7 Signs You're Obsessed With Your Crush, Not Love
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- Опубліковано 19 чер 2024
- You might have heard about love obsessive disorder, but what about when you are simply obsessed with your crush and just confusing that for love? How do you tell the difference between being obsessed and being in love? Obsession can be a scary thing as it leaves you clouded and time wasted on someone who may simply not reciprocate your feelings. This video will help you know whether you are obsessed with your crush or seeing your crush for who they are.
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Wakin, A., & Vo, D.B. (2008). Love-variant: The Wakin-Vo I.D.R. model of limerence. Psychology Faculty Publications, 1-12.
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As much as I love pizza I hate pepperoni right now because it reminds me of my pepperoni pimple face
Psych2Go hai
Pepperoni is simple but still stands out to me *LIKE SAYORI*
PIZZA!
HELLO FINALLY I'M KINDA EARLY IN UR VID!!
When you realize you’re not in love just in love with the idea of being loved 😔💔
Same-
Yes, that's .. brutally true for many of us. :(
I felt that 😭
Got my attention!
hehe :)
It’s worse to be obsessed with your crush...
BUT ITS EVEN WORSE IF YOUR CRUSH KNOWS YOUR OBBSESSED WITH THEM
Its my best friend
He knows
@@sekinnnnn1121 oh no..
Uhh my friend is ducked up i guess his crush has known for 5 years and uhh has ignored him after 3rd grade fully
EVEN EVEN WORSE WHEN YOUR CRUSHES' FRIENDS KNOW AND TELL YOU TO BACK OFF
@@andyw8025 EVEN EVEN EVEN WORSE WHEN YOUR FRIEND GOT REJECTED BY HIS CRUSH
this is literally a description abt how marinette is w adrien.
YEAH LIKE SHES SO OBSESSED WITH HIM LMAO
whom tf
@@2xie lmao they are characters in a show
I know right?!?
@@Yhhhhhhh damn that's crazy
didn't answer my question though
*-A wise girl once said-*
*"Show this to marrinette“*
Woah 2 years ago? Cringe.
Lmao
GAHAHA PLSS-
Yeah I was thinking something along those lines
OMG YASS TRUE
She needs to take down her creepy photos of Adrien 😅
"You constantly analyse your interactions with them."
Guess I'm obsessed with every person I've ever talked to then haha
Social anxiety sucks😂😂 jaja
Same here bro
That only means I am obssessed too XD
yes i think that is actually an obsession disorder
Now that's anxiety
the bad thing is that when i like someone, i get hyper fixated on them and won’t pay attention to anyone else
This!
Same
Same it’s happening right now
Samee
@@littlemissartsy7400 Same im trying to get over my crush because it's affecting literally everything i do
Reason number 8. You're haven't got the balls to confess about your honest feelings for your crush. Look, most of the time, you become obsessed is because you're still in a state of constant unknown of whether your crush likes you or not. Just be assertive and honestly tell your crush that you like him/her. If your crush says "I like you too" great, and if he/she rejected you, well....it might sting a little but at least your mind can finally rest in peace now and move on instead of constantly thinking whether your crush likes you or not.
ahhh relatable to mee
I noticed yesterday that my chrush to someone got really really unhealthy, so I deleted her number and unfollowed her on social media. We were chatting a bit, so if she asks why I did this, I will tell her about my feeling. Otherwise I won't
Tru
I told him. He rejected me. Still confused because he still gives me constant mixed signals.
Thank you! :)
It's important to know that this isn't a bad thing if it happens to you. Your are not a freak or a stalker most people experience this but don't talk about it. Just try to keep yourself occupied, and avoid being on social media all the time. I'm going through this right now, and it's difficult but something that works out in time. Be that, moving on from them or eventually going out with them. Try and think of yourself a bit more! Do more with your day and do things for yourself and not your crush
You’re only a stalker if you won’t take no for an answer.
Yes, I believe that everyone has experienced this, especially in younger years
O God ,much needed.i have a crush on my senior,and in the beginning he behaved just like everyone to me.he was gone for sometime but then he came back,and he developed a full blown crush on me.idk what to do,cuz everytime I am the conversation opener.he is too shy to do that.i am tired of working only myself.i am taking a break so that he should know that I can't be taken for granted.
