How Your Body Warns Against The Narcissist Through IBS & Pain
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- Опубліковано 6 сер 2024
- In this episode, we're going to talk about how your body warns you against the narcissist. We're going to discuss how IBS and pain can be signs that you're in a toxic relationship with a narcissist.
If you're struggling with IBS or chronic pain, then you may be in a toxic relationship with a narcissist. In this video, we're going to talk about how IBS and pain can be signs that you're in a toxic relationship with a narcissist.
We'll discuss the symptoms and how to identify a toxic relationship with a narcissist. If you're struggling and need help, then this video is for you! In this video, we're going to talk about how your body warns you against the narcissist. We're going to discuss how IBS and pain can be signs that you're in a toxic relationship with a narcissist.
If you're struggling with IBS or chronic pain, then you may be in a toxic relationship with a narcissist. In this video, we're going to talk about how IBS and pain can be signs that you're in a toxic relationship with a narcissist. We'll discuss the symptoms and how to identify a toxic relationship with a narcissist.
chapters
00:00 Introduction
01:41 How your body tries to communicate in early stages of narcissistic relationship
02:34 Capability of body
01:59 The question
04:33 Healing is possible
05:56 The preparation done by body
09:07 Listening to intuition
10:18 The conclusion
1. Headache
2. Shortness of breath
3. Irritability
4. Anxiety
5. Loss of sleep
6. Chest pain
7. Sweating
8. Depression
9. Suicidal thoughts
Your body knows when evil is around.
I find myself sweating and extremely anxious around people who I KNOW are demons.
Our bodies know before us. I am completely shocked, that I did not just leave. I lost my Smile.
I wish all of you to gain back the Power you have.
My heart oddly right after I see my ex-husband he’s the narcissist. I feel sick to my stomach and then later on, I’ll start thinking about it again the anxiety, shortness of breath, your ability to fogginess I dealt with a narcissist for well over 26 years old girls that we didn’t know anything about it.
Another way your body communicate with you is through dreams. Right at the start, in the idealization stage, I would have dream after dream of being pinned down, hunted and trapped. A heaviness at my neck like I was being sucked/leached off of. And a sense of a foreign entity invading my energy field. Pay attention to your dreams, people; it holds a lot of information.
hey actually many of these are true when I'm dealing with this one girl, that neck arm stiffness, chest pains, irritations in gut, anxiety, short breaths, panic attacks, fear of death
A lesser known effect....
When you first meet someone...
The WARNING signs can feel like BUTTERFLIES. When we grow up in a toxic environment and mostly date narcissists, we're used to chaotic energy. The body recognizes it as "familiar". Sometimes as safety. We think the butterflies are love. Think of the butterflies you feel before getting on a scary ride at the fair, or sky diving. Your body warns you of potential danger. "Healthy" relationships and people can feel boring, after living in chaos. So we seek familiarity. Be mindful of the butterflies. Proceed with caution.
Agree
Well, i read this "fact" numerous times and i must say i don't think that this is the case. I do believe it surely can be so that those of us who grew up in abusive, toxic environment didn't learn the difference between butterflies and stomach pain. I never got butterflies when I was about to meet a person that then turned out to be toxic and a narc even. I never felt butterflies when meeting with my narc exes. But i got nausea and stocmach pain, the kind that feels numbing. Butterflies i felt with meeting the partners that were healthy.
A good insight ☺️
Great insight
I call it the anxiety butterflies.. had it all the time with my narc demon ex. When I got away, that’s when I ended up with MCAS, chronic hives and pain. Ended up dependent on oxycodone for years, it was the only thing that could keep me going.. feeling right. But it was making it all worse and worse. I eventually got out of survival mode and moved on, quit cigarettes and the pain meds but then came “the rut” - 5 years of being paralyzed creatively and mentally.. nothing could help me break out of it. I gained a lot of weight when I was sick. It was an 11 year cycle from hell.. even worse than when both of my parents died. All my energy centers were blown out. I was at such a low vibration when I was with the narc demon ex that entities were dragging me out of body (OBE) while I slept next to him. Should have known then. Its been quite the journey. I saw shadow entities too. Eventually I started energy work, deep stuff not many would or could believe. Literally traveling in different realms dissolving doors to hell and making an entity leave that was attached to my bloodline. It was a female witch / world of Warcraft looking entity that sort of looked like Maleficent, having long black smoke like tentacles wrapped around energy cords. Crazy stuff.. but it’s very real and been incredibly challenging and transformative. If only more people knew how deep the empath / narc rabbit hole goes. It’s about evolution and energy really.. the gut feelings, sickness, and all is the physical manifestation of our broken energy centers
One thing I learned at a young age, from the ugly part of the world, is ALWAYS listen to your gut, your instincts. That's your soul telling you what to do. Every single time I've listened to my instinct, I was not let down. It's a gift from God we all have.
1. Nightmares
2. Screaming and thrashing in my sleep
3. Anxiety, inability to make basic decisions
4. Sudden feelings of shame as if being seen without clothes on
5. Migranes
6. Acid reflux, bloating and gas
7. Shingles, back always itchy
8. Loss of appetite
9. Tension and pain in neck and shoulders
10. Spacing-out
11. Lack of body awareness-finding myself in uncomfortable positions for long periods, bruises from bumping against corners and furniture without noticing
12. Lack of self-care
13. Numbness and coldness in fingers and feet
15. Sudden drowsiness, excessive need for sleep
16. Colds became bronchitis, flus became pneumonia
17. Fatigue
18. Teeth grinding
19. Extreme startle response
Post X, nightmares are gone. Stomach issues mild. Migraines unusual and short-lived. Don't seem to be bumping into things, major anxiety is rare
Interesting.
💯 ❤❤❤yessss!!!
add to this loss of sexual apetite, couldn't have sex anymore
This is the truth
Facts! I have at least 18 of the 19, Lord help me.
What if a neighbor makes me feel like this. You can never escape and get extremely unpleasant arroused when het mofo comes home and those times are vast
We loose our charm under narcassist abuse.
Charm is fake. Athenticity is what we lose with narcissist.
Exactly!!!!
Very True... I lost my smile 😢
Yes it is repressed but you can not lose yourself to this. You can recover, the narc can not they will get worse.
Use this as a learning experience to navigate the rest of your life completely aware that these kinds of people exist.
Oh you so right.😮
Every single chronic illness I was suffering disappeared over night when I discarded the narcissist. And the list was long. I love my body now for being so protective of me. I thank her every day and promise never to ignore her again. She never gave up on me. I promise her now I will always listen to her. Because she has shown me so much love and has endured so much ❤
Yes even if I'm away just at work it cleared up my skin ...he's gone an left now
Your guardian angel
Same and the thing was I saw what was happening and I allowed it until that decision me over him i chose me and walked out
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@nina so happy for you. Am on it now. ❤❤
I had hellish eczema and panic attacks and spontaneous hives. My whole family makes my skin crawl and sucks my soul out of me. I'm now 2000 miles away from them and learning how to really love and Honor myself. I feel great. None of these symptoms. Thank you for helping me to put this puzzle together. Trust your body and feelings and intuition! ❤😢🎉
I'm so happy for you.
I'm glad you got away. My brother came close. I have never been able to even come close.
You poor dear! I had really bad eczema when I was a child. Not to mention a host of other ailments.
It wasn't until I was 27, I think, that I really started to put it together why sometimes my health would be so much improved and how it had nothing to do with anything I did to attempt to improve it, but everything to do with stress. Because, that was the first time in my adult life that I was able to be somewhere with a person who (at that moment in time) really enjoyed my company and I theirs, in a place where no one was attacking anyone or making a horrendous mess and then yelling at me to clean it up. And, during that time, I could eat and digest food, sleep, say things and have it turn into conversations not castigations. And, I could contrast between the time I spent with that person in their mostly quiet home and the time I had to spend living with my sister, when I left that quiet place. It didn't last. Pretty sure a narcissist called him and told him lies about me. but also pretty sure he was one or something close to it, too. He was such a constant nag and telling people tales about me and then stalking me. (sigh) Sorry for rambling on. Just agreeing with you and telling you why.
