Hey guys - no you’re not going mad 😆 UA-cam age restricted this video to over 18s only and hardly any of my subs was able to watch it unless they had proven to YT that they were over 18 😩 so I had to delete it, and try and re-upload it. So annoying! X
Ridiculous that this would be censored tbh. I saw a photo of an influencer the other day with the definitely photo shopped waist, and I could hear your voice going “where are the ORGANS”
They make too much money off said people with impossible proportions. So it's sadly going to happen. Thank you for doing your best to enlighten us all with the truth anyway. It's working! ❤️
I really appreciated the ending showing world class and Olympic athletes in comparison to unrealistic Instagram bodies. I'm tired of all this fakeness.
@@Adhara740 so right, stop looking at social media and it doesn’t exist. Look at people in real life, nobody cares if they aren’t an influencer and over 25.
Fun fact: a lot of those tight lacing examples from the Victorian era are altered to make the waist more tiny. They are always posed in front of a flat dark background and they would just paint the photo to make their waist smaller. Facetune before Facetune.
They would also pad out their hips to achieve a greater contrast between that area and the waist. Focusing on the ratio instead of just the thinness alone
Victorians used photoshop and photo tricks. I, being older, took film photography in high school and can recreate photo tricks like that in a dark room. It wasn't real then, and it's not now.
I bought a waist trainer at 16 thinking my waist was too round to be normal 😢 thank you guys for helping young girls not grow up thinking there’s anything wrong with their natural waist size ❤
I got a waist trainer around that time but that shit ended up breaking cause my shoulders and therefore my ribs are broader, lol. But when you're in a family with petite and slim women like I am, even without social media you still feel a certain type of way
I was going to buy a waist trainer around that Time too! I got really obsessed with losing weight and looking “perfect” but it was never enough… im 23 now and I eat whatever I want and wear whatever I want, I like to dance, and I enjoy my life a lot more😁 I just asked myself at some point “who is this all for?” and even when I truly believed it was for myself, I knew deep down that it wasn’t
@@neptune8645 that really inspired me because im a teenager and i though i had to be" perfect" to someone to like me and when i saw your comment i was like" i know its not what I want why im doing this" i though i was going to be happy if i lose weight and make people to like me im a chubby girl and even if im underweight i still look chubby so what matters is my happiness and stop caring about what others think about me my body my choice thank you so much for making me realize that 💜
Also, Victorians edited their waists using paint over the photographs. Tight lacing isn’t clearly related to fainting spells necessarily. There seems to have been a social phenomenon of feigning fainting as a proper response in certain situations.
Exactly, corsets were not as bad as people claim. Depending on how tight it was it could definitely hurt and be restricting but the average woman wasn't breaking her ribs with her corset.
Hey Stephanie great video, I was wondering if you could do one on K-pop idols. I’ve seen a ridiculous amount of young girls comparing their bodies to theirs. Keep in mind most K-pop idols are extremely underweight. Edit: hi guys, thank you for agreeing with me. Ik how toxic some fans are. Also I absolutely HATE to be that person but thank you for the likes.
I was meant to go to a therapy appointment for my anorexia and bulimia today and I didn't as I know they would make me eat and honestly your videos are the only thing that makes me actually want to recover and realise that its ok to not have a tiny waist and be completely flat from the side etc. I cant even describe how much you are helping people, you are wonderful
I pray you go to therapy and get the help you need I don’t need to see you to know your beautiful ! Stay away from this generation goals which is just who has the biggest butt smallest waste , perfect boobs . Just perfect… Perfection does not exist!!!!
Hi there, I know it’s been a while since you posted this but I wanted to say something. Even if you didn’t go it’s fantastic that you made an appointment. Recovery and peace of mind are so worth it, and you deserve it so much. Everyone does. Idk if you have made another appointment but I would encourage you to try again. I cannot begin to describe how freeing it is to just exist without constantly thinking about food and my body. Good luck❤
Seeing these photos for the first time honestly is like the wool has been taken from my eyes if that’s the saying? A tear into my reality. Wow. I CANNOT thank you enough for creating the videos you do. This has honestly changed me and will be something I think back to a lot. I hope this video gets sooo many views because it can literally save lives!
A lot of those super old photos are also photo shopped. There were old ways of “photo shopping” at the time even back in the day. So although yes tight lacing was something that some women of higher society would do, their waist wasn’t actually as small as you’d think and it wasn’t a common think for most women. x
I want to add to your comment. The Victorians made their waist look smaller by padding out their hips. They bought corsets with larger hips and put cushion pads in the hollow spaces. It’s all an illusion.
As a history buff, I'm laughing because I'm pretty sure some of the corset portraits you shared had the Victorian/etc. version of Photoshop done to them to further shrink the waists.
Yup, they did a sort of a 'photoshop'... Also their corsets did not make them faint. In fact, many had corsets that were sturdy, yet light enough to do everyday work in them, and only the very rich people (and who knows if all or just some of them) did properly tightlace. Mostly their waists looked tiny due to all the layers they wear as all the layers make their busts and bottoms look very large comparing to their waists..:)
@@GiGiiYacan you imagine? All of the working class women and females house staff wore corsets, how would they have managed to do their jobs if they were fainting all the time? Lol
I’m going to show your videos to my 13 year old daughter. She is just like any other teenager-impressionable and falls for the lies/tricks influencers try to perpetuate. What we need is an influencer who openly posts photos of her natural body and swims against the tide. Your videos have helped ME, a 33 year old mom who has always struggled with self esteem. Only once I began watching your videos did I begin embracing and LOVING my body, my face, my flaws. I am human and therefore look like one. As we all do, no matter how we try to make others think we don’t with all the filters and surgeries. Thank you so much Stephanie. I love you!! Lol like I seriously do 😘
Personally, and I know it's easier said than done, I would do everything in my power to get my 13 year old daughter off social media. There is no good reason for a 13 year old-especially a girl-to be on the likes of instagram and tiktok. What good can possibly come of it? And on the other hand, we've barely begun to scratch the surface of what kinds of havoc it's wreaking on children, but I think we've all seen enough to know it seriously harms social development and especially self-esteem in young women. I think most people know this, but they just don't want to take charge of the situation, and just allow it to continue to avoid confrontation. But if you think about it in terms of pros and cons, it's pretty stark. There is no benefit whatsoever, except for maybe 0.00001% of individuals who are able to turn it into a business. But everyone else is harmed by it and gains virtually nothing. So it's kind of like playing the lottery, except instead of paying $5 you're giving up your normal neurological and social development and possibly your healthy self-perception. Oh, plus you're wasting _insane_ amounts of time. Thousands upon thousands of hours scrolling aimlessly on a screen, desperately searching for some validating human contact, for the briefest respite from the despair of constantly comparing yourself to an endless feed of apparently superior peers. All time that could have been spent developing actual skills and a normal, healthy personality. Who knows what some of us could have been, had we gone back and done it over without social media?
I don't understand why people think the overtly tiny waste is even attractive. I've aways been a slim waisted woman, but even I think the massively tinier-than-the-head waist looks more like an alien, than the natural beauty of a woman. All sizes are equally beautiful, and we need to embrace our natural beauty, as that is how we own our personal power. You do a great service by exposing the truth in a very eloquent way. ❤
I agree. Why can't women just be happy with their bodies. When a person is so unhappy with their appearance, it's become almost like an idol they're worshipping.
