Only people who have gone through this abuse can understand how much courage is needed to stand up. The guilt, shame and fear they instill since our birth numbs us. Edit: Thanks for the likes, but it is a sad reality to see so many souls go and going through this pain.
this what i experiences with narc mother want to get out ,now in the phase of she used all her flying mongkeys against me, drain my money cant get out to move or leaving elsewhere but with her
@@ratna5677 😩 Yes, this is their goal, plan and work from the start of the relationship. We realize after we lose. They use our TRUST in them and manipulate until we become nothing. Society needs to wake up. They support parents and not children.
@@jbrown2908 It is so very painful because these are our innermost family circle. When they betray us completely and when we cut them off, we have to be alone. Bringing someone from the outer circle into our inner world is hard. This is a complete collapse of our inner circle. That empty space will remain empty for the rest of our life. Extremely difficult to cope or for anyone to understand. We can stand alone and rebuild alone. But at some point in life we need that someone to be there for us.
That's God protection. He tried to made me pregnant so I won't leave him. But he failed so many times. That's really a God protection I'm not getting pregnant so he can't control me. He ended up cheated on me with 3 different women and have a child each. I just be Oke dude that's a good information finally I got a real reason to leave you. Ok bye NEXT
“Your rage is honest” ❤ I’ve never thought about this before. But you are so right. Our rage is honest, their rage is manipulative. Honest rage is something that they don’t understand.
A person who has practically experienced this and survived narcism can only be able to guide and help others ! Thanks Danish for helping other people who are suffering ❤ You are strong person
Stand up to narcissist family members and it's just more of what you've already experienced. Just more overt lies, silent treatment, smear campaign, stonewalling. As Danish explained every bad behavior of theirs just gets intensified. They love being and playing the victim, when they in fact, were the monsters.
Being discarded by a narcissist is the most devastating. The lies and smear campaigns are unbelievable. They really leave a hole in your social circles.😢
@@SatanenPerkeleand that's what they fail to realise. Once they take everything from you, there's nothing more they can hurt you with. Not the victory they hoped for.
Very true. It's not easy. If one doesn't know what Narcissism is. Once you know all the traits of a Narc, it's very easy. And MOSTLY IMPORTANTLY Never call a Narc a Narc. Never UTTER that word. Or else your magic is gone. He'll call you a Narc and believe it. And he'll start his narrative.
Perfectly said. FEAR. Keeps the victim stuck in the drama. Shatter fear. Calm mind, cool voice, unfazed appearance and genuine detachment- steps for breaking out. YES - PROJECTION is their favorite weapon 👌
You are brilliant! I left domestic violence against my young children and myself. You describing your father is what I got from my husband and father to my children. I was with him for 17 years. He destroyed me. I'm now a single parent, to 8 year old twins. The boys and I are now settled, peaceful and happy. It has taken 18 months for our souls to heal. Thank you Danish.
I have a 6month old kid my husband is narcissistic and physically abusive am trying to leave pls pray for me and my kid.. i have no family no money and no job but I will figure it out god will help me give me strength I can't take it anymore.
How fortunate for you to not only know about and understand this wicked behavior but to get away and heal so quickly... I'm a grandmother who had to study this for the last 5 yrs just to be able to wrap my mind around it but now that I have, I'm in the healing process while living in my car. Our 2 grown children were taught by dad, a malignant narcissist, and now both have decided this is the way they'll go... using every tactic they saw, heard him use. I live for my Grandchild and pray I'm here for her future since my daughter is an extreme narc.
Exactly! I used to be sad when the narc left, now I’m happy that they’re gone….I feel like saying to them, “don’t threaten me with a good time!” Lol 😂 Their rejection is definitely God’s protection! Stay strong & keep moving on!✨💪🏽🤩💪🏽✨
Same is happening to me for the past 18 years. Times n again, I have forgiven him but he tells me it is him who has forgiven me. Don't know how to escape, with 4 kids under my care!
@@aminashahid7577I guess you are luckier than me. My ex took all 3 children away from me and act like it is all my fault. The damages he had brainwashed them is just over my imagination….
Last part is the best. They should be afraid of you. You have empathy, you are grounded in reality, you can grow, you can heal. But they can't. They are not worth to be afraid of.
Narc parents are the worst nightmare you can ever have in your life. They will make your life a hell especially if you are a minor person. It's hard to escape when the victims doesn't have enough courage, financial support, etc.
My mom is now 80. She controlled my dad until his death. I became her caregiver and took over my dad's role. She displayed all the narcissistic signs my entire life. I have taken her abuse for my whole life. Now she upped the horror by treating me like my father was. Finally, after 5 yrs of this abuse, I have taken my power back. All the things you stated she is doing. I had to decide to distance myself from some family & friends. They seem to believe her crap. It has been difficult. I don't have the strength to continually combat the lies they seem to believe. I do feel better in my soul, but at times, it still hurts.
I am so sorry you are going through this. I stepped way back when it came to my parents care. I had my own children to look after. I was the black sheep, so my parents only wanted my brother first, my sister second to care for them. The parents have now passed. I tried to tell my siblings about the abuse I experienced, but they are in denial. At that point, I went no contact.
everyone who liked your comment has too much to say. living with that person who was always a BCH and who had you on eggshells for NO reason in old age is NOT FUN. these people are nasty - and putting on a show to others. it's unbelievable. this unaffectionate entity started the sleeve of my coat when we were chatting with relatives at a funeral - WTF?? WHEN has she ever touched me? never. and she's so damn old, putting up this front. It's crazy. She's MEAN and the meanest stuff comes out of her mouth and yet she's got the most pleasant situation and care. ugh.
Other people who believed her one-sided story are called flying monkeys. If she can’t manipulate you, she manipulates other people and how they see you. She will make it seems like it’s you alone against the whole world. She gaslights you and makes you question yourself. Don’t fall into that trap. You value yourself and many loved ones also know who you are and love you. Stay away from narcissists and flying monkeys, even if they happen to be yr biological mother or relatives. You have a choice of your own life.
80years she doesn't have much time to live,if I were you I would played my role to the end as a godly daughter and receive your blessings for sacrificing for her...there is a reward for filial love .
Thanks for sharing. These people are pure evil. There's no remorse, no shame in them, just a massive, fragile ego that can never be satiated. I was fearless and got a nasty smear campaign in return. When he started threatening the people who still talked to me despite the smear campaign, it backfired on him. There is some karma in the end, but you have to be strong and hold out no matter what they do. Thanks again.
Totally! when you experience the smear campaign, you feel your whole world is collapsing around you... But time does it works and you see all the karma/ back fire and how they are finally shut down by the same persons they thought turned on "their side".They were overwhelmed by the first results of the smear campaign, but over time they are not so good at keeping their half truth or complete lies straight! People start to notice the voids and the inconsistancies between how they painted you and the real you.... It does take time but it always happens and eventually it matches the last stop of your own healing journey, and you can feelin peace and see the good in this creepy experience. Whether you realize this or not, it helped you to clear your world from a whole bunch of toxic people you surrounded your self with and then make room for much healthier people & relationships! xxx
@@DharmaK-w2e Narcissists are like silly children. They say, "I wanna be naughty... and I don't wanna get caught!" What is missed by them is the fact they live in an adult world, that they can't even perceive. They make asses of themselves and their denial numbs them from the truth all around them. No amount of lying makes the mountains, rain and hills disappear. Why do narcissists delude themselves they have power they don't have? I think it is because they are weak and the one person who they want to hide reality from is themselves. The rest of us are just representatives of the great truth of reality. We are no threat to the narcissist, he is his own threat to himself. The silly narcissist only dreams he can have power over things no mortal can ever have power over. Reality conquers all in the end, he will learn, willingly or not.
Anyone who asks why abuse women don’t just leave need to watch this video. No one can understand what these people will put you through, while being kind and charming to everyone else.
This message is spot on… they even take away your will to live. Everyone and everything is taken from you. you begin to lose sight of who you are. The tears and pain within feels unbearable ,you even begin to question if it’s you …when u feel like this , hold on tight it’s almost over. Just know it’s not you… my heart goes out to everyone whom dealt/dealing with this kind of trauma . May God give you strength , peace and comfort ❤
I can totally relate. I've been feeling empty, I've been questioning, blaming myself for years, believing their words (it's my aunt and grandma) until the point I didn't know who I was or if the things i was living were true, a lie or i just made them up... Thanks for your words. It's comforting to find someone who understands us. It's like we're not alone anymore, or at least I'm not as crazy as I thought. Thank u and the creator of this masterpiece
FEAR is absolutely the major tool they use, and we don’t even recognise it we are so busy trying to please them to bring back the wonderful soulmate we believed them to be in the beginning. Overcoming our fear is not easy. But we do need to keep working on it. Overcoming the fear keeps us on the road to recovery.
When I tried to make my parents understand about my narcissistic wife that a narc will never change, my parents asked me to focus me to concentrate on prayers, asking to pray/do pooja daily so the vibration will help her change. This is how most Indian parent will react. Only a person who read or been through these things will understand your pain.
