Avoidant Partner Pulling Away? 6 Must Know Reasons Why [1 of 4]
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- Avoidant Partner Pulling Away? 6 Must-Know Reasons Why // Are you wondering how to cope with an avoidant partner that keeps pulling away? If so, you’re going to want to watch this video! In it, I tell you the 6 must-know reasons why an emotionally unavailable partner with an avoidant attachment style, consistently keeps you at a distance. These 6 signs of an avoidant personality relate to someone that might demonstrate one of two types of avoidant attachment, including fearful avoidant attachment style, or dismissive avoidant attachment style.
By the end of this video, you will go from confused to clear, about the difference between dismissive avoidant and secure behaviors. This will help you know exactly where you stand in your relationship, so you can make an informed decision about whether or not this relationship serves you.
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00:00 Intro
01:17 Definition of Avoidant Attachment Style
2:18 Reason #1
2:57 Reason #2
3:48 Reason #3
5:08 Reason #4
6:20 Reason#5
7:10 Reason #6
8:20 Final Thoughts
8:39 Continue Your Learning: • Can Avoidant Partners ...
10:07 Upcoming Video: 6 Signs an Emotionally Unavailable Man Likes You
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Thanks for watching "Avoidant Partner Pulling Away? 6 Must Know Reasons Why"! Do you recognize any of these scenarios in your experience?
This was right on time. I have been talking to what appears to be an extreme avoidant. It's crazy that I'm now aware of the dynamics but in some ways compelled down the same old path of avoidant women. I try to remain grounded, honor space, but it triggers the anxious in me. Then I lose my grounding because I am mentally fighting between hopeful optimism, and cynical realism.
@@MuHaMaat Thank you for watching and for sharing a bit of your experience. ❤️🙏
I'm a cornerstone. Had (or currently have) a 3 year relationship with an avoidant partner...now we no longer live together, as he requested to be alone. I think quarentine did so much to relationships like this... Its so scary.
Anyways, I love your videos, they are helping me so much. I was wondering if there are any with the topic Rolling stone and cornerstone relationship 🌟
Being in a relationship with someone whose behavior gives the impression that they wouldn't care if you lived or died sounds so great.
I know someone who has been putting up with it for 6 years
@@twinkletoes4797 sad 😔
I took a class on sarcasm a few years ago
YOG
Not wrong
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Do you want an avoidant to really freak out? ... give them freedom! Total freedom to chose with cero pressure. They will feel strange but appreciate it. If they are healing they will feel attracted to you because you are exactly the opposite of his helicopter mother or father...but if they haven’t feeling and you push with your anxiety they will stay and go back home with you and you will remind them the wound so you both can heal. If you have healed and they don’t they will just run away because freedom is scary for them, they just know to be controlled. Heal your inner child and set your partner free! Their journey is their problem. Focus on yourself and heal your wounds. Life will bring you a person aligned with your inner state
If you give them freedom, why do they run away? I don't understand. If they want to be controlled then why run?!
@@cherylthompson2731 because they are wounded and so do you. When you heal your inner wounds of abandonment they will don’t run away anymore because healthy people will come to you and you won’t feel attracted anymore to avoidants
@@cherylthompson2731 That's what I was thinking. I did that, and mine came back because they don't really want to be dead alone. Its the anxiety they fear. Seeing this about 'control' makes me realize how my partner is still completely controlled by his parents, business and social wise...at nearly 50. He needs a strong woman, but fears if I did the same...I learned to be supportive, which is more attractive than controlling.
@@lisawentworth6831 Yes. I loved my Avoidant too much. So, I learned to let go some. It activates an abandonment response. But, when he wants to leave to " cool off", I inform him that any abandonment will be permanent!! So..he's working on himself at 60! I truly
Love him and we're both working on it together ❤
@@ananeixon thank you. He's
Really come a long way and we're working on it together ❤
These people are always “DRAINED”. I’m never drained until I deal with their draininess
lol right??
Hi, do you mean they are always drained from human interaction?
the bit about monogamy... holy shit dude. I'm literally blown away. You're literally describing them exactly... this is so relieving to watch because I understand now I'm not doing anything wrong here and in a way, neither are they. We're just ourselves and this is our dynamic. And now I need to take a step back and analyze If i wanna keep doing this..
