What Makes An Ex Realize They Love You?
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- Опубліковано 8 лип 2024
- What makes an ex realize they love you ? When going through a breakup, we often want our exes to think back on the relationship and remember the intense feeling of connection and love that they had for us. In this video, we discuss some behaviors that allows your ex to process and reflect on the relationship.
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No contact does work. The way I found it easier was to accept what had happened and let go. Start working on your self, Love your self and they will feel your energy is no longer calling them. That’s where they will start feeling it. But if you’re always thinking about them, they could feel it. That’s where working on your self will help and give your brain a rest. My ex from being apart for 4 months, reached out yesterday and wants to work things out. I wasn’t expecting this, I thought it was done between us. We spoke and we are going to take it slow and see if we could work things out. I am not thinking negative nor trying to imagine that everything is going to be ok. We are taking it day by day and see if it works out but if it doesn’t, then it was not for me. These videos do work with motivation for your self and help you not to contact them.
Mine is playing games.. she sends messages and deletes them... but her friend pretends she's happy in her new relationship
Don’t worry it always happens..may be she was overwhelmed by lack of intimacy she used to had which might have frustrated her..dat must be a emotional roller coaster for her as well.. Dat is why may be she is unsure about what to text u no end up deleting it.. u r really on her nerves though!
@@MS-rd1tn so im right that she is not over me...
Usually exes don't do such things...
@@charlesdc1233 yup! Why would someone who doesn’t care would go through such vulnerability..
Nd many of us r on same boat! So stay strong nd tc..
@@MS-rd1tn she has send 24 screenshots /messages in 24hours and deleted all ... so yes, i think something is going on
An ex finally realizes they love you when you leave them.
Its not the rebound that scares me, its the fear of her using multiple casual partners to numb her pain/feelings.
Comeon bro. Stop caring to someone who doesnt care about you. You guys need to wake up. This is me telling ypu from a 3-year relationship breakup and now in a better relationship.
You are in the matrix bruh, you should know better. Leave people alone and stop being a ass about it. You show more emotion now getting triggered over strangers than you did in your three year relationship.
These people felt a connection, IF you are in a "better" relationship than your rude ass should be more respectful and appreciate and be considerate of what we all go through. They have the right to heal how they want.
@@charles-kim.travels
That's what they do that's what they do my friend
You don't know what you have until it's gone ❤❤❤
I just wanna say to any of you struggling to let go of someone…it will get better. It gets easier with time and you will most likely not even want the person back if you take time to yourself to work through your own issues. I felt like I was going to die. I went from 130lbs to 100 and gained it all back now, I am functioning normally again and I’m sickened that I ever felt so low over someone who didn’t value me. Please take time to think of yourself and you will get through it. I never thought I’d get here and I’m so proud of myself cause I know I will find someone better who will actually be good to me and not use me.
Lovely words
I know this feeling- how you felt you were going to die. I would have panic episodes, I also lost a lot of weight by not eating long periods of time and would cry all day. It felt like I was experiencing the death of a loved one suddenly. And after a year since the break up (with them reaching out after 3 mos NC and with me reaching out mistakingly 6 weeks after they reached out and now being in NC for the second time for 7 months) I don’t want them back either and wouldn’t want them back if they asked for it. I think the pain they caused and the pain I endured because of them is the biggest turn off. I think my biggest struggle is the memories and intense feeling of missing them- I need to get better
@@Enigma32174 and you will. It will get easier With each day. My motivation was remembering how long he chased me and then realizing after all that time it was just to find a mom for his kids that were abandoned by their own. He got me to love them and then when we split because I saw what he really wanted he used the kids against me. Wouldn’t let me continue even the most distant relationship with them. He was so messed up he got them to call me mom in 6 days within meeting me. I knew that was a huge red flag but I just fell for them all. I loved him and I adored those baby girls. I still miss them every day and it hurts knowing they only live a few miles away now. He was a true narcissist though. I knew it early on but I hadn’t watched these videos to truly know what one was. I done all the wrong things trying to get him back and I can’t begin to tell you all the reasons why I shouldn’t have ever wanted him back. I broke up with him for many good reasons. Lol. But it was still hard to let him go knowing he could never be what he promised he could be. I held onto who I thought he could be I guess. Something in me just woke up one day and I said I’m done and I’m not trying to be nice to him or his kids anymore. It’s doing me no good and he knew how much I loved them so he held that over my head and it was just so dirty of him. I almost married this man and he had serious anger issues but I just loved him and I probably always will. Sometimes we just have to let them go. I don’t want anyone else but I do know I could do much better if I ever decided to date again.
