House Shopping or Homicide Shopping? | Diane Holik Case Analysis
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- Опубліковано 19 чер 2022
- This video answers the question: Can I analyze the case of Diane Holik?
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A partner telling you to get rid of your pets is a red flag.
Having a bunch of pets is a red flag.
You'd be surprised how many people will dump their pets by the side of the road just to please someone else.
@@elliebellie7816 narcissism is all about control, so pet is very annoying thing and the hollow inside has a no problem with it. the prophesy for this time is, the love of people will cool off, so no surprise there is going to be such a cold behavior
I agree.
That mustache is a huge red flag.
Studying narcissist and Psychopaths is the best thing I ever did for my intuition and gut feeling among other benefits.
Just never ever open your door to a stranger. It's extremely risky and at times violent and fatal such as this case.
Uh yeah can't live in complete fear forever
@@nagantm441 It’s not living in complete fear 🙄 There’s no reason or benefit to opening your door to someone you don’t know and didn’t invite over.
There are ways to deal tell them you are calling 911 and if they need help, help will be there soon! Either they will wait or RUN!
@@nagantm441 in today's world you have to be extra careful.
@@nagantm441 but you can exercise caution
Horrifying. I'm surprised so many women did let this guy into their homes. But then I don't trust any unscheduled strange visitors. 🤕
Agreed! It's scary enough for me to let a handyman/male worker into my home ...when I called him to come over in the 1st place. I never go upstairs or downstairs with any of the workers; I keep talking on my phone, and point to where the work needs done (basement, bathrooom...)...Even knowledgeable real estate agents have gotten murdered by letting last minute "buyers" tour a home, and by holding open houses alone
Dear M Wilson: You would be smart not to even have a scheduled visit from a stranger at your home when you are alone. Even if you're selling an old couch on Craigslist, you should NEVER have people from the ad come to your home to see it unless you have someone there with you. NEVER !!! NEVER put yourself alone with a stranger Under Any Circumstances, especially at night, especially in a place out of public view !!! Doing otherwise is like playing Russian Roulette with your life !!!
Thank you.. never I uninstalled my doorbell!!! Especially since my young son would be home.
@@JosephKulik2016 Absolutely. Thank you for elaborating.
@@JosephKulik2016 Very Good Advice, but sometimes it's just not possible to always have someone with me when I have work that needs to be done, etc. One good tip I have heard is to get a few pairs of Men's boots and put one pair near the front door, another pair near the back door. Always be on the phone (even if it's a fake call). When the murderer said something about his. wife....She should have mentioned something about her husband coming home any minute. It Might have saved her life? Maybe....
I'm afraid to open my door, unless I know someone is expected, so I don't.
Are you pretty? It's not really something to worry about if not.
@@benjamindover4337 That's total BS.
I'm afraid to open the door when it's SOMEONE I DO know too, lol!😆 I think that's anxiety!!!
@@ktcooki276 haha yes, some neighbours are narcs and you know them but don't want to answer. I make them write a note so I have something about their narc behaviour in writing, but it is funny, they don't write they only want to talk and moan.. ha not answering
@@benjamindover4337 there are more than enough creeps who go after older women or homeless people, that's not really a solid defense
So his second wife knew he strangled a woman to death, then marries him, and then Also allows him to choke her while they're being intimate.... ??
I think you were spot on when you referred to the saying about scraping the bottom of the barrel, and then said..."but this is like, pushing the barrel out of the way, and then digging 10ft. into the ground." 😅
Very sad case for Diane! Really enjoyed your analysis and final thought, Dr. Grande!
Actually, he didn’t kill the woman that he was sent to jail for. However, he was suspected of choking a lot of other women before he got caught the first time.
I think this case speaks to the importance of listening to our “gut feeling.” There are situations in which, we don’t exactly know why and can’t provide a logical explanation, but the interaction just seems off. I believe many of us might have experienced situations in which we have been “saved” from inconveniences after acting on this “bad feeling”. That is something we can’t precisely point a finger at but we just know it. Unfortunately, this wasn’t the case with Diane and sadly, it cost her life.
Excellent review Dr. Grande, thank you for this video and for the new upload on Patreon.❤️
Our gut instinct is God speaking to us.
Had that gut feeling as an elementary school aged child about my best friends dad. They moved away and years later in my teens I found out that she hung herself in their home because he had been violently r@ping her for years. That instinct is there from day 1 but we’re often times taught to ignore it out of politeness.
@@DottieMinerva Wow, what an intuition! But I agree, there are moments that we just know it.
Retired police officer and multiple times in non-investigative situations my 6th sense warned me of danger. In reality, rather than being a 6th sense, I believe it is more of your subconscious picking up on slight actions by the other person that are out of place.
