The Burden of Forgiveness
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"Pardoning doesn't mean you have to let them back in." Thanks for that validation, something I have been thinking.
"Forgiveness means giving up all hope of a better past."
Maybe you need to study forgiveness a little more.
@@bobbyb7127 You got some magic way to change the past? Are you God?
In my opinion forgiveness isn't about the past or hope. It's about the future consequences of someone's actions that got waivered because they realised they messed up.
“Forgiveness is divine, but never pay full price for late pizza.”
@johnwatson9518 You are totally right, we have the means and the liberty to leave the past as it was and give it a whole new meaning...these people that come over with complaints like "no one can control the past!!" is completely wrong and going to the wrong direction.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean reconciliation.
Seems half assed
@@jasonwoods2802may seem that way but sometimes that’s the way it is while here on earth
Exactly. In our part. It doesn’t have to. But God forgives forever and completely. He cannot even see your sin at all. He sees the blood of Christ. He sees that imputed righteousness given to us Romans 2 talks about. He sees His son’s righteousness when He looks at a saved soul. It’s a forgiveness we cannot understand or give. Jesus says love your enemies and pray for them. I guess we need to pray for all these politicians lol 😂
true
@@jasonwoods2802how is that half-assed if somebody did you wrong and would do it again you would be a fool to go back for seconds and thirds forgiveness releases your soul of a burden they'll still carry theirs because they will never change forgiveness does it mean being a fool and going back for more
“Who is going to put a burden on you to do more than Christ” what a line. That’s the whole argument right there.
"there is no answer greater than silence, and no punishment greater than forgiveness"
-the elephant i was throwing rocks at
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Sir I am a Hindu from India. Been your subscriber for I dont know how many years. Every time I watch your video, I realise how common are the principles of morality in Christianity and Hinduism. I really think that the religious people from all over the world should come together without any attempt to impose their faiths on others. Once we embrace our religious differences and unite with what we believe is moral, we can make our society great and just
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Religion and state are separated for a reason. But good luck
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I have struggled with this forgiveness issue for decades now. I am a 66 yr old Christian who has been wronged by three individuals in my life. Family members tell me I should just forgive them and move on, but I know that none of them acknowledges their wrongdoing. This is the greatest clarification I have heard yet! Thankyou.
I divorced my wife 3 years ago. She was impossible to live with. She got hooked on oxycodone and it radically changed her personality. Last spring she died from a heart attack. Now I feel I should have tried harder to get her help and I should have stayed with her. The load of guilt I carry is heavy and unbearable. I do not sleep thru the night anymore. 2:30am is when the demons come to torture me. I have noone to blame but myself and nowhere to go for forgiveness. I guess that I deserve it.
18:01 "Control your emotions, but don't carry the burden of having to forgive the unforgivable."
Powerful stuff sir. Thank you 👏👏
God says that everyone is forgivable. Are we above God? Who are we to judge that a person is unforgivable when God is clear when he said ALL can be forgiven?
@Nomadestra your argument is did I say that anyone was unforgivable. I said forgiveness is earned by asking for it and confessing that you have done wrong. We take our example from God, as his approach is the same way. You are forgivable and redeemable, but you do not receive that forgiveness or that redemption unless you ask for it.
@DryCreekWranglerSchool If by asking for forgiveness, you mean you have to forgive first and foremost, I agree. God didn't say you get forgiveness merely by asking for it. You have to seek and attain the ability to forgive others before you earn the right to be forgiven. Now, it doesn't mean you have to hunt down everyone who has done you wrong and forgive them. Rather, love and forgiveness are cut from the same cloth, and you have to make both a permanent part of your soul in order to be forgiven by God.
No, when I say “ask for forgiveness” I literally mean “ask for forgiveness“. I myself and my guy that generally says exactly what he means. It means exactly what he says. You are twisting everything around and ignoring what I am saying, and giving everything different meanings. You are putting your own definition into everything and ignoring what is literally being said. There is no way to have a logical, honest discussion like this.
