The Nature of Respect

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  • There’s not enough respect in the world. People do not respect themselves. People do not respect each other, and people demand respect where respect is not due. Tonight we just have a simple conversation regarding respect for ourselves and for others. 
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 994

  • @carlh-thehermitwithwi-fi679
    @carlh-thehermitwithwi-fi679 Рік тому +963

    Mom taught me "respect is earned. Give everyone a teaspoon of it, and, based on how they act, see if you should give them another teaspoon."
    Thanks mom.

    • @MrBrownstone219
      @MrBrownstone219 Рік тому +13

      ❤Your Mom sounds a lot like mine.
      Thanks, Moms!

    • @Holy-Rowlo88
      @Holy-Rowlo88 Рік тому +7

      ​@@MrBrownstone219 My Mom needs to learn some respect... straight up

    • @nawaofficial7233
      @nawaofficial7233 Рік тому +5

      That is an awesome thought!
      As kids we were focusing on beeing a servant (like jesus) to everyone. That's what my mom lived.
      That's not bad of itself, but the consequence was getting soft, beeing an easy target for manipulation and shutting down the own opinion. In the end theres a lot of frustration and selfdoubt.
      Giving yourself up to God, thats alright (I'm no christian myself but i ghet the concept). Giving yourself up to another human beeing, thats just wrong. For both parties, especially if its your own kids. (Moma talks about that in her channel)
      So knowing the laws of respect, knowing how to give and to recieve it, what it implies and what it excludes, is absolutely essential for beeing a complete human beeing.
      I'm really greatful for this channel to help me collect the wisdom i was missing out.
      Cheers to your Mom!
      She had that down.
      Have a good day from switzerland

    • @vKross
      @vKross Рік тому +7

      that sound like a good way to do it, I personally had to come up with how I do it myself, I just give people the same respect I expect to get back from a new person, from there one it either decreases or increases upon how much they give back.

    • @fatasssquirrel1731
      @fatasssquirrel1731 Рік тому +8

      Respect isn't like a paycheck, by doing the work it doesn't guarantee you a paycheck at the end of the day. Sometimes giving out respect will make you look weak in the eyes of others and they will see you more as an easy target. I say have respect for yourself and only give out respect to people who deserve it. Who deserves it? People capable of self-awarness, realizing their mistakes. I've seen too many narcissists in my life and they prey off people who give out respect like candy because they know how foolish it is, how easy it is to take advantage of due to the naive nature of it.
      Give out respect at your own peril. And one other thing I hear from time to time is the misconstrued idea that respect is equal to common decency. It is not.
      "The good four. Honest with ourselves and with whatever is friend to us; courageous toward the enemy; generous toward the vanquished; polite-always. That is how the four cardinal virtues want us." Nietzsche
      Conduct yourself with politeness, hold your temper, refuse to be manipulated into acting against your will, be decent to those who deserve it. But give respect out at your own peril. If you respect everyone, you either live among paragons of humankind because they all deserve veneration, or more likely you set the bar to low and venerate the unvenerable, and it's undeserving and cheapens true greatness. When you withhold respect it makes it rare, and rarity is where true value lies. Have decency, withhold the respect.

  • @livinginthepines
    @livinginthepines Рік тому +1542

    I'm a female in my late 20's and appreciate your videos. It didn't even cross my mind that you might be speaking more towards a male audience. So just keep being you. You are genuine and have morals. That's all a good leader/teacher needs, honestly. You've got this country girl listening and taking your advice. And yes, women are the same when it comes to respect. Except it's done more often behind our backs. Women friendships are very very fickle these days.

    • @michaelschneider9305
      @michaelschneider9305 Рік тому

      Men can’t be friends with a woman

    • @akjohnny5997
      @akjohnny5997 Рік тому +46

      that's true i see so many women stabbing each other in the back, always drama to be had lol

    • @jacksonandy218
      @jacksonandy218 Рік тому +31

      People with mutral respect will understand that yeah it is understandable that he has a noto towards male audiences. But it shouldn't matter male nor female should be bias in these videos. Advice is advice to anyone who is open to it and understand it.

    • @JamesStorey09
      @JamesStorey09 Рік тому +14

      Keep smashing the game girl ❤

    • @mistymountainangel717
      @mistymountainangel717 Рік тому +21

      I am also a female in my late 20s and find you and momma very helpful with the videos you’re posting. Such a great source of guidance✨

  • @natew5593
    @natew5593 Рік тому +123

    13:40 One of the best pieces of advice I ever received was “Don’t be that guy who got divorced 5 times and goes around town saying all his ex wives are crazy.” Denial is not just a river in Egypt 😂

  • @chadelles2586
    @chadelles2586 Рік тому +364

    “Show respect to people who don't even deserve it; not as a reflection of their character, but as a reflection of yours.” - Dave Willis

    • @airadaimagery692
      @airadaimagery692 Рік тому +18

      So true. One of my closest friends who was just killed in an automobile accident recently, gained the respect of so many people through this platform that it was almost comical, and unbelievable. And he gained a lot of that respect because he even respected his biggest haters. I know that sounds counterintuitive, but he was a fairly popular man on UA-cam. And when you become noticed on UA-cam, you just develop haters naturally, it’s the nature of the beast. But because my friend was so kind and respectful to EVERYONE, including the haters, that set him apart from the rest, a true one of a kind man. Sometimes, it really does seem that the best are always the first to leave this earth before the bad.