Exactly I feel the same way🙌,Congratulations 🥳🎊🎊🎊🎊❤️
Take good care of yourself .
Remember love shouldn’t hurt!! Your body is your temple you will listen to it regardless if you think you should be in relationship!
I got sick of being sick with them!
When you walk away!
You will heal, remember who you are before them!!
Remember remember who you are, Yes!! This body is your sign!!I love that this voice of reason! Thank you sir for encouraging me!!! I’m glad I found someone here to be honest!! Love this content!!
Well stated.
Agreed I wish you all love ❤️ thank you for mentioning it
When it hurts this way it ain't love 💔 🙏🤍
Headaches, chest pain, weight gain, back pain, stomach issues, and issues staying asleep. All that trauma really takes a toll. You get better once you remove yourself though ❤️😊
Yes. We will get better if we don't become convinced that we are both unlovable and unnatractive while thinking that we should be going out to start getting Botox treatments or whatever else too so people believe we have it all together. Some narcissists spend so much money on both that sort of thing and on self help programs which are being called only a self improvement program.
Yes, intestinal issues, unexplained stabbing pain, sleeplessness, waking up middle of night drenched in sweat. Didn't know nor connect it to the narcissist and their abuse till years later. Nowadays we know all to well what to look out for. Distance yourself from these toxic people as best as you can and take no more of their crap. There are good people out there, build yourself a new life. The narcissist was never there for you and never will be.
Exactly
@@rickwhite5206 Yes! I've had abdominal issues severe problems in this relationship with my Narcissist. I'm in therapy, I've walked away 8 months ago and I am still healing 💛
@@francesbernard2445i feel sad for women who end up under the knife just because of that demon they have at how who destroyed their self esteem to the ground.
Once I consistently felt nauseous around someone, I knew they had to go. Something in their energy field was literally sickening to me. Listen to your body!!!
Yes Omg I just said almost the identical same thing before seeing your comment. The consistent gut sickness is key !
It literally feels like their energy shouldn’t be in you. My body feels like it can’t acclimate and tries to block it.
@@mariesprowl2348 Yes! And the resulting anxiety is so intense. I literally would go into freeze mode and start panicking. Ugh, good riddance 🤢
I used to throw up a lot. Often while crying. All that right in front of her. Her looking at me stone faced I will never forget that.
@@neveragain733she was poisoning you too. I know. Dont let her or anyone she knows back into your life. Move. Change numbers, email etc. They get more dangerous and devious over time. Of course, they are nauseating things. They absolutely don't think twice about poisoning your food or drink too. That's how they are. We dont think the same way as them. Of course they do not care about you if you are their target. They are cons.
Yes. Heavy brain fog, digestive issues, leg pains, migraines, anxiety, depression, manicness, sleeplessness, night terrors/nightmares which would go on for weeks causing me to be afraid to sleep at night, acne, thin/dry brittle hair, nausea. Thank you for this video. It's a very important aspect of overcoming abusive narcissists, trusting and connecting with your gut instincts. It's taken awhile but I'm finally able to trust that intuition again and can immediately pick up on it even when I deal with narcissistic customers at work and such. Thank you thank you thank you!!
Relating to you so much gee 👍
Toxic on/off relationship for a year
1. Anxiety
2.Feelings of being repulsed
3.Poor sleep whenever we shared bed
4.Tight feeling in chest
5.Muscle tension in shoulders, pelvic area and calves
6.Migraines for the first time in my life
7.Pain in my wrist and knee
8.Hairloss
9. Sharp pain in the heart area
I'm convinced I will start to feel better in a month. Last time we broke up, I was happy and felt fulfilled in 2 weeks. But then societal pressure and sunk cost fallacy got to me when they started woo me back 🤡
I was born into a narcissistic family. Narc mother and enabling father. I walked around with an incapacitating pinched nerve between my shoulders for years. Further, I walked on tippy toes well into my fifties (in my own home no less). To this day, now 64, I will occasionally catch myself walking on my toes and I say to myself - "you don't have to do that anymore, you live alone, and no one can hurt you" - my mother died in February and she still, sometimes, gets into my head. Life is so much better without narcissists and I recommend total no contact. For those who cannot go no contact, don't try to plead your case, reason, compliment or anything of this nature. You are not dealing with human beings. Narcissists are a breed apart. Remain as neutral as possible and try hard not to lose your temper. They live for this and it absolutely thrills them to have this kind of power over you. My best to all.
I totally relate. There is life after narcs but they still appear in my life and I have to follow my gut and not my heart! It is an ongoing awareness of self-preservation …all the years of heavy grief, pain, agony since early childhood. Now I’m 70 and I have to have my guard up …narcs are incredibly devious and prey on me because I’m so open hearted and caring. It goes against my nature but I must watch out for PREDATORS because as in Nature, they really exist. Blessings to you, stay strong and aware! x
Danish ! I appreciate you very very much indeed. Upfront truth! ❤🙏”let the healing begin and continue” indeed!
Yes, sounds familiar. I stop breathing normally. As a child I had to breathe without any sound, very small to make me invisible, even in my sleep I did not breathe deeply and relaxed and made no sound at all.
If I get into bad situation, I still stop normal breathing. Even decades later.
Of course many other healt issues also.
@@AllIn1Studio In my experience, they are the sneakiest people alive. After the initial warm-up phase, they will show their true colors. We have to be honest with ourselves about what we are seeing. My best.
Omg, I walked with my toes balled up and catch myself still doing it!
I got rashes and went to the dermatologist, I got IBS and had to see a gastrointerologist, I got anxious driving and started crying, I got migraines and had to take medicine! I've never been sick until dating this man. 😢
I had my thyroid go at at age 22 from having a narcissistic mother who was by then out of control. It really takes a toll over time.
@@cc1k435I'm sorry to hear that, I didn't know exactly why at the time but I couldn't deal with it past 17 and left. Hope you are away from there and healing now.
They are evil.
My symptoms when I was with a narcissist: unexplained anxiety, sleep issues, chronic body aches, asthma attacks, panic attacks, constant exhaustion, rash, IBS, headaches, decreased appetite, constipation, confusion. When I walked away...the next day i woke up felt the best i had in 14 years of being married to the narc. My symptoms started disappearing one by one. Day by day. I now no longer suffer from these at all. My narc in the past would also talk me out of going to the chiropractor. I now go regularly. It got to the point that when i was talking to him on the phone i had to run to the bathroom to throw up. He was so toxic my body was rejecting him. The narcs do poison us in so many ways. But when you walk away the toxicity will clear.
Lost my gallbladder in the last months of a 17yr hellish marriage. Im convinced the stress of living with my grandiose narc ex husband. Recently a girl -friend re-entered my life. A friend whom I already identified as one of my Energy Vampires. (I thought she changed)Texting & phone calls for over a year was fine! But when she came to town & we spent time face to face it was a whole different story! Intense depletion & draining of all my energy. A sick, twisting in my stomach , sadness & depression. It felt like a hangover & took me 3 days to recover. All I know is I Never want to feel that bad again. So "friends " at a distance might work but the moment that I was in or near her energy field it was like entering a dark tunnel. I wonder if they know they are so draining ? I mean how would you ever tell someone they are a toxic mess to be around??
The body fills with cortisol and adrenaline, feels under siege at all times so you can't sleep and can't lose weight, sometimes can barely move from the exhaustion of it all. It's confusing and irritating to every part of you, mind, body, and soul. ❤
Totally!
Oh yes, until your body cannot produce those any more and you are just exhausted.
