My Husband Lied to Me for Years
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- My Husband Lied to Me for Years
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She sure provides a lot of excuses for the pathological liar. You can't fix him ma'am.
She’s abused and doesn’t see it and wants it to fix she loves her husband and it’s sad he has done this to her. I know how she feels. And he has conditioned her to feel bad for him. Not think about herself.
She doesn’t want to be single that’s why
My ex husband was a pathological liar. They do not change, unfortunately…
He doesn't love you unconditionally. Lying to you for year's isn't love.
He most likely can’t help it
@@shania9305 He is intentionally love bombing and mirroring. He doesn't stop because it serves him.
You’re correct, love is the choosing to stay, choosing to put their wants/needs above your own. The lying is just a symptom of his own dissatisfaction with himself.
She don't get it. A Narcissist treats you the best when you leave. So, him treating you good for 6 months is worth 11.5 years of lies. A broken clock is right twice a day.
Yes!
I believe most of js who have been betrayed have worn rose colored glasses when that happened. Caller may not be ready to remove them yet. 😥
@@apers5do
From my experience being on the spectrum makes you more often uncomfortably honest not a manipulative liar…
Right lol it might be a mental illness he has not a learning disordee
From my experience with education my kids that are on the spectrum are honest and not manipulative.
@@callmecordelia7181 my best friend is autistic and she is the most honest person I know
I suspect that her husband is a top tier manipulator. His "love and kindness" is part of his grift. She's showing her kids that it's normal to be manipulated and lied to
I have a reading learning disability and a rough abusive traumatic childhood. I was told not to bother going to college as I wouldn't graduate. 3 college degrees later I still manage to not lie - about my past or anything - and in fact faced it all head on and healed myself.
ADHD and 2 masters degrees
A lot of LDs when IQ tested, come up at least a little above average - because they have to be just to survive or compensate. There are stats to back this up. I learned it on an old college stats class like 20 years ago so the details escape me now… but.
PS congratulations on your phenomenal dedication!
My dad has dyslexia and was told by a high school teacher to go apply as a gas pumper at the local station (gas stations had staff members pump your gas so you didn’t have to get out of the car back then).
He became a doctor and has been one of the most successful OBGYN’s in his area for 30 years.
Dedication.
Way to go!!! Thanks for the inspiration!
@@chrysiarose Rock it!
@@brightpage1020 From now on I'm telling everyone I'm above average. 💪 My husband (whose very smart) tells me I'm smarter than him, so I think there is something to that stat.
You want to help him recognize what he’s doing?
He knows. Lying is a conscious act.
Lying is not love. This woman is making so many excuses for her husband.
With so much psychological information being available to us now, the go-to excuse I hear from women who put up with bad behavior is "he has trauma he hasn’t dealt with" honey that’s NOT YOUR JOB IT’S HIS
Bingo!!! 🎯🎯🎯
You hit the nail on the head.
Women need to stop making excuses and start taking self accountability for the decisions they make in their lives. Stop choosing weak/problematic men, stop allowing these types of men to father your children. Learn to accept self accountability and learn to make better decision making skills.
Yeah...... We think we have the power to fix or change them. Still. 😳😳😳😳😳
When your married to someone who is this messed up it just distracts you from yourself.
Every guy I ever dated I dumped on the first major lie. Lies are not something marriages easily survive.
I severelyyyyyyy wish I did this. Wish I was raised that way. Living with regrets now.
Good let me tell you… when you make excuses for lies you will find yourself down a rabbit hole years later like this lady.
Girl did you marry my ex?!
He lied about being in the Marines, had been married 8 times...Lord the lies ran deep. I found all of this out after 4 years. To this day I still have no idea who he is/was.
I attempted to help work through his issues. We did couples therapy because he had a bad childhood. He continued to lie and after a few weeks I didn't care about his "bad childhood." I wasn't going to let him use that as a crutch to be a crappy adult and drive me crazy. He didn't want help. He enjoyed being chaotic and dysfunctional. This sounds crazy but some folks DO NOT want to be healthy and there's nothing you can do but RUN before they destroy you.
Interesting. A buddy of mine growing up also lied about being in the Marines. He lied about everything else as well which was sad because he was a cool guy with no reason to lie. Pathological. It's funny when your just a buddy and young but it gets stupid and tiring. Can't imagine as a spouse and very sorry because that is horrible. Take care.
Kudos to you! For letting him go!
Ffs the excuse is always “ a bad childhood”
You never saw sn official marine portrait,or paperwork, or photos of him in uniform with other marines???? Mcfjy!!!
