I'm 67 I prefer to live in my home by myself I worked around people for years and I like my quiet time I don't want a roommate.I dine out twice a week with friends see my daughter twice a week read a lot rarely watch TV. Because you're alone does not make you lonely.
I had a carer for four years until last Christmas. It was a great help just having somebody to talk to, but she helped in so many other ways. Doctors and hospital appointments, filling in complicated forms occasional outings. Then she left to work for another company outside my area. I have now been told I have to go through another assessment as the whether I need care. I have been sent a nine page form to fill in and it causes me a lot of stress. I have decided to just manage alone. There is nothing in my week to look forward to any more.
Hoping you have found some assistance by now? Being alone and having nothing to look forward to is NO way to live. You are a human being, and humans need to have contact and interactions with each other! Wishing you all the best in life!!
Hi Harvey. I hear you. I'm sick of this world. I'm alone too in 99 percent of ways. I'm also getting really unwell with so many things going on with my body. How are things for you. Did you get help filling in the forms. It can be overwhelming and scary a lot of this stuff.
@@earnold1896 Try to find happiness. Maybe get a pet dog or even a cat? If you get two of them they will entertain you and make you laugh out loud!😜 And they offer So much love and affection!!😊
It is nice to keep a dog or a cat but they too get old and need medicare! If you are living with a family, at least some one will care for your pet when you are gone!
Very good video. He must have been a tough kid to leave home and never see any family members the rest of his life. It's 2017 , I hope he's doing well.
Life lessons from this man: Have lots of savings, Cultivate loving relationships, Take great care of your body (learn reverse aging) ASAP but IMHO, it is never too late to start doing these things.
As much as I agree with u, cultivating loving relationships is by no means a guarantee that you will have the support you need when u need it. There are hundreds of thousands of testimonials from people I know, here on UA-cam and worldwide who share that sentiment. We do the best we can and hope and pray that it can provide us with a foundation 4 the future. There are no formulas 4 a happy life. U wish there were. Peace and love
I work in a retirement community, my job is Activity Coordinator. I plan monthly activities and events that residents enjoy. I understand how important community centers are to people who live alone. Especially to people who had move to a different country to live. Seniors are able to be around people who understand and can relate to their situation.
I wouldn't like to be with oldies who were miserable with money (had investments or never cared for anyone poor) or didn't like animals. I probably wouldn't bother talking to them.
@bobby fa get over yourself....it wasn't a comparison ....it's just knowing how to love It's all about love and comfort ad one ages even a senior dog Its about love dude
What a sweet man. I have had 3 friends go into retirement homes. They are lovely places but not ‘home’ . They all regret not staying in there own homes. The Govt. in New Zealand provides excellent care. I have someone come and cook me dinner each night and twice a week I have home care. That is excellent and all I need. Others get someone in three timers daily for special care. I have seen some dreadful videos of rest homes in England where people are abused. I think this gentleman has made the right choice.
I am 24 years old now and I am a really independent person and never had a girlfriend but i feel kinda lonely but peaceful being alone so im confused. maybe someday i will age and be alone so i think it made me watch these videos.
yeah me too man im 21 years old im independent to cuz i work and never had girlfriend before so i planed to stay single cuz i dont want any comitment arguments cheatings thats i want to be prepared for back up when im getting old like healthcare
I am 50, No kids. Divorced. No friends. No partner. Only my little 7 pound chihuahua Ally, she is my loyal friend. But I been Mentally preparing my mind to keep on living alone. The only thing that scares me the most of what’s ahead, is the getting to that point, when I won’t el able to do things for myself. Eventually I’ll get to the point when I wouldn’t be able to drive, work, health issues, financial issues, so many things that the future holds, very scary.
I am an autistic schizophrenic. I have no friends or family, noone calls at my home apart from workmen carrying out repairs. I choose not to pursue romantic relationships as I've no time for the mindgames, strategies and dramas anymore. When I die I will do so alone, I understand the woman who lived here before me lay dead for weeks before they found her, her name was Maria. There will be noone to arrange my funeral or register my death. Living alone feels bearable probably due to autism, but that doesn't mean I don't like people, I just don't get involved anymore. When I was young I had several friends and enjoyed myself, but as I age I have become isolated. Illness made me withdraw from people since 1990 and I got out of the habit of mixing with people. I like my own company and I don't need people around me as I have time to think to myself and enjoy my surroundings. I am luckier than a lot of people. I have no addictions and I don't go around breaking the law. Christmas alone will be difficult for some, but to be aware of what Christmas is about is a comfort, and a reminder that God loves you so you're never truly alone. I wish you all a Happy Christmas and a peaceful New Year.
This is me..I have once a week housekeeper and once a week someone who was my neighbor. Not a fun day to exist like this. You're old..Sick and not productive..
Mostly all elderly are living alone though they have family even here in USA & 2 of my children could take me in but won't. So I'm okay with being alone because I have to be & I enjoy my own company
@Maryanne Vitale. Unless you are an alcoholic or fighting person (anyone), I think it's terrible how kids would not take in parents in their old age. People are selfish and don't want anything to disturb their lives these days. My son is married to a girl who would never take me in as it would interrupt her cushy life. I was shocked when I found that out. Mind you they don't have a spare room but still, families would have helped a few decades ago.
2:26 The women downstairs chat like ducks. That line killed me. But yes it's a scary feeling and thought to be old and alone. We might all have to deal with. The only thing we can do is prepare for it when we are younger
There should be a balance between getting connected to the community and respect for the space that those seniors living alone wants. They choose to live alone and we should give them space to accept the community that wants to connect with them. The right way is to balance between making them aware and acceptance of connection with the community, and also the space and right to make their own decisions. If you keep checking on them, keep persuading them to be open and be connected, it can backfire at times if the senior is an introvert.
