@@williajohnson1851 I've had a moment where I wanted to compliment someone but they complimented me first and I didn't know them so when I got the compliment it broke the ice and I gave one back, and I was being very genuine
All of the above, and I make it a habit to respond with, “Thank you,.You are too” - in that order. It’s kind, polite and true. Everybody embodies beauty. 🎶 One love. One heart. Let’s get together and feel alright❣️😃🩵…for real though, and in the tone of Chris Cross, “Believe that!”
She offered that compliment to you so I feel like you weren’t obligated to give her one back. “Thank you” was sufficient. Usually when someone gives one to me I say thank you and keep it moving. Only if I already saw something to compliment do I give one back. If I give a compliment I don’t expect one back but a thank you would be nice.
If someone compliments you and your reply is "oh thank you, that's so kind of you to say!" You have just complimented them back. Youve praised their kindness. Too often our compliments, especially to women, are solely based on their appearance. Thats great, but other facets of their uniqueness deserve to be highlighted also, like kindness, intelligence, sense of humor, competence etc.
So a lady told me " You're so pretty" and I said " Thank you, that's very kind of you to say" and she told me I'm not being kind I'm being honest, as if she thought I didn't believe her. I'm over 70yrs and I get compliments all the time, so now I just say Thank you with a smile.
I compliment people all the time, It never crossed my mind that someone should return the compliment. Trust me, I don't give compliments to be liked or because it's something to do. I'm truly genuine. If someone is giving a compliment from the heart, nothing more is needed except "Thank you"😊
As an introvert, it is challenging for me to just accept a compliment. But when I give one, I do not expect one back. I feel like that is a super power, pump you up a little bit and leave you smiling. 😊
I've learned to smile, say thank you, and leave it at that. I'm not lying just to be polite and I got tired of racking my brain to find something nice to say.
When people compliment me I’ve made a habit out of saying “Thank you, I’m just trying to be like you.” And add a wink. I just LOVE how it seems to make people feel. Sometimes, they may not be all dolled up and feeling their best and I can just see it lift some people’s spirit/mood instantly. It tends to catch most people off guard and they have the cutest reactions. 😊😊
@VRDennis Reminds of a local commercial shown in my city. The father owns a furniture store, and he has three (3) young daughters. The father talks about items and the prices. The daughters chime in on how he can sell items at more reasonable prices. He asks them how they came up with those ideas. Their response is, "We're girls, we know stuff." I love it!😂 Keep building your daughters confidence. A fathers role in a daughter's life is so crucially important.✌🏾
I usually say "thank you" followed by one other sentence that makes THEM feel good without me complimenting them in a disingenuous way. "Thanks! That really brightened my day!' "Thanks. That means a lot." "Thanks. So kind of you to say that." Or go real Black.."Alright now. Don't have my head big for the rest of the day!!' Take your pick. LOL
💫✨@lat…I think your responses are 😃 BRILLIANT ; the Black ⬛️ one is so cool, on point, 👉”🎯”👈 and humorous - all at the same time! So…, Check ✅ it : Should you now give me a compliment and should I expect one back!?! 💭 LoL 😆 ; it’s all good bcuz this one is on the house and I hope it makes 🫵YOU smile, @lat…💫✨
I tend to compliment kids back, "aww thank you, you are pretty too" but if it's an adult it varies lol sometimes I say "thank you, you too" sometimes just thanks
I know EXACTLY what you mean girl!👀🤣🤣🤣 I’ve learned to say thank you and leave it at that.. UNLESS I genuinely find something attractive or beautiful about them or their attire..I may say so are you but if I don’t feel that way I won’t say it💁🏽♀️ most times I just say thank you though!
First off, Thank you for letting me know I'm not the only one that be arguing with myself n simultaneously stressing myself out! Lol 2nd, never anything wrong with giving a genuine compliment but don't force it... that's more stress on you lol
I have definitely gotten better at receiving compliments but I’m still socially awkward at times. Lol That being said, when I compliment someone, I don’t expect a compliment in return. Just knowing that it made them smile, is enough for me. Always try and compliment someone whenever you can, you never know what someone is going through and they could really need to hear it.
