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  • @QueenZsWorld
    @QueenZsWorld Рік тому +2972

    can we also remember we were CHILDREN in high school??? 😂 why would grown adults look like children forever?

    • @BooDotBoo
      @BooDotBoo Рік тому +268

      I'm always weirded out by anyone talking about how come people don't look how we looked in high school. Why are you at your big age wanting someone to look like a teenager?

    • @vss5383
      @vss5383 Рік тому +118

      Right! Who is trying to look like an actual child?!

    • @lcarthens2897
      @lcarthens2897 Рік тому +15

      Facts

    • @crystallight328
      @crystallight328 Рік тому +89

      I’m 31 and ppl assume I’m a high school senior. Sometimes black don’t crack 😂😂😂

    • @denisejohnson4037
      @denisejohnson4037 Рік тому +48

      @@Princesss93 A lot of people still go to the gym. We still take care of our bodies.

  • @carolperdue7534
    @carolperdue7534 Рік тому +4037

    Well I’m at the age where more and more of my classmates are no longer with us so I’m just happy to be here. So bump that to whoever wrote that post!

    • @blackbutterfly8338
      @blackbutterfly8338 Рік тому +134

      Right! I’m happy to BE, because quite a few of my classmates have passed. Plus, life happens….like it’s supposed to…..

    • @earlenecarson395
      @earlenecarson395 Рік тому +33

      Absolutely!

    • @Thoos-r5g
      @Thoos-r5g Рік тому +70

      And if we are honest, some of those young folk may attend funerals of their peers...😔

    • @Happy-dq9iu
      @Happy-dq9iu Рік тому +143

      As my Grandma would say - "I'm just glad I'm on this side of the dirt"

    • @dyoung2739
      @dyoung2739 Рік тому +27

      Amen🙏🏽,Carol,I wholeheartedly agree with your comment!

  • @Dreamsareareality
    @Dreamsareareality Рік тому +595

    I got ridiculed in high school for being skinny. That is what they called me. I am now thick. I had someone say what happened. I had cancer twice. People don't know your story. Grateful to be here. 🙏🏽🙏🏽 Right in my 50s now.

    • @angieangiel2666
      @angieangiel2666 Рік тому +32

      I was ridiculed in jr and high school for being quiet and skinny. But mostly for being quiet. Because black people hate quiet black people.

    • @Dreamsareareality
      @Dreamsareareality Рік тому +13

      @@angieangiel2666 I hate reading that. I love quiet people. Sometimes it is good to be quiet and take things in. You are right some can't stand silence.

    • @angieangiel2666
      @angieangiel2666 Рік тому +6

      @@Dreamsareareality at a couple of jobs I've had a coworker told me I can't be myself at jobs and another one told me if I don't become extroverted I won't make it in the world.

    • @Dreamsareareality
      @Dreamsareareality Рік тому +4

      @@angieangiel2666 Actually little co worker the world needs quiet people. They make the world go around. How would it be if everyone talked and talked and talked. People need to understand we all are individuals on this earth some of us are being our true authentic self. Embrace your quietness. It makes you special.

    • @angieangiel2666
      @angieangiel2666 Рік тому +3

      @@Dreamsareareality oh I've embraced it years ago. I just wish I could find my tribe of people who will love and accept me for the way I am. Because I haven't found that yet. I'm here in the south and there are a lot of loud black people here. even my own living siblings dislike me because I was different than them. And my older siblings is who made me this way by bullying me at age 12. I was a social extroverted child with no anxiety. But after my older sister and brother started bullying me my personality changed for the worst.

  • @TomikaKelly
    @TomikaKelly Рік тому +1075

    I left high school in 2012 at a size 8. I've doubled in size, lost weight, picked up and quit smoking, started a business, earned multiple degrees, developed a backbone, learned my worth, started speaking my mind, and found out what styles look best on me....and I am 100% okay with that.

    • @ULuvJanae
      @ULuvJanae Рік тому +24

      I’m tryna get like you @26

    • @MsShuman100
      @MsShuman100 Рік тому +8

      Sounds like you are living a wonderful life 🥰

    • @JaSmineLea217
      @JaSmineLea217 Рік тому +4

      Right. I was always skinny in school and wished I was thick lol. I had best friends right after 2 years of hs were barbies in hs but just 2 years out got Hella big 200+ but back 2 me I went up n down like ya.

    • @mekaa04
      @mekaa04 Рік тому +3

      Not going to lie you are very inspirational

    • @thearough
      @thearough Рік тому +1

      sounds like you living life doin the damn thing, teach us something and about this money, you looking good and like goals❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️👏👏👏👏what about your weight again....

  • @mirandacamp4222
    @mirandacamp4222 Рік тому +146

    Pushing multiple babies out definitely changes your body. Lost a parent recently. Depression is real and it will change your body for sure. Thank you EJ for speaking up about the real truth of being a woman.

    • @sacredlady.
      @sacredlady. Рік тому +8

      My condolences to you, my Daddy left this earth a year ago, its hard because he was the parent that got me-didn’t try to change my personality. I hope the pain becomes manageable over the years and we’re left with all the beautiful memories. Blessings to you and yours. ✨🙏🏾❤️

    • @selenamarshall102
      @selenamarshall102 Рік тому +2

      Praying for you my sister. Stay strong💜

    • @selenamarshall102
      @selenamarshall102 Рік тому +2

      @@sacredlady.my son passed in 2020. Your in my prayers. 💜🙏💜

  • @tinalee7440
    @tinalee7440 Рік тому +2042

    That girl is me! I’m an entire adult woman who held and pushed 4 humans out among other traumatic things! Some people look the same but I don’t and I’m fine with it because as Cealy said… ‘I’m here!”