Sitting here, typing on my PC in 2023 never came into my mind. I am approaching my late 80's,reside alone in my modestly large single home, 3 surviving Sons living thousands of miles away. An occasional phone, maybe once a week? Don't use the Picture version on this thing. I always thought and believed that I would pass before my wife. Men usually do. We were married for 65 yrs. had 4 children but my only daughter passed away from cancer at age 50 yrs. I never learned, nor did I want to, that is handling the familys' finance. I just made sure that the bills were paid (my wife was excellent) Trump would have been deathly afraid of her, too honest! I am still suffering even after nearly 2 yrs of my wifes' passing. Everything in Life was connected to her. Gone? Sadly, so am I. I read and listened to the many books and doctors on my crisis. It still exist. Sometimes I get lucky and manage to not think about her. Unfortunately, living in this same home constantly reminds me of her. The loss of a spouse is a major factor. However, this tragedy is compounded by the fact that ALL of my friends, relatives have died. No sincere conversations with anyone. Its a matter of time. see ya!
It is indeed extremely fortunate that developed countries have provisions for the care of the elderly living alone. In the third world country where I was born and where I reside there are no- such facilities. It is not possible to obtain even vaguely approximate percentages of the very poor, the destitute, the homeless, and the very elderly living alone and needing care. For the past six years or so I have been living a life of intense sadness, fear, dread and torment , having lost every single one of my kind, loving and caring friends, and members of my immediate and extended family having outlived them by as much as two decades. I am now past my ninth decade. It is not the fear, dread and torment of dying alone that destroys, but the fear, dread and torment of living alone. All that I can now look forward to is the infinite relief that death will belatedly bestow upon me and the assault on my fellow humans from the stench and inconvenience of the putrefying body of the old man who lived and died alone, friendless, unloved, uncared for and even unnoticed in a run down apartment in their immediate neighbourhood.
Hi Astride I don't know which country you are from but I am from India and currently live in Singapore but have to return to India as I cannot afford to stay in Singapore once I retire. My feelings mirror yours. To make it worse I have a good for nothing husband who squandered all my money. I pray God will take care of you in your time of need and I hope I too can manage in my old age.
Hi Astride I hope you don't mind telling me your country. I hope you can chat with me. I am not a scammer but your story touched my heart. I would like to reach out to you especially since you're 90 years old and need someone to speak to you.
Adult children who take care of their aging parents NEED to commended 👍👍👍 Most adult childre today do not want the responsibility of making sure their parent has their needs met...or help them move into assissted living and a warmer climate. Some still believe (like my 2) that they are capable of doing everything on their own without assistance. My fraternal twins live in California and maybe come here to the Northwest once a year...but rarely together. Just SO very sad 😢
My poor Thai friend, a country folk had a premature baby. I extend my monetary help. He says not necessary. His younger brother working as a security guard had a heart bypass..also do not need monetary assistant. Why? He says something like the government covers a large part of the expenses. Why is Singapore 🇸🇬 a super rich country cannot do the same as Thailand 🇹🇭 We a super rich but our medical bills are also super expensive. Perhaps some Thai will enlighten me/us.
This man would do better if he be watching a computer instead of TV, he gains nothing from TV, but from a computer he can gain wealth from investments into gold and silver and watch fiat money go down hill as gold goes up hill, and knowledge !
I don't diet i eat whatever i love even junk food..I want to enjoy my life and never think about restrictions on food..i believe that God made everything good it's only our thoughts that is affecting our health....I never want to grow very old and become burden to my family....and elderly are very frustrated....it's a torture...they just wanna die so my belief is just eat live and enjoy...don't think about wanting to live long because when your energy is gone nothing else matters and you'll crave death but it won't come quickly because your organs are healthy.
Please check in daily with your friend, who will empty your apartment. I ring the phone once, and if she does not get the ring, she calls or e mails me. I have already donated my body. Alone is not lonely, for family and friends can be deadly.
Read the article by Dr. Ezekiel Emmanuel, M.D. an oncologist - bioethicist at the University of Pennsylvania on why he wanted to die at 75. It's quite thought provoking. You can Google his name.
That is the trouble with Chinese people, a lot of them gamble, gamble away their homes, marriage, money, business etc.... They think they will get rich by winning. This man had gambled away his savings.But he is not homeless. That is a good thing. It is ok living alone with support and community help and social interactions and exercise for fitness. It's independence. Eventually the Care home. We all have to go one day. No exemptions.
Our Nuclear Families, Divorces, Lack of children,lack of Cohesive Family ties. YOU TOO may end up that way !! ALONE !!! BOOOO..... As long as I can crawl and wipe my own butt I'll keep KICKING BUT I do Sincerely hope to die in my sleep at home like my grand parents. Society has changed,young people want to live and have fun. I don't feel SOCIETY Respects older people anymore SAD 😥
we all have to die being alive long is good too long is horror no preparation for how to end life is disaster letting life end after long sickness n pain is evil must be a way to live good n die good u should be able to choose u r death n petfamily's device good death so we can go while we r still in control god made one adam one eve god made incest evil god bible is full of wicked weird gross dirty slimy sick sex mother turn into salt pillar n daughters rape father to start a village jesus is just a jew who die horrible on a cross - don't want to be like him buddha is just an indian who left palace for a tree - don't want to be like him don't be religious/superstitious ok - no one talk about the last stage of life - sickness immobility clinic dr abuse horror - animals or humans - they won't let u die when u need they make u suffer till death govt sell guns knives rods ropes but no forever sleep pill or sth u n petfamily can take n leave together before that last hell segment of life - u can die together in u r own home - sleep pills or sth for easy death for u n petfamily should be sold without prescription n u should be able to keep on hands for emergency or whenever - freedom to decide u r own fate is calming - it's basic freedom - last wish
Terrible translation... he didn't say that if he didn't gamble he would've had savings, he said that when he had money he would either gamble it away or use it to mess around with woman. Nice!
