Wife Found Out I Was Lying About Finances! (Is Our Marriage Over?)
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- Опубліковано 4 лис 2021
- Wife Found Out I Was Lying About Finances! (Is Our Marriage Over?)
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The way he communicates is why his wife is done.
He speaks like a child. He should remain single
Agreed this dude is ridiculous.
I bet he's a narcissistic compulsive liar🥴
He is not marriage material. One of the things that, well there’s a lot of things that stand out with this guy, but he tells his wife after he had his friend pick up the child no no no no no no no no no. You talk to your wife that you can’t make it to pick up the child and see if she can and if she can’t then you talk about making another arrangement not you don’t tell her after.
He’s 37 years old. OMG
I like how John halfway through says well how can I help you?
You can’t help him he’s way too far gone
So…..he’s a liar and probably a cheater, but he calls in whining about how he can never do anything good enough for her. Classic!!
"My therapist has run out of ideas...." yeah no kidding, you're exhausting and take no responsibility.
Run, wifey, Run! Liars never stop lying.
The fact that he lied is where the problem is, regardless of what the lie is about. Lying is pretty serious business.
I can’t tell if he even told the truth about why they separated.
The man can't commit to a single statement, forget marriage.
Love how John pivots so well depending on the person and their attitude. He’s firm when he needs to be and soft when he needs to be. He knows how far he can push the callers limits.
Because he’s experienced in crisis response, he can accurately gauge where the person is at with their thought process and emotions based off of the tone of voice, how they respond to answers etc. It’s honestly amazing.
Sounds like my husband I am divorcing. It never stop. I found out our whole relationship was built on a lie. What a gut punch.
Please dont give up
My marriage was the same. We pretty much had to demo the the relationship and start over and now it's much better.
This man is lying to Dr. John also
He never mentioned his wife when he spoke about what makes him happy. He needs to let her find a man who loves and wants her.
Yeah, he says (1) he likes to take his son to the pool; (2) tinkering with things; (3) spending time with friends. Nothing involves time with his wife, not even snuggling on the sofa together at the end of the day. I wonder what he was attending school for; training for a trade, or becoming certified in something that would advance his career. Guy can’t seem to commit to anything and follow through on it. Poor role model for a son.
Exactly
Dr John: So was there another woman?
Caller:
...no...
😂 exactlyyyyy
🤣🤣🤣
It sounds like he has a single core processor and that thing is maxed out. Every response is labored.
Dr. John has the patience of a saint
A Buddhist monk
It's his job.
I am willing to bet "some money" lost was a lot of money for them.
He didn’t sell AMC quick enough 😂😂
@@matt.108 🤣😂
Hes a loser. Period.
He sounded angry when he said “I was not.” It doesn’t sound honest. Lol Bet he had an affair too.
Bruh I was hitting my head on the desk listening to this. God bless Dr. John
Man is afraid of responsibility. Lying is just a symptom of it. He wasn't even willing to take responsibility of how things were going in his relationship during the call--flip flopping back and forth and hoping that John would fill in his sentences and tell him what to do.
I completely disagree he just very lost. I was the same way I was hard working, getting good grades a decent boyfriend but I didn't know what I wanted. He just does what he is told cause he don't know what to do. His wife says she don't feel love and want him to start taking her out so he plan a date but he don't have a purpose so it probably wasn't good. He go to therapy cause that what a good husband do.
Omg you hit the nail on the head.
@@bobberry1463 listen to the call again. This is not you.
@@bobberry1463 totally fair. He may work hard too... the difference between you and him is that he actively lies to cover up his faults/deny any contribution to the situation he's in today. As you likely already know, kids only do that because they're scared of facing the consequences and owning their mistakes.
@@bobberry1463 that’s totally possible, we may never know. Some people are controlled and manipulated from childhood to adulthood but taught and not held accountable for becoming real adults. Good for you for doing the work to become the person you desire to be.
This was me in my 20’s reason for my two divorces. Now it’s no excuses tell the truth extreme ownership and personal responsibility. Way to apply pressure John. Caller needed to hear that
Ya i screwed up a relationship by "hiding the truth". After she left i went to therapist and worked on my issues. Funny thing about it I ruined this great relationship bc a girl from a previous relationship changed me and i had some damage from it and instead of working through those issues, I buried them down until it was too late. Now i am about as honest as it comes. Brutally honest and not afraid to express any of my concerns or issues and am an open book. Luckily when i did this i was early 20s and grew up. I am about as masculine as it comes, but found a great therapist and dude broke me down and called me on my bs right away. Spent 6 months with him and changed me for the better. Do not be afraid to get help if you need it.