    • @billiismith6054
      @billiismith6054 Рік тому +90

      That post actually was about, that one "pretty, thin, mean" bully, noooow she's not that pretty & thin anymore, so watch Whoooo u be mean toooo, even as a kid, u just may end up on the other Side of Bullying... (or a size 23, real Petty Butt True)🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @pursedelighted8313
      @pursedelighted8313 Рік тому +35

      Me too.i had 4 kids naturally. Child please

    • @sdc8598
      @sdc8598 Рік тому +12

      You said it for me!!!!

    • @mariejack506
      @mariejack506 Рік тому +20

      Same !!! 4 kids done did me in lol body ain't like it use to be...

    • @livinmasterpiece3729
      @livinmasterpiece3729 Рік тому +12

      Yassss!!! I'm here!!

  • @iamalexisbaker
    @iamalexisbaker Рік тому +631

    "But the desk be having snacks in it" 🤣 Facts.

    • @andrealedet9541
      @andrealedet9541 Рік тому +27

      Now EJ stop telling my business LOL so I have a whole dollar store in my drawer who are you to judge me?!!😂😂😂

    • @curlygurl43
      @curlygurl43 Рік тому +3

      💯

    • @iamalexisbaker
      @iamalexisbaker Рік тому +26

      @@andrealedet9541 guuurl, even options for vegans and diabetics. Stop playing. 😂

    • @122Tori
      @122Tori Рік тому +13

      Literally what file cabinets are for

    • @honeywest39j95
      @honeywest39j95 Рік тому +2

      @@iamalexisbaker 😅🤣

  • @morganboutwell8231
    @morganboutwell8231 Рік тому +743

    People who want you to look like a kid as an adult are creepy. AND we just survived a global pandemic. Girl I’m just happy to be here

    • @frenchmayonnaise
      @frenchmayonnaise Рік тому +44

      I thought the same thing, like why do you want to look like a child...we have enough problems in our society with kids being seen as adults 🤯 let's keep the two very separate please...

    • @yuhz1m1
      @yuhz1m1 Рік тому +11

      Facts

    • @ladytjoy
      @ladytjoy Рік тому +21

      Pretty sure they weren't referring to looking like a child but the size difference.

    • @jullianmcdaniel7301
      @jullianmcdaniel7301 Рік тому

      Now I'm looking at your picture and from the looks of it the years haven't been nice to you. I can almost garenteee you drink alot or use to. You can look at you and tell. This is what we're talking about. Making life altering decisions and thinking you won't have to answer for it. Make better choices that's the point of what they're saying

    • @kaimckai
      @kaimckai Рік тому +17

      How does being in shape equal looking like a child? Just cause that’s the last time you were in shape? I don’t get it

  • @dr.thaliaw9881
    @dr.thaliaw9881 Рік тому +9

    “The desk be having snacks in it!!!”😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂. She ain’t lying

  • @babyfaceweeb8937
    @babyfaceweeb8937 Рік тому +9

    And if you still look the same as you did in high school, you're clearly a vampire.

  • @barose1
    @barose1 Рік тому +1622

    I am in my 40s and in much better shape and condition than I was in high school. Being childfree and away from toxic family helps.

  • @brystamcneal8736
    @brystamcneal8736 Рік тому +739

    EJ went on a hilarious truthful rant 🤣🤣🤣

    • @ms.j2u886
      @ms.j2u886 Рік тому +19

      & I was here for all of it

    • @abrylalexander4683
      @abrylalexander4683 Рік тому +16

      I felt she was speaking directly to me. The accuracy 🥴🤣

    • @redbeaut
      @redbeaut Рік тому +1

      I mean, she took her time and made it plain and simple! 😂

    • @jayasmith9581
      @jayasmith9581 3 місяці тому

      Loved it🎉

  • @isolda980
    @isolda980 Рік тому +741

    I had lunch with my best friend from hs today. We graduated in the 70s. How we look is: glad to be here. Anything beyond that is as trivial as high school.

  • @prideofjudah5767
    @prideofjudah5767 Рік тому +77

    I was teased for being skinny in high school. Now, I'm shapely and young folks pay money to fill jeans the way I do. Caught shade from my peers because I never dyed my hair- just let it gray as I aged. Now, I am repeatedly told how beautiful my gray hair is. Bottom line: you will never be able to please all of people all of the time, so only focus on pleasing yourself. Your self worth is found within, not in a mirror.

  • @ericah.3906
    @ericah.3906 Рік тому +1

    She put the HOA in there too! 🤣
    E.J. is speaking on ALL the stressors.

  • @brenale_heartsJesus
    @brenale_heartsJesus Рік тому +1312

    I was actually pretty close to being morbidly obese in high school compared to where I am now, so I am GRATEFUL to not look like my high school self 😂🥴

    • @lcam9241
      @lcam9241 Рік тому +60

      Congrats to you on getting healthier (I assume). 👏 ❤

    • @brenale_heartsJesus
      @brenale_heartsJesus Рік тому +51

      @@lcam9241 thank you! Still got work to do but not nearly where I was!

    • @jend8759
      @jend8759 Рік тому +17

      Good for you!!!!!

    • @artistryarticle6859
      @artistryarticle6859 Рік тому +16

      ​@@brenale_heartsJesus You're amazing! High school you is clapping and cooing over you

    • @ladymacan7874
      @ladymacan7874 Рік тому +10

      Same sis. Look at me now. Ha!

  • @monicam.9612
    @monicam.9612 Рік тому +134

    The line "We drink tears and depression" 😂🤣

  • @lucidasmr6413
    @lucidasmr6413 Рік тому +588

    I care more about how I look versus comparing how OTHERS are looking. I am grateful I am able to look like anything and be living. Health is wealth

  • @FreeBLKWomanFKALadyCrone
    @FreeBLKWomanFKALadyCrone Рік тому +4

    I'm so glad I'm still fine at 40. I eat well and have abs, I stay on top my health, and childfree and stress free. I see so many folks from school that look a mess, but hey life still life, but grateful to be in the lucky few, that's still hawt!

