited to have enough money they would have never had kids, and used to tell me that a lot.
If I’ve said it once, I’ve said it a million times: there is nothing unfeminist about the girl who chooses the ball gown and the prince; there is everything unfeminist about those who shame her for her choices.
Yes this!!! I am so thankful for the feminist movement that gives women the freedom to choose their happiness I am 100% behind women who choose to be moms and housewives or tradwives. Feminism should not be about women being better or superior to men or being singlemindedly focused on career. It should be about having options, choosing your own path to happiness!
So true. I want people to understand that being a girl boss is just one type of way to be a woman, and it's not the only way. If you want to be a traditional housewife, go ahead as long as you weren't pressured to be so. Unfortunately the first boyfriend in the Business Inside article did pressure her to do housewife tasks that she didn't want to do and they even agreed on that before hand.
Got married at 21. Had my kids at 23, 26, and 29. Now I’m 46 and my oldest is 22 and youngest is 16. I’m still young and have tons of time in the future just me and my hubby. Y’all can have your careers and be the boss babe. I stayed home and raised my family. Absolutely never had any regrets.
THIS! THIS SO MUCH!!! If women truly want to "have it all" this is the way to do it. Find a good man, help him build while you raise your family together. In your 40s you can have that career and work for 20-25 years if you want to. Why can't ya'll just do it this way?
Yes this! I got married at 18 and had kids at 19, 21, 23, and 25! My hubby and I are excited to enjoy our life together once our babies are out of the house and we can go on vacations and stuff in our forties and beyond.
@@jessicaholman5330 you're gonna love being a mom ❤️ remember to give yourself grace and remember that the housework can wait til you're done cuddling your little one.
@@jessicaholman5330 it’s the best. And I had energy to raise them. I can’t fathom chasing little kids at my current age of 46. I can handle grand babies when they come but I get to give them BACK! Lol
My mom was pregnant with me at 30 (I was born in ‘84). She worked for a doctor. When she told him she was pregnant and will need to take her leave, he said “well, what are you going to do about it?” and then essentially demanded her to get an abortion to keep her job. She quit, that very same day.
I smell a law suit or at least reporting it to the Employment Commission (it was under the control of the Honorable Ronald Reagan, so it might have helped her).
@parrotshootist3004 this comment assumes that only women are feminists. There are male feminists too. And if you're assuming men also aren't part of the culture, I don't think you know what culture actually means.
Even as a man I was lied to. I heard that having kids was the death of your own life. And to live for experience in all media. Now I am an old dad. I am 38 years old with a 4 year old and a 1 year old. I wish I had these kids earlier. Now I have to wonder if I will even live long enough to see my own grandkids. Family is everything.
Do your best to stay healthy. Of course, our focus is always our family, but we should also take good care of ourselves. that's not just for us, but also for our love ones.
You are not old. My dad had me at 41 and I’m his oldest (I’m 27). My youngest sibling is 17. My dad is still able to do lots of things, and be a wonderful part in our lives.
I was on track for a pretty significant job with a significant degree and I had a professional in that field say “your downfall is going to be that you’re going to care too much about your family. It’s hard to have both.” So I quit. I didn’t get the degree I was supposed to have. I married my amazing boyfriend. I have two amazing kids. I don’t have a significant job outside of my home but I fully believe I am more fulfilled now than I would’ve been with the job I was headed towards. I had SO MANY people tell me I was going to regret this. I had so many people tell me that I needed to be more than just a mom. I needed to do something more important. But like…why? More important to who? This family, my husband, and my kids are the most important thing in my life. A job could never make me feel the way this family makes me feel. I love taking care of my babies and loving my husband. It’s an amazing life and I know I wouldn’t have had this if I had headed down the path I was headed towards.
I have a similar story. My gifts and abilities have been used fully in my home making and child rearing and partnership with my husband. I hate how young women have been lied to!
It makes me so sad that our culture has pushed the idea that "just" being a mom is not enough when being a mom (especially a good mom) is the most important thing a woman can be.
Also feeling fulfilled as a housewife. We finally hit the financial stability to start trying for our first at 27 🥰🙏🏽 Hubby worked hard, and I'm so proud to be his wife 🤩
Me, a millennial homeschool mom who married an amazing man and left the workforce over a decade ago, smiling because everyone is finally understanding how amazing my life is instead of judging me for it. 😊
Well done you. Being a parent is a wonderful experience. I feel sorry for women indoctrinated by feminism into chasing careers. They are wasting their lives on a job that won't give them fulfilment or any sense of achievement, but will bring them crippling loneliness and misery.
The problem is that the feminists don't actually want you to be happy or make your own choices, unless they approve of those choices and it somehow devalues men.
As a single man in my late 30s, i saw SOOO many women that were both desperately clinging on to their feminist "i hate men" principles, yet also DESPERATELY scrambling against the ticking clock to build a family and find a husband IMMEDIATELY. Their desperation is SCARY to deal with because their life plans become 100% YOUR responsibility as a man, and theres this feeling that you wont even get the chance to just enjoy each other's presence before you become entrenched in the responsibility of marriage and kids
Your second paragraph is me in my early 30s. Unfortunately I had to stop dating women my age (single and without kids) because they become way too desperate when they suddenly realize time's not on their side anymore. It's not a stereotype, women are not good at hiding or dealing with that kind of primal desperation. However, I won't change my time line of getting to know someone just because they suddenly realized they didn't respect theirs. Society loves to shame men for dating "younger" but actually sometimes we simply don't want to "hold up" the 34 yo woman with no kids from finding a man that's as desperate as her to have a family. You don't get to put that pressure on me _on the first date_ after you spent more than 3 decades not caring about it.
I've been tasting that desperation for years in my late 30's in the dating market. I just gave up, I always felt like they were not even there for me, I felt like I was their last chance so they would settle down out of resignation. Im looking at younger women now and I dont give a shit about what society thinks of me.
Those are the types of women who marry a clueless guy and divorce him after they get their kids or after finding they can't have kids. He's just a means to an end and he has no clue.
It's amazing that some of the women I've known for years, married and divorced, no stable incomes, unstable parents, partying and being jackases into their 30s, find out I've got a decent job and all of a sudden want to hang out/catch up blah blah blah. Oh where were they when I lost my job during COVID lockdowns? Or spent years studying to get a useful degree, or suffering through jobs in awful conditions for a line on a resume. Nowhere. This culture has taught them to take shortcuts at all times, and I'd rather stand and watch their 3rd wave bullshit burn them than offer an olive branch built on my sacrifices.
My mom worked as a nanny for 1% girl bosses in Manhattan in the 80s. The families she served were so miserable it turned her off the whole idea of feminism forever and she passed it on to all of us.
Feminism - why be a slave to a man who is obligated to care for you, cloth you, shelter you, feed you, and protect you. instead be a slave to a soulless corporation who's only obligation is to pay you and can fire you on a whim.
I don’t think misery has anything to do with feminism or demographics. It sounds like those “girl boss” women did everything society told them to-have kids, careers, be in the top 1%-and they were still seemingly unhappy. It must be something wrong with them internally, not externally.
When I was 21 and engaged I ran into my elementary school principal, he asked me what career I was pursuing and I told him "I'm just working until I have kids." He said "What a waste of your potential." 10 years and 2 kids later, I'm so thankful I am a stay-at-home mom and not a pharmacy technician
@@jeremycarl2401 Wow you know her more than she knows herself? I have never seen a stranger speaking about another stranger and knowing them more than they know themselves.
Complete waste of your personal potential what if Einstein or someone like that decided to be selfish and have kids and not pursue what they were great at and their world changing views and ideas…don’t flatter yourself you could have fucking done both
I celebrated my 50th birthday and 30th anniversary last year. I was (pre) girl boss, was studying to become a sports medicine doctor, thought about maybe having a few kids in my 30’s. I couldn’t be happier that I married at (almost) 20, and was pregnant with our first miracle 5 months later, and was a stay at home mom ever since. No success in life matters if you fail in the home.
Congratulations! This is awesome. My boyfriend and I and are planning to get married soon and I’m so excited to have kids. I think about it everyday! I’m 18 and am thankful I’ve learned from other peoples mistakes. It’s a blessing to get married and have kids young. God bless you and your family ❤
My mom did the same. She ended her education with 2 masters. The brightest woman I've ever met to this day, and I've worked in the financial district here in NYC where some of my peers were women. Mom chose to settle down WHILE she was getting her first masters, and had my brother first before she graduated. Her and my father had the most beautiful 20 yrs together until cancer took her. She redpilled me and my brother, and this was WAY before that space even existed. She warned me to NEVER choose a "career woman", and to be careful with settling down as the courts are against me. You and my mother made the right (and excellent) choice. It's no surprise that you're happy, and I hope that trend continues for you! God bless to you and your beautiful family, ma'am.
@@-l1ly- Wow, congratulations to you as well! You have your goals aligned with what really makes one experience true joy, and I can’t wait for your upcoming adventures. May God bless you and your future union with much joy❤️
@@kugelschreiber5678 First of all, my condolences on the passing of what sounds like an exceptional, brilliant woman. It sounds like she instilled in you the greatest importance in life, and may you be blessed to have a happy one in all your future endeavors ☺️
@@jennifertwede7142 thank you ma'am. You are very kind and I really appreciate it. Mama did instill some of THE best values in her kids. My brother and I look around and see how miserable the world is, and further thank our mother and father for the way they raised us. Mothers like you and mine are a genuine gift from kid. Us kids couldn't have been any luckier 😇. God bless you and yours!
I just retired beginning of January and I couldn’t be happier. My quality of life is so much better as well as my daughter is thriving. (She’s 17months) I don’t have to worry about babysitting and my husband is happy with home cooked meals. Ladies wake up! Prioritize your family don’t listen to society. I’m now 34 trying to have a second child. Praying to God he has that planned for us.
I went to a women in engineering event and when I saw how unhappy the speakers were, that really just affirmed to me where my priorities should stay. I'm not going to stop pursuing my education, but I'm not going to compromise my long-term goals of being a wife and mom for the sake of my career.
Don't put me off, I'd like to date a girl who likes exact science, because I'm an engineer. I would like to pass these skills on to my children early 🤣🤣
Engineering is depressing for both men and women. Unless they are work-oriented people. @@cavaleirosemlicenca3894 I have friends who prefer a shared profession in a partner, but about something entirely different on the table?
Just make sure you don't go into debt for your education. I got an engineering degree for 60k debt. Now I'm a stay at home mom and my debt is a burden for my husband (thankfully he's very successful so we'll be fine, but I wish we didn't have that hanging over our heads).
I feel the same way. I’m 18 and studying to be an aerospace engineer. I value my education and feel a need to have a career in what I love. However, I deeply desire to be married young and raise children and to put my family first.
I had this awakening at 26 and felt so behind. I’m so grateful that the man I was already with wanted traditional marriage, faith and kids and we’re working towards all 3
I’m thankful for my Mom who told me as a teen that she regretted not being home with my brothers and I. That made such an impact on me, and I knew from that conversation that I would stay home with my children. My husband and I were the first to get married from our friends group (21). We had 4 children by the time we were 28. We couldn’t be happier with the decisions we made to marry and have children early, or to live a traditional lifestyle (my husband works, me at home raising and homeschooling our children). I have several friends from college who still aren’t married or at least decided to delay children and then it became harder to get pregnant, and they just don’t seem happy or fulfilled. I feel sad for them. But I remember conversations in college when I said I planned to be a stay at home, homeschooling mom, and my friends mocked me. I’m not really having the last laugh, because I genuinely feel bad for what they’re missing out on. As a side note, having children as young as we did, we will have an empty nest by 50, and can travel and do those things that won’t friends focused on in their 20’s and 30’s.
As a 33 year old married father of 4 it’s so sad to see women-and men-fall for this trap. Literally yesterday I made up with my 5 year old that when he starts growing facial hair we are going to grow huge mustaches and call ourselves “the mustache men”. I wouldn’t give any of this up for NOTHING. please. It ain’t easy. Sometimes these loonies are annoying as anything but they’re mine and I couldn’t be happier.
I'm in my 20s and literally still have a twelve year old brother who says things like this all the time. I also have six other younger siblings. I just want a break. Not everyone's situations are the same, some things you could never understand, so it's really not one shoe fits all.
I guess I'm just saying that, "kids say funny stuff, who knew" doesn't mean God put everyone in the same position. I am glad if having kids gave some people a new perspective and it was good for them. Some people just already knew that and still feel called to to other stuff that gives them meaning. But people on this thread act like it's the only thing anyone should ever do.
Been married more than 3 decades. No kids, by choice. Both my wife and I have genetic conditions (different ones) that can be passed on. This was a decision we made together, knowing that any child we had would very much likely have one (or both) of these genetic issues. I have no regrets. Not judging parents - you do you. I'm happy for you! But I am also thankful for my decision. I do love kids, but am glad I never had any biological children of my own.
Same man. Kids are the best. My 3 year old son always tell me he can’t wait to get big and strong and be able to go to work with me and go to the gym with me, and help me with projects around the house. That level of admiration is just irreplaceable. Being someone’s hero and role model and raising a tiny version of yourself is one of the greatest pleasures in life.
I’m 51 and never got married or had kids, because I thought I was supposed to focus on getting rich and famous. Now I’m broke, unknown, and alone. So there you go!
When did you come to the full realization about how things weren't working out the way you thought they would in terms of reexamining your priorities in life? I'm genuinely curious to hear more.
@@KIMIxMELLOI want you to know that Jesus is there for you, he sees you, and he loves you anyways and you have much to look forward to after you leave this world if you trust in him
My husband and I have been together since I was 18 and he was 22. So 22 years. We have 3 kids. I got sick a few years ago, and my husband didn't hesitate to make sure I could stay home and focus on getting better going through cancer treatments and spending time with my kids. I'm so blessed. I am sad for these woman, I pray that they find their family. The strength is in that partnership and commitment that creates FAMILY. FAMILY OVER EVERYTHING. ❤❤❤ MUCH LOVE BRETT AND BLESSING AND PRAYERS FOR YOUR MARRIAGE AND FUTURE FAMILY. ❤❤❤
I’m really happy you beat cancer ❤. Hope you stay healthy and happy for many, many more years. Please don’t feel sad for anyone else. Would you like it if I said I feel sad for you because you stay at home? I work because I don’t want to stay at home, but family is my priority and they come above all else. This naturally means I have less time for girlfriends and book clubs and other things that just take a back seat, which is fine by me. By the way I am not a feminist nor do I think women need to choose between the two, you can do both. This entire debate is ridiculous. Stop judging people for their choices or providing faux pity. I sincerely hope anyone who has an issue with women working never goes to a female doctor as that would just make you a hypocrite.
I started to realize all the BS behind the doctrine a few months before I turned 27. Now I'm 29, and I will only accept facts when in debate. I still can't believe I didn't wake up sooner: I would've had so many - and interesting - conversations with people, some of whom I felt the need to apologize to the last few years (I was passionate, yet infuriating). I received nothing but love, except for those who still believe this is the way to go. Those stopped talking to me, so I guess I still win. And part of this transformation was because of voices like yours, Brett. I guess all I'm saying is thank you. Best wishes from Argentina.
This is totally me. Got my masters degree by 23, entered corporate world, got married at 25 and had my son at 28. I’m 31 and pregnant with our second and I don’t care to climb the corporate ladder anymore. Just want to raise my babies. But we can’t financially justify me quitting. I feel so lied to. I wish more people were expressing the importance of being a mom and wife and home maker. Might have taken a different path in life. I’m just grateful I do have my babies now. Genuinely jealous of all the SAHMs.
I am 23 this year I plan on getting my Master's too, because I hate corporate work, and I want a flexible research job that can make me work from home (I work in tech). I have not met any man that can provide for me as I stay home and work from home so I am proceeding with my degree while I look for one😂
@Amanda-wb6vb I was robbed of my 20ties, and I grew to reject men for dissapointing me and hurting me, so im 30 now I work but I look for a husband with whom I can just be at home, I wanna make flower buqets and eat good foor and sleep long I dont need no corporate ladder and I hate it takes so much from your life and others are so proud of it
You can become a stay at home mom. Ask your husband to set up a plan and increase his earnings. He definitely can do things to increase his salary. It’s not fair for you to do both home managing and working.
We were in the same boat, but we made major changes to our financial choices, which was hard at first, but I asked myself, if I were to die a year from today. Would it have been a more fulfilling year if I stayed home and made those memories with my kids, or more fulfilling to have made more money. Thats when the decision I needed to make really hit me.
@@rebeka145 praying for you... Do you have any solid plans so far for the lifestyle change? I barely go out of my home and see the same people everyday. No luck so far🤣
Being a stay at home wife and mother is the best thing I could have ever done. I am thankful for my husband every single day for encouraging me to do this. As the husband is the head of the house, the wife is the heart of the home. Without her, the home is cold is dead. Set the world on fire ladies by loving your husbands and children at home ❤️❤️
Sad that you don't see much of this. I work in an industry where I go into a lot of homes, and see a lot of people. This is rare, unfortunately. All the best to you and yours! Good people like you guys are the ones that make me wanna keep working!
