Yall don't like for people to get old, huh?

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  • @KV-mz8ro
    @KV-mz8ro Рік тому +3436

    People get real bold sitting behind these phones, keyboards and screens. It’s a shame, like they perfect and don’t age or change.

    • @kogybo
      @kogybo Рік тому +55

      Preach!!!

    • @gnas3390
      @gnas3390 Рік тому +27

      So true!

    • @Avant402
      @Avant402 Рік тому +98

      I hear ya! Getting older is something we can’t escape!! You take care of yourself, and you live life. I will be turning 50 in November and I’m looking forward to it!

    • @katemarr1984
      @katemarr1984 Рік тому +27

      Yes, they do and sometimes the results are awful. I call them keyboard cowboys.
      You can be brave behind the keyboard but you can't stand when you are called out for talking trash.

    • @pattyduke3079
      @pattyduke3079 Рік тому +8

      @@Avant402 You're gonna love it.

  • @GSutton
    @GSutton Рік тому +3025

    Attacked for aging. Chastised for having cosmetic work done. These ladies really can't win.
    Some people just stay miserable, and letting the whole world know about it.

  • @gracious2gf
    @gracious2gf Рік тому +396

    My brother was hit by a car and killed at 31 last year. Tomorrow isn't promised. Getting older is a blessing that some people don't get to experience. Be grateful 🙏🏾

    • @sifasanigowon
      @sifasanigowon 11 місяців тому +18

      I am so so sorry for your loss. May God comfort you and your family. So sorry.

    • @mignalyortiz4589
      @mignalyortiz4589 11 місяців тому +4

      I'm so sorry for your loss.

    • @kelssnikole9603
      @kelssnikole9603 11 місяців тому +3

      Sorry for your loss❤️

    • @firstptr3and10_
      @firstptr3and10_ 11 місяців тому +5

      I am sorry about it. May God continue to console you and all the people that loved him. 🌹❤

    • @jericaleigh
      @jericaleigh 11 місяців тому

      🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

  • @Jaquelines_journey
    @Jaquelines_journey Рік тому +119

    “Your grandma was same age as you, but then she got old. Dont you like your grandma.” I died! 😂 She made her point & made you laugh in process 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

  • @daillestlady
    @daillestlady Рік тому +1716

    I just turned 45. I look around and see how many people didn't make it to 45 and know I'm blessed. Getting old is a privilege and it's a privilege I hope I get see for a long time 🙏🏾🤞🏾🤞🏾

    • @kayrios6656
      @kayrios6656 Рік тому +16

      It is a privilege. I’m 43 and just got discriminated at work for my age. 😢

    • @kishathomas4389
      @kishathomas4389 Рік тому +31

      Yep I’m 42, no one can shame me for aging. Like you said so many ppl don’t make it to this age. It’s truly a blessing.

    • @daillestlady
      @daillestlady Рік тому +5

      @@kayrios6656 😩🥺oh noooo. I’m so sorry to hear that. It’s one of my fears. I want to change fields but so afraid this will happen!!

    • @lhu6971
      @lhu6971 Рік тому +2

      Amen and HalleluYah.Amen

    • @illmeeillmee9373
      @illmeeillmee9373 Рік тому +15

      ​@@kayrios6656 why? youre nowhere near old. Smh. I read somewhere that ppl start losing collagen at 19. Nobody would say 19 is old. All living things "age". You age by the second. Stop thinking because youre older than a fetus, you are "aged".

  • @oldmama8929
    @oldmama8929 Рік тому +930

    My mom was complaining about how her back hurt and she was grabbing her back. My youngest son said to not worry "it's the weight of wisdom you're carrying " I lost it. These ladies are carrying the weight of the culture. Love them!

    • @mobutter2879
      @mobutter2879 Рік тому +13

    • @misstweed1915
      @misstweed1915 Рік тому +42

      Good job mom! You raised him well ☺️

    • @TKOin2life
      @TKOin2life Рік тому +34

      Awww....he stated that perfectly.

    • @rachelr375
      @rachelr375 Рік тому +30

      Out the Mouth of Babes!!❤❤

    • @mrswilliams2004
      @mrswilliams2004 Рік тому +12

      That young man is wise. Def reposting his wisdom. ❤ this.

  • @damesaphira9790
    @damesaphira9790 11 місяців тому +53

    I heard a young woman say at my new job, "They have actually hired a 65yr old woman!". She was appalled. Not only do they not want you to age, they don't want you to have a job either.

    • @Tahiha
      @Tahiha 7 місяців тому +5

      Imagine the horror when they realize in 10-15years that time =age

  • @TheTracy0605
    @TheTracy0605 Рік тому +62

    The beauty in aging is that you eventually don’t care about the “visual aesthetic” because aging is a privilege/blessing.

  • @blessedwbeauty03
    @blessedwbeauty03 Рік тому +591

    The real issue people have with others aging is recognizing their own mortality.

  • @zionzoeypeanut
    @zionzoeypeanut Рік тому +466

    Youth is temporary, aging is a gift❤.

    • @camillefunn6405
      @camillefunn6405 Рік тому +7

      That is beautiful!!!

    • @angiebookworm
      @angiebookworm 11 місяців тому +7

      Love that. This should be advertised somewhere.

    • @Gumbier_Than
      @Gumbier_Than 11 місяців тому +5

      I heard that. I've been to far too many funerals where the lovely departed barely had a frown line nor a wrinkle.
      There's a reason I tell my children "I don't mind getting old".

    • @celiameaux7880
      @celiameaux7880 11 місяців тому +1

      Touche

    • @Maya-ln1os
      @Maya-ln1os 11 місяців тому +4

      Amen!!!

  • @brooklynforever1990
    @brooklynforever1990 Рік тому +192

    As a middle aged older woman who struggles with my own self image m, I know aging is a privilege and I’m trying to embrace my grays and accept the new me.

    • @611mellissa
      @611mellissa Рік тому +17

      My mom passed when she was 45. I'm completely thankful that God let me make it to see 45. Life is a blessing that can be cut short young.

    • @angiebookworm
      @angiebookworm 11 місяців тому +1

      Yes.

