Exploring Non Binary Tik Tok
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my girlfriend is trans, and she doesn't want bottom surgery because the idea of it scares her. she is just as much as a trans girl as any other. I'm glad that people are beginning to recognize people like her more.
aww, thats so cute and its so sweet you accept her
That’s for being so sweet 🏳️⚧️💗
You are a👏m👏a👏z👏i👏n👏g, we need more people like this-
More like King Vogeaxopoulos
@Lee Schmee what
I'm an androgynous cis girl, and when I shave my head my grandma was "you look so weird, but pretty weird, never let your hair growth again".
I don't think I identify as androgynous but I'm a cis girl and when I shaved my head, no one understood why but everyone got used to it very very quickly. I love that we're all just shaving our heads now. It's literally just a hairstyle and people have made it a much bigger deal than it ever needed to be, in my opinion. People tend to add meanings to it that don't have to be there
that's so sweet 🥰
@@peachy_scoundrel415 i dont understand how other people can get so personally offended by someone else's hair. I shaved my head because it was annoying and I was tired of washing it, then everyone was so upset?? Like... are you seriously protective of my useless protein strands??
@@j_fenrir I did it for the exact same reason, I was also depressed and didn't have the energy to keep up with caring for it. My dad was very upset and I knew a lot of my friends would be so I just didn't tell them. I'm 5 months into growing my hair out and none of them know (covid has made hiding it much easier) and same with my family, they have no idea but luckily my sister and her family were super supportive and sweet the whole way through. It was crazy to me how much people cared at first. It took some people a long time to get over it and a lot of women kept saying I was "so brave" for shaving it which I still don't understand
@@peachy_scoundrel415 Holy shit same. I was very depressed and washing my hair was like no.1937738282727 on my priority list.
Most of my friends deal with some sort of mental illness so they were pretty supportive and entertained. I was pretty lucky other than my family being weirded out.
Even with that though, it was such a great experience to actually shave it. I unintentionally gained back a bit of bodily autonomy that I didn't even know I lost. Now that I've got hair again, it's so fun to mess around with it and no longer give a fuck what anyone thinks!
I’m Bi and personally I do not pick up cups. I place them into the void, travel to my destination, and then pull them back out of the infinite abyss for consumption.
Oh my god same!!
wait you guys use cups?
How do you pull them out of the abyss?
I personally prefer another dimension tho
Same, maybe we can bump hands in the abyss sometime :)
"my daughter is nonbinary" filled me with so much writhing discomfort
Serious question - what should she have said? I can only think of "my child" but that implies someone young. I feel like we're lacking a non-gendered word to cover daughter and son without making any implication about age - or maybe I'm being really stupid and am forgetting it.
@@naysneedle5707 I mean I feel like child or kid works fine, it doesn't nessarically indicate how old the person is
@@ghost-husband "offspring"
@@naysneedle5707 agreed
@@Nicoder6884 I mean that works I guess😂
The way that "gay" person holds their cup is how my father holds cups... He's very conservative... I can't believe he's gay now
lmao
I must see how my dad holds cups.. *requires further analysis*
I felt called out-
Be like "dad is there something you'd like to tell me? I'm here for you."
@Kali Evelynn wanna be besties ✨
When people apologize for misgendering a dog but not a human smh 🙄
yea, they’ll just get upset at you 🙃
Ik it's crazy
Dogs a glorious. Humans are trash 😂
@@TigerheartedWolf doesnt mean its okay to misgender someone
@War Pigeon you still should never mis gender a person
As an asexual I don't carry my cup like that. I actually don't have cups, i drink water straight from the tap
As a pan we don't carry our cups like that..we carry different cookware to drink form. I use a big old pot
i drink from the bottle
@@Verydeadbarbie haha i love that pan pun
I actually drink from a hose pipe
We arospecs just float in a nearby lake for a while and absorb thru our skin
“It’s not hard to use they/them pronouns.”
Me, who uses they/she pronouns: *happiness noises*
Hey same :D
same? i’m a little confused about my gender but i’m pretty sure i like she/they?
Your he/they brub here, you all are valid!!!
@@cornycubedlaser3227 I use those pronouns too!! 🥳
I'm sorry, but, how exactly does using she _and_ they work?
I'm kind of confused here-
I’m nonbinary my life goal is when anyone looks at me they’ll think “court jester” long before they think “queen”
I just wanna be the clowncore genderfluid I was always destined to be
@@gremlinwithstickyhands3704 YESSSSSSSSS
This is a big mood
✨Iconic✨
Same but instead of court jester I want people to think "coroner"
as a cisgender person with trans friends, just a reminder that it really isn’t hard to use correct pronouns and it’s the bare minimum respect that you can give to a person. people who refuse to use correct pronouns are just pressed over nothing lmaoo
Thank you good (insert pronoun)
they are so angry and for what
Yeah I knew someone who started going by a different name. I wasn’t sure of their pronouns and for a while I was too anxious to ask (I’m a anxious person in general lol) and then I just asked them because you know it’s the decent thing to do. They said oh it’s they/them. And I was like cool beans. And that was that it’s the decent thing to do and it took like 30 seconds to do . It just shows some basic respect and decency and makes that person feel good about themselves. It isn’t that hard.