Your instinct is almost always right. Listen to it. It's when I haven't listened to my instinct when I got into trouble or made bad mistakes.
I sold real estate, and this is breaking all the rules of my safety training. We were told to always meet at the office, and to pre-qualify before showing a home. I asked for ID. Once they showed a pre-approval letter, or proof of funds, then I showed the property. You never just let stranger in unless it’s an open house. You also let them leas, and never fo into the room with them, you stand at the door and talk (in an open house situation). Safety is so important!
Have to admit Dr. Grande, every time you say "starting with the inculpatory evidence", it makes me feel like a detective. 🕵️♂️🔎
When I sold my house I was newly widowed and lived alone. My realtor handled everything and I was not allowed to be home while the house was being shown. I was also advised by my realtor not to leave anything out that might interest a shady individual. There was nothing on my desk. No mail visible. No valuable trinkets. Had someone come to my door unannounced I would have told him to call my realtor.
Oooh!.that's a clever realtor!! (Well...estate agent!)😄🇬🇧
This is just what I was thinking. Even in a relatively safe country like Ireland, I wouldn't dream of showing my house to any stranger who just knocked at the door on spec. Assuming I was selling.
I never let anyone I don't know onto my property. I do live way out in the country, nobody usually comes knocking. It's something I have lived by since I read about the Boston strangler in the 70's. Scary stuff. Thanks Dr Grande for your time and consideration on your videos! Extremely appreciated
I agree. I don’t answer my door unless I’m expecting the person.
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You are wise to protect yourself, especially living someplace remote. I let a stranger into my home, a little over a year ago, and ended up being SAed by him. 😞 I was foolish and too trusting. Never again! 🙅🏻♀
My stomach always clenches in knots when I hear that dogs or children are involved in cases. Not that what happened to Diane is easy to hear either, its a horrible way to die. Thanks for the video Dr Grande, I've been sick for days and these help pass the time. ❤️
Again this proves too that “the wrong emotional response” or “not acting properly” isn’t a reason to arrest someone. As both the people close to her didn’t “act right” however at least the police in this case DID do their due diligence and thoroughly checked everything out and got the right guy. Honestly they did a good job. That’s what you should do. Not just oh this guy is acting not concerned enough and this guy is acting too concerned. Let’s arrest him.
Back in the day, long before cell phones, I was home alone after school. I was probably a junior or senior in high school. A man came to the door asking to use my phone (hanging on the wall in the kitchen). We are speaking through the door and the man doesn’t want to give up getting me to open the door. This is during work hours and many people are not home. I didn’t want to be rude and anger this man - I don’t know if we had 911 yet. You used to have to dial the operator and have her connect you to the police. So eventually, I open the door and I step out onto my front porch and I say the phone is in the kitchen. He steps into my parents home and says to me and I reply, . This shocks the man and he seems to take it very personally that I will not enter my home while he is in my home. So then he has to tell me how weird that was for him to be in my home and me not in the home.
I honestly can’t tell you if he used the phone or not but I remember this stranger in my home and me not in the home. I can say that my resolve to have distance between myself and this person was felt by this person. He knew I was serious. We used to have these thin steel bars that had a handle like a triangle on the end and a little fork like thing on the other end. They were used to turn on the sprinklers. That tool was in my hand as soon as he said he was he was uncomfortable being in my home alone. I think I said something like you want to use the phone or not. This man may have even asked me about having that tool in my hand. Like he was afraid I was going to hit him with it. I think we argued about his fear that I was going to attack him with it when he walked out of my home. So I proceeded to my front lawn so he could safely leave. I watched that man walk down the street and leave the neighborhood before I went back into the house. I remember feeling really angry that my motives were questioned. I never told my parents because they would have interrogated me and I didn’t want to be told what I did wrong. So many creepy encounters as a young woman. . . . .
This kind of bullshit is what women had to deal with back in the day. I could tell you so many stories……
Interesting that he tried to make you feel guilty about making HIM uncomfortable. So many women are harmed by strange men because they didn’t want to be impolite. Men know how to manipulate this to their favour. Glad you were not hurt. But this is why I don’t open my door to anyone I don’t know. I don’t even let them know anyone is at home. Just easier that way.
@@NLR759 I agree.
yo tell more stories that was interesting asf
You handled yourself well. There was a serial killer named Derrick Todd Lee that would get into women's houses by asking to use the phone. Another common trick was to ask for a glass of water or to say that they were diabetic and felt dizzy. If your intruder would have been there innocently just to use your phone, he would have used it and left without any further discussion about your motives--which would have been irrelevant.
@@peggypeggy4137 I grew up in a dangerous city. I’m glad I left.
Recognize and react appropriately to boundary violations. It is not wise to become comfortable with them. Excellent advice! Thanks Dr. Grande! ♥️
One point that I am surprised that Dr Grande did not bring up is that home invasion style offences often are preceded by reconnaissance visits from the perpetrator.
