Exactly my husband keeps telling me I don’t need it. I just need a tummy tuck and tightening, I really do need it tho cus my separation can only be fixed with surgery 😢 I have so much back pain cus of it
@@myafield4039 that is 100 percent why they’re there too! Birth is traumatic but beautiful and you deserve to be healthy. You have a W husband who just wants you to be comfortable
That lady’s husband calling her breasts flappy is so heartbreaking. Those breasts most likely fed his babies and instead of being appreciative of motherhood he buys her a mommy makeover for his own selfish desires. So sad.
these husbands are not so ... attractive, but they won't go under the knife. they don't want to risk their life like that. but they want their woman to. shows how important we are to them.
My late Husband had almost no body p h 4 t, was 6'2", GORGEOUS 82nd Airborne M.P. Sgt Veteran. Could bench 430 pounds, and he didn't want me on the gym and he force fed me. I Swear To Jesus he did. Unattractive guys need their chick to be super hot to feel attractive. My Husband didn't want me to be attractive because he doesn't want men to look at me engender he's not around 😂 So yeah, it's going to be the not hot guys that care. You can look on my page if you think "beauty is in the eye of the beholder". He was GORGEOUS and... 11 inches... jus sayin. Almost done with his Doctorate when he passed away too.
That show was on when we were young teens and seeing that 8stone on the scale got a whole bunch of us longing for that number so starving ourselves, one girl to death, and the boys constantly asking if we were 8stone or below 😣
Y’all need to watch the show Howard stern did where women came out on stage in bikinis with a bag over their heads to have a panel of men guess if they were “butterface”. (Everything’s hot…but her face) it made me want to VOMIT
I came here to say this. What a pos creep! Completely lacking self awareness while inflicting criticism upon his wife and no doubt damaging her self perception, regardless of surgical outcome! She’s a human, not moldable meat to show off in his trophy cabinet. Notice how she looks down often after his “compliments”, she feels the impact of the backhandedness, even if she doesn’t choose, or know how to voice it.
From the looks of it, he's certainly got a few thinks to fix. If he's so confident, shall we assume he's filthy rich to have so much confidence despite all those flaws? The draw is certainly not his winning personality!
Anna's husband Jonathan? If you look up that family it is sooo much worse than you could imagine. Jonathan actually is very insecure about himself and seemingly projects that onto his wife and children.
Mothers who just went through the most horrible pain to give birth get shamed to death for not looking like a runway model, yet "dad bods" get celebrated 💀
That’s a very small group of women that like that kinda man. It’s only “popular” because it became a meme. Is the same thing as men who are into bbw. Its not as big a problem as we make it seem. If your husband loves you he always will, it’s only women torturing themselves in their heads.
This is why I never got how men were talking about 'finally' dad bods are accepted. Men's physical attractiveness NEVER mattered that much like women, so why are they acting like they were oppressed?
My EX-husband told me I was not good enough after I had my children and became older. I am so glad I decided to accept myself and kicked him off of the curb and did not have surgery. I ended up losing the toxic 160 pounds.
I'm so appalled at Anna's husband who just nods his head and calls his wife's breasts floppy And then immediately after the surgery he says" it all looks fantastic its crazy its so different & ill enjoy it during that time" when they're swollen... like what the fuck. She deserved so much better..
Partners/husbands agreeing and encouraging the mom of their children to undergo such an invasive surgey, knowing the risks for her health and life are walking red flags.
2 weeks after having an emergency c-section my then husband was fighting with me daily to wake up at 5am and work out. 2 weeks post surgery, with a tiny newborn!!! Needless to say he was literally a piece of trash and i took the trash out quickly after that ....
Omg not only is he a jerk but he’s as dumb as a rock. You can’t work out 2 weeks after giving birth especially if you had a c section. Also even at 6 weeks postpartum you may not have the energy to work out if your still healing, breastfeeding and/or sleep deprived. I’m so sorry you went through this
Yep! My mom is a gorgeous woman and she always will be, it’s like all the love she has to give and receive shines through whenever I see her. I’ve never given a crap whether she looks like a celebrity on TV.
When my mom got bariatric surgery and I came home from college and saw her for the first time I cried like a baby who couldnt recognize her mom-- it was really freaky and I really really really loved my mom just the way she was
Wow i hate that anna's husband wtf HE booked the interventions for her and then HE is presenting the results as looking amazing? Sounds like he was preparing a dog for a pageant show (which is also awful). So selfish, so superficial. He cared so much about how she looked ?!?!?!
3 days after having my baby, a woman in the street told me I looked like I was still carrying my baby. Luckily my head was straight and I just laughed in her face at the rudeness, but imagine the damage that could have done if I wasn’t ok?! Society is busted!
I can relate! Not about postbaby body, but I have my fathers Native American nose, which I happen to love and I was on the bus outside of London when my friend let me know that a person was trying to get my attention, and I turned to the person who rudely told me that I have a big nose but I laughed immediately in their face because I just thought it was so absurd that they would feel the need to tell me that and also I love my nose so it didn’t bother me at all and I went right back to talking to my friend. But yes, if I had deep insecurity about my nose or myself that could’ve sent me in a downward spiral of getting surgery or not wanting to be out in society.
That's so completely normal though. What kind of human, but especially a woman, doesn't understand that you will still look pregnant after birth or even a miscarriage!?
@@MalissiaCreatesI have an "eagle" nose (what I call it 🙃) from some indigenous ancestry and I learned to embrace the character of it. You look beautiful! That person is a freak.
@@5050TM I think first nation and indigenous noses are beautiful and I love the high cheekbones too! Thank you for your kind comment! I always thought my dad resembled a hawk with his nose, and his hands look like talons. I look more like an owl, myself 😁
My mom literally died from having this surgery. She was barely 50 and felt “old” and “fat” and “ugly.” Now she’s dead. So. Her three daughters know now how to NOT approach aging. That’s the only good side of it.
That picture triggers tf out of me every time I see it just pisses me off. Just...how can you hold an infant so carelessly like he's a fucking purse?!?!
Every now and then my 8 y/o daughter notices my stretched stomach, when she does we celebrate it & “thank it” for bringing her here. Society does make me feel super ugly but the way she appreciates it makes up for it tenfold. Let’s raise our daughters to look at their bodies with compassion and appreciation for all that they do for us. We can do it!🥹❤️
I used to tell my husband i want a mommy makeover, or at least a boob job and he was NEVER supportive. It would upset me that he wouldn't back me on it. Now I understand it. He wants me to see myself like he sees me. And my god am I fortunate to have him. Never again will I say something so terrible to myself.
Same! My husband went out of his way to let me know every second that he loved my body in every stage it goes through because it’s attached to my soul. He never got any less excited to be intimate with me and would kiss every inch of my skin. I feel like the luckiest woman alive. Bless your wonderful husband and your beautiful family ❤
My husband's in his last year of training as a plastic surgeon. These practises can be extremely predatory as well encouraging people to have procedures they don't need. He's decided to forgo specialising in aesthetics and focus on skin cancer and burns because he couldn't get over how performing such procedures would sit on his conscience.
Amazing! One of my family members needed plastic surgery as a child after a car accident. Correcting injuries should be the most common cause of plastic surgery, not social pressures
my friend was in a car crash that broke her nose into her face, and the reconstructive plastic surgeon did such an amazing job fixing it. such a noble career path, truly!
This is really touching, give your husband a big thank you and hug from me. It's especially impress he was able to make up his own mind to go against the grain of going the way all the other students around him going. He's going to bring so much positivity to the world
Remember when Howard Stern tried to make Anna Nicole Smith weigh herself on his show to see if she weighed 300lbs? That was 25 years ago. Its absolutely nothing new.
@@rosanorman8475 yeah that illness is called stupidity. no one forced them to go under the knife. not to mention, where did some of them even get the money in the first place?
I dated a man who once told me that his ex) who had a child to a previous relationship) “had a body that didn’t respond well to pregnancy”. I’d seen her (because he also wasn’t subtle about hiding explicit images he’d saved of her) and her body was fine, great even. You wouldn’t immediately assume she’d had a child. For multiple reasons I knew that he was not relationship (let alone father) material, but that was a big one
'A body that didn't respond well to pregnancy'? My first thought was, if she'd had an ectopic pregnancy or other complications. Then I remembered the theme of this comments section, which seems to be that some men have very questionable priorities. Every body that brought a baby into this world without any unusual complications for the mother is a body that responded well to pregnancy.
I 1st thought of the man’s statement as referring to what the woman’s body went through while pregnant. Pregnancy was hard on me the 2nd & especially the 3rd time, but those last 2 bloated my whole body & my belly looked like I was carrying multiples. Breastfed for 4 years consistently- I relate to having “flappies”… stretch marks & loose skin everywhere BUT MY BODY TELLS MY JOURNEY & I embrace it
Can we talk about how overweight women are shamed and ridiculed, but then, when we lose weight, our bodies are called grotesque because we have loose, sagging, crepey skin with stretch marks? Because THAT continues to be such a mind fuck for me as someone who lost over 100 pounds.
Same thing happens to overweight men people say the same stuff to my brother who can't afford to have h to e skin removed and has to save up for it. It's a shame it should be looked at as man that's great because you put in the work to lose weight no matter how it was done
Good for you for getting (to what I’m assuming) is a healthy weight! Health over aesthetics all the way, even if you never had to lose the weight you still would have had saggy skin at some point.
I had three children. Twins and a singleton. Boobs are chicken cutlets. And working out made me lose fat, including the fat in my boobs so my boobs are non existent. Oh well. I’m never getting implants. I managed to lose all the baby weight and become very muscular and athletic..But not without stretch marks, small hip cellulite and a little lose skin. I love my body just the way it is.
"her 4 little kids will now grow up without their mother because our society and our beauty standards told her she wasn't good enough after having her children".... that is truly heartbreaking😞
Yes, society has beauty standards. But at the end of the day, the woman herself decided she was willing to take the risks in order to look the way SHE wanted to look. The vast majority of women do not have surgery to alter their bodies after pregnancy, most women just don't care enough to go through all that pain and risk. The ones who do are aware of the risks and of course, we all think wont be us. But sadly some are and the kids have to grow up without their mother. But society's beauty standards aren't the ones who signed the waiver. It was the woman's decision.
@ed8329 true...some things are in women's hands .if woman themselves don't promote it ..men don't get unrealistic idea or expectations too.. there's women who did such things for men.. which made men to have toxic expectations from other women too and judging them
I agree, but things were never really so great in the first place. Society has always been sick in one way or another. Not too long ago women couldn't own property because they were considered property. Not even 100 years ago we couldn't have bank accounts.
I don't have kids but I remember once posting an article that talked about how celebrities like Gwyneth Paltrow (just an example) were able to bounce back to their pre-pregnancy weight *because* they have their own chefs, personal trainers, nannies etc., and then my then-boyfriend left a sarcastic comment basically saying that the article encouraged women to be lazy and "let themselves go". So even if you went through a difficult birth that left you with serious long-term consequences, you still had no "excuse" for not just bouncing back into shape. I'm happy to say I'm with a much better person now.
It took me a couple of years to revert to my pre-baby size (I was 24 when I gave birth). I didn't go to the gym. When my daughter was 3 months old I went shopping with my mum and she said she 'couldn't believe how big I was'. On the same day, a man offered me a gym membership at a discount and another man asked how far along I was. I left the house that morning feeling confident and happy and I returned home in tears, ashamed and I binned the clothes I wore that day. I wasn't big before I had my daughter and I wasn't even overweight after, I was a UK size 12 and was previously a 6-8. My mum was and still is bigger than me! I thought it was normal at the time and that was the saddest part about it. Nobody asked me if I was okay or needed help, they asked about my weight and appearance.