(Also they/them is used in a singular form all the time - i.e They read a book, they went to the store - and has been for **centuries** now. There’s no excuse for the transphobes who are like *ThEy iS pLUraL REEEEEEEEEE* )
Hello 😊 I have a gender fluid friend, I was wondering if I just call them “they”?
I’m also a little bit scared to ask them in case they’re weirded out...
“She can’t have anxiety, she’s a teenager”
And here come the flashbacks
HoLy Fuuuuuuuuu-
REEEEEE
My anxiety: Yeah dude I know I’ve been kinda with you this entire time but apparently I don’t exist soooooooo 👋
Same 🤯
Someone told me that “progressive pronouns shit” is against god’s will
Ahh yes, Respect is against god’s will.
God is neither male nor female , they're canonically non-binary , claiming that God is a man , is actually a sin . THEY DON'T EVEN RESPECT GOD SMH
@Gremlin Hunter oh yes that's true . There are a significant number of feminine allegorical refrences to God. Still, God has no gender .
@Gremlin Hunter he's refered to as he, but he's not male. he's both :) btw pronouns don’t really matter to him. she/he/them any :)
@@lilyvalley4248 imagine God just coming down going like “I use they/them pronouns so you are all going to hell”
@@justyouraverageanimesimp928 😂😂😂
"If you're gay do hold your cup like that?" I'm a bisexual and i can confirm that i hold my cup like that sometimes lol
I’ve learned something about myself today.
I hold my cup in every single way possible lmao
Same but I’m a lesbian
The joke was about ice coffee tho
I hold it like that all the time lmao I can’t help it, it just feels natural to me.
me, a gay: holds my cup like that
the rest of the gays: *i now diagnose you with lgbtq*
when i saw this i was drinking boba. i hold my hand like that, so............i guess i have some soul-searching to do 😅
I thought you were gonna say Hello lgbtq community
Hello, lgbtq community
same,,
Me when I see it... They caught me!
I would just like to warn everyone that the “gay cup grab” can be dangerous. My roommate and I have lost many drinks to the gay hold lol
I did the gay hold and I didn't even realize that was the gay hold, either way I've seen some of the most gay furry stuff before so it's not inaccurate really.
I used to hold my cup gay but my mom made me hold it straight
that's why I never hold it like that I'm always afraid I'll drop the whole drink
bro i literally hold my phone like that, nothing can stop me 😈 /lh /s
Me
Transphobe to a mtf: hey you can't go in the girls bathroom! I don't want my kids to get hurt!
Trans person: um okay? **goes in the men's bathroom**
Transphobe: wait no! You can't go in there! My son will get weirded out by a girl in the bathroom
Trans person: 👁️👄👁️ 〰️👄〰️ 👁️👄👁️
This is why gender neutral bathrooms need to be normalized
It stresses me out so much when there isn’t a gender neutral bathroom
Then only have male children *Karen*
brø, where am I suppøsed tø gø. Heaven bathrøøm
A CIS man wore a pin saying his pronoun s and a lot of people started calling him ma'am and she. Like way to show your transphobia
Ew that’s so disrespectful for people to blatantly go against the pin just to be an asshole. Wearing a pin is not much different than putting pronouns in your bio, it helps normalize trans people omg. Reminds me of when me, a cis woman, but she/her in my bio for that specific reason, and a family member asked me if I was being woke or if i was “trying that trans trend.” Sometimes they’re just transphobic to be transphobic and I hate that
@@hydrogen3266 Yup. I’m cis and my pronouns are in my bio and the amount of people who have called me transphobic slurs and used masculine pronouns to try and attack me. I don’t even have dysphoria and it really hurts when people do that, like makes my heart ache or my stomach feel nauseous, can’t even fathom how that makes trans people feel :(
@@binx2942 i'm really sorry that's happening but unfortunately that's the reality we live in :(. but seriously I love you for doing that, it makes it harder for transphobes to spot us, and it makes us feel safer. it may seem like such a small act of allyship, but it really helps. just don't add (cis) because it defeats the purpose lol
Yeah its like they're proud of being so hateful, its really shitty.
Can confirm ppl do this, I've been in the same situation as the person above (have she/her in my bio as a cis person) and people go out of their way to use he/him ://
i still cant get over the quote from that terf book: "she uses they/them pronouns"
LMFAOOOO YES
oh dear god
The WHAT
LOL
I, a gay, do not hold my cup like that. In fact it gives me a lot of anxiety because if I was to squeeze just a little too much, the top will come off and the liquid will spill all over me.
i, a bi, have done that before and can confirm it was not a fun experience
I am omni. I hold my cups like that because my drinks are hot.
It’s called living on the edge 💅🏼🏳️🌈
Same, bi girl here and it happened to me once and my anxiety won't let me try holding it like that again
abro here, I usually hold the part of the cup that's *just* under the top so I won't risk spilling anything.
The "SHE goes by they/them pronouns" lady is my mom lol. "My daughter is non binary. SHE blah blah blah" yeah 😱😱😱
MY MUM DID THAY
late to the party but same…
When he was listing off "Ariana GranTHEY" and "Dr. They" my brain just immediately went "theminem"
Im gonna use this from now on ty
I love that
Underrated comment
THEMINEM IS GOD TIER
Yes.
