Rachel Wilis, I agree he should take care of your mental, physical, and emotional needs but if he's also in the position to take care of you finanically as well...that is a wonderful thing and we shouldn't count that out.
Queen Nzuri very good, it is very important. there are still men in the World that value women with both actions and their money like the guy who married his Iranian girlfriend in a castle, my good ness they even outdid the British royalty that had been wasting time fornicating, Hmmnh what am saying is wherever a man puts his money he's emotionally connected, so galll if you're not seeing the cash or you don't know where it goes, you're not long term, trust me. time, money, effort, although this doesn't apply if the guy is struggling, in that case let him know you love him and be his friend. if he wants you, David Beckham followed Victoria right, the same system will be implemented, but if not there are no hard feelings, you can talk at any point, eblven get together down the road when all is financially stable or if you really want to get married, you may meet someone else who wants the same thing and is ready because you're not going to be young or pretty forever
People think that when you've been single for a long time that means that you can't get a man. It actually means that you are selective. You are not willing to take the same BS that alot of women in so called relationships are willing to take. You don't need the validation of a man to feel worthy. You are whole. When a man that is worthy presents himself to you, your whole self is ready. Be blessesd my sisters.
Contrina Durant you are so right..I wish most women would understand what you just preached and they need to know their value. They just don't wanna be alone.. who do? Being selective is great. But if we as single people need to stay rooted and grounded in Jesus & then he will give you the desires of your heart.
Time together means nothing, I want respect and loyalty, as long as he has always given you that. then congratulations, cause I see people married longer than that and can't stand one another.
Old women always said: "Baby, what you see BEFORE the wedding, is what you're gonna see AFTER the wedding". If he's a "momma's boy".....RUUUUUUUNNNNNN as fast as you can away from him!!!
I knew my husband was the one on our first real date. We went to Bible study together. The Lord is still at the center of our marriage almost a decade later.
Kazaam818 NOT AT ALL. Having strong faith just makes it easier to understand their values and thought process. Because of your beliefs it just means it might be harder for people to understand your values and thought process and does not mean that you arent husband material.
#1 strong spiritual connection #2 respect for me and we heading to be or become #3 he lets you be yourself in all the event #4 great sex #5 showing appreciation of what you do
You just described my husband!!! It took me 32 years to find the perfect man to me, but I think i choose so well. I am married for 6 years I'm still waiting for the first argument or desappointment. My advice for my friends is don't seatle for less than you deserve. And I'm not talking about money!
That's so amazing ❤. God Bless you and your marriage 💑. Disagreements/arguments can be inevitable, but a blessing 🙌as well, when you work through them and hear👂each other out. My wish is that I (and others) can have such an beautiful relationship 🤝. God Bless 🙏
Also take into account how he treats others in his life like his mother, children, etc. If he doesn't love and respect others he definitely won't respect you.
Jesus Is Lord yeah but it's not enough quality women going around. You're job and education means nothing to men. Stop thinking what you see as a quality man is what a man want in s women. Your cooking and how well you can nourish a man's kids means more. Please understand that.
As a happily married woman of 16 years...I totally agree with this. My husband is a REAL man and more. Thanks for sharing this information with single women that are worth being treated like a woman by a real man
Working on self Because we want to already be everything we can to our best potential when the man that has the characteristic and amazing qualities we desire come along we are already a perfect match. Be phenomenal and you will attract that. Kudos.
right, this is always a concern. Society's crazy like that makin us think we're crazy just for expecting any sort of reciprocated respect or higher standards
All I know, I'm taking it even further than that. I'm not having sex till marriage. Everyone says," Times have changed". Guess what people? God's word never changes. Every time I've had sex with a boyfriend, he changes. Let the head games begin. I'm done doing my way. It's Gods way next for me. And I don't care what anybody thinks about my decision. God bless.
Man that is husband material: 1. Strong spiritual foundation - Faith during tough times, not a liability. 2. Respect for you and the relationship - Focus on you and prepare for opportunity 3. Allows you to be yourself - Respectfully checks you. - Don't surpress yourself 4. Sex is good - Improve overtime with increasing variety 5. Shows appreciation - Doesn't take you for granted - Says something of appreciation Ready to be a mature man on your side
Anjanette Potter when I meet him you will know he will treat you like a queen and open ur eyes to new things .one thing I learned is don't look for him let him come to you
My husband is 5/6 things mentioned. He doesn’t say it out loud he appreciates me. But luckily acts of service is my received love language. So fixing my car, cleaning, changes the air wick, cutting the grass make me feel like he appreciates me to help around the house too
This gives me soooo much conformation, I broke off an engagement because it didn't feel right and I knew he wasn't right for me..Coincidentally he didn't match up with any of these traits either smh..
