Simple solution (1 way) 1. Elder people can rent out their flat. Rent out to foreign workers with ‘s’ pass at a low rate. Their pay is usually low and will be glad to stay at where they can afford. It’s a win/win situation. They help to pay for your water/electricity bills. 2. I rent out mine and I am 76+ yrs now. Tenants now are like my children. They ‘take care’ of me and I take care of them like my children. 3. Their rooms/my room are not lock. When they go to work I tidy up their rooms & do gardening 🪴 & house cleaning. When they come home they cook and we eat with together. They help to clean the house on their off days. They are happy, I am happy. 🙏 …and stay healthy.
Hai, I am from Malaysia. Almost 75. Though I don't live alone, I support your idea. Just be cautious of rouge tenants. May be install a strict filter via recommendation from good firnds
@@hendonanwar8656 Yes. One has to filter out the potentially ‘bad & ugly’ out before renting out. In my case I rented my rooms to my Myanmar acquaintances. They are very nice people. My more older couples left their door open even at night but only with the metal gate closed. They are both near to the 90s. The hubby is ‘near bed ridden’. I do chat and look out for them.
Trauma cleaners are okay. They're wearing full suits. Respect goes to the Police and SCDF who sees the actual body and has to carry it as well to the Police hearse.
@@theachilles96 Yeah I agree, everyone play a role. If one person do everything gg bro, i will trauma confirm. imagine u remove the body, then u need to do the showering, then you need to do the cemetry or burning stuff. gg
can't agree more. as a person who ever be volunteer for disaster victims, this trauma cleaner is really a very respectable person. very less can handle corpse remain.
Karma to this uncle and many ,who kept VOTING THE SAME WAY AND TO THE SAME PARTY FOR DECADES! This is his end result and so will many like him. But not to those who have PLENTY OF MONEY here!😆😆
@@ravenjaxsnerdymommy5297regarding this part I am more used to it as i start visiting the old folks since i am 13. It's something i already got used to for decade. Those flash back of knowing people who die alone, people whom i once talk to and spend quality time with. I am crying like baby while reading the comment section to seek some peace.
@@prolikereal2i understand some people might have not been a good parent thus their children abandoned them. Also for divorced family, some times the children stop communicating with dad because they feel the pain of the mum. My good friend who is divorced at 27 with 2 children. She is already uncomfortable her ex hubby see the children once a week. I try to convince her that the ex also have his rights as a father. I have a tiktok local host friend who's mother will explode if anyone mentioned her father. She just said she cannot put on weight because she have her father's gene and the mother blow out and show her lots of tantrums for 2 weeks straight on live stream even when she cry.
My big respect for the people who are caring and socializing with the people who are the issue in this documentary and especially for the maker(s) of this documentary.Thnx a lot.
This hits so hard, I cried when they show the muslim women who died alone. Her son bought her a bag that she wanted very much. Her husband passed on and she lived alone.
We all have to accept that we die one day. While you're alive, live your life fully, peacefully and joyfully. I have absolutely no fear of lonely death. However, the fear of dying slowly and painfully in sickness is more frightened than dying alone.
I am 73 male living alone too but my younger bro phone me everyday told him if if he don't hear me for 2 days continously check me i gave him a set of key i have chronic illnesses from head to toe former stroke heart problem inc i think i need
god made one adam one eve god made incest evil god bible is full of wicked weird gross dirty slimy sick sex mother turn into salt pillar n daughters rape father to start a village jesus is just a jew who die horrible on a cross - don't want to be like him buddha is just an indian who left palace for a tree - don't want to be like him ok - but no one talk about the last stage of life - sickness immobility clinic dr abuse horror - animals or humans - they won't let u die when u need they make u suffer till death govt sell guns knives rods ropes but no forever sleep pill or sth u n pet family can take n leave together before that last hell segment of life - u can die together in u r own home - sleep pills or sth for easy death for u n pets should be sold without prescription n u should be able to keep on hands for emergency or whenever - freedom to decide u r own fate is calming - it's basic freedom - last wish
Potentially the government should offer a logging system for senior citizens living alone, such that they click some button every 24hrs(or some other interval), if they fail to do so, a warning can be sent out, and after a certain amount of time a social worker should be sent to check on them and make sure everything is ok, perhaps this can be made into an app? Maybe something like this should be made available to all adults crossing the age of 65-70?
My dad died alone. He kept pushing me away the two days before he died. A few months before that, I forced him to give me the keys to his house. As a result, those first two days, I would just come in to check on him as he yelled at me to leave. I found him the 3rd day. As his child, I always wonder what those last moments were like.
Maybe it was his wish to die alone? I work in healthcare and I've had patients who pass away when their family members leave the bedside to buy something. Sometimes it's just their preference.
@@tomryann86only after Spore allowed Free Visa! Now everywhere..here there like cannot see our own local faces leh?! All other asian faces sian to the max!! Spore meh like this?? Yucks lah bcoz of them!!!
I am in a similar situation. Death is better than this kind of life. I even lost the one person who mattered to me in this life, 2 weeks ago. Now the thought of living is a horror to me. I am cleaning up my stuff and sorting my affairs and will end this life within the next 4 months.
god made one adam one eve god made incest evil god bible is full of wicked weird gross dirty slimy sick sex mother turn into salt pillar n daughters rape father to start a village jesus is just a jew who die horrible on a cross - don't want to be like him buddha is just an indian who left palace for a tree - don't want to be like him ok - but no one talk about the last stage of life - sickness immobility clinic dr abuse horror - animals or humans - they won't let u die when u need they make u suffer till death govt sell guns knives rods ropes but no forever sleep pill or sth u n pet family can take n leave together before that last hell segment of life - u can die together in u r own home - sleep pills or sth for easy death for u n pets should be sold without prescription n u should be able to keep on hands for emergency or whenever - freedom to decide u r own fate is calming - it's basic freedom - last wish
To lose your loving partner after having being together a lifetime is catastrophic , i am a witness to that and one of so many.Since his passing, i never have felt the happiness when being together, less talking of the dying process which was horrible because of the nature of the disease which was brain cancer.
The elderly Muslim lady passing away at home is really tragic. I think people didn't notice her death because those who knew her thought someone would find out if she died. She actively befriended one of her neighbour's daughter, participated in social events in the community, and her son even checked in on her weekly. But she slipped through the gaps precisely because she had such a strong safety net. We tend to keep to ourselves so sometimes maybe people don't like to be 'kay poh' or overreacting when no one replies. I just feel so much for her son and her daughter-in-law, they need therapy to grieve over such a traumatic experience. Kudos to the trauma cleaners for their hard work! It definitely isn't an easy job but a necessary one.
Exactly. I have to especially stop when I watch that part. Then i resumed watching today. My neighbour pass away at home alone about a year ago. His elder son kick his 2nd son and he moved out and only visit him outside the house. There are food delivery to my neighbour twice a day but no one find out he died. It's after the 2nd day the social worker notice the untouched food then call the police. Police even ask us before they break into the house. My mum said we just saw him chatting at void deck a few days ago. My malay neighbour said she got uneasy feeling when she didn't see the old man water his plant in the morning but didn't dare to bother or be kaypo. None of us even notice the food are untouched as we never open the plastic bag. Usually he will put the eaten food in plastic at corridor for the delivery person or cleaners to throw away.
@@gbear8207 The son stated that he got busy with work, so it's understandable that sometimes he failed to check on her weekly. Plus, he assumed that if she did not pick up the phone when he called, she would be at JB since that's a habit he knows that she has. Even the neighbour thought she went to JB because she was healthy enough to go to JB by herself. Each part of her social net thought she was accounted for, and they don't check in on her everyday. After all, you can visit on a Saturday and the elderly might pass on a Sunday due to some freak accident. This is completely out of their control. That's why she slipped through the cracks. In another part of the documentary, there was a niece who failed to check in on her uncle due to life events. By the time the neighbour alert her that something was amiss, she missed catching her uncle alive by 3 days. She had to mourn her husband's passing a few months before and now has to live with a traumatic experience of finding her uncle's corpse. We are only human...
@@celestialstar124 Yeah, sometimes we tend to not check in because there's a habit by the elderly where it can explain why no one noticed something was amiss. There was a period of time where my elderly neighbour, who stays alone, did not check in with my mom for a while. It scared us. Later, the neighbour returned to tell us that she had been hospitalised for surgery. She did engage some home nurse service but decided not to, preferring her own freedom and doing things her own way. We need to respect the elderly's decision to live on their own but yet sometimes, they themselves may not be receptive. Nowadays, people tend to close their doors, so it's even harder to encounter your neighbours...
