The Mother Wound In Men
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- Опубліковано 4 тра 2024
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In this video, I talk about the most common form of the mother wound that I see in my coaching sessions.
(the audio quality is a bit lower because I had a fan on, but hopefully its good enough for you to enjoy)
Most traditional men were raised by a stay at home mother who was very sweet and caring, but who was also overwhelmed with running the house. So she couldn't actually give him the amount of emotional attention and calmness that he craved as a young boy. He felt a degree of isolation from her. And, he usually noticed in his early years that she was treated as an inferior by his father. The combination of sensing the stress in his mother and not receiving the warm connection that he wanted from her + seeing her not being treated with respect and affection by his father, set him up to become a highly wounded man, who learned to relate to women in a damaged and disconnected way.
Some men were raised by a single-mom, or a mother who was dominant over his father in the house. She was very critical, driven, and controlling. This creates a hurt and inadequate sense of self, and a deep resentment against women that will flow into his current relationship. Sometimes, this resentment actually shows up as him being a pleaser, feeling unable to assert boundaries with her.
I love the bit about how when you heal, you become more compassionate to others. WOW this is a great reminder and very encouraging. Thank you❤🙏🏽
Thank you for talking about narcissism in such a compassionate way. I hope many people see this and feel worthy of healing. Right now it seems nearly everyone wants to label their exes as narcissists. I met with someone recently and she said the guy she’s dating is a narcissist. I didn’t want to discount her pain, but I did say you can have narcissistic traits without having NPD and it’s probably from trauma. It makes me so sad that people with trauma end up being completely vilified as a lost cause. They didn’t ask to be traumatized. The world definitely needs more compassion. Thank you!! 🙌
Thanks for this, totally true. But as I said, it takes a lot of inner work to develop TRUE, gentle, loving compassion for all. I am on the journey like everyone else 🙏🏽❤️🌎
Have you ever been in a relationship with a REAL narcissist? I guess not.
I'm kinda feeling sorry for my ex, very abusive ex, who had no problems leaving his own children (our son, and 2 girls from his relationship years ago) behind.and just moving on like they never existed. To say the least.
I know he must have been hurt when he was a child and a teenager. Badly injured. But at the same time when I think about how he was treating me, I wanna send him straight to hell.
I was exactly like this. My mom left me and my two older sisters with my abusive biological father for a year and a half. My sisters had fend for ourselves as he was rarely home. I was 5 at the time. Fast forwards, my step father abused her, she left us again with my abusive stepfather. I was 14. I grew up with women so acting out as a man was not condoned. And i recently realized this after my last relationship where my ex even told me she was acting as my mother. I struggled to act out emotionally out of fear of emotional rejetion. I struggled to be there for her when she needed me emotionally. I miss her so much and she had every right to leave..
You just described my boyfriend 100%
Thank you so much for this video! It brought so much insight into the inner struggles of my partner and the reasons of our conflicts. If brought a lot of insights to me as well, because it applies to what I have experienced in my life. I am so grateful that you are sharing this information, because it is so hard to discover what is truly going on inside us. I am really looking forward to your next videos about the father wound and the mother wound in women.
Wow. What a great vlog. Thank you for all the explanations!
Thank you this is an excellent video for both sides to listen and think about.
Golden knowledge ✨️ 💛 Much gratitude ✨️
I'm the mom who never knew how to love my sons. My dad was abusive and never loved himself, either... my sons are in their 40s. My husband was also treated as a military child. Broken and defensive. All I can do is cry.
I’ve been hurting my wife for 25 years because of this wound and also a father wound. Everything you said is spot on. Bought your father wound online course. Gold! Keep up the good work! This is a global problem and you are helping solve it head on. Very timely. We appreciate you, and your wisdom.
And that's exactly how my dad used to behave. He had both mother and father wound.
Thank you for sharing that
I watch your shorts on Facebook/ instagram and you are incredible at explaining everything so well and spot on. ❤
Thank you for your appreciation ❤
thanks for taking time to create this type of content!!! it's helpful for many of us navigating our own/others trauma 🙂☯️
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I understand all of it and want to work it out. But that person refuse and get onto new relationship. Just because you can understand and be compassionate towards them, doesn’t mean you have to endure the dysfunctionality
This is true :) There comes a point where you have done all you can. As I said, if he is not willing to improve, there can be no healthy relationship ❤
Thank you for this video.A lot of key lightbulb type moments.Your insights and perspective are really inspiring and helpful
Thank you ehsun for the awareness you brought into me while I was in confused state about the term narcissistic personality disorder. Now I got clear idea about the past childhood trauma is the factor of everything 🙏
It absolutely is, in terms of explaining one's behaviour. But the other factor is, are they now open to growing? This is a pivotal factor for people's relationships
Thank you for such a informative video❣️ which it was made sooner, totally could’ve used this information when I was with my ex. It’s so hard to see someone hurt and not knowing how to help 😢
Thank you for appreciating 🙂All happens in divine timing so don't worry. It will make sense soon enough
Thank you for sharing this valuable knowledge Ehsun! Sometimes i wonder ! Is there anyone emotionally healthy anymore? I mean, all i see around is wounded men n women! I just want the whole humanity to heal including myself
Thank you for appreciating. To be honest, humanity has been living in survival mode for thousands of year. So it makes sense why very little of us are currently emotionally healthy. It will take time ❤
Thank you for sharing all your wisdom. I’ve learned so much! I would love to do one on one with you. I’m feeling so disconnected from husband. Like I’m just here, stay at home mom, taking care of kids and house. And he has no need to be loved or feel connected. So I feel like I’m with holding love to give and am not receiving connection from him. He’s very successful self employed, very drive and disciplined man.
Thank you for sharing this. My one to one work has closed for now. But I would love to see you (and perhaps your husband if he is open to it) inside of the new Peace Program starting in June ☺
Hello brother, so here we are ur followers from instagram 🙏🥰
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Sadly I have a big mother wound and have hurt my girlfriend greatly
Can you make also long video for father wound in men
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