No hate, I feel like it's valid to say that partners are co-heads of the household. They're your partner, not your boss, right? An unequal relationship sounds like hell. Would a man find it acceptable for his wife to be "the head of the household"? Then why do we have to? A kind and engaged partner and parent is absolutely a heart of the household and it's a beautiful thing to have
I was married at 20 to the love of my life and I just turned 40. We’ll be celebrating 20 years this summer. We waited a few years to have kids, but I was still in my mid-twenties when we started our family. Best decision ever! Of course we had to work through a lot of immaturity and baggage (we both came from broken/divorced households.) But by the grace and help of the Lord and a little bit of grit, we pulled through and it’s been a wonderful adventure. I love him more now than in the beginning. We’re still young, our kids are in high school and junior high and there’s so much more to look forward to! If you can help it, start your family and essentially your life, as soon as you can. Don’t rush, don’t make foolish decisions in urgency or fear, but don’t resist the invitation to life and love and family when presented to you in exchange for the false success of a career that will only last so long. Family lasts forever ❤
It's lovely that your marriage lasted 20 years, but how many others didn't? Marriage at a young age is one of the strongest predictors of divorce. There is just so much maturing and identity-creation that occurs in your 20's, and the children of "older" parents tend to have better behavioral and academic outcomes. Your story is wonderful and inspiring, but that doesn't mean advice like "start your family and essentially your life, as soon as you can" is good advice. It's ok to focus first on education/personal growth, career, travel, friendships, and finances. Those things add a richness to your life. You'll have experiences, wisdom, empathy, and more perspectives to offer your husband and kids. Just my two cents.
@mleobviously I understand what you’re saying :) But if you continue to read what I wrote in it’s entirety, you’d see that I also added to not rush or make foolish decisions out of fear, but to also not resist the offer when and if it comes, in exchange for a career. In other words, if life and love are presented to you and it’s the right thing, don’t put it off because you think a career will be more important than starting a family. Being married as young as I was, I can absolutely see both sides of the benefit to getting married young and also the benefit to waiting until you’re older if that’s what you have to do. I changed tremendously in my 20’s and felt more like an adult in my 30’s. But the opportunity to start my life young was presented to me and it was a very good decision that I didn’t push away because I thought a career would be more fulfilling than starting a family. And I certainly didn’t look to others to validate what they viewed as a successful life. And my husband and I are truly a miracle. With us both coming from divorced parents, and my side actually being a generational pattern of divorce (grandparents as well). Young people don’t have to fall into statistics just because “society” states that getting married young has a higher rate of failure. We made a decision that went against the grain with great success (and a lot of hard work and grit) and I want to encourage those who would actually be encouraged by it. If it doesn’t encourage you or speak to you, then that’s ok 😊 I joined the conversation with some experience under my belt of making choices that essentially go against the narrative of the feminist movement.
I’m their same age. We were raised by hippie, bra-burning feminists from the 60s. Our moms, teachers, television, etc. And there was no internet, just Teen Vogue. The overall narrative was “You’re a failure if you don’t become a boss babe”. The SAHM was mocked as a caricature of pathetic womanhood. Have some compassion, for God’s sake.
@@limeOjello Do all dogs bark? Yes, all dogs bark. Do all fish swim? Yes, yes they do. Don't give us this silly "individuals aren't their group" argument when so many women work like a hivemind. Wearing the same clothes, speaking the same language, hanging out with likeminded friends, consuming the same garbage. Besides, we're talking about a very specific type of woman, so it IS a group of women, and there's no reason to seperate them into individuals because they all do the same things.
@@natoslayer2907 It's the same thing as the trend followers. If you're an easy on the brains and like a sheep that goes after the new and popular thing? Yea, feminism, girl-boss, Cardashians and all that crap. But smart people choose that to do with their lifes without that shit. Wanna have a baby? Ok. Wanna be child-free? Ok. No culture can tell YOU what to do if you don't CHOOSE to.
Yeah it's really nice how, as a woman, nothing is my fault. Everyday people are just letting me get away with anything. It's a good thing all women are exactly the same with this magic privelege.
Brett this needs to go viral. Everything you and these ladies said is so true. As a woman in my 50’s I too experienced the is it too late regret but was very lucky to find the right man and have 2 amazing children within 3 years as I turned 40. Women, if you find a good man in your 20’s hold on to him tight, because there isn’t an endless supply of them and loneliness is painful, no matter how many designer handbags you own.
When she had someone who loved her Back when she was younger She wonders if she held out A little bit too long. Back then there were so many But now there just aren't any And she thinks all the good ones are gone. Pam Tillis.
And having "high standards" for how you are treated is actually just having "standards." Disrespect or dismissiveness or control or "well he's only a LITTLE misogynistic and it's only sometimes" isn't acceptable. You're worth more than that. Men get called "good men" all the time just because they hold down a job and aren't violent degenerates. But do they treat you as an equal human being? If yes, THEN they're a good man, and those exist! Heck, even my sister is married to a lovely one =)
I’m a 40 year old female and I felt this so hard. I spent almost two decades in NYC chasing after a marketing career in Corporate America that will just spit you out as soon as they decide they’re done with you. I never wanted kids, but I always wanted love, and a husband. And now that I’m at 40, I’m craving my own family. I’m sick of focusing on everything/everyone else and working a million hours, to the detriment of my own health. I felt everything Brett said in this video so strongly. My priorities have shifted and I just want a different life. 🙁
i’m only 20 and although i’m putting a lot of effort into figuring out my career as of now, finding a husband and having children is still my top priority in life. i’m so grateful i realised that early on and didn’t have to wait till my 30s for the sad epiphany.
Only date with that in mind. This casual scene can screw up even guys. Every time it's less special. People are lying who say otherwise. Just because it was more exhilarating later isn't the same thing. Drugs are exhilarating, and people love them
Good. You're on a good track. Having a career isn't a bad thing. The bad thing is when women put their career and "sexual liberation" as their top priorities and supress their natural inclination for having a man and children because of feminism illusion, which is programmed into dormant low IQ women at university and by MSM. They made it hard for men to commit to good women because many of them are chameleons. We're now very hesitant about women. But I'm glad you kept your brain clean. And keep your legs closed for your husband only and no one else; your value will be kept that way. Chastity and peace are very important to men, as ambition and ability to provide are very important to women.
You do not know yet if it's something you can be grateful for to be honest. You will know it in 10-20 years. For every woman that I know that now is unhappy in her 30s due to choosing a career pursuit, I know 2 that are frustrated cause they chose family over career and now close to their 40s they feel that sure they have children but they feel they have achieved nothing in life. And for every man that is unhappy in his 40s for choosing staying in work until 9PM over seeing his children I know of 2 unhappy cause they were not focused enough on choosing the right professional path. Being an adult is a hard shit filled of "hindsight is 20/20¨ situations. Brett describes it as if it was black or white. Meanwhile, people can be extremely unhappy regardless of the choices earlier in life. The thing is that it is way more nuanced than that and looking at the nuclear family model with a rose-tinted glasses is as foolish as trying to be a strong independent woman no matter what.
@maddiec6186 sound like a win for the women in that scenario. If you're a guy and won't marry a women because they earn more then they probably aren't a man you would want anyway
This video is so important. Thank you for sharing all of this with the world, Brett! I am 32 and I have a 1 year old son and am pregnant with my second and family is everything to me. But SO many of my friends (most!) are exactly like these “girl bosses” and I really fear they will get to a point of regret later in life about not having kids when they could. 💔
The worst thing about this shift to feminism is that we've dismantled a lot of the ways that people meet and form bonds. As a single man I have no idea where to go to meet women other than bars and churches. Couples don't just form out of nothing. They begin with two single people meeting up and forming first a friendship then later love. We need to start creating the conditions under which relationships are formed and opening up ways to socialize would be a very good start.
I dont know where to go In general anymore, women have made all excuses to not give me a chance, and now I'm just supposed to forgive them? Don't work that way, watch their actions not their words.
@mikem8523 100% correct. Women are always thinking about themselves and what they want. But they don't realize how many men along the way. Have been damaged goods just to be a piece of a pedestal that they stand on as they put down all men. And never take accountability. There are so many men out there that suffer and are really trying to find love. When women are really out there, just to get. They're rocks off and a bunch of free meals or just to get a bunch of free meals and fake that they want the guy. Then like this woman ruined her marriage and a guy's life just to divorce him and break His heart and now she wants the exact same thing she had that she threw in the trash. Women don't realize, but they're p*ss Poor decisions affect the men in their life as well, And as men hold each other to a higher standard. Which is why we don't have a safety net if we screw our lives up
this is the problem, women screwed the entire planet up and want men to not mock and ridicule them for it. Women have been denigrating men for 50 years, we have every right to make fun of women forever.
40, and never wanted a family and I still don’t. Not career focused either though. I have a very happy social life, many friends, jobs' fine etc.. Thing is, people are wired differently. There is no 1 solution for all. Everybody needs to stop listening to society or what’s the norm. You do you
Beautifully said some girls/guys don’t want relationships/ their own family for their own reasons. Nothing wrong with having kid nothing wrong with not wanting kids
I agree completely, after all America is "land of the free", supposedly at least. I find it ironic that Brett preaches this yet would be considered a "gorl boss" in many ways. Anyway she's coming up to 6 months married now, let's see if she practices what she preaches - there should be a pregnancy announcement soon, and then she should be quitting the DW to stay at home.
@@GoldenLily-r7p Lol, I already have an empty house. I also have plenty of friends not wanting children or actually really disliking them. Then, I do have friends with kids. I still see them. Its absolutely fine. And guess what. I actually have many interests so Im never bored and sometimes I prefer to go holidaying alone. So I can meet other people and do my own thing and sometimes I do want go with friends. Why is that so difficult to comprehend?
My heart goes out to this woman. I wish I could give her a hug and tell her hope is not lost. My mom had my brother at 39 and me at 41. They were both easy and seamless pregnancies and deliveries. My mom tells me that she loved being pregnant and caring for her babies. She would have had more kids if she was younger. I just want to say that being in the upper 30s does not mean your biological clock has run out yet.
Why? These women have caused the destruction of countless men using the family court and she's one of them. Now we're to pity her for being selfish? It wasn't a victimless crime. Feminism isn't victimless!
@@nickd2296 But even young moms can have babies with disabilities. There’s a girl on UA-cam who had a baby with Down syndrome when she was only 16 years old.
I have a feeling that Gen Z (or at least a significant portion of Gen Z) are going to be more conservative than millennials. I’m Gen Z myself and I am a very traditional, Christian guy. I think a lot of my peers are waking up.
I feel the loss too because it still happened to me and I wasn't even like them. I never wanted to be a boss girl, I've always wanted to get married and have a family. I've been trying to get married since I was 17! My mom is VERY much a third wave feminist. She'd literally scream at me about how worthless I am because I wanted to be a stay at home mom. So even though I wanted that life I kept dating men like her, who abused me. But in 2018 I got into therapy and healed myself and by 2023 I'm engaged! We're getting married in 5 months!
@@shauhame6364 Aww, thank you so much! Goal is married in a few months, first baby in two years, second shortly after. I'd be happy with two but I think I want three. 🥰
@@athomewiththemrs9410 Aww! You really are so sweet, I was not expecting this kind of comment when I made my comment. I just hope other girls who have parents like mine and weren't necessarily victim to that kind of culture but still struggle to get married can have hope. I appreciate you so much! It's been a long, hard, road. But I did it and I've never beem happier.
The problem is that you can say these women are “waking up”, but they seem like the type that if they did settle down, get married, and had kids; they’d get bored a few years in or realize being a mother “isn’t for them” so then you either end up with a resentful parent or just a divorce.
I’m a 26 yo married stay at home mom. We don’t have a house yet and we make sacrifices to make it work but we couldn’t be happier. Our son is 5.5 months old and just got his first tooth! I couldn’t imagine missing these days and moments with him for a day job. My husband works so hard to provide for us and I’m very grateful.
Yeah, but...your husband misses those days. Your child's father wont be there for those special moments if he's working all the time to provide for you guys.
Yeah yall want to have kids at 20-25 and be a stay at home mom all you want but in todays eco you'll be dead broke unless your SO makes 6 figures or you live with parents.
It's unfortunate that by the time most of these women "wake up", it's already too late. They've squandered their best years and won't be able to attract the quality of man they feel entitled to. So, when they eventually settle for someone they consider below their standards, they will become bitter and contemptuous and likely end up cheating or separating or getting divorced.
As a teenager im glad i saw this video. I feel like ive lost sight of what is important and i simply decided i never wanted to get married some day. This video is truly eye opening. Thank you :)
Give every guy interested an opportunity, but date with a purpose. Date with the question in your mind of "Will this man be a good father? Did he have a good example growing up?". If you ever think, "No." Break up immediately. Do not waste a second with someone who you're not on the same page philosophy wise with money (you don't have to be at this same place financially, but your goals must align), life goals, and religion (if that is something that would be important to you). If you do this, you will waste far less time than these women realizing when they are 30 what they truly want. At 30, you're out of time. You've collected too much damage and you're asking too much of men to invest the time. People will tell you it's hard out here in the dating scene, but these are people who are dating without a purpose so prone to collect serious damage.
Society scorns young love, and tries to criminalise it. Of course go at your own pace, don't be pressured into doing things too quickly if you'd be uncomfortable, but it's important that you actually do "go", you know? Dating is an investment. Of the potential people, see which romantic interests would be the best for a family setting. You'll be fine, and your work will pay off in the end when you have a whole family who loves you.
Big pharma profits from women by selling them birth control in their youth, then fertility treatments when they're older and (finally) want kids. Corporations profit from women joining the workforce in droves because it increases the demand for jobs, gives employers bargaining power, and increases the tax base. Academia profits from women by selling them junk degrees in "gender studies" and "critical race theory". Banks profit from women by giving them college loans (for junk degrees) which they'll be paying interest on over decades, negatively impacting their buying power. Don't get me started on social media. Algorithms have wrecked human interaction. Your generation is subject to propaganda on a scale never seen before.
I kinda disagree with you on your first sentence, as a teenage girl there are lots of weird predatory guys out there and I wouldn't give every guy a chance especially if you know he is kinda guy who dates to just get sex
@@Jessibestie-tb9kw there are predatory guys who go for all ages, and good guys too. Many men's first instinct is sex, and you tell the good ones from the bad by their attitude - good will be happy when you get pregnant, bad will leave. One could even argue that the men who go for older single women are more predatory. Those are the women who have less going for them. They aren't fertile, they generally can't perform familial actions and tasks such as cooking, a life of working has soured their outlooks, and they don't have a long future to improve these facts. They're desperate and lonely, and are less likely to get pregnant. Predatory men see that, and use them as consequence free sex dolls that will almost just roll over and accept it when they're discarded.
My mom saw the big picture way back during ERA and taught me that a woman’s place is in the home. I was “left behind” by all of the Boss Babes who now look at me with envy *because* I have a 30-year marriage to a doctor with 7 beautiful children.
I'm in college. I've been depressed for years, my worst days are those that I don't spend with my friends that I love. People are important, I can't imagine not being able to live with/around people I love. It's so hard to feel fulfilled when you do everything for yourself, living for others and especially helping raise kids is truly the most fulfilling act I have ever come across.
The Title was "I'm 38 and single, and I recently realized I want a child." That's NOT the voice of a woman who wants to be a wife. That's a woman who just wants a child. Careful Gents and pay close attention.
God bless this girl. I got married at 22 and had my first child at 24. 38 now. Still married to the same man. Two kids. I must admit, at times I felt like a loser comparing myself to all the girl bosses around me… not anymore. My daughters are the biggest blessing of my life! And I plan to build a career once the little one goes to school once she is 4 year old.
Same here, I married and had my three children at my twenties I enjoyed looking after my babies 🤍now that they grown up and cannot have other babies due to infertility (thank God I had them before ) I can definitely focus on my career
I’m 26 and a stay-at-home mom of two (soon to be three). I unexpectedly fell pregnant with my first when I was in occupational therapy school. I was encouraged to stick with it, as my father lost his father at a young age and was raised in poverty because his mother had no career skills. I graduated (on time) and I have my license, which I’m so grateful to have, but I’m glad I had my first when I did. I realized the “grind” lifestyle of juggling work and kids wasn’t for me or my family. I felt like I never saw my husband or baby and it hurt my marriage a lot for the time being. I’m grateful to have a husband who supports me being at home and the work I do raising our children; I know lots of women can’t say the same.
@Kwildcat13oh absolutely 😅 But for context, I was told by my doctor that I would have a hard time conceiving due to a medication I was taking at the time. On top of other preventative measures we were taking, we thought odds would be pretty low! Turns out, doctors can be wrong. 😂
One simple question always deflates the whole deal: "Boss of what?" Actual answer 90% of the time? A lot of debt + buyer's remorse. (And either a dog or a cat or a bird or a reptile or an invertebrate -- listed in descending order of likelihood.)
It's just being a boss of their life, which rings hollow for men who will literally be living on the streets if they don't do that. Yeah you take care of yourself, so what? So many narratives around feminism really do have a childish feel, just like the beginnings of feminism had, and smart women felt that was very patronizing. I think it was. Things were on the upswing, but then like everything else, our culture totally regressed and now we freely pander and condescend. We almost have to now, it's demanded as such. It's so pathetic that I can never actually do it, because I sincerely expect them to be offended by such things. Safe to say most won't be offended these days, like I said they expect it, but it's just wrong. They're actually screwing up their goal of real equality when it's possible, I'm the one holding the line.
@@MikeTheD "They're actually screwing up their goal of real equality when it's possible, I'm the one holding the line." Or that was never their real goal, it's not actually possible, and you're chasing a pipe dream. One borne of a grift. (Food for thought.)
I’m 24, almost 25 and have 2 babies and my husband and I both work full time. Our kids don’t have to be in daycare because we work for the same employer and they schedule us opposite each other, and let me tell you, it’s killing me inside. The full time is new to me, we’ve got some financial freedom goals we want to meet, and when we do I cannot wait to be home all the time with my babies and have more. I have NEVER condoned the feminist movement. Being a young mom is the best decision I’ve been in my entire life.
I have a career, but I know when I get married my family is going to be my main priority and a way greater source of happiness, so sad how so many young girls were lied to😔
@@calebhicks4441I know marriage is not for everyone, that’s why I said it’ll be a greater source of happiness for myself, because everyone’s life looks different❤️
As a girl I wanted to focus on my carreer and school before getting married. I'm now a 23 year old college senior doing online school and stay at home mom of a 5 month old, living on my husband's income. I am so thankful for the course my life has taken. I truly love every minute of it.
