Right, because it’s easy to find people with similar experiences... again it’s obvious they read all the replies and then responded At their own will when they’ve had a similar experience
@@devgovea It actually is easy to find someone with similar experiences. Really easy. You don't actually think you have experienced anything others never have right?
@@leagueoflivinglegends5913 Of course, but if you actually care about that person, not just yourself, you will feel joy at that person finding happiness. You have to love your friends more than your friendships. And besides, friendships last way longer than relationships, so if you really want to be around that person for the long term, don't fuck them.
@@MrRizeAG if you truly love her to death then u wouldnt just stand there waiting for another man to take her away from you esp knowing u would give more love to them
sean darby Not really. Only very attractive women get asked out on dates regularly in my perspective. All my 7/10+ friends get, sometimes immediate, attention from men. I think men like looks more than women do because my friends usually lowball their boyfriends, so average men do have a chance with hot women. Just an observation.
One thing I’ve learned over the years is that you really cant completely decide your emotions. They just are. Your power lies in how you choose to respond to those emotions.
I'm gonna have to learn how to correctly react to changes in "emotion" when that person happens to be my significant other... Because how I react now isnt beneficial to me at all...
Minty Lettuce it’s really hard to explain but.. there are many forms of OCD. For example, sex ocd, harm ocd, religious ocd, etc. and with those ocd we get false feelings and the og comment was saying how it’s how we choose to respond to the feelings and thoughts we get. It’s really hard to explain to a non ocd sufferer but I hope you understand what I mean.
Agreed! I keep telling people this but everyone thinks I'm crazy. Everyone around me seems to think that you can just choose your emotions at will. I believe that emotions aren't in our control, but like you said, it's all about how we deal with them.
right, i know its scary but PLEASE just tell them because hearing "no" is a lot better than not telling them and you sitting in regret forever bc you think u could have had a chance
I think it's the opposite. I think love is the appropriate word for infatuation, but people should recognize that love is temporary and ultimately unimportant. Friendship is far more valuable and long-lasting. Successful marriages have nothing to do with love. They're just strong friendships (with benefits). We tend to mix up all these unrelated positive feelings, and traditional media portrayal of "love" doesn't help at all. The juvenile middle school version of hormonal infatuation is treated as the starting point to a successful long term relationship, even though it is an entirely unrelated concept. Real long term relationships are not passionate. They are beautifully mundane. Not exciting, but comfortable. Not joyful, but content. Those stronger emotions like joy and passion are temporary, fleeting feelings that no doubt enrich our lives, but we cannot judge the success of a relationship based on the impossible maintenance of them. Then of course there's the problem of confusing friendship, love, and sexual attraction, all of which have nothing at all to do with each other. Yet we force ourselves to find some mythical person who embodies all three at once, and if we don't, the relationship is a failure. Humans are not built for these single lifelong partnerships. We thrive on networks of different people for different purposes. The happiest people are those who have deeply connected friends, passionate romantic partners, AND healthy sexual relationships spread across as many different people as needed. But currently, society as a whole isn't equipped to tolerate that natural dynamic which we evolved to live.
Easier to ghost them than to face the awkwardness of explaining to the person themselves that you don't like them... I agree it's so shitty but all this online dating stuff has made it so much more common, it's a shame really
I mean I wouldn't judge a situation you don't know. I once ghosted a guy because he began getting really handsy when we were around each other and would ask SUPER personal questions. Whenever I told him I was uncomfortable with him touching me so much he got offended and would kinda ignore me or when I told him I didn't want to talk about something he would become aggressive and keep pushing. It got to the point where I was scared of what he might do because he began to text me several times a day and when I didn't answer got aggressive so eventually I ghosted him
Honestly, sometimes people just don’t deserve an explanation. Sometimes, no matter how much you explain something to someone, they’ll never (be willing to) understand. So no, I don’t think about how the other person would feel because 9 times out of 10 they didn’t think about how their actions/words would impact me. You gotta draw the line between maintaining your self respect and being a doormat.
Right ^ not everyone deserves an explanation. Some situations call for it to protect yourself. One overly-handsy date can turn into a stalker/abusive situation very quickly
Idk, I have been ghosted several times by guys with whom I were talking and becoming friends. And I don't understand why, cause we were having a nice friendship and I didn't even make my move to show them I had a crush on them :/ (srry I'm not fluent in English)
to be fair once someone admits they have feelings for you, especially a friend, it's almost impossible to continue a platonic relationship. every time you do anything it's in the back of both of your heads and it's always an elephant in the room.
Yep. It's still awkward. Other issues forced us to not be friends, but I always wish I never told anyone, I hope on some level everyone has forgotten. But I know they probably haven't. Luckily things aren't too bad. I just feel scared to talk to certain people. Socialisation and having and making friends has always been difficult. I manage to mess everything up about 5 times. Some people are still friends with me after messing up. I am grateful for them
One of my close friends asked me out last year. It was awkward as hell, and we both made mistakes, said things and kept silent on things we shouldn’t have. Our friendship was tainted for a while before we slowly tried our best to push it aside for good. Then he found a girlfriend a handful of weeks later, and I was so happy for him. And then I found a girlfriend, too. We’re much closer than we were before. Maybe we were just the lucky few, but it’s certainly not impossible for a friendship to recover
Keke Leyana one of my friends is in love with me. she doesn’t know that i know. it makes platonic situations awkward because i know it’s not platonic for her...
A quote I took to heart from the movie Green Book: “The world is full of lonely people who’s afraid to make the first move.” A lot of these secrets sound like people waiting and never finding out what would’ve/could’ve been; well I say it’s 2020 let’s make it our own!
I'm sorry, but it sounds like you dodged a bullet honestly. Liking a person does not make them a good person. Neither does it make them the right person for you. Would you have been more heartbroken to be rejected or to date her, have a bad relationship because of incompatibility and realize she wasn't really the person you thought she was at all? Some times one hurt is kinder than another.
I remembered having my first genuine crush. “Genuine” meaning I adored everything about them including their little quirks,mannerisms, the way they spoke, how smart they were and overall she was a great friend. Problem was that she was straight and had a crush on some boy. And she would always talk about him in the most fond way then at times she would confide in _me_ for advice which hurt a bit. Overtime my crush for her slowly disappeared naturally. When I noticed I was just like “huh....guess that was never meant to happen”
I feel this, I'm in like the same situation right now. I'm a lesbian, and I have a crush on a straight girl with a boyfriend. She confides in me about him a lot, but I try to be supportive anyways
I had a crush on someone in high school. I was the outsider so no one would actually be friends with me, but he often asked how I was and such. I was friends secretly with another guy from the class who warned me that this guy isnt what he may seem. I had a crush on him for 2 and a half year and didnt tell anyone except this friend of mine. In the end I didnt listen to him and my feelings didnt change until the last school day. It has been years now and I have met countless people telling me now what an awful person he is (both now and then). Jesus frick, my brain would not have imagined! 😣
Just do it and get it over with... U won't die and if ur worried about feeling embarrassed remember that ur not alone... Don't make the same mistake I made by not telling the girl I wanted how I felt about her.
@@hwfq34fajw9foiffawdiufhuaiwfhw No. That's terrible. When you ask you get an answer and can proceed forward with them or move on and stop wasting your time. Being led on and strung along are worse than being rejected.
Do it! Trust me, you'll feel better. That "what if" feeling will be gone forever. If you get rejected you'll feel bad really bad but i can guarantee you you'll get over it someday. I'm saying this because i confessed to my crush of three years he did not accept my feelings and i still like him and it still hurts sometimes but also there's some kind of peace in me and i know someday i'll move on. And yes i do see him often even after confession. (Also i had the guts to confess only because i kinda knew he' s kind and he wouldn't insult me or anything)
@@hwfq34fajw9foiffawdiufhuaiwfhw It doesn't matter if I would've gotten rejected I certainly would've felt a lot better to just get it off my chest... Rejection is a part of life, something u can't run from. Just gotta face it head on
Hello everybody! I'm the guy reading at 4:39. This show was an incredible opportunity. I just wanted to thank k all the people who were brave enough to share their secrets. Peace and blessings to you all.