    • @MJordangame6
      @MJordangame6 11 місяців тому

      Me too 😊 ❤

    • @moniquem3738
      @moniquem3738 11 місяців тому

      Vanessa Williams is still bad

    • @nedramiller
      @nedramiller 11 місяців тому

      I'm a middle aged woman who is learning to love my aging body and face. I also know I'm blessed to be able to age. Such a conundrum.

  • @SRG4782
    @SRG4782 Рік тому +95

    I'm 55 and I remember when there was no social media. The world was actually a nicer place. Social media has given a platform to everyone who would not have had one before, including the miserable, angry people. And there's nothing that miserable, angry people like to do better than trying to make others feel as bad as they do. I've watched social media bring the whole world down to a lower level, and it's only getting worse. All we can do is hang on to the glimpses of positivity that we get from content like this video.

    • @hydr8-007
      @hydr8-007 Рік тому +5

      57 here and I totally agree with you! To some degree I feel that way about cell phones, too. It was nice not being so connected.

    • @mspixie1100
      @mspixie1100 Рік тому +5

      You are spot on. Cell phones and the internet has caused people to be much meaner. I believe it's because you can hide behind the keyboard. My father used to say you either age or you die !!!

    • @evolvingishpod
      @evolvingishpod 11 місяців тому +1

      💯💯💯💯

    • @Luv2be
      @Luv2be 11 місяців тому +3

      Ppl feeling like they won’t get popped in the mouth for saying whatever behind the safety of their computer screen.

    • @LeafInTheWind88
      @LeafInTheWind88 11 місяців тому

      All facts

  • @DallasABG
    @DallasABG Рік тому +846

    People can say what they want on the internet. If they want to call Vanessa Williams old, let them. Just know that those people couldn't be crowned Miss Popcorn Ceiling if they tried, let alone be the first BLACK Miss America.

  • @arariddley3314
    @arariddley3314 Рік тому +1625

    I just wish more people could normalize women aging normally. Vanessa did and still looks STUNNING. This stigma that people still need to look 25-30 by the time they're in their 50s and 60s needs to stop, especially by people in similar age ranges.

    • @Saki_Mari
      @Saki_Mari Рік тому +91

      Can I say it was great to see how good these ladies look at their age naturally...(their foreheads move when they talk). Best to them ⭐

    • @kansaspeach7727
      @kansaspeach7727 Рік тому +75

      And if you go to some of these people's profiles, their picture is a cat, a dog, or something or nother! 😂cause they hiding! Aging is a blessing 🙌🏽

    • @thatsbrujaafrikana
      @thatsbrujaafrikana Рік тому +66

      I thought she looked amazing as well. Ppl are so used to seeing filters and pounds of makeup that they forget skin ages. We also need to STOP telling folks they look 30 when they're 50, bc that is an absolute LIE!! Normalize saying ppl look good when they look good at any age.

    • @emiliaescobar7652
      @emiliaescobar7652 Рік тому +14

      Both Vanessa & Tina look fabulous, hope I look like that when I get older, people are just so rediculous now!

    • @ilovejoharai
      @ilovejoharai Рік тому +26

      Thank you I don't know what they're talkin about she looks good for her age they tripping. Tisha Campbell doesn't look old either she looks older than she did on Martin but she doesn't look old

  • @blacktinkerbell2324
    @blacktinkerbell2324 Рік тому +122

    I am so happy to still have Venessa and Tisha in our lives. I hate that we are so mean that we dump on these greats. Thank God for both of them.

  • @keishawilliams2055
    @keishawilliams2055 11 місяців тому +22

    I remember being 31 and thinking how I was getting old and hadn’t accomplished all the things I wanted to by 31. I was deeply sad, and then I got a call from one of my friends that her older brother had passed away in his sleep the night before. He was two DAYS older than me. And in that moment, I realized how truly “adolescent” 31 years was. Each year, right before my birthday, I take the time to remember him and thank God for letting me see another year . Now, I have to calculate my age when someone asks me. I want to keep calculating as long as I can and every wrinkle, ache, and pain let’s me know I’m still kicking.

  • @ardaeh7007
    @ardaeh7007 Рік тому +1364

    Social media has fostered and nurtured a degree of audacity, ignorance, and lack of reason that’s concerning. People, who are filled with imperfection (as all of us are) hide behind their screens and computers and spread nothing but negativity (which is another reason your content is always refreshing), and the very bullets that they send out, they wouldn’t be able to take them with a bulletproof vest on. The very fact that these two are still here with us, old enough to show signs of aging, is a blessing. Might I add-if we’re fortunate enough, *all* of us will get older/age, so I will never understand the scrutiny people can have for celebrities doing the same.

    • @yootoob2
      @yootoob2 Рік тому +67

      I done stood up and started clapping at this comment... 👏🏾

    • @mstwelvedeadlycyns
      @mstwelvedeadlycyns Рік тому +2

      Especially Women and men

    • @katiesmith2985
      @katiesmith2985 Рік тому +1

      🙏🏾

    • @emel7525
      @emel7525 Рік тому +12

      @@yootoob2listen I am clapping too, this comment right here 💯💯

    • @dr.braxygilkeycruises1460
      @dr.braxygilkeycruises1460 Рік тому +32

      Amen to your every word!!!!!
      Also, Vanessa L. Williams celebrated entering her 60s by going on a trip to Africa. She walked the Sierra Leon trail and went through the cave to the dock where millions of our ancestors were forced to walk toward death or slavery. *We as a people have EARNED Every Wrinkle God Gives Us!!!*

  • @thewisdomdivatv
    @thewisdomdivatv Рік тому +545

    I’m a 2 time cancer survivor. I don’t look like what I been through but if I did I’d be just as grateful for life itself. I don’t care how old I look, I just wanna get old.

    • @arianepreston7570
      @arianepreston7570 Рік тому +17

      ❤️🙏🏽

    • @chellejohnson8880
      @chellejohnson8880 Рік тому +14

      Amen, bless you!

    • @dlynsky
      @dlynsky Рік тому +14

      You need to put that last line on a shirt ma’am! Yess!