8 marriages? At what point does the state say " you're a f****** idiot" and just deny it. .. What a joke.
"He works night and day' - I bet he has someone on the side. This guy is very shady but he knows how to manipulate her and make her believe she's loved. She sounds like a lovely person - but also has a deep need to caretake weak men, which will of course have its roots in her childhood.
Let’s not speculate.
A judgment cannot be based on an 18-minute conversation AND without even meeting the person itself. 😉
@@rebeccaoprea9917 But it's probable
Right she’s so delusional
Absolutely. Lie, cheat, steal.
Wow. I just listened to a chunk of this again. She called to hear herself say all the reasons she has created to make it okay for him to constantly lie about important things. His difficult childhood, his school and teachers, his high school football coach, his first wife and kid, his learning disability, maybe he’s in the spectrum, his father wanted him to be a marine… Not a single valid reason to be such a prolific liar; just her excuses for him.
He has a lot of da ting options for being of low intelligence and supposedly on the spectrum
I'm sympathetic to the caller who married a compulsive liar. These are conniving people and they look for innocents who will not question them. Stolen Valor is a serious character flaw. I'm not sure I could look past this. I would suspect everything he ever told me was a lie. A marriage without trust cannot thrive and probably will not survive, no matter how "nice" and "hardworking" the guy may be. There's other nice hardworking guys out there.
Who cares how caring or protective he is if he doesn’t respect you enough to tell you the truth or be honest with you? Or doesn’t respect himself enough to do that with others?
Love requires respect. Requires that.
I don't think he is conniving, I think he has an issue of insecurity
yea 😞
It sounds like you don’t have to even question it because everything just is a lie. I have no idea how you’d stick with somebody who compulsively lies about literally everything because it would not be possible to believe a single thing he says. But she has found a way to justify why he’s lying about everything like he has been. But while I generally do feel bad for someone who gets treated this way one thing that aggravates me to no end is when people excuse horrible behaviors on various disabilities or bad experiences and take away all accountability from the person doing it. Because it falsely portrays genuine disabilities and people with them in a light that simply isn’t accurate and results in some people carrying false beliefs of people with those disabilities.
She will never leave this guy. Her life is based on saving other people, how could she ever give up her purpose as this is how she is cut.
People do and can change. She just might not. Neuroplasticity is a thing. We’re consciousness we can heal the way we think! No matter how you’re cut!
The biggest red flag for me is that he didn't want to go to couple's therapy, even when someone offered to be pay for it. It's one thing to have a problem, it's another to not want to do anything to fix it.
I don’t even believe he was told he would not be able to hold a full time job. He is using this poor woman.
That is total bs unless you are fully diagnosed and deemed permanently disabled.
Yep. I agree. My sister is married to a narcissist. He has a master's degree, but hasn't worked in almost 30 years. He also claims to have a bad memory. But I don't think he does. I think he uses that as an excuse so that he doesn't have to do anything.
Depends on his age I think… the way ld’s are treated now is not at all the way they were treated 20-40 years ago. Kids with dyslexia or other LD’s were told they wouldn’t be able to make it. The changes have come full circle in my own lifetime, as I watched my younger brother and cousin who are in their 40’s and 50’s now be told these exact things for their entire childhoods. It changed the path for their lives, it didn’t cause everything negative but it definitely was a determining factor. Thankfully things have changed, but for many who are older didn’t have that advantage.
I was with a liar and I’m not as understanding. I told him that at this point I’d be furious if he lied to me about a bag of chips. He lied about something that same week. Nothing major. He was moved out a couple days later. We’re done. I gave him too many chances.
Good for you!!!
Good work!
If the lying is related to a disorder, he may have BPD and the protectiveness and calling her every day when she left for 6 months is the fear of abandonment coming through.
Love bombing. He knows she's a carer
Whew. I never want to be so in love that I will excuse someone completely lying to me, and doing so repeatedly. She thinks this is the best she can get. I don’t understand why.
What is an “aces” score? Delony should have done a brief description for us. I'll try to Google it, but not sure about the spelling.
Ah okay. According to Google, an ACEs score measures adverse childhood experiences, or the amount of trauma suffered in the age of minority.
@@respectabletampodcast You got it right being "ACE" It's a 10 question test to measure childhood trama, etc. It's easy to find with a search.
@@JustinCase780 Ah okay. Thank you for that additional context. I appreciate it!
@@respectabletampodcast I learned about it as well from Dr. John a few months ago from this show. It's insightful.