Relate with the last one on sooooo many levels I'm 26 and never been in a relationship and seeing my friends in relationships makes you really think what's wrong is it my personality is it my looks what is it
selma9450 yes the last girl had me in tears it’s like she read my secret out loud. I’m 31 and I have never been in a proper relationship. I come from a small religious community, I have a genetic disorder and type 1 diabetes. Sometimes I feel like I won’t ever find someone who understands or truly loves me.
Listen to me, don't look what your friends are doing. Put yourself first. You have to have self respect and high value. Let things happen and if you see someone you like, try to have the courage to ask them out. If you keep being an introvert your entire life long, you will not get anywhere. So if you desire a relationship, try to find someone you like and get their attention
I said that to myself too I'm 21 going on 22 never dated I have liked people but no one ever liked me back and then I realized something something must be wrong with me I'm not beautiful I guess ... but what if it's the other way around those I liked have something wrong with them because I am fine as L I relieved that I needed to be my own night in shinning armor and I am so happy being on my own I could now say I could die alone and be totally fine with that because at the end of the day I choice to love myself over anyone else
Don’t be afraid to tell people how you feel. Wondering what could have been is so much worse than being rejected. Just tell them how you feel. I still love the person I was with in high school, it’s been 7 years, I think about him most days, but at least I know that I did everything I could, he knows how I feel, and so at least I know there’s nothing I could of done differently. It was up to him and that’s how it is. I recovered from depression, anxiety, an eating disorder, but never heart break. Heart break is something else, and it sucks knowing that I will probably never get over it. That’s true love though, if only it worked both ways
The story of the person who left their workplace because they couldn’t stand to just be friends with their crush sounds exactly like what happened in the office when Jim left Scranton
I want to hug the girl who started cutting because of homophobic comments from crush. That was so sad and I'm pretty sure it could affect her emotionally the rest of her life. I wanna cry now....
I love coming here and realizing that I'm not alone. I've been ghosted, I always ask myself why im not enough because I haven't been "chosen." But it's common, and I'm not alone. Ghosting is a reflection of the other person, not myself. And sometimes you don't get closure, but it just is what it is.
Sometimes people don't feel the same way. Nobody owes anyone any answers or reasons on why they don't reciprocate the other person's feelings. If someone says "no", accept it & respect it without having to dig deeper. Sometimes those reasons don't have anything to do with the person not being "good enough", but with reasons entirely unrelated.
I had a crush on an older man at my job. I would drop little hints and flirt with him here and there and he seemed to like it. I later found out he was married so I put an end to that.
I doubt that anyone would really say that being spurned and forsaken by one's crush isn't painful, but most people consider it as just one of the things that people have to get over in life...not that it _isn't_, but it kind of gets ignored when compared to all the other things one could talk about. turns out people don't really like to talk about getting spurned/dumped/divorced...
Someone was giving me mixed signals for a while, and looking back now, in ways, was leading me on. When I asked him what was happening, he admitted he liked me, but didn't want to get serious with me. I regret not telling him in the moment that I liked him back. Now he doesn't acknowledge my existence, and it hurts that it was so easy for someone that was my closest friend to cut me out of his life.
I don’t agree with the person who said that the lesbian who has a crush on the homophobic person should tell them they do. That’s putting yourself into a scary and unsafe position, where it would cause more damage then good.
I think it would be better to tell them about being homosexual. If you dont say anything theres no chance for it to get better and the alternative is to just stop being friends. At least if they let them know things could turn out well, maybe having a close friend reveal their homosexuality could even change their view on it.
@@Noreceipts400 but im not sure if the possibility of an okay situation is worth putting yourself in such danger and risk where you could come to serious harm
Well, that's if you assume they are just gonna snap, which is probably not gonna happen. If you tell them you have a crush, they might force themselves to be more respectful even if they don't agree.
i personally think they should. some people are highly influenced by their friends or surrounding people’s opinions on certain things, maybe telling her about her feelings and being open about her struggles of being who she wants to be but certain people stopping her could help her friend understand how harmful her words are and hopefully help her with changing herself for the better. if it doesn’t go that way, it’ll be hard to let go of her, but she shouldn’t be friends w anyone like that anyway.
I had a crush on the same guy for almost 8 years. 3 and a half years ago, I finally told him, and now this August he’s going to be my Husband :) don’t give up guys❤️
This is in my opinion the most powerful series from Jubilee. The raw emotions and the honesty in which the people submit these secrets are overwhelming. I always feel like crying after these videos because of how powerful they are
This kind of sucks hearing these past experiences. But i can't relate to people who does stuff like this. However some of these are not as bad as others. But sometimes its better for people to move on as the person they have feeling for might not be the right person at the end of the day. The person who you might not have feelings for might be the person you end up being with for life!!
“I fell in love with my best friend two years ago, I’ve always held out for her as if some day I’ll have a chance, now everyone thinks I’m gay because I haven’t been in a relationship, I’ve been in a deep depression and I’ve had 2 failed suicides” idc if no one asked
I know what it's like to have feelings for someone you can't be with (romantically). It hurts. But I hope that eventually, that pain will fade, and you'll others that fill you and your life. Know that your feelings for her are valid. But also know that you can find hope and love in other people, too.
Never be afraid to speak up and express urself... Not everyone's gonna react to it harshly or with disregard there are people out here that will listen to u and accept ur shortcomings and will help u feel better.
I think it's usually better to let people know how you really feel than to let them go without saying anything. If you don't tell them and then they leave, or you leave, you will ALWAYS wonder. If you stay around each other but you don't tell them, then you can never really move on correctly. You may tell yourself that you have, but if my experience means anything, you probably haven't, not really. If you tell them, you get their reaction. And that's closure. Sure, there's a possibility it won't be what you want to hear. It might even be hurtful to you. But rejection actually tells you something important. Especially if it's hurtful to you, actually. It lets you know that it couldn't have worked. In many cases, it might even let you know that it shouldn't have worked. Because if the other person's opinion of you is not in step with your opinion of them, that's not a successful relationship. Sometimes it's hard for us to wrap our heads around, because the heart wants what it wants, but clarity like that is actually a gift because it tells you that you need to look elsewhere for someone who will think about you the way you think about them.
So no ones gonna talk about the psychopath that texts their crush under an alias? And does that mean that the crush is just texting a complete stranger out the blue... or is she impersonating someone else. I’m real worried for that guy, lol, that’s some level of creepy you only get from elementary school crushes
I feel like there is a point in life where you are in so in love and feeling like everything around you is magical but there is also a point where you don't believe in love and feeling everything is hopeless
I turn 32 this year. I've never been asked on a date. of course the feeling of something wrong with me and ugly hits me really hard. especially when my younger sister is a popular girl, people won't stop comparing. including my parents. i'm learning to love myself tho
Don't expect to be asked in real life. That happens rarely.. and as if any person would be the right person for you. Just go on a dating app. If you talk and have an connection they will ask you out. We live in modern times. Don't feel bad about yourself! Be pro-active :)
ehh, sometimes it's better to join a habitual activity with others and that way you can meet the person face to face and notice things that they might have "forgot" to mention about themselves...or not even just habitual activities, but other ways that you can meat people... also, have _you_ asked people out, because if not, then...well, then you can't really talk... congrats on your improvement, learn from your failures, be proud of your successes...
The ones about ghosting really got to me- not because I've been ghosted, but I was the one who ghosted. Back in middle school, before "ghosting" was ever a regularly used term lol, one of my childhood best friends asked me out. I said no. I couldn't handle it. I've always been both a selfish and a stressed out person; I could barely talk to him afterwards, so I decided that I just... wouldn't. Once I got into the habit of avoiding him, it became super difficult to break. What would I say? How would I say it? Was it even worth it? I ghosted him for two years, man. It was never about him or his feelings. He did nothing wrong. It was more of a reflection of me as a person and how I struggled with compassion, confrontation, and communication. Nearly ten years later and we are best buds again! But, damn, sometimes I can't help but wonder what those two years were like for him. We never talk about it.