Oh behalf of those people I would like to apologize. When I was 18 a lady I knew was pregnant however I didn’t realize when she finally give birth, so I asked her how much longer she had, but she had given birth a few months ago. Growing up I realize now how long it takes in reality for a body to recover and while I never thought she looked bad, it is easy to say something careless and ruin someone’s day.
I’ve stopped using social media all together (besides UA-cam) and stopped watching toxic movies/shows and I’m 100x happier not being in the loop of all the nonsense❤
My husband can be a jerk at times. It happens. But he has NEVER complained about my post baby body. Ever. Never called me fat. Never complained about my saggy breasts. Never made a comment about my less than perfect butt, or my mommy-tummy. And watching this video and reading these comments has made me suddenly appreciate him a lot more than i have. Thank you.
Same. Infact my husband actively encourages me against a mommy make over. Cause I miss my old body, pero, he always assures me that I'm more beautiful now after having our 2 beautiful babies. ❤❤❤❤ truly love my husband ❤️
When my then spouse asked my obstetrician how soon my body would "bounce bk" , the dr side-eye'd him & said "we cut thur muscles- w/o surgery, this IS her body" ❤ with 1 sentence, that Dr. Lifted a weight off me & i stopped stressing over my body from that day forward😊
Glad he’s you’re ex husband. There are a lot of stupid immature men out there. Couple years ago I was with my ex- sitting on the grass at the park my shirt rolled up just an inch and he was like “What’s that?” All disgusted. So I looked down to my side it was my stretch mark. You’re with a woman who has given birth one time so why you shocked I have stretch mark on my love handles? This man is in his mid 40s. Acting like a toddler grossed out over TWO stretch marks. Glad I got ride of his a$$ too.
I had a breast reduction & lift about 18 months ago, and the recovery wasn’t quick or easy. I can’t imagine combining that surgery with multiple others, and having to recover while caring for young children. The whole concept of a “mommy makeover” is insane!!
@magicfishergirl, pls don't make that decision because you hate your chest... cause no surgery in the world will make you love it. You have to love yourself first. Pls don't talk bad about your body, it's so much prettier then you think, I guarantee you!!!! From surgery you can litteraly die, is it really worth it??? (english isn't my first language, so I hope my comment is correct, but I'm sorry if it's not😅i just really wanted to tell you that, because i didn't like how you talk about your body)
I had breast reduction surgery about 10 years ago, and it's the best thing I ever did. Recovery took maybe 6 weeks, and you will have drains in for several weeks too. It takes maybe a good year to be completely healed, however, and even more time for the scars to fade.
For anyone considering a breast reduction, the procedure now is much easier than it used to be. I didn’t have drains, was fully recovered in about a month, and my scars fully faded within 6 months. I only said it wasn’t easy or quick because I couldn’t have bounced out of bed and been caring for kids in a week or two, but it wasn’t a super painful or grueling recovery by any means. I’d highly recommend the procedure to anyone who has such large breasts that you’re in chronic discomfort and your quality of life is impacted. It’s honestly the best thing I’ve ever done for myself!
Once upon a time I wanted surgery but my husband was very against it. He was afraid for my health and he didn't care that my body looked different. I'm glad I didn't go through with it. This is so scary. I may never get my pre-baby body back but I'm proud of my body. It went through a lot! Thank you for shedding light on this situation.
I’m so happy you have such a supportive husband. You had a baby love.. you look beautiful. You made a whole ass human. I’m proud of you and your body. Much love to you and your family ❤
A girl I went to school with died 3 months ago after having a mommy makeover. She went to the hospital with fungal meningitis and died a week later. And yes I’m from Texas, her name was Jody .
Im pregnant with my second baby and I told my husband I wanted surgery after that. He said I was crazy.. that I should just try to work out and eat healthy. I am glad now that I saw this video because it scares me that my kids will not have a mom if something goes wrong with this surgery I wanted to get. First time seeing you and thank you ❤😭
If you still want a bit of touch up surgery after baby #2, that’s fine! But it’s extremely sweet that he’s supportive of you naturally being healthy and feeling good. Sounds like a pretty good guy. 👍🏻
I think social media is not the only thing to blame for all this . Some men are very superficial & they’ll often leave their wives/gfs because they no longer find her attractive after pregnancy and end up looking for a younger woman ( which is a whole other issue) . That will ruin anyone’s self esteem . Then the woman looks into surgery to gain the confidence back and so on . Very sad
And then the guy gets his new young wife pregnant too and it all starts over again... If those men who don't like womens' bodies after giving birth, could learn how to "pull out" or get castration surgery (I don't know what it's called in English) to avoid getting women pregnant, these situations wouldn't occur...
Was playing on getting a mommy makeover.. I have six children ranging from ages 6 to 22... I've been wanting a mommy makeover since I thought I was finished having babies 10 years ago! Now, being 100% certain that my 6-year-old WAS my last baby, I've been saving my money, for YEARS to go somewhere where they offer mommy makeovers at a discounted price! I would LIKE to believe that before I finally went through with it, I would have done massive research and found these stories, but to be honest I don't know! Maybe I would have been so excited I would have skipped the extensive research into these stories! That terrifies me! Thank you for your very informative video! I will no longer be saving my money for a mommy makeover I will use the money I have saved and take my kids to Disney world! 😅😂❤
Show him pictures of how women look after giving birth and see how he'll react. If it's bad, leave. But one thing is true, the younger you are at giving birth, the better your body "bounces back". Not promoting teenagers to get pregnant but it's best to do it when in your early twenties.
I’m petty, so if he was my husband, I’d probably book him a consultation for some hair implants with that receding hair line 💀 I’ll fight 🔥 with 🔥 all day.
I heard someone say to her kids that her belly is still round because that's where she carried her children and grew them and her body wants to remember that 🥰 I think that's beautiful and definitely the explanation I'll give my daughter too.
My first kids dad told me he was concerned about the fact I let myself go and wasn’t working on my self anymore my son was 2 months old, I wasn’t wearing makeup, wore sweats, and wore a messy bun, gained weight back after losing 45 pounds during my pregnancy due to severe hg which causes you to vomit profusely, the entire pregnancy. We separated when my son was 4 months old, and he walked away completely by the time my son was 3. My fiancé now after our daughter thinks I’m even more beautiful now and reminds me to be easy on my body and it’s changing.
As a first time pregnant wife, and just a woman who went from definitively slim to gaining some weight over a period of time - this (not the mummy makeover but general concern about my body changing) has certainly occupied my mind. But I don't think I could ever bring myself to do this. My body was made to store fat and fold and stretch, not just for a baby but to carry itself efficiently. It's fearfully and wonderfully made. My husband has been super supportive. If I say something rude about myself, he sometimes playfully whines 'but that's my wiiiiife. Don't say that about her' - it's very endearing. Mostly he insists for me not to see myself in such a way. It's a work in progress but thank God, I am getting there!
I used to work on websites for plastic surgeons, and I hated posting the specials for Mommy Makeovers, always advertised around valentine's day and mother's day. Thanks for talking about this!
I lift weights daily at home, I feel great, stronger, and keep toned arms with no surgery/lipo/airsculpt (with no SERIOUS side effects)❤️👤it's not instant but it's worth it over surgery imo. Sad for the women who've lost their lives💔
I’m not a mother- but speaking generally, when your husband looks at you and subliminally says you’re no longer attractive after giving birth, nor gets disgusted at you for looking what a mother has given birth supposed to look, isn’t that a red flag already? This is just sad for mothers who carried another life for 9 months, but immediately felt that insecurity for feeling that they haven’t achieve anything worthwhile in life 💔
@@hagelslag9312 that’s why im being super careful. Im 41 and single 😂just kidding, Im not actually looking for a relationship I have a chronic illness, but if I had gotten married and had kids I can’t even imagine the devastation of realizing you married an a$$hole right after giving birth to his child… that’s awful.
I miscarried once at 5 1/2 months and my body looked pregnant for almost 6 months after, I still have issues with my stomach. I refuse to wear crop tops because I have some stretch marks from the many failed pregnancies. Even though I didn't have nearly as much damage to my body that would have normally occurred if it were full-term I was still pressured into losing weight and fitting back into my "better" body. The worst part is my husband is still asking me to try to get pregnant again. Nope.
It is a HUGE red flag. My ex-husband wasn't the best, but one good thing about him is that he loved and appreciated the work my body did to bring our children into the world 🩶
I’m thin and I have cellulite on my belly and stretch marks sagging skin, my husband thinks I’m sexier than ever, wobbly bits and all!!😊 my baby is my entire world. I would not trade the life and blessings I have now for a so-called perfect body. So many unrealistic expectations . It’s a major sin. I love your page and thank goodness you are speaking the truth! You are a gem and thank you for realizing our bodies may be imperfect as far as the standards of the world now, and this constant obsession with looking a certain way is destroying a lot.
My dad has always thought my mom is as beautiful and “hot” as when they first met, and she’s had 4 children, and yes her body has changed . but sometimes I question if these couples actually love each other or have ever loved each other.
Yes, it's literally incredible to me that a long-term partner would think like that about someone they supposedly know well and value deeply. My parents have been married for 45 years and my mother gave birth 4 times; my father tells her she's beautiful all the time and he means it. Of course she looks different but that is testament to the four children they created together!
That gives me hope!! I love seeing couples who have stayed really into each other throughout the phases of life. Ever see an elderly couple that's been together for decades and they still speak about each other like they're the hot 20-year-olds they were when they got married? I want that. I rarely am able to feel physical attraction without liking a personality first, so I'm not terribly concerned about losing attraction as my partner's body changes over time. I just hope to end up with someone who will keep the same energy for me, especially if I ever go through pregnancy.
@@Sweet_Dee IKR! That gives me hope too, and boy do I want exactly what you just said. I am also the same kind of person who isn't attracted to anyone without ever knowing what kind of a person they are, and good they are personality wise. I hope whatever you wish for comes true, and also for people like us.
I was BUTCHERED having this surgery. I lost my right breast completely, including my nipple and my other breast was made far too small, my husbands pecks are bigger! And they took too much skin for the tummy tuck, so now (2 years later) I still can't stretch my arms above my head properly and I have huge sunken in scars because the skin has stretched out so thin under my arms. Following those very strange scars, I have huge painful hypertrophic scars under where my breasts were.
I am not a married women and not a mother. But in my office I saw many male office colleagues of mine becomes 1st time , 2nd time father. My office is basically no women, only me. So in canteen I heard what those guys talks. Last 4 years here I heard many times that , those men don't like there wife anymore, Because of pregnancy they get elephant body and more vulgure stuff. This make me sad. Men are so lame and swallow. Those men make there wife pregnant, come on😢😢
I'm a woman who knows these kind of men, and also good men. From my experience, the good ones simply don't get together with those idiots. That's why you won't hear them. Sure they might feel differently about their wives bodies, that's not a conscious choice, but the idea that tends to prevail is that "luckily everyone's healthy after birth", because the thought of complications that could take their wives away from them scares them more than saggy breasts. Another phrase that I've heard is "I had a baby too", while they jokingly rub their beer bellies. Sweet, common sense stuff.