This is absolutely spot on. I have anxious attachment, superpowered by autism. I have a tendency to believe everything I am told by people I trust... unless given a reason not to trust someone I take them at their word as a default. I had an intense romance, where a lot of future plans were made, and I believed them. There were even some very grand gestures made. Unfortunately I missed the very obvious clues that I was dealing with an avoidant. The end was quick and devastating when it came. There was no closure of any kind, in fact just more questions because of the cognitive dissonance of feelings expressed one day compared to the next. I suspect avoidant types will always be dangerous for me.
This just happened to me and I can totally relate (AA + autism on my side). In my case, instead of questions, I’ve received “feedback” that my anxiety is what made those grand gestures go sour, even though deep inside something was off about all of this. Lesson learned and now moving on to stop doubting my instincts.
I'm avoidant but want to stop the pulling away and being fearful
Really not digging the hypnotic background images. It’s distracting and it takes away from the content.
I was thinking the same
Then just listen to it like podcast.
My ex was like this, I could heal my anxious attachment doing 5 years of healing. Now we are friends 😅🤣 I smell this type of man and I just set boundaries immediately now as they just disappear because they can not handle failure or they take boundaries as criticism or rejection..
Ya they want love but don’t give it…..a waste of time. RUN AWAY!!
EXACTLY!💯💯💯
I ended a relationship because this is really hurtful. I would never use these tactics.
Thank you for commenting and for sharing your experience, Jodi-Anne Davidson. Sending you well wishes on your journey.
Thank you for commenting and for sharing your experience, Jodi-Anne Davidson. Sending you well wishes on your journey.
Good to know the reasons, still won't change the behavior. Leave where you don't get your emotional needs met, rather sooner than later.
Thank you for commenting and sharing your perspective, unknown_artist.
This is so true! I have experienced this for many years with someone I have been involved with. I have been very patient and have made progress at times and truly believe he does love me. So, I haven't given up. I am finally reaching a point of saving myself and I am healing. It's been 14 years and he still wants to be friends even while dating someone else. I am at the point of finally letting go to save my own sanity. Love this video. Ty so much!
...at 14 years, why are you doing this to yourself? Based on past experience, if he is saying 'friends' and it has been over a decade, you need to get the message and move on. Doesn't mean you don't have love in your heart for them...find someone that can love you back
I trust my boyfriend completely. I didn't know what Avoidant Attachment was until about a month ago and I realised my behaviour has been really distressing for him. I was asking him for kindness, and asking him if he was okay and asking him why he was being distant or if he'd like some space, and I think shining a light on my needs/his actions made him extremely uncomfortable. We're only communicating a couple times a day via text now and I'm doing my best to let him know I'm here for him but there's no pressure to do anything if he doesn't want to.
Really wish I'd watched this a few months ago!
Are you satisfied with this setup?
Take care of yourself. They re a losing game if they re selfish.
I have vertigo and that spinning thing and the disappearing/reappearing hair bun nearly killed me. We don't need the theatrics Briana, the message is what we want to hear.
Totally agree. The Content stands on its own. . Stop with the crazy backgrounds and people sound effects . It cheapens the quality of advice.
Same.
Since you only need to hear it, don't watch the video. Groundbreaking.
@@OneDanae Why make a video then - just do an audio podcast. Idiot.
I've been dating a DA for 3 yrs and it is push pull. I need more emotional and lasting connection. I'm not needy but when the slightest hint of "not what I was thinking" on their part comes to play, it's like restart time again. A super great person but I don't need this drama. It's always 2 steps forward and 1 back. For me, it's time for the avoidant to come to terms with their issues and appreciate one day at a time to Its fullest. Good insight!