@DryCreekWranglerSchool I'm not twisting words. You and I just have different ideas about what God meant when he was talking about forgiveness. I don't think he meant simply ask, and the scripture pretty much answers that. Forgive, and ye shall be forgiven. God won't forgive you your sins until you yourself are ready to forgive all who trespassed on you. A lot of Christians don't get this, and go around judging people all day long. You can not simply live with bitterness in your heart, and then ask for forgiveness every night before bed. God sees that fakeness in a person's heart for what it is.
As someone who has spent to many years “letting go” this monologue was refreshing.
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Same man it changed my whole wiew on the topic
At 69 years old, that’s the best piece of understanding I’ve heard.
I’m right behind you, and am overwhelmed by the simplicity of wisdom that is clear in scripture, but this is a first for me. I couldn’t be more grateful.
Yes i agree at 63 !!!
Ditto at 67😂 Heck, I had to repeat it! 🤯
Our senior pastor/bishop explained this to us several years ago and this revelation is liberating. We don’t have to do what God won’t do himself. Thank you for echoing this.
Wished more pastors were open minded and wise like that
Literally had a 33 year Christian tell me I was wrong for this. Thank you for being here
I've never heard forgiveness explained better. Thank you
Dewayne, as fate would have it.
This is what I needed to hear this afternoon.
Thank you so much, brother. Good wishes and blessings to you and mama.
Likewise!!!
Same
Same here! This ol cowboy dude is one of the best things thats ever happened to me☺️
Same here. God bless brother
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"We add to the burden of people who are victims of bad behavior..." I agree 100%! I agree with you. I struggle with this topic of forgiveness. Thank you for speaking up about it!
This forgiveness issue took me a lot of years to get right. I landed on this….. A wrong is done, be willing to forgive IF asked, what makes the waiting bearable for me is this; God knows, he SEES, he understands every bit of it perfectly and he says “Vengeance is mine”. SO, SINCE MY HEAVEN FATHER has it, I leave it to him. He has this and revenge is in his hands not mine. Now what is up to me is to forgive as I want to be forgiven…. If they repent, forgiven just like you said. The restoration of our relationship is up to me, and I base that on my judgement of their repentance and future actions. Does their walk match the talk? As always sir, I appreciate your great perspective and telling it true!
I never thought of biblical forgiveness like that and it honestly makes complete sense
The only way to truly understand it is to go and forgive your mother and father. The only way to learn forgiveness is to forgive those who are closest to us, and therefore who affected us the most. No parent is a perfect parent, so all of our parents did things that directly and indirectly did harm to us. You need to forgive your mother first for turning us away from the father.
@@Nomadestrai'm sorry but i don't think it's fair to say either parent is chiefly responsible. it depends on every person
This is maybe one of the most important videos on this channel.
I was just thinking the exact same thing
Watch the one about a year ago called "you messed up, now what" something along those lines.
Coming back to this video after having a Bible Study on this very thing at Church today.
Some how this gentleman always releases a video just at the right moments. Thank you for following your heart and posting this video for us.
Never thought that a person from across the globe will help me so much, thank you, and greetings from Hungary.
When God makes His miracles, anything is possible
I don't comment much, too busy. But I wanted to just thank you for this video.
I've been struggling with the burden of forgiveness for a long while.
What you've shared today has help clear things up. Thank you, Dwayne.
Without repentance there cannot be forgiveness, offense and forgiveness are often taken but never given...😅 Closure means confession... and that's something that most that demand your forgiveness will never offer ... Nor regret... I'm printing this on a tee shirt 🎉 We're not accepting verbal apologies this year. Only changed behaviour.
god bless good workers like you, someone who doesnt have 10 seconds to comment must be doing something very important
"people don't understand what we're trying to do here!" 👏🏾 👏🏾
Thank you very much for this words. Good to hear this from you. It‘s a big help for me. I can see clearly now. God bless you and your Family!