Just broke off an engagement too because this man treated me like he was doing me a favor by marrying me. He doesn’t check off anything on this list. Very self centered and selfish. I don’t need to be tolerated in a marriage, I would rather be single.
I'm glad i listened today you confirm everything I'm already doing for my woman! I got ready for her before we started dating by getting rid of people! Then I started courting her! The sex is great! We fart around each other to and laugh about it! I also give her all my attention when I'm around her so i log out of social apps and etc! Hopefully everything continues!!
John Raven I wish you two well. You made me laugh with the fart comment. My husband plays to much, he farted one time and trapped me under the covers with the stank. lol. Have a good one.
a.d.w. n. I was laughing when I typed it lol but we are very comfortable around each other I was cleaning and cooking in the kitchen with just my boxers on! I forgot I didn't have on clothes and she was taking pictures of me and showed me later lol!
John Raven I wish you and your partner many blessings. May God continues to give you wisdom to keep your relationship healthy, happy and a lifetime of love.
I was in a relationship with someone who told me not to embarrass them! So hurtful where you can't be yourself and its dehumanizing never be with someone who thinks you are an embarrassment. It tears your self- esteem down. If you're such an embarrassment then leave their ungrateful asses✌
Kamaria Cross Yeah I cant be with a man that does that to me. Or act embarrassed when the two of you or seen together. Men like that I dont take seriously and ghost their behind quickly
I've learned over the years that, on one can do anything to me that I'd don't allow. I will not ever let a man or anyone use me. My goodness you are on point. I'm Muslim, and I don't want a husband who doesn't want me to be myself, or doesn't want me to have a voice.
Finding relationships these days is like looking for a job, you have to be qualified for this and that to be hired. There were some things I didn't know how to do when I met my husband, like grilling, driving and cooking certain foods, but he taught me and I taught him how to sew and bake cake and cookies. He's a patient man and I'm lucky to have him.
LovelyMom 1981 that's wat you call a quality marriage. you both keep it up, you're right though, but I believe God is able to provide quality men too for other women amidst the madness #CreatoroftheUniverse#
Yesss.......im so happy u got a REAL MAN! If u truly 💗💗💖💖💖 yo hubby...... FUCK/4Get wat anybody else has 2 say!!!👌👍👍👏👏 #2TrueLove!!....Alwayz....👍👍🤗🤗😊😊😁😁😎😎😎
LikeMyCommentFirst ThenReply I can agree 10000% because guess what I cant cook wash dishes or wash clothes or pay bills or drive and I'm 26 but I know one thing I can do well and thats tell people about Jesus
Provider and protector, protection comes through marriage however I feel many men do not want to be providers and complain endlessly about it which is a turnoff.
Which is exactly why I just broke up with a man I was with for over a year..I couldn't check off not one thing off this list in regards to him and he swears he did nothing wrong. Exactly. You did nothing. #Next
What's happening to relationships? It's either they don't exsist or it's a struggle to be together, and it seems to be happening world wide. I know I can't be the only one that noticed.
Alicia McLean It's cold out here in these streets, hell I can't even get to the love part because I end up throwing dogs back to the wolves😅 Seems to be a never ending cycle, I give up!
it’s just the lack of commitment nowadays. it’s not needed anymore like it was back then. if we talkin about marriage then people probably had problems all the time but divorce wasn’t a good thing at all so people had to stay in their marriages despite hating their partner.
Omg this is so true my ex didn’t have a strong spiritual foundation and when things got rough... he got going and blamed everyone else on his way out 🏃 💨
I truly appreciate all of the light that u shine on these topics, it's funny how I trust your word so much because I know that whom ever God has for me is out there, and I have to continue to be patient, I want a man that is just as u described, not just because it's what I want but it is what it deserve.
so true, so many jumped and get married because a man ask... Women know when the man is not giving his all, but he'll ask knowing that a women wants to be married and at that moment it will block all the bad that he has put you through. He knows she has had several bad relationships that she thought were good and lost a man that wasn't for her. So they jump and marry the wrong man especially when they see others getting married. At the end of the day you have know your worth before finding a man that is worthy of you.
