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This lady just wanted to talk to someone. She knows she didn’t need the financial advice
You don't know that.
that's okk
That's pretty presumptuous. She had her entire world turned upside down. Just b/c you have money saved up doesn't take away the fear of the unknown (especially if she is unable to work as she said on the call).
she got mental illness. I'd like to hear the ex husband side!
Yea so what. Is that not why Dr Delaney is there. Smh. Having compassion is not that hard. Just try ❤
She needs to see a counsellor. She doesn't have a financial problem, she has an emotional management problem.
I was coming on to say the same thing she needs a counselor ASAP. Anna In Ohio
I want to meet this woman’s lawyer. Ninety percent of the marital assets? Wow!
Guy was loaded, a sex addict, and had multiple affairs. It was a slam dunk
im guessing she just meant 90% of those investment accounts, and they made a deal like he gets to keep some houses or some shit.... i hope..... theres no way lol
After I heard that, I thought to myself "well I'm never getting married"😅😅😢
@@phosphate66 90% plus 2 homes, one of which she already sold
And both houses!!
This woman is a mess. She's not telling all of her side of the story. There is more to her issues that she is leading on to.
Bingo!
Talk about a pile up on the husband can’t stand these one-sided stories. All she had to do was cry, and he’s automatically a sociopath and a bad person. Evil father give me a break.
She had bypass surgery. She did have an issue with food/eating. Addiction runs in her family so her brother being an addict and her having no safe emotional control makes it very clear that (as she admitted) there's an issue with control or balance.
Wait, she called asking if she should stop investing and then she goes down a rabbit hole of emotional rollercoaster.
I couldn't even finish listening to the call. She was crying like she made $4k a month and had $650k in debt. This is the wrong show. . .
I've been through that. My first wife always told me I was crazy and would constantly play the victim, even breaking down crying because I was suspicious of her and telling me I was breaking her heart. Turned out I was right and she'd been sleeping with at least one of her subordinates the whole time (in his mommy and daddy's house, no less). The divorce was gut-wrenching and I had a hard time trusting myself (let alone other people) for a long time afterwards. That hurt doesn't go away, but it becomes easier to carry.
your first wife? You mean you went out and made the same mistake again (marriage).
@@boston312 Lol when you finally see the red flags for what they are, they’re easy to avoid the next time around. Debt free now, remarried, four kids … life is wonderful.
thats untill the second wife divorces you and now she will get your pension, alimony and child support. Amazing how you guys keep making the same mistakes over and over again@@Astro95Media
@@Astro95Media👏👏👏👏👏👏 seriously good to hear and good for you. And also so sorry to hear too tho.
Terrible. Did you get the house(s) and 90%of the money like this caller?
NEXT CALLER PLEASE!!!
One problem I actually don’t think was addressed properly. The two kids are adults. The wife is being over stressed because she’s not telling them the whole story, and is having to be the in-between for communicating with the dad. They need to know what’s up, they are adults. She shouldn’t have to take that extra stress on. If they were little kids, yes, but adults, no.
For some reason, I did not like this call. I know dealing with some kind of issues and difficulties in life is very hard and stressful but why do I feel like she was asking for some kind of Validation?
She was definitely playing the victim. Men don't cheat on women they've been with for 20 years over nothing. She definitely did something to cause that. It was likely a build up of events.
@@ryanj357 Actually men DO cheat in longterm relationships "over nothing" (and women are not much better). As per her statement he admitted to being a sex addict.
@@ryanj357 Husbands and wives cheat because they lack integrity, period. A man with integrity who's unhappy in his marriage gets a divorce and THEN starts a new relationship. A man without integrity cheats on his wife.
She got 90% - I think it's her husband that should be crying.
He's definitely crying. That is wild
Through her sobbing tears, she is describing the most one-sided divorce settlement that I’ve ever heard of, with her being the big winner…
Men always get screwed over in court. He would have lost even if he didnt cheat. His wife wasn't working and probably fat and over weight and wasn't giving him sex. I wish they would have ask her if the had constant sex over the last 2 to 3 years since he went out the house to get some elsewhere. 1 in 4 marriages are sexless nowdays
@@tsaunders4684 😂
The man clearly makes 6 figures and is still working while his wife has serious health issues and been a stay at home mom since they were married 20 years ago. She makes 48k a year alone on her fixed income. The only way I see her walking away from this with 90% is they must had a nice lifestyle that the judge wanted her to maintain after the divorce, and while the husband would keep his lifestyle regardless of the divorce, she would not. Why is her expenses so low and why is she worried about shopping sprees making her lose her money and how is it possible her expenses are only 1500 a month. She's not telling the entire story. I think she really is accustom to shopping sprees and spending well over 4k a month when she was with her husband and now she's has to take a step back cause her card won't be refilled by him.