You are 100% correct. Thank you for explaining this Truth with such great clarity, Dwayne. You have given me the words to explain the dilemma of forgiving someone who is repeatedly decietful or cruel without apology, and who aparently counts on victims to let things go.each time. The only answer is to let it go and walk away, with willingness to forgive if and when forgiveness is asked for. The hardest part is learning to stay out of harm's way!
You are a breath of fresh air. I love you like a grandfather. Please keep on getting your content out there. It means the world to some of us.
This video hits home. My older brother has always been a very aggressive person, to the point he’s yelled at me and my wife, and said very hurtful things. I’ve always been the peace maker, but have stood my ground. It’s caused great grief in my family, but this video reminds me to stand my ground. He’s never apologized. I can forgive but I’ll never forget.
You can forgive, but never trust said person again.
Don’t forgive the unforgivable. God bless you sir. I’ll never forget that statement. No truer words were never spoken.
No, you should, though. It's not up to us to judge who is forgiven or not. If you can't love your enemy, then you can't love a single person.
Forgiveness is just not letting them have control over you anymore
@@NomadestraHow can I forgive someone who wrongs me and then they repeat the same thing AND as well they do the same thing towards others? Seems unforgivable in my eyes. No way in hell I’d forgive someone who does those dirty actions. If they really want forgiveness then they’ll have to earn it and prove themselves that they want forgiveness. How I see it, forgiveness is earned.
That poor cigar! Keeps being re-lit! 😅
Amen!!! Thank you for this message. As a child, I endured all kinds of abuse at the hands of my family. For over 50 years, many Christians have told me that I had to forgive them or I would go to hell. Yes, that adds a terrible burden to the victim - so much so that I turned away from God for many years. Recently God gave me the very answer that you outlined in your video - that God forgives those who ask for forgiveness. It's the same for those who wronged us here on earth. No one who abused me ever asked me for forgiveness so God told me it was ok for me to let them go. God bless you for sharing this word.
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Forgiveness in Greek is the word 'aphiémi' it actually means, (like you just said you let them go) send away, let go, release. :)
I'm drinking my coffee too and having my morning smoke listening to some good wisdom ☕💨😌
my morning smoke is no joke!
You are a very Wise Man, they need to make amends for some kinds of wrongdoing.
As someone who is approaching 33, and was essentially excluded from the best friend group. When I found out I was being excluded with no information, I reached out with no response. My final message was essentially to let it go, wish them well because they were a friend of over 10 years.
This was not a burden I wanted to keep carrying. If run into them and find out how I wronged them, I will absolutely apologize because I don't know what I did, or if I did something. But they would not be part of my life anymore. I still care deeply about them, and always will. Sometimes, friendships just run their course.
“Father forgive them for they know not what they do.” From the cross….
I believe there is another context about forgiveness found right here: the victim is in the position of higher power and forgives in order to not punish those who have wronged them.
The Son pleads the Father to forgive the humans, so that they would be saved from Fathers wrath. If the Father forgives them there would be no divine retribution.
I would agree with Dewayne: some people may only receive forgiveness if they repent for what they have done and ask to be forgiven, but some should be forgiven despite not repenting nor asking to be forgiven.
The difficulty is found in making this decision.
The unrepentant will suffer God's wrath. Why? They don't acknowledge Christ and accept His gift of Grace and Mercy. If they do, the Holy Spirit will convict them, and that motivates them to ask forgiveness and then repent, which is to turn away from. God sends no one to hell in my opinion. He honors their request in rejecting Him. That wrath will be far greater than any punishment doled out by man. Now, I understand Dewayne's perspective. However, holding on to unforgiveness keeps one bound to the past. It's a complex thought process for sure. The issue, as I see it, is between the individual and the Lord. This assumes the individual is surrendered to the King and not in defiance or rebellion against the King. We bow our heads in prayer, exposing our neck to the King who has the power and the right to lop it off. But in His great example of Mercy and Grace, He forgives one who is surrendered to Him and accepts His attoning sacrifice of His Son, Yesuha / Jesus. My thoughts and "your mileage may vary" based upon your position to the King.. 9:07
“I am the way, and the truth, and the life; no one comes to the Father except through Me.” We are called to imitate Christ. His mercy is infinite.
