Mommy Issues with Carla Wilmaris & Glennis Crosby
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- Опубліковано 7 тра 2024
- This is one of the most emotional broadcasts so far. We're unpacking “mommy issues" and hear this phrase a lot as it relates to men. We often hear the phrase “daddy issues” when discussing women. But rarely do we explore the challenging relationship dynamics that exist between mothers and daughters. The intricately woven connection that comes from once sharing a body to the challenges and hurdles that come with sharing our lives. Whether you’re a mother or a daughter, or have either in your life, you will want to tune in. Follow the podcast on Apple Podcasts and subscribe on UA-cam to be notified about new episodes! Let us know what you think about the conversation in the comments!
I feel something in every scenario, the hardest is when your parent doesn't acknowledged how they hurt you! So painful!
Mine simply don't care
So powerful. I could totally identify with the women on this show. Mommy issues take a lifetime to heal.
Just want to say that I completely applaud the millennial woman for her stance. There is nothing wrong with letting go. Would we tell a woman to keep going with her abusive husband? No. We should not tell young people to keep going with their physically or mentally abusive parents. I'm 50, and my mother has passed away. I still don't regret creating the distance from her that I did.
I totally agree. We must protect our peace and unfortunately that may mean sever the toxic relationship with your mother.
I applaud her as well. You can forgive, however, when someone continues with manipulative, narcissistic behavior, you have to choose you first and heal.
It’s so important to acknowledge the harm you caused to your child, intentionally or not, so healing can take place. What a very good conversation.
Healing has to take place regardless whether you get that acknowledgment or not unfortunately. Most times parents will not take accountability or own up to anything.
@@Diivasatti THIS RIGHT HERE
@@amarbyrd2520 i know this all too well!
I agree with Carla. I think you sometimes have to distance yourself from the pain. You can forgive but you don’t have to put yourself in the place of pain.
When Lewis Howes asked Doctor Ramani "How do you forgive the narcissistic parent who hurt you?" Doctor Ramani answered "Maybe you don't". So there's that.
Reminds me of a saying that, 'Love is a must, association is not'.
@amarbyrd2520 I heard Dr Ramani on that podcast.....and I agree...sometimes you have to honor your mother while doing it with distance.❤️💔❤️
My mind immediately goes to the spiritual realm. Is there demonic influence and strongholds over her mom because if there’s peace in the absence of her mother, I agree that you have to protect that.
She hinted on forgiveness and understanding that her mom had her own traumas and trying countless times to make amends by offering therapy etc. Some things need deliverance first before repair. I would encourage her to pray from afar that her mother be released from any unclean spirits.
She stated that her mom quotes bibles scriptures on social media but I sense there is deep spiritual warfare happening and the chains need to be broken. So many souls are bound that therapy can’t fix. It’s going to take a supernatural healing. Pray the blood of Jesus over her everyday and in due time the Lord will restore her.
Advocate for her not in the natural as you have already tried, but in the unseen realm. The enemy wants that wedge to remain, but while she’s still living, fight for it and rebuke his evil plan of division. I’ll be praying for all three ladies to continue in the healing process.
Tiff... don't cry... this is GOOD. You're helping so many people.😢
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She’s helped me tremendously. This is community and I appreciate it. ❤🙏🏽🌸
Crying is cathartic though.
I am struggling to get through this episode and came to the comments section to hear out the tribe. Ms. Crosby was “listening” to respond with what is working for her. I found it triggering. Not everyone was to cosplay to keep the peace around family. My heart breaks for all of us that feel like our “contract” with our mothers has been irrespectively broken. Thank you to the guests for sharing their stories.
No one should be made to feel like they HAVE to have a relationship with a another TOXIC person. Even if that person is your family there has to be boundaries when it comes to our mental health, happiness and being retraumatized over and over again. We have to know when to accept that a person will never change, especially when we have done our part to fix it. I think both ladies were right in their approach to healing....💔💔 What an awesome, informative show!!!❤🔥❤🔥❤🔥
This topic is so necessary for so many. For years I could not understand why my mom was so easily triggered. And when confronted she would then became the victim. Then it was around two years ago she started to share her trauma from childhood, and now we’re making progress. It’s funny that those of us that were raised by (baby boomers) share some of the same exact stories and have had too try and function as normal with our selves and others.