And then enabling family members come to you and say “ you’re too fat, you need to lose weight”
So … why then are most narcs FAT, really really FAT?!
It's killing me
I was diagnosed with IBS, anxiety, hair loss, thyroid issues, heart palpitations and depression when I was with the narcissistic. My heart used to literally ache when he was around me. Now I'm recovering five years later but he's gone so I'm doing better than before.
Me too.
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Same here.
I am facing worst days with my husband..he just sucks my energy..every time dgrade me..i have thyroid issues.i feel heavyness in chest.he always continuously points finger on me..he blames me every time ..he is a loser..how can i get rid of him..
@@createyourowndestiny07 make a plan to escape and slowly implement it. Say nothing. Save money if need be.
@@createyourowndestiny07I left my husband in middle of the night after 2 years of planning. Had been with him 32 years. Is not easy but I did it!! Is still affecting my health but I am now living a lovely quiet life. Planning is key. Good luck.
Absolutely incredible!!! I began to get very ill in many ways!!! My entire body hurt (joints and muscles) all day everyday in the last month before I left him. Migraines, dizziness, vomiting, loss of memory, foggy thinking, tingling, itching, nightmares, sound sensitivity and bowel problems!!! I figured it was my body telling me something was very wrong and dangerous. Thankfully I was able to get out and go absolutely NO CONTACT. It’s been around two weeks since I left and my body is just starting to heal. I pray that anyone who finds themselves in an evil relationship can find a way out and the ability to stay out. Thank you for this video. Our bodies don’t lie.
Stay strong. Stay gone. Don't look back! You are worth it! ❤️
Follow your intuition 🙏
Fibromyalgia, IBS, Hashimotos.
Mother with NPD, stepfather with NPD, grandmother with NPD. They all did the exact same things.
I also have learned that I have (what they ignored) ADHD and autism. Their abuse led to intense anxiety. They never cared who I was and what I needed, so I learned those things about myself as an adult.
Warm hugs to you ❤️🥰🥰🥰❤️
That must have been so so hard for you I’m very sorry that you suffered that way very sad but I’m sure you have learned to be more resilient and compassionate and understanding from those experiences.
God bless you.
Same.. But without the fibromyalgia..
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Anytime I'm around my narcissist abuser's... No matter if they are 'acting' nice or 'being' mean... I still feel very on guard and the fight, flight, or freeze response is constant... BROKEN TRUST.
My situation too,I hate his presence more than his absence, everytime he is around I feel this strong anger towards him,
@@otienocaro9453 please get away before you snap and kill "it".
This my ex-narcopath's end game (to either get you incarcerated, or gaslighting you into a mental institution or a tragic accident).
100% understandable
Same here
The broken trust really is the hardest part. I don't even trust my own mind anymore.
I ended up in the hospital almost having a stroke after Decades of narcissistic emotional and psychological abuse at 42... for the longest time I always wondered why I had anxiety attacks and severe depression all my life. If you grow up in a narcissistic family environment and that's all you have around you, you are going to be damaged if you don't know how to deal with it right or get away from these horrible people. I found it's too exhausting to deal with them so I get away. Good luck everybody🙂 stay strong, set firm boundaries and love yourself enough to get the respect you deserve. ❤
Very well said! I hear you! Happy you are free from these people! 🎉
So true! Severe anxiety, depression, shaking, muscular ache, spasms and pain, acne, sleep problems, plus an eating disorder, Irritable bowl syndrome, and neuropathy. Mine due to narcissistic abuse from first my father, then my ex-husband. Listen to your body! Also, be aware of patterns! The cycle has to stop!
My exact story. So isolating.
Every single word of this was 100% accurate and beautifully said. Wow. Starting from the first word. THANK YOU. My digestive system started letting my whole body know about a month into our relationship and by the end of it a couple years later I couldn’t even swallow food when I was around him. I’d get shaky, feverish, panicked, naseaous, bloated, pale, scared and weak. I was unrecognizable to myself. I also lost hair, got cold sores, developed endometriosis, started having heart pain and my vision got worse. I still suffer from endometriosis and also interstitial cystitis, both inflammatory and chronic conditions that I didn’t have before. The endo moved to my chest so I get heart pains as well. I’d also get a certain type of mania around him mentally that would make my entire body panic though I couldnt identify why. Felt like my body started almost completely shutting down. Whew. He lived an hour away and it’d take until I was a half hour from his house to start to feel a little normal again. And recently a different man came back into my life but when I was making plans with him I got so nauseous that I could barely move. My body rejected him in a way that my mind still doesn’t and left me no choice, thankfully. They are PREDATORS and our intuitions respond as such. Prayers for anyone going through this or coming out the other side, which also isn’t easy. You are much stronger than you know. Thank you so much again for this video, I feel so seen and understood 💛
Sending hugs ❤ I know so well this struggle is Real
After my first meeting with someone who turned out to be a covert narc I felt exhausted. It was weird. I dismissed it at the time but I now know that my body was telling me something.
It is exhausting and confusing, and it disappears as soon as you figure it out and can do something about it. ❤
Me toooo 😢
They're so draining.
It could be a projection and also they probably feel bad themselves on the inside and take your healthy energy to help them feel better. They're leeches. Once aware you can put an energetic shield but either way not good to be around them for long.
Im going through loss of energy, leg pain, stomach issues, major migraines, chest pain, nerve pain, weight gain and constantly nauseous, and major brain fog and forgetfulness and couldn't leave out, major ANXIETY. Still living with a Narcissist. Constant threats on a daily. I pray everyday to God. I know that there is light at the end of that tunnel. God bless everyone especially those living with a Narcissist. Prayers to us all. 🙏🏼
Run and don’t look back! I escaped one after 30 plus years and I had nothing when it ended. Love yourself enough to choose you. All my health issues left me when I left him. I’m more blessed than I have ever been. Save yourself because it will never get better. God bless you on your journey.
Sometimes we have no way out...
It takes courage, it is terrifying but it’s only temporary, you will get out and get better. Staying will kill your spirit and that’s satisfaction for narc.
Do you ever get memory loss? I blank out things around traumatic times. Like I couldn’t remember picking up a prescription at the vets and a lot surrounding an entire week after narcissistic abuse got worse.
This is super true! My husband's ex wife and daughter are both narcissists and I didn't know that at first. But everytime they are around I would experience heaviness in my chest, unexplainable "upset" stomach, severe headache, couldn't properly beathe, pain in my neck and shoulders, etc. but as soon as they are gone, I would feel normal and all the pain would be gone. I thought it was just a coincidence. I never thought it has something to do with their dark energy affecting my energy. Be careful guys, this is so true! It happened to me.
Scary to acknowledge, isn't it?!
When my ex was giving his job his two-week notice before he made the final move back to Illinois where he's from(I'm in a different state & he had moved here just to be with me),....I was a blubbering mess. It was me that technically broke up with him. But I was having serious second thoughts those last two weeks because he suddenly morphed back into "Worlds Best Boyfriend" and started opening up and "empathizing" and actually throwing me a freaking bone with some very validating & accrediting statements.
I thought the morning that he finally moved the last of his stuff out was going to make me feel even worse. I fully expected to wake up that Saturday morning with that, heavy & all-too-familiar "piano on your chest" feeling. And this time it'd have an anvil thrown on top of it too.
But, I was super surprised(and confused)when I realized that......I actually *felt better* than I had in a very long time!
No anxiety like I had been experiencing, no empty /hollow feeling or churning stomach.
In fact, I felt noticably emotionally "healthier" within days. Then I realized my back pain had dropped from an 8 to a 2 a few weeks later. About 3 weeks later I noticed my hair started feeling thicker at the roots and I didn't wake up in a panic.