Tak sadar air mata aku mengalir sepanjang menonton video ni, barangkali pada usia emas begini emosi ku memang rapuh. I'm now 71 and live in JB with my wife, 66 and a son who for most time wfh. I don't know for how long this will go on, and I don't brush aside eventuallity of living alone one day for either one of us. Nowdays, living alone in our final years of life makes us vulnerable to dying alone. Sadly, this is becoming a norm within modern societies. Orang Melayu kata, kita kini hidup bernafsi-nafsi, masing-masing dalam gelembung keluarga nuklearnya.
If I recall correctly, I recently came across an article about a place in Japan where the elderly have an agreed daily practice of hanging specific colored flags outside their door to let their neighbours know they are alive, as Japan also has a high rate of lonely deaths at home.
I won’t want to have a pet when lm old and if lm living alone. I won’t want the poor animal left behind, frightened, depressed and be starved to death. I remember my friend’s pet toy dog literally crying a river and sighing away on the sofa in the imminent hour of its owner’s dying at the hospital. Yeah, animals can really sense such stuff.
I think we need more visits by social workers by identifying who is who above 60 and living where and with whom. Also to appointment a neighbour volunteers to keep an eye on people who live alone. I can volunteer to do this during my off days. To take care someone living within my vicinity. It's very sad and these elders deserve love, care and respect.
Empathetic & caring people in the neighborhood & the community is the critical need . And where possible a community center or a club for the elderly in the neighborhood where they can have low or no cost meals , socialize, participate in activities & contribute their skills for some work . That way others are aware they exist & notice when they are missing
Watched another video by MOSG which featured Rahman's teenage daughter who does the trauma cleaning with him. Kudos to Rahman and his family for doing such a underrated job.
god made one adam one eve god made incest evil god bible is full of wicked weird gross dirty slimy sick sex mother turn into salt pillar n daughters rape father to start a village jesus is just a jew who die horrible on a cross - don't want to be like him buddha is just an indian who left palace for a tree - don't want to be like him ok - but no one talk about the last stage of life - sickness immobility clinic dr abuse horror - animals or humans - they won't let u die when u need they make u suffer till death govt sell guns knives rods ropes but no forever sleep pill or sth u n pet family can take n leave together before that last hell segment of life - u can die together in u r own home - sleep pills or sth for easy death for u n pets should be sold without prescription n u should be able to keep on hands for emergency or whenever - freedom to decide u r own fate is calming - it's basic freedom - last wish
Living alone is heavenly as compared to living with manipulative, selfish and toxic family members or relatives. Nothing to fear about dying alone but make sure you don't suffer by taking good care of yourself and living a healthy lifestyle. Believe in karma, what you reap is what you sow. We all die someday, we will either be cremated or rot six feet down under. In any case, we will become part of dust or soil and return back to nature eventually. So, what is there to fret about living and dying alone?🙏
Without intruding privacy, we can install motion sensors and social services can be notified if there are no motion detected in their homes for a few days. They can try to contact the home owner when it's flagged out.
Wow this is a great idea. Telco should chase up on this. With bundle SIM card for easier setup. With both build in rechargeable battery and direct AC power line too. There should be cameras with wide angle such that one camera per room. They can ask to have CPF pay for the service bill.
Are you from Singapore? You can reach out to the local authorities, because it is not only a great idea, but easy to implement and could be done cheaply
@@HS-rb6vq Yup in the 1990s and early 2000. Anyone with great idea. They took it up, make it large scale and never pay royalties for intellectual property rights. Thats why local companies failed. Nowdays they protect local companies though, but still need to have connections. Nowdyas too, they pick up ideas from opposition parties, out of desperation but never admit that the original ideas came not from the ruling party. Being a nation of bullies, what more can we ask for.
Saw this three part documentary on TV. Finally it is here on UA-cam. Now we know what is trauma cleaning. Next of kin is important. Thank you Cheng Hong Welfare Service Society.😢
This series makes me cry. But at the same time heartened that there are kind souls out there who care. Kudos to CNA for yet another brilliant documentary 👍
@@queva3062. Very ironically. Sometimes the instigators of “broken relationships” themselves are the perpetually vocal, very loud, self-righteous, holier-than-thou, Bible-thumping “evangelical” so-called “Christians” … They are THE TRUE EVIL that is of HELL and BURNING IN HELL.
When money is the key to survival in Singapore as designed by Hakka LKY, you just need to see the results from his own family to understand what is really going on here.
Because some parents are toxic. I have toxic parents too but I force myself to stay for them. My younger brother already stop commuting with them and refuse to visit them at hospital. My bdp dad use to threaten to throw by brother down by carrying him at the edge of the kitchen window and force me to call my mum home just so he can beat and kick her to vent his anger. I refused but give in because my brother begged me to save him. Even all the psychiatric doctor i see in hospital suggest i end my relationship with my dad or at least call the police when he is in rage. They just don't know the consequences if i really call the police.
@@celestialstar124 Sorry to hear what you've been through. We go down different life paths eventually to end up at the same exit. Live for yourself. Make your life worth living.
Miss lee felt the same too. She died age 91 in a carehome by herself. Shes been single for 50 years, in the past 30 in the carehome she was going insane due to loneliness.all through out her stay she was vulnerable to abuse by the staffs. She was a wealthy person but all that money ultimately ended up in the nursing homes profits. May she finally rest in peace
god made one adam one eve god made incest evil god bible is full of wicked weird gross dirty slimy sick sex mother turn into salt pillar n daughters rape father to start a village jesus is just a jew who die horrible on a cross - don't want to be like him buddha is just an indian who left palace for a tree - don't want to be like him ok - but no one talk about the last stage of life - sickness immobility clinic dr abuse horror - animals or humans - they won't let u die when u need they make u suffer till death govt sell guns knives rods ropes but no forever sleep pill or sth u n pet family can take n leave together before that last hell segment of life - u can die together in u r own home - sleep pills or sth for easy death for u n pets should be sold without prescription n u should be able to keep on hands for emergency or whenever - freedom to decide u r own fate is calming - it's basic freedom - last wish
Kudos to the cleaners and also the communal support that various agencies for providing. This is a wake-up call to younger family member to always stay in touch with your elderly family member . For those already living alone and without intruding their privacy, possible to get them wearable heart-beat tracking device ? This is just my 2 cents worth of opinion.
It's why I don't regret to be childlessness by choice. There's no guarantees if this life you bring to the world with a lot of pain to push out or operate out at the end of 9 months would be thankful and give back the love you provided.
Not sure why have kids in this world, not just SG, anymore. My gen born in the late 80s/early 90s is the last gen to have a proper happy childhood. Now the kids are going through hell through school, then more hell in work to afford a $$$ flat and then wonder what was the whole point to all of it before dying miserably from the burn out
In Korea, they are also having "Silver Towns" Towns created for ppl over 65.. and dun have a family . These towns cater to single elderlys, and they offer daily meals and also a health care center nearby and freq visits by health care workers to provide health screening and to check on then if they are alive, and also having activities for elderly..
Those are really expensive though. A few thousand dollars per month and often comes with a hefty deposit too. Singapore might be able to have more subsidised ones, I do really like the idea of it tho just hope it was more affordable especially for the less privileged elderlies ❤
@@lingth I heard that an acquaintance is afraid to go out in the evening especially during the Ghost Month . This is because she’s living in a block of flats mostly occupied by old folks. There is the occasional inevitable funeral wake in the void deck of the block. I have also met an old lady who’s too afraid to stay in her one room oldie’s flat at night, as she believes that it’s haunted. Hence, l think it can be morbid for old people to live together in a dedicated block or community, since they will be surrounded by people who will inevitably pass away.
How advanced a society is really is marked by how much the government and ordinary people both pitch in to include the less fortunate/socially excluded - I hope this trend continues for Singapore.
Many asian parents still believes that having children is a protection against old age. But will our children really look after us during our old age? I seriously doubt so. Sometimes close friends are much better than relatives. Recently, one of my church elderly sister passed on. She was not only single. In fact she was a PR in Singapore with no family members. Good thing was she had such good support and freindship from the church that there were people visiting and taking care of her literally everyday during her last days. She eventually passed away peacefully in the presence of many people who cared for her dearly. Thank God for that.