    • @pollyw4771
      @pollyw4771 Рік тому +7

      God bless you 😘🦋

    • @TheeJayMac0214
      @TheeJayMac0214 Рік тому +15

      God bless you. I just turned 30 and one of my best friends passed away two weeks ago due to cancer. Truthfully I have been obsessed over my weight since having my daughter in 2019. But my friend told me last year while recovering from her first hit with cancer “girl I wish I could gain weight”. Her body was so frail before she passed away and when I catch myself obsessing over those 5lbs to the point I feel like crying I start thinking about her and how she just wanted to live. We (myself) be tripping 😭😭❤️

  • @orion_traveler22
    @orion_traveler22 11 місяців тому +41

    Vanessa Williams is a game changer. I love her makeup free selfie. She is exuding a confident I don't give a f#ck what you think, type of energy. That's POWERFUL.

  • @tonyaformby5426
    @tonyaformby5426 Рік тому +51

    Ageism is real. You are absolutely right, and it's a shame that imperfect folk are so judgemental.

  • @Maki-00
    @Maki-00 Рік тому +229

    Natural aging looks a hell of a lot better than cosmetic surgery that make you end up looking like The Joker!

    • @Blue_Azure101
      @Blue_Azure101 Рік тому +8

      Or Madonna

    • @taracannonllc
      @taracannonllc Рік тому +1

      😂😂😂😂😂

    • @theoldschooldiva374
      @theoldschooldiva374 Рік тому +3

      Exactly!!

    • @ChloeLayneXO
      @ChloeLayneXO Рік тому +2

      Well I mean you only notice the bad ones so you never really get to actually see the good works it's just expected. Which is fucked up because plastic surgery isn't that bad. Most people's lives are changed positively but you only ever hear the bad stories.

    • @gregfasten8301
      @gregfasten8301 Рік тому +1

      I concur....😂

  • @Loveismyteacher
    @Loveismyteacher Рік тому +430

    My mama used to say “IF you’re LUCKY, one day, you’ll be old too.” Getting older is a blessing that not everyone receives. People just be SCREAMING “I’m immature!!!!” with they actions 🤦🏾‍♀️

    • @purpleness64
      @purpleness64 Рік тому +6

      She preached a word

    • @malaikasdurbin8960
      @malaikasdurbin8960 Рік тому +6

      This comment! All FACTS

    • @FranBenjamin-yg7qt
      @FranBenjamin-yg7qt Рік тому +6

      True. I had an older lady say that to me a few years ago. She was in her late 80's. She shared a story of a friend from her youth who died in their teens. She said she never got a chance to get old and grey hair with us. This woman is now 94 or 95. She says God allowed her to live this long for a reason. Also says she had free parking, taxes, etc. You definitely can not get old in today's society as a woman. My dad and brother died. Two men who always took take of me. I have had periods of unemployment and then a major medical emergency. I have aged in a way that was not expected. But I can not focus on the opinions of others. To add, I started gaining weight when I was 39 approaching 40. Now close to 50, some people still expect me to look a certain way. People can be cruel and so were kids during childhood. I have to stay focused on me and not care about their opinions. I saw Anne Marie Johnson (in the heat of the night and what's happening now) on So Help Me Todd. People talked about how bad she aged. It seems women simply can not age.

    • @dorisdixon7929
      @dorisdixon7929 Рік тому +1

      Immature, that’s it!!

    • @marcirobins5144
      @marcirobins5144 Рік тому +2

      If you’re blessed with age, you better praise Him!

  • @ITreasureMEAromatherapy
    @ITreasureMEAromatherapy 5 місяців тому +4

    Wake 'em up, darlin'! I have 71 years on this planet and it's a trip what folks will do to hold onto their youth.

  • @ms.sunshine2u635
    @ms.sunshine2u635 Рік тому +32

    Im so happy i didn't grow up with social media. Very well said Ej.

  • @mlhandy
    @mlhandy Рік тому +244

    Getting older is truly a blessing. Both of these ladies are talented and beautiful.

  • @smileyatthebeach3452
    @smileyatthebeach3452 Рік тому +320

    YES!! I have new respect for celebrities that now decide to NOT have work done and age gracefully with acceptance!

  • @lindacurwen2053
    @lindacurwen2053 11 місяців тому +18

    Bout to be the BIG 60... I am aging gracefully!! However, ageism is one of our societies' ills. Thank you, EJ Speaks, for bringing to our attention the issue of "kindness." My mother, God rest her soul, taught me, "If you can't say something nice...don't say anything." I live by this mantra. Be kind.

  • @lipglosslover83
    @lipglosslover83 11 місяців тому +10

    I’ll be 40 next month and aging is a privilege not a right … These women are stunning ! Period!

  • @laladeville8984
    @laladeville8984 Рік тому +316

    I'm 54 years old and I am grateful to have gotten to this age because so many of my friends and former classmates didn't make it to their 30's or 40's, let alone their 50's. When someone calls me old, I tell them, "baby, I ain't old, I'm seasoned."

    • @lipglosslover83
      @lipglosslover83 11 місяців тому +4

      Love it ❤!

    • @melanier7309
      @melanier7309 11 місяців тому +8

      When people call you old, tell them one day someone will say the same thing about them.

    • @denycegadison7875
      @denycegadison7875 11 місяців тому +3

      I tell them you have to hope and pray you make it to old age

    • @daisyabyaru9311
      @daisyabyaru9311 11 місяців тому +2

      Seasoned and FULL of experience!!!! I am 46 and thankful for every extra day. I celebrate people who love their age ....every wrinkle is a scar of a battle we survived....

    • @bernicegardner9475
      @bernicegardner9475 11 місяців тому +4

      I tell them, "baby nothing gets old but clothes"

  • @JazzyB9481
    @JazzyB9481 Рік тому +281

    The part about what your mom told you when you were little made me tear up. I had a brother who passed away at 23 and he'll never have the privilege of getting old, having wrinkles, getting gray hair, etc. He was my older brother but i passed him in age already and I'm getting older while he's not around. Ever since he passed I realized that getting old is a blessing and not a curse nor a privilege. 💜

    • @KRP-tq8hh
      @KRP-tq8hh Рік тому +13

      Your post blessed ME today! I lost my father when he was just 52, and 2 cousins at 32 and 37 respectively. I’m turning 45 soon, and growing old and “aging” has been a privilege and a blessing. I’m grateful for every day God has given me, because I know He didn’t have to.