It is quite obvious, if you gamble - you loose. It is an addiction. All that money could had been saved for old age living. May be he has a good pension. He is not homeless. Singapore government does provide.
I led a life similar to his and prefer to be alone and will only mix with other loner types. We have all agreed that nothing could be worse than to be surrounded by family if you had anyone strangers claiming they care about you. So these types prefer to be left alone. They never feel lonely and are very fussy about who they can be bothered seeing. Their idea of horror would be to be forced into a retirement village or old folks' home,no matter how comfortablea d cheap, luxurious it is. They would rather die alone, just avoid putting up with cackling gaggles of old women senile old men. So,leave them be, in the peace, solitude and quietness they love so much. They have great respect for eachother' s privacy and can live next door to each other for weeks not seeing each other but nobody takes offence. I heard one joke to another "Oh, don'tworry about me beingOK. If you smell a foul smell, I must have died. Just let me know and I'll get the place cleaned up..." IThat made me laugh. Another said"If I die, grab all the cakes I made from my cupboard and have a feast before the authorities get in there and grab them all for themselves..." One replied "Why wait till you die, when you could bring them out now? " One such very serious independent old men, former WW2 soldiers were engrossed in a very serious end of life planning type conversations they downed several schooners of beer, getting steadily inebriated. "And no bloody way am I going to ever take me prisoner and shhove me in one of those old folks' places.. ... I managed to survive the warwithout being taken prisoner. Certainly won't let these bastards get me. If they come fr me, see this bottle? ". Held up a tiny tube.The other asked whatdrugs he was on. "Nothing. This is my suicide medicine. As soon as they try to grab me to go to the old folks' home, I will take it and just cark it. They won't take me alive. I never had the chance to live life my way. But I'm gonna make sure I die on my terms, not anybody else's terms. I just won't be going there! Let the rest who like company go there, not me." With quality age care, it is not always about luxury or one size fits all because the oldies had different personality types in youth and retain these in old age and therefore these differences need Tobe respected. But they will all have a few basic simple needs. These include a secure roof which allows them to be as they wish to be because, in old age, a lot of time is spent at home and, if "home" happens to be some tiny box of a "downsized" apartment they all want to cram oldies into, it will be hell. Many would rather sleep under the elements in a tent or even be homeless than live in a box like coffin, as one such person described apartment living, with people in your face non stop, assoon asyou open your window or door for some fresh air. One size fits all simply does not work for accommodation needs. Oldies need a small amount of healthy but edible food. Again, one size does Not fit all because, in an ageing multicultural population, every ethnic senior dreads the prospect of being thrown into some aged care hole where they will never eat a curry or an olive or a shish kebab or whatever ethinic food they love ever again. And some Aussies must have all their supplements they are positive keeps them alive, even if they are just addictions. Some like their alcohol, dope, cigarettes. By a certain age,it no longer matters if you smoke, drink or do drugs etc at wild 60's type parties, so long as nobody else gets harmed in the process eg young people. So let these now oldwild old wayward sons and daughters live life on the wild side one more time before they go out with a big bang, having wild passionate sex high on drugs etc or whatever they enjoyed back then and still crave now. Obviously, they mind offend the gracious clean living types in neat little retirement villages, so best keep these types apart from the rest, to avoid trouble because they may be old and greybutthey can still fight, bitch etc and cause as much trouble as they used to in their youth and they tend to live long, despite their dissipated lifestyles on drugs, alcohol, smoking etc. Medical care is another need but the question is how much for some.It varies and Haas little to do with any real health danger. Some oldies just need the doctor to help them feel good. They visit the doctor often. It's like their hobby. Others hate and dread medical costs, but may occasionally need one. So, they need to be able to easily access care if they feel in serious need. Eg give them easy fast access to a quick medical emergency connection to activate if in extreme need. Or maybe announce that a doctor's doing the rounds and will be available to check any health concerns they may have if they book a visit. But never force it on these types. They hate it. They would probably like instructions or training on how to deal with emergencies themselves, so offer such training course they can do as an interest. Or courses in proper nutrition,, exercise mental health etc. The 5hing most older people will all desperately want is a reason to continue to stay alive. Again, one size does not fit all. The successful grown kids and cute little grand kids family scene suits some. Good luck to them! But what about the ones who never got to happy a "lovely family" and don't give a shit, anyway, because their lives were so very different? Eg hard, poor deprived, disability, single parents, crime,broken homes etc. It was crap then and it's still crap in their old age, as these types a tough survivors who weathered "rotten life deal" and will keep on surviving. They refuse to associate with the "happy lovely family with cute millennial kids and grand kids scene they find very emotionally painful and distressing. Do,why you're these long suffering deprived oldies with having to be among the "happy family" types showing endless tedious "My Last Overseas Trip"(where I nearly got coronavirus) photos? Or pics and stories about their grandkids and millennial shithead politically correct kids ie the ones now making life for some older citizens unbearably hard, to the point where some of these an gry oldies would love to take to grab a gun or machete etc and take out as many millennial politically correct feminist, immigrants,gays etc asthey can get,before going out with a bang themselves. Good last deed for improvement of society finally accomplished a d life finally proved to have "meaning", after all.... Leave these emotionally injured people in peace. Do not aggravate their life pain by forcing them to share space and interact socially with the "my lovely happy family" types. If their lovely happy families are that good, why do they need to always want to be around those whose lives were not so lovely and respectable, successful etc, but a damned site more interesting, not so deadshit boring and conventional, constantly putting those less fortunate down socially, so as to make themselves feel like their own lives mattered at all? Given that, in death, the great thing to celebrate is that everybody becomes equal. Rich,poor, ugly, beautiful, good, bad. Everybody ends upa conformist, like it ornot. Including the wild rebels who like to feel superior for being different from the rest. But, before they die,keep these apart from the rest. Integration will not be possible nor desirable. The results will be a potentially tragic clash.
