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People use to trys bring me down in the past when i was a kid, when i start to do something good to myself only people say to me " you cannt do it.. you are weak... you are a dreamer... a lunatic.." well because of that kind of stuff the doubt people got around me i suffer yes always being bringed down, but i never stop, i always fight for my stuff.. and after some years i did it, i never stop thinking " i can do it, ill be better, ill be what i want to be" every time, i always stay positive, i shut those people mouth, now people says " oh you are doing well bla bla bla" for me its only BS from people bc i did what they wont me to do and be, so never let the others BS downgrade you, always think you can be better tomorrow then today, you will do it if you believe in yourself. Be strong people!
Its Mona I am sure there's a valid reason for it. You don't have to feel guilty. You alone have the power to understand why it happens and decide whether what you're trying to work for is worth it or not.
I am ashamed of being shy. Everytime I try to be social I end up saying nothing to anyone, and leaving a room full of people so that they don't feel uncomfortable with me in it.
I am ashamed of my laziness and lack of motivation, I have so many things I want to do and so many ideas but I'm always just "not in the mood" for it. I procrastinate so much: like this chains that keep me from doing things I want and deep down I want to do them but I'm never motivated enough.
i can relate you will come over it just think what are they going to do you are who you are if you think they judge you just dont care and laught at them
You're not being needy! We all want love and want to be loved. So speak your mind and let out whatever is in your hear . If they can't respect that or don't understand 🗣LET THEM GO!
Im ashamed of being pushed away and later rejected for opening up to someone telling them I wanted to feel love, wanted to be hugged, affection. Only to be thought of as coming on too strong and treated as someone quarantined that they should keep their distance away from. Later even accused of homo intention when I'm straight and live in celibacy.
I always feel needy, selfish, and ungrateful and I try to ask for as little as possible even when I need it. I say 'thank you' constantly to the point where it gets annoying and then I feel annoying, and then I get self-conscious
Devon Berkowitz I think my best friend has a similar problem. But don't feel bad to ask for help just because you "have everything in life" and you're supposed to be happy. Mental disorders like depression happen even to rich people who have lots of friends and kind, loving parents. You're not whining. Don't let that feeling hold you back from opening up to someone. And be strong!
I want to die but I also want to live. The thing that keeps me living is my curiousity. And to be honest it's also the thing that makes me want to die.
Devon Berkowitz you know what's crazy . I've felt that way since I was like 8 . What 8 year old even knows what suicide is , let alone the depth of dying ? Taht just made me feel even more crazy and I hid my depression form my parents . I'm 20 now , and after many failed attempts I'm still breathing . The thought crosses my mind every so often , and with bipolar it will always be there . I secretly hope I don't succeed , but a part of me just wishes I never existed in the first place so I wouldn't have to weigh my options
I relate to every single word you said, especially growing up Black in a non Black community where people hate on you for your beautiful chocolate skin, but they will never understand.
I was in a sexually and emotionally abusive relationship. When I finally broke up with him and my family asked why, I told them it was because he got a terrible haircut because I was ashamed that I hadn't broken up with him at the first warning sign. To this day they still make fun of me for being "shallow" and every time someone mentions it I have to laugh and play along while it feels like I'm being stabbed over and over again.
All_The_Stories_Are_True You have to tell them! I'm sure they'll be supportive of you and they'll probably feel like dicks for bringing it up time and time again
All_The_Stories_Are_True who cares if they would feel bad. you deserve to have your abuse be treated as what it was, abuse. you shouldn't have it locked in your head and only your head forever.
I understand how you feel Sometimes you just can't tell someone the truth when you really want to But dont worry, because one day I believe someone will understand you and help You are a very strong person by the way
same, one negative comment makes me feel really bad and even cry, and I end up thinking about it all night for even over a week. I wish I could just let it go easier
7BlackSheep yes and there might still be lingering attitudes that women are somehow responsible for being dangerously sexual or manipulative and sinful and poor abusive men just can't help themselves...
I for one know that those myths are bullsh!t.~ Here's another lovely one: that men can't be sexually assaulted--or that the victims enjoy it. Stuff like this hurts all victims.
KennedyEbony That’s true for some. I’m also sure some are so psychologically fucked up that that was what they took out on other people and the shame from that is added to the cloud of pain and confusion. Abusive addicts are probably often like this.
KennedyEbony men are also sexually abused, that’s true, but it actually tends to be more common in women. But either way it is certainly NOT right in any way. The bad thing about if it happened to a guy would be whether it was taken seriously or not, if you get what I mean? And that’s not really fair.
“I let a man have my body so I could call him my boyfriend” When you get older , it’s only then when you realise how important it is to have high self esteem
@@creative123style7 I went through the same but before that he was my bf he left me because I was getting serious n he did not wanted someone serious needless to say after knowing all this later I begged him not to leave n we can be fwb till he finds someone better...I thought maybe he will fall in love again I will be good to him but he didn't I was just an option n he just enjoys me this qurantine made me realise n I promised myself even though it hurts I won't go back to him I stopped texting him too.
Please....don't be angry at yourself for having these feelings sometimes. It is unfair already for getting ill so don't give yourself more emotional pain by being mad at yourself for having these emotions. I think I maybe might get the same kind of feelings like you if I was in that situation. because like I said it is unfair. I had a terrible past. Emotional and physical abuse. Molested...got beaten every day for 19 years. I got psychological problems now because of trauma. I am resentful sometimes to people who had it easier then me....who can not relate....I do to feel hate and yelousy towards them sometimes. My point is...you don't actually hate that person. You are sad and in pain and you can sometimes not rationalise these intens extreme emotions so you will lose control over thoughtproces. Thank you so much for sharing. Your story touched me deeply. ❤
I had HG during my pregnancy where I vomited 20-30x a day for 9 months. I had to quit my job, I couldn’t take care of myself, I couldn’t be a good wife, I was a prisoner in my body that was allergic to my baby. Every smiling pregnant woman I passed, every woman that told me “it’s just morning sickness, we all get it”, every person that told me “it can’t be that bad”-I hated. That wasn’t me. I don’t hate anyone. I’m in no way comparing my 9 months of HG to your cancer, just sharing my story with you of how illnesses change us, pain changes us, sickness changes us. It’s normal to feel resentment of others that aren’t in pain. I hope you’re doing better. ❤️
RAHCAS NETWORK Story of my life lol, I think it's because my parents never treated me like I was special, they never treated me bad but just not like I was the best thing ever which I believe parents should. Anyway, I think this has made me a bit cynical and feel less important than most people view themselves. Which is probably good and bad, I don't have a huge ego but I also don't believe in myself at all.
RAHCAS NETWORK me too :( I dropped karate when I was a kid and I still feel ashamed of giving up that easily because I regret it now. I've always wanted to become a writer and it is still my dream, but I'm scared and I don't work hard enough for it. It probably will never happen. I started running with my father but I stopped because I don't push myself hard enough. I'm lazy and I don't have ambition.
I relate to this, i haven't quite figured out how to have a different mindset, but all i know is that multiple times my mum said that it's whats beautiful on the inside that counts, I know it's hard to believe because I myself haven't even yet, but on your journey it's just something to constantly remind yourself... you ARE beautiful.
Sometimes there are points where I'm really happy, and then all of a sudden it's almost like I'm empty. Some days I can't bring myself to get out of bed or socialize or talk or even want to open my eyes. I don't know why I get like this but I'm ashamed of it. My mom says I'm lazy and I should leave my room, but I'm too afraid to tell her I'm trying and I want to but I just can't. It's like I go through this long process where I'm just being emptied out, and I'm ashamed of that. I'm ashamed that I can't bring myself to be better again or to feel happy when I get like this.
Falcon B please get therapy, I felt exactly like you a year ago and I decided to use the shred of energy I had to make the call and try saving myself. For years of my life I felt like a piece of garbage floating through the ocean alone, now I'm swimming to find land again. The truth with depression is only you can save you, you gotta fight for future happy you! I'm feeling better but I still have my days. It's amazing what just talking to someone who has an objective view of it all can do. Makes you realize it's not that bad and you should keep fighting because you're important enough. Anyway, stay blessed and keep on keeping ❤️✌🏽️
Gisselle Amaya if your mood changes between extremely happy and extremely sad/empty/depressed, you might be bipolar, which is nothing to be ashamed of. There are many other mental illness terms though, depending on your exact symptoms. But in the end it doesn't really matter what it's called; if you don't feel good and it doesn't get better and really has a negative impact on your daily life, you should try talking to someone and seek help because you deserve to feel better :)
I am ashamed that when my grandpa was in the hospital my aunt called the house to let us know, and I forgot to tell my mom. Days later, she got the call that he had passed away and she didn't get to say goodbye to her own dad because she didn't even know he was sick, and it's my fault.
Emilie Jolin I'm sorry, but please don't beat yourself up it was a mistake and I am sure your grandpa is in heaven not wanting you to worry, because he knows you'll all be together one day laughing about it. Also just because your mom didn't get to say her goodbye and that she loved him doesn't mean he didn't know it! ❤️✌🏽️ Stay blessed.
I'm ashamed that I was molested by a family member multiple times for 8 years, but when I finally came of age to know it was wrong. I was too scared to tell anyone, because if I did they'd believe him over me. He'd say I asked for it too and they'd just believe it. I was terrified that they would think I enjoyed it because I'm gay, that I just became gay because of that. That I liked it, or that I was the one to start it. And what I'm even more ashamed of is that I still am too scared to tell anyone because of those points.
please.. I beg you to hear me out loud and understand that telling someone is best thing you can do... all those horrible regretful emotions you are feeling should not be existing. you don't deserve this guilt you're feeling. please let someone know.. anyone.. you don't deserve this pain. you are so much more
PurpleChanny I had a similar situation when I was younger. I knew the sexual abuse was wrong, but chose not to tell ( I don't know why, actually ). I know I shouldn't feel this way, but I still feel guilty because when I told my mom, she felt that she should've known. It's a hard thing to deal with. My grandmother still doesn't believe me to this day, and still is married to the man who abused me.
It's never too late to open up and tell your family (or anyone you trust). If you tell them the reason why you were afraid to speak up, I'm sure they'll be comprehensive. Anyways I'm truly sorry you had to go through this. Be strong
I am most ashamed of telling my father I hated him before he left for work one morning. He was late for work and couldn’t give a lift. He was killed on the interstate in a road traffic accident with a pick up truck. I miss him every day. Princess loves you, daddy.♥️
I'm ashamed that I never cry when people die. It's not that I don't care or I didn't love them. I just never saw it as a big deal because it was always going to happen in the end anyway. I've always thought about it this way though, from a really young age. I just hate it because it makes me look extremely cold hearted when that's not the case, I just don't want to cry over something that I can't control.
I am ashamed of openly declaring to my mother that I wanted to die. I am ashamed of telling my mother that she is annoying and isn't a good mom I am ashamed of telling her that my life is terrible because of her. When in reality I have the best life and I realized that my mother did more than wonders for me. She sacrificed a lot We're kind of awkward now but I really wish that one day I would be able tell her how much she means to me and how much I love her❤
TED -dy I think u should have another conversation with her where both of u guys are open and honest. No one wants an awkward relationship with there parents for years if some regular open conversations could help?
TED -dy If you find it in you to open up, you may find it extremely rewarding. Being reconciled with your mother before she leaves this world would be priceless.
I am ashamed that i let the world turn me into such a cold hearted person. This isn't who i am but i don't know how to stop and i know the end is going to be a very destructive conclusion.
I’m was ashamed of that also, now I see it as part of my journey. I realize that I have 2 sides of my personality and I have control. It took affirmations, meditation, prayer, journaling and a different perspective. I’m still developing rock solid boundaries. I have mostly good days and a few bad days.
You don't need to be ashamed. Have you heard of Christ?I used to be the most selfish person who didn't care about the feelings of other people until I was too hardpressed by life,my journey with Christ began then it's been very tough but I believe I'm a better person than I was and I'm getting better.sometimes it's not up to us because only God can help you with His grace...I'm praying for you beloved
I pushed my dad away after my parents divorce. He now lives in a different state and has started a whole life without me in it. It hurts because I was close to him when I was younger and now I can’t even say “I love you” without it sounding strange to my own ears. I love my mom to death but I sometimes just need a fatherly role. I don’t ever talk about it with anyone because I feel like a burden and that it’s not a big deal. I just truly miss him.
Speaking from personal experience, divorce can really mess with a child's head and their ability to form further relationships with others. It can also damage their relationship with their parents to some degree. (After my parent's divorce, it took me nearly a decade to forgive my dad. He really wasn't making things easy for our family after the split, and that didn't help the "forgiving" process. Now that I'm grown, I try not to be bitter about it, but the pain is still there.) Your father might be in a different location--but if you are earnest, you can make amends. Regardless of how much he's "moved on", you will always be his child. Perhaps he wants to make things work as well, and you have no idea of this due to the no contact. This could help you all heal.
Hi, my parents also got divorced when I was young, I didn't know what happened until now. It's sad to see so many people getting split apart from their parents but it will be ok. I miss my dad as well. It's been a few years but he visits, talk to your friends they'll help you, talk you through it. ~Sally
I'm ashamed of my shy nature. I've always been laid back even in school. I had a few friends but not too many. I barely said a word to anyone. It held me back from joining clubs, sports, etc. Now at my job I barely say 2 words to anyone and it's hard for me to open myself up or even to contribute to conversations. It's a daily struggle for me. Love to all.
