Paying The Price…Passively
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- Опубліковано 21 кві 2023
- A lot of time of the difficulties, or the things that we miss in life are things that are the result of our actions, but we never even know about it. And so the cost is not something that we have that we end up losing, but something that we have never had, and now we will never get. And we won’t even know it.
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Take your time and don't feel the need to rush out videos, we appreciate the effort you put into these
Amen.
Hell yeah. This guys like my second dad.
Agreed. Take your time.
Amen. He's different and we appreciate that.
Perfectly stated albert9994!👍
How do you always come through with a video that talks about exactly what I'm going through exactly when I need it
every single time. bless this man
Yes, and I am on the opposite side of the earth and I find his teachings incredibly profound and honest. I am so grateful that I could find his videos on UA-cam. I am becoming a better man.
Yep.
These are the things all of us humans go through and can relate to one another with. God bless
This was me with the “You Messed Up” video.
It’s crazy how much you will get in life from being a pleasant person.
Remember the saying. What you put into life is what you get out.
Be a pleasant person and pleasantries will come to you.
Yeah like cancer and your family abondoning you.. Life isn't a fairytale.
Pleasant, today is seen as weakness and stupidity. Synonymous with kindness. Tats the same people pushing pedo lifestyles in schools and shooting up neighborhoods. In this world today, you keep your word, you're seen as a chump and used accordingly.
The reason this man's channel has exploded is because he's the exact opposite of this country. As for the employer that got rid of him for being g competent, that has been the norm since the 90's and the nation shows it. From. It's churches and corporations to the military and hospitals.
Sadly, no. It’s not that way. People have treated me like trash, use me for work, humiliated me, and all the works. Still happens.
Pleasantries don’t come to you if you are a good, kind person. Pleasantries come from other people being a good and kind.
I know from experience, and good kind people are rare, very very rare.
However, being a good person despite horrible people and horrible situations shows resolution. And from experience, staying resolute like this is very very difficult.
It really should work that way in theory. But as many of these comments point out it often doesn't happen that way in reality. Guess where most of us have to live?
I think being a pleasent person to be around is something different from always saying yes to everything you are asked to do. It's the other way around: The people who treat you badly and unfair are losing YOU and what you could have done for them. If family or "friends" treat you unfair then be on the lookout for people who acknowledge your worth. All the best to you.
I wish every person had a father figure as wise as you in their personal lives
We do.. right here.. for those blessed enough to find Dewayne on UA-cam have a wise father figure/mentor/friend ❤️
Dewayne, your wisdom is unmatched. It is so profound yet so simple to grasp. You speak in a way that commands attention without seeming condescending. I thank you for using your platform to bless us all.
This is the granddaddy I never had
100%
Don’t be afraid to preach. The world is in great need of spiritual healing sir. Blessings to you and your family.🙏🏼🕊🌿
Lukewarmness. Mediocrity. Settling for good enough. We short ourselves by default if we don't put our all in. Made perfect sense to me. My place shall never be "among those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat..." Thanks Dewayne.
Even people who try really hard and do right can have bad outcomes, there are external factors that can screw up even the best efforts.. It's not all about simple cause and effect and effort, there's more to it than that..
@Castle Hassall I understand the point you're raising, and I'm not trying to dismiss it. But I 100% disagree. On every path to success, there will be a road of trials. "...Whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs and comes up short again and again, because there is no effort without error or shortcoming, but who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, who spends himself in a worthy cause; who, at the best, knows, in the end, the triumph of high achievement, and who, at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who knew neither victory nor defeat.” That is road of trials. Do you hear it? There will be no achievement without struggle. It is not our fault which family we were born into, what life handed us, or what life didn't hand us. Life handed me childhood trauma and a predisposition for alcohol abuse. That's not my fault. But it is, however--- my responsibility. So, I went to therapy and rehab. I educated myself. I took responsibility for all of my life and all of my decisions. I'm now a very fulfilled and successful person. Don't quit on the road of trials. Keep going. If you're going through something tough right now, I'm rooting for you.