Thank you
Starting to think I have never been in love in my life.
same
same
same
Same
Same
Okay, next video suggestion: *How To Get Over A Crush You're Obsessed With.*
Yes please 😩
I would like that too!
Definitely yes!!!
this is a great suggestion haha! ♡
- i wish i knew
Yeah I need It ❗
The worst thing of falling in love is that you always fall for the wrong person.
or for the wrong reason
not always :)
Seems like it 😪
Story of my life.
I hope that’s not me
Bro the last one is so damn true. I don't know why but picturing myself doing physical things with a crush makes me feel like a creep and just disrespectful. And then when you see them in person you're super embarrassed and feel like you did something wrong for even thinking of the idea of having physical contact with them.
I know just what you mean! You feel awkward for objectifying them.
If your crush dosen't like you...Just remember how many people are in this planet. 😆😆
Yes, and how travelling will solve all that problem ;)
In the planet? Oh no, we've got to save them! How romantic. ;-)
jk, typos happen.
@@lyndsaybrown8471 made my day 😂
On*
but I think he does...
Reminder: everyone has different ways of having crushes, just because one or two things from this video is accurate it doesn't mean you're obsessed.
These things mainly applies to people that suffer from limerence or extreme obsession
@@realzhella6817 okay, just saying
Oh thanks for saying it😊
Some points in the video hit me, but the moment i read your comment kinda saves me from overthinking, Thank you!
@@realzhella6817 not true. Most of this is literally normal 💀
I feel like all of these things are also true when you genuinely love someone… if you’re not obsessed with your partner then the relationship wont last long. Passion is required for love to last
I wanna say that i disagree with you, obsession was and is super unhealthy
Don't confuse interest in someone with obsession because there's a big difference
Being interest in someone DOESNT mean that you won't think bout your love and... Other things
Loving someone means wanting to spend time next to person who you love and respect
Hug each other and ofc other kind and even hot stuff!
Obsession is brutal and not okay for anyone ;/
@@moonily2622 true, obsession will most likely ruin the relationship in the long run.
I can tell
passion ≠ obsession
Obsession : i want him/her be ready 24/7 for me, text me back instantly, etc etc etc etc etc etc
Interest : hey he/she is cool.
I just noticed that my whole life, I've never been in love for real, but it was just obsessions 😭
I thought all of this was normal and not obsessive I-
I think you are right
Same 😩😩😩
yeah um I feel you guys
same
Indeed. I'm in relationship with someone. And i have all of these 7 signs
hold up, i genuinely thought this was normal when you had a crush? 😶
Yes me too but now looks I felt really awful for myself
Yes me too but now looks I felt really awful for myself
Ok right? Im not the only oneee
Right? Some of these are like, aren’t these normal? Doesn’t everyone do this?
Yup. These are typical.
I don’t think I’m obsessed, I just have depression, anxiety, and adhd. This causes me to feel this way about everybody
"you get extremely self conscious around them"
Me with social anxiety: *maybe I am obsessed with her*
obsession doesnt mean anything u just truly love her and I hope you too end up together ^^
if thats the only thing you relate to, maybe youre not obsessed.
a crush in itself is kinda obsession tho... how do you think people end up together
yes but obsession is more mentally damaging
@@bunniesarecutep2494 i need to learn the difference but i guess this place which doesn't explain it just confuses me more
@@raviedavieu
obsession = when something fills your mind and head for a concerningly long time.
crush = liking/loving someone
it’s normal for a crush to be in your head, or yk, daydreaming of them, longing to be close to them. so a crush can be obsessive/have obsessive tendencies.
but when it turns into an obsession is when you stalk them, think about them 24/7, they’re the only thing you can focus on, your crush on them keeps you from living your life happily and they affect your life even when they have nothing to do w it.
i hope this made you understand a bit better?
@@bunniesarecutep2494 hmmm thanks for the brief differentiation, i guess i'll look into it more after this but thank you for making it pretty easier for me to understand. ^-^
Yup.. i have seen a chick who was obsessed with a dude , who didnt want her, gettin him into a relationship with her 😂😂😂
1. you can’t stop thinking about them
2. you go to great lengths to reach your crush’ approval
3. you constantly analyse your interactions with them
4. you get extremely self-conscious around your crush
5. you feel moody because of your crush
6. you feel out of touch with your life
7. when you picture them, you actually crave emotional intimacy
thank u
thanks!