@mewtwomotherfuka True , yeah something is missing here. It's just tuff that the husband has to start all over after loosing 650k retirement money regardless of him cheating. Cheating or not he still was going to loose it. This woman will blow thru that money in about 7 years or so just like a typical lottery winner does.
They gave her the house and she sold it.
Wait - if you can become an online shopping addict, you can probably find some job you can do online remotely 😉
I know she asked a money question initially but this call seems like it should've went to John Delony's show instead of this one
This lady needs a friend
I’m pretty salty that The Dave Ramsey show has gone in the direction of Jerry Springer. This show is not longer been in my top 3 places to go for financial topics anymore, and it used to be #1.
Perhaps, but whatever? That's not a biggie.
@@katiejon17have you watched Jerry Springer?
@@sh4wnb880 not by choice, but the laundromat had it on sometimes in my youth. Have you listened to John Delaney? I knew he was a Springer the second I heard him tell a woman that her husband was a “dirtbag” and that she needed to “divorce him”... after she explained that she had a traumatic childhood, was adopted and cannot connect with her parents, cannot connect with her husband, just had her first child, and she was an absolute mess on the phone call.
As a woman, and as a long-time RN who has worked with families, children, and the mentally ill - I was horrified at what John did. He pushed this very mentally ill, very hurting, very vulnerable woman (likely suffering with postpartum depression) down a path that would further isolate her.
John is a very dangerous person to be giving advice. I just cannot believe that people can no longer stop and think for themselves. He is terrible.
Just give the kids the divorce transcripts. It's not wise to tell them not to have contact with their father. It's up to them.
Not even the divorce transcripts (which may not unveil the reason for the divorce anyway). it is hard, but she should graciously forgo the gratification and validation of them "taking her side". For the sake of the children ! she should even encourage them to have a relationship, unless the father is a narcissist.
Agree, so many divorced people, especially women feel the one area they can “win” is to bring the brokenness to their children and that when the kids hate and have no relationship with the other parent that’s their “win.” Sick 🤢 thinking.
This woman needs to be very very careful, her brokenness will attract the vultures coming in saviours clothing to take control of her money for “investment” “love” etc and if she’s so desperate she’ll crawl through the sand for affirmation she’ll be helped out of her $650 000 and her house.
I have no idea why she’s worried about finances. 650k at 45 years old is enviable. I’d retire today if I had that much.
That’s not a lot to last the rest of your life. But if she lives simply she will be okay.
she isn't calling for financial support, she is calling for emotional support
Exactly this is a big nothing burger to go on a nice vacation
That would probably multiply into enough to retire on if she leaves in the market. But it's probably not enough to immediately retire on at such a young age.
She said she was worried to use up all money as a way to self-medicate her sorrows (which was obviously very difficult)
"I can't get a job." You can get a job. You just don't like the jobs you can get.
You ain't lying, my boss is 83 had a double bypass and was back at work 6 weeks later and is still working 5 days a week 8 hour days
Facts!
😮
Yep! Or just don’t want to work at all and is asking permission to spend the money she has until it rans out
She'll be fine financially. emotionally she will need time, counseling, friends to get support from.
I never thought I'd hear a person would cry because she's in such good financial shape.
Then you haven't been paying attention to the news. Remember Robin Williams? Why did he commit suicide if he was in such a good financial situation? Because in a lot of cases money ≠ happiness.
That's not why she's crying.
Could be the massive amounts of cheating in her marriage that made her cry big guy. Not everything is about money.
He wasnt in great financial shape, he was giga broke after multiple bad divorces and a lot of child support judgements against him@@Henry_Red
There is a correlation of extreme frugality adding to pressure to do take an extremely radical spending. That on top of everything else she is dealing with. I can relate to being afraid of overspending if you relax.