3:53 Dua really shocked me💀💀 I remember in high school, being excited finding out we are the exact same height/weight... I'm glad I deleted instagram because it would have confused the heck outta me🤯 thank you for sharing these realities💖💖
I really appreciate this one. The weirdly tiny waist thing messes with my head. For many years I've dealt with ibs (distended stomach from slow digestion and bloating) and am always checking my stomach in the mirror to see how flat it is... photos like this wreck me.
14:13 my favorite part. I’m 115lbs, but I have a belly like that and always thought it was abnormal and unhealthy and that I needed to lose more weight. It seems like the typical idea of a healthy body is one with a perfectly flat stomach, so I’m so relieved to see how common/normal my body actually is. Thank you so much for this
it’s the most common thing everr, but also, your body doesn’t forget, skin that was stretched might not shrink again so even some underweight people have a belly sticking out cause it’s just skin not fat i lost a bunch of weight too fast and now i have more rolls than before lol, my mom loves sports, gets trophies from beach tennis tournaments, runs 70km easily, but she got pregnant four times, her belly will never get defined muscles, it’ll always be soft with a little saggy bellybutton lol everybody got sum rolls
yes this!! i got as low as 75 lbs and i STILL had “love handles” 😭😭😭 people really underestimate bone structure, especially with higher hipbones/wider ribs!!
I have crippling body dysmorphia alongside BPD, eating disorders etc.. long list of mental health issues. And Stephanie? I watch one of your videos every night before bed. It's the only thing that keeps me hanging on lately tbh 😭❤️ thank you..
Thank you so much sis.I really hated my 26 inch waist and I punished myself by exercising .My goal was to reach 24 inches but you really helped me accept myself.
Don't push yourself to get to 24 inches, 26 is going to look better. Those pictures she was showing of the insanely tiny waist, is not cute at all! I've been skinny my whole life so I'm not shaming or being jealous. And ps guys don't like toothpicks😉
Having a 24in waist will not make anyone happier. Even a little. My waist is 23in and i want a 18in(still wanting, which is kinda sick..) but i definitely know that it wont make me happier. Cz it doesnt depends in one thing solo. U will always want more.
I have long legs but there's a lot of models out there that have legs even longer than mine(kaia gerber for exemple which have long legs that r surreal) and it makes me sad in a way.. Cz i think what we really want is to be *better* *prettier* than the others. U cant change the size of your waist, neither the size of your legs. But u can find happiness in yourself by your pesonality, and admire yourself about things u did and the others r trying to reach..
I hear you. I hated my 36 inch hips. I googled what would slim them down and started exercise biking everyday. Guess what? My hips piled on muscle and they are now 38 inches. I stopped exercise biking 3 years ago and they STILL LOOK BIGGER and are still 38 inches. I could kick myself. I used to have bones that stuck out in an aesthetically pleasing way and I completely ruined them. Doh. When someone dumped me 3 years ago I couldn’t eat and dropped down to 7.5 stone and STILL had huge hips! So calorie restricting doesn’t get rid either. So annoyed at not appreciating what I had.
Thanks for the vid! I have a naturally small waist because of genetics but I used to see these girls on Insta with tiny waist and wished that I looked like them. Before I knew it I was insecure about my waist because I was brainwashed to believe it wasn't small enough. It's scary what effects social media can have on people, especially young girls.
Isn’t it weird that mostly all the reality/paparazzi pictures look SO much better than the edited and angled ones? Some pictures they upload really scare me and creep me out. They do not look like humans and more like aliens. In the real pics one can see al the beautiful abs and wonderful different bodies. It always reliefs me seeing them.
You are literally a very important piece of my journey to recovery anorexia and body image disorder. I can’t thank you enough for your videos, thank you!
Team short torso here. Thanks for showing the athletes. I didn’t think of that before. They used photo editing in the the old pics too, to make the waists look at tiny as possible. 🤨
In all of my years of traveling, I have never seen a waist that tiny! These photos are edited and well posed, as you mentioned. If this waist size is real, it’s very rare. Great video as always, Stephanie! ❤
I swear to god your videos are the only ones that seem to get into my head and make me realise that I am not bad looking. This made my day and I actually think that my waist is gorgeous now that I have seen how stupid the expectations of of today society are. Thank you
I can’t remember if I’ve commented already but Stephanie THANK YOU for making these videos. I am 30 and I struggled with eating disorders from 12-22. These videos would’ve been a godsend to me back then. I truly believe you are making a difference for someone out there. Love you and keep up the amazing work ✨💕
Loved the comparison to professional athletes! Such a good reality check for something like this. Those women are about as fit as you can possibly get and their waists are not tiny! Because it's not anatomically possible. Thanks for your videos and good vibes.👏👏
And here I am starving myself half the time to look like those instagram poses. You’re video is saving people thank you so much for the time and effort you put into this 😢
I’m 5’8”, 104 lbs, I’m short waisted and have a rectangle body shape. I will never have an hourglass shape. I will always be this shape. I’ve been this way my whole life and now, at 52, I’m still this way. Guess what? I’m perfectly perfect just the way I’m made and so are you all❣️ Embrace all of the things. You’re perfect❣️
I think the obsession with smaller wastes will never go away. Generally speaking wider hips are desirable because they signify fertility. But because we are walking on two feet there is a limit to hip size and it cannot get wider and wider. So smaller wastes make the hips seem wider. And that’s what seems appealing to the eye and feminine/fertile.
In the 1920s and 1990s women did not want wide hips. The style in the 20s was gamine/pageboy, and in the 90s was waif/“heroin chic.” It’s all made up, there isn’t a genetic or biological reason.
Nubile is favored over Large hips. All that matters is that the waist is smaller than the hips (which men also prefer to be small) bc it shows the woman has not mothered any children yet
Re Kendal & Hailey - it’s actually due more to hip size than torso length. If your hips are naturally smaller your waist by comparison will not look as small. It’s the coveted & scientifically proven “waist to hip ratio”. I have this body type & my waist just never looks small & it’s because I have tiny hips. I’ve modelled for 15 years believe me I know exactly what I’m talking about. I have stood next to a model with exactly the same waist measurement as me and because her hips are bigger her waist looks smaller than mine. So I have to get SUPER thin to look like I have a small waist & in my 30s now I’m not sure I can enough 😅 been there done that. I’ve just sent your video to the models I train (I also teach yoga & pilates) - your work/videos are SO important please do not stop 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
I have to keep watching these videos because I always hated my stomach it's my least favorite part of my body and honestly I never understood why... but the more I watch your videos the more I'm beginning to understand it's not my fault as to why I feel this way... please keep making these because they help a lot.
you are seriously one of the only people online that are so real, i love you so much girl you have literally changed my perspective of influencers and my body 💖
I had that with the thigh gap trend. I'm a fully recovered adult now. But I personally had to choose to never get Instagram and avoid fashion magazines and these types of images. Out of sight out of mind. You can do it, God bless you 🙂
@@shade247 k. If you don’t need a trigger warning, good for you. Eating disorders are psychological issues that can be “triggered” by mentions of weight, mentions of specific body imagine trends, and discussions of distorted view points. As someone who struggles with this deadly disorder , I felt the need to warn potential readers who also struggle from EDs about the person experiences i was sharing. I’m sorry that my trigger warning offended you or that you are uneducated on why trigger warnings are used when discussing EDs. Have a nice day
Stephanie, this video could not have come at a better time in my life. I absolutely love your videos for more or less "exposing" the who/what/why/how's of body goal myths. The really, really, really short version is that I want to just give you a thank you for helping people understand that we are all beautiful in our own way, and that what we see online is not always what it seems. Thank you so, so, so incredibly much. Your videos have literally helped me gain self-esteem, self-confidence, and self-love. So, many thanks. I hope you have a lovely day!