Thank you so much
1,6,7...
isnt that just love??
When you love someone but you're introvert and not have confidence to tell, eye contact. Literally this is biggest pain 😔
Dude omygosh I have a crush and ever since we stared at each other for like 3 seconds and smiled my heart skipped a beat and now I can't stop thinking about her, like literally. She has fully taken control of my thoughts, I would think about her constantly that I'd forget or stop what I'm doing and daydream about her. I noticed it right away that's why I had to watch this video. Knowing that I'm obssessed now I can finally take some steps to stop myself before it gets worse. Thanks Psych2Go!
“You rehearse events that are yet to happen”
Welp guess I’m obsessed with my waiter
LMFAO
Epic 😂😂😂
Lol!
BAHAHAHA
lol
It’s heaven and hell at the same time
Way to put to it. This should totally be in our video description.
😱
That's a smart way to put it.
It do be like that-
listen to the black sabbath song of the same name
I had these, and they loved me back! I stopped being obsessive weeks later and I’m now having an amazing relationship with my new girlfriend. Thank you for helping me get over obsession!
atleast you have a girlfriend ):
How is it going today?
You can’t say it’s obsession and not love without explaining what love is.
well obsession for example is when you posses an unhealthy attitude towards them, such as thinking ab them day and night, analyzing their each and every move, stalking them etc. its just toxic. love isnt like that.
@@userm180 What about MY situation?? I mean, I definitely don't analyze what my coworker does in her everyday life because that's just creepy. However, the part about thinking about her all the time is there. The only reason why that's happening, is because I have to see her again and again at work, so it's pretty much forced on me.
Had she been just someone on Tinder, then I would have gotten over her easily. I want to get over her, but it's a hell of a lot different when you meet someone great in person than on the internet.
@@External29 do you mean it literally when u say u think ab her all the time or is it an exaggeration?
@@userm180 Well, I wouldn't say it's ALL the time like it's not every minute and hour, but I do tend to think about her quite a bit even though I shouldn't.
@@External29 have u made a move?
This was embarrassing to watch, but I needed it 😞
What did you discovered?
Don’t feel embarrassed 😞
Sis... im in the same boat.
Take time.
Same... I feel stupid and immature.
This vid... i was literally just thinking if I actually liked my crush or was just obsessed 😐 calling me out for what
SAME
Yes, it's so important to reflect on what you're actually feeling. What did you discover after watching?
Same
omg same!!!
Ask yourself the question "After I have sex with him/her, what will we do after that?"
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If you don't know the answer, it's infatuation and not love.
"7 signs you might be obsessed with your crush"
yandere-chan: *nervous sweating*
As a person who was obsessed with all my past crushes I know how hard it is to be obsessed with someone who doesnt like you back. You cant imagine a life without them and you just dont care. It is extremly hard to let them go! But you can do it. I overcame it as well and trust me it is so beautiful to be free. Life is going to be great! LET THEM GO! YOU CAN DO THIS!
Me who doesn't have a crush:
*laughs in heartbroken*
Not alone bud.. *pats back*
We will do a video about being heartbroken soon. Stay tune
@@kingmuizz708 thanks
@@Psych2go thank u
@@wirroam all good man🙏
For people that doesn’t have time to watch the whole thing:
1. You can’t stop thinking about them 0:50
2. You go to great lengths to win your crushes approval 1:17
3. You constantly analyze your interactions with them 1:44
4. You get extremely self conscious when you’re around your crush 2:20
5. You feel moody because of your crush 2:45
6. You feel out of touch with your life 3:15
7. When you picture them, you actually crave emotional intimacy 3:50
I wrote one of these too oops
Thanks for putting this together. Can someone help add the time stamps?
Thx
Psych2Go I’m on it
Ani oop-
Comparing obsession to love...their very simular. It's always on your mind and changes your mood meaning happy or sad. That is love to me.
I literally got 7/7 right, and now I see how obsessed I've become. Now that I am aware of this I will try to improve. Thanks for the video 😍
Mosy of these aren't obsession, they're just symptoms of love and overthinking anxiety
Exactly
Omg yes
Yeah i think if you have all of these symptoms then you are obsessed but if you have only one then i personally think you are not
@@shaireen6105 what if you have 5/7🥲
@@august-bl1jh i don't have 5/7 i only find 1 or 2
wait, normal people don’t crave emotional intimacy with their crush?
