Girls, Let’s Be More Feminine This Summer
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- Опубліковано 26 кві 2024
- Women want to start dressing 'feminine' again, and it seems men want this too. Today, we're talking about the item of clothing that men are most obsessed with: sundresses.
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As a man who likes women, I am 100% in favor of this trend.
I second that!
I third
@@CrazyWeatherDude I would like to third that good sir
Me as well
Im not really good at english.
Should i say:
I wanna fourth that
???
When women wear sundresses, they seem so relaxed and happy. It's the woman, not really the dress.
Amazing
Awww❤
A good sundress changes our mood for sure. They’re super easy to put on, light, and comfy. And when they have pockets… it’s like the heavens have opened.
@@melindamercier6811 and for us guys seeing yall in a sundress drives us crazy
We love feminine women. Thats it. We do not love masculine, argumentative women because in our eyes they are not women.
Over 30 years ago I worked with an older gentleman who, upon seeing the first bright sunny day of spring declared, “the best thing about spring is all the ladies in their beautiful dresses. It’s like looking at a flower garden”. His sweet remark has always stayed with me.
That’s a beautiful thought. Thanks for sharing😊
We are flowers!!
Aw ❤
He is not wrong.
How nice to know there was a time when men didn’t have pornified brains.
The “old money” mixed with “sundress season” look is so graciously going to be the best thing that’s ever happened this summer
I am so excited for it!
I’m sorry what does that have to do with old money I understand dressing for feminism if that makes you happy, but honestly with the economy being the way it is and those guys don’t even make enough money by dressing them into going to think that they get a chance to be around, feminine without paying a dime
this video inspired me, a 14 yo girl, to get out of my bed and sweatpants. i put on a dress and did my hair to go to walmart, this is actually the best i've felt in so long 😭
YESSS we love that❤️
something about being in a dress and doing everyday things makes me feel different for sure:)
Sooo cute 🥰
Most guys aren't much different, even though we pretend to be.
The right outfit(s) can boost your confidence to the point where, you eventually feel confident in whatever you're wearing.
It doesn't matter what you look like, only what you *_feel_* like. Just ask my overweight, but *_confident_* (and hilarious) best friend who dated some of the hottest girls in our school.
Keep it up, young lady! Always worth it to feel your best leaving the house!
It's official: Brett is the Internet Big Sister of all the confused young women of the Internet.
She’s a great role model
And Internet Big Sister for all the non-confused ones too :)
You might be on to something? I'm over 50 but still marvel at Brett's simple common sense approach to today's trends. I can't understand why so many young folks are swimming against the current?
Hey, as a 31-year-old man from Sweden, Brett also helps me ease my mind. I am in the exact same line of thinking as her and it's so refreshing hearing a woman talk to women about the same thing. I boost my male friends all the time so they can become the greatest and not listen to this modern domestication - earn masculinity, protect femininity.
Even for older viewers. Though I'm only a few years older than her 😅
This is a great Video. This brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 5 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
I am sorry about what you have been through. I have been through something similar and was almost depressed, till I contacted a spiritual counsellor who helped me get my ex back and hence my life back.
Interesting. Who is this counsellor, and how do I meet the person?
Online, you'll find shelly renee white, revered for her expertise as a spiritual counsellor. She has the ability to reunite couples and promote holistic well-being
Thanks a lot. I just did. Impressive.
The spiritual counsellor sounds really sketchy, like witchcraft. Id be careful with that.
My favourite photo of my daughter is of her mum pushing her on a swing in a field in the middle of summer with them both in her in a Spanish dress and her mother a sundress.
It's just a truly wholesome, feminine picture and I cherish the photo and the memory.
That’s really nice :). I never wear skirts mostly because I feel like they’re a pain when running around with my kids so I really like your comment. Paints a nice mental picture ❤
@NovasUA-camName i can appreciate your struggle there haha and thank you
My fiancé & I met when I was 16 years old, that day I was wearing a sundress (I had just left a summer wedding)... well we didn’t talk or see each other again until I was 27! when he recognized me he said, “Oh! You’re Maria with the sundress” over a decade later and he remembered me as if a week had passed.
I will always advocate for sundresses!
That is the purest, cutest thing 😭
And wahmen say we men cannot remember anything! I still remember the MOMENT I met the love of my life almost forty years ago. She was MIND-BOGGLINGLY BEAUTIFUL. Of course, I can't remember my siblings' birthdays...........so there.......
@@notmyname3883lmao I can't even remember my best friend's birthday or my parents unless it's in my calendar I'm so bad
Lol, awe! That's adorable :P
My husband and I are both in the Army so for months he only saw me in my uniform. He thought I was really annoying but then he saw me in civilian clothes: that day I wore skinny jeans, and tank top over a "regular" bra as opposed to my daily sports bra. Once he saw I had boobs and it registered that I was a woman not just another Soldier who happened to be female, he became interested in me.
Wow! That’s so sweet!
i'm in college. everyones typical outfit is sweats or leggings, maybe jeans, and a hoodie. i became good friends with a guy this semester and i commented the other day on how i love sundresses but i feel iffy wearing one on campus since literally NO ONE ELSE DOES. he replies with "really? i love sundresses!". I was pleasantly surprised and wore one the next day. i was showered in compliments by my friends and strangers. i'm wearing one every week now.
Everyone dresses in pajama pants or sweatpants at my university. Don’t get me wrong, they look very comfy, but I don’t think I’d be able to focus if I was that comfortable, I wouldn’t be in the right mentality. They say to dress how you want be feel or be perceived, and I like feeling organized and put-together, so I dress that way. It also makes me feel more organized and focused in class 😅😅
Case in point, ladies! I simply can't think of a guy I know who'd see a woman in a sundress and go "Eww?"
@@alyssarose2818 exactly!! I don’t care if it’s an 8am or an 8pm. The more I feel presentable, the more I’m productive. I so get you.
@@lavk2777 ~ I’m glad to hear I’m not the only one! People on campus think I’m crazy because of this lmaoo
I live near a major southern university and the girls wear sundresses all the time. The issue is that these past couple of years they also wear extremely low cut and many go without a bra.
It kind of cracks me up that this has become a ‘new trend’ when sundresses have been around a long time. I’ve been wearing sundresses for at least 10 years. Welcome ladies!! Long flowing sundresses are like the sweatpants of spring and summer but they look 100x better. Sundresses are happiness in clothes form.
Totally agree 😊 they're sooo comfy but make you look elegant all the time
Agreed! I’m 43, and I’ve been wearing sundresses since 9th grade. To this day, they are still my go-to spring and summer outfit, and I find them to be way more comfortable than sweatpants and much for attractive and stylish than jeans.
Yep!
You can be strong and feminine. Cowgirls are a great example of this.
As a farming female who looks like crap in a sundress, i endorse this message 😂
100%, seems like brett Cooper forgot or was never taught what a woman is, she needs a reminder from Matt Walsh it seems
@@Alison2436she should just be herself instead of trying so hard to be something that doesn’t come natural she can have some masculine energy and be feminine
Then Goku shows up to your Door Step and Asks you, " How Strong"
Going for the exception does not make the rule, come on, you know this.
YEE. HAW. Such a true statement!!
there's nothing attract me as a man more than feminine girl
I came here to say that, but you beat me to it.
I try to dress really feminine (sundresses, long skirts, girly colors, bows in hair) but don't get much attention, pls help me out with what I'm doing wrong 🙏
@pineapple1784
If you're having trouble attracting a men then it's most likely not how you look but how you behave or the perception or first impression you give off. You're probably gorgeous but you either look troublesome or hostile.
@@pineapple1784 You probably do get attention. You just might come off as unapproachable.