How are you? I hope this email finds you well. This year, we are working with Agency for Integrated Care [“AIC”] to help them launch their inaugural AIC Video Competition 2019. AIC is a statutory board that empowers seniors to help them thrive in any environment with a community of support. Bringing together a better care system for all, we receive the best health outcomes for our patients to not only heal their bodies, but their souls, as well. To further enhance on the cause, we have decided to embark on the very first AIC Video Competition calling for videos that will tell compelling stories to show us the new face of aging. In 3 to 5 minutes, we hope the budding and independent filmmakers will be able to tell us what “Live Well, Age Well” means to them. All videos will be judged by our panel of elite judges and public voters. Our first-place winner will receive a cash prize of $15,000, second-place will receive $10,000 and third place $5,000. Just a note, the competition is not looking at only new content. It can also be videos completed prior to the call so long as it meets the theme which is "Live well and Age Well". Find more information at aicvideocompetition.com. Do feel free to reach out to me if you have any questions. Have a great week ahead!
It's a sad thing that's why one needs to prepare for retirement i.e. start saving now for the days when one cud not walk properly (don't wait till you're bedridden or harbour the thought that yr children or siblings will be there for u) then with the savings you're able to enter a private nursing home (one that comes with nurses & events to entertain u) till death beacons us ha ha
Trust in Lord Jesus Christ if the spirit of peace is with you! Are you happy with yourself and alone, I think this is the main point, of course some help is necessary. Isolation is not much of a issue anyway.
Mark 1:15 - “The time is fulfilled,” He said, “and the kingdom of God is near. Repent and believe in the gospel!” John 3:16 - For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that everyone who believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life.
Dear filmmaker, How are you? I hope this email finds you well. This year, we are working with Agency for Integrated Care [“AIC”] to help them launch their inaugural AIC Video Competition 2019. AIC is a statutory board that empowers seniors to help them thrive in any environment with a community of support. Bringing together a better care system for all, we receive the best health outcomes for our patients to not only heal their bodies, but their souls, as well. To further enhance on the cause, we have decided to embark on the very first AIC Video Competition calling for videos that will tell compelling stories to show us the new face of aging. In 3 to 5 minutes, we hope the budding and independent filmmakers will be able to tell us what “Live Well, Age Well” means to them. All videos will be judged by our panel of elite judges and public voters. Our first-place winner will receive a cash prize of $15,000, second-place will receive $10,000 and third place $5,000. Just a note, the competiton is not looking at only new content. It can also be videos completed prior to the call so long as it meets the theme which is "Live well and Age Well". Find more information at aicvideocompetition.com. Do feel free to reach out to me if you have any questions. Have a great week ahead! :) Lara
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I'm 67 I prefer to live in my home by myself I worked around people for years and I like my quiet time I don't want a roommate.I dine out twice a week with friends see my daughter twice a week read a lot rarely watch TV. Because you're alone does not make you lonely.
Breaks my heart they are alone ..my mom lives with us and we make sure She has everything
I wanna live alone too when I get old. I wanna be a minimalist gamer with robot maid xD
@@condorX2 6:00 and on The gentleman in light lilac shirt, maybe an MD, has excellent points.
@@Missusri 😂👌
Because you live alone does not make you lonely
@@condorX2... No one knows what health crisis they will have.
I had a carer for four years until last Christmas. It was a great help just having somebody to talk to, but she helped in so many other ways. Doctors and hospital appointments, filling in complicated forms occasional outings. Then she left to work for another company outside my area. I have now been told I have to go through another assessment as the whether I need care. I have been sent a nine page form to fill in and it causes me a lot of stress. I have decided to just manage alone. There is nothing in my week to look forward to any more.
Hoping you have found some assistance by now? Being alone and having nothing to look forward to is NO way to live. You are a human being, and humans need to have contact and interactions with each other! Wishing you all the best in life!!
Hi Harvey. I hear you. I'm sick of this world. I'm alone too in 99 percent of ways.
I'm also getting really unwell with so many things going on with my body. How are things for you. Did you get help filling in the forms. It can be overwhelming and scary a lot of this stuff.
@@earnold1896 Try to find happiness. Maybe get a pet dog or even a cat? If you get two of them they will entertain you and make you laugh out loud!😜 And they offer So much love and affection!!😊
It is nice to keep a dog or a cat but they too get old and need medicare! If you are living with a family, at least some one will care for your pet when you are gone!
I see myself dying alone . Totally not even a friend around. I've been alone for past 15 years.
How do you feel about your circumstance?
@@TheMontesaurus me too single n alone. What is there to feel! Most times when sick I just want to end my life!
From where r u? I like to be your friend
@@roserihanna5126 i m from Malaysia. Where r u from plz?
@@rhuyisia8163 i am from sri lanka dear
Very good video. He must have been a tough kid to leave home and never see any family members the rest of his life. It's 2017 , I hope he's doing well.
It's good he gets some exercise and sees other humans I guess.
Life lessons from this man: Have lots of savings, Cultivate loving relationships, Take great care of your body (learn reverse aging) ASAP but IMHO, it is never too late to start doing these things.