In my religion Good husband also only for good wife If she evil, you still need to divorce her Because evil husband only for evil wife Pray will not help, god already want you to end this relationship
So what happened ? Did you leave her ? Please tell me somehow you convinced your parents and yourself that she doesn't deserve you A narcissist never ever changes, so you have to stay away from them for your own sake
@@edgar2457 i convinced my parents and moved from my wife for 2 months. She spoke to many of my relatives to manipulate that she is apologizing and asking for a 2nd chance but I'm adamant and not giving her a chance. Due to this now ppl asked me to give her a last chance. So i decided to stay a month together but i know she won't change and I'm not going to take more than a month there. I'm repulsive towards her.
@@shivasubbiaah yes please don't stay for long Cuz she is not going to change, i am glad your parents undertsood you and I am glad you started showing your wife that she can't control you anymore. This is the best way to deal with a narcissist My best friend is also a narcissist. She used and abused me a lot for 1 year, but after I understood her mind games, i showed her that she can't control me anymore. And now we barely talk. I am far away from her now.
I told him "I know you tell all your friends that everything is my fault so they won't like me. I really don't care if they like me. I have my own friends." He doesn't answer. ". I constantly tell him that he should google narrcissism to understand his goofy behavior.
Exact same for me (38 yrs with NPD mother). And the most mind bending part about it- she's been able to manipulate EVERYONE (family and friends of the family) that I'm the problem and she's the victim. They fall for her every single time. The spell they are under is real.
Hearing your story broke my heart, you are a warrior I am so glad that you were able to garner all that courage to escape the brutality of your father. You are truly a warrior and an angel, my best wishes for you.
Woooo huni. My heart breaks for you and your experience. Trigger alert 🚨 I was picked up by my hair and thrown when I refused to argue. Woke up in ER missing front tooth. Dental work is expensive so if it weren't for the fact it was my literal front tooth I would've left it as is. Plus the bill for my porcelain crown only gave me mixed emotions considering the reason Sending you healing and🤗💔🩹 strength
You loose a tooth. My friend lost her child. She was beaten when she was pregnant. What was the mistake of this innocent soul who did not get a chance to see the world.
@@vajihaiqbal9762same😢 strangled,.loss of consciousness,. No air for the baby,. No tears from IT at the funeral,. Broken nose,.broken eye socket-cheek bone,.broken finger,.forced drugs,.. “Vengeance is Mine”sayeth the LORD” I will repay”😊❤❤️🔥
I'm a survivor too! Only someone who has been abused this way can understand the relief of finally being free. I am so proud of all of you for taking back your lives. And, I'm proud of myself too. It took 4 years to get divorced from him and I suffered every abuse imaginable. I am finally free. I've been discarded and couldn't be happier about that!
This is exactly why I was discarded. I showed my nark that I was not going to be controlled or manipulated. These people are very vindictive. Fearlessness is a threat to them. If you are in a relationship with these people, get out ! The situation only gets worse the longer you stay! Things can go from bad to worse within seconds. It's difficult for third parties to identify their behavior. They are master manipulators and sway people to side with them without getting to their true nature.
If you stand your ground they will not be able to do anything. Trust me. I went through this with a raging sociopathic narcissist. As soon as i was in harmony with my being they were scared endless. You are able to paralize and expose them! Never be afraid, never give up! All will be worth it!
The part your father missed was that everyone already knew he was the offender, the provoker, and they admired you for standing up to him. If I'm mistaken, at least your subscribers admire and respect you for breaking free from your father's abuse. You are a great leader, Danish, and an inspiration to us all. Thank you.
Thank you Danish❣️. So true. I set a boundary, was screamed at and left in the car on the side of the road 🙄. I'm not sure how he could play that off as being the victim, other than I stood up for myself, and "didn't shut the F up" as instructed. I'm out. I am so grateful, and more fearless every day. Thank you for sharing your story.
Being discarded by a narcissist is the best thing that could ever happen to a person. Having a narcissist show interest in you is the most dangerous thing because sometimes it means they have identified you as someone who is weak minded enough to manipulate. You do not want this! I divorced one after being together for 8 years. I'm going no contact when I move out.... That is the only safety.
I don't know about 'weak minded', but they usually go for genuine and good people, people who can empathise with their fake sob stories, and also people who can add to their image - like someone young or beautiful
That’s the point, it’s exhausting to play these mind games . Most normal people want to relax as they age, live a life that is easy , honest and helpful to self and others .. to deal with a narcissist one has to constantly become active in playing mind games , guessing the next move. This video has been very validating 👌
@@sophiasdreamquinnblue8977with a narcissistic people you can't even watch a movie in realax. Watch a romance drama movie with him. Guess what after watching the movie he told me why you never love me like those women in that movie. I was be like what??? He became moody for hours and refuse to speak. I don't even understand is that my fault if he feels so, in that time have no clue and information about what narcissistic it is. Now when I know and get all the information I just feel disappointed to myself why I just not simply leave his drama crap at that time. They're so annoying drama king/queen and want us to worship them...
Sharing ur harrowing, deeply personal experience here, Danish, I can only say that you are a spiritual war hero unmatched here on earth: how u managed to confront ur narc father with all his demonic mental and physical rage, leaving him as a wounded, pitiful animal but he, still insisting that he inflict you to the point of annihilation is nothing short of God's desire to set you free once and for all! You defeated and rebuked the devil and are now divinely protected, as you broke the family's dark/evil generational curse of narcissism! Ur ancestors and ur viewers deeply love and are humbly grateful to you, Danish, for fighting the good fight and winning! Ur suffering and perseverance brought you, ur ancestors, ur family and we, ur viewers, our freedom! (big heart)
I listen to many narcissism videos but yours is cut above what I have heard before. Thank you for sharing. I went through all the stuff you talked about. The silent treatment, the discard, the smear campaign, for me even spiritual attacks through black magic. I thank God all his plans fail and now he is quiet and looks at me with amazement when ever he sees me. That was my brother.
He thought he was tough when I was a child because children cannot defend themselves; but if he only knew how capable and strong I am as an adult. Much more than he knows.
I am so shocked to hear this as I am going through these things daily in my life because I live with a narcissist...and the pain is hitting me too hard. Just don't know how to deal with it... whenever I get fearless I have been punched, slapped and kicked. I am now in fear. This video helped me to understand their rage is to get maximum supply just for them to live a life they want!
I understand your suffering , please silently and slowly start making your way out of that situation. Tiny silent planning one day at a time. Good Luck.
@eswari lingam it’s really bad being with them. Are you from tamilnadu india? Just guessing from your name though. In india no one understand about this evil people. It’s heart breaking. Please get out of this as soon as possible
Remember everyone (including you) deserve respect and feeling safe. Start cultivate self love and selfceare. Find a photo of a little child you're. Protect her by not reacting to narcissist's behavior as much as you can. His is a parasite living off your emotional reaction. Seek friendship with safe people. PLan secretly escape. Take your time. Secure financial resources, place documents etc. Maybe there is a shelter when you can hide? Always remember, whatever his disappointment is, this is his problem, Not yours. 🙏❤ sending your virtual hug. Keep educating yourself on this mental illness, but never call him a narcissist. don't argue with narc, because you will never will.
@@rozdoyle8872 this is excellent advice. Put away money if you can, and if you have a safe hiding place, journal the abuse. Knowing you’re making steps, however small, towards getting out of the situation can really help your strength, and give you quiet (undisplayed) confidence in yourself while you’re in survival mode. Good luck, and I hope you stay safe ❤️
Yes, they keep coming after me using religious system as flying monkeys to harassing me by proxy. They infiltrate your workplace so to cause huge damage. I’m surviving not yet thriving! When you live in a religious country you know what is a narcissistic superstructure!
100%true!! My ex did this and everything else! He physically tried to hurt me and my boyfriend ( now fiance) I was willing to go through hell and live in a cardboard box rather than stay with my abusive husband of 12 years. His abusive escalated with each passing year. Watching him hurt my kids was more than I could take. Court dates galore, criminal trials, restraining orders, cops being called daily, losing all my "friends " to his smear campaign , almost being killed was still better than living one more day under the same roof as him. The saddest part was my ex continuing to hurt our kids in order to hurt me. He definitely achieved total destruction, but God is good and he helped me rebuild my life. I found a wonderful man who treats me like a queen. I didn't even know a man was capable of treating me so well. God is continuing to help me daily, but PTSD is no joke. It is a constant battle. I hope you all find your happiness with God helping you fight your battles 🙏 God bless you
God bless you sister! You are encouraging me as I have just stood up to my abusive covert narc sister and she sent flowers to bribe me the next day but I will give them to a neighbour and stick to my guns. My dad is also a narc and abuses my mum, I have tried to help and encourage her to change things but she is stuck there and when I try to help her, I get abused by him too. They already try to get my boyfriend on side whenever I set a boundary so it is hard. The PTSD from the trauma bond and the fear is hard but God will get me through.
Im so sorry what your dad has done to you 😢 You created an amazing education channel where you are able to speak out of your trauma what he caused, and now you help other people. Your dad should be proud of you! I feel you, just managed to get away from my toxic relationship. Your channel helped me a lot. God bless you 🙏🏽
Bless you Danish. This is such a difficult topic for outsiders to understand. Danish, YOU have claimed victory for yourself, and now you are helping us other survivors learn to find victory for ourselves, and regain our self-respect. You have accomplished something huge here. You turned your own personal tragedy into a tool to help others. You are amazing because you describe these things so clearly and plainly. You are helping me so much. You’re even helping me more than my own therapist is able to do, even though she is a very very good therapist. Thank you.