I never had a crush back in elementary or middle school. Everytime, someone would ask me, they interrogated me, It's not like I had high standards. Honestly, it was something I never thought about. Until, I met a girl in high school, after talking to her i developed feelings for her. One day, She hugged me from behind my back, and put my hand on top of hers and gripped tightly. I've never felt so much warmth.... I wish I could've confessed. I wish for that moment to freeze. Because weeks later, My friend and her got into a relationship. I was so heartbroken. I couldn't look at them but they looked so happy. I was so happy for them. I congratulated them and teased them a bit like what friends do....Although, I don't feel the same towards her, I still care about her and I want her to be happy.
That last one really hurt. I'm 24 and I've never been on a date either. I've never even been kissed. It's an embarrassing thing to admit. I try not to let it get to me but when you're surrounded by people in love its hard not to look at yourself and wonder why you're not good enough and if you're destined to be alone. That thought terrifies me
Just remember Guys, gals, and pals, it’s okay to have a crush on someone who doesn’t like you back. Just don’t hurt them if they are in a relationship at the time.
My secret: I have feelings for my friends sister, but so does two other friends of mine, I don’t feel like I’m worthy to even call her a friend and I think my other friend (one who likes her) deserves her more despite the fact he lives in a different state. None of them know my feelings for her, I know theirs, I’m not willing to do anything about it because of the social constructs that already exist.
Before you love someone else. You must love yourself. As for friends, its your choice to tell, but once you tell them they should easily accept the fact and not get irritated if they were truly your friends. Dont let a girl tie you down and dont let your friendship go down with it. Be honest and stay true to yourself.
As someone who has a sister, there’s always this “bro code” but if you’re serious and not going to just fuck around and play her, I say go for it. if one of my homies was into my sis I’d hope it’s the honest, responsible, and respectful guy. As far as how their relationship would go I hope they’d still be cool if it didn’t work out and he’d stay friends with me. I’d also roast his ass for getting at my sister. Not sure you’re age (I’m just out of college) but if you’re other friend who “likes” her too isn’t even in the same state, brother, she’s all yours haha.
Felt the one about getting ghosted immediately after moving it was such a weird shift from them talking and texting me multiple times a day to just radio silence purely because I wasn’t physically with them anymore which is kind of a bummer considering I hadn’t met people in my new state yet so I needed them the most then but what really caught me off guard is that they got a girlfriend like not even a month afterwards lmao my taste in dudes really do be crap 😳
I always hear this, but I'm not completely convince it's always true. I'm usually the one initiating the conversation, so every now and then I make it a point not to. I test to see if they're willing to initiate it back... 90% of the time, we never speak again.
MyCrispLettuce My experience too. I really liked this person for a year and asked them out. First real crush, and they said yes. Everything was fine, we talked and hung out, and one day they just said “We’re done. Goodbye” through text, never returned to school and never talked to me again. I was the one that put in all the effort and just to be cut off like that with total silence hurt. Their mother approached me in a grocery store and cried when she saw me. Later on life, they associated them self with my ex-best friend, encouraging my younger sister to do drugs and drink (she is a minor and they were not). They now don’t have such a positive reputation and I see them sometimes on my campus, but I have no real interest in being involved with them anymore due to their habit of inviting minors to drink and do drugs lol.
I’m in love with this girl. She’s so outgoing and beautiful and caring. The problem is she doesn’t like me in that way. We’re still friends, but it kills me every time she talks about another person she likes. I text her and stuff, but I feel like I’m one of her friends that’s less important to her. God I love her so much. I want to get over her (so I’m not crushed all the time) but I don’t cause she’s so amazing. She’ll probably never love me back though. Oh the joys of life!
The last girl just read a page from my diary. I cried because I understand so much. I’m 31, I come from a tight oppressive religious community and I have a genetic disorder with type 1 diabetes. I have never been in a proper relationship or been asked on a real date. The only times that I was ever being pursued by a guy was when I was being taken advantage of in some way. I didn’t have anybody to tell me that I was enough and that I can set my own clear boundaries. People always say “you should love yourself” but I think that has to be taught. If Someone experiences constant feelings of negativity towards them how could they feel great about themselves? I watched my siblings move out, get married, and have kids. I wonder if I was ever meant to find love and to have a family of my own. I had a crush on a person for most of my life but they have never felt the same. They knew how I felt about them but stared dating a close family member of mine, I don’t think I will ever be the same. The person who wrote this has my heart and I wish them love and a place for their heart to be contented. I wish I could hug them. THEY ARE NOT ALONE.
I’ve always felt insecure and ugly, so when I got into middle school, I wasn’t expecting anyone to like me. I pushed everyone away and I now know why I felt lonely. As I gained more confidence throughout middle school, I asked out this boy, but got rejected. It felt good. I felt like I could do anything at that point. I realized that sitting down and hoping that something will magically happen is just a fantasy. Ever since that day, I might have been nervous to ask out a crush, but I always did it in the long run. All you have to do is believe in yourself.
Crush’s are normal and are healthy, if you’re in a relationship and have a crush on someone else as long as you never act on it and the crush never goes past that it’s ok. If it starts to hit that love category it’s time to confront it.
lol that’s me at 1:57. Jubilee is so dope for having me on this video and who knows maybe I’ll be in another video soon ;) but thank u all for watching the video!!!
I fell inlove with a girl while I was in a relationship with a boy. Because she was the first girl I ever had feelings for I was so confused. Thinking I was inlove with this boy while realizing you were never inlove was one of the most confusing thoughts I’ve ever had. Plus the amazing fact that he was an homophobe which didn’t make it very easy. I couldn’t say anything because everyone around me thought I was straight. Because I didn’t know what to do with that feeling I kept it to myself and pushed it down because I had the feeling that it wasn’t “normal” in the end I broke up with him and now I’m in a happy relationship with another amazing and beautiful girl :)
I spent so long longing for closure from my ex and then I realised the fact that he doesn't want to be with me and have an honest convo with me is the closure in itself.
The last note oof, I feel ya, it's a terrible feeling, like nobody choses you ever, for me for 23 years now, and it's really hard on your mental health and it's hard to realize you're worthy and like the girl said everybody is different.
I feel in love with my straight bestfriend and I finally told nick and he decided to tell me that he was confused and wanted try something long term but he just changed his mind and now he’s about to enroll in the military. He said he wanted to just be friends. I’m so depressed about what happened since it just happened a week ago. I’m kind of glad I told him how I felt but now I feel so empty because he was the closest friend I had.
i fell in love with him and spent over 9 years staying by his side following him, being rejected every year on the same day because I believed one day he would change his mind. Instead, I kept breaking my heart and became best friends. I'm still in love with him.
5:45 What this man jus said right here about this situation is so true, it hurts but then looking back noticing what they do to a person and how they don’t care like u ain’t a person.. it’s like dodging a bullet fr fr
Someone told me that even tho I'm fit and decent looking I'm the most unatractive person they've ever met because I refuse to comunicate on purpose and that's the reason why I'll always be single.That's the way I learned that being confident and outgoing is 100% better than looking nice, and that what's on the inside really actually matters.
You can't control your emotions, you can't choose who you like and who you don't like, It's nobody's fault, It's unfair to blame yourself for that". -What I wanted to hear for so damn long.
Hearing these stories makes me think about my ex that i dated for four years . I went to prom with him and that is definitely one of my top 5 biggest regrets. He didn't ask me at all actually he told me how he had options , when I asked for one dance ( I know he hates dancing but i just wanted one) he blew me off , and overall the whole ordeal was just non romantic and not how I imagined my prom. Sigh.
I fell in love with one of my guy friends after he started showing signs that he wanted to be with me. We were friends for almost 2 years and he was everything to me, I loved every second that I was with him. Slowly we were getting closer and closer, day after day I'll get more and more in love with him. I never felt this happy in my whole life and I was sure that he was the one I wanted to share a life with. One day he said me that he couldn't do this anymore and ghosted me. I thought it was a joke, because we were okay a week before and valentine's day were close, so he was planning to surprise or just prank me. Turn out that it wasn't a joke and a couple months after he started dating another girl. it's been almost a year and I'm still in love with him. I'm afraid I'll never fall in love with someone else again.