Yes! Kudos for your mom opening up to you. I wish you both healing together.
Thank you, such a nice thing to say!
This was one of the best episodes I’ve ever seen on youtube and this is not talked about enough. Lady with the Jean outfit , I could relate to her so much because just because you forgive someone doesn’t mean obligation to have them back in your life. If it interrupts your peace or mental health its not worth it.
I think the hardest part for me is acceptance, accepting and grieving the mom you will never have. I don’t look to my mother for anything anymore. Everyone makes choices and I can’t do the work for you. I am only responsible for my own healing. The lady on the right! I understand her perspective as well. Still being there for her mom and being her caregiver. I commend her but I also see she is still processing as well even at her age. This was great to hear all perspectives.
I’m currently going through relationship trauma with my mom right now and I’m finding myself grieving our relationship. On the surface we were close. I often times found myself working overtime to make her love me but I’m learning that I need to turn that love that I desire inward. I’m on the journey of self-love. I’m praying not only for my healing but for all of our healing. Our own mothers have been through so much with their own mothers so compassion is necessary on both parts. 💜✨
I’m 32 and I feel so deeply connected with Ms. Crosby perspective. ❤.
❤❤❤❤ I can relate! I HATE THE " thats your mother tho" . Its not okay to constantly except abuse. Its ok to stay distance and set boundaries 🐝
THIS RIGHT HERE ^^^ -- when Lewis Howes asked Doctor Ramani Duvursula "How do you forgive the narcissistic parent who hurt you?" Doctor Ramani answered "Maybe you don't". So there's that.
The boldest and bravest Across Generations episode ever..Across Generations addresses relationship topics black experience you will not see anywhere else.
Blessings to Tiffany
This is a powerful conversation and I’m in tears. I was mentally and physically abused by my mother. We had a turbulent relationship but I truly loved her. She was depressed, angry and drank alcohol every day. She never hugged me, nor said she loved me. She often told me that birthing me at 15 ruined her life. She died from a heart attack at 52.
I’m now 53, after intense therapy and the Love of Jesus, I forgave my mother. She did the best she could. At least she tried unlike my father who walked away. Thank you Tiffany for bringing Women together to heal through sharing our truth. I’ve been watching you since your show the Cross Connection. Peace & Blessings 🙏🏾
Thank you so much for this conversation! Before social media I felt alone because I didn’t have a safe space to talk about this topic. I felt like I would betray her if I discussed how I really felt about her to others. My Mom and I are now having some conversations but it’s about her upbringing and I now can see why she couldn’t love her children. Even with my mom and I talking I’m still struggling to have empathy for her and stick with her and sometimes I just don’t want to be bothered. 🙏🏾❤️
I love your podcast. This one had me in tears.
I had to pull my car over after listing to only have the pod cast. The emotions were so raw for me. My mom has been gone for 16 years but the scares she left are still open. The lady on the right seems to share some of the same traumas and reactions as I did and still do. In therapy now so I am on a journey to healing but that is long rickety road.
This was an essential conversation that could last several episodes. It would be nice to do a post conversation a year later with these women and see how things are going. Thanks Tiffany and guests for being open and vulnerable. Y’all were pointing some things out.😢 not me crying too!
I cried the entire episode.
I listen to the podcast first. And then watched it here. I didn’t realize I had mommy issues until I watched and listen to this episode.
She probably a narcissist
#nocontact
Relatable. Helpful. Healing. Thanks so much.
This really broke my heart Tiffany. God bless you and your mother, I am hopeful for a full healing. So good to continue to watch you online. You’ve done so well for yourself, and we’re proud of you, all of us . Don’t ever forget that.