As soon as you said you were in an argument with yourself my first thought was “ she’s bored, cuz why?” Then you mentioned taking meds. It was over for me from there. 😂😂😂😂
EJ sometimes I be looking tore up just to run to the store I swear somebody will compliment me and I be off guard I just say huh oh thank you. Because I be wondering what the hell they see at that time 😂
you a pretty with or without makeup but lady, your makeup is soooo soft and pretty! (no return compliment needs please don't ague with yourself again 😊)
"Peace sometimes comes in a pill!" 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 This was HILARIOUS!!!!!! Had me laughing out loud in the lunch room at work!!! 😂 " It is what it is (combined with the shoulder shake)" 😂😂😂 Just what I need!!!!! Also, this is tooooo relatable 😂 me over-thinking 😂 me minding my business 😂 this was like watching or listening to myself 😂 Note to Self: "Take allllllll your medicine!" 😂😂😂 Edited to say this was so funny I have to watch it again because I'm sure I missed something while laughing so hard!!! 😂
I usually say: "Aww, thank you!" Then I take a few seconds to look at them and find something I like.. it can be anything on them.. clothes, features, accessories.. and compliment them back. I also let them know they have made my day. It makes them feel better as weĺl!😊❤
True story, this JUST happened to me at the gas station and I too had an argument with myself trying to figure out why I couldn't find nothing to say back except 'Thank u' smh lol
Haha! I am cracking up. Peace in a pill! I absolutely LOVE giving compliments (like real ones...not fake ones)... honestly, I've never given one while simultaneously expecting one back...so free yourself lady! Just say, "Ahh, thank you!"
YESSSSSS!!! “Sometimes peace comes in a pill.” Take ya meds & on time! Please 🙏🏽. Thank you EJ for bringing that awareness & normality to psych meds. 💯
Oh and yes 👏🏽 that hair DOES have luster you better say that! 👏🏽👏🏽😂 Even UA-cam recognized it because I was searching curl definition videos and was like wait... that's EJ! 🤣 I'm like how did she get in this search result!? Lol
I’m really bad about just saying “thank you” then later feeling bad that I didn’t compliment back…but I’m very introverted and I don’t really like talking to people period 🤷🏾♀️
I’ve never heard this reciprocal rule. I compliment ladies all the time and happily accept a “thank you”. Likewise, I respond with a “thank you” without any pressure to give a compliment. I will, though, if I something naturally catches my eye. …then I hope she knows I meant it, and it wasn’t just payback.
I just say thank you. I don’t want to visually search them over for a compliment to include in response. It feels awkward. It they gave their compliment to hear one back, that’s strange. I just say thank you and move on…YET will give compliments initially too! Chile, let me take my pill…I got all kind of scenarios going through my mind!😂
If it's genuine I don't think there's anything wrong with it... It's only really bad if you stoop to flattery 😅😅😅 but it's completely normal for girls to reciprocate the compliments, it's almost natural even.
I don't automatically give one back. I be in my own head about my own things and now you done jumped into my thoughts and interrupted what was going on in my head. But also when I compliment others I don't expect one back. I complimented you to let you know you looking good and that also made you feel good, which in turn makes me feel good. Carry on.
No, you are not obligated to offer a compliment in return. In fact, I would recommend that you not because it will likely sound forced, insincere, or contrived. I would simply thank them as graciously as you can and leave it at that.
I am very sorry but if someone is giving me a compliment because they want one back, then please don't give it; compliments are not mandatory, they are authentic and organic. If someone compliment my perfume I smile and say thank you. Point blank period.