I just wanna say I appreciate your videos, I’ve always struggled to be skinny enough for social media (when I had it, 3 years sober). I got close to the look but it led to me having an eating disorder. After I was okay with how I looked, I got pregnant, (I was 22, the peak of the “hourglass” figure that I already had but it was not as unrealistic) but obviously your body grows to create life ❤. I had never accepted my body more when I got pregnant, this is how the real body looks and it’s The most amazing thing what Women’s bodies can do. Then I caught my husband looking and saving photos of girls who look like all of these girls, while I was pregnant. I felt low and upset because I felt like I was no longer “attractive” in his eyes. Even though I knew it was fake. After I had my daughter my body bounced back super quick thankfully but I don’t care if I match society’s standards, Women’s bodies are beautiful, they’re all unique and that’s perfectly okay! I have stretch marks, and cellulite but I created a beautiful human being, and I have to show my daughter when she grows up what true beauty within yourself means, and honestly I have never felt more beautiful. ❤️🥰
@@gianna526 yes I have, I let him know if he spoke to or began to put our relationship in trouble again, or make me feel worth less in his eyes I’d take my daughter and leave.
The diaphragm isn’t an organ, but a large muscle that moves your lungs when you breathe and it is normally a bit lower than the bottom of your rib cage and that can also have influence how the torso/belly area as well! Thank you for covering this topic!
Thank you so much for bringing attention to this!! There is so much propaganda feeding into unhealthy and unrealistic body goals. It is much needed to to expose the realty so some of us (me definitely includes me) can quit beating ourselves up about fake, impossible standards.
How incredibly sad when people are removing their ribs! I love your videos Stephanie. I don’t mind being honest but earlier this year I stopped using face app on my pictures. I’ve always struggled with my mental health , it wasn’t making me feel better & I was constantly comparing myself. I feel much better about my pictures now ❤
I literally think I would've made some permanent/life altering changes to my body that I would regret down the road by now if it wasn't for finding your channel and this content. Thank you so much for shining a light on the issues we have as a society. It is truly heartbreaking that women have been raised with these unachievable standards. I hope that we can break the mold so our daughters don't grow up with the same insecurities that've been forced onto us.
Girl, your content is absolutely NECESSARY. Thank you for that. I wish I could spread it all over. Have you ever thought about translating and subtitling your videos to access more people? I'm Brazilian and I work with that kind of job (EN-PT), if you're interested. I wish all my Brazilian girlfriends could watch you and understand you as I do! Big fan! Thanks again!
Thank you so much for doing videos like these!❤️❤️❤️❤️ You have helped me view myself better and feel better about myself. I now advocate for other people as well! We all deserve to feel good and these lies are so harmful to our society and I really appreciate the work you do to make these videos!
I love your videos. I appreciate you. You are and have been helping me accept myself. I knew this sh*t smelled funny but nonetheless it/they def made me hate myself. I hated my body, my face, oh my hooded eyes! My arms…my FINGERS (wtf?!) i am beginning to love me and i take care of myself now. Thank you for aiding in the new happy confident HEALTHY me ❤ You are soooo amazing! The world is a better place with u in it, i cant say enough how awesome it is that you are helping so many girls/women and boys! 😊❤
Love the hair… and just generally adore you. I cannot believe the things UA-cam will allow but take down or age restrict your content. Young people are the ones who NEED to se this. Hell, I’m a 44 year old woman who knows these images aren’t real….but even I get sucked in to believing my stomach is not flat enough, I have too many wrinkles etc etc. So I truly appreciate your videos. You are the definition of outer and, more important, inner beauty. You’re a babe ❤
I’m gobsmacked that this world we live in but this video is wonderfully refreshing and illuminating!! I even show my mum these videos because even as a 40/50 yr old I see more and more women (and men!) in my life believe all this internet brainwashing, through no fault of their own… even me and always need the reality check! Thanks you Stephanie- I love this content so much!
I always enjoy watching your videos. You’re so refreshing, respectful and needed in todays unrealistic beauty standards and culture. Truly appreciate you! Thank you Stephanie!! ♥️♥️
I have mixed feelings about this! I get that they are supposed to be role models , but at the same time they fall victim to the same ridiculous standards as the rest of us 🤷♀️🤦♀️💔
The last things I heard of Sophia Wollersheim/ Vegas was, that regrets this surgery (especially after she had her daughter). And she didn't recommended it. Thank uou for raising awareness! I try to do this too, when some fellows on the Internet are spreading some good meant but not always 100% accurate statements about the body of women.
When I was little being skinny and having a thigh gap and stuff was “trending” and I remember feeling too fat. Now being curvy is trending and I had felt not curvy enough. These videos have actually really helped me and now I just work on loving my body the way it is and taking care of it
I really really appreciate you making this video. Snapping us back into reality. Our minds have been so warped that the most unrealistic body images we see are now "goals" smh thanks for these vids boo
Finally I found this video. I saw the notification but couldn't watch it straightaway. I'm glad you were able to repost it. What you do is very important!
Please Stephanie, could you do a video about how people change their faces with filters, app and angles to look perfect? I suffer from body dysmorphia and my issues are focused on my face. Your videos about influencers and natural bodies are so helpful, but I feel like no-one is talking about how people change their faces. Cheekbones, lips, nose, eyelashes, skin (not only acne) there's editing for everything and it makes me so insecure. Would love to see any video about this, I think it would help a lot of people.
Yas girl!! I think this video is beneficial and topics like this need to be discussed. I will say though, as an added note that I have naturally always had a very small waist, large hips, hourglass figure etc it's just my genetics. What I find frustrating sometimes is when people acuse me of wanting to look a certain way or following a trend... when it's just the way I was born and how I have always looked.funny thing is I was severely bullied and called weird etc for having a shape that is now considered 'beautiful'..sometimes I feel like just shouting, sis its not my fault certain body shapes or certain looks are considered beautiful currently in our society. Thats a trend society has set not me. What is also bothersome is when I tell people.. I'm natural they get offended??? Have any other girls experienced this too??? We also collectively need to normalise that women also naturally have small waists and hourglass figures genetically speaking.. It also bothers me when people project their insecurities and think I'm being a narcissist or something of the sort when I say I'm natural.. I have never said that my body shape is the most beautiful. I think beauty comes in all shapes and sizes, and women who naturally have this type of body shape should not be ashamed of it because of other people's insecurities. I hope that makes sense!! I hope society stop setting toxic trends and stops making women feel the need to feel insecure if they don't look a certain way. I know people get pissed off when they hear this for some reason but every single woman is gorgeous, everyone has something so special and beautiful and unique about them. Learn to be confident and love yourself... those that love you will see how beautiful you are... who cares if a stranger doesn't think it. I could walk into a room and 100 guys may think I'm pretty but the next 100 can think I'm not and that's beautiful,because we can't be everyone's cup of tea. We need to feel amazing for ourselves first and not rely on instant gratification from others, or base our self worth on what a stranger thinks of us. You're all beautiful, powerful women!!