  • @Faith_Walker_
    @Faith_Walker_ Рік тому +4

    I’m aging gracefully, most people say I don’t look my age. That’s what having peace and staying away from toxic situations/people will do for you😊.

  • @InnerRise
    @InnerRise Рік тому +116

    "When is my sister gonna pay me back?"
    Trauma

    • @aysyaw6038
      @aysyaw6038 Рік тому +3

      😂😂😂

    • @Quata2002
      @Quata2002 Рік тому +2

      Facts!! And sadly our relationship is basically nonexistent…😑😖

    • @niablessed
      @niablessed Рік тому +1

      @@Quata2002 truth

  • @tayriobravo6204
    @tayriobravo6204 Рік тому +458

    This was me! Skinny to a 🥔. Hormones, divorces, kids, bills, stress and tragedy will do a number on you. But I’m still kicking and raising my kids, i still got my edges and trying to be the healthiest I can be at this stage in the game.

    • @resad3183
      @resad3183 Рік тому +49

      "I still got my edges"!!🤣😂.. that was hilarious.. I was not expecting that😭

    • @Ravioli-uw9uy
      @Ravioli-uw9uy Рік тому +30

      ​@@resad3183 I lost my damn edges when my mama died 🥺 I'm glad at least someone kept their edges. God bless y'all

    • @resad3183
      @resad3183 Рік тому +14

      @@Ravioli-uw9uy ohh I see.. yes Our edges can so fragile and sensitive and the slightest thing can take them out.. may God rest your Mom's soul and blessings to you too!🙏🏽💜

    • @carlaanderson6987
      @carlaanderson6987 Рік тому +4

      😂😂😂😂 ma'am I'm glad you got your edges, I remember when edges weren't a thing, your post was hilarious

    • @literally8647
      @literally8647 Рік тому +8

      Slick them edges down for me girl! 😭😭😭

  • @KV-mz8ro
    @KV-mz8ro Рік тому +585

    Having kids, hormones crazy, stress in every area of life, depression, snacking when stressed and eating the food you want to satisfy you at the moment will take a toll on you.

    • @LoveAndSnapple
      @LoveAndSnapple Рік тому +43

      That’s why it makes me sad when people talk about fat people in high school. We’re not all just going to high school and having regular high school problems then going home. Even teenagers are dealing with adult problems but young people can be so callous and mean and they never even give it a second thought.

    • @KV-mz8ro
      @KV-mz8ro Рік тому +17

      @@LoveAndSnapple I agree. Teenagers today definitely deal with adult problems and situations. Then the mean ones at school that talk about other kids have no idea the impact those negative words have on them, on top of everything else personal they are going through. It’s sad when you think about it. I would tell my kids if you don’t have anything positive to say, just hush.

    • @reesecup95
      @reesecup95 Рік тому +14

      ​@@KV-mz8ro Unfortunately adults treat each other just like the mean teenagers do in highschool

    • @bevill72able
      @bevill72able Рік тому +4

      @reesecup95 yes indeed! And its so pitiful to work with adult by age, immature and childish acting women

    • @RBing
      @RBing Рік тому +4

      Without the kids hormones are crazy!!! Damned if u do, damned if u don’t 🤦🏾‍♀️

  • @beniciananez
    @beniciananez Рік тому +4

    PREACH!!!!!!! Pasta and cheese…my golden Oreos at my desk.

  • @tionak
    @tionak Рік тому +91

    I’m about to be 35 and I JUST started loving up on myself. I had a huge weight loss journey in my early 20s (lost 92 lbs) and I was still unhappy. I’d look back on pics and be like “now why in the world did I pick myself apart like that!? Never again”. Ive since gained a little weight which I like and I love my body as it is. I’m doing better health wise (exercising, eating) for ME which has me approaching it a totally different way this time. If I lose 10lbs or don’t, I’m still fine. Lol
    I would like to extend this to all the young people feeling similar. Work on the mental and love your body for what it does not just how it looks.

    • @miracle-pi5ws
      @miracle-pi5ws Рік тому

      How did you lose that much I need to lose that much to omg

  • @jillneverumind7229
    @jillneverumind7229 Рік тому +91

    🤣….”Just because you eating apples & oranges, & celery doesn’t mean the rest of us are! Some of us are eating tears & depression…(and cheese)!” Sounds like the argument I just had with my Personal Trainer! 😂

    • @habeshasister11
      @habeshasister11 Рік тому +2

      The cheese!! I swear it’s killing my body lol

  • @baldblackgirlchronicles996
    @baldblackgirlchronicles996 Рік тому +391

    This was fabulous. Thank you. I hate when people say “dang you get big” or “you done put on some weight “. Like I don’t look in the mirror every day.

    • @Kayrenar
      @Kayrenar Рік тому +35

      They need to say LESS! I would never say that to anybody. It’s good to be seen PERIODT!

    • @nicolejohnson4023
      @nicolejohnson4023 Рік тому +11

      You know that’s her aunties and grandmas saying that because that’s who says it to me. 😂

    • @baldblackgirlchronicles996
      @baldblackgirlchronicles996 Рік тому +6

      @@nicolejohnson4023 lol. You know it’s yo auntie ‘hem that says that. The literally have no filter.

    • @marlab5203
      @marlab5203 Рік тому

      This 💯💯💯💯💯

    • @biancagerman9808
      @biancagerman9808 Рік тому +1

      Right! 💗❣️💗

  • @jonathanjack1000
    @jonathanjack1000 Рік тому +965

    So I went to a magnet school and my 10 year is next year. Saw an old homegirl in the gym and within a couple minutes of catching up starts to talk down her "regular" life. Im like okay but you survived the pandemic and are raising your child tho right? Blessings. We are doing more than enough

    • @moniqueuu8777
      @moniqueuu8777 Рік тому +126

      A lot of us feel like we should be doing more due to social media and all these fake posts of happy, wealthy, perfect people.