Been single for 10 years post divorce. Looks like I am not missing anything. Go get your passports fellas.
fool. you're missing so much, like crazy drama, sleeping on the couch, guilt trips, threats to take your home car and savings, and portraying you as violent and abusive in front of your friends. get yourself a wife immediately and reap all those benefits and so much more.
MGTOW! I have so much more money not worrying about women.
Amen
She won 90percent of their finances in the divorce. Wow. That means he only has $72,000 after 21 years of marriage and she has 650,000. Her ex should be the one crying not her.
He should have thought about that before clapping cheeks with other women
yeah pretty pathetic
Definitely there is more to the story… I know one where the wife cut a deal with the ex (with attorney’s help) he was doing something that would bring him to prison, in a way he bought his freedom by giving up assets.
They do the math so that it's equal. If she sacrificed her career options for his, it's normal that she gets to have a retirement. If he is making a lot of money, he should be able to build back up, kids are older so alimony is not going to be huge and he doesn't need as much if he is single.
Also it was just the house, not the full finances.
This is a miserable person with lots of issues. She is smart enough to realize that she won't have that money for long considering that her ex-husband was the one who worked for it and earned it.
She will get $2000 for the rest of her life due to her disability and she has a house that is paid for and I am sure she got a car in the divorce.
@@hollystiener16 4K, so even better.
She sound like she’s having a panic attack on the phone
She needs to call her doctor not financial advisor
Emotionally, she’s broken 😢
In the divorce, she won!
The kids will want to reconnect with their dad at some stage in the future!
And she can 100% set boundaries around the information they feed back to her, whilst letting them know the truth about the break down in the relationship without judging them for wanting to keep their dad in their lives. The father has no right to ask for or expect discretion in this situation (not knowing if he has), whilst the mother can be tactful about how she tells the truth she also has no obligation to lie about the hurt it has caused her but she can't control her children and shouldn't judge them if they continue to want to talk with their father. I suspect if the kids are already refusing to talk to him they sort of know what's up, the daughter apparently doesn't want to talk with him, she probably has already heard her mother crying or heard them arguing.
btw she got 90 % of the assets - it is likely the husband really wanted out of the marriage and did not put up a hard fight.
@@franziskani
I thought it’s 50/50
Never heard 90/10
@miskiin236 she very clearly says 90/10. Should be 50/50🤷♂️ but fuck me
There are 3 sides to every story, his side, her side and the truth and i know that this lady is hurting but my gut tells me she aint telling the whole story.
I wish someone would have asked what the disability was at 45 years old. It's kind of pertinent in this conversation in order to get the full picture. Also, I wish the husband would have called in right after her to tell his side. One sided conversations result in inaccurate advice.
I think this convo is more about her divorce and less about finances. Financially, SHE'S GOOD! She appears to be heart broken and coping with the idea of never finding love with her disability. It also sucks knowing your ex has someone else.
her brother died 1 year ago from addiction too
Lots of missing parts to this story
She probably did something like withhold sex for years, find out her husband had a side woman... then saw her opportunity.
guys brain?
She mentioned she had bypass surgery? Maybe had a food addiction…???
Yep. And she was talking about not being able to smoke or drink. This lady has some issues that need to be addressed in counseling, not on the air. I don't think we got the real story from her either.
That’s what I’m thinking if she’s only 43… ppl love kidding themselves that food addiction isn’t a thing & that obesity is perfectly fine…
Jamie you are AMAZING! Don't allow anyone to tell you otherwise ever again!!!
Who screened this call?? 😬
The Ramsey team is great for not only financial knowledge but also for broken soul like this brave lady! ❤
Money is spiritual -- it's not the math or the behavior ...it's the whole kit and caboodle
She cleaned up on her husband. I wonder if he made most of the money. Sex addition or not, it's not fair that he's left with 10% for the assets in the marriage.
He decided on that when he cheated
@@jacqueline8566so just because he cheated due to his addiction he should lose everything?
he should consider himself lucky. women cheat and are rewarded everything plus lifetime alimony, because you know, it's the husband's fault they cheated.
Perhaps focus on the right things in the story?
@@jacqueline8566ohhh but when the women cheat and get everything “she was abused!”😂😂😂
She will be fine. You have to grieve the loss of the relationship and don't make any major decisions in about a year.
Easier said than done. That money is like a lottery win and will be gone within 5 years.
Didn’t even finish the vid lol
I didn't either. I couldn't take the exaggerated drama.