As someone who lost her mom to cancer at a young age, I can’t help but get really upset at the idea of moms with new babies going under the knife and putting their health and possibly their life at risk. Your babies need you! Don’t EVER risk your child growing up without a mom, please! 🙏❤️
My mom also passed away from cancer but if she had got surgery to feel better about herself after having me and my brother I wouldn’t be mad at her for it. It’s sad to me that after women have kids they’re expected to throw their life away and only live for their kids. It’s a mother’s responsibility to care for and nurture and protect her children, but she’s her own person too.
@@basharalbutseggs8056 I think risking your life to “look better” is a terrible idea. There are a lot of ways to be your own person and care for yourself that don’t involve going under the knife. I guess agree to disagree on this one. I am very sorry for your loss though ❤️
@@KalyElizabeth when you put yourself in the mothers shoes- tits are sagging and stretch marks, your stomach feels flabby and wrinkly, you have lost all your confidence and you now, like I said, live for your children and are no longer viewed as your own person, I can understand why they’d go under the knife. Yes it’s risky but when you’re feeling THAT low about yourself it’s clear why anyone would want to do those surgeries. There’s nothing you could recommend like your said other ways to feel better that are gonna reduce sagging excess skin.
@@KalyElizabeth and it’s not just about looking better. If everytime you stood in front of the mirror you didn’t recognize the body you saw, the body you once had is now gone, you’d feel devastated. There’s a small percentage of woman who will embrace the stretch marks and sagging skin because they carried life but everyone else is going to feel like their self esteem has plummeted to hell
i feel really bad for Anna, at the end of the day it was ultimately her decision to go through with the procedures, but the husbands "vlog" stye recording of her post op, talking about how she looks "soo much better" makes me really sad because you can see her face drop.
Does anyone remember the TV SHOW extreme makeover? It should have been called mommy makeover, because that's all they did. It made me frightened to ever have kids. The way they would pick these women's bodies apart was so horrifying. What a toxic time that was.
It’s been 6 plus years I’ve been trying to rid of my post pregnancy weight 😂 my mommy makeover was a new wardrobe, hair/makeup..learning to dress for your new body (and role) is all the makeover you need..embrace your changing body and feed it good food, exercise and love.
Keep watching Stepanies videos and you will get your confidence back. She is pretty convincing :-) I also really liked the documentary "Embrace". It helped me lot
something to keep in mind when you see all these celebrities with perfectly flat tummies and talking about how they lost 20 pounds and 20 weeks , etc something to keep in mind is that is there is a lot of Photoshop and face tuning that goes on that we don’t see. Their stretch marks, their scars, they all get blurred out. As Stephanie said, they have their own personal trainers, they have nannies, they have nutritionists, they have dietitians, make up artists, people that can make them look beautiful every single day and us “normal regular people” don’t have access to those things. It’s hard to feel beautiful when you see these people in magazines and on social media but just remember, that most of these images are lies and that you probably look better now the way you are then you would if you had a surgery go wrong and that’s not worth the risk ❤❤❤❤
Regular excercise will fix it OVER TIME. When you see pictures of starving people in WWII, do they have loose skin? NO! It naturally shrinks to your skeleton.
I am pregnant with my first baby. I will never do this to myself 😮it is absolutely insane to risk my health and life to do surgery just to look like I never had a kid. I will get my body back the natural way and accept whatever changes happen. I will wear my stretch marks and whatever else with pride and honor myself for bringing my child safely into this world.❤
My mom's body changed after giving birth twice and I still think she is the most beautiful woman in the world. Every "imperfection" just shows how much she loves me and my brother. The body a woman gets after birth is EARNED. It is a symbol of her love and strength. My heart goes out to every mother feeling like she has become "less" after going through such a difficult but miraculous experience.
And the saddest part, in the U.S., health insurance won't pay for complications resulting from an elective procedure. So all medical bills that accumulate from the complications will be the responsibility of the patient who's now disfigured (or worse).
I had my third baby about 3 months ago and, I just want to say, thank you for this. I’ve been having some not-so happy thoughts about my body since, but I try to remind myself that it doesn’t matter if my body looks different. What matters is that my kids love me and I’m the best mom I can be. Mind you, I’m trying to get myself back to where I was, but it’s okay if it doesn’t happen immediately. These things take time.
Hey, mama! I know how you feel, but remember, it took 9 months to grow your precious baby and it will take at least that long to start looking and feeling better. I have had three children (all in my 30’s) and was able to bounce back after each one with proper nutrition and exercise. I didn’t rush it and it took around a year to a year and a half each time. Of course my boobs will never be the same and I was lucky enough not to get any stretch marks on my stomach but I do have an ugly, crooked c-section scar after my last two births. Stay strong, positive and be so proud of what your body accomplished. I’m sending you lots of love! ❤
18:26 it's not just your life anymore when you're a mother. It's also the life of your child you need to consider when thinking about getting surgeries like this.
There's plenty of woman who look worse than mothers and wanna have a mommy makeover. How about those that have a body who looks worse than those who had babies without even having them?
I am just now seeing this, but I am a dental hygienist and have too many patients going to Turkey for dental work, and coming home with a mouth full of unnecessary root canals, and eventually losing the teeth that they saved money of getting “fixed”.
Here's what I told myself and other people 2 years after I gave birth: I'm a good mom I'm a good wife I'm a good sister and I'm a good friend. I'm a good neighbor and I do what I can for others in the world. So what if I weigh 20 lbs more now!
I had twins almost three years ago and it destroyed my body, I didn't even recognize myself. I got so depressed about how I looked I basically gave up and just gained a bunch of weight but then this year I chose to make a change and I'm working on getting back to my old body as best I can. All this to say, I needed this video. I played with the thought of getting surgery and I'm glad I'm going at this naturally
I'm starting therapy on Monday bc since becoming a mom 10 months ago, I've lost my identity & my confidence from the weight gain is really, really low. I haven't thought about a mommy makeover, I know my issues are in my head. They aren't my bodies fault. I have a daughter now that will be watching me to learn about the world & the LAST thing I want to teach her is that "looks" are important. I want her to watch me love myself, watch me live a healthy lifestyle & be confident in myself. I owe that to her, & myself. I should've started therapy immediately after having her, but I thought if I lost the weight, it would all go away. I know better now. Being a mom is hard. Being a woman in the generation is even harder. Thank you for talking about the pressure society puts on us to be "perfect" no matter the consequences. ❤
After 5 children and losing about 170lbs through lifestyle changes I had surgical skin removal and muscle repair. I had tummy tuck with muscle repair, extended vertical thigh lift, brachioplasty, lower back lift, lipo and fat transfer to breasts and face over two surgeries about a year apart. I went to a well known plastic surgeon in my area and my recovery took a significant amount of time. It was well worth the discomfort and financial cost to me as I had significant back pain from the abdominal stomach gap and from hanging loose skin. I do feel better emotionally as my loose skin was significant and not fixable with exercise and I had no further weight to lose. However my husband always told me I was fine the way I was!
Surgery is known to be extremely dangerous and risky but people dont seem to think this is the case for plastic surgery for some reason. Unless it is for life saving-purposes, invasive surgery for cosmetic purposes has dire consequences. Hope your video reaches all those who are seriously considering it
It's the "it won't happen to me" mindset. Doesn't matter if it's as risky as 1 in 100, people will keep believing they won't be that one person and take the chances.
@@hagelslag9312 According to National Safety Council, you have a 1 in 93 chance of dying in a motor vehicle accident and yet people don't think twice about getting behind the wheel. You have a far, far lesser chance of say, dying from getting a breast augmentation performed in the US. But I imagine having back to back headlines about car crashes doesn't grab at people's attention the same way plastic surgery regret/death stories do.
I had surgery to fix the position of organs in my groin area, while there she tightened things up. I was not going to have things fixed or lifted for purely cosmetic purposes.
@@miraloran7039 an interesting point. Yes and many people have to drive as walkable cities are not that common, so even if it’s dangerous it’s necessary to drive to make a living or to get around. Whereas cosmetic surgery is purely extraneous and far less accessible. Both are gambling your life but one is for transportation and the other is vanity
I’ve never had a baby, but I did lose 90LB in 2009. There was a part of me back then who wanted to have plastic surgery to get rid of the loss skin. But I’m so glad I didn’t. Who cares if my body looks perfect. I’m proud I lost all that weight and have kept it off. Any mommy’s out there. Be proud of your mom bod. You made a tiny human, that’s amazing 😊
I lost 100 lbs in 2022... I keep getting asked if I'll have the skin removal surgery. Mind you... I am very lucky and don't really have much loose skin. In fact, I wouldn't even qualify for a full tummy tuck. But people still made me feel crappy. But meeting my guy last year really changed that. He doesn't care about it. To him I'm the most perfect thing he's ever seen. It really helped my confidence
Thank you for making this video. I worry for moms today. I remember growing up in the 80s when this expectation wasn’t a thing and there was actually a stigma against plastic surgery. It was expected and normal for women to look their age…I feel that perspective was much healthier for mothers. Sometimes progress isn’t progress…all of these “enhancements” may really be setting us back.
I was an older teen and early 20 year old in the 80s and I can assure you 100% that the pressure to be stick-skinny with boy hips was fierce. Just a different kind of pressure than now, but pressure nonetheless. Social media has made the pressure toxic a million fold. I guess women will always feel the need to measure up to insane standards. We’re all our own worst enemies sometimes. 😢
Yeah, I remember seeing actresses with obvious face jobs and thinking 'how are they ever going to act again looking like that? They don't look like a real person.' but then real people started doing it too.
@@mysonsmom9754 thank you, stigmatizing age and impossible beauty standards aren't new, it's just worse than ever with social media and accessibility to more "clinics" and credit. my mom's first boob job was in the 80s, she was in her late 20s.
I've birthed and breastfed 2 children and undergone a hysterectomy to remove ovarian cancer. I'm left with a 2 joined together pouches. My husband has never once suggested I should get that fixed, he loves me as I am!
Stephanie, I really needed to see this video. My baby girl is almost 6 months old and recently this pressure to lose all the weight and "bounce back" now that she's getting older. Thank you for spreading this message. It is very much needed and appreciated.
Thank you so much for saying this! Everything in society pushes the message we have to look "perfect". No one aesthetic should ever be set as the standard! People need to embrace the beauty of their body and age. I've always believed everyone looks good when they are healthy and their true self shines through.❤
Thank you for this video. I had twins about a month ago and was dead set on getting a mommy makeover in 1-2 years. My husband has been against it from the start and goes out of his way to tell me how amazing I look. This really opened my eyes. I thought I wasn’t susceptible to social media influence, but I realized I social media was the only reason I thought about getting the surgery. I’ll def stick to going to the gym and loving myself and this journey
My breasts are so tiny that I was permanently laughed at by boys when I was a teenager, and even my husband once was told that he must be gay, because a woman with A size is actually a boy. For 15 years of marriage and 19 years together he has never ever said that my breasts are "saggy", "small" or thet they were "better when you were prgnant/breastfeeding". I am so sorry for that mom who had her "mommmy makeover" paid by her husband....
PREACH! I had to get pelvic floor reconstruction because I wasn’t functioning properly after having two babies - and that was so difficult to recover from. I can’t imagine getting surgery all over my body and trying to recover from THAT. No wonder people die during or after widespread surgery. That is SO HARD on the body. People just don’t think about that.