I agree with this video 100%. I recall having a tug/strain in my chest area. I went to cardiologist-EKG, treadmill test and nothing was found but I still was in pain. I felt terrible and knew something wasn’t right. I lost myself during this experience but never stopped working out as it truly kept me balanced. I came OUT of that experience 10x better, more aware through books and information like this. I’m more focused and stronger than ever! I didn’t listen to my intuition and/or discernment. I took accountability. Listen….You CAN and WILL get through this. I did!!❤️🙏🏽
Being diagnosed with COVID-19 masked the symptoms.
Just sharing an experience: 20 yrs. ago, I was supposed to meet a woman I was going to do business with, Upon seeing her, I had a small, strange, sharp pain in my stomach. I made calls and I was assured she was on the up and up. Long story short- she ended up being a Narc ( exaggerated bragging and over confidence ) and I got burned financially. Small loss, but I never forgot that warning.
This was your body detecting the narcissist and protecting you from her. I am so happy you escaped my friend
As empath I can feel people around me easily now..ever since I was divorced with my ex husband living with him for 19 years I was gaining weight and had a depression due to physical emotional all abused you can’t imagine I had before…i had a nervous breakdown thanks God I recover….I decided to get out of that hell that I was in. Pls get out before they will kill and ruin your life.. there’s still life after the narcissist.. God bless to all of us….
I have this odd trait where I aquire other people ailments if I have compassion for them. With a narc it's 100% detrimental to my health.
How did you leave when you added financial abuse to the list? Please do share with the rest of us❤
@@candace8167wow
@@candace8167 I explain to you we own a bank in Phil’s and other three company like rice milling and feed milling, car dealership, each company I had salary, my ex husband control it , every time he mad at me for no reason, he withhold my salary, make me beg to him.. so I feel miserable..
Yes, I relate to this horror show deeply. Some of us are extreme empaths and we pick up on negative energy even though our minds try to block our higher selves from recognizing hidden enemies. Stomach problems, fibro body pains and issues, heart issues, electrolyte issues, and horrific headaches are common symptoms. The body, soul and heart knows what the brain tries to block from our reality. Intuitive body shielding is very important as a survivalist of narcissists can testify.
Well stated! Keep living your truth, fellow Empath ❤
I experienced a few physical and mental symptoms. I developed anxiety and severe depression, becoming s**ci*al as well. I never understood why my depression wouldn't go away, even with therapy and multiple medications. I experienced headaches frequently, to the point that my ex narc was always commenting on it. I started to experience migraines as well which I never used to get prior to our relationship, sometimes they would last for 2-3 days. I lost weight so quickly that my friends, family, and coworkers were concerned and thought I was on drugs. I'd frequently get unexplained aches and pains in my arms and legs. I started sleeping wayyyy too much or sometimes not at all. I was physically and mentally exhausted every day for what I thought was no real reason other than me being lazy.
Since leaving 3 months ago, my physical symptoms have almost disappeared. I am still struggling severely with my mental health. I didn't even notice until this video that my headaches are very rare now, it used to be an almost daily occurrence. I was never aware that those physical symptoms could've been my body telling me something was wrong with my relationship... I considered him being the reason the deterioration of my mental but of course gaslighted myself into believing it was anything other that.
Trust your intuition. I knew even before I had agreed to be his girlfriend but chose to ignore it because most of the time he was so great and apparently was soo in love with me and didn't want anyone else except me. I should've gone with my gut and avoided him at all costs.
I had extreme fatigue. I gained weight and lost appetite. What worked for me 1- I abandoned the narc. 2- took a job and saved money for one year. 3- went for naturopathy treatment for 3 months.
Still healing ❤😊
do u have constipation ?
I hope you will have a happy healthy life.
@@davelawson2564I had extreme constipation every time I found myself having to deal with the narc woman. She gave off an energy that seized my lower intestine. It resulted in terrible constipation. Once I got her out of my life the constipation slowly began to turn to regular bowel movements.
It’s happened to me the shaking, anxiety and that horrible feeling in the pit of your stomach. As soon as they went out of my life it stopped. I feel normal now.
Trouble sleeping, trauma cleaning, anxiety, trouble functioning outside of the house, stomach issues, ibs, muscle pain and weakness, extreme fatigue, loss of sense of self, brain fog, migraines, poor appetite, crazy making self doubt. It's insane how one person can start to break you down and disassemble you.
Agreed. Recently for the first time in my life I realised what is my true self, I found it in the body during meditation. It's a physical feeling of my real desires, which I ignored and made everything everyone around wanted. It lives in my chest, it's a real experience. This is also called an intuition. People which grew up in the abusive families should learn how to listen to it.
Narcissist end up killing you without touching you, is a silent hidden slow killer how they do it, my health is deteriorating slowly from decades of this hidden abuse by my narcissistic mother, and yet everyone thinks she's a saint😇 when in reality she's evil 👺, I can imagine how many people have died from this hidden abuse by a narcissist. 🙏
It is soul crushing and very damaging. Many have died and been blamed as the crazy one… when reality is they were being emotionally manipulated and abused and it broke them
@@Fishsticks007 You are absolutely right about that. They are demons in disguise.
Same… I’m dying from inside
@@N0N4M30 My narcissistic mother almost killed me a few times without even touching me, have faith in Jehovah God, pray to Jehovah God , he will never abandon you, I have seen how he has blessed me infront of all my enemies . Never give up, you are worthy, never let anyone bring you down. Hugs your way.
Please leave choose you
I have slowly been developing a worsening case of chronic fatigue syndrome but nobody believes me including my therapist. They think I'm being lazy and overdramatic and that I'm making it up. But I feel the extreme fatigue and exhaustion like I'm being suffocated and weighted down by a blanket made of metal. It's bone crushing fatigue. I used to be a student athlete and get decent grades. I even worked 3 jobs at one point to make ends meet. Eventually I hit a wall and crashed. The narcissistic abuse just got to be too much that I accumulated over the years.
It's really terrifying when you become sick and ill in a way that isn't visible or testable but you feel it worsening every day and for you it's deadly real but to everyone else they think you're full of it. Meanwhile you're losing jobs, friends, income, housing, food becomes scarce.
It's scary.
1. I BELIEVE YOU! 💛💯 and I will be saying a prayer for you for healing, safety and finding a better doctor to help. 2. Sadly what you're experiencing with doctors is not uncommon, many unfortunately gaslight their patients due to their own issues and fails, but you will find better if you keep looking, I would highly recommend trying a doctor of medicine. DO Versus an MD, also Chiropractics and well-trained herbologist can be useful, they might not be able to a hundred percent sure what is going on but they can definitely relieve symptoms with their knowledge. High quality ashwagandha is very good for lowering cortisol if you are exposed to a lot of anxiety or narcissistic abuse that could be aggravating your symptoms, but in a lot of cases with rare conditions we just have to become our own doctors honestly do lots of research and a lot of trial-and-error I'm also looking for doctors that are both compassionate understanding and willing to explore possibilities the help. If you think this is from any resent shots would recommend you go to a freedom of speech platform and look into some of the detox protocols being put by top researchs. I hope this helps and Blesses you! 🙏
PS if Any doctor or therapist ever minimizes gaslights or doesn't validate your experience by believing you fire them immediately! it's the last thing you need, this can also mean-4 non-supportive family members you might have to distance yourself from, but there are many people in the disabled and chronically ill community that will gladly embrace you listen to you be supportive and also help guide you find in the right Professionals in your area, I have EDS and many other issues but I've gotten support from people with crohn's chronic fatigue like yourself everybody Community understands what you're going through and willing to be a support just Reach Out on places like Facebook or others till you feel you've found the right community:)
I believe you. I was exhausted and could not fuction, not even when I got into trouble because I did not do the things I was supposed to do. Wellbutrin (Bupropion) helped me. Maybe you could try it.