Makes me furious. my 14 year old daughter went through a phase where she thought she was supposed to look like the Instagram model pictures. Thank you Stephaine for showing the world imperfect is perfect!
From a man’s perspective I deadass didn’t know that Instagram body I loved pretty much doesn’t exist😂 and it’s honestly humbling and this video definitively made me change my standards
Not to be a smartass, but when you go outside (shopping, getting gas, etc) how many females walk around looking like that? I believe what I see in my physical reality versus the internet!
Literally i always wanted a small waits!!! My waist is naturally smaller than my hips and bust but when I compare myself to lets say Kendall Jenner i feel like a cereal box.... This video light up my day :)❤️
I’m so glad you do these!! I truly believe you are helping to usher in a whole new era of women loving their real healthy body and to stop falling for the ‘fake healthy’ that is so heavily promoted online. I can honestly say that striving to be a smaller size for decades of my life (when I honesty never needed to) is one of my biggest regrets ever. To anyone reading this, please let this be your sign to focus on Nourishing & Nurturing your Beautiful Body!! … you’ll never be the Joyful Radiant Happy you that we are All Born to be if you deprive yourself of Food!!! 🍎🥗🍓🍝🍊🍇 …. You Gotta EAT!!! Lol
Hello Stephanie, im from Brazil, and sometimes a feel ashamed about my body, but I've been watching your videos and I'm a new woman, I'm felling so much more happy and I stopped charging myself. thank you so much for your work ♥
The problem is that knowing that these bodies are not "real" makes us feel better. Like why shoud we be obsessed in social media's girls and forgetting that if we go to the super market, beach or your sister's birthday, we Will see real different kinds of people that wont look all the same ?
I literally have to come back to Stephanie's videos when i need to be snapped back to reality. When the self-loathing and unhealthy comparisons go buck wild i need to watch these.
I already watched the first upload but want to leave a comment for the algorithm. Love your videos, you‘re giving so many women a better feeling about themselves Stephanie💪🏻💗
Thank you for making seeing my body is perfect the way it is. Struggle with how I saw my body thinking I needed to workout so much to have that tiny waist. But you made me see that this the body I was born with and the shape cannot change.
This made me feel so much better about my normal body. ❤ I hope society stops normalizing these unrealistic, heavily edited bodies. Seeing the actually side by sides of what they really look like opened my eyes up even more. We all have to learn to love ourselves and photoshop doesn’t make it easier!
Forgive my blunt way of speaking, but you pointing this out and talking about this has changed my life. I'm a bellydancer so...There's expectations HARDCORE and I just felt like I never will stand a chance. Lately. my fvcks have reduced immensely. Like a weight has been lifted. I do not have a small waist, but I can admire them! Just like they see things in me they wish they had. It goes both ways and it seems we are just way too hard on ourselves. It's tiresome. I am what I am. And thank you for helping me realize that fully.
Here she is, time to put the kettle on sot with a cuppa and watch my fave youtuber ❤️ love the realness of every vid your so refreshing to see on here Stephanie Lange love ya 😙
It’s crazy to think that I started watching these videos out of curiosity of celebs changing everything but came out of this feeling confident in my body. Love your videos! Thank you for doing what you do ❤🥰
Our bodies are our gift from our ancestors. Honor them, treat them well. Thanks for going into the tech and tricks that influencers use to fool themselves. We all need a dose of reality for our own mental health.
For someone like me who is 5 feet tall and have stomach rolls. I used to be bullied alot which led me thinking I was not "normal" to the point where i would starve myself just to lose some imaginary pounds. But as I grew older I realised f*ck it. I'm beautiful the way I am and that's why I love people like you Stephanie. 💕
Hey guys - no you’re not going mad 😆 UA-cam age restricted this video to over 18s only and hardly any of my subs was able to watch it unless they had proven to YT that they were over 18 😩 so I had to delete it, and try and re-upload it. So annoying! X
I thought I was having the most specific Deja Vu of my life LOL
Worth a rewatch anyway lol ❤
Ridiculous that this would be censored tbh. I saw a photo of an influencer the other day with the definitely photo shopped waist, and I could hear your voice going “where are the ORGANS”
They make too much money off said people with impossible proportions. So it's sadly going to happen. Thank you for doing your best to enlighten us all with the truth anyway. It's working! ❤️
Thank you so much for reposting this! I wasn’t able to finish it last time before it got age restricted❤️
It's so disturbing that even the most attractive women seem to be not enough.
And this makes them unattractive again for me …
@@methiiyiimii3092 who cares what you think? lmao
@@b_r_a_n the 2 likes also they make a good point
@@b_r_a_n this is a comment section. Everyone gives their own opinion. Think about that 🥰
@@b_r_a_n 0ppp
I hope we finally move past this obsession with tiny waists. Sigh it's exhausting.
I really appreciated the ending showing world class and Olympic athletes in comparison to unrealistic Instagram bodies. I'm tired of all this fakeness.
In real life no one even cares
Bring back the bloated belly beauty standards from the 1200s!
@@Adhara740 so right, stop looking at social media and it doesn’t exist. Look at people in real life, nobody cares if they aren’t an influencer and over 25.
@@Constantin9va yes please, I might finally be viewed as pretty! 😂😂😂
you help me accept myself.
YESSSS
Yep. She's an angel.
She sure is! And beautiful inside and out.
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she really does
Fun fact: a lot of those tight lacing examples from the Victorian era are altered to make the waist more tiny. They are always posed in front of a flat dark background and they would just paint the photo to make their waist smaller. Facetune before Facetune.
They would also pad out their hips to achieve a greater contrast between that area and the waist.
Focusing on the ratio instead of just the thinness alone
Victorians used photoshop and photo tricks. I, being older, took film photography in high school and can recreate photo tricks like that in a dark room. It wasn't real then, and it's not now.
This fact is disturbing! I never knew this
I bought a waist trainer at 16 thinking my waist was too round to be normal 😢 thank you guys for helping young girls not grow up thinking there’s anything wrong with their natural waist size ❤
I got a waist trainer around that time but that shit ended up breaking cause my shoulders and therefore my ribs are broader, lol.
But when you're in a family with petite and slim women like I am, even without social media you still feel a certain type of way
I was going to buy a waist trainer around that Time too! I got really obsessed with losing weight and looking “perfect” but it was never enough… im 23 now and I eat whatever I want and wear whatever I want, I like to dance, and I enjoy my life a lot more😁 I just asked myself at some point “who is this all for?” and even when I truly believed it was for myself, I knew deep down that it wasn’t
Sammeeee
Omg me too!!!
@@neptune8645 that really inspired me because im a teenager and i though i had to be" perfect" to someone to like me and when i saw your comment i was like" i know its not what I want why im doing this" i though i was going to be happy if i lose weight and make people to like me im a chubby girl and even if im underweight i still look chubby so what matters is my happiness and stop caring about what others think about me my body my choice thank you so much for making me realize that 💜
Also, Victorians edited their waists using paint over the photographs. Tight lacing isn’t clearly related to fainting spells necessarily. There seems to have been a social phenomenon of feigning fainting as a proper response in certain situations.