Maybe when they're already in actual relationship?
I think it’s if you only crave emotional intimacy
you can want it but if you crave it like a drug like you'll do anything. Even go against what you believe in or basic thing like stop talking to a friend, fight someone, etc.
Fr I thought that's what a crush meant
4 years of my life are a lie
@@louisehelene2006 don't worry, there's nothing wrong with you. wanting that is completely normal. Honestly, that was the point when i shouted BS and thought about unfollowing Psych2go. I mean, that's the point in wanting a romantic relationship with someone! of course you crave emotional intimacy with them.
I have to say that "love" isn't a feeling that people can describe. Everyone has their own way to love someone. Love is so complicated that even psychology can't describe it. People should always trust in that subject their heart more that anything.
Why did I see this now😢😢… everything here is just happening to me right now.. but am so happy I came across it. Am soo glad and I feel so lighthearted. I now know what I must do. Thanks so much for this.
An Obsession is a way for people to damage themselves more. Passion is positive obsession. Obsession is negative passion. Obsessions are potentially dangerous 🖖
Now I need a video on this! Psych2Go, if you see this, PLEASE make one! I want to be passionate for my celebrity crush, not obsessed
@@RosheenQuynh Sure! We can do one about, signs it's passion, not an obsession. What do you think?
@@Psych2go YESSSS! Thank you! 😍 *excitement ensues*
Wow when you put it like that! I've been reading a lot about obsession and I haven't seen that yet. I'll remember that, thank you! 👍
Psych2Go Yes please! This would be so helpful
Be careful on having a crush that develops into an obsession with someone who turns out to be a narcissist. I had the unfortunate luck to have that happen to me and the narc will encourage the obsession for years and string you along since you become prime narcissistic supply.
Narcs suck ass...hope your ok dude.
SparkJoy Yes... You are absolutely right about that. Narcissists will do whatever they can in order to keep your attention focused on them. They know that you want them, and they will use this as leverage to try to string you along for a very long time, using you for an ego stroke. They are very sick individuals. So sorry that happened to you.
Had the same thing happen to me. Narcissists are just awful, conscienceless vampires.
I don't have any other words to describe it better than y'all😅 But yes I felt that:( ...I wonder why psych2go didn't reply to this
Hey it happened to me after high school. Just didn't know any better and there wasnt an online community like today that can help and point things like this out. I'm just happy it's over and that I learned so much going forward. Glad we have this platform to share.
Your videos help me so much with my life. I’ve been watching a lot of your love and crush videos to see if they like me and what to attempt (she doesn’t and now I’m a little glad). Thank you.
I keep getting reminded that I’m already in a relationship and breaking up in a perfectly healthy relationship is “an asshole move.” I still care about my ex-crush, but not in that way. I check up on them every now and then, but not as much, which is nice, cuz I get to focus more on my actual relationship rather than one I had wanted.
wow.. thank u so much for this video, they all hit hard, except the last one
this is a sign but i’m not accepting it
Being obsessed is not necessarily a bad thing..
Psych2Go just unhealthy
Same
You should having obsessive feelings with your crush is not healthy it took me four years and moving to another state to get over mine and on top of that he was my friend that ghost me soon afterwards. Mine you he took me out on my first date in 2012, i was 24 and said he was interested in me, so thought
he called me back, haven't seen him since 2013. When he contact me through Facebook last year I didn't even have a long conversation with him, I was so over it and that's when i move on.
@@bsinita_wokeone I'm sorry
The thing is that when you have a crush you’re likely to have these signs but not as severe. The biggest difference is the severity. Obsession is when it’s just too much
I don't think possession even exists in that way. No matter how much you want the person, it doesn't change the fact that you love the person. Right?
@@B3lph3g0r Uh, not true. Many people with mental illnesses will do crazy things like putting blood in their person of interests food to "be apart/one with them." Or steal the person of intrests clothing and take it home and jack to it. (Not like I relate lol)
Yep, describes everything. This was like with an online friendship that happened only for a few months for me, but I was so obsessed and convinced I had a crush on them..