I've been there. Yes, I sure do believe you! Everything you've described happened to me. I am healing now and I hope you are on the road to health and healing.❤
Read about atypical depression. Maybe you have it, if you are sleepy, cannot concentrate, legs are heavy.
You can because it is spiritual. Narcs are demon possessed and the only cure for us is to heal in Jesus love.
thank you for the image that the stomach ache is my stomach crying... that really helps me feel compassion toward myself yes, when i do a body scan with that concept i feel all the sadness and fatigue behind the fear i only have a few weeks left and have to pack the house and clean it... sounds simple but the fear of interacting with the narcissist keeps me hiding in my room or going for long long drives... i don't usually ask for prayers but if it feels right, please pray that i have "continuous motivation and movement" until i get to my new home thank you for thinking of me
That he would grant you according to his riches of glory, to be strengthened with might, by his Spirit in the inner man. Ephesians 3:16 God Bless you!
My husband has narcissistic characteristics.
I’ve experienced all that you have mentioned. My stress became so bad that I actually had a Tackasubo heart attack; my heart is now permanently damaged.
I’m starting to have really bad headaches, which before never really bothered me.
I find myself going to my zin place but as soon as I finish meditating and go into the same room with him all the stress comes back.
Your right about our body trying to warn us but my mind keeps rashonolizes the behavior.
I noticed from day one my breathing pattern would change around him, I would go into chest breathing and sometimes even caught myself holding my breath. My body was already entering into a 'flight' survival response and dissociation. On reading his nervous system I could tell he was existing in a state of dissociation/functional freeze. That was the first and should have been the last red flag but I've been conditioned to "never judge a book by its cover" and "give people the benefit of the doubt." I also indulged in my own delusion that maybe I could help him come out of dissociation or learn to trust people when really I knew only a trauma therapist can do that for people. My intuition has always been 100% accurate on its first impressions of people but I never wanted to be that person that would dismiss someone right off the bat. Now I don't care if I have to be 'that person', I'll do what I need to do to protect myself from dangerous people. I swear I'll never doubt my intuition again.
Because his control techniques were "attacking" you.
😢😢😢yes...same..
@@dennisrobinson8008 That's it exactly... your words hit home.
I do that. I have severe air hunger and incorrect breathing from this type of abuse from my mom and a couple of other family members.
@@shellybarnes5429 yeah same. It's taken me years of mindfulness, breathwork and trauma therapy to correct my breathing pattern from childhood trauma and it's still an ongoing journey. But I've spent most of my life breathing soley into my chest.
Acidity - BIGGEST RED FLAG
Fibromyalgia- muscle pain
Acne - on the back
Insomnia
Acute headaches
Fear & Anxiety
Fibroids
Gall stones
Acute constipation
Anger and Fear cause gallstones - I had 2 major surgeries & on the day of my surgery my narcissistic mother went on a vacation & told all my relatives that it was my fault to get the gall stones and fibroids because I eat junk.
I've been living with some of the symptoms you mention, and have a narcissistic mother too. The story of your mother accusing you of being responsible for your illness, and not showing empathy, mine did exactly the same to me. Thank you for sharing, I feel less alone in this
@@extradextroseNo you are not alone. There are many of us. Sending you both loads of love ❤️ and sending everyone affected a lot of love so that they are healed ❤❤❤. Even I have a narcissistic mother and sister who didn't bother to even ask me how I was feeling when I said I had two surgeries due to uterine fibroids and one was major. Even then, they started blaming me and threw me out of the family whatsapp group as I confronted them and gave back a fitting reply to them. I am so glad and grateful to the almighty that I have a very loving and caring husband and inlaws that treat me like their own daughter. God compensated me very well. That which I could not get from my parents, I have gotten it from my in laws. It has been 5 or 6 years since I spoke with my parents and I have started healing so well. All the IBS, fibroids, anxiety, stress, fear is almost gone now. I am also doing liver flush as all these emotions affect the solar plexus chakra. I still have some pain there, but it is getting better with every flush. I also practice yoga and meditation, which is helping me tremendously. In a way, it's good that the body supports you and gives signs to move away from negative energies so that you can protect yourselves in the longer run
@@sridevipavan thank you for your kindness and your warm energy ❤️ now I still have to overcome IBS-C, my body scares me sometimes tbh, it feels like it's dead inside
I spent my entire life with these issues. From being raised by a narcissistic father, growing up abused by him and a narcissistic brother who was trained by him to marrying a man my father planned out for me behind my back who was an even bigger covert narcissist...raised by a horribly narcissistic mother, my whole life has been inundated with all of the issues he's defined here.
I have PTSD which I keep managed through therapy and managing the uncontrolled thoughts the best I can. I will say that he is absolutely right on everything he has defined here. I experience rummaging, which is common with PTSD, nightmares, I can not hold food down, I get the rashes, headaches, my mind races and can not shut it off when I'm trying to sleep. The dissociation from your real feelings is horrible. It's so unfair because then you struggle with participating in your present relationships. It's isolating and embarrassing. My stomach hurts no matter what I eat or drink. I have to drink lemon water every day all day long to keep the neasua down many times.
God bless you and makes life easier for you.
I do remember having rashes. I had a blood vessel burst in my eye (which never happened before that particular narcissist), urinary tract infections( blood, terrible pain, and fevers). I also was so tense that my whole body felt as hard as a rock. I'm so grateful it's over. I can be at ease now. It was so reassuring to hear Danish say, once we recognize the warning signs and act accordingly, we will never be able to get in the same situation again. Thank you 😊
This is straight facts. I've experienced these symptoms and knew something was off. I'm the One that got away due to intuition. I blocked then deleted all contact from Evil. These Strange dreams never returned and I'm feeling the peace that surpasses all understanding. I thank God for His unconditional love and protection. Thank you, Danish
I lost 1/3 of my body weight from anxiety induced anorexia. I didn’t sleep. Constant migraines and aching bones. Woke up nauseous for years. Ground two teeth down so nothing. Also developed a huge puss filled cyst in my gut that had to be surgically removed.
Two years after the nac is gone, so are all the physical issues.
Ground my back teeth down and cracked them. Lost weight and haven't been able to gain back
Yup I was 109 pounds in the end I was a mess
😊 great news.
"... bracing for impact" -- memorable words
All of it: headaches, nausea, IBS, thyroid disorder, fibromyalgia, obesity. I used to be thin, muscular, strong, active. Now I feel triggered by the things I once loved to do: running, bicycling, even going for walks or hiking. I get sick just trying to do those things now, overwhelmed by those old feelings of pain and, like, almost like immobility. Yes -- okay, I get it, that is like a freeze response.
I find it hard just to remember who I was, to walk back into the feelings I used to have. I was filled with energy, joy, and laughter. I was outgoing and fun. I loved people and life.
Now, I feel like a different person. It is really hard to overcome these feelings of tension, after such total devastation.
If you are someone just starting in a relationship and you wonder why there are mismatches -- run. Get away. Don't look back. Don't be kind. Just get out.
I had loose stools and bad gas, bad health for my entire relationship with my clinically diagnosed narcissistic husband. We have a 20 year age gap with him being older. The first month after I left, everything went back to normal. The stress I was under was tearing me up inside. I was only with him for 5 years. I trully believe that I would have died young due to illness if I stayed another year or so.
Measles, mumps, chronic fatigue, jaundice, weight loss, dermatitis, hair loss - I've seen these symptoms a lot among people who have been around narcs. Always listen to your gut. If the air feels heavy around the presence of somebody, it means something is off with the person. The body is using these symptoms as indicators to stay away from a narc.
OmG! Yes!!! I began to have uncontrollable crying (I'd never cry, since I was 12 yrs old) which elevated to headaches, stomach churning, fidgeting, excessive burping, dry heaving, and overthinking on steroids. NEVER had someone to literally make me sick. The moment I completely let go of him and the relationship, I felt relieved, FREE, and a euphoric happiness. Though he still may cross my mind sporadically, I'm moving forward in peace and haven't looked back.