@@TrapperDavido That leaves open the argument so that even if the son allows the case forward, the father may reject. Otherwise, in meaning, the son decides and father forgiveness is a mere formality.
@@thankmelater1254 I didn’t write it. Straight from the gospels. Red words…..
There are so many verses about forgiveness, but my favorite is probably Ephesians 4:32: "Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you."
Forgiveness is made difficult when one regards themselves too highly, whether or not they know it. Forgiveness is made easier when you love Christ and lean on His grace and mercy. I'm speaking from my own experience, from times of unforgiveness and holding grudges. Thanks for the message, brother Dewayne.
Yes, forgive and you will be forgiven.
Paul’s a heretic.
@@celtdawg01 if you’re saying that the Paul of the Bible is a heretic, that’s blasphemy, scripture is inspired by God and by saying that someone in the Bible wasn’t right, you are saying that God isn’t right and that is very scary
Forgiveness gives us back our power. We can become so consumed with hate or pain that it can effect us physically.
I went thru this with my mother in law that pulled some crap that parent's just shouldn't pull on their kid's/grandkids, I couldn't handle hearing her son act like nothing had happened, that I started getting physically sick. I sat down & wrote her a letter saying what I needed to say. After working on it for abt a month, I mailed it. I literally felt all the pain & anger & even hatred leave my body, go down to my hand's as I sealed & addressed it. In the last 26 yrs., she's never apologized to me for the thing's she's said & done to me, my oldest or my husband's oldest. But she's still not a part of our family, we even help her & her brother (mostly him) with food often. Her son (hubby) has followed in her footsteps of stupidity & not taking responsibility, it's always someone else's fault but his. 🤷♂️ but I forgave him (several too many time's) because the stress from it all started effecting my health & he just wasn't worth dying early for.
Forget? 🤔 unfortunately or fortunately, I haven't. But I don't you have to forget in order to forgive, otherwise you'll just keep being put thru something over & over.
It's not worth it. 🙏😊
Family dynamics are interestingly difficult. I have to say I am working through a similar situation with my daughter inlaw. We are at a loggers head, and an apology would not dissolve the situation. My son is stuck with the burden, which I feel sorry for him.
@@paulsims6888 I sort of did (felt sorry) for my husband. But he didn't even make an effort to side with, not even for a day. Then he blamed me because the kid's didn't have a relationship with her.
Your son is between a rock & hard place, he's got to decide if he's going to allowing her to do whatever that keeps you guy's from having a good relationship with her/them. I don't understand how a grandmother can just sit by while her grandkids grow up & do nothing to be apart of it. 🤷♂️
Hopefully your son will do better.
In my opinion, if he confronts the situation, he will loose her and his kids. I am not sure he has a choice at this point. I hope I am still alive see true joy in his life. I need to heal. that's why I seek out uploads like this. Work Hard, Be Honest, and the hardest of all, Be Kind. Because sometimes the truth hurts. I say it like I see it. Not so good sometimes. I feel for you, because I know how all consuming all this is.@@AlleyCat-1
Get a therapist
@@abcbizarre don't need one. Thanks 🙏😁
Dewayne, I love the words. My problem today is the burden I carry is because its my mom and all the past bad stuff that had happened and she is super angry towards me for little past things I might have said to her. She never asks for forgiveness and she never gives me the chance to ask for forgiveness for anything I might have done.
You’ve just opened my eyes to forgiveness. It only makes sense that the victim is not the transgressor. Thank you
Thank You! I am that victim carrying that burden.. Been carrying it for a very long time, and it's so heavy.. Thank You for helping me to understand what i did not know.. I needed this message today.. ❤
I have always agreed with you on this. It is much easier to walk away from those who are unwilling to repent. You can not force forgiveness down someone’s throat
You're looking at it wrong. Forgiveness is for you, not for the person you're forgiving. It matters not if they accept it or not. It has to be something you fully accept with all your heart. Until you see it this way, you don't know how to forgive, and God won't forgive you. Let it all go.