@@sh0t0kan You guys are probably right, I should try smiling more 😅
My husband still remembers what I wore when he first saw me, a white sundress. He told a friend "she's the one" that day. Been together 13 years now!
Dressing femininely and being a "soft girlie" was something that I directly attribute to better treatment in the work place. I was "soft" and dressed femininely and modestly, but in dresses and skirts, while still being competent and confident. But having worked in several male dominated fields, I noticed that I was treated differently than the two other women that worked in the same office. One dressed provocatively and acted a bit more ditsy, the other was super harsh and masculine in a take charge type of manner. I found men treating me well, being gentleman, chivalrous, going out of their way to avoid swearing in my presence because they knew I didn't like it, stood up for me in situations when I was being talked down to or treated unfairly, and generally ensured that I was taken care of. I know it's not always the case, but being soft and feminine and having respect in yourself definitely elicits a very specific and gentlemanly response from the guys.
Excellent comment!
The sundress is for men what the nice suit is for women. The classics are such for a reason
Mixed that up
I like maxi skirts too.
@@BuffyMcDoy No he didn't, he is speaking from perspective of the enjoyer, not the wearer. Men enjoy seeing women in sundresses as women enjoy seeing men in suits. Nothing beats the classics!
@@georgehubbs1747 oh, I'm sorry! I understand now.
@@BuffyMcDoy It's all good! Communicating online is less than ideal. Misunderstandings are inevitable. Have a blessed day! 😁
As a full time dress or skirt wearer already, I welcome this new change. Maybe it'll finally be easier to find clothes that actually fit my personal aesthetic.
This! I have wore modest dresses and skirts for years, but it's so hard to find decent skirts and dresses!
Or will it be more difficult, because everyone suddenly wants them? 😂
I'm a total tomboy and I'm also a redneck too. Never real cared what people thought about me or what I'm wearing. If a guy only wants you to wear dresses and makeup then they don't love you for you. However some guys complain that they want you just be yourself it's so annoying
I just learned to make my own skirts. A simple full circle skirt is super easy. I bought a sewing machine at IKEA for cheap and it’s sufficient for simple things.
Not only are skirts more flattering but they're more comfortable IMO!
@@yaymidget I have been dressing in only skirts and dresses for 7 years and I make them myself really inexpensively from thrifted fabrics or I buy second hand wool kilts for super cheap. Look up "lets make circle skirts" sense and sensibility and Charm Patterns has two free skirts; the gathered picnic skirt (you could even put the seam to the back and put a zipper to avoid buttons) and the free circle skirt pattern (though I find just measuring your fabric easier than using a pattern). Both are good for beginners. If you want to buy Colle ctif has regular steep sal es. I love their button front cotton shirt dresses too.
This is something I love about French fashion, women dress a bit more chic and masculine during fall/winter but in spring/summer out come the dresses, sandals and basket bags
Ive been married for going on 17 years, have five kids, and up until this past year the figure of a mom of five. Im finally getting a handle on my hormones and my weight is finally coming down. Yesterday I bought a sundress I found on clearance just for S&G's. I haven't had a sundress since high-school. I surprised my husband with it when he got home from work. He literally froze and started crying. He said it just hit him how lucky he is. He wonders why I keep him when he says stuff like that.
That's such a lovely story and you two are such a blessing to each other. Tbh I teared up reading this, it's so nice and what I hope for in my future
I’ve worn dresses 95% of the time the last few years and here’s a GAME CHANGING tip to make them more comfortable and wearable:
loose, flowy slip shorts underneath!
You can be comfortable and move however you want without showing everyone the goods!
Let’s embrace that femininity, women!
Bring light and joy to the world!
Or bike shorts; flowy shorts are the best with flowy dresses though 😊
Oh yes! My mother was putting my sister and I in shorts under our dresses when we were toddlers because we were always active, and we kept the habit over the years. Now my nieces do the same thing! that or cut off leggings. 👍
My grandmother an her sisters, back in the 1930s, would wear overalls under their dresses to church, an roll the pants legs up. She told us this only after we found a picture of her in overalls on horseback as a teen. None of her kids or grandkids knew she had ever warn pants.
Yes I love wearing bike/spandex shorts under. Target has skirts on sale right now with shorts built in!
Where do you get your slip shorts? Because for me wearing dresses now involves toddlers so I definitely need shorts under my dresses. 😂
Men seeing women in sundresses is like women looking at flowers
Pretty, makes them sneeze or want to sniff? /jk
@@jenniferpearce1052 not supposed to touch the flowers or pluck them, enjoy them for what they are, so other's can as well, like the women don't touch the women.
Our brains stop for a second and say “OOoooOooo, pretty!”
aww
This made me smile☺️😂 have a great day sir.
Even in my 40s, wearing a sundress and subtle jewelry, I had a guy circling back to me in a hardware store with the apparent inability to resist telling me that I looked nice and that so few ladies make the effort these days. He was at least 20 years my senior.
It was a genuine, non-sexual compliment that reminded me of the principle of the impact we can make on those around us when we also dress for other’s benefit and not just our own comfort.
It becomes a gift to others and yourself. Someone putting effort into their presentation (whatever the style) shows a respect for themselves and others. It’s always attractive.
Side note: Dresses are WAY more comfortable than pants/shorts.
Err I'm way more comfortable in pants/shorts they do make flowy pants that would make one think that you're wearing a skirt/dress
@@MichellesdesignsEtc Fair enough. Those would probably be my choice if my waist to rear ratio + height combo wasn’t so nonstandard.
As a tomboy for 50+ yrs my wardrobe was oversized tee shirts, jeans and sneakers (all dark colors)
My husband has only seen me in a dress 4 times and they were all shapeless dark things. I have to admit I also used these large loose sweats as a way to hide how I didn’t care and let myself go and gained a LOT of weight.
This past year I made the choice to recapture my femininity …lost 54 lbs so far. I threw out all the sweat suits and oversized tee shirts. I bought colorful fitted shirts, cute sandals, still have jeans - but they fit correctly, and the craziest change…I began buying dresses. Sun dresses for every day wear, party dresses…for, well, for parties parties (in lieu of my usual black pants,oversized black shirt and flats I used to wear). I barely have any dark colors in my closet now and I do apply some makeup but I no longer leave my hair in the perpetual pony tail.
To say my husband was shocked and pleased is an understatement. But the biggest compliment is how I feel about myself…I feel like a woman, still powerful but with soft feminine edges 😊
I love this!! 🤩
Girl. You married a good one. His response to why men love sundresses is literally the sweetest, most real answer I’ve heard in a long time.
Dang. We truly are simple creatures. Women in sundresses make me smile. They look like butterflies.
This is such a lovely comment!
aww
Awww 🥹❤
As long as they are young and pretty.
Aww
I'm a man and a father of a daughter, and I'm not sure how I feel about this. I think it's always great to break out of comfort zones and try something different - sort of play 'dress up'; see how it it feels; experiment and give things a chance. That said, at the end of the day, I don't think you're going to by happy if you feel like you're wearing a costume. I'll also add that I've never found tomboys unattractive; quite the opposite in fact.
I love wearing sundresses because they are super comfortable. I bought several for a cruise that we just took and wore one of them yesterday when I was out and about running errands. I am 45 years old and a young guy (probably in his early 20's) stopped me to tell me that I am beautiful. Just a random compliment. Also, can confirm my husband LOVES the sundresses, lol.
I love being super feminine it’s just fun. Dresses skirts lace light colors, elegance
Thank You!! 😇
Go for it
Same to, i fell much good wearing dresses and skirts to they are really comfy in my opinions.
may need to change you handle? Maybe fungusfarie? shitakkesucubus? idk, those aren't the best either.