Low self esteem and low self worth. That's the only reason she's willing to tolerate this type of behavior from anyone much less her husband.
Ma'am he is a liar and he uses his past as an excuse.
His hard past may also be a lie or part lie. People who lie, primarily lie to themselves.
It doesn't sound like he was worried about her during her time away. It sounds more like he was terrified she would leave.
Teri, you can only change people who want to be changed. It sounds like he chose not to change for 10+ years. He DOESN'T want to stop lying, he DOESN'T want to go to couple's therapy. That's the writing on the wall.
I dated a guy like this. Briefly. The stories he would tell. Phew. Then one day I witnessed just how much his mom and step-dad belittled him over and over and over again. I understood why he felt like he had to lie about himself all the time. My heart broke for him, but he just couldn't stop. Even after being called out. Couldn't stick it out with someone like that.
She married a liar and bum. She is a total codependent.
Did he lie about having a Learning Disability. Help yourself and leave. He's a Narc. He has you right where he wants you. Is he working night and day? Maybe he has another Wife somewhere. 🤔
I understand people who lie because of low self-esteem-- I've seen it. It is heart-breaking. But that doesn't excuse it.
There is no way she feels safe with a liar…
It sounds like people have been making excuses for her husband since he was a teenager. His school said he was good enough to be a top football player, but not smart enough to hold down a full-time job. Maybe her husband lied about that too. Hopefully she has seen his yearbook, or been to a class reunion. And now she's making excuses for his telling BIG lies to her. He must be really good looking. I don't know any condition that causes people to lie all the time.
Narcissists and sociopaths lie all the time.
Hey Ti😲❤️
Right? Aint nobody that stupid. And if they are that stupid they're in a facility and you aren't married to them.
@@minoozolala exactly. I hope the caller does some research on NPD and Sociopaths... she may find out her hubby is on that spectrum.
He's great in love bombing and mirroring
I'd be questioning EVERYthing he's told me. I'm over here thinking that maybe he doesn't even have a learning disability. That could just be another big fat lie that he's been shilling because it benefits him in some way. The problem is, when someone is willing to lie about having been married before, about being in the Marines - they are capable of lying about anything. Big, small and everything in between. Think about what it takes to go around telling people you are a veteran and you served when you never did. I'd be worried about that type of person. You know the type of people who lie a lot? Narcissists and sociopaths. Narcissists to build themselves up and sociopaths to manipulate. Pathological liars aren't people you make excuses for. Yes they absolutely need help, but they don't need you to make all sorts of rationalizations for their behavior. That helps no one.
💯 I’m so suspicious of the learning disability - I need to see receipts from his high school. 😂 Associating himself with being a hero with his military story/angle. Every storyline is intended to gain sympathy and admiration from others.
*"In life, we don't get what we deserve, we get what we are willing to tolerate"* -Tony Robbins
She tolerated his lies for 20 years. Girl, do something about it or else you'll be complaining about him for another 20 more years.
Never marry someone you need to fix, be it male or female. If they are emotionally and mentally damaged, 🏃🏃🏃RUN .
If you choose to continue to stay, then it's on YOU.
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If someone is emotionally damaged its their job to fix it. That doesnt mean they arent worthy to be with. This guy is damaging someone else in the process.
@@Ready-ForTheEnd
If she chooses to stay with him, knowing he's the way he is, then it's on her. He is who he is, she already knows she can't change him, so if she continues to stay, it's on her.
She doesn't have a husband, she has a child.
I’ve lived with someone like her husband. e.g. “Did you leave that pan on the stove?” “No, I didn’t!” (yes they did, bc there was no-one else in the kitchen apart from them & me)
Teri: end this. HE WILL NOT change, EVER!
He has lied to you literally your whole marriage. Can you believe anything he ever says?
Ma'am, you don't have to fix your husband because you didn't break him. My advice to you is to save yourself or you will spend the best years of your life with someone who is going to suck the life out of you with his deceit. He has already calculated that he can lie to get to you and get away with it because he knows that it's easier to beg for forgiveness than to do the right thing the first time.
What does she get out of this arrangement ? She’s afraid she’ll be alone the rest of her life
Listen again.
@@JustinCase780 just in case she missed it?
@@bettysmith4527 🤣🤣🤣
Bingo. She thinks she can't start over. She thinks she's too old, not good looking enough, whatever. She doesn't see how much better she will be NOT having to deal with a compulsive liar.
Bingo!