@@CastleHassall Totally totally agree.What about those who suffer dibilitating desease through no fault of their own(and please no glib platitudes about how we create are own luck etc.)Our efforts are only half the storey.Yes you increase your chances by putting in a good shift....but nothing is garanteed.And I speak as someone who goofed off and still did ok because I eventually got lucky! by accident of windfall.Had to capitalise on that luck for sure.But would be real dero now but for it.✌️
@Randy Backgammon Both the circumstances and the outcome are irrelevant. The focus is on the effort. Are you doing the best with what you have? Are you doing your best in spite of what you don't have? If you can't run, then walk. If you can't walk, then crawl. But don't give up. Effort. Effort. Effort. Even when defeat is eminent. There is no guarantee of success. There never was. The point is, do not be defeated WITHOUT having made a valiant effort to the bitter end. Success AND defeat are both honorable outcomes. Notice how TR said "Cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat". The only thing I'm speaking against is the "good enough" attitude and a half assed effort. I hit rock bottom before I became successful. But even then, success wasn't guaranteed. Nor was I lucky. I just worked with what I had and didn't quit. And I'm still working. The rent is due daily.
@@MuleSkinnerWS Broadly agree with what you say bro.Particularly liked the bit about success not being guaranteed.Far more realistic than this manifestation thing where accordingly you only have to dream something hard enough for it to happen(which would of course lead to complete sosial collapse).The point I was trying to make was that conventional success,the kind that allows a 56 year old dude the time to smoke cigars ,drink coffee and delight in his large healthy family and(deserved)achievements is dependent on more than individual effort.Genetics,birth station, inherited talent and luck etc. all play a part and THAT part is unfair and undiserved.But I take your point about carrying on regardless because it seems to me the best any of us can do.✌️
I studied business in college, one of the valuable lessons I retained was an understanding of opportunity cost. The price you pay in missed opportunities.
"Life is a series of networks"...
Preach it, Sir....
The band I was in for my photo was the result of consistently being nice to a woman at a convenience store 14 years before this photo was taken. Through her, I joined her husband's band. Through it, I met. Through it, I met. Through it, I met. By having positive connections with everyone and still being able to hang out with everyone along the way, I ended up in a truly great band that was doing shows in an area that was 3 1/2 hour drive E2W and 2 1/2 hour drive N2S.
It's all about the connections.
God forbid something happen to me, I've instructed my wife to have our young sons watch Dwayne's videos once they are older.
The simple fact that every comment on this feed is positive, supportive & encouraging is a testament to the quality of your content.. especially considering how toxic social media responses can be .. Bless You & Mama
You’re so right!
You’ve helped me a lot sir. Got me through a divorce and into my dream job, all in the space of a year. I wanted to give up worse than I’d ever wanted to this past year. Thank God, my friends, my family, and you that I resisted those thoughts. Things will never be the same, and the future is always uncertain, but I am proud of who I am, what I’ve learned, and what I’ve accomplished. My late grandmother always said that angels are people who show up in the lives of other people who need them. You were one of mine, and ever since I’ve tried to be that person to others.
Another way to see it is that networking and connecting with people can create circumstances. So consciously deciding to create circumstances for yourself is a very useful skill and once you are good at it, you can put yourself around people who can help you progress in life and create situations that can lead on to more results of circumstance. Learn to create circumstances that put you in situations that could benefit your choices.
Amen! And learn to detect and avoid people who will put you in bad situations.
As long as your intention is sincere and not manipulative.
@@chuckrf1502 how do you learn this? Seems I have blindness to intentions and malfeasance much of the time, and even though I stay away from people and can be generally paranoid and suspicious, still there are shady types getting past my (high) defenses.
It's easy to get caught up in the big mistakes you did, but then you forget the small mistakes you did passively.