"If youre gonna have a kid and then not love them unconditonally. What are you doing? What are you doing." Perfectly said
I’m not even gonna lie. That video of the girl tryna talk to her mom made me cry. I haven’t even told my mom or dad I’m non binary. I don’t even think they know what it is. My mom would probably be supportive but my dad would be like “wtf.”
i wish you the best of luck with everything and don't feel pressured to tell them, do it once you're ready!! you're valid, always, no matter if your parents choose to be ignorant or not :)
Wanna hear a joke?
How does a non-binary samurai kill their enemy?
They slash them.
@@perperperpen AHJSLDJDKFJFTHATS ACHTLALY FUNNY LOL
Sorry if this seems rude but, did you mean to say the child that was trying to tell their mom that they identify as they/them almost made you cry.
@@immaoogaboogathisbitch2846 hm?
This made me feel really good about myself, even if only for a short while.
So thank you kind human.
A lot of kids at my school say that I'm "not really non binary" because I use she/they pronouns, so thank you for making me feel valid.
Of course you're valid :)
you’re valid! ALSO CAN I JUST MENTION THE FINN PFP?
*my mom misgenders me on accident*
*me internally crying*
My mom: Oh! Sorry i called you a she sweetie...
*me internally happy crying*
what are your pronouns? they/them or he/him?
My mom says " Oh! Silly of me! I'm so sorry, but you know how HARD it is for me :'( and how HARD it is for our family! A girl should be called "she" but I support you! I love you so much my dear DAUGHTER"
Me, an agender person, inside: (;´༎ຶٹ༎ຶ`)
@@Silverleaf_Ranch suna-
bro my mom doesnt acknowledge my pronouns (they/them)
@@Mars-rv9um nice
Once someone called me a "Blue Haired Liberal Lesbian" and I was like "Jokes on you, I'm a GREEN haired, Anarchist, nonbinary/pansexual"
Great for you fellow enby, my hair is my pride flag, pink, blue, and putting the dyes in naturally made purple.
im a (i want pink hair) blue hair, nonbinary, panromantic, demisexual, anarchist :))
ey me too
thats the worst "insult" ever tbh. i see so many calling people that and then acting like they really triggered somebody... the only way ive ever seen someone respond to being called a "blue haired liberal *insult slur or sexuality*" is 1. confusion 2. ignore
This happens to me sometimes and I just go "screw you my hair is green and I'm a fucking leftist heck off douchebag"
7:18 ALSO, another note on this. People can go by whatever pronouns they want. If someone looks feminine and likes to look feminine but prefers h/him pronouns, RESPECT THAT. Its not that hard geez
frrrrrr. like i go by he/they and stuff so im fine on 2 fronts, but i know people who dont go by any pronouns and also other people who dont give a fuck what pronouns i use to refer to them. yk what i do? i respect that shit
Non-binary person: *gets misgendered*
Me:*pats there back* aww their their
Also yeah I hold my cup like that I am a lesbian and every other gay person ive met holds cups like that
Everyone knows that nb tik tok is the only way to get to frog tik tok.
Who says frog tik tok can’t be nb tik tok?
And bug tiktok
YES
It's true
Yeah we're the gateway drug to frogs
“Ariana Grandthey” lmao bruh I can’ttttt-
Lmao that one was my favorite
Yuhhh
m'thedy gentlethem, themperor, quing, supreme ruler
how about Greta Themberg?
it really rolls off the tongue ngl
The they joke you were confused about, explained:
The joke is that men are used to only referring to people as he, and have to correct themselves to include the “or she”, whereas women are already adjusted and say “they” instead of “he or she”
I wanna tell my parents I wanna try they/them pronouns but after telling them a story about my non binary classmate and how they are my friend but they said it's only because their parents forced them into it...
I'm scared to-
You do you. If you want to use them/them pronouns then that’s fine.
What the. Parents scared them into it? What kinda logic is that
I’m sorry love. We all know ourselves. How do children know if they are right or left handed? I wish you were in a more supportive environment.
No one:
Blue haired girls:
Insecure straight guys: OH MY GOD BLUE HAIRED GIRLS AM I RIGHTT
OMGOOOSH BLUE HAIRED GIRL LOLOLLOOLL THEY ARE SAD HAHAHAHA THEY SAY ACAB WHAT IDIOTS HAHAHAHASSHAHS THEY ARE WAY NICER THAN ME AND I DONT WANT THEM TO BE DHJFJWKDE
HAHAHAHA U HAVE NO OPINION MISS SHE/HER LOLOL EWHAHAHS PROBABLY A VEGAN TOO TRUMP 2020
😭 why is this so accurate?
I DIED MY HAIR BLUE BEFORE I CAME OUT AS TRANS-
@@someoneontheinternet7490 omg me too lol
As someone who’s nonbinary it’s extremely refreshing to see a binary trans man speaking about nonbinary people in a way that’s neither belittling/skeptical nor so serious and instead more light hearted and in a way that makes it more normalized. Because to me it is my normal. I’m not saying it shouldn’t ever be a serious topic because it certainly can be but it shouldn’t always be, that’s just depressing, in much the same way that it isn’t always so serious with binary trans people. It’s so rare to see it be casual and normalized, rather than some argument, coming from anybody, whether it be binary trans folks or cis people and even sometimes other people that identify as nonbinary, especially online where the community only ever seems to put whether or not I and others like me are even real up for debate. Some days it’s difficult to feel seen but this is one of those things that helps in ways I can’t even vocalize. It’s the type of content that gives me hope that maybe one day I won’t be treated as JUST a debate.