    • @BooDotBoo
      @BooDotBoo Рік тому +37

      @@moniqueuu8777 Yep, people who should know better at their big age, still comparing themselves to the 19 year olds who be having plastic surgery (with no money or going into debt to pay for) to have perfect hourglass figures. You alive, that's ALL that matters.

    • @fromlissawithlove
      @fromlissawithlove Рік тому +32

      This whole thread deserves an encore!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 The fact that we survived not only the pandemic, but all of the wars, 9/11, Y2K, grave social injustice, Reganomics, and everything that came before??? Baby you deserve the ABSOLUTE world 🌍 ❤ You are doing enough and your ARE enough!

    • @toshawhatareyoudoing6410
      @toshawhatareyoudoing6410 Рік тому +28

      I honestly think I look better now than I did in 1997 when I graduated high school. Sure, I have a few more curves, and my knee sometimes hurts for no reason, but I was a tom-boy back then who didn't yet know how to embrace her femininity and dress the body she had. But somewhere in my early twenties, I discovered that not only was I a girl, but I was cute. So I started dressing a lot better, and in turn, it made me feel a lot better. Now, I'm a mature woman with some life experience under my belt, and I can say that I look good.

    • @neci596
      @neci596 Рік тому +8

      My 10 year is next year as well. And I'm so insecure about where my life is. You're right tho. I'm surviving and doing what's best for me.

  • @9darshana
    @9darshana Рік тому +16

    I actually look better than what I looked like in highschool. I found what worked for my hair and skin so both are hydrated. I was bone thin in highschool so I needed some weight anyway. Everything just worked out in my favor.

  • @samueldystany
    @samueldystany Рік тому +13

    I was someone who was bullied incessantly in high school by the ‘popular kids" almost ever day I knew as the quite one who didn't speaks at all I had extremely bad social anxiety I was going through a depression back than. so high school kind of of had damaged me afterwards.
    My whole Glow had came years later , and started taking better care of myself today. I'm more confidence now then ever .
    I would never attended to my, 10 years HS reunion the past is all dead to me I've had moved on with my life .

  • @abrylalexander4683
    @abrylalexander4683 Рік тому +42

    "The desk be havin snacks in it" that felt personal 😩🥲🤣🤣

  • @missjaqi
    @missjaqi Рік тому +878

    As the fat girl in high school, it just felt like karmic retribution when all the mean skinny ones aged poorly.

    • @leannthompson5585
      @leannthompson5585 Рік тому +188

      I'm not big and never have been, but I see it as karma for those "mean girls" in high school who were skinny and thought they were all that. Those girls, and boys, who thought they were "it" in high school and now not so much 😂

    • @shennilleo3746
      @shennilleo3746 Рік тому +233

      Was looking for this comment because I was bullied about my weight in HS and all them heffas is as wide as the door now and have a lot of kids. I don't feel sorry for saying this either!😂

    • @christinalafleur3813
      @christinalafleur3813 Рік тому +51

      @@shennilleo3746🤣🤣🤣

    • @silvernblack21
      @silvernblack21 Рік тому +103

      I was a cheerleader in high school and looked fine, but my spirit was in tatters. Depressed, very far from The Most High...I wouldn't go back to those days for anything. Repayment for mean folks would be if they stayed stuck in immaturity and misery, that's worse than gaining weight 🤣

    • @sassyfrass7029
      @sassyfrass7029 Рік тому +87

      Just had a 40th HS reunion and honestly I felt a big “ha ha” about some of the once “popular” and “pretty” girls looking like death weighing …a lot.
      Yeah…40😮….I had to do the math when contacted about it.
      I just knew there was an error. 😂😂😂

  • @lmg8236
    @lmg8236 Рік тому +229

    “Life be lifing”. I better NOT look like I did in high school because I came through some things, and I rejoice in that fact. I don’t even want to feel like I did in high school. I’m proud of being a 40 something that has gone through life and still standing. Y’all betta stop playin’!!!

    • @eyethumfazwe
      @eyethumfazwe Рік тому +3

      Love the spirit 💓 and I'm more than a decade younger than you

  • @keysasalado3419
    @keysasalado3419 Рік тому +2

    “Some of us are young and ugly” I could not feel more seen 😂😂🤣🤣🤣

  • @vapatsfan6174
    @vapatsfan6174 8 місяців тому +2

    At our 10 year class reunion ( my husband and I went to high school together) and many of us looked very similar to who we looked at graduation. 20 year reunion was a whole different story. Be happy and grateful for what you have and who you are. Mom jeans are so much more comfortable than skinny jeans. You can go to a buffet and truly enjoy it in mom jeans.

  • @eljeepi
    @eljeepi Рік тому +321

    Thank you for giving shout outs to caregivers. Not all of us have kids, but some of us elderly parents. Life be lifing in so many ways.

    • @imeanreally9094
      @imeanreally9094 Рік тому +20

      You said a WORD in addition to EJ's. No lie. Stressors find their way to everybody.

    • @eljeepi
      @eljeepi Рік тому +10

      @@imeanreally9094 absolutely. None of us can escape from stress.

    • @MakyaKByrth
      @MakyaKByrth Рік тому +29

      “Not all of us have kids, but some of us take care of elderly parents..” It’s me. I’m some people. 😩 Sometimes a 3 piece chicken box from Popeyes is the highlight of my day 🫣 but Imma do better though. Imma do better.

    • @imeanreally9094
      @imeanreally9094 Рік тому +6

      @Makya K. Byrth I'm sending strong and whenever you can use then restful vibes your way sis, because that's me too. And earlier than expected but life be laughing at expectations.

    • @eljeepi
      @eljeepi Рік тому +19

      @Makya K. Byrth we the same sis. Working, helping, tired, emotionally drained. Not to mention the sadness of watching parents grow old. But we do what we do because they loved us 1st. Or at least we're trying to do the right thing. I see you sis. When you can, take care of you. You're not alone 🥰 enjoy that Popeyes btw..lol

  • @Nurse_Shelly44
    @Nurse_Shelly44 Рік тому +10

    I caught up with an old friend that said something like "you can tell you got older." I told her that I should look older since we last saw each other 23yrs ago. And she's the same age as me. Some folks.......