I'm applauding you. Hang in there. It's tough, but you can totally do it. Motherhood is one of the most beautiful and challenging and rewarding things in the world. ❤
I am currently pregnant with my 4th, and I am also an RN. I only work 1 to 2 days a week. Thankful and blessed my husband takes the bulk of the bread winning, im completely okay with it. I love having my 2 shifts a week and being SAHM for the rest of week. Both sides, work and home make me appreciate the other when im gone. I dont feel over worked and when I work, I mkss being home and being a wife and mom.
I lost my woman card in the 90s because we had our first child and I wanted to stay at home with her. I didn't expect that at all. When we got married, I was so sure that I didn't want children, until I did. I was so sure that I could deposit the baby at daycare, until I had to do it day after day. My poor husband was amazing throughout all of this. He told me that I would change my mind when we got married and didn't press me on it. He was 100% right and thankfully we are still married and our kids are grown. But the crap I dealt with from other women was ridiculous. I was in mom's forums back in the 90s and 2000s, they were in their girl boss eras but at least they were having kids. I got it from irl women and some men!
It’s disgusting men have to deal with women being so sure of what almost always is complete and utter nonsense. Politics /values being top of this list. You’re damn lucky your husband tolerated all your childish girl boss nonsense.
I agree. I spent a long time in school getting a BSN and RN license and put off having kids. One of the directors of the program flat out told us "don't get pregnant" because they wouldn't work with us if we needed to missed anything. A few years later, I was hired by a surgical dept. and asked if I had kids. I said no and the nurse I was talking to said, "Yeah. (So-and-so) likes her nurses unattached." She was referring to the director of surgical services. When I was finally pregnant with my first, I told director and she said, "Yeah. I thought you were going to do that." I've never had that kind of treatment from male bosses.
Why do women get so defensive about things that are plainly obvious? Reminds me of this exchange between Gavin McInnes, and some dem lady on Hannity years back. "How DARE you suggest I want to be a stay at home wife and mother! I love my job!" Guess who got married and disappeared from politics?
Thank you so much for this video. I am at this very place at 36 years old, and I think this is more important than anything to show to this newest generation. My mother had 2 girls in her 20s, and went back to college in her early 50s and became an RN. I, on the other hand, went to college, got a Bachelor's degree in English, was not able to get a job with that degree, put off getting married and having kids, and now am at the poverty line about to start a second job, single, and about to run out of time to have children. You can always go back for that degree or career. Once you pass that fertility window in your life, you cannot go back and have children. Please young women, if you do want a family and children, put this first now. You can have the career and degree at any time. Start your family now.
Yep it shows a life is not a one way ticket you only get one chance. As you can replace a broken car or buy another one but you can't buy another human or replace them. Wants a life form is gone that's it.
If you don’t mind answering I have a question for you, I’m a women older than you, but I sometimes consume “ Red pill” content, and since you have Brett’s video’s on your content list, I’m curious if you ever watch that content?
I'm so glad I never fell for the whole "Girl boss" thing. And my friends are saying I should, but I just... want to he happy? And my idea of happiness happens to be more trad.I have a job I love but I'm more than happy to start a family soon, just waiting for the right time (hopefully soon)
The culture was women telling women that crap. I have never met a man of any value encourage their daughters or women that the girl boss path was the way. What about the men who were rejected by these women, these men who don’t have sons or daughters to snuggle with because these girl bosses wanted to sleep with random men and get that bag? I’m sorry I’m not going to pay these women on the head and say it’s ok- they were selfish and now want to be told it’s ok when it’s not. As humans we judge people all the time not their past behaviors, and we should change that people some 40 year old woman wants babies.
To sum it up, staying at home and looking after your kids is far more feminine than trying to do everything by yourself. Also, on an unrelated note, Brett's segways into talking about sponsors are always so smooth and unexpected.
To go further than that, why do we have to be feminine? Why do we have to be masculine? Why do we have to "be" anything and fit an image or mold to be acceptable or "do life right"? If you're happy, you're happy. You're the one living your life, you're the only one experiencing it every day.
"It seems that today individuals who do not have the Y chromosome are already labeled as strong, independent , bosses and empowered" - The Critical Drinker
When I went to college in the 70's the feminist wave was breaking over our heads; no one ever said "I want to be a home-maker, and raise my own kids rather than pay someone else to do so". But in my heart that was what I really wanted. I avoided getting a job that was "too good to quit", married a man who agreed, and ended up having nine children. I have never regreted my choice. P. S. Don't despair about age: I had four children in my 40's.
I would not advise young women in an era pushing women to delay having kids if they want them. Health problems related to both women and child are far higher past 35 and that's assuming she can get pregnant, since fertility drastically drops off and having four children in your forties is an exception to the many women whose fertility has made it next to impossible to have children.
@@loganblackwood2922Thissss!! Especially since most are being vaccinated with the COVID vaccine. My sister was perfectly fine, she got her vaccine and boosters for work, went to the doctor 6 months later and got told her egg count was extremely low at the age of 21. She has no genetic or non genetic conditions that would cause infertility, the only thing different was the vaccines.
9:00 The reason there is such an orgy of schadenfreude is because we (men) have been screaming this from the rooftops, with women trashing us. Women have been rejecting good men in exchange for work and it has sucked. What women should be saying is, "I didn't listen, I screwed up my life, younger women, learn from my mistakes." That's it. Take responsibility and pass wisdom on to the younger generation, and enjoy the frustration that men have been feeling when they ignore you like you ignored us.
Absolutely LOVE this video and commentary. I feel so bad for the women who bought the Girl Boss lie at the expense of a family. If you can't birth your own kiddos, divorce rates are crazy high. There's a lot of single dads out there, be an amazing step-mom! Adopt! Foster! There are tons of kids who need decent adults in their lives.
This video is about women who probably aren't going to have their own children because they waited too long. I don't understand your comment. @@AK-American
I believe that people in general should not be so focused about what other people want them to do/think/say. Because its most of the time not what they really want and they will regret it. If you want to have kids, do it. Dont listen to people that say "but you have to have a career", when you dont want to it. Dont listen to people that say "but as a woman you have to have children to be happy", when you dont want to. I never did something that i did not want to, just because someone else said "but thats what you are supposed to do". I never wanted children ever (i had a relationship for 20 years and after that time he broke up with me because of another woman) and now i am 43 and very happy living on my own. I got a new job, bought my own house and i love my alone time. I am sooo glad that i never got a child because other people say that as a woman you should want to have one.
This is exactly what I was going to write before I read your comment. :) A part of feminism is the freedom to choose how you want your life to be. There is nothing un-feminist about being a homemaker, neither as it is to choose a career over kids. As long as we are not surrendering to any trend-pressure, rather choosing what we truly want - I think we have cracked the code! 😊
Yup - the point of feminism is that you have the choice. My carreer fulfills me. I know this is what I'm meant to do. My mom quit her job to raise my siblings and I, and she made it known that she resented that choice. My man admires that my first love is work so I'm lucky I'm supported in following my own desires. It truly depends on the person. Maybe I will change in the future. That's the beauty of like - I get a choice.
Married at 24, we adopted our daughter at 33, quit my job at 35 while pregnant with my daughter. Now at forty have two more biological babies. My children, my husband, my family and faith are my life. As hard as it was to reject feminism at the time, I am so glad I did. These are the most important things!
I turn 30 this year and I was driven to be a “girl boss” over 10 years ago. I enlisted in the Marines at 17, it didn’t work out. I enlisted in the Army at 19 and served for 5 years and it was my excuse to get away from a toxic broken home and to also break generational curses. I also was the first female ever in both my mom and dad side to enlist. I seen when my parents were divorced when I was 14 and my mom was left with nothing but a house and the kids and working a minimum wage job, I decided I didn’t want to be like my parents. I worked 3/4 jobs at a time even when I was pregnant and had HG then had preeclampsia. My son is almost 8 and I raise him alone with no help/support. If I have another baby, I want to be married, I before never wanted marriage and kids because of how I was brought up.
I gotta give you respect for enlisting in the Marines and the Army. Sucks you had to go through a lot of family shenanigans. I don't want to spew spiel but there is always a chance that things will tip in your favor. I wouldn't call going in the military "girlbossism", in your case it seemed more like escapism.
@@caffeinatedinsanity2324 I agree with the escapism in regards to the military. But Girlboss ism was just me being independent, and not allowing a man to do anything for me not even the man I had a child with.
In Canada houses are over a million dollars for a small old one, and full time workers can't afford one, so to be left with 'nothing but a house' is like being left with 'nothing but the lottery'.
@@Druidlord91 that’s not how it is in the states. My mom still had to pay the mortgage and taxes on the house along with the children she had. Just because you’re enough at the house doesn’t mean it you have security. It got to the point where my mother couldn’t afford the house anymore on her own so she had to give up her house.
@katherinerodz that's still good though. J would get tenants to pitch in on the rent because a house is worth a lot but I guess it's cheaper I n the US I saw house prices to compare and it's insanely different.
I was a stay at home mother in 1987. I maintained the home, yard, shopped and cooked and did the bills. I took my two girls to school everyday, helped in the classroom and was a girl scout leader. I was told my my husband of 15 years that all I wanted was a meal ticket and he left me for his 23 year old pregnant girlfriend. He threw his family away and destroyed me and his children for his selfish needs. I can only hope stay at home moms will be valued in the future.
The right partner strengthens you as an individual while simultaneously supporting the relationship. I'm so glad Brett said this because it's 100% true. I feel more comfortable and focused on what I love with my husband because he pushes me to be better, fulfill my goals, and provides protection while doing so. I wish for more women to have this same experience.
Love this. As a child and teenager, I always knew I wanted to be a mom one day. When I entered the university after high school, I had my 1-2 year phase of "no I don't want kids the world is too messed up for kids and the planet cannot sustain more kids and blah blah blah." But in that same time I was falling in love with my now husband (just married last summer), and I soon realized that this was the real deal and that he would be my forever person. For the past few years we have been doing our independent/careerist/education thing (him building an online teaching platform and me going back to school for a master's) and doing some travel, but all under the assumption that we will start our family in the next few years. Now almost everyday we talk about how excited we are to have kids one day while still doing our own thing right now. Society acts as if that's not possible and is oppressive?? It's frustrating being an ambitious and educated young woman (24) who cares about social change who also wants to be a mom one day relatively soon because none of my peers or friends care or talk about wanting kids anytime soon (or at all). Even my family, who I love dearly and who is so supportive, always makes these comments about how I shouldn't have kids for a loooong time and I get the vibe that they'd be disappointed in me if I became pregnant at 26 or 27. It's a weird pressure coming from them, but my husband and I know what we want and are so happy about it.
Are we the same person? I feel the EXACT same pressure from my family. My husband and I got married when I was 21 (25 now) and we want a family. We have chosen to wait a bit longer until I'm further in my masters program, but the amount of people that have told me not to get pregnant until years from now is appalling. Thankfully, my husband and I have shut those people out. I'm glad you and your husband are happy planning towards your family!
Oh Sweet Young Ladies, have those babies!!!! Families are the most precious blessing a young couple will ever experience. Once your first baby arrives, you’ll wonder where have you been my whole life!!! You’ll be the best mom ever because you’ll absolutely LOVE your baby.
It’s crazy 21 used to be a totally normal time to have kids. I’m 21 with one baby and we plan on 8 lol people do think im crazy although that used to be the norm
@@stajia4694 Exactly everyone I speak to about it thinks it’s unrealistic or that it’s not possible especially since I want to be a stay at home mom and homeschool my kids, but my mom was a stay at home mom and her and my stepdad have 6. But congrats on the little one! And good luck with your future babies!
I'm almost 29 and still don't have kids. I was never thinking about it, but now that I'm getting closer to 30 I keep wondering about it and I feel lost.
I'm 15, turning 16 this year and I couldn't be happier that I absolutely do NOT have this mindset, I honestly wanted to be a stay at home wife when I get married in the future, I want a family, I want to be **happy**. I'm glad that a lot of these women are finally realizing the mistakes they made and are finally owning up to them, praying for the future generations, it could potentially only get worse from here.
You are on the right path. Most chicks are at a point of no return and, like the ones in these videos, are trying to run to the backups (but the men are not there anymore in a lot of cases)
i am 40, I have a great career, a great husband and children. Please don‘t listen to her..having your own career is crucial to happiness. All you need is a husband who is doing 50 percent of everything and you‘ll be fine.
@@goodygroo True, true.. Of course I plan on having my own job, but y'know, being a stay at home wife would always be another option if my partner wanted that as well. I'd probably find ways to make my own money even still like selling things I don't need or whatever but yeah, I definitely plan on having a job otherwise.
Exactly, it’s either hyper feminist approach or over correcting it! Each direction has its pros and cons and only you -man or woman- will know what best works for you
@@wandertree Yes but the difference is there has always been a lot of men dyng alone, this is a very new dynamic for women. It is very hard, men have been dealing with it for age eternal, women are far less prepared for such loneliness, imo they are built needing such relationships much more than the average man.
I left my very prestige job for having a family and race a kids at age of 32, although I was so brainwashed thinking that is still early and I got plenty of time, I got lucky 🍀 my partner was more grounded than me, got my first and only one child at 36 after struggling with two miscarriages and pregnancy difficulties ( find out you need to be aware about this type of complications when you waist your time for so long)! After my first child I could not have more because i pure and simple wasn’t in my twenties but in my almost forties. At age of 41 my period is almost gone and the chances for getting pregnant are lower. So this is what happens when I decided to get children after age of 30, you may want but your body may have something else in mind! Not to mention how many women I know are struggling with in vitro procedures in their forties most of them not successful and damaging not only for their bodies but for their mental health too! So put your priorities in order and don’t forget that we women have some short period of time when we can have children and we cannot stretch that time as long as we want!
My wife and I's first marriages were not good. I had 2 sons, and she had a son and daughter. She worked during her first marriage and I'm more traditional, but when we met and fell in love, I was willing to consider a more modern marriage. She was 35 and I was 31 and she got pregnant (a miracle actually) we decided to have the child as my wife said at the time we were discussing options, that there was no way that she could get rid of something that came from us. Because she felt safe with me, she was willing to give up her independence and become dependent on me, but I earned those feelings from her by showing her that i wasn't going anywhere and I wanted to build a happy family. She took on the traditional role of stay at home mom and it was difficult at first because she had never done it. It took a while and she struggled hard, because raising a small child is very difficult and takes true dedication to do it well. When it came to making the choice, she could not leave our child and after that point she embraced it and loved every minute of it. She was free to make this decision because I am one of the good men and she felt safe with me, as she should. Being a good man isn't that big of a deal, but men seem to not want to do what is required. I love the responsibility. My career meant nothing more to me than being able to bring home the bacon. I worked 12 to 14 hours a day and when I got home, I was happy to spend time with our now two babies, two girls. If you want it to work, it's simple, very simple. Truly love one another. It is now 36 years later, and I live to make her happy as she lives to make me happy and we have been blissfully in love the entire time. Out of our 6 children all but one is traditional. All three daughters are or have been stay at home moms and are raising their children and anchoring their families with love and devotion. Love really is the answer. Do we need women? Not to live and exist, not really. Do women need men? Not really. Do we need each other to find a happiness that can never be found alone? Yes. Love is truly the only thing worth living for. I worked that hard for my family, why else would I work so hard. My wife gave her all to our family and when you have both partners working together to make their family work, it is truly glorious. Always remember that love is all that matters in life. We now have 22 grandchildren, and it won't be long that we will be having great grandchildren. Thank you for your show.
I chose marriage and kids over a career. Now that my kids are teens, I am criticized because I don't want to go to work now. I am still raising my kids and I am happy with my decision.
Yes! I was asked "when are you going to go to work and help your husband?" My being at home and managing things, including a large garden, has allowed my husband to advance in his career. Like you, we are happy with our decision.
Right now it’s important for our society to find balance, because neither the 1950s housewife or girl boss lifestyles worked out for most women. Also, that shade of green is so pretty and flattering on Brett.
Strangely enough, if you look at the real history and not the one peddled by feminists, most women at the time (near 70%) didn't want the vote and thought leaving the home for work was a bad idea. It was forced on the population because the government wanted more taxes and corporations getting to stagnate wages by doubling the manpower. The housewife lifestyle worked fine, being bored is normal when technology makes everything too easy, women just need to learn to do as men do and get a friggin hobby.
Funny you should mention the color green. Trad women aren't happy. Boss babes aren't happy. And when part-time boss babes aren't happy? I'm sure y'all will find a new shade of green on the other side of yet another fence that you figure will be the ultimate winner.
@@SeaRaven227 When trad housewives weren't managing their household, they worked for their community. Planning social events, watching each other's children, cooking for each other, etc. Everyone is lonely and miserable now, it almost seems like atomization was a net negative.
I think most women are happiest when they are prioritizing their family and home and have a part time job that is meaningful to them, even if it makes little money.