I’d love to hear the husbands side of this story.. 45 and disabled, but had gastric bypass just like everybody else in San Antonio
Omfg 🤣💀
She probably used to be good looking and let herself go, and then the husband who makes money was just railing everything that moved.
@@Chet_24 I was thinking the same thing when she said "gastric bypass" that is a "addiction". Hopefully she sticks with the new diet plan I've seen so many fail it. Anna In Ohio
….And another thing, the man said he had a sexual addiction! If this was an opioid, crack cocaine or alcoholism addiction it wouldn’t have been the same energy. Sometimes needing help can come in many forms. He was a great provider, 2 homes and over 650k in savings… that definitely would’ve been gone to the dope man if this was any other addiction
Dude had a great addiction to have AND Discipline to save money 👍🏻💰
Sounds like a winner to me!
@@kf1439doubt it
Poor advice telling the kids to have nothing to do with dad.
A cheating father is nothing to have. Nothing left of role model in that. Sad but true.
Worse advice every 😮.
She got 90% and he got 10%
That’s a crime within itself
10% of his own money she was prob a stay at home mom that 650k was probably his he worked for and they gave it to her
That means the court saw that he did something really bad and rewarded her for the shit he has put her through. Good for her.
@@pinkva23no realistically it’s probably because she’s disabled and incapable of bringing in an income. The ex husband has the ability to earn money and rebuild a retirement fund- not saying I think this is necessarily “fair” but I’m assuming this was how/why courts made this decision
Why do I have the feeling I am being manipulated?
That happened because he's a vile cheater and emotional abuser, and knows it and didn't fight her taking him to the cleaners.
So this is attitude we have for all addicts, right? Irredeemable, worthless humans not desserving of any type of forgiveness...??
HE self-diagnosed as sex addict. Who knows if that is even true. Sounds like he did not put up a big fight and just let her have most of the assets.
Just depands on what they did. Like alcoholics should get support but if they keep driving while drunk after warnings and offers of help then I'm not going to shead a tear for them when they get a 25 year sentence in prison.
I hope they’re also providing mental health resources to these people. Like suicide hot lines, warm talk lines, numbers for mental distress. These people don’t only need financial help.
They just gave er 3 months of Better Help for free and told her to talk to someone there tomorrow
You are in great shape bc of him. Not you not working
Gosh this poor woman! Jamie I’m praying for you!!! Get a great counselor to walk with you, keep trying to find one until you click with someone. And get yourself in a good church and a women’s Bible study and get a group of women around you ❤
IF she was a CHURCH GOING woman, she wouldn't be slobbering all over the phone about MONEY. Which, she has PLENTY OF. She'd turn to her church brothers and sisters, Pastor and GODS HOLY BIBLE for strength and direction.
Poor woman.... Excuse me....
She took 90% of his savings and took both homes, has 2k extra every month and kids in the college.
Poor ex husband......no wonder if he drinks till he dies...
What if they didn't have sex because she didn't want to or became so fat ugly and unattractive.... He should live forever without sex than?
If you as a woman walks away with 90% of everything l, with your kids in college and had been taken care of your entire life you should feel ashamed because the other with the 10% is pretty fucked
I divorced my cheating husband and lived on $1600.00 per month disability for 8 years with zero savings! This call is insulting! I lived in a camper at COE Campgrounds to make it. I am really insulted that she's afraid with $650 thousand in the bank! She's crying about not making it? Omg. Sorry. 😮
It's not about you. She has a disability. Her life isn't just ponies and roses. Her ex cheated on her with tens of women, putting her at extreme risk.
@@SS-rv1mb He put her at risk -- but didn't infect her with anything. So, please, let's drop this nonsense. She's indulging her own sense of drama here, calling a show about finances with sonething that requires a psychotherapist. She should be ashamed of herself to be snivelling and complaining about her ex's "bad behaviour" while she herself hasn't even done as much as to block him!
I totally agree, it's hard not to feel contempt and disgust listening to this! Like WTF!😅
guess people react differently to the events in their lives. i get upset for days if someone scratches my old car. the day i got divorced i was homeless with most of my assets gone and ever seeing my kids was questionable. it was also one of the best and happiest days of my life. i was finally free.
HOW does John diagnose the ex to be a sociopath ?? (those are rare, he is a cheater, maybe a big one, and he was manipulative when asked about cheating. What else is new ?) And encourage her to tell the adult ! kids that they "can" shut him out of their life ?? Then the kids also should not take any financial support from the father, no?