  • @kristinccha
    @kristinccha Рік тому +628

    You preaching with added comedic relief
    I appreciate you mentioning about some of us that have lost kids, I lost my child in the pandemic to an unknown illness and it has been trying. Still have my faith, my other children, my husband and friends but I definitely think this experience has aged me

    • @ItsChristyLove
      @ItsChristyLove Рік тому +30

      ❤️‍🩹

    • @normette
      @normette Рік тому +69

      Condolences for your loss. I sincerely pray that God wraps you in his comfort and healing, and that you are able to find joy in the family surrounding you and in the precious memories that you have of your child when grief attempts to overtake you. In my father’s heavenly and everlasting name, Amen. Blessings ❤️🙏🏿

    • @glamsaucy
      @glamsaucy Рік тому +28

      Condolences for your loss.

    • @Jesus.SaVeS77
      @Jesus.SaVeS77 Рік тому +19

      I agree 💯 with u. Bc I lost many folks,since povid & b4 as well. But los'n immed. Fam. membrs is hardest thing in my life ever.. For i.e my dear mom & my 1st born, oldest neph. murdered, & stepdad B4 my mom. So my🌍 hasn't been the same since they all pass'd on. 🤦🏾🫢😐🙁

    • @steppyd1981
      @steppyd1981 Рік тому +9

      Prayers for your family 🙏

  • @Carolynnin
    @Carolynnin Рік тому +4

    Imagine the AUDAITY of actually AGING! Like a HUMAN!!

  • @monibushan6714
    @monibushan6714 Рік тому +7

    From the class of 87, I embrace and endorse your message completely!!! 😊❤😊❤

  • @Everythingfreshandsassy
    @Everythingfreshandsassy Рік тому +237

    I just turned 60 and I am N O T claiming anything less! No surgeries and every line and wrinkle I sit comfortably tight where I am!

    • @lvnlrnification
      @lvnlrnification Рік тому +8

      sis i round my age up to the nearest 5😅

    • @srch42
      @srch42 Рік тому +4

      Preach!!

    • @Ravioli-uw9uy
      @Ravioli-uw9uy Рік тому +2

      Yess queen❤💯

    • @idi.h5460
      @idi.h5460 Рік тому +2

      You’re beautiful and look 20 years younger ❤

    • @eyethumfazwe
      @eyethumfazwe Рік тому

      @Everything Fresh & Sassy love this for you ❤️ & I'm 32 years younger than you. Very inspiring

  • @karissam.7030
    @karissam.7030 Рік тому +225

    FACTS!!! FROM HEELS 👠->WEDGES->TO SNEAKERS 👟 #COMFORT THAT'S WHERE YOU WILL FIND ME!!! 😌

  • @imaginethat2003
    @imaginethat2003 Рік тому +456

    Because I've gained weight, I like to say I'm twice the woman I once was. 🙂

    • @bridgebridgebridge
      @bridgebridgebridge Рік тому +23

      180 to be a lady, 2-summ'n to do summ'n. I'm doing summ'n, and im NOT mad about it!

    • @trulyrblessed
      @trulyrblessed Рік тому +8

      😂😂

    • @Joelise1000
      @Joelise1000 Рік тому +11

      I say this is my grown woman body!

    • @bridgebridgebridge
      @bridgebridgebridge Рік тому +3

      @@Joelise1000 yaaas!!! And i love it ❤️❤️❤️

    • @mgn3618
      @mgn3618 Рік тому +3

      😂😂😂

  • @LeolaGlamour
    @LeolaGlamour 11 місяців тому +4

    She has a reputation for being a bully, I think they were indicating her karma.

  • @latoyamoore642
    @latoyamoore642 Рік тому +37

    ***heavy on the stress and snacks*** But my fly still can't be ignored. I was a 10 back then I'm still a 10 now. It's just bolded and italicized. 😂😂

    • @shannontidwell5724
      @shannontidwell5724 Рік тому +8

      👐🏾👐🏾👏🏾👏🏾 100% FACTS!! I LOVE THIS COMMENT!!❤❤

  • @Nmendenh-rl6ej
    @Nmendenh-rl6ej Рік тому +72

    My hair was breaking off because I had a relaxer in HS. My reunion is coming up and now I have a full head of locs. Grateful for change!

    • @redeamedrichly3
      @redeamedrichly3 Рік тому +1

      🤜🤛😂😂Likewise Bless GOD🤸🏽
      it's Long.😌🏃🏽‍♀️💅🏽👠 won't HE do it tho.😉🙌🏽

  • @luvh8tr
    @luvh8tr Рік тому +534

    I haven’t been in high school in 30 years. And I send love and light to anyone who is personally vested in what other people from high school look like, even if those people were mean to and/or bullied them. I got way too much business to be concerned with anyone else. And as I race towards 50, how I look ain’t my primary concern, it’s what that blood pressure, blood sugar, cholesterol and mammogram do. I am way more concerned about what is going on inside my body than the exterior at this point. Besides, I am ace with hair and makeup, I can pull out a cute look anytime. Cause, I do care a bit about being cute, I just care way more about being healthy. 😂

    • @GL1TCHED9
      @GL1TCHED9 Рік тому +53

      This is the comment I was looking for. If you are still harboring resentment about some stuff from hs, seek peace.

    • @altalovelady661
      @altalovelady661 Рік тому +54

      Exactly! I can't be worried about what people looked like in 1993 when I got bills due in 2023. They need to mind their business.