Basically all those little things you didn't do that could've changed your trajectory. That's my interpretation of your advice
There is this two terms in Economics, explicit cost (money, getting fired, breakups) and implicit cost (networking, friendship, opportunities) I think these terms will help explain this video a little bit better. This video has helped me today, I do thank very much for the effort behind all of your videos
This was completely needed for me. I have honestly held on to something’s because I was frustrated that there wasn’t any tangible repercussions of people who wronged me. But you are absolutely right they might not get punished but they miss out on a bigger blessing. Thank you so much for letting the Lord use you.
This lesson has such broad application. It applies to my illness to health journey. If I skimp today on bettering my body I may not end up in the hospital, but I'm also not feeling my best or building my health which robs me of energy, time and smiles today and down the road.
Thanks Dewayne. You are like a papa to me. Love you!
So true. Be patient, look gently at the details, think for a few moments to take it in, relax your eyes, slow down, appreciate all the fun you're having, stare into spaces and defuse that devil in your mind, that was picking at you for some time. Stay really slow for the next few hours, in many of the things you're doing winding down, waddle when you're on carpet sometimes, tell people you're waddling. Have fun. And relax.
TRUE!! TY Dewayne....
There are repercussions for lacking good character.
We DO reap what we sow! Moral to the story: Do the right thing.
But so many don't know "HOW" to do the right thing these days.
Or don't want to. It takes too much effort :(
Seems like we're all upside down---what's right is wrong what's good is evil~ Folks are confused and ... Way too self-centered.
Plus, don't care if they have a negative impact on others, by the way they behave.
If only thoughtful and considerate behavior was a thing ? How much better the world would be! Let's all agree.... "It starts with ME!"
Dont beat yourself up, Dwayne. You explain things perfectly, and I understood the message. Keep up your life lessons, they're always helpful to me.
2:03 “half the equation” love that quote. Only a few minutes in and I’m gaining so much already brother
I think when I first subscribed, you were at around 3500 or so. I imagine 587K subscribers has to blow your mind. Thanks for always putting out some great content.
I’ll be honest, I don’t know a damn thing about horses but your demeanor and how you carry yourself is something I’m definitely striving for. Slow to talk, fast to listen. Smart with your words, not speaking or acting on emotions. Amazing video sir.
Thank you for these videos, people badly need them.
I agree with you. Based on the Prez and admin we currently have I don't think enough people in our culture would have a darn clue to understand this.
Hey Dewayne Firebird here
A direct correlation or consequence is more apparent and easily identified.
The indirect and passive results are harder to quantity, especially when things are going well enough.
Thank you for your wisdom
Firebird out
Great video as always! There's a term for this in economics: implicit costs. You may not be actively losing something, but you sure are losing something without even knowing it.
Dewayne, thank you for your wisdom, I witnessed NO foolishness here! I'm not a horse person, but someone from another channel took a small segment of you dropping one of your precious pearls, and made it into a short.. So here I am, a firm fan, one video in..
Thank you, I believe God is certainly using you.. relationship wise, thank you. You've given me more to think on, than you may ever know. So much better listening to you, than so many others insisting everyone else is a narcissist, you end up in that finger pointing hamster wheel. Going round and round, nothing changes, nothing improves...
Once again THANK YOU!
Actually very clear to me. It's often not about obvious negative consequences as much as it is the lack of positive consequences. Very practical perspective.
I just lost something super important to me yesterday, and I am wrapping up my grieving.
So this video is perfect, thank you for this video. I really appreciate the video creation.
This one gets me thinking. I like it. We often don’t think about how powerful our actions whether subtle or not have a major ripple effect in our lives and those around us. Mindfulness is key.
Hi, I know this is 6 months ago. But I just wanted to say I recently started watching you I even made a playlist for all the talking you have done. Me and my mom watch you time to time and wow!!!! You are such an amazing person, your talks and so on. Thank you.
Dewayne, you have done a wonderful job applying "opportunity cost" to everyday life in how we treat others and conduct ourselves. I respect you, sir.
Dwayne I totally agree. But sometimes people get lucky or unlucky.