What a powerful episode!!! Forgiveness does not mean you have to share space with the person you’re forgiving. Forgiveness plus healthy boundaries is essential. When you make your ability to heal contingent upon their acknowledgment of their wrongdoing, you give them your power. Radical forgiveness does not condone abusive behavior from our parent, but it acknowledges that your ability to survive it made you the amazing woman you are. The three of you blessed so many women with your transparency and tears. Thank you for being so brave.
You and your guests expressed EVERYTHING I just couldn't find the language for at 53! I've only shared my feelings about my Mom with my brother but I love my Mom....I just don't like her for her life-long lack of empathy. Do you know how hard it is to buy Mother's Day cards this time of year??? I dread it -
Don't get me wrong..we've had years that have been great! Yet, who she is at her core, always seems to bubble up and I suppose I've tried to "unsee" it. At 53, I've grown tired of excusing her harsh words.. and then the insincere apologies (only after a sibling has said something to her..) that are always followed by her defending her actions and hurtful words. Ridiculous.. I wish I revered her the way I did my Dad and/or the way she did her Mom (my grandmom..) but I just don't and that makes me sad. Not sure what to do with that feeling just yet but the podcast today really spoke to my old hurt heart. :) Ugh...
I'm going through everything you wrote. The only difference is I've never received an apology. My mother would drink bleach before admitting she was wrong or wasn't the perfect mother. My mother is ailing. As her primary caregiver, it's so hard stifling my emotions. I love my mother. But, I also carry so much resentment. Ugh! is right.😢
Pain is triggering. Being 78 years young, the body keeps score! The hardest lesson for me was how not to abandon my inner child in forgiveness. Pain is triggering…. “Hurt people, hurt people” and “people show you who they are”. Feel to heal. The tears are healing! Thank you all for sharing🙏🏽
Mommy issues are so real. This was such an amazing conversation. 💗
Boundaries with your parents are so important.
Thank you for this conversation, Tiffany. I appreciate you holding space for BOTH perspectives when one of them tries to tell the other how she should feel.
This is necessary for our community. 🫶🏾
So glad you are speaking about this! As a woman was overprotected and controlled (still working on that one) this hit home. There is nothing more that I want then my mothers approval. Even though I’m married with a child on the way, I still struggle with her ability to have control over me. She will cut me off in a minute and I’m always the first to say sorry, even if I’m not wrong. It’s so deep, but I had to also remember it’s generational. Thanks for this!
Powerful episode! Thank you ladies for your transparency! My mother had a mother wound. I had a mother wound and I contributed to the creation of a mother wound in my adult daughter. We are estranged and I am asking for a second chance at being her mom, only this time from a much healthier place. I continue to do the work.
God bless you. I pray that your daughter can forgive you. She is probably waiting for the simpleist thing to be said to reconnect. I know I am.
Thanks for sharing Tiff. Hugs and love. We are all healing together. 💜
This is NEEDED!!!! And should be talked about more often.
Thank you for this much needed conversation. I can truly identify with the verbal and mental abuse. You have no idea how many people you’ve freed. This is confirmation of my healing journey. Thank you for the raw transparency . Glennis you are where I am-Grace and compassion.. It is not easy but with God it’s possible. Carla.. I feel you too.
Praying for all of us healing from mom issues and healing our inner little girl. Be blessed and encouraged everyone
Such a healing episode this is a topic that is rarely addressed
I tried to address in my church and they buried my request. Then I paid attention to some of their daughters and understood why.
So very grateful that this conversation is being had! To hear the few very brave souls willing to come forward and first of all acknowledge that they were actually abused is progress! My father grew up this same way, and to his dying day really wasn’t able to acknowledge that he was indeed abused. Sending love to all of the broken hearts 💔 ❤
Amen Carla, our parents have no right to treat us however they want.
This is a beautifully authentic and necessary #ACrossGenerations session. Thank you.
Needed conversation ❤️
Ms. Crosby reminds me of my 66 year old mother, who physically and verbally abused my mom when she was a child/teenager. My grandmother’s verbal abuse continued against my mom until grandma passed away this past September 2023.