I always found it extremely hard to talk to or in front of people. Luckily my first friends were outgoing people and built that bridge between us. I’ve been finding it easier and easier for the past two years or so but sometimes my mouth still won’t open. So I feel you. Sometimes, all you need is that one person to show up in your life and be the key to unlocking your jaw. They don’t even have to be a friend. For me it was a 17 year old who was one of my group leaders when I went camping but she was so friendly she drew out reactions and I realised that giving it my all made life so much more fun and easier.
Same. Personally, I know I have a social anxiety and it has helped me a lot to understand that it’s not me, it’s a mental illness. I can’t afford therapy yet, but I’m definitely going to do it in the future so I can finally live my life normally. Maybe look it up too, if you think it can help you! In any case, you’re not alone.
clumsy HOPE it wasn't your fault and nobody has to be blamed other than the Molester, and you only jump because of a very bad experience and that's okay. You have a logical reason to be and nobody should shame you for it. It will take time to adjust to just simple friendly gestures like hugging her hand shaking but it will be okay. Taking care of yourself is the most important thing you could do right now and giving yourself time. It's not going to be easy but remember that you are worth it.
Hey, it is not your fault. Maybe me telling you that goes in one year and comes out the other. But it really isn't your fault. The rapist should feel the shame. I have been there before. You are stronger than you think. Once you decide to open up, you will see God's work and realized there is something really special about this life. It's a journey. If you'd like to chat, just message me.
I am ashamed.. of choosing my boyfriend of 1 month who used me and cheated on me over a woman who helped raised me and treated me like a daughter. I should have done more for her, I should have showed her how much I loved her. She died, and he broke up with me 2 days after she died. I don't think I'll ever forgive myself, nor should I be forgiven. ❤ RIP mom I'm sorry.
i'm going through all these confessions in the comments, wondering just how the hell i can provide some sort of relief or comfort, but i think right now all i have that would be remotely powerful enough are words: you are beautiful and your past does not define you. don't be ashamed for who you are, what you did, or the things that happened to you that were out of your control. you are unique and you are loved, no matter how you feel right now. you are worthy, and don't let anything of anyone tell you that you aren't, including yourself. there is only one you, and i can promise you one thing. if there's not someone out there in this vast world who already thinks you're the most spectacular person to ever exist, there will be. be brave like you have been, and remember that you're only human. that being said, humans are also capable of tremendous things. reach out, talk to others in the same situation as yourself and help each other out. during this life, i think people tend to forget that we're all granted this massive power; the power of positive change. grow and inspire others with whatever it may be - something as small but as influential as a few words, or even a kind gesture. i genuinely can't express how much i care for whoever's reading this, and whoever may be battling with their inner, most deepest and darkest thoughts. it's ok to feel whatever you're feeling right now, however i know you're strong enough to overcome those feelings and turn them into something great. much love, and please have a wonderful day - you very much deserve it.
nat Wow...Thank you. I mean I don't have any problems right now but my heart is just aching nowadays(emotionally dw), but that was beautiful. I really enjoyed reading that, and I'm glad you wrote it because what you wrote will definitely help others to overcome their problems. Thank you.
I hurted my past relationships because I couldn't have my crush (i dont crush on people much but she was really, really special). I just dated people, who turned out to be actually really caring with me, even tho i didnt felt the same way. I just wanted to feel liked by others in _that_ way.
I'm ashamed of myself when I'm crying because I know that someone always has it worse than me and I feel like I should be grateful that I have a house or live under a roof and them I feel like my feelings don't matter :'))
I've seen a lot of people talk about this, and it's unfair to everyone. We all experience emotions and things that make us upset in some way, it's not possible to stop feeling altogether. Just because we have things a lot of people don't, doesn't mean we don't have problems of our own. I grew up poor, and I used to think I would be happy if only I had this or that, now that I'm older and doing much better I see how wrong I was. Your feelings are valid
A message to all who are ashamed of something.. Listen. It's okay. I think we have all done stuff that we regret or feel ashamed of.. I definitely have done far worse than these confessions. I dont even wish to talk about them -- but.. Accept the fact that you feel ashamed. Don't reject or resist it but rather understand it. Feel it. It's a good thing to be sensitive despite popular belief. If you resist that feeling, trust me it will cause worse problems later on. Feel it.. Understand it and most of all love it, love yourself ( but also don't accept what happens to you - as you ) Real love is unconditional. Real love has no fight, it is not bad vs. good.. It's bad and good.. You love them both. Attaching to past situations will not do you any good but keep you in a state of negativity, which will make life seem dire and attract more negativity upon yourself. Let go, I know. It's so much easier said than done but it's more than possible. We as people need to stop being so ashamed.. But rather accept it and just learn from the situation! Regrets happen when you weren't grateful for what happened. I know in some cases it doesn't make sense to be thankful but every problem gives you the most amazing gift- transformation. What you choose to transform into is your choice, and that is such a wonderful thing. Fucking love yourself guys and all the stupid things you've done. You're all you got and no matter where you go, there you will be. So to make this ride a little bit easier, the destination closer and the scenery more beautiful.. Relax.
I needed this......but, I've felt ashamed my whole life. It's a part if me.....the reason I feel ashamed, and just the shame itself. I've sort of given up trying to love who I am. But, I'm glad you do.
I'm ashamed of not keeping in touch with my best friend from elementary school, because now he's gone, he took his life, he moved in middle school and I am homeschooled and he went to a different HS in a different town. I wish I would've talked to him, even if it was in his last hours, and told him how much he meant to me, how much I love him, and how much it hurts... 😔💔
I teased my cousin for being sad a lot. He committed suicide 7 weeks later. I think about this still and it kills me inside. I can't even describe how much I hate my self.
Omg. I can feel ur pain. I am sure you were ignorant when you did that. Forgive yourself and don't cause such pain to any other person. That would be the real salvation. May your cousin rest in peace.!
I noticed that alot of the letters where from women who has been molested or "forced" into sex which makes me sad. I just think it's unfair. At the age from 6-13, I was also molested so I can relate. And I feel extremely ashamed because of it even though I know I shouldn't.
Vilde I'm really sorry that you had to go through that because you don't deserve it. But I couldn't help but notice LISA in your profile picture and I'm here for you because fam sticks together you know.
hana i'm sorry! I just got confused over the fact that there were girls who read out the letters. I know that everyone can get molested, not just women!
hard work and dedication... through that you can be whoever you want to be. i feel exactly the same as you, and im trying to change who i am, even the trying will make you feel better
~Andrea BTS~ maybe you’re afraid of being who you are or something...but remember that some ppl out there can’t be who they are cuz they might get hurt cuz of it or even killed..you might able to be you freely :3 Guess I’m one of the ppl that aren’t able to be themselves
Andrea BTS *SPEAK YOURSELF* and *LOVE YOURSELF* Be who you want to be. Not people want To see. Be Proud and Speak Yourself even if they judge you because You choose your Destiny not them. Time flies and Those people who you pleased Will be Gone.. So please *Love yourself* and *Speak yourself*. -*your fellow co-army*💜
I'm ashamed of opening up to people who are close to me because I'm afraid they'll start to look at me differently and tiptoe around my feelings. I'm afraid to tell my mom I have dermatillomania. I struggle with pica too and living with an iron defiency doesn't make it any better.
When I had depression I was never really close to my mom but then I guess after 2 or 3 years I finally told my mom about it and she told me tat she struggled it when she was younger. I’m glad tat I told her bc she helped me fight it and now we’re close till this day.
2:23 is my story, I can't believe it. That's what I should have done, stood up for myself. This woman who is reading it, thank you so much. I needed to hear this
~CONFESSION ~ Skip if you want to I've never told anyone this in my life... It recently surfaced in my memory all of the sudden When I was 8 or 7 I remember sitting in my living room (I remember everything vividly) ready for school with an older boy in my neighborhood my mom took care of him sometimes do he'd ride the bus with us. He was 12 or 13, and well he asked me if I like him or my brother (at that age I thought he meant as in friendly like) I said him...he proceeded to slide his hand down my back to my...and yeah you get the picture 😣😣. Afterwards my mom came in the living room he removed his hand quick. I didn't react I couldn't I was shocked, scared, and confused. He was bigger than me and I was a little girl I have no Idea why this just came up in my memory I look back at it sometimes. Probably why I'm scared to get to close to my ex boyfriends, and end up breaking up early on when we get to a certain point. My parents never found out I moved after that never saw the boy again. Only thing I remember at that age my mind probably subconsciously pushed that memory away until now 😥😥😥 I had to let that out If u wanna ask question go ahead
Well, that kid is still 12 or 13 at that time so I guess he doesn't know what he is doing, maybe he just discovered porn and was curious (I dunno ┐(‘～`;)┌ ) That happened a long time ago and you should be thankful that nothing happened other than that. I'm not forcing you to forget about it or anything... Because I understand you, I was 9 yrs. old when I saw my cousin being kissed by our grandfather (from my mother's side). I don't understand what is happening at that time. But now that I'm old enough, I feel so guilty not doing anything to help her. Until now I still wish that he is already dead.. And if he's still alive I wish that he is suffering from a very serious illness... I hope you understand what I'm saying... Im not good in english,,sorry
I started a relationship with this girl and when i began to act distant she came up to me asking why when i could'nt tell her the truth she began to cry, i put smile on my face so my friends couldnt see how i really felt i left her i the dark to this day and i wish i could tell her that ive realized that i want her in my life.
My friends would always tell me I was lucky that my parents were together since that was rare for my community. What they didn't know is they would fight so bad I used to have to stand in between them to keep them from killing each other. I've been pushed down, elbowed in the face, and kicked just trying to break up the violence. What my friends didn't know was how lucky I thought they were just to have some level of peace in their homes. Never told a soul this...I was told by my parents that what goes on in this house stays in this house.
My mom and dad fight a few times a day, every year they get into a physical fight where my mom gets beaten, my mom hates me because she thinks that i only love and care about my dad, i want them to divorce but my mom has nobody to take care for her, she can’t take care of her own, i hate seeing them like this. I’ve been bullied, and now I’m scared to go out when there is sunlight, I have social anxiety, It gets worse everyday
I am ashamed of my anxiety. That when I was 12 i harmed myself and couldn't get out of bed. That I didn't have the courage to tell my parents about it and when they found out my mom screamed and shouted at me because it was my fault i was depressed. I am now ashamed because I ruin my friends fun when i break down in the middle of the street because I am having a panic attack and I am even more ashamed that once again I can't pick up the courage to tell my parents again because it will be my fault all over again. I am ashamed that I am not normal or strong.
We are here for you ❤️ if you haven’t already, you should seek professional help and if you don’t feel comfortable doing so, talk to your friends in a heart to heart conversation and come up with a solution.. I have gone through a similar problem and it helps talking to those you trust
I know this comment is old, and perhaps you are in a better place now, but I feel I must say this anyway. It isn't your fault. Please take care of yourself, eat, sleep, and do things that make you happy. I've been there before and it is a struggle. I may not know you in real life, but I send support your way, and I hope you find ways to cope
I haven’t told my parents and I have depression.....and accidentally I explained about my depression to my crush and I’m scared he’ll never look at me the same again.....I’m always so happy In front of people.....but once I get home...I think about all the wrong things I’ve done to deserve this and cut myself
I'm ashamed of how I tell everyone everything about my life all my secrets my regrets even though I know that they dont care and only listen to me because they feel bad and can't help
KennedyEbony and healthy too because and every person there's his bottle, and in that bottle there's a liquid called emotions. Now you always got to make sure that doesn't overflow, so you got to let that out every once in awhile. But if you keep holding it in it eventually keep building up until you can't hold it in anymore and you end up bursting that bottle. You end up a mess and it feels awful you might be in a place where you don't want to accidentally have a panic attack or mental breakdown because of that. So to avoid that, has someone you trust that you can see every now and then whenever you can open up let your thoughts, feelings and concerns out. It can be overwhelming to pour it out all at once, so just take your time don't rush yourself. it doesn't have to be sold right then and there but could be helpful to have somebody at least to listen to you and understand what you're going through and sure that they do care. I hope my advice helped a bit.
I do the same omg. I really crave for people to understand me because my parents didn't have empathy for me. But I do it too much and sometimes I feel like I dramatize things and people ended up feeling like their problems weren't as big as mine so I worked on that. I want to be mysterious but I'm not.
Oh my God, that hit hard. I feel the exact same way. I feel like I'm too open and niave. I feel like I'm being "dramatic" and sometimes I even like I'm making it up for attention! It's so strange and I hate myself for it.
“I used to make fun of a gay kid...but now I want to be with him.” I don’t know why there are so many comments hoping they got together or how cute this is. As a victim of bullying, this is screwed up and I hope the bully gets the consequences of his/her actions. Just because you were hurting doesn’t mean you can take that out on someone else, and bullying can ruin a person’s life. I’m still going through my trauma, and it might be easy for bullies to regret, ask for forgiveness, and forget, but they will never come close to experiencing hell that they put me through daily.
Just Random same. I’m still having problems with my confidence because i got bullied in highschool. I was an immigrant so i had an accent and the whole class would make fun of me every time i opened my mouth. I still get super nervous when i talk to a group of people. I guess bullies never understand how their actions can affect someone’s life forever
This. I can't wrap my head around people who hope for the bully to end up together with their victim. Even in various fandoms, e.g. wanting Harry Potter or Hermione Granger to be with Draco Malfoy (he bullied them for ages). It makes me wonder: even in real life, would these same people push a loved one to be with someone who would physically and emotionally abuse them and be fine with it? What's up with them romanticizing this kind of unstable, unhealthy relationships? It's completely disheartening.