But, perseverance and resilience can beat luck.
Thank you for passing on wisdom concerning our behavior. You once again made it clear . And God will use this advice to bring a change . No muddy waters 🤠 Laura 💜Willow 💜Bear 🐴💜
You sir have a knack for critical thought. I believe that many people either have or lack the things you are speaking about because it is a result of their character. An empathetic individual is more critical of themselves for example and a narcissistic individual will be more critical of the world around them. World view has a huge impact on an individual's failure vs. Success.
Thanks Dewayne!
Totally got you, and it is so true; it is an invisible chain of causation. Also sometimes we miss out on big things we have no idea we missed and sometimes we miss out on things we could have had but had no idea we could have it.
Brother, I have admired your videos for some time now, and as a poet and an old-school heart similar to yourself, I just wanted to pen a poem in your honor as a thank you gift. God bless.
The Horseman
A man bred from the common earth,
with wisdom swelling like grapes on tender vine,
has this era found a treasure of rarity and worth,
like perspiration laving a bottle of aged wine.
I feel the words of his heart assuaging my quaking bones,
for there is yet hope in a crack of manufactured concrete,
for then nature's light shall shine forth and take back her throne,
and archaic life shall again be complete.
A man betwixt the power of horses both wild and tamed,
with teachings inflamed with passion beyond compare,
for by his lessons shall your pride be pricked and mamed,
if you but apply it within to mend and repair.
Through the corridors of times have
we seen such men come and go,
be it men of grandmasters, pantomimes or renowned fame,
but fewer be those with rudiments of prudence, intergrity and honor,
as the horseman of red earth's flame.
Within his soul are melodies heard of songs devoid of lunacy,
like an owl perched on the cold branch beneath the moon,
for he seeks not the limelight of the peacock but chants usefully as the quiet ballad of the lune.
Please do learn of this humbled poet, for the benediction of his ways will
touch thy anxious and busy mind,
cease from the professionals who of love do not know it,
and learn of the horseman of red earth prime.
THANK YOU!!! I've been trying to tell people this for years. I absolutely agree. There are costs to our actions and inactions. Great video!!
@13:00 you hit the nail on the head. My companion and I have the most incredible connection even when we are thousands of physical mile apart. The thoughtfulness and deliberate desire to please and build each other up is incredible. To truly be equally yoked. It's all because of grace and openness to truth and honesty.
I will say,you are so wise so well spoken,I wish I could clone the world with men like you..ty so much for just being you and sharing you with us🙏💞💯
You make a great deal of sense sir, thank you and God bless you and all your endeavors 🙏
Dwyane, I appreciate your wisdom more than you realize. Your videos are all the more special to me as they remind me of the lessons my father tried to teach me years ago, though I was too immature and selfish to listen. I have not seen him in a long time but what you give us through this medium is more than a valuable substitute for the wisdom I can no longer recieve from him. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart for your content. I wish you great success with the new school in Wyoming.
Connections also can be seen as Synchronicities! Beautiful Talk as always! Thank You!
I am so pleased to see your channel explode in the short time since I first began watching it. Your wisdom is timeless, valuable, and so simple and easy to understand that it challenges your viewers to apply it to their lives. God bless you guys and I pray your season is prosperous.
Thanks man. Ive been derailed, & really needed that; professionally & personaly🤙🏼
Feels like a buddy talking
Thanks for your time man.
Keep on wrangling🖐🐴
Thanks DeWayne for the video . I appreciate you wanting to help people now that your at a high point in your life. You know, all your content is biblically based in which I love. I too am a born again Christian. I wish you guys well on your upcoming classes and maybe your example of Christ to others will convict some of them into repentance
Amen
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I have watched 4 different random videos of yours now. Each is insightful and everlasting. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts, time and wisdom for the betterment of our lives. May God continue to Bless
No need to listen to you twice Sr. You were clear enough for your message to go through and be understood.
I listen to you from Alta California. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. I value more wisdom than money so I truly appreciate it.