John really needs to send some of these people to therapy so they can learn to communicate. Imagine his wife trying to talk to him, that poor woman.
It was at that moment that the wife said, I can do bad allllll by myself🥴
People who don’t want to own up sound like this
@@rachelgooden9981
I think he called in hopes that Daloney would save him but save him from what because he couldn't even tell half truths, more like 1/10 truths😂
He doesn't need therapy. He couldn't communicate because he was too busy trying to conjure up a great story full of lies. His storytelling days are over🥴
He reads like the laundry list of Adult Children of Alcoholics or Dysfunction. I’m not a therapist but I suspect that would help him. I don’t think anyone from Ramsey would suggest that because some people mistake it for blaming their parents, but it’s not that. It’s acknowledging the emotional dysfunction from childhood and learning to apprehend those skills of life and relating that weren’t picked up. Not an excuse, but this guy definitely needs the help.
My ex boyfriend did this to me. Lie after lie after lie.
I graduated college, got a job started advancing and he was still “going to school”.
Glad we didn’t get married. Breakup wasn’t easy but I was able to get out.
I got out after being married ten years with a guy like this. It will extremely grind you down. So happy now but he keep trying to come back even after many years. I was mommy I guess.
@@jet4415 I spent 7 😩
I was this guy... it's hard to change!!
@@jet4415 so the guy just was out of school and not doing anything or what? Or was it the lying? I guess it all adds up to a guy who doesnt have himself together and is underperforming in life and attaching you to it.
Oh BTW...................we're separated. What? He should stay separated.
"you got to keep them separated "--The offspring
I'm only 6 mins in but I understand why his wife is leaving him. She can't trust him to save her life. This guy needs to grow up
Well I understood why his wife separated within the first 3 minutes of the call.....
😅🤣
It’s clear from this call that this man has issues being honest and being straightforward. He’s calling for help and still has issues being open and communicating honestly. John has to be fishing the information out. He doesn’t come forth willingly with info and still hides. This is what his wife faces and more. It’s so evident here that he has not changed . Deeply engrained flaw.
So now he wants help but doesn’t want to admit to the stuff he needs help with
It’s painful listening to him. Just come clean and tell the truth. Why do John have to pull it out of him.
I remember an episode of the Simpsons where Homer buys Marge a bowling ball for her birthday even though she has no interest in bowling…that is this guy.
@2:30...john lays head on desk...I lost it!
Yep, I laughed out loud when he did that, poor Dr. John!
OMG this guy is so frustrating! She needs to run like the wind..These long af pauses and blatant bs-ing makes ME want to break-up with him!
He's the type of guy who thinks he's clever (hence the day trading) when he's actually suuuper transparent.
@@jwise7777 Yep, very annoying
I can see why this guy was a failure trading stocks. This phone call was painful to listen to.
Stay single, don’t ruin another life. I want to watch this all but so painful…
wow bro get some help, bc im getting pathological liar vibes big time here. Like this dude could tell me its raining, and i would still go outside and look.
NO WONDER SHE LEFT 🤣🤣🤣
This guy sounds exactly like my ex. Makes sht up as he goes along. Those long pauses give him away
What was the point of this call? 15+ minutes and nothing was said.
Food for thought: never put “happiness” as your ultimate life pursuit. This is a purely emotional concept that will inevitably cause dysfunction.
Pursue victories
@@rustyshackleford6637 Nah..that is for sure a path to death. Victories happen very little in most peoples lives. You are going to lose many times in your life. Learning to love your life without winning and be content with what you are given, be OK & at peace when you lose and accept what you can do is true happiness. Being content is the biggest path to peace and joy.
I kinda lied about some things ... don’t lie = get trust. Is alcohol involved here?
I’m confused on how they even managed to get married
They were just in college
Lie and a lot of promises
College LIe and false potential (good looking and charismatic (ish) )
I'm having The Notebook flash backs...