It just feels so nice to dress feminine and act feminine
To me, as a man, the idea of what it is for a woman to be feminine isn't necessarily about their appearance. I mean sure, it's nice to look at a lovely woman with their hair done up and a nice dress and all that, but I can find a woman sitting around in old sweats and mussy hair with no makeup just as appealing. To me, being feminine is about your attitude, the way you carry yourself, and how you act and treat others around you. It's not even hard. You don't have to train yourself to act a certain way. Just... be a woman. That's literally all it takes.
This comment section is a breath of fresh air. Totally agree with you, anything that I do as a woman is feminine simply because I am a woman. I might be a “tomboy”, but I exude feminine energy simply by being a woman.
Yep. Women just don't get that men are programmed to look at them and like everything. They have been programmed to think men like that are creeps. My totally personal view - don't like lots of make-up especially false lashes (unless evening date, maybe), don't like tattoos although if it's pretty and colour, maybe, like well kept hands (not claws) and no swearing - really not bothered by anything else.
Oh and Sundresses - generally nice colours, always a hint of flesh and possibilities. Women look so much better in bright colours.
You get it. Thanks
Exactly. You hit the mark 100%. Women really shot themselves in the foot trying to be men. They eventually will realize that being a man does NOT usually come naturally, even to most men, which is why most hot women usually go for the top 20% of men, because the rest, unfortunately and honestly, stay in the boy mindset throughout their entire lives.
Even when born as a biological "male", most men do not become true Men, they become overly attached to the hedonistic pleasures enjoyed when one is typically a child under the age of 15 and never grow out of that mentality.
To become a real Man, a REAL Man, you have to eventually come to realize that pleasure is, for the most part, pointless and unfulfilling. A real man becomes a real man once he comes to term with the fact that everything meaningful in life comes with great sacrifice, great pain, great anguish and torment and years of seemingly pointless torture. Then they realize that true meaning actually comes from the strife that life throws at you, welcoming all the nasty issues in life no matter how depressing or pointless. Why? Because everything that holds any meaning in life is waiting for you at the bottom of hell.
Why have humans made so many stories about a brave, young man going off into the unknown to battle demons and gods and monsters beyond your worst nightmares? Why does the story of Rapunzel exist? Just in case men one day forget this truth in life.
You want that hot blonde trapped at the top of the tower? Gotta climb the tower and defeat the scary dragon first, bro. Or you could settle for the ugly ones at the bottom that no one really valued enough to literally put at the top of a tower, guarded by a fucking dragon. Take your pick, no wrong answers, the only wrong answer is the one you set for yourself. If you're okay living a life of average mediocrity, you are totally free to do so. But don't complain about the lousy pay and the fat, hairy wife. Its what you chose, after all. Especially if you knew this truth coming into the story.
Women really got so spoiled that they forgot that they were privileged all along lol. They don't have to deal with any of the shit, just gotta wait at the finish line and be as pretty and feminine as her mother taught her. Not sure why they thought there was anything wrong with that role. Yall are literally the reason men go through the process of becoming men. If yall didn't exist, we wouldn't have a reason to improve and become men in the first place. Each gender has its role, and each role has its pros and cons, like everything else. Now that is a fact of life. The grass is not greener on the other side, its just as green as your side. Just gotta learn to accept what life gives you and accept it with a smile, cus that is all you can ultimately do. Either get buttfucked by life and hate it, or get buttfucked anyway and learn to love it. Then you die, happily ever after, the end.
Oh, I LOVE your take on this one. 😊
My whole life I've said that sundresses are just unbelieveably beautiful. They really bring out the natural beauty and free spirit of the woman wearing them 😁.
Great to hear the ladies are working on their femininity.
Now for the men to work on their masculinity in an authentic way.
I'm in my 50's, but sundresses and maxi dresses are over 50% of my wardrobe. 👗 And my husband of 35+ years loves it.
As a Floridian, I can also attest that sundresses, maxis, etc., in addition to being more feminine and comfortable, are also the best and simplest way to tolerate heat. Loose and flowy = ventilation. 😊
Totally agree with you! I live in Europe and we are dealing with heatwaves in the past summer seasons and see this will be more common in the future. So this year I decided to buy some flowy and feminine dresses. It’s the easiest way to look put together and still comfortable (ventilation).
The same lesson I've learned the past couple of summers. So much cooler than a pair of shorts and a t shirt. I'm shopping for new dresses as we speak.
I second this! I’m still in college, but I am super sensitive to heat, so maxi dresses and skirts are my favorite things to wear in summer, especially if they’re cotton or linen!
Maxi dresses can be super sexy, while still being super comfortable.
Yes definitely living in a tropical country, dresses are a must. I also noticed u get treated better😂❤ with dignity and respect I mean.
Just found out there’s a song on Spotify called the comment section and it’s just a remix of Brett’s intro
Who's the artist? I must know
Correction: there's *a song named Comments Section*
It's also on Apple Music.
@@JohnGramer06 Thank you, I found it immediately after the correction.
Brett need to make an episode reacting to this and all of the fan arts made for her...
@@JohnGramer06it’s on deezer too
I suddenly realized I wanted to be more feminine after I went to a month-long discipleship program and someone told the staff they thought I was a lesbian. I had a very boyish haircut, wore a lot of grungy outfits, and my love language is physical affection. While I found it amusing they would think that, it also made me realize I wanted to present myself as more elegant and ladylike. I had the same mindset as Brett then-dressing feminine was either being an ultra-conservative bonnet wearer with no skin showing, or a lady of the night. Now I’m trying hard to develop my femininity in the way I dress and look.
Sorry, I am still learning English... what is a discipleship?
@@user-ul1xq2db4f discipleship is a word used in the Bible and Christian circles to talk about how we are students of Jesus. We are Jesus’s “disciples” as we follow and learn from Him. We “disciple” new believers to be more like Christ. A “discipleship” program is most likely in this case a class or group setting where people are learning more about the Christian life and how to be dedicated, active, followers or students of Jesus Christ.
The “great commission” of Jesus was to make “disciples” and baptize them. We are to tell the world about His sacrifice on the cross. The payment for our sins against God was Jesus the perfect sinless Son of God. He died in the place of all sinners taking on the wrath of God the Father and He was buried and resurrected on the third day. Because of His sacrifice satisfying the wrath of God, we sinners can be forgiven and brought back into relationship with God. This is the good news His disciples were commissioned to tell the world and make new disciples.
Hope this helps! ❤
I remember have this talk with my mom after crying that I didn't know who I was at 13 and to see people talking about this is amazing!
I was exactly the same as you Brett! I only understood femininity to be performative, ditzy, and weak, so I went the opposite, cut all my hair short, didn’t wear make up, and wore loose masculine-silhouette clothes all the time. This was from when I was 18 to 21.
Then I read the book “captivating“ by John and Staci Eldridge, and it convicted my heart that femininity was about the beauty and strength of being a nurturing, gentle, deeply caring, sincere woman who unapologetically loves beauty, for the sake of beauty. The Eldridge’s pointed out though that a lot of women become very masculine presenting because all of those things feel vulnerable. I totally resonated with all that.
So I started growing my hair out long again, wearing some make up, shaving again, and then tentatively wearing feminine, curve revealing clothes, and then dresses and flowy skirts.
It feels so liberating!! I feel like my true self when I allow myself to care about beauty, and being beautiful.
Also, literally six months after I started transformation, I met my husband, and he snapped me up immediately lol. Partly because I was Christian, conservative, AND choosing to take the time to look beautiful and put together, instead of wear leggings and hoodies all the time!