Because of my grandmother’s abuse, my mother mimicked that behavior with my older sister, not me. Now my sister has to heal.
Sadly, despite my grandmother’s death, my mom is still struggling with the past abuse and mourning my grandmother’s passing.
I am 46 and my sister is 47, and we still struggle understanding our mom’s distance and the residual affects of my grandmother’s abuse…especially me, the unpaid unlicensed therapist to my mom.
My mom’s trauma has been damaging to my sister and I as woman.
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Wow Tiff I just finished the whole episode and I wanted to pick up the phone and call you. That was so good, I must say cannot relate, I have the best mom still today at 93, 94 in a few days. So thankful for her. I'm passing it all on to my two children boy and a girl and my bonus daughter. Peace and Blessings to you ladies! Great episode I know it blessed some folk. Thank you for sharing!
These stories are heart breaking. I am so glad Tiffany has made a space for us to speak and heal.
Narcissistic parenting explained❤
I agree withCarla...each person's journey is different.
Wowwwwww this was so good.. I appreciate all of you for sharing your stories. You are heroes for telling your truth!!
Whew!!!! This one right here!!!!!😢😢
I know right
I knew I should have waited to watch this. Great discussion though… my first Mother’s Day without my mom is going to be hard and I’m trying to prepare myself. This discussion helps…. We don’t have forever. “Later” may not come. ❤️✌🏾☀️
I haven't talked to my mom in a yr, I had a nervous breakdown and forgave her. But I chose to stay away for my mental health and my children. Which she does not know or have a relationship with. But she favors my siblings children.. I hope her all the best and love her dearly. Thank you so much for this episode ❤️
good stay away. get therapy
#nocontact
Powerful, the part of thinking we are doing right by our children but now learning that you are abusing your kids in another way from our parent or mom
I am grateful that my mom and I were able to make peace before she transitioned. 💕
I understand so much from this episode. Whew! Especially when Tiffany said that she can sometimes be short and rude even when her mom is being pleasant. My mom didn't raise me and we have had some challenges through the years. I have done therapy on my own to heal the hurt, and have learned to love her from where we are right now. Thanks for this episode.
That was powerful ❤❤❤🔥🔥🔥🥰🔥
I love this episode. I’m now 30 and have been in therapy due to growing up in a family that fed off of being judgmental and nasty. I was bullied by my own aunts uncles cousins, mom, etc and as I got older I set those boundaries and realized some ppl get off on making you uncomfortable.
Such a thought provoking, enlightening episode. I so appreciate you have this show Tiffany! Glad you're back!
Thank ALL of you for being so very honest and vulnerable❤️🔥Blessings🙏🏼✌🏼
I used to be ms crosby...but now im like ms carla.
This discussion was so intense it took my breath away.
So happy I found this podcast Tiff!
i’m listening to the conversation with tears in my eyes. And I can so relate with Carla ❤
I think you have to forgive to move on. But just because you forgive doesn’t mean you have to let them back in your lives.
Thank you soo much ladies, you don't know how much some of us needed to hear this conversation. Some of us are healing through these talks.
I adopted Carla's method, healing myself while distancing myself from people who are triggers to me. However, I understand Ms Crosby's perspective, another kind of healing is trying to love the person who hated you so that you dont hate them enough to turn into them. And I think moving forward I might try to "love" her, but I still wanna keep my distance thou. I am learning to love people from a distance.
This topic is so emotional 😭 😭 😢 Yet so necessarily needed 💔
I would’ve loved to have heard how these mother wounds affected, influenced, Shaped how these women built relationships, friendships with other women as adults.
maybe it was briefly mentioned, but definitely needed to be addressed as one definitely affects the other.
This video was amazing and literally brought me to tears. Great job ladies. Would love to hear more perspectives on mother daughter relationships
With all due respect the woman on the right is dealing with some delusional thought processes. She is still enslaved and serving her mother just as she has her whole life.