I’m so proud of you having the courage to go to battle and fight. I’m the scapegoat of a covert narc mother and standing up, calling it out as an adult and the venom is terrifying. I can’t believe how scary she still is, just like childhood but now, I know and I’m an adult.
I am in the process of attempting to find a way to recover from marital abuse. I have gotten physically away, at least for now, and I am suffering greatly in my heart, and you are helping me understand what has happened. Thank you so much for helping us.
It took taking a trip abroad that I recognized I could overcome my fears. That the abuse inflicted upon my children and me (even the dog) had to end. This change of mindset unleashed a new hell until I escaped. The grieving phase that comes with overcoming your fears is hard. Many times I almost reverted to how things used to be out of habit and had to fight against it.
Bless you Danish. I’m sure you are bringing awareness to many a souls and saving many lives. I’m in this marriage for 38 years and faced everything and have survived without knowing there’s something known as narccism. I am on the way of becoming fearless and your videos are a big help.
You just described my relationship with my ex husband. At the time I didn’t realize, but watching videos like this has helped me understand. He was controlling and angry and yelled and put me down. Ot got physical along with the mental abuse and isolation. I finally left, and he tried to get me back with being nice and promises. But when I said I wasn’t going back, he blamed me, said I was crazy, and said, “Yoire dead to me”! Ot hurt at the time, but thanks to you, I now know why. He also smeared me to others, saying I was a wh*re and tht I went crazy and left him. He took all he could from me in the divorce. Ot was so horrible tht my mind blocked out a lot of it. It’s very hard to recover from that kind of abuse.
Sounds like my ex! All they did to u was done to me. And when I left him I was the whore n the witch of the story. While he was the one who beat me down always, played with my mind always, lowered my self esteem, traumatized my kids, made my life miserable, then played the good husband and then back to the mean devil he was every other weekend, It was a circular cycle like that for 17 years till I left 5months ago. But now I'm the bad one, the one who left him homeless n stranded, while here I am all messed up with all the damage he did to me and my kids
@@crystalsanchez5720 I am sorry for what you have been through. My story is similar in some ways. Married for 16 years, did everything I could but still treat me like trash. Worse, he taught our children not to respect me, still using them against me now. And he told everyone: including Facebook that I am the bad one. Yet he was the one who took everything and left, filed divorce and demanded child support.
Amazing listening to this, spot on, it’s like you told my life for the past 17 yrs (3 yrs with the narcissist but I was deeply wounded that he used my son in his rage to revenge on me) with the narcissist I married and had one child with (he stole him from me through the court system). He did threaten me when I called the police on him when he choked me and he said that he’d do ANYTHINGto take my son Away from me if I leave him. I ended up with my son on a women’s shelter and after three weeks of stay there the narcissist dropped a report on me to the child protective services that I abused our son). After that I lost the protection at the women’s shelter and the horrible court battling for four years were mentally exhausting and I was very depressed and disappointed in whom I married when I actually saw rd flags. Don’t thing for a second you will change someone to become a good person, they will not. You get what you see in the beginning. Leaving him was like leaving 10000 demons but regarding me little son back then 2,5 year I will never get over it. I have not seen my son for 13,5 yrs nor spoken with him because of the narcissist. The legal system believed him but I was discarded. I just will never get over this and I am reminded many times a day each and every day. My poor baby, I am so sad that an innocent child were used by him in this process to get even on me for leaving the narcissist due to mental and physical abuse, it was the nightmare of my life.
Oh my goodness! The same exact thing happened to me many years ago. To this day, it haunts me how I could have ever been with such an evil person. He was an attorney and abused me in the court system. He took my daughter away from just to punish me for leaving him. To this day, I have no contact with my daughter because she believed all of his lies and thought I had abandoned her. She inherited all of his demonic narcissistic traits. I’ve been listening to so many UA-cam videos and I’m so happy that I escaped. I’m older now but have a quiet, peaceful life. 😊
THANK YOU for confirming that the narc will try to take away children for revenge. My mother did this. I got my child back within 6 weeks, but my precious daughter went through so much. It almost killed me, too. Some things can never be repaired.
He has no flying monkeys. He has been exposed to everyone because he has hurt everyone in his life. I found a text from his best friend saying that he doesn’t want anything further to do with him after so many years. I am all that he has now. And I have absolutely no fear and understand the assignment finally.
Hello Danish, love the cat! So pretty. I am now completely fearless, and my mother in law can’t stand it. I don’t post on social media anymore, I only talk to my love ones in person or individual text. She still stalks my FB and messenger. That’s how she used to control me. I turned on my active status accidentally the other day. For less than a minute and she flooded me with stuff. Long story there, and as recent as yesterday. In this life, so much pressure to have every single social media platform, and post pictures of all your favorite moments. I’m fine with only You Tube. Danish , I’m so sorry for what your dad put you through as a kid. Thank you so much for your knowledge and experience!
Jesus said, perfect love casts out all fear. Stop leaning on the narcissist to give you love that you can only get from yourself. Be filled from WITHIN, not from without as does the narcissist
Not only from yourself but from God first. For He is the one who fills our hearts and Heals us from whatever made us hate ourselves and feel undeserving in the first place.
I know from my experience in having been narcissisticly abused by my sister that the need for control, at least in some cases, is due to insecurity and anxiety. She also hated me, which it took her drunkenly attacking me a few times to get. I still don't know why, but that's because I know I was there for her when no one else was. Perhaps the fact that no one else was around, and I didn't go around making a big about being her older sister (by only 10 months!) is why she found that so easy to dismiss, or perhaps its just because she always let me know how superior to me she always thought herself to be. I'll likely never know, because I stopped contact after her gaslighting me when I was providing her with child care support every week. Her response? She perjured herself in order to punish me for taking care of MYSELF first. Nobody needs abuse from those they support. She never supported me once.
@@Thriverforall Looking back on it, I took LOT of abuse before I finally had it. She and her husband, quite comfortable, are now in the process of making our father's widow's life difficult with a lawsuit. They "respected" our father, until they no longer had to put on a show of it. Now their true colors are blighting others.
You each and every word is true. At point number 5, taking revenge is one of the core natures, they use everything like finance, your child also. The same I am facing
My husband attacked me in his rage, and I ended up in psychiatric care with major depression on medication. That is when he stopped physical abuse because he knew the psychiatrist will report him to police. Chicken shit. I didn't know about narcissism back then. I blamed his madness on him not being able to find a good job. Once he found a good job, he got cancer and died. I was devastated cause I thought he would have changed. Later on I went through emotional and mental abuse from sibling and that's when I found out about narcissism and finally understood what hell I went through. God will give you the same problems until you learn your lesson.
I'm seven months out from leaving 34 year marriage with covert narcissist coming from a childhood as a scapegoat from narcissist mother and facing a tortutous divorce court. I've been doing so much healing and research in preparation but I've just discovered Danish and I'm overwhelmed by how much I am resonating and learning from his teachings. Thank you 🙏
Darnish I have seen numerous video on narcissim but nothing like your experiences. Its real and actual mindset, behaviour of narcissist. Its a disorder and needs awareness. Continue your good work
Stay strong brother and God Bless ! Only people who have been raised by a narc would understand all of this . thank you for spreading this message . Whoever is watching this video and can relate to all this stay strong and you are awesome and beautiful the way you are . Believe in yourself and break out from this situation .
Ive also noticed that my fearlessness causes them anger when its directed at a situation, that doesnt concern them, but would frighten them, they become angry and controlling because they would be frightened.... So im thinking that they are pretty fearful - as for what youve said here - soo true!
Survived extreme narcissism from 2019 to 2021. The narcissistic manipulated me into believing that I wasn't successful or happy with my life, then went behind my back talking shit and spreading lies, later bullied, abused, falsely accused and mentally harassed me by projecting their false assumptions on my character, career and overall personality. Your video is very relatable and informative.
Thanks for sharing… I’ve been dealing with gangstalking, open harassment in public and the work place, Gaslighting, etc. I believe it’s due to my confidence in myself that a former employer lied on me to get me implemented into a government black listing protocol. Slandering my character creating public shame for no reason at all. Simply because they dislike the person that I am. Calling me a terrorist- when I don’t have any history of this activity and an extremist- because I stand up against their racism. This video has a powerful message. Thank you for sharing.. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Thanks for telling the personal story, about your father. I went through something similar My youngest brother pitted our parents against his siblings. That brother is a champion liar and we all know now. My parents have passed on and several siblings of my younger brother figured him out. He is so pathetic. It will never change. He is 57 years old. Narcissists do get worse with age.
Thank you so much! I really needed to hear these things because Im dealing w 2 very toxic people in my life. I cant stop sleeping 10hrs plus daily. I get smeared daily and told what a bad person I am. Because your motivational videos I feel very grounded. God Bless you!