@@Nomadestra chapter and verse please, God and Jesus forgive those that repent. Forgiveness is for the offender not the offended. Just walk away till they are ready to repent
@Sandppy Forgiveness is not something you give to somebody else. Those are just words and thoughts that the other person receives. Forgiveness has to come from a specific state of mind that is at peace with the world, themselves, and God. For instance, you can forgive someone who has done you wrong even if they don't accept it or even don't hear you say it. It's something you yourself come to terms with. Not anybody else. You can forgive a dead relative for doing you wrong. They don't have to be alive for you to tell them. You're too hung up on what the Bible says, or where you've heard that info from. God is within. God even says in the Bible not to worship knowledge and thoughts, which is what people are doing when they thump the Bible with scripture quotes. You don't need to read and quote the Bible to have an understanding of everything that is taught in it.
@@Nomadestra look up the definition of forgiveness, it is exactly something that one person gives to an offender. Letting go of something you so for yourself. Definitions matter, because if we cannot agree on the definition of words then we cannot communicate.
Yes God, if there was a no higher authority that you or me then there is no actual way to measure good and bad, there is only personal feelings and that my friend is what is wrong with the world today
@Sandppy Those are just words and thoughts to the person being forgiven verbally. It means nothing if your heart isn't in it. That's what I'm saying. And if your heart isn't full of love and forgiveness for ALL people, you don't truly know how to forgive. The majority of so called Christians lack this logic and judge people til the cows come home. If you have bitterness and resentment in your heart towards anyone at all, you are not yet capable of truly forgiving anybody. If you don't love all, you love nobody.
Much needed & right on time thank you!!! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🕊️🕊️🕊️❤️❤️❤️. Give Momma a hug please 🫂🫂🫂
I agree with you 💯
Im not religious but I just love listening to you Mr. Noel. Whether it's biblical or your own opinions, there's just so much wisdom to gain. Thank you ❤
Dewayne, I have been through this many times. I have realized this exact same truth years ago and have never met someone who believes the same.
It’s the truth and it has set me free.
Thank you sir for sharing.
This has been something that has caused my mind to feel conflicted over the past few days. This video popped up on my home page today and I am so grateful that it did. Thank you for the message ❤
Perhaps more importantly, I loved the part in your video from minute 19 onwards. You can literally see the kindness in your eyes. You have an important message. Many of them, in fact.
When you explain it the way you have makes a lot of sense and is the right way. Makes more peaceful sense to me
Tk u sir always good listening to you! This world needs more people like you. God bless🙏🏻
Agree with you this talk was from the heart. I am so grateful for all Dewayne and Momma both compassionately share.
A man should never be made to feel he is being unreasonable for not tolerating and forgiving actions of others against him. Often, when things really matter, standing your ground will feel like you are being unreasonable. Stand your ground. This is a principle of the heart bestowed in us by our Maker. Love is the first principle, then Truth, Justice, Equity, Kindness, Wisdom. The forgiveness must be the peace you allow yourself.
My friend, your whole point about forgiveness is summed up in one word. JUSTICE.
And I totally agree with you.
Matthew 6:14-15
"For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your Heavenly father will also forgive you.
But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your father forgive your trespasses".
It’s scary how many people are agreeing that forgiveness is not required of us.
We can't take one verse and run with it. We need to see forgiveness throughout the whole scriptures to understand what it means and how to do it. The verse quoted above doesn't dismiss what Dwayne said. It adds more richness to his points.
@@lauracochran3213Forgive them Father for they don’t know what they do.” He was living example of true forgiveness till the end.