As much as I agree with u, cultivating loving relationships is by no means a guarantee that you will have the support you need when u need it. There are hundreds of thousands of testimonials from people I know, here on UA-cam and worldwide who share that sentiment.
We do the best we can and hope and pray that it can provide us with a foundation 4 the future. There are no formulas 4 a happy life. U wish there were.
Peace and love
god bless him. I hope someone will reach out to him.
I work in a retirement community, my job is Activity Coordinator. I plan monthly activities and events that residents enjoy. I understand how important community centers are to people who live alone. Especially to people who had move to a different country to live. Seniors are able to be around people who understand and can relate to their situation.
I wouldn't like to be with oldies who were miserable with money (had investments or never cared for anyone poor) or didn't like animals. I probably wouldn't bother talking to them.
This is so sad :( I'm going to take care of my parents when they're old. In fact i'm even taking care of my senior dog right now.
I am caring for a senior dog too
@bobby fa get over yourself....it wasn't a comparison ....it's just knowing how to love
It's all about love and comfort ad one ages even a senior dog
Its about love dude
Andy baby. blessings to you.
@dreonthetube. You are a kind person.
I love this man I wish I could keep Him. I'm growing old alone lonely too I'm 58 it's very lonely
What a sweet man. I have had 3 friends go into retirement homes. They are lovely places but not ‘home’ . They all regret not staying in there own homes. The Govt. in New Zealand provides excellent care. I have someone come and cook me dinner each night and twice a week I have home care. That is excellent and all I need. Others get someone in three timers daily for special care. I have seen some dreadful videos of rest homes in England where people are abused. I think this gentleman has made the right choice.
@carol king... Who buys your groceries.
I am 24 years old now and I am a really independent person and never had a girlfriend but i feel kinda lonely but peaceful being alone so im confused. maybe someday i will age and be alone so i think it made me watch these videos.
I’m the opposite. I’ve had many women, but will still be alone. By choice. If you want women, meet me in Colombia.
yeah me too man im 21 years old im independent to cuz i work and never had girlfriend before so i planed to stay single cuz i dont want any comitment arguments cheatings thats i want to be prepared for back up when im getting old like healthcare
I am 50, No kids. Divorced. No friends. No partner. Only my little 7 pound chihuahua Ally, she is my loyal friend. But I been Mentally preparing my mind to keep on living alone. The only thing that scares me the most of what’s ahead, is the getting to that point, when I won’t el able to do things for myself. Eventually I’ll get to the point when I wouldn’t be able to drive, work, health issues, financial issues, so many things that the future holds, very scary.
Same age, no kids, divorcing and am lucky I have my dear little dog. I hear your fears.
Long life could be a blessing to some, but a curse to others.
How fortunate to have a group to share with
I am an autistic schizophrenic.
I have no friends or family, noone calls at my home apart from workmen carrying out repairs.
I choose not to pursue romantic relationships as I've no time for the mindgames, strategies and dramas anymore.
When I die I will do so alone, I understand the woman who lived here before me lay dead for weeks before they found her, her name was Maria.
There will be noone to arrange my funeral or register my death.
Living alone feels bearable probably due to autism, but that doesn't mean I don't like people, I just don't get involved anymore.
When I was young I had several friends and enjoyed myself, but as I age I have become isolated.
Illness made me withdraw from people since 1990 and I got out of the habit of mixing with people.
I like my own company and I don't need people around me as I have time to think to myself and enjoy my surroundings.
I am luckier than a lot of people.
I have no addictions and I don't go around breaking the law.
Christmas alone will be difficult for some, but to be aware of what Christmas is about is a comfort, and a reminder that God loves you so you're never truly alone.
I wish you all a Happy Christmas and a peaceful New Year.
I hope you are doing well. Merry Christmas 2023.
How are you now ?
This is me..I have once a week housekeeper and once a week someone who was my neighbor.
Not a fun day to exist like this.
You're old..Sick and not productive..
Praises The Lord seniors needs 2 be huge daily. They look sad with out any huges
Or laughing.hugeing in these life.
Abandon by his children in Singapore.... or else? Life is very lonely and sad living alone at old age.
Mostly all elderly are living alone though they have family even here in USA & 2 of my children could take me in but won't. So I'm okay with being alone because I have to be & I enjoy my own company
@Maryanne Vitale. Unless you are an alcoholic or fighting person (anyone), I think it's terrible how kids would not take in parents in their old age. People are selfish and don't want anything to disturb their lives these days. My son is married to a girl who would never take me in as it would interrupt her cushy life. I was shocked when I found that out. Mind you they don't have a spare room but still,
families would have helped a few decades ago.
Love him watching from Rochester New York. I am alone to 58 years old 59 next month
I hope your birthday went well.
2:26 The women downstairs chat like ducks.
That line killed me.
But yes it's a scary feeling and thought to be old and alone. We might all have to deal with. The only thing we can do is prepare for it when we are younger
After he said that, l dont talk 2 much @ the SENIOR center around the men.😄
It is good to chat. The trouble with some men are they don't want to talk or socialise.
Ganda Ko yes
Wendy Brierley talking too much or too little is not good, just right
Great videos, thank you so much for sharing this.. breaks my heart to see them alone too :( :( wish no one would be alone...
how s Mr. Leong now (2020 ) ? i would love to visit Mr. Leong .
There should be a balance between getting connected to the community and respect for the space that those seniors living alone wants. They choose to live alone and we should give them space to accept the community that wants to connect with them. The right way is to balance between making them aware and acceptance of connection with the community, and also the space and right to make their own decisions. If you keep checking on them, keep persuading them to be open and be connected, it can backfire at times if the senior is an introvert.
Sitting here, typing on my PC in 2023 never came into my mind. I am approaching my late 80's,reside alone in my modestly large single home, 3 surviving Sons living thousands of miles away. An occasional phone, maybe once a week? Don't use the Picture version on this thing.