This makes sense 😂😂😂
Yes, and the whole idea was that the women would faint specifically on a couch or only in front of their crushes lmaoooo
@@бронза.вафля.конус how convenient...😆 This is totally different from the idea we have today that they just fainted helplessly and anywhere
“Swoon” haha 😵💫
Exactly, corsets were not as bad as people claim. Depending on how tight it was it could definitely hurt and be restricting but the average woman wasn't breaking her ribs with her corset.
Hey Stephanie great video, I was wondering if you could do one on K-pop idols. I’ve seen a ridiculous amount of young girls comparing their bodies to theirs. Keep in mind most K-pop idols are extremely underweight.
Edit: hi guys, thank you for agreeing with me. Ik how toxic some fans are. Also I absolutely HATE to be that person but thank you for the likes.
Exactly!!
Yeah! Go for it!
Yessss
Second this ^ also the obsession of the fans to edit their already thin, beautiful bodies/faces to make them skinnier and paler
I second this!
Hello, just here to comment again so the algorithm pushes this video because we all need it. Thank you!
You are so kind😭
aww ❤❤
I was meant to go to a therapy appointment for my anorexia and bulimia today and I didn't as I know they would make me eat and honestly your videos are the only thing that makes me actually want to recover and realise that its ok to not have a tiny waist and be completely flat from the side etc. I cant even describe how much you are helping people, you are wonderful
But still: Go to theraphy😊
Believe me, recovery Is SO WORTH IT
Same. Go to recovery. As coming from someone with experience, it's worth it
I pray you go to therapy and get the help you need I don’t need to see you to know your beautiful ! Stay away from this generation goals which is just who has the biggest butt smallest waste , perfect boobs . Just perfect… Perfection does not exist!!!!
Hi there, I know it’s been a while since you posted this but I wanted to say something. Even if you didn’t go it’s fantastic that you made an appointment. Recovery and peace of mind are so worth it, and you deserve it so much. Everyone does. Idk if you have made another appointment but I would encourage you to try again. I cannot begin to describe how freeing it is to just exist without constantly thinking about food and my body. Good luck❤
The irony here is the natural photos are actually far prettier in my eyes! Because they look so happy and, most importantly, REAL!
Preachhhhh 🎉🎉
Seeing these photos for the first time honestly is like the wool has been taken from my eyes if that’s the saying? A tear into my reality. Wow. I CANNOT thank you enough for creating the videos you do. This has honestly changed me and will be something I think back to a lot. I hope this video gets sooo many views because it can literally save lives!
A lot of those super old photos are also photo shopped. There were old ways of “photo shopping” at the time even back in the day. So although yes tight lacing was something that some women of higher society would do, their waist wasn’t actually as small as you’d think and it wasn’t a common think for most women. x
I want to add to your comment. The Victorians made their waist look smaller by padding out their hips. They bought corsets with larger hips and put cushion pads in the hollow spaces. It’s all an illusion.
Yes, the Photoshop tools were actually developed inside darkrooms :) You can dodge, burn, liquify or blur on a film photo!
Wow.. interesting!
Yeah! Karolina Zebrowska has a great video on it :))
As a history buff, I'm laughing because I'm pretty sure some of the corset portraits you shared had the Victorian/etc. version of Photoshop done to them to further shrink the waists.
Yup, they did a sort of a 'photoshop'... Also their corsets did not make them faint. In fact, many had corsets that were sturdy, yet light enough to do everyday work in them, and only the very rich people (and who knows if all or just some of them) did properly tightlace. Mostly their waists looked tiny due to all the layers they wear as all the layers make their busts and bottoms look very large comparing to their waists..:)
@@GiGiiYacan you imagine? All of the working class women and females house staff wore corsets, how would they have managed to do their jobs if they were fainting all the time? Lol
I’m going to show your videos to my 13 year old daughter. She is just like any other teenager-impressionable and falls for the lies/tricks influencers try to perpetuate. What we need is an influencer who openly posts photos of her natural body and swims against the tide.
Your videos have helped ME, a 33 year old mom who has always struggled with self esteem. Only once I began watching your videos did I begin embracing and LOVING my body, my face, my flaws. I am human and therefore look like one. As we all do, no matter how we try to make others think we don’t with all the filters and surgeries.
Thank you so much Stephanie. I love you!! Lol like I seriously do 😘
Personally, and I know it's easier said than done, I would do everything in my power to get my 13 year old daughter off social media. There is no good reason for a 13 year old-especially a girl-to be on the likes of instagram and tiktok. What good can possibly come of it? And on the other hand, we've barely begun to scratch the surface of what kinds of havoc it's wreaking on children, but I think we've all seen enough to know it seriously harms social development and especially self-esteem in young women. I think most people know this, but they just don't want to take charge of the situation, and just allow it to continue to avoid confrontation. But if you think about it in terms of pros and cons, it's pretty stark. There is no benefit whatsoever, except for maybe 0.00001% of individuals who are able to turn it into a business. But everyone else is harmed by it and gains virtually nothing. So it's kind of like playing the lottery, except instead of paying $5 you're giving up your normal neurological and social development and possibly your healthy self-perception. Oh, plus you're wasting _insane_ amounts of time. Thousands upon thousands of hours scrolling aimlessly on a screen, desperately searching for some validating human contact, for the briefest respite from the despair of constantly comparing yourself to an endless feed of apparently superior peers. All time that could have been spent developing actual skills and a normal, healthy personality. Who knows what some of us could have been, had we gone back and done it over without social media?
I don't understand why people think the overtly tiny waste is even attractive. I've aways been a slim waisted woman, but even I think the massively tinier-than-the-head waist looks more like an alien, than the natural beauty of a woman. All sizes are equally beautiful, and we need to embrace our natural beauty, as that is how we own our personal power. You do a great service by exposing the truth in a very eloquent way. ❤
Patriarchy + pedophilic culture & power dynamics. C: I could do a Ted talk on this shit
I agree. Why can't women just be happy with their bodies. When a person is so unhappy with their appearance, it's become almost like an idol they're worshipping.
I agree at a certain point it's so tiny it looks ridiculous
I've always wanted a bigger waist actually
It reminds me of the Bratz dolls that came out in the early-mid 2000s. Like 2006ish???
The more narrow they make their waists, the more odd it looks.
3:53 Dua really shocked me💀💀 I remember in high school, being excited finding out we are the exact same height/weight... I'm glad I deleted instagram because it would have confused the heck outta me🤯 thank you for sharing these realities💖💖
I really appreciate this one. The weirdly tiny waist thing messes with my head. For many years I've dealt with ibs (distended stomach from slow digestion and bloating) and am always checking my stomach in the mirror to see how flat it is... photos like this wreck me.
I had this, eating smaller more frequent meals and drinking lots of tea and water really helped
That is so true. Eating smaller meals throughout the day does help. It also keeps your energy levels working.
Same, gastroparesis.
14:13 my favorite part. I’m 115lbs, but I have a belly like that and always thought it was abnormal and unhealthy and that I needed to lose more weight. It seems like the typical idea of a healthy body is one with a perfectly flat stomach, so I’m so relieved to see how common/normal my body actually is. Thank you so much for this
it’s the most common thing everr, but also, your body doesn’t forget, skin that was stretched might not shrink again so even some underweight people have a belly sticking out cause it’s just skin not fat
i lost a bunch of weight too fast and now i have more rolls than before lol, my mom loves sports, gets trophies from beach tennis tournaments, runs 70km easily, but she got pregnant four times, her belly will never get defined muscles, it’ll always be soft with a little saggy bellybutton lol
everybody got sum rolls
yes this!! i got as low as 75 lbs and i STILL had “love handles” 😭😭😭 people really underestimate bone structure, especially with higher hipbones/wider ribs!!