WOW! I've never heard this side of narcissism before and I can give examples for everything you've said. My mother told me at 17 that she didn't love me bc you can't love someone who isn't afraid of anything. Almost 20 years later I still remember the quote exactly bc I found it so odd. And thanks to you I FINALLY understand it. I want to express my thanks to you, truly, having insight on the exact story that happened to me feels so good. ❤ you're the best!
First I want to say I am so sorry this happened to you. You are amazing to come out of that toxic storm a strong and empowering person. Thank you for devoting your career in helping others through your devastating experience. You are a true testament I can survive this excruciating pain my family has caused. Thank you so much! You are a life saver! I have such a problem in keeping cool under these situations. My rage against my brothers lies, disrespecticful reactions, negating me, ignoring my request for information, gaslighting…..i become enraged and I look like the crazy enraged person. I am working on running my brain on my logic. I keep saying and I write down goals I need to address and stick to those goals as he throws everything and anything at me. He knows I’m an extreme empath and he uses that against me. I think EMDR is helping me retrain my brain to not overreact, feel wrong, or believe his lies.
Oh my god , Danish , now we know you understand this community, who is going through or gone through torture God bless you You are helping so many of us .
Hi Danish. You're literally talking about my husband and atm he's giving me silent treatment as he has done multiple times in the past. I'm proud of you honestly for coming out of it. I can relate to your past situation bcz my children go through that with my husband too. I'm so done now and want peace more than anything. The fear is real and as you said, idk what he'll do once I declare that I want myself out....
I AM SO SORRY THAT YOU HAD TO GO THROUGH THAT BASHAR... BUT PLEASE KNOW THAT GOD HEALED AND RESTORED YOU TO BE A BLESSING AND A TEACHER THANK YOU, I SO APPRECIATE YOU!
Thank you for sharing your past I have already been through most of this it took me eight years now and about a year ago for Christmas I stood up and boy did it scare her now I was married for 38 years to this lady and I am now beginning to see every day more and more what was happening
Omg! you are 100% × 4 correct on all counts. The pettiness and baiting becomes exhausting and your anger starts to chip in. You have to hold on to yourself as not to give them supply. Thank you for keeping me motivated.
So sorry that you went through all of that. My dad was the same. I'm going through this with my sister-in-law. Everything you are saying is RIGHT on!!! She's on a smear campaign against me right now.
Danish, you just wear that scar like a medal. That's your permanent mark of your courage and strength. We all have scars on the INSIDE, for sure-- but sometimes we have no choice to wear them on the outside. I would rather have a scar than to be another minute spent in narcissistic abuse.
I can so relate. Just yesterday I had to yet again but a boundary in place with my ex spouse who was using our 6 year old as a go between vessel of communication. Firm boundary in the form of a text. After doing this continuously with different topics over the past 2 years, it has become easier to do and the reaction from his end is almost gone. I personally love the silent treatment (separated for 4 years now) as it is so peaceful on my end.
Thank you Denish for this VDO. I'm going through exactly just that. The narcissists (him, his girlfriend and his parents) are attacking me hard using the legal system. It is so important to remind yourself that you're solid inside and are aware of what these narcissists are up to. I am keeping sane despite all the difficulties I'm going through. Your brilliant video is a big help. Thank you.
please make sure your atty knows all about this. there are lawyers just for dealing with narcs and if the Judge is aware of this they will side with you. most Judges wont tolerate a narcissist. good luck!
Cant thank you enough for your words of wisdom Danish! You've helped guide me for two years. Each step, I learned from you. I took steps back and steps forward. Went from baby steps to bigger steps. You never gave up on us. You have changed a persons life. Thank you.
Love seeing this awareness and awakening. Come across many different cultures! It’s time to pull the covers off these vile creatures, everywhere in the world. It’s time for us to take the world back for humanity.
First and second husbands were Narcissist, wanted money, possessions and every thing they could get! The flying monkeys were all set up to harm me mentally. Good thing my religious leaders were ready for my support and didn't cause me problems. The husbands kept taunting me. It's all over now, 10 years for first and one year for the second. First one threatened me, second one had violent tendency in front of me and I left with in the 30 minutes. Thank you Danish, you are another wonderful person to teach us recovery and healing!
That's how my covert narcissistic mother had me my entire life, i wasn't able to separate from her she had me glued to her, no matter how many times i tried to leave she would make sure she controlled my every move, thank goodness she's out of my life forever!
How very very far you have come in ur journey, Danish! Could anyone be more inspiring than you and your experience dealing with these monsters. No therapist can match the richness of ur story in their practice. The narc recovery community is stronger due to you. ❤ Be fearless!
You're a strong man Danish, sorry to hear about your upbringing, I do hope you have got some family around you. Thankyou for all you do for us in showing us we aren't alone in this. X
Exactly narcissist behaviour traits...through ur videos we recognize a narcissist..it helps a lot..thank u so much..sometimes we don't understand who is our frienmy...they show they care for us n behind our back they jealous of us n want to destroy our life in all manipulative ways. .They treat u as option but want them as ur number one priority.. They treat u as u r their slave in relationship... Make u feel guilty for the mistake which u haven't done...never overpower them n control by them.. Set ur boundaries n dont accept their every proposal.. They r frenemy ... A friend who is enemy behind ur back...
I am so thankful for Danish. I watch everyday and I have no doubts now that I am with a narcissistic. It sure does help to know that people out there can relate to what I'm going through thank you so much
Thank you so much Danish. This video is extremely helpful in understanding. I am currently preparing to face the Narcissistic rage of someone whom I have exposed in front of all.
This was a helpful reflection. I have been dealing with covert Narcissist abuse and seeing how if I cannot be attacked then they attack the people around me or develop these over the top lies about who I am as a person. The best defense I have is being myself and allowing other people to notice it but it can be scary when random people assert that I would be harmed when I stand up for myself. I am brave and ready if they want to follow through because my liberty is greater then my fear
Danish you nailed it. My mother is just like your Dad. She smeared and defamed me from the time I was a kid. She even poisoned my Dad's mind. She has used legal system against me ,it's sad that people believe these evil people.
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They are cowards actually.
True
They sure are!
True dat!
@@jbrown2908spineless
This is the truth
They dont want a partner. They want you to WORSHIP THEM
This!
Or they want a prisoner because they need someone to abuse, someone to take out all their aggression on. Sadism is strong in many narcs.
Not only You, They also want your parents to worship him😅🤣🤣🤣
Only people who have gone through this abuse can understand how much courage is needed to stand up.
The guilt, shame and fear they instill since our birth numbs us.
Edit: Thanks for the likes, but it is a sad reality to see so many souls go and going through this pain.
@@jbrown2908
Yes, even if we are old.
I love to get there.
this what i experiences with narc mother want to get out ,now in the phase of she used all her flying mongkeys against me, drain my money cant get out to move or leaving elsewhere but with her
@@ratna5677
😩 Yes, this is their goal, plan and work from the start of the relationship. We realize after we lose. They use our TRUST in them and manipulate until we become nothing. Society needs to wake up. They support parents and not children.
@@jbrown2908
It is so very painful because these are our innermost family circle. When they betray us completely and when we cut them off, we have to be alone. Bringing someone from the outer circle into our inner world is hard. This is a complete collapse of our inner circle. That empty space will remain empty for the rest of our life. Extremely difficult to cope or for anyone to understand.
We can stand alone and rebuild alone. But at some point in life we need that someone to be there for us.
Since BIRTH!
It's a blessing to be discarded or abandoned by the narcs.
That's God protection. He tried to made me pregnant so I won't leave him. But he failed so many times. That's really a God protection I'm not getting pregnant so he can't control me. He ended up cheated on me with 3 different women and have a child each. I just be Oke dude that's a good information finally I got a real reason to leave you. Ok bye NEXT
"As an empath you are rooted in truth and honesty"
And , they say where the Problem or where delusional you don't know what you're Talking about
Cause we know how there actions says everything about them .
@@Official.marquisdesean4 and call YOU the Narcissist and THEY are the empath
That is the most truthful statement I have ever heard..
@@therealericjackdanielsI experienced that too where narcissistic calling me narcissistic even I am an empathetic person. It's so worst 😢
“Your rage is honest” ❤ I’ve never thought about this before. But you are so right. Our rage is honest, their rage is manipulative. Honest rage is something that they don’t understand.
That's a very empowering statement isn't it? Honest rage. Justified rage. Often, lonely rage. Rage nonetheless 😤
They actually have NO CONTROL. Only false control.
A person who has practically experienced this and survived narcism can only be able to guide and help others ! Thanks Danish for helping other people who are suffering ❤ You are strong person
Agreed. Danish is one of the VERY BEST.
Stand up to narcissist family members and it's just more of what you've already experienced. Just more overt lies, silent treatment, smear campaign, stonewalling. As Danish explained every bad behavior of theirs just gets intensified. They love being and playing the victim, when they in fact, were the monsters.
We're all up for walking through fire 🔥and surviving it all after having successfully dealt with these morons!
Yes, thank you so much Danish 🙏❤️
Totally agree
Being discarded by a narcissist is the most devastating. The lies and smear campaigns are unbelievable. They really leave a hole in your social circles.😢
Keep going. Make a new life for yourself.