I always thought and believed that I would pass before my wife. Men usually do. We were married for 65 yrs. had 4 children but my only daughter passed away from cancer at age 50 yrs. I never learned, nor did I want to, that is handling the familys' finance. I just made sure that the bills were paid (my wife was excellent) Trump would have been deathly afraid of her, too honest! I am still suffering even after nearly 2 yrs of my wifes' passing. Everything in Life was connected to her. Gone? Sadly, so am I. I read and listened to the many books and doctors on my crisis. It still exist. Sometimes I get lucky and manage to not think about her. Unfortunately, living in this same home constantly reminds me of her.
The loss of a spouse is a major factor. However, this tragedy is compounded by the fact that ALL of my friends, relatives have died. No sincere conversations with anyone. Its a matter of time. see ya!
It is indeed extremely fortunate that developed countries have provisions for the care of the elderly living alone. In the third world country where I was born and where I reside there are no- such facilities. It is not possible to obtain even vaguely approximate percentages of the very poor, the destitute, the homeless, and the very elderly living alone and needing care.
For the past six years or so I have been living a life of intense sadness, fear, dread and torment , having lost every single one of my kind, loving and caring friends, and members of my immediate and extended family having outlived them by as much as two decades. I am now past my ninth decade. It is not the fear, dread and torment of dying alone that destroys, but the fear, dread and torment of living alone.
All that I can now look forward to is the infinite relief that death will belatedly bestow upon me and the assault on my fellow humans from the stench and inconvenience of the putrefying body of the old man who lived and died alone, friendless, unloved, uncared for and even unnoticed in a run down apartment in their immediate neighbourhood.
Hi Astride I don't know which country you are from but I am from India and currently live in Singapore but have to return to India as I cannot afford to stay in Singapore once I retire. My feelings mirror yours. To make it worse I have a good for nothing husband who squandered all my money. I pray God will take care of you in your time of need and I hope I too can manage in my old age.
@@jayakumariveeraraghavan1593 tThank you dear lady for your feelings. I wish you the very best under the circumstance you find yourself. Bless you.
Hi Astride I hope you don't mind telling me your country. I hope you can chat with me. I am not a scammer but your story touched my heart. I would like to reach out to you especially since you're 90 years old and need someone to speak to you.
What a Living Legand. .. and we complain of a headache we have no right to complain we have people all around to at least care about us.
L.l
=( it makes me sad seeing him eat so unhealthily and he seems to unhappy
Adult children who take care of their aging parents NEED to commended 👍👍👍
Most adult childre today do not want the responsibility of making sure their parent has their needs met...or help them move into assissted living and a warmer climate. Some still believe (like my 2) that they are capable of doing everything on their own without assistance.
My fraternal twins live in California and maybe come here to the Northwest once a year...but rarely together.
Just SO very sad 😢
I’d take care of him :(
@bobby fa you troll
@bobby fa what are you looking for a fight....your comments are very unkind
Malaysian PM is 94 and he is nowhere near this man. Our PM lives like a healthy 40 year old man.
It goes to show you will be much better off in whatever age, if you have $ and power.
@@forevergraceful6160 nope.it is all about planning. if you planning carefully,money is not a problem.
Loneliness is one of the worst forms of poverty.
There are people that aren't poor but lonely.😢
I don't mind dying alone too. Live your life in ur own terms.
My poor Thai friend, a country folk had a premature baby. I extend my monetary help. He says not necessary.
His younger brother working as a security guard had a heart bypass..also do not need monetary assistant.
Why?
He says something like the government covers a large part of the expenses.
Why is Singapore 🇸🇬 a super rich country cannot do the same as Thailand 🇹🇭
We a super rich but our medical bills are also super expensive.
Perhaps some Thai will enlighten me/us.
What should I say for challenges in the videos
I hope you do not mind zi believe in prayer. I do not know you nor Do I live close. I am praying zgod sends you someone.
This man would do better if he be watching a computer instead of TV, he gains nothing from TV, but from a computer he can gain wealth from investments into gold and silver and watch fiat money go down hill as gold goes up hill, and knowledge !
Truly sad. We deserve better.
I don't diet i eat whatever i love even junk food..I want to enjoy my life and never think about restrictions on food..i believe that God made everything good it's only our thoughts that is affecting our health....I never want to grow very old and become burden to my family....and elderly are very frustrated....it's a torture...they just wanna die so my belief is just eat live and enjoy...don't think about wanting to live long because when your energy is gone nothing else matters and you'll crave death but it won't come quickly because your organs are healthy.
Look after you parents ur kids will definitely look after u when you are older .it's like 1 plus 1 equal 2
Please check in daily with your friend, who will empty your apartment. I ring the phone once, and if she does not get the ring, she calls or e mails me. I have already donated my body. Alone is not lonely, for family and friends can be deadly.
That's so sad.
Read the article by Dr. Ezekiel Emmanuel, M.D. an oncologist - bioethicist at the University of Pennsylvania on why he wanted to die at 75. It's quite thought provoking. You can Google his name.
I will have my own family. I will not be a burden to them but want to die with people around me.
Stay at home society could care less from my experience. Healthcare dehumanized in USA
Be independent to the end.
The best and true part from 2:27.
He said the women downstairs chat like ducks 🦆 😂 👌🏼
That is the trouble with Chinese people, a lot of them gamble, gamble away their homes, marriage, money, business etc.... They think they will get rich by winning. This man had gambled away his savings.But he is not homeless. That is a good thing.
It is ok living alone with support and community help and social interactions and exercise for fitness. It's independence.
Eventually the Care home. We all have to go one day. No exemptions.