I'm ashamed of pouring out all of my feelings and thoughts to people I meet. Just so that in the end, I find out that they don't give a crap what I say, and in no why it affects them at all, leaving me feeling bad because I thought it would actually do something for me when it does absolutely nothing whatsoever. For example, this guy I liked I told him everything. In the end I found out he didn't care about me at all, even though he said he liked me. He ended up saying that he said he liked me out of pity. And it hurt a lot because nobody had ever liked me like that before and I thought I could actually be liked like that but I guess not. Also I'm doing the same exact thing right now. Telling my secrets to the internet to people, who might take there time to read this and leave a comment, or people who might scroll past it and never even notice it. And that's okay I guess. Idk. I'm a mess. (I didn't mean for that to rhyme) okay bye random human being.
I tell everyone everything. I've shared the personal details of my life with literally everyone I've ever known. I don't know how to shut the fuck up sometimes.
You're not the only one. It's like I have this incredible need to have someone care about me. And time after time I tell people everything about me but they don't give a shit and I end up being hurt. My greatest fear is being forgotten or left alone.
My father molested me as a child. He went to jail but it nearly consumed my mom. I'm ashamed of not telling her about how bad it really was. How far it went because I feel if I do, she'll die. I pretend it was only touching so no one would know how disgusting i feel at nights when I'm alone with my conscience.
emily marie I'm going through a similar situation, though with my sister's ex husband who did more than molest, but my mom only knows about the molestation part and I'm really not planning to tell her any more because even now it pains me to see how much she blames herself and her pain. I know this wasn't a very helpful comment but I just wanted to let you know that I'm in the same shoes, but I will say to take therapy. It sounds stupid but honestly its helped me slowly but surely. I wish you the best girly
Daddy Aurelye I'm so sorry both of you had to go through something so traumatic. It really makes me cry knowing you didn't want to tell your moms everything that happened to you because you know how hurt they would feel, that shows how care you guys are, you just have to be strong for them and yourselves ❤️I wish you the best with your therapy and both of you always remember it was never your fault💞😢
zar zar thank you so much! I really do appreciate it honestly. I am going to stay strong though, its best to just move forward in life and not try not to get held back by all the negative memories. Thank you❤❤
I want to say my confession but... I don't wanna be a attention seeker. Here I go. Skip if you don't want to read please. I have this constant dream or memory of a man he. Made me touch his areas I remember being where I use to live I was so young maybe 4 or 5 but I remember him taking me behind a dumpster him telling me to touch him . I remember . I feel so DIRTY I just wanna forget it but I CANT. I can't..
You should really see a specialist, hun. Your subconscious is clearly trying to tell you something, and it'll help if you gain some closure. I doubt you will like the outcome, but it sure beats bottling it all up--because it will only resurface later.
+Greyzaldo Grey If the original poster is remembering this now, there is no way that they will forget it. (Your childhood memories only get better as you age. I'm 21, and I've remembered all sorts of details about my early childhood.) But moving on, that depends on if they can accept what happened, and take the necessary precautions. Dream or not, they should still receive help--since this is tormenting them so much enough as it is. If they keep pushing the memories down and bottling them up, they will only resurface later--and have even more of a negative impact on their psyche.
not sure if I misunderstood something but as a kid (not that young, maybe like 10 or 9) I had that fantasy of getting raped by multiple older men. I swear I'm just an average girl and virgin, and I do not wish to be raped so I think it's kinda normal to have that? also fucked up, but I never got sexuality so...
+Shirin Kargin This comment's section appears to be a safe space, and everyone is sharing--but you should be careful of what you post. What if somebody found *that* out, and used said information to blackmail or harass you? Some readers don't always have the poster's best interest at heart. I hope this doesn't sound patronizing. I just worry about what these kids are saying in such an open environment, and resulting consequences. x_x
I'm ashamed of being sensitive. Because I feel like black girls aren't meant to cry all the time , anxious and I feel pressure to be strong all the time.
I am not sure what to say but I can say this. Be yourself and be you, don't be what this person or that person says what you should be. Just be YOU. God bless
This is literally me akskska and i feel like my parents only reinforce these thoughts especially when they make fun if me for being the only "sensitive" black gir in the family
I just realized I never really knew my grandfather, even though he did so much for me. Now he's in a better place. I wish I could have talked to him more.
I'm ashamed of my mood swings caused by anxiety and depression and how I over think everything and how I make other people feel worse because of who I am. I feel like it'd be better if I was gone
Nikki Neudecker the world would be a lesser place without you. I have anxiety I want videos on UA-cam about dealing with it and shit. Sometimes it helps. It's one of those things you gotta take day by day.
i have anxiety and depression too. everyday i feel trapped and suffocated in this life and i often just want to fall asleep and never wake up. god anxiety just fucking sucks- i've lost out on so much (potential friends, moments etc) because of it 😔
I grew up in the country where depression and anxiety means you're crazy. I'm in the mental institution for about 8 weeks, diagnosed with Ptsd and depression and Noone knows that
Marija Jurešić depression and anxiety does not mean you're crazy! Not All mental illnesses mean that you're crazy. You may over come your mental illness or you may not but the best thing is to just continue to be strong and cope with it the best way you can. Try to find someone who will stick by your side and be there for you. If you can't then you always have God. Be strong you'll get through it.
I feel ashamed of my loneliness, because it's my fault. I push my friends away and lie about being busy, I don't feel okay in showing my sadness. If I feel physical pain I don't mind crying in front of people but I hide any emotional crying. I have only emotional cried in front of one friend one time and she is struggling with too much on her own. I feel so lonely but I did that too myself
I can relate to this. If you need to talk (and I mean it with 100% sincerity) you can reach to me even tho I am a stranger to u. I know, if people say that to me, I never actually reach to them, when I honestly just want to breath again. I hope u find in yourself a friend and break those walls
@@rajjan7026 I've been there.... U can't be bothered to keep touch, cuz it's a hassle. I'm a typical loner, but sometimes I feel like I'm nothing. I have no life. It's warped me
Give thus video a try _loneliness by kurzetgeist 2. ______Jordan b Peterson_dont waste your life. 3.________Medcircle videos on social anxiety and avoidant personality
"I used to make fun of a gay kid in my middle school but then one day when I was feeling so alone and depressed I realized all I wanted to do was be with him" damn I just burst into tears..
Akiyachef_52 i’m not completely sure what it means but probably he made fun of the gay kid and then realised that he himself was gay and wanted to be with him. so maybe because he felt alone and depressed he made fun of him but rlly he just wanted to be with him. which i do find quite sad. (or he may have not been gay just wanted his company)
I’m ashamed of letting my “boyfriend” have my body, and I never told him that I was not comfortable with it. I told my best friend that was also a boy and he went up to my “boyfriend” and said “Don’t touch her, she’s special. And I love her” I thought he meant that as friends but turned out he had feelings for me.. we’re now together and it’s been 2 years.
In high school I had sex multiple times with a girl who I knew had a boyfriend. When she finally told him, he hung himself. I'm ashamed because when she told me, at that point in my life, I didn't care. I didn't see it as my problem. I haven't had a sexual partner since then. I don't think I should. I can't allow myself that right.
Uncultured Swine oh fuck man. You definitely need to forgive yourself this isn't a way to live. I mean at the end of the day it took a dramatic turn because of the victim ( R.I.P ) and not you. Most people kill themselves over a lot of things you know. It wasn't solely because of that one act of cheating. At the end of the day you feeling remorse shows how human you are and humans need to heal. I'd propose you'd tell that to someone you trust or you'd something in order to repent for your mistake. Because keeping yourself from living while you can use what you have to become a better human is not very smart. So please do something to heal, anything.
Uncultured Swine thats tough man. But you can't live life hating yourself. Feeling guilty and staying away from sex shows how much humanity you have and that you're not a bad person. Give yourself some time but you deserve to be happy. Maybe fall in love before sex next time and just be careful. It's okay to forgive yourself.
Uncultured Swine think its just karma but .. its the past give it up and change your ways . Dont say you shouldnt have sex anymore say I AM CHANGING FOR GOOD and ny partner accepts me . Its never too late
I'm ashamed that I can't speak up about what I believe in. I let others define me and push me around. I'm to scared to confront people who wrong me. I am a doormat.
I can understand that but please don't be. You can't control the chemical reactions in your brain; it doesn't make you any less of a person, or a bad person.
A flower is beautiful and lovely, but is not expected to bloom all year. I don't have to feel happy all the time. But I know you're strong. You are still alive, and that's beyond amazing, you deserve to be happy, but you're nor expected to. Please remember, it's not your choice, and you're not alone, We can get through it together. You can always contact me. Also remember (I know it's hard to believe sometimes) Suicide does not end the pain. It passes it on. You're strong and you're doing good
I'm ashamed of my appearance because when it comes to girls I'm never good enough. I always laugh it off and tell my friends "Best relationship is no relationship" and "Love is just a chemical reaction in the brain that compels animals to breed" but the truth is I feel so alone. I'm scared of being alone forever.
those girls who think just about appearance are hoes(believe me not all do) ....personality is what truly matters. am sure you'll find a girl someday who'll love you for just the way you are ...never change for someone else
I think you shouldn’t focus on that a lot , you’ll find the one when the time comes ,someone who will love you for who you are .. there are billions of people in this world ... I’m pretty sure one won’t be hard enough to find 💚💚plus .. looks aren’t really everything.. yes people care about them but without personality they’re nothing ... I think the only things that people can classify as ugly in a person is their personality..because it just makes everything else look ugly ... when someone falls in love with your souls ... you’ll be the most beautiful human being in their eyes 🙏🙏🙏
About 1/3 of my family is gay, and we're absolutely supportive of that. I never thought people had real issues in their family for being gay, that's sad.
I am ashamed of something. I like making scars on my skin. I do it to take away the emotional pain, and I am ashamed of not being strong enough to handle those emotions in a "normal" way. But the thing that give me the most shame is that fact that I cut deep because I am secretly thrilled with the way the scar and wound looks on my skin. I don't know why and I feel like a freak.
You're not alone. I do exactly the same. I cut deep because I like the way it looks, and the peace it brings me. I WISH I didn't have to, but that's the way I avoid coping, and I know it isn't sustainable. I'm so happy that you're getting help, I sincerely hope you overcome it. I'm just not so sure I can x
I'm ashamed because I'm afraid and alone. I had abusive parents that abandoned me as a kid. Because of the abandonment and abuse, I hide in my apartment - only venturing out to go to work - because I am afraid of people, relationships and the possibility of further abandonment. I'm ashamed because I take the easy way out and just hide when I am capable of so much more. I'm ashamed because everything that is happening to me now is self-inflicted. I can't be angry at other people anymore, only myself.
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And if i gotta smoke all day and be high all the time i will cause i cant take the not thinking its horrible i have peace when i am the only time and random but my last name means peace haha
I feel ashamed for not telling my dad that i forgive him for leaving me when I was a kid. I feel ashamed that it took this long for me to forgive him and move forward. However, I will see him in 5 days. I will tell him, and then i will be ashamed no more.
i am ashamed of being suicidal. my life is great compared to other people's but i still don't want to live it. i am ashamed of of being alive. i wish i could give my life to someone more deserving because i'm wasting it and i feel incapable of doing something meaningful with it.
Hey, Floral Ghost, I’m suicidal too. I have anxiety and mdd, and when I tried to kill myself, I discovered something sweet. An angel.saved me. They Said no,no, stay with me. I learned that I am Gods daughter...and he loves me and protects me. And I spend time with my precious angel everyday.
Maybe there's someone that you make happy. You could also do good things like talk to people who dont have friends, or make a card for someone needing motivation or wellness. You can donate old clothes to charity or group homes. You could make something creative or artistic and give it to a kid or show a kid how to draw something. You could help someone put groceries in their car, or help your family with chores. Anything simple like that always impacts people. It really does. Once, I cleaned my little brother's room and he decided to help me and I felt so good about spending time with my brother and also helping my dad get that chore done.
Sunshine Hernandez You have to remember that looks are not everything. It's just one aspect of someone out of so many others. You are so much more than your appearance. Don't let that bring yourself down.
honey i get it. i know how it feels,i almost hate going out with my friends because i'm so ugly,and they're so beautiful,i feel really bad when boys look at my friends and then at me. i feel like they're thinking "look at her,they're so beautiful,how can they hang out with someone like that?" is a really sad feeling.
I'm ashamed for not doing everything I can do to be there for the lonely people in my highschool days. I was afraid I would be cast out of my group for helping them and secretly distanced myself from them in public settings even though I always met them in person to cheer them up and listen to their problems. Even though they say my 'caring' was a big help to them and I'm now changing myself to become a braver person than then, I can't help but look back and feel ashamed and guilty about what a coward and hypocrite I was and still is. God, I wish I could do a do-over. I could have made a difference to those people's lives, but instead I was a part of the crowd that wasn't brave enough to do so.
I know what you mean, fam. x_x In my elementary to middle school days, I was vain and hypocritical. I grew out of that hideous phase by the time I hit high school, and became a much better and empathetic person as a result. Still, I can't be proud of how I treated others before that milestone.
7BlackSheep Thank you for your story, I feel a bit better because of it. You're awesome for changing yourself for the better and I think that's what matters most from now on. Hope many good things come your way :))
You're welcome, and thank you as well. XD After binge watching a bunch of these videos, it made me realize the extent of my awful actions of the past. Once I hit high school, I went through an armchair psychologist phase, when that was just as problematic. I might have meant well, but it was not my place to "fix" people. It took me awhile to finally get my ego to stahp, and I'll be 21 soon. This was sobering.