Hahahahahaha!!! That's something awkward no one ever brings up!!! I go with common courtesy. You'll always fare better if you stick to the golden rule! EJ!!! I'M KILLING MYSELF LAUGHING 😂😂😂
I like to marinate in the compliment given. I use to swat them away or hurriedly return it to them…but now I learned to receive a genuine compliment. It’s not bad to just say thank you! It’s not bigheaded lol
I think as women, it's customarily so automatic to give one right on back. Either you steal their same compliment or you reach for the stars and pluck the first thought that you see and just go with that! 😂😂😂 So relatable and your feelings are valid. This is a safe space friend. 😂😂😂
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I give a compliment and I don't need one back.
Right, because a return compliment is not necessarily genuine.
I don’t like when people compliment me back 😂 it feels so fake. A genuine “Thank you!” makes me happy 😊
@@williajohnson1851 I've had a moment where I wanted to compliment someone but they complimented me first and I didn't know them so when I got the compliment it broke the ice and I gave one back, and I was being very genuine
Please take your Peace pill before you leave the house...😂😂. Give the compliment and keep it moving. Yours is just around the corner.
All of the above, and I make it a habit to respond with, “Thank you,.You are too” - in that order. It’s kind, polite and true. Everybody embodies beauty.
🎶 One love. One heart. Let’s get together and feel alright❣️😃🩵…for real though, and in the tone of Chris Cross, “Believe that!”
She offered that compliment to you so I feel like you weren’t obligated to give her one back. “Thank you” was sufficient.
Usually when someone gives one to me I say thank you and keep it moving. Only if I already saw something to compliment do I give one back. If I give a compliment I don’t expect one back but a thank you would be nice.
say THANK YOU.
No. You just say thank you and that’s it. You don’t give with the intention to receive.
The LUSTER! Yes ma'am! 😆
It's Ok, to respond with: Why, thank you. That was *kind* (*kind* is the compliment back) of you to say.
This is so me.🙄🤦😂
Take your medicine 😅😅😅
If someone compliments you and your reply is "oh thank you, that's so kind of you to say!" You have just complimented them back. Youve praised their kindness. Too often our compliments, especially to women, are solely based on their appearance. Thats great, but other facets of their uniqueness deserve to be highlighted also, like kindness, intelligence, sense of humor, competence etc.
That right there.
Thank U is #ENOUGH 💯!! 😉
So a lady told me " You're so pretty" and I said " Thank you, that's very kind of you to say" and she told me I'm not being kind I'm being honest, as if she thought I didn't believe her. I'm over 70yrs and I get compliments all the time, so now I just say Thank you with a smile.
I compliment people all the time, It never crossed my mind that someone should return the compliment. Trust me, I don't give compliments to be liked or because it's something to do. I'm truly genuine. If someone is giving a compliment from the heart, nothing more is needed except "Thank you"😊
I agree. I love to give compliments! Nothing more than "thank you" is required in return.
Amen!😊
I could have typed this word for word. Couldn't agree more.
A complement is a gift. A genuine smile and "Thank you. You don't know how much I needed that today." works.
I love this
Agreed!
As an introvert, it is challenging for me to just accept a compliment. But when I give one, I do not expect one back. I feel like that is a super power, pump you up a little bit and leave you smiling. 😊
I’m with you, my sister! I get embarrassed and that causes me to be tongue- tied. I try to quickly say “thank you” and “keep on trucking”!
If someone gives you a compliment, just say “Thank you”. No return compliment is needed.
I'm learning that.
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Agreed. "Thank you, I appreciate you" if you want to add something ❤
And I never expect a compliment in return. If I give one it’s because I really wanted YOU to know you slay. I already know I’m a winner.
This part.
“THIS is why you supposed to take yo medicine!” IS HILARIOUS!!!!!!!!!!!
But so right
And so true ❤
Yea...that line took me out! 🤣🤣🤣
I promise you I was about to type this!!!!🤣😂😆
“PEACE sometimes comes in a PILL”!
😂😂😂 You betta know it!! 💊💊
The world would be a better place if everyone took their peace pills! 😁
Hilarious! 😂😂😂
Oh, I felt that way down in the bottom of my sertraline bottle! 😂
Yep. Me and Fluexotine are in a committed relationship. Lol
Never compliment out of obligation. Receive your compliment with “thank you” and move on otherwise you’ll find your response is disingenuous.