If you have a sketchy character making an unannounced visit to your property they are often scoping it out for future shenanigans.
Many years ago I was stopping at my uncle's house and he was at work in the evening whilst I was watching TV. There was a knock at the door so I answered it and there was a young woman of about 20 years old (which would have been my age at the time).
I didn't know her at all and she seems surprised to see me... After a few moments she asked me the time (it was about 8 o'clock at night)
After I told her the time she left and I thought no more of it. After discussing it with my uncle when he returned from work he mentioned that they've been a series of burglaries in the area. On reflection the woman was probably carrying out reconnaissance for a future burglary attempt possibly including her boyfriend/ accomplices.
If dubious characters visit your property be aware that there may be in the next few hours or days some sort of criminal activity.
agreed
My neighbour has a 2 story house with a tenant on the 2nd floor.(Common in Toronto for people to rent out a flat or room in their house). Anyway, the tenant heard the doorbell and was able to see who was at the front door. She didn't recognize him and she thought it was someone who knew the homeowner, so she didn't answer and went back into her bathroom.
A few minutes later she heard the 2nd floor hallway window open. Then a plant clashing to the ground. She goes out to the hallway and sees the same guy that had been at the door moments before...now he was trying to break into the house.
He fled the scene and she called the police. I'm not sure on the follow up but I doubt if they ever caught the guy. Supposedly it is a common thing for the thief to see if anyone home simply by knocking first. 😦😦😦 He must have been shocked to see that she was actually home.
Georgieastra, thank you for calling this to people’s attention. Over a decade ago, my now-deceased uncle warned me of that sort of thing happening. Unfortunately, it was after an incident had already taken place, and my uncle did not go about communicating his point in a very nice, or thoughtful, or compassionate way, which made me less likely to heed his advice; but now, in hindsight, I realize his words were very true, and his point was very valid! 🤷🏻♀ He had reprimanded me for letting a door-to-to salesman into the home.
I live in Arizona, where it’s very hot, most of the year. I was being kind and compassionate towards this other person, a young man, by allowing him to enter the home, in which I lived with only my Grammy and our dogs. But, in doing so, I was jeopardizing the safety of all of us who lived in that household.
It wasn’t worth the risk, at all 🙅🏻♀, and I, now, realize, I should have put our safety above ⬆ the safety of this guy who chose to do door-to door work, in the Arizona heat. 🙄 Thankfully 🙏🏻, he didn’t try to attack us or cause us any physical harm, but he did scam my Grammy, and I should have prevented that, by telling him we simply weren’t interested. 💯😔
She was planning to break in right then if you hadn't answered.
This is why we as realtors have to have a plan when showing houses to men if we are female. Men are cautious as women can accuse the male realtor of crossing boundaries. We have plans in place in case we are uncomfortable.
Always gotta worry about being sued, robbed or killed. What a wonderful world.
I can't believe anyone in this story truly thought this man was about to buy a home in cash. That's one of the most red flag waving sentences I've ever heard 🤣
People do it though. It’s the cash buyers that outbid me on my first two homes.
Wait, how did you post a comment 2 weeks ago on a video that was posted an hour ago?
Dear Starlah Mutiny: As PT Barnum once said:
"There's a Sucker born every minute."
And some of those Suckers even make perfect murder victims.
i need to know how that cOmment is 2 weeks old too.
Lindsey Busziak is another real estate agent who went against protocol when a "buyer" told her he would be paying in cash. She was also murdered. Imo a lot of real estate agents struggle to make money. It is not an easy business. For most it is only ever a side hustle at best. Yes it seems crazy to agree to meet some random stranger alone because he says he has hundreds of thousands of dollars to drop, but people are more likely to believe unlikely promises when they need to believe those promises. Predators know where to look for victims.
It's 1:15 am in the morning here in Kenya 🇰🇪 and I am up so late to not miss any upload by my friend Dr G!
Reminds me of the murder of a female realtor in Victoria BC 10+ yrs ago. A couple made an appointment to view a property, she was later discovered dead in the house. Very strange.
Wow, Dr. Grande, pushing the content faster than I can watch them! Great work!
I just had some random couple show up unannounced at my house that I'm selling yesterday. Luckily they did not kill me but no one else is getting in without going through my agent now.
Couples showing up will likely be perceived as less threatening or more trustworthy than a single man. What are the odds Fred and Rosemary West will knock on your door?
Deviously clever of the killer to say he was checking on the house for "his wife". Whatever reservations she may have initially had might've been washed away by his implied comment. Him dripping wet could have hastened her decision to allow him in. Horrible to think her last experience was being treated like useless refuse in her own home.