She did mention she is a big people pleaser. I agree with you, however she still seems to be in process of healing. I think too it sounds like its more of guilt because the other siblings abandoned their mom so she feels bad.
I agree. That's Mrs.Crosby
This content is priceless! I don’t really have mommy issues, but my only daughter does so I’m really interested in the healing process. I’m in my late 40’s so my childhood was full of ass-whoopings, and I realized after I got older that there was some unnecessary discipline especially with the step parents, that would land you in jail today. I remember the times where it felt like you were taking a beating that had more to do with the parents day than it had to do with the rules infraction you were accused of. I took the harder approach to parenting where I exhausted every avenue of communication before I even thought about spanking my daughter, which only happened once when she was 5. That’s all it took and she rarely ever pushed the limits like that again so we got along great.
My bigger worry is the emotional trauma that my daughter is experiencing right now. I spent $25K on legal fees trying to gain full custody when she was 14 because she sent me a couple disturbing recordings of her mom being mentally unstable. Her mother is a raging narcissist and probably has a few other undiagnosed mental health issues. My daughter was dealing with the daily war that started before school and didn’t end until she went to bed. She got held back a year and her grades were barely high enough to pass every year after. I knew that I probably would loose the court case because it’s so hard to prove mental abuse, and in Florida you can’t use a recording in court unless the person knew they were being recorded. I just wanted to let her know that I was willing to do whatever I could to get her out of that situation, because she was getting depressed, her hair was falling out from stress, and she was talking about running away or hurting herself.
I picked her up on her 18th birthday from the bus stop around the corner from her house, and she hasn’t spoken to her mom since that morning. Her mom is convinced that I have brainwashed her, and that's the biggest problem; she has no idea how much damage she has done! It's been 15 months since they spoke, and I initially acted as a messenger, but eventually, I had to block her number because she wasn't respectful. Through a lot of therapy and tutoring, we've got her on track to graduate high school next week (on the A&B Honor Roll), and I am so proud of her. It's just hard witnessing the damage that has been done to her once-bright personality. I know this type of trauma needs to be addressed, but it scares me to think if she has been permanently affected by the whole ordeal. Now that we have overcome the high school diploma hurdle, I want to delve deep into her self-care and start building up her self-esteem.
This is deep. Ladies you are not alone. I have learned that your home maybe peaceful but you are not at peace. In life you will have triggers. Please work on forgiving your mom and yourself. I have experienced so much of what you ladies have discussed. I am healing from childhood trauma as well. Ask God to change your relationship with your Mom. Mrs. Glennis choose you in all situations moving forward. You can help others but you don't have to be a people pleaser . Most people pleasers have Surviros remorse but remember what God has for you is for you. You deserve to be happy and enjoy the rewards of your accomplishments. Find what brings you joy and continue to honor God.
This episode like the others prior was so very good…..thank you again Tiffany!!!
WOW!!! What an episode! They've all been goid but this by far was the most heart wrenching listening to their experiences.
Mommy issues hit differently once you have your own child. I could never imagine hurting my child like how my mother hurt me.
This is so needed! My mother is no longer with us in person, but this seems like the through line for so many daughters of daughters who are descendants of slaves! Yes, yes ... good on you!
Thank you so much for having this conversation ❤ thank you
Two of my adult children choose not to communicate with me. I choose to accept their decision. I have forgiven myself for not being a good parent. I pray they will someday. Until then, I will love and cherish the relationship I have with my eldest daughter. What will never happen again is Disrespect from any of us! I'm not allowed and neither are they so if distance is required, I comply.
Oh Tiff I wanna give you ladies hugs, especially you, because you are my sistah in my head, I have been rocking with you since when.
Same here
This episode came out just in time for me as I just had the “hard talk” with my own mother to try and understand a lot from my childhood.