Yk if the people you trust believe the lies the narcissist tells in their snear campaign then they were never true to begin with
@@SatanenPerkeleand that's what they fail to realise. Once they take everything from you, there's nothing more they can hurt you with. Not the victory they hoped for.
Going thru this
Those social circle are nothing but narcissistic flying monkeys
Standing up to a monster is not an easy thing to do. My father just like yours. We have a lot to be proud of.
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My father too ❤
They’re mice not men. Don’t fear them and they’ll fear you.
Very true. It's not easy. If one doesn't know what Narcissism is. Once you know all the traits of a Narc, it's very easy.
And MOSTLY IMPORTANTLY Never call a Narc a Narc. Never UTTER that word. Or else your magic is gone. He'll call you a Narc and believe it. And he'll start his narrative.
What if both your parents are narcissistic. Even after I took a step they are harassing me by attack my friends
Perfectly said. FEAR. Keeps the victim stuck in the drama. Shatter fear. Calm mind, cool voice, unfazed appearance and genuine detachment- steps for breaking out. YES - PROJECTION is their favorite weapon 👌
Projection!!!! So true.
You are brilliant! I left domestic violence against my young children and myself. You describing your father is what I got from my husband and father to my children. I was with him for 17 years. He destroyed me. I'm now a single parent, to 8 year old twins. The boys and I are now settled, peaceful and happy. It has taken 18 months for our souls to heal. Thank you Danish.
Hugs to you. You are a strong woman. God bless you and the boys ♥️
I have a 6month old kid my husband is narcissistic and physically abusive am trying to leave pls pray for me and my kid.. i have no family no money and no job but I will figure it out god will help me give me strength I can't take it anymore.
Sister ur situation gives me hope hope ur and kids are doing fine now.. god bless u and children.
How fortunate for you to not only know about and understand this wicked behavior but to get away and heal so quickly... I'm a grandmother who had to study this for the last 5 yrs just to be able to wrap my mind around it but now that I have, I'm in the healing process while living in my car. Our 2 grown children were taught by dad, a malignant narcissist, and now both have decided this is the way they'll go... using every tactic they saw, heard him use. I live for my Grandchild and pray I'm here for her future since my daughter is an extreme narc.
God bless you❤ you are an inspiration to me.
Exactly! I used to be sad when the narc left, now I’m happy that they’re gone….I feel like saying to them, “don’t threaten me with a good time!” Lol 😂 Their rejection is definitely God’s protection! Stay strong & keep moving on!✨💪🏽🤩💪🏽✨
My husband is a narcissistic, and after 6 years of trauma, I have finally decided to divorce him.
Your message was really helpful...
Good sooner the better
Stay strong. Know that you are loved and supported by others you’ve never met. May you be open to receive many blessings as you move forward.❤
I look up to you! I give me strength to move forward and find peace and courage.
Same is happening to me for the past 18 years. Times n again, I have forgiven him but he tells me it is him who has forgiven me. Don't know how to escape, with 4 kids under my care!
@@aminashahid7577I guess you are luckier than me. My ex took all 3 children away from me and act like it is all my fault. The damages he had brainwashed them is just over my imagination….
"Your rage is honest, it is transparent"
I love you for that, man. Hugs. I wish you more strength!
I really felt that as well
Last part is the best. They should be afraid of you. You have empathy, you are grounded in reality, you can grow, you can heal. But they can't. They are not worth to be afraid of.
Narc parents are the worst nightmare you can ever have in your life. They will make your life a hell especially if you are a minor person. It's hard to escape when the victims doesn't have enough courage, financial support, etc.
My mom is now 80. She controlled my dad until his death. I became her caregiver and took over my dad's role. She displayed all the narcissistic signs my entire life. I have taken her abuse for my whole life. Now she upped the horror by treating me like my father was. Finally, after 5 yrs of this abuse, I have taken my power back. All the things you stated she is doing. I had to decide to distance myself from some family & friends. They seem to believe her crap. It has been difficult. I don't have the strength to continually combat the lies they seem to believe. I do feel better in my soul, but at times, it still hurts.
I am so sorry you are going through this. I stepped way back when it came to my parents care. I had my own children to look after. I was the black sheep, so my parents only wanted my brother first, my sister second to care for them. The parents have now passed. I tried to tell my siblings about the abuse I experienced, but they are in denial. At that point, I went no contact.
everyone who liked your comment has too much to say. living with that person who was always a BCH and who had you on eggshells for NO reason in old age is NOT FUN. these people are nasty - and putting on a show to others. it's unbelievable. this unaffectionate entity started the sleeve of my coat when we were chatting with relatives at a funeral - WTF?? WHEN has she ever touched me? never. and she's so damn old, putting up this front. It's crazy. She's MEAN and the meanest stuff comes out of her mouth and yet she's got the most pleasant situation and care. ugh.
It always hurts ! That’s cause we are empathetic! I don’t want to loose that !
Other people who believed her one-sided story are called flying monkeys. If she can’t manipulate you, she manipulates other people and how they see you. She will make it seems like it’s you alone against the whole world. She gaslights you and makes you question yourself. Don’t fall into that trap. You value yourself and many loved ones also know who you are and love you. Stay away from narcissists and flying monkeys, even if they happen to be yr biological mother or relatives. You have a choice of your own life.
80years she doesn't have much time to live,if I were you I would played my role to the end as a godly daughter and receive your blessings for sacrificing for her...there is a reward for filial love .
THIS was the purpose of your suffering. to share the wisdom you gained from this experience. to heal others who are suffering from the same situation.
Thanks for sharing. These people are pure evil. There's no remorse, no shame in them, just a massive, fragile ego that can never be satiated. I was fearless and got a nasty smear campaign in return. When he started threatening the people who still talked to me despite the smear campaign, it backfired on him. There is some karma in the end, but you have to be strong and hold out no matter what they do. Thanks again.
Totally! when you experience the smear campaign, you feel your whole world is collapsing around you... But time does it works and you see all the karma/ back fire and how they are finally shut down by the same persons they thought turned on "their side".They were overwhelmed by the first results of the smear campaign, but over time they are not so good at keeping their half truth or complete lies straight! People start to notice the voids and the inconsistancies between how they painted you and the real you.... It does take time but it always happens and eventually it matches the last stop of your own healing journey, and you can feelin peace and see the good in this creepy experience. Whether you realize this or not, it helped you to clear your world from a whole bunch of toxic people you surrounded your self with and then make room for much healthier people & relationships! xxx
@@DharmaK-w2e Narcissists are like silly children. They say, "I wanna be naughty... and I don't wanna get caught!" What is missed by them is the fact they live in an adult world, that they can't even perceive. They make asses of themselves and their denial numbs them from the truth all around them. No amount of lying makes the mountains, rain and hills disappear. Why do narcissists delude themselves they have power they don't have? I think it is because they are weak and the one person who they want to hide reality from is themselves. The rest of us are just representatives of the great truth of reality. We are no threat to the narcissist, he is his own threat to himself. The silly narcissist only dreams he can have power over things no mortal can ever have power over. Reality conquers all in the end, he will learn, willingly or not.
Thanks for the advice I need it.
Glad to help. Learn all you can about narcissists and apply this knowledge. This helped me and it should help you, too.@@gloriavis
Remember: Anger is secondary to Fear. It's false bravado. They're bluffing. They are more scared of you, than you are of them.
Anyone who asks why abuse women don’t just leave need to watch this video. No one can understand what these people will put you through, while being kind and charming to everyone else.
Google “trauma bonding”.
"they are stuck: that is their karma..." Well put! Thank you for this.
That's the material they are. They lack grey matter in the brain . Medically proven.
It was so satisfying to reach that point of fearlessness and they cannot control you anymore.
This message is spot on… they even take away your will to live. Everyone and everything is taken from you. you begin to lose sight of who you are. The tears and pain within feels unbearable ,you even begin to question if it’s you …when u feel like this , hold on tight it’s almost over. Just know it’s not you… my heart goes out to everyone whom dealt/dealing with this kind of trauma . May God give you strength , peace and comfort ❤
Your comment brought me to tears. It made me feel seen, so thank you. May God bless you and give you just as much love and space for healing. 🦋
I can totally relate. I've been feeling empty, I've been questioning, blaming myself for years, believing their words (it's my aunt and grandma) until the point I didn't know who I was or if the things i was living were true, a lie or i just made them up...
Thanks for your words. It's comforting to find someone who understands us. It's like we're not alone anymore, or at least I'm not as crazy as I thought. Thank u and the creator of this masterpiece
@@cynthia376love to you ❤❤❤ so bad when it’s in the family.
Spot on. It is God that brought me out of this relationship: detachments, when you don’t care about anything and no fear is how I am surviving.
Amen
FEAR is absolutely the major tool they use, and we don’t even recognise it we are so busy trying to please them to bring back the wonderful soulmate we believed them to be in the beginning. Overcoming our fear is not easy. But we do need to keep working on it. Overcoming the fear keeps us on the road to recovery.
This.
When I tried to make my parents understand about my narcissistic wife that a narc will never change, my parents asked me to focus me to concentrate on prayers, asking to pray/do pooja daily so the vibration will help her change.
This is how most Indian parent will react. Only a person who read or been through these things will understand your pain.