I was briefly married to a compulsive liar. It will make you crazy trying to discern what is real and what is not, until it sinks in that you can’t. You simply can’t. This guy doesn’t know what is true and what isn’t. You can either stay and go crazy and constantly doubt yourself, or you can get out of there. These are the only possible outcomes.
As someone who was born with a learning disability, we know between right and wrong and lying and truth. It's easy to use our LD because people won't question it. We know the differences.
She doesn't know if he recognizes it? Lying is intentional. People absolutely know when they're lying. She needs to stop making excuses for him and make it clear that he needs to get help to get to the root of why he's lying about such serious things. If he doesn't, he's going to keep lying and she's going to keep excusing it.
My ex son in law fully believed his own lies, he was a text book narcissist.
In my culture we say every crime starts with a lie. Lying is the gateway to bigger crimes. A pathological liar will always escalate to even worse! God only knows what else he's hiding. Dear lady I can't see how you can accept such craziness from a human, let alone life partner and continuously defend his lack of 'character'. What a tragedy for him to con his own partner. Sounds like he needs therapy and self commitment ethics for his own family. Cut short and uproot the lies from childhood, one of the biggest parenting lesson.
Out of curiosity, what culture is that?
You can’t possibly love someone who lies all the time. You don’t know what is true and what’s not. Who even is the person you love? You basically have never spoken before bc you don’t know what is true
She might be a bigger liar 🤥
She keeps lying to herself more
Bingo
It sounds more like he is a narcissist! And this poor woman may think that he is loving and protective when he is actually controlling. Very sad- I hope she seeks help and can see clearly what is happening... he is not taking accountability for his own stuff...
True. I know someone who is married to a narcissist and she also mistakes manipulation and control for protection. She used to be very independent and brave and now she can't even make the simplest of decisions for herself.
Dr. John you are amazing. I was yelling at my screen. She is dealing with a manipulative liar and has now taken on all the weight of his decision to lie to her during their whole marriage. I wish the caller the best and most of all peace. You can be a liar but still manipulate people into thinking that you are kind and naive. That's the choice of an adult. Hold him accountable.
Criminy, is she his wife or his therapist? This is a grade-A co-dependent woman who is spending a lot of energy focused on "fixing" her partner's broken psyche.
Why is it that these guys always lie about being in the Marines?? Never hear anybody saying they were in the Air force 🤣
At least he didn’t say he was a Navy Seal 😂
Having grown up with two pathological liars, I can relate to this caller and have an idea where she's coming from. I wish her all the best.
She married a Narcissistic person who is keeping her in a trauma bond with him she needs to leave.
Im sure he either is or wiill lie about cheating or maintaining other relationships which is dangerous.
Stolen valor is a huge issue alone.
Yes, it's a huge lie. But I think I'd be more pissed off marrying someone who told me they had never been married before.
Caller is so stuck in the mode of fixing her man that she can't see that she's giving him way too much leeway to lie his ass off to her.
Wow, he turned YOU into a liar. You should have stayed away after your dad died. You think it's too late to start over. It's not. You're worth more than being constantly lied to. You know what your dad would have said about all this, this is why you almost broke down on the call. You know what you have to do. You are just not brave enough to do it.
Yes, and has ruined her credibility and he wll use this to will alienate her child.i
I wish this woman had a better self esteem 😰😶
If she did I'm sure she would have walked away a loooooooong time ago! Her justifying him is not helping either of them.
Cut him loose. Give him the gift of personal accountability and freedom from your mothering. He’s a person not a project. Free yourself from this burden that does not belong to you. You did not make vows with him, but with a pack of lies.
She gushes over this guy. It’s really sad.
Sorry to say she enabled him and put up with him for years. Part of this is on her
I wonder what else he's lied about...
Yo Mama 🤣
the multiple children and the two previous identities
He has a job as a "foreman". Ok sure he'll come home with a hardhat and a utility belt but thats not somethin that's too hard to buy online.
"Magical thinking" is so sad and damaging. Girl, how can you say he's perfectly matched for you if you don't even know who he is?! He's fabricated his entire life!
Uumm... Ma'am... RUN!!! I love marriage and I'm all for it. But this is NOT love. She needs to research Narcissistic Personality disorder and she'll realize that her husband needs help and she is NOT the one to help him. When she "stepped away" and he was calling, and checking up on her and being the sweetest husband ever, that's called "love bombing". It's a ploy to make sure she doesn't leave him, because of his trash behavior. Ma'am you want to help him, but you can't; you want heal him, but you can't. His healing and help cannot come from you. I guarantee that her husband has a mean streak or a "dark side" that she is either ignoring, or making excuses for, and didn't mention it on the call. She keeps saying all these amazing things about him almost to convince herself that he's this great guy; but she knows what he does is not okay and that their relationship is not healthy. I really pray that she gets the help she needs and understands what's going on with her husband. Dr. John was very careful about what he said, because her hubby was not on the call so he didn't say much about him. Terri, if you ever read this comment, please start researching NPD, you just may see your hubby through your research.