They not taking responsibility, they are hopping for a men to pick up their slacks. They not only failed to fullfill their role as a women, they also failed to become a strong independent women. Now that the clock is running out is when they want men to save them. Meanwhile us men continued working on ourself to have something to offer to our future wife and mother of our children. Thats why we prefeer young because at this stage in our life we cannot risk loosing a child due to being high risk. While i am glad they waking up and trully wish them the best, men will not be picking up the slacks of a women that rejected us because she thought she could do better. We want the one girl that stays with us when we had nothing, not the one that wants us after we accomplished everything
I don’t care if some women want careers, I just hope we are moving towards a point where young girls/women are equally encouraged to take either path. I was pushed very hard from a young age and never felt like being a regular person or stay at home woman was an option. I came to my senses after a year of college and it took years to not feel terrible about myself for not achieving a big career. But it was never something I wanted, it was pushed on me. Also you don’t have to just stay at home and never be part of society. I’ve worked part time for years now, and my plan when I become a mother is to have little side gigs for extra money, to continue growing my skill set, have a break from being at home, etc. I’m looking at teaching YMCA classes, tutoring , or I’ve already had experience teaching painting classes 🎨
Not to insult your intellect or abilities, but there's a 99% certainty is that you'd never have had "a big carrier" anyway. That's only available to a select few for a long number of reasons, while for a vast majority of others it's a proverbial carrot in front of a donkey. Even a decent carrier is hard to achieve - and, what's more important, not that much of a win in the end. It's actually a strong family that's the main prize in life. You seem to be on the right track, so good luck to you with that!
I totally agree! The first 5 years out of high school I was working so hard to achieve a big career and putting everything on my education. Then I suddenly realized that I was not doing this because I wanted to do it, but because I felt like I had to, like I was a failure otherwise. Now I am married since last summer and we want kids soon and for me to be home with them for a few years. I am so excited for it.
@@ВладимирКруглов-к9оBy "big career" most people don't mean becoming the CEO of Tesla. A "big career" can mean being a teacher, software engineer, nurse, secretary, librarian, etc. or content creator for the Daily Wire, which is what Brett does.
I think there are problems beyond the career/motherhood choice. My sister's in her mid-twenties and a lot of her friends seem to be clinging to adolescent (hanging out, getting high, operating on three hours sleep through choice, gratification). If the average life expectancy was 45, people would need to make a decision about what they wanted with a level of urgency. But for some people it can be easy to waste their twenties, and leave a narrow window for growing up and settling down. As a dude, I lost my twenties to depression and lethargy. It was only in my mid to late 30s, I worked out that I wanted things from life beyond the avoidance of pain. Oops. I just think it would save people pain if they could work out what they want by 25. Otherwise, it seems easy to be adrift.
I worked before getting married and the first year and half of my marriage. I was so depressed. My values weren’t being lived out. I got pregnant with our first baby and my husband saw how unhappy i was. He said “do you wanna stop working?” I nodded. He said “then stop working. We’ll figure it out.” That was 11 years ago and I’ve been able to dedicate myself to raising our kids, taking care of my family and home was always my ultimate dream ❤ I’m so fulfilled
It doesn't help that these "girl bosses" were stepping on the good men that would have married them for 10 years. Those good men have good reason to be resentful.
The metoo movement only affects actual good men and makes them risk averse, while the bad boys and dark triad people could care less about such things…
My mother kept working when she had me (partly because she had to, my parents didn't habe enough money) but she never prioritized her career over her family. You don't have to choose, you can find a compromise. She both has a healthy kid and a good marriage and is fulfilled in her career.
I have a gym instructor friend who I've worked out with for the last 10 years. She was in her forties and regularly commented about how glad she had never gotten married or had kids. At 45 she found out she was pregnant. She was terrified and the father initially stepped out of the picture as he was also terrified. Eventually he came back and they got married. She just turned 50 and can't imagine a life without her daughter and husband.
One of the interesting things I've noticed when women in their mid-40's get pregnant, they usually deliver the babies without event. It's like nature's final hurrah before the system shuts down. True Crime host Nancy Grace got pregnant & delivered twins at 48. She had dated her BF for years but they got married soon after finding she was pregnant.
I'm so proud of the woman who shared that open letter. That's so hard to admit. I'm praying for this woman and hope she finds what she's looking for!! ❤️
I have been shamed by my family for saying I’d want to be a stay at home mom even by my mom who IS a stay at home mom. I’ve been told by my dad to “not sell myself short” my aunt at thanksgiving was condescendingly like “yOU wAnT to DEpEnD oN a mAN” ???? Like yes that’s exactly what I want 😂 I want to focus on having kids and raising them and baking brownies and cupcakes for school bake sales and decorating and going to games and dance classes to support my children. I get in this economy I need to have the means and the funds to support my life but if that could be done with just one income I shouldn’t be shamed for wanting to focus on taking care of myself and my family and home.
@@megankissinger8269why don’t these people also tell ” what if’s” for men? Before marrying or marrying a promi$cious women, or stay at home wife? Considering family courts are rigged against men and women initiate 8/10 of the divorce cases so there’s no ”advice “ for men instead men are shamed and name called into getting married or date promi$cious women. It’s scary how selfcentred and di$gustingly selfish female nature is
It can be done, even on varying degrees of income level! Budgeting, saving, being thrifty and sacrificing material things for your family life is well worth the effort!!
My parents got divorced when I was little. Because of this, my mom wanted me to have a career because "you never know what will happen in life and you need to have options." When I was 27 and I wanted to pause my career to have a family, I felt guilty for the money my parents had spent on my education. To this, my mom replied, "We paid for your education so that you would have choices in life, not so you would be trapped". I took several years off while keeping a toe in the waters and prioritizing my family. With my kids being older now and leaving for college, I am in my career again (which I love doing). If you want to give up a career for a family that is great. But it is also possible just to pause your career.
Way back in 1978 when I was starting out in the insurance industry, at a home office new employee training session I asked if the company was prepared to pay male employees well enough to support their families when the wife is a homemaker and doesn't work outside the home. You should have seen the icy cold stares I got from senior executives.
Exactly all this talk about family values is just talk, companies are not there to support a real family. Part of the conversation is not simply that women "chose" to have a career, she had to have a career. I grew up in the 1970's and that was the last generation of really traditional families. In 1978, gas 48 cents a gallon, one could still buy a home in California, for 50k. The same homes today are for 1 million dollars.
Presently in our country the norm is two income household for average folks which started at the time of my parents' generation precisely because it's hard to survive on just one income. A house and lot today is worth millions and most people takes themmore than 20 years to own one if they can afford it. During our parents time they can buy those even if they have a regular office job/one income for significantly less amount of time. The average number of children significantly decreased too because it's just too expensive and if you're both working it's hard to raise if you have more kids. So even if you would love to be a stay at home mom focusing only on your family you have no choice but to work, and not just work but a work with a decent pay. Women here still have careers while still having family. I think part of it making it possible is family culture. Extended family is a thing and they lend a hand in raising the kids, not just the parents. Or if you're still single it's pretty normal that you still live with your parents or for some even if you have your own family you still live in one house or your house is just a few blocks away. Also most of the people here are the happy types even when lacking of material things and knows how to have a good time. Laws also have been passed to be pro family in recent years so businesses don't have a choice but to follow.
After getting married at 22 and having my son at 23, I have been having this incredible urge to shout from the rooftops to all women to get married young and have all the babies! I am so grateful. The love in my home is so tangible & I wish the culture didn’t send the opposite message to young women. There’s absolutely no reason to wait! My son was a surprise, but I’m so glad things didn’t happen in my timing. I hope this shift continues in young girls today ❤
Strongly disagree with the no reason to wait, there are absolutely reasons to wait at least a little bit, the last thing you want is to end up with the wrong person
@@silentassasin-q8l I agree that there can be a few reasons to wait. The main one being maturity level. However, my husband & I along with all of my close friends all married our first boyfriends. Why? Because we dated with the intention of marriage. Other friends, as soon as they knew they didn’t want to marry their partner, would end things. When my husband and I were getting married we kept being told to wait because of money or to wait to get into our careers. When we got pregnant we were told the same thing. We couldn’t have kids because of money. Thankfully, we serve a God who always provides. We also trust Him to guide our every decision. We’ve never been in lack, therefore, all the people telling us to wait were wrong. It’s not a coincidence why Christians are usually the ones to get married young. We’re on a very narrow path in life & when we find someone who’s on it too, we know.
@@silentassasin-q8l Hello! I’m grateful for your comment because I realize that I didn’t consider this side. I agree that there are legitimate reasons to wait. My husband & I are Christian (even though our families aren’t) and we were always told that we couldn’t do x, y, and x because of money. We know that the Word of God says that we have no need to worry because He’ll provide for our every need. This promise has held true! I also want to mention that myself and many of my Christian friends have all married their first boyfriends because we dated with the intention of marriage like in the old days. If we ever saw a quality that we didn’t want for our future family, we would call it off. The majority of the world doesn’t live this way which I think makes your point more valid. However, I stand by what I said in my original comment. It would only be the most ideal if people lived the way that God intends for them.
I am a stay at home mom, in my 30s. I have a college degree, but my husband (also in his 30s) and I have 4 children (ages 4 months, 4, 10 & 13) & I am most valuable to our family at home. Most families on one income struggle (we struggle yall) but we will NEVER get this time back with our kids & it's worth everything to us & them. I can only speak for myself & my family. Be child-less, single forever & all independent, everything.. if that's what YOU REALLY want. Don't let social media talk you into or out of anything. Make your own decisions for yourself.
It’s really sad to see, i turn 30 in August and I am married with 3 beautiful children, my youngest is starting school next fall and im going back to work then and im only doing that to support our kiddos extra curricular activities . At first i wondered if i was doing it right, and after seeing these women I know I made the right decision
I’ve never commented on a UA-cam video but this video is just too good! I grew up in a broken home and spent my high school years vowing never to get marriage! Fast forward to college when the Lord intervened and healed my heart through learning His design for marriage and sexuality. I am now 24, married to a man who wakes up early to pray and that I can trust 100000% and we have a beautiful daughter and a son on the way! I stay at home and he works his butt off to make ends meet! Making our marriage the first priority has made the journey to our dreams and financial security so much fun and I get to do it with my best friend! Don’t wait to get married, nothing is more important than the relationship between a man and a woman in society bc that is what builds the next generation! Fancy cars and steakhouses won’t be going to eternity with you, your spouse and children are the only things meeting you there! God bless!
So glad god led me to my husband and I’m currently pregnant w my first child at 21. I feel like I got a head start on life in the best way possible and that’s even after I went to college and got a dual license in cosmetology in IL and OH. I have the license and worked my career job and now I’m at staying a family and we’re gonna have a big family and I couldn’t be happier about it all 🥰🥰🥰 it’s so worth it
It took my wife and I seven years to have a baby. During that time we continued our education, developed our careers and came to realization that everything else is completely meaningless if we didn't have somone to pass it on to.
Amazing. The beacon of hope. As someone who is going through some nasty stuff just because I dont seem to embrace feminism, you Brett are a savior. Not all is lost. Thank you and all human beings sincerely for being out there! ❤
Got married at 21. Got pregnant right away but ended up miscarrying. Struggled to get pregnant after that. Ended up adopting our son 3 years ago. We’ve had a few hard times (who doesn’t) but I am 1000% happier now then when I was single. I get to stay at home with my son, take care of him and my husband. Who could ask for more??
Brett I agree with you on most things but this. I cannot encourage anyman to get involved with damaged women just because "society told them so" that's utter BS. I managed to be a millionaire in a 3rd world country and now all options are available to me and no way I'm dating anyone above 25 or single mother who's partner is still alive that's BS. Society told our generation many things male and female no excuses, the best survived and the rest are now in tears.
Had my first baby at 27 and immediately felt the natural urge to put him above my career, even working from home with him a majority of his life. I’m due with my second just before I turn 30 and we’ve spent the last 2 years setting up our finances so I can stay home. I work in a high achieving industry and I know zero moms who are happy they are at work instead of being with their kids.
I had my second 9 months ago and I was wishing and still wish I wouldn’t have had to go back to work. I want to stay home with my kids and be a housewife. I’ve only recently thought that I don’t want to climb the corporate ladder. That’s not the path I want my life to take.
Me and my wife got married last year at 20. We are both in university but are almost done and plan on having a kid soon.
Just curious, do you wish you didn’t work in a high achieving career then? I just graduated college and started at a high achieving job. It’s a blessing ofcourse financially and starting off, but I also want to structure my life in a way that in the future, I’m able to have time for family and not be so work dependent. It also worries me because even though I just started, I want my potential partner to make more than me and be the provider, but that means that many guys right now are not a compatible since many guys around my age don’t work such a well to do job, atleast right now.
I think its something to do with people realizing that nobody actually wants to work 12 hours ago for a company that hates you and will do everything in their power to pay you less.
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As an old fart, I feel for youngsters today because relationships have been made too complicated and face to face conversations seem rare.
as a youngster, i concur. it seems that most now only want to hook up or “casually date” people. finding someone who wants to commit long term nowadays is like looking for a needle in a haystack.
Women reap what they sow.
Good point.
As a 40-something rapidly approaching Old Fartdom, and looking at the plights of my grown and teenage children and their peers, I concur.
Turning 31 and these girl bosses would have to hit me in the head with a stick to get my attention at this point
I absolutely love this! I got bullied growing up for saying I wanted to be a stay at home mom. I am now 23, married to the love of my life, stay home with my two wonderful kids, am pregnant with our third child, and absolutely loving my life!
Update to add!!! We just found out at our 20 week ultrasound, we’re having twins!!!
23?! Damn 😂 I’m 25 (female) and no kids. Still working on doing what I wanna do with my life, gonna leave the Army soon after 4 years active.. new chapters and none involve no kids anytime soon.
@@SuicideboysGrey59 that’s awesome that you are doing what you wanna do with your life but like I said in my comment, this is what I wanna do with my life
@@BrieMomOf4 never said it’s bad just mind blowing for me is all. Personally I consider 23 young.. like just having dropped the teen off your legal age or being able to count the years back you graduated HS on one hand young. Different strokes for different folks is all.
@@SuicideboysGrey59it’s cus she couldn’t keep her legs closed before she could legally drink.
@@iisunzo I was married for over a year before I had my first child. Just because people choose a different life than you think they should, does not mean it’s the wrong choice. You are disgusting!
I'm a man. I remember when I hit 30 I freaked out for like 10 seconds because I was never married and had no kids. I wasn't "focused" on my career. I just worked. A lot. Had no choice. I'm a man. We don't get the privilege of choice between work and family. Whether we have a family or not, we work.
Yeah, the same here. I had my kid with 34, not by choice, but because in my country and generation it was imposible getting a stable income before... i had to work travelling a lot between my 25-32, so i could only spent a few days a month with my girlfriend, now my wife. I would have liked to have my kid before, but I'm pretty happy nowadays
Sure, because an unmarried 30 year old woman has soooooo much more choice than an unmarried 30 year old man. You're not a victim here. Quit whining.
My story is very similar to yours only I am a woman. Had to work 60 to 100 hours a week just to survive.
@eyeh8ul I'd just like to point out that "the privilege of choice between work and family" is not female privilege; it's rich privilege. There are mothers that work because they can't afford not to.
A hardworking man is what a family needs! Sounds like you will make a great father! If my parents waited to have enough money they would have never had kids, and used to tell me that a lot.
If I’ve said it once, I’ve said it a million times: there is nothing unfeminist about the girl who chooses the ball gown and the prince; there is everything unfeminist about those who shame her for her choices.
to be a real woman is about choosing life.
Feminism is a Death Cult.
watch all those videos of women celebrating having multiple abortions.
Yes this!!!
I am so thankful for the feminist movement that gives women the freedom to choose their happiness I am 100% behind women who choose to be moms and housewives or tradwives. Feminism should not be about women being better or superior to men or being singlemindedly focused on career. It should be about having options, choosing your own path to happiness!
So true. I want people to understand that being a girl boss is just one type of way to be a woman, and it's not the only way. If you want to be a traditional housewife, go ahead as long as you weren't pressured to be so. Unfortunately the first boyfriend in the Business Inside article did pressure her to do housewife tasks that she didn't want to do and they even agreed on that before hand.
well said
100%
Got married at 21. Had my kids at 23, 26, and 29. Now I’m 46 and my oldest is 22 and youngest is 16. I’m still young and have tons of time in the future just me and my hubby. Y’all can have your careers and be the boss babe. I stayed home and raised my family. Absolutely never had any regrets.
THIS! THIS SO MUCH!!! If women truly want to "have it all" this is the way to do it. Find a good man, help him build while you raise your family together. In your 40s you can have that career and work for 20-25 years if you want to. Why can't ya'll just do it this way?
Yes this! I got married at 18 and had kids at 19, 21, 23, and 25! My hubby and I are excited to enjoy our life together once our babies are out of the house and we can go on vacations and stuff in our forties and beyond.
Married at 22 and first one on the way at 25. I'm glad we are growing our family in our 20s so we can enjoy our age when our children are grown
@@jessicaholman5330 you're gonna love being a mom ❤️ remember to give yourself grace and remember that the housework can wait til you're done cuddling your little one.
@@jessicaholman5330 it’s the best. And I had energy to raise them. I can’t fathom chasing little kids at my current age of 46. I can handle grand babies when they come but I get to give them BACK! Lol
My mom was pregnant with me at 30 (I was born in ‘84). She worked for a doctor. When she told him she was pregnant and will need to take her leave, he said “well, what are you going to do about it?” and then essentially demanded her to get an abortion to keep her job. She quit, that very same day.
Bad "doctor".
That's disgusting!
Danm that's sick
I smell a law suit or at least reporting it to the Employment Commission (it was under the control of the Honorable Ronald Reagan, so it might have helped her).
Great mom!
Our ‘culture’ didn’t tell women to do this….other women told them to do this.
Of an other culture. After blurring the lines, so theres no way to see it.
So women aren't part of the culture, then?
@@macxavier168 not when its almost entirely limited to them alone no. Why should innocent people by the billions be smeared?
@parrotshootist3004 this comment assumes that only women are feminists. There are male feminists too. And if you're assuming men also aren't part of the culture, I don't think you know what culture actually means.
@@macxavier168 try reading my comment again and take your words out of my mouth. Good faith just impossible for you ?