I'm glad you have figured things out by now X'D At the age of 19 I'm at this phase where I constantly feel guilty for everything and trash-shame myself for the past. I should really find a balance but it's very hard :'(
Because many people wouldn't watch them unfortunately. They make them short to encourage as many people to watch as possible, though it does suck for those of us who love these kinds of videos.
I'm surprised no one put I'm ashamed as a Christian to enjoy pleasing themselves and always feeling guilty and dirty and feeling like I've sinned. Because I definitely do
Slee L if u are talking about sexually out of marriage u should feel guilty and dirty because it is impure and u have sinned don't feel bad for yourself and keep doing it cause what u are doing is wrong in Gods eyes so repent and turn back because God loves u and he forgives if u truly wanna stop but don't say u feel dirty and guilty as u continue doing it
I'm ashamed that I cry a lot, shy, and I just don't have enough confidence to do things what I want to do... I'm a loner... I don't have friends... 'cuz when I make friends they all just left me... there was this one girl who used me to get back with her *REAL* friends... it hurts.. sometimes I can't even stand up to myself... That's why my only love ones are only my parents... my teacher once told me "Friends comes and goes, that's why you will always love your parents, they are there for you, they give you support, whenever you have problems... they are there to help you solve your problems..." ...gosh I'm crying right now...
I can relate, but just hang on okay? Your teacher is right, your parents are the most valuable thing in your life. Their love is unconditional, and no matter what you do they'll always love you. They did make you afterall. And find people that don't mind your shyness and quietness, you'll find friends, I promise.
Impose your self upon those who you have asked plainly if your are friends or not. Write it in a note and pass it if you are too shy to do it in person by speaking. Write a letter of why you like them and either give it to them or keep it as a reminder why you wanted this person close to you. Is it they are funny ? Like books like you? Then join a book club or a club with other women of interest. If you have Meetup then join a club and meet people in your area with the same interest such as reading or watching the stars or going camping or starting a business. So don't be down on your self. And if you don't have Meetup app in your area suggest it to your much bolder cousin or sister or relatives who is a woman. So your can start a club.
I'm ashamed that between 14-16 I would go and seek out older men to have sex with me (around the ages of 50-60)... I always felt terrible and guilty afterwords and never would tell anyone because it was my fault. I can't understand myself and I don't know why I do these things.
TheOldBearTime ye its like that in iceland too but its leagal for 15 to have sex with ppl under 18 and parents are still able to sue. I think its also something like that in Sweden but im not sure. Idk how old men op was talking about but if they were like fully grown men (like 20 and over) its still their responsibility to not have sex with underaged kids u kno
I’m ashamed for thinking about death positively. Whenever I’m in a stressful or bad situation, I always cling on to the fact that I can just commit suicide and how all my worries will be gone. It makes me happy and relieved.
I'm ashamed that the one and only time I've ever had sex was with an abusive boyfriend back in high school. I thought that if I gave him what he wanted, he would treat me better, but of course, that didn't happen. I'm ashamed that I allowed myself to be abused for a year and a half and I'm ashamed that it still affects me to this day, almost 9 years later. But mostly I'm ashamed for feeling like there is something wrong with me because that's how HE made me feel, and I've never had a meaningful relationship since then. I've never had sex since then and I constantly struggle with that decision because it makes me question whether waiting for the right person is worth the loneliness that I feel every single day...
You're on the right track if you are aware that what he did was wrong. Many victims stay in denial about this sort of thing, and continue to internalize it. While I'm no relationship coach, all I can say is that you should wait until you are ready. Don't jump back into things if you are scared or hesitant.
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Don't feel ashamed, and don't minimize the pain and emotional damage he caused you. It makes complete and total sense that you would be reluctant to have sex or start another relationship (it was traumatic and devastating), but just know that's not a life sentence of loneliness for you. You don't have to have sex to be in a relationship, and you also don't have to be in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship to develop a satisfying closeness with one (or many people) in your life. Some male friends, even potential love interests, are best kept as non-sexual, and it can be extremely fulfilling. Make your own rules, and listen to your self and your own needs and make sure other people know those standards from the start. Of course, there will be men (or women) that are selfish and mainly looking for sex...but those aren't the ones for you, and don't let them pressure or change your standards. A man with your same interests will WANT to take it as slow as you require. I've had sex only a handful of times, but I've dated many and had multiple boyfriends. I tell them that I expect patience, and I don't do anything more than what I want to do, and it is liberating. Most men are not worth having sex with, and that's ok. Do what works for you, and set your own rules. You are the boss and leader of your life and your body, and you are more valuable than what many men seek to gain from you. You deserve to have your cake and eat it too, without compromise. And if you feel like you're not interested in sex, there ARE men out there that feel the same way..granted, much more rare, but I have actually met a couple of them in my lifetime. There's lots of people that would love simply having your time and conversation.
I'm ashamed of my learning abilities. I can't focus in class, and it's hard for me to redeem myself when I get distracted. I never finish up any tasks I've started, and always forget about tasks along the way. Even little ones. I'm ashamed of the fact that I can tell my friends about how I really feel, to my brother, but not to my parents. I'm ashamed of the fact that I can express my true self around my friends, but not my parents.
I’m ashamed that I don’t spend enough time with my loved ones and I feel like one day I’m going to lose them and look back at all the times I made up reasons To not hang
It's what I most regret now that I've lost my Great Grandmother. There is never enough time, spend what you can with them, and hold on to every, single, memory. ❤
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Jubilee I
Please do an episode on transgender people
Here in 2018 waiting for another part
Elijah Avila There's no age limit for this one specifically
People use to trys bring me down in the past when i was a kid, when i start to do something good to myself only people say to me " you cannt do it.. you are weak... you are a dreamer... a lunatic.." well because of that kind of stuff the doubt people got around me i suffer yes always being bringed down, but i never stop, i always fight for my stuff.. and after some years i did it, i never stop thinking " i can do it, ill be better, ill be what i want to be" every time, i always stay positive, i shut those people mouth, now people says " oh you are doing well bla bla bla" for me its only BS from people bc i did what they wont me to do and be, so never let the others BS downgrade you, always think you can be better tomorrow then today, you will do it if you believe in yourself. Be strong people!
I am ashamed of not working hard enough to achieve what I want even tho I know I can
Its Mona I am sure there's a valid reason for it. You don't have to feel guilty. You alone have the power to understand why it happens and decide whether what you're trying to work for is worth it or not.
Same
Same
Its Mona i relate. At least you care and are trying at all. Keep pushing.
I can relate....
"it's not your responsebility to feel his shame"
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i needed that
apple crumble i hope you are doing alright you are never alone.💜
I read your comment just as she said it.
me to
apple crumble me too..
Me too
I am ashamed of not having courage to do things. Not having motivation to complete tasks. And procrastinating, even though I feel guilty about it.
Same😣
that`s also me
me too :( all the dreams and projects i've given up..crippled by my own self doubt
Dude, saame
That's me
I’m ashamed of acting confident and like I love myself when deep down I am very insecure
I liked this comment then unliked it coz u were at 69 sorry
You are not alone
Same
Same
I can relate to that one broski
I’m ashamed for skipping long comments that people put their heart into
Sarah CP I went up to read the ones I skipped after this
Nice 1
Same..
Sarah CP relatable
Same.
Im ashamed of being a people pleaser, ive hurt myself so much and always put others first...
So relatable, even if it hurts me, but it helps others, I’ll do it no matter what and I am really ashamed of it but idek anymore
I can relate
I do so much for people just to put a little smile on their face I forget to put a smile on mine
Me too sometimes I just feel like why am I hurting myself this much for someone who wouldn't even care
So your one of those "feel bad for meeeeee!!!!" People
I can relate. Doing the work on myself and learning to say no and walk away or whatever else I need to do
I am ashamed of being shy. Everytime I try to be social I end up saying nothing to anyone, and leaving a room full of people so that they don't feel uncomfortable with me in it.
I'm the opposite of shy and.. I don't think anyone feels uncomfortable with shy people. Never heard anyone saying that to me...
WN you ever feel lonely in a group of friends cuz same
same :(
WN same
Same
I am ashamed of my laziness and lack of motivation, I have so many things I want to do and so many ideas but I'm always just "not in the mood" for it. I procrastinate so much: like this chains that keep me from doing things I want and deep down I want to do them but I'm never motivated enough.
Chocoya you may have depression
Same
You sound like me
you're spending too much time on the internet that's your problem
same
I'm ashamed that a can't talk to people normally without the anxiety of what they think of me in the way
Young chocopup your shame is my shame 😔
Same
i can relate you will come over it just think what are they going to do you are who you are if you think they judge you just dont care and laught at them
I relate
Same
I'm ashamed of not telling people I want to feel loved because I think I'm being too needy when I say it
You're not being needy! We all want love and want to be loved. So speak your mind and let out whatever is in your hear . If they can't respect that or don't understand 🗣LET THEM GO!
Im ashamed of being pushed away and later rejected for opening up to someone telling them I wanted to feel love, wanted to be hugged, affection. Only to be thought of as coming on too strong and treated as someone quarantined that they should keep their distance away from. Later even accused of homo intention when I'm straight and live in celibacy.
I practically see myself in you now...is it actually to much to ask of people in our lives?
As a guy, I just can't afford being seen as needy. And when I behave in a way who I am really not, I feel like I am a manipulator.
I always feel needy, selfish, and ungrateful and I try to ask for as little as possible even when I need it. I say 'thank you' constantly to the point where it gets annoying and then I feel annoying, and then I get self-conscious
I feel ashamed of wanting to die when I have so much to live for.
How old are you?
Devon Berkowitz I think my best friend has a similar problem. But don't feel bad to ask for help just because you "have everything in life" and you're supposed to be happy. Mental disorders like depression happen even to rich people who have lots of friends and kind, loving parents. You're not whining. Don't let that feeling hold you back from opening up to someone. And be strong!
I want to die but I also want to live. The thing that keeps me living is my curiousity. And to be honest it's also the thing that makes me want to die.
Devon Berkowitz you know what's crazy . I've felt that way since I was like 8 . What 8 year old even knows what suicide is , let alone the depth of dying ? Taht just made me feel even more crazy and I hid my depression form my parents . I'm 20 now , and after many failed attempts I'm still breathing . The thought crosses my mind every so often , and with bipolar it will always be there . I secretly hope I don't succeed , but a part of me just wishes I never existed in the first place so I wouldn't have to weigh my options
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I'm ashamed of my lack of confidence and ability to stand up for myself
I relate to every single word you said, especially growing up Black in a non Black community where people hate on you for your beautiful chocolate skin, but they will never understand.
I feel you..
In the right time in the right moment you will find the strength to stand up 4 yourself and when you do there will be on looking back
You'll find your strength. It's the one thing you have control over.
I know this has nothing to do with this but AOT s4 dropped episode 9 today
This was actually so deep and emotional. Its a real eye opener.
Safiya Hashi i relate with the first one i was the one who were bullied 😂 thats sucks
Hope you get throght it.
Safiya Hashi I know right I’m in tears
Spook Hater
huh what?
why are all these top comments the same? not trying to offend, just making an observation...
I was in a sexually and emotionally abusive relationship. When I finally broke up with him and my family asked why, I told them it was because he got a terrible haircut because I was ashamed that I hadn't broken up with him at the first warning sign. To this day they still make fun of me for being "shallow" and every time someone mentions it I have to laugh and play along while it feels like I'm being stabbed over and over again.
All_The_Stories_Are_True You have to tell them! I'm sure they'll be supportive of you and they'll probably feel like dicks for bringing it up time and time again
Do they know now?
Imma let you finish but No, its in the past now.. I don't want to bring it up again. And plus, they'd probably feel bad and I wouldn't want that.
All_The_Stories_Are_True who cares if they would feel bad. you deserve to have your abuse be treated as what it was, abuse. you shouldn't have it locked in your head and only your head forever.
I understand how you feel
Sometimes you just can't tell someone the truth when you really want to
But dont worry, because one day I believe someone will understand you and help
You are a very strong person by the way
I use humor to hide the pain.
Had to get that out.
Hope the pain stops. The pain will stop if you have faith in it stopping.
same man same
Same
I use silent to hide the pain
What the hell, I feel the same exact way. When I'm messed with by my friends, I laugh it off, but inside I'm crying
I am ashamed of how much I let the things people say to me get to me so easily
Ikr, it really hurts and it doesn't goes away quickly. Stay strong though✊😊
Very true. Your not alone, keep your head up
same, one negative comment makes me feel really bad and even cry, and I end up thinking about it all night for even over a week. I wish I could just let it go easier
Me too I have a hard time to stop thinking about it
I really like your hair!
“its not your responsibility to feel his shame” hit me like a brick
It's true
"I bullied a gay kid." "When I got lonely, I realized..
I just wanted to be with him."
That is depressing.
yeah, that's the one that really got to me
i hope they got togheter
Most likely not
sounds like a wattpad book
I had to stop the video because I was almost about to cry... This is so dark...
I hate how it's the abused ones carrying shame and not the abusers like wtf
Abusers tend to be pretty psychopathic. Shame or remorse just don't work for them.
7BlackSheep yes and there might still be lingering attitudes that women are somehow responsible for being dangerously sexual or manipulative and sinful and poor abusive men just can't help themselves...
I for one know that those myths are bullsh!t.~ Here's another lovely one: that men can't be sexually assaulted--or that the victims enjoy it. Stuff like this hurts all victims.