    • @andrealedet9541
      @andrealedet9541 Рік тому +7

      My condolences to you and your family! I lost a lot of family members some who didn't make it to 50 and others didn't make it to 60 I'm 45 and their deaths could've been prevented because majority died from diabetes that's why I make sure I'm working out and eating right

    • @gregfasten8301
      @gregfasten8301 Рік тому +2

      I agree

    • @joannagipson12
      @joannagipson12 Рік тому +1

  • @idagodfavorsmeanderson
    @idagodfavorsmeanderson Рік тому +3

    Sis said, “thunk it” 🤣🤣🤣 Get them together Sis!!

  • @SydneyChandler
    @SydneyChandler 11 місяців тому +4

    Women, no matter if they're famous, or non-famous, rich, working class or poor....CANNOT NOT WIN! We're either not enough or too much. It's sick.

  • @CeruleanCzarina
    @CeruleanCzarina Рік тому +295

    "Brutally honest" is just a synonym for RUDE, and rude people don't really care about others. They only care about having a laugh at someone else's expense. When someone loves and respects you, they lead with kindness in their speech. The opinions of rude people have no value.

  • @Godsgirl405
    @Godsgirl405 Рік тому +470

    Yes! People age shame people all the time! Anything over 30 is nursing home criteria according to today’s social standards.

    • @elenam9435
      @elenam9435 Рік тому +12

      🤣🤣🤣So true!!!!!

    • @toyin2376
      @toyin2376 Рік тому +4

      🤣🤣🤣

    • @craythachef7774
      @craythachef7774 Рік тому +2

      😂😂😂

    • @deanikiliagwu1595
      @deanikiliagwu1595 Рік тому +5

      yessss whew child lol

    • @chiquitafederico296
      @chiquitafederico296 Рік тому +18

      It's been that way.. When I rewatched a few shows from the 90's I realized just how long we have been fixated on 30 being over the hill as a society.. Giving everyone a social media platform seems to have amplified the criticism though..

  • @fadams6104
    @fadams6104 Рік тому +33

    To grow old is both a privilege and a blessing. Please embrace this blessing with the grace that God has given you.

  • @mariedesignz1659
    @mariedesignz1659 11 місяців тому +11

    Aging is a blessing! I turn 40 in February and excited as heck! Who I look for slapping my maker in the face for blessing me with more years?! Nope I’m going to continue to live and be blessed 🙌🏾🙏🏾💗

  • @shaeismagical
    @shaeismagical Рік тому +110

    Vanessa is stunning on her worst day! It's a blessing to age. Tisha is still that girl!!

    • @veliciawilliams3776
      @veliciawilliams3776 Рік тому +2

      Stunning.

    • @QUEEN-fe3lu
      @QUEEN-fe3lu Рік тому +2

      💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯✊🏽

  • @Jahani31
    @Jahani31 Рік тому +441

    I think it's horrible, and the people who do that are mean, small, miserable, and nasty. I think people just want to feel better about themselves so they tear down the next person, and I agree that there's nothing wrong with aging. Our society is broken.

    • @lynseylou9669
      @lynseylou9669 Рік тому +18

      Right. What happened to "if you can't say something nice. . ."

    • @Azzie1mom
      @Azzie1mom Рік тому +11

      Humans are broken because we have turned our backs on God, our moral compass, so this is to be expected.

  • @HoneyBee-dv2we
    @HoneyBee-dv2we Рік тому +10

    I turned 43 this year and I am so blessed to be here! it could have been so many other ways and by God's Grace and I am here and allowed to age.

  • @YourFavoritePO
    @YourFavoritePO Рік тому +7

    Love this topic!! Women especially like to shy away from embracing aging.

  • @t.r.1503
    @t.r.1503 Рік тому +203

    One thing I love abt aging, is each day i give less fks abt what other ppl think or say.
    With every new gray, wrinkle, ache and pain I'm reminded of my blessings.
    I've lost too many, and survived too much not to appreciate who i am and if that means embracing aging, I'll take it.

  • @tanyag1160
    @tanyag1160 Рік тому +129

    Social media gave people the freedom to be their most horrible selves without any consequences. I always said social media would be the downfall of society and I still believe this.

    • @babysis6.059
      @babysis6.059 Рік тому +5

      I said the same thing the day before the internet was launched, I said it would be used to spread evil as quickly as possible to as many people as possible, and I knew I was right

    • @Livingmyybestlife
      @Livingmyybestlife Рік тому +3

      A word. It's an addiction and now there are actual rehab centers for social media addiction. The need for validation is currently sitting somewhere in our solar system. It's asinine

  • @joh6242
    @joh6242 11 місяців тому +3

    Aging is a blessing. Each day is a blessing. I stopped coloring my hair about 10 yrs ago, anticipating gray hair. My grandmother was a few months from her 101st birthday when she passed. I'll be blessed to live as long.

  • @candicemonique5927
    @candicemonique5927 11 місяців тому +5

    Aging is a blessing not a curse. Regardless or what you look like, it means you're still alive. ❤❤❤

  • @jacquelinerice8924
    @jacquelinerice8924 Рік тому +399

    Ageism is real in America. The media and advertisers focus on younger and younger models. It’s a trend. Older women are discarded except for a select few. Shameful. I’ve embraced aging. We have to work with what we’ve got.😉

    • @geewizwiz3
      @geewizwiz3 Рік тому +8

      You said it all right there!!

    • @sharonluquis5823
      @sharonluquis5823 Рік тому +9

      💯🎤mic drop…

    • @AndriaaLeoLove
      @AndriaaLeoLove Рік тому +8

      I Retired Before Normal Retirement Age. People Often Ask Me, “You Don’t Have A Little Job?” Nope And I Don’t Want One & If I Did, I Imagine, I’d B Discriminated Against Because Of My Age & Who Needs That?