Even as a man I was lied to. I heard that having kids was the death of your own life. And to live for experience in all media. Now I am an old dad. I am 38 years old with a 4 year old and a 1 year old. I wish I had these kids earlier. Now I have to wonder if I will even live long enough to see my own grandkids. Family is everything.
You are not old. You will live long enough to see your grandkids. Don't worry.
@@nogames8982lol I was thinking the same thing.
Do your best to stay healthy.
Of course, our focus is always our family, but we should also take good care of ourselves.
that's not just for us, but also for our love ones.
38 is not old😂 even at 60 you can have kids but stay fit and motivated. Many younger men are unfit and have health issues like a 60 year old.
You are not old. My dad had me at 41 and I’m his oldest (I’m 27). My youngest sibling is 17. My dad is still able to do lots of things, and be a wonderful part in our lives.
I was on track for a pretty significant job with a significant degree and I had a professional in that field say “your downfall is going to be that you’re going to care too much about your family. It’s hard to have both.” So I quit. I didn’t get the degree I was supposed to have. I married my amazing boyfriend. I have two amazing kids. I don’t have a significant job outside of my home but I fully believe I am more fulfilled now than I would’ve been with the job I was headed towards. I had SO MANY people tell me I was going to regret this. I had so many people tell me that I needed to be more than just a mom. I needed to do something more important. But like…why? More important to who? This family, my husband, and my kids are the most important thing in my life. A job could never make me feel the way this family makes me feel. I love taking care of my babies and loving my husband. It’s an amazing life and I know I wouldn’t have had this if I had headed down the path I was headed towards.
I have a similar story. My gifts and abilities have been used fully in my home making and child rearing and partnership with my husband. I hate how young women have been lied to!
Great story Brittany ! And the correct decision on your part as well ! Peace !
It makes me so sad that our culture has pushed the idea that "just" being a mom is not enough when being a mom (especially a good mom) is the most important thing a woman can be.
Also feeling fulfilled as a housewife. We finally hit the financial stability to start trying for our first at 27 🥰🙏🏽
Hubby worked hard, and I'm so proud to be his wife 🤩
❤
Me, a millennial homeschool mom who married an amazing man and left the workforce over a decade ago, smiling because everyone is finally understanding how amazing my life is instead of judging me for it. 😊
feminists will still judge you for it.
same, although as another commenter said some people will still judge and am ok with this, I never chose this life for other peoples approval.
Well done you. Being a parent is a wonderful experience.
I feel sorry for women indoctrinated by feminism into chasing careers. They are wasting their lives on a job that won't give them fulfilment or any sense of achievement, but will bring them crippling loneliness and misery.
Everyone has to pick their sacrifices. People are just realizing your sacrifices aren't as bad as the ones they made.
The problem is that the feminists don't actually want you to be happy or make your own choices, unless they approve of those choices and it somehow devalues men.
As a single man in my late 30s, i saw SOOO many women that were both desperately clinging on to their feminist "i hate men" principles, yet also DESPERATELY scrambling against the ticking clock to build a family and find a husband IMMEDIATELY.
Their desperation is SCARY to deal with because their life plans become 100% YOUR responsibility as a man, and theres this feeling that you wont even get the chance to just enjoy each other's presence before you become entrenched in the responsibility of marriage and kids
Your second paragraph is me in my early 30s. Unfortunately I had to stop dating women my age (single and without kids) because they become way too desperate when they suddenly realize time's not on their side anymore. It's not a stereotype, women are not good at hiding or dealing with that kind of primal desperation. However, I won't change my time line of getting to know someone just because they suddenly realized they didn't respect theirs. Society loves to shame men for dating "younger" but actually sometimes we simply don't want to "hold up" the 34 yo woman with no kids from finding a man that's as desperate as her to have a family. You don't get to put that pressure on me _on the first date_ after you spent more than 3 decades not caring about it.
I've been tasting that desperation for years in my late 30's in the dating market. I just gave up, I always felt like they were not even there for me, I felt like I was their last chance so they would settle down out of resignation. Im looking at younger women now and I dont give a shit about what society thinks of me.
Those are the types of women who marry a clueless guy and divorce him after they get their kids or after finding they can't have kids. He's just a means to an end and he has no clue.
It's amazing that some of the women I've known for years, married and divorced, no stable incomes, unstable parents, partying and being jackases into their 30s, find out I've got a decent job and all of a sudden want to hang out/catch up blah blah blah.
Oh where were they when I lost my job during COVID lockdowns? Or spent years studying to get a useful degree, or suffering through jobs in awful conditions for a line on a resume.
Nowhere.
This culture has taught them to take shortcuts at all times, and I'd rather stand and watch their 3rd wave bullshit burn them than offer an olive branch built on my sacrifices.
@@InfallibleDogbert It's easy enough to do when you know if you did offer an olive branch, they'd burn your tree down.
My mom worked as a nanny for 1% girl bosses in Manhattan in the 80s. The families she served were so miserable it turned her off the whole idea of feminism forever and she passed it on to all of us.
Feminism - why be a slave to a man who is obligated to care for you, cloth you, shelter you, feed you, and protect you.
instead be a slave to a soulless corporation who's only obligation is to pay you and can fire you on a whim.
So these were families where women were the main breadwinners and top 1% earners?
@@specialk4125 I can't remember exactly, but they were rich and high-ranking in their respective careers.
I don’t think misery has anything to do with feminism or demographics. It sounds like those “girl boss” women did everything society told them to-have kids, careers, be in the top 1%-and they were still seemingly unhappy. It must be something wrong with them internally, not externally.
@@specialk4125yeah more details are needed. Chances are the women were stay at home mothers _with nannies_ and still miserable lol.
When I was 21 and engaged I ran into my elementary school principal, he asked me what career I was pursuing and I told him "I'm just working until I have kids." He said "What a waste of your potential." 10 years and 2 kids later, I'm so thankful I am a stay-at-home mom and not a pharmacy technician
What changed in 10 years to make the choice?
@Spartos83 she had her kids.
@@Spartos83 She made the same choice, only worked until she had kids.
@@jeremycarl2401 Wow you know her more than she knows herself? I have never seen a stranger speaking about another stranger and knowing them more than they know themselves.
Complete waste of your personal potential what if Einstein or someone like that decided to be selfish and have kids and not pursue what they were great at and their world changing views and ideas…don’t flatter yourself you could have fucking done both
I celebrated my 50th birthday and 30th anniversary last year. I was (pre) girl boss, was studying to become a sports medicine doctor, thought about maybe having a few kids in my 30’s. I couldn’t be happier that I married at (almost) 20, and was pregnant with our first miracle 5 months later, and was a stay at home mom ever since. No success in life matters if you fail in the home.
Congratulations! This is awesome. My boyfriend and I and are planning to get married soon and I’m so excited to have kids. I think about it everyday! I’m 18 and am thankful I’ve learned from other peoples mistakes. It’s a blessing to get married and have kids young. God bless you and your family ❤
My mom did the same. She ended her education with 2 masters. The brightest woman I've ever met to this day, and I've worked in the financial district here in NYC where some of my peers were women. Mom chose to settle down WHILE she was getting her first masters, and had my brother first before she graduated. Her and my father had the most beautiful 20 yrs together until cancer took her. She redpilled me and my brother, and this was WAY before that space even existed. She warned me to NEVER choose a "career woman", and to be careful with settling down as the courts are against me. You and my mother made the right (and excellent) choice. It's no surprise that you're happy, and I hope that trend continues for you! God bless to you and your beautiful family, ma'am.
@@-l1ly- Wow, congratulations to you as well! You have your goals aligned with what really makes one experience true joy, and I can’t wait for your upcoming adventures. May God bless you and your future union with much joy❤️
@@kugelschreiber5678 First of all, my condolences on the passing of what sounds like an exceptional, brilliant woman. It sounds like she instilled in you the greatest importance in life, and may you be blessed to have a happy one in all your future endeavors ☺️
@@jennifertwede7142 thank you ma'am. You are very kind and I really appreciate it. Mama did instill some of THE best values in her kids. My brother and I look around and see how miserable the world is, and further thank our mother and father for the way they raised us. Mothers like you and mine are a genuine gift from kid. Us kids couldn't have been any luckier 😇. God bless you and yours!
This is EXCELLENT messaging! I say that as a father and a grandfather.
THANK YOU for your positive contributions to our society!
I just retired beginning of January and I couldn’t be happier. My quality of life is so much better as well as my daughter is thriving. (She’s 17months) I don’t have to worry about babysitting and my husband is happy with home cooked meals. Ladies wake up! Prioritize your family don’t listen to society. I’m now 34 trying to have a second child. Praying to God he has that planned for us.
Wonderful! There is nothing better than caring for a home and children. What a privilege that has long-lasting rewards.
May God bless you and your family!
Waking up isn't going to make the man's paycheck any bigger. Many men prefer their wives to work.
@lilmisrubicon Ahem! Ma'am, how'd you retire at 34?! #Goals
Love your story Ma’am. God bless.
I went to a women in engineering event and when I saw how unhappy the speakers were, that really just affirmed to me where my priorities should stay. I'm not going to stop pursuing my education, but I'm not going to compromise my long-term goals of being a wife and mom for the sake of my career.
Don't put me off, I'd like to date a girl who likes exact science, because I'm an engineer. I would like to pass these skills on to my children early 🤣🤣
Engineering is depressing for both men and women. Unless they are work-oriented people.
@@cavaleirosemlicenca3894 I have friends who prefer a shared profession in a partner, but about something entirely different on the table?
I'm an engineer and a wife and mother
Just make sure you don't go into debt for your education. I got an engineering degree for 60k debt. Now I'm a stay at home mom and my debt is a burden for my husband (thankfully he's very successful so we'll be fine, but I wish we didn't have that hanging over our heads).
I feel the same way. I’m 18 and studying to be an aerospace engineer. I value my education and feel a need to have a career in what I love. However, I deeply desire to be married young and raise children and to put my family first.
I had this awakening at 26 and felt so behind. I’m so grateful that the man I was already with wanted traditional marriage, faith and kids and we’re working towards all 3
You were lucky... the ticking of the clock doesn't run at the same pace for men and women
I’m thankful for my Mom who told me as a teen that she regretted not being home with my brothers and I. That made such an impact on me, and I knew from that conversation that I would stay home with my children.
My husband and I were the first to get married from our friends group (21). We had 4 children by the time we were 28. We couldn’t be happier with the decisions we made to marry and have children early, or to live a traditional lifestyle (my husband works, me at home raising and homeschooling our children). I have several friends from college who still aren’t married or at least decided to delay children and then it became harder to get pregnant, and they just don’t seem happy or fulfilled. I feel sad for them. But I remember conversations in college when I said I planned to be a stay at home, homeschooling mom, and my friends mocked me. I’m not really having the last laugh, because I genuinely feel bad for what they’re missing out on.
As a side note, having children as young as we did, we will have an empty nest by 50, and can travel and do those things that won’t friends focused on in their 20’s and 30’s.
As a 33 year old married father of 4 it’s so sad to see women-and men-fall for this trap. Literally yesterday I made up with my 5 year old that when he starts growing facial hair we are going to grow huge mustaches and call ourselves “the mustache men”. I wouldn’t give any of this up for NOTHING. please. It ain’t easy. Sometimes these loonies are annoying as anything but they’re mine and I couldn’t be happier.
I'm in my 20s and literally still have a twelve year old brother who says things like this all the time. I also have six other younger siblings. I just want a break. Not everyone's situations are the same, some things you could never understand, so it's really not one shoe fits all.
@@monkey6207kids and siblings is in no way the same thing. Goofy
I guess I'm just saying that, "kids say funny stuff, who knew" doesn't mean God put everyone in the same position. I am glad if having kids gave some people a new perspective and it was good for them. Some people just already knew that and still feel called to to other stuff that gives them meaning. But people on this thread act like it's the only thing anyone should ever do.
Been married more than 3 decades. No kids, by choice. Both my wife and I have genetic conditions (different ones) that can be passed on. This was a decision we made together, knowing that any child we had would very much likely have one (or both) of these genetic issues. I have no regrets. Not judging parents - you do you. I'm happy for you! But I am also thankful for my decision. I do love kids, but am glad I never had any biological children of my own.
Same man. Kids are the best. My 3 year old son always tell me he can’t wait to get big and strong and be able to go to work with me and go to the gym with me, and help me with projects around the house. That level of admiration is just irreplaceable. Being someone’s hero and role model and raising a tiny version of yourself is one of the greatest pleasures in life.
I’m 51 and never got married or had kids, because I thought I was supposed to focus on getting rich and famous. Now I’m broke, unknown, and alone. So there you go!
42 broke unknown alone single.. its not choice for me, but i just realy couldnt find someone for me. xD
When did you come to the full realization about how things weren't working out the way you thought they would in terms of reexamining your priorities in life? I'm genuinely curious to hear more.
@@KIMIxMELLOI want you to know that Jesus is there for you, he sees you, and he loves you anyways and you have much to look forward to after you leave this world if you trust in him
47 broke alone but thankfully I have two kids - sons 23 and 24.
Put your life to Jesus. ❤ He will renew you. And gives you purpose
My husband and I have been together since I was 18 and he was 22. So 22 years. We have 3 kids. I got sick a few years ago, and my husband didn't hesitate to make sure I could stay home and focus on getting better going through cancer treatments and spending time with my kids. I'm so blessed. I am sad for these woman, I pray that they find their family. The strength is in that partnership and commitment that creates FAMILY. FAMILY OVER EVERYTHING. ❤❤❤ MUCH LOVE BRETT AND BLESSING AND PRAYERS FOR YOUR MARRIAGE AND FUTURE FAMILY. ❤❤❤
I’m really happy you beat cancer ❤. Hope you stay healthy and happy for many, many more years.
Please don’t feel sad for anyone else. Would you like it if I said I feel sad for you because you stay at home? I work because I don’t want to stay at home, but family is my priority and they come above all else. This naturally means I have less time for girlfriends and book clubs and other things that just take a back seat, which is fine by me. By the way I am not a feminist nor do I think women need to choose between the two, you can do both. This entire debate is ridiculous. Stop judging people for their choices or providing faux pity. I sincerely hope anyone who has an issue with women working never goes to a female doctor as that would just make you a hypocrite.
Never pitty the stupid they did not deserve any better and we all know we will get our time in the sun if you waist it then that is on you.
I started to realize all the BS behind the doctrine a few months before I turned 27. Now I'm 29, and I will only accept facts when in debate. I still can't believe I didn't wake up sooner: I would've had so many - and interesting - conversations with people, some of whom I felt the need to apologize to the last few years (I was passionate, yet infuriating). I received nothing but love, except for those who still believe this is the way to go. Those stopped talking to me, so I guess I still win.
And part of this transformation was because of voices like yours, Brett. I guess all I'm saying is thank you.
Best wishes from Argentina.
This is totally me. Got my masters degree by 23, entered corporate world, got married at 25 and had my son at 28. I’m 31 and pregnant with our second and I don’t care to climb the corporate ladder anymore. Just want to raise my babies. But we can’t financially justify me quitting. I feel so lied to. I wish more people were expressing the importance of being a mom and wife and home maker. Might have taken a different path in life. I’m just grateful I do have my babies now. Genuinely jealous of all the SAHMs.
I am 23 this year I plan on getting my Master's too, because I hate corporate work, and I want a flexible research job that can make me work from home (I work in tech). I have not met any man that can provide for me as I stay home and work from home so I am proceeding with my degree while I look for one😂
@Amanda-wb6vb I was robbed of my 20ties, and I grew to reject men for dissapointing me and hurting me, so im 30 now I work but I look for a husband with whom I can just be at home, I wanna make flower buqets and eat good foor and sleep long I dont need no corporate ladder and I hate it takes so much from your life and others are so proud of it
You can become a stay at home mom. Ask your husband to set up a plan and increase his earnings. He definitely can do things to increase his salary. It’s not fair for you to do both home managing and working.
We were in the same boat, but we made major changes to our financial choices, which was hard at first, but I asked myself, if I were to die a year from today. Would it have been a more fulfilling year if I stayed home and made those memories with my kids, or more fulfilling to have made more money. Thats when the decision I needed to make really hit me.
@@rebeka145 praying for you... Do you have any solid plans so far for the lifestyle change? I barely go out of my home and see the same people everyday. No luck so far🤣
Being a stay at home wife and mother is the best thing I could have ever done. I am thankful for my husband every single day for encouraging me to do this. As the husband is the head of the house, the wife is the heart of the home. Without her, the home is cold is dead. Set the world on fire ladies by loving your husbands and children at home ❤️❤️
Couldn’t have said this better. ❤
I love that phrase, "Men are the head of the household, while women are the heart of the household"
@@mithicash1444 same it sounds beautiful and this is what my bf and i want in the feature.
Sad that you don't see much of this. I work in an industry where I go into a lot of homes, and see a lot of people. This is rare, unfortunately. All the best to you and yours! Good people like you guys are the ones that make me wanna keep working!
No hate, I feel like it's valid to say that partners are co-heads of the household. They're your partner, not your boss, right? An unequal relationship sounds like hell. Would a man find it acceptable for his wife to be "the head of the household"? Then why do we have to? A kind and engaged partner and parent is absolutely a heart of the household and it's a beautiful thing to have
I was married at 20 to the love of my life and I just turned 40. We’ll be celebrating 20 years this summer. We waited a few years to have kids, but I was still in my mid-twenties when we started our family. Best decision ever! Of course we had to work through a lot of immaturity and baggage (we both came from broken/divorced households.) But by the grace and help of the Lord and a little bit of grit, we pulled through and it’s been a wonderful adventure. I love him more now than in the beginning. We’re still young, our kids are in high school and junior high and there’s so much more to look forward to! If you can help it, start your family and essentially your life, as soon as you can. Don’t rush, don’t make foolish decisions in urgency or fear, but don’t resist the invitation to life and love and family when presented to you in exchange for the false success of a career that will only last so long. Family lasts forever ❤
Nailed it.❤
It's lovely that your marriage lasted 20 years, but how many others didn't? Marriage at a young age is one of the strongest predictors of divorce. There is just so much maturing and identity-creation that occurs in your 20's, and the children of "older" parents tend to have better behavioral and academic outcomes.