We need more women like you. I’ve debated getting a tummy tuck for years, but it always comes down to not wanting to risk my life over having a perfect tummy. I may never be able to get rid of my stretch marks but I’ll be here for my kiddos, that to me is worth every single mark on my body from my pregnancies. 😢
I feel so bad for Anna. I can’t imagine having a husband like that. I haven’t had kids, but my boobs are incredibly large, saggy, and uneven. I had a hormone imbalance from a young age that caused one side to grow two extra sizes and they grew so fast that they’ve never not pointed at the ground. I HATE them. They’re difficult to style in bathing suits and tops. I feel like the ugliest girl in the world without a bra. I’ve wanted a boob job my whole life. Even my own mother recommended it (as a way to deal with my insecurity but that just made it worse). But my husband has begged me not to. I won’t say he “won’t let me” because at the end of the day I’m an adult and I could do it without his permission, but he’s implored me to stay as I am because he loves me and loves them and to him, no amount of “perkiness” is worth the risk of losing me. It honestly is making me tear up and get a lump in my throat just typing it. I’m so lucky to have a man who values me as a person over me as the perfectly modified Instagram model. I don’t even fear the body changes that having kids might bring because I already have saggy boobs and stretch marks and he stills love every part. I can’t imagine how different my life would be if I had a husband like Anna’s. I’d probably be multiple surgeries in if I’d even be here to tell the tale at all. Anna deserves better and I hope she finds it someday cause unconditional love is so much better.
I also struggle with parts of my own body, mainly related to pregnancy/post childbirth (belly fat, saggy boobs), but I'm so grateful that my husband only has wonderful things to say about me and my body. Never once has he uttered a negative word about how I look, and I know he wouldn't think the risk of surgery was worth it either!
I’m really glad you found an amazing person to be by your side; wish you both the best 🤍 I also found an amazing husband who never judges and even gets upset with me when I’m crying over my body, says he loves it and will continue to no matter how many changes it goes through because it’s whats keeping me here. Society has fucked us bad and we sometimes need a third person to remind us thats body standards are bs, hopefully soon we can be that person to our kids, friends, relatives.
My firstborn son was 4.4 kg. Last week of pregnancy I got big stretchmarcks popped up on my belly. He is 5 years old now. My daughter wasn’t particularly small either. Several times I had several doctors which I saw for non cosmetic reasons asked if I want to do something with my stretch marks. Yeah. I want to wear them proudly as a reminder what a fantastic thing I did.
So many reputable piercers won’t administer more than two piercings at a time because each one will take longer to heal. That is for PIERCINGS. Doing multiple elective and invasive surgeries in one sitting is INSANE. Your body needs to be able to heal, and the strain one puts on it with multiple injuries (which wounds from surgeries are) can be so dangerous.
I had a c-section with my first baby...That was all the surgery that Ill ever need. I've made peace with never having my pre-baby body. I don't want it. I freaking grew humans and birthed them into this world. If somebody doesnt like my body, sucks to be them. I will always work on nourishing my body, keeping it fit, giving it the best care I can. BUT I refuse to let this body-image-obsessed societal standards make me feel crap about myself. I am beautiful FOR my mommy body and I am proud of it. Mamas...YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL.❤
When I had my last baby .. we got home my mom was holding the new bundle of joy I went to lay down and his father asked me when I was going to get skiinny again .
Without social media this wouldn't be a thing. No one I know in real life wants their wife to look like she hasn't had babies. The women do wish they could get rid of some belly weight, but they're not judging each other or killing themselves to get their "pre baby" body back. Yes, assholes exist in real life, but cut them out and this idea is gone. It's just social media standards. Ignore it. Live your life. Be healthy for you and your babies. Leave out the Instagram and magazine toxicity.
@@Kunya, yesss!!! Wonderful post!! I don’t follow any of these social media types, and I don’t even use Instagram! That garbage is NOT allowed in my peaceful life! ❤
This was a thing in magazines in the 90's and 2000's too. My Mum bought magazines every week and they were displayed at the shops. It's a problem that is much older than social media influencers.
@@Anna81Louiseat least back then it was something rich people, celebrities and models did. It’s so “normal” now through exposure that regular people feel it’s expected.
Thank you so much for sharing this important message. I've struggled with body image issues my whole life, but of course the drastic changes I experienced after my first child really devastated me. It has taken me years to get past yhe insecurity. I've now had 2 babies and while my body has naturally snapped back better than I could have expected, I still struggle with image issues. The changes are hard to get used to. But I am thankful to hear others preaching the message that our postpartum bodies are just as beautiful and worthy as our prepregnancy bodies.
My co-worker had mommy makeover surgery December 1st and if it could wrong it did. 2 days after coming home from hospital she came down with Pneumonia in both lungs, blood clot went to her lung, and had to go on oxygen. She finally came home on Christmas Eve on oxygen 24 Seven.Then her stitches opened up so back to the hospital for a week. She finally is off oxygen during the day. She can’t come back to work until March. Even then it will only be part time and probably from home. She had a bunch of others life threatening things happen. All because she is jealous of the bodies of the 24 year old gals in the office. She had her surgery in the states.
Omg did I need this video right now! I had microneedling done a few weeks ago and now am hyper focused on my tiny forehead wrinkles! I was planning to do Botox and this made me realize it won’t help. It will only cause me to fixate on other things to ‘correct.’ Thank you!!
If your husband wants you to have a mommy makeover it’s time to have a husband makeover. Throw that man out with this week’s garbage!
Exactly my husband keeps telling me I don’t need it. I just need a tummy tuck and tightening, I really do need it tho cus my separation can only be fixed with surgery 😢 I have so much back pain cus of it
@@myafield4039 that is 100 percent why they’re there too! Birth is traumatic but beautiful and you deserve to be healthy. You have a W husband who just wants you to be comfortable
Exactly
I’m glad I’m not the only one that was thinking that. Blech, no thanks! Move TF on! lol
👏👏👏👏💖💖
That lady’s husband calling her breasts flappy is so heartbreaking. Those breasts most likely fed his babies and instead of being appreciative of motherhood he buys her a mommy makeover for his own selfish desires. So sad.
porn has ruined so many generations of men.
Yes, he is horrible
Anna’s husband is…anyways he isn’t a good man for helping her get this surgery.
He is entirely made of ick, IMO. Talks about her like she’s a malfunctioning appliance.
The husband's in this... are ick
these husbands are not so ... attractive, but they won't go under the knife. they don't want to risk their life like that. but they want their woman to. shows how important we are to them.
My late Husband had almost no body p h 4 t, was 6'2", GORGEOUS 82nd Airborne M.P. Sgt Veteran. Could bench 430 pounds, and he didn't want me on the gym and he force fed me. I Swear To Jesus he did. Unattractive guys need their chick to be super hot to feel attractive. My Husband didn't want me to be attractive because he doesn't want men to look at me engender he's not around 😂
So yeah, it's going to be the not hot guys that care. You can look on my page if you think "beauty is in the eye of the beholder". He was GORGEOUS and... 11 inches... jus sayin. Almost done with his Doctorate when he passed away too.
They can't tolerate the sight of a woman who has given birth but getting a 15 min. vasectomy? NO WAY!
@@hypnoteapot Even though it's THEIR fault she got pregnant.
Because men are perfect just the way they are /s
They’ll have their wives go through this hell and still cheat on her! 😡
victoria beckham being weighed on live tv is evil
That show was on when we were young teens and seeing that 8stone on the scale got a whole bunch of us longing for that number so starving ourselves, one girl to death, and the boys constantly asking if we were 8stone or below 😣
Im sure it was staged 😊
And the fact that I’ve never weighed that little in my life since prepubescent childhood ?? WOOF that’s like 112 pounds??!
@@GoOutside321maybe but it’s still awful! TV would never away with that now
Y’all need to watch the show Howard stern did where women came out on stage in bikinis with a bag over their heads to have a panel of men guess if they were “butterface”. (Everything’s hot…but her face) it made me want to VOMIT
That one husband calling his wife’s breast’s flabby made me furious.
Also commenting how she doesn’t have cleavage.. or did “as a kid”. 🙄
Yes, he sounded like a creepy jerk.
@@ninahannum1894he gives off real small 🍆 energy
I came here to say this. What a pos creep! Completely lacking self awareness while inflicting criticism upon his wife and no doubt damaging her self perception, regardless of surgical outcome! She’s a human, not moldable meat to show off in his trophy cabinet. Notice how she looks down often after his “compliments”, she feels the impact of the backhandedness, even if she doesn’t choose, or know how to voice it.
@@gutslappa Doesn't make him wrong? Makes him an a-hole
That 1 woman's husband sounds like a real jerk. I wonder if she gave him a list of what he should get fixed on his body. Toxic.
From the looks of it, he's certainly got a few thinks to fix. If he's so confident, shall we assume he's filthy rich to have so much confidence despite all those flaws? The draw is certainly not his winning personality!
Anna's husband Jonathan? If you look up that family it is sooo much worse than you could imagine. Jonathan actually is very insecure about himself and seemingly projects that onto his wife and children.
Mothers who just went through the most horrible pain to give birth get shamed to death for not looking like a runway model, yet "dad bods" get celebrated 💀
That’s a very small group of women that like that kinda man. It’s only “popular” because it became a meme. Is the same thing as men who are into bbw. Its not as big a problem as we make it seem. If your husband loves you he always will, it’s only women torturing themselves in their heads.
@@Abcdeisnerok...?
@Abcdeisner I felt nothing and bounced back quick all my gym tights fit again but I barely had a bump and not everyone is the same
This is why I never got how men were talking about 'finally' dad bods are accepted. Men's physical attractiveness NEVER mattered that much like women, so why are they acting like they were oppressed?
You’re so right gosh 😢
My EX-husband told me I was not good enough after I had my children and became older. I am so glad I decided to accept myself and kicked him off of the curb and did not have surgery. I ended up losing the toxic 160 pounds.
You did amazing sweetie
Smart decision, dear. The creep didn't deserve you❤
You are a QUEEN
Jerk. You deserve better…..
You are AMAZING
I'm so appalled at Anna's husband who just nods his head and calls his wife's breasts floppy And then immediately after the surgery he says" it all looks fantastic its crazy its so different & ill enjoy it during that time" when they're swollen... like what the fuck. She deserved so much better..
Probably why he kept getting her repetadly pregnant, he probably has a thing for swollen breasts
This!! You said exactly what I wanted to say
Partners/husbands agreeing and encouraging the mom of their children to undergo such an invasive surgey, knowing the risks for her health and life are walking red flags.
More like superficial thrash
This lady has filler in her lips if it wasn’t obvious enough . How is it ok she can alter her body but not others lol
YES, people should talk about this part more
Ikr it's so creepy
"Yeah ik you just gave birth to our children but your boobs r kinda saggy and don't fit my fantasies, change em" wtf 🥲
Came here to say the same thing
2 weeks after having an emergency c-section my then husband was fighting with me daily to wake up at 5am and work out. 2 weeks post surgery, with a tiny newborn!!! Needless to say he was literally a piece of trash and i took the trash out quickly after that ....
That’s something to be proud of! You and your child deserve better ❤️
Omg not only is he a jerk but he’s as dumb as a rock. You can’t work out 2 weeks after giving birth especially if you had a c section. Also even at 6 weeks postpartum you may not have the energy to work out if your still healing, breastfeeding and/or sleep deprived. I’m so sorry you went through this
That’s scary! So glad you got that garbage out!!
2 weeks!!!! Damn that's brutal.
THE UNIMAGINABLE ANGER THIS MAKES ME FEEL TO READ. ALL MEN HAVE IS THE AUDACITY. FUCK HIM.
I saw someone saw “Your kids don’t see you as fat. Your kids see you as their mom.” ❤
True. I will always see my Mom as beautiful, no matter what weight.
Yup, my mom is the most beautiful woman in the world to my eyes.