It has been the greatest transformation for me to embrace my feminine side and my love of beauty and being beautiful. I’m 24 now, And I feel like my transformation is mostly complete lol. My hair is down to my middle back and softly wavy, I take the time to smell good and do a little make up, and I have a wardrobe I love that has a lot of dresses and skirts in it! They are especially a saving grace in the heat of Houston Texas.
Love your stuff, Brett!
none of this makes any sense. men have been loving beauty since the dawn of time. it’s not a female thing. look at paintings, architecture, literature. the difference is that their relationship with beauty is to create art that is bigger than themselves while women’s relationship with beauty (largely) is to objectify their own bodies and perform for the male gaze. and that male gaze likes “performative, ditzy and weak” so yeah, the earlier version of yourself was largely correct.
the concept of femininity in our society is something we can look at objectively. the whole “but my personal understanding of femininity” thing is kinda dumb to me. we know what it is.
(hope you understand what i mean and don’t hit me with “are you saying i’m weak and dumb if i like dresses?” or something lol)
As a guy, I understand where you're coming from. In my early 20's I worked at a KFC store, and one of the young women I worked with who was in high school at the time, was just such a beautiful creature, she would melt your heart. But there was on thing about her, she wore way too much makeup, and it made her look like a circus clown, which took away from her natural beauty. And as a guy I kept my thoughts to myself, not only because of the respect I had for her, but I was in a lower end management position. Catch 22, oh yeah. I was already on thin ice with the franchisee, so I had to watch my P's, and Q's. Anyway from a guy's perspective, it's not always easy to say anything without getting into some sort of trouble.
@@lmr1049- interesting perspective. The only thing I disagree with is your derogatory description of how women often use beauty to beautify themselves. I don’t see why that’s wrong. Particularly since both men and women enjoy the result of a truly beautiful woman.
Women were made more beautiful creatures than men, so it makes sense that when men love beauty, they create it elsewhere, but when _women_ love true beauty, they maximize their own.
Nothing wrong with that.
@@milo_thatch_incarnate if you are a good conservative wife. Why are you here searching for male atention when you have a husband?
@@lmr1049I guess you have a very low view of both men and women.
The sun dress is classy, cute and charming. It's a piece of clothing that is attractive without being too much.
nor too little.
quiet allure rather than the Mae West (dated reference!) school of "come and get it".
Wow Bret the fact that you admitted to being hardened is so admirable! You go girl! Love to see your recognizing that bc I too was hardened especially bc my mom was a single mother for so long I’m so thankful for my husband fr.
BRUH! Skirts, dresses and rompers are my FAVORITE clothing pieces in the summer and in general. They’re just so comfy. That’s why I’m always so excited for when it starts to get warm and I get to wear less clothing (also to stay cool in that summer heat)
I love how Brett looks so satisfied with herself when she makes the transition to promoting the sponsor of the video its adorable
But her transitions are smooth as silk, id be proud of them too
@@lanesfakis5873 I KNOW SAME
I have to say, that as a man who has been on this planet since 1951, I love a woman in a Sun Dress and still do. It is the epitome of femininity.
Truth
Thank you❤
Would you impose your view of femininity any of your female family members?
@@gloriathomas3245ah yes, the gender war took a brief respite to unify around the celebration of femininity represented by an article of clothing, and you had to bring it right back up by taking a perfectly innocent comment and needlessly interpret it as hostile, while injecting some oppressor-oppressed false dichotomy.
This is why we can't have nice things
Thank you for making this video! As a tomboy for life, I’ve been reconnecting to my femininity in my early twenties, and wearing sundresses genuinely does flip a switch in my head. I carry myself differently. I get more done. I feel more confident and competent as a woman. As a side note, there is a measurable difference in how men treat me. It’s like it turns on the “chivalry” button in their head. But as for my own self, it’s like my appearance opens the door in my mind that helps me access that part of me. For me a huge key was realizing you can be feminine without being “girly”. I’m still not a hot pink lace kind of girl, I will never be “girly” but I truly enjoy feeling feminine and womanly.
For me a milkmaid's dress is just about the cutest thing around, I assume because it is feminine and flattering.
Sundress is the one thing that most men won’t even dare creep about. It’s soul nourishingly beautiful, and it appeals and softens our masculine instincts. That guy who regaled us with the truth of sundress might be partially joking, but the feeling that a pretty girl in sundress gives is just that. It’s ethereal.
Agree. Totally different reaction to say a tight skirt.
I remember hearing about a study (or something of the sort) about men favoring women who dress more appropriately that displays their feminine side over sexy clothing. It was done with the intention of understanding who men would want to marry, not just want to sleep with.
In other words, to all the women complaining that men only objectify them, just wear more appropriate clothing. It’s honestly enough to make us be interested.
I don't know. men can fantasize over anything. Even when you're wearning an oversized hoody, that can be sexualized. I don't think a mere change in dress can make someone 'not creep'. If the person doesn't do that, they won't do it regardless of what you wear. On the other hand, you can wear the most elegant, non-erotic type of clothing and if a man is a creep, they would still fantasize you.
It's not about the dress but the person.
@@konaqua122 You are woman and you can't possibly understand and sadly I can't possibly explain it
I'm not so sure about that. The times I've been harassed the most (and I mean once pushed up against a wall, have had grabby hands and lewd comments) have been in sundresses. For several years I worked as a costumer and strolling actor at things like Ren Faires and reenactment events and honestly, even in full corset and wench wear, I had fewer issues. (To be fair, while working I was usually either walking about with armed pirates, vikings, knights and elven lords - or open carrying a long blade myself that after a few stage fights 'protecting' myself and showing I knew how to use it - might have helped with respectful distances 😉😉) Maybe it's because I'm sadly naturally really busty but I've always tried to make sure the dresses I wear are modest while still feminine (my husband rather likes that), even sew them myself to accomplish less 'breasts on display' that store bought dresses are, that's when I've had men be the rudest. I'm no staggering beauty (that's me in the pic, I'm average and content with that) so it's not like men are just panting after me. But in those floaty dresses I've had more creeps than even pirate queen kit (although, again, open carrying of 3ft+ blade....) so it might just be a case of where you are and when. The crazy thing is, I've had men make comments about how easy a dress like that is to take off a woman - with my mountain of a growling husband standing right next to me, holding my hand. There are a shockingly large number of men walking about with death wishes it would seem.
Growing up a daddy's girl, but in the tomboy way, I can confirm that all I crave now is to find my way back to femininity at almost 21 yrs old. It took my boyfriend stating that he wanted to treat me like a lady for me to start realizing just how masculine I behaved in my everyday habits. Wearing dresses and jewelry never made me feel pretty. But, as I begin to dress more in this fashion, he hypes me up and makes me feel more like a woman everyday. I definitely feel motivated as well as see my feminine instincts begin to kick in as my barriers come down. Having a man treat me like a woman makes the masculine melt away.
Please do more content like this for both men and women, Brett. It's encouraging!
I grew up the quintessential tomboy and after I got married in 2020, it was like a switch flipped. Love embracing my femininity & so thankful to have found a man who takes all the masculine pressure off of my shoulders.
This all sounds SO relatable!! I felt and thought the same things Brett described here when I was young. I though I was “pressured by society” to dress a certain way and totally hated it. But for the past year I’ve been discovering a whole new me, dressing more feminine (like a a married grown woman) and feeling the best I’ve ever was! Also, I’ve heard more than twice people commenting I am stunning (and my husband gifts me with beautiful dresses and loves me with them). ❤❤
I am an old lady. Sundresses won't work for my body type, but I have recently been thinking about how I dress too masculine. Despite a couple of things that say otherwise, I get called sir too often. I can't wear makeup due to allergies so can't do that.