I took a back seat and didnt stir anything during the distancing periods... It did fuck all. Think im being friend zoned for being too understanding 🤦♂️ you cant win
Thank you for driving these points home with some real clear examples. They mirror my experience. My relationship ended just as the honeymoon phase was ending and I experienced all and/or had hints of things to come regarding everything said here - while I'm still healing from the trauma of sudden abandonment, that is MY journey, not allowing this toxic person to re-surface again is also part of that healing and they will never have the privilege of my presence again
Periodt
Very much spot on, Briana, like...painfully so. Kinda hated but also totally understood it when you said being “dumped in the friend zone” makes it possible to keep a potential partner around. 🤦🏻♀️😶 as an open heart, I friend zone people because I intend to *keep them there*, not to put them “on hold for later!” So I’m gonna go work through the emotions that one brought up, even though I knew that was true all along 😆
it’s also great to see you playing with graphics and sound effects, I like the thumbnail ☺️ my only note is, I don’t think you need the spinning background green screen. It makes your beautiful hair disappear from time to time & I found it distracting, but that’s just me! (HSP, with a sprinkle of ADD 😄) curious to see what other viewers say. Content is on point, as always.
I tried to talk to my ex who is avoidant but she´s in deep denial and just lashes out, she takes no accountability or anything and all that she ever does is blameshift and gaslight.
Honestly, loving this kinda person sucks, i thought i could help her see and gain self-awareness but that backfired fucking hard.
I am in exactly the same boat. I could have written this word for word.
same here@@RichRobinson
Same here dude. There was no leaning in on her end, even when I pulled back. It was emotionally draining. I had to end it, but it hurt
Key word is "denial". Insecure attachments only work if the person is aware and is trying.
This is a genuine question - is there literally any real healthy benefit to engaging or understanding people like this? This behavior seems really damaging.
To ME personally, I’d say that this video helps when it comes to family members such as your parents maybe, cousin, brother/sister, (you get it)…. But a ROMANTIC partner, I would say, it’s not worth it. To each his/her own. I don’t see the point in going into a romantic relationship with anyone like this.
I over stayed my welcome. They distance, gaslight and devalue until you eventually breakup with them. It’s psychological and emotional abuse
Glad I checked this out. Thank you !
You’re always on the right track Briana.
So insightful and useful.
Wowwwwwww!!!! This is my boyfriend of 5 years EXCATLEY! Omg. This is the best video I have ever found to describe our relationship. Thank you. I don't know if I want to laugh or cry.
Dondi The Blondie 💛💝✌ glad it resonates! Thank you for commenting and for sharing your experience, Dondi The Blondie. Sending you well wishes on your journey.
Thank you for this! You nailed it.
Also, this message was on point!! I’ve been experiencing this for the last 6 months & finally said enough. You couldn’t be more spot on. Thank you
I really care about this girl. She feels like she's is a good friend but then feels cold. I understand her a little more now. And yes she has made me feel like she distances.
Ah! My guy friend is exactly like this! 100% He friend zoned me even though he's flirty and makes sexual innuendos because he's afraid to be vulnerable. He went as far as to joke that I'm his side-chick when I jokingly responded to something he said by bringing up the fact that I haven't met anyone who's important to him.
Yes, you hit the nail on the head. I started watching your videos because "we" were caught in the "anxious avoidant trap", when I asked if she could address my least minimum standards and the relationship, it ended in a complete radio black out. I was left very hurt, but am really glad it is over. It is really sad, she did love me, but would never ever say it directly. Chuckled at "They even might write a book about it"
Wow number 5 is so true! 😯 I noticed when I became more of a therapist (and then later friend-zoned) but I didn't realise what was happening at the time. I thought it meant he was feeling more comfortable with me. LOL 🤦♀️😅
Thank you for this video, and all of your other work. You are amazing! Bless you times infinity ♡
I think this happens to me too, and I've mistaken it for emotional availability... Oops! How do you cope? I'm feeling kinda disenchanted about finding someone
I offered to be there one too many times. Now shes distanced herself and out of the blue wants to meet for a chat... We all know what that means
Such great content. But even if you know ‘why ‘ it still doesn’t help you. You just have to go to any avoidant UA-cam video and read the sad heartbreaking comments and you can see how much damage they do. Really not worth ones sanity.