I've learned to smile, say thank you, and leave it at that. I'm not lying just to be polite and I got tired of racking my brain to find something nice to say.
That part!!😂
The moral of the story... TAKE YOUR MEDICINE!!!!😂😂😂😂
I guess I need my meds adjusted because my brain still does that 🤷♀️🤣
“Peace, can sometimes come in a pill.” 😂😂😂😂😂
I say “thank you”. We’re not going to make this a back and forth outdoing 😂.
Take the compliment and go on about your business. ❤
I give compliments all the time. And I’ve never thought “why didn’t they compliment me back? I’m on to the next ! 😂
A “thank you” is all that was needed.
People say my grandson is cute all the time. He IS, and I know it, but I still just say “thank you” like I had something to do with it.
You did!
@@amariekennedy9961true🤔
😂😂😂😂cuz you did
I mean you kinda did.
And DID! 😄👍🏾
"Sometimes peace comes in a pill" Facts! Over thinking hurts my brain
All you need to say is “Thank you” and get to stepping. Then take the pill when you get home.
😂😂😂
My return is usually one these: "Thank you. That's very nice of you." Or, "Thank you. I appreciate that. You're very kind."
When people compliment me I’ve made a habit out of saying “Thank you, I’m just trying to be like you.” And add a wink. I just LOVE how it seems to make people feel. Sometimes, they may not be all dolled up and feeling their best and I can just see it lift some people’s spirit/mood instantly. It tends to catch most people off guard and they have the cutest reactions. 😊😊
When my daughter was a toddler and people told her she was pretty. She'd say I know.
Love her confidence
😂. When someone compliments my kids I tell them to tell the person thank you
🤣🤣🤣Here for the self confidence. She has my vote.
@verb247 I did she would say thank you and then she started saying thank you amd I'm smart too
@VRDennis
Reminds of a local commercial shown in my city. The father owns a furniture store, and he has three (3) young daughters. The father talks about items and the prices. The daughters chime in on how he can sell items at more reasonable prices. He asks them how they came up with those ideas. Their response is, "We're girls, we know stuff." I love it!😂
Keep building your daughters confidence. A fathers role in a daughter's life is so crucially important.✌🏾
I usually say "thank you" followed by one other sentence that makes THEM feel good without me complimenting them in a disingenuous way. "Thanks! That really brightened my day!' "Thanks. That means a lot." "Thanks. So kind of you to say that." Or go real Black.."Alright now. Don't have my head big for the rest of the day!!' Take your pick. LOL
💫✨@lat…I think your responses are 😃 BRILLIANT ; the Black ⬛️ one is so cool, on point, 👉”🎯”👈 and humorous - all at the same time! So…, Check ✅ it : Should you now give me a compliment and should I expect one back!?! 💭 LoL 😆 ; it’s all good bcuz this one is on the house and I hope it makes 🫵YOU smile, @lat…💫✨
If you validate me just to get validation back just keep the compliment.
I tend to compliment kids back, "aww thank you, you are pretty too" but if it's an adult it varies lol sometimes I say "thank you, you too" sometimes just thanks
I agree about complimenting kids back. It helps build self esteem..
Exactly @@shalawndudley2094
Lol overthinkers unite 🥂
yesss except we’ll never get together because we’re obsessing over our reply to the invite
@@taylor3950Yep!! But I’m a recovered over-thinker. Now I just say to myself (and sometimes out-loud) “ I don’t care.” 😂
@@maxine2564 that’s amazing, i want to be you when i grow up
Wonder powers activated. 😂❤
I know EXACTLY what you mean girl!👀🤣🤣🤣 I’ve learned to say thank you and leave it at that.. UNLESS I genuinely find something attractive or beautiful about them or their attire..I may say so are you but if I don’t feel that way I won’t say it💁🏽♀️ most times I just say thank you though!
Your makeup is 🔥🔥🔥
First off, Thank you for letting me know I'm not the only one that be arguing with myself n simultaneously stressing myself out! Lol
2nd, never anything wrong with giving a genuine compliment but don't force it... that's more stress on you lol
You did right. Just say thank you and leave it at that!