John is a scam artist... he has all the signs... how do I know? the same way he diagnosed the ex as a sociopath. lol
That's how these people seem to diagnose men to pander to the female audience. It's an evil world we live in.
She’s sitting on a pot of gold.
She could work a minimum wage job and be smart with her money and live comfortably
Can this show be about money again and get rid of the Dr. Phil portion of the show?
No.
She's on an emotional roller-coaster and about to derail any minute. The kids can decide on their own if they want to see him. I'm sure they have figured out their father was unfaithful.
Translation-i took my husband to the cleaners and I want to never have to do anything again so how can I make that happen?
And she's the one crying? Lol
She probably would rather have him as faithful husband and to share the assets with him.
While dude has to work the rest of his life to re coop what she took smh
His nasty self and parts were overdue for a good cleaning, clearly. Bet he just gets all dirty again, though.
@@franziskani That's not a financial issue, and she needs to come to terms with the fact that she'd been married to a man who chose to be unfairhful. She's crying and carrying on as though she's just found out her husband had been cheating on her for years -- in reality, she discovered this a year or two ago, so her behaviour now amounts to dramatic arts indulged in for the sake of garnering the pity of strangers. This lady's a head case.
She needs some Xanax and Vodka therapy. She already has his money. What’s the damn problem 🤦🏻♂️
She got two houses and 90% of the savings..,. Damn.
She knows how to cry and get sympathy. Got $4k a month like a dream pension, got 650k in liquid assets, and also got 2 houses...
What if he makes ~$40K/mo, she's on a Fixed income of $4K/mo, alimony?
the 4k per month are her income. That is not a pension. The 650k are her settlement (instead of permanent alimony / getting half of his pension). I wonder if the houses are on top of that ? - never mind, she likely would rather still be married and share the assets with him.
Yes she may be looking for sympathy. So what. She is a human being, and the divorce hit her had (despite the favorable financial arrangement).
She's sold one of the houses -- hence the 650k in her account. Still nothing to cry about.
Wow. That was a heck of a call. Wishing nothing but healing and good things for Jamie.
No longer had any interest in this call after that woman said she got 90% from the divorce while her husband only got 10%. Disgusting.
90% of the brokerage account and two houses? I understand her husband might not be a good guy but still how is this equal?
Exactly!
cheating on your wife of a few decades, with a sex addiction none-the-less (think of the disease threat!) is the disgusting part of the situation. There, fixed it for ya!
She's disabled with children. She's not getting married again. He destroyed the family. He may have actually given her the big portion.
She didn't get 90% though, the judge keeps 60%.
This guy did good this women is a head case oooof
Why does she need to block the husband in her phone so he cannot see their kids? John's advice is ridiculous. Edit, I see the kids are adults, so they can decide on their own.
Perhaps not right. But please start in the right end of the story, instead of cherry picking something on the cheating fathers side.
Yes block him. Even if the kids were minors. At least until she can pull herself to a better place. She is on a National radio show broken. She needs time to heal. Did he think about his kids when he was putting her life at risk with multiple partners? No. She deserves to put herself b4 the needs of the cheater.
@@Kat-wf7ux She can block, but the kids are adults and need to make that decision themselves
@@hollystiener16 I agree. I was responding to another msg and made the point that even if the kids were Minors(hypothetically) she can still block for the time she needs until she is ready to deal with him. The fact that the kids are adults she should def block and heal let her adult kids and him deal with their relationship. She needs to focus on herself right now.
She got fat and over weight and stop giving it up to her husband. That's why he had to go out the house to get some new boots. 1 in 4 marrigers are sexless
Was the husband a sex addict or was he being deprived sex in their marriage??
I don't condone cheating but many men are in sexless marriages. My heart goes out to her and him 🙏🏾
many men actually behave like little boys, look within,
Disabled people with 650k... Pisses me off. People work as a slave their entire life and you got people with problems probably brought on by their own poor health decisions with 650k.
If this lady can talk on a phone like this she can get a job...
John is gonna be like Are You Safe?
And immature commenters will feel the childish urge to point that out.
@Henry_Red are you safe?
@@fauxbro1983 Are you stupid? Oh wait, no need to ask.
@@Henry_RedAre you safe?