Yes, I think she's in denial about a lot. The fact that she sounds so sad and is crying through the whole call says she's dealing with more than what was stated in a 15 minute conversation.
I was gonna join the Marines but…
I hear it all the time.
That was an awesome call! We can't fix others. We all need to walk that path ourselves. It's tough, but it's doable. And it is so worth it.
Amen!
This lady is in trouble .. She needs to get out of this relationship.i feel for her she has compassion but it's not what is needed.
She uses the autism excuse to allow the abuse. Being lied to like this IS emotional abuse. Period.
She is not "in trouble" Tough but that is over the top.
@@JustinCase780 idk when your marriage is based on complete lies and had an aces score of 8 seems troubling
@@Thesussysuscat Sorry I meant she's not in danger. They both had horrible trama so I hope that they can figure things out.
@@JustinCase780 maybe I did word it wrong myself
I think the biggest lie is what she’s telling herself. If he lies about big and little things on a regular basis, she is not safe with him. No one can be safe without actual trust.
Also, his lying has absolutely nothing to do with learning disorders or being on the spectrum. A rough childhood doesn’t make you a liar as an adult either.
He is a liar, he is not working wherever he said he is and definitely not day and night. She just needs to leave.
How does she know anything about him. He this, he that. He lies. That is the only thing she knows. Time to get away from him.
You got him give him the ultimatum. You shouldn't be accepting the constant lying, no matter the reason.
He works nights AND days? That could be a red flag.
I’m unsure about someone on the spectrum being capable of huge lies like that… Aren’t they blunt?
listen to yourself lady, your intentionally lying husband, turned you into a liar to your father, because you would rather support your lying bedwarmer than be truthful to your dying father.
I had a hard childhood and don’t lie and am a functional human. No excuses.
Dr John delony is really great… TERRI Runnnnnnnnn
This show has helped me tremendously. It is inspiring and really motivated me to make changes. I do my own personal development work and started therapy.
Lying is an intentional act. When she told her dad falsehoods about her husband she wasn't lying, she was misinformed. Is her husband able to distinguish fact from fantasy? Does he perhaps believe the stories himself?
No she was lying to her Dad, she had found out the truth at that time.
She lied to her dad before he died, now she carries that guilt.
My ex was the same way and even he believed his lies. He was delusional amongst other things. Glad I got out of that marriage and never looked back…
John is incredible. Such a difficult call. Boundaries can be harder to set than we think. "Yeah, I'm gonna tell them off! I'm gonna say NO!" but when reality hits, a lot of people break down. I've learned a lot from John, and I still have to remind myself that I can't change ANYONE unless they want to and are willing to change. It's really hard to accept fully, because when we love someone, we want to help them become better and keep trying to support them. But in the end, we are killing ourselves
I love Dr. John. He is sooooo good!
Watch him be lying about even his current job and current life that she knows to be true. Smh
Having been in the same place, it breaks my heart to hear people swimming in denial about the abuse they’re experiencing and insisting that they love, and must fix, their broken partner, a partner incapable of loving back and disinterested in fixing themselves.
You can't build on a foundation like this. A little push and everything falls apart.
I relate so much to this caller. I’m not married but in a relationship of almost 4 years with a man on the spectrum who is also a compulsive liar. I don’t believe it’s malicious either but it’s still so hurtful and has been very detrimental to the relationship. There’s been numerous times I’ve wanted out of it but have stayed. He’s in counseling now for it and I’ve been in therapy to try to cope
Better walk. Sigh.
& How's that going for you?
RUN!!!
I understand about lying for survival. In toxic households, you lie directly or you lie by omission. The consequences of being truthful are greater than any guilt you would feel by lying. (Direct lie: I went to Julie’s house instead of saying that you really went to David’s house. Lying by omission: I ate a salad instead of saying I ate a salad, a burger, and dessert.). I am wondering if this woman is “safe” for her husband. My ex told me that I could be truthful with him. Every time I was truthful with him, he used my words against me. I wonder if she uses his words against him. Before I make a judgment of the situation, I’d like to know his side of the story. I have no problem if you disagree with me. If you disagree, please be respectful with your response.