I love when people tell me I’m wrong and that my gender identity isn’t real, like iF YOU CAN READ MY MIND AND YOU KNOW MY ONE TRUE GENDER JUST TELL ME WTF?? Like it’s like they think if they tell me that I’ll just be like “o h” and revert back to some kind of personal default gender like I die laughing when people say that.
But I really really do get what you’re saying. My identity isn’t up for debate with anyone else but me
Yeah, I once get bullied out of an lgbtq+ safe discord server by a bunch of people for being nonbinary. Worst of all, one of the people mainly bullying me was a trans woman and all of it really hurt me.
Wait, people being against nonbinary people and belittling them is a very common thing? I am cis and never realized so many people were against it, I thought it was overall accepted. I'm really sorry that is the experience with so many nonbinary people. I always thought it was normal and made sense, I don't get it how people don't see it that way or at least respect it
Yess
i agree, nonbinary people and their content isnt something i see binary trans youtubers talking about often and it's so nice to see sam just react to them like any other tik tok instead of it being about whether nb people are valid or whatever else 😊
That one where the kid was trying to talk to their mom about shaving their head and such- that hit really close to home. My mom refuses to let me come out as Non-binary to anyone for fear of judgement or ruining any future she wants me to have in politics... Sometimes it feels like I'm getting my soul sucked out. At least she lets me keep my hair short with as much as she complains about the style of it.
As a bisexual I can confirm that I hold my cups like that💀
I'm Demisexual and I do that shit too LMFAO 🤣
I'M NOT ALONE ANYMORE
as a lesbian I personally use my feet to pick up my drink
edit:ty for all the replies and likes :D
W h a t
can confirm- i do to
@@sophie-hk9lh the rock more like the pebble B-)
As a pan, I pick it up with my elbow
Swag
“why does my hand look like that” gay wrist, like, is he. yknow..
he did say this was a coming out video
watch out for my next video i might just come out as a gay cup holder
@okay but I DON'T KNOW 🧢😌
@@SupraMan38 THAT MOMENT HAD ME DEAD BRO
nazuna! 😳
I came out as nb to my friend, he's older so I wasn't sure how he would react, I asked "could you refer to me as they/them?" And he just said "sure" and didn't slip the whole day. I love how people are more accepting
i make it a habit to use they/them pronouns when im talking about a stranger or someone who i haven’t spoken to about their pronouns yet, and it’s honestly helped me get used to they/them pronouns to the point it’s not difficult, AT ALL. if someone is non-binary, i have zero issue using they/them. it’s really, not that hard. why do some people act like it is-
literally nobody refers me as “they/them”. just like in daily life it’s “he, he, he” like oh my god how many times do I have to tell you-
Felt this... It especially sucks at work...
@@skyhiireke5027 Aw. Hope people will recognize ❤️
@Lauren Bertholf Thank you for your advice. ❤️
Idk if u care but you’re 100% valid and people should respect your identity and pronouns. Have a nice day
Their their, it’ll be ok
“They’re all gay”
Me, an aroace: adios
Same 😭
Oooff us aces gotta uniteee
bellusromantic yee yee (on the aro spectrum)
@alascow It means someone who desires to have romantic interactions such as kissing but not in a romantic context.
@@monokochan9984 Thank you for the explanation!
"Nonbinary ladies"
Ah yes me
13:34 I call nonbinary people monarchs, so you can say either yasss queen! yasss king! or yasss monarch! whatever fits the occasion
We now have a clip of Sam saying “big honky mommy milkers” and I’m dying
M O M M Y M I L K E R S
m o m m y m i l k e r s
*M O M M Y M I L K E R S*
M o m m y m i l k e r s
M o M m Y m I L k E r S
I actually got a little teary-eyed when the Mom said, "Of course I would get the weird kid." Even before I came out as a trans man, my Mom always said shit like that and it crushed me. I would watch a tv show that wasn't entirely Cis/Straight/White? It's too controversial. I would listen to a band that she hadn't heard of? It's gay and stupid, turn it off. I would say something about anything related to LGBTQ stuff? I'm obsessed with it. "Only YOU would watch something this weird." "Why does everything you wear have to make you look like a weirdo?" "This is so hard for me, having a trans DAUGHTER that I've never tried to call he/him."
☹️
i'm sorry about your mother, i hope it gets better for you soon 💙
Ugh my father was like that. Will never see him again, thank fuck
And people ask why we are mad... because this shit still happens...
Sending you love♡
as a pansexual, i throw my cup to the destination, run to the destination, and catch the cup as its about to fall to drink it
I often tell people I’m gay because it’s easier to understand but I’m actually omni and I guess not carrying my cup like that is what exposes me
As a pan I can feel this on a spiritual level
not me growing up using "they" for literally everyone purely because I didn't want my parents to find out who I was hanging out with or playing with at school. But hey, it worked out and now, that's me
LMAO I did the same thing. Just didn't want my parents asking so many questions.