If u watched the entire video, you would know a lot of them actually do have kids. I think renting your rooms cheaply is a good way of not living alone.
My opinion on this is try to live minimalist.. since my father passed away, I realized we should not stock up too many items. Now, I am trying to keep the house as empty as possible, recycle items and minimize shopping limited to necessity..
I keep food for 6 months worth as u never know at this time, war, terrible climate ( we humans cannot change ) as shortages will be coming with inflation. FYI
As a Filipino nurse working in Singapore, this documentary has just given me a searing pain in my heart. For someone who comes from a "close family ties" culture, seeing "lonely deaths", elderly living alone, and doing trauma cleaning are all bizarre things to me. 🥺 I can't help but wonder that a first world country, despite all the advancements in a lot of aspects can still have downsides. Now more than ever, I appreciate how family is truly a blessing. Nonetheless, it is a good thing that there are now organizations who look out for seniors who are living alone and have high chances of dying alone. ♥
unpopular opinion: if this is the trend moving forward, shouldn't we try to change the norm of dying alone is not ok, instead of trying to reverse the trend?
I don't think there's a possibility to change the trend, but it's very heartening to know that there's someone trying to understand this very important societal issue more so that policy and other changes can be made to make improvements as to how this can be managed better. Peoples' lives do matter. If these deaths can be made more dignified thru societal, community, policy level changes that also brings greater awareness and compassion for lonely death issues, then it's a good thing.
I have an old uncle who will likely die this way. What you don't read from these stories is how toxic these family members are. They get plenty of warnings about their behavior, so it becomes their choice. We should only feel sorry for those who lost their family.
A Buddhist would say this to you, "Forgiveness doesn't take repentance as a necessary precondition, it's unconditional". Jesus would say this to you, "If we don't forgive others, our Father in heaven won't forgive us". In order to receive forgiveness for our sins, we need to forgive others, in this case, your old uncle for whatever you think he has sinned in his life! It's important to understand that you can forgive someone without resuming contact or picking a relationship back up. Confucius said, "Those who can't forgive others, break the bridge over which they themselves must pass". Often the hardest person to forgive is yourself. Lastly, "To err is human, to forgive is divine" Alexander Pope.🙏
Neighbors are actually our second family. For those who still have parents, pls try to contact your parents every day no matter how busy or pay a visit if cant get through them.
This happens ALL THE TIME here in Florida, USA. This is why I like living on a boat. People kind of keep an eye out for each other in the marina circuit! Around 18:55, he wants CPR. If he goes into cardiac arrest and no one knows about it immediately, he DOES NOT want CPR! Trust me!
This is where the stop at 2 policy has failed. I am an only child born during that era. My sister was stillborn and mum was in poor health, she passed on at 40. Now I am the sole caregiver to my 90 year old father who refuses outside help. This is the new reality for Singapore as the population ages.
I have the highest respect for trauma cleaners. They had seen so much that others have no. Many of these heartbreaking stories were just not made known. Thumbs up to initiatives to raise awareness on this issue. We see many similar stories in the many developed Asian countries.
I think most of the old and dying in Singapore are in a far better situation than in other places like HK where people literally have cages for their living space. There are elderlies elsewhere in the world who are homeless and just literally drop dead and no one cares. There are those who starve to death or those who become victims of violence or domestic abuse. Living alone I think is ok if you have your own place and your basic needs are met. Death knocks on the door and eventually you let it in. No fear in that, just acceptance that life comes to an end. When you cease to exist, nothing matters anymore.
How courageous are volunteers like Ms Linda Tan and other members of the Cheng Hong Welfare Services Society in the face of periodic deaths? They are on the verge of the end of their lives every day.
Singapore 🇸🇬 is not the only country with lonely death people. Many Gen-Z people in Japan, Hong Kong 🇭🇰, and China also can’t afford to start a family on their own and if this trend continues, there will be more Lonely Death Syndrome in Asia.
One prolonged heat wave, could easily end many India, Pakistan, France, China, Korea and Japan, esp the old folks. There was an old Japanese movie, called Ballad of Narayama.
in Japan there are also similar cleaner like the trauma cleaner. except, the cleaner do their own prayer before entering the decease house. They use Oz.
This’ll be me. I live alone, getting on for 60 and don’t like socialising much and have no children. . I’m nearly 60 and these things I do think of and I get exactly where they’re coming from. Some of these have children who haven’t so much contacted them for years. This is the part that makes me sad.
many persons suggest that the old folks do things so neighbours will know they are alive. however many old persons with dementia will not be able to do those things
Family togetherness has already lost. The town council has to come up a program with a free or subsidized residential landed facility with gardens for those elderly that lived alone.
Im a South African and im thinking of creating an experiment called Adopt a grand parent.Starting with my friend.How are we gona even begin doing this.We can just approach elderly people and ask them to be their grand kids.
unfortunately in SG, with aging population, our hospital bed crunch problem will just be getting more and more serious, beside lack of bed space, there is also a lack of nurses and health care attendants, so as much as possible, the hospital will want u to be discharged asap to free up available bed space.
I am a Registered Nurse in the US , and I have older patient who tell me that they came to the hospital to die, because they. Don’t want to die alone in their houses. ‘
Not for me. I might get a van and convert it into a mobile home and die in there. Better than soiling the house. No problem at all dying alone where I want to be rather than in a cold hospital bed.
@@nickng-jm1vkactually i got blood disorder so I know the hospital actually got reserves special bed for those in need. As a social worker, i do know of plenty who stay warded and especially die hospitals (not hospice or community hospital). It's just that they don't show such story to the public. My dad have to wait almost 48 hours for a hospital bed. But i can get a bed in less than half day if my period show up. But the specialist of other departments have to call my gyne or blood specialist to book the bed for me. Happen to me last year when i have uterus infection post surgery. The radiotherapy doctor cannot get me a bed for iv antibiotics so i told him to call my gyne and he was shocked too. My own grandmother stay in hospital for more than 4 months during covid (bed is so limited) because she is in her 80s and living alone and will go to her hwaker stall to work when discharged. They know she refuse to go hospice and is dangerous to be discharged so they allow her to stay.
Nowadays very few children wants to take care their old parents or to have them live in together. Many old people either live with another old spouse, with maid, or alone. Some children even those in their 60s think by just giving money, they done their part. It is easy to give money, buy gift, buy holiday trip when they can walk and in good health. After all, it doesnt take much inconvenience. But not many are willing, are capable, are patient, have that ultimate love to put daily effort into taking care of old parents when they are in dire sickness. Some will say they love their parents. But very few is wise enough to understand giving care is greater than love. Those willing, ready, and capable to render the care truly have heart of gold!
Thank you. I needed to hear that. (I moved back into my father's home in Januari 2024 since he got very, very ill. I take care of him and it is not always easy. On the other hand, we have never been so close friends as we are now, I do not regret my decision.)
I am a renter in an apartment in Los Angeles, USA. ~11 years ago, an old grossly-overweight Caucasian male neighbor, whose unit was ~20 meters from mine, died alone in the warm late spring. His body was discovered by his visiting daughter ~3 or ~4 days later (we were not sure exactly, of course). The odor of his decaying dead body, once his unit was opened, permeated the entire hallway for days … It was horrifying.
It is a horrific stench. I have never forgotten it, had a neighbor in the apartment under mine that passed away in the summer when I was 19. I am 54 now and I still remember that odour.
Reflect: Thanks CNA Insider for sharing the topic. Indeed Singaporeans living alone during old age is getting common nowadays. But what I hope to see is everybody can live with dignity especially those whose aging population can enjoy their luxury aging lifestyle instead of just being assets rich. *How well the national resources have been distributed fairly to ALL aspects of community need is very important* . God Is Love! 佩（贝）玲笔。🙏🏻💕🌻🌏💕🌈
Am i the only one who feel safe and ok while being alone? I'm alone but never feel lonely, i'm 30yo and still not in any relationship my entire life, just give me book, computer, internet and i can live happily until i die
At least you can be at peace with yourself if you die alone. Dying with a spouse, kids who depend on you, maybe parents who still depend on you and your friends can be far worse as they may be in trouble without you. Also you don't have to worry about them grieving you.