I truly hope you continue to stay with what you’re doing and feeling. As hard as it is in the moment and even harder to accept it time just heals you. So sorry you’ve endured the pain too. Nothing else describes the pain you feel throughout a breakup. Hang in there. Better days ARE ahead. Promise. ❤️
I just got dumped last week. My ex was not happy in our relationship. So he found comfort by cheating on me with his ex. I thought I was going to die when I found out the news. Now I get panic attacks. I can't eat or sleep. The pain is like no other. It's unbearable.
@@LaoSoftware, You didn't get dumped!!!!!!! Rejection is God's protection! Your ex lacks in character and cannot vibe with your heaven-sent soul. One day, after you heal from within, you will be so thankful that the piece of trash is gone for good! You deserve so much better. Rise and transform into a magnificent rising Phoenix.
What makes an ex realize they love you? When you're gone. Perfectly said👌🏾
Margaret is so compassionate and genuine
Spot on! The two of you preach the truth. I followed your reasoning and teachings and my wife of 42 years who moved out of the marital home and filed for divorce eagerly came home after 10 months and dissolved the divorce. Our marriage is now better than ever. Thank you for such great advice. I encourage everyone who stops in to pay attention and follow Craig’s advice. Craig, you are a life and relationship savior!
Please email me a success story to share!
Thats awesome. Congrats!
Margarite is soooo cute and I love her! I’m sorry that she’s gone! But I know she’s watching over all our broken hearts and helping us through our journeys 🙏♥️ thank you Margarite ✨
I miss her every single day. I know I went wrong on my side of things, took her for granted, had communicational issues , and didn’t work on myself. she blocked me and it feels even more hopeless at times. But I know that if something is meant for you in your life it’ll return stronger. I’ve been working on myself a lot , non stop. i wonder how she’s doing all the time. I just wish I could peer into the future
I'm sorry to hear that you're in such situation. I had the same issues and also blocked now. It hurts.
Me too
feel you, its a struggle man, 10 years and broke off engagement.. im blocked now. hopefully shell unblock me and reach out but im trying stay strong.. if she wants to talk.. ill talk. but if its meant to be, we gotta do it right
If the avoidant leaves, I don’t care if they return. I’m done. They’re toxic. They recognize their response, but are too lazy, avoidant and complacent to do anything about it. Next. Keeping myself open to someone who is “fuck yes” about showing up. I don’t have time for childish, pull away, manipulative schemes.
I can date an anxious long as they don't accuse me of cheating or want constant updates where I am. Avoidants is a constant headache of pulling away waiting for them to sort themselves out.
My ldr bf just went silence for a week now as I didn’t see him online. I tried reaching out his mobile phone because we’re perfectly fine before he disappeared and texts him nicely all at once to check him and asking but still unresponsive. I still didn’t heard anything. I may now move on and entertain my suitors. It’s not that a big deal. It’s a blessing in disguise that he finally revealed his true intentions 😢
It’s like the people in the comments aren’t even listening to the video or the purpose of it. You will NEVER get over someone constantly obsessing over someone that does not want you! Work on yourself and what YOU need to be happy. It’s not THAT person because that person is bringing you pain because of the breakup. The last thing that should be on your mind is how to get back with that person even if you want too. The mindset you need to be in is SELFISH and start thinking about things you didn’t like about the relationship it will help you move on and miss them less. But if your reminiscing constantly about how perfect they are and how you HAVE to have them in your lives you won’t ever be healthy on your own and constantly be miserable. Thats what self love is. Not caring about who is or isn’t in your life because if they wanted to in your life they would! It might sound bad but if you put yourself in the mindset that you were too good for them anyway and move on and try upgrading and your not going to care if they come back and when they do you’ll most likely not want them because you found happiness elsewhere and have now engraved in your brain that YOU can find better just like how they THOUGHT when they broke up with you. Know this or your going to be hopeless and desperate with every break up. You don’t want that because you’ll just attract people who will use you
Kyla, you make a LOT of sense. I'm older, and I went thru that for a few years. OMG! What a waste if time wishing & hoping he'll be back. Well I found out the HARD way that "what a waste of time and energy." I'm doing just fine now. Concentrating on MYSELF, rarely, if ever, think about him, and learned a valuable lesson. Girl, you read my mind. Oh, BTW I found out he is married for over 10 years now. I'm actually happy for him. I changed my entire attitude. MERRY CHRISTMAS..🌲🌲🎅
You make a ton of sense and appreciate your words but it def screams NC didn’t work out for you? Lol
if they never loved you they never will
No contact allows you to realize that as time goes on without them.