Yessss, burping and dry heaving even when nothing is being said nor done.
Very well said. I was raised by a narcissistic mom while my dad did what he could to help my brothers and I to survive. I have had multiple autoimmune conditions & I used to get severe migraines. As many times as I tried to escape, my body and spirit has led me to confront & heal this. I’m doing what I can to make sure this cycle doesn't get repeated while taking care of myself. Meditation is bringing me back to myself. Thank you, this video needs to be seen by so many.
This answered sooooo many questions! I grew up in a scary narcissistic family, every kind of abuse. Sore throats, stomach aches and headaches were so normal for me. Growing up my symptoms ranged from totally constipated at age 15 ( 13 days no BM) to an adult with IBS. As a young adult with the vibration of a victim, I walked into narc abuse at almost every job I ever had! Narcs like supervisor roles.
From 2020-2022 I was locked down with my parents! I almost lost my life there, becoming emaciated and sleep deprived from the reenactment of my abusive childhood. At one point my organs were in so much pain that I could locate each one from where the pain came. I became too upset to eat but living in "their house" as they reminded me daily, I needed to earn my keep as their personal slave! Even when I grew more and more emaciated and sick they still coerced me to do their bidding, mocking me for needing to rest or seek treatment.
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Almost the same exact thing happened to me. I’m still living with my abusive narcissistic father but working on getting out!
@@waldosafari as soon as I got out I started to heal. Mom is old and has a cleaning lady come. When I lived there the cleaning lady witnessed the verbal and emotional abuse. I said nothing, but she always spoke to me when mom wasn't around telling me "you will be rewarded in heaven.". About 9 months after I moved out I started resting and digesting and the first thing she said to me was , " Girl, you look healthy!" You just can't spend all your energy on shielding yourself and expect to thrive.
I wish for you to get out. Don't let them know. I did not! Just the week before I moved I told them I was leaving and it was too late for them to interfere. Plus, they didn't know the landlord's names
I am grateful for you and your extreme seriousness of body warnings. I was decades with my husband and had the most terrible symptoms until I had to have a third of my intestines removed that were “tortuously twisted” ….my stomach was literally in knots. I was so beautiful and talented and was love-bombed and nearly destroyed completely. Thank God I found him cheating and escaped! I am super grateful to you and your honest upfront insights! Thank you 🙏
WOW. When stressed, I have what I call “gut knots.” Scapegoat of Narc family and x malignant Narc husband- of whom I left in fear of my life. Gastro Dr said I have a very twisted digestive tract when he diagnosed IBS. He explained it’s because I’m thin. But your experience is similar. Torturously twisted. I’m so thankful you escaped! I had 13 years in narcissistic marriage. Left my Narc family at 47 years. Still have the aftermath of some toxic family relations unfortunately. Peace and good health to you.
Thank you Danish. I totally agree that reconnecting with our intuition is a vital part of healing. We must trust our gut feelings, discern what we are dealing with and PAY attention to what is going on and If we feel confused, uneasy, uncertain, anxious etc. We must honour it and keep ourselves safe and stay away from toxic, deceitful and abusive people. I have had all the physical symptomps you have mentioned. Narcisistic abuse is lethal. It is killing people.
I had all these symptoms
Please please listen to this man he is so right this all happened to me and it came from my daughter and I didn't realize it listen to him and keep praying
I have also developed PTSD please listen to this man always talking about thank you
Thank you Jane explained everything
Yes, I totally agree. You word this very well. It takes time to apply this truth, but it's necessary to do so.
Omg.....I have had all of these symptoms especially severe rashes and tingling in hands and feet. I paid thousands trying to find out what was wrong. I came down with migraines, insomnia, IBS....and I am a certified personal trainer. I became so sick. It's been ten years of this. I just finally left. I divorced him and left. Couldn't take it anymore. I lost myself. Depression....was crying all the time. Became suicidal. This man almost destroyed me. I lost everything. I left with nothing.
Oh my, you are so correct! I had IBS at the beginning of the relationship, shoulder pain at the middle of the relationship lots of migraine always, thyroid and anxiety issues. I kept ignoring the signs until in the middle of the relationship I was praying and after the prayer I just KNEW that the shoulder pains I was having are the result of my relationship. I believe God spoke to me. Thank you!
Wow! Imagine if when I developed a serious case of acne just before the wedding, I would have known this. Never had such troubles during my teen years even. And you are right, it got a lot worse. What he was saying and what was actually going on, I much later figured out, were 2 different things. Fifteen years of great psychological stress and then another 28 years, so far, of reliving the trauma. Run girl, run!
Excellent information for mind-body connection. Also important to mention a true Narcissist will MAKE THEMSELVES SICK and blame it on you because you stay healthy, until they BREAK YOU DOWN. The sooner you get away, the less body and mental aches over time!!😢
Hello my friend, I hope you are having a wonderful day!!
@annanderson1470 hi Ann, soul sister of change, growth, and healing! 🌱 Danish is amazing, too! He is well versed in the subject matter of narcissism and its many cycles of abuse. I know we'd all be millionaires if we had a dollar for every moment of truth we experience as survivors. My thoughts are with you, so stay strong and find your courage everyday!! 🧸🦸♀️
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Yes, after she left she said I abused her and I was the toxic one. For real?
@danielleschmidt5841 yea, gaslighting should be a crime! I really hated that and all the constant lying, no integrity!
Oh my gosh!
I'm glad that someone else has noticed this.
I had terrible IBS and wretched very disturbing nightmares for over 20 years until the very day I was no longer with the narcopath anymore. The horrid demonic type of dreams just stopped suddenly and immediately upon getting away from them.
My health became very bad though being with them. I already had some health issues but the stress of living with a narcopath for over 20 years did my body in.
Now I have very real actual diagnosis that have taken over my life and put me on disability. I have been free of the narcopath for about 9 years now but the very serious stress issues of having been with him and having to endure the extreme abuse during the break up greatly contributed to deeply affecting the health issues I already had and adding extra issues.
Now I am like an old lady but only in my early 50s. Stuck at home too sick to get out much. Need a transplant. Wear medical devices. Etc.
I teach other girls about narcs when I can, warning them what to watch for. Sadly the dating pool out there for men and women is slim.
I was married to a narcissist for 18 years. Initially I experienced extremely painful, unexplained, lower abdominal pain. This reoccurred frequently over about three years. It then disappeared to be replaced with severe reflux disease which lasted the remainder of that relationship (15 years) along with chronic migraines (50% of the time) both of which largely disappeared when I finally left that relationship. I also had chronic depression, caused by growing up with a narcissistic mother and various kinds of abuse, which was exacerbated by the marriage I was in. It only began to recede when I took control of my life and began to work through everything that had happened to me in my lifetime. I've been free of depression for two years now and finally understand just how much my childhood affected my adult life and the choices I made.
My love to anyone in, or recovering from, a narcissistic relationship. You can get through it. If I can then anyone can.
Mine was a malignant narcissist so he told everybody that he was getting rashes and headaches because of me. I had crazy anxiety, burning inner thighs, constantly pulling my eyelashes, circulation issues and extreme brain fog. Nothing helped until I escaped
Well, ironically, as we evolved, scientists have determined before we developed a brain, our "skin" was our brain.
Thus, I raised my girls to pay attention to their bodies, especially their skin. If their skin breaks out, they get a rash, to perk up and pay attention to what's going on externally, are they overloaded, who are they connecting with, what's going on in relationships--and, "adjust" according to what registers.
So, I definitely agree the information your sharing here is accurate!
Yes to all the symptoms you describe I had big time with my ex narc … but also 2 other strange symptoms appeared for the first time!