It scares me when i read the comments. Really feels like theres no good outcome to all of this. You need to communicate to make relationships work and that is something that just cannot do. I dont want to break this off but might be delaying the inevitable 😑
I wouldn't be too concerned about the comments. People who are in happy relationships, regardless of their attachment type, simply don't spend their time posting comments under relationship advice videos. They are out there being happy in their relationship.
Thank you for this!
You're on the right track!
Thanks for these videos
In my case, he did these things to make me subservient and accepting of abuse. Never again!
Hi Briana! Love your content! The new background is tough on the senses :-) You rock!
I was mulling a similar comment. I like it in the next video when it's static! : )
The one about being a burden… In spite of probably 95% of my needs not being met. And very little interaction these days.
Really missing those early days, he was the best kisser, he was soothing and reassuring, and he was very good at responding and telling me that we would work things out. That part lasted about 18 months to two years. These days I don’t even get a peck on the cheek every day. Yesterday I was frustrated by the dynamics and kind of avoiding him, and he kept floating around and finally got my attention and gave me about one minute of hugging and kissing. He seemed relieved. Last evening he began to be irritated again, and today he claims that yesterday he hugged and kissed me because ‘I needed soothing’.
Tonight he’s going to a retirement party without me, which he never used to do. This has been the trend for A couple of months. But yet he claims he doesn’t wanna break up because there’s good stuff to, which he cannot/does not verbalize when I asked.
Does he have dedicated time alone? Not just with you in a different room, but time where he is completely by himself to recharge? I get increasingly irritable if I do not get time to myself, which is difficult when you share a space with someone. But always keep your boundaries and dealbreakers in place...if you're not getting what you need from the relationship to feel fulfilled, it's not worth it.
Thank you for this video
You are absolutely on the right track and number 3 is where it circles into a loop right now. This requires me to be aware enough in my own accountability and respectfully articulating his simultaneously! No easy but I’m finding my expression through your verbiage for healthy communication! Thank you 🙏🏻😃
Im now in #5 because of the efforts. This video is extremely on point in the process I’m in currently experiencing.
They might even say love is overrated.
I have to be honest you've pretty much nailed it -
Its disturbing how well she understands us avoidant types.
I watch this video thinking I would understand better my now ex girlfriend, turns out, I am the avoidant, maybe we bought are, you said several things that I usually say, specially in the beginning of the relationship. Guess I have some work to do on myself
It's great that you were able to gain some self-awareness through watching this video! Recognizing our own patterns and areas for growth is an important step towards personal development. Best of luck on your journey of self-improvement!
Briana, I truly love your videos and how clearly you explain things! Your avoidant traits describe a dear (romantic) friend of mine so accurately! You’ve given me clarity on how to conceive of the situation and best react to her behaviors. Thank you! I wish you were my therapist.
Thank you for making videos like this. Even though I am no longer with my rolling stone, I’ve been having difficulty accepting it and understanding if I gave up too soon.
Thank you for commenting and for sharing your experience, Jenna S.. Sending you well wishes on your journey.
Reason number 6 was my fav! She called some people out!
Awesome. I keep typing a question and then you answer it 😁
All so true !!
Everything about this 100% spot on. The only odd thing about my situation was he was completely invested despite being unable to express his feelings, however it wasn’t until near the end that for me it felt we were together but alone. It felt that way for me because of his inability to communicate. I knew he had a lot on his mind but when he would attempt to express it, the words weren’t thought out and would come off harsh or cold. Then he’d say that was why he didn’t talk and table turn the blame onto me.
Thank you for posting this inquiry. I understand it can be a painful and confusing experience.
What you describe it sounds like it may be an “anxious avoidant trap” situation.
These videos might offer some insight.
When to Leave A Toxic Relationship, According to Your Chakras ua-cam.com/video/604gZk4iIFQ/v-deo.html
The Anxious-Avoidant Trap or Divine Timing? How Can You Tell? ua-cam.com/video/kEYJqOb0JJw/v-deo.html
Avoidant and Anxious Relationship Struggles: How to Spot the Trap ua-cam.com/video/C9Mr3R_Ykbg/v-deo.html
[1 of 5] The Anxious Avoidant Trap: A Case of Like Sees Like ua-cam.com/video/yMOpdJM3Ot4/v-deo.html
[2 of 5] 6 Signs of the Anxious-Avoidant Trap ua-cam.com/video/Kw0YMwKb6xo/v-deo.html
Am I Anxious, or Are They My SoulMate? ua-cam.com/video/vNoxPtQdAIM/v-deo.html
I'm Spice of Lifer but I pretty much showed up like this when I was younger
#5 🤯 oh my God. It makes so much sense.