You're videos are a huge comfort to me.
This video came at the perfect time. It's week 4 and I've felt so horrible today after feeling like I made so much progress on myself. These videos really calm my anxiety. Thank you for all you do
I agree, these videos from coach Craig, Victoria & Margaret have really been helping me and calming my anxiety.
same - I return to them whenever my avoidant partner goes awol. I know deep down he'll be back, I maintain hope, I stay quiet and focus on myself and gradually things do get better.
Margaret is so kind. I just love her vibe. Craig you’re also a complete gem. Thank you both
Usually when they realize they can't have you anymore.
This video REALLY hit home. My ex's mother is very impulsive and always had my ex in the middle of her plans. They decided she would move out to save her dog after it attacked my son. I think our breakup was purely from her guilt and her mom no longer liking me because I called my girlfriend out on her mom interfering in our relationship. Plus my ex has high level anxiety so there's that. Your other video about an ex missing someone also helped. Thank you both for your amazing insight because it brought me back to life.
Thank you Craig and Margaret, I needed this.
This explanation of no contact is so much better than some of the others I have listened to. The others have really sounded like game playing to me. I am willing to give him the distance he has ask for. Even though it is painful. Maybe being a fearful avoidant may benifit me some. If I can just control the fearful.
This was really helpful for me to hear. Especially towards the end about the mental health of our ex's. The things you talked about were exact word for word things my ex had told me.. Thank you Craig and Margret. I feel like I'm able to beat myself up at least a little bit less now compared to before. Overall it's just very tough to understand, that it's not always your fault when it comes to breakups with depressed ex's who have backgrounds of trauma.. At this point I think I'm done with her. But I do know that part of me still hopes to see her healthier again and not so selfish. I hope she can still heal just as much as I know that I eventually will.
I’m in the same boat as you. She had to deal with stuff. I still love her and want her but I’m also gonna see what happens. Been in no contact for a month so far.
Thank you Margaret and Craig x,fab content as always 🙏 love you guys !! 🌠💕
Got my ex back. Was the dumper. Had 4 months of no contact. Sent out a text to him I hope you are happy. He said no. I said ok. Then he asked me why I asked him. I texted after all this time I still miss you
He rang me and we visited each other the next day. We got back together after 7 months of being broken up. I worked on myself and identified where I went wrong in the relation. We are getting on well and taking things slow
We are dating and taking one step at a time
❤
Still together?
I wonder the same ..
These two mellow me right out.
Personal growth is Key...ty Craig and Margaret 💕
Wow, this really-really blessed me. Thanks so much you guys!
You guys are just an absolute tonic.
Great video Coaches - thank you
You two make a great team. Love these videos with both of you.
She sadly has passed away
My partner suffers from BPD, she left me when I tried to assert boundaries to her aggressive outbursts. This video really helped. Thank you
@@maryann1930 shut up
My ex suffers from bpd, we have split up about 6 times over the same silly things; she doesn't feel like I show her enough attention. Even though that's all I do😂 can't win
She works in the gym I workout in and she's getting warmer everytime I see her, asking more and more questions. So it'll soon be that she's messaging me again🙄
Needed this today. Did coaching with you last year. He did come back but still wasn't ready to move forward after 4 years. Now its been 5 years and he still isn't ready. So I walked away last week. We've always been faithful to each other but he doesn't say he loves me because he's not showing it. Which is true. Hoping my absence will make him realize he does love me and it's the push to help him individuate from his family
Damn you need to learn how to let go of people. That must be really exhausting putting your life on hold for one person for that long. Focus on you and attracting good people in your life and forget about that drama you deserve to be stress free. Don’t force what’s not meant to be you’ll be miserable. You don’t deserve to be miserable. Understand this. Don’t put others before you. Love yourself ❤️
@@kylafrazier6024 I'm not miserable. And I don't feel that my life is on hold. I know that I will never regret him or the effort and love I've put into him. I believe that if someone is truly worth it, no amount of time is enough to make you feel otherwise. Not if it's real. Jacob worked 7 years for Rachel, and when he was tricked he worked 7 more for her. But it only felt like a short time because of the love he had for her. I know my worth, but I also know who is worth it to me. Thank you for your point of view though!