    • @emanuel_soundtrack
      @emanuel_soundtrack 10 місяців тому

      @@miguelsilva9085probably lol

    • @MyWillBeDone
      @MyWillBeDone 10 місяців тому +2

      ​@@miguelsilva9085kind of. It's hard for me to disrespect people though, I'd rather disengage than disrespect. It feels like a curse sometimes honestly

    • @arthoriusthibault8727
      @arthoriusthibault8727 10 місяців тому

      Trash advice

    • @leahllynn
      @leahllynn 4 місяці тому

      @@MyWillBeDone my ex would literally say that if u disrespect him he is not taking the high road… he is going to haunt you and make it even because he is the savage one🥴 he’s 28 I’m 19.. crazy

  • @whiteboix
    @whiteboix Рік тому +371

    I'm a 46 year old mum of three...I live in New Zealand. Last Tuesday night I prayed that God would somehow bring a mentor for my 26 year old son.
    The next day he sent me one of your videos...he said you were really having an impact on his life.
    Now I'm also listening.
    God works in mysterious ways and I just wanted to let you know what you are doing is having a profound effect. Our son's are desperate for real kind hearted men...thank you for being one of these men❤️

    • @raularmas317
      @raularmas317 Рік тому +6

      Amen sister.

    • @jademelrose8765
      @jademelrose8765 Рік тому +6

      Yes I’m 44 year old woman listening from New Zealand 🇳🇿 too , and I really connect with your comment
      ❤this channel

    • @eddiebazan6411
      @eddiebazan6411 Рік тому +6

      Hell,I’m a 58 yr old Texan and I enjoy his chats.! Happy new year.!

    • @aloaloings5596
      @aloaloings5596 Рік тому +3

      That wasn’t god it’s the UA-cam algorithm lmao

    • @eddiebazan6411
      @eddiebazan6411 Рік тому +10

      @@aloaloings5596 he”works in mysterious ways”

  • @takishacade7531
    @takishacade7531 Рік тому +13

    Well I'm a 46 yrs old black woman that knows nothing about horses....... and I listen to you ALL the time 💕💕💕💕😉

  • @billb3454
    @billb3454 Рік тому +329

    Another excellent video. My father told me, and I have told my sons, not to worry if some people disrespect you as long as you are a good person, live right and treat others with respect. As my dad told me, “Lions don’t care about the opinions of sheep.” Congrats on the channel. You earned it.

    • @chefgiovanni
      @chefgiovanni Рік тому +6

      I agree with you. Treat people the way you want to be treated. Talk to people the way you want to be talked to. And respect is earned not given. Be a wolf among sheep.

    • @Holy-Rowlo88
      @Holy-Rowlo88 Рік тому

      Disagreed, no one is good, no not one...
      Don't take the Mark of the Beast! (666)

    • @SlayerRiley
      @SlayerRiley Рік тому

      @@chefgiovanni If that's how you see it, then it's rather clear that the point of the video does not apply to your views.

    • @Savvynomad225
      @Savvynomad225 Рік тому +3

      I think one of the aspects of respect is to respect yourself and set boundaries around that, including a willingness to let people know which behaviors you do not respect.

    • @TomFromYoutube
      @TomFromYoutube Рік тому

      Amen brother.

  • @Jackothy
    @Jackothy Рік тому +12

    Wisdom like this is more valuable than gold these days

  • @henseltbrumbleburg3752
    @henseltbrumbleburg3752 Рік тому +36

    12:59 I'm not sure where I heard it, but I have a similar saying:
    If one person calls you a horse, you tell them to F off
    If a second person calls you a horse, you ignore them
    If a third person calls you a horse, you best get yourself a saddle as you might be a horse.
    Love your videos man, super kind message with a great heart.

  • @boccardo62
    @boccardo62 Рік тому +14

    This man is a National Treasure

  • @TheMelaniebarber1
    @TheMelaniebarber1 Рік тому +2

    I hear you speaking to me in many aspects. I am 54 and female. You think the way my husband and I think. Like all people should.

  • @JoUsr
    @JoUsr 9 місяців тому +16

    I’m a female over 50 that never had a father figure.
    If I were to have had one, I feel that you would have provided amazing life lessons that may have allowed me to avoid some of the pitfalls of life; dealing with people, caring for myself and those I am responsible for.
    You provide so many life lessons that I appreciate so very much.
    So, I’m a grateful girl, sitting at your feet, listening contently - learning and filled with gratitude.
    Thank you for your thoughts and advice.

  • @brodybimber864
    @brodybimber864 Рік тому +88

    I’m 16 and going through some tough shit right now.Thank you for reminding me about who I want to be.

    • @jademelrose8765
      @jademelrose8765 Рік тому +7

      Keep going young fella , and your definitely in the right place 💯
      Times are tough but there will be well better times ahead 🙏🏼

    • @dustychayeh4878
      @dustychayeh4878 Рік тому +1

      Your more than a conquer

    • @leelowther476
      @leelowther476 Рік тому +5

      my life sucked at 16 dude im 17 now and things have shifted so much im a much better person just shows things can change so fast so i wouldnt worry too much my friend i reckon youll be ok just gotta be tough

    • @Raindrop199
      @Raindrop199 Рік тому +3

      Same here man, I just keep doing the wrong thing. Or saying the wrong thing. I am trying to better myself these videos are helping me to do that

    • @dustychayeh4878
      @dustychayeh4878 Рік тому +3

      @Raindrop2000 life and death is in our tongues. Choose life that you may live and keep Yahs(Gods) commandments.

  • @foodbytheword6262
    @foodbytheword6262 Рік тому +184

    I can honestly say my 85 year father raised me to be respectful and I thank God for that. And he has a high standard for being honorable. And I raised my son the same, it must be taught and demonstrated. Great video and topic!