Yes, it does. Now, get help from a REAL professional and not a con-artist!
Done my time in these relationships. Love myself now ❤
Yup 👍🏼 totally relate
This was great, and soo eye opening!! And also painful to hear. I guess I need to walk away, I’m tired of trying. I can’t salvage the connection if he wants to put zero effort in. Also, he emotionally dumps on me and runs away/disappears
I feel your pain and I’m done too, finally!
In summary: these guys are incapable of real deep relationships. shallow meaningless situationships/option, trying to string everyone alone for opportunistic selfish motives. Sound like a narcissist in many ways
@@realtruth3762 narcissistic defenses
Lmfao LMFAOOOOO @ “or deep throat”
Lol it was also the secret informant’s name in watergate. People at the time heard of but never got to know who deepthroat was. I think that’s what she meant but obviously it’s funny both ways. Nice one Brianna :)
@@quinndirector No I definitely meant it as a dirty pun. LOL.
That WAS kindof hilarious! If anyone called me that, I would be OUT immediately. So disrespectful!!
Haha Hhah cracking me up too.
I was like “did she really just say that” 😳
Girl I’m dating just did this... I’m a nasty ball of anxiety right now
The guy im dating does this all the time too. it really makes my anxious attachment more intense /:
My friend told me I may have avoidant attachment. I am learning. I have been avoidant ever since leaving decades of narc abuse from my mother and my ex husband. Thanks!
You are 100 percent right .how to break up how to get out of trauma.
At this point I understand that I can’t change crap I’m sick and tired of being alone with him 😩
I’m dismissive avoidant myself I took lots of therapy.
Thank you for sharing I really appreciate it ♥️❤️love from Virginia
How do you handle a breakup as a Da?
All of the first 3 I TOTALLY experienced
On #5 you get caught in a catch 22 because if you tell them you aren’t wanting something just platonic then they will take it as a rejection and ghost you.
Hi Briana - huge fan and also on one of your online courses. Personally I am not sure about this new editing style, with strong colours and audio effects - it feels to me a little bit too strong and distracting!
I don't care for the new video format either. It feels false and is distracting to the message being given.
Great video! Shame I can only listen to it and not watch it since o suffer from migraines... Still great content though, thank you 💖
Do you find people with avoidant attachment style are likely to suddenly say a relationship feels "very platonic" to end it? Despite some physical interactions that seemed to suggest the opposition?
Most avoidants will eventually deactivate. I lose all interest in someone, literally from one day to the next. The attraction will just be gone. Obviously, it has actually probably been building up for a while, but yes, I think most of us will get to a point where we just don't feel romantically attracted to a partner. But it has waaay more to do with us, not you.
@@leah-7011 you should leave people alone seriously....
Interesting you mention about the DA trying to get you to express your deeper feelings, so they aren't the vulnerable one. I have been wondering lately with some of my Da’s comments he comes up with if he wants me to say I feel jealous. I haven’t bitten up until now, but maybe next time an opportunity arises, I will say “ do you want me to be jealous or something?” Funny, as I had been getting some intuition lately that that is what was happening. I don’t give him any indication if I am interested or not because he shut me down in the beginning saying we were just friends.
My DA makes my feelings the topic of lengthy conversations. I feel valued, but then also a bit creeped out as he doesn’t share any more than few hints about himself
Briana I LOVE your wisdom & advice. But your background kills ´me. 😭 I literally have to put my phone down and listen like it’s a podcast. It’s very distracting & takes from the over all message.