@Artists Lulu ikr??? Someone who im hoping was trolling was like "you used a different word as an 'example'" and they used "someone lost THEIR phone" and i lost braincells
The automatic pronoun that I use for anyone, especially online, is still they/them so I totally get it. xD (I'm cis but I somehow still relate.)
Same I always used they/them pronouns for everyone, idk why, it just automatically comes out?
Same tho
“All of them are gay. I don’t know what the hell happened but they’re all gay”
PASS IT ON
GUYS I PASSED IT ON AND NOW ALL MY FRIENDS ARE GAY
OMG I PASSED IT ON MY HOMOPHOBIC FAMILY IS NOW GAY LETS GO
@@funkypiezo4425 YESSS THATS WHAT IM TALKING ABOUT!! LETS GOOOO
The gay legion is growing!! ✊🏳️🌈
BREAKING NEWS, HETEROSEXUAL LEVEL DROP TO 0%
2:33 "Also my neck is pretty thick" okay, Noah Beck 🙄✋
I asked to cut my hair short when I was like 9-10 and my mom said she was fine with it and my dad said it was my body. I'm happy to have a sensible family
“some people want all the surgeries, some people want none of the surgeries, and the glory of that is it’s not your life, so if they don’t get surgery it’s not the end of the world for you, because it’s not you”
this is so important. so many people need to hear this and so many people do hear this but refuse to listen to it :( I hope one day this is just common knowledge to everyone💞
& it's that simple. we shouldn't worry about what others do because it doesn't affect us at all
I’m non-binary and I want all the surgeries lol
@@meowforcats6694 haha I get that! I’m not binary and I think surgeries for enbies should be talked about more
@@ceceromano5857 I even want vaginectomy/oophectomy, while most don’t want bottom surgery.
As a bisexual non binary, i hold my cup like that and i was like: oh..
@TLeeyah O Well yes, but actually no
@TLeeyah O It's a bit extensive but non-binary isn't exactly a gender, it can be considered a spectrum. Some non-binary people may be feminine/masculine leaning (which is why non-binary lesbians/gays exist).
Same✋😐
Edit: shit I need to change my user
this is such a wholesome thread i love it
Yo, as one bisexual to another, how did you find out you were non binary? I'm questioning whether or not I am non binary and I'm trying to get insight from other non binary peeps
I'm over the moon with "Ariana GranThey". You're wonderful.
That one with the person arguing with their mom absolutely broke my heart. "I WOULD get the weird kid." That's so fucking sad.
“Well you must be a girl if you have a period”.
That hit hard. If anybody said that to me as a trans guy I would break down.
That’s also a middle finger to trans women
@@socialnorm3295 TRUE
GEEZ PERIOD IS SUCH A TERRIBLE TIME FOR ME . I always have the most body dysphoria while on my period. I hope it stops when Im on testosterone...
@@genderlessmonster4284 same I hope testosterone makes it stop. It’s just so physically and mentally painful for me.
@@deathsheadmothranch7188 yeah that's happening to me rn and I'm genderfluid but it hurts so much I just watch videos of enbys and stuff to try to make myself feel better but idk it's difficult and my family doesn't understand
"I feel like everybody in their life shouldn't worry about what other people are thinking"
My social anxiety: Lemme stop you right there
very very very very true ;-;
I hate it sm 😞
Literally mee.
Literally mee.
EXACTLY
3:41
*Levi has left the chat and ready to cut some nape-*
lol im nb and totally ok with my period, it doesnt make me uncomfortable talking about it. being a female doesnt take anything away from my gender, people are just straight up dumb for thinking they can hurt me with facts about me being a female
This video should be called:
Exploring an actual good side of tik tok
another great alternative title
@@vuuggg Lmao so funny!
@@vuuggg ex dee lmao so funny!!
@@vuuggg lol lmao, how you so funny 😂🤣🤣XD
@@vuuggg XDD
When Sam said “parents have kids for a reason, why can’t you just love them,” 😂🥰 truth
@alascow thanks I was looking for a geometric way of showing I’m trans.
It reminded me of a post I saw once that said something along the lines of:
Before the gender of a baby is revealed to expecting parents, they always say "I don't care if it's a boy or a girl, I just want them to be happy and healthy". But as soon as the kid grows up, a gender change is suddenly seen as unacceptable, even if the kid is unhappy. That's stupid and hypocritical
Because, unfortunately, a lot of parents want to love thier kids under thier own set of rules and conditions. So, when a child doesn't fit into their strict ideas of what they wanted their child to be, they can't handle it.
@@Absbabs88 unfortunately this is true, I know what my family failed at with me and I’m trying the best I can with the resources I have to make sure mine doesn’t feel that way and if they did I would hope they feel they can talk to me.
@@adakisblaze1386 another reason why I hate gender reveal parties. Whatever happened to "as long as the child is healthy"? I don't even have any children, but I know I'd rather have a happy trans child than a miserable and depressed child that's being forced into hiding their true selves.
9:21 I think the joke is that men always just use he for a pronoun (because they're the 'default gender') and then at last minute remember that they don't want to be attacked for being sexist so they add 'or she' to let everyone know that they definitely think women can do just as much as men (and they do it in such a tone where you know they're almost mocking it or saying it satirically or just panicking about being attacked), whereas women have no problem using 'they' encompassing everyone and favoring neither gender as women are used to not being the 'default' gender and so using she is unheard of and he is unnatural when she is a she.