Yep! My mom is a gorgeous woman and she always will be, it’s like all the love she has to give and receive shines through whenever I see her. I’ve never given a crap whether she looks like a celebrity on TV.
When my mom got bariatric surgery and I came home from college and saw her for the first time I cried like a baby who couldnt recognize her mom-- it was really freaky and I really really really loved my mom just the way she was
My 9 year old recently called me fat
Wow i hate that anna's husband wtf HE booked the interventions for her and then HE is presenting the results as looking amazing? Sounds like he was preparing a dog for a pageant show (which is also awful). So selfish, so superficial. He cared so much about how she looked ?!?!?!
@@Annie, it’s definitely disturbing. :(
It's really sad when you think about it. He obviously doesn't love her, he loves the way she looks 😢
Honestly, he sounded gay to me. Not joking nor discriminating. But.maybe that's the reason he hates her wife...
That's EXACTLY what I was thinking!!
He’s a total douche
3 days after having my baby, a woman in the street told me I looked like I was still carrying my baby. Luckily my head was straight and I just laughed in her face at the rudeness, but imagine the damage that could have done if I wasn’t ok?! Society is busted!
What an ignorant comment!!! Do they think women are Elastagirl or something 😂 (elastagirl from the incredibles)
I can relate! Not about postbaby body, but I have my fathers Native American nose, which I happen to love and I was on the bus outside of London when my friend let me know that a person was trying to get my attention, and I turned to the person who rudely told me that I have a big nose but I laughed immediately in their face because I just thought it was so absurd that they would feel the need to tell me that and also I love my nose so it didn’t bother me at all and I went right back to talking to my friend. But yes, if I had deep insecurity about my nose or myself that could’ve sent me in a downward spiral of getting surgery or not wanting to be out in society.
That's so completely normal though. What kind of human, but especially a woman, doesn't understand that you will still look pregnant after birth or even a miscarriage!?
@@MalissiaCreatesI have an "eagle" nose (what I call it 🙃) from some indigenous ancestry and I learned to embrace the character of it. You look beautiful! That person is a freak.
@@5050TM I think first nation and indigenous noses are beautiful and I love the high cheekbones too! Thank you for your kind comment! I always thought my dad resembled a hawk with his nose, and his hands look like talons. I look more like an owl, myself 😁
My mom literally died from having this surgery. She was barely 50 and felt “old” and “fat” and “ugly.” Now she’s dead. So.
Her three daughters know now how to NOT approach aging. That’s the only good side of it.
So very sorry for your loss. What a tragedy.
@@jacquelineteale4937 🩷thank you
Sorry for your tragedy
God bless you and your family. I am so sorry to hear that.
Condolence
That Emily Ratajkowski photo with her baby hanging off her arm like a dirty shopping bag still sends me
I have never gotten over that photo. It made me so angry. Babies aren't props ffs.
Right cause I thought that looked weird too … it’s like she didn’t know how to hold the kid.
@@briezeeeshe prolly knows how to hold him just doesn’t care cus she only cares about herself and getting attention
@@Hhhhhhhhhhhhghhhhdoes she really? All these celebrities have 5 nannies 24/7 and only use their kids as photo props
That picture triggers tf out of me every time I see it just pisses me off. Just...how can you hold an infant so carelessly like he's a fucking purse?!?!
Every now and then my 8 y/o daughter notices my stretched stomach, when she does we celebrate it & “thank it” for bringing her here. Society does make me feel super ugly but the way she appreciates it makes up for it tenfold.
Let’s raise our daughters to look at their bodies with compassion and appreciation for all that they do for us. We can do it!🥹❤️
That's lovely and sweet! And smart
omgggg so cute 🥺
Mine is 6 she knows only mamas EARN tiger stripes.
That is so sweet!!!
So cute 😍 🥹
I used to tell my husband i want a mommy makeover, or at least a boob job and he was NEVER supportive. It would upset me that he wouldn't back me on it. Now I understand it. He wants me to see myself like he sees me. And my god am I fortunate to have him. Never again will I say something so terrible to myself.
blessings to you and your family ❤❤
Same! My husband went out of his way to let me know every second that he loved my body in every stage it goes through because it’s attached to my soul. He never got any less excited to be intimate with me and would kiss every inch of my skin. I feel like the luckiest woman alive. Bless your wonderful husband and your beautiful family ❤
A breast lift has other benefits like comfort. It’s not just about appearance. So did your partner not want you to be more comfortable?
@@heysaras way to completely miss the point
Preach. Bless your union. ❤❤❤
My husband's in his last year of training as a plastic surgeon. These practises can be extremely predatory as well encouraging people to have procedures they don't need. He's decided to forgo specialising in aesthetics and focus on skin cancer and burns because he couldn't get over how performing such procedures would sit on his conscience.
Amazing! One of my family members needed plastic surgery as a child after a car accident. Correcting injuries should be the most common cause of plastic surgery, not social pressures
my friend was in a car crash that broke her nose into her face, and the reconstructive plastic surgeon did such an amazing job fixing it. such a noble career path, truly!
This is really touching, give your husband a big thank you and hug from me. It's especially impress he was able to make up his own mind to go against the grain of going the way all the other students around him going. He's going to bring so much positivity to the world
thank you! I will
It is very calming to hear that some people are against this
I’m 5 weeks postpartum and my husband is my saving grace. He tells me I am beautiful every single day. Don’t settle for anything less.
Congrats on your baby and I hope you have a great recovery mama
Im being able to feel okay w my new body JUST bcs my husband keeps pointing out how attractive he thinks I am❤
God bless both of you 🤗 💐 ♥️ that's a keeper and am happy for you
congrats mama ❤️
God Bless your husband, he sounds so sweet.
Remember when Howard Stern tried to make Anna Nicole Smith weigh herself on his show to see if she weighed 300lbs? That was 25 years ago. Its absolutely nothing new.
Ugh
Imagine dying leaving your kids behind because your body has changed after giving birth to them… just heartbreaking
a lot for the kids to live with too...
I genuinely think it’s a form of mental illness and mums don’t get enough support for it
@@rosanorman8475 yeah that illness is called stupidity. no one forced them to go under the knife. not to mention, where did some of them even get the money in the first place?
"Heartbreaking"... I think "infuriating" is the word
Women have to learn to ignore Hollywood's beauty standards.
10:20 this man is GARBAGE. How can someone talk like that to anyone, esp. the MOTHER OF HIS CHILDREN?
the way he said ,,well you did have cleavage when u were a kid‘‘ I gagged…
@@feli1507lotta these men accidentally let their true attractions slip. Its more than people know
All I was thinking, was shut up, every single thing coming out of his mouth was wrong
The guy is GAY. Trust me.
@@Beaneabeanyes! I"m sure he's not into women.
I dated a man who once told me that his ex) who had a child to a previous relationship) “had a body that didn’t respond well to pregnancy”. I’d seen her (because he also wasn’t subtle about hiding explicit images he’d saved of her) and her body was fine, great even. You wouldn’t immediately assume she’d had a child. For multiple reasons I knew that he was not relationship (let alone father) material, but that was a big one
'A body that didn't respond well to pregnancy'? My first thought was, if she'd had an ectopic pregnancy or other complications. Then I remembered the theme of this comments section, which seems to be that some men have very questionable priorities. Every body that brought a baby into this world without any unusual complications for the mother is a body that responded well to pregnancy.
I 1st thought of the man’s statement as referring to what the woman’s body went through while pregnant. Pregnancy was hard on me the 2nd & especially the 3rd time, but those last 2 bloated my whole body & my belly looked like I was carrying multiples. Breastfed for 4 years consistently- I relate to having “flappies”… stretch marks & loose skin everywhere BUT MY BODY TELLS MY JOURNEY & I embrace it
He's also an ass for sharing her revealing photos with you without her consent
Can we talk about how overweight women are shamed and ridiculed, but then, when we lose weight, our bodies are called grotesque because we have loose, sagging, crepey skin with stretch marks? Because THAT continues to be such a mind fuck for me as someone who lost over 100 pounds.
Same thing happens to overweight men people say the same stuff to my brother who can't afford to have h to e skin removed and has to save up for it. It's a shame it should be looked at as man that's great because you put in the work to lose weight no matter how it was done
You can never win in this society. So just live your life and don't listen to others.
Good for you for getting (to what I’m assuming) is a healthy weight! Health over aesthetics all the way, even if you never had to lose the weight you still would have had saggy skin at some point.
@@Drkbardockssj it will always be far worse for women. Fat men aren’t even treated as badly as fat women.
I know right
If my husband booked me into a surgery clinic … divorced.
Ha, his ass would be in there also!
I had three children. Twins and a singleton. Boobs are chicken cutlets. And working out made me lose fat, including the fat in my boobs so my boobs are non existent. Oh well. I’m never getting implants. I managed to lose all the baby weight and become very muscular and athletic..But not without stretch marks, small hip cellulite and a little lose skin. I love my body just the way it is.
"her 4 little kids will now grow up without their mother because our society and our beauty standards told her she wasn't good enough after having her children".... that is truly heartbreaking😞
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Yes, society has beauty standards. But at the end of the day, the woman herself decided she was willing to take the risks in order to look the way SHE wanted to look. The vast majority of women do not have surgery to alter their bodies after pregnancy, most women just don't care enough to go through all that pain and risk. The ones who do are aware of the risks and of course, we all think wont be us. But sadly some are and the kids have to grow up without their mother. But society's beauty standards aren't the ones who signed the waiver. It was the woman's decision.
@ed8329 true...some things are in women's hands .if woman themselves don't promote it ..men don't get unrealistic idea or expectations too.. there's women who did such things for men.. which made men to have toxic expectations from other women too and judging them
Our society is sick and superficial. We've gone backwards.
man I wish you were wrong
I agree, but things were never really so great in the first place. Society has always been sick in one way or another. Not too long ago women couldn't own property because they were considered property. Not even 100 years ago we couldn't have bank accounts.
I think society has always been that way. It’s just on display due to social media
Teach your sons to accept bodies then
Agreed...
I don't have kids but I remember once posting an article that talked about how celebrities like Gwyneth Paltrow (just an example) were able to bounce back to their pre-pregnancy weight *because* they have their own chefs, personal trainers, nannies etc., and then my then-boyfriend left a sarcastic comment basically saying that the article encouraged women to be lazy and "let themselves go". So even if you went through a difficult birth that left you with serious long-term consequences, you still had no "excuse" for not just bouncing back into shape. I'm happy to say I'm with a much better person now.
It took me a couple of years to revert to my pre-baby size (I was 24 when I gave birth). I didn't go to the gym. When my daughter was 3 months old I went shopping with my mum and she said she 'couldn't believe how big I was'. On the same day, a man offered me a gym membership at a discount and another man asked how far along I was. I left the house that morning feeling confident and happy and I returned home in tears, ashamed and I binned the clothes I wore that day. I wasn't big before I had my daughter and I wasn't even overweight after, I was a UK size 12 and was previously a 6-8. My mum was and still is bigger than me! I thought it was normal at the time and that was the saddest part about it. Nobody asked me if I was okay or needed help, they asked about my weight and appearance.
Oh behalf of those people I would like to apologize. When I was 18 a lady I knew was pregnant however I didn’t realize when she finally give birth, so I asked her how much longer she had, but she had given birth a few months ago. Growing up I realize now how long it takes in reality for a body to recover and while I never thought she looked bad, it is easy to say something careless and ruin someone’s day.