At 24 I now know and understand why finding a man who's first God Fearing is vital to a relationship! Nothing is worst then wasting time from the jump...I want a man who submits to God through the toughest of times, one who prays for me, and prosperity in our relationship, and from there if it's meant to be everything else will fall into place. I solid foundation is everything!
Pray for a genuine Godly man! Their's so many counterfeits coming in God's name to ruin u or should I call it demonic blessings where a man comes and u think he is all Godly and good only to find out he isn't all that... Also remember u won't get along with every man just because he is Godly
I get married soon so I made a checklist off of everything you said & honestly the man I'm going to marry is the one 😍😍😍 thank you I feel so much better about getting married ! .
I think that's one of the things women want most, to not have to always be perfect, but to be embraced with their imperfection... flaws that aren't actually wrongdoing, but things that make us unique and special.
EVERYTHING YOU SAID IS ON POINT ! VERY MATURE FOR YOUR AGE, THERE ARE MEN MY AGE THAT DON'T HAVE A CLUE SMDH! AND IM IN MY MID 40'S . GOOD MEN ARE HARD TO FIND. THANKS FOR THE VIDEOS KEEP THEM COMING .
Isha Swaby He's creating a fantasy. I cannot take him seriously since he isn't and has never been married. I know people will come at me for this but he is telling women what they want to hear.
"That's my corny woman!" LMAO. I love it. Thank you SOOOO much for making this video and being so honest as a man. I really want to share this on my FB page.
Thanks for this list, especially #1! There is nothing better than a humble man who can be lead and I can follow his example & effort to be better, not just what he says. Numbers 2-5 then makes up the complete and total package! Love it! #TeamJaxn
He didn't even make me a Friday or Saturday night girl. He wanted me to be a Monday/Tuesday girl... So how is you spending your weekends, bruh? Lol I'm not stupid. Bye 👋
A. Alexander I feel you 100% I was a Saturday afternoon through Sunday afternoon girlfriend. When I requested more days that’s when it allll changed, that’s when I met the real him.
Yo listen, i have a girl that i really care for and she is real wife material. Before she came into my life i had always spent my time on friday and saturday with my best friends ever i grew up with and that became like a ritual. I am loyal to her, she is loyal to me. But she respects that i have other things (like for example these friends) i find important in life. The only thing i want you to understand is that not all guys that dont wanna chill on a friday or saturday are cheating on the girl or not caring about her enough. I love her, but in my case it just means that i wanna spend some private time with my buddies (when we chill they don't bring their girl too) because i value them too.
@@milohaanen4670 nothing wrong with that as long as there's an understanding. I like my man to have his own things going on so that I have either alone time or space for my own things.
Yep exactly!!! This was my situation and I took everything I have learned via your channel and applied it and I am happy to report that I have left that unfit man after almost 6 years now he is sick but I ain't going back I am loving my freedom!!! Thanks for your help D.
As your talking, am shaking my head and say YES Preach! I just ended a relationship, he was what you described... Trying to change me and the sex was limited and no quality time.. Everyone need affection
OMG. This was right on time! I will NOT be marrying him. He doesn't meet ANY of these things. Thank you so much. I'm actually the one doing what's on the husband material list!! Lol! Thank you for enlightening me.
I'm here due to disconnecting from what I feel (still) like is the love of my life. 36 and not trying to be so hurt again, thank you for this support and guidance! 🙏🏽
Love and Light I agree. I always been the type that prefers a man to chase and bend over backwards and see that he is committed before I even think about making him my man
I love this Derrick. Tell us why so many man don't know a good woman when they have one? Or are good women really so hard to find? Love your prospective on relationships!
This was what I needed to hear. I admitted I was depressed and took my ass to therapy. She couldn't be supportive in a healthy way, and after too many times of the BS- I walked away
I agree but I wouldn't marry a man that watches porn. These days woman think they need to be better than porn but they don't realise most of the woman in the porn industry take drugs and have issues with alcohol to help them cope with loveless sex. That's a wrong perception of love. Sex is beautiful when your focus on each other and you can experience new things with each other. Not getting tips off porn I mean porn has ruined heaps of marriages and makes woman feel insecure and that they need to act like these woman on these videos or look like them. Imagine when there was no porn. Ladies marry a man that loves you and only you. A man always checking out woman on the street and online ain't no husband material.
Thank you! My man is all of those things and I love him sooo much!! I appreciate him and feel so blessed to have an amazing man like him in my life! They're rare..but do exist! What women don't realize is if you're a good woman, then you'll recognize these qualities!