You honestly don’t even need a background. You are the value. The profound, intuitive wisdom you share is attractive all on its own. 😘❤️❤️
So much the relationship that I am trying at moment... and off course as an open heart... this is a torture. So ready to kick the tent pole
Fellow open heart here :) I found a lot of comfort in working on the relationship with myself. Specifically finding ways to work through my emotions in my own (like writing out my feelings) and developing self-compassion.
Sending you love!
@@deuxquatresixhuit Thanks I understand...I hope you are doing better?. Be anxious about this relationship and not be able to share how I am feeling... drives to the brink.
I am working very hard on trauma... I suppose began with self awareness. Thanks for the reply. I really appreciate 🙏💛
Do it 😅 there is no exit in these cases unless they do inner work
Kick that tent pole! It Won’t get better. Give your open heart to someone deserving! 🙏
@@joethompson9001 YES
Yes.
Avoidant GF, I am working my way out of a tough situation. Know she "has intense feelings" for me. However, because she "decided" that I am not worthy currently, she says or does something to "devalue" me to keep that wedge in place. Yes, option at this point. We recently started talking, and agreeing to walk the friends path. She saw a picture of me with my new "earrings", she immediately picked a fight with me. Note she just got done saying how she was looking forward to an opportunity for her & son hanging out with me and my daughter. Gut feel, she likes the earrings and she had to shit that down cuz she can't allow herself to be attracted to me. Well, at least not until I can put my situation behind me. No not married nor with someone else.
Be with someone who can appreciate you and someone who knows not to do put downs... UA-cam is such a gift to learn about health relationships... hope you can find someone who wants to learn about that too and not try to hurt you. There’s a doc on UA-cam who talks about narcissism patterns and his catchphrase is “Team Healthy”.., he’s for both sexes... you might enjoy him. He really helps illustrate how to communicate healthy boundaries... people make mistakes but low-blow put-downs are usually a pattern... time to pattern interrupt and if she cants stop, time to walk away with love IMO. Good luck to you 💜
I know that attachment styles and personality disorders are technically apples and oranges, but when this entire description fits both avoidants AND narcissists, functionally, what's the difference- or the point in staying involved with either one? Unless your idea of a relationship is to be in one all by yourself or tirelessly work to get basic and reasonable needs met only to be repeatedly dismissed, I don't see the upside of dealing with these types at all. In my experience, there's no return on investment, and they drain you of everything you have to give and then discard you as if you never mattered. JUST like a narcissist does.
I am this way because of a narcissist... I was emotionally abused so much that I run away from affection because I'm scared, because of my history. I'm not self absorbed, and I don't want to hurt anybody, and I want a healthy relationship that's loving on both sides. But people with avoidant traits find it really hard to connect without the fear of getting to close and getting hurt
Whoa! Background movement is nauseating!!! Love the content, but can only listen. Can't watch.
Can you go a video on courting each attachment styles and how to balance female and masculine energies? For example It’s my assumption that a female FA will want you to open up and be vulnerable to only loss attraction and pull away.
This would be amazing to learn. If not a video, some references such as books, other videos, etc would be helpful.
Hi Brianna.. Thank you for your really helpful videos! I have a question - Does it make sense that my attachment issues get triggered only in romantic relationships?
Yes! Usually our attachment styles activated in romantic relationships.
Great tips but the background makes me feel dizzy
I know my ex loves me, but as a DA doesn't do relationships. I still love her, but will not allow myself to be hurt again by her, and yes, I've ended up in the friends zone. I check in on her once or twice a week to make sure she is okay. She also has MS. I seem to be the only ex boyfriend that didn't run or was allowed to stay in the friends zone. LoL, I now see it as a compliment.
Thank you for your videos.😀👍
My situation is very similar. It sure doesn’t seem like she loves me though. I was her first boyfriend we dated for 2 years and she ended things abruptly 2 months ago. She said we could be friends and I check in on her every once in a while some times she ignores but most the time she replies. And has agreed to meet as friends after awhile. Like you it seems like I’m the only guy who’s ever given much effort in trying to know her.
@@Simpleharmonica it's a painful road. I've had to pull away from it, I've realised that what I need doesn't exist there for me, even in regard to what I expect in a friendship. It all seems to be one way.