I fully agree with you. I am in a state now where I wish to die, life holds nothing for me but pain and agony now. But I live with my sister and aged father. I am desperately trying to figure out where I can die, so that I am not a nuisance to them. But worst case, I will die at home, because life has become unbearable now.
this happens because they don't have any social support from the government. A senior should at least have medical check ups on a regular basis and an type of 2alarm wrist band" like the ones for ppl with heart problems
@@meharihabtemariam3035 , I know as death is just a physical but the soul and spirit, u need to take care. Lord Jesus open his eyes to see u and grant him wisdom and understanding in the knowledge of You
As a Catholic Christian, I pray more elderly people in Singapore start to seriously consider the fellowship, connection and spiritual solace that can be found by attending church and speaking with spiritual leaders, parishioners and priests. It can help many feel more connected to the community and provide that inner peace that many single senior citizens seek.
This is very sadI'm 50 years old and I live alone with no family or friends my mobile phone has no contacts I just keep it with me just incase I need a ambulance I get no visitors if I die it will be months before I'm found
My neighbor and I do this. We make it a point to check in with each other. Because basically we're all each other really has. And we don't go any more than 2 days without saying hey you okay just checking on you. I have a key to her house. She has a key to mine. I'm thankful for that!
All fools soldiers, colonizers, the one being colonized, slaves throughout history all most of them dying alone with no one can even remember even know their name especially the orphans one. So what. That's life just absurd, who are you to degrading or judging them to choose being loners.
Why be scared by that?? Death is scary by any standard. But when you live alone, you may die alone. Period. Nothing to be scared about. Nothing wrong with a peaceful death.
god made one adam one eve god made incest evil god bible is full of wicked weird gross dirty slimy sick sex mother turn into salt pillar n daughters rape father to start a village jesus is just a jew who die horrible on a cross - don't want to be like him buddha is just an indian who left palace for a tree - don't want to be like him ok - but no one talk about the last stage of life - sickness immobility clinic dr abuse horror - animals or humans - they won't let u die when u need they make u suffer till death govt sell guns knives rods ropes but no forever sleep pill or sth u n pet family can take n leave together before that last hell segment of life - u can die together in u r own home - sleep pills or sth for easy death for u n pets should be sold without prescription n u should be able to keep on hands for emergency or whenever - freedom to decide u r own fate is calming - it's basic freedom - last wish
When listening to the neighbors that smell made them call the police, I wondered why they never noticed that my old neighbor wasn't seen today, what happened, don't they just go about her house and check on her to see if she is ok, to talk to her a little or even if they don't do that, no one gets suspicious that someone didn't come out of their house for one whole day, two days at most. They complained after a week !!!! : 0
Have to agree with the man at the beginning of the video, dying alone isn't really a concern, it's not being discovered when you die. For me, i hope i get buried or incinerated, certainly wouldn't want to rot in some apartment ;p
I'm 37 single and I also don't want to tong so long in life le. Gone are the rapid tech improvements, optimism and kampung spirit of the 90s. Now its all influencer, inflation and RE speculation trash, so everyone looks miserable these days. Live so long...what for?
This issue should be addressed by the ministers. I'm sure they're aware of this becoming more common with an aging population and declining marriages and birth rates. Society has already changed with less children willing to live with parents. Will building more elderly homes/community be one of the solutions..
It's happening in Indonesia, but not dying alone. Several grandpas and grandmas were found dead in their homes, because their children live separately.😢
@@metallitai Why is the responsibility and blame only on the kids? Ever thought the parents could be such shitty parents that the children want nothing to do with them. Aka broken relationships.
Suggestions: A typical strategic way to monitor the lonely death may be to come up with a monitoring and signal alert system. This can be integrated to the relevant authority should there a need to install a home surveillance system, or/and with an emergency button(similar to hospital ward) beside the bed to sound any emergency alarm direct to the social welfare department and the hospital(a hot line link). Perhaps these requirement will all depends on the personal situation, movement or having critical condition of the lonely tenant. Thank you(from Brunei).
In the UK, we have this Alarm. It can detect falls and heart rate. Elderly individuals can request from their council. As an Asian working here as nurse, Feel blessed that my patients have that. Hopefully SG can do that as well.
Oh my heart hurts. My husband of 50 yrs passed in April. My girls and I cared for him to his last breathe. It was the hardest thing we've ever been thru and at the end it was horrific but I would never leave him alone. We did the same for my Mom. 😢❤
Simple solution (1 way)
1. Elder people can rent out their flat.
Rent out to foreign workers with ‘s’ pass at a low rate. Their pay is usually low and will be glad to stay at where they can afford.
It’s a win/win situation.
They help to pay for your water/electricity bills.
2. I rent out mine and I am 76+ yrs now. Tenants now are like my children. They ‘take care’ of me and I take care of them like my children.
3. Their rooms/my room are not lock.
When they go to work I tidy up their rooms & do gardening 🪴 & house cleaning.
When they come home they cook and we eat with together.
They help to clean the house on their off days.
They are happy, I am happy. 🙏
…and stay healthy.
My ex landlady did the same thing, add to her income, got someone to “look” after her and she has things to do like managing the tenants
Hai, I am from Malaysia. Almost 75.
Though I don't live alone, I support your idea. Just be cautious of rouge tenants.
May be install a strict filter via recommendation from good firnds
Good idea! Thanks for sharing :)
@@hendonanwar8656
Yes. One has to filter out the potentially ‘bad & ugly’ out before renting out.
In my case I rented my rooms to my Myanmar acquaintances.
They are very nice people.
My more older couples left their door open even at night but only with the metal gate closed. They are both near to the 90s.
The hubby is ‘near bed ridden’.
I do chat and look out for them.
@tanchye1720 oh dear 90. May they be helped
Trauma cleaner isn't a job most people can do or cope. I have high respect for them.
Trauma cleaners are okay. They're wearing full suits. Respect goes to the Police and SCDF who sees the actual body and has to carry it as well to the Police hearse.
@@theachilles96
Yeah I agree, everyone play a role. If one person do everything gg bro, i will trauma confirm. imagine u remove the body, then u need to do the showering, then you need to do the cemetry or burning stuff. gg
can't agree more. as a person who ever be volunteer for disaster victims, this trauma cleaner is really a very respectable person. very less can handle corpse remain.
Totally agree... They have to face so many unusual things that left in that space to be clean.
Absolutely. ❤🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
It hurts so much when the uncle said he purposely keep his main door open so if he die, people can find out sooner. 😭
It hit hard when he said he hasn’t spoken to his child in a while and doesn’t take the initiative to contact people.
@@ravenjaxsnerdymommy5297 he has one son and two daughters. After he divorced from his wife, he lives alone- no contact with any of his children
Karma to this uncle and many ,who kept VOTING THE SAME WAY AND TO THE SAME PARTY FOR DECADES!
This is his end result and so will many like him.
But not to those who have PLENTY OF MONEY here!😆😆
@@ravenjaxsnerdymommy5297regarding this part I am more used to it as i start visiting the old folks since i am 13. It's something i already got used to for decade.
Those flash back of knowing people who die alone, people whom i once talk to and spend quality time with. I am crying like baby while reading the comment section to seek some peace.
@@prolikereal2i understand some people might have not been a good parent thus their children abandoned them. Also for divorced family, some times the children stop communicating with dad because they feel the pain of the mum. My good friend who is divorced at 27 with 2 children. She is already uncomfortable her ex hubby see the children once a week. I try to convince her that the ex also have his rights as a father.
I have a tiktok local host friend who's mother will explode if anyone mentioned her father. She just said she cannot put on weight because she have her father's gene and the mother blow out and show her lots of tantrums for 2 weeks straight on live stream even when she cry.
My big respect for the people who are caring and socializing with the people who are the issue in this documentary and especially for the maker(s) of this documentary.Thnx a lot.
This hits so hard, I cried when they show the muslim women who died alone. Her son bought her a bag that she wanted very much. Her husband passed on and she lived alone.
😢
We all have to accept that we die one day. While you're alive, live your life fully, peacefully and joyfully. I have absolutely no fear of lonely death. However, the fear of dying slowly and painfully in sickness is more frightened than dying alone.
True. Me too
Agree
Agreed. Death is nothing to be feared of, suffering and pain is much more scary
There is one thing that is worse for me than dying alone, and that is dying with people around me *_that makes me feel lonely._*
I am 73 male living alone too but my younger bro phone me everyday told him if if he don't hear me for 2 days continously check me i gave him a set of key i have chronic illnesses from head to toe former stroke heart problem inc i think i need
I hope your doing great. Hope you are not in pain 😢.