@@azimuth4850 We receive forgiveness from the Lord by forgiving others, regardless if they admit to them or not. Jesus didn’t ask those that were casting lots on his clothing to ask for forgiveness, he simply forgave them. Nothing needed of them. We don’t have to condone that act, but we can forgive the individual. They might deny God in themselves or others, but we don’t have to deny God in them, because they didn’t verbally tell us they are sorry. Maybe they spoke to God directly, are we to judge and condemn because they didn’t say it to our face?We don’t know, thus we forgive to be free, to let go of the burden on our heart. That doesn’t mean we don’t have boundaries, or allow others to continue to disrespect us. We just don’t keep secret judgments and resentments inside us. Love, blessings, and peace be with you.
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@@revolutionofbeing5055 John 20:23 If you forgive the sins of any, they are forgiven them; if you retain the sins of any, they are retained.”
Every human thinks their burden is the heaviest.
Like being in the center and everything happening around you. But is this really a truth and if so, to what degree ?
Thank you sir. 23M from Virginia. I have been struggling with forgiveness with my family. They have wronged me greatly and have not been able to recognize their faults and ask for forgiveness.I have not talked to my mother, father, two brothers in over a year. This messages has soothed my soul and relieved me of my contempt for them. Thank you. Your messages always help me when I am feeling rough about the situation with them. I am just a lost man seeking wisdom and you sir are a very deep well. I hope you see this message and will feel the change you have made in this world.
You are not alone.
That reflection on forgiveness is so important, I see this common mistake of people giving bad advice like: "you should just forgive that person" before the other person even acknowledged their wrong doings.
I notice that people who try to forgive someone who has no regret will often end up with resentment and bitterness about the situation. When someone ASKS for forgiveness and you forgive them (like you should), that's when you feel REAL peace of mind and move on. If the person never asks for forgiveness, don't put that weight on yourself.
🔥🔥🕊🕊 I blessed them, I forgave "the unforgivable" only one sent a sort of apology that resembled baiting & manipulation. I was cordial and said thank you, but didn't jump back on the hook... THEN came the vitriol spewed out over me, I fear God, I really did no wrong but to walk away.
It hurts, but knowledge will keep you. Thank you so much for your authenticity 🙏🏻
You’re the man Dewayne.
Both Judgement and Forgiveness return in the same measure and portion as given... 🙌🏼 Amen
The older one becomes it's perspective that measures trials and tragedy as blessings because they know first hand how the Lord works ALL for GOOD, in TIME
a better sermon than ive ever heard
Yep. 100%. Only those seeking forgiveness can be forgiven.
I needed this more than you could imagine
I will come back to this video many times
Thank you so much you have helped me a million times I've been wronged many times sometimes by family member and forced to forgive!!❤❤
Amen. This is something I needed to hear said the way you just did.
Keep making this content!
You just can't imagine how much I needed this video and take on forgiveness. Thanks for your wisdom and caring, sir, from the bottom of my heart. Regards from Spain.
Hard to forgive someone who isn't sorry...just hope to never have to see them again, so the hurt doesn't come back
Boy this hit deep.......In a good way, this lifted a huge burden I've struggled with for years! I can't begin to thank you enough for posting this, I truly believe this was a word I was suppose to hear.
I have a few channels on youtube I watch regurally and are mostly about ranching farming and horses but YOURS is going to be number one.
This helps so much in my life. You couldn't have posted this at a better time for me. Thank you.
Not forgiving is what leads us to not forgetting. And not forgetting is what makes us prepare to not allow the same mistake to happen again.
I personally believe that it is possible to forgive without forgetting, and that is what I strive for. If what happened was bad enough, it would be impossible to forget anyway.
Forgiving us not forgetting, i can still remember what happened but i forgive you for it
@@VelvetAura This is actually how it should be done. You can forgive any one including yourself, doesn't mean you completely let go of the responsibility from the person who it came from. They did something to you or you did something to yourself. Integrity and accountability is paramount. Why hold a grudge? The energy has no where to go until it's forgiven. Stuck energy is being created leading to disease: dis...ease, lack of flow. The body will eventually manifest these held grudges physically in relevant areas related to whatever the grudge was about. Forgive appropriately, carry no future burden with it, let that go to the universe, and archive it in your own memory.