    • @ladyd8028
      @ladyd8028 Рік тому +14

      The best revenge is aging gracefully.

    • @jackieburns5257
      @jackieburns5257 11 місяців тому +5

      There is age discrimination in the workplace, so men and women want to look young and fresh. I dont think they would be so critical of men.

  • @mdjwalker
    @mdjwalker Рік тому +82

    Right! Everybody don't want to go under the knife. They both are aging beautifully!

    • @greeneye999
      @greeneye999 Рік тому +1

      I love getting older and and they both are beautiful

  • @queenshields7658
    @queenshields7658 Рік тому +8

    First time here, you are funny and very truthful! People need to remember celebrities are human just like we are. I think it's beautiful and a good thing for them to show the world life is real, enough with the fakeness (botox, plastic surgery, tons of makeup, filtering etc). I reminisce about my mother and aunts talking about what comes with getting older. I was in my 20s back then and I would laugh at them thinking they were just goofing around and being silly; at almost 60 years old I now know they were serious! lol. They joked around about aging and they aged beautifully and gracefully. My mother used to say "they only way you do not get old, is you will die young". My uncle use to say "Getting old is a blessing, but it sho'nuff is an inconvenience".

  • @sharonwilliams2746
    @sharonwilliams2746 11 місяців тому +3

    Aging is a privilege. At 67 with 8 grands and 4 great grands I love getting older, watching them grow and sharing wisdom with them. Everyone does not get to get old.

  • @Ms_Kymm
    @Ms_Kymm Рік тому +197

    Thank you!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾Can we just honor the fact, that some of us even made it to 65+ 🙋🏾 without all the judgement 👵🏾👴🏾

    • @xivieralittle2845
      @xivieralittle2845 Рік тому +17

      A true blessing indeed. I pray I make it to age gracefully well into my 90s. I'm 32 and only the Lord knows our expiration date..

    • @Ms_Kymm
      @Ms_Kymm Рік тому +5

      @@xivieralittle2845 💯❤

    • @heathertea2704
      @heathertea2704 Рік тому +5

      ​@@Ms_KymmAlright fellow Boomer.
      🎉🥰🎉🥰

    • @Ms_Kymm
      @Ms_Kymm Рік тому +3

      @@heathertea2704 🥰

    • @debi7227
      @debi7227 Рік тому +2

      Take a bow, madame. You’ve spoken the ENTIRE truth!

  • @dironbostic7626
    @dironbostic7626 Рік тому +256

    You are alright with me. You can be funny and entertaining but you can also be thoughtful and insightful. Much respect to you! Big ups👍🏾

  • @eemeekable
    @eemeekable 11 місяців тому +1

    We be worrying too much about image. It is a blessing to have a body to dwell in.

  • @laroyah.muhammad6402
    @laroyah.muhammad6402 11 місяців тому +1

    Plain and Simple… Grow up people, life happens! Live your best life Vanessa, Tisha and we who are being Blessed we grow OLD! God IS Good!! 🙏🏽💯✊🏽🙌🏾

  • @DonelleLatrice
    @DonelleLatrice Рік тому +97

    This is wild. People really need a reality check.

    • @docfabz
      @docfabz Рік тому +1

      Yes, immediately. The internet got ppl living in a different world.

  • @D.I.V.A.Journey3758
    @D.I.V.A.Journey3758 Рік тому +176

    Society is WAAAAAY to fixated on aging. They don't focus on the life lived and whether this person is of quality or not. It's unrealistic and ridiculous! Listen, I got gray hair, saggin' boobs, and hot flashes! What I look like talkin' bout somebody else!?! GURL BYE!!!! Those women, have put in time in an industry that is UNFORGIVING and they're still standing! Leave those Queens ALONE!!!

  • @kiyaniwhitfield3896
    @kiyaniwhitfield3896 Рік тому +9

    EJ I love your videos for their comedic value, but when you address these issues, this is what makes you one of my favorite UA-camrs. Thank you for speaking on this!! May God bless us all with old age!! ❤

  • @dandewashington
    @dandewashington 11 місяців тому +6

    I think insecure people like to tear others down. It gives them comfort. Unfortunately, an “aging” woman is an “easy target”.
    Getting old is a blessing. Looking older because of it is just a part of the blessing. I wish we could all embrace that reality more, instead of fighting it.
    Great video.

  • @dawnashumate2166
    @dawnashumate2166 Рік тому +62

    It's my experience that the ones who are calling people ugly, wrinkled, etc. look like Boogga Bears. The ones calling people fat weigh 280lb. We hate in others what we don't like in ourselves.

  • @reijas47
    @reijas47 Рік тому +136

    My grandma had a saying “KEEP LIVING “ gravity takes over if you live long enough

    • @uofm23
      @uofm23 Рік тому +11

      My family said the same thing "Keep Living" I understand now Grandma ❤ I will be telling my children the same.

    • @susanjackson287
      @susanjackson287 Рік тому +8

      My mother used to say the same thing. I tell my son that now!!! It's so true

    • @TheCrystella26
      @TheCrystella26 Рік тому +5

      My grandmother said the same thing. I say it now all the time to my children

    • @kristenmccants7198
      @kristenmccants7198 Рік тому +6

      My granddaddy used to say that to us all the time! Anytime we made a comment about how slow he was moving or something like that he would always say 'baby keep living'. That phrase hits a lot different now than I am entering into my 40s! Now, I'm the one saying it!!

    • @felin_de_la_nuit
      @felin_de_la_nuit Рік тому +3

      My Nana used to say that all the time to my mom. Now my mom is telling it to me. I'm 32 and I can only hope that I will fortunate enough to live even close to their ages ❤️

  • @CherylBraxton
    @CherylBraxton Рік тому +2

    I have been so bothered by many of the comments that I have been reading that are just downright MEAN! I hate when people use social media platforms to ATTACK others. As childlike as this might sound, I think of Thumper from the movie Bambi and the line that said, " If you don't have something nice to say then don't say nothing at all." I also think of a sermon done by the late Charles Stanley, that really had a great impact on me and he explained that before we TALK about someone we need to use the acronym " T. H. I. N. K.! We need to ask ourselves is what we are about to say, True, is it Helpful, Is is Important, Is it Necessary, and is it Kind? We would all talk less if we used this method of deciding what to say and what not to say.. Thank you so much for addressing this issue. Ms EJ.