Your stomach, the lower part is holding your reproductive organs, and just a beautiful and natural female feature;)
I have crippling body dysmorphia alongside BPD, eating disorders etc.. long list of mental health issues. And Stephanie? I watch one of your videos every night before bed. It's the only thing that keeps me hanging on lately tbh 😭❤️ thank you..
Hey there, stay strong , I
Am Proud of you, i know it's hard
Same 🖤
im exactly like you, i dont have instagram cause it caused me to become sucidal as a teen
Thank you so much sis.I really hated my 26 inch waist and I punished myself by exercising .My goal was to reach 24 inches but you really helped me accept myself.
That’s my waist size! And it’s crazy because people would kill for 26” and we’re over here feeling fat
Don't push yourself to get to 24 inches, 26 is going to look better. Those pictures she was showing of the insanely tiny waist, is not cute at all! I've been skinny my whole life so I'm not shaming or being jealous. And ps guys don't like toothpicks😉
Having a 24in waist will not make anyone happier. Even a little.
My waist is 23in and i want a 18in(still wanting, which is kinda sick..) but i definitely know that it wont make me happier. Cz it doesnt depends in one thing solo. U will always want more.
I have long legs but there's a lot of models out there that have legs even longer than mine(kaia gerber for exemple which have long legs that r surreal) and it makes me sad in a way.. Cz i think what we really want is to be *better* *prettier* than the others. U cant change the size of your waist, neither the size of your legs. But u can find happiness in yourself by your pesonality, and admire yourself about things u did and the others r trying to reach..
I hear you. I hated my 36 inch hips. I googled what would slim them down and started exercise biking everyday. Guess what? My hips piled on muscle and they are now 38 inches. I stopped exercise biking 3 years ago and they STILL LOOK BIGGER and are still 38 inches. I could kick myself. I used to have bones that stuck out in an aesthetically pleasing way and I completely ruined them. Doh. When someone dumped me 3 years ago I couldn’t eat and dropped down to 7.5 stone and STILL had huge hips! So calorie restricting doesn’t get rid either. So annoyed at not appreciating what I had.
Thanks for the vid! I have a naturally small waist because of genetics but I used to see these girls on Insta with tiny waist and wished that I looked like them. Before I knew it I was insecure about my waist because I was brainwashed to believe it wasn't small enough. It's scary what effects social media can have on people, especially young girls.
Yes same here!
Isn’t it weird that mostly all the reality/paparazzi pictures look SO much better than the edited and angled ones? Some pictures they upload really scare me and creep me out. They do not look like humans and more like aliens. In the real pics one can see al the beautiful abs and wonderful different bodies. It always reliefs me seeing them.
You are literally a very important piece of my journey to recovery anorexia and body image disorder. I can’t thank you enough for your videos, thank you!
Team short torso here. Thanks for showing the athletes. I didn’t think of that before. They used photo editing in the the old pics too, to make the waists look at tiny as possible. 🤨
In all of my years of traveling, I have never seen a waist that tiny! These photos are edited and well posed, as you mentioned. If this waist size is real, it’s very rare. Great video as always, Stephanie! ❤
I swear to god your videos are the only ones that seem to get into my head and make me realise that I am not bad looking. This made my day and I actually think that my waist is gorgeous now that I have seen how stupid the expectations of of today society are. Thank you
i love love love that you never bash these women and always reiterate that they're beautiful without the editing/filters
Even if it's a repost, i will love it again♡
I started really loving myself , thank you♡
Not that I'm confident but i love me♡
I can’t remember if I’ve commented already but Stephanie THANK YOU for making these videos. I am 30 and I struggled with eating disorders from 12-22. These videos would’ve been a godsend to me back then. I truly believe you are making a difference for someone out there. Love you and keep up the amazing work ✨💕
Loved the comparison to professional athletes! Such a good reality check for something like this. Those women are about as fit as you can possibly get and their waists are not tiny! Because it's not anatomically possible. Thanks for your videos and good vibes.👏👏
And here I am starving myself half the time to look like those instagram poses. You’re video is saving people thank you so much for the time and effort you put into this 😢
I’m 5’8”, 104 lbs, I’m short waisted and have a rectangle body shape. I will never have an hourglass shape. I will always be this shape. I’ve been this way my whole life and now, at 52, I’m still this way. Guess what? I’m perfectly perfect just the way I’m made and so are you all❣️ Embrace all of the things. You’re perfect❣️
I think the obsession with smaller wastes will never go away. Generally speaking wider hips are desirable because they signify fertility. But because we are walking on two feet there is a limit to hip size and it cannot get wider and wider. So smaller wastes make the hips seem wider. And that’s what seems appealing to the eye and feminine/fertile.
In the 1920s and 1990s women did not want wide hips. The style in the 20s was gamine/pageboy, and in the 90s was waif/“heroin chic.” It’s all made up, there isn’t a genetic or biological reason.
@@shineonsunfish Women's fashion /= what men desire
Not true 😂😂😂
is because of men, they want sex not kids is just and excuse.
Nubile is favored over Large hips. All that matters is that the waist is smaller than the hips (which men also prefer to be small) bc it shows the woman has not mothered any children yet
Re Kendal & Hailey - it’s actually due more to hip size than torso length. If your hips are naturally smaller your waist by comparison will not look as small. It’s the coveted & scientifically proven “waist to hip ratio”. I have this body type & my waist just never looks small & it’s because I have tiny hips. I’ve modelled for 15 years believe me I know exactly what I’m talking about. I have stood next to a model with exactly the same waist measurement as me and because her hips are bigger her waist looks smaller than mine. So I have to get SUPER thin to look like I have a small waist & in my 30s now I’m not sure I can enough 😅 been there done that. I’ve just sent your video to the models I train (I also teach yoga & pilates) - your work/videos are SO important please do not stop 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
I have to keep watching these videos because I always hated my stomach it's my least favorite part of my body and honestly I never understood why... but the more I watch your videos the more I'm beginning to understand it's not my fault as to why I feel this way... please keep making these because they help a lot.
I'm on a journey of loving myself again and you're helping me a lot with this process ❤️
Thank you so much for your videos Stephanie ! I’m watching them religiously to deprogram my brain and heal from my body dysmorphia, it helps a lot !
you are seriously one of the only people online that are so real, i love you so much girl you have literally changed my perspective of influencers and my body 💖
aw thats amazing to hear!! xx
this helps so much, as a teen I've been really insecure about my waist recently even though I'm a small petite skinny girl :(
Tw: mentions of ED!!!!
The tiny waist trend made me develop an ED at a very young age and i’m still in recovery to this day. Thank you for this video!
Me too!! I was 12
I had that with the thigh gap trend. I'm a fully recovered adult now. But I personally had to choose to never get Instagram and avoid fashion magazines and these types of images. Out of sight out of mind.
You can do it, God bless you 🙂
It is so sad 😔.