Your message was very clear and absolutely on point.
Thanks Dewayne. A blessing as usual ….. clearly 👍🏼
I am days into therapy. After 30+ years of suppression and running. Life has finally caught up to me. I am at a cross roads. At this time point I am
Done running. I will trust God and walk thru this fire 🔥. I hope this resonates with someone. Peace ✌️ ❤
I was in your place 3 years ago.
What a transformation of you determine to always do what is right, remain humble and be a servant to everyone one you meet. You feel find freedom and peace in your soul! Well worth it. Amen
I can relate to the same story. There’s a person in my workplace who never said thank you when other people did him a favor. There’s no active direct repercussion against him because mostly we tried to be polite, but almost everyone who had this experience from him felt reluctant to put full effort when helping him the next time.
Good luck with new school. It's so great with words of wisdom and horse tack in the back. Thankyou for great advice as usual.
Amazing insight, thanks Dwayne. passive consequences - missed opportunities for bad behaviour, brilliant!
This is true life wisdom and very well put. Only in old age, with time for hindsight and regrets is this usually appreciated, if only life had a reverse gear, but it doesn't, modern life has people rushing round often multi-tasking and the simple truth is that we need to slow down and consider our actions and those we care about.
Another excellent video D’Wayne!
This video that you made reminded me of how my parents got along with others. My mother tried to be supportive and encouraging, but she stopped because of my father arrogant, sloppy, disrespectful, and careless behaviours. I always knew they never connected on a spiritual level; even though my dad never saw it.
To a certain extent, I was also very patient and kind to him for many years, but I gave up on him as well since I could not stand his stupidity and hypocrisy. I’ve passively ignored him for several years now, and couldn’t care less about him. Now he wonders why nobody cares about him and why he has all sorts of financial problems/debts that he cannot pay off…
It really takes a spiritual understanding of life in order to grasp many moments or challenges we face.
My experience as a video production company taught me some very important insights one of which is: some of us need to learn to get out of our own way. Sometimes we are our own worst enemy.
I once produced 13 episodes for a hunting/fishing/camping outfit. The owner came to me after a large media company saw some of the episodes and was interested in developing a similar program for their viewers - and they wanted to hire him and his crew to produce a show for them. So he contacted myself and two other companies to develop and produce a sample video under the prospective company’s directions. We all agreed to wave off our usual fees pending the results of acceptance/rejection of the sample.
A timeline was set for the sample. The week before our meeting presentation the guy we were helping develop the concept left town was for a hunting opportunity. Without him we couldn’t finish the presentation since he had not been available for the shots we needed to have of him in the video - he was the “on air personality” required by the company seeking the presentation.
In the end the opportunity was lost. It turns out the real reason this guy went hunting and failed to show for his part of the presentation was his fear of success and how his life would change. Although myself and the other two companies involved missed a great opportunity, we all agreed to eat our losses. You win some, you lose some in this business. We collectively understand the fears people have and how they get in their own way.
By the way I especially appreciate the cigar segments you include in your video. I switched to your cigar provider and have been pleased ever since. By the way…you and your wife are good video producers Keep up the good work. And thank you…
It goes by numerous names in all cultures, but the basic premise of karma is real. When I was a young man I used to think of this concept night after night when I climbed into bed and pondered it, I used to call it “micro justice”.
Thank you for this, it was what I needed. I think the lesson about passivity is also in reference to improving your own life: your life won't get better if you are not putting effort into making it so.
On a side-note, though you felt that you were walking in molasses, it was a nice pace to digest properly. Thank you again.
I really enjoy how you have a story with a lesson to be learned. It's a very tangible example of what you are explaining
What a great message. Most people do not think about what they miss out on themselves for not treating others well, or even being minimally courteous. But what's worse, they not only don't think about what they're missing out on with their own potential, but what they fail to provide others to their potential. The younger generation seems to feel no need or desire to connect with anyone. They seem so isolated in their own endeavor. Never thinking there may be others who are willing to help if they showed any personality or desire to connect even the slightest amount.