Your story is wonderful and inspiring, but that doesn't mean advice like "start your family and essentially your life, as soon as you can" is good advice.
It's ok to focus first on education/personal growth, career, travel, friendships, and finances. Those things add a richness to your life. You'll have experiences, wisdom, empathy, and more perspectives to offer your husband and kids. Just my two cents.
@mleobviously I understand what you’re saying :) But if you continue to read what I wrote in it’s entirety, you’d see that I also added to not rush or make foolish decisions out of fear, but to also not resist the offer when and if it comes, in exchange for a career. In other words, if life and love are presented to you and it’s the right thing, don’t put it off because you think a career will be more important than starting a family. Being married as young as I was, I can absolutely see both sides of the benefit to getting married young and also the benefit to waiting until you’re older if that’s what you have to do. I changed tremendously in my 20’s and felt more like an adult in my 30’s. But the opportunity to start my life young was presented to me and it was a very good decision that I didn’t push away because I thought a career would be more fulfilling than starting a family. And I certainly didn’t look to others to validate what they viewed as a successful life.
And my husband and I are truly a miracle. With us both coming from divorced parents, and my side actually being a generational pattern of divorce (grandparents as well).
Young people don’t have to fall into statistics just because “society” states that getting married young has a higher rate of failure. We made a decision that went against the grain with great success (and a lot of hard work and grit) and I want to encourage those who would actually be encouraged by it. If it doesn’t encourage you or speak to you, then that’s ok 😊
I joined the conversation with some experience under my belt of making choices that essentially go against the narrative of the feminist movement.
Lovely, thank you :)
You cannot tell me there were NO opposing views offered to these women. There were. They ignored them
What are the opposing views?
I’m their same age. We were raised by hippie, bra-burning feminists from the 60s. Our moms, teachers, television, etc. And there was no internet, just Teen Vogue.
The overall narrative was “You’re a failure if you don’t become a boss babe”. The SAHM was mocked as a caricature of pathetic womanhood.
Have some compassion, for God’s sake.
There wasn't many opposing views out like that lol
@@DeafFrog-ks7bg Okay, as a woman, let me give you a litany of shitty things men have done to me.
Or not. Because individuals aren’t their group.
@@limeOjello Do all dogs bark? Yes, all dogs bark. Do all fish swim? Yes, yes they do. Don't give us this silly "individuals aren't their group" argument when so many women work like a hivemind. Wearing the same clothes, speaking the same language, hanging out with likeminded friends, consuming the same garbage.
Besides, we're talking about a very specific type of woman, so it IS a group of women, and there's no reason to seperate them into individuals because they all do the same things.
" It's not their fault, fault. The culture told them to do it!" Could you imagine if men got this same kind of grace?
Nothing is their fault.
Honestly family is overrated too. Career is definitely overrated. But both are sources of more misery than happiness if you care too much about them.
@@natoslayer2907 It's the same thing as the trend followers. If you're an easy on the brains and like a sheep that goes after the new and popular thing? Yea, feminism, girl-boss, Cardashians and all that crap. But smart people choose that to do with their lifes without that shit. Wanna have a baby? Ok. Wanna be child-free? Ok. No culture can tell YOU what to do if you don't CHOOSE to.
nope, family brings fulfillment@@natoslayer2907 otherwise we wouldnt exist
Yeah it's really nice how, as a woman, nothing is my fault. Everyday people are just letting me get away with anything. It's a good thing all women are exactly the same with this magic privelege.
Brett this needs to go viral. Everything you and these ladies said is so true. As a woman in my 50’s I too experienced the is it too late regret but was very lucky to find the right man and have 2 amazing children within 3 years as I turned 40. Women, if you find a good man in your 20’s hold on to him tight, because there isn’t an endless supply of them and loneliness is painful, no matter how many designer handbags you own.
Last line of your comment is _SO_ *_TRUE!_*
Loneliness can become its own boss in your life. No matter how wealthy.
When she had someone who loved her
Back when she was younger
She wonders if she held out
A little bit too long.
Back then there were so many
But now there just aren't any
And she thinks all the good ones are gone.
Pam Tillis.
And having "high standards" for how you are treated is actually just having "standards." Disrespect or dismissiveness or control or "well he's only a LITTLE misogynistic and it's only sometimes" isn't acceptable. You're worth more than that. Men get called "good men" all the time just because they hold down a job and aren't violent degenerates. But do they treat you as an equal human being? If yes, THEN they're a good man, and those exist! Heck, even my sister is married to a lovely one =)
I did this and have ZERO regrets. Like Brett said, when you have the right partner you find even deeper success everywhere else!
I'd rather have a messy house filled with love than a "showpiece" filled with designer furniture.
I’m a 40 year old female and I felt this so hard. I spent almost two decades in NYC chasing after a marketing career in Corporate America that will just spit you out as soon as they decide they’re done with you. I never wanted kids, but I always wanted love, and a husband. And now that I’m at 40, I’m craving my own family. I’m sick of focusing on everything/everyone else and working a million hours, to the detriment of my own health. I felt everything Brett said in this video so strongly. My priorities have shifted and I just want a different life. 🙁
@@JohnAnderson-ev3lp he cold 😂😂😂
It’s not too late to make another life. I will pray for you. Don’t listen to bitterness and anger. God will guide you through. ❤
@@AK-American He's all by himself, beating his meat to photos of women he'll never meet or is on Only Fans.
@@JohnAnderson-ev3lpshit man who hurt you?
@@JohnAnderson-ev3lp Lol, I hope she'll be miserable all her life.
9:34: It's called consequences. And shame is a tool.
i’m only 20 and although i’m putting a lot of effort into figuring out my career as of now, finding a husband and having children is still my top priority in life. i’m so grateful i realised that early on and didn’t have to wait till my 30s for the sad epiphany.
Only date with that in mind. This casual scene can screw up even guys. Every time it's less special. People are lying who say otherwise. Just because it was more exhilarating later isn't the same thing. Drugs are exhilarating, and people love them
Marriage is a young person's game the older you get male or female the more stuff gets in your way. Marry young grow together.
Good. You're on a good track. Having a career isn't a bad thing. The bad thing is when women put their career and "sexual liberation" as their top priorities and supress their natural inclination for having a man and children because of feminism illusion, which is programmed into dormant low IQ women at university and by MSM. They made it hard for men to commit to good women because many of them are chameleons. We're now very hesitant about women.
But I'm glad you kept your brain clean. And keep your legs closed for your husband only and no one else; your value will be kept that way. Chastity and peace are very important to men, as ambition and ability to provide are very important to women.
You do not know yet if it's something you can be grateful for to be honest. You will know it in 10-20 years. For every woman that I know that now is unhappy in her 30s due to choosing a career pursuit, I know 2 that are frustrated cause they chose family over career and now close to their 40s they feel that sure they have children but they feel they have achieved nothing in life. And for every man that is unhappy in his 40s for choosing staying in work until 9PM over seeing his children I know of 2 unhappy cause they were not focused enough on choosing the right professional path.
Being an adult is a hard shit filled of "hindsight is 20/20¨ situations. Brett describes it as if it was black or white. Meanwhile, people can be extremely unhappy regardless of the choices earlier in life. The thing is that it is way more nuanced than that and looking at the nuclear family model with a rose-tinted glasses is as foolish as trying to be a strong independent woman no matter what.
@maddiec6186 sound like a win for the women in that scenario. If you're a guy and won't marry a women because they earn more then they probably aren't a man you would want anyway
This video is so important. Thank you for sharing all of this with the world, Brett! I am 32 and I have a 1 year old son and am pregnant with my second and family is everything to me. But SO many of my friends (most!) are exactly like these “girl bosses” and I really fear they will get to a point of regret later in life about not having kids when they could. 💔
The worst thing about this shift to feminism is that we've dismantled a lot of the ways that people meet and form bonds. As a single man I have no idea where to go to meet women other than bars and churches. Couples don't just form out of nothing. They begin with two single people meeting up and forming first a friendship then later love. We need to start creating the conditions under which relationships are formed and opening up ways to socialize would be a very good start.
I dont know where to go In general anymore, women have made all excuses to not give me a chance, and now I'm just supposed to forgive them? Don't work that way, watch their actions not their words.
@mikem8523 100% correct. Women are always thinking about themselves and what they want. But they don't realize how many men along the way. Have been damaged goods just to be a piece of a pedestal that they stand on as they put down all men. And never take accountability. There are so many men out there that suffer and are really trying to find love. When women are really out there, just to get. They're rocks off and a bunch of free meals or just to get a bunch of free meals and fake that they want the guy. Then like this woman ruined her marriage and a guy's life just to divorce him and break His heart and now she wants the exact same thing she had that she threw in the trash. Women don't realize, but they're p*ss Poor decisions affect the men in their life as well, And as men hold each other to a higher standard.
Which is why we don't have a safety net if we screw our lives up
this is the problem, women screwed the entire planet up and want men to not mock and ridicule them for it. Women have been denigrating men for 50 years, we have every right to make fun of women forever.
People used to go dancing, in ballroom type ways..
Or decent movies
Also, before 1970, many stores were closed on sundays
@@kathleenking47 Exactly, people used to understand that recreation was not only how you recharged for work, but how you met new people.
40, and never wanted a family and I still don’t. Not career focused either though.
I have a very happy social life, many friends, jobs' fine etc..
Thing is, people are wired differently. There is no 1 solution for all. Everybody needs to stop listening to society or what’s the norm.
You do you
Beautifully said some girls/guys don’t want relationships/ their own family for their own reasons. Nothing wrong with having kid nothing wrong with not wanting kids
Wait a few more years when you see everyone around you with their families and you go home alone to an empty house .
I agree completely, after all America is "land of the free", supposedly at least. I find it ironic that Brett preaches this yet would be considered a "gorl boss" in many ways. Anyway she's coming up to 6 months married now, let's see if she practices what she preaches - there should be a pregnancy announcement soon, and then she should be quitting the DW to stay at home.
@@GoldenLily-r7p Lol, I already have an empty house. I also have plenty of friends not wanting children or actually really disliking them. Then, I do have friends with kids. I still see them. Its absolutely fine.
And guess what. I actually have many interests so Im never bored and sometimes I prefer to go holidaying alone. So I can meet other people and do my own thing and sometimes I do want go with friends.
Why is that so difficult to comprehend?
My heart goes out to this woman. I wish I could give her a hug and tell her hope is not lost. My mom had my brother at 39 and me at 41. They were both easy and seamless pregnancies and deliveries. My mom tells me that she loved being pregnant and caring for her babies. She would have had more kids if she was younger. I just want to say that being in the upper 30s does not mean your biological clock has run out yet.
Why? These women have caused the destruction of countless men using the family court and she's one of them. Now we're to pity her for being selfish? It wasn't a victimless crime. Feminism isn't victimless!
There is a higher risk for disabilities.
@@nickd2296 But even young moms can have babies with disabilities. There’s a girl on UA-cam who had a baby with Down syndrome when she was only 16 years old.
@@Erduk Why are you blaming people for things others have done?
@@nickd2296 Same for older men. Older men can potentially have risks and issues with their sperm too.
I have a feeling that Gen Z (or at least a significant portion of Gen Z) are going to be more conservative than millennials. I’m Gen Z myself and I am a very traditional, Christian guy. I think a lot of my peers are waking up.
As a 19 year old, I can confirm
23 yo here, and same. Coming back to Christ helped me immensely.
21 and I’m in the same place, I’d say this generation will be a momentum shift.
I don't see it
@@sakurauchiha03 A ton of Gen Z is still very afraid to speak out. Many (if not most) lie about their beliefs publicly for fear of the internet mob
I feel the loss too because it still happened to me and I wasn't even like them. I never wanted to be a boss girl, I've always wanted to get married and have a family. I've been trying to get married since I was 17! My mom is VERY much a third wave feminist. She'd literally scream at me about how worthless I am because I wanted to be a stay at home mom. So even though I wanted that life I kept dating men like her, who abused me. But in 2018 I got into therapy and healed myself and by 2023 I'm engaged! We're getting married in 5 months!
Congrats! :D
Congratulations!!!! So happy for you!!!🥰
Congrats! Your mom Sounds like my mom. I had to keep mine a bit far from us, she almost destroyed my marriage.
@@shauhame6364 Aww, thank you so much! Goal is married in a few months, first baby in two years, second shortly after. I'd be happy with two but I think I want three. 🥰
@@athomewiththemrs9410 Aww! You really are so sweet, I was not expecting this kind of comment when I made my comment. I just hope other girls who have parents like mine and weren't necessarily victim to that kind of culture but still struggle to get married can have hope. I appreciate you so much! It's been a long, hard, road. But I did it and I've never beem happier.
My sister just had her daughter at 38. It was a struggle, but it’s possible. Stay strong. Don’t give up.
The problem is that you can say these women are “waking up”, but they seem like the type that if they did settle down, get married, and had kids; they’d get bored a few years in or realize being a mother “isn’t for them” so then you either end up with a resentful parent or just a divorce.
You call that "cooked"
no savin these broads, bruv.
Either that or they just start cheating
@PIayboiCratihow is that a win for “girls?”
That’s exactly what would happen
I’m a 26 yo married stay at home mom. We don’t have a house yet and we make sacrifices to make it work but we couldn’t be happier. Our son is 5.5 months old and just got his first tooth! I couldn’t imagine missing these days and moments with him for a day job. My husband works so hard to provide for us and I’m very grateful.
Yeah, but...your husband misses those days. Your child's father wont be there for those special moments if he's working all the time to provide for you guys.
Yeah yall want to have kids at 20-25 and be a stay at home mom all you want but in todays eco you'll be dead broke unless your SO makes 6 figures or you live with parents.
I’m a 27yo sahm and my husband and I just bought our first house! It will happen for you too 😊
@@germanshepherddogssounds better than both parents missing out yeah?
@@germanshepherddogsthat is how it should be dear. Real men enjoy being a provider.
20's: idgaf I'll do what I want.
30's: you shouldn't judge my past.
Our pasts will haunt us.
By the time most of them learn it’s far too late.
Redemption exists.
hello actions, welcome to consequences
She didn't want you in her prime, don't save her in her decline.
When girl bosses "wake up"; is exactly what "the wall" is referring to.
It's unfortunate that by the time most of these women "wake up", it's already too late. They've squandered their best years and won't be able to attract the quality of man they feel entitled to. So, when they eventually settle for someone they consider below their standards, they will become bitter and contemptuous and likely end up cheating or separating or getting divorced.
Yup
As a teenager im glad i saw this video. I feel like ive lost sight of what is important and i simply decided i never wanted to get married some day. This video is truly eye opening. Thank you :)
Give every guy interested an opportunity, but date with a purpose. Date with the question in your mind of "Will this man be a good father? Did he have a good example growing up?". If you ever think, "No." Break up immediately. Do not waste a second with someone who you're not on the same page philosophy wise with money (you don't have to be at this same place financially, but your goals must align), life goals, and religion (if that is something that would be important to you). If you do this, you will waste far less time than these women realizing when they are 30 what they truly want. At 30, you're out of time. You've collected too much damage and you're asking too much of men to invest the time.
People will tell you it's hard out here in the dating scene, but these are people who are dating without a purpose so prone to collect serious damage.
Society scorns young love, and tries to criminalise it. Of course go at your own pace, don't be pressured into doing things too quickly if you'd be uncomfortable, but it's important that you actually do "go", you know? Dating is an investment. Of the potential people, see which romantic interests would be the best for a family setting. You'll be fine, and your work will pay off in the end when you have a whole family who loves you.
Big pharma profits from women by selling them birth control in their youth, then fertility treatments when they're older and (finally) want kids.
Corporations profit from women joining the workforce in droves because it increases the demand for jobs, gives employers bargaining power, and increases the tax base.
Academia profits from women by selling them junk degrees in "gender studies" and "critical race theory".
Banks profit from women by giving them college loans (for junk degrees) which they'll be paying interest on over decades, negatively impacting their buying power.
Don't get me started on social media. Algorithms have wrecked human interaction.
Your generation is subject to propaganda on a scale never seen before.
I kinda disagree with you on your first sentence, as a teenage girl there are lots of weird predatory guys out there and I wouldn't give every guy a chance especially if you know he is kinda guy who dates to just get sex
@@Jessibestie-tb9kw there are predatory guys who go for all ages, and good guys too. Many men's first instinct is sex, and you tell the good ones from the bad by their attitude - good will be happy when you get pregnant, bad will leave.
One could even argue that the men who go for older single women are more predatory. Those are the women who have less going for them. They aren't fertile, they generally can't perform familial actions and tasks such as cooking, a life of working has soured their outlooks, and they don't have a long future to improve these facts. They're desperate and lonely, and are less likely to get pregnant. Predatory men see that, and use them as consequence free sex dolls that will almost just roll over and accept it when they're discarded.
My mom saw the big picture way back during ERA and taught me that a woman’s place is in the home.
I was “left behind” by all of the Boss Babes who now look at me with envy *because* I have a 30-year marriage to a doctor with 7 beautiful children.
I'm in college. I've been depressed for years, my worst days are those that I don't spend with my friends that I love. People are important, I can't imagine not being able to live with/around people I love. It's so hard to feel fulfilled when you do everything for yourself, living for others and especially helping raise kids is truly the most fulfilling act I have ever come across.
The Title was "I'm 38 and single, and I recently realized I want a child." That's NOT the voice of a woman who wants to be a wife. That's a woman who just wants a child. Careful Gents and pay close attention.