I wear too many men's tshirts because I can get them for $5 at Walmart, lol. I decided the other day that I was going to start buying more feminine clothes, starting with the tops. Wish me luck! I am not trying to find a man but I feel like I have lost something by being so masculine because it seemed necessary in my life situation, but it is not now.
Good luck, and have fun discovering what you like! 😊
I know it's rude to say but unless you're extremely large, sundresses work for any body type.
@@nerored6235can we just all collectively say "fck flattering" its really just for the male gaze or hating yourself, wear whatever you want it's not hurting anybody
@@suppertimesims it's ”for the male gaze or self hating" only according to those that WANT to see it that way. And yes, wear what you want
I’d recommend dressing up with pastel colored tops and cute dainty jewelry/ bangles to add a touch of femininity to your outfit 🩷
Just checked in to say, YES. When my wife dons a summer dress, it often becomes back rub night 😂
Old school values, new age tech.
You mean you give her a back rub and engage in non-sexual intimacy without any expectation of sex? Right?
ewww, married people (this is so cute)
This is THE cutest comment😉
😂 Priceless! If you know, you know.
Loving this as these past few months I've decided to become more feminine, let men take the lead in a respectful way. It led me to find the man I have now, me loving to dance, wearing my hair down and finding cute dresses to wear this spring that he absolutely loves. My wise friend keeps telling me that when you find the right man you will be able to embrace your divine feminine, we forget that in order to find a masculine man you must also be feminine. Sundresses help 100%
I think is my favorite comment section video so far. you've made me smile and realize that it's time to bring back feminity and we women take a big part in that. when I saw that milkmaid dress on the cover I instantly fell in love.
As an antique male, I have a preference for a woman who is interested in, and comfortable with being a tomboy and still has a feminine side. Someone who is into farming, hunting and fishing as well as camping/camp cooking, and can still be comfortable with looking good when necessary.
Antique male haha
Yeah I love women and men who aren’t afraid to maybe do non traditional things but also still are assured in their femininity or masculinity
Still trying to convince my hubs to go camping (and if I'm lucky I'll get him to try fishing)-- I'll convince that city boy one of these days! lol
So, Hannah Barron? Good choice sir. :)
@@biancamella7486 try teaching him how to flip a fly, that is how I prefer to fish. Also teach him about hunting, I learned early that I only needed to take what was needed, and eat what was taken.
@@fester2306 Barron
Our local art museum did a flower festival today & my husband & I went. I wore a sundress & sandals and tied my hair up loosely with a hairpin, and when I tell you I felt SO PRETTY 😭🩵 fully intend on making this a sundress summer 👏🏻
Bret, I love your work. I appreciate your enthusiasm, its wonderful to encourage classical fashion styles that are timeless while also encouraging healthy beauty standards instead of traditional or modern beauty standards portrayed in the mainstream media.
Hi Brett, I really enjoyed todays episodes :)
I relate to the things said by the women featured and you. I’m still young but I’ve definitely gone threw hyper masculine phases or whatever you call it because I hated femininity and thought there were really only two categories like you said. I always thought this was just a me problem so it’s really nice to hear others talk about and put into words what I’ve felt/feel. I’m hoping to get more comfortable with dresses this summer. Also, somehow I forgot sundresses were called sundresses lol, and never knew milkmaid dresses had a name. Now I won’t just be describing random patterns trying to find a dress
The observation that sundresses are “happy” is more significant than mentioned. Emily W King recently released a short where she reacts to another short about an informal poll of men. The question was, what do you find most attractive in a woman? The answers were almost universally “she has to be happy “. Emily explains this quite effectively. You should go look at her short.
The problem with this is that most women now expect the men to make them happy. Which isn't how it works. It has to come from inside, not another person.
Half and half. We are social creatures. My husband said what attracted him first (as a long term Partner) was my "infectous happiness". But he makes me so happy and I am soo much happier with him than I would ever be alone. Fighting with him is better than having neutrality with everyone else (because it is fruitful and respectful) as social creatures we make each other happy. The Problem today is not the expectation to gain happiness from a relationship, it's this attitude of "Amuse me, minion"
This is literally why men ask us to smile. It's obnoxious, to expect us to smile on command, but it's a bit more understandable when we know that one of the things men crave most is seeing happy women.
That’s so interesting. “She has to be happy.” I never thing about that only the objects like looks and what im wearing and what im not wearing, but not much about my mental state… Which has declined majorly that past 3 years. I ought to focus on myself (internally not externally) first. Before finding my husband to be… And then the external image will show.
When i first entered my teens, i got very insecure of my body and religiously wore oversized shirts until I was 15. I became extremely depressed as well. So over the past two years I've been dressing more flattering and it has made me so much happier. I've even started getting vintage 1950's style dresses.(my favorite kind)
Based on the years you provided, I’m only a littleeee bit older than you, but I totally agree! I used to wear more loose-fitting clothing (although not super oversized lol) because while my body was changing in puberty, my family (especially the women 🤨🤨) would always make comments about my body changes and me trying to “show off” my chest or bottom despite wearing a regular shirt and jeans, which led me to be uncomfortable in my own skin! As I’ve gotten older, I’ve learned to tune them out lol, especially after seeing what they used to wear in the 80s/90s! What I wear I nowhere near as revealing! I’ve always worn modest clothing, I can’t change my anatomical features!
This is the best video of the year. This has answered so many questions for me. Thanks Brett
I’m still a Tom boy but I do have a strong feminine side I’ve always wanted to be more tuned into. Also preferred making guy friends over girl friends for the reasons you said, plus, just the drama and gossip etc I couldn’t get behind. That said, baggy cool street clothes are comfy and easy to move in. I like being unrestricted… that said I want to look pretty. It’s… frustrating. I do like the cool look just sincerely. But it doesn’t do me many favours. But as I said, comfort and unrestricted in movement… I need some happy middle. Top it off I have a high maintenance hair type (blonde, 3A curls, mixed texture with frizz) and Not good at makeup… never had anyone show me how. Though I’ve gotten better at the basics(I like makeup that looks like there’s none on). But … hate how it smudges, makes my eyes water and takes a long time to get on or off… I do wear waterproof and even that’s smudgy lol. Like, I just don’t know what to do. I look fine without it. But… think it makes people assume I’m a teenager. Plus, I’m in my 20s… 28 actually, been in these habits for a long time and my life has been hard making it more tiring to do anything else. But … i look way younger than I am, and single and lonely … I get some attention but still haven’t found him. Idk if it just generally isn’t time yet. Or if he hasn’t seen me cause of all these things. Top it off I don’t show off my shape (I feel uncomfortable when you can see my figure shape lol im in shape and don’t have any insecurities about my body itself…just minor stuff I know only I see. just… I feel naked if it isn’t baggy clothes). So, for a girl like me, what am I supposed to do lol.
Oh, also street clothes (think Korean street fashion cause I like that) has loads of pockets lmao it’s great. So what can I do to meet in the middle ㅠㅠ
The reason I've always loved "tomboyish women/the chill women"😂. They actually listen and treat us like real people instead of tools to achieve their goals. ❤❤🎉
I grew up being a massive tomboy. Never felt comfortable in my own skin (from trauma as a child/then adult) but when I finally hit my 30's I was all about the girly girl look. It just happened. But then..... I hit 50, menopause, weight gain and I started to feel like I needed to disappear and began to wear oversized clothing. That lasted about 5 years and I have rediscovered that confident-in-my-skin girly girl look again. Sadly I did chop off my hair so that has to grow out 🤦🏻♀️but anyhow..... I'm on a good path😊❤
You go girl! This is very relatable. I think you'll do well in your journey, just remember to enjoy it 👍🏽😁🙏🏽
I love this! I’m 44, married 43 yrs. Took me until 6 yrs ago to lean into this. I have been so much happier, fulfilled and at peace and my husband loves it. Wish I would’ve realized this 23 yrs ago! Keep going ladies! ❤️
So you got married at 1 years old?