Singapore is very blessed to have young entreprenuer who are willing to undertake such challenging work. Keep up your good work
This is so heart-breaking. Probably the saddest thing in a while for me..... sending them all my good thoughts from Bucharest, Romania.
I salute the trauma cleaners who are doing such a tedious job but with so much compassion.
god made one adam one eve god made incest evil god
bible is full of wicked weird gross dirty slimy sick sex
mother turn into salt pillar n daughters rape father to start a village
jesus is just a jew who die horrible on a cross - don't want to be like him
buddha is just an indian who left palace for a tree - don't want to be like him
ok - but no one talk about the last stage of life - sickness immobility clinic dr abuse horror - animals or humans - they won't let u die when u need they make u suffer till death
govt sell guns knives rods ropes but no forever sleep pill or sth u n pet family can take n leave together before that last hell segment of life - u can die together in u r own home - sleep pills or sth for easy death for u n pets should be sold without prescription n u should be able to keep on hands for emergency or whenever - freedom to decide u r own fate is calming - it's basic freedom - last wish
Potentially the government should offer a logging system for senior citizens living alone, such that they click some button every 24hrs(or some other interval), if they fail to do so, a warning can be sent out, and after a certain amount of time a social worker should be sent to check on them and make sure everything is ok, perhaps this can be made into an app?
Maybe something like this should be made available to all adults crossing the age of 65-70?
old people are not familiar to using apps, but good intentions
Unfortunately many of us gonna die this way. Sad but true.
My dad died alone. He kept pushing me away the two days before he died. A few months before that, I forced him to give me the keys to his house. As a result, those first two days, I would just come in to check on him as he yelled at me to leave. I found him the 3rd day. As his child, I always wonder what those last moments were like.
Very sorry for your loss, I m sure u have done yr best ❤
Your father must be a Buddhist
Now you can install a camera in the hall, you can use your handphone to view the whole aera from your office or any place, at
Maybe it was his wish to die alone? I work in healthcare and I've had patients who pass away when their family members leave the bedside to buy something. Sometimes it's just their preference.
I can understand this. Some people just wanted to be alone and maybe they are happy that way. You shouldn't worry.
I think we really need to bring back the kampong spirit of interacting and checking in with your neighbours.
😂😂😂
Not happening since racism in sg has become from bad to worst
@@tomryann86only after Spore allowed Free Visa!
Now everywhere..here there like cannot see our own local faces leh?!
All other asian faces sian to the max!!
Spore meh like this?? Yucks lah bcoz of them!!!
Singapore no more land free they all occupied
His reasoning for "never closing his door" is heartbreaking yet makes so much sense.
Death isn't that scary. For me, lying on the bed, immobile, paralyzed, waiting to die. That's the worst.
I am in a similar situation. Death is better than this kind of life. I even lost the one person who mattered to me in this life, 2 weeks ago. Now the thought of living is a horror to me. I am cleaning up my stuff and sorting my affairs and will end this life within the next 4 months.
@@revathik9225 I hope you are better now 😔🙏🌷
god made one adam one eve god made incest evil god
bible is full of wicked weird gross dirty slimy sick sex
mother turn into salt pillar n daughters rape father to start a village
jesus is just a jew who die horrible on a cross - don't want to be like him
buddha is just an indian who left palace for a tree - don't want to be like him
ok - but no one talk about the last stage of life - sickness immobility clinic dr abuse horror - animals or humans - they won't let u die when u need they make u suffer till death
govt sell guns knives rods ropes but no forever sleep pill or sth u n pet family can take n leave together before that last hell segment of life - u can die together in u r own home - sleep pills or sth for easy death for u n pets should be sold without prescription n u should be able to keep on hands for emergency or whenever - freedom to decide u r own fate is calming - it's basic freedom - last wish
You have a phone ring an ambulance.
To lose your loving partner after having being together a lifetime is catastrophic , i am a witness to that and one of so many.Since his passing, i never have felt the happiness when being together, less talking of the dying process which was horrible because of the nature of the disease which was brain cancer.
There is a fine line between Dying alone and Dying lonely. Others are scared to be alone while others love to be alone.
It's usually people who never lived alone who get lonely. I love living by myself.
The elderly Muslim lady passing away at home is really tragic. I think people didn't notice her death because those who knew her thought someone would find out if she died. She actively befriended one of her neighbour's daughter, participated in social events in the community, and her son even checked in on her weekly. But she slipped through the gaps precisely because she had such a strong safety net. We tend to keep to ourselves so sometimes maybe people don't like to be 'kay poh' or overreacting when no one replies. I just feel so much for her son and her daughter-in-law, they need therapy to grieve over such a traumatic experience.
Kudos to the trauma cleaners for their hard work! It definitely isn't an easy job but a necessary one.
Exactly. I have to especially stop when I watch that part. Then i resumed watching today.
My neighbour pass away at home alone about a year ago. His elder son kick his 2nd son and he moved out and only visit him outside the house. There are food delivery to my neighbour twice a day but no one find out he died. It's after the 2nd day the social worker notice the untouched food then call the police. Police even ask us before they break into the house. My mum said we just saw him chatting at void deck a few days ago. My malay neighbour said she got uneasy feeling when she didn't see the old man water his plant in the morning but didn't dare to bother or be kaypo.
None of us even notice the food are untouched as we never open the plastic bag. Usually he will put the eaten food in plastic at corridor for the delivery person or cleaners to throw away.
I was just wondering why no one knew she was dead. Her son said he visits her once a week. So how can that happen?
@@gbear8207 The son stated that he got busy with work, so it's understandable that sometimes he failed to check on her weekly. Plus, he assumed that if she did not pick up the phone when he called, she would be at JB since that's a habit he knows that she has. Even the neighbour thought she went to JB because she was healthy enough to go to JB by herself. Each part of her social net thought she was accounted for, and they don't check in on her everyday. After all, you can visit on a Saturday and the elderly might pass on a Sunday due to some freak accident. This is completely out of their control. That's why she slipped through the cracks. In another part of the documentary, there was a niece who failed to check in on her uncle due to life events. By the time the neighbour alert her that something was amiss, she missed catching her uncle alive by 3 days. She had to mourn her husband's passing a few months before and now has to live with a traumatic experience of finding her uncle's corpse. We are only human...
@@celestialstar124 Yeah, sometimes we tend to not check in because there's a habit by the elderly where it can explain why no one noticed something was amiss. There was a period of time where my elderly neighbour, who stays alone, did not check in with my mom for a while. It scared us. Later, the neighbour returned to tell us that she had been hospitalised for surgery. She did engage some home nurse service but decided not to, preferring her own freedom and doing things her own way. We need to respect the elderly's decision to live on their own but yet sometimes, they themselves may not be receptive. Nowadays, people tend to close their doors, so it's even harder to encounter your neighbours...
@@gbear8207😮k😅 no kill😢😮
Tak sadar air mata aku mengalir sepanjang menonton video ni, barangkali pada usia emas begini emosi ku memang rapuh. I'm now 71 and live in JB with my wife, 66 and a son who for most time wfh. I don't know for how long this will go on, and I don't brush aside eventuallity of living alone one day for either one of us. Nowdays, living alone in our final years of life makes us vulnerable to dying alone. Sadly, this is becoming a norm within modern societies. Orang Melayu kata, kita kini hidup bernafsi-nafsi, masing-masing dalam gelembung keluarga nuklearnya.
Really heart of gold. Salute and respect. Esp Linda who even bought the late Mr Ho clothes for the last sent off. 😢
When you are old, whether you choose to stay alone or have to stay alone, be prepared for this.
If I recall correctly, I recently came across an article about a place in Japan where the elderly have an agreed daily practice of hanging specific colored flags outside their door to let their neighbours know they are alive, as Japan also has a high rate of lonely deaths at home.
If u pass out / faint suddenly, u wouldn't have a chance/strength to hang out ur flag.
@@dannwing4224 , That is when neighbors know there is something wrong.
What if she hanged it, then died suddenly afterwards
Would make sense to change the flag colour/design by time or the day itself. If someone doesn't update then something may have happened
I won’t want to have a pet when lm old and if lm living alone. I won’t want the poor animal left behind, frightened, depressed and be starved to death.
I remember my friend’s pet toy dog literally crying a river and sighing away on the sofa in the imminent hour of its owner’s dying at the hospital. Yeah, animals can really sense such stuff.