I am actually a nice guy and a lot of women would be pleased to have a relationship with me. Whilst I've been healing a couple of women who apear to have secure attachment styles have voiced an interest.
Once I've managed to get myself back on track. I'll probably touch base with my ex every 3 to 4 weeks, as a DA with MS she needs some kind of support, but it's not always a pychologically pleasant experience.
The best of luck and wishes to all who find themselves in a similar situation.
@@dionbryant330 good luck mine just blocked me on FB yesterday and I don’t even know if she blocked my number and we were planning a meet up in a week or 2. I have no choice but to let her go now like the others did. Best of luck to you.
@@Simpleharmonica it's a good chance to become the people we want to be and develop into that.
Take a large percentage of the love you had for her and redirect it to yourself. Become the person you want to be. Know thy self. Present to the world the best version of yourself, whilst always developing into a better you and your vibe will attract someone worthy of your love. Stay positive and through it out to the universe and see want happens. Best Wishes Dion
@@dionbryant330 thanks a lot
Girl this me….. dayummm
They are just too much work. Not interested anymore 😢
Thank you for sharing your thoughts! It's important to listen to yourself and do what makes you happy.
100% my ex who dumped me a week ago. Ten months down the drain
10 months is nothing.
Im close to 10 months dating but will not put up with another 10 months of this. Im secure btw, never chase or act needy but understand this is nonsense. A conversation will be had but i know from watching these videos that theyre not going to change. Perhaps lucky escape OP
As a someone who has a dear friend with a strong case of dismissive /fearful avoidant tendencies, what can I do to help them? Do deeper conversations about romance help? How about gently pointing out small misconceptions they have about a perceived threat? I am a good guy through and through and wear my heart on my sleeve - yet she still has moments where she feels threatened by me. I have the patience too. Any advise or video reference?
I was in a relationship when I was 23 with someone. He and I went to the same HS but didnt know one another until after he returned from the army. He was known to be angry and push people away. We got close. All of his friends knew me because of HS. His Mom even told me I was the first girl he brought home. Next thing...he walks into the Club jand in hand with some girl met in the college we was attending.
Well...that night didnt end well to say the least. I gave him a large piece of my mind!! I was pissed for a lot of years!! I then went off and met them I wound up marrying, but never free from Brian always trying to get back into his good Grace's (he never really gave up)
27 years later I legally had my husband thrown out and you'll never guess who drove 35 miles to come take me out? Yup. Brian! Here we are a year later...still in a respectful communication and have even exchanged 2 very intimate rolls in the sack. He's still emotionally unavailable but is very careful not to piss me off again. Lol. Please explain
why would an avoidant partner break up by saying " when you walked away from an argument with my friend that told me that being right was more important than being with me". I walked away because the 3 of us were in a public building and I wanted to avoid making a scene. She had offererd me casual friendship and nothing else. In the past she showed all the signs in your does the avoidant love me video
My avoidant just ghosted me when he was done. No "breakup" at all. 😟
I'm so sorry, that's rough :( I remember that pain, please be kind to yourself as you heal.
Hi, what do you mean "he was done"
My husband after 2 days of marriage, took off his ring and moved out of the bedroom. I stayed 5 years without sex, and overwhelming amounts of stress. He hid or destroyed my property. I left with broken bones and he left looking like the victim bc he told me to get out! I had no money or health!
Sorry to hear. I pray you be healed and restored.
@@noorbokore2802
Thank you
I'm sorry for what happened. Sending you love and healing, self love is all you need.
You got this. Much Love ✨❤️✨
Check cover narccism.
How long were you together before getting married?
YOG
spot on! that's my ex!
My recent ex encompasses ALLLLL of these!!!!!!!
Thank you for commenting and for sharing your experience, Heidi Roberts. Sending you well wishes on your journey.
He started pulling away when I found out he had one night stands.
When you 'demask' or let them know that you know of their shortcomings, does that completely ruin them wanting to be with you, ie out of shame?
The answer is yes. My Da broke it off on the spot when i questioned the peculiar behaviours
Mine broke up then came back
I felt like my ex-friend Becky Keena’s therapist.