Get outta here with that “TW” 😂
@@shade247 k. If you don’t need a trigger warning, good for you. Eating disorders are psychological issues that can be “triggered” by mentions of weight, mentions of specific body imagine trends, and discussions of distorted view points. As someone who struggles with this deadly disorder , I felt the need to warn potential readers who also struggle from EDs about the person experiences i was sharing. I’m sorry that my trigger warning offended you or that you are uneducated on why trigger warnings are used when discussing EDs. Have a nice day
Stephanie, this video could not have come at a better time in my life. I absolutely love your videos for more or less "exposing" the who/what/why/how's of body goal myths. The really, really, really short version is that I want to just give you a thank you for helping people understand that we are all beautiful in our own way, and that what we see online is not always what it seems. Thank you so, so, so incredibly much. Your videos have literally helped me gain self-esteem, self-confidence, and self-love. So, many thanks. I hope you have a lovely day!
I just wanna say I appreciate your videos, I’ve always struggled to be skinny enough for social media (when I had it, 3 years sober).
I got close to the look but it led to me having an eating disorder. After I was okay with how I looked, I got pregnant, (I was 22, the peak of the “hourglass” figure that I already had but it was not as unrealistic) but obviously your body grows to create life ❤. I had never accepted my body more when I got pregnant, this is how the real body looks and it’s The most amazing thing what Women’s bodies can do. Then I caught my husband looking and saving photos of girls who look like all of these girls, while I was pregnant. I felt low and upset because I felt like I was no longer “attractive” in his eyes. Even though I knew it was fake.
After I had my daughter my body bounced back super quick thankfully but I don’t care if I match society’s standards, Women’s bodies are beautiful, they’re all unique and that’s perfectly okay! I have stretch marks, and cellulite but I created a beautiful human being, and I have to show my daughter when she grows up what true beauty within yourself means, and honestly I have never felt more beautiful. ❤️🥰
Yes, so many men are always looking for someone better. Like they're perfect? They should be happy with their other half.
What a horrible thing for your husband to do, have you discussed that with him?
@@gianna526 yes I have, I let him know if he spoke to or began to put our relationship in trouble again, or make me feel worth less in his eyes I’d take my daughter and leave.
The diaphragm isn’t an organ, but a large muscle that moves your lungs when you breathe and it is normally a bit lower than the bottom of your rib cage and that can also have influence how the torso/belly area as well!
Thank you for covering this topic!
Most of the editing is so obvious it's amazing how they aren't embarrassed by it
Thank you so much for bringing attention to this!! There is so much propaganda feeding into unhealthy and unrealistic body goals. It is much needed to to expose the realty so some of us (me definitely includes me) can quit beating ourselves up about fake, impossible standards.
How incredibly sad when people are removing their ribs!
I love your videos Stephanie. I don’t mind being honest but earlier this year I stopped using face app on my pictures. I’ve always struggled with my mental health , it wasn’t making me feel better & I was constantly comparing myself.
I feel much better about my pictures now ❤
I literally think I would've made some permanent/life altering changes to my body that I would regret down the road by now if it wasn't for finding your channel and this content. Thank you so much for shining a light on the issues we have as a society. It is truly heartbreaking that women have been raised with these unachievable standards. I hope that we can break the mold so our daughters don't grow up with the same insecurities that've been forced onto us.
Whenever I feel insecure I simply open your channel and boom!... I love myself....you are litteraly saving lives sister❤️
I love you♡
Girl, your content is absolutely NECESSARY. Thank you for that. I wish I could spread it all over. Have you ever thought about translating and subtitling your videos to access more people? I'm Brazilian and I work with that kind of job (EN-PT), if you're interested. I wish all my Brazilian girlfriends could watch you and understand you as I do! Big fan! Thanks again!
Thank you so much for doing videos like these!❤️❤️❤️❤️ You have helped me view myself better and feel better about myself. I now advocate for other people as well! We all deserve to feel good and these lies are so harmful to our society and I really appreciate the work you do to make these videos!
I love your videos. I appreciate you. You are and have been helping me accept myself. I knew this sh*t smelled funny but nonetheless it/they def made me hate myself. I hated my body, my face, oh my hooded eyes! My arms…my FINGERS (wtf?!) i am beginning to love me and i take care of myself now.
Thank you for aiding in the new happy confident HEALTHY me ❤ You are soooo amazing! The world is a better place with u in it, i cant say enough how awesome it is that you are helping so many girls/women and boys! 😊❤
Love the hair… and just generally adore you. I cannot believe the things UA-cam will allow but take down or age restrict your content. Young people are the ones who NEED to se this. Hell, I’m a 44 year old woman who knows these images aren’t real….but even I get sucked in to believing my stomach is not flat enough, I have too many wrinkles etc etc. So I truly appreciate your videos. You are the definition of outer and, more important, inner beauty. You’re a babe ❤
These videos are so necessary. Thank you for making them!! 🖤🖤🖤
I’m gobsmacked that this world we live in but this video is wonderfully refreshing and illuminating!! I even show my mum these videos because even as a 40/50 yr old I see more and more women (and men!) in my life believe all this internet brainwashing, through no fault of their own… even me and always need the reality check! Thanks you Stephanie- I love this content so much!
I always enjoy watching your videos. You’re so refreshing, respectful and needed in todays unrealistic beauty standards and culture. Truly appreciate you! Thank you Stephanie!! ♥️♥️
yay!!! my virtual older sister is back with another upload
I have mixed feelings about this! I get that they are supposed to be role models , but at the same time they fall victim to the same ridiculous standards as the rest of us 🤷♀️🤦♀️💔
You are SO awesome for exposing these lies and helping women to know the truth!! You’re a hero, Stephanie!! ❤️❤️
Hey Stephanie. Thank you for this, I struggle with body dysmorphia and really needed this today x
The last things I heard of Sophia Wollersheim/ Vegas was, that regrets this surgery (especially after she had her daughter). And she didn't recommended it. Thank uou for raising awareness! I try to do this too, when some fellows on the Internet are spreading some good meant but not always 100% accurate statements about the body of women.
When I was little being skinny and having a thigh gap and stuff was “trending” and I remember feeling too fat. Now being curvy is trending and I had felt not curvy enough. These videos have actually really helped me and now I just work on loving my body the way it is and taking care of it
I really really appreciate you making this video. Snapping us back into reality. Our minds have been so warped that the most unrealistic body images we see are now "goals" smh thanks for these vids boo
I LOVE THE BLACK HAIR!!!! YOU LOOK SO PRETTY!!!
Your videos just open my eyes and help me realize that my body is normal. Thank you ☀️
Finally I found this video. I saw the notification but couldn't watch it straightaway. I'm glad you were able to repost it. What you do is very important!
Just opened the yt app on my ipad and said to my self ”If Steph has uploaded a new video - I would be so happy” and here we are 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🥰❤️❤️
Aw i hope you like it! New video coming Sunday night too! x
I was born with big ribs. I feel that a small waist was never going to happen. I now have come to peace with my body
Please Stephanie, could you do a video about how people change their faces with filters, app and angles to look perfect?
I suffer from body dysmorphia and my issues are focused on my face.
Your videos about influencers and natural bodies are so helpful, but I feel like no-one is talking about how people change their faces. Cheekbones, lips, nose, eyelashes, skin (not only acne) there's editing for everything and it makes me so insecure.
Would love to see any video about this, I think it would help a lot of people.