Wow we almost had the same story except this was a girl (lesbian relationship) . She too ghosted me after 2 yrs of dating without proper explanation it really hurt me. Itsbeen 1 and half years after we broke upwe still keep in touch time to time i thought i moved on. Butlast week i heard she has been dating for the past six months . She said she didnt like him that much and was trying to wnd the relationship. Althiugh i knew deep down we would never get together again it still hurts and i thought i moved on but now i am reliving the loss all over again. I dont know if i should still stay friends or cut off contact. She was my best friend before we dated. Shesaid she diesnt regret that she met me, but tbh i regret meeting her because she caused me so much pain.
I am so sorry, I can relate to the first paragraph, I have a crush and I really like her, I hav e been friends with her for a year and I really like her, honestly I am just struggling how to deal with it.
This got me thinking about secret crushes I have, there is a girl at my college that I have a gigantic crush, she's the only one who makes me write songs, but Im scared to admit to her because it might mean that If she doesnt reciprocate that I'm gonna have to move on and frankly I like having a crush on her, I don't want to move on from what I feel for her.
2:30 but you can control what you do. IE break up with your current partner then pursue whoever you want. I still don't know how so many people get crushes so fast.
I think keeping yourself in a platonic relationship with your crush is hard. You just can't ignore the fact that one of you likes the other. It would always come around, no matter how much you try not to think about it. I know, because I've been there and I chose to cut off all ties with him to save myself from a heartbreak.
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That's assuming that they are just gonna hate you. Not all homophobics will just snap and yell at you if you tell them you're gay. A lot of homophobics are just people in a not so good place in life, or were raised to believe it, or simply haven't experienced it enough( being afraid of the unknown is a damn common thing everyone should have experience with ). You can't really assume how a "homophobic" will react.
Wario I mean...if the homophobic person continues to belittle and berate homosexual people (which the girl says she does), it’s fairly reasonable to assume they would react unfavorably and upsettingly to their friend coming out as lesbian.
I am in a really good relationship too. We are together for about five years now and I really think nobody would treat me the same special way like him. But like the one person in the video I have a crush on another man. I moved out of my parents home in January. So I had the chance to invite my crush and he actually came... we talked for more than four hours and I told him everything. About my depression, about my life situation, about my feelings, about the things my boyfriend seems “not good enough” for me and the way he (the crush) would be different. He was so nice and caring and so supportive... He started to encourage me to start living my life to the fullest. but he broke my heart. I don’t know if that conversation made it better or worse because after he broke my heart I had the longest episode of pure sadness and numbness in a long time. Maybe because he was such a good person. Right after I met him I told my boyfriend everything and he was proud that I had the courage and that I got an answer and that I can finally try to get over it. Sometimes I think I should be ashamed of what I did because other people would do everything to get a boyfriend like mine.
So they’re reading strangers secrets but have had similar situations. Just shows sometimes we aren’t alone on our journeys
dev or the jubilee staff set them up with people with similar experiences. Use ur head
Right, because it’s easy to find people with similar experiences... again it’s obvious they read all the replies and then responded At their own will when they’ve had a similar experience
I feel like it's their stories.
@@devgovea It actually is easy to find someone with similar experiences. Really easy. You don't actually think you have experienced anything others never have right?
That’s my point lol it’s easy
“If you really love her then wouldn’t you just let her be with whoever she wants to be with” hits different
Based
but if YOU love her then wouldn't you wanna be with her
@@leagueoflivinglegends5913 Of course, but if you actually care about that person, not just yourself, you will feel joy at that person finding happiness. You have to love your friends more than your friendships. And besides, friendships last way longer than relationships, so if you really want to be around that person for the long term, don't fuck them.
@@MrRizeAG if you truly love her to death then u wouldnt just stand there waiting for another man to take her away from you esp knowing u would give more love to them
@@symbolofjustice But they might be happier with someone else.
I never been asked on a date or been “chosen” but what the last girl said truly got to me
Draedon Apotheosis it is if your a woman
Draedon Apotheosis its a girl thing u wouldn’t understand but i agree we shouldn’t think that
@@mastermonke1177 yes and no, and it can happen both ways
@@Sarah-fp9vw it really shouldn't just be a girl thing, try to stand out instead of staying like a stereotype.
sean darby Not really. Only very attractive women get asked out on dates regularly in my perspective. All my 7/10+ friends get, sometimes immediate, attention from men. I think men like looks more than women do because my friends usually lowball their boyfriends, so average men do have a chance with hot women. Just an observation.
One thing I’ve learned over the years is that you really cant completely decide your emotions. They just are. Your power lies in how you choose to respond to those emotions.
I'm gonna have to learn how to correctly react to changes in "emotion" when that person happens to be my significant other...
Because how I react now isnt beneficial to me at all...
People with OCD need to hear this.
Gochi IE huh? OCD doesn’t have anything to do with emotions ?
Minty Lettuce it’s really hard to explain but.. there are many forms of OCD. For example, sex ocd, harm ocd, religious ocd, etc. and with those ocd we get false feelings and the og comment was saying how it’s how we choose to respond to the feelings and thoughts we get. It’s really hard to explain to a non ocd sufferer but I hope you understand what I mean.
Agreed! I keep telling people this but everyone thinks I'm crazy. Everyone around me seems to think that you can just choose your emotions at will. I believe that emotions aren't in our control, but like you said, it's all about how we deal with them.
Just remeber guys and girls: CRUSHES DON'T READ MINDS
Unfortunately...
I wish. My mouth cant express what i feel😞
ELLE Jay
Oml---
right, i know its scary but PLEASE just tell them because hearing "no" is a lot better than not telling them and you sitting in regret forever bc you think u could have had a chance
Unless they’re Zoey Clarke from Zoey’s Extraordinary Playlist
Gotta come back when the comments have been properly marinated.
LMAOOOOOOOO FACTS
Already started the marination ;)
Lmaoo yess 😂
Reading all the 16 year olds leaving comments about their crushes 🧐
@@radianzero I have noticed your seasoning, and appreciate the quality content!
The person who cut themselves because of their crush’s homophobic comments...that was the saddest thing I’ve heard in a while
Angel Miranda lol
@@moneyway8178 "lol"? Seriously?
bruno 61 what’s wrong with the word lol?
bruno 61 it’s not that serious to go to the point of harming yourself
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I feel like people use the word ‘love’ too loosely
ikr!
natalie hahn I think there’s all different types and levels of love
I think it's the opposite. I think love is the appropriate word for infatuation, but people should recognize that love is temporary and ultimately unimportant. Friendship is far more valuable and long-lasting. Successful marriages have nothing to do with love. They're just strong friendships (with benefits). We tend to mix up all these unrelated positive feelings, and traditional media portrayal of "love" doesn't help at all. The juvenile middle school version of hormonal infatuation is treated as the starting point to a successful long term relationship, even though it is an entirely unrelated concept. Real long term relationships are not passionate. They are beautifully mundane. Not exciting, but comfortable. Not joyful, but content. Those stronger emotions like joy and passion are temporary, fleeting feelings that no doubt enrich our lives, but we cannot judge the success of a relationship based on the impossible maintenance of them. Then of course there's the problem of confusing friendship, love, and sexual attraction, all of which have nothing at all to do with each other. Yet we force ourselves to find some mythical person who embodies all three at once, and if we don't, the relationship is a failure. Humans are not built for these single lifelong partnerships. We thrive on networks of different people for different purposes. The happiest people are those who have deeply connected friends, passionate romantic partners, AND healthy sexual relationships spread across as many different people as needed. But currently, society as a whole isn't equipped to tolerate that natural dynamic which we evolved to live.
Idk. In some other languages theres multiple words for love and they all depend on who you're talking about and shiz
Mr. Rize AG very nice, i agree
the last one about “never being asked on a date” really hit home with me 😞
y e a m Idk what else to expect with a profile pic like that
Manualclover42 nah.... you can’t be talking 😂🧐
Same here
@@tem1461 You've got a point
Dude it seriously hit home man...