Good catch. Supposed to say 23. 😂 my bad
I’m so glad that this transition in society is happening. Everything you said in this I 1000% relate to plus I feel like the reason a lot of us who are in our 20s grew up in a society where people said women were being feminine for men and not for themselves and now finally it is actually been seen for what it is, women being feminine because they are feminine.
When you have been bingeing old Brett Cooper videos for and hour and she posts a new one!😂
THATS LITERALLY ME
same 😂
😂 get a life 😂
After my own tough girl to soft girl journey, I've learned that a tumultuous life breeds hard women, but safety and security creates a soft gentle woman. It took 6 years with the first truly good man for me to see that effect but it has been wonderful. I don't need my "armor" anymore, and can finally let myself feel feminine.
I think the solution for women and this boss babe Era is, making them feel safe.
Edit: The "bear or a man" experiment going on that is infuriating men is a great example of what women are feeling right now about their safety out there. If they are acting out as some form of control, being permiscuous, or wanting to be chased but never commit, it's probably because they felt like their choices were taken from them at some point, and this is their way, albeit a poor one, of responding to that. Attraction to dad bods and family men is another example of women just wanting something nurturing and safe over "cool" or "alpha".
They don't want to be controlled, they want to be nurtured, and they'll happily nurture back when in that environment. It's transformative.
--- That's deep, but true. Thank you for that thought.
This is what I wish to experience. I’ve had a tough life and always relied on my masculine energy which led to a very bad relationship with a more feminine type man. Did you become more soft to attract your partner or was it the other way around? How did you two meet?
Hoping for this one day.
@RhymeandRamblings I was one of those classic "always dominant in my environment so I want to be submissive in my relationship" kinds of people, but somehow that always translated into dating huge assholes, that usually ended up being violent assholes. I felt uncomfortable with the "nice guys", so I kept going back to that life style.
It honestly took a year of just being single and doing the inner work. I sought out what was familiar to me, which meant that abusive relationships and the red flags that come with them seemed familiar, and less alarming, or at least, I ignored it more willingly. I needed to rewire my trauma brain, and teach it to be comfortable in safe places. I needed to get it off of the addiction it had to the dopamine and saratonin dump it got whenever I was in a high stress and upsetting situation. That part took the longest.
During that year I met a really, REALLY nice guy, and I knew that if we dated then, I'd ruin it. I explained what I'd just gotten out of, and was honest that I needed time to be single and work on my own self, so that when I finally did date again, I wouldn't make my baggage some other guys problem.
He was thankful for my honesty, and genuinely appreciative of the fact that I was working on myself. We stayed pretty close for that year, hanging out from time to time and just keeping things light. When I noticed myself feeling more secure, when I stopped feeling like I Needed to be with someone, when I could be alone and not feel upset or uncomfortable, and when I could have an honest conversation with myself about what I missed in the past as toxic behavior, I knew I could give dating a try again.
I went on a few casual dates and quickly remembered how much dating sucks, and joked about it with that guy. He told me if we went out, I wouldn't have to worry about that anymore. 😏
The first five dates we went on all went to hell, nothing went as planned and they were the absolute, hands down, best dates I've ever had. The green flags were waving left and right, and before I knew it, we were dating.
Here we are now, engaged and soon to be married. 6 years I've been on this journey of feeling safe again. By year three, I finally felt like I had no insecurities, no fear, and by year six, we're like an old married couple with how comfortable we are.
I was always honest with him throught the journey, I always laid down my mental state, and my feelings, and he was always willing to make the tweaks and adjustments to how we communicated or acted to help about trauma triggers and issues. Before long, there were no triggers, there was no unsafe feeling behavior anymore, because he'd proven he was a safe person to be with.
Put in the time, put in the work, and be raw and honest, and you'll see those walls crumble.
I hope the absolute best for you and everyone on this same journey, because it honestly feels like coming home in the best way.
@@amberlightrunner4696Thank you so much for your comment. It was so refreshing to read. This made me so happy, even though I don’t know you, to know you are now in a safe place with someone safe.
It makes my heart genuinely happy to know you guys are living that. Because I recognize myself in what you wrote in your first comment.
My environment made me build huge walls around me and I developed more of a avoidant attachment style too.
So yeah I wish I can reach a safe and secure point one day with someone who did the work or is willing to do the work.
@xDiananas I don't know you either, but I genuinely hope that for you as well!! ❤️ And thank you for your response, I really appreciate that.
This is so relatable! Last summer I intentionally took steps to be more feminine, I feel like being in a secure and stable relationship with a masculine man helped give me license to be more feminine. I got off of birth control and opted for tracking natural cycles, and felt so much clarity. Also early this year, I left my stressful research job, where I was deeply unhappy for many years and am seeking a job with more flexibility and creativity.
I was shopping for summer dresses a few days ago, and when I went to pay there was an elderly lady ahead of me who was also purchasing a dress. She saw I had a bunch of dresses, and said how nice it was that dresses were back in style. She said they were popular when she was younger but that they’d been out of style for such a long time. It’s honestly so true! When I started actively shopping for dresses last year I could barely find anything. This year beautiful dresses seem to be everywhere, and I couldn’t be happier about it!
Ladies remember to dress however you want. If you don’t feel comfortable in a dress don’t feel like you have to. As a woman I’m wearing big tee shirts and shorts this summer.
Yeah. I'm with you. Dress how you want.
My mother was a dress, skirt, light make-up wearer.
I have always been the tomboy type and never felt comfortable dressing that way.
Same
Yep I will be doing the same. Occasionally I might wear a dress, but my husband and I are always outside fishing, swimming, or camping during the summer. I would be so scared to get a dress dirty while trying to reel in a catfish lol.
Totally agree with you!
(I've been looking for a comment like this and finally found one! Most of the comments here are very patriarchal.)
@@polinalion3223 There's nothing patriarchal about men expressing what they find most attractive about a woman. Are we not allowed to have our opinions and express them? No one's on here demanding women dress this way. If you thought sweater vests were the most attractive piece of attire for men, would you not tell your man that he looks good in them, or that you would appreciate it if he wore them more often?
This makes me so happy. 4 years ago I decided to only wear dresses and skirts and haven’t gone back. It’s changed me for the better and has helped me to embrace femininity internally and externally. I highly encourage any woman seeing this to look into the kibbe body type system because it really really helps to find clothing that suits your specific lines and style. People will say “I just don’t look good in dresses”. Not true! We are just all created differently and beautifully so we need to find what works for us 😊❤️
Thank you for putting this into words. This spring, I thought to myself I wanted to wear more dresses because I wanted to be in touch with my feminine side but I didn't realize it's because, like you said, I grew up with the being independent mindset and the "women can do it too" including clothing. Such a breather and refresher I'm not the only one.
I love this so much! As a high school girl, sometimes I feel out of place when I wear a dress to school or just on a random day since no one else does it! I'm also tall for a girl, and so I tend to feel awkward/clumsy whenever I wear something very feminine, but I'm trying to embrace the femineity
Also, you can be feminine without being frilly and sparkly. I am a tomboy, but never identified as that, I was just me, and my parents let me be me. I have always been very confidently a woman and always wanted to be a mom and now I am a stay at home mom. But I have never felt super comfortable being too flashy or ornate. If my makeup is too heavy I don't feel like I look like myself. But I do love skirts, specifically long comfy skirts. I had my wedding dress custom made by a tailor I found (ended up being way cheaper), because I knew I wasn't going to find a dress I wanted. I ended up with a soft stretchy long white dress, with pockets, dress that still fits me while pregnant and even with thicker arms like I have now. I still use the dress to go to my temple and I plan on being buried in it. It is beautiful and it's so simple and 100% my style. You can be yourself and feminine.