KennedyEbony That’s true for some. I’m also sure some are so psychologically fucked up that that was what they took out on other people and the shame from that is added to the cloud of pain and confusion. Abusive addicts are probably often like this.
KennedyEbony men are also sexually abused, that’s true, but it actually tends to be more common in women. But either way it is certainly NOT right in any way. The bad thing about if it happened to a guy would be whether it was taken seriously or not, if you get what I mean? And that’s not really fair.
“I let a man have my body so I could call him my boyfriend”
When you get older , it’s only then when you realise how important it is to have high self esteem
Yes I went through what you been through. I knew myself that I lost self respect in me
@@creative123style7 I went through the same but before that he was my bf he left me because I was getting serious n he did not wanted someone serious needless to say after knowing all this later I begged him not to leave n we can be fwb till he finds someone better...I thought maybe he will fall in love again I will be good to him but he didn't I was just an option n he just enjoys me this qurantine made me realise n I promised myself even though it hurts I won't go back to him I stopped texting him too.
I’ve been living with cancer for 3 years and I feel ashamed of hating others because they get to live a normal life and mine was taken away.
Please....don't be angry at yourself for having these feelings sometimes. It is unfair already for getting ill so don't give yourself more emotional pain by being mad at yourself for having these emotions. I think I maybe might get the same kind of feelings like you if I was in that situation. because like I said it is unfair.
I had a terrible past. Emotional and physical abuse. Molested...got beaten every day for 19 years. I got psychological problems now because of trauma. I am resentful sometimes to people who had it easier then me....who can not relate....I do to feel hate and yelousy towards them sometimes. My point is...you don't actually hate that person. You are sad and in pain and you can sometimes not rationalise these intens extreme emotions so you will lose control over thoughtproces.
Thank you so much for sharing. Your story touched me deeply. ❤
Your feelings are valid
How are you currently doing?
Momma Mercy your life will always be yours 💕
I had HG during my pregnancy where I vomited 20-30x a day for 9 months. I had to quit my job, I couldn’t take care of myself, I couldn’t be a good wife, I was a prisoner in my body that was allergic to my baby. Every smiling pregnant woman I passed, every woman that told me “it’s just morning sickness, we all get it”, every person that told me “it can’t be that bad”-I hated. That wasn’t me. I don’t hate anyone. I’m in no way comparing my 9 months of HG to your cancer, just sharing my story with you of how illnesses change us, pain changes us, sickness changes us. It’s normal to feel resentment of others that aren’t in pain. I hope you’re doing better. ❤️
I’m ashamed that I didn’t report my sexual assaulters. They may be out there hurting other little kids.
Good
Oh god...I'm so sorry
Wtf why not??
Feel ya..feel ya
Meliv How is that good?
I'm ashamed of giving up so easily on everything I've ever wanted to do.
RAHCAS NETWORK Story of my life lol, I think it's because my parents never treated me like I was special, they never treated me bad but just not like I was the best thing ever which I believe parents should. Anyway, I think this has made me a bit cynical and feel less important than most people view themselves. Which is probably good and bad, I don't have a huge ego but I also don't believe in myself at all.
RAHCAS NETWORK me too :(
I dropped karate when I was a kid and I still feel ashamed of giving up that easily because I regret it now.
I've always wanted to become a writer and it is still my dream, but I'm scared and I don't work hard enough for it. It probably will never happen.
I started running with my father but I stopped because I don't push myself hard enough. I'm lazy and I don't have ambition.
Vivianne Gravel me too
Captain Ford wow i dont know why but this made me wanna be friends with u
It is not too late to complete what you want. Write down the steps needed.
I’m ashamed of my face. I can’t help but feel that everything would be better if I were prettier.
Try drawing you in a painting. See you as a artiest would. And see how you fit well together.
A cuckoo bird never thinks that everything would be better if it was prettier,nor does a raven or crow
you're beautiful
same and no matter what others say I dont feel any better
I relate to this, i haven't quite figured out how to have a different mindset, but all i know is that multiple times my mum said that it's whats beautiful on the inside that counts, I know it's hard to believe because I myself haven't even yet, but on your journey it's just something to constantly remind yourself... you ARE beautiful.
Sometimes there are points where I'm really happy, and then all of a sudden it's almost like I'm empty. Some days I can't bring myself to get out of bed or socialize or talk or even want to open my eyes. I don't know why I get like this but I'm ashamed of it. My mom says I'm lazy and I should leave my room, but I'm too afraid to tell her I'm trying and I want to but I just can't. It's like I go through this long process where I'm just being emptied out, and I'm ashamed of that. I'm ashamed that I can't bring myself to be better again or to feel happy when I get like this.
Falcon B please get therapy, I felt exactly like you a year ago and I decided to use the shred of energy I had to make the call and try saving myself. For years of my life I felt like a piece of garbage floating through the ocean alone, now I'm swimming to find land again. The truth with depression is only you can save you, you gotta fight for future happy you! I'm feeling better but I still have my days. It's amazing what just talking to someone who has an objective view of it all can do. Makes you realize it's not that bad and you should keep fighting because you're important enough. Anyway, stay blessed and keep on keeping ❤️✌🏽️
Captain Ford thank you for the lovely reply and advice ❤️ I truly appreciate it
Gisselle Amaya if your mood changes between extremely happy and extremely sad/empty/depressed, you might be bipolar, which is nothing to be ashamed of. There are many other mental illness terms though, depending on your exact symptoms. But in the end it doesn't really matter what it's called; if you don't feel good and it doesn't get better and really has a negative impact on your daily life, you should try talking to someone and seek help because you deserve to feel better :)
Falcon B don't worry, i feel what you feel too sometimes. But believe me, we can always do better than we are now, so dont worry. Stay safe😊
Sekar Langit thank you so much ❤️ I hope you stay safe as well
I am ashamed that when my grandpa was in the hospital my aunt called the house to let us know, and I forgot to tell my mom. Days later, she got the call that he had passed away and she didn't get to say goodbye to her own dad because she didn't even know he was sick, and it's my fault.
Emilie Jolin wow I'm so sorry that's so bad
Emilie Jolin I'm sorry, but please don't beat yourself up it was a mistake and I am sure your grandpa is in heaven not wanting you to worry, because he knows you'll all be together one day laughing about it. Also just because your mom didn't get to say her goodbye and that she loved him doesn't mean he didn't know it! ❤️✌🏽️ Stay blessed.
how did you forget?
Frank Jones fuck off
Why are people liking this
I'm ashamed that I was molested by a family member multiple times for 8 years, but when I finally came of age to know it was wrong. I was too scared to tell anyone, because if I did they'd believe him over me. He'd say I asked for it too and they'd just believe it. I was terrified that they would think I enjoyed it because I'm gay, that I just became gay because of that. That I liked it, or that I was the one to start it. And what I'm even more ashamed of is that I still am too scared to tell anyone because of those points.
please.. I beg you to hear me out loud and understand that telling someone is best thing you can do... all those horrible regretful emotions you are feeling should not be existing. you don't deserve this guilt you're feeling. please let someone know.. anyone.. you don't deserve this pain. you are so much more
PurpleChanny
I had a similar situation when I was younger. I knew the sexual abuse was wrong, but chose not to tell ( I don't know why, actually ). I know I shouldn't feel this way, but I still feel guilty because when I told my mom, she felt that she should've known. It's a hard thing to deal with. My grandmother still doesn't believe me to this day, and still is married to the man who abused me.
It's not your fault.
It's never too late to open up and tell your family (or anyone you trust). If you tell them the reason why you were afraid to speak up, I'm sure they'll be comprehensive. Anyways I'm truly sorry you had to go through this. Be strong
I'm going through the same thing except that I'm not gay.
I‘m ashamed of being so young, yet feeling so worthless and like a nobody.
You are a somebody. You are wonderfully and fearfully made by God 🙂
hey keyren you are beautiful and loved ... you are somebody and worthy... know that
Hey, hope you're doing well and just wanted to say that I hope everything gets better with you and you have enough confidence to love yourself ❤️
Same :(
this is so relatable to me. i always feel like i’m am annoying middle schooler. it’s like i don’t fit in anywhere.
I am ashamed of behaving bad with people whenever I feel depressed or low.
I am most ashamed of telling my father I hated him before he left for work one morning. He was late for work and couldn’t give a lift. He was killed on the interstate in a road traffic accident with a pick up truck. I miss him every day. Princess loves you, daddy.♥️
I'm sorry to read that
That's so sad, I'm tearing up 😕
He knew you loved him. All kids do this and I promise you he understands.
justabatcat Screw off
I’m tearing up I’m srry for
Lost
I'm ashamed that I never cry when people die. It's not that I don't care or I didn't love them. I just never saw it as a big deal because it was always going to happen in the end anyway. I've always thought about it this way though, from a really young age. I just hate it because it makes me look extremely cold hearted when that's not the case, I just don't want to cry over something that I can't control.
ffion that happens to me too!
Me two
Fuckinn same
ME TOOO
Me too
I'm ashamed of having an insecurity for literally EVERYTHING .
Omg same...I have sooo many things I’m ashamed of
we might have lots of insecurities but we are all beautiful on the inside and out
Damn that's me
I am ashamed of openly declaring to my mother that I wanted to die. I am ashamed of telling my mother that she is annoying and isn't a good mom
I am ashamed of telling her that my life is terrible because of her.
When in reality I have the best life and I realized that my mother did more than wonders for me. She sacrificed a lot
We're kind of awkward now but I really wish that one day I would be able tell her how much she means to me and how much I love her❤
TED -dy I think u should have another conversation with her where both of u guys are open and honest. No one wants an awkward relationship with there parents for years if some regular open conversations could help?
TED -dy If you find it in you to open up, you may find it extremely rewarding. Being reconciled with your mother before she leaves this world would be priceless.
TED -dy u should tell her now.... what if it is too late......if??????
It's K to be embarrassed , go & talk 2 her before its too late
Tell her
I am ashamed that i let the world turn me into such a cold hearted person. This isn't who i am but i don't know how to stop and i know the end is going to be a very destructive conclusion.
Ikr..
The good heart and innocence is lost
I’m was ashamed of that also, now I see it as part of my journey. I realize that I have 2 sides of my personality and I have control. It took affirmations, meditation, prayer, journaling and a different perspective. I’m still developing rock solid boundaries. I have mostly good days and a few bad days.
You don't need to be ashamed. Have you heard of Christ?I used to be the most selfish person who didn't care about the feelings of other people until I was too hardpressed by life,my journey with Christ began then it's been very tough but I believe I'm a better person than I was and I'm getting better.sometimes it's not up to us because only God can help you with His grace...I'm praying for you beloved
May you give your heart to Jesus
This.
I pushed my dad away after my parents divorce. He now lives in a different state and has started a whole life without me in it. It hurts because I was close to him when I was younger and now I can’t even say “I love you” without it sounding strange to my own ears. I love my mom to death but I sometimes just need a fatherly role. I don’t ever talk about it with anyone because I feel like a burden and that it’s not a big deal. I just truly miss him.
Speaking from personal experience, divorce can really mess with a child's head and their ability to form further relationships with others. It can also damage their relationship with their parents to some degree. (After my parent's divorce, it took me nearly a decade to forgive my dad. He really wasn't making things easy for our family after the split, and that didn't help the "forgiving" process. Now that I'm grown, I try not to be bitter about it, but the pain is still there.) Your father might be in a different location--but if you are earnest, you can make amends. Regardless of how much he's "moved on", you will always be his child. Perhaps he wants to make things work as well, and you have no idea of this due to the no contact. This could help you all heal.
Hi, my parents also got divorced when I was young, I didn't know what happened until now. It's sad to see so many people getting split apart from their parents but it will be ok. I miss my dad as well. It's been a few years but he visits, talk to your friends they'll help you, talk you through it. ~Sally
I think you should talk to him.
Reach out to him.
I'm ashamed of my shy nature. I've always been laid back even in school. I had a few friends but not too many. I barely said a word to anyone. It held me back from joining clubs, sports, etc. Now at my job I barely say 2 words to anyone and it's hard for me to open myself up or even to contribute to conversations. It's a daily struggle for me. Love to all.
I find it weird and amazing how we become so open when we are in front of a screen
It takes me like 10 minutes to get the confidence to ask my teacher if i can go to the restroom
Big K you are not alone mate. I am also like that type of guy :(
I always found it extremely hard to talk to or in front of people. Luckily my first friends were outgoing people and built that bridge between us. I’ve been finding it easier and easier for the past two years or so but sometimes my mouth still won’t open. So I feel you. Sometimes, all you need is that one person to show up in your life and be the key to unlocking your jaw. They don’t even have to be a friend. For me it was a 17 year old who was one of my group leaders when I went camping but she was so friendly she drew out reactions and I realised that giving it my all made life so much more fun and easier.
Same. Personally, I know I have a social anxiety and it has helped me a lot to understand that it’s not me, it’s a mental illness. I can’t afford therapy yet, but I’m definitely going to do it in the future so I can finally live my life normally. Maybe look it up too, if you think it can help you! In any case, you’re not alone.
I feel ashamed that I was raped as a child multiple times. I've never told anyone and to this day I still jump at the touch of another person.
clumsy HOPE it wasn't your fault and nobody has to be blamed other than the Molester, and you only jump because of a very bad experience and that's okay. You have a logical reason to be and nobody should shame you for it. It will take time to adjust to just simple friendly gestures like hugging her hand shaking but it will be okay. Taking care of yourself is the most important thing you could do right now and giving yourself time. It's not going to be easy but remember that you are worth it.