  • @melinda3196
    @melinda3196 Рік тому

    I hollered at the hair saying "I ain't got time..."😂😂😂
    You're so right about people being keyboard bullies and not thinking before commenting

  • @cdpmusic
    @cdpmusic Рік тому +169

    but then if they get ‘work done’ those same people be in there ‘she can’t age like everybody else? She’s insecure. She looks plastic!’ TRASH. Leave these people alone. We all getting old. It’s a blessing to live a long life. Also, these women look amazing! We could all only hope to age that well.

  • @peacefreedom4930
    @peacefreedom4930 Рік тому +164

    What’s crazy to me is how people don’t seem to see the beauty in the wrinkles, grey hair, or other signs of aging. The unique patterns of how the individuals hair greys, or the unique texture and lines on the skin have a beauty to them, in my opinion. The changes make a person interesting to look at. It’s like the colors of leaves changing throughout the seasons, beautiful and interesting.
    My grandmother mother lived into her 80s. Her hands were covered in wrinkles and her skin seemed thin. But there was so much comfort in grandma’s hands. They were beautiful to me.

    • @ginomo80
      @ginomo80 Рік тому +15

      What I wouldn’t give to touch my grandmother’s hands again 😔

    • @celiameaux7880
      @celiameaux7880 11 місяців тому +1

      So glad you had your grandma never even met my father. My mother's parents died very young.

    • @peacefreedom4930
      @peacefreedom4930 11 місяців тому +4

      @@celiameaux7880 I’m sorry you never had your grandmother. I pray God fills your life with other people who love you unconditionally. ❤️

  • @latrishslocsloves7128
    @latrishslocsloves7128 Рік тому

    I agree wholeheartedly. It’s so sad. People like to throw rocks but if they were to be confronted, they’d hide their hands.

  • @Antoinette70
    @Antoinette70 11 місяців тому +1

    You are so right. People age, all people get old. Even celebrities.

  • @successtosignificance
    @successtosignificance Рік тому +139

    It’s not about getting old… it is about growing old gracefully and embracing it 🥰

  • @shirleyscott1450
    @shirleyscott1450 Рік тому +294

    Personally I admire the celebrities that choose to age naturally and embrace it. We all age just because you're a celebrity doesn't make it right for grown tail people that should know better to bash someone on social media because they have the audacity to age naturally. I said what I said. Love your viewpoint on this EJ.

  • @universaldollie
    @universaldollie 11 місяців тому +1

    It's a blessing to get old. It beats the alternative.

  • @tineshiabobbitt62
    @tineshiabobbitt62 11 місяців тому

    Getting older is a gift I know so many ppl who didn't make it to 50.. Ppl have a lot of liquid courage online to bully someone. These ladies look amazing.

  • @nadab6853
    @nadab6853 Рік тому +166

    People see to forget that the alternative to aging is death. Cruelty has become normalized and it's not cool. TFS EJ. Continue to speak truths and making us laugh ☺

    • @shadowburrito4
      @shadowburrito4 Рік тому +5

      Yup. I say that ALL the time. You got 2 options. Option A) Grow old or Option B) Die young.

    • @praizeyah
      @praizeyah Рік тому +2

      Exactly! There's only one other option! What the heck????

  • @user-bv6wf4go1x
    @user-bv6wf4go1x Рік тому +106

    Vanessa Williams is my personal She-Ro!!! After that damn Miss America scandal from 1984; she could have laid down and died, never to be seen again. She’s a triple threat who has built a very impressive singing and acting career. She still looks beautiful and so does Tisha Campbell, who has also built an impressive career. I think these women are showing the world what’s real because LIFE HAPPENS. Like EJ said, everyone doesn’t age the same so if you’re going to live you’re going to age and it’s not always pretty. We should embrace our talents for the contributions they’ve made to entertainment and not judge them for not looking “perfect.”

    • @darlenemccoy8892
      @darlenemccoy8892 Рік тому +10

      🎯 I remember when the scandal unfolded. It seemed like such a set-up. But she faced it, did the work, and emerged bigger and better. 🎉 What a testimony because people have been taken out by less. 💯

    • @ladonna1902
      @ladonna1902 Рік тому +13

      Exactly! Besides Vanessa Williams, how many of the other past Miss America's do we really see or remember?

    • @greeneye999
      @greeneye999 Рік тому +2

      Because of her picture for playboy

  • @atboptimistic-6853
    @atboptimistic-6853 9 місяців тому +1

    My mother always said, "If you have nothing nice to say... say nothing at all." Also... keep living honey.😅

  • @catrina26100
    @catrina26100 2 місяці тому

    I absolutely LOVE this video!!! One time I was teaching a speech class and I told my students one of my favorite songs was "Caribbean Queen" by Billy Ocean. I guess I dated myself because they all went: "Who's dat?!" So I played the original music video for them and they fell in love with it and him. So much so, they started checking out all of his songs. Then one day, one of my students saw him on a current interview and he came back to me and said: "Professor! He's OLD!" I looked at him and said: "Oh...and you think that's not going to happen to you if you keep on living?" He was quiet after that!:)

  • @carolperdue7534
    @carolperdue7534 Рік тому +98

    The same folks that criticize people for looking too old will then turn around and get on the internet and talk about how "She's over doing the fillers" and "She needs to stop with the Botox". Meanwhile most of them look busted as h--l. There is no fountain of youth, we all age and we all age differently.