I met this girl at my local gym, I was already familiar with her through some friends, but I had never actually met her ( I just saw her on Facebook posts and stuff like that) but I started talking to her and became friends with her. Well, one day, she came to the gym wearing a sundress, and now I see her in a totally different way, and it really made me realize how beautiful she is. I never talked to her with romantic intentions, but now I'm questioning if I should ask her out. Sundresses do magical things.
Girl?! You meant woman. 🤦♂️
Women don't wear anything without a reason. She is advertising. Ask her out on a post workout coffee.
@@PappyGunn post workout coffee with a random woman he met at a gym? 🤦♂️
@@alankuruvilla8939 He says he kinda sorta met her. Time to step in and see if she is interested.
dang
Totally agree that when you meet a masculine partner you naturally become more comfortable being feminine. It’s like you don’t have to compensate anymore. It’s so freeing. Getting married on Saturday and I’ve never felt so feminine and so much “myself”.
car conversations with your mom as a teenager were literally the best! (except when you argue then there's no way out) but in general... car convos = best quality time
Yasss ladies let’s dive deeper into our feminine power as a WHOLE COMMUNITY! Put on that sundress and feel the POWER that comes with being soft, elegant and beautiful. Being feminine is my SUPER POWER and I wouldn’t trade it for anything else.
How is it a super power
@@wyleecoyotee4252 In part it is ability feeling to act on instinct, rather than suppressing that instinct in service of some greater social goal. This is relatable for some, but not for others. The part I find more compelling is the simple power of generosity. Men want femininity, women want masculinity, for innate reasons. Emphasizing gender therefore becomes a subtle way to practice giving. And many are discovering that when you give generously, the other person gives generously back, trust is built, and possibilities expand.
@tradfluteman
Femininity is not a requirement to act on instinct. Is instinct a super power or is it a tool for survival. Another survival tool is life experience and the ability to critically assess a situation.
'Femininity is a super power' is drivel directed by men onto women to suppress them.
How's that for instinct..lol.
It's so true. Too many women think showing off their T&A gives them power. It does, but over the wrong type of guy? An attractive, feminine woman in a sundress will attract all men. There is power in femininity, ladies. It's just far more subtle than twerking in public. Ugh, the twerking is so played. 😑
Soft, elegant and beautiful...not slutty
38 year old lady here - never been on birth control, saw what it did with my older sister and was certain, I do not want that for me. I also hate the sweats-life, it always felt like I was giving up on my life. My Mom raised me to dress like I actually care and that does not mean to dress up - it means to look presentable.
I live very „quiet-luxury“ and I wear dresses and skirts just as I do jeans/pants but I can make those look feminine and I always have.
I got criticised so often for looking always so put together but I never felt like I lost myself in a see of „boss-babe“ and so on.
Literally in the middle of redoing my wardrobe as well. And doing things I haven't done in years. For the first time in a long time, I got dressed up, and the amount of compliments I got just boosted my confidence to continue being feminine. I'm so glad I'm doing this.
this video actually made me so emotional, I related so much. I still enjoy my sweatpants but getting closer to god and learning the gift that it is to be a woman surrounded by women has been such a journey for me. It's grown my confidence too. I think it also did take being in a committed relationship for me and not wanting to fight for the masculine role but instead lean into my feminine. I've learned that I grow more into myself when I lean more into my feminitiy.
I've been dressing feminine/romantic since I was 15 years old. I was previously a full on tom boy that HATED being feminine because I developed young and I was tall. I was 11 years old, 5'11 and looked like I was 18. I got cat called a lot so wanted to hide. It was only at 15 when I got brave enough to start wearing things I liked. As a woman, I think you are always going to get looked at, but you don't always have to acknowledge it or be bothered by it. If you want to wear feminine things, wear them! Start small and work your way up to whatever you want. I am now 31 and wear dresses every day. I feel more myself when I am in a dress. 11 year old me would faint to see the things I wear now, but also be happy as I loved pretty things. I just wasn't brave enough to wear them back then. I am ultra feminine and proud of it now 😂😊❤ But it definitely does take a bit to get used to people looking at you. I found it's mostly just admiring what I wear instead of getting creepy steres. If anyone reading this is interested in trying, go for it!
I'm 100% on board with this!! I'm a high schooler, and used to wear baggy t-shirts and shorts/sweatpants but recently I've been trying to incorporate more skirts, dresses, and blouses into my wardrobe. I already feel so much better about myself and it's only been a couple weeks since doing this. It was quite serendipitous to see Brett make this video just as I'm entering a more feminine stage in my life. 😊
hahah Brett the way you plug the sponsor's.... amazing XD i love that.
2:15 This was me, and I’ve been still wrestling with tapping into my more feminine side both emotionally and* appearance wise. I spent the past three years learning to do makeup, and it has really made me feel super feminine and appreciate my appearance, something I never really cared about in this way before. However, I still got a lot of work to do as I now hardly wear dresses out, and I most wear makeup with sweats and big earrings. But now every so often, I’ve been throwing in a long dress or a skirt/any dress, but let me tell you, it is soo not easy! Though I’ve learned that when I put in the effort to wear something I deserve to dress in, I feel like a queen every dang time. And I feel more powerful when I’m in touch with that side of me because I feel like I mean business, and I don’t need to hide behind the walls I create in various ways. So I love this so much! I’m going to add that to my bucket list this summer of things I have to work on 😂
I'm a total tomboy, I hated wearing dresses back then and I never wore makeup in school. I started tapping in to my feminine side in my early twenties and started dressing up and wearing makeup. But I still like to stay true to my tomboy side.
Moral of the story is , that just be yourself and others will see how happy you are. Whether you like wearing dresses all the time or just wearing jeans and t shirts.
i tried something similar. Been a tomboy my whole life (prob has something to do with me being a lesbian but that's not important). I tried growing my hair out and embracing my femininity for a while, and while i def looked prettier, it just felt weird and uncomfortable, no matter how much I tried to embrace it. Femininity is just not me. And that's ok! What's important, is doing what feels natural to u! and for most women, femininity is natural. So i support this
@@froggymudsSame, I’ll stick to what I’m comfortable with and that’s okay.
@@bigman9731 ~ Being comfortable = being confident = looking/feeling more attractive! Don’t let anyone else tell you otherwise, staying true to yourself with forever be the best option
@@froggymuds ~ Okay but short hair is so pretty on girls who can pull it off! Especially chin to neck/shoulder length! Unfortunately, my face is far too round for short hair, so I look even younger, which doesn’t help my lack of height lol. I’ve seen girls with shorter hair that look absolutely stunning and feminine! It’s important to not let beauty standards sway our perception in this sort of manner, we can look feminine without long hair, lip filler, Botox, makeup, fancy outfits/accessories, etc.!
Your husband is spot on, as men we can't really describe it better than it's just a "happy" dress. Women look happier in them, it makes men happy to see girls happy, the whole lot.