I hope you find a way to get passed that. And when you do, I hope you can find comfort in another's warmth.
Hey, it is not your fault. Maybe me telling you that goes in one year and comes out the other. But it really isn't your fault. The rapist should feel the shame. I have been there before. You are stronger than you think. Once you decide to open up, you will see God's work and realized there is something really special about this life. It's a journey. If you'd like to chat, just message me.
I am ashamed.. of choosing my boyfriend of 1 month who used me and cheated on me over a woman who helped raised me and treated me like a daughter. I should have done more for her, I should have showed her how much I loved her. She died, and he broke up with me 2 days after she died. I don't think I'll ever forgive myself, nor should I be forgiven. ❤ RIP mom I'm sorry.
I'm sure she loved you until the last moment. I'm sure she forgives you!
Wow that’s fucked up
i hope you can find Comfort in bts' Music
and i'm sure she loved you very much :)
Kaypoppin Unnie you're dumb asf but it's in the past.. She forgives you I'm sure
i'm going through all these confessions in the comments, wondering just how the hell i can provide some sort of relief or comfort, but i think right now all i have that would be remotely powerful enough are words:
you are beautiful and your past does not define you. don't be ashamed for who you are, what you did, or the things that happened to you that were out of your control. you are unique and you are loved, no matter how you feel right now. you are worthy, and don't let anything of anyone tell you that you aren't, including yourself. there is only one you, and i can promise you one thing. if there's not someone out there in this vast world who already thinks you're the most spectacular person to ever exist, there will be.
be brave like you have been, and remember that you're only human. that being said, humans are also capable of tremendous things. reach out, talk to others in the same situation as yourself and help each other out. during this life, i think people tend to forget that we're all granted this massive power; the power of positive change. grow and inspire others with whatever it may be - something as small but as influential as a few words, or even a kind gesture.
i genuinely can't express how much i care for whoever's reading this, and whoever may be battling with their inner, most deepest and darkest thoughts. it's ok to feel whatever you're feeling right now, however i know you're strong enough to overcome those feelings and turn them into something great.
much love, and please have a wonderful day - you very much deserve it.
nat Wow...Thank you. I mean I don't have any problems right now but my heart is just aching nowadays(emotionally dw), but that was beautiful. I really enjoyed reading that, and I'm glad you wrote it because what you wrote will definitely help others to overcome their problems. Thank you.
I really needed this, thank you.
I needed this thank you so much
You can become a hero
I'm ashamed that all my past relationships failed because I'm a damaged person
We are all damages
I agree with you Kotie Lombard...we keep fixing it...
I hurted my past relationships because I couldn't have my crush (i dont crush on people much but she was really, really special). I just dated people, who turned out to be actually really caring with me, even tho i didnt felt the same way. I just wanted to feel liked by others in _that_ way.
Wishing hope and healing 💕
Relatable..but we live in world with a lot of broken people living broken lives.. it gets better time time and you will find your person
I'm ashamed of myself when I'm crying because I know that someone always has it worse than me and I feel like I should be grateful that I have a house or live under a roof and them I feel like my feelings don't matter :'))
I've seen a lot of people talk about this, and it's unfair to everyone. We all experience emotions and things that make us upset in some way, it's not possible to stop feeling altogether. Just because we have things a lot of people don't, doesn't mean we don't have problems of our own. I grew up poor, and I used to think I would be happy if only I had this or that, now that I'm older and doing much better I see how wrong I was. Your feelings are valid
Your feelings aee valid.
A M Thank you for sharing. I needed that.
A message to all who are ashamed of something..
Listen. It's okay. I think we have all done stuff that we regret or feel ashamed of.. I definitely have done far worse than these confessions. I dont even wish to talk about them -- but.. Accept the fact that you feel ashamed. Don't reject or resist it but rather understand it. Feel it. It's a good thing to be sensitive despite popular belief. If you resist that feeling, trust me it will cause worse problems later on. Feel it.. Understand it and most of all love it, love yourself ( but also don't accept what happens to you - as you ) Real love is unconditional. Real love has no fight, it is not bad vs. good.. It's bad and good.. You love them both. Attaching to past situations will not do you any good but keep you in a state of negativity, which will make life seem dire and attract more negativity upon yourself. Let go, I know. It's so much easier said than done but it's more than possible. We as people need to stop being so ashamed.. But rather accept it and just learn from the situation!
Regrets happen when you weren't grateful for what happened. I know in some cases it doesn't make sense to be thankful but every problem gives you the most amazing gift- transformation. What you choose to transform into is your choice, and that is such a wonderful thing. Fucking love yourself guys and all the stupid things you've done. You're all you got and no matter where you go, there you will be. So to make this ride a little bit easier, the destination closer and the scenery more beautiful.. Relax.
I didn't read the text because it was too big and I'm NOT ashamed of it.
Pedro MR yo that's cool too lol
ItsJavaChip I feel you. Mine are really bad too. But I'm not ashamed.. It's just what needed to happen.
lol
now im kinda curious
I needed this......but, I've felt ashamed my whole life. It's a part if me.....the reason I feel ashamed, and just the shame itself. I've sort of given up trying to love who I am. But, I'm glad you do.
I'm ashamed of not keeping in touch with my best friend from elementary school, because now he's gone, he took his life, he moved in middle school and I am homeschooled and he went to a different HS in a different town. I wish I would've talked to him, even if it was in his last hours, and told him how much he meant to me, how much I love him, and how much it hurts... 😔💔
Damn.. I also lost contact with a lot of old friends.. Maybe I should call them
Smol Bean oh No!!
Pedro MR I encourage you to do it before you regret it.
Smol Bean oh my god. i can’t imagine going through what you went through. you are so strong, and continue to be strong for your friend ❤️ much love
Cute Kawaii Clay thank you, I really appreciate it 😊
I teased my cousin for being sad a lot. He committed suicide 7 weeks later. I think about this still and it kills me inside. I can't even describe how much I hate my self.
Omg. I can feel ur pain. I am sure you were ignorant when you did that. Forgive yourself and don't cause such pain to any other person. That would be the real salvation. May your cousin rest in peace.!
I’m sorry. I’m sure he would forgive you today.
I know your pain I'm so sorry that happened and I'm so sorry your cousin passed
To be honest: I always skip the intro because it is way too loud although it is a good idea :/
yeah ... I think this series needs some technical work.
Nico Mx me too. It really stresses me out.
londontolosangeles12 same, it makes me anxious
Nico Mx dude same it makes me anxious uggh
Same omg i freak out
"it's not your responsibility to feel his shame"
Abby Williamson this is the great one..it totally hit me. such a deep truth
I noticed that alot of the letters where from women who has been molested or "forced" into sex which makes me sad. I just think it's unfair. At the age from 6-13, I was also molested so I can relate. And I feel extremely ashamed because of it even though I know I shouldn't.
Vilde I'm really sorry that you had to go through that because you don't deserve it. But I couldn't help but notice LISA in your profile picture and I'm here for you because fam sticks together you know.
safiya tariq you're a fellow blink? Yay!Thank you so much for caring..
Vilde i don't think they ever specified their gender/sex
we have no clue if they were women or not...people just assumed. Smh
hana i'm sorry! I just got confused over the fact that there were girls who read out the letters. I know that everyone can get molested, not just women!
I’m ashamed of never telling my parents I love them.
so according to the tense that this was written in, they're still alive? So...go ahead and tell them :)
@black sparrow it was written in present tense though
@black sparrow It probably doesn't work that way but I agree with you
Same.
I relate to you.
I'm ashamed of not being who i want to be
Andrea BTS
hard work and dedication... through that you can be whoever you want to be.
i feel exactly the same as you, and im trying to change who i am, even the trying will make you feel better
~Andrea BTS~ maybe you’re afraid of being who you are or something...but remember that some ppl out there can’t be who they are cuz they might get hurt cuz of it or even killed..you might able to be you freely :3
Guess I’m one of the ppl that aren’t able to be themselves
Andrea BTS *SPEAK YOURSELF* and *LOVE YOURSELF* Be who you want to be. Not people want To see. Be Proud and Speak Yourself even if they judge you because You choose your Destiny not them. Time flies and Those people who you pleased Will be Gone.. So please *Love yourself* and *Speak yourself*.
-*your fellow co-army*💜
@@chiihara 💜
I'm ashamed of opening up to people who are close to me because I'm afraid they'll start to look at me differently and tiptoe around my feelings. I'm afraid to tell my mom I have dermatillomania. I struggle with pica too and living with an iron defiency doesn't make it any better.
If you can't open up to them, maybe they're not so close after all. Give them a chance, open yourself when needed.
When I had depression I was never really close to my mom but then I guess after 2 or 3 years I finally told my mom about it and she told me tat she struggled it when she was younger. I’m glad tat I told her bc she helped me fight it and now we’re close till this day.
2:23 is my story, I can't believe it. That's what I should have done, stood up for myself. This woman who is reading it, thank you so much. I needed to hear this
You were trapped, it was NOT your fault.
Is this actually true? If it is, how are you now?
~CONFESSION ~
Skip if you want to
I've never told anyone this in my life... It recently surfaced in my memory all of the sudden
When I was 8 or 7 I remember sitting in my living room (I remember everything vividly) ready for school with an older boy in my neighborhood my mom took care of him sometimes do he'd ride the bus with us. He was 12 or 13, and well he asked me if I like him or my brother (at that age I thought he meant as in friendly like) I said him...he proceeded to slide his hand down my back to my...and yeah you get the picture 😣😣. Afterwards my mom came in the living room he removed his hand quick. I didn't react I couldn't I was shocked, scared, and confused. He was bigger than me and I was a little girl
I have no Idea why this just came up in my memory I look back at it sometimes.
Probably why I'm scared to get to close to my ex boyfriends, and end up breaking up early on when we get to a certain point.
My parents never found out I moved after that never saw the boy again. Only thing I remember at that age my mind probably subconsciously pushed that memory away until now 😥😥😥
I had to let that out
If u wanna ask question go ahead
Well, that kid is still 12 or 13 at that time so I guess he doesn't know what he is doing, maybe he just discovered porn and was curious (I dunno
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That happened a long time ago and you should be thankful that nothing happened other than that.
I'm not forcing you to forget about it or anything...
Because I understand you, I was 9 yrs. old when I saw my cousin being kissed by our grandfather (from my mother's side). I don't understand what is happening at that time. But now that I'm old enough, I feel so guilty not doing anything to help her.
Until now I still wish that he is already dead.. And if he's still alive I wish that he is suffering from a very serious illness...
I hope you understand what I'm saying... Im not good in english,,sorry
im sorry
So he just sits beside you IN YOUR LIVING ROOM and does that? How did he get in and sit with you in the first place?
I started a relationship with this girl and when i began to act distant she came up to me asking why when i could'nt tell her the truth she began to cry, i put smile on my face so my friends couldnt see how i really felt i left her i the dark to this day and i wish i could tell her that ive realized that i want her in my life.
@@zain6008 She already said her Mom took care of him. So he must be a regular visitor.
My friends would always tell me I was lucky that my parents were together since that was rare for my community. What they didn't know is they would fight so bad I used to have to stand in between them to keep them from killing each other. I've been pushed down, elbowed in the face, and kicked just trying to break up the violence. What my friends didn't know was how lucky I thought they were just to have some level of peace in their homes. Never told a soul this...I was told by my parents that what goes on in this house stays in this house.
Just remember that deep down they love each other and they love you.
Pedro MR bitch where
Extraordinary One I experience the same thing... All I wanted and wished for was a family. peace.
sorry
My mom and dad fight a few times a day, every year they get into a physical fight where my mom gets beaten, my mom hates me because she thinks that i only love and care about my dad, i want them to divorce but my mom has nobody to take care for her, she can’t take care of her own, i hate seeing them like this. I’ve been bullied, and now I’m scared to go out when there is sunlight, I have social anxiety, It gets worse everyday
I am ashamed of my anxiety. That when I was 12 i harmed myself and couldn't get out of bed. That I didn't have the courage to tell my parents about it and when they found out my mom screamed and shouted at me because it was my fault i was depressed. I am now ashamed because I ruin my friends fun when i break down in the middle of the street because I am having a panic attack and I am even more ashamed that once again I can't pick up the courage to tell my parents again because it will be my fault all over again. I am ashamed that I am not normal or strong.
We are here for you ❤️ if you haven’t already, you should seek professional help and if you don’t feel comfortable doing so, talk to your friends in a heart to heart conversation and come up with a solution.. I have gone through a similar problem and it helps talking to those you trust
eve alexandra I will be your friend, if you have a panic attack I will help you in any way. If you want to talk, I will be your free therapist.
I know this comment is old, and perhaps you are in a better place now, but I feel I must say this anyway. It isn't your fault. Please take care of yourself, eat, sleep, and do things that make you happy. I've been there before and it is a struggle. I may not know you in real life, but I send support your way, and I hope you find ways to cope
It is not your fault and even though i don't know you, know that I am here for you always
I haven’t told my parents and I have depression.....and accidentally I explained about my depression to my crush and I’m scared he’ll never look at me the same again.....I’m always so happy In front of people.....but once I get home...I think about all the wrong things I’ve done to deserve this and cut myself
I'm ashamed of how I tell everyone everything about my life all my secrets my regrets even though I know that they dont care and only listen to me because they feel bad and can't help
It can be helpful to get things off your chest, even with total strangers.