Our Nuclear Families, Divorces, Lack of children,lack of Cohesive Family ties. YOU TOO may end up that way !! ALONE !!! BOOOO..... As long as I can crawl and wipe my own butt I'll keep KICKING BUT I do Sincerely hope to die in my sleep at home like my grand parents.
Society has changed,young people want to live and have fun. I don't feel SOCIETY Respects older people anymore SAD 😥
At least he can fed himself
Something at least
Hey, this is me soon 😂
we all have to die
being alive long is good too long is horror
no preparation for how to end life is disaster
letting life end after long sickness n pain is evil
must be a way to live good n die good
u should be able to choose u r death n petfamily's
device good death so we can go while we r still in control
god made one adam one eve god made incest evil god
bible is full of wicked weird gross dirty slimy sick sex
mother turn into salt pillar n daughters rape father to start a village
jesus is just a jew who die horrible on a cross - don't want to be like him
buddha is just an indian who left palace for a tree - don't want to be like him
don't be religious/superstitious
ok - no one talk about the last stage of life - sickness immobility clinic dr abuse horror - animals or humans - they won't let u die when u need they make u suffer till death
govt sell guns knives rods ropes but no forever sleep pill or sth u n petfamily can take n leave together before that last hell segment of life - u can die together in u r own home - sleep pills or sth for easy death for u n petfamily should be sold without prescription n u should be able to keep on hands for emergency or whenever - freedom to decide u r own fate is calming - it's basic freedom - last wish
Terrible translation... he didn't say that if he didn't gamble he would've had savings, he said that when he had money he would either gamble it away or use it to mess around with woman. Nice!
It is quite obvious, if you gamble - you loose. It is an addiction. All that money could had been saved for old age living. May be he has a good pension. He is not homeless. Singapore government does provide.
I led a life similar to his and prefer to be alone and will only mix with other loner types. We have all agreed that nothing could be worse than to be surrounded by family if you had anyone strangers claiming they care about you. So these types prefer to be left alone. They never feel lonely and are very fussy about who they can be bothered seeing. Their idea of horror would be to be forced into a retirement village or old folks' home,no matter how comfortablea d cheap, luxurious it is. They would rather die alone, just avoid putting up with cackling gaggles of old women senile old men. So,leave them be, in the peace, solitude and quietness they love so much. They have great respect for eachother' s privacy and can live next door to each other for weeks not seeing each other but nobody takes offence. I heard one joke to another "Oh, don'tworry about me beingOK. If you smell a foul smell, I must have died. Just let me know and I'll get the place cleaned up..." IThat made me laugh. Another said"If I die, grab all the cakes I made from my cupboard and have a feast before the authorities get in there and grab them all for themselves..." One replied "Why wait till you die, when you could bring them out now? " One such very serious independent old men, former WW2 soldiers were engrossed in a very serious end of life planning type conversations they downed several schooners of beer, getting steadily inebriated. "And no bloody way am I going to ever take me prisoner and shhove me in one of those old folks' places.. ... I managed to survive the warwithout being taken prisoner. Certainly won't let these bastards get me. If they come fr me, see this bottle? ". Held up a tiny tube.The other asked whatdrugs he was on. "Nothing. This is my suicide medicine. As soon as they try to grab me to go to the old folks' home, I will take it and just cark it. They won't take me alive. I never had the chance to live life my way. But I'm gonna make sure I die on my terms, not anybody else's terms. I just won't be going there! Let the rest who like company go there, not me." With quality age care, it is not always about luxury or one size fits all because the oldies had different personality types in youth and retain these in old age and therefore these differences need Tobe respected. But they will all have a few basic simple needs. These include a secure roof which allows them to be as they wish to be because, in old age, a lot of time is spent at home and, if "home" happens to be some tiny box of a "downsized" apartment they all want to cram oldies into, it will be hell. Many would rather sleep under the elements in a tent or even be homeless than live in a box like coffin, as one such person described apartment living, with people in your face non stop, assoon asyou open your window or door for some fresh air. One size fits all simply does not work for accommodation needs. Oldies need a small amount of healthy but edible food. Again, one size does Not fit all because, in an ageing multicultural population, every ethnic senior dreads the prospect of being thrown into some aged care hole where they will never eat a curry or an olive or a shish kebab or whatever ethinic food they love ever again. And some Aussies must have all their supplements they are positive keeps them alive, even if they are just addictions. Some like their alcohol, dope, cigarettes. By a certain age,it no longer matters if you smoke, drink or do drugs etc at wild 60's type parties, so long as nobody else gets harmed in the process eg young people. So let these now oldwild old wayward sons and daughters live life on the wild side one more time before they go out with a big bang, having wild passionate sex high on drugs etc or whatever they enjoyed back then and still crave now. Obviously, they mind offend the gracious clean living types in neat little retirement villages, so best keep these types apart from the rest, to avoid trouble because they may be old and greybutthey can still fight, bitch etc and cause as much trouble as they used to in their youth and they tend to live long, despite their dissipated lifestyles on drugs, alcohol, smoking etc. Medical care is another need but the question is how much for some.It varies and Haas little to do with any real health danger. Some oldies just need the doctor to help them feel good. They visit the doctor often. It's like their hobby. Others hate and dread medical costs, but may occasionally need one. So, they need to be able to easily access care if they feel in serious need. Eg give them easy fast access to a quick medical emergency connection to activate if in extreme need. Or maybe announce that a doctor's doing the rounds and will be available to check any health concerns they may have if they book a visit. But never force it on these types. They hate it. They would probably like instructions or training on how to deal with emergencies themselves, so offer such training course they can do as an interest. Or courses in proper nutrition,, exercise mental health etc. The 5hing most older people will all desperately want is a reason to continue to stay alive. Again, one size does not fit all. The successful grown kids and cute little grand kids family scene suits some. Good luck to them! But what about the ones who never got to happy a "lovely family" and don't give a shit, anyway, because their lives were so very different? Eg hard, poor deprived, disability, single parents, crime,broken homes etc. It was crap then and it's still crap in their old age, as these types a tough survivors who weathered "rotten life deal" and will keep on surviving. They refuse to associate with the "happy lovely family with cute