    • @joanofarcxxi
      @joanofarcxxi Рік тому +8

      @@fflfred He really should thank whoever he wants. You do you. Respect.

    • @foodbytheword6262
      @foodbytheword6262 Рік тому +5

      @@fflfred Honoring God comes before any and everything! I have two driving principles in my life that guide me; 1. To Glorify God 1st and always and 2. Provide for my family! That is it, I keep it simple therefore there is never any question what my intentions are in life as the man that God created me to be!

    • @davidsonofyisrael4469
      @davidsonofyisrael4469 Рік тому

      @@fflfred Lol yep, there is always someone that gets their panties in a twist whenever GOD is mentioned. Thank you for proving to me once again that GOD does indeed exist. Much love.

    • @itsyaboi5488
      @itsyaboi5488 Рік тому

      @@fflfred weirdo energy, him thanking the man up above is also thanking his father in a way

  • @carlh-thehermitwithwi-fi679
    @carlh-thehermitwithwi-fi679 Рік тому +2

    14:22 - DAMN! Mom said that too! "You need to respect the chair, not the person in it!"
    WOW! I do love being "old school".
    World gotta get back to that.

  • @kyleloyd1008
    @kyleloyd1008 Рік тому +152

    I'm a 38 year old man with a wife and two children one 10 year old boy and a 3 year old girl. We live in Southern Illinois. I lost my dad a couple years back an he was my best friend. Any problem I had I could call him and he had a answer for or could fix. When it was his time it left a hole in me. We would sit in the early mornings an have discussions over the things that were happening and he always found a way to make things better. I found your channel a couple weeks ago and started watching your videos. I found myself getting up early to get coffee an go to the garage to watch your videos. It gives me a sense of how my father was an the talks we had. It's not a replacement for him but it reminds me who he was an who he made me. What your doing helps an sometimes even grow men can get lost an need a hand in life. A small talk can go a long way.....thank you

    • @genac.939
      @genac.939 Рік тому +2

      Some of the best people are from Southern Illinois, my grandparents who raised me were from there. I'm trying to get there now.

    • @goldilocks913
      @goldilocks913 Рік тому +1

      Beautifully put 👍🇬🇧🇺🇸

    • @ryang.5094
      @ryang.5094 Рік тому

      This genuinely made me smile; I’m happy for you.

    • @raularmas317
      @raularmas317 Рік тому

      Amen. I whole-heartedly agree with your sense of gratitude for this man and the time he has taken to show his respect for us as a "younger generation".

    • @Beth-77
      @Beth-77 Рік тому +1

      What a wonderful tribute to your father!

  • @yuval2248
    @yuval2248 Рік тому +90

    " Who is respectable? the one who respects others .Who is wise ?the one who learns from all. Who is rich ? the one who is happy with his lot .Who is the hero ? the one who conquers his desires"

    • @jademelrose8765
      @jademelrose8765 Рік тому +2

      What an amazing quote ❤

    • @yuval2248
      @yuval2248 Рік тому

      @Miguel Silva Even an ant can teach you , if you are not an idiot.

    • @dustinschroller4884
      @dustinschroller4884 9 місяців тому +1

      Sounds like Marcus Aurelius.

  • @jamesmetzler2031
    @jamesmetzler2031 Рік тому +3

    This is the attitude I try to take when dealing with disrespectful people: If I am to be insulted; I must first value your opinion.

  • @yelena3583
    @yelena3583 Рік тому +1

    I'm a woman who has been therally enjoying every singles video of yours that I've watched so far. Thank you.

  • @marlinyohn8982
    @marlinyohn8982 Рік тому +74

    Well said Dwayne. I am 72 and have been a lot of places and have worked with a lot of people. One thing that I learned at a young age was that it takes time and hard work to earn someone’s respect. It is not something that you are automatically given. On the other hand, it takes almost nothing to loose that respect that you worked so hard to earn. I continue to send your words of wisdom to my kids and grandkids. Hopefully some of your advice will sink in and make them better examples and citizens in this world that we live.

  • @WookieLove1
    @WookieLove1 Рік тому +9

    The toughest thing to do sometimes is to hold your tongue. Great talk, great reminder to respect yourself first.

  • @vanessa9937
    @vanessa9937 Рік тому +30

    21 year old girl here, completely agree with everything you've said. I truly love coming to your channel to seek this fatherly advise/wisdom. thank you for what you do.

  • @garyhubbard2138
    @garyhubbard2138 Рік тому +32

    Dewayne, I'm 72, Been through alot in this life. From the highest of highs to the lowest of lows. Its been just a few months ago I found your channel. I've enjoyed every video I've seen. I find that your advice holds true for all human beings. I relate to everything I've heard you say. Thank you so much, it's so nice to know there's still a few that follow the old ways that we were brought up with.
    You and Deanna are very special individuals.

  • @bryanfox2735
    @bryanfox2735 Рік тому +96

    Funny how making a simple video turns into helping people like you never imagined! 💪🇺🇸💯. Good for you brother and momma! This country needs a lot of help remembering where it came from and who it is!!!!👀

    • @dillasoul2228
      @dillasoul2228 Рік тому +1

      Mind if I ask what you meant by that?

  • @Viney209
    @Viney209 Рік тому +88

    I lost my father when I was 15, i'm nearly 35 now, I wish he were around a lot longer to help me out with things, but he was a Vietnam veteran infantry tunnel rat, he lived through some crazy shit and died early at 58. He protected and loved his family till the end though, but never truly forged fatherly values to hand down, your videos help me out a lot mate, thank you.