Why do ppl ghost others without explanation? Thats so rude and imagine what the other person feels smh
Easier to ghost them than to face the awkwardness of explaining to the person themselves that you don't like them... I agree it's so shitty but all this online dating stuff has made it so much more common, it's a shame really
I mean I wouldn't judge a situation you don't know. I once ghosted a guy because he began getting really handsy when we were around each other and would ask SUPER personal questions. Whenever I told him I was uncomfortable with him touching me so much he got offended and would kinda ignore me or when I told him I didn't want to talk about something he would become aggressive and keep pushing. It got to the point where I was scared of what he might do because he began to text me several times a day and when I didn't answer got aggressive so eventually I ghosted him
Honestly, sometimes people just don’t deserve an explanation. Sometimes, no matter how much you explain something to someone, they’ll never (be willing to) understand. So no, I don’t think about how the other person would feel because 9 times out of 10 they didn’t think about how their actions/words would impact me. You gotta draw the line between maintaining your self respect and being a doormat.
Right ^ not everyone deserves an explanation. Some situations call for it to protect yourself. One overly-handsy date can turn into a stalker/abusive situation very quickly
Idk, I have been ghosted several times by guys with whom I were talking and becoming friends. And I don't understand why, cause we were having a nice friendship and I didn't even make my move to show them I had a crush on them :/ (srry I'm not fluent in English)
the girl who said "you are enough" was so sweet at the end, hands down my favorite and it really hit home.
Victoria Grace same🤧🥺
Kelly Mpinda ok I know this is off topic but you’re so pretty 😂💕
• hannah • thank youuu so much 🥺
Kelly Mpinda Yw!! ❤️
"Read strangers secrets about their crushes."
That guy with a foot fetish: "Its show time."
Radian 😂
Never have I ever laughed this hard at a UA-cam comment
i don't get it
Bruh 😂
@@opinionist9942 Same. Lol
Hey everyone! That’s me at 5:25! I’m so grateful I was able to be a part of this experience 😊
What you said was so good, you spoke the whole truth. Alot of people had to hear that x
lizzie odame thank you! I really appreciate that.
You did real good!
you did really well and i loved your outfit!
You should make more videos!
when you don't even need a notification, because quarantine has got you on youtube 24/7
is shin ^^^^
You should go subscribe to my channel because I'll have good content uploaded when quarantine is over
When you realize this video is new after you watch it
i literally just saw it on my feed
That's actually sad
to be fair once someone admits they have feelings for you, especially a friend, it's almost impossible to continue a platonic relationship. every time you do anything it's in the back of both of your heads and it's always an elephant in the room.
Yep. It's still awkward. Other issues forced us to not be friends, but I always wish I never told anyone, I hope on some level everyone has forgotten. But I know they probably haven't. Luckily things aren't too bad. I just feel scared to talk to certain people. Socialisation and having and making friends has always been difficult. I manage to mess everything up about 5 times. Some people are still friends with me after messing up. I am grateful for them
That's one of my biggest fears. But I have to face reality at times. 😔
One of my close friends asked me out last year. It was awkward as hell, and we both made mistakes, said things and kept silent on things we shouldn’t have. Our friendship was tainted for a while before we slowly tried our best to push it aside for good. Then he found a girlfriend a handful of weeks later, and I was so happy for him. And then I found a girlfriend, too. We’re much closer than we were before. Maybe we were just the lucky few, but it’s certainly not impossible for a friendship to recover
Keke Leyana one of my friends is in love with me. she doesn’t know that i know. it makes platonic situations awkward because i know it’s not platonic for her...
So? You can just brush it off...
A quote I took to heart from the movie Green Book: “The world is full of lonely people who’s afraid to make the first move.” A lot of these secrets sound like people waiting and never finding out what would’ve/could’ve been; well I say it’s 2020 let’s make it our own!
jeffywuu love that it’s so true
Well last year I did make the first move. Didn’t exactly end up good. I was told that she would never date anyone like me...
Nah social distancing
@Miguel Hernandez weird flex but ok
Maarten van Dijk jammer maarten :(
I confessed to my crush that I liked her. Her response: ”I would never date anyone like you. Don’t talk to me ever again.” That broke my heart...
They don't sound like a good person, I'm sorry but maybe it's time to find someone better?
I don’t understand why people have to respond so harshly...? It’s so unnecessary
@@sarb1943 yeah I know but I liked her so much
One of mine told me to “stop trying”. Tbh wasn’t the worse advice
I'm sorry, but it sounds like you dodged a bullet honestly. Liking a person does not make them a good person. Neither does it make them the right person for you. Would you have been more heartbroken to be rejected or to date her, have a bad relationship because of incompatibility and realize she wasn't really the person you thought she was at all? Some times one hurt is kinder than another.
Who’s the girl that spoke the truth to the secret of never being asked on a date? I’ll take her out.
I think she's the girl talking at the end of the video, Bonnie.
Justin Mutia could be anyone
Kavya Sharma lol I found her.
Aw how cute
Why is my comment deleted:(
I remembered having my first genuine crush. “Genuine” meaning I adored everything about them including their little quirks,mannerisms, the way they spoke, how smart they were and overall she was a great friend.
Problem was that she was straight and had a crush on some boy. And she would always talk about him in the most fond way then at times she would confide in _me_ for advice which hurt a bit. Overtime my crush for her slowly disappeared naturally. When I noticed I was just like “huh....guess that was never meant to happen”
I feel this, I'm in like the same situation right now. I'm a lesbian, and I have a crush on a straight girl with a boyfriend. She confides in me about him a lot, but I try to be supportive anyways
@@allison6301 I think I know who you are...
I had a crush on someone in high school. I was the outsider so no one would actually be friends with me, but he often asked how I was and such. I was friends secretly with another guy from the class who warned me that this guy isnt what he may seem. I had a crush on him for 2 and a half year and didnt tell anyone except this friend of mine. In the end I didnt listen to him and my feelings didnt change until the last school day.
It has been years now and I have met countless people telling me now what an awful person he is (both now and then). Jesus frick, my brain would not have imagined! 😣
@@stephi6792 huh?
@@allison6301 he knows who you are irl. Atleast he thinks he does
the stories about regretting not telling that one person how they felt, truly peaks interest in me to tell them how i feel before it’s too late.
Just do it and get it over with... U won't die and if ur worried about feeling embarrassed remember that ur not alone... Don't make the same mistake I made by not telling the girl I wanted how I felt about her.
@@hwfq34fajw9foiffawdiufhuaiwfhw
No. That's terrible. When you ask you get an answer and can proceed forward with them or move on and stop wasting your time. Being led on and strung along are worse than being rejected.
Do it! Trust me, you'll feel better. That "what if" feeling will be gone forever. If you get rejected you'll feel bad really bad but i can guarantee you you'll get over it someday. I'm saying this because i confessed to my crush of three years he did not accept my feelings and i still like him and it still hurts sometimes but also there's some kind of peace in me and i know someday i'll move on.
And yes i do see him often even after confession. (Also i had the guts to confess only because i kinda knew he' s kind and he wouldn't insult me or anything)
@@hwfq34fajw9foiffawdiufhuaiwfhw It doesn't matter if I would've gotten rejected I certainly would've felt a lot better to just get it off my chest... Rejection is a part of life, something u can't run from. Just gotta face it head on
Imagine having your crush story read in this video and your crush watches it and has no idea it's about them
Yikes and then sympathizing with the people not knowing they did that to them.....
Hello everybody! I'm the guy reading at 4:39. This show was an incredible opportunity. I just wanted to thank k all the people who were brave enough to share their secrets. Peace and blessings to you all.
*plays world's tiniest violin* for all of us
*presses f on the world's smallest keyboard*
Is that a Mr crabs reference
Thanks
Is that a reference to Oscar from that super battle comic book showdown video?
Relate with the last one on sooooo many levels
I'm 26 and never been in a relationship and seeing my friends in relationships makes you really think what's wrong is it my personality is it my looks what is it
selma9450 yes the last girl had me in tears it’s like she read my secret out loud. I’m 31 and I have never been in a proper relationship. I come from a small religious community, I have a genetic disorder and type 1 diabetes. Sometimes I feel like I won’t ever find someone who understands or truly loves me.