millennial kids and grand kids scene they find very emotionally painful and distressing. Do,why you're these long suffering deprived oldies with having to be among the "happy family" types showing endless tedious "My Last Overseas Trip"(where I nearly got coronavirus) photos? Or pics and stories about their grandkids and millennial shithead politically correct kids ie the ones now making life for some older citizens unbearably hard, to the point where some of these an gry oldies would love to take
to grab a gun or machete etc and take out as many millennial politically correct feminist, immigrants,gays etc asthey can get,before going out with a bang themselves. Good last deed for improvement of society finally accomplished a d life finally proved to have "meaning", after all.... Leave these emotionally injured people in peace. Do not aggravate their life pain by forcing them to share space and interact socially with the "my lovely happy family" types. If their lovely happy families are that good, why do they need to always want to be around those whose lives were not so lovely and respectable, successful etc, but a damned site more interesting, not so deadshit boring and conventional, constantly putting those less fortunate down socially, so as to make themselves feel like their own lives mattered at all? Given that, in death, the great thing to celebrate is that everybody becomes equal. Rich,poor, ugly, beautiful, good, bad. Everybody ends upa conformist, like it ornot. Including the wild rebels who like to feel superior for being different from the rest. But, before they die,keep these apart from the rest. Integration will not be possible nor desirable. The results will be a potentially tragic clash.
I want to live alone too when I get old. I wanna be a minimalist gamer.
Very brave of you ..good luck
He GAMBLED AWAY ALL HIS MONEY WHEN HE WAS YOUNG.....
I'm sure he never had much based on the types of jobs he had. He ran away young and never learned life skills. Poor man. 😟
How are you? I hope this email finds you well.
This year, we are working with Agency for Integrated Care [“AIC”] to help them launch their inaugural AIC Video Competition 2019. AIC is a statutory board that empowers seniors to help them thrive in any environment with a community of support. Bringing together a better care system for all, we receive the best health outcomes for our patients to not only heal their bodies, but their souls, as well.
To further enhance on the cause, we have decided to embark on the very first AIC Video Competition calling for videos that will tell compelling stories to show us the new face of aging. In 3 to 5 minutes, we hope the budding and independent filmmakers will be able to tell us what “Live Well, Age Well” means to them. All videos will be judged by our panel of elite judges and public voters. Our first-place winner will receive a cash prize of $15,000, second-place will receive $10,000 and third place $5,000.
Just a note, the competition is not looking at only new content. It can also be videos completed prior to the call so long as it meets the theme which is "Live well and Age Well".
Find more information at aicvideocompetition.com.
Do feel free to reach out to me if you have any questions. Have a great week ahead!
... ⚓🌏❤... was there a time, when our children, families, stayed together as a unit, and the elderly stayed, and were taken of?... ☕🥪🍲
I am also single and alone. I am in my 50's, still cannot get my flat cos money not enough.
Honey please take care of yourself.
It's a sad thing that's why one needs to prepare for retirement i.e. start saving now for the days when one cud not walk properly (don't wait till you're bedridden or harbour the thought that yr children or siblings will be there for u) then with the savings you're able to enter a private nursing home (one that comes with nurses & events to entertain u) till death beacons us ha ha
When life is lonely , it’s so hard to move on ...... if every body found a soul mate ;(.... at least someone to talk and take care of them ;(....
sounds like the ocean
I still have love for germany. I love chinas history
Trust in Lord Jesus Christ if the spirit of peace is with you! Are you happy with yourself and alone, I think this is the main point, of course some help is necessary. Isolation is not much of a issue anyway.
Talk is easy -no action- 2024 few died alone at home untill
Smell --Bad
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John 3:16 - For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that everyone who believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life.
Dear filmmaker,
How are you? I hope this email finds you well.
This year, we are working with Agency for Integrated Care [“AIC”] to help them launch their inaugural AIC Video Competition 2019. AIC is a statutory board that empowers seniors to help them thrive in any environment with a community of support. Bringing together a better care system for all, we receive the best health outcomes for our patients to not only heal their bodies, but their souls, as well.
To further enhance on the cause, we have decided to embark on the very first AIC Video Competition calling for videos that will tell compelling stories to show us the new face of aging. In 3 to 5 minutes, we hope the budding and independent filmmakers will be able to tell us what “Live Well, Age Well” means to them. All videos will be judged by our panel of elite judges and public voters. Our first-place winner will receive a cash prize of $15,000, second-place will receive $10,000 and third place $5,000.
Just a note, the competiton is not looking at only new content. It can also be videos completed prior to the call so long as it meets the theme which is "Live well and Age Well".
Find more information at aicvideocompetition.com.
Do feel free to reach out to me if you have any questions. Have a great week ahead!
:)
Lara
😢😢😢😍😍😍
Sorry to says but most chinese like yo send their elderly to homecare so sadlh take care them as they r there....
Welcome to Singapore 🇸🇬😂😂😂
He gambled his money away
What the fuck is life
Believe & Trust in the Lord & Savior Jesus Christ. Repent of your sins. He will never forsake you. Rejoice for God is good, pray & give thanks in everything. Read the Bible and you will gain wisdom. God bless you!🎉
I'll like old people
Kaluoy c grandad
But he never learnt English