This melted my heart bro.
yeah they make me happy wearing them :)
Living in Wisconsin I personally LOVE being able to wear all my pretty dresses again once spring actually hits. I feel so pretty and confident. Legit on days I have off from work I do not wear pants lol
Honestly, I am coming out of my shell as well with this. For years, I have struggled with the "independent woman, girl boss" that I am so tired of seeing!!!! Even the little things right now, I am slowly letting go of such as my boyfriend helping me with my bags instead of me carrying them all on my own. You are right, it's a process and I think my elementary school me would freak out about it, but that girl has grown up and the feminine genius is here to stay! 🎉🎉🎉🎉
I've been wearing only skirts for 7 years and I am never going back! Not only is it more flattering but it is more comfortable; pants cut into your waist and hips when you move because it gets pulled down by them going betwee n your legs. A skirt at your natural waist stays there and never cuts into you! Midi length is my fav for practicality; no fla sh threat! And it looks so pretty 😍
Thank you so much for this vid!! It’s really good to know I’m not alone in this struggle… not wanting to sexualize myself but not wanting to wear a burka or look like I came out of the handmaids tail😅 I’m just starting to wear skirts again for the first time in a year because I just couldn’t find any I enjoyed to wear! I finally discovered the beauty of the skort this summer and it’s been a really good first step:)
girls, remember all body types are different & certain dresses may not feel flattering; keep trying new ones!!! it took me a long time to be confident in dresses after being a strong tomboy for so long but one of the keys was finding "feminine" clothes that fit me well & FEEL flattering, not just whats on trend
Not entirely on topic but love that you are rocking your winter
skin tone colors. Love the bright, fun, happy colors in the last few videos
The warmer weather inspires us all to wear a bit more color!
I already bought five of these dresses during summer break. I did this because I wanted something relaxing to be in during the hot Summer months. I did not realize that men go hard for these dresses, but I’m not complaining 😊
Im doing a similar thing. As a girl who’s still in school, i have a hard time getting motivated in the morning to look decent. I always just brushed my hair, put on my leggings and a sweatshirt and went to school. This year, i actually invested in some jeans, slap on mascara, and attempt to make my hair decent
At our church function in a park a couple years ago, several of the 14, 15, 16-year-old girls had summer sun dresses on and were twirling around and giggling and laughing, being coy. It was obvious some of the boys had never seen this before. One of the guys walked right into the end of a picnic table! There's power there!
Saw a woman the other day and for some reason kept looking, I did not know why at first. She was a fit middle aged woman, wearing a sun dress, long hair, discreet makeup and jewelry, no tattoos. Not staring at a phone screen, smiling. Then I realized why I was looking at her. It had been a while since I had seen a feminine woman, just natural beauty out there, without attitude or resting bitch face. And I missed my younger days where this was not an uncommon sight.
Some of us can't help having RBF. I come from a long line of women who look mad. Even in high school people told me "your whole face changes when you smile."
I swear I'm a nice person, but when I grocery shop I'm deep in thought, doing math in my head to find the better deal, choosing which flowers will last and look nice together, planning meals based on the sales, etc.
But if anyone speaks to me or a waves or asks about my dog (I use a wheelchair and my dog is trained to help me get around) I smile brightly because I'm aware of my face. 😂
Botox has helped, but if I'm thinking hard, I look mad. I literally can't help it. But if you say hi, you'll see my teeth.
All this to say, if you think a girl is pretty but she looks like a bitch, just say hi or do the old school "afternoon ma'am," and you'll figure out if she's actually a bitch or if she's just thinking. 😂
@@user-nw8tg1pg9y Haha, I guess I've done it too (I am a man) I have been asked a few times at work why I was pissed off when I was just very busy. I guess what I see is a lot of unhappiness or attempt not to smile or be pleasant from young women. My daughter is like that, I wonder why we bothered with braces...
@@PappyGunn You have a daughter old enough to be in braces and you think it's odd to be looking at a woman who must be about your age?!
@@jenniferpearce1052 No, what was odd is that I had not seen a woman being openly this feminine in a while, just out in public in a sun dress looking happy. Like that woman in a red dress in the Matrix movie kind of vibe. Difficult to explain.
@@jenniferpearce1052 You need a sun dress!
i love this. im a photography student and my final conclusive project has been exploring delicate femininity and fragility through shadows to show that there is a real strength and power in being a delicate woman and it is not a weakness. throughout this project i have received different feedback from people and ive found it interesting that my project has encouraged more people to explore delicate femininity. i dont want to be a boss woman or a confident woman who doesnt need a man in my life and i think that should be viewed as powerful instead of weak.
This sounds so interesting! Do you have your work or a portfolio online anywhere?
Your ad transitions are so smooth 🤭
I grew up as an only child who lived on a street with only guys so I had to conform my interests and means of activities to be able to play with them. I was also raised visiting my grandparents’ farm almost every weekend and summer and was very much “tomboyish” in terms of my looks and enjoyment of getting dirty and rough if needed. However, I was so happy my parents also encouraged me to do other activities such as ballet 🩰 and dance since that tended to always keep my love of feminine looks alive and well during my entire childhood and maturity into adolescence. I also usually always had a crush on one guy each school year so I would use my tomboy-ish laidback approach to befriend the guy but would also like to sprinkle in days where I would be very girly looking. The 50/50 of both masculine and feminine vibes helped me become the independent human I am today who LOVES to dress up and give my gf’s (and guy friends) fashion advice, but I also love to do my own handy work or maintenance to my house and yard whenever possible. Many of my gf’s joke that I would be their choice of a female partner (not sexually but just like if you had to pick one of your gf’s as your forever roommate) since I knew a lot of the things a grown man would usually bring to a relationship like that. Saddest thing about today’s society and younger generations is that many of the men my age were never taught how to be a good male partner or even how to do the basic things like how to hang up drapes or install shelves so I automatically had to take that role when I was in those kinds of relationships. My favorite kind of man in terms of partnership is one that truly can be as handi-capable (haha as in handyman terms haha) as my Dad is-and is also welcoming my own assistance when doing the more masculine things like repairing an appliance or floating dock. My father has been the best example of how a masculine partner should be in a successful “straight” relationship while also making sure I knew how to do it all myself so I wouldn’t be reliant on anyone when I lived alone and across the country. Also, a new favorite thing of mine is to wear a long sundress with garden boots and do yard work as if I was in the prairie days - it’s the best of both worlds while also not being sexualized.
I’m currently 34 and still living alone (and happily single) due to many of the guys my age just not being able to fulfill that partnership role that I require. However, I still have my moments where I celebrate my feminine side as well as welcome my rare masculine side since I am truly my own life partner (at the moment) and know how perfect these two sides fit together and should complement one another. With that being said, to all you ladies wanting to be more feminine, I just beg you to not completely separate from your current masculine side. Find a healthy inbetween and you become the most confident and diverse version of yourself which any person would be grateful to be with…even if you’re by yourself. ❤
To dive a little deeper into the appeal of sundresses, I would say this: Sundresses, while covering a good amount of skin, still show off the arms and parts of the legs, gently teasing men. They're loose, so it looks good on a woman even if she's a bit chunkier, or uncomfortably thin. They look feminine, but not uptight, conservative but not hyper-conservative, girl-next-door but not strict church lady. In short, it's the ideal balance between traditional and modern feminine fashion styles.
Brett I was on board with this video until you started talking about what the men want. I agreee wholeheartedly with the women who don't dress feminine because they don't want to be sexualized and it seemed like you were going to explain maybe how thats false or something. But then you went on and on about men sexualizing women for dressing feminine. The whole talk about sundresses is a perfect example of why I do not want to dress like that. This episode only solidified my decision to dress more masculine
I mean, is there a way that we can talk about the benefits of being more feminine without bringing up how men are going to sexualize it? I want to be feminine for ME and to connect with other girls, and it's men's perspective on it that is keeping me from doing so
Do whatever u want to be honest. However, as a guy it's just nice to see ladies in sun dresses though I don't intend to date or ask them out🤷.