I'll admit that when a person's preferred pronouns are "they/them", it can make for a bit of a challenge - particularly if you're trying to write concisely, and if you're trying to talk about that person interacting with a group of other people. BUT we have to learn how to do it. Respecting people's pronouns is as important as respecting a person's name. Call them by the name they want, call them by the pronouns they want.
As a cis gay man (in my early 60s), I don't understand trans people. I can't imagine what it would be like to feel like I'm a gender other than what I am biologically. That's PRECISELY why my number one response to trans people should be to shut up, listen to them, respect what they have to say and BELIEVE what they have to say.
You're doing important work. Please continue. I am getting educated.
Me calling my dad to tell him that im a lesbian: *coming out*
My dad: ... Uhm... And? I don’t
like guys either.
*good dad award*
i wish i could relate :( my mom called me a disappointment when i got forced to come out
@@sophiatheegg1736 Damn. I'm sorry. You're not a disappointment to me (and I'm sure not to anyone else here in the comments either).
@@johnwalker1058 ty
Lol that's me
" *hEr* pronouns are they/them"
Why
Just
WHY
My friend is non binary and they want use to say she until she’s full out. So I can say the meme hehe
@@jaded6530 it’s kinda understandable if the person isn’t out yet
@@jaded6530 hey they aren't out to the people they know, so you're not doing anything bad, it's worse to out someone
I have a nonbinary friend. They use they/them pronouns. We play a lot among us together. Their user name is "they them" and then people still call them she or he
@@stellafanders Because its a username... Duh
It's really tough having a parent like that, worried about what the rest of the family is going to think. I got the same conversation from my mom when I dyed my hair and I can't make any comments about liking girls or using she/they pronouns in front of my grandparents. I've also gotten the "why did I have to get the weird kid" convo. I hope they're okay and they got to shave their head. I hope anyone else that's been through that knows they're not alone.
I find it supremely creepy the way that one person's brother focused on them being perceived as "ugly". Like, Priorities, kid. You're sexualizing your sibling, creep. 🤢
I love how this isn't a NON-BINARY TRANSTRENDER CRINGE TIK TOK REACT
never ;)
yess, we stan anybody who isn’t blaire white or that kalvin guy
What's a transtrender?
@@helltubejackie1086 someone the internet deems "being trans for attention or not really trans" because they don't fit their standard/definition of trans.
@@helltubejackie1086 it's an insult saying that someone is only trans because it's 'trendy', often associated with trans people who don't conform a ton to the stereotypes of the gender they're transitioning to (or are nonbinary). overall it's really gross and another way that people police trans identities and mock trans people for not 'passing' to their standards.
"This helps reduce stress and anxiety"
Me: buys aggressively
it was my first option 8)
"I'LL TAKE YOUR ENTIRE *STOCK"*
@@emeliasversion ofc u^u
@@emeliasversion no problem, get good sleep
Me who cant buy because of reasons: wants aggressively
My husband says he can usually tell if a man is a trans man by looking at their shoulders. He doesn't have any issues with trans people, mind you, but he can supposedly tell. Does kinda make sense though because of bone structure. As far as I know, that can't really be changed. But still, I don't know why people care if someone is trans or not, it isn't their business.
My mom actually did say "I would get the weird kid" when I came out as trans
I'm sorry
As a genderfluid person with mostly they/she pronouns I love the fact that people try and misgender me on purpose but I am all the genders, for instance I was wearing more masculine clothes once and a lady purposely said “hello young lady” and I just responded with “thank you for respecting my pronouns” the look on her face clearly stated she was about to tell me to go to hell
SAME, AS A PERSON WHO USES ALL PRONOUNS AND IS GENDER FLUID IT'S AMAZING SEEING PEOPLE TRY TO MISGENDER ME LOL
@@okiokipo Lmfao ikr 😂🖐
Can’t relate but cool
Dang I didn’t know that Todoroki was gender fluid, how cool!! 😂 All jokes aside sounds like you got an amazing energy going on ahah
Thats just awesome
The comedian is James Acaster and it's about how men almost always say "he OR she" and don't use they instead. The joke isn't originally about nonbinary people but he is super awesome and in his latest show he did a hole piece where he made fun of comedians that make fun of Transgender people (he named and shamed Ricky Gervais and Rowan Atkinson)
Which latest show are you talking about? I would love to check it out!
is there a link?
@@allie_veto It's not on DVD or available to stream yet cuz he only just finished the tour but it's called cold lasagne hate myself 1999 (I think it's coming out on Christmas)
he is a KING he would never
I LOVE JAMES ACASTER OMG I WANT TO SEE THAT
6:04 those wedge pillows are also great for if you have acid reflux. I had to have my head tilted up at night and normal pillows didn't really cut it.
I’m so excited for my future kid to have me as a mom. I’m going to love them for the person they are, as long as they’re happy and good to others, i’m going to be the proudest mom ever!!