I disagree. The sex before marriage conversation. Well, just think... how many people have already tried that? Hows that working out for them? I think that people need to wait, based upon having a clear frame of mind when making the best choices in relationships without the distraction of sex.
Ida Worst, I wanted to bring this to your attention because you need to know that all ladies outlook will change during different stages example 18, 20, 21, 25, 30 years old and on. Marriage decisions impact the rest of your life whether good or bad, there is also said guys don't start making up their mind till 25 years old which effect marriage. These are all hard lessons I learn too late sharing to hopefully encourage you not make the same.
I be sitting here like- hell yeah I appreciate her, I DO need to tell her more often *opens phone* "Baby I love you, you're always patient with me (I have ADHD)" oh. I already did that. Never too late to send another appreciation text.
You got me "hell yea'in" over here!!! LOVE the way you think! You are so right on about all of these points. Just bc a man can go down on one knee and profess his undying love doesn't in itself make him "husband material". Hence why the divorce rate is over 50%, nobody seems to ask themselves, does this person have all the qualities and values that I seek in a LIFE PARTNER?! Whoop whoop!!!! You on the other hand...Damn, you consistently blow ME away....and I'm the one who goes by Wind. 😉 Keep being Real, straight up and Sexy as YOU!!! IM ALL ABOUT TEAM JAXN!!!!😁🙌
Just subscribed today and I’m really impressed with what you have to say. I completely agree with a man being husband material if you can be your true and authentic self with him. I know so many women who put up this crazy front and hide themselves from their sig other, and to me that means they have built their house on top of sand. Sooner or later a person will get tired of pretending and that’s when things fall apart. But a woman has to have enough self esteem to be herself to begin with, before she can find a man who accepts and appreciates her for it. In my experience, the women I know don’t ever get to that level because they are putting way too much effort into creating that perfect facade, instead of building a solid foundation with truth and transparency at its core. Keep doing what u do!
The guy I'm dating and considering making a commitment to (relationship) has all these boxes checked, without wveb trying hard to! My hopes is that it can only get better. He is definitely on the right track😍
Not so honey. I waited to have sex with my husband til our wedding day. He is the senior pastor of our church. He can preach a word. He knows the Bible front to back. Oh and he can realllllllllly pray. Our sex life is fantastic! With all that he is a horrible husband. He is extremely narcissistic as many pastors are and extremely selfish. Don't let refraining from sex before marriage be your meter for a good man. It is the right thing to do if you're choosing to walk in obedience to God's word but there are many successful marriages in which people did not wait. The things he stated in the video are just as important.
#6 Make sure he takes care of you.. Not financially,but mentally physically spiritually..
Rachel Wilis, I agree he should take care of your mental, physical, and emotional needs but if he's also in the position to take care of you finanically as well...that is a wonderful thing and we shouldn't count that out.
Rachel Wilis yes! I was just about to comment that! 👌👍
Queen Nzuri very good, it is very important. there are still men in the World that value women with both actions and their money like the guy who married his Iranian girlfriend in a castle, my good ness they even outdid the British royalty that had been wasting time fornicating, Hmmnh what am saying is wherever a man puts his money he's emotionally connected, so galll if you're not seeing the cash or you don't know where it goes, you're not long term, trust me. time, money, effort, although this doesn't apply if the guy is struggling, in that case let him know you love him and be his friend. if he wants you, David Beckham followed Victoria right, the same system will be implemented, but if not there are no hard feelings, you can talk at any point, eblven get together down the road when all is financially stable or if you really want to get married, you may meet someone else who wants the same thing and is ready because you're not going to be young or pretty forever
Rachel Wilis Yesssssssss Hunty🙌🙌🙌
Rachel Wilis u meant not just financial. No woman wants help we need providers.
People think that when you've been single for a long time that means that you can't get a man. It actually means that you are selective. You are not willing to take the same BS that alot of women in so called relationships are willing to take. You don't need the validation of a man to feel worthy. You are whole. When a man that is worthy presents himself to you, your whole self is ready. Be blessesd my sisters.
Contrina Durant amen!
Contrina Durant you are so right..I wish most women would understand what you just preached and they need to know their value. They just don't wanna be alone.. who do? Being selective is great. But if we as single people need to stay rooted and grounded in Jesus & then he will give you the desires of your heart.
Contrina Durant AMEN!!!
Thank You!!!
You are so right!!
Met my husband in 1984!! Still together!!
Aww I am happy for you! God bless! 💖
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That is so beautiful❤❤❤❤
Time together means nothing, I want respect and loyalty, as long as he has always given you that