  • @ExtrovertedHomebody
    @ExtrovertedHomebody Рік тому +327

    I looked forward to “getting old” with my sister. I’m 47 now about to be 48(God-Willing) next month. I imagined us acting up, poking fun at each others head full of silver, traveling in our retirement…but you know what. She died suddenly in Nov. 2020 at the age of 42. What I wouldn’t give to have another second with her in this physical reality. People really are already in the matrix(meta/social media). Willfully ignorant. Abnormally mean. Following the crowd. And we’re in a society that does not honor wisdom & aging and “pedestalizes” youth. I too learned my lesson in my early 20s and never looked at it the same. EJ, this quote sums up what I think…”Let the refining and improving of your own life keep you so busy that you have little time to criticize others.”
    -H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

    • @pamelaturner7232
      @pamelaturner7232 Рік тому +15

      I'm sorry for the loss of your sister. Thanks for sharing that quote 😊

    • @freespirit-111
      @freespirit-111 Рік тому +10

      Sorry for your loss. I turned 48 this year as well, but my brother passed last year at 42 , he had sepsis…
      We should treasure every moment, nothing is promised.

    • @sharenedh01
      @sharenedh01 Рік тому +8

      ❤ You are wise. Thank you for sharing. All of my 5 sisters and 2 brothers are close, and i can't imagine losing one of them. I myself in 2021 also came close to death, but God had another plan. Your story brings tears to my eyes to cherish life and embrace aging.
      Im sorry for your loss. May comfort and peace be your portion.

    • @ExtrovertedHomebody
      @ExtrovertedHomebody Рік тому +6

      @@freespirit-111 unfortunately that is exactly what my sister passed from. My condolences and love to you too!! Yes, and I proudly admit I did cherish my time with April, that’s her name 🦋

    • @ExtrovertedHomebody
      @ExtrovertedHomebody Рік тому +6

      @@sharenedh01 thank you for the prayers and yes y’all cherish these now moments as they are most certainly numbered for each of us. Us getting older is blessing that I’m embracing more than ever as 48 is real close for me. Hope to see it! I’m further blessed from God to accept this stage of our time here as limited with deepened understanding and amazing family, friends, even my customers to lean on when I get weak.

  • @catinadaniels8165
    @catinadaniels8165 11 місяців тому +1

    I'm 51 and I'm happy and blessed to get to this age...I absolutely love and respect older people.

  • @natashashere
    @natashashere 11 місяців тому +1

    The fact that people have to be reminded of this is insane! These filters got folks thinking crazy out here. Great video!

  • @JErica86
    @JErica86 Рік тому +44

    The fact that Tichia Campbell went through what she went through health wise and still come out on the otherside looking the way she looks! Hunny! Those folks better be careful cause karma can come quick!

  • @xtubeit8265
    @xtubeit8265 Рік тому +140

    THIS PSA WAS SO DEFINITIVELY NECESSARY! Thank you and I agree! I CANNOT stand negativity and maliciousness. Some people never consider how hurtful their words can be, until it’s them.

  • @ceceliatatum3837
    @ceceliatatum3837 Рік тому +1

    Growing Old is the Goal!🙏🏽

  • @lifeisbeautiful9455
    @lifeisbeautiful9455 4 місяці тому +1

    I surpassed my mom, sister, female cousins, my little brother, some of my friends in age… I wish they were here… so getting older is a privilege. This is why I’m barely on social media. I can see why some people don’t engage in social media.

  • @rsutton06
    @rsutton06 Рік тому +133

    Growing older is a privilege. America should appreciate that more than anywhere.

    • @lynnanderson2871
      @lynnanderson2871 Рік тому +1

      You would think that but Chile listen…@ 54, my knees act like they ready for social security, my eyes just act like they don’t wanna see nothing and my taste buds done got way older than my tongue😂😂😂😂😂😂😂but on the flip side the wisdom that comes with age. Baby, I’ll take that over looking youthful cause guess what, the older ones out here holding on to their youth like it’s a runaway slave, are being treated like their still young. They’re being used and lied to…not sure when that shit gets old but I digress. Them BBL drs are loving their best life because of vanity.

    • @AndriaaLeoLove
      @AndriaaLeoLove Рік тому +1

      @lynn,
      Keep praying, stretching, not over eating and exercising. The rest is up to God.

    • @ladyd8028
      @ladyd8028 Рік тому

      America is a young nation still, compared to the ancient nations of Africa, Europe and Asia. 💡

    • @ladyd8028
      @ladyd8028 Рік тому

      ​@@AndriaaLeoLoveGood sleep regularly. Drop-kick stress.

    • @quesoqueso7598
      @quesoqueso7598 11 місяців тому

      They appreciate it, they just don’t want to look like it which is crazy. If you’re 50,60,70 you’re not going to look forever 21

  • @amma2x310
    @amma2x310 Рік тому +69

    They did the same thing to Jasmine Guy and Cree Summer recently. I feel like these women are mature enough to not let this seriously affect them. The problem is this type of commentary affects younger women who don't feel good about themselves already. Hence, the uptick in botched cosmetic procedures and deaths among our young women.

  • @GALC2022
    @GALC2022 11 місяців тому

    Thank you for this. Social media has inspired us to take our cruelty to new levels. We are so accustomed to encountering people as "images" or bits of audio or video, we have forgotten that they are REAL PEOPLE with REAL FEELINGS who have to wade through the barrelfuls of criticism, "jokes," and other ugliness that total strangers feel empowered to put in writing. Today's adults are so immature about so many things, and we have the nerve to talk about how badly kids bully each other. We don't stop to think that we are providing them with models for causing harm to others. They watch us to do it everyday online.

  • @mimidroy725
    @mimidroy725 Рік тому

    Girl, i got so excited my gray hairs are coming through on my crown and so blessed and geateful. I buried my husband 8 months ago and thanking God I'm still here, bald spot and all. .❤

  • @pambrunerbamalam
    @pambrunerbamalam Рік тому +72

    I was watching that clip of Vanessa thinking how beautiful she still is. Ageism is a sad thing.

    • @carolyncox7073
      @carolyncox7073 Рік тому

      @pambrunerbamalam, "The BIBLE" Greatest Book Ever Written.
      Last Days Prophecy!
      Babylon The Great (America) has Fallen.
      PSALM 84:12 O Most High of hosts, blessed is the man that trusteth in thee.
      All Praises To The Most High and his Son, The Black Messiah.
      @pambrunerbamalam, Aging is beautiful when you trust and have faith in Christ.
      ELOHIM Righteous Judgment Is Upon America The Wicked!!!

    • @mzrobie3759
      @mzrobie3759 Рік тому

      Aging is a blessing, it is living. We all, if we are blessed, will age.