Guys stay in no Contact it is a win win .
Okay so me and my ex broke up in March. I followed the no contact and yeah she reached out. We started to hang out, she started to message me more, started to call me occasionally, she started to question who I’d been with, if I’ve been on dates or slept with anyone. She told me she loved me, all to tell me she’s dating other people and just sees us as great friends. I decided to cut all ties as I took the wrong end of the stick. Yeah I could’ve followed the “I don’t care” route and stuck around as she might if soon realised that other guys are not me but all it was doing was hurting me.
How long was NC?
BRUHH my ex did this to me too! Why are some people like this??? 😭😭
That's the old "keeping your cake yet eating it too" breakup. They keep contact with you so they don't have to confront the loss but don't commit to you. A world of no to that
Yup...dont be anyones back up plan
Very honest to admit that u also struggled with this situation as well Craig
Some people have a strange way of showing there love, there's no one in the world could be that busy
I love it, the co-ord 💙
First of all, thanks for these videos. It helps so much!
Can you please make a video about dealing or getting back an Ex who came out being GAY.
But the last part of the video definitely spoke to my situation. My ex girlfriend and I dated for 1 year and 7 months. Everything was PERFECT. Never fought or argued with each other. But we broke up cuz...
1. She thought she was "GAY/LESBIAN" of which she have felt like that since she was young but never tried it because she had conservative tight knit family.
2. She felt pressured after we discussed about our future plans (i.e getting married, buying a house, having kids, etc)
3. Mental health. She would constantly have anxiety attacks and depression due to stress from school, her thinking she is gay, but still really loves me, and guilt of not wanting to end our relationship because we had something good.
I was needy and begged in the beginning and her response was, "I just need time and space to process everything. But i want to still have you in my life because you're very important to me."
So then, I found out about the NO CONTACT RULE on UA-cam and that's where I'm currently at as i haven't contacted her for 1 week. I have a feeling that we will be together at the end cuz we literally had NO ISSUES when we were dating. We were PERFECT except for the issues we had that i had mentioned. I believe that once she recovers herself from mental health, anxiety and depression and she figure out her situation with sexuality, I am hopeful that we will be back together. But until then, I am doing ME.
A few months ago my ex came back with an indirect direct approach after I found your podcast/videos. We started to talk again and slowly came back together. We’ve been working on it and had even started saving up for a house together. Over the last week, though, I made the mistake to reach out to one of his high school friends (who is a female that he used to have a crush on that he still stays in contact with over different social media). I had anxiety over this because I have never met her or talked to her so I just wanted to clear things up for myself so that I wasn’t bringing any drama and they could maintain their friendship without me ruining it. She was very nice and we are understanding of each other and I made absolute sure that me reaching out to her would not change how she is towards him. After this, he pulled away. Everything was going fantastic, now he’s not talking to me. I did it for him and us. I don’t ever want to ruin any friendships and just want as many people to be around him that love him as possible. He is an avoidant and I’m close to being secure now than before, but still have anxious attachment issues that I’m working through and have continuously been working through (never stopped even when we got back together). Is there a way you can make a video on this? He seems to go through this every 3 months where everything will be great and then all of a sudden something small happens and he pulls away.
I just ended something with someone that was like that. After 7 months of breaking up and coming back I finally had to make the decision for myself that it wasn’t working for ME. This guy and I had such a great connection but every time I’d say one little thing wrong he would completely pull away. I’m not perfect and I cannot expect to hold myself to a perfect standard like that. I think I may of been triggering some wounds in him. Maybe he doesn’t have the skills internally to discern between what’s really a character flaw or just someone saying something they dont mean to or don’t know it’s a trigger for you. I can’t walk on egg shells in a relationship. I want someone who can for sure call me out on a something I may say to offend them, but will also help me to rise above it and show me a little grace.
Dealing with an avoidant is a headache. Don't waste ur time
Margaret is my new fave.. .love her x
These 2 are great
I love this. Thank you so much. ❤️
Great content and looking good matching today! 🙂
This was a great video. Thank you. Jana - Texas
I want yall to know that your channel and videos have been so helpful. More help than I've received from any other source. My ex and I broke up April 30th 2022, and I was devastated. I mean absolutely broken. Before seeing your videos I tried getting them back but they pulled away more. AFTER seeing your videos I backed off, and stopped contacting them. He eventually came back to me and said all that time apart made his feelings grow stronger and asked me to take him back. I actually just broke up with him because I felt he was taking me for granted, but I want to say your videos have given me the strength to know my worth, and I know what I do and don't deserve. 2 months ago I was broken to lose him. Now I have the power and strength to walk away from a relationship that no longer serves my highest good. Thank you for that! All 3 of you- THANK YOU
Same day mine ended, she's in a new relationship now - doubt she'll be back
@@cloup1592 in a new relationship same day!?