"WHAT DO YOU WANT"???
I was getting dizzy trying to follow this conversation!
It was torture. 😫
His wife made the right move. This guy is a chronic bullshitter, inside and out. He has dug such a deep hole with his wife that she will always question him, even when he tells the truth, and it will always lead to conflict. He waited too long to “maybe” make a change.
It’s always ironic when you have a chronic liar who isn’t even remotely good at lying. Usually you expect people who lie all the time to at least be halfway decent at it. But then you get dudes like this who are so delayed answering even simple questions that it’s amazing they chronically lie since it’s so easy to see they’re lying.
Whenever the call starts with someone saying “I kinda lied about some things” you know you’re gonna be in for a fun call. You either lied or you didn’t bubba. There’s no kinda about it. But obviously the way he answers everything you can tell the dude lies all the time and doesn’t grasp the concept of accountability whatsoever. Not hard to see why his wife is done with things and good for her for getting away from the dude. I’m sure he had a lot of chances before this happened. When you see a dude who can’t even be transparent with someone he’s supposedly trying to get help from it says it all.
Yeahhhh there was another woman too
I love Johns question of why he doesn’t trust his wife. This guy is so clueless. He doesn’t have an idea of how to be honest even with his himself.
This guy is clueless. He doesn't know how to form thoughts and articulate them in a clear and concise manner. He needs to work on communication skills first. Whenever he says " yeah I don't know"- He knows ! He just doesn't want to admit the things that are problems between them or with him.
Wow. Just... Wow. The guy really has no direction. I feel bad for him, but even more for his wife. The trust is gone, the marriage is over.
Dude needs to learn not to lie to himself. Start with that then learn how to not lie to other people.
He’s a liar and a terrible communicator.
This call was uncomfortable for me. He sounds like my ex-husband who lied a lot and struggled to answer questions. On the other hand, my response to him for lying was to be critical of him, and then we really couldn’t win. I feel bad for the caller. He said something about not being able to do things right in her eyes. This kind of criticism from her is as destructive as lying, and when faced with the consequences of criticism, the consequences for lying might seem better than hearing the criticism. They both need help.
My ex-husband is deceased after a debilitating illness. I don’t think he was ever really content, and this makes me sad for him.
This is really good insight
@@Hillside-Hive thank you.
If your ex was like this guy, he deserved to be criticized. He should have recognized your criticisms as valid and taken responsibility for damaging the relationship. He should have strived to be a good husband.
Lol he was able to answer one question quickly without dragging on and on and that was how old he was! 😆
This caller is so beta. I mean cmon he can't even answer basic questions about what he wants to do. On top of that he is clearly someone who flees from responsibility. He figures if he can have people cover his tracks and do the bare minimum that is going to get u anywhere in life. His wife definitely has a reason to divorce him. Just sounds like a constant sad clown.
You kind of sound like a clown yourself my guy. Betas and alphas aren't real btw go read a book
14:54 "You've got to decide where you're going......looking to everyone one else to tell you what your life needs to look like..."
Oh MAN! John has my old number! I too have done this my whole life! Waiting for someone ELSE to tell me what I should do with my life! I pray you get some goals and get _excited_ about them, John! 🙏🏻♥️
Title should be.... I was lying about lying 😂🥴
🤣😅Perfect
This was an interesting and painful conversational dance.
It's hard to live life only to realize you don't really know what you're doing or what you want. Having goals and being intentional is so important.
I feel like this was the only compassionate comment on this thread ❤
This was great advice from John for all of us
Omg!! I'm done with him too and I barely know him. 😵💫😮💨🤣
This dude. No. Wife....you need to file for divorce and run and never stop. Jesus.
He can't stand her, wants to be a good Father- and doesn't understand how to sort out the emotions.
Having a child with someone you can't stand isn't easy, regardless of how much you can't stand them- that creature is the mother of your child.
He needs to focus on being a Father and staying away from women for a year to figure this out.
I'd like to know more about the wife. Great advice John.
"Coming clean" doesn't make someone trust you. You have to stop doing things you're afraid to come clean about. And learn how to communicate more clearly.
This!
Jesus Christ … this is like pulling teeth. He can’t even elaborate on the issue. I still don’t know what the call was about .
Dr DeLony has the patience of a saint . God Bless , truly !