    • @redneckgirl3326
      @redneckgirl3326 Рік тому +10

      I feel you. I lost mine when I was 12.

    • @coreygendron3766
      @coreygendron3766 Рік тому +10

      My dad passed when I was 11. It was hard for me especially seeing other boys with their dads 😥

    • @dustychayeh4878
      @dustychayeh4878 Рік тому

      Mine left this world at 50 my age was 15 also. Be strong and encourage thyself. Be of good cheer. 👍 you are more than a conquer. HaleluYah

    • @dustychayeh4878
      @dustychayeh4878 Рік тому

      47 now still living prosperously

    • @Viney209
      @Viney209 Рік тому +1

      @@dustychayeh4878 Thanks mate, sure he left us early but he made a huge impact on everyone that came across him. He'd be proud of what i've done with my life I know that for sure.

  • @ericwalker3459
    @ericwalker3459 Місяць тому +1

    Wow! A huge helping of respect to you,sir. The partnership that i was fortunate to have with my wife of 40 years,and still going,isn’t diminished because of health issues that forced us to put her in a nursing home at only 63. She respected me enough to provide for her and our family. Respect isn’t always earned,or given,but if we show it first then the rewards can be life changing

  • @JwsOndafly
    @JwsOndafly Рік тому +3

    Your right on the money Dwaine. The somewhat lost art of “ loving your neighbor“ Respect.

  • @williamruley4518
    @williamruley4518 Рік тому +31

    You and your wife make great videos for me and my wife to listen (me 26, my wife 29) thank you for your words of wisdom and life advice. Keep em coming Dwayne.❤️

  • @JCulbreath1
    @JCulbreath1 11 місяців тому +6

    What a breath of fresh air. Thank you, sir, please keep it up. Your messages land because they're true, but especially because you care.

  • @romainlettuce118
    @romainlettuce118 Рік тому +56

    To add to workplace respect and disrespect. Make sure it’s ACTUAL disrespect you’re receiving and not playful ribbing. I got “picked on” a lot at work. My boss says to me, “we mess with you cause we like you. If we didn’t say a word to you, that’s when you know there’s a problem.” Us guys are just like that. However if it’s blatant with no smiles and winks afterwords, then it’s real bullying. Or if you’re still confused, don’t be afraid to ask the person outright (peacefully of course).

    • @Ben-cz5yq
      @Ben-cz5yq Рік тому +11

      From what I have experienced, if guys start giving you a hard time and you just laugh it off, they will usually leave you alone. But if they can tell that they have gotten to you, they won't stop

    • @lostbooks2918
      @lostbooks2918 Рік тому +4

      Agree w you and want to add that I used to take offense and seek pity or lash out in anger. Now I actually enjoy being brunt of jokes bc it keeps the attention off others who might not be able to handle it, plus it gives me chances to be witty back at them. It's all fun and games if everyone is laughing. This world is too dark to be serious all the time

    • @lostbooks2918
      @lostbooks2918 Рік тому +7

      @@Ben-cz5yq but yea if bullies keep bulling it up, they turn want to be workers into disgruntled time bombs. Nothing good comes from bullying

    • @Ben-cz5yq
      @Ben-cz5yq Рік тому +2

      @@lostbooks2918 I totally agree

    • @alanbaird7740
      @alanbaird7740 Рік тому +4

      @@lostbooks2918 Because the day comes when this bullied person has had too much, and takes a firearm to work, so much for the bullies, and any other innocent people that are unfortunate enough to be around ! It's reaching epidemic type proportions

  • @summittspawn
    @summittspawn 7 місяців тому +2

    Ethically and temperamentally speaking, you remind me of my father. He passed away many years ago and I am happy to add you to my list of great men who can help mentor and guide me like my father did. Thank you 🙏

  • @TheWolvirine25
    @TheWolvirine25 Рік тому +10

    As a 25 year old dude, I really appreciate this type of content. I recently found you and I look forward to your future wisdom.

  • @TH_WLD_RVR
    @TH_WLD_RVR Рік тому +4

    I found this guy a few days back, and wow….I run to every new video now. He’s like Arthur Morgan in real life, and he really speaks the truth about being a good man. Appreciate the words of wisdom.

  • @JustaGuy316
    @JustaGuy316 Рік тому +53

    I just went through this yesterday... someone being very disrespectful to me at work, despite my only intentions to help them.
    Thank you for putting it into perspective. God sent the message, and it was received!

    • @idancemyassintothepaint7571
      @idancemyassintothepaint7571 Рік тому

      I struggle with this, having served time in a particularly violent ohio prison at the age of 20.. it became normal to fight at the slightest sign of disrespect. Recently lost a job due to an interaction with my manager.. this ugly hog was unbelievably rude to me because I asked for another waiters apron due to a coworker swiping mine. She told me that I had to pay for it if it happened again, and that's fine with me.. but her tone was just horrible, beyond rude, and derisive.. needless to say, I told her to get fucked if she felt like she could speak to me like that over an apron. I'm absolutely certain that most corporations hire the most miserable people for management, the trend is unmistakable.

  • @Mayo_805
    @Mayo_805 Рік тому +11

    One of my favorite break downs of any word is Responsibility... Given my ability what is my response, sounds simple but with proper understanding is not simple. It is very direct and complicated. It is truly HOW we choose to live our lives given that one word. We should embrace Responsibility and understand more of it, more of what our own responsibility is. There's great power and pride to be earned in knowing this and choosing to take it on. Society today is always encouraging us to take on less and less responsibility, but I'll tell y'all, go take on more of it and challenge yourselves, you'll surely grow stonger when you do.