KennedyEbony and healthy too because and every person there's his bottle, and in that bottle there's a liquid called emotions. Now you always got to make sure that doesn't overflow, so you got to let that out every once in awhile. But if you keep holding it in it eventually keep building up until you can't hold it in anymore and you end up bursting that bottle. You end up a mess and it feels awful you might be in a place where you don't want to accidentally have a panic attack or mental breakdown because of that. So to avoid that, has someone you trust that you can see every now and then whenever you can open up let your thoughts, feelings and concerns out. It can be overwhelming to pour it out all at once, so just take your time don't rush yourself. it doesn't have to be sold right then and there but could be helpful to have somebody at least to listen to you and understand what you're going through and sure that they do care. I hope my advice helped a bit.
I do the same omg. I really crave for people to understand me because my parents didn't have empathy for me. But I do it too much and sometimes I feel like I dramatize things and people ended up feeling like their problems weren't as big as mine so I worked on that. I want to be mysterious but I'm not.
@@IzzyTheWolf0419 There are 2 extremes. Those who don't talk about their problems at all and those who talk too much about their problems.
Oh my God, that hit hard. I feel the exact same way. I feel like I'm too open and niave. I feel like I'm being "dramatic" and sometimes I even like I'm making it up for attention! It's so strange and I hate myself for it.
“I used to make fun of a gay kid...but now I want to be with him.”
I don’t know why there are so many comments hoping they got together or how cute this is. As a victim of bullying, this is screwed up and I hope the bully gets the consequences of his/her actions.
Just because you were hurting doesn’t mean you can take that out on someone else, and bullying can ruin a person’s life. I’m still going through my trauma, and it might be easy for bullies to regret, ask for forgiveness, and forget, but they will never come close to experiencing hell that they put me through daily.
Just Random same. I’m still having problems with my confidence because i got bullied in highschool. I was an immigrant so i had an accent and the whole class would make fun of me every time i opened my mouth. I still get super nervous when i talk to a group of people. I guess bullies never understand how their actions can affect someone’s life forever
Someone had to say it
This. I can't wrap my head around people who hope for the bully to end up together with their victim. Even in various fandoms, e.g. wanting Harry Potter or Hermione Granger to be with Draco Malfoy (he bullied them for ages). It makes me wonder: even in real life, would these same people push a loved one to be with someone who would physically and emotionally abuse them and be fine with it? What's up with them romanticizing this kind of unstable, unhealthy relationships? It's completely disheartening.
@@Grace-mr8bc I totally agree with you. Truly a person of culture if you're a potterhead
He did and still is facing the consequences, his guilt and consciousness
I'm ashamed of pouring out all of my feelings and thoughts to people I meet. Just so that in the end, I find out that they don't give a crap what I say, and in no why it affects them at all, leaving me feeling bad because I thought it would actually do something for me when it does absolutely nothing whatsoever. For example, this guy I liked I told him everything. In the end I found out he didn't care about me at all, even though he said he liked me. He ended up saying that he said he liked me out of pity. And it hurt a lot because nobody had ever liked me like that before and I thought I could actually be liked like that but I guess not. Also I'm doing the same exact thing right now. Telling my secrets to the internet to people, who might take there time to read this and leave a comment, or people who might scroll past it and never even notice it. And that's okay I guess. Idk. I'm a mess. (I didn't mean for that to rhyme) okay bye random human being.
Morgan Tolbert just wanted to say, you are so not alone. ♡
Morgan Tolbert you are loved and cared for. I CARE.
I tell everyone everything. I've shared the personal details of my life with literally everyone I've ever known. I don't know how to shut the fuck up sometimes.
You're not the only one. It's like I have this incredible need to have someone care about me. And time after time I tell people everything about me but they don't give a shit and I end up being hurt. My greatest fear is being forgotten or left alone.
Morgan Tolbert A similar thing happened to me you are not alone
My father molested me as a child. He went to jail but it nearly consumed my mom. I'm ashamed of not telling her about how bad it really was. How far it went because I feel if I do, she'll die. I pretend it was only touching so no one would know how disgusting i feel at nights when I'm alone with my conscience.
emily marie im so sorry
I don't know what to say... but I'm sure your mother loves you. I hope he didn't get less jail time because it was 'just' touching
emily marie I'm going through a similar situation, though with my sister's ex husband who did more than molest, but my mom only knows about the molestation part and I'm really not planning to tell her any more because even now it pains me to see how much she blames herself and her pain. I know this wasn't a very helpful comment but I just wanted to let you know that I'm in the same shoes, but I will say to take therapy. It sounds stupid but honestly its helped me slowly but surely. I wish you the best girly
Daddy Aurelye I'm so sorry both of you had to go through something so traumatic. It really makes me cry knowing you didn't want to tell your moms everything that happened to you because you know how hurt they would feel, that shows how care you guys are, you just have to be strong for them and yourselves ❤️I wish you the best with your therapy and both of you always remember it was never your fault💞😢
zar zar thank you so much! I really do appreciate it honestly. I am going to stay strong though, its best to just move forward in life and not try not to get held back by all the negative memories. Thank you❤❤
I want to say my confession but... I don't wanna be a attention seeker. Here I go. Skip if you don't want to read please.
I have this constant dream or memory of a man he. Made me touch his areas I remember being where I use to live I was so young maybe 4 or 5 but I remember him taking me behind a dumpster him telling me to touch him . I remember . I feel so DIRTY I just wanna forget it but I CANT. I can't..
You should really see a specialist, hun. Your subconscious is clearly trying to tell you something, and it'll help if you gain some closure. I doubt you will like the outcome, but it sure beats bottling it all up--because it will only resurface later.
its okey if you don't forget you'll move on even if its hard that actually happend to me when i was 11 don't worry
+Greyzaldo Grey
If the original poster is remembering this now, there is no way that they will forget it. (Your childhood memories only get better as you age. I'm 21, and I've remembered all sorts of details about my early childhood.) But moving on, that depends on if they can accept what happened, and take the necessary precautions. Dream or not, they should still receive help--since this is tormenting them so much enough as it is. If they keep pushing the memories down and bottling them up, they will only resurface later--and have even more of a negative impact on their psyche.
not sure if I misunderstood something but as a kid (not that young, maybe like 10 or 9) I had that fantasy of getting raped by multiple older men. I swear I'm just an average girl and virgin, and I do not wish to be raped so I think it's kinda normal to have that? also fucked up, but I never got sexuality so...
+Shirin Kargin
This comment's section appears to be a safe space, and everyone is sharing--but you should be careful of what you post. What if somebody found *that* out, and used said information to blackmail or harass you? Some readers don't always have the poster's best interest at heart. I hope this doesn't sound patronizing. I just worry about what these kids are saying in such an open environment, and resulting consequences. x_x
I’m ashamed of wanting more than I have, even though there’s people that deserve it more than me
I'm ashamed of being sensitive. Because I feel like black girls aren't meant to cry all the time , anxious and I feel pressure to be strong all the time.
I am not sure what to say but I can say this. Be yourself and be you, don't be what this person or that person says what you should be. Just be YOU.
God bless
Antonia La Negra who even told you that? That's so wrong.
This is literally me akskska and i feel like my parents only reinforce these thoughts especially when they make fun if me for being the only "sensitive" black gir in the family
I agree.. I suffer from depression and anxiety. And my parents believe I'm being weak. Making excuses.
Antonia La Negra cry baby girl cry
I am ashamed of not being there for my younger sisters after my mom left us
Start being for them now!
I literally started crying
I just realized I never really knew my grandfather, even though he did so much for me. Now he's in a better place. I wish I could have talked to him more.
Panda Memez Are Fabulous where is he now?
Waffles And Bacon! Boiiiiiii
Panda Memez Are Fabulous I feel the same way :(
Panda Memez Are Fabulous me too :(
Me too
Beautiful responses. None of us are really alone. There will always be a ‘me too’ to any secret story.
"Something as wonderful as beauty makes this person feel bad"
That was very well said wow
I'm ashamed of my mood swings caused by anxiety and depression and how I over think everything and how I make other people feel worse because of who I am. I feel like it'd be better if I was gone
Nikki Neudecker the world would be a lesser place without you. I have anxiety I want videos on UA-cam about dealing with it and shit. Sometimes it helps. It's one of those things you gotta take day by day.
I have anxiety too. It's like at all times I'm in a hurry or worrying about anything.
i have anxiety and depression too. everyday i feel trapped and suffocated in this life and i often just want to fall asleep and never wake up. god anxiety just fucking sucks- i've lost out on so much (potential friends, moments etc) because of it 😔
I grew up in the country where depression and anxiety means you're crazy. I'm in the mental institution for about 8 weeks, diagnosed with Ptsd and depression and Noone knows that
Well that are illnesses
Marija Jurešić depression and anxiety does not mean you're crazy! Not All mental illnesses mean that you're crazy. You may over come your mental illness or you may not but the best thing is to just continue to be strong and cope with it the best way you can. Try to find someone who will stick by your side and be there for you. If you can't then you always have God. Be strong you'll get through it.
God bless you sister, don't lose hope don't give up you're beautiful , God loves you , Jesus loves you
@T.R that's right. I feel you.
Ako si iz Hrv..razumijem potpuno. Imam depresiju i anksioznost od 13.god. i nitko to nimalo ne razumije!
Stay strong
I feel ashamed of my loneliness, because it's my fault. I push my friends away and lie about being busy, I don't feel okay in showing my sadness. If I feel physical pain I don't mind crying in front of people but I hide any emotional crying. I have only emotional cried in front of one friend one time and she is struggling with too much on her own. I feel so lonely but I did that too myself
I can relate to this. If you need to talk (and I mean it with 100% sincerity) you can reach to me even tho I am a stranger to u. I know, if people say that to me, I never actually reach to them, when I honestly just want to breath again. I hope u find in yourself a friend and break those walls
Me 100%
@@rajjan7026 I've been there.... U can't be bothered to keep touch, cuz it's a hassle. I'm a typical loner, but sometimes I feel like I'm nothing. I have no life. It's warped me
Give thus video a try _loneliness by kurzetgeist
2. ______Jordan b Peterson_dont waste your life.
3.________Medcircle videos on social anxiety and avoidant personality
"I used to make fun of a gay kid in my middle school but then one day when I was feeling so alone and depressed I realized all I wanted to do was be with him" damn I just burst into tears..
Why do people say that is so sad. Like seriously I want to know
Akiyachef_52 ??
Akiyachef_52 i’m not completely sure what it means but probably he made fun of the gay kid and then realised that he himself was gay and wanted to be with him. so maybe because he felt alone and depressed he made fun of him but rlly he just wanted to be with him. which i do find quite sad. (or he may have not been gay just wanted his company)
I’m ashamed of letting my “boyfriend” have my body, and I never told him that I was not comfortable with it. I told my best friend that was also a boy and he went up to my “boyfriend” and said “Don’t touch her, she’s special. And I love her” I thought he meant that as friends but turned out he had feelings for me.. we’re now together and it’s been 2 years.
In high school I had sex multiple times with a girl who I knew had a boyfriend. When she finally told him, he hung himself. I'm ashamed because when she told me, at that point in my life, I didn't care. I didn't see it as my problem. I haven't had a sexual partner since then. I don't think I should. I can't allow myself that right.
Uncultured Swine damn
Uncultured Swine oh fuck man. You definitely need to forgive yourself this isn't a way to live. I mean at the end of the day it took a dramatic turn because of the victim ( R.I.P ) and not you. Most people kill themselves over a lot of things you know. It wasn't solely because of that one act of cheating. At the end of the day you feeling remorse shows how human you are and humans need to heal. I'd propose you'd tell that to someone you trust or you'd something in order to repent for your mistake. Because keeping yourself from living while you can use what you have to become a better human is not very smart. So please do something to heal, anything.
Uncultured Swine thats tough man. But you can't live life hating yourself. Feeling guilty and staying away from sex shows how much humanity you have and that you're not a bad person. Give yourself some time but you deserve to be happy. Maybe fall in love before sex next time and just be careful. It's okay to forgive yourself.
Damn that's fucking harsh. Just remember it was hi's decision, and that you couldn't EVER predict that.
Uncultured Swine think its just karma but .. its the past give it up and change your ways . Dont say you shouldnt have sex anymore say I AM CHANGING FOR GOOD and ny partner accepts me . Its never too late
I'm ashamed that I can't speak up about what I believe in. I let others define me and push me around. I'm to scared to confront people who wrong me. I am a doormat.
You re never a doormat, you are an assertive person.
I'm ashamed that my dad left me for another family, ever since he did I've felt like I was never good enough
Kathryn Enfield you are good enough. He wasn't good enough.
It's not your fault.
I am ashamed of being suicidal and depressed.
FRANK. So many people feel the same, and it's not anything to be ashamed of. Please get help. You deserve it.
I can understand that but please don't be. You can't control the chemical reactions in your brain; it doesn't make you any less of a person, or a bad person.
A flower is beautiful and lovely, but is not expected to bloom all year. I don't have to feel happy all the time. But I know you're strong. You are still alive, and that's beyond amazing, you deserve to be happy, but you're nor expected to. Please remember, it's not your choice, and you're not alone, We can get through it together. You can always contact me. Also remember (I know it's hard to believe sometimes) Suicide does not end the pain. It passes it on. You're strong and you're doing good
FRANK. same
FRANK. Same
I am ashamed of myself letting others define who i am .
facts
I can relate very well
I'm ashamed of talking behind my friend's back, while people did it to me all the time.