I feel like I’m constantly playing defense. I play double covered on my job and bills but leave friendships and relationships on single coverage and often gets burned.
Wow!!! This is great!!! John is awesome. Opened my eyes to a few things ❤❤
This caller has the maturity and sense of responsibility of a 5-year-old
When he asked what makes him happy and he didn’t say his wife, I knew their relationship was over. Hope she stays away, she deserves better.
Please do a follow up. We need to know she filed. Please.
The daycare thing was probably scary from his wife’s POV. The school called her and told her some rando was trying to pick up her child? “I am a friend of your dad’s; he told me to come pick you up,” is literally a tactic that child predators use to get kids to come with them.
And maybe his lack of direction is hurting his relationship?
From 11:15 on... Worth it’s weight in Gold.
This dude sounds like he is hiding a lot of stuff - still. He still doesn't seem to think he did anything too wrong - it is a fundamental BREACH of respect and HONESTY. He deserves to be divorced - she is better off without this liar.
This bum is only calling in, so he can send this to his soon to be ex wife… total manipulator. He cheated too
Good lard he called but Daloney has to pull teeth for an answer🙄 Dude seems like a textbook version of a narcissistic compulsive liar and wifey is finally sic and tired of being sic and tired🥴🙄
Wifey, if you're listening, RUN🏃♀️🐎👟💨
Yes. He's stunned and hasn't figured out why she wasnt happy because he is so terrific. He wants his life to look normal to others.
He wants to do what he wants and thinks everybody should be fine with that.
He says he wants relationships but for show. He wants his own terms i.e. he doesnt care about others he just wants to sell the illusion or like new generations post it on Facebook.
John had to state the obvious. Decide what you want and go get it. The problem is he doesnt really want a relationship.
He'll soon not be as young or physically attractive and he has nothing else to offer. He will be alone and lonely and will still be thinking I dont understand why women dont fall all over me? And then he will treat them openly worse.
I like that basketball reference, solid
0:55 Fly lands in mic, got me there
This is too painful to hear. Dr John handled this so well though.
This caller is way tooo evasive
Poor Dr. John needs therepy after this call 😂 ridiculous....
What's with this guy and pausing.
He is lying 😂
37 going on 17
Dont insult 17 year olds.
Poor caller doesn't know what he doesn't know, nor anything that he should rightfully know.
Be honest with yourself buddy 🤦🤦🤦
That my friend is called EGO....START by not taking the neg. On WE ALL HAVE ALL..MAKE MISTAKES AND SOMETIMES SCARES AND HURT. I hope you can muttle through....and it hurts when CONTROL IS what love feels like.
I am so lost myself but I know that respect and placing and fixing things and not placing others to be a fall guy.
I hate when people say that it is ok to STAY MARRIED AND ACT LIKE IT IS OK TO NOT TO BE KICKED TO THE CURB.
MY MARRIAGE I HAD TO TO ALL AND I THINK...I KNOW IF HONESTY IS REAL BUT TEAM WORK ADDS UP TO GRATITUDE.
I am sick bruhhh my fiance lied about being in debt of 4000. I feel so like sad
OMG.
Bro replay this conversation and ask yourself again “why is she leaving”
Why is he so vague? Sounds like he even lies to himself
So…….. every answer?
The guy says right at the beginning that he doesnt think he did anything wrong. 🙄
Listening to him is draining..poor wife
Hard conversation..,
How do you bury the lead so much? lol
He is a liar this is horrible you can hear it in his voice. So if we know he is lying then his wife definitely can sense it.
This guy is a loss.
is it just me or do all the men that contact Dr delony have the same voice?
He says he wants time with his son. I will bet he will give his wife minimum in child support, if any, and still not be nice to her, because she won't take him back. Then be super angry with her if/when she marries someone else in the future. He does not take responsibility, and lies, which is a deal breaker for me, cannot stand liars.
The lying is fucking crazy in this case. He's a habitual liar. Un-fucking-believable 🙄
😴😴😴😴😴😴😴😴 he's putting me to sleep 😂
He keeps saying “I don’t know”. He seems completely unable to communicate or articulate a thought.
What? What on 🌎? What?
Dang! This guy needs a life coach.
This guy was definitely cheating 😂.
How do you "KINDA" lie??