I think the majority of it was obsession and fear actually, since it gave me excitement to do something I wasn’t allowed to do (talk to someone and actually be kinda close to someone idk in real life..)
I blocked them with pretty much no explanation and I kinda feel bad since no one deserves to be ghosted like that.. but I think it’s for the better
Thankful for this videos by psychtogo. It really does help me managing my mental health and social interactions.❤❤❤
i hate being inlove.. this is my first time being inlove with someone who doesnt love me back.. i promise, it really hurts.
It also hurts knowing someone likes you but not liking them back
It does hurt, we all been there.
But one eventually gets over it and learns from those moments. And sometimes, we Just don't match with those People.
But eventually you'll find someone Who does loves you back.
@@sleepystars3042 yep
Don't worry about it, Obsession is often referred as One Sided Love😇😇😇
I know the feeling … and the one direction song, Right Now, reminds me of someone. It’s a blend of being in love and also obsessed at the same time
"You deserve a healthy relationship"🍃❤️
Yes, we all do. Thank you for this message!
I might deserve it, doesn't mean I'll get it. "Deserving" love means nothing. People rarely get what they "deserve".
omg this describes all my feelings right now. Thank you for making this video!
You’re voice is so relaxing!!
I'm looking forward to the day when I'm over my crush.
R N I got over mine and it feels like throwing all ur responsibilities out the window. Once you do it, you are as free as a damn eagle, it’s great!
Me too. I'm striving for being totally free.
Same :/
three years and still obsessing here...
@@agnozz2497 6 damn year HELP !
without even watching the video i already know i’m obsessed with him lol
How long has that been?
Yah same here mate.
If you don't have confidence or experience in relationships watch taty cokley she has amazing videos ♥️♥️♥️🤩
I’m think I’m obsessed and it’s been almost 2 years?!
I already knew I was obsessed but I watched the video anyway
This has helped understand that truly I was getting into this unhealthy cycle, I've been showing this signs for over 2 months towards someone, and yes it might be hard to let it go but whatever might be the outcome I guess is imperative to grow up and realize that most of the times, in my case, this persona, is in my head, not the real life person I see, therefore being out of this thoughts can help to clear things up and mostly help you grow.
I’m a psychologist. You have explained so well. Psychological phenomenon of a crush, it is very different from love.
I’m honestly scared of myself... I did this for like a whole six months and I’m not sure what snapped me out of it, but oh my gosh. I must have seemed crazy to this person. I didn’t realize that I may have been obsessed until one of my friends brought it up back in March but I still couldn’t let go. About a month ago I went to a psychiatrist and started taking Adderall for ADHD and I guess that’s when I realized it. For the past couple months I’ve been studying spirituality and I did like a cord cutting spell. I feel so bad like I spent so much time thinking about this person and planning out ways to see them. My entire day revolved around this person. We never even talked that much. Yeah he definitely thinks I’m weird. Funny I was just thinking about this when the video popped up, and this confirmed my fear, I was obsessed.
Wow Sarah, it's great that you realized this and did something about it. I like how you took up spirituality concepts and applied a solution. Keep us posted!
Oh gosh i remeber when i was younger in elementary i had this crush and for the WHOLE lunch period i stared at him...yeahhh....him and his friend where just staring at me like "tf stop staring at me" i could see it in their _eyes_ though they didn't say anything to me- Also they were in the table behind me and i had my neck twisted the whole time and later on that day it hurt ;-;
Lol crazy how I did the same and I was obsessed as nuts
Mine was 2 years😅
Yeah I'm the biggest simp
literally me but 7 months and i just saw them recently and idk how to act I-
To me, if we think someone is ‘ perfect’ , then its an obsession. However, if we crush or love someone and still see their imperfections.. Then i would not call it ‘ obsession’.
I was hopelessly scrolling through the comment section, looking for a comment that’s saying that I’m not obsessing. I saw this. Thank god.
yes! i love him even with the imperfections. I would like to meet them more
@@nagaijosei3605 same, I feel better now
I see his imperfections as perfect! Lol like I genuinely know all his flaws and know he does some really messed up shit but I love him regardless, I just don't seem to be able to hate him
Best comment! ❤
Thank u so much. U saved me from drowning in my mind again.