Listen to me, don't look what your friends are doing. Put yourself first. You have to have self respect and high value. Let things happen and if you see someone you like, try to have the courage to ask them out. If you keep being an introvert your entire life long, you will not get anywhere. So if you desire a relationship, try to find someone you like and get their attention
I said that to myself too I'm 21 going on 22 never dated I have liked people but no one ever liked me back and then I realized something something must be wrong with me I'm not beautiful I guess ... but what if it's the other way around those I liked have something wrong with them because I am fine as L I relieved that I needed to be my own night in shinning armor and I am so happy being on my own I could now say I could die alone and be totally fine with that because at the end of the day I choice to love myself over anyone else
You're not alone. Don't give up, good things will come. Just not fast enough it feels like
hannah nur maybe you have high standards.
Don’t be afraid to tell people how you feel. Wondering what could have been is so much worse than being rejected. Just tell them how you feel. I still love the person I was with in high school, it’s been 7 years, I think about him most days, but at least I know that I did everything I could, he knows how I feel, and so at least I know there’s nothing I could of done differently. It was up to him and that’s how it is. I recovered from depression, anxiety, an eating disorder, but never heart break. Heart break is something else, and it sucks knowing that I will probably never get over it. That’s true love though, if only it worked both ways
The story of the person who left their workplace because they couldn’t stand to just be friends with their crush sounds exactly like what happened in the office when Jim left Scranton
Forbiddendood 123
Haha. I thought the same thing.😂 Nice to meet a fellow Office fan.
yesssssss
I’m watching this after I was just rejected by my crush, and watching this absolutely shattered me... I relate to so many of these.
It's okay. Things come and go. But the real ones stay. Stay strong.
Get up soldier
*Carefully, she’s a hero.*
I want to hug the girl who started cutting because of homophobic comments from crush. That was so sad and I'm pretty sure it could affect her emotionally the rest of her life. I wanna cry now....
I love coming here and realizing that I'm not alone. I've been ghosted, I always ask myself why im not enough because I haven't been "chosen." But it's common, and I'm not alone. Ghosting is a reflection of the other person, not myself. And sometimes you don't get closure, but it just is what it is.
Sometimes people don't feel the same way. Nobody owes anyone any answers or reasons on why they don't reciprocate the other person's feelings.
If someone says "no", accept it & respect it without having to dig deeper. Sometimes those reasons don't have anything to do with the person not being "good enough", but with reasons entirely unrelated.
Yeah, I feel this definitely also needs to be said. Noone owes anyone an explanation as to why they don't like them.
True, but it’s kinda weird to be in a thing with someone and just leave. it’s makes someone wonder if they have nothing else to look to.
@@MaRyaYTOfficial sure, but they still don't owe you anything.
Josephine Lee If someone ghosts you deserve a reason.
@@elijahtrent21 lol no you don't. It's their decision. You're not "owed" anything.
these always make me so sad or happy, no middle ground.
I had a crush on an older man at my job. I would drop little hints and flirt with him here and there and he seemed to like it. I later found out he was married so I put an end to that.
It probably wasn't easy to deal with finding that out, but you did the right thing and I respect you a lot for this.
Alot of people think that “crushes” is a high school thing and it doesn’t hurt I liked that jubilees is giving attention to this subject
I doubt that anyone would really say that being spurned and forsaken by one's crush isn't painful, but most people consider it as just one of the things that people have to get over in life...not that it _isn't_, but it kind of gets ignored when compared to all the other things one could talk about.
turns out people don't really like to talk about getting spurned/dumped/divorced...
Someone was giving me mixed signals for a while, and looking back now, in ways, was leading me on. When I asked him what was happening, he admitted he liked me, but didn't want to get serious with me. I regret not telling him in the moment that I liked him back. Now he doesn't acknowledge my existence, and it hurts that it was so easy for someone that was my closest friend to cut me out of his life.
Y N i can relate.
I don’t agree with the person who said that the lesbian who has a crush on the homophobic person should tell them they do. That’s putting yourself into a scary and unsafe position, where it would cause more damage then good.
I think it would be better to tell them about being homosexual. If you dont say anything theres no chance for it to get better and the alternative is to just stop being friends. At least if they let them know things could turn out well, maybe having a close friend reveal their homosexuality could even change their view on it.
@@Noreceipts400 but im not sure if the possibility of an okay situation is worth putting yourself in such danger and risk where you could come to serious harm
Well, that's if you assume they are just gonna snap, which is probably not gonna happen. If you tell them you have a crush, they might force themselves to be more respectful even if they don't agree.
i personally think they should. some people are highly influenced by their friends or surrounding people’s opinions on certain things, maybe telling her about her feelings and being open about her struggles of being who she wants to be but certain people stopping her could help her friend understand how harmful her words are and hopefully help her with changing herself for the better. if it doesn’t go that way, it’ll be hard to let go of her, but she shouldn’t be friends w anyone like that anyway.
I had a crush on the same guy for almost 8 years. 3 and a half years ago, I finally told him, and now this August he’s going to be my Husband :) don’t give up guys❤️
Aww!! I hope it’s going well for you guys!! :))
6:13 wow... I've fallen in love with her voice
Thought i was the only one hahhah ,she's so sweet!
That last girl was so sweet I would totally ask her out on a date :)
I surprised that she has never been asked on a date , cause she's beautiful
Kara yeah, so that she might crush on your friend???
Phùng Đào Xuân Maybe she’s so beautiful people are intimidated and scared to ask her out?
Lesson ?
Don't get too attached to something ! Things come and go , you will a crush on somebody else
6:14 I never thought that “You were good enough” will hit me differently.
This is in my opinion the most powerful series from Jubilee. The raw emotions and the honesty in which the people submit these secrets are overwhelming. I always feel like crying after these videos because of how powerful they are
Stranger: "I have a crush"
Erin: "tHaT's nOt vEgAn!"
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
The vegan meme is still a thing?! I mean it isn't vegan wait.... IT ISN'T VEGAN HOW DARE YOU!!
hahaha
LMAO i love this
😂
This kind of sucks hearing these past experiences. But i can't relate to people who does stuff like this. However some of these are not as bad as others. But sometimes its better for people to move on as the person they have feeling for might not be the right person at the end of the day. The person who you might not have feelings for might be the person you end up being with for life!!
“I fell in love with my best friend two years ago, I’ve always held out for her as if some day I’ll have a chance, now everyone thinks I’m gay because I haven’t been in a relationship, I’ve been in a deep depression and I’ve had 2 failed suicides” idc if no one asked
I know what it's like to have feelings for someone you can't be with (romantically). It hurts. But I hope that eventually, that pain will fade, and you'll others that fill you and your life. Know that your feelings for her are valid. But also know that you can find hope and love in other people, too.
Actually somebody legit did ask. This is not sarcastic. Thanks for sharing, and good luck.
PUG PRPL 🥺thx
Spread Nothing But Love tysm, Its not as bad as it used to be
Never be afraid to speak up and express urself... Not everyone's gonna react to it harshly or with disregard there are people out here that will listen to u and accept ur shortcomings and will help u feel better.
I think it's usually better to let people know how you really feel than to let them go without saying anything. If you don't tell them and then they leave, or you leave, you will ALWAYS wonder. If you stay around each other but you don't tell them, then you can never really move on correctly. You may tell yourself that you have, but if my experience means anything, you probably haven't, not really.
If you tell them, you get their reaction. And that's closure. Sure, there's a possibility it won't be what you want to hear. It might even be hurtful to you. But rejection actually tells you something important. Especially if it's hurtful to you, actually. It lets you know that it couldn't have worked. In many cases, it might even let you know that it shouldn't have worked. Because if the other person's opinion of you is not in step with your opinion of them, that's not a successful relationship. Sometimes it's hard for us to wrap our heads around, because the heart wants what it wants, but clarity like that is actually a gift because it tells you that you need to look elsewhere for someone who will think about you the way you think about them.