  • @misse6504
    @misse6504 Рік тому +98

    NEVER be defensive about aging! Rudeness and unkindness are what need to be called out and challenged.

  • @knmcknny
    @knmcknny 5 місяців тому +1

    Preach!!!!! People are so unhappy. People need to get happy, get out the comments section and get a life right now!

  • @brandsbybrie
    @brandsbybrie Рік тому

    I was weak when you said “the thought is for you to have thunk it.” 😂

  • @seraphimdagger
    @seraphimdagger Рік тому +145

    I’ve actually started to deliberately follow women in their 50s and over. I realized that I don’t like when people tell me that I look young for being in my 30s. It’s not the compliment that they think it is. But on the flip side, I don’t really know how people my age are supposed to look. I don’t have an actual gauge on how this works. Between body dismorphia and ignorance, there is just too big of a lack of understanding. Makes me worried

    • @SK-le4lj
      @SK-le4lj Рік тому +8

      Same! Especially the women who are still living very active lifestyles - such a goal

    • @EtherealEmpr3ss
      @EtherealEmpr3ss Рік тому +4

      Yes, I too have been seeking for advice and wisdom from older women. I often refer to them affectionately as aunties. (I’m 28 and my aunties are in their mid to late 40s + early 50s right now lol)
      It just doesn’t make much sense to me to be getting words from people my age or younger. We in the same boat sis. I need to hear what an auntie or a big mama got to say about it cuz they done been through it already.

    • @FaithAndLoveFaithAndLove
      @FaithAndLoveFaithAndLove Рік тому +4

      I am not shaming anybody for looking younger than the age people thought they were no MORE than someone who looks older than what many may have thought they were .... I'm looking for happiness in whatever age you are 🤷

    • @kitcowool
      @kitcowool Рік тому +1

      Omg yes! Our Flotus, Mama Tina, Auntie Angela, Auntie Lynn, Auntie Chili and my personal favorite…Auntie Tab! I was like I love my elders and I can learn something from them all!

    • @ralphsgirl06
      @ralphsgirl06 Рік тому

      Your thoughts and opinions should be just that...yours...keep them to yourself!

  • @fever4flavor
    @fever4flavor Рік тому +60

    People are so used to these filters. Real life is not a Tik Tok filter.

  • @e.m.6158
    @e.m.6158 Рік тому

    😂😂😂 "I'm talkin' bout teeef..." EJAAAYYY!! 😂🤣😅😆

  • @elainestrickland6067
    @elainestrickland6067 Рік тому

    You are speaking the truth 💯 my grandmother used to say, "Keep on living."

  • @phatt1980
    @phatt1980 Рік тому +81

    People have started believing fantasy is reality. Damn shame! Aging is a blessing. ❤❤

    • @joymcneal9054
      @joymcneal9054 11 місяців тому +1

      ☝🏾 This comment right here, people don’t even know what reality is anymore 🙄🤦🏾‍♀️

  • @bcgmktg
    @bcgmktg Рік тому +59

    Momma always said, "If you don't live to get old, you die young." I'm all about that aging, so much so I've been pissed for years that all of my siblings have their grey hair and I don't. They've had theirs since they were mid 20s, I AM 37 and not one grey hair in sight. Yes...I'm salty. However, let these people age in peace. Folks are so miserable and mean.

    • @resad3183
      @resad3183 Рік тому +2

      🙋🏾‍♀️Girl same here!!! I love your comment.. I just turned 44 and by the grace of TMH no gray hairs (yet) but best believe when they come they will be fully embraced! Not gonna be dyeing them and all that nonsense❤️💯 #stayinggratefulandblessed

  • @didntcreateahandle
    @didntcreateahandle Рік тому +1

    My mom used to say… “just keep living and don’t die”.

  • @Concerned2012Parent
    @Concerned2012Parent 11 місяців тому +1

    WTH? When folks can live to get to a mature age, they betta be glad. Stop talking Sh!t and hope that yo ignant a$$ live that long. So glad you made this ❤️ video. Tell em to stop watching fantasy movies that make you think you ain't gonna get your turn to be mature. And if you get to be mature...be glad you made it through!!!!!! Thanks again for making this video.

  • @HoneybeeCocobutter0806
    @HoneybeeCocobutter0806 Рік тому +77

    People are mean and stupid, periodt. They criticize if people have surgery and they criticize if they look old. They think that people can infinitely cheat Father Time and that is just not true. Celebrities are actual people with actual feelings. The same people would never say that to someone’s face.

    • @gailtalley8037
      @gailtalley8037 Рік тому +2

      And then they wonder why celebrities decide to end it all.
      Blessings 💚💜

  • @cdk1473
    @cdk1473 Рік тому +24

    I seen the post. But I didn’t read the comments. SMH. If they were men, no one would have said nothing. I recently saw a picture of Magic Johnson, Sam Jackson, Michael Jordan, Judge Mathis and they all were with their wives. I saw the comments about that picture. Most people talked about Michael Jordan’s wife looking the best. SMH

    • @joanna0988
      @joanna0988 Рік тому +6

      Thank you!! Men aging means they look wise whereas women lose their value 😢😢

  • @williamclark1244
    @williamclark1244 11 місяців тому

    I'm 56 and am grateful I made it this far because my mother died at 62, one of my closest friends died at 53 and my boyfriend died at 47. Fortunately, I don't have any health issues which is a blessing. Now if I get more time that's the true blessing.

  • @ValerieKayParteeReid
    @ValerieKayParteeReid 11 місяців тому

    E.J., I LOVE you!! You're so real! I "adopted" you in my mind years ago 😂! You look like (and act/sound like) my daughter. I'm now 57 years old, and of course, my face and body have changed drastically, even though I'm still kind of attractive. When I start feeling bad about it, I remind myself that OLD IS THE GOAL!!! I'm so blessed that God has given me another opportunity to share The Good News, see my family and friends, and and just enjoy every moment of Life, because it's short. I say Bless each new wrinkle because just as a tree lets you know how long it has been here, those lines on our faces speak of our time and wisdom here. ❤❤❤