The conversation was hard and still tough for me to swallow but I now feel free
I definitely got emotional watching this. My mother passed away in 2013 and I was so angry for a long time. Ironically not at her, or because of abuse, but because she was so amazing and I had been so privileged as a black gay boy, who grew into a black transwoman presenting person, to have a mother that loved me unconditional as well as my 2 sisters. She was a God-fearing Christian woman who spread love and light throughout her life. I had so many friends in the LGBTQIA+ community whose mothers and families treated them like trash. Why would my awesome mothers life end so early while horrible mothers still lived. It took a long time to heal, but I hope in her after life she can still feel the love and appreciation I have for her.
I’m so glad you guys had this conversation. I struggle with my relationship with my mom and none of my friends can relate. I’ve felt alone in this for so long
My friends cant relate or believe that I think that my mom really doesn't like me.
What an amazing and transparent conversation. Thank you.
This was such a great conversation however the idea that you can’t be a great mom unless you “forgive” or seek a relationship with your parent, in this case mom, is the answer. I sat with my own child and allowed her the space to totally tell me how I have parented her. The good bad and ugly. And from there I chose to do better despite my parents in ability to acknowledge and or do better. I think there are different ways to deal with this
I feel the girl with the blonde hair , I love my mother she has raised me most of my life but she is very emotionally abusive and when I was little she was physically abusive too. I struggled with so much growing up especially after she divorced my father and it was just her raising me. I'm 31 now and I didn't realize how her issues affected my life as a person , mother and wife now until I was 28 years old that's when I learned about traumas and what I was struggling with. I stood away for 2 years then tried to rebuild our relationship and I ended up realizing that she wont change her ways that's who she is and until she wants to change it can't happen so I'm back to staying away and it hurts because we want that mother daughter relationship. But when I'm around her she still brings me down I feel anxious it's negative all the time. I believe as long as you forgive and you re parent yourself and do something different with your children you are breaking that generational curse.
Beautiful conversation. I shared this episode with my older sister who still struggles with seeking approval from our mom and endured abuse in ways my other siblings and I did not. Thank you ladies for sharing ❤❤❤
I'm gonna say something that may be controversial, but I hope it can be of help to those who need to hear it.
Unlike these ladies, I did not experience abandonment by mother. I did experience it from my father. He stopped being in my life consistently around the age of 4. By the time I was a teenager, I had given up on any relationship happening. At the age of 19, he passed away due to heart-related issues. In the days prior to his death, his family (his siblings) requested that me and my sister come see him since he was sick. We both decided to not go (I was in NC in college. My sister was in Alabama. He was in the DC area). He passed away days later. My sister and I received very harsh criticism from our decision to not see him from mainly his side of the family. These people never asked why we didn't feel the need to come and only centered their anger and frustration and not our experience as his daughters, whom he neglected. Mine you, they made their frustrations very known after his funeral where they forced a family meeting in my father's childhood home.
The reason I chose not to come to his bedside when he was ill was because I didn't want to. I had no relationship with this man. And the few times he did come to see me, it felt like we were trying to cosplay a relationship. For me, to come and see him would be another opportunity for him to play pretend. I was 19 when I made that decision. I am 33 today. I am more proud of that decision now than I ever was. When he passed away, I felt only relief. The charade was over and any potential for a relationship was gone.
So...for those who like to play the "what are you going to do if **INSERT FAMILY MEMBER HERE** dies" card, I can say for myself that card doesn't work with me. One of the benefits of growing up with childhood trauma is the ability to imagine. So before my father passed away, I had already worked through any feelings/emotions on the big "WHAT IF?" And from there, my heart and soul was settled. So when the aforementioned events played out and he had finally transitioned, I was relieved that I no longer had to deal with that aspect of my life any more. I encourage those who read this to sit with yourself and play pretend. If you feel like you would have some regret if you didn't attempt to repair that relationship with said parent, then maybe it is worth it to try (therapy is worth the investment). However, it is OKAY if you know that if that person were to pass away and you would be well within your own soul.
You don't have to cosplay the dutiful daughter to earn brownie points with God. We are on this earth for a brief period and we should all be aiming to make as many of those days as peaceful and full of love as much as we can.