@@cayliebates829 no she broke up with me end of April 2022
@@cloup1592 oh im sorry I totally misread that. But from what the coaches say, just cuz they're in a new relationship now doesn't mean you don't have a chance later. Rebounds don't always work out
@@cayliebates829 yea I've read that, who knows the fact she moved on pretty quickly hurt like hell.
I love your ideas. Such wise words. God bless you those. Hope others will listen. Carolyn
I'm devasted. 7 years of deep connection lost. This is the third time he breaks up with me, he is a huge avoidant. I did everything I could, I've been working so hard on my insecurities and it wasn't enough. He won't come back this time. I feel like such a failure. I love him deeply and I wish we could've worked things out. He wasn't ready to work on himself, he's just been spiraling down in a hole of destruction lately and I'm so worried about him. I was convinced that we would marry and have children one day, we really have something special together. He said it too. I'm so heartbroken.
Don’t give him another chance ‼️
@esstan14 I am so sorry to hear about this. I am currently in the same boat with the love of my life. We were together for almost 2 years but have always wanted each other. He is self-destructive and avoidant. Has so many mental issues. Any updates on your situation?
My situation is the same. Did he come back?
Phenomenal video, when you spoke about it not necessarily being about you is huge to consider. And also taking into account their mental health and level of individuation from their family of origin is so crucial to remember and think about.
Holy shit that part about her mother being her best friend though.........my exes mom called me a psycho because I shared a sad quote and began saying that I punished her daughter and I have nothing to offer her. I played that voicenote 100 times on my way to becoming an honors student.
I Keep Praying and I believe in Miracles No contact worked for me I lost 25 lbs in 2 months Still in the gym
I love the two of you together
Rip you helped me for months worth of time
I really like the part about reaching out and respecting the other persons response time. It isn't so much about creating attraction as it is of showing you RESPECT them. You might be able to recreate the attraction by allowing space, but if you struggle with that, thinking this one time show of your ability to do so means all is good, you're likely going revert once you have their attention. It has to be genuine, meaning you yourself has enough self awareness and self esteem to understand the difference. Truly ask yourself why you want to re-attract them? If it is selfish reasoning or to sooth your mind, thats fleeting and won't last.
She left me yesterday I loved her with all my heart we been together for 1 year.😔
I'm more anxious and broke it off with my avoidant. I'm here watching your videos feeling broken. I felt like he wasn't putting in any effort. He even forgot my birthday. I'd love a grand gesture right about now. Two weeks NC.
Almost 10 months post-breakup, over 4 months NC and I miss him still. I made all the mistakes and worry that he'll never reach out despite my progress. I'm dating again and really taking my time to find someone special to build a life with.
It's very reassuring that he actually did love me through our relationship and that NC is time to reflect. I do hope he realises my worth and what he's lost now I'm gone - I was his emotional support and I worry about him but his avoidance made him run away because I 'trapped' him. I deserved so much more.
Trapped him how 🤷🏽♀️
Had he ever reached out?
He did about a year afterwards then his sister 18 months ago, I walked away from the connection as I was in a better and stronger place without him in my life.
How long were you with him ?
@n26c88
I put him on blast. Felt good at first but then I felt terrible & sent an apology text. lol
So I agree… accept & be gone. I’m in day 3 of NC. I’ve set a goal of 365 days.
I feel better already. Sure I’m heartbroken & super sad, but there’s nothing more I can do. Once they break up with you it’s best to accept it right away, otherwise u feel worse in the long run… much much worse.
Nothing is real until it’s gone!
My ex Just came the fourth Cooked his favorite meals it was a way to say I love you without saying it. He loved it hes calling me every day And says I love you I know hes my soulmate 2 years was the best of my life I love you I did no contact for 2 months I will keep fighting for this Love
I feel as when I respected his need for space made him go with someone else, and he did.
Hi coach loved your video ❤
Excellent video especially the part about their mothers this is absolutely true to which their mother is divorced it's a recipe for disaster cause her mother will perpetuate her bad behavior to their daughters
How to re-establish a relationship with an avoidant who is very slowly “thawing out” without triggering their fears?