I'm ashamed of my appearance because when it comes to girls I'm never good enough. I always laugh it off and tell my friends "Best relationship is no relationship" and "Love is just a chemical reaction in the brain that compels animals to breed" but the truth is I feel so alone. I'm scared of being alone forever.
pathetic person
those girls who think just about appearance are hoes(believe me not all do) ....personality is what truly matters. am sure you'll find a girl someday who'll love you for just the way you are ...never change for someone else
Ventusnoob rude
Groverkiin Muppetborn i can relate 😢
I think you shouldn’t focus on that a lot , you’ll find the one when the time comes ,someone who will love you for who you are .. there are billions of people in this world ... I’m pretty sure one won’t be hard enough to find 💚💚plus .. looks aren’t really everything.. yes people care about them but without personality they’re nothing ... I think the only things that people can classify as ugly in a person is their personality..because it just makes everything else look ugly ... when someone falls in love with your souls ... you’ll be the most beautiful human being in their eyes 🙏🙏🙏
Wow. The fact that so many people in the commentsection are ashamed of their sexuality is sad...
I thought i was the only one.
About 1/3 of my family is gay, and we're absolutely supportive of that. I never thought people had real issues in their family for being gay, that's sad.
SerieN Freak so did I. I wish that I wasnt ashamed for being gay just as much as I wish I wasnt ashamed for who I am.
I love ur profile pic
cool. idrc.
Youre beautiful
These videos are truly incredible.
I am ashamed of something.
I like making scars on my skin. I do it to take away the emotional pain, and I am ashamed of not being strong enough to handle those emotions in a "normal" way.
But the thing that give me the most shame is that fact that I cut deep because I am secretly thrilled with the way the scar and wound looks on my skin. I don't know why and I feel like a freak.
oh honey you are not a freak. you just need to visit a psychiatrist who can help you over come this self harm.
@@rabianaeem1333 thank you for saying that 💖 I'm seeing a councillor to help with it
You aren’t alone with that honey....
You're not alone. I do exactly the same. I cut deep because I like the way it looks, and the peace it brings me. I WISH I didn't have to, but that's the way I avoid coping, and I know it isn't sustainable. I'm so happy that you're getting help, I sincerely hope you overcome it. I'm just not so sure I can x
@@bethanysangra3903 thank you for telling me that ❤️
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Procrastinating so much better than the shut that buzzfeed puts out like buzzfeed is like negative infinity while jubliee is positive infinity
Rags Riches buzzfeed has always been about quantity over quality. the make a shit ton of trash content daily.
I'm ashamed because I'm afraid and alone. I had abusive parents that abandoned me as a kid. Because of the abandonment and abuse, I hide in my apartment - only venturing out to go to work - because I am afraid of people, relationships and the possibility of further abandonment. I'm ashamed because I take the easy way out and just hide when I am capable of so much more. I'm ashamed because everything that is happening to me now is self-inflicted. I can't be angry at other people anymore, only myself.
It's not your fault. Love from Brazil :)
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i have the same problem i'm scared that i'm gonna be rejected again
That is me...
i'm ashame to feel uncontrollably shaking, palpitating. i'm ashame of having anxiety. i want to fcking calm down
That has a pretty good treatment for it. Don't ever smoke weed thou, we can make it much worse.
Snatched Cookie try guided meditations on youtube. Download the app calm and headspace
Pedro MR i think it helps i have it and honestly the only time i can think is when im high
Same
And if i gotta smoke all day and be high all the time i will cause i cant take the not thinking its horrible i have peace when i am the only time and random but my last name means peace haha
I feel ashamed for not telling my dad that i forgive him for leaving me when I was a kid. I feel ashamed that it took this long for me to forgive him and move forward. However, I will see him in 5 days. I will tell him, and then i will be ashamed no more.
I wish you the best luck :)
Do you mind if I ask how things went?
How did it go?? I hope everything went alright ❤️
i am ashamed of being suicidal. my life is great compared to other people's but i still don't want to live it. i am ashamed of of being alive. i wish i could give my life to someone more deserving because i'm wasting it and i feel incapable of doing something meaningful with it.
Live your life. If you're not able to find happiness. It will find you, eventually.
Hey, Floral Ghost, I’m suicidal too. I have anxiety and mdd, and when I tried to kill myself, I discovered something sweet. An angel.saved me. They Said no,no, stay with me. I learned that I am Gods daughter...and he loves me and protects me. And I spend time with my precious angel everyday.
I feel it.. my brother died before I was born everyday I wish he had lived and I had died.
floral ghost I really feel you. That’s totally me when addiction takes over.
Maybe there's someone that you make happy. You could also do good things like talk to people who dont have friends, or make a card for someone needing motivation or wellness. You can donate old clothes to charity or group homes. You could make something creative or artistic and give it to a kid or show a kid how to draw something. You could help someone put groceries in their car, or help your family with chores. Anything simple like that always impacts people. It really does.
Once, I cleaned my little brother's room and he decided to help me and I felt so good about spending time with my brother and also helping my dad get that chore done.
I'm ashamed of how ugly I am.this may seem really vain but I'm genuinely afraid of dying alone because nobody ever wants me or chooses me.
Sunshine Hernandez You have to remember that looks are not everything. It's just one aspect of someone out of so many others. You are so much more than your appearance. Don't let that bring yourself down.
Sunshine Hernandez please don't think like that, you're beautiful.
honey i get it.
i know how it feels,i almost hate going out with my friends because i'm so ugly,and they're so beautiful,i feel really bad when boys look at my friends and then at me.
i feel like they're thinking "look at her,they're so beautiful,how can they hang out with someone like that?"
is a really sad feeling.
me too...
I'm ashamed for not doing everything I can do to be there for the lonely people in my highschool days. I was afraid I would be cast out of my group for helping them and secretly distanced myself from them in public settings even though I always met them in person to cheer them up and listen to their problems. Even though they say my 'caring' was a big help to them and I'm now changing myself to become a braver person than then, I can't help but look back and feel ashamed and guilty about what a coward and hypocrite I was and still is. God, I wish I could do a do-over. I could have made a difference to those people's lives, but instead I was a part of the crowd that wasn't brave enough to do so.
I know what you mean, fam. x_x In my elementary to middle school days, I was vain and hypocritical. I grew out of that hideous phase by the time I hit high school, and became a much better and empathetic person as a result. Still, I can't be proud of how I treated others before that milestone.
7BlackSheep Thank you for your story, I feel a bit better because of it. You're awesome for changing yourself for the better and I think that's what matters most from now on. Hope many good things come your way :))
You're welcome, and thank you as well. XD After binge watching a bunch of these videos, it made me realize the extent of my awful actions of the past. Once I hit high school, I went through an armchair psychologist phase, when that was just as problematic. I might have meant well, but it was not my place to "fix" people. It took me awhile to finally get my ego to stahp, and I'll be 21 soon. This was sobering.
I'm glad you have figured things out by now X'D At the age of 19 I'm at this phase where I constantly feel guilty for everything and trash-shame myself for the past. I should really find a balance but it's very hard :'(
Well, you can try to be there for people now--but for the right reasons.~
I'm ashamed of not realizing my best friend was in so much pain...
Grace Jeong its okay u are also a human❤️
Why oh why can't these videos be longer???
Because many people wouldn't watch them unfortunately. They make them short to encourage as many people to watch as possible, though it does suck for those of us who love these kinds of videos.
Nate O. Yeah you're right I guess but it's so agonising when you just get into a video and it ends
"It's not your responsibility to feel his shame"😭wow
I'm surprised no one put I'm ashamed as a Christian to enjoy pleasing themselves and always feeling guilty and dirty and feeling like I've sinned. Because I definitely do
Slee L There is no god, masturbation is great, almost everyone does it and there's no shame in it
Slee L if u are talking about sexually out of marriage u should feel guilty and dirty because it is impure and u have sinned don't feel bad for yourself and keep doing it cause what u are doing is wrong in Gods eyes so repent and turn back because God loves u and he forgives if u truly wanna stop but don't say u feel dirty and guilty as u continue doing it
eme you’re fucking stupid😂
eme how can you masturbate non sexually?
eme also God isn't real
I’m ashamed for putting up with guys who didn’t even deserve my time. I was naive back then and didn’t have guidance on how a man should treat a lady.
I'm ashamed that I cry a lot, shy, and I just don't have enough confidence to do things what I want to do... I'm a loner... I don't have friends... 'cuz when I make friends they all just left me... there was this one girl who used me to get back with her *REAL* friends... it hurts.. sometimes I can't even stand up to myself... That's why my only love ones are only my parents... my teacher once told me "Friends comes and goes, that's why you will always love your parents, they are there for you, they give you support, whenever you have problems... they are there to help you solve your problems..." ...gosh I'm crying right now...
I can relate, but just hang on okay? Your teacher is right, your parents are the most valuable thing in your life. Their love is unconditional, and no matter what you do they'll always love you. They did make you afterall. And find people that don't mind your shyness and quietness, you'll find friends, I promise.
My parents aren't there for me like my friends were. They support me on some levels (financially and stuff like that) but they have no empathy for me.
Why are there so many people claiming to cry at the actual smallest things
Akiyachef_52 k nobody cares
Impose your self upon those who you have asked plainly if your are friends or not. Write it in a note and pass it if you are too shy to do it in person by speaking. Write a letter of why you like them and either give it to them or keep it as a reminder why you wanted this person close to you. Is it they are funny ? Like books like you? Then join a book club or a club with other women of interest. If you have Meetup then join a club and meet people in your area with the same interest such as reading or watching the stars or going camping or starting a business. So don't be down on your self. And if you don't have Meetup app in your area suggest it to your much bolder cousin or sister or relatives who is a woman. So your can start a club.
I'm ashamed that between 14-16 I would go and seek out older men to have sex with me (around the ages of 50-60)... I always felt terrible and guilty afterwords and never would tell anyone because it was my fault. I can't understand myself and I don't know why I do these things.
Chill Bringer I have done worse. And I'm only twelve.
It sucks tho right because like it's partially my fault that I decide to go through with these things
It isn't really your fault though. Its the adults responsibility to not have sex with under aged teens/kids even though the teen wanted it.
I Sweden it's legal to have sex at the age of 15, I just wanted you to know that it could be seen as a bit of a grey area.
TheOldBearTime ye its like that in iceland too but its leagal for 15 to have sex with ppl under 18 and parents are still able to sue. I think its also something like that in Sweden but im not sure.
Idk how old men op was talking about but if they were like fully grown men (like 20 and over) its still their responsibility to not have sex with underaged kids u kno
these videos make me feel happier because look at them. They're still here, even though they had fucked up times. Gives me hope.
I wish they would have a follow-up series on these strangers. x_x
I’m ashamed for thinking about death positively. Whenever I’m in a stressful or bad situation, I always cling on to the fact that I can just commit suicide and how all my worries will be gone. It makes me happy and relieved.
Yeah me too.
this is me past two days. i think nothing really matters anymore
Bro mood
I'm ashamed that the one and only time I've ever had sex was with an abusive boyfriend back in high school. I thought that if I gave him what he wanted, he would treat me better, but of course, that didn't happen. I'm ashamed that I allowed myself to be abused for a year and a half and I'm ashamed that it still affects me to this day, almost 9 years later. But mostly I'm ashamed for feeling like there is something wrong with me because that's how HE made me feel, and I've never had a meaningful relationship since then. I've never had sex since then and I constantly struggle with that decision because it makes me question whether waiting for the right person is worth the loneliness that I feel every single day...
You're on the right track if you are aware that what he did was wrong. Many victims stay in denial about this sort of thing, and continue to internalize it. While I'm no relationship coach, all I can say is that you should wait until you are ready. Don't jump back into things if you are scared or hesitant.
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Don't feel ashamed, and don't minimize the pain and emotional damage he caused you. It makes complete and total sense that you would be reluctant to have sex or start another relationship (it was traumatic and devastating), but just know that's not a life sentence of loneliness for you. You don't have to have sex to be in a relationship, and you also don't have to be in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship to develop a satisfying closeness with one (or many people) in your life. Some male friends, even potential love interests, are best kept as non-sexual, and it can be extremely fulfilling. Make your own rules, and listen to your self and your own needs and make sure other people know those standards from the start. Of course, there will be men (or women) that are selfish and mainly looking for sex...but those aren't the ones for you, and don't let them pressure or change your standards. A man with your same interests will WANT to take it as slow as you require. I've had sex only a handful of times, but I've dated many and had multiple boyfriends. I tell them that I expect patience, and I don't do anything more than what I want to do, and it is liberating. Most men are not worth having sex with, and that's ok. Do what works for you, and set your own rules. You are the boss and leader of your life and your body, and you are more valuable than what many men seek to gain from you. You deserve to have your cake and eat it too, without compromise. And if you feel like you're not interested in sex, there ARE men out there that feel the same way..granted, much more rare, but I have actually met a couple of them in my lifetime. There's lots of people that would love simply having your time and conversation.
How you survived without sex
@@huna5923 because it's not needed for survival. If you think that then there's something wrong.
I'm ashamed of my learning abilities. I can't focus in class, and it's hard for me to redeem myself when I get distracted. I never finish up any tasks I've started, and always forget about tasks along the way. Even little ones.
I'm ashamed of the fact that I can tell my friends about how I really feel, to my brother, but not to my parents.
I'm ashamed of the fact that I can express my true self around my friends, but not my parents.
I’m ashamed that I don’t spend enough time with my loved ones and I feel like one day I’m going to lose them and look back at all the times I made up reasons To not hang
It's what I most regret now that I've lost my Great Grandmother. There is never enough time, spend what you can with them, and hold on to every, single, memory. ❤