I have definitely gotten better at receiving compliments but I’m still socially awkward at times.
Lol
That being said, when I compliment someone, I don’t expect a compliment in return. Just knowing that it made them smile, is enough for me.
Always try and compliment someone whenever you can, you never know what someone is going through and they could really need to hear it.
As soon as you said you were in an argument with yourself my first thought was “ she’s bored, cuz why?” Then you mentioned taking meds. It was over for me from there. 😂😂😂😂
Say, "Ohh, thank you! You're so sweet!" BOOM! Compliment returned.
A return compliment is not necessary but she may have been using the compliment to invite you into the conversation!
It is awkward to give a compliment in return especially if you're searching to give an honest compliment...
Saying thank you is probably best 🙂
EJ sometimes I be looking tore up just to run to the store I swear somebody will compliment me and I be off guard I just say huh oh thank you. Because I be wondering what the hell they see at that time 😂
"Peace sometimes comes I'm a pill" love this!
you a pretty with or without makeup but lady, your makeup is soooo soft and pretty! (no return compliment needs please don't ague with yourself again 😊)
I just say thank you & keep it pushing 😂
"Peace sometimes comes in a pill!" 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
This was HILARIOUS!!!!!! Had me laughing out loud in the lunch room at work!!! 😂 " It is what it is (combined with the shoulder shake)" 😂😂😂 Just what I need!!!!! Also, this is tooooo relatable 😂 me over-thinking 😂 me minding my business 😂 this was like watching or listening to myself 😂
Note to Self: "Take allllllll your medicine!" 😂😂😂
Edited to say this was so funny I have to watch it again because I'm sure I missed something while laughing so hard!!! 😂
I accept compliments with a thank you and I never felt like I needed to compliment that person back.
Love you Ej ❤
Only if it’s sincere. Everything doesn’t have to be transactional. Say what you mean and mean what you say💜
Ej, you're doing too much😂😂😂. Say thank you and go back to minding your business.
❤❤❤❤❤ Take your medicine
“Peace sometimes comes in a pill!” A WORD. 😂😂😂😂
lol EJ is all of us😂😂😂
If I give it, I don't need it back and vice versa when I recieve it, thank you is enough 😂❤
🤣😂🤣😂Bless yo’ heart.😅
Just say thank you, Ej. It’s ok. When you say thank you, you ARE being nice.☺️
I usually say: "Aww, thank you!" Then I take a few seconds to look at them and find something I like.. it can be anything on them.. clothes, features, accessories.. and compliment them back.
I also let them know they have made my day. It makes them feel better as weĺl!😊❤
That fuzzy mic 🎤 needs its own page!!! 😊
Meanwhile the volume in your hair is volum-ing!!!
Girl if there is a pill to STOP THE MADNESS please share the name! I need that cause I do this with EVERYTHING 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
This is why you're supposed to take your medicine 😂😂😂😂
You are describing my brain. I need a prescription.
Take your medicine PEACE medicine people. But don’t you worry you aren’t alone, I also have arguments with myself!!!
True story, this JUST happened to me at the gas station and I too had an argument with myself trying to figure out why I couldn't find nothing to say back except 'Thank u' smh lol
Haha! I am cracking up. Peace in a pill! I absolutely LOVE giving compliments (like real ones...not fake ones)... honestly, I've never given one while simultaneously expecting one back...so free yourself lady! Just say, "Ahh, thank you!"