Yes arent we supposed to stay away from evil and not have sympathy for the devil.
@@jeanmarie19 people who harm others aren't always inherently evil and this is a reductive way of looking at things
This was so deeply helpful. I have been betrayed twice in my life in a way that was extremely brutal and painful…I struggled to forgive and felt the burden to do so. This perspective puts me at ease and lifts my spirit in a way that I needed, especially right now 🙏 Thankyou. It’s time to let go.
I needed this so much. thank you.
Any video from you is a gift Dewayne. Thank you for your infinite wisdom.
I've been devastated for 3 years since being cheated on and going through a divorce with a child.
I've been apologized to a lot in my life, but never has someone asked me to forgive them.
I cried listening to this video. I've been carrying that burden of trying to force myself to forgive and it's only made me angrier and more hateful. I don't have friends that stick around for more than a year, I live across the country from my family.
I'm alone 95% of the time and it feels like no one cares.
good luck finding peace in your heart my friend. hope you do. it's worth it !
@AChunkyDog
Keep your stick on the ice! Look at Job, in The Bible. He lost everything and got twice as much back. You never know what God's got in store for you!
@@redpillow7221
I operate on God's time. I realized when my life turned upside down that I have very little control over my own life. The only thing I can do is choose between left or right when I get to the fork in the road.
Maybe it is because you moved AWAY from your family. Did you ever think about what it did to them or is it always just about you?
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Imagine believing you've never made mistakes. I did what I had to do, now things have changed.
Dwayne, what a wonderful lesson, thank you! You’re making distinctions between, forgive and pardon and let go. I never thought of it like this. I never thought of it so thoroughly as you have. Those are three completely Albeit related independent different actions / choices.. Going forward, I will concentrate on letting go. Whether the offender approaches me with an apology, or not is out of my control. I don’t have to rely on that person’s for me to let it go. And for me to let it go is what’s in my best interest, for my mental and spiritual health. Both of which affect my physical health. Great lesson, Sir! Please keep them coming.
Thank you Mr. Dwayne. This was the exact lesson I needed today. God bless and keep you and yours.
I needed this thank You ❤
Lots of truth in your words and wisdom, we do pray with words "and forgive us our trespasses,
as we forgive those who trespass against us", Christ died for our sins, it tells us to forgive others because God forgives us, I am not sure if this only always applies to those who ask for repentance... I think many saints/martyrs did forgave their executioners without them asking for it. But Dewayne now you did made me to think about it and I will have to dig more into the Bible and beyond to understand this, thank you.
I absolutely and whole heartedly agree with you Dwayne and I think what you're saying makes more then reasonable sense keep up the good teachings 👍🏼 hope you and all you love are doing well
Thank you, Dwayne! I needed this !
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I think you’re right about confession as the requirement for forgiveness. But we are also called to love our enemies and not judge, remembering our own flaws, so there’s a lot of confusion out there regarding these concepts. Thank you for sharing your insights. ✌🏽
Thanks for this explanation. I never looked at it this way but it makes a lot of sense. I have struggled with forgiving someone that has never asked for forgiveness. I just won't worry about it anymore.
Thank you. I really needed this.
This is so true. I've struggled with this for years, and you are right.
I agree with you, 100%.
I guess its common to use the the phrase " I have forgiven" as an excuse to stop feeling hatred towards that person and help us move on wether they asked for forgiveness or not.
But you are 100% correct
That makes SO MUCH sense! Thank you!
*Well said*
Thank you for sharing your wisdom, Papa Dwayne, I am one of the few people who decides to forgive others as a good Christian and from you I learned that we can easily walk away from problems, especially those who do not value us, so as not to live a life with bitterness ♥
I needed this. Thank you Dwayne❤
Dwayne, to me, is 100% right on this. There is a big difference between forgiving someone of their trespasses, and moving past the anger and pain of being wronged.