Women have their own agenda...and men are the means to that agenda.
In the full text she does admit to have been selfish
God bless this girl. I got married at 22 and had my first child at 24. 38 now. Still married to the same man. Two kids. I must admit, at times I felt like a loser comparing myself to all the girl bosses around me… not anymore. My daughters are the biggest blessing of my life! And I plan to build a career once the little one goes to school once she is 4 year old.
Great job
Same here, I married and had my three children at my twenties I enjoyed looking after my babies 🤍now that they grown up and cannot have other babies due to infertility (thank God I had them before )
I can definitely focus on my career
I’m 26 and a stay-at-home mom of two (soon to be three). I unexpectedly fell pregnant with my first when I was in occupational therapy school. I was encouraged to stick with it, as my father lost his father at a young age and was raised in poverty because his mother had no career skills. I graduated (on time) and I have my license, which I’m so grateful to have, but I’m glad I had my first when I did. I realized the “grind” lifestyle of juggling work and kids wasn’t for me or my family. I felt like I never saw my husband or baby and it hurt my marriage a lot for the time being. I’m grateful to have a husband who supports me being at home and the work I do raising our children; I know lots of women can’t say the same.
Awww❤
@Kwildcat13oh absolutely 😅 But for context, I was told by my doctor that I would have a hard time conceiving due to a medication I was taking at the time. On top of other preventative measures we were taking, we thought odds would be pretty low!
Turns out, doctors can be wrong. 😂
One simple question always deflates the whole deal:
"Boss of what?"
Actual answer 90% of the time? A lot of debt + buyer's remorse.
(And either a dog or a cat or a bird or a reptile or an invertebrate -- listed in descending order of likelihood.)
they do be sayin, "we girl bosses of patriarchy", i dunno. these broads makes fool of themselves.
Totally. I’m happy for cats and dogs though that they got their best lives out of this though lol
It's just being a boss of their life, which rings hollow for men who will literally be living on the streets if they don't do that. Yeah you take care of yourself, so what? So many narratives around feminism really do have a childish feel, just like the beginnings of feminism had, and smart women felt that was very patronizing. I think it was. Things were on the upswing, but then like everything else, our culture totally regressed and now we freely pander and condescend. We almost have to now, it's demanded as such. It's so pathetic that I can never actually do it, because I sincerely expect them to be offended by such things. Safe to say most won't be offended these days, like I said they expect it, but it's just wrong. They're actually screwing up their goal of real equality when it's possible, I'm the one holding the line.
Silicone 😂
@@MikeTheD
"They're actually screwing up their goal of real equality when it's possible, I'm the one holding the line."
Or that was never their real goal, it's not actually possible, and you're chasing a pipe dream.
One borne of a grift.
(Food for thought.)
I'm not sure how it's the men's job to encourage, welcome or support women who make bad choices. It's the bed you made, lie in it.
Men don’t get this either by the way to. If u can’t make money or find a job it’s still your fault.
I’m 24, almost 25 and have 2 babies and my husband and I both work full time. Our kids don’t have to be in daycare because we work for the same employer and they schedule us opposite each other, and let me tell you, it’s killing me inside. The full time is new to me, we’ve got some financial freedom goals we want to meet, and when we do I cannot wait to be home all the time with my babies and have more. I have NEVER condoned the feminist movement. Being a young mom is the best decision I’ve been in my entire life.
I have a career, but I know when I get married my family is going to be my main priority and a way greater source of happiness, so sad how so many young girls were lied to😔
You know not everyone wants to get married or really is meant to nor is going to get the same level of meaning and happiness in their life from it
you can have a career and a family. I hope you get married soon girl
@@calebhicks4441 That's a lie.
@@hhd307no you can't.
@@calebhicks4441I know marriage is not for everyone, that’s why I said it’ll be a greater source of happiness for myself, because everyone’s life looks different❤️
As a girl I wanted to focus on my carreer and school before getting married. I'm now a 23 year old college senior doing online school and stay at home mom of a 5 month old, living on my husband's income. I am so thankful for the course my life has taken. I truly love every minute of it.
I'm applauding you. Hang in there. It's tough, but you can totally do it. Motherhood is one of the most beautiful and challenging and rewarding things in the world. ❤
Good man
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I am currently pregnant with my 4th, and I am also an RN. I only work 1 to 2 days a week. Thankful and blessed my husband takes the bulk of the bread winning, im completely okay with it. I love having my 2 shifts a week and being SAHM for the rest of week. Both sides, work and home make me appreciate the other when im gone. I dont feel over worked and when I work, I mkss being home and being a wife and mom.
I lost my woman card in the 90s because we had our first child and I wanted to stay at home with her. I didn't expect that at all. When we got married, I was so sure that I didn't want children, until I did. I was so sure that I could deposit the baby at daycare, until I had to do it day after day. My poor husband was amazing throughout all of this. He told me that I would change my mind when we got married and didn't press me on it. He was 100% right and thankfully we are still married and our kids are grown. But the crap I dealt with from other women was ridiculous. I was in mom's forums back in the 90s and 2000s, they were in their girl boss eras but at least they were having kids. I got it from irl women and some men!
It’s disgusting men have to deal with women being so sure of what almost always is complete and utter nonsense. Politics /values being top of this list.
You’re damn lucky your husband tolerated all your childish girl boss nonsense.
The women card is being a traditional wife, not the boss-B. Card😂
@@JohnAnderson-ev3lp I said that because I was legit told that I was dragging women back blah blah blah.
I agree. I spent a long time in school getting a BSN and RN license and put off having kids. One of the directors of the program flat out told us "don't get pregnant" because they wouldn't work with us if we needed to missed anything. A few years later, I was hired by a surgical dept. and asked if I had kids. I said no and the nurse I was talking to said, "Yeah. (So-and-so) likes her nurses unattached." She was referring to the director of surgical services. When I was finally pregnant with my first, I told director and she said, "Yeah. I thought you were going to do that." I've never had that kind of treatment from male bosses.
Why do women get so defensive about things that are plainly obvious? Reminds me of this exchange between Gavin McInnes, and some dem lady on Hannity years back. "How DARE you suggest I want to be a stay at home wife and mother! I love my job!" Guess who got married and disappeared from politics?
Thank you so much for this video. I am at this very place at 36 years old, and I think this is more important than anything to show to this newest generation. My mother had 2 girls in her 20s, and went back to college in her early 50s and became an RN. I, on the other hand, went to college, got a Bachelor's degree in English, was not able to get a job with that degree, put off getting married and having kids, and now am at the poverty line about to start a second job, single, and about to run out of time to have children. You can always go back for that degree or career. Once you pass that fertility window in your life, you cannot go back and have children. Please young women, if you do want a family and children, put this first now. You can have the career and degree at any time. Start your family now.
Yep it shows a life is not a one way ticket you only get one chance. As you can replace a broken car or buy another one but you can't buy another human or replace them. Wants a life form is gone that's it.
If you don’t mind answering I have a question for you, I’m a women older than you, but I sometimes consume “ Red pill” content, and since you have Brett’s video’s on your content list, I’m curious if you ever watch that content?
I'm so glad I never fell for the whole "Girl boss" thing. And my friends are saying I should, but I just... want to he happy? And my idea of happiness happens to be more trad.I have a job I love but I'm more than happy to start a family soon, just waiting for the right time (hopefully soon)
The culture was women telling women that crap. I have never met a man of any value encourage their daughters or women that the girl boss path was the way.
What about the men who were rejected by these women, these men who don’t have sons or daughters to snuggle with because these girl bosses wanted to sleep with random men and get that bag?
I’m sorry I’m not going to pay these women on the head and say it’s ok- they were selfish and now want to be told it’s ok when it’s not.
As humans we judge people all the time not their past behaviors, and we should change that people some 40 year old woman wants babies.
To sum it up, staying at home and looking after your kids is far more feminine than trying to do everything by yourself. Also, on an unrelated note, Brett's segways into talking about sponsors are always so smooth and unexpected.
To go further than that, why do we have to be feminine? Why do we have to be masculine? Why do we have to "be" anything and fit an image or mold to be acceptable or "do life right"? If you're happy, you're happy. You're the one living your life, you're the only one experiencing it every day.
Barely an Inconvenience 😂
My husband and I laugh so hard every time she catches us off-guard.😂
Of course that plan requires a spouse that brings in enough to support the household alone.
That segway was as smooth as silk. Great technique
"It seems that today individuals who do not have the Y chromosome are already labeled as strong, independent , bosses and empowered" - The Critical Drinker
Read that in a Scottish accent…
With the angry rasp to emphasize each sentence
That's *THE MESSAGE* Hollywoke is trying to push.
When I went to college in the 70's the feminist wave was breaking over our heads; no one ever said "I want to be a home-maker, and raise my own kids rather than pay someone else to do so". But in my heart that was what I really wanted. I avoided getting a job that was "too good to quit", married a man who agreed, and ended up having nine children. I have never regreted my choice. P. S. Don't despair about age: I had four children in my 40's.
Daycare is crazy high, too. My brother told me some years ago how much he paid for daycare, for one child, in a year in CA. 14k
You’re an inspiration. I’m 40 and pregnant with my 3rd and sometimes I worry I’m too old to do this 😄
I would not advise young women in an era pushing women to delay having kids if they want them. Health problems related to both women and child are far higher past 35 and that's assuming she can get pregnant, since fertility drastically drops off and having four children in your forties is an exception to the many women whose fertility has made it next to impossible to have children.
Thank you 🥲
@@loganblackwood2922Thissss!! Especially since most are being vaccinated with the COVID vaccine. My sister was perfectly fine, she got her vaccine and boosters for work, went to the doctor 6 months later and got told her egg count was extremely low at the age of 21. She has no genetic or non genetic conditions that would cause infertility, the only thing different was the vaccines.
9:00 The reason there is such an orgy of schadenfreude is because we (men) have been screaming this from the rooftops, with women trashing us. Women have been rejecting good men in exchange for work and it has sucked.
What women should be saying is, "I didn't listen, I screwed up my life, younger women, learn from my mistakes." That's it. Take responsibility and pass wisdom on to the younger generation, and enjoy the frustration that men have been feeling when they ignore you like you ignored us.
Absolutely LOVE this video and commentary. I feel so bad for the women who bought the Girl Boss lie at the expense of a family. If you can't birth your own kiddos, divorce rates are crazy high. There's a lot of single dads out there, be an amazing step-mom! Adopt! Foster! There are tons of kids who need decent adults in their lives.
No 90% of child custody goes to the 304 mom, how about you marry the average joe 😂😂😂😂😂
This video is about women who probably aren't going to have their own children because they waited too long. I don't understand your comment. @@AK-American
I believe that people in general should not be so focused about what other people want them to do/think/say. Because its most of the time not what they really want and they will regret it. If you want to have kids, do it. Dont listen to people that say "but you have to have a career", when you dont want to it. Dont listen to people that say "but as a woman you have to have children to be happy", when you dont want to. I never did something that i did not want to, just because someone else said "but thats what you are supposed to do".
I never wanted children ever (i had a relationship for 20 years and after that time he broke up with me because of another woman) and now i am 43 and very happy living on my own. I got a new job, bought my own house and i love my alone time. I am sooo glad that i never got a child because other people say that as a woman you should want to have one.
This is exactly what I was going to write before I read your comment. :) A part of feminism is the freedom to choose how you want your life to be. There is nothing un-feminist about being a homemaker, neither as it is to choose a career over kids. As long as we are not surrendering to any trend-pressure, rather choosing what we truly want - I think we have cracked the code! 😊
Yup - the point of feminism is that you have the choice.
My carreer fulfills me. I know this is what I'm meant to do. My mom quit her job to raise my siblings and I, and she made it known that she resented that choice. My man admires that my first love is work so I'm lucky I'm supported in following my own desires.
It truly depends on the person. Maybe I will change in the future. That's the beauty of like - I get a choice.
You are right! We should focus one what we think not what the social media and society think 😅
Exactly you know yourself better than anyone don’t let anyone pressure you.glad you’re happy
Married at 24, we adopted our daughter at 33, quit my job at 35 while pregnant with my daughter. Now at forty have two more biological babies. My children, my husband, my family and faith are my life. As hard as it was to reject feminism at the time, I am so glad I did. These are the most important things!
I turn 30 this year and I was driven to be a “girl boss” over 10 years ago. I enlisted in the Marines at 17, it didn’t work out. I enlisted in the Army at 19 and served for 5 years and it was my excuse to get away from a toxic broken home and to also break generational curses. I also was the first female ever in both my mom and dad side to enlist.
I seen when my parents were divorced when I was 14 and my mom was left with nothing but a house and the kids and working a minimum wage job, I decided I didn’t want to be like my parents. I worked 3/4 jobs at a time even when I was pregnant and had HG then had preeclampsia. My son is almost 8 and I raise him alone with no help/support. If I have another baby, I want to be married, I before never wanted marriage and kids because of how I was brought up.
I gotta give you respect for enlisting in the Marines and the Army. Sucks you had to go through a lot of family shenanigans. I don't want to spew spiel but there is always a chance that things will tip in your favor.
I wouldn't call going in the military "girlbossism", in your case it seemed more like escapism.
@@caffeinatedinsanity2324 I agree with the escapism in regards to the military. But Girlboss ism was just me being independent, and not allowing a man to do anything for me not even the man I had a child with.
In Canada houses are over a million dollars for a small old one, and full time workers can't afford one, so to be left with 'nothing but a house' is like being left with 'nothing but the lottery'.
@@Druidlord91 that’s not how it is in the states. My mom still had to pay the mortgage and taxes on the house along with the children she had. Just because you’re enough at the house doesn’t mean it you have security. It got to the point where my mother couldn’t afford the house anymore on her own so she had to give up her house.
@katherinerodz that's still good though. J would get tenants to pitch in on the rent because a house is worth a lot but I guess it's cheaper I n the US I saw house prices to compare and it's insanely different.
I was a stay at home mother in 1987. I maintained the home, yard, shopped and cooked and did the bills. I took my two girls to school everyday, helped in the classroom and was a girl scout leader. I was told my my husband of 15 years that all I wanted was a meal ticket and he left me for his 23 year old pregnant girlfriend. He threw his family away and destroyed me and his children for his selfish needs. I can only hope stay at home moms will be valued in the future.
The right partner strengthens you as an individual while simultaneously supporting the relationship. I'm so glad Brett said this because it's 100% true. I feel more comfortable and focused on what I love with my husband because he pushes me to be better, fulfill my goals, and provides protection while doing so. I wish for more women to have this same experience.
Love this. As a child and teenager, I always knew I wanted to be a mom one day. When I entered the university after high school, I had my 1-2 year phase of "no I don't want kids the world is too messed up for kids and the planet cannot sustain more kids and blah blah blah." But in that same time I was falling in love with my now husband (just married last summer), and I soon realized that this was the real deal and that he would be my forever person. For the past few years we have been doing our independent/careerist/education thing (him building an online teaching platform and me going back to school for a master's) and doing some travel, but all under the assumption that we will start our family in the next few years. Now almost everyday we talk about how excited we are to have kids one day while still doing our own thing right now. Society acts as if that's not possible and is oppressive?? It's frustrating being an ambitious and educated young woman (24) who cares about social change who also wants to be a mom one day relatively soon because none of my peers or friends care or talk about wanting kids anytime soon (or at all). Even my family, who I love dearly and who is so supportive, always makes these comments about how I shouldn't have kids for a loooong time and I get the vibe that they'd be disappointed in me if I became pregnant at 26 or 27. It's a weird pressure coming from them, but my husband and I know what we want and are so happy about it.
Are we the same person? I feel the EXACT same pressure from my family. My husband and I got married when I was 21 (25 now) and we want a family. We have chosen to wait a bit longer until I'm further in my masters program, but the amount of people that have told me not to get pregnant until years from now is appalling. Thankfully, my husband and I have shut those people out. I'm glad you and your husband are happy planning towards your family!
Oh Sweet Young Ladies, have those babies!!!! Families are the most precious blessing a young couple will ever experience. Once your first baby arrives, you’ll wonder where have you been my whole life!!! You’ll be the best mom ever because you’ll absolutely LOVE your baby.
I’m 21 and it scares me that I might not have kids till later. Everyone thinks I’m crazy for wanting kids now and wanting at least 5
It’s crazy 21 used to be a totally normal time to have kids. I’m 21 with one baby and we plan on 8 lol people do think im crazy although that used to be the norm
@@stajia4694 Exactly everyone I speak to about it thinks it’s unrealistic or that it’s not possible especially since I want to be a stay at home mom and homeschool my kids, but my mom was a stay at home mom and her and my stepdad have 6. But congrats on the little one! And good luck with your future babies!
I'm almost 29 and still don't have kids. I was never thinking about it, but now that I'm getting closer to 30 I keep wondering about it and I feel lost.
LOL I'm a man and women run from me when I say I want atleast 4 kids
I'm 15, turning 16 this year and I couldn't be happier that I absolutely do NOT have this mindset, I honestly wanted to be a stay at home wife when I get married in the future, I want a family, I want to be **happy**. I'm glad that a lot of these women are finally realizing the mistakes they made and are finally owning up to them, praying for the future generations, it could potentially only get worse from here.
There past the point of no return
You are on the right path. Most chicks are at a point of no return and, like the ones in these videos, are trying to run to the backups (but the men are not there anymore in a lot of cases)
You're gonna go far, kid.
i am 40, I have a great career, a great husband and children. Please don‘t listen to her..having your own career is crucial to happiness. All you need is a husband who is doing 50 percent of everything and you‘ll be fine.
@@goodygroo True, true.. Of course I plan on having my own job, but y'know, being a stay at home wife would always be another option if my partner wanted that as well. I'd probably find ways to make my own money even still like selling things I don't need or whatever but yeah, I definitely plan on having a job otherwise.