I think we need more visits by social workers by identifying who is who above 60 and living where and with whom. Also to appointment a neighbour volunteers to keep an eye on people who live alone. I can volunteer to do this during my off days. To take care someone living within my vicinity. It's very sad and these elders deserve love, care and respect.
Empathetic & caring people in the neighborhood & the community is the critical need . And where possible a community center or a club for the elderly in the neighborhood where they can have low or no cost meals , socialize, participate in activities & contribute their skills for some work . That way others are aware they exist & notice when they are missing
Watched another video by MOSG which featured Rahman's teenage daughter who does the trauma cleaning with him. Kudos to Rahman and his family for doing such a underrated job.
god made one adam one eve god made incest evil god
bible is full of wicked weird gross dirty slimy sick sex
mother turn into salt pillar n daughters rape father to start a village
jesus is just a jew who die horrible on a cross - don't want to be like him
buddha is just an indian who left palace for a tree - don't want to be like him
ok - but no one talk about the last stage of life - sickness immobility clinic dr abuse horror - animals or humans - they won't let u die when u need they make u suffer till death
govt sell guns knives rods ropes but no forever sleep pill or sth u n pet family can take n leave together before that last hell segment of life - u can die together in u r own home - sleep pills or sth for easy death for u n pets should be sold without prescription n u should be able to keep on hands for emergency or whenever - freedom to decide u r own fate is calming - it's basic freedom - last wish
Living alone is heavenly as compared to living with manipulative, selfish and toxic family members or relatives. Nothing to fear about dying alone but make sure you don't suffer by taking good care of yourself and living a healthy lifestyle. Believe in karma, what you reap is what you sow. We all die someday, we will either be cremated or rot six feet down under. In any case, we will become part of dust or soil and return back to nature eventually. So, what is there to fret about living and dying alone?🙏
wyh8793 i think you might be winderfyl...🎉😂 ROCK ON..
There is one thing that is worse for me than die alone, and that is dying with people around me *_that makes me feel lonely._*
As I watch this, I may be one of those who will be dying alone.
I am not afraid of death, I am afraid of the transitioning to being dead.
God bless you， my friend。
Me too
How old are you?
You're not alone. I think dying alone is "The Way to Go".
But I will try not to inconvenience other people at the last leg of my life.
Always prey buddy, world just temporary
Without intruding privacy, we can install motion sensors and social services can be notified if there are no motion detected in their homes for a few days. They can try to contact the home owner when it's flagged out.
Wow this is a great idea. Telco should chase up on this. With bundle SIM card for easier setup. With both build in rechargeable battery and direct AC power line too. There should be cameras with wide angle such that one camera per room. They can ask to have CPF pay for the service bill.
Are you from Singapore? You can reach out to the local authorities, because it is not only a great idea, but easy to implement and could be done cheaply
@@HS-rb6vq Yup in the 1990s and early 2000. Anyone with great idea. They took it up, make it large scale and never pay royalties for intellectual property rights. Thats why local companies failed. Nowdays they protect local companies though, but still need to have connections. Nowdyas too, they pick up ideas from opposition parties, out of desperation but never admit that the original ideas came not from the ruling party. Being a nation of bullies, what more can we ask for.
I really don't understand why this guy is afraid of his corpse decomposing. you're dead, nothing will matter to you. you won't exist anymore
He doesn't want to leave a big mess. I can understand that😢
Yeah how kind of him to do that lol
Saw this three part documentary on TV. Finally it is here on UA-cam. Now we know what is trauma cleaning. Next of kin is important. Thank you Cheng Hong Welfare Service Society.😢
This series makes me cry. But at the same time heartened that there are kind souls out there who care. Kudos to CNA for yet another brilliant documentary 👍
What is sad is broken relations between immediate family members.
In my case I chose not to have them in my life -- sad but it's better this way
@@queva3062. Very ironically. Sometimes the instigators of “broken relationships” themselves are the perpetually vocal, very loud, self-righteous, holier-than-thou, Bible-thumping “evangelical” so-called “Christians” … They are THE TRUE EVIL that is of HELL and BURNING IN HELL.
When money is the key to survival in Singapore as designed by Hakka LKY, you just need to see the results from his own family to understand what is really going on here.
Because some parents are toxic. I have toxic parents too but I force myself to stay for them. My younger brother already stop commuting with them and refuse to visit them at hospital. My bdp dad use to threaten to throw by brother down by carrying him at the edge of the kitchen window and force me to call my mum home just so he can beat and kick her to vent his anger. I refused but give in because my brother begged me to save him.
Even all the psychiatric doctor i see in hospital suggest i end my relationship with my dad or at least call the police when he is in rage. They just don't know the consequences if i really call the police.
@@celestialstar124 Sorry to hear what you've been through. We go down different life paths eventually to end up at the same exit. Live for yourself. Make your life worth living.
Im 64 Years Old , Im Happy being living Alone...No any Responsibility, I Love Freedom
Miss lee felt the same too. She died age 91 in a carehome by herself. Shes been single for 50 years, in the past 30 in the carehome she was going insane due to loneliness.all through out her stay she was vulnerable to abuse by the staffs. She was a wealthy person but all that money ultimately ended up in the nursing homes profits. May she finally rest in peace
god made one adam one eve god made incest evil god
bible is full of wicked weird gross dirty slimy sick sex
mother turn into salt pillar n daughters rape father to start a village
jesus is just a jew who die horrible on a cross - don't want to be like him
buddha is just an indian who left palace for a tree - don't want to be like him
ok - but no one talk about the last stage of life - sickness immobility clinic dr abuse horror - animals or humans - they won't let u die when u need they make u suffer till death
govt sell guns knives rods ropes but no forever sleep pill or sth u n pet family can take n leave together before that last hell segment of life - u can die together in u r own home - sleep pills or sth for easy death for u n pets should be sold without prescription n u should be able to keep on hands for emergency or whenever - freedom to decide u r own fate is calming - it's basic freedom - last wish
When her son said his mother lying on the location where she wanted to find him who was used to sleep there breaking my heart
Respect to the social workers 🎉
Kudos to the cleaners and also the communal support that various agencies for providing. This is a wake-up call to younger family member to always stay in touch with your elderly family member . For those already living alone and without intruding their privacy, possible to get them wearable heart-beat tracking device ? This is just my 2 cents worth of opinion.
It's why I don't regret to be childlessness by choice. There's no guarantees if this life you bring to the world with a lot of pain to push out or operate out at the end of 9 months would be thankful and give back the love you provided.
Not sure why have kids in this world, not just SG, anymore. My gen born in the late 80s/early 90s is the last gen to have a proper happy childhood.
Now the kids are going through hell through school, then more hell in work to afford a $$$ flat and then wonder what was the whole point to all of it before dying miserably from the burn out
In Korea, they are also having "Silver Towns" Towns created for ppl over 65.. and dun have a family . These towns cater to single elderlys, and they offer daily meals and also a health care center nearby and freq visits by health care workers to provide health screening and to check on then if they are alive, and also having activities for elderly..
Those are really expensive though. A few thousand dollars per month and often comes with a hefty deposit too. Singapore might be able to have more subsidised ones, I do really like the idea of it tho just hope it was more affordable especially for the less privileged elderlies ❤
@@lingth I heard that an acquaintance is afraid to go out in the evening especially during the Ghost Month . This is because she’s living in a block of flats mostly occupied by old folks. There is the occasional inevitable funeral wake in the void deck of the block. I have also met an old lady who’s too afraid to stay in her one room oldie’s flat at night, as she believes that it’s haunted. Hence, l think it can be morbid for old people to live together in a dedicated block or community, since they will be surrounded by people who will inevitably pass away.
How advanced a society is really is marked by how much the government and ordinary people both pitch in to include the less fortunate/socially excluded - I hope this trend continues for Singapore.
Suffering daily is worse than a dead
Many asian parents still believes that having children is a protection against old age. But will our children really look after us during our old age? I seriously doubt so. Sometimes close friends are much better than relatives. Recently, one of my church elderly sister passed on. She was not only single. In fact she was a PR in Singapore with no family members. Good thing was she had such good support and freindship from the church that there were people visiting and taking care of her literally everyday during her last days. She eventually passed away peacefully in the presence of many people who cared for her dearly. Thank God for that.
Now in my late 40s, no kids, no close friends. Either me or my wife is going to die alone.
If u watched the entire video, you would know a lot of them actually do have kids. I think renting your rooms cheaply is a good way of not living alone.