So no ones gonna talk about the psychopath that texts their crush under an alias? And does that mean that the crush is just texting a complete stranger out the blue... or is she impersonating someone else. I’m real worried for that guy, lol, that’s some level of creepy you only get from elementary school crushes
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂wowie
Loreina Joseph Thats something I would do
I feel like there is a point in life where you are in so in love and feeling like everything around you is magical but there is also a point where you don't believe in love and feeling everything is hopeless
I turn 32 this year. I've never been asked on a date. of course the feeling of something wrong with me and ugly hits me really hard. especially when my younger sister is a popular girl, people won't stop comparing. including my parents. i'm learning to love myself tho
Don't expect to be asked in real life. That happens rarely.. and as if any person would be the right person for you. Just go on a dating app. If you talk and have an connection they will ask you out. We live in modern times. Don't feel bad about yourself! Be pro-active :)
ehh, sometimes it's better to join a habitual activity with others and that way you can meet the person face to face and notice things that they might have "forgot" to mention about themselves...or not even just habitual activities, but other ways that you can meat people...
also, have _you_ asked people out, because if not, then...well, then you can't really talk...
congrats on your improvement, learn from your failures, be proud of your successes...
The last girl is so sweet🥺
emily !!! hehe thank you angel 🥺💖
baylee gardner Is that you??
Now shes gonna start receiving thousands of invites, cuz she is a an attractive girl
The ones about ghosting really got to me- not because I've been ghosted, but I was the one who ghosted. Back in middle school, before "ghosting" was ever a regularly used term lol, one of my childhood best friends asked me out. I said no. I couldn't handle it. I've always been both a selfish and a stressed out person; I could barely talk to him afterwards, so I decided that I just... wouldn't. Once I got into the habit of avoiding him, it became super difficult to break. What would I say? How would I say it? Was it even worth it? I ghosted him for two years, man.
It was never about him or his feelings. He did nothing wrong. It was more of a reflection of me as a person and how I struggled with compassion, confrontation, and communication.
Nearly ten years later and we are best buds again! But, damn, sometimes I can't help but wonder what those two years were like for him. We never talk about it.
Title: *Has Crush*
Me scrolling through the comments: Ah shi, here we go again
Omg these secret note series always turn out so relatable and make me shed a tear
Crushes are suppose to be fun, but then you fall in love with them and it just hurts
Plot twist: they're reading their own secrets.
Look at the comment above you
@@evakovacheva9910 yea somebody made the same comment LMAO AND GOT MORE LIKES PFFFT iss cool tho i dont mind😂
It do really seemes like that’s the case in a few of these clips.
I never had a crush back in elementary or middle school. Everytime, someone would ask me, they interrogated me, It's not like I had high standards. Honestly, it was something I never thought about. Until, I met a girl in high school, after talking to her i developed feelings for her. One day, She hugged me from behind my back, and put my hand on top of hers and gripped tightly. I've never felt so much warmth....
I wish I could've confessed. I wish for that moment to freeze.
Because weeks later, My friend and her got into a relationship. I was so heartbroken. I couldn't look at them but they looked so happy. I was so happy for them. I congratulated them and teased them a bit like what friends do....Although, I don't feel the same towards her, I still care about her and I want her to be happy.
I'm in middle school and whenever I tell people I dont like anyone and never had everyone starts attacking me like I'm lying
That last one really hurt. I'm 24 and I've never been on a date either. I've never even been kissed. It's an embarrassing thing to admit. I try not to let it get to me but when you're surrounded by people in love its hard not to look at yourself and wonder why you're not good enough and if you're destined to be alone. That thought terrifies me
I like watching these. They make me feel less alone.
Just remember Guys, gals, and pals, it’s okay to have a crush on someone who doesn’t like you back. Just don’t hurt them if they are in a relationship at the time.
My secret: I have feelings for my friends sister, but so does two other friends of mine, I don’t feel like I’m worthy to even call her a friend and I think my other friend (one who likes her) deserves her more despite the fact he lives in a different state. None of them know my feelings for her, I know theirs, I’m not willing to do anything about it because of the social constructs that already exist.
Before you love someone else. You must love yourself. As for friends, its your choice to tell, but once you tell them they should easily accept the fact and not get irritated if they were truly your friends. Dont let a girl tie you down and dont let your friendship go down with it. Be honest and stay true to yourself.
As someone who has a sister, there’s always this “bro code” but if you’re serious and not going to just fuck around and play her, I say go for it. if one of my homies was into my sis I’d hope it’s the honest, responsible, and respectful guy. As far as how their relationship would go I hope they’d still be cool if it didn’t work out and he’d stay friends with me. I’d also roast his ass for getting at my sister.
Not sure you’re age (I’m just out of college) but if you’re other friend who “likes” her too isn’t even in the same state, brother, she’s all yours haha.
The way that last girl spoke felt very genuine. I don't know her, but she seems wonderful. If you're reading this girl, you're cool :)
My overthinking ruined my relationship. When we were arguing I told him I don't trust him and ever since that day things have never been the same.
"Instead of being scared, think of it of being brave" ♥️
The blonde girl who says she’s never been asked on a date…..it’s unbelievable because she’s so beautiful!
Felt the one about getting ghosted immediately after moving it was such a weird shift from them talking and texting me multiple times a day to just radio silence purely because I wasn’t physically with them anymore which is kind of a bummer considering I hadn’t met people in my new state yet so I needed them the most then but what really caught me off guard is that they got a girlfriend like not even a month afterwards lmao my taste in dudes really do be crap 😳
I always hear this, but I'm not completely convince it's always true. I'm usually the one initiating the conversation, so every now and then I make it a point not to. I test to see if they're willing to initiate it back... 90% of the time, we never speak again.
MyCrispLettuce My experience too. I really liked this person for a year and asked them out. First real crush, and they said yes. Everything was fine, we talked and hung out, and one day they just said “We’re done. Goodbye” through text, never returned to school and never talked to me again. I was the one that put in all the effort and just to be cut off like that with total silence hurt. Their mother approached me in a grocery store and cried when she saw me. Later on life, they associated them self with my ex-best friend, encouraging my younger sister to do drugs and drink (she is a minor and they were not). They now don’t have such a positive reputation and I see them sometimes on my campus, but I have no real interest in being involved with them anymore due to their habit of inviting minors to drink and do drugs lol.
I’m in love with this girl. She’s so outgoing and beautiful and caring. The problem is she doesn’t like me in that way. We’re still friends, but it kills me every time she talks about another person she likes. I text her and stuff, but I feel like I’m one of her friends that’s less important to her. God I love her so much. I want to get over her (so I’m not crushed all the time) but I don’t cause she’s so amazing. She’ll probably never love me back though. Oh the joys of life!
The last girl just read a page from my diary. I cried because I understand so much. I’m 31, I come from a tight oppressive religious community and I have a genetic disorder with type 1 diabetes. I have never been in a proper relationship or been asked on a real date. The only times that I was ever being pursued by a guy was when I was being taken advantage of in some way. I didn’t have anybody to tell me that I was enough and that I can set my own clear boundaries. People always say “you should love yourself” but I think that has to be taught. If Someone experiences constant feelings of negativity towards them how could they feel great about themselves? I watched my siblings move out, get married, and have kids. I wonder if I was ever meant to find love and to have a family of my own. I had a crush on a person for most of my life but they have never felt the same. They knew how I felt about them but stared dating a close family member of mine, I don’t think I will ever be the same. The person who wrote this has my heart and I wish them love and a place for their heart to be contented. I wish I could hug them. THEY ARE NOT ALONE.
I’ve always felt insecure and ugly, so when I got into middle school, I wasn’t expecting anyone to like me. I pushed everyone away and I now know why I felt lonely. As I gained more confidence throughout middle school, I asked out this boy, but got rejected. It felt good. I felt like I could do anything at that point. I realized that sitting down and hoping that something will magically happen is just a fantasy. Ever since that day, I might have been nervous to ask out a crush, but I always did it in the long run. All you have to do is believe in yourself.
That's so inspirational!
They coincidentally picked people who related to the confession and they gave good advice from their experience 🥺
It wasnt coincidental I'm sure.
Crush’s are normal and are healthy, if you’re in a relationship and have a crush on someone else as long as you never act on it and the crush never goes past that it’s ok. If it starts to hit that love category it’s time to confront it.
lol that’s me at 1:57. Jubilee is so dope for having me on this video and who knows maybe I’ll be in another video soon ;) but thank u all for watching the video!!!