Prayers is not always to change others, but to change you to figure out how to leave that situation to experience true peace
In my religion
Good husband also only for good wife
If she evil, you still need to divorce her
Because evil husband only for evil wife
Pray will not help, god already want you to end this relationship
So what happened ? Did you leave her ?
Please tell me somehow you convinced your parents and yourself that she doesn't deserve you
A narcissist never ever changes, so you have to stay away from them for your own sake
@@edgar2457 i convinced my parents and moved from my wife for 2 months. She spoke to many of my relatives to manipulate that she is apologizing and asking for a 2nd chance but I'm adamant and not giving her a chance.
Due to this now ppl asked me to give her a last chance.
So i decided to stay a month together but i know she won't change and I'm not going to take more than a month there. I'm repulsive towards her.
@@shivasubbiaah yes please don't stay for long
Cuz she is not going to change, i am glad your parents undertsood you and I am glad you started showing your wife that she can't control you anymore. This is the best way to deal with a narcissist
My best friend is also a narcissist. She used and abused me a lot for 1 year, but after I understood her mind games, i showed her that she can't control me anymore. And now we barely talk. I am far away from her now.
I told him "I know you tell all your friends that everything is my fault so they won't like me. I really don't care if they like me. I have my own friends." He doesn't answer. ". I constantly tell him that he should google narrcissism to understand his goofy behavior.
It took me 38 years to understand narcissitic abuse
Thank you for this.
I suffered seriously in the hands of my narcisstic mother.
This is always so weird to me it take us so long to understand that ... And nobody will even believe when you tell about that.
@@LukiGames0 Nobody.
Exact same for me (38 yrs with NPD mother). And the most mind bending part about it- she's been able to manipulate EVERYONE (family and friends of the family) that I'm the problem and she's the victim. They fall for her every single time. The spell they are under is real.
32 years for me 😢
23 year's of life and I understand it very well had happened with me through my mom , my mom's sister and by my ex 🤍😊
Hearing your story broke my heart, you are a warrior
I am so glad that you were able to garner all that courage to escape the brutality of your father. You are truly a warrior and an angel, my best wishes for you.
I went through the violence, lost a tooth at the side of my mouth. I've never replaced it! It's my reminder of my strength & to never engage!
🙌🏼🌹
Woooo huni. My heart breaks for you and your experience.
Trigger alert 🚨
I was picked up by my hair and thrown when I refused to argue. Woke up in ER missing front tooth. Dental work is expensive so if it weren't for the fact it was my literal front tooth I would've left it as is. Plus the bill for my porcelain crown only gave me mixed emotions considering the reason
Sending you healing and🤗💔🩹 strength
You loose a tooth. My friend lost her child. She was beaten when she was pregnant. What was the mistake of this innocent soul who did not get a chance to see the world.
@@vajihaiqbal9762same😢 strangled,.loss of consciousness,. No air for the baby,. No tears from IT at the funeral,. Broken nose,.broken eye socket-cheek bone,.broken finger,.forced drugs,.. “Vengeance is Mine”sayeth the LORD” I will repay”😊❤❤️🔥
I'm a survivor too! Only someone who has been abused this way can understand the relief of finally being free. I am so proud of all of you for taking back your lives. And, I'm proud of myself too. It took 4 years to get divorced from him and I suffered every abuse imaginable. I am finally free. I've been discarded and couldn't be happier about that!
Lol
This is exactly why I was discarded. I showed my nark that I was not going to be controlled or manipulated. These people are very vindictive. Fearlessness is a threat to them. If you are in a relationship with these people, get out ! The situation only gets worse the longer you stay! Things can go from bad to worse within seconds. It's difficult for third parties to identify their behavior. They are master manipulators and sway people to side with them without getting to their true nature.
The x tried to poison me.
If you stand your ground they will not be able to do anything. Trust me. I went through this with a raging sociopathic narcissist.
As soon as i was in harmony with my being they were scared endless. You are able to paralize and expose them!
Never be afraid, never give up! All will be worth it!
They will run away. They are cowards! When confronted with TRUTH, they implode
The part your father missed was that everyone already knew he was the offender, the provoker, and they admired you for standing up to him. If I'm mistaken, at least your subscribers admire and respect you for breaking free from your father's abuse. You are a great leader, Danish, and an inspiration to us all. Thank you.
Yeah but not always the case. Relatives will say your parents are so nice and believe horrendous things they make up.
Thank you Danish❣️. So true. I set a boundary, was screamed at and left in the car on the side of the road 🙄. I'm not sure how he could play that off as being the victim, other than I stood up for myself, and "didn't shut the F up" as instructed. I'm out. I am so grateful, and more fearless every day. Thank you for sharing your story.
AWESOME
Being discarded by a narcissist is the best thing that could ever happen to a person. Having a narcissist show interest in you is the most dangerous thing because sometimes it means they have identified you as someone who is weak minded enough to manipulate. You do not want this! I divorced one after being together for 8 years. I'm going no contact when I move out.... That is the only safety.
I don't know about 'weak minded', but they usually go for genuine and good people, people who can empathise with their fake sob stories, and also people who can add to their image - like someone young or beautiful
@@wildgoose3958 I don't understand please explain me
@@wildgoose3958 I totally agree with this!!
That’s the point, it’s exhausting to play these mind games . Most normal people want to relax as they age, live a
life that is easy , honest and helpful to self and others .. to deal with a narcissist one has to constantly become active in playing mind games , guessing the next move. This video has been very validating 👌
No wonder why I am decent in mind game: because I lived with a narcissist.
so true!
Relax as they age. Yes, please. With a narc, impossible.
@@sophiasdreamquinnblue8977 yep, i totally see and understand that:
@@sophiasdreamquinnblue8977with a narcissistic people you can't even watch a movie in realax. Watch a romance drama movie with him. Guess what after watching the movie he told me why you never love me like those women in that movie. I was be like what??? He became moody for hours and refuse to speak. I don't even understand is that my fault if he feels so, in that time have no clue and information about what narcissistic it is. Now when I know and get all the information I just feel disappointed to myself why I just not simply leave his drama crap at that time. They're so annoying drama king/queen and want us to worship them...
I'm a NPD victim of a NPD parent. Now undergoing therapy. Struggling in all aspects of my life . I can definitely relate to all this
Don't ever give up❤
You're too weak lol
@@HDPersonalyou must be a Narcissist
@@kaoshi_kutie definitely. Quite boring too
@@HDPersonalThere’s something definitely wrong with you lol
Sharing ur harrowing, deeply personal experience here, Danish, I can only say that you are a spiritual war hero unmatched here on earth: how u managed to confront ur narc father with all his demonic mental and physical rage, leaving him as a wounded, pitiful animal but he, still insisting that he inflict you to the point of annihilation is nothing short of God's desire to set you free once and for all! You defeated and rebuked the devil and are now divinely protected, as you broke the family's dark/evil generational curse of narcissism! Ur ancestors and ur viewers deeply love and are humbly grateful to you, Danish, for fighting the good fight and winning! Ur suffering and perseverance brought you, ur ancestors, ur family and we, ur viewers, our freedom! (big heart)
I listen to many narcissism videos but yours is cut above what I have heard before. Thank you for sharing. I went through all the stuff you talked about. The silent treatment, the discard, the smear campaign, for me even spiritual attacks through black magic. I thank God all his plans fail and now he is quiet and looks at me with amazement when ever he sees me. That was my brother.
I’m so sorry that happened to you. 😢
My mother did the exact same thing. It’s absolutely brutal.
He thought he was tough when I was a child because children cannot defend themselves; but if he only knew how capable and strong I am as an adult. Much more than he knows.
I am so shocked to hear this as I am going through these things daily in my life because I live with a narcissist...and the pain is hitting me too hard. Just don't know how to deal with it... whenever I get fearless I have been punched, slapped and kicked. I am now in fear. This video helped me to understand their rage is to get maximum supply just for them to live a life they want!
I understand your suffering , please silently and slowly start making your way out of that situation. Tiny silent planning one day at a time. Good Luck.
@eswari lingam it’s really bad being with them. Are you from tamilnadu india? Just guessing from your name though. In india no one understand about this evil people. It’s heart breaking. Please get out of this as soon as possible
Remember everyone (including you) deserve respect and feeling safe. Start cultivate self love and selfceare. Find a photo of a little child you're. Protect her by not reacting to narcissist's behavior as much as you can. His is a parasite living off your emotional reaction. Seek friendship with safe people. PLan secretly escape. Take your time. Secure financial resources, place documents etc. Maybe there is a shelter when you can hide? Always remember, whatever his disappointment is, this is his problem, Not yours. 🙏❤ sending your virtual hug. Keep educating yourself on this mental illness, but never call him a narcissist. don't argue with narc, because you will never will.
@@rozdoyle8872 this is excellent advice. Put away money if you can, and if you have a safe hiding place, journal the abuse. Knowing you’re making steps, however small, towards getting out of the situation can really help your strength, and give you quiet (undisplayed) confidence in yourself while you’re in survival mode. Good luck, and I hope you stay safe ❤️
Yes, they keep coming after me using religious system as flying monkeys to harassing me by proxy. They infiltrate your workplace so to cause huge damage. I’m surviving not yet thriving! When you live in a religious country you know what is a narcissistic superstructure!