I needed this, this was a whole reality check for me....
summary:
1. You can’t stop thinking about them 0:46
2. You go to great lengths to win your crush’s approval 1:14
3. You constantly analyze your interactions with them 1:45
4. You get extremely self conscious around your crush 2:19
5. You feel moody because of your crush 2:44
6. You feel out of touch with your life 3:14
7. When you picture them, you actually crave emotional intimacy 3:45
Recommend watching to learn more 🖤
I think im obsessed lol
Basically Marrinette
Thank you for doing that!
@@idkutellme-rp9qe saying "no one asked" is just like saying "please hate me"
people that say that are just craving for attention
@@siriuslymentalthatone2528 omg Yes, The only real reason I watched was to see if Marinette is obsessed...my first crush is yet to come =(
Me before watching the video:
No, I have a crush, not an obsession.
Me after video realizing I matched all of them: 😐
Same
Ikr
I can relate
Omg same lol
same
OMG THANK YOU!!!!! I’m not interested in love, but I know someone who is currently crushing over me over Discord, and they’re always around when I’m around. As much as I like them as a friend, it’s really annoying when I want to spend time with my other friends as well. I can see these signs in this person, and while I don’t know how to talk to them about it, it’s good to see that I’m not only realizing these signs in that person, but also seeing them in a better place if they take these signs to heart and try to stay as friends.
I guess this whole time I was just obsessed with my crush,but recently am getting over this obssession😞
When ur crush is a celebrity
👁💧👄💧👁
Oh man 😂😿😭
There's literally no hope. 😢
I feel you T - T
I can feel you
︶💧👄💧︶
Someone needs to send this to Marinette from miraculous ladybug 😂
Lmao 😂
I was literally just watching miraculous 🤣🤣
i was looking for this comment-
That's what I thought!
Marinette is *wayyy* too obsessed-
I had a crush a couple of years back, and i related to quite a few of these, so i was probably obsessed. I'm taken by someone else now, and watching this video, i understand my younger self a bit better now and now i know the difference between love and obsession. Thanks psych2go :)
It's weird how this videos find me when I need them
Wait, then what is actually crushing on someone like?
True, at this point I just think that this is only the idea of "obsessing over someone" by this channel. If thinking about someone means you are obsessed and doesn't TRULY like them, I don't know what "liking someone" is.
All in all, everyone can give their ideal idea about love and crush, I guess. Trying to accept "everything" psych2go had to say is TRUE is kinda absurd to me. Search for the truth yourself.
We have this video if that helps: ua-cam.com/video/p578HlQyUaY/v-deo.html It separates crushing vs loving someone.
Psych2Go thank you
her: its like living in a euph-
me: *EUPHORIIAAAAAAAA~~*
HAHAHA
and me: yea euphoria~~ take my hands now, you are the cause of my euprhoria~ yea yea yea yea yea yea ooooh oooh yea yea yea yea yea close the door now, when im with you, im in utopia~
Jungkook 😂❣
When I'm with you I'm in Eutopia
I was going to comment this lol💜✌🏻😅an army thing💜
I allow myself to get obsessed with nobody, nor fall in love with nobody. I learned a painful lesson. If I allow myself any possibility of repeating that mistake again, then I have learned nothing from the horrible experiences of 1999 and most of 2000. If one learns nothing from mistakes, they will be repeated. I have learned.
istg this channel tracks everything I do, I was just wondering last night if I was being obsessive, as opposed to having a simple crush
This hit a little too close to home. Obsessed with my crush for two years now... and it has basically taken over my life
me too, to the point where they are all i care about, i have neglected all other areas of my life and they won’t speak to me any more, glad I’m not the only one experiencing these kinds of problems
did u guys try speaking to a therapist?
@@userm180 yes i have made an appointment unfortunately it was after his boyfriend contacted the police with screenshots etc so we’ll see what happens
@@jackodonnell7688 the police?? what exactly did the screenshots show
@@userm180 just how often i had been contacting him
7 Signs You're Obsessed with Your Crush, Not Love:
1. Your IQ plummets.
Howd you knowwwwwwww
its trueeee i cant focus on my school work
For real
THANK YOU FOR THIS! 🥲
my crush of over 3 years has made it clear we can never be together but some part of me refuses to accept this. every moment i see her is like going through a heartbreak over and over again.