The last girl made me cry. Hard to remind myself sometimes that I'm good enough. The right time will come.
I fell inlove with a girl while I was in a relationship with a boy. Because she was the first girl I ever had feelings for I was so confused. Thinking I was inlove with this boy while realizing you were never inlove was one of the most confusing thoughts I’ve ever had. Plus the amazing fact that he was an homophobe which didn’t make it very easy. I couldn’t say anything because everyone around me thought I was straight. Because I didn’t know what to do with that feeling I kept it to myself and pushed it down because I had the feeling that it wasn’t “normal” in the end I broke up with him and now I’m in a happy relationship with another amazing and beautiful girl :)
I spent so long longing for closure from my ex and then I realised the fact that he doesn't want to be with me and have an honest convo with me is the closure in itself.
That girl is so sweet on 6:50 whyyyyyyyy is she never asked on a date
@@hwfq34fajw9foiffawdiufhuaiwfhw Should not be the case always❤
Good question, she is pretty cute, but who knows
@@hwfq34fajw9foiffawdiufhuaiwfhw Fair enough.
woah i'm here so early, luv quarantine youtube sessions
Britney Keza Ikr😂 I’ve never been so early to yt notifications
The power of nothing to do
The last note oof, I feel ya, it's a terrible feeling, like nobody choses you ever, for me for 23 years now, and it's really hard on your mental health and it's hard to realize you're worthy and like the girl said everybody is different.
The last girl's talk was so comforting and it feels like i got a hug just hearing her talk
I just told my crush I liked her a few days ago and now y’all upload this video. Good timing.
MelvinMadeDx did u get curved
"If someone is to ghost a person and have a disregard for them ..its not so much as a reflection of you but of them"...that hit different..
I feel in love with my straight bestfriend and I finally told nick and he decided to tell me that he was confused and wanted try something long term but he just changed his mind and now he’s about to enroll in the military. He said he wanted to just be friends. I’m so depressed about what happened since it just happened a week ago. I’m kind of glad I told him how I felt but now I feel so empty because he was the closest friend I had.
“Who you are as a person that’s who you should love” Deep .✨
Some of these are straight up creepy, but I guess anything goes in the name of love
😂🤣🤣🤣
Mujtaba Rehmam LMAO FR
i fell in love with him and spent over 9 years staying by his side following him, being rejected every year on the same day because I believed one day he would change his mind. Instead, I kept breaking my heart and became best friends. I'm still in love with him.
It's funny how such intimate secrets become universal if we shed a little light on them. We're not as alone as we think we are.
5:45 What this man jus said right here about this situation is so true, it hurts but then looking back noticing what they do to a person and how they don’t care like u ain’t a person.. it’s like dodging a bullet fr fr
"There's a big difference between crushing, and falling in-love"
-ME
That last girl sounds so sweet... she deserves a nice date
Someone told me that even tho I'm fit and decent looking I'm the most unatractive person they've ever met because I refuse to comunicate on purpose and that's the reason why I'll always be single.That's the way I learned that being confident and outgoing is 100% better than looking nice, and that what's on the inside really actually matters.
You can't control your emotions, you can't choose who you like and who you don't like, It's nobody's fault, It's unfair to blame yourself for that".
-What I wanted to hear for so damn long.
Hearing these stories makes me think about my ex that i dated for four years . I went to prom with him and that is definitely one of my top 5 biggest regrets. He didn't ask me at all actually he told me how he had options , when I asked for one dance ( I know he hates dancing but i just wanted one) he blew me off , and overall the whole ordeal was just non romantic and not how I imagined my prom.
Sigh.
I fell in love with one of my guy friends after he started showing signs that he wanted to be with me. We were friends for almost 2 years and he was everything to me, I loved every second that I was with him. Slowly we were getting closer and closer, day after day I'll get more and more in love with him. I never felt this happy in my whole life and I was sure that he was the one I wanted to share a life with.
One day he said me that he couldn't do this anymore and ghosted me. I thought it was a joke, because we were okay a week before and valentine's day were close, so he was planning to surprise or just prank me. Turn out that it wasn't a joke and a couple months after he started dating another girl.
it's been almost a year and I'm still in love with him.
I'm afraid I'll never fall in love with someone else again.
Wow we almost had the same story except this was a girl (lesbian relationship) . She too ghosted me after 2 yrs of dating without proper explanation it really hurt me. Itsbeen 1 and half years after we broke upwe still keep in touch time to time i thought i moved on. Butlast week i heard she has been dating for the past six months . She said she didnt like him that much and was trying to wnd the relationship. Althiugh i knew deep down we would never get together again it still hurts and i thought i moved on but now i am reliving the loss all over again. I dont know if i should still stay friends or cut off contact. She was my best friend before we dated. Shesaid she diesnt regret that she met me, but tbh i regret meeting her because she caused me so much pain.
I am so sorry, I can relate to the first paragraph, I have a crush and I really like her, I hav e been friends with her for a year and I really like her, honestly I am just struggling how to deal with it.
This got me thinking about secret crushes I have, there is a girl at my college that I have a gigantic crush, she's the only one who makes me write songs, but Im scared to admit to her because it might mean that If she doesnt reciprocate that I'm gonna have to move on and frankly I like having a crush on her, I don't want to move on from what I feel for her.
Then continue daydreaming about her while some other guy takes her from u
@@Kingwil497 homie he can't take her from me she never was mine to begin with
@@isaacocegueda3172 ite then...
Hardest thing is if your crush is a good friend.
You can win or lose if you ask.
2:30 but you can control what you do. IE break up with your current partner then pursue whoever you want.
I still don't know how so many people get crushes so fast.
I think keeping yourself in a platonic relationship with your crush is hard. You just can't ignore the fact that one of you likes the other. It would always come around, no matter how much you try not to think about it.
I know, because I've been there and I chose to cut off all ties with him to save myself from a heartbreak.
I help myself by thinking “Am i going to regret not doing this when im older?” and if yes, I just do it!
Some people might need this rn, so here's a waffle recipe 😁:
2 cups all-purpose flour
1 teaspoon salt
4 teaspoons baking powder
2 tablespoons white sugar
2 eggs
1 1/2 cups warm milk
1/3 cup butter, melted
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
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Directions
Prep
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In a large bowl, mix together flour, salt, baking powder and sugar; set aside. Preheat waffle iron to desired temperature.
In a separate bowl, beat the eggs. Stir in the milk, butter and vanilla. Pour the milk mixture into the flour mixture; beat until blended.
Ladle the batter into a preheated waffle iron. Cook the waffles until golden and crisp. Serve immediately.
the homophobic one.... imagine having a crush on someone knowing they'll hate you no matter what...
That's assuming that they are just gonna hate you. Not all homophobics will just snap and yell at you if you tell them you're gay. A lot of homophobics are just people in a not so good place in life, or were raised to believe it, or simply haven't experienced it enough( being afraid of the unknown is a damn common thing everyone should have experience with ). You can't really assume how a "homophobic" will react.
Wario I mean...if the homophobic person continues to belittle and berate homosexual people (which the girl says she does), it’s fairly reasonable to assume they would react unfavorably and upsettingly to their friend coming out as lesbian.
Wario literally no one, and I mean NO ONE is afraid of lgbt. No one. Y’all really need to quit using made up words too, smh.
I am in a really good relationship too. We are together for about five years now and I really think nobody would treat me the same special way like him. But like the one person in the video I have a crush on another man. I moved out of my parents home in January. So I had the chance to invite my crush and he actually came... we talked for more than four hours and I told him everything. About my depression, about my life situation, about my feelings, about the things my boyfriend seems “not good enough” for me and the way he (the crush) would be different. He was so nice and caring and so supportive... He started to encourage me to start living my life to the fullest. but he broke my heart. I don’t know if that conversation made it better or worse because after he broke my heart I had the longest episode of pure sadness and numbness in a long time. Maybe because he was such a good person. Right after I met him I told my boyfriend everything and he was proud that I had the courage and that I got an answer and that I can finally try to get over it. Sometimes I think I should be ashamed of what I did because other people would do everything to get a boyfriend like mine.
The last girl has a kind heart