Yas girl!! I think this video is beneficial and topics like this need to be discussed. I will say though, as an added note that I have naturally always had a very small waist, large hips, hourglass figure etc it's just my genetics. What I find frustrating sometimes is when people acuse me of wanting to look a certain way or following a trend... when it's just the way I was born and how I have always looked.funny thing is I was severely bullied and called weird etc for having a shape that is now considered 'beautiful'..sometimes I feel like just shouting, sis its not my fault certain body shapes or certain looks are considered beautiful currently in our society. Thats a trend society has set not me. What is also bothersome is when I tell people.. I'm natural they get offended??? Have any other girls experienced this too??? We also collectively need to normalise that women also naturally have small waists and hourglass figures genetically speaking.. It also bothers me when people project their insecurities and think I'm being a narcissist or something of the sort when I say I'm natural.. I have never said that my body shape is the most beautiful. I think beauty comes in all shapes and sizes, and women who naturally have this type of body shape should not be ashamed of it because of other people's insecurities. I hope that makes sense!! I hope society stop setting toxic trends and stops making women feel the need to feel insecure if they don't look a certain way. I know people get pissed off when they hear this for some reason but every single woman is gorgeous, everyone has something so special and beautiful and unique about them. Learn to be confident and love yourself... those that love you will see how beautiful you are... who cares if a stranger doesn't think it. I could walk into a room and 100 guys may think I'm pretty but the next 100 can think I'm not and that's beautiful,because we can't be everyone's cup of tea. We need to feel amazing for ourselves first and not rely on instant gratification from others, or base our self worth on what a stranger thinks of us. You're all beautiful, powerful women!!
Makes me furious. my 14 year old daughter went through a phase where she thought she was supposed to look like the Instagram model pictures. Thank you Stephaine for showing the world imperfect is perfect!
From a man’s perspective I deadass didn’t know that Instagram body I loved pretty much doesn’t exist😂 and it’s honestly humbling and this video definitively made me change my standards
It does exist...just not very common. The "insta body" genes run in my family and we exist. You just have to be lucky to have the genes for it.
@@GW42329 1. I wasn't addressing you. 2. I smell jealousy. Cope harder lol.
@@Sarah.G_2 it’s giving pick me lol
@@Sarah.G_2 Hmmm so you and your family look like the ants from a bug's life. Sounds legit.
Not to be a smartass, but when you go outside (shopping, getting gas, etc) how many females walk around looking like that? I believe what I see in my physical reality versus the internet!
Literally i always wanted a small waits!!! My waist is naturally smaller than my hips and bust but when I compare myself to lets say Kendall Jenner i feel like a cereal box.... This video light up my day :)❤️
I’m so glad you do these!! I truly believe you are helping to usher in a whole new era of women loving their real healthy body and to stop falling for the ‘fake healthy’ that is so heavily promoted online. I can honestly say that striving to be a smaller size for decades of my life (when I honesty never needed to) is one of my biggest regrets ever.
To anyone reading this, please let this be your sign to focus on Nourishing & Nurturing your Beautiful Body!! … you’ll never be the Joyful Radiant Happy you that we are All Born to be if you deprive yourself of Food!!!
🍎🥗🍓🍝🍊🍇 …. You Gotta EAT!!! Lol
Hello Stephanie, im from Brazil, and sometimes a feel ashamed about my body, but I've been watching your videos and I'm a new woman, I'm felling so much more happy and I stopped charging myself. thank you so much for your work ♥
Is this a re-upload? Am I having deja vu? Is this the Mandela effect? Am I on planet earth? What’s going on?
Ok I’m trippin 😅
Naaaawwwww! This HAS to be a reupload 🫤
No, I've seen it beforee... You're not crazy. It is a re-upload. I was about to comment the same.
Yesss. I’m sure the video 2 weeks ago had the exact same content in it.
Gosh, you are so productive with these videos! These help people a lot, thank you 🥰
Your content is so important. I want everyone on earth to see this. Specially girls like me who struggle with body image and body dysmorphia
The problem is that knowing that these bodies are not "real" makes us feel better. Like why shoud we be obsessed in social media's girls and forgetting that if we go to the super market, beach or your sister's birthday, we Will see real different kinds of people that wont look all the same ?
@Kaoane yes!!! I think that in real life no one cares about other people's bodies. That only happens in social media
They are real, just not very common. The "insta body" genes run in my family. We exist. You just have to have the genes for it.
I literally have to come back to Stephanie's videos when i need to be snapped back to reality. When the self-loathing and unhealthy comparisons go buck wild i need to watch these.
Thank you Stephanie for your honesty and transparency. And the body positive vibes you give . We do need to hear this. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I watched the video when you originally posted it and just found out they restricted it?!!! Watching again to make sure you get my view ❤
wait what I LOVE your hair black!! it makes your eyes pop u slay slayslay
Stephanie is such an endearing person. Good on you, Stephanie, for your efforts to encourage women of any age.
thanks for the repost i couldnt watch it cuz of the age restrict
I really love the comparison with the athletes, you are absolutely right! Love it
I already watched the first upload but want to leave a comment for the algorithm. Love your videos, you‘re giving so many women a better feeling about themselves Stephanie💪🏻💗
You're the best! i love you!
Hi Stephanie!! 👋 You get a gold medal 🥇 for this video and all your other ones. The world NEEDS more real videos like these 🙏 Loved it!! ❤️
Thank you for making seeing my body is perfect the way it is. Struggle with how I saw my body thinking I needed to workout so much to have that tiny waist. But you made me see that this the body I was born with and the shape cannot change.
I love you for not spreading misinformation about corsets!
This made me feel so much better about my normal body. ❤ I hope society stops normalizing these unrealistic, heavily edited bodies. Seeing the actually side by sides of what they really look like opened my eyes up even more. We all have to learn to love ourselves and photoshop doesn’t make it easier!
Love that you're promoting healthy, realistic bodies!!!!
Forgive my blunt way of speaking, but you pointing this out and talking about this has changed my life. I'm a bellydancer so...There's expectations HARDCORE and I just felt like I never will stand a chance. Lately. my fvcks have reduced immensely. Like a weight has been lifted. I do not have a small waist, but I can admire them! Just like they see things in me they wish they had. It goes both ways and it seems we are just way too hard on ourselves. It's tiresome. I am what I am. And thank you for helping me realize that fully.
I hope a year later you're still feeling the same way!!
I'm here now and just found Stephanie and I feel so much better about my body as a 36yo mom ❤
@@jo.randallsame just found Stephanie she really helped me fast 😂
Here she is, time to put the kettle on sot with a cuppa and watch my fave youtuber ❤️ love the realness of every vid your so refreshing to see on here Stephanie Lange love ya 😙
It’s crazy to think that I started watching these videos out of curiosity of celebs changing everything but came out of this feeling confident in my body. Love your videos! Thank you for doing what you do ❤🥰
Our bodies are our gift from our ancestors. Honor them, treat them well. Thanks for going into the tech and tricks that influencers use to fool themselves. We all need a dose of reality for our own mental health.
No it’s our gift from GOD
Your channel really helps me keep in check with reality and what is reasonable to aspire to for myself
I’m just gonna play this video over again. Your algorithm needs it. Plus, so does my mental health.
It's crazy how they are all absolutely perfect without editing! Without angles, jeez they're stunning! SO WHYYYYYY?!?!
For someone like me who is 5 feet tall and have stomach rolls. I used to be bullied alot which led me thinking I was not "normal" to the point where i would starve myself just to lose some imaginary pounds. But as I grew older I realised f*ck it. I'm beautiful the way I am and that's why I love people like you Stephanie. 💕