Rather embarrassed to say this, but only with him I didn’t smell right to others, even after showering… never had experienced that before.
The other symptom is hard to explain but believe it’s neurological (misfiring neurons maybe?)that made it difficult to see spatially resulting in very chaotic pictures painted( used to be an award winning artist).Being constantly gaslighted/ lied to & just mind f**kd was enough to almost destroy one’s mind!
Please listen to all the physical red flags & intuition telling us to stay away, reason will not work with them!
Thank you for the platform👍
Acne, headache, wanting to cry but being to scared to, unable to be emotional without getting yelled at, anxiety and fear, and suppressed appetite. My mom was this way. I'm permanently no contact with her. I feel better, and have made great progress as a person without her in my life.
Since I first met her, and then while the relationship with "my" narcissist was progressing, I never stopped feeling some kind of uncomfortability around her, some sensation that something was wrong and that I should not trust, but I thought it was me and felt guilty to be so suspicious with someone so evidently nice, caring, loving... I thought it was me having some kind of loser mindset and being unable to handle something good in my life. Turned out it was premonitory feelings. Among the physical manifestations when having contact with her there were often agitation, the urge to cry and insomnia after encounters or when we shared bed.
Great video. I loose weight, have sleep problems, anxiety and gut issues after 6 years of emotional abuse.
The gut never lies. I so wish I ran away at the very beginning. These people make us sick.
I lived with neck and back pain, numbness of the arms, IBS, hair loss, shoulder cramping, and constant nightmares of living in a dilapidated home with hidden tunnels for escape laced with bones or a vampire hunting me and my children.
I was basically disabled for the last seven years I spent with my ex-wife. Within a month of moving out, I am no longer in pain. I'm working out again and walking up to 7 miles a day with my son. My hair loss also stopped. She was literally toxic to me.
Now she found a new victim. I warned him, but he thinks he is her savior. The trap is set for her next conquest. I'm free and would rather be alone forever than be back in that hell.
Everything was my fault, and she would change facts to suit her narrative. She even told me. "If I'm a narcissist, it's your fault." What a nut job!
She is aging, and her looks are fading, so she is losing it. She has kicked me in the face, and I never touched her, but she threatened me with a restraining order. I dared her to try because I have her kicking me in the face on video.
I lost my hair and had chest pains. I have pictures of hairbrushes, shower drains and ponytail holders that were completely covered in hair. I went to the doctor because my first thought was thyroid issues (I am above 30).
After the relationship ended and I had some time to heal, all my hair grew back and I didn't experience anymore chest pains.
WOW 🤩 I love ❤️ this video because it’s so true. I experienced IBS, migraines, and constipation. I grew up in a narcissistic family. So I thought 💭 something was wrong with my body. I cut them off in 2019 and no longer have these issues. Also, when I went out into the world 🌎 and met narcissistic people. I knew something was wrong 😑 but ignored it. Your intuition will save your life. 🙏🏾❤️🩹
I feel like crying this is unbelievable. When I was so drained upstairs in my ex narcs bedroom and she was downstairs, my body was dreading her coming up to see me. I soon after got IBS which I’ve never had before.
My anxiety has been the worst in my life. I would wake up each day feeling like I was coming down from something, I was so drained. Then discarded…again.
This is so true!!! After the first narc I was feeling the gut twisting but not knowing exactly why, then after getting rid of her no issues. Then years later I met another woman and just within a week the same gut twisting showed up so I told her I don’t appreciate her behavior and blocked her and boom instant relief!!
Now I have an awesome warning system 😂
Great point to build up intuition by listening to (observing) your body's reaction when you are around a person who might be narcissistic. I never heard this bit of advice before. So, I had to disassociate to keep the peace while growing up. I did mindfulness meditation to reconnect to what felt at first like subtleties to me. Then I started feeling more and more overwhelmed and became really sick. I went no contact and into therapy and this has calmed down. Now, I'll start to pay attention to how my body reacts when I'm around different people. I know to watch out for the tiny put-downs that narcissists do after the first few times meeting them. I was told this is like a test to see if they can control you. It would be good for me to take note if I feel sick or sharply depressed. Great advice.
Had strong anxiety, stomach upsets, headaches, nervousness, lack of energy. didn't want to be around anyone. Doctor said I suffered from social anxiety. Was depressed and frowned all the time. Had hair loss and weight gain. Slept a lot so I couldn't feel
Ouch, that hit really hard. We moved away from the narcissist after 60 years of living in the same town and most of the symptoms vanished.😮 Had it all.
Thank you for your words of wisdom.
I am finally divorcing my covert narcissist. I get sick to my stomach when I see him. And the anxiety through the roof.I finally got the courage to do this.
Sure does yet we ignore it however once you realize they'll never change & start focusing on self all the aches/pain goes away, your skin clears and your scales are back balanced 🍍!! 🤗 Stop trying to see the good in someone with these mental issues they can't help themselves because they don't want to. Trust your intuition always! Continue to pray for them. Shalom 💜🦋
Wow. I was in perfect health and I had a great personality, fun loving always laughing and it literally stopped after about 8 months I started having hip pain, leg pains( severe at times) sleep pattern all over the place, both shoulders severe pain headaches every single night only when going to bed. I literally lost half of my hair literally like you can see patches of my scalp, stomach issues ( always nauseated around him) tired all the time, fatigue, even depression to where I had start taking meds for depression. Major back pain burning in my upper back and neck. I was so scared Ive been seeing doctors for the last 3 years for this and everything comes out fine. I even had what I thought was a heart attack 2 months ago and had to do a stress test and a heart sonogram and my doctor said my heart is good. The problem was probably stress. Omg y'all. I left him June 1st and no contact and Literally within 2 weeks all these symptoms are gone all except the hair loss. This tells me a lot. I feel like I'm getting back to myself the way I was before I got with him. We're married but I had to get away because I felt like I was going crazy. Always felt like something was wrong but couldn't put my finger on it and now I know why. I was in hell and didn't know it. There's so much more but I don't want to get into it. He is a horrible person and very manipulative and a huge liar. I'm just happy to be away from him for good. Thank you so much for this information it all makes sense now.
It's always about them constantly and never you.
I use to have really really bad upset stomach when I was a kid...
When I moved away and disconnected from my family all my stomach issues went complete away!
Anxiety, feeling of uncertainty. Never felt safe with him. Allergies, sneezing, watery eyes, skin rash. Muscle tension, especially shoulders and neck, migraines. Joint pains, especially feet and knees. Hands also. Nausea, weight gain, inability to lose weight. I think my body was holding weight to keep me safe. NOW that he is gone and i have gone No Contact divorce final, no more headaches, no more nausea, joint pains have gone ,(unless it is going to rain) have lost 20 lb, energy is back (but had to sleep a LOT for 1st month), rash gone. Still have some allergies and hair is falling out, but I feel so much better now. Anxiety is gone, uncertainty only comes rarely. Thank you for this good information. Listen to your gut!!
Headaches, drastic weight loss, pains, nightmares, tiredness, constant chaos in daily life, no time for loved ones, guilt in talking on phone in front of the narc...
Constant need to prove worth...
Sometimes with the narc i felt like i was out of my body, floating near the ceiling looking at the scene unfolding below...
It was so unreal...happened only once but unforgettable till date...
I thank god every day for managing to get away safely!!!
I also watch the judgements of my animals large and small around them. I. once had a horse that physically tried to get between him and me. very protective behavior. and yes my father was a raging dangerous Nark, and I fought bronchitis for decades. then went into chronic fatigue. and cancer.
I'm bipolar 1 ,many episodes bc I *allowed* my narcissistic husband of 37 years to make me feel bad about myself. He love bombed me, I'm the only girl he ever introduced to parents. I'm also co dependent of his alcoholism. Late mother said you knew you married a drinker. Seen him actively flirting and actual affair for years. I have sixth sense but blocked it with him. Sunday I called him out and make up and went out. Then he ouldnt stop phoning me. I'm 61 and outgrowing him. Thank you and Dr Lisa Ramani!!!!