@@listerinr That depends, how sturdy is your mama's bed?
So in the divorce she got 90% of the brokerage funds and she got both of the homes? Yeah I guess that seems about right sheesh.
Dudes always get screwed he might be a dirt bag but that's bs
Yup 🤦🏻♂️ guy usually gets Fök’d
Screwed out of his finances sure, but she got screwed out of a 20+ year marriage that was a total sham, and for all we know he gave her herpes and HIV. She definitely got screwed worse than he did- she deserves that money. And he knows it. That’s why he didn’t fight it.
Who knows how many houses they had.
Yo. You have half a million dollars. You are fine.
The drama is off the charts. She fleeced him in the divorce and whining about over 1/2 million dollars. Go to a counselor instead of calling a radio show
And 2 houses 🫠
His fault, she gets $
I could picture her on the fainting couch.
The greatest wealth building tool for women seems to be divorce.
@@bonjoursophie do we REALLY know the whole story here?
No - we know what she is willing to tell us. And she’s not going to reveal anything that makes her seem unflattering.
She had a food addiction at some point if she had gastric surgery. It’s ashame really , but fellas don’t get married if she cheated on him she’d have still got that super settlement whilst he has to work till he drops.
And the man stepped out of her, after I’m sure he told her to lose weight for years.
Ring Dings, Dr. Pepper, and Cheetos sounds about right.
I hear her say "bypass surgery" at 3:00. She doesn't say "gastric bypass." Only "bypass surgery." So, maybe she had heart surgery?
It was probably a heart bypass since she's now disabled.
She has already started overspending but isn't admitting to it.
I'm in tears for her. This is scary for her. God, I pray you find peace.
This lady needs a therapist not dave ramsey jesus she is loony albeit maybe deserved but she needs help and dang she made out like a bandit i. That divorce
She got the bag 💰 and still not happy. 🙄
She could wipe her tears with all of her exs money. Shes annoying.
Are you safe?
I wonder what kind of disability she has? I wonder if the ex husband inflicted the disability on her? I wonder how he only got 10%? 🤔 I need more information 🤔
He probably has a good income and good earnings potential while she does not.
She seems like a control freak. One of those people who has to have things just a certain way. When she said she was going to take care of her kids, every second ... her children are old enough to hear the truth.
Lying through omission is what shes doing
God Bless John and Rachel for handling this caller with such compassion. The caller doesnt trust her own judgement, is the reason she is calling. She trusted someone for so many years and got cheated on so many times, she is second guessing everything but the numbers. Sometimes you just need to hear someone else say out loud what you already know inside 😊
Poor ex husband.
Adultery will do that to you
You are only hearing one side of the story.
Both sides of the story are lies 100% of the time.
The way their eyes lit up when she said 650k.. good for her
take note, women shas 650K saved and makes a monthly extra income of around 3k...BUT shes NOT happy, money does NOT make you happy, you need to find happiness then having a bunch of money is a big bonus :) you can be poor and happy...the world is cruel plenty of unhappy rich people and wonderful poor people who could use some more money...
Being single makes life so much easier.
Until it doesn't
Maybe for women@@janelleg597
Especially if you're a man and in the lower 90%. They don't want us when they are young after they crash into the wall they come looking for financial stability after they 🪛 everyone including their income/debt ratios.
She needs a counselor not Dave Ramsey
She’s sketchy, I don’t trust her.
She’s a scammer
Not saying John is a bad guy, but half of his talk is. Well baloney. Dr. John Baloney
Rachel and Dr. John, you guys rock great advice and love you both showed to this woman.
All she has to do is put that money in an index fund and she’s set for life
This goes on my top 3 for worst Ramsey Show calls. No financial advice was needed or given. Just the sad reality of marriage/divorce in 2024 and coaches like John Delony
If you really think that only people with legit financial trouble are gonna call, you are very naive.
Well your list is irrelevant so....
John Delony has really put the “Jerry Springer” in Dave Ramsey.
Brainless comment.
🤦🏼♀️ slapping the back of your head. … Bad call > no financial advice …. 🤦🏼♀️ … dave ramsey and crew are LIFESTYLE MARRIAGE FAMILY FAITH & FINANCIAL focused. This is not a pure financial coach who talks finances and nothing else. This is not that. …. Aside from that they DID talk finances. …… Her call was shes afraid that because shes emotionally broken - she has nothing to lean on to help ease that brokenness so shes afraid of using money to do it. And wanted guidance on that.