My opinion on this is try to live minimalist.. since my father passed away, I realized we should not stock up too many items.
Now, I am trying to keep the house as empty as possible, recycle items and minimize shopping limited to necessity..
I keep food for 6 months worth as u never know at this time, war, terrible climate ( we humans cannot change ) as shortages will be coming with inflation. FYI
Yes sorting through a dead parent's things is a melancholy experience.
@@peat6154 if you see all these cases in the video.. Its really headache to the "clean up"... And to the next of kin if available..
As a Filipino nurse working in Singapore, this documentary has just given me a searing pain in my heart. For someone who comes from a "close family ties" culture, seeing "lonely deaths", elderly living alone, and doing trauma cleaning are all bizarre things to me. 🥺 I can't help but wonder that a first world country, despite all the advancements in a lot of aspects can still have downsides. Now more than ever, I appreciate how family is truly a blessing. Nonetheless, it is a good thing that there are now organizations who look out for seniors who are living alone and have high chances of dying alone. ♥
unpopular opinion: if this is the trend moving forward, shouldn't we try to change the norm of dying alone is not ok, instead of trying to reverse the trend?
Everyone dies alone. Nobody will want to die with you.
@@pearlyung i believe anyone with a decent mental capacity will understand what i meant by "dying alone" given the context of the video
@@pearlyung always interesting to see such level of IQ in YT comments
How to change?
I don't think there's a possibility to change the trend, but it's very heartening to know that there's someone trying to understand this very important societal issue more so that policy and other changes can be made to make improvements as to how this can be managed better. Peoples' lives do matter. If these deaths can be made more dignified thru societal, community, policy level changes that also brings greater awareness and compassion for lonely death issues, then it's a good thing.
I donated to cheng hong after this. Sincere hearts
I have an old uncle who will likely die this way. What you don't read from these stories is how toxic these family members are. They get plenty of warnings about their behavior, so it becomes their choice. We should only feel sorry for those who lost their family.
You mean your uncle is toxic?
Finally someone said this
A Buddhist would say this to you, "Forgiveness doesn't take repentance as a necessary precondition, it's unconditional".
Jesus would say this to you, "If we don't forgive others, our Father in heaven won't forgive us". In order to receive forgiveness for our sins, we need to forgive others, in this case, your old uncle for whatever you think he has sinned in his life!
It's important to understand that you can forgive someone without resuming contact or picking a relationship back up.
Confucius said, "Those who can't forgive others, break the bridge over which they themselves must pass".
Often the hardest person to forgive is yourself. Lastly, "To err is human, to forgive is divine" Alexander Pope.🙏
Neighbors are actually our second family. For those who still have parents, pls try to contact your parents every day no matter how busy or pay a visit if cant get through them.
He's 100% luckier than more people. He is not homeless, he has nice clean place to live. he has proper food to eat.
True..there are people young and old who die on the street because they have no resources
This happens ALL THE TIME here in Florida, USA. This is why I like living on a boat. People kind of keep an eye out for each other in the marina circuit!
Around 18:55, he wants CPR. If he goes into cardiac arrest and no one knows about it immediately, he DOES NOT want CPR! Trust me!
This is where the stop at 2 policy has failed. I am an only child born during that era. My sister was stillborn and mum was in poor health, she passed on at 40. Now I am the sole caregiver to my 90 year old father who refuses outside help. This is the new reality for Singapore as the population ages.
Hope you have a family of your own.
No even if you have children. Remember they have their own lives, so there is a high chance that you will be alone in the end.
Two is enough at a time when the population was 2.2 million. What is it now ? Almost 6 million ? We were duped.
I have the highest respect for trauma cleaners. They had seen so much that others have no. Many of these heartbreaking stories were just not made known.
Thumbs up to initiatives to raise awareness on this issue. We see many similar stories in the many developed Asian countries.
Yeah, this why older poeple need village to life
I think most of the old and dying in Singapore are in a far better situation than in other places like HK where people literally have cages for their living space. There are elderlies elsewhere in the world who are homeless and just literally drop dead and no one cares. There are those who starve to death or those who become victims of violence or domestic abuse. Living alone I think is ok if you have your own place and your basic needs are met. Death knocks on the door and eventually you let it in. No fear in that, just acceptance that life comes to an end. When you cease to exist, nothing matters anymore.
How courageous are volunteers like Ms Linda Tan and other members of the Cheng Hong Welfare Services Society in the face of periodic deaths? They are on the verge of the end of their lives every day.
So sad to know that anybody, let alone a senior, is left to live and die alone.
A very touching n educational program 👍Well done too!
highest level of respect to all the workers involved...
Singapore 🇸🇬 is not the only country with lonely death people. Many Gen-Z people in Japan, Hong Kong 🇭🇰, and China also can’t afford to start a family on their own and if this trend continues, there will be more Lonely Death Syndrome in Asia.
One prolonged heat wave, could easily end many India, Pakistan, France, China, Korea and Japan, esp the old folks.
There was an old Japanese movie, called Ballad of Narayama.
in Japan there are also similar cleaner like the trauma cleaner. except, the cleaner do their own prayer before entering the decease house. They use Oz.
This’ll be me. I live alone, getting on for 60 and don’t like socialising much and have no children. . I’m nearly 60 and these things I do think of and I get exactly where they’re coming from. Some of these have children who haven’t so much contacted them for years. This is the part that makes me sad.
I'm Japanese and share the same situation with him🎉
many persons suggest that the old folks do things so neighbours will know they are alive. however many old persons with dementia will not be able to do those things
Family togetherness has already lost. The town council has to come up a program with a free or subsidized residential landed facility with gardens for those elderly that lived alone.
Im a South African and im thinking of creating an experiment called Adopt a grand parent.Starting with my friend.How are we gona even begin doing this.We can just approach elderly people and ask them to be their grand kids.
What’s the use of education , running after ambitions and finally to leave a lonely life
The illusion of success and achievement to keep you slaving for the economy.
@@yenchu1237 true
The government should make efforts to see to the lonely .trust me many many have died alone
Dying in hospital is better than dying alone at home. 😢
This episode actually make me cry
unfortunately in SG, with aging population, our hospital bed crunch problem will just be getting more and more serious, beside lack of bed space, there is also a lack of nurses and health care attendants, so as much as possible, the hospital will want u to be discharged asap to free up available bed space.
I am a Registered Nurse in the US , and I have older patient who tell me that they came to the hospital to die, because they. Don’t want to die alone in their houses. ‘
😭😭
Not for me. I might get a van and convert it into a mobile home and die in there. Better than soiling the house. No problem at all dying alone where I want to be rather than in a cold hospital bed.
@@nickng-jm1vkactually i got blood disorder so I know the hospital actually got reserves special bed for those in need.
As a social worker, i do know of plenty who stay warded and especially die hospitals (not hospice or community hospital). It's just that they don't show such story to the public. My dad have to wait almost 48 hours for a hospital bed. But i can get a bed in less than half day if my period show up. But the specialist of other departments have to call my gyne or blood specialist to book the bed for me. Happen to me last year when i have uterus infection post surgery. The radiotherapy doctor cannot get me a bed for iv antibiotics so i told him to call my gyne and he was shocked too.
My own grandmother stay in hospital for more than 4 months during covid (bed is so limited) because she is in her 80s and living alone and will go to her hwaker stall to work when discharged. They know she refuse to go hospice and is dangerous to be discharged so they allow her to stay.
Nowadays very few children wants to take care their old parents or to have them live in together.
Many old people either live with another old spouse, with maid, or alone.
Some children even those in their 60s think by just giving money, they done their part. It is easy to give money, buy gift, buy holiday trip when they can walk and in good health. After all, it doesnt take much inconvenience.
But not many are willing, are capable, are patient, have that ultimate love to put daily effort into taking care of old parents when they are in dire sickness.
Some will say they love their parents. But very few is wise enough to understand giving care is greater than love. Those willing, ready, and capable to render the care truly have heart of gold!
Thank you. I needed to hear that.
(I moved back into my father's home in Januari 2024 since he got very, very ill. I take care of him and it is not always easy. On the other hand, we have never been so close friends as we are now, I do not regret my decision.)
I recently watched “Move to Heaven” a Kdrama about trauma cleaners. Male lead Lee Jae-Hoon. My great respect to this profession.