I had dealt with a series of narcissistic bosses, and my body cried for years. I developed sleep apnea, hypertension, gained about 20 lbs a year, and I was in pain 100% of the time, whether it was IBS, headaches, or just body aches for seemingly no reason. I never even figured it out until I got a new job. Currently, even though things are harder financially than they’ve been in a while, I feel absolutely no pain. It’s almost weird feeling what my body feels like without it hurting. My poor body knew the whole time and I never listened. Thank you for explaining it so well.
This is so true. After emotional abuse I retreated from society for a while. And when I thought, ok, I can go back now, I jumped right into a narcissist 😅, such a charming boy... But then my whole nervous system rebelled. I knew he was a narc. And something beautiful happened: it was like opening and closing the trauma in one stroke and leaving this toxic Energie for ever.
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I’m exactly the same nervous system tells me and my fight or flight kicks in that’s telling me narc alert 🔔 run 🏃♀️ go no contact 👍💪🏻
This is so true. I had really bad stomach issues when I was with my covert narc ex. There were a few times when I felt really nauseous just sitting beside him when nothing was going on. I only ever felt that way when I was with him.
There were also so many times when I could literally hear alarm bells going off in my head telling me to leave. The subconscious really knows. Listen.
when my ex (also a covert narc) would lay on top of me, i would get such a strong urge to vomit i would have to throw him off me and run for the bathroom. now we know :(
This might sound strange but whenever I've been in situations - endeavors or relationships - with people I've retroactively been able to identify as narcissistic or toxic, I've felt either the urge to binge or a lack of appetite. Both responses were a way to feel secure when my body was screaming to me that I was actually in an insecure endeavor or relationship with people I shouldn't trust. I lost my ability to soundly sleep in my family home due to knowing something was wrong but not being able to identify what it was. The body does give you clues that something is wrong with a situation or that you're trusting someone you shouldn't trust but who has bypassed your critical faculties with pretenses. When your body speaks, listen. Stop and examine what you're doing and who you're involved with. Take a long deep look. Think critically and logically. It can save you grief down the road.
This is very true and an important thing to look out for because it will happen regardless even if you have a strong mind. Your body produces cortisol and it made me fat. I lost ten pounds after leaving and I eat three times as much (because back there I wasn't even able to eat, she stole ALL my food) and I am so much happier away from the abuser I had to live with.
It is !!! When I met my ex's both times my heart felt like it was being crushed.
When I met my husband of 27 years immediately I felt there was nothing wrong with him that would hurt me and I was right.
If we feel unbalanced or really tired after being around someone, don't go back. Our brains will try and rationalize over our intuition, but listen to our bodies. They really do keep score. Even when I feel something or someone is ok, sometimes my body will react strongly so I do what it says and with more information, it's never wrong.
Now that I'm much older, I have seen the pattern of behavior within myself when I get into the space of a narcissist. It starts with a depressive and anxious mood. I have a feeling that I don't belong. And then I start feeling that I need to justify myself or defend my self for no reason. Then, my feet want to carry me away - I get the feeling that I just want to leave and go to my bedroom. In my younger days, these feelings made no sense so I would dismiss them. Now I know that when I get the feeling that I'm trying to shove my hand into a 3 fingered glove, I just need to get the heck out of there.
I had all symptoms you mentioned. Everyone in my life said I've changed so much. He also had placed a love spell and domination spell. He was such a paranoid control freak worried he was going to get caught. That freak got caught in his dirty games.
Yes, I got extremely sick from the last narcissist. I had a horrible rash around my eyes and brain fog. When I first met him I drove home afterwards feeling off balance and confused. After I broke up with him my rash cleared up and I had peace. You are absolutely right, our bodies know we have a predator after us and it’s trying to warn and protect us.
Wow this is unbelievable. This is definitely true even though I never thought it myself. I have been brought Up by a narcissist mother and always had gut issues never understood why as had a very healthy lifestyle and ate well. Got into My 40s and got to the point I could barely eat something told me inside to get away so I did. 4yrs later I'm healing I can eat I practice yoga daily and I've never been happier. This article is spot on!🙏
I got a lot of acne every time my best friend (from age 12) came visiting. We are now 45 and I have gone no contact. Best decision ever!❤
I’ll never forget when I started to feel some strong pain in my eye when dealing with a narcissist, something I had never experienced and a few hours after she betrayed me big times
No wonder Ive been a sickling most of my life! Run is right!! This is a great video. Thank you.
Your discernment is spot on and your whole physical being is attacked by their evil ways.
This makes soooo much sense!! My narcissistic husband kept telling me that the symptoms I was having (migraines, anxiety, brain fog, etc.) were “all in my head”, but I learned that my gut was just screaming the truth to me.
You have been helping me tremendously over the past few weeks. I'm 57 and unfortunately I have been living through this since 24. And have suffered thru all the above mentioned illnesses. First 15 years with my husband then 18 years with my next relationship. He passed away 2 years ago. All the while my 30 year old daughter was mastering these skills. I found out only recently, 4 months ago when she kicked me out of her and my granddaughters life's what this was. Thank God for God. However the health problems have caused permanent and long lasting effects. May you be blessed for reaching out to others and I am so sorry for your own struggles. If you do not know Jesus I pray He reveals Himself to you. I believe He will. For you are indeed blessing others. Regardless, I love you anyway for your faithfulness to reach out to others.Peace and Blessings 🙏🙏🙏💖💖💖
I’m so sorry. I myself am 63 with 34 years invested in this relationship.chronic anxiety and difficulty eating due to abdominal pain. When he is a out of town, I am fine. BTW I am a seminarian, near to graduation.
It started with rashes, stomach pains, then weight issues, sleep issues and hair loss too. I had four nervous breakdown in three years. I lived between apathy, sudden rage outbursts and paranoia. I got out of my cage in September '22. Now I'm in great shape and all issues have gone, but I'm still struggling with doors, I must check many times to be sure they're properly closed. I know it's related to the trauma he caused me. I'm still healing but I know I'm on the right path. Moreover, you are totally right Danish, now if I meet someone toxic my body gives me the same issues... and I know it's time to leave. Thanks for your videos.
@@jbrown2908 thank you 🙏🙏🤗🤗
I still check the doors, 8 years later he might walk in
@@marianmorrisseyridiculous2900 Oh... I see... Well I think my "disorder" with doors it's much more correlated to the sense of insecurity he caused me after years of devaluation and lies. I don't fear his coming back, I can have him in jail in 10 min if he'd only try and he knows that. But I totally understand your situation, same result, only the roots are slightly different. Stay strong, we must do whatever it takes to heal from our past, we are much much better than that. 🤗🤗🤗💪💪💪
Does the narc also exhibit this door closing phobia
@@naziafaisal910 No, he never did. Actually he barely checked his own stuff. But your question is on point... his behaviour to me brought to the surface some old unsolved issues I developed with my very first narc: my father. He was incredibly obsessed with his own stuff. Thank you for making me think about this.🙏🙏
Just this morning I told my husband that I need to do something because I’m getting terrible bloating and brain fog. I eat two bites of food and already feel full and bloated. The brain fog has gotten so bad that I’m losing track of days. This is all due to my covert narc boss and her henchmen! Thank you, Danish, this is all very real.
You need to leave
I had an unexplained stroke at a young age. I was pledged with migraines and very thin from stomach pain. The doctors said it was from stress . Listening to you and being in psychological therapy I realized I was married to a narcissist that came out as gay after my stroke. Leaving me deaf and crippled.
Jesus Christ will heal you if you believe Him as Lord and if you believe He can heal and save you!
Pray!