  • @michaelsiengo1
    @michaelsiengo1 Рік тому +4

    Sir, I was raised back in a day. When if your neighbors addressed you, you started your sentence with ma’am, and finished it with ma’am you held doors open for folks, and you just had a lot more common courtesy. I appreciate your videos, your calm, rational thoughts, and your pleasurable eloquent presentation of words is quite refreshing to say the least. I enjoy your videos my friend. Have a nice day. Thanks for sharing.

  • @Gorrillawill
    @Gorrillawill Рік тому +9

    You Shuld really start a podcast! I could listen for hours with you talking about Wisdom 👍

  • @Dice_weiss
    @Dice_weiss Рік тому +8

    Something I had forgotten about that Dwayne touched on was regarding how respect is earned and not given. Generally, you should have a baseline level of respect for those around you, you could call that manners. Now, too many people forget that when you don’t give someone that baseline respect/ have manners, you will get what you give. Too many times I’ve seen someone not give that respect and be totally upset when they are disrespected and it was a direct reflection on how they treated someone else. Now, you will never earn respect if you don’t give a little. Earned respect is a two way street that takes effort and time to build. Give a little respect to people in yo ur daily interactions and you’ll be blown away by how much people are willing to go out of their way for you that are complete strangers. A little goes a long way and I’m glad my father taught me that.

  • @pattichristensen9814
    @pattichristensen9814 Рік тому +4

    I hope your trip goes good. I pray they have eyes to see and ears to hear. You offer good "common sense" advice and it is truly appreciated. God bless!

  • @Shatamx
    @Shatamx Рік тому +9

    Its terrifying how much respect we lost for ourselves over the decades. I try and teach my boys that you have to love and respect yourself first before anything. It seems simple. It isn't. It starts young. And parents are having children without any respect for themselves. And we all see the results.

  • @goldilocks3593
    @goldilocks3593 Рік тому +4

    Well I know these videos are mostly directed towards the dudes, but what an incredibly refreshing voice of sanity you are 🙃

  • @dmitrymanchenkov2996
    @dmitrymanchenkov2996 3 місяці тому +1

    Thank you so very much, Mr. Dwayne (sorry if I misspell your name). Yes, your videos are very encouraging, and they do help me a lot. I love the truly philosophical approach you use in this video. Starting with definitions and then developing your discourse on them. And all these metaphors and similes you use in your speech which make your narrative so exciting. Wishing love and prosperity to you and all your close ones!

  • @aaronrussell9484
    @aaronrussell9484 Рік тому +6

    Good one! Im from MS living in Colorado for 8 years and sometimes I think people take our niceness and respect for weakness. You are the man! Im almost 36 and I tell my wife I want to be just like you when I grow up. She says I sure hope so. Hahaha

  • @bryceferguson8409
    @bryceferguson8409 Рік тому +7

    18:31 this was what it was for me it hurt me inside not to respect myself and my own actions I had to change for me to realize once I had self respect I didn’t much need the respect and others and actually if you focus on respecting yourself the respect of others will follow!!!

  • @Eons000
    @Eons000 Рік тому +8

    "Respect is not easily come by"
    Adequate reminder 🙏🏿

  • @tinycatkin
    @tinycatkin Рік тому +12

    Just want to say that I am a woman in my early 40s and have been watching your videos for about a year now and have never ever felt “excluded” by your manner of speaking. I have gained so much valuable insight from your videos about horses and videos about life. Thank you for making this channel and don’t change a thing!! You are giving people so much help and hope!

  • @myfavoritethings8093
    @myfavoritethings8093 Рік тому +8

    I'm a single woman who recently discovered your wife's channel and through hers, I found yours. I gotta tell you, I've never heard such a great definition and presentation (explanation) of respect. I appreciate you and your wife and all you're sharing. God bless you!

    • @dustychayeh4878
      @dustychayeh4878 Рік тому

      Thank you so! Your poem is beautiful. Minister Kevin L.A Ewing is strong in the word of Elohiym and taught me to pray the scriptures something I didn't know but yes! How bout psalm 103 v20?

  • @jacbryan1500
    @jacbryan1500 Рік тому +5

    this man is truly amazing. I dont even comment on youtube videos. I've learned more from this guy than my own father

  • @rodneycarnahan1646
    @rodneycarnahan1646 Рік тому +29

    You remind me a lot of my father. From the way you speak, to your mannerisms. He passed away in January. I'm glad I found you, it's helped being able to listen to you.
    Have a wonderful Christmas

    • @jacksonandy218
      @jacksonandy218 Рік тому +3

      Man... Sorry for your loss, that must be rough. Good spirits to you.

    • @dustychayeh4878
      @dustychayeh4878 Рік тому

      Your more than a conquer

  • @daniellacampos6000
    @daniellacampos6000 Рік тому +14

    As a 20 year old young woman these videos always resonate. Consider making a podcast!

    • @DryCreekWranglerSchool
      @DryCreekWranglerSchool  Рік тому +9

      Dry Creek Wrangler Podcast is up and running. Subscribe wherever you listen to podcasts 👍

  • @Adam326
    @Adam326 Рік тому +3

    I respect everyone the same regardless of age. My respect can grow or diminish depending on how you behave and who you are. But I don’t see why I should tolerate disrespect from someone just because they’ve been breathing longer than me. Maybe I’ll think differently when I’m 60+

    • @DryCreekWranglerSchool
      @DryCreekWranglerSchool  Рік тому +4

      Sometimes you respect someone merely because it is the only way you can respect yourself.