There was a retiring couple in CA selling their yacht and a young couple with a baby show up to buy it. Check it out, will scare the crap out of u. The young man was an actor long ago when he was a kid. Don’t trust anyone. Take their picture and car tag..video them . Can’t be too cautious!👍🏻
@@tinawindham6958 That was a horrible case. I think the yacht owner was a retired police sergeant or similar, and even he didn't pick up on the dangerousness of the situation.
@Pat Luxor He was a probation officer, so he was a peace officer.
@Pat Luxor Probation and parole are peace officers. Probation officers prepare presentance report for the court and supervise probationers, i.e. people who have committed felonies where the prison sentance has been suspended. Often these probationers serve a token portion of their sentance in county jail, and are then supervised in the community. Parole officers supervise felons who have completed a term in state prison. Probation in CA is a county agency while parole is a state agency. People who fail probation serve their suspended state prison sentance and are then supervised by parole.
I was questioning why she didnt have her senses up on this one. Dr. Grande fills it in nicely. Now I see how the rain and her wanting to sell the house left her guard down.
Agreed! She was juggling two or three guys, a job, selling a house, probably planning to move.... When I first was divorced, my house was robbed because I failed to lock my back door....I was distracted with dating, my job, my divorce.... I'm glad that I wasn't hurt and the robbers didn't harm my cat or let her out. I was lucky and the criminals were actually caught!! It happened in the middle of the day on a busy street, so Always lock doors, no matter the time of day/night.
More disturbing is she was in a relationship with a guy that advanced to being engaged and when she got murdered he wasn’t upset!!! Not what I would call a great selection of a mate.
@@glasshalffull8625 Agreed; she was ripe for the picking, so to speak. This case haunts me because I can see myself planted in this situation
@@gigi9301 I just watched another video (Diane Holik: Murder She Solved) on this case in which the actual investigators and prosecutors were interviewed. According to the investigator, the fiancé was upset, so I’m not sure of Dr Grande’s take on this.
@@glasshalffull8625 Well, perhaps investigators might of admitted he Was upset, but "not enough"....which could have been him being in shock/disbelief at first
I have been though traumatic situations and sometimes I'm just quiet and shocked first before the grief comes out
This was all before doorbell cameras were a thing, before smart phones were a thing, and talking to someone through your doorbell camera on the front porch. Technology has saved a lot of lives. If you do not have a doorbell camera, get one. There are a least a few that record whoever rings the doorbell, or goes to the door _automatically_ , and do this for no cost each month or year.
And click every move to and from your house to sell to whomever.
There is another guru who actually interviewed Teal Swan today. Elizabeth April, same name for UA-cam channel. I've always liked EA but was disappointed to see Teal Swan taken seriously.
You've taught me some things and I thank you, Dr. Grande. I also like how you are adding items behind your desk. Tip: try to vary the size of the items a bit more. It makes it more visually interesting.
Um a guy comes into my house asking about alarm systems, if I'm alone in the house and wants to see bedrooms I would ask him if he would like a cup of coffee and call 911 in the kitchen and grab a steak knife!
We actually had an ex police man, ex vicar, ex thief... we knew his past, a few years later, he came to our house as a burglar alarm salesman, we got him out quickly and never bought the products
I don't understand people that murder innocent people and are no threat to them. I just don't understand it. How do these people even look in the mirror and live with themselves?
@@eadweard. Hell yeah!
They don't care, they have no empathy, its entirely about them. They don't feel any guilt. They are called psychopaths
@@joedennehy386 It's so sad man. To be born without any empathy or feeling. Can a person learn to feel and have empathy?
@@crystalwater505 no.. it’s like a mental illness, something wrong with the brain , almost like missing a limp but it’s a part of the brain that responsible for empathy
@@crystalwater505 Ive read a few articles, viewed videos, read one book and discussed the subject at length with a doctor friend of mine and it appears that if one is a true psychopath, then they just don’t have the emotion of empathy. Only a few go on to be murderers, but about 10% of people have some psychopath tendencies. I think their was a TedX presentation on a psychopath woman and she found a baby animal (raccoon or opossum) trapped in her pool. She was in a rush and so decided it would be easier to drown the animal than rescue it. She was amazed that her friends thought this was heartless. 😬.
I think you’re right about how their separate desires manifested in tandem to form the worst possible scenario. Interesting angle, Dr. G. I appreciate your thoughts.
yup... set boundaries .... ppl that violate or test the limits of your boundaries ....
they are testing you.....
stay strong ... x
Only 18 comments. I feel honored to be posting so early in the comments! Keep up the amazing work Doc!
I got a notification that the doc hearted this comment. Where's the heart youtube because your breaking mine! Lol!