I am a renter in an apartment in Los Angeles, USA. ~11 years ago, an old grossly-overweight Caucasian male neighbor, whose unit was ~20 meters from mine, died alone in the warm late spring. His body was discovered by his visiting daughter ~3 or ~4 days later (we were not sure exactly, of course). The odor of his decaying dead body, once his unit was opened, permeated the entire hallway for days … It was horrifying.
Grossly overweight caucasian? 🤨😒😤😠🇨🇦🪶
It is a horrific stench. I have never forgotten it, had a neighbor in the apartment under mine that passed away in the summer when I was 19. I am 54 now and I still remember that odour.
Reflect: Thanks CNA Insider for sharing the topic. Indeed Singaporeans living alone during old age is getting common nowadays. But what I hope to see is everybody can live with dignity especially those whose aging population can enjoy their luxury aging lifestyle instead of just being assets rich. *How well the national resources have been distributed fairly to ALL aspects of community need is very important* . God Is Love! 佩（贝）玲笔。🙏🏻💕🌻🌏💕🌈
Thank you for this. A view to our mortality. It's hard to live but it's harder waiting to die.
Am i the only one who feel safe and ok while being alone? I'm alone but never feel lonely, i'm 30yo and still not in any relationship my entire life, just give me book, computer, internet and i can live happily until i die
I just don't want to rot away, being a nuisance to the people who have to take care of everything
At least you can be at peace with yourself if you die alone. Dying with a spouse, kids who depend on you, maybe parents who still depend on you and your friends can be far worse as they may be in trouble without you. Also you don't have to worry about them grieving you.
I fully agree with you. I am in a state now where I wish to die, life holds nothing for me but pain and agony now. But I live with my sister and aged father. I am desperately trying to figure out where I can die, so that I am not a nuisance to them. But worst case, I will die at home, because life has become unbearable now.
Well done! Very good documentary!
this happens because they don't have any social support from the government. A senior should at least have medical check ups on a regular basis and an type of 2alarm wrist band" like the ones for ppl with heart problems
I salute these cleaners
Death: I am everywhere. I never sleep. I never rest. I am standing behind your back right now regardless of where you are.
I've got work on Monday any chance of a bump up the ladder.
I think death of a physical body is not the end.
@@norachong1067how do you know?
Our body also have soul and spirit.
@@meharihabtemariam3035 , I know as death is just a physical but the soul and spirit, u need to take care. Lord Jesus open his eyes to see u and grant him wisdom and understanding in the knowledge of You
Loneliness is cruel , I have an extended toxic family , and I don't have contact with them . Life is cruel and not fair sometimes
The richer a society is, the more likely it is to see lonely deaths because the children migrated to far away countries or they live far away.
Sometimes it is better to keep the children and relatives a distance away as the movie LahnMah have shown
As if the poor people don't go overseas to work or choose to marry overseas.
As a Catholic Christian, I pray more elderly people in Singapore start to seriously consider the fellowship, connection and spiritual solace that can be found by attending church and speaking with spiritual leaders, parishioners and priests. It can help many feel more connected to the community and provide that inner peace that many single senior citizens seek.
This is very sadI'm 50 years old and I live alone with no family or friends my mobile phone has no contacts I just keep it with me just incase I need a ambulance I get no visitors if I die it will be months before I'm found
Why bother? I don't want doctor guhals. Making any mote money off me
Check on your neighbors. Make sure they check on you.
Not all neighbours are kind and nice people. You can be sure those foreign ones like PRCs will dash into your unit to search for valuables first.
My neighbor and I do this. We make it a point to check in with each other. Because basically we're all each other really has. And we don't go any more than 2 days without saying hey you okay just checking on you. I have a key to her house. She has a key to mine. I'm thankful for that!
@@Libertas4Ever only with good neighbours, after the Vax, many have become a bit crazy and anti - social.
Funny how a country that looks united and sociable from the outside could still have lots of lonely people.
Dying alone sounds like such a scary prospect to me...Rest in peace to all the deceased 😢
Being nagged to death and not being respected by your spouse is probably worse.
All fools soldiers, colonizers, the one being colonized, slaves throughout history all most of them dying alone with no one can even remember even know their name especially the orphans one. So what. That's life just absurd, who are you to degrading or judging them to choose being loners.
Why be scared by that?? Death is scary by any standard. But when you live alone, you may die alone. Period. Nothing to be scared about. Nothing wrong with a peaceful death.
We all die alone. Whether our body is found after it decomposed for 1 week or 3 months later won’t matter anymore because we are dead.
god made one adam one eve god made incest evil god
bible is full of wicked weird gross dirty slimy sick sex
mother turn into salt pillar n daughters rape father to start a village
jesus is just a jew who die horrible on a cross - don't want to be like him
buddha is just an indian who left palace for a tree - don't want to be like him
ok - but no one talk about the last stage of life - sickness immobility clinic dr abuse horror - animals or humans - they won't let u die when u need they make u suffer till death
govt sell guns knives rods ropes but no forever sleep pill or sth u n pet family can take n leave together before that last hell segment of life - u can die together in u r own home - sleep pills or sth for easy death for u n pets should be sold without prescription n u should be able to keep on hands for emergency or whenever - freedom to decide u r own fate is calming - it's basic freedom - last wish
When listening to the neighbors that smell made them call the police, I wondered why they never noticed that my old neighbor wasn't seen today, what happened, don't they just go about her house and check on her to see if she is ok, to talk to her a little or even if they don't do that, no one gets suspicious that someone didn't come out of their house for one whole day, two days at most. They complained after a week !!!! : 0
I live alone, enjoy being alone, and more than likely will die alone. I shook hands with that fact.
👍 agree. Love living alone. No kids. No nieces no nephews. No thanks. 😊
they should build app/device for elderly people to trigger the button everyday to make sure they are alive.
A decompose smell is one of a kind. Once you smell it, you will know. Get help if anyone encounters.
I hope the children will at least contact their parents and visit them.
lone people, especially elders or one with illness, should be monitored or put into a community living space organized by the government.
Have to agree with the man at the beginning of the video, dying alone isn't really a concern, it's not being discovered when you die. For me, i hope i get buried or incinerated, certainly wouldn't want to rot in some apartment ;p
Life is so hard nowadays, everyone wants to succeed to the point they have no more time for their parents.
At the same time, we often neglect our health leading up to diseases etc. as they grow older with mobility issues.
yup true
we were influenced/set/trained to sell our whole life till we die.
I'm 37 single and I also don't want to tong so long in life le. Gone are the rapid tech improvements, optimism and kampung spirit of the 90s. Now its all influencer, inflation and RE speculation trash, so everyone looks miserable these days. Live so long...what for?
This issue should be addressed by the ministers. I'm sure they're aware of this becoming more common with an aging population and declining marriages and birth rates. Society has already changed with less children willing to live with parents. Will building more elderly homes/community be one of the solutions..
It's happening in Indonesia, but not dying alone. Several grandpas and grandmas were found dead in their homes, because their children live separately.😢
We should have stronger social work networks. If die, at least friends should ask questions.
having no kids vs having useless kids
It's better to feel lonely when you're alone than lonely with toxic family
@@metallitai Why is the responsibility and blame only on the kids? Ever thought the parents could be such shitty parents that the children want nothing to do with them. Aka broken relationships.
Or karma to themselves.
@@sweetbean3599 not blaming anyone. relationships do take 2 hands to clap. Hopefully everyone finds peace and purpose in their lifes.
@@metallitai , Exactly honor your parents ( it didn't say don't honor your shitty parents ) that all may go well with u. Love overcomes all obstacles.
I just wouldn't wish anyone to die alone. This is very heartbreaking
Suggestions: A typical strategic way to monitor the lonely death may be to come up with a monitoring and signal alert system. This can be integrated to the relevant authority should there a need to install a home surveillance system, or/and with an emergency button(similar to hospital ward) beside the bed to sound any emergency alarm direct to the social welfare department and the hospital(a hot line link). Perhaps these requirement will all depends on the personal situation, movement or having critical condition of the lonely tenant. Thank you(from Brunei).
In the UK, we have this Alarm.
It can detect falls and heart rate. Elderly individuals can request from their council.
As an Asian working here as nurse, Feel blessed that my patients have that.
Hopefully SG can do that as well.
Oh my heart hurts. My husband of 50 yrs passed in April. My girls and I cared for him to his last breathe. It was the hardest thing we've ever been thru and at the end it was horrific but I would never leave him alone. We did the same for my Mom. 😢❤
God bless everyone and be helpful to all who need help 🙏🙏🙏