  • @zack2920
    @zack2920 Рік тому +4

    Dewayne! Great to hear you’re going to be out in my neck of the woods in the Northwest. I highly recommend the Thunderbird Trading Post while you’re in town. Awesome little native-owned facility east of Tacoma with a great cigar shop, lounge, and bar. If I happen to see you there, I’ll buy you a stick.
    Thanks as always for the awesome content!

  • @washburnbilly
    @washburnbilly Рік тому +5

    When someone that you trust says that they are going to do something and then doesn't do it even after saying 3 time's that they were good for their word. That's disrespect! Let your yes mean yes and your no mean no. Great talk brother! I learned a hard lesson from one who I thought that was a good friend but turned out to be dishonest. Hold your friends close so long as they are a real friend!

  • @cameronmnelson
    @cameronmnelson Рік тому +2

    I always had trouble with verses in the bible that call for us to be meek. However I’ve learned that meekness doesn’t mean weak or a that you’re a push over. It comes from the it comes from the Greek “Prautes” which translates to decided strength of disciplined calmness. It’s having the power to wield a sword when needed, but knowing when to keep it sheathed.

  • @sequoiawind27
    @sequoiawind27 Рік тому +8

    You've helped more people than you know in ways you can't imagine. Thank you for everything and with God's help may you continue this good work

  • @russizmaylov4875
    @russizmaylov4875 Рік тому +16

    Greetings, Dwaine (sorry for the spelling) and the team! I saw your video in my recommended feed after a breakup and I started watching them one at a time and I got hooked. Thanks so much for your time invested in sharing these important topics. I live in the opposite side of the globe, a small country of Kyrgyzstan. We have a great deal of horses here and I'll be paying more attention to this whole culture and might even take a lesson or two on riding, but more than everything I'm thankful for your warmth, calmness and encouragement to us, who really need to clean up our corner of the planet. Peace, Russ.

  • @saveusall6915
    @saveusall6915 Рік тому +4

    My father is a split image of the 70 year old you described. Its REALLY DIFFICULT a lot of the time to deal with, but restraint is key! Thanks for the advice!!

  • @zair_salahuddin
    @zair_salahuddin Рік тому +2

    Well if anyone's gonna ramble on, it oughta be our favourite cowboy. Great video yet again DeWayne!

  • @thomaswatts2560
    @thomaswatts2560 Рік тому +1

    I worked in Law Enforcement for 22 years. I listened to you're story about the man that said he was going to kick your horse. This behavior sounds like Sociopathic behavior. Three to five percent of our society are sociopathic. Studies can't get a perfect percentage on this behavior. Your reaction was the best you could have done. If you had stepped down he would have rode off before you could get to him. He would have most likely started screaming and yelling over his shoulder as he scurried off. Then, if you had gone after him, he would have changed into the victim and pouted about your aggressive behavior. People should study sociopathic and narcissistic behavior. Not just read the definition but read studies by Doctor's. It will suprise you as to how many you have encountered through life. It will also help you protect yourself. You're family and your property.
    Keep up the great videos.

  • @CarnelianClout
    @CarnelianClout Рік тому +24

    I had a situation to where I had to end a friendship with someone today. Instead of getting all angry with them, I decided to not argue with them, wish them well - but ending ties there and then because of how they were acting towards me. They weren't worth the respect of me going through the effort of continuing to associate with them.

    • @sqwwrrwl
      @sqwwrrwl Рік тому +2

      A question, if you'll bear with me - is it possible that continuing to associate with them would be disrespectful? I was thinking about how we have respect for, say, wolves; because they have the power to cause serious harm to us, we hold them with a special regard that dictates how we interact with them. Could we say the same thing for humans, and the people we know - to hold respect for both our allies and our enemies, knowing both the good and the evil they're capable of? And even, respect for the impotent, and those who insofar have only sat on the fence - knowing that they too have the potential to grow into either monsters or angels?

    • @CarnelianClout
      @CarnelianClout Рік тому +3

      @@sqwwrrwl That is a good statement. That person knew a fair bit about me since we originally met in 2019. They were not directly antagonistic towards me, but I found them to be nearly incapable of basic logic and they worshipped the narratives the media in this country spews and basically looked down on me for thinking the opposite. We had already grown apart throughout the years to the point where we didn't talk that much anymore, and I suppose it was a mutual respect to move on from that relations and allow something better to take its place.

    • @sqwwrrwl
      @sqwwrrwl Рік тому

      ​@@CarnelianClout Thanks for the reply! Such people confound and deeply sadden me. I feel like there should be a way to help them, but they say a person has to want to be helped. I guess there's a degree of faith necessary, that your choices are indeed going to lead to something bette?

    • @CarnelianClout
      @CarnelianClout Рік тому +1

      @@sqwwrrwl We never will entirely know the outcome of our choices. Sometimes, such as this, one can guess that the alternative (letting people act like that towards you, or letting loose ends not get cut) isn't going to lead to better, indeed.

  • @ject4252
    @ject4252 Рік тому +4

    Dewayne, thank you for this video. I 34m, have been being tested at work, in regards to respect lately. Something came up between myself and another gentleman (much older than myself), yesterday, on the job. I thought of you and how you would handle it, and I think I did the right thing. You've spoken on respect in other videos, and I've been contemplating what you've said. This is a very timely video for me, considering how things at work went this week. Thanks again. Glad to have found you and Mama, you're good people. You help to remind me of the values that my parents taught me growing up.