100%true!! My ex did this and everything else! He physically tried to hurt me and my boyfriend ( now fiance)
I was willing to go through hell and live in a cardboard box rather than stay with my abusive husband of 12 years. His abusive escalated with each passing year. Watching him hurt my kids was more than I could take. Court dates galore, criminal trials, restraining orders, cops being called daily, losing all my "friends " to his smear campaign , almost being killed was still better than living one more day under the same roof as him. The saddest part was my ex continuing to hurt our kids in order to hurt me. He definitely achieved total destruction, but God is good and he helped me rebuild my life. I found a wonderful man who treats me like a queen. I didn't even know a man was capable of treating me so well. God is continuing to help me daily, but PTSD is no joke. It is a constant battle. I hope you all find your happiness with God helping you fight your battles 🙏
God bless you
God bless you sister!
You are encouraging me as I have just stood up to my abusive covert narc sister and she sent flowers to bribe me the next day but I will give them to a neighbour and stick to my guns. My dad is also a narc and abuses my mum, I have tried to help and encourage her to change things but she is stuck there and when I try to help her, I get abused by him too.
They already try to get my boyfriend on side whenever I set a boundary so it is hard. The PTSD from the trauma bond and the fear is hard but God will get me through.
Im so sorry what your dad has done to you 😢
You created an amazing education channel where you are able to speak out of your trauma what he caused, and now you help other people.
Your dad should be proud of you!
I feel you, just managed to get away from my toxic relationship.
Your channel helped me a lot.
God bless you 🙏🏽
Bless you Danish. This is such a difficult topic for outsiders to understand.
Danish, YOU have claimed victory for yourself, and now you are helping us other survivors learn to find victory for ourselves, and regain our self-respect.
You have accomplished something huge here. You turned your own personal tragedy into a tool to help others.
You are amazing because you describe these things so clearly and plainly. You are helping me so much. You’re even helping me more than my own therapist is able to do, even though she is a very very good therapist.
Thank you.
I’m so proud of you having the courage to go to battle and fight. I’m the scapegoat of a covert narc mother and standing up, calling it out as an adult and the venom is terrifying. I can’t believe how scary she still is, just like childhood but now, I know and I’m an adult.
Use whatever you have at your disposal when that day comes🤳💯
I am in the process of attempting to find a way to recover from marital abuse. I have gotten physically away, at least for now, and I am suffering greatly in my heart, and you are helping me understand what has happened. Thank you so much for helping us.
It took taking a trip abroad that I recognized I could overcome my fears. That the abuse inflicted upon my children and me (even the dog) had to end.
This change of mindset unleashed a new hell until I escaped. The grieving phase that comes with overcoming your fears is hard. Many times I almost reverted to how things used to be out of habit and had to fight against it.
Bless you Danish. I’m sure you are bringing awareness to many a souls and saving many lives.
I’m in this marriage for 38 years and faced everything and have survived without knowing there’s something known as narccism.
I am on the way of becoming fearless and your videos are a big help.
You just described my relationship with my ex husband. At the time I didn’t realize, but watching videos like this has helped me understand. He was controlling and angry and yelled and put me down. Ot got physical along with the mental abuse and isolation. I finally left, and he tried to get me back with being nice and promises. But when I said I wasn’t going back, he blamed me, said I was crazy, and said, “Yoire dead to me”! Ot hurt at the time, but thanks to you, I now know why. He also smeared me to others, saying I was a wh*re and tht I went crazy and left him. He took all he could from me in the divorce. Ot was so horrible tht my mind blocked out a lot of it. It’s very hard to recover from that kind of abuse.
You’re describing my situation!
Sounds like my ex! All they did to u was done to me. And when I left him I was the whore n the witch of the story. While he was the one who beat me down always, played with my mind always, lowered my self esteem, traumatized my kids, made my life miserable, then played the good husband and then back to the mean devil he was every other weekend, It was a circular cycle like that for 17 years till I left 5months ago. But now I'm the bad one, the one who left him homeless n stranded, while here I am all messed up with all the damage he did to me and my kids
@@crystalsanchez5720 I am sorry for what you have been through. My story is similar in some ways. Married for 16 years, did everything I could but still treat me like trash. Worse, he taught our children not to respect me, still using them against me now. And he told everyone: including Facebook that I am the bad one. Yet he was the one who took everything and left, filed divorce and demanded child support.
Cat knows the whole thing
Love it
Amazing listening to this, spot on, it’s like you told my life for the past 17 yrs (3 yrs with the narcissist but I was deeply wounded that he used my son in his rage to revenge on me) with the narcissist I married and had one child with (he stole him from me through the court system). He did threaten me when I called the police on him when he choked me and he said that he’d do ANYTHINGto take my son Away from me if I leave him. I ended up with my son on a women’s shelter and after three weeks of stay there the narcissist dropped a report on me to the child protective services that I abused our son). After that I lost the protection at the women’s shelter and the horrible court battling for four years were mentally exhausting and I was very depressed and disappointed in whom I married when I actually saw rd flags. Don’t thing for a second you will change someone to become a good person, they will not. You get what you see in the beginning. Leaving him was like leaving 10000 demons but regarding me little son back then 2,5 year I will never get over it. I have not seen my son for 13,5 yrs nor spoken with him because of the narcissist. The legal system believed him but I was discarded. I just will never get over this and I am reminded many times a day each and every day. My poor baby, I am so sad that an innocent child were used by him in this process to get even on me for leaving the narcissist due to mental and physical abuse, it was the nightmare of my life.
Oh my goodness! The same exact thing happened to me many years ago. To this day, it haunts me how I could have ever been with such an evil person. He was an attorney and abused me in the court system. He took my daughter away from just to punish me for leaving him. To this day, I have no contact with my daughter because she believed all of his lies and thought I had abandoned her. She inherited all of his demonic narcissistic traits. I’ve been listening to so many UA-cam videos and I’m so happy that I escaped. I’m older now but have a quiet, peaceful life. 😊
THANK YOU for confirming that the narc will try to take away children for revenge. My mother did this. I got my child back within 6 weeks, but my precious daughter went through so much. It almost killed me, too. Some things can never be repaired.
These lessons are so powerful and true they should be taught in every single school...
Chaotic and dramatic are extremely accurate when describing narcs. They are monsters and I will always fight. No more fear. These are devils.
He has no flying monkeys. He has been exposed to everyone because he has hurt everyone in his life. I found a text from his best friend saying that he doesn’t want anything further to do with him after so many years. I am all that he has now. And I have absolutely no fear and understand the assignment finally.
Hello Danish, love the cat! So pretty. I am now completely fearless, and my mother in law can’t stand it. I don’t post on social media anymore, I only talk to my love ones in person or individual text. She still stalks my FB and messenger. That’s how she used to control me. I turned on my active status accidentally the other day. For less than a minute and she flooded me with stuff. Long story there, and as recent as yesterday. In this life, so much pressure to have every single social media platform, and post pictures of all your favorite moments. I’m fine with only You Tube. Danish , I’m so sorry for what your dad put you through as a kid. Thank you so much for your knowledge and experience!
Jesus said, perfect love casts out all fear. Stop leaning on the narcissist to give you love that you can only get from yourself. Be filled from WITHIN, not from without as does the narcissist
Not only from yourself but from God first. For He is the one who fills our hearts and Heals us from whatever made us hate ourselves and feel undeserving in the first place.
I know from my experience in having been narcissisticly abused by my sister that the need for control, at least in some cases, is due to insecurity and anxiety. She also hated me, which it took her drunkenly attacking me a few times to get. I still don't know why, but that's because I know I was there for her when no one else was. Perhaps the fact that no one else was around, and I didn't go around making a big about being her older sister (by only 10 months!) is why she found that so easy to dismiss, or perhaps its just because she always let me know how superior to me she always thought herself to be. I'll likely never know, because I stopped contact after her gaslighting me when I was providing her with child care support every week. Her response? She perjured herself in order to punish me for taking care of MYSELF first. Nobody needs abuse from those they support. She never supported me once.
Same situation with my narc sister. Had to go no contact when it became so unbearable.
@@Thriverforall Looking back on it, I took LOT of abuse before I finally had it. She and her husband, quite comfortable, are now in the process of making our father's widow's life difficult with a lawsuit. They "respected" our father, until they no longer had to put on a show of it. Now their true colors are blighting others.
Yes same happened with me my narcissistic sister is hell
You each and every word is true. At point number 5, taking revenge is one of the core natures, they use everything like finance, your child also. The same I am facing
My husband attacked me in his rage, and I ended up in psychiatric care with major depression on medication. That is when he stopped physical abuse because he knew the psychiatrist will report him to police. Chicken shit. I didn't know about narcissism back then. I blamed his madness on him not being able to find a good job. Once he found a good job, he got cancer and died. I was devastated cause I thought he would have changed. Later on I went through emotional and mental abuse from sibling and that's when I found out about narcissism and finally understood what hell I went through. God will give you the same problems until you learn your lesson.