I was on the verge of having a conversation about the woman i was seeing and her avoidant attachment style
Everything was fine, we spent the whole day together, but JUST BEFORE we had chance to sit down and talk / come up with an "emergency plan" so she didnt flip out and kneejerk me out of her life for a second time, she absolutely lost her cool, demanded I left and threatened to call the police to get me to leave (i was literally packing as fast as i could with her screaming in my ear)
Ironic isnt it
You get to the point of change, and she ended up sabotaging it, almost like she did it on purpose
I still to this day have absolutely no idea what i did wrong and there was no other indication she was upset before this!
She then fully blocked me everywhere and refused to talk about it
I asked why she hates me so much just before she blocked me, she said "i dont hate you, i do care, but youre too good for me and you deserve someone better"
Totally messed up. She was more than i could have ever asked for
I suspect she was cheating..
Hi Coach I’m listening to this again . And this is huge brilliant and helps me a whole lot 😊SO GOOD TO HEAR MARGARET’s voice again 😢… THANK YOU 🙏
Hi Craig, I feel I have a unique situation and I’d love for you to do a video on it.
I told my ex (24f) that I have a child from a previous relationship that I’m not involved with, and the relationship between me and the mother had gotten very toxic and there were physical arguments on both sides, nothing severe. I was with my recent ex for 9 months and hadn’t shared my past but had decided I wanted to tell her as I saw a future with her and had given myself to the relationship. We already had 1 breakup previously where neither of us were putting in the effort, and we continued as fwb. After a few weeks I had a change of heart and I told her how I really felt about her, and we were great ever since until this. I told her when I was drunk and the next day she broke up with me. She said that she couldn’t get past it, and would have been able to deal with it if I’d said from the beginning, and the thought of the arguments would always be in the back of her mind which is think is unfair, that 1st relationship was almost 10 years ago.. I begged the following few days, then she blocked me. I left her alone for about a week and then messaged from my work phone, she was receptive but said her mind had not changed, we ended this conversation in an amicable way. I messaged the next day questioning some of what she had said and she got angry, told me to delete her number, that she did love me but didn’t miss me so maybe her feelings weren’t as strong as she thought. I left her alone after this.
I had to message her regarding money for a holiday we had booked this month, I also took this opportunity to say I respect her decision if this is what she wants and wished her well. I haven’t heard since and I’m still blocked everywhere. The break up was may 8th and I’ve been in no contact for just over a month..
Do you have a take on this? I was thinking of getting a Skype session with you
I love you guys ❤️
I kinda figured my ex is avoidant and i am secure. He left when things were going VERY WELL 🥰😍, and tried to gaslight me, blaming me because i supported him in the things he said he wanted. Its been 5 months since he left....i tried to show him care, compassion, and kindness....if he thinks he can do better....fine, go ahead and find better 🤣🤣🤣 . I guess im not the one bc i only agreed with him 85% of the time instead of the 100% he thinks is out there. Cant wait until i become the "phantom ex"
My ex ditched me 16 months ago.. she was never coming back .. I’ve watched so many videos! 😂 I think my ex is the exception - .. i genuinely believe she never truly meant it when she said she loved me.
Dang, I hope I can become secure like you after the work I put in, someday
I found out the girl I was with for the last 5 years is getting married in a few months to someone else. We had a rough patch a few years ago and then found out she has cancer. So I did what she asked and gave her space, but anytime she needed anything I was always there. A few days ago she told me she doesn’t love me anymore and she will always care about me because I’m always there for her and her kids… needless to say your videos have been a tremendous help to me. As much as I still love her and want to be with her, I have very little doubt that we will ever reconcile. I do believe that some point she will realize what she walked away from and try to reach out.
Update pls
We need to know the out come of the karma.
Coach Keneth and Margaret. Thank you for amazing content and your help . Do you believe that zodiac signs matter in NC and chances of getting back together? Some are very stubborn….
Ex came back after six months, pretended to be a wrong number.
If you're apart and broken up that's it don't get hung up just accept the break up and accept the fact that relationshit with that person is over the past is just that the past time for better people and a better environment for you so you can be truly happy.
Because you feel a bond with them doesn't mean they feel a bond with you. I spent time upset about a girl when I was young. 6 months went by and I saw her at a store. She didn't recognize me or even knew who I was. That's when I realized I had wasted my time on her.