As an enby who used to support Blaire White and actually took in a lot of her criticisms of non-binary people (which aren't even close to factual), I'm really glad to see a trans UA-camr positively talking about non-binary people. I love your videos and I find your jokes very funny. Also, I do hold my cups like that, but I'm pan so I don't know if that counts.
i also hold my cup like that and I'm queer and genderfluid 😁
Dude she gave me so much push back I used to watch her too (fellow enby finally came out this year)
SAME! I’m non-conforming and just don’t care about gender very much and Blair was one of the few conservatives I watched because so many of them are religious and unreliable as well as homophobic so she was really my only option.
@@nicothenecromancer I am also an enby that came out this year that used to love Blaire and Kalvin. Kalvin was the one that really fucked me up though
@@bandamani yeah Kalvin was the WORST I even have body dysphoria but just didn't want to be a guy so didn't count apparently 🙄
no one:
absolutely no one:
not a single soul:
Sam: MY NECK IS THICC
Not the thing people usually think of as thicc or non-thicc, but he isnt wrong 😂
His neck’s as incredibly thicc as Gaston’s.
noah beck is typing...
0:23 „We use them everyday, unintentionally“ *chuckles in German*
10:00 that was almost the exact same discussion I had with my parents last year after I had a pixie haircut and explored some more masculine options in my wardrobe, except that I almost didn't talk at all, and almost shit my pants (my parents wouldn't hurt me physically nor intentionally in any other way, but I was really scared anyways)
That was after I came out as bisexual (not to them yet, I haven't officially came out to my dad even though I always drop hints, and I eventually came out to my mom) and I was trying to explore a little bit with my style. It might have been only a phase if they had let it be, but now I'm not sure because I didn't get to explore my masculine part. Nowadays I change my style all the time, but never too masculine because i feel scared. I think I might be genderfluid, but I'm not sure...
I was assigned a woman at birth (don't know if I said that right cuz still learning english lol), I've always loved being a woman and I've always defined as a woman, but some days I feel so masculine, not like a man, but masculine. I'm not sure if it's just that I want to live my feminity in different ways or something else. When I cut my hair a couple people misgendered me by accident, and it never bothered me. I feel like I could use any pronouns and it would be ok...
Goddammit I really let everything out lmao
friendly reminder that:
- not all non-binary people use they/them
- non-binary people *don't* need to be androgynous
- non-binary is a spectrum, not all of us are the same
AND! non-binary falls under the trans umbrella, and it's not just a phase i'm tired of y'all fr😐😐
edit: i can't stand you all lmao /hj
obligatory thanks for the likes edit
What does angondrygounous mean (idk how to spell it)
@@kenadielise7780 it means like presenting gender neutral
sorry but changing your pronouns from
she/her to she/they does not make you transgender
@@isarahk As *I* understand it, being transgender only means that the gender you are doesn't coincide with the gender you were assigned at birth.
Also, go back to the video and watch from 6:59 to 8:44. It also applies to non-binary people. Stop gatekeeping.
@@isarahk who said that in the first place? lol what
Listing celebrities, don’t forget about “Theminem” 😂
chance they rapper
One Theyrection
@@AtlasMoth96 slim Theydy and if he wants to use his real name, Marshall Matheys
kim kardtheyshian
@Ozzy the Bun fuck I’ve been think about these for a minute and that came to mind but I was gonna say Theythy Parthey
9:37 hit a little too hard ,, my mom constantly like makes fun of my chosen name and refuses to use they, (when she does it’s grammatically incorrect and usually also a joke/mockery)
Sam thank you for all your great videos, this was touching and your commentary is great!
Person: *doesent know someones gender so they use they them pronouns*
Person: AAAAA ITS TOO HARD TO USE THEY THEM PRONOUNS!!!
@Hi Yeah, it can be a tough habit to break, but I’m really glad you’re trying :)
When we don’t know someone’s gender it’s probably because we haven’t received enough social cues to tell, like their clothes, hair, voice, etc. a lot of things are gendered in society like style, so it’s easy for us to say “they” when we don’t have enough information to go by because we’re used to knowing someone’s gender based on physical appearance. It’s easier to remember they/them if we’ve been introduced to someone as non-binary, but it’s hard to just change our perception of someone that we’ve known as male or female previously. Especially when most people in our lives fall into those categories. I’m not saying this as an excuse to not try or care I absolutely think we should. I’m just saying it’s not that easy to just undo the years of influence society has had on our perception of gender.
@Hi that's good that you are trying :) I'm more referring to the people who disrespect peoples pronouns and make 0 effort
@@olivia6915 This is true. It can be difficult to undo years upon years of conditioning to assign pronouns based on appearance/voice, especially when only exposed to gnc and nb people recently. But, like you said, they shouldn't just refuse to use the right pronouns for people because of it.
Too bad I don’t have they/them pronouns in my language 😞
“I’m voting for Biden... and I’m one of the gays” omg I cantttttttt
I'm pretty sure that story is made up. Cause there is no way a trump supporter is wearing a mask
@@nadiar.4638 Oh shit your right-
@@nadiar.4638 oh yeah smh should’ve knew it was too good to be true
@@nadiar.4638 I wear a mask when I have to, and I voted Donnie t
@@Lunalla Donnie Turtle From Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles?
Ive been binging your videos, they make me so happy. Definitely one of the better UA-camrs I’ve watched 😂
this video encouraged me to come out to my mom, and it was successful, so thank you
Sam being disgusted by his own hand is honestly a vibe.