I’m sorry. ❤️
I’m sorry. ❤️
I’m sorry. ❤️
I’m sorry. ❤️
I’ve stopped using social media all together (besides UA-cam) and stopped watching toxic movies/shows and I’m 100x happier not being in the loop of all the nonsense❤
Me too honestly.
Same girl! Going on 4 months now!! So nice
I'm trying but its really hard
I’ve been doing this for 3 years. Welcome to the other side
@@SummerSun-sg3wftry harder
My husband can be a jerk at times. It happens. But he has NEVER complained about my post baby body. Ever. Never called me fat. Never complained about my saggy breasts. Never made a comment about my less than perfect butt, or my mommy-tummy. And watching this video and reading these comments has made me suddenly appreciate him a lot more than i have. Thank you.
Same. Infact my husband actively encourages me against a mommy make over. Cause I miss my old body, pero, he always assures me that I'm more beautiful now after having our 2 beautiful babies. ❤❤❤❤ truly love my husband ❤️
The bare minimum 🤣🤣
Can be a jerk to who?
...slim pickins' out here, I guess
I always blame my weight gain on my second child. I usually leave out that he just turned 33......
my mum still blames me and I'm turning 32 this year 😂😂
Same! 🤣
I'm 36 and my mom still blames me lol
my mum often blames me and my siblings, that she gained weight. Most importantly is i am the youngest and i turned 18 last year.
omg 😂
When my then spouse asked my obstetrician how soon my body would "bounce bk" , the dr side-eye'd him & said "we cut thur muscles- w/o surgery, this IS her body" ❤ with 1 sentence, that Dr. Lifted a weight off me & i stopped stressing over my body from that day forward😊
LOL-“My then spouse.” Good choice!
Glad he’s you’re ex husband. There are a lot of stupid immature men out there.
Couple years ago I was with my ex- sitting on the grass at the park my shirt rolled up just an inch and he was like “What’s that?” All disgusted. So I looked down to my side it was my stretch mark. You’re with a woman who has given birth one time so why you shocked I have stretch mark on my love handles? This man is in his mid 40s. Acting like a toddler grossed out over TWO stretch marks. Glad I got ride of his a$$ too.
What a great doctor!
He is telling the truth
I read something the other day that said our looks come from generations of people who saw each other and fell in love :)
This sentiment is so beautiful 😍 🤩. I'm changed for the better for reading it. Thank you for sharing.
Love this!!
that is genuinely so cute 😭😭😭🙏🙏😩
Maybe for you white ppl. But for ppl in other countries where white ppl enslaved and r**ed our ancestors, that’s definitely not the case.
I had a breast reduction & lift about 18 months ago, and the recovery wasn’t quick or easy. I can’t imagine combining that surgery with multiple others, and having to recover while caring for young children. The whole concept of a “mommy makeover” is insane!!
@magicfishergirl, pls don't make that decision because you hate your chest... cause no surgery in the world will make you love it. You have to love yourself first. Pls don't talk bad about your body, it's so much prettier then you think, I guarantee you!!!! From surgery you can litteraly die, is it really worth it???
(english isn't my first language, so I hope my comment is correct, but I'm sorry if it's not😅i just really wanted to tell you that, because i didn't like how you talk about your body)
I had breast reduction surgery about 10 years ago, and it's the best thing I ever did. Recovery took maybe 6 weeks, and you will have drains in for several weeks too. It takes maybe a good year to be completely healed, however, and even more time for the scars to fade.
@@marinaprosperinahow is it so great when you need a years recovery?!?! That’s insane.
For anyone considering a breast reduction, the procedure now is much easier than it used to be. I didn’t have drains, was fully recovered in about a month, and my scars fully faded within 6 months. I only said it wasn’t easy or quick because I couldn’t have bounced out of bed and been caring for kids in a week or two, but it wasn’t a super painful or grueling recovery by any means. I’d highly recommend the procedure to anyone who has such large breasts that you’re in chronic discomfort and your quality of life is impacted. It’s honestly the best thing I’ve ever done for myself!
For sure, I wouldn't be able to tell my kids to not touch me while I'm recovering with my Whole body
Once upon a time I wanted surgery but my husband was very against it. He was afraid for my health and he didn't care that my body looked different. I'm glad I didn't go through with it. This is so scary. I may never get my pre-baby body back but I'm proud of my body. It went through a lot! Thank you for shedding light on this situation.
You are a lucky queen....to have such a supportive husband😊
I’m so happy you have such a supportive husband. You had a baby love.. you look beautiful. You made a whole ass human. I’m proud of you and your body. Much love to you and your family ❤
A girl I went to school with died 3 months ago after having a mommy makeover. She went to the hospital with fungal meningitis and died a week later. And yes I’m from Texas, her name was Jody .
Im pregnant with my second baby and I told my husband I wanted surgery after that. He said I was crazy.. that I should just try to work out and eat healthy. I am glad now that I saw this video because it scares me that my kids will not have a mom if something goes wrong with this surgery I wanted to get. First time seeing you and thank you ❤😭
You have such a great husband and supportive too!
Thank God you have a husband with good sense!! He's completely correct v
If you still want a bit of touch up surgery after baby #2, that’s fine! But it’s extremely sweet that he’s supportive of you naturally being healthy and feeling good. Sounds like a pretty good guy. 👍🏻
Lift weights and look into radio frequency for skin tightening!!
I think social media is not the only thing to blame for all this . Some men are very superficial & they’ll often leave their wives/gfs because they no longer find her attractive after pregnancy and end up looking for a younger woman ( which is a whole other issue) . That will ruin anyone’s self esteem . Then the woman looks into surgery to gain the confidence back and so on . Very sad
And then the guy gets his new young wife pregnant too and it all starts over again... If those men who don't like womens' bodies after giving birth, could learn how to "pull out" or get castration surgery (I don't know what it's called in English) to avoid getting women pregnant, these situations wouldn't occur...
Yup. My thoughts exactly. The women feel they Have to do something or the man will find someone younger, thinner, etc. It's a shame.
SUCH MEN CANNOT LOVE A WOMAN THEY CAN ONLY GET PHYSICALLY ATTRACTED TO A WOMAN. FOR EXAMPLE MISOGYNISTS.
@@CampLJNCNot all women. A high quality woman knows her worth and that her worth is in who she is rather than her body.
@@snehajagajith6409relationships and emotions don't work this way, no matter your "value"
Was playing on getting a mommy makeover.. I have six children ranging from ages 6 to 22... I've been wanting a mommy makeover since I thought I was finished having babies 10 years ago! Now, being 100% certain that my 6-year-old WAS my last baby, I've been saving my money, for YEARS to go somewhere where they offer mommy makeovers at a discounted price! I would LIKE to believe that before I finally went through with it, I would have done massive research and found these stories, but to be honest I don't know! Maybe I would have been so excited I would have skipped the extensive research into these stories! That terrifies me! Thank you for your very informative video! I will no longer be saving my money for a mommy makeover I will use the money I have saved and take my kids to Disney world! 😅😂❤
Your kids will remember how you love them, not if you can wear a crop top.
@@mffmoniz2948 lol.. true thAt!
If I give birth and my man books me a makeover, he's out, like, he's goin to be makeovered.
Show him pictures of how women look after giving birth and see how he'll react. If it's bad, leave. But one thing is true, the younger you are at giving birth, the better your body "bounces back". Not promoting teenagers to get pregnant but it's best to do it when in your early twenties.
I’m petty, so if he was my husband, I’d probably book him a consultation for some hair implants with that receding hair line 💀 I’ll fight 🔥 with 🔥 all day.
@@tessltaekook8501nah in terms of potential for complications and fertility, ages 25-34 is the best time to do it
Yep 👍
@@tessltaekook8501 what's the point of your comment because it's giving irrelevant
I heard someone say to her kids that her belly is still round because that's where she carried her children and grew them and her body wants to remember that 🥰
I think that's beautiful and definitely the explanation I'll give my daughter too.
That is very sweet and a good reminder of both the blessings and changes we make for the gifts of new life. Very touching ❤
Arms be missing the baby bump!
I love this so much❤
That’s so so beautiful!
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I’m watching this as I eat my Oreos. I’ve had 3 kids. Screw it. Wish I hadn’t run out of milk though. 😂
My first kids dad told me he was concerned about the fact I let myself go and wasn’t working on my self anymore my son was 2 months old, I wasn’t wearing makeup, wore sweats, and wore a messy bun, gained weight back after losing 45 pounds during my pregnancy due to severe hg which causes you to vomit profusely, the entire pregnancy. We separated when my son was 4 months old, and he walked away completely by the time my son was 3. My fiancé now after our daughter thinks I’m even more beautiful now and reminds me to be easy on my body and it’s changing.
Anna's man 😡omg what a RED FLAG
Why?
totally agree
He’s a creep 🤮
If my partner went on camera and told everyone I had flappy boobs I'd be mortified
Must be awful to put up with his subtle demeaning comments all the time
As a first time pregnant wife, and just a woman who went from definitively slim to gaining some weight over a period of time - this (not the mummy makeover but general concern about my body changing) has certainly occupied my mind. But I don't think I could ever bring myself to do this. My body was made to store fat and fold and stretch, not just for a baby but to carry itself efficiently. It's fearfully and wonderfully made.
My husband has been super supportive. If I say something rude about myself, he sometimes playfully whines 'but that's my wiiiiife. Don't say that about her' - it's very endearing. Mostly he insists for me not to see myself in such a way. It's a work in progress but thank God, I am getting there!
I'm so glad you have a supportive husband! May you and your family be blessed with a peaceful and happy home!
I used to work on websites for plastic surgeons, and I hated posting the specials for Mommy Makeovers, always advertised around valentine's day and mother's day. Thanks for talking about this!
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That is actually so sad and terrible
I lift weights daily at home, I feel great, stronger, and keep toned arms with no surgery/lipo/airsculpt (with no SERIOUS side effects)❤️👤it's not instant but it's worth it over surgery imo. Sad for the women who've lost their lives💔
Ughh thats horrible 😣
Ugh I've written for plastic surgery sites too and I hate myself for it sometimes.
I’m not a mother- but speaking generally, when your husband looks at you and subliminally says you’re no longer attractive after giving birth, nor gets disgusted at you for looking what a mother has given birth supposed to look, isn’t that a red flag already?
This is just sad for mothers who carried another life for 9 months, but immediately felt that insecurity for feeling that they haven’t achieve anything worthwhile in life 💔
The sunk cost fallacy, plus they just gave birth, I don't blame the women who don't want to be a single parent. These husbands are horrible.
@@hagelslag9312 that’s why im being super careful. Im 41 and single 😂just kidding, Im not actually looking for a relationship I have a chronic illness, but if I had gotten married and had kids I can’t even imagine the devastation of realizing you married an a$$hole right after giving birth to his child… that’s awful.
I miscarried once at 5 1/2 months and my body looked pregnant for almost 6 months after,
I still have issues with my stomach. I refuse to wear crop tops because I have some stretch marks from the many failed pregnancies.
Even though I didn't have nearly as much damage to my body that would have normally occurred if it were full-term I was still pressured into losing weight and fitting back into my "better" body.
The worst part is my husband is still asking me to try to get pregnant again.
Nope.
Hm some people are just scared to let go
It is a HUGE red flag. My ex-husband wasn't the best, but one good thing about him is that he loved and appreciated the work my body did to bring our children into the world 🩶
I’m thin and I have cellulite on my belly and stretch marks sagging skin, my husband thinks I’m sexier than ever, wobbly bits and all!!😊 my baby is my entire world. I would not trade the life and blessings I have now for a so-called perfect body. So many unrealistic expectations . It’s a major sin. I love your page and thank goodness you are speaking the truth! You are a gem and thank you for realizing our bodies may be imperfect as far as the standards of the world now, and this constant obsession with looking a certain way is destroying a lot.