The financial advice they missed out on giving was to take that vacation she mentioned wanting to take. She has enough money to do it, she should go do something vacation like for the purpose of breathing and starting the healing process which she’s looking to start.
That vacation went over their head but they should have given her a green light to take one. She can and should. That was the missed moment here.
She needs to get into professional therapy ASAP. And no relationships for a while until she builds herself up piece by piece.
I'll take 4k a month debt free and 650k ..I say she will be okay..she heart broken not financially broken and I do feel bad for her being disabled
Never really understood the below saying….after this call, I think I now do.
“Why are divorces so expensive?”
“Cuz they’re worth it.”
I'm confused, is that from the woman's side? Retirement from a divorce sounds great, but if you're male you will pay for her for life
@@KH-lk9rnonly 10% of divorce orders include alimony and in some of those orders the woman is the one paying it
@@KH-lk9rnas will the ex wife and kids so betrayed and abused by his lack of humanity.
@@RepentImmediately so?
@vickimerritt2832 I'd rather be the wife, sure betrayal sucks but losing 90% of everything you have worked for your whole life? No clear winner here.
Imagine she got 90% of that portfolio? She probably put in nothing
Edit for future readers:
I made this comment to point out the absurdity of our country’s divorce process. Obviously I don’t know all the details here. People are commenting “this is why you don’t get married,” and I’m just shaking my head… That’s not the message here.
Of course not. Ramsey will tell young men to marry though.
Stay single. If you put the price tag on people
Thereality is the judge got 60%
She NOW makes 4000 a month. She has adult children (around 20) and she NOW has some health issues. It is possible that she considerably contributed to the family income. OR that she stayed at home for a while to raise the kids.
Exactly why men need not get married, and probably should just not even date. Save your money, buy a nice car, and travel.
I Know Why He Cheated.. 😂
Dave Ramsey's insights have been a game-changer for me! His practical approach to financial management has empowered me to take control of my money and work towards a debt-free life. The Total Money Makeover is my go-to guide, and I appreciate how he breaks down complex concepts into easy-to-follow steps
Those aren’t kids, those are adults that are going to have to accept the truth, cope, heal and then choose whether or not they want to pursue a relationship with dad. Also, you can hear in her voice that she is hurt and desperately needs therapy. She’s defeated and has no fight in her. In the coming years she could be a mighty warrior or she could be a hot mess for the rest of her life. That’ll be her choice.
I’m not quite sure how to feel about this. I can’t help but feel like she just wanted to tell her sob story to somebody who wouldn’t really question it and he would just automatically decide with her. My guess is that the other people in her life aren’t so quick to automatically just write the husband off. Addiction is addiction, no matter what the actual vice is, and her, wanting everyone to feel sorry for her because she needed to have gastric bypass, but yet has zero sympathy for her husband‘s addiction just doesn’t sit well with me. There’s always two sides to every story, and I feel like we are missing a huge chunk of it here
Right and she stole 90% of his net worth. I want to hear what he says.
She received 90% of what?
Why can't she get a job?
They had 2 house. And she got both of them.
How is that fair?
This is why I will never marry. I will just keep my long term girlfriend.
Of course they have to blame it all on the husband?
They trying to break up a family. And not to talk to their father?
Seems like there is way more then she is telling.
She's disabled. He lied for years. He's a bag of 💩. If you're not a bag of 💩 who thinks it's OK to cheat, you'll be fine.
Just get a prenup. No need to demonize marriages.
As for the reasons why she got most of the assets, there was probably a clause on cheating.
@@Henry_Red You have no idea how divorce works. Just wait until you go through it. Prenups regularly get thrown out.
You know the judge keeps 60%, so she didn't receive 90%.
@@amireallythatgrumpy6508 The judge get's nothing.
Geesh....this woman needs a therapist not financial guidance...she drove me nuts, probably drove her husband nuts.
Take her money away until she goes to see a therapist. She has some other underlining issues.
Giving advice and not knowing both sides is dangerous. My wife cries but never tells the whole story. How long did she not sleep with him or often? She got bypass surgery, so what for? If one partner let's themselves go, then there is going to be some errors.
Well then you get a divorce. You don't go out and sleep with a football team's worth of people, but then lie and gaslight when confronted.