Never never never show your house alone especially if you're a woman. Realties should not let lone female agents show houses. A friend of mine lost his sister to murder when as a real estate agent she was alone in a house to show it and at some point the teenaged son of the family who was selling it was either in the house already waiting for her or came to the door.
And the son of the family murdered her. Whether he raped her or not I don't know. I think she was in her 30's.
This woman was surrounded by so many creeps. What a nightmare!
I just assume every man that shows up at the door uninvited is a killer 🙈
Have to wonder why he did such a meticulous cleaning job alongside such a conspicuous trail of evidence.
The only two things that gave the police a ‘solid’ lead were the woman who wrote down his license plate and then the flyer that had his fingerprints on it. The first was luck that she wrote the plate down AND bothered to keep it and the second most people don’t know you can get fingerprints off of paper and what are the odds that the flyer was kept. He certainly was approaching a lot of targets and that provided witnesses once he was identified, but if the license plate/fingerprints weren’t obtained, he may never have been identified.
So many creeps around - how could she stand it?!
As a single woman, I’m going to remember this case when I sell my house.
Please do!! Even knowledgeable real estate agents have been murderered in homes by the lure of a pushy "cash buyer" ; always have someone on the phone with you and let the person//people go into the upstairs and downstairs alone; stay near the front door and of course put all valuables and personal info into a locked cabinet or safe.
Be safe, carry something on you like pepper spray or a pocket knife.
Are you attractive enough for someone to be interested in you?
@@benjamindover4337 Ummm...What?! Being interested in someone and being attractive and getting murderered are not quite connected in that way...wierdo
Not only your house but anything you are selling
Excellent analysis as always..but..I have noticed that I need listen to you daily..😶🌫️🙄 regarless of where Im or what Im doing 🤦🏻♀️ for the past three years 🤔🤔 on a Sunday, in airplane, or vacation 😆😅🤣😂..see you tomorrow ♾️🙌🏼🧿
I am shocked anyone would let a stranger int their home ! Its beyond a red flag I am astounded at the naivety that people in this case women have When you sell your home you have a real estate agent and you only show your home with them NOT under any other circumstances and YOU do not place a for- sale sign on your property Its a red flag for creeps And if strangers are knocking on the door call the police !
Some of these comments make me sick. People are blowing wind out of their ***. They don't have all the facts but they think they have all the answers. I certainly don't have all the answers and I went through the entire trial. Also, she did not lead her killer to the upstairs bedroom. He was hiding and waiting for her in the garage when she got home . Diane was my sister.
I am so sorry for your loss.
Thank you for your comment. You've convinced me that watching videos such as this only serves to further sensationalize the tragedy. I am sorry for the loss of your sister.
Your sister was a innocent victim. He took advantage of her aloneness and innocence. Hope she is now in a safe beautiful place forever. And the perpetrator is in a unsafe horrid place. Sorry for your loss. Hope you can find some peace and remember her loveliness.
WERE YOU THERE? NO? Then STFU!!!
Hi, Dr. Grande. Big fan. Can you please analyze the case of actor Ezra Miller and their controversies?
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I had to learn a completely new language when my parents decided to immigrate here. Please stop butchering it. I know you want to sound sensitive but it just comes off as stupid!
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Like always a very clear analysis.
4 points I totally agree with.
1. The intuition of the women.
2. The law enforcement being too confident on the recuperation of this agressive strange behaviors with women of this man, and maybe not checking on him enough.
3. The rain might have confused the victim on helping him to get dry.
4. Her urge to sell her house.
Thank u for your commitment in bringing your opinions forward in a clear and democratic way.
Love the barrel joke. Sad case again. Always putting out good content. Thanks Dr G😉💛💛
Dr. Grande, can you speak about the mental health effects of untreated pain, and the case of Michael Louis, the back surgery patient who shot his doctor? Thank you.
Bring on the dry humor. I've had a terrible day, catastrophic water damage at the property I manage. Some speculation without diagnosis is just what I need.
Dr. Grande Can you tell us why it is that we ignore so many red flags, when they are staring us right in the face?
I have been guilty of this, too, (trying to work on enforcing boundaries). It's as if many of us think that "it only happens to other people." Is that some kind of a syndrome?
She really wanted to sell the house? greed makes people blind
Because we believe people are like we are, we rarely assume the worst. We rationalize. Because we wouldn't do something like that we assume other people wouldn't because it's wrong.
Girls are socialized to be demure and nice at all times, not make people uncomfortable, to always put other's needs before our own. Girls are taught to ignore their instincts and feelings because expressing them might bother other people. If a girl speaks up she's called negative names like bossy.
Then we grow up to be women afraid of saying no because it could hurt a guy's feelings and/or set him off into a blind rage.
It's generally because you have previously learned/ been trained to ignore your boundaries during boundary violations that happened in your upbringing, whether with parents, relatives, or trusted adults like teachers.