My dad has always thought my mom is as beautiful and “hot” as when they first met, and she’s had 4 children, and yes her body has changed . but sometimes I question if these couples actually love each other or have ever loved each other.
right?? i think people cant tell the difference between love and infatuation
Yes, it's literally incredible to me that a long-term partner would think like that about someone they supposedly know well and value deeply. My parents have been married for 45 years and my mother gave birth 4 times; my father tells her she's beautiful all the time and he means it. Of course she looks different but that is testament to the four children they created together!
That gives me hope!! I love seeing couples who have stayed really into each other throughout the phases of life. Ever see an elderly couple that's been together for decades and they still speak about each other like they're the hot 20-year-olds they were when they got married? I want that. I rarely am able to feel physical attraction without liking a personality first, so I'm not terribly concerned about losing attraction as my partner's body changes over time. I just hope to end up with someone who will keep the same energy for me, especially if I ever go through pregnancy.
@@Sweet_Dee IKR! That gives me hope too, and boy do I want exactly what you just said. I am also the same kind of person who isn't attracted to anyone without ever knowing what kind of a person they are, and good they are personality wise. I hope whatever you wish for comes true, and also for people like us.
I was BUTCHERED having this surgery.
I lost my right breast completely, including my nipple and my other breast was made far too small, my husbands pecks are bigger! And they took too much skin for the tummy tuck, so now (2 years later) I still can't stretch my arms above my head properly and I have huge sunken in scars because the skin has stretched out so thin under my arms. Following those very strange scars, I have huge painful hypertrophic scars under where my breasts were.
I'm so sorry!
Apply for the show botched.
Jesus
These experiences need to be amplified
So sorry you are going through this! Thank you for bringing awareness
I am not a married women and not a mother. But in my office I saw many male office colleagues of mine becomes 1st time , 2nd time father. My office is basically no women, only me. So in canteen I heard what those guys talks. Last 4 years here I heard many times that , those men don't like there wife anymore, Because of pregnancy they get elephant body and more vulgure stuff. This make me sad.
Men are so lame and swallow. Those men make there wife pregnant, come on😢😢
That is so sad😢
@@rachelthebroken1031 but it is true
I'm a woman who knows these kind of men, and also good men. From my experience, the good ones simply don't get together with those idiots. That's why you won't hear them. Sure they might feel differently about their wives bodies, that's not a conscious choice, but the idea that tends to prevail is that "luckily everyone's healthy after birth", because the thought of complications that could take their wives away from them scares them more than saggy breasts. Another phrase that I've heard is "I had a baby too", while they jokingly rub their beer bellies. Sweet, common sense stuff.
@@mustbetheSUN true
Tell their wives
As someone who lost her mom to cancer at a young age, I can’t help but get really upset at the idea of moms with new babies going under the knife and putting their health and possibly their life at risk. Your babies need you! Don’t EVER risk your child growing up without a mom, please! 🙏❤️
My mom also passed away from cancer but if she had got surgery to feel better about herself after having me and my brother I wouldn’t be mad at her for it. It’s sad to me that after women have kids they’re expected to throw their life away and only live for their kids. It’s a mother’s responsibility to care for and nurture and protect her children, but she’s her own person too.
Exactly
@@basharalbutseggs8056 I think risking your life to “look better” is a terrible idea. There are a lot of ways to be your own person and care for yourself that don’t involve going under the knife. I guess agree to disagree on this one. I am very sorry for your loss though ❤️
@@KalyElizabeth when you put yourself in the mothers shoes- tits are sagging and stretch marks, your stomach feels flabby and wrinkly, you have lost all your confidence and you now, like I said, live for your children and are no longer viewed as your own person, I can understand why they’d go under the knife. Yes it’s risky but when you’re feeling THAT low about yourself it’s clear why anyone would want to do those surgeries. There’s nothing you could recommend like your said other ways to feel better that are gonna reduce sagging excess skin.
@@KalyElizabeth and it’s not just about looking better. If everytime you stood in front of the mirror you didn’t recognize the body you saw, the body you once had is now gone, you’d feel devastated. There’s a small percentage of woman who will embrace the stretch marks and sagging skin because they carried life but everyone else is going to feel like their self esteem has plummeted to hell
i feel really bad for Anna, at the end of the day it was ultimately her decision to go through with the procedures, but the husbands "vlog" stye recording of her post op, talking about how she looks "soo much better" makes me really sad because you can see her face drop.
I agree
She can do better!
Does anyone remember the TV SHOW extreme makeover? It should have been called mommy makeover, because that's all they did. It made me frightened to ever have kids. The way they would pick these women's bodies apart was so horrifying. What a toxic time that was.
It’s been 6 plus years I’ve been trying to rid of my post pregnancy weight 😂 my mommy makeover was a new wardrobe, hair/makeup..learning to dress for your new body (and role) is all the makeover you need..embrace your changing body and feed it good food, exercise and love.
same!!!
I’m so sick of having cellulite, loose skin, stretch marks. Sigh… society today has ruined people’s confidence especially women. It’s horrible…
I'm sure you're beautiful regardless
Keep watching Stepanies videos and you will get your confidence back. She is pretty convincing :-) I also really liked the documentary "Embrace". It helped me lot
something to keep in mind when you see all these celebrities with perfectly flat tummies and talking about how they lost 20 pounds and 20 weeks , etc something to keep in mind is that is there is a lot of Photoshop and face tuning that goes on that we don’t see. Their stretch marks, their scars, they all get blurred out. As Stephanie said, they have their own personal trainers, they have nannies, they have nutritionists, they have dietitians, make up artists, people that can make them look beautiful every single day and us “normal regular people” don’t have access to those things. It’s hard to feel beautiful when you see these people in magazines and on social media but just remember, that most of these images are lies and that you probably look better now the way you are then you would if you had a surgery go wrong and that’s not worth the risk ❤❤❤❤
Thanks ladies! Such sweet comments! It’s nice to know there are supportive women still out there! ❤️
Regular excercise will fix it OVER TIME. When you see pictures of starving people in WWII, do they have loose skin? NO! It naturally shrinks to your skeleton.
I am pregnant with my first baby. I will never do this to myself 😮it is absolutely insane to risk my health and life to do surgery just to look like I never had a kid. I will get my body back the natural way and accept whatever changes happen. I will wear my stretch marks and whatever else with pride and honor myself for bringing my child safely into this world.❤
My mom's body changed after giving birth twice and I still think she is the most beautiful woman in the world. Every "imperfection" just shows how much she loves me and my brother. The body a woman gets after birth is EARNED. It is a symbol of her love and strength. My heart goes out to every mother feeling like she has become "less" after going through such a difficult but miraculous experience.
And the saddest part, in the U.S., health insurance won't pay for complications resulting from an elective procedure. So all medical bills that accumulate from the complications will be the responsibility of the patient who's now disfigured (or worse).
Anna’s husband .. yuck. “Yea they are floppy. ” Let her speak on it
He definitely gives you the ick!!!
toxic man👀👄❗
Neither parent is very pleasant to their four children either unfortunately... :/
I had my third baby about 3 months ago and, I just want to say, thank you for this. I’ve been having some not-so happy thoughts about my body since, but I try to remind myself that it doesn’t matter if my body looks different. What matters is that my kids love me and I’m the best mom I can be. Mind you, I’m trying to get myself back to where I was, but it’s okay if it doesn’t happen immediately. These things take time.
Hey, mama! I know how you feel, but remember, it took 9 months to grow your precious baby and it will take at least that long to start looking and feeling better. I have had three children (all in my 30’s) and was able to bounce back after each one with proper nutrition and exercise. I didn’t rush it and it took around a year to a year and a half each time. Of course my boobs will never be the same and I was lucky enough not to get any stretch marks on my stomach but I do have an ugly, crooked c-section scar after my last two births. Stay strong, positive and be so proud of what your body accomplished. I’m sending you lots of love! ❤
It matters how your body looks and how you feels in it. But not worth dieing for
18:26 it's not just your life anymore when you're a mother. It's also the life of your child you need to consider when thinking about getting surgeries like this.
"There is nothing wrong with having children and your body look like having children" YES!!!!
There is something wrong if it makes you unhappy & uncomfortable. The real issue is having too many surgeries in one day.
@@Drageishathere are SO MANY exercises to drastically improve those without surgery.
There's plenty of woman who look worse than mothers and wanna have a mommy makeover. How about those that have a body who looks worse than those who had babies without even having them?
People are too trusting of surgery. I'm eating a healthy diet and doing exercise that I enjoy. That's enough.
I am just now seeing this, but I am a dental hygienist and have too many patients going to Turkey for dental work, and coming home with a mouth full of unnecessary root canals, and eventually losing the teeth that they saved money of getting “fixed”.
Here's what I told myself and other people 2 years after I gave birth: I'm a good mom I'm a good wife I'm a good sister and I'm a good friend. I'm a good neighbor and I do what I can for others in the world. So what if I weigh 20 lbs more now!
THIS!!!! ❤ Those things are what will matter in the end-not how perfect you looked!! We are here to
L O ❤️ E, and you’re doing a great job!!
AMEN!
This mindset is absolutely beautiful. You do you and live your life the way you want! PROUD OF YOU!
I had twins almost three years ago and it destroyed my body, I didn't even recognize myself. I got so depressed about how I looked I basically gave up and just gained a bunch of weight but then this year I chose to make a change and I'm working on getting back to my old body as best I can. All this to say, I needed this video. I played with the thought of getting surgery and I'm glad I'm going at this naturally
You're so beautiful good luck girl ❤❤
I'm starting therapy on Monday bc since becoming a mom 10 months ago, I've lost my identity & my confidence from the weight gain is really, really low. I haven't thought about a mommy makeover, I know my issues are in my head. They aren't my bodies fault. I have a daughter now that will be watching me to learn about the world & the LAST thing I want to teach her is that "looks" are important. I want her to watch me love myself, watch me live a healthy lifestyle & be confident in myself. I owe that to her, & myself. I should've started therapy immediately after having her, but I thought if I lost the weight, it would all go away. I know better now. Being a mom is hard. Being a woman in the generation is even harder. Thank you for talking about the pressure society puts on us to be "perfect" no matter the consequences. ❤
This is the most healthy response I’ve seen. Your daughter is lucky to have you.
After 5 children and losing about 170lbs through lifestyle changes I had surgical skin removal and muscle repair. I had tummy tuck with muscle repair, extended vertical thigh lift, brachioplasty, lower back lift, lipo and fat transfer to breasts and face over two surgeries about a year apart. I went to a well known plastic surgeon in my area and my recovery took a significant amount of time. It was well worth the discomfort and financial cost to me as I had significant back pain from the abdominal stomach gap and from hanging loose skin. I do feel better emotionally as my loose skin was significant and not fixable with exercise and I had no further weight to lose. However my husband always told me I was fine the way I was!
I'm a mom of 3. I really needed this video. Now I am convinced I do not need any of that mommy makeover bs.
Thank you!
It’s crazy how popular this has gotten. This was really informative and I hope it helps woman to rethink fillers or a mommy makeover.