The “he or she” and “they” thing: what he’s saying is that men view the world entirely from the perspective of men and assume that everything is male and man related because women and anyone else don’t even enter the equation. But because women do exist and have fought to be seen for so long men will unconsciously start a sentence and then correct themselves to “be inclusive”. It the blindness that comes with privilege. Women use “they” because it’s automatically inclusive and doesn’t assume a default of either male or female. It’s not that women are necessarily more aware of and more inclusive to non-binary people because cis people still have cos privilege. It’s just that we view a male filtered world from our perspective as women. So we’re more inclined to think a mystery person or animal could be anyone, any sex or gender (but still likely binary bc cis privilege). Does that make sense?
I was looking for this comment :)
well I was born male but I'm also a girl so I'm gender fluid but I always have a hard time remembering to say they/them cuz I have non binary and gender fluid friends but I just have a hard time remembering so I don't think ppl should jump right to conclusions that the other person is doing it on purpose unless it's obvious (and just cuz I have a hard time remembering doesn't mean I don't try, like I try my hardest)
@@myassflapsaredeadly8911 yeah I don’t think anyone’s saying you should jump to conclusions that you’re doing it on purpose, a vast majority of trans people don’t do that and understand if you mess up as long as you’re trying. A lot of cis people like to make it seem like we’re always angry any time someone makes a mistake when in reality it’s not that common and they’re just tryna make us look bad by acting like it’s some big thing. And most of the time it’s trolls pretending to get super mad tbh.
@@guytrashgurtdog515 oooh ok thx for clarifying, that actually helps a lot 😊✌️
@@myassflapsaredeadly8911 no problem!
great video to help people to realise who they are, and that it is valid - I recently came out as NB at 35, which is something that has been hard for me to come to terms with. If I'd known when I was younger what I know now, the last 10/15 years of my life might've been easier
My old play director a year ago went on a rant about how “They’re trying to force the bad use of singular they on everyone that’s not how the English language works!” But we’re French Canadian, his grasp of the English language is surface level. So I did the fastest google search of my entire life and won the argument by showing him that it was used 300 years ago.
Even if it hadn't been used before, language is always changing and adapting! What a stupid ass
Hello fellow gay French Canadian
I've gotten into that argument a few times with older friends. The stupid "singular they doesn't exist"... And then completely ignored the counter of "so how do you talk about some rando person across the room you don't know in any capacity?" really wirh people would use their damn brains. She finally *conceded* to use y'all for me because going full southern makes more sense than they. 's not she so whatever but dude.
Nice
Also all of the people who literally write the rules on English approve of the use of the singular they: www.zephyrj.com/singular-they
people really out here playing wheres waldo when it comes to trans people
only thing left is publishing profiling guides on trans peeps as if it were the 1930s
@@serbal469 lmao ik right
Waldo but instead of red stripes he's wearing the trans flag lmaoo
@@kirbyiscool5580 thats a good one lmaoo
Seeing the one about not being able to bind really helped a part of me.
I have some nasty asthma and can't bind very long-maybe an hour or if I really push it 2- because every movement that isn't just sitting makes me wheeze or choke. I feel pretty gross about how I usually can't bind and my chest is slightly visible even with thick hoodies.
It's a little comforting knowing that even tho that's an issue I hav, tthere are people out there won't necessarily judge me on not being able to bind
I told my parents I'm non-binary and they were like kinda ignoring that and saying I'm obsessed with the LGBTQ+
"Uh yeah. *she's* been doing that for a couple years now"
Ah yes I have been doing the non binary for a couple years, I really enjoy doing the non binary
then what’s up with the lesbian pfp 💀
@@pastelcoke they might be a demigirl
@@dylantatum6972 not a woman then?
@@pastelcoke it’s more complicated than that, and I’m just assuming.
@@dylantatum6972 how complicated can lesbian = woman and not a women = not a lesbian be
Even my mom who doesn’t understand anything about nonbinary or lgbtq+ Is trying to use they/them pronouns for me
glad 4 her!!! ❤️
glad 4 her!!! ❤️
That is so sweet. I’m so glad to hear she supports you even though she doesn’t understand ♥️
So sweet 🥰
That one family at time stamp 11.00 is the same thing that goes on at my house I really hope that they are doing alright I understand how hard it is for them
I'm trans outed to my parents for like almost 5 years or so and I still remember my father saying "I love you BUT as my daughter and till I die don't even try to "change" your gender"
also when my mom sometimes put "he" in sentence even by accident he gets triggered so much
I don't understand why people still think Sam's enbyphobic, this is really wholesome.
I think he's said this before but in the past he held some more close-minded views so that could be it.
I think he once said a few years ago he didn't really understand it, and some people took that as him disliking nb people and stopped watching him and never found out he's educated himself since then
I could be mixing up youtubers, but I know there was a whole debate on whether you needed dysphoria to be trans and a lot of people took it out of context and into extremes. That's why I steered away from him years ago.
PEOPLE THINK THIS?
@@aeliushollows4856 I'm pretty sure sam has said in the past how he thinks you need dysphoria to be trans, but solely because he just doesn't understand other peoples point of view. I dont think hes rlly into gatekeeping