YESSSSSS!!! “Sometimes peace comes in a pill.” Take ya meds & on time! Please 🙏🏽. Thank you EJ for bringing that awareness & normality to psych meds. 💯
Oh and yes 👏🏽 that hair DOES have luster you better say that! 👏🏽👏🏽😂 Even UA-cam recognized it because I was searching curl definition videos and was like wait... that's EJ! 🤣 I'm like how did she get in this search result!? Lol
Wait!!! Let me take my medicine 💊 then imma let you know! 😄👍🏾 BUT I think it’s their #Wise and just Ty😁! Lol 🤦🏾♀️😂🤷🏾♀️
😂😂😂😂😂😂 The way you are telling us how you was going back and forth with yourself has me in tears 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Just say thank you. 😎
I’m really bad about just saying “thank you” then later feeling bad that I didn’t compliment back…but I’m very introverted and I don’t really like talking to people period 🤷🏾♀️
I’ve never heard this reciprocal rule. I compliment ladies all the time and happily accept a “thank you”. Likewise, I respond with a “thank you” without any pressure to give a compliment. I will, though, if I something naturally catches my eye. …then I hope she knows I meant it, and it wasn’t just payback.
I just say thank you. I don’t want to visually search them over for a compliment to include in response. It feels awkward. It they gave their compliment to hear one back, that’s strange. I just say thank you and move on…YET will give compliments initially too! Chile, let me take my pill…I got all kind of scenarios going through my mind!😂
It's the , "My hair has Lustre in it..." for me!😂 No return compliment is necessary...just say, Thank you.
If it's genuine I don't think there's anything wrong with it... It's only really bad if you stoop to flattery 😅😅😅 but it's completely normal for girls to reciprocate the compliments, it's almost natural even.
Imo when I give a compliment I'm not expecting one back, so if I receive one I wouldn't feel obligated to return one 🤷🏾♀️
It’s ok to just say, “Thank you,” in a pleasant tone. And if you want to be truly magnanimous, throw in with a smile, “That’s so nice of you to say.”
For the most part I say thank you and keep it moving. I would only compliment back if I truly have one. The convo in your head though had me🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I don't automatically give one back. I be in my own head about my own things and now you done jumped into my thoughts and interrupted what was going on in my head. But also when I compliment others I don't expect one back. I complimented you to let you know you looking good and that also made you feel good, which in turn makes me feel good. Carry on.
No, you are not obligated to offer a compliment in return. In fact, I would recommend that you not because it will likely sound forced, insincere, or contrived. I would simply thank them as graciously as you can and leave it at that.
It's ok to say thank you and then you can keep it moving!!
I am very sorry but if someone is giving me a compliment because they want one back, then please don't give it; compliments are not mandatory, they are authentic and organic. If someone compliment my perfume I smile and say thank you. Point blank period.
Hahahahahaha!!! That's something awkward no one ever brings up!!! I go with common courtesy. You'll always fare better if you stick to the golden rule! EJ!!! I'M KILLING MYSELF LAUGHING 😂😂😂
It's the curse of us beautiful people EJ😂 we gonna get compliments. ❤
I like to marinate in the compliment given. I use to swat them away or hurriedly return it to them…but now I learned to receive a genuine compliment. It’s not bad to just say thank you! It’s not bigheaded lol
I feel like a compliment just needs a smile and thank you. Paying it forward is keeping the world in balance though lol😊
I say thank you and keep it moving. When I give compliments, I don't expect or need one back.
Take your medicine 😂
I think as women, it's customarily so automatic to give one right on back. Either you steal their same compliment or you reach for the stars and pluck the first thought that you see and just go with that! 😂😂😂 So relatable and your feelings are valid. This is a safe space friend. 😂😂😂
😂 Not reach for the stars!!😂😂😂 Love it!!
If I like you , I say thank you keep it moving if I don't and I am on joke time...I say I know lmao 😅
If someone gives you a compliment say thank you and keep it moving 😂😂😂
Just take the compliment and keep it moving...no harm, no foul...no hard feelings EJ!!!.nothing but love around here ❤ 😂😂😂😂
If someone compliments me, I just say "aww thank you, I appreciate that" and THATS IT THATS ALL
I just give compliments ….. no need to return one. She is me and she good.
Reciprocity not necessary, just don't send the compliment back! Just say thank you and smile.
Say thank u and keep it moving. 😂
EJ - Please take your medicine 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Where are the pills?!?! Let's take them together 😂😂😂😂😂😂