Surgery is known to be extremely dangerous and risky but people dont seem to think this is the case for plastic surgery for some reason. Unless it is for life saving-purposes, invasive surgery for cosmetic purposes has dire consequences. Hope your video reaches all those who are seriously considering it
It's the "it won't happen to me" mindset. Doesn't matter if it's as risky as 1 in 100, people will keep believing they won't be that one person and take the chances.
@@hagelslag9312 According to National Safety Council, you have a 1 in 93 chance of dying in a motor vehicle accident and yet people don't think twice about getting behind the wheel. You have a far, far lesser chance of say, dying from getting a breast augmentation performed in the US. But I imagine having back to back headlines about car crashes doesn't grab at people's attention the same way plastic surgery regret/death stories do.
I had surgery to fix the position of organs in my groin area, while there she tightened things up. I was not going to have things fixed or lifted for purely cosmetic purposes.
@@miraloran7039 an interesting point. Yes and many people have to drive as walkable cities are not that common, so even if it’s dangerous it’s necessary to drive to make a living or to get around. Whereas cosmetic surgery is purely extraneous and far less accessible. Both are gambling your life but one is for transportation and the other is vanity
life saving purposes? lol a bit dramatic. people getting surgery to fix any kind of health issue should be able to without being criticized
I’ve never had a baby, but I did lose 90LB in 2009. There was a part of me back then who wanted to have plastic surgery to get rid of the loss skin. But I’m so glad I didn’t. Who cares if my body looks perfect. I’m proud I lost all that weight and have kept it off. Any mommy’s out there. Be proud of your mom bod. You made a tiny human, that’s amazing 😊
I lost 100 lbs in 2022... I keep getting asked if I'll have the skin removal surgery. Mind you... I am very lucky and don't really have much loose skin. In fact, I wouldn't even qualify for a full tummy tuck. But people still made me feel crappy. But meeting my guy last year really changed that. He doesn't care about it. To him I'm the most perfect thing he's ever seen. It really helped my confidence
well done!
awesome work! your life isn't work a flat stomach (that most women over 30 won't have anyway.)
Have you noticed the skin tightening with workouts
@@ximar0ckstrxcongrats. I’m still trying to lose 100 lbs. Been on every diet always workout and low carb no wheat
Thank you for making this video. I worry for moms today. I remember growing up in the 80s when this expectation wasn’t a thing and there was actually a stigma against plastic surgery. It was expected and normal for women to look their age…I feel that perspective was much healthier for mothers. Sometimes progress isn’t progress…all of these “enhancements” may really be setting us back.
I was an older teen and early 20 year old in the 80s and I can assure you 100% that the pressure to be stick-skinny with boy hips was fierce. Just a different kind of pressure than now, but pressure nonetheless. Social media has made the pressure toxic a million fold. I guess women will always feel the need to measure up to insane standards. We’re all our own worst enemies sometimes. 😢
Yeah, I remember seeing actresses with obvious face jobs and thinking 'how are they ever going to act again looking like that? They don't look like a real person.' but then real people started doing it too.
@@mysonsmom9754 thank you, stigmatizing age and impossible beauty standards aren't new, it's just worse than ever with social media and accessibility to more "clinics" and credit. my mom's first boob job was in the 80s, she was in her late 20s.
I've birthed and breastfed 2 children and undergone a hysterectomy to remove ovarian cancer. I'm left with a 2 joined together pouches. My husband has never once suggested I should get that fixed, he loves me as I am!
omg 2:39 the way she is 'holding' that baby! Yikes. Way more interested in how she looks for the pic.
Holding her baby like an inanimate teddy bear
I’ll never get over that picture of Emrata holding her baby like that 😵💫
HAHAHA I know right??
Literally, wtf was that? Poor kid. Posing shouldn't take precedence over holding your kid.
Vain narc that one 😅
Lmao
Stephanie, I really needed to see this video. My baby girl is almost 6 months old and recently this pressure to lose all the weight and "bounce back" now that she's getting older. Thank you for spreading this message. It is very much needed and appreciated.
Thank you so much for saying this! Everything in society pushes the message we have to look "perfect". No one aesthetic should ever be set as the standard! People need to embrace the beauty of their body and age. I've always believed everyone looks good when they are healthy and their true self shines through.❤
Society is so crazy. It doesn't make any sense. Thanks Stephanie for such an important video. Love you
Thank you for this video. I had twins about a month ago and was dead set on getting a mommy makeover in 1-2 years. My husband has been against it from the start and goes out of his way to tell me how amazing I look. This really opened my eyes. I thought I wasn’t susceptible to social media influence, but I realized I social media was the only reason I thought about getting the surgery. I’ll def stick to going to the gym and loving myself and this journey
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 your twins will bring you joy and you’ll be able to support them on loving themselves just as they are too! Naturally healthy is commendable ❤
Bless your husband..
I too have had twins, I was on bed rest my second half of my pregnancy. All I wanted to DO after their birth was go to the gym.
My breasts are so tiny that I was permanently laughed at by boys when I was a teenager, and even my husband once was told that he must be gay, because a woman with A size is actually a boy. For 15 years of marriage and 19 years together he has never ever said that my breasts are "saggy", "small" or thet they were "better when you were prgnant/breastfeeding". I am so sorry for that mom who had her "mommmy makeover" paid by her husband....
Bravo Stephanie. Keeping it real as always from a nearly 60 year old woman who is sick to death of women being shamed.
PREACH! I had to get pelvic floor reconstruction because I wasn’t functioning properly after having two babies - and that was so difficult to recover from. I can’t imagine getting surgery all over my body and trying to recover from THAT. No wonder people die during or after widespread surgery. That is SO HARD on the body. People just don’t think about that.
Ahh the lovely Steph I could listen to your accent forever especially when you are the complete voice of reason!! Cheers 🍻 from 🇨🇦 ❤️
We need more women like you. I’ve debated getting a tummy tuck for years, but it always comes down to not wanting to risk my life over having a perfect tummy. I may never be able to get rid of my stretch marks but I’ll be here for my kiddos, that to me is worth every single mark on my body from my pregnancies. 😢
Yea same here. Just not worth it
I feel so bad for Anna. I can’t imagine having a husband like that. I haven’t had kids, but my boobs are incredibly large, saggy, and uneven. I had a hormone imbalance from a young age that caused one side to grow two extra sizes and they grew so fast that they’ve never not pointed at the ground. I HATE them. They’re difficult to style in bathing suits and tops. I feel like the ugliest girl in the world without a bra. I’ve wanted a boob job my whole life. Even my own mother recommended it (as a way to deal with my insecurity but that just made it worse). But my husband has begged me not to. I won’t say he “won’t let me” because at the end of the day I’m an adult and I could do it without his permission, but he’s implored me to stay as I am because he loves me and loves them and to him, no amount of “perkiness” is worth the risk of losing me. It honestly is making me tear up and get a lump in my throat just typing it. I’m so lucky to have a man who values me as a person over me as the perfectly modified Instagram model. I don’t even fear the body changes that having kids might bring because I already have saggy boobs and stretch marks and he stills love every part. I can’t imagine how different my life would be if I had a husband like Anna’s. I’d probably be multiple surgeries in if I’d even be here to tell the tale at all. Anna deserves better and I hope she finds it someday cause unconditional love is so much better.
I also struggle with parts of my own body, mainly related to pregnancy/post childbirth (belly fat, saggy boobs), but I'm so grateful that my husband only has wonderful things to say about me and my body. Never once has he uttered a negative word about how I look, and I know he wouldn't think the risk of surgery was worth it either!
You got a definite keeper
I’m really glad you found an amazing person to be by your side; wish you both the best 🤍 I also found an amazing husband who never judges and even gets upset with me when I’m crying over my body, says he loves it and will continue to no matter how many changes it goes through because it’s whats keeping me here. Society has fucked us bad and we sometimes need a third person to remind us thats body standards are bs, hopefully soon we can be that person to our kids, friends, relatives.
That's amazing ❤ what a good man
Your comment made me tear up, I'm so happy for you 🫂
My firstborn son was 4.4 kg. Last week of pregnancy I got big stretchmarcks popped up on my belly. He is 5 years old now. My daughter wasn’t particularly small either. Several times I had several doctors which I saw for non cosmetic reasons asked if I want to do something with my stretch marks. Yeah. I want to wear them proudly as a reminder what a fantastic thing I did.
So many reputable piercers won’t administer more than two piercings at a time because each one will take longer to heal. That is for PIERCINGS. Doing multiple elective and invasive surgeries in one sitting is INSANE. Your body needs to be able to heal, and the strain one puts on it with multiple injuries (which wounds from surgeries are) can be so dangerous.
I had a c-section with my first baby...That was all the surgery that Ill ever need. I've made peace with never having my pre-baby body. I don't want it. I freaking grew humans and birthed them into this world. If somebody doesnt like my body, sucks to be them. I will always work on nourishing my body, keeping it fit, giving it the best care I can. BUT I refuse to let this body-image-obsessed societal standards make me feel crap about myself. I am beautiful FOR my mommy body and I am proud of it. Mamas...YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL.❤
You have helped me get my head straight about plastic surgery so many times. Thank you.
When I had my last baby .. we got home my mom was holding the new bundle of joy I went to lay down and his father asked me when I was going to get skiinny again .
What ‼️‼️‼️
Grrr
That’s really sad. I’m so sorry 💔💔
@@Crestos98 thank you
Without social media this wouldn't be a thing. No one I know in real life wants their wife to look like she hasn't had babies. The women do wish they could get rid of some belly weight, but they're not judging each other or killing themselves to get their "pre baby" body back. Yes, assholes exist in real life, but cut them out and this idea is gone. It's just social media standards. Ignore it. Live your life. Be healthy for you and your babies. Leave out the Instagram and magazine toxicity.
@@Kunya, yesss!!! Wonderful post!! I don’t follow any of these social media types, and I don’t even use Instagram! That garbage is NOT allowed in my peaceful life! ❤
This was a thing in magazines in the 90's and 2000's too. My Mum bought magazines every week and they were displayed at the shops. It's a problem that is much older than social media influencers.
@@Anna81Louiseat least back then it was something rich people, celebrities and models did. It’s so “normal” now through exposure that regular people feel it’s expected.
I blame posting pictures on social media
I have the feeling that the phenomenon of men leaving their women after they gave birth because they are "out of shape" is going on for ages
Thank you so much for sharing this important message. I've struggled with body image issues my whole life, but of course the drastic changes I experienced after my first child really devastated me. It has taken me years to get past yhe insecurity. I've now had 2 babies and while my body has naturally snapped back better than I could have expected, I still struggle with image issues. The changes are hard to get used to. But I am thankful to hear others preaching the message that our postpartum bodies are just as beautiful and worthy as our prepregnancy bodies.
My co-worker had mommy makeover surgery December 1st and if it could wrong it did. 2 days after coming home from hospital she came down with Pneumonia in both lungs, blood clot went to her lung, and had to go on oxygen. She finally came home on Christmas Eve on oxygen 24 Seven.Then her stitches opened up so back to the hospital for a week. She finally is off oxygen during the day. She can’t come back to work until March. Even then it will only be part time and probably from home. She had a bunch of others life threatening things happen. All because she is jealous of the bodies of the 24 year old gals in the office. She had her surgery in the states.
Omg did I need this video right now! I had microneedling done a few weeks ago and now am hyper focused on my tiny forehead wrinkles! I was planning to do Botox and this made me realize it won’t help. It will only cause me to fixate on other things to ‘correct.’ Thank you!!
Yes! Aging is a beautiful passage of time. Do what you can, but embrace the life experience you see on your face. ❤
A much needed issue needing to be addressed! Thanks so much for shedding light on it.