    • @beprettylife
      @beprettylife Рік тому +8

      Girl this was not for you 😂. You still look 20

    • @Nurse_Shelly44
      @Nurse_Shelly44 Рік тому +3

      @@altalovelady661 Preach! 🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @manestage5403
      @manestage5403 Рік тому +15

      Yessss!
      This is an ENTIRE WORD.
      I just turned 40 and it's like all my middle-aged instinct kicked in. 😄
      Excited about cleaning products. Grateful about making it through a pandemic.
      Praying my mammogram looks good. When I meet someone I'm wondering what that retirement do (and making my own do what it do in the meantime)?
      I was over the moon because of a perfect blood pressure reading at the doctors the other day. Can't be out here setting ourselves back 20 and 30 years talking people from high school. lol

  • @megaJ0Y
    @megaJ0Y Рік тому +1

    Lifing is a Blessing!! We are still here by da grace of God!
    Keep on living babies...if your age is 50 + life is gonna show up somewhere! Face, teeth (or lack of), walk, talk, bank account. Jus saying! 🙄😂😊
    Great talk!
    LIVE, L❤VE, and LAFF!🤭
    Love ya girl!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

  • @montricewilson7561
    @montricewilson7561 Рік тому +1

    So, true and the food isn’t getting better. Having kids, hormones, stress and just everything.

  • @WholeHeartily
    @WholeHeartily Рік тому +194

    I’m HAPPY not to look like I did in high school! I was a child! Now I’m a woman. I’ve had so many great stories since then, I’m an interesting person 😌

    • @trnharris
      @trnharris Рік тому +4

      Love it

    • @joll_d1303
      @joll_d1303 Рік тому +3

      Most definitely agree I didn’t like how I looked in highschool either💀😭

  • @lonesparrow
    @lonesparrow Рік тому +66

    "They just here. They mine." That's the kind of body positivity energy we all need!

  • @ifeefee6964
    @ifeefee6964 Рік тому +160

    How you not changing is the question of the day???😂😂

    • @blackbutterfly8338
      @blackbutterfly8338 Рік тому +8

      AAAAA-MEN! Girl! You don’t even know what you just said! You just preached, just now.

    • @billiismith6054
      @billiismith6054 Рік тому

      It's actually not about the Physical Change, it's IMPOSSIBLE NOTTT TO PHYSICALLY CHANGE, the person who post that was actually getting a lil innocent revenge, think ... the Skinny, Pretty, Meeeean Bully That made eeeeverybody feel bad for being "different", Grew up to be the saaaame person She Bullied... hummm, iiiii ddnt get the "how can u not change" iiiii got that WATCH WHO U BEEEEE MEAN TO, EVEN AS A CHILD, U JUST MAY END UP ON THE SAME SIDE AS THE BULLIED🫡🫡😉😉😉😉

  • @lesliesimmons2273
    @lesliesimmons2273 Рік тому

    "And what do I need wit em" just took me OUT!!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @sherriesimon9471
    @sherriesimon9471 Рік тому +1

    Yes sis..the things I did in HS not proud of it..but..some of my HS classmates ain't here no more..it been 47 yrs..but GOD..I'm living in my 60s..thank you JESUS❤👍🙏

  • @ashes2beauti
    @ashes2beauti Рік тому +80

    She got stuck in time… High school is 4-years of your life. She needs to move on.

    • @PhenomenonThePoet
      @PhenomenonThePoet Рік тому +40

      That’s big facts! But social media done turned the whole world into a high school lunch room nowadays

    • @Eternity4ME
      @Eternity4ME Рік тому +7

      But that was the longest 4 years ever.

    • @leelee5593
      @leelee5593 Рік тому +2

      @@PhenomenonThePoet I agree it’s crazy

  • @AngelicDiva1988
    @AngelicDiva1988 Рік тому +8

    Like my granny use to say, “Just keep living.”

  • @uncommonfavor674
    @uncommonfavor674 Рік тому +109

    In June of this year it’ll be 40 years since I graduated high school. I’m 30 pounds heavier, wrinkled, a mother of a 21 year old and a wife of 36 years. I’m completely gray. I look better to myself now than I did then. Totally imperfect but completely content.

    • @yuhz1m1
      @yuhz1m1 Рік тому +5

      Love this.

    • @YellowPaint100
      @YellowPaint100 Рік тому +3

      That last part is just 😚muah, 👌NICE!!!

    • @jenerrabrown
      @jenerrabrown Рік тому +2

      No Queen, totally perfect with your imperfections.

  • @lynnelliott9038
    @lynnelliott9038 Рік тому +6

    The way I hollered, screamed, said amen, shouted, gave you the go ahead and the thumbs up and became reflective ALL within the few moments of this public service announcement!? You Preached a whole sermon right here! #everyemotion

  • @MeshBanga
    @MeshBanga Рік тому +1

    Not “aging without a fight” 😭😭😭😭😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @prudencek7087
    @prudencek7087 Рік тому +12

    I owe not one person an explanation. I don't look like I did in highschool nor do I behave like I did in highschool... why? BECAUSE I AM GROWN!

  • @shwanagarner3966
    @shwanagarner3966 Рік тому +97

    Girl! You covered every reason why we don't look like we did, and you are correct.

  • @purpleness64
    @purpleness64 Рік тому +41

    My metabolism changed and life began to life!!! Yasssss!

  • @tranquilmomentswithme7643
    @tranquilmomentswithme7643 Рік тому +1

    Staying healthy is the goal. I'm in my mid Twenties and I look way better now than then.

  • @nathalia_z7639
    @nathalia_z7639 Рік тому +3

    I wear wedges because I have worn-down the cushion on the bottoms of my feet, therefore, 3-4 inches heels are for special occasions only! And only for walking from front of the restaurant to my table! 🤣🤣🤣

  • @iamalexisbaker
    @iamalexisbaker Рік тому +94

    We don't look like we use to because were are STRESSED 🙄. Facts as well.