My wife was 38 when we met, we have two children and now one grandchild. It can be done, focus on what is truly important to YOU!
Thanks for the hope! ❤ I'm 36 and finally able to start trying for a baby, and I've been anxious about pushing my luck
@@wordsofwinter My mom had me at 34 and my sister at 36 you should be good. And my mom had no issues during her pregnancy 👍
Exactly, it’s either hyper feminist approach or over correcting it! Each direction has its pros and cons and only you -man or woman- will know what best works for you
Just because it _can_ be done, doesn't mean it should.
Yall could have easily had impaired children because of her age mate.
Count yourself _lucky_
@@wordsofwinterchasing chad for 18 years....tf is wrong with yall today 🤣
I've worked in a hospice for 8 years and thoae that are happiest at the end are surrounded by a Loving family that they have a good relationship with.
There will be a lot of aged, lonely women (and men) in the coming decades - dying alone.
@@wandertree Yes but the difference is there has always been a lot of men dyng alone, this is a very new dynamic for women. It is very hard, men have been dealing with it for age eternal, women are far less prepared for such loneliness, imo they are built needing such relationships much more than the average man.
@@JB-mg5lw Most single men thrive though while single women are sad and remorseful.
I left my very prestige job for having a family and race a kids at age of 32, although I was so brainwashed thinking that is still early and I got plenty of time, I got lucky 🍀 my partner was more grounded than me, got my first and only one child at 36 after struggling with two miscarriages and pregnancy difficulties ( find out you need to be aware about this type of complications when you waist your time for so long)! After my first child I could not have more because i pure and simple wasn’t in my twenties but in my almost forties. At age of 41 my period is almost gone and the chances for getting pregnant are lower.
So this is what happens when I decided to get children after age of 30, you may want but your body may have something else in mind!
Not to mention how many women I know are struggling with in vitro procedures in their forties most of them not successful and damaging not only for their bodies but for their mental health too!
So put your priorities in order and don’t forget that we women have some short period of time when we can have children and we cannot stretch that time as long as we want!
My wife and I's first marriages were not good. I had 2 sons, and she had a son and daughter. She worked during her first marriage and I'm more traditional, but when we met and fell in love, I was willing to consider a more modern marriage. She was 35 and I was 31 and she got pregnant (a miracle actually) we decided to have the child as my wife said at the time we were discussing options, that there was no way that she could get rid of something that came from us. Because she felt safe with me, she was willing to give up her independence and become dependent on me, but I earned those feelings from her by showing her that i wasn't going anywhere and I wanted to build a happy family. She took on the traditional role of stay at home mom and it was difficult at first because she had never done it. It took a while and she struggled hard, because raising a small child is very difficult and takes true dedication to do it well. When it came to making the choice, she could not leave our child and after that point she embraced it and loved every minute of it. She was free to make this decision because I am one of the good men and she felt safe with me, as she should. Being a good man isn't that big of a deal, but men seem to not want to do what is required. I love the responsibility. My career meant nothing more to me than being able to bring home the bacon. I worked 12 to 14 hours a day and when I got home, I was happy to spend time with our now two babies, two girls. If you want it to work, it's simple, very simple. Truly love one another. It is now 36 years later, and I live to make her happy as she lives to make me happy and we have been blissfully in love the entire time. Out of our 6 children all but one is traditional. All three daughters are or have been stay at home moms and are raising their children and anchoring their families with love and devotion. Love really is the answer. Do we need women? Not to live and exist, not really. Do women need men? Not really. Do we need each other to find a happiness that can never be found alone? Yes. Love is truly the only thing worth living for. I worked that hard for my family, why else would I work so hard. My wife gave her all to our family and when you have both partners working together to make their family work, it is truly glorious. Always remember that love is all that matters in life. We now have 22 grandchildren, and it won't be long that we will be having great grandchildren. Thank you for your show.
This is an absolutely amazing story 🥹❤️ so inspiring
I chose marriage and kids over a career. Now that my kids are teens, I am criticized because I don't want to go to work now. I am still raising my kids and I am happy with my decision.
Yes! I was asked "when are you going to go to work and help your husband?" My being at home and managing things, including a large garden, has allowed my husband to advance in his career. Like you, we are happy with our decision.
Right now it’s important for our society to find balance, because neither the 1950s housewife or girl boss lifestyles worked out for most women. Also, that shade of green is so pretty and flattering on Brett.
Strangely enough, if you look at the real history and not the one peddled by feminists, most women at the time (near 70%) didn't want the vote and thought leaving the home for work was a bad idea. It was forced on the population because the government wanted more taxes and corporations getting to stagnate wages by doubling the manpower. The housewife lifestyle worked fine, being bored is normal when technology makes everything too easy, women just need to learn to do as men do and get a friggin hobby.
Funny you should mention the color green.
Trad women aren't happy.
Boss babes aren't happy.
And when part-time boss babes aren't happy? I'm sure y'all will find a new shade of green on the other side of yet another fence that you figure will be the ultimate winner.
1850's housewife 4 lyfe
@@SeaRaven227 When trad housewives weren't managing their household, they worked for their community. Planning social events, watching each other's children, cooking for each other, etc. Everyone is lonely and miserable now, it almost seems like atomization was a net negative.
I think most women are happiest when they are prioritizing their family and home and have a part time job that is meaningful to them, even if it makes little money.
They not taking responsibility, they are hopping for a men to pick up their slacks. They not only failed to fullfill their role as a women, they also failed to become a strong independent women. Now that the clock is running out is when they want men to save them. Meanwhile us men continued working on ourself to have something to offer to our future wife and mother of our children. Thats why we prefeer young because at this stage in our life we cannot risk loosing a child due to being high risk.
While i am glad they waking up and trully wish them the best, men will not be picking up the slacks of a women that rejected us because she thought she could do better. We want the one girl that stays with us when we had nothing, not the one that wants us after we accomplished everything
Agreed. If we aren't the first pick brother, we're last.
I don’t care if some women want careers, I just hope we are moving towards a point where young girls/women are equally encouraged to take either path. I was pushed very hard from a young age and never felt like being a regular person or stay at home woman was an option. I came to my senses after a year of college and it took years to not feel terrible about myself for not achieving a big career. But it was never something I wanted, it was pushed on me. Also you don’t have to just stay at home and never be part of society. I’ve worked part time for years now, and my plan when I become a mother is to have little side gigs for extra money, to continue growing my skill set, have a break from being at home, etc. I’m looking at teaching YMCA classes, tutoring , or I’ve already had experience teaching painting classes 🎨
Not to insult your intellect or abilities, but there's a 99% certainty is that you'd never have had "a big carrier" anyway. That's only available to a select few for a long number of reasons, while for a vast majority of others it's a proverbial carrot in front of a donkey. Even a decent carrier is hard to achieve - and, what's more important, not that much of a win in the end. It's actually a strong family that's the main prize in life. You seem to be on the right track, so good luck to you with that!
I totally agree! The first 5 years out of high school I was working so hard to achieve a big career and putting everything on my education. Then I suddenly realized that I was not doing this because I wanted to do it, but because I felt like I had to, like I was a failure otherwise. Now I am married since last summer and we want kids soon and for me to be home with them for a few years. I am so excited for it.
It is encouraged for women to take either path. Conservatives like Brett are skewing what is actually happening in reality.
@@ВладимирКруглов-к9оBy "big career" most people don't mean becoming the CEO of Tesla. A "big career" can mean being a teacher, software engineer, nurse, secretary, librarian, etc. or content creator for the Daily Wire, which is what Brett does.
I think there are problems beyond the career/motherhood choice. My sister's in her mid-twenties and a lot of her friends seem to be clinging to adolescent (hanging out, getting high, operating on three hours sleep through choice, gratification). If the average life expectancy was 45, people would need to make a decision about what they wanted with a level of urgency. But for some people it can be easy to waste their twenties, and leave a narrow window for growing up and settling down. As a dude, I lost my twenties to depression and lethargy. It was only in my mid to late 30s, I worked out that I wanted things from life beyond the avoidance of pain. Oops. I just think it would save people pain if they could work out what they want by 25. Otherwise, it seems easy to be adrift.
I worked before getting married and the first year and half of my marriage. I was so depressed. My values weren’t being lived out. I got pregnant with our first baby and my husband saw how unhappy i was. He said “do you wanna stop working?” I nodded. He said “then stop working. We’ll figure it out.” That was 11 years ago and I’ve been able to dedicate myself to raising our kids, taking care of my family and home was always my ultimate dream ❤ I’m so fulfilled
It doesn't help that these "girl bosses" were stepping on the good men that would have married them for 10 years. Those good men have good reason to be resentful.
The metoo movement only affects actual good men and makes them risk averse, while the bad boys and dark triad people could care less about such things…
And cautious
My mother kept working when she had me (partly because she had to, my parents didn't habe enough money) but she never prioritized her career over her family.
You don't have to choose, you can find a compromise.
She both has a healthy kid and a good marriage and is fulfilled in her career.
I have a gym instructor friend who I've worked out with for the last 10 years. She was in her forties and regularly commented about how glad she had never gotten married or had kids. At 45 she found out she was pregnant. She was terrified and the father initially stepped out of the picture as he was also terrified. Eventually he came back and they got married. She just turned 50 and can't imagine a life without her daughter and husband.
Wow, good for them!
One of the interesting things I've noticed when women in their mid-40's get pregnant, they usually deliver the babies without event. It's like nature's final hurrah before the system shuts down. True Crime host Nancy Grace got pregnant & delivered twins at 48. She had dated her BF for years but they got married soon after finding she was pregnant.
I'm so proud of the woman who shared that open letter. That's so hard to admit. I'm praying for this woman and hope she finds what she's looking for!! ❤️
I have been shamed by my family for saying I’d want to be a stay at home mom even by my mom who IS a stay at home mom. I’ve been told by my dad to “not sell myself short” my aunt at thanksgiving was condescendingly like “yOU wAnT to DEpEnD oN a mAN” ???? Like yes that’s exactly what I want 😂 I want to focus on having kids and raising them and baking brownies and cupcakes for school bake sales and decorating and going to games and dance classes to support my children. I get in this economy I need to have the means and the funds to support my life but if that could be done with just one income I shouldn’t be shamed for wanting to focus on taking care of myself and my family and home.
You will be such a blessing and joy to your future husband and kids someday. These are wonderful things to pursue.
@@wandertree thanks you that means a lot 🥹
I think the reason so many encourage working is due to "what ifs?" Like what if your spouse becomes abusive, or dies, or loses their good paying job?
@@megankissinger8269why don’t these people also tell ” what if’s” for men? Before marrying or marrying a promi$cious women, or stay at home wife? Considering family courts are rigged against men and women initiate 8/10 of the divorce cases so there’s no ”advice “ for men instead men are shamed and name called into getting married or date promi$cious women.
It’s scary how selfcentred and di$gustingly selfish female nature is
It can be done, even on varying degrees of income level! Budgeting, saving, being thrifty and sacrificing material things for your family life is well worth the effort!!
They say the universe has a way of balancing itself out is that what’s happening
My parents got divorced when I was little. Because of this, my mom wanted me to have a career because "you never know what will happen in life and you need to have options." When I was 27 and I wanted to pause my career to have a family, I felt guilty for the money my parents had spent on my education. To this, my mom replied, "We paid for your education so that you would have choices in life, not so you would be trapped". I took several years off while keeping a toe in the waters and prioritizing my family. With my kids being older now and leaving for college, I am in my career again (which I love doing). If you want to give up a career for a family that is great. But it is also possible just to pause your career.
Yeah well said !
Way back in 1978 when I was starting out in the insurance industry, at a home office new employee training session I asked if the company was prepared to pay male employees well enough to support their families when the wife is a homemaker and doesn't work outside the home. You should have seen the icy cold stares I got from senior executives.
Exactly all this talk about family values is just talk, companies are not there to support a real family. Part of the conversation is not simply that women "chose" to have a career, she had to have a career. I grew up in the 1970's and that was the last generation of really traditional families. In 1978, gas 48 cents a gallon, one could still buy a home in California, for 50k. The same homes today are for 1 million dollars.
Bold!
Presently in our country the norm is two income household for average folks which started at the time of my parents' generation precisely because it's hard to survive on just one income. A house and lot today is worth millions and most people takes themmore than 20 years to own one if they can afford it. During our parents time they can buy those even if they have a regular office job/one income for significantly less amount of time. The average number of children significantly decreased too because it's just too expensive and if you're both working it's hard to raise if you have more kids. So even if you would love to be a stay at home mom focusing only on your family you have no choice but to work, and not just work but a work with a decent pay. Women here still have careers while still having family. I think part of it making it possible is family culture. Extended family is a thing and they lend a hand in raising the kids, not just the parents. Or if you're still single it's pretty normal that you still live with your parents or for some even if you have your own family you still live in one house or your house is just a few blocks away. Also most of the people here are the happy types even when lacking of material things and knows how to have a good time. Laws also have been passed to be pro family in recent years so businesses don't have a choice but to follow.
After getting married at 22 and having my son at 23, I have been having this incredible urge to shout from the rooftops to all women to get married young and have all the babies! I am so grateful. The love in my home is so tangible & I wish the culture didn’t send the opposite message to young women. There’s absolutely no reason to wait! My son was a surprise, but I’m so glad things didn’t happen in my timing.
I hope this shift continues in young girls today ❤
Strongly disagree with the no reason to wait, there are absolutely reasons to wait at least a little bit, the last thing you want is to end up with the wrong person
@@silentassasin-q8l I agree that there can be a few reasons to wait. The main one being maturity level. However, my husband & I along with all of my close friends all married our first boyfriends. Why? Because we dated with the intention of marriage. Other friends, as soon as they knew they didn’t want to marry their partner, would end things.
When my husband and I were getting married we kept being told to wait because of money or to wait to get into our careers. When we got pregnant we were told the same thing. We couldn’t have kids because of money. Thankfully, we serve a God who always provides. We also trust Him to guide our every decision. We’ve never been in lack, therefore, all the people telling us to wait were wrong.
It’s not a coincidence why Christians are usually the ones to get married young. We’re on a very narrow path in life & when we find someone who’s on it too, we know.
@@silentassasin-q8l Hello! I’m grateful for your comment because I realize that I didn’t consider this side. I agree that there are legitimate reasons to wait.
My husband & I are Christian (even though our families aren’t) and we were always told that we couldn’t do x, y, and x because of money. We know that the Word of God says that we have no need to worry because He’ll provide for our every need. This promise has held true!
I also want to mention that myself and many of my Christian friends have all married their first boyfriends because we dated with the intention of marriage like in the old days. If we ever saw a quality that we didn’t want for our future family, we would call it off. The majority of the world doesn’t live this way which I think makes your point more valid. However, I stand by what I said in my original comment. It would only be the most ideal if people lived the way that God intends for them.
Nah..pointing fingers at feminism is just another way to not take accountability for yourself. Not gonna wake up until you accept SELF accountability.
modern feminism is definitely lying to you, but YOU are the one who just bit into it hook line and sinker.
I am a stay at home mom, in my 30s. I have a college degree, but my husband (also in his 30s) and I have 4 children (ages 4 months, 4, 10 & 13) & I am most valuable to our family at home. Most families on one income struggle (we struggle yall) but we will NEVER get this time back with our kids & it's worth everything to us & them. I can only speak for myself & my family. Be child-less, single forever & all independent, everything.. if that's what YOU REALLY want. Don't let social media talk you into or out of anything. Make your own decisions for yourself.
It’s really sad to see, i turn 30 in August and I am married with 3 beautiful children, my youngest is starting school next fall and im going back to work then and im only doing that to support our kiddos extra curricular activities . At first i wondered if i was doing it right, and after seeing these women I know I made the right decision
I’ve never commented on a UA-cam video but this video is just too good! I grew up in a broken home and spent my high school years vowing never to get marriage! Fast forward to college when the Lord intervened and healed my heart through learning His design for marriage and sexuality. I am now 24, married to a man who wakes up early to pray and that I can trust 100000% and we have a beautiful daughter and a son on the way! I stay at home and he works his butt off to make ends meet! Making our marriage the first priority has made the journey to our dreams and financial security so much fun and I get to do it with my best friend! Don’t wait to get married, nothing is more important than the relationship between a man and a woman in society bc that is what builds the next generation! Fancy cars and steakhouses won’t be going to eternity with you, your spouse and children are the only things meeting you there! God bless!
So glad god led me to my husband and I’m currently pregnant w my first child at 21. I feel like I got a head start on life in the best way possible and that’s even after I went to college and got a dual license in cosmetology in IL and OH. I have the license and worked my career job and now I’m at staying a family and we’re gonna have a big family and I couldn’t be happier about it all 🥰🥰🥰 it’s so worth it
It took my wife and I seven years to have a baby. During that time we continued our education, developed our careers and came to realization that everything else is completely meaningless if we didn't have somone to pass it on to.
Amazing. The beacon of hope. As someone who is going through some nasty stuff just because I dont seem to embrace feminism, you Brett are a savior. Not all is lost. Thank you and all human beings sincerely for being out there! ❤
Got married at 21. Got pregnant right away but ended up miscarrying. Struggled to get pregnant after that. Ended up adopting our son 3 years ago. We’ve had a few hard times (who doesn’t) but I am 1000% happier now then when I was single. I get to stay at home with my son, take care of him and my husband. Who could ask for more??
Brett I agree with you on most things but this.
I cannot encourage anyman to get involved with damaged women just because "society told them so" that's utter BS.
I managed to be a millionaire in a 3rd world country and now all options are available to me and no way I'm dating anyone above 25 or single mother who's partner is still alive that's BS.
Society told our generation many things male and female no excuses, the best survived and the rest are now in tears.