Thus, as an adult, when someone violates the same or similar boundary, youre tendency is to react using the same channel you used as a child to navigate similar situations, which was accommodating the improper behavior of the other person .
Cases like this always pique my interest - I think that most people give "the benefit of the doubt" a little too much. And in instances like this, an (likely) innocent thought of benefit of the doubt turned into a horrible murder. Most of the folks I know are all for giving people the benefit of the doubt explanations for odd or even bizarre things, I had often been the recipient of benefit of the doubt reactions to a whole bunch of creepy stuff I did when I was a practicing alcoholic/drug addict. Sometimes I will give people the benefit of the doubt, but I always keep a skeptical eye on what happens after I do. Dr. Grande, your videos are very educational and helpful for navigating everyday life situations even though many of them are about terrible crimes. I hope you do more like this that express ideas like in your final comments here. As always thank you for sharing your knowledge and experience with us, it's such a positive thing in the oftentimes very negative world we find ourselves in currently.
I agree, too many people give people chances, that is how nasty people operate
Really good , loved listening . Makes me proud and recognize my own boundaries with men. No not a good idea to keep gifts from guys who are just friends or who are going to soon be just a friend. I always love talks on boundaries. TY
I think Dr Grande would be a great friend. Wish there were more caring and together influences like him everywhere. 😂
Agree. I wish I knew him. He seems to be a thoughtful person with many interests and an appreciation for humor-my kind of people.
Hi Dr.. I'm glad to see you back in your regular shirts, I don't do so good with change. Great video. 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻❤❤❤❤❤
I'm still missing his old back ground 😩😩
Good morning Dr Grande! I am casting you to my 64inch tv and pretending we are having coffee together while you tell me a story! Thank you sir! Haha.. Have a great day, doctor
Can you please consider covering Dorian Corey? He was featured in the documentary “Paris is Burning” from 1990. Love your work as always, Dr!
Dr. Grande, have you looked at Sarah Boone, in Winter Park, FL, whose boyfriend died after she zipped up a large suitcase that she told him to get in?
Then she recorded herself taunting him as he struggled to get out, and kept calling her name to help him.
It is chilling.
Besides all the horrifying things. How the fuck did he owe 200k on a TRAILER?! Was he living in some sort of expensive RV? I mean you’re better off just buying a house
Yeah..I was wondering the exact same thing. I did a quick search and sure enough, there are (new) mobile homes priced in the $200K-ish range !
So scary. Do you think this is an unusual case of sexual sadism? It's weird that he had a level of awareness and confessed openly to his pastor. He did not seem too cautious or worried about getting caught. I wonder about the link between sexual sadism and psychopathy.
Always good to hear from you! Great video as always!! Congrats on the many many many new subscribers!
Most shocking moment? He owed 200,000$ on a trailer!! What trailer costs hundreds of thousands of dollars?!?? 😮 Are you sure it wasn't $2000 ?
Maybe the Trailers where you live are cheap...but yeah clueless...Lots of expensive trailers out there. Too dumb to look it up? p.s. Three question marks only mean you are a drama Mama.
Hi Dr. Grande. The "trailer" he is referring to is probaly like the one my "ex" got his Mom to finance when she was alive, then conned money from my family where it was paid for 3 times in 20 yrs. A cost of around 150,000$. Those creeps don't care about anything else but themselves, alcohol, & money. If you include the electric & other expenses, even more$. And then the age old question goes, " Why didn't you work? The answer= I was told, "Quit your job, you don't make enough money, you can work for me." Thankfully I'm divorced now. I can sleep at night without getting, you guessed it, beat up or murdered. Thanks Dr. G for another great analysis, peace & fabulous times to you & your family, love, Janine Smiley😀🙂😎🤩😍✌👍🍉🍊🍌🍍🍇🍎🍅💅👞👠👟👡👑👒💎💍📿💄☕☕🍩🍩🍪🥧🍰🎂🍫🍧🍨🍦
13:00 You forgot to mention he was pretending to be that scariest of suburban monsters: *the cash buyer*
Even IF they really ARE a cash buyer, they're gonna lowball you with a stupid offer...
Good take-away message on not becoming accepting of or comfortable with boundary violations! Thank you!
Your dry humor is the BEST! Love your analysis and appreciate your insight!
💔💔💔💔🙏🙏🙏🙏 So sad. Prayers for Diane's Family.
I enjoy your comments almost as much as I enjoy the videos. Keep them coming. Thanks for your work, Dr. G. You never disappoint😍
Great analysis 🧐. Many thanks for sharing. So very sad what happens to innocent people😔.
Thanks Dr. G. Great as always !
Ah yes, Dr. Grande🧡 always a good day when you post.