Thank you for posting all of these. I am very grateful for your sharing of information. However, may I offer one criticism, please... going from your older videos to these is disconcerting, all the moving / spinning backgrounds and cheesy sound effects worsen the quality of the videos in my opinion.
I agree with that too
definitely.. He did label our relationship as 'complicated", when i asked what he sees of me, when speaking on the phone He felt the need to call and explain.. hahah."he sees me as a future secure relationship. Even though i want to be friends and get to know each other, so there will be no pressure and i don't rush into relationships.. But now, nope. over haha .. how predictable. ahaha..
okay bye .
The sound really varies between all videos
Sounds like this is him
I'm in a 6yr LDR relationship with an avoidant bf. I want to know if this will lead to something or am I just wasting my time? He visited me and I introduced him to my parents last December. January I found out he had meaningless sex with his friend . He asked for forgiveness. I forgave him. He said he wants to make it work. But I feel like he is pulling away. He used to video call me when he's with family and friends. Now he tells me hee doesn't want to video call when there's people around because of privacy. He still calls me everyday. I am just anxious at the moment. I want to know if he is still lying or cheating. He wants me to trust him. But I am having a hard time rebuilding my trust. I love him so much. Help!
Num 1 nope i meet all the family, but num 2, num 3, num 4, num 5 yes..num 6 nope...he was very confusing.
Honestly sounds more like a narcissist, i have avoidance tendencies and im not like that...
Man this hits home. So how is the best way to deal with it ? I don’t want to try amd change her but what can be done to help with this ?
I recommend watching the next three videos in this series playlist! ua-cam.com/play/PLrMVDDz2c7DNuWCF2Zaw9jWrix4qIqmAw.html
Love the content, but the background is awful. It is disorienting.
Ugh I Don't Want To Agree With This; But I Have To. I'm Prone To Migraines & This Is So Unfortunately Painful.
So what do you do when they're trying to get a rise out of you for validation? Bc I'm pretty sure that's what is happening to me rn. He's acting so fucking weird and it seems like he wants me to freak out or something?? But I'm trying to be more secure so I haven't.
Avoid the avoidances 😅 is the best
I took a back seat and didnt stir anything during the distancing periods... It did fuck all. Think im being friend zoned for being too understanding 🤦♂️
YEP! I think a proposal is imminent, the sex gets more intimate, we do household and planning stuff, I act like a wife with cooking and cleaning...then he pushes me away! No reason I don't do anything. The other morning, after a great weekend I get a note that says I need to take a taxi, family lunch, some people coming over, etc. I should mention parents live 50 yards away, but he keeps me away from them, but I hang out with his sisters. His mum comes around and folds his underwear and cooks his lunch! I say I can do that, but he says that's what mum's are for...how long; until she does? Then he craves me to get away from his family and the disfucntion. I buy and wrap all gifts, yet am not invited to the family party. He is doing a push away this week, after only being closer the last week. No discussion about relationship, yet he is the one to scatter my ashes and I am in his Will, never says I love you but relleshes my love, grabs me like a bear and loves me, then pushes me away later. He is transparents on social media, I sit next to him when he looks at Facebook, but for a year wouldn't allow me to post anything about 'us'. I have met friends, but due to Covid we can't meet people...have made plans to meet up with people. This has been going on for nearly two years!
What about now, dear? Any updates? You still with him?
Do how do we get them back to pull in? I’m struggling with my boyfriend. He asked me for space and time and said he is rethinking our relationship and basically stopped texting. I spoke to him and he replied but super short and dry. I’m anxious obviously and I’m having a really hard time giving him space. Is been 5 days
Take time to reeveluate your relationship too while he does it
@@becurly8784 yeah we are DONE! After the initial withdrawal symptoms of not having him I realized he was a shit boyfriend. I’m with someone nicer now, secure, we have a strong communication. Avoidants only work if they want to work on things and not blame it all on you and stonewall you half the time
@@sofiapaladino5172 I’m happy for you
Good on you! Ive been stonewalled for 4 days, just recieved the text "can we meet tomorrow, i think we need to talk" - clearly going to give me some BS reason to break up. Ive been nothing but respectful to her, never complained with all the distancing etc.