  • @NikoJones94
    @NikoJones94 Рік тому +1

    Thank you for speaking with us sir

  • @dg321_
    @dg321_ Рік тому +2

    Dewayne is the definition of a good man.

  • @filthyE
    @filthyE Рік тому +8

    Dewayne, this is one of your most powerful and inspirational videos that I've seen. Amazing message.

  • @oliverschulz6235
    @oliverschulz6235 Рік тому +16

    Great to see you going from strength to strength this last year sir. It’s well deserved.

  • @mclyte20
    @mclyte20 Рік тому +2

    “Let us cultivate our garden.”
    ― Voltaire, Candide

  • @charles-info
    @charles-info 4 дні тому

    Thank you! respect has been a hard question for me for my entire life and im 41 today. i agree with everything you said. that the most important is to respect oneself, and hold oneself to or own standards. when we don't have self standards, society becomes our standard. and when that happens, and society treats us like shit, then we begin to believe ourselves shit... i have seen people grow and become stronger, but i have seen people's self esteem chipped away by society. and they end their own life. thank you for making the video.

  • @Marcusdwayne639
    @Marcusdwayne639 Рік тому

    I cannot state my appreciation towards you sir. I am a 22 year old man. Been working in hard labour since twelve mechanics, construction been all over. My problem was or in this case there problem was men my age they’re like children to me. Very disrespectful, full of hate and pity. Only when I changed the people around which right now is middle aged men I understood the quality of good men. The men who know when to keep there mouth closed and know when to speak. Whilst men older than me praised me for my wit my strong stature things I’ve built for my family. I was slandered by men who didn’t know any better.
    Can I even blame there fathers my father passed when I was young then I was forced to become a man. Two different worlds we live in where there are still children who have grown their bodies but not there minds. And then men the alone strong men. I’m proud of you sir and your wisdom you choose to share with us. Thank you!

  • @dillweed501
    @dillweed501 Рік тому +4

    Thanks Dwayne! love your wisdom

  • @parkerduncan1449
    @parkerduncan1449 Рік тому +3

    I'm from Tacoma, hope you have a good time here... don't let the tailgaters scare you away, they drive like manics down here! Take care sir.

  • @adrianebovone4985
    @adrianebovone4985 Рік тому +1

    I’m a 50 year old woman and really value your videos.

  • @jeffjahr801
    @jeffjahr801 Рік тому +1

    Dwayne- I live in far northeast Minnesota- 56 years old self employed contractor- fortunately in a well designed respectful environment- fortunate because there are a good mix of white and blue collar folks to work for, who realize respect is the basis for all we depend upon in each other- the other nite I met two retired blue collar fellows who knew my customer, and treated us like I know you treat your contacts- it’s always the start of something great when that happens- but I know that much of the world doesn’t experience this often enough- thank you for the great talk- we need more folks like yourselves doing great work-Godspeed

  • @Thankful305
    @Thankful305 Рік тому +4

    So good!!
    If you respect yourself, your character/attitude/actions create connection ~ it’s what Our Creator intended.
    We are a sinful bunch and won’t get it perfectly but self respect is self love 💞 and will make this world a far better place ✨🌎🕊

  • @axuriffgaming
    @axuriffgaming Рік тому +22

    Glad to see ya. Y’all be safe on your trip. Always appreciate you and your wisdom of life and the synergy with it. I need all the help I can get. Your definition of respect hits home with me and now I can look at respect in another way now. Thank you

  • @zion367
    @zion367 Рік тому +1

    This was the video I needed to see today. Thank you.

  • @hermannyambu8565
    @hermannyambu8565 Рік тому +1

    a video on managing a broken heart, troubled mind. Thanks a lot for your videos

  • @wingdwolf56
    @wingdwolf56 Рік тому +4

    I was taught to respect my elders and people of certain positions automatically, before I would actually know them or their deeds. I would give them a certain level of respect and it was basically up to them to maintain or lose my respect. Today, so, so many people think they deserve respect just for being alive no matter their behavior. For me, respect is earned, and either maintained or lost. They way a person conducts themselves and their actions to others is what I look at.

  • @jakecastillo6731
    @jakecastillo6731 Рік тому +4

    Thats such a great story to hear. When people disrespect me like that old man did you, most times I sit there quiet until they’re done and go on my way. Sometimes though I would look back and think perhaps I should’ve done something back, but you put it eloquently “let him disrespect himself” This gives me more confidence in taking the high road and not always retaliating when ppl come at me. Of course if ppl disrespect my fiance the gloves come off

  • @banksgman6860
    @banksgman6860 Рік тому +1

    Greetings from the UK. Honestly, I just discovered your channel, and this is exactly what young men need these days. As young men, we’ve been taught that masculine values are bad for decades. Everybody wants to throw traditional values out of the window, not realising that these values are what keeps us civilised as a society. Maybe that’s why everything is going to hell nowadays. Don’t listen to the new age propaganda lads. Respect and preserve the values and traditions of our ancestors.

  • @afickingname
    @afickingname Рік тому +1

    Something ima to throw out there for anybody who needs to hear... When I was 16 I was angry at the world looking for a reason to fight. My grandmother's brother died and we went to the funeral, afterwards everybody gathered at his house to assist in clearing out his belongings and helping his wife move. His son who is every bit of 40 years old started picking a fight with my grandfather calling him names being disrespectful and had had enough (I'll be damned if anybody's going to talk to my grandfather like that were my thoughts) and just about the time I was going to let loose on this man my grandfather stopped me and put his hand on my chest. In that moment he said to me "you can't blame a man for the grief he feels or understand where he's coming from and it is unfair to him for you to unleash your perspective via your fists, let him work out his grief in his own ways. It takes more strength to be patient than it does to be violent". I let that man slide against my better judgment I allowed him to continue to speak to my grandfather in that way. My grandfather just smiled and told the man "everything's going to work itself out there's nothing you can do about it I'm sorry this happened to you". What that man taught me is irreversible,
    and I would trade myself any day if he could teach anybody who's willing to listen.