I have watched the behavioral panel for over a year. It’s interesting that they explain “gut feelings”. They say that our brains interpret behavior and know something is off. Even when we can’t pin point what is off. We have to trust our gut - every time.
Enjoy your vids because you cover many different backgrounds and situations 👍❤️
Just as we know it’s sometimes dangerous to answer every knock at the door, it’s also dangerous for people to go door to door trying to sell something. I feel especially worried for the teenagers who are asking for help going to college who must go door to door selling magazine subscriptions or something. Crazy world.
My Grammy was unfortunately scammed by a young man, who was going door-to-door, selling magazine subscriptions, as a fundraiser.
Can you analyze the case of ME being obsessed and so thankful for these videos and your perspective and expertise 🙏✌️
Thank you Dr Grande. You are the best and the hardest man , on UA-cam.
Hardest working?
@@pj9615 Thank you,,didn't have time to change it , my four week old baby, needed to be fed.
Thanks for the video Dr Grande. Love the shirt.
Your advice could save a lot of women’s lives.
Others have recommended a book, “The Gift of Fear”, by Gavin de Becker. It’s available at the library or in paperback. My daughter and I have read the book. Good common sense thinking to recognize, avoid dangerous situations. Easy read. I recommend it too.
I worked at IBM for 7 years but this case was before my time. It's terrible tragedy.
Nice, Doc. As always
There's no way law enforcement could have known he was visiting those houses dude
This case had all the red flags out there, and its surprising that the women who were targeted were not young, and naive. Hes sweating, no eye contact, asked many personal questions, and even got irate. Wth? Are there any inmates that do not find God in prison, join the ministry and are suddenly no longer a threat to society 🤔 Great job Dr. Grande, your voice always makes me want to take a nap.
Dr. Grande, I really enjoy your videos and especially your accurate knowledge of firearms.
This was a good one 👍🤓
What I can’t really understand is, don’t other people kind of analyze themselves and their behavior? I know I do. I can’t understand how a man allows himself to only be sexually aroused when he is choking someone. Why would women continue to remain with a guy who wants to choke them? Why isn’t it an automatic red flag for yourself if you realize you want to hurt a sexual partner? When I am with women, the only thing I think about is pleasuring them. I know a lot of men only think about themselves being pleasured, but between the two desires, nobody is physically being hurt. I think if a woman finds herself fantasizing about being raped, I think she should discuss that with a mental health professional, and if a man had fantasies about raping or hurting women, he too should seek help. I think as soon as anyone wants to hurt you, you should try to get away from them, because it’s the warning light that a murderer would also do that. I’ve never encountered any women who want anything to do with that, so it’s got to be a low number.
I think it’s much higher number. It’s just something we don’t admit to
Oh my sweet sunner child for every man who likes to choke women there is 10 women who ask to be choked.
They don't care.
I wonder if the police ever searched pawn shops to trace back to the thief who stole that extremely expensive engagement ring? I think the man she was engaged to was a cold-hearted creep. (for a second i wondered if he had hired this murderous ex-con as a hit man) The fellow who was enamored of this poor, naive woman was eager to help the police, probably because he actually cared about her. (unlike the insensitive and cold reaction from the former fiancee)
I like this vid. Good insight and Great anaylsis...I agree watch the boundary violations.
1996 is also the year I moved to Austin. That's back when Austin was a cool city to live in.
Do you have an alibi on the day of the murder?