Insecurity sometimes due to age and stage of life the person is in.
20:12 explained my ex. We had a fight and after he told me he needs time to think. He’s always dealt with depression. His parents screamed and fought a lot when he was little so he’s triggered. He hasn’t been doing anything but working. I’ve been in contact with him at least once a week but I think I’m going NC now because every time I talk to him I get upset. My anxiety is through the roof and I lost 15 pounds.😢
My ex came to me yesterday because she realized I was the only one actually tried to make plans for her birthday. She was a wreck because she felt so let down about her new guy and friends who did nothing for her birthday. We talked a lot and realized we both made mistakes but we both didn't say anything to eachother when we made those mistakes. We were silent about the things we didn't like and I feel thats why we started to fell apart.
I'm trying to to hold on to hope for us to get back together but it felt really good to show her I was there for her in a rough time and having that talk and realization
Attraction is walk away .it works ..dont block them
I miss Margaret. Love you M
I want to believe all that's said especially as Margaret said don't think 20 miles down the road. However it's happened twice to me where my Ex met another during our no Conract and they are STILL together!! So that is a Major piece of my Anxiety. My ex now is a DA, I'm an AA. The previous was an FA. So yea I worry that me not in the picture she may meet another. I've heard she has said a few nice things about me but I don't know if it's enough to get her back even though I'm the 3rd longest relationship she has had at a 1yr and a Half
So what do you think your role is in the pattern you pointed out? That they leave you for someone else???
Clearly you chose these people and they chose you. But both left you. Why???
My ex has bpd things were completely great until the breakup things in her life started falling apart and she pushed me away. Hopefully she’s in a better place soon and realizes but if not it’ll be alright
I left because he was not treating me well... It was the right thing for me to do. However, I cared about him a great deal... Today, I'm just wishing things could've been different 😪.
Trust me, I took her for granted LDR only together a year but she pulled away a couple weeks ago and I panicked making all the mistakes of over texting calling and trying to move out there but falls on deaf ears... I do love her more than I knew... You showed strength by walking away we notice this right away... Trying to give you space is hard for us and we fall apart.. he is feeling this more than you think. It's only been 2weeks since split and I'm dying inside 🙏 it's time to pray .
I’m sorry you went through this. At the end of the relationship, things got rocky. But I always thought, couples go through their ups and downs and we’ll pull through this bump in the road. I thought he thought the same way. But I was horribly wrong and got blindsided. Like @Dennis Ray, I also did all the mistakes, called, texted, drive by his place (all embarrassing things), none of it worked. Now I have to look at him for how he is NOW. Not then. I have to look at his actions now towards me and reflect on, “This isn’t someone I would date, ever. Not someone I would ever choose for myself if it were any other guy.” So Akua, I don’t know how long you hung on there, but I’m right there with ya, cheering you on for strength that we both need so we can both pull away and walk away. We deserve better than how they’re treating us. I hope we heal to let someone else in who’s genuinely good and compatible for all of us.
Me too. I walked away because he was not treating me well and he was unwilling to change. Its 7 months already and I'm healing well.
Thank you Dear Margarite and Coach
“The fact that I have 12 ducks living in the living room…is that getting on your nerves? You were ok w it 6 months ago.” 😂
RIP Margaret.😘
U really help me
My ex dumped me four years ago , and started up with a new one. I hoped it was a rebound that would end , but it never ended. They are currently living together. He and I work together, so I see him every day. On occasion we look toward each other, but that's about it. I'm fully aware that he doesn't care, but I'm still practicing no contact lol. I keep hoping that in some small way, he still thinks about me.
I’m sorry to hear that. It must be very difficult to continue working with him and maintain your own dignity and mental focus. That’s really admirable, I admire your strength. I’m sure he thinks of you, I remember with quite a lot of clarity each of my significant ex´s. If someone was significant in someone’s life, there will always be a fingerprint of their presence in your heart.
I’m sure he still thinks about you. My ex dumped me almost going on 2 years ago. I’ve held onto some hope as well, seeing as he didn’t actually get into any relationship. I thought he only needed some space. I’ve given up hope now, it’s not healthy to keep going this long either and I think it’s time to walk away. Just like you, I see him everyday at work and it’s hard. I miss him so much but as I’m sure you do this as well, I just give him the polite smile or a small wave and keep on moving. There’s nothing else we can do, right?
What if they moved onto someone else after telling you they loved you and wanted you hear them only a month prior??