  • @howie15
    @howie15 Рік тому +8

    Fascinating breakdown/analysis. Looking again and not assuming the worst in people. I love it, speaking nothing but facts as usual! Keep up the great work!

  • @Cycleordie0879
    @Cycleordie0879 Рік тому +3

    Sending love and respect from Ingram Tx! You know the area sir!!

  • @eddiebear34
    @eddiebear34 Рік тому +1

    In Scotland, when we meet friends, we will use what looks like disrespect towards each other as an act of love

  • @yoberg75
    @yoberg75 5 місяців тому

    I worked with a guy who always talked down about people, specific or general it didn't matter. Never got through to him that maybe he was the one with the problem...
    I always tell people that they have my respect until they lose it. Learned after a long time of being young and foolish that how you treat someone says more about you than it does about the other person. Being civil does not mean you condone how someone else behaves.
    Just stumbled across your channel recently, but so far loving the content! This is how my parents tried to bring me up, and at 35 I think I'm finally getting it =)

  • @moesversicherungsbet
    @moesversicherungsbet Рік тому +3

    I think the point you made about how disrespecting your Wife being the same as disrespecting yourself works very well for the broader aspect of respecting fellow Man.
    While the unity between you and your partner are stronger than between you and any old stranger, it is worth noting that you are also bound to this stranger in your humanity. We cannot exist without our environment, we are part of it. If we choose to help a stranger we choose to help ourselves for you both make up the bigger picture of which we all consist. Same thing applies for respect.
    Thanks for making these Videos, your perspective is much appreciated!

  • @ElGranRojo903
    @ElGranRojo903 Рік тому +4

    “You run into an asshole in the morning, you ran into an asshole. You run into assholes all day, you're the asshole.” In case anyone was wondering the quote

  • @Eidenbites
    @Eidenbites Рік тому +1

    I respect you for how you dealt with that 70 year old man.. me I prey on the weak .. specially if you crossed that line .. it’s not something I’m proud of and I want to change but if I have the upper hand I go for it .. I respect you for sharing that and I hope this helps me change my mindset

  • @dominickfindley4363
    @dominickfindley4363 11 місяців тому +1

    Loved this one thank you for sharing your power with the world.

  • @epimax
    @epimax Рік тому +3

    Agree completely - all aspects of this conversation! I'm 58- been married 34 years next week- new subscriber to your channel and joined Mama's channel today too!

    • @daniel.holbrook
      @daniel.holbrook Рік тому

      34 years - early congratulations, that's impressive

  • @judsonmccarthy4308
    @judsonmccarthy4308 Рік тому +4

    Keep creating content! Love your vibe and wisdom. These videos are beyond important. Older more mature guys usually don’t talk, they just do. It’s good to hear you kicking knowledge that can really change someone a generation of lives ❤

  • @stan7417
    @stan7417 Рік тому +1

    respect is something ive fallen to so many times already, and it's bound to happen again and again. It's certainly not formulaic, but what you say about due respect is something I wish my generation understood better. one corner refuses to acknowledge the other, and debates over semantics riddle the arena. it's hard to tell the truth anymore, it's hard to find who I can trust, and many people feel disillusioned by those around them because semantics cloud respect. The greatest illusion is that of separation, but respect is a glue which clings to humanity and finds common ground.

  • @BlainsTube
    @BlainsTube Рік тому +2

    Respect and being respectful are important traits in being a decent human being walking this earth.
    At 60 I end transactions with a "Thank you".
    Many times I will address older men as "Young man", younger men as "Sir", older women as "Young lady" and younger women as "Ma'am".

  • @vincetravis70
    @vincetravis70 Рік тому +3

    Hell my daddy died when I was 13 and I've been living with respect for myself and ur exactly right. Innately many of us know it.. momma did great on her videos lol I'm excited for u guys

  • @FindingDurham
    @FindingDurham Рік тому +3

    Love your words..god bless!

  • @loogie.b.maestro7988
    @loogie.b.maestro7988 Рік тому +2

    Respect comes from either love or fear, and "it is much safer to be feared than loved because ...love is preserved by the link of obligation which, owing to the baseness of men, is broken at every opportunity for their advantage; but fear preserves you by a dread of punishment which never fails."
    Niccolo Machiavelli, The Prince

  • @happydaze4934
    @happydaze4934 Рік тому +2

    Thank you so much Dwayne, I really appreciate your wisdom and effort to make our lives better.

  • @marylynn259
    @marylynn259 Рік тому +4

    Yes! I'm still young and in my twenties but I've noticed the problem with definitions, definitely! I love the definition of respect you gave us, people today just don't have the respect. They don't know the shame either. I learned to respect myself and others but people usually only learn to expect the respect, not to give it.

  • @robertsouthers1172
    @robertsouthers1172 Рік тому +3

    Hey Sir. Just wanted to thank you for the time you spend on these videos and all the help you give both on horsemanship and humanity. You are very much appreciated. God bless you and your family for all you do.

  • @xlecriss1
    @xlecriss1 Рік тому +1

    Thank you for sharing you'r opignion.

  • @belal5276
    @belal5276 Рік тому +1

    Amazing. Respect to you sir