I think you're so right about the police saying that if you have an emotional reaction that they don't recognize or like, you must be guilty of something. I think that the police expect people to react to bad news just like the "normal" people or the majority of people they encounter. They expect you to act just like everyone else did prior to their interaction with you. If you don't then they get suspicious and if they can't find the real killer they just zero in on you. They start to construct a theory that includes you because they are lazy or too inept to actually do some police work. Cops put out the message that we should trust them all the time no matter what. Realistically they don't trust you and will lie about whatever is needed to trick you into going to jail. It's sad but true. People should never trust a cop or even talk to them without a lawyer. They will do almost anything to not let you get your lawyer in the room with you. Look at Brenden Dassey still in prison for saying he helped Steven Avery kill Teresa Hallbach. He didn't do it and they know it. The cops that got him to confess told him that if he just says yes to murdering her that he could go back to class. Dassey was a 16 year old mentally disabled kid who was not involved in anything like that. But if the cops got the confession from him saying that he helped Steven Avery kill Teresa they could go and arrest Steven Avery for the crime. Those two detectives berated him for hours and fed him all the information that they needed for a confession. They told him if he just confessed to murdering Teresa with Steven Avery he could just walk out of there and go back to school. They lied to him and ruined his life in a matter of hours. They should go to jail for that. It's hard to watch them coach him into confessing to murdering her. The cops knew he wasn't there but they needed that confession to go and arrest Steven Avery who they wanted to blame all along without even investigating anything. The cops in that town are a bunch of criminals. They searched Averys house twice and didn't find any evidence linking him to the crime. But the third time they searched his house they found Teresa Hallbachs car key in his bedroom on the floor in plain sight. That is just scary. The cops had the key the whole time and planted it in his bedroom on the second search so that they could say that they found it in his bedroom. How did they get that car key? Only the killer would have it. So you can do the math here because Steven Avery was going to get 400,000$ for the wrongful conviction of rape that he spent 15 or 20 years in prison for. The police were under the gun and some of them were going to have to come out of pocket to pay him because of their prior harmful conduct. So I think that the police killed Teresa and framed Avery using Dassey so that they could say that he is a monster that needs to go to prison. Steven Avery was about a month out of prison and was getting a large settlement in a week or so. He didn't kill her. Come on there's no way that he would kill her and then just park her car in his junk yard and just go on with life. And drop her car keys in his bedroom. None of it makes sense. The only thing that does make sense is that the cops did it. Somebody really needs to fix this case because it is a travesty that Steven Avery got wrongly convicted again. I couldn't imagine what that's like. Those cops are so crooked. I wonder what else they're up to. Who else they harmed. Steven Avery can't be the only one. Not with that kind of behavior. They've done that many times before. Somebody please get Steven Avery out of prison. And Brendan Dassey too. Then put those cops in jail for a long time. That's justice.
Going to other houses for sale was good detective work. At that point no one knew. Thanks doc.
People need to get healthy hobbies, a girlfriend, Purpose, joy and happiness. People like this...I'd launch into the sun with no problems sleeping at night. Stay safe out there people, honor your parents, honor The Creator. Have dignity and teach your children righteousness and justice. Thank you Dr Grande.
You’re welcome Dr Grande. 💐🤟
Would you please consider giving your opinion on the case of Mamdoah Habib, please, Dr Grande? Thanks for all your videos and the hard work you put into them
Big fan brother!!!
🌱 4:30 PM… Is that considered evening or late afternoon?
Either way, good to see you
DR.GRAND🌵E !
Sure it’s 12.40am In Ireland - yep very late for going to bed -watching dr.G
Speaking for myself, I always considered 5 PM to be the start of evening.
@@CraftySouthpaw 🪁I appreciate your ethics.🪁
I thought I would also say hey to a fellow southpaw… Goofy foot whatever we are.. I know when you’re using the right side of your brain you are in your right mind😐thanks for the proper time to consider afternoon/evening I wasn’t quite certain🪁
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spot on Dr.!
She didn’t deserve this, but how many times does it need to be told to women…..”don’t let an unknown man in your house”!!!!!
Dr. Grande, would you please write a 3 minute sonnet and sing it for us on here?
Thank you.
🌱 Sage advice Dr. Grand🌵e..
Like I said before, even when my mom tells me she loves me…
I check the facts..😉
🦈 beware🦈
Sharks patrol these waters..
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Would love to hear your thoughts on Donna Preusker aka Arabella Del Busso!
I hope those cute dogs weren’t harmed in the process of this despicable act.
This is besides the point but Diane was unwise to continue to accept favors from ray when she knew what he wanted and she had no intention of doing it.
An analysis of the stories in the newer Netflix documentary, Web of Make Believe: Death, Lies and the Internet would be cool. :) It could possibly be several videos because there are 5 different scenarios (6 episodes with one that has 2 parts).
He couldn't be more guilty than if the murder was on actual video - SO GUILTY!!!
The first thing that crossed my mind was why this woman Diane didn’t seem to have the same red flag about this guy that the other dozen women had. Perhaps as you suggested it was raining and the guy was soaked. Maybe his demeanor was different. But she also seemed to have an “interesting” questionable relationship with men in general. One guy obsessing over her and buying her gifts, yet she has no interest in him. But still allows him to come around. Usually people tend to distance themselves from someone like that so as not to lead them on. And because they know the guy isn’t going to just stop having feelings for them. She loved the attention and ego boost. Then ends up with the other guy who spends almost $20,000 on an engagement ring for it. That would be a red flag to me. Can’t imagine someone spending such an obscene amount over a ring. I couldn’t accept that. Yet she had no problem accepting it. Then allows this strange guy to come into her house. It seems to me she had no boundaries when it came to male dalliances. I think there is a lesson there for those who feel they might fit the similar demographic she did.
Maybe she thought the dogs were good protection as well? Some dogs are; it just depends on how/if they are trained to protect the owner.
From now on it'll be "El Todd Grande"
This is one of the reasons why I don't answer my door when a random person knocks, if you can't text me, I don't know you personally enough to open my door. Also, imagine how those other women felt knowing it could have been them murdered. 😓