  • @ny2768
    @ny2768 Рік тому +54

    It's called stress. 😂😂😂

  • @amyoung101
    @amyoung101 Рік тому +269

    No lies were detected! 💯 facts!!! I personally enjoy the aging process. It brings with it wisdom and perspective that I didn’t have in my younger days. I’ve always loved natural beauty and I step everyday owning mine 🥰

    • @PhenomenonThePoet
      @PhenomenonThePoet Рік тому +11

      Ya know… this was a great post. I gotta get there babe… aging has always been seen as a bad thang for a woman. I gotta be comfortable w/ it cause God has blessed me. Thanks for the wisdom.

    • @lcam9241
      @lcam9241 Рік тому +4

      ​@@PhenomenonThePoet I second your comment with all my heart.

    • @amyoung101
      @amyoung101 Рік тому +3

      @@PhenomenonThePoet I trust that you will ❤️

    • @raziwellabdulrahman2362
      @raziwellabdulrahman2362 Рік тому +5

      I really started loving life when I entered my 40s

    • @trnharris
      @trnharris Рік тому +2

      💯

  • @michellejones32
    @michellejones32 Місяць тому

    I would never want to be the same size I was in high school. I was very skinny and young! I’ve had 3 children and have gained n loss weight over the years! At the age of 50 rt now I’m ok with my looks and just so grateful I’m still alive! God bless you all! ❤❤🙏🏾🙏🏾

  • @Redeemed2000
    @Redeemed2000 Рік тому +36

    Now... Why is it that we have to have the added pressure of looking the exact same that they did in high school, in addition to the other stuff? They going to stop playing with me!

  • @laceliabradley6448
    @laceliabradley6448 Рік тому +6

    I’m in my mid 40’s. I have had two sons which my younger one was all most 10pds. That made me say (I’m DONE). Both of my sons are doing pretty good and away from home. No man nor husband YET. Still waiting on GOD! I had cancer and I am still standing strong! No One better not tell me anything about my weight. Because I’m going to shift this weight their way! Try ME

  • @InnerRise
    @InnerRise Рік тому +22

    "We be getting TITTIES"
    wrecklessness😩👐🏿⚰

  • @karmlaquinn
    @karmlaquinn Рік тому +1

    “Don’t ever play with me” 😂

  • @Roccofan
    @Roccofan Рік тому +2

    The worst is when the bully/bad boy/jerk only got better. He looks better now than in high school, he dresses better, has a lot more money, drives a better car and is successful in life over all. Those people must be stopped!!! 😂😂😂

  • @jigg4u
    @jigg4u Рік тому +5

    "Life be lifing". True that. As my momma used to say, every day above ground is a good one.

  • @RealityCheck1980
    @RealityCheck1980 Рік тому +9

    An old classmate told me they were disappointed that I had gained weight. 🤦🏾‍♀️ And she’s big …Make that make sense….Still hurts though….

  • @QuitasBanana
    @QuitasBanana Рік тому +42

    Side note: alot of us have not changed personality wise since high school. Just as messy as you were 18 years ago.

  • @mygodisawesome6121
    @mygodisawesome6121 Рік тому +1

    That’s me wearing kitten heels 😂 Chile I’m to old to be wearing shoes that hurt my feet😂😂😂

  • @user-fz7di5xq7y
    @user-fz7di5xq7y Рік тому

    "you at these people job, and that's what you look like" I hollered! Love you EJ🤣🤣🤣

  • @danyreese2052
    @danyreese2052 Рік тому +9

    Whenever someone says my mom still looks the same she be like " so you saying I looked 50 in high school!"😂

  • @morganwhite2176
    @morganwhite2176 Рік тому +65

    You couldn’t have said it better. I saw a person I went to school with the other day and he looked at me as if I was disgraced because I don’t look the same. I used to be slim and some thought pretty, I am now overweight from the burden of life, surviving, and I’ll never forget he shot me a look like I had committed a crime! like he was offended. As if I owed him money or something, that look. I actually thought it was disgusting of him to think he has some type of ownership over what I should look like, really offended me. So you couldn’t have said it better.

    • @PunkyPrincessPop
      @PunkyPrincessPop Рік тому +17

      I saw a guy who I knew from school 20 years ago and he said to me “wow, you look…different” implying I looked bad. Without missing a beat I said “yeah…so do you” You should have seen his face, he started getting flustered talking about “yeah I might have put on a bit of weight” what a clown 🤡🙄 These men really think they look the same as they did as teenagers, meanwhile they have receding hairlines, pot bellies and premature wrinkles.

    • @vetgirl71
      @vetgirl71 Рік тому +8

      @@PunkyPrincessPop 🎯👏🏾👏🏾 well said! 😂😅
      Throughout the years if I recognized a hs classmate at the mall or a store, I purposely wouldn’t acknowledge or speak to them! Some people is better of leaving in the past! When I went to my 20th HS reunion, even though we were all either 40 or almost 40, most of my classmates were the same ignorant fools! The “popular “ kids (ex cheerleaders & jocks) were still arrogant & drunks/druggies! The “nerds” were had successful careers because our parents kept us straight! The so called “cool kids” were either in prison, dead or on crack! It was amazing seeing the “awkward so called “ugly ducklings “ blossomed and looked amazing ! The bullies wasn’t there or worth talking too! Most of the people were the same! I never kept in touch with any of them and so glad! Life has brought us through roller coasters and I’m thankful that I had a great life regardless and love myself! At 60 years young my priority is protecting my peace by any means necessary ! God bless! 😊🙏🏾

  • @sylviaespinoza8530
    @sylviaespinoza8530 Рік тому +182

    This video is A GEM. You packed a treasure chest of wise advice into 8 minutes! Free Therapy Here! As an elderly woman/senior citizen/seasoned person, however it applies, applaud you for encouraging everyone to EMBRACE who you are today. Think on this: If you start taking better care of yourself today, and five years from now you are older but looking healthy and enjoying your life and age, your investment pays off. As another commenter stated, "Health is Wealth." Thanks, EJ! You're a gem yourself! 💚👏💚🥰💚

    • @tweetybyrd2171
      @tweetybyrd2171 Рік тому

      💯💯👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 comments hey Health is wealth AMEN

  • @SavannahSylver
    @SavannahSylver Рік тому

    I had to come back… for some of us we looked horrible In high school. BUT NOW… baby…we look alot better as we’ve gotten older! 💅🏾

  • @Chazcott
    @Chazcott Рік тому +5

    I just did my last weigh in for the military. And I needed to see this. Been out of high school over 10yrs n had three kids. If I’m too fat to fight now, well.. that’s ok lmao

  • @Princessmom9
    @Princessmom9 Рік тому +70

    I'm broken up from the damage done to my body as a cheerleader. In high school we were active and barely ate. Now we just sitting at our jobs eating snacks watching the clocks. Most of the people I went to high school with, if they made it this far, don't look like we did back then. It's like and that's just the way things are. Love the body you have now and embrace growing older, so many didn't make it this far.