I'm seven months out from leaving 34 year marriage with covert narcissist coming from a childhood as a scapegoat from narcissist mother and facing a tortutous divorce court. I've been doing so much healing and research in preparation but I've just discovered Danish and I'm overwhelmed by how much I am resonating and learning from his teachings. Thank you 🙏
Darnish I have seen numerous video on narcissim but nothing like your experiences. Its real and actual mindset, behaviour of narcissist. Its a disorder and needs awareness. Continue your good work
Stay strong brother and God Bless ! Only people who have been raised by a narc would understand all of this . thank you for spreading this message . Whoever is watching this video and can relate to all this stay strong and you are awesome and beautiful the way you are . Believe in yourself and break out from this situation .
Ive also noticed that my fearlessness causes them anger when its directed at a situation, that doesnt concern them, but would frighten them, they become angry and controlling because they would be frightened.... So im thinking that they are pretty fearful - as for what youve said here - soo true!
Survived extreme narcissism from 2019 to 2021. The narcissistic manipulated me into believing that I wasn't successful or happy with my life, then went behind my back talking shit and spreading lies, later bullied, abused, falsely accused and mentally harassed me by projecting their false assumptions on my character, career and overall personality. Your video is very relatable and informative.
I can relate to your personal story, appreciate it. Great insights as always.
Thanks for sharing…
I’ve been dealing with gangstalking, open harassment in public and the work place, Gaslighting, etc. I believe it’s due to my confidence in myself that a former employer lied on me to get me implemented into a government black listing protocol. Slandering my character creating public shame for no reason at all. Simply because they dislike the person that I am. Calling me a terrorist- when I don’t have any history of this activity and an extremist- because I stand up against their racism. This video has a powerful message. Thank you for sharing..
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Thanks for telling the personal story, about your father. I went through something similar My youngest brother pitted our parents against his siblings. That brother is a champion liar and we all know now. My parents have passed on and several siblings of my younger brother figured him out. He is so pathetic. It will never change. He is 57 years old. Narcissists do get worse with age.
This is the best explanation of what a narcissist is and does I ever seen. Thank you so much for making this video. ❤
Thank you for your transparency and truth sharing what you've experienced. I appreciate your channel.
Thank you so much! I really needed to hear these things because Im dealing w 2 very toxic people in my life. I cant stop sleeping 10hrs plus daily. I get smeared daily and told what a bad person I am. Because your motivational videos I feel very grounded. God Bless you!
WOW! I've never heard this side of narcissism before and I can give examples for everything you've said.
My mother told me at 17 that she didn't love me bc you can't love someone who isn't afraid of anything. Almost 20 years later I still remember the quote exactly bc I found it so odd. And thanks to you I FINALLY understand it. I want to express my thanks to you, truly, having insight on the exact story that happened to me feels so good. ❤ you're the best!
What she really meant was : i do not love you because you are not scared of ME. 😉 amen
First I want to say I am so sorry this happened to you. You are amazing to come out of that toxic storm a strong and empowering person. Thank you for devoting your career in helping others through your devastating experience. You are a true testament I can survive this excruciating pain my family has caused. Thank you so much! You are a life saver!
I have such a problem in keeping cool under these situations. My rage against my brothers lies, disrespecticful reactions, negating me, ignoring my request for information, gaslighting…..i become enraged and I look like the crazy enraged person. I am working on running my brain on my logic. I keep saying and I write down goals I need to address and stick to those goals as he throws everything and anything at me. He knows I’m an extreme empath and he uses that against me. I think EMDR is helping me retrain my brain to not overreact, feel wrong, or believe his lies.
Oh my god , Danish , now we know you understand this community, who is going through or gone through torture
God bless you
You are helping so many of us .
Hi Danish. You're literally talking about my husband and atm he's giving me silent treatment as he has done multiple times in the past.
I'm proud of you honestly for coming out of it. I can relate to your past situation bcz my children go through that with my husband too. I'm so done now and want peace more than anything. The fear is real and as you said, idk what he'll do once I declare that I want myself out....
I AM SO SORRY THAT YOU HAD TO GO THROUGH THAT BASHAR... BUT PLEASE KNOW THAT GOD HEALED AND RESTORED YOU TO BE A BLESSING AND A TEACHER THANK YOU, I SO APPRECIATE YOU!
Be free, be fearless, be routed in your truth and have compassion. Much love to you all xxx
Thank you for sharing your past I have already been through most of this it took me eight years now and about a year ago for Christmas I stood up and boy did it scare her now I was married for 38 years to this lady and I am now beginning to see every day more and more what was happening
Omg! you are 100% × 4 correct on all counts. The pettiness and baiting becomes exhausting and your anger starts to chip in. You have to hold on to yourself as not to give them supply. Thank you for keeping me motivated.
Thank u so much! That’s my dad, bang on! I’m a grown man still dealing w this s**t. Thank you!
So sorry that you went through all of that. My dad was the same. I'm going through this with my sister-in-law. Everything you are saying is RIGHT on!!! She's on a smear campaign against me right now.
I'm so sorry to hear about your father. You are shedding great light into this topic. You described the feeling so well. Very helpful
Danish, you just wear that scar like a medal. That's your permanent mark of your courage and strength.
We all have scars on the INSIDE, for sure-- but sometimes we have no choice to wear them on the outside.
I would rather have a scar than to be another minute spent in narcissistic abuse.
I can so relate. Just yesterday I had to yet again but a boundary in place with my ex spouse who was using our 6 year old as a go between vessel of communication. Firm boundary in the form of a text. After doing this continuously with different topics over the past 2 years, it has become easier to do and the reaction from his end is almost gone. I personally love the silent treatment (separated for 4 years now) as it is so peaceful on my end.
Thank you Denish for this VDO. I'm going through exactly just that. The narcissists (him, his girlfriend and his parents) are attacking me hard using the legal system. It is so important to remind yourself that you're solid inside and are aware of what these narcissists are up to. I am keeping sane despite all the difficulties I'm going through. Your brilliant video is a big help. Thank you.
please make sure your atty knows all about this. there are lawyers just for dealing with narcs and if the Judge is aware of this they will side with you. most Judges wont tolerate a narcissist. good luck!
Cant thank you enough for your words of wisdom Danish! You've helped guide me for two years. Each step, I learned from you. I took steps back and steps forward. Went from baby steps to bigger steps. You never gave up on us. You have changed a persons life. Thank you.
Thanks for sharing your story Danish!
Set in the Indian context your Coachings are a true help.
Thanks for the support and guidance!🙏🏻
Love seeing this awareness and awakening. Come across many different cultures! It’s time to pull the covers off these vile creatures, everywhere in the world. It’s time for us to take the world back for humanity.
Spot on Truth. A narcissistic, despises truth
First and second husbands were Narcissist, wanted money, possessions and every thing they could get! The flying monkeys were all set up to harm me mentally. Good thing my religious leaders were ready for my support and didn't cause me problems. The husbands kept taunting me. It's all over now, 10 years for first and one year for the second. First one threatened me, second one had violent tendency in front of me and I left with in the 30 minutes. Thank you Danish, you are another wonderful person to teach us recovery and healing!
I hope you've decided to not get married again
I am going through with the 1st one. Your story is a good warning I may need to not remarry again.
That's how my covert narcissistic mother had me my entire life, i wasn't able to separate from her she had me glued to her, no matter how many times i tried to leave she would make sure she controlled my every move, thank goodness she's out of my life forever!
How very very far you have come in ur journey, Danish! Could anyone be more inspiring than you and your experience dealing with these monsters. No therapist can match the richness of ur story in their practice. The narc recovery community is stronger due to you. ❤ Be fearless!
You're a strong man Danish, sorry to hear about your upbringing, I do hope you have got some family around you. Thankyou for all you do for us in showing us we aren't alone in this. X
Exactly narcissist behaviour traits...through ur videos we recognize a narcissist..it helps a lot..thank u so much..sometimes we don't understand who is our frienmy...they show they care for us n behind our back they jealous of us n want to destroy our life in all manipulative ways. .They treat u as option but want them as ur number one priority.. They treat u as u r their slave in relationship... Make u feel guilty for the mistake which u haven't done...never overpower them n control by them.. Set ur boundaries n dont accept their every proposal.. They r frenemy ... A friend who is enemy behind ur back...
I am so thankful for Danish. I watch everyday and I have no doubts now that I am with a narcissistic. It sure does help to know that people out there can relate to what I'm going through thank you so much
Once he said horrible lies about me on facebook and, several times in public. For example at the checkout line at the grocery store. . So messed up
Absolutely true ,an experienced person really knows the pain and can guide well.
Thank you so much Danish. This video is extremely helpful in understanding. I am currently preparing to face the Narcissistic rage of someone whom I have exposed in front of all.
This was a helpful reflection. I have been dealing with covert Narcissist abuse and seeing how if I cannot be attacked then they attack the people around me or develop these over the top lies about who I am as a person. The best defense I have is being myself and allowing other people to notice it but it can be scary when random people assert that I would be harmed when I stand up for myself. I am brave and ready if they want to follow through because my liberty is greater then my fear
Danish you nailed it. My mother is just like your Dad.
She smeared and defamed me from the time I was a kid.
She even poisoned my Dad's mind.
She has used legal system against me ,it's sad that people believe these evil people.
My elder brother is like his dad 😢