I respectfully disagree. I have been romantically involved with a pathological liar for seven years and recently hade the strengh and courage to get out of a very toxic relationship. The number one excuse he made up for all of his constant lies was ” You get so angry so I have to lie”. Putting the blame on me. That is pure manipulation and gaslighting. We are talking about an adult here. Not a unprotected and vulnerable child.
@@lindalundstrom4347 It sounds like your ex was gaslighting you. He was lying to be manipulative.
When it comes to interacting with my mom, I lie by omission. Every time I try to be honest with her, she ends up criticizing me and my actions. (FYI, I’m 50 and she’s 83.). I do what I need to do to survive when I interact with her. I’d rather keep my life private to avoid her negative energy.
Did I lie to my ex? Yes. I told him that everything was fine even though it wasn’t. Once I realized that his temper was his first love, I knew I had to leave. I didn’t tell him that I was moving out. I moved out without telling him because I was afraid that he was going to be violent.
Thank you for sharing your story with me. It sounds like your ex has some serious issues that he needs to deal with. He’s the only one who can fix his problems.
I’m glad you no longer have to deal with that. I hope you have healed from the trauma of that relationship.
She gets to be his saviour.
If she want’s a change. She has to make the change in her life. She married a scammer.
Stop making excuses for him! He lied about being a veteran! That's not ok!!!
I promise you, he doesn't have a learning disability. He uses that to get away with lying about everything.
He either gets professional help with his compulsive lying or he doesn't.
At the end of the day, you're the one married to him.
Classic example that there is someone out there for everyone..... whew. this is rough.
Amazing lady. Hope that you find the way to make things work in whichever path is best and most comfortable for you. Take care.
delony is brilliant
We learned from kelly ann Conway. When people call lies " untruths" or any other bullcrap word, they are trying to distort reality for themselves and others.
Abuse makes her think a horrible relationship without trust is the best relationship she deserves .
I feel like her husband is full of crap. If you can learn a football playbook and if you can remember lies that you have told time and time again you DO NOT have a learning disability!!!
He seems to be a manipulator and a compulsive liar 🤥. There is no excuse for that she should have left him as soon as she found out he lied and continued to lie
My son's father lied about his line of work. I told his girlfriend. She chose to ignore it. They got married. Divorced a few years later due to his cheating with her bff. Sometimes the crazy baby mama ain't so crazy. He'd also been married a few times prior to me getting with him. We both ignored the flags and people lie by omission
Dr. Delony gives amazing advice with so much compassion but sometimes he can be a little awkward with the callers. Anywho, great advice as usual
What is with all of these people lying about being in the military? Isn’t that a crime? I wonder what it’s about, because this is something I have heard many times, seems almost common...
It’s called stolen valor and is shameful.
Yes, I was hoping that Dr. John would discuss it. Similar to people pretending to be law enforcement. There must be studies on it?
He acts this mean towards me because
" he had a rough childhood". BULLSHIT!!! WOMEN!!! YOU CANT CHANGE A MAN. AND HE DOESNT LOVE YOU.
“I was in the military” … JK “I’ve never been married before” … JK
This is so much my husband. Idk what to do anymore
So lets get one thing straight, stolen valor is a crime, saying you served and pretending youre a military member is a crime. He lied to her about being married…i mean ffs those are HUGE lies. She is not safe with him and you can hear it in her voice. She is afraid. She is making excuse after excuse for him. And she needs to tell her dad the truth about her husband not ever having been a marine. She is now a liar too by not sharing that with her dad and it’s part of the husband’s manipulation. She also needs to confide in her father or mother about all these lies, she is not in a safe place. Maybe he has even threatened to harm her or the kids if she does leave. Me like that are unpredictable
When I met my ex husband he told me he had been in the military and had gone to college for awhile. I found out soon after that both things were false.
I had a friend who lied constantly some were so far fetched they couldn’t be true .
Even if he wasn't a liar she is way to invested in fixing him. I correct my children and scold them if they lie. As far as the learning disability but that seems like a big excuse to not try to be a better person.
“So protective” can come across as jealous and controlling. I wish she would have talked about that a little more
He needs to stop watching war movies , being a Marine is not it’s all cracked up to be
Holy cow this episode I don't even know if I can finish it because this one's tough I've been married to my wife for 12 years right now and yes we all have our past we all have stuff that we're not happy with so maybe we stretch the truth or lie 100% but at some point you move past that unless I mean I don't know holy cow this episode got me