  • @lynnettashobayo6315
    @lynnettashobayo6315 Рік тому +16

    That hair stretch tho 👏👏👏

  • @netta911
    @netta911 Рік тому +5

    ...but the desk be having snacks in it" took me out!! 😂😂😂😂

  • @leshawnspruiell8196
    @leshawnspruiell8196 Рік тому +4

    It's truly a blessing to be alive and well these days! My husband and I both graduated high school 40 years ago and looking forward to attending our class reunion (Lord will). Yes, we have picked up a little weight....that comes with age and having children. But we're truly grateful to be here! Things are certainly going to change over the years.

  • @famousstar796
    @famousstar796 Рік тому +1

    You better believe a tummy tuck commercial was next. I am not too far away from highschool years but I'm enjoying my body now

  • @tknighton23
    @tknighton23 Рік тому +20

    First off…make up…flawless ❤❤❤ loving it. Second off… If you look like you did in high school you must be doing some magic 😂

  • @donnabrooks5319
    @donnabrooks5319 Рік тому +12

    This is so true!! I Thank God every day for letting me live 68 years, and still healthy 🙌🏽🙌🏽 Praising him for helping me through many storms!🙌🏽 So many of my classmates have passed away. So if I look different then I used to, I won't complain!! Thank you Lord!🙌🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @shirleyjensen417
    @shirleyjensen417 Рік тому +8

    “Life really be lifing.” Facts for real!

  • @nikifisher76
    @nikifisher76 Рік тому

    The desk DEFINITELY be having snacks in it!!🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @sandywright-leonard5238
    @sandywright-leonard5238 Рік тому +75

    Not only did I NOT get any “pandemic” money, but, because I’m a nurse, I had to put my life in danger and nearly lose my mind every day. The mention of the pandemic makes nurses get that one eye twitch from PTSD!!!😡

    • @Nana-vx6mt
      @Nana-vx6mt Рік тому +8

      Thank you for all you did and sacrificed ❤️🥰🌸

    • @TammiMorrison
      @TammiMorrison Рік тому +3

      You are so right about that. No money here either just putting our lives at risk daily, my husband and I. I’m over it and nursing, DONE!

    • @vetgirl71
      @vetgirl71 Рік тому +1

      Thank you nurses for sacrificing and serving our community with pride! I appreciate all of you, am a hospital administrator and always admired nurses & physicians I work with. All of you showed up and showed out during the pandemic and everyday and are my heroes & sheroes! Thank you for your courage and dedication! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🔥🙌🏾❤️

    • @MsDera81
      @MsDera81 6 місяців тому

      OMG!!! These comments make me see my place of employment in a different light. Our nurses at the hospital got Hazzard pay. They stopped taking days off too. Just wouldn't go home because their pockets were getting fat.

    • @rizuejigu7402
      @rizuejigu7402 6 місяців тому

      😮😮

  • @stargates9993
    @stargates9993 Рік тому +27

    Aging without a fight. I'm with you on this. Last time I pass the mirror, I thought I was looking at my dead grandma & I'm ok with that cause I miss her terribly.

  • @dyoung2739
    @dyoung2739 Рік тому +65

    The problems that we thought we had in high school were not really problems. Stress eating & crying over issues in adulthood like bills, illness & death have a way of aging you.

    • @arleedennis791
      @arleedennis791 Рік тому +4

      I really envy stress eaters. The more stressed I am the more weight I lose...hair too 😂

    • @dyoung2739
      @dyoung2739 Рік тому

      @@arleedennis791 🤣I’d prefer the weight loss

  • @rainemonet
    @rainemonet Рік тому +150

    The amount of respect I have for you, for this video ❤️🙏🏻

  • @Apixi
    @Apixi Рік тому +5

    After smiling my way through this, you took me all the way out with "aging without a fight" 🤣🤣🤣
    Edit: I have now subscribed😁

  • @chunky0077
    @chunky0077 Рік тому +1

    I wish I could thumb this up a MILLION TIMES! Not only funny, but factual! Educate them!

  • @tarawalker7193
    @tarawalker7193 Рік тому +5

    I think the idea behind the post is shading those that shamed others while in high school, but even they don't look like they looked in high school anymore.

  • @jalondradavis1565
    @jalondradavis1565 Рік тому +71

    So truthful. I managed to fit my high school cheerleading uniform until I was 30 and was so proud of that. But since having a medically complex child, marriage, separation then reconciliation, PhD program, long commutes to school and work and doing a million things and not getting any sleep, then a pandemic I’ve gained so much weight and I feel frustrated about it. But I’m physically active and I know I’m doing the best I can in my circumstances. I used to not want to buy new clothes cause I didn’t want to commit to my new body but I’m just trying to focus now on getting clothes that make me feel beautiful as I am and trying to get healthier not to look different but to be able to keep doing the physical activities I love.

    • @tracy-thomass8345
      @tracy-thomass8345 Рік тому

      Keep up the good work it’s important for us to be healthy not skinny but at a healthy weight I’m working hard on that too and I hate when women give excuses like you had children so you’re supposed to be fat