Oh..so that's what happened, I just realized that I've slowly felt so attached to the point where I analyze my crushes movements, and sometimes it makes me believe that he likes me back, when he brutally just told me straight up that he's in a relationship. But it's okay, I'm still young. I'm gonna try to focus on self-love! :))
omg you’re literally me. I literally over analyze every single love of his and then I’m like “yeah maybe he still likes me”🥺
SAME i dont see my crush very much so its got to the point where i have convinced myself they have a crush on me because in the fake scenarios in my head they like me back and my brain is subconsciously convinced those are real :,(
@@magsss305 sameee wth :/
When someone gets in love, it is normal to gain obsession. Soo people don't loose hope.
In reality, every relationship works differently, and the only way a relationship can get unhealthy with obsession is just if one of the two partners don't find them selfs comfortable or doesn't like it, but as long as both of the partners are ok with that kind of obsession, then there's nothing to worry about.
Obsession in a nutshell is literally to not stop thinking of someone. It can literally be gained by just admiring a person, when you love someone there will be always something u'll admire of that person, that will make u remind of that person in some circunstances.
People, obsession is not bad in a partner relationship if no one is complaining, outside people can complain bcs they won't understand how ur relationship works, again every relationship is different, it is just up for both of u to decide if u actually like it or not.
(Sorry for my english, i speak spanish. Soo please people, don't let a video destroy your hopes, analyze and most importantly communicate ur situation with your partner, and if the result is that u or ur partner doesn't like your obsession, try getting on a deal to work better together, but if one of you believe is too much to deal with, then it is better to break up because it is just unhealthy for both.)
Is it so?? Thanks for your kind opinion!!
The best answer I’ve seen and read.
I totally agree!!
No hate but- you could just write it in Spanish and for those who don’t read Spanish could click translate and it would translate what your saying for them in any language
"When someone falls in love, it is normal to get obsessed"
No it is not normal. There isn't a single situation where obsession is OK. It is absolutely toxic and shows a low emotional intelligence. It doesn't matter whether anyone is complaining about it or not, obsession is not healthy.
This video was very helpful, and I'm definitely not obsessed with my crush. The only example applied to me was the first one where I think about them all the time
Wow i had 1 through 7 with my major crushes which were all long term and hard to ignore. The one that suprised me most was the "emotional intamacy" one. I felt that way with all my major crushes and took it as a sign of being prepared to be in love
Way to call me out huh?
I think we called out the population lol.
@@Psych2go. I see you got alot of people's FBI agents on speed dial.
@@Psych2go deffo lol
Me: hey I just wanted to say I have a crush on you
Crush: yeah I know I usually get those a lot
Me: Say sike right now
😂😂😂
Actually he said "you're probably the first girl who's ever had a crush on me"
My brain: which you know of
I bet he's gonna tell his grandkids about me😅
@@jahnavibhargava2572 I've had that conversation with my crush too. His friends were also surprised I had a crush on him😅. I actually told him that he might not know who else might've had or have a crush on him if they never tell him or get outed. I wasn't gonna confess but I had some snitches in my circle that wanted to play matchmaker 😅
@@Psych2go Hey Psych2Go I have a question, can you do a video on rejection and such? Like, back when I was crushing on the "friend" I mentioned before in my earlier comment, he rejected me every single time when I told him I liked him as more than a friend, but then proceeded to get jealous whenever I dated someone else. I'd love a video on that and what it means? It's odd...like, I was only worth something to him when I wasn't available? It was so confusing.
I actually read a novel called Bloom into you: regarding saeki sayaka and there was a line that basically said “She wasn’t in love with me; she was in love with the idea of love.” and i realized i never truly loved my first “crush”
i feel like this describes me - i constantly get confused over whether or not i actually like my crush or i just want to be like them (/her there are two lmao) because i dont see them very often so they only really exist to me in the fake scenarios in my head and they have kind of developed my ideal personality and idk them very well so its probably not even their real personality and im so confused bc idek if i like them anymore it could just be like you said also it could just be comphet making me think i dont like them and im just doing it for attention - ive been struggling with that recently. this is kind of now leading onto my identity crisis so im going to stop now sorry lmao
@@magsss305 just go with the flow and don’t overthink it :) Do whatever feels right without putting too much thought into it and your true feelings will reveal themselves ^^
I have watched about a hundred videos of this channel. Every thing about it is comforting the sound the music and the animations the colors .. , but it feels weird that I give such 5-6min video my full undivided attention yet I still can't recall the main points right after the video ends. Am i the only one?