There are those in my life who have wronged me, whom I have forgiven when a sincere apology was offered. I have been forgiven of wrongs, myself, under the exact same circumstances.
Others, who have done me horrible wrongs, will never apologize, because they are unwilling to acknowledge that any wrong or harm was done. I cannot forgive them.
But I also can't dwell on the anger and hurt caused by that wrongdoing. Doing so only poisons me, and does not affect them at all.
You don't have to forgive, to move on. But, it's best for your well-being to move on, regardless. And if someone sincerely tries to make amends, it is always best to forgive, whether you keep them in your life or not. Either way, do what's healthiest for you.
I really needed this right now, Dewayne. Thank you sir.
I gotta say... As an agnostic, you're a really good preacher.
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Colossians 3:13 Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others.
Dwayne wisely points out that Christ did not forgive you of your sins until you came to Him for forgiveness. It was never intended to be automatic. So, likewise, we forgive others in the same way.
Even in Matthew 18 when Jesus says at the end to forgive trespasses, the story still involves the debter ASKING for forgiveness. I think thats what you're missing. The master forgave the man his debt only when he begged for compassion. It is in this context that Jesus is requiring us to forgive the debts of others.
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Luke 23:34:
And Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.” I don’t think the Roman guards executing Jesus asked for forgiveness but Jesus forgave them.
I love Gods character ark. In the last book hes drowning children, pregnant women, men, animals and damn near everything on the planet. Hardening peoples hearts against him so they deserve the punishments that he gives them and the innocent people around them.
Then in the sequel its suddenly all about forgiveness and mercy :p
@thechemistamvs5033 Why did you skip the whole core theme of the book that led up to the drowning? Seems like you weren't paying attention, so I'll bring it up - it's called "choosing sin or choosing God."" That was also the reason for the hardening of the hearts as well, but you probably didn't notice that either. The whole reason for the drowning is because, at one point, practically ALL of humanity was already drowning in their spiritual sins. And God couldn't fix them. He felt bad He had made them. So, He had to end their lives, which He decided to do through drowning. One one man and his family had decided to follow God, so He blessed him instead of killing him.
Also, it seems like you only read the back cover of the sequel instead of reading it, so I'll sum that one up for you as well. God had decided to enact a plan he's had from the very beginning, where He sends His own Son to save the people from their sins (a final act of love to give them one last chance before they are destroyed like the people before them). The way it works is that His Son ends up sacrificing His life to pay for the wrongs of the people because He knew they couldn't pay for their wrongs. In turn, the people who accept His Son's payment for their sins are accepted by God and will be allowed to live forever instead of dying forever. There's more to it than that, but that's the driving theme of the entire series.
So, it's no wonder you think the books don't make any sense - it doesn't seem like you read them in the first place!
@Sean34146 No, it never said Jesus forgave them. It says He asked the Father to forgive them.
You're also leaving out the fact that when Jesus was on the cross, and had said "Father, forgive them", He was, at that moment, separated from God because of how He was the actual embodiment of sin. Nothing ever implies that God fulfilled that request. On the other hand, the rest of the New Testament proves that people still need to choose to believe in Jesus' payment for their sins before they are cleansed of their sins.
So, for some reason, you're leaving out 90% of the theme of Biblical forgiveness. You've only addressed 2 verses on this topic. Therefore, I C safely say your conclusion about forgiveness is extremely narrow and incomplete.
I needed this one today. Thank you sir.
Thank you so much for making this video. ❤
I just did a youth sermon on that story from Luke 7 this last summer! I remember, because it is 7:11. Haha. I rarely hear anyone speak on this. Without her boy, she (the Widow) would have had nothing, and Jesus gave him back to her. So powerful!
I don’t think I’ve ever commented on a video. But I needed this. Thank you, it brought some clarity and peace.
I deeply needed this. Thank you.