Is no one going to acknowledge that Margaret just referenced a Cinderella song? 🤘
Damn. The self sabotage. 🙁
I deactivated my account after 2 months. I couldn’t take looking at my ex’s stories…there was too much feedback. Too painful.
My ex deleted his FB account. He had people looking for him on there.
My ex left 2.5 months ago. Her and I were in a relationship for 10 months and got along very well. My brother passed away in January and I have been grieving pretty bad over it and she thought I was being distant and that I was not in love with her anymore. She got in a relationship 3 weeks after leaving and I was devastated. She has reached out here and there checking on me and to add she is really happy now and the new guy is so nice. I can't believe she would tell me this. Last Monday she called and we spoke for about an hour and she wanted to come see me the next night because she said she misses joking around with me and laughing a lot. She never came and haven't heard from her since. She also said she wanted to meet my daughter next time she was in town which had me really confused. I do miss her a lot but will just continue to work on myself.
She sounds horrible is she couldn't see you were grieving and think it's okay to tell you about who's she's seeing. What a bitch.
@@rwentfordable Yeah, its been rough! One day at a time.
Ohh I miss Margaret
My avoidant left when things were going well. We were getting closer.
He needs some space, so I'm giving it to him. I miss him so much everyday. The space where he occupied in my heart is empty. I just feel empty in general.
Now I'm left here hurt feeling like the past 6 months never happened. My support system is tired of hearing me cry about him, it's apparently time too move on. I'm sad and it's okay to feel my emotions.
I will get the chance to see him again in a few weeks and I'm not sure what will happen. Maybe he'll pretend this never happened or maybe he'll act like he never met me.
I'll do another email coaching soon! I need it.
Am in the same boat. It’s killed me. Said he loved me on Valentine’s Day & has called me 3 times since then, despite talking to me all day long on the phone for months b4 that. I’ve known him quite a few years. This is a new behavior on his part. We’ve always loved each other but let things/life get in the way of something serious.
He came back to me a year ago. Then he pulled his hot & cold vanishing act abt 4 months in… the day after we became intimate again. Then he came back 2 more times with the same result. Ran as soon as we got super close.
Am still in shock, worn out & completely empty inside like u are. I miss him. I cry everyday. Was so happy when he came back to me. What’s worse is… I cant give him up this time. Don’t think I will ever get over it. It’s completely shattered me.
@@katemoffitt1641
Hi Kate,
I'm sorry you're going through the same thing. It's horrible. I cry everyday too.
I've never experienced such pain because I never loved someone like this. I'm not sure if you feel that too.
I'm completely shattered too.
Tomorrow is a month since he ended things. It's been a completely empty and hurtful month. Worst month of my life. I'm in pain every minute of everyday.
I don't want to give up either. I'm not doing this whole love thing again. So it's him or no one for me.
Is there any hope for yall?
@@amandaj0sie I felt like this too. I believed she was the only one even after a breakup. But since she didn't choose me I had to accept that she wasn't the one. I fell in love with a girl I made up in my mind and she didn't even exist. In reality she was far from my imagination. In time I realized this fact and moved on. Yes a part of me still loves her and wishes her well but I no longer miss her. You will go through this pain and will get through it. Be kind to yourself and give it time. Talk to people who can help you in the situation and remember that in 5 years from now you will not even remember him.
So what happened? r u togethrr?
They dont love you. They might be in love with the idea or curious and shocked when they see how much you changed but once they meet u again, even though you changed and got better in everything...they will still find a way to weasel out of your life. I say to hell with them, why waste time
Great advice, throughout.
???? Does any mail here have got back with the ex after cheating on her and having a kid with another woman
I wonder what it will do to my ex who broke up with me to be with someone else lining up, which he is in a relationship with.
We all have holes in the cheese 😆 God I miss Margaret 😢. Rip to such a beautiful soul 💜
i think i m too late for no contact... months hv passed and i still cant do it. hv coaching with u craig next week, bt anxiety is at peak now
I find it difficult to do no contact or even distance myself while working with them.
Why do y’all date ppl you work with? That’s the worst
Agree on parking in different areas and let them know what you are and aren’t comfortable with. If you need to not acknowledge them for a year then let them know for the rest of the year I’m purposely avoiding and won’t acknowledge you so that I can move on but I don’t hate you.
What if they have got married?
My husband left me for someone else. He seems happy and here i am so devastated. 😢
Hey, how are you doing?
How are you now?
I'm doing better now. I don't need him. Staying strong 💪