You don’t have to cosplay as a dutiful daughter to win brownie points with God what a message. I appreciate this mini sermon.
Mommy Issues with Carla Wilmaris & Glennis Crosby
Whew Jesus, this conversation is bringing up so many memories.
Amazing episode ❤, I hope there is part 2
Part 2 with Anita Phillips a Trauma Therapist.
Thank you ! Thank you for tackling this topic. Thank you for sharing your experiences. Thank you for letting us know that we are not alone. Most of my friends have great or decent relationships with their mother's which, left me feeling as if I was alone in my experiences. Thank you all for being vulnerable and honest with your feelings and experiences. I haven't even finished watching the episode, and I teared up at least two times already. I invited my fiance to watch with me , he jokelingly asked if you need a male guest.
My mother also calls constantly and checks on me as if I'm a child. It is so irritating and triggering. I've come to learn that she may be trying to make up for the many times she wasn't there. The thing is, sometimes we can't make up for past actions.
This is great work ! It is much appreciated , needed, and timely. Mother's Day is tomorrow, which has always been awkard for me due to the dynamics of that relationship. This episode is a Mother's Day gift to daughters everywhere .
Blessings to all three of you ! I believe our sisters and ancestors are holding us up, particularly because our mothers didn't or couldn't.
Book recommendations that I just started reading Adult Children of Emotional Immature Parents.
Now, back to the episode
Thank you again!
Live this episode, Tiffany. One thing we have to realize is that we don’t all heal the same way. I truly hope that the lady realizes that she is not healed as completely as she thinks she is. I think that her allowing her mom into her life is great, but I also appreciate that the other lady chooses not to have a relationship with her mom. Sorry that I can’t recall their names.
That lady is it glennyis she is so gracious so kind ❤
This is deep rooted! I appreciate all three of you ladies for sharing your past and how you process and intentionally work through the various levels of healing. This hits home for me as well.
Ladies - we are so appreciative that you all had the bravery to be up here so we could receive the gift of this conversation. I am SO SICK of hearing "that's your mama / dad though" from those who 1) are just looking to silence us AND/OR 2) are * benefiting * in some way from the situation being the way it is / has been. When Lewis Howes asked Doctor Ramani "How do you forgive the narcissistic parent who hurt you?" Doctor Ramani Duvursula answered "Maybe you don't". So there's that. ♥♥♥♥♥
I don’t believe In suffering/martyrdom. I don’t believe in forgiving others who show no accountability. People that have harmed me, I’m good, thank you. Self scarification of self, and time, giving supply to a person whom is loveless and limited. My forgiveness and love towards my sister never had an effect on her. She would exhaust an opportunity to harm/break me. You can heal yourself with therapy, self love and surrounding yourself with positive/encouraging and loving people. You can forgive a person without having any involvement/communication or proximity to that person whom you know will continue to cause you harm.
Very beautiful podcast sharing various perspectives. Healing is a journey (not a destination) and we are all products of our mothers’ circumstances.
Carla is very resistant and she doesn't realise she is simultaneously resisting freeing her heart
Did Glennis get professional counseling? Thank God for her transparency. I see the love and sympathy for her mother but not everyone should choose that, or perhaps embrace a little of it. But, I am not a professional counselor. I am eternally grateful for this conversation. It is the first of its kind. Black People need to stop protecting black moms that should not be protected.
Boy, I am in this at 61 mother of 6 one girl ...same , unfortunately my mom is deceased . My ex husband was abusive from his parents so he clung to a religious clut and fighting to get me and the kids out ...my health is bad from anxiety and depression and ptsd....funny how "love " can break you
You are doing an excellent work with your show! This episode.....
I agree...these cycles are not broken
Great episode Tiffany... was tough to listen but needed. I was blessed to have such a good mother who passed 2 years ago, but your discuss allows me to look deeper into women and try to understand. Your past can be a bitch and can carry through to adulthood. But I want you to receive the LOVE you deserve.
This was a great conversation!
This was really good!
Great, Absolutely Great Episode!!!!
Hugs all around❤