Wise words. ☝️👍
Well said.
As a growing youth, God knows how true that last part is. And I always get a little scared about reaching out to other people because it’s so uncommon, but maybe that small connection is just what we were missing and didn’t know it.
You always offer the advice we never knew we wanted but need to hear. You are an incredible human.
Thank you Mr. DeWayne. I really appreciate having you as part of my being.
I just recently found you. I now listen every morning as my daily devotional. Thank you!
Thanks a heap for your encouragement and your speeches sir. For I listen to you and then I feel relaxed, motivated and beefed up to endeavor fulfilling my dreams doesn't matter what the hard barrier or repercussion will be. I wish we were neighbors, friends. If it happens, I love to visit you anytime when I could come over there to the US and to meet you in person, I'm actually from Kurdistan-Iraq. And I dispatch my best regards to you and yours over there. May God bless you all
I hope you read this…we are the same age BUT I hear very thoughtful, sage advice from you. You’ve helped my life and way of looking at things which has been a blessing. Peace
You struggle on this one to communicate your ideas, but it is perfectly clear for me, the place I live, and one of the two jobs I have, came because I put time and effort being a good and helpful person, I would say, I'm "enjoying the prize". Thanks Duane, great talks as always.
What I think of is “opportunity costs”. The cost of something you DIDN’T do/get.
Like you could work 40 hours a week, or you could spend that time with family in a vacation whichever option you choose, what you don’t choose is the “cost”.
Your message came through crystal clear. Thank you!
I love you, Dwayne, i feel this video almost like a signal, thank you so much. Greetings from Argentina!!
Appreciate your message, thank you sir.
You made PERFECT sense, Dwayne, great discussion!
Your point was crystal clear. Thank you.
Good evening Dewayne, I just wanted to come on here and say thank you for your videos and podcast episodes, I have been a fan for a while and for the last couple months you have helped me whilst I've been alone in Albacete, Spain on a study placement. Keep the videos coming! :)
I completely understand everything you said. Great video like always. Thank you for sharing.
This was a wonderful message!
This video hit me right where I needed. Thank you
GOOD MORNING YALL
Bless you and your journey .
Appreciate your time and wisdom brother DeWayne. Came across clear.
Thanks for the video!
Wish more would take this advice to heart and really try to understand what it means living knowing that "What you reap, you will sow."
I like to envision that phrase as a karma concept, you'll get out what you put in.
Always great advice.
Dwayne, I appreciate your videos, and enjoy them. Almost 67 years old and I have a comfortable level of wisdom now. But like you said in another video, wisdom takes time. And yes I was around your age when I began to wake up.
Legend, keep up the content. Forget the numbers keep inspiring
Thanks for simple truth! God bless you and yours!
Cowboy and girl common sense is required now! We live in such mediocre times and many people's hearts have selfish and sometimes evil motives! My 88yo Father has been saying for years we are going back to Wild West times! Life's all about choices! Great talk!🐎
Good talk, thanks! As usually, you made me think. As you talked I was thinking about those opportunities that I have missed because of some real or perceived insults, and potential opportunities that I just didn't pick up on in the moment. Very good food for thought!!!
Very accurate. I understood what you were saying.
I need this so much thank you Dwayne
Thanks for all your videos brother
Wise man. I needed this. And I'm gonna need this lesson in the near future.
Thank you Duane. Awesome video, sir.👍👍👍
I'm so glad you said that about when souls come together!❤ love you brother.
Very well said. Great advice that I’m going to put to good use in my life. Thank you.
Thanks for the video Dewayne! The word that popped into my head was “consequences “, whether that was what the terminology you were searching for. This video was quite thought provoking!
Thanks . Very true , wish you always all the best with your school ❤
God bless you Sir for your efforts and your wisdom.
Ty very much for your words of wisdom Sir.
i appreciate the advice you give us in these videos. i always get something out of them when i get one of them recommended.