The key point is
be with someone with whom you feel comfortable
Well said
But I don’t feel comfortable with any guys not even with some of my friends 😢😢😢
How comfortable would be comfortable? :)
@@jackieee000 then maybe look to why that is? There's a deeper reason surely. A friend of mine was the same,I was like the only guy she was comfortable around and I found out why soon after she told me that..wasn't the best thing to hear but atleast it was something she got help for after..
is it just me but o try so hard to get over my crush but when he approaches me all the feelings rush back and its so hard to let go
Yeah it can be very difficult when you are near your crush. :'(
Shoot him then Lol
@@dollyrama1132 no have you seen my face. he probably doesnt like black gyals. if i tell him he is going to violate me and you dont wanna know
Same
@@mshxx7251 well then he is boring
I FEEL SO CALLED OUT
My girlfriend and I started dating 2 days ago. I kind of relate to the first one because I can’t stop thinking about them. But I think when we get closer together in days or months that this will stop, of course I will still think about them, just not as often as right now, just over all I love them a lot and can’t get my mind off them, but that isn’t stopping me from focusing on other things.
Narrator: Do you relate to any of the signs above?
Me: Yes, all 7, and another 25 you didn't mention.
😂
Me and my friend was just talking about my crush too
i need to tell my friend that what she feels is not Love!
thank you for the information :D
Oh, I’ve been obsessed with my favorite artist last year, its when I found out about them, seeing someone that is like me for the first time was something so different for me since I always felt incapable and awful about myself and they made me gain so much confidence, so i became obsessed with them, but now, they are still my favorite artist of all time, and i’m still very influenced by them, but im much more “calmer” in relation to that, i just didn’t know how to act in that situation, now I just admire them but think about other things too :)
I was obsessed with someone for a good three years before I finally snapped out of it. And when I say obsessed, I mean borderline following to their house, staring at them constantly, and doing stupid embarrassing crap to win their attention. I couldn’t stop thinking about them and whenever I was around them, I felt a sense of absolute relief and happiness kinda like after you’ve just taken a hit. It was great...until it wasn’t. This person ended up having to send me an incredibly hurtful yet very true email in order to get me off their back. It stung a lot when I first got it, but now I can’t even begin to express how thankful I am that happened. Obsession is absolute hell disguised as heaven and if you think you may even be a teensy tiny bit obsessed with a real actual person on your life (anime boys don’t count) run. Just run. Stay as far away from that person is possible and whenever their face pops up in your head, just picture something else instead. I know how good it feels at first, but it gets so so much worse the farther you go, just save yourself the trouble and don’t go at all.
Bro i am glad you didn’t turn out to be a yandere
I needed this
Thanks for the advice
Low key think I’ve obsessed over every crush I ever had…
I think that's not uncommon! Being obsessed is how it usually starts, at least for your first few relationships.
Psych2Go probably because its still kinda new and you want to test things out and play around with it, but doing so you invest a lot of time and energy in it, which makes it look like your obsessed
For 10 consecutive months, this happened to me, and I kept going in a mental cycle of obsession. I finally beat it
How did u beat it. Please tell me😭😭😭😭😭
How did u beat it. Please tell me😭😭😭😭😭
Thanks a lot,I'm not gonna lie,this sort of actually helped
I've only crushed on celebrities, the real life hasn't hit me yet.
I was obsessed with my crush before from the first time I saw him I can't stop obsessing about him no matter how hard I tried when the quarantine started I'm not able to see him but during that time I'm able to spend time to myself, friends and family then the obsession fades away. I still like him but now I'm more I'm in love with myself and those who are truly there for me.
Update: My crush talked to me again, He became very friendly to me and my false hopes are coming back. It's affecting me again everyday. I thought I can still be able to stop these obsessive feelings while still being friends with him. It's like a 2nd round with a much harder twist.
2 is challenging for me because i actually do love the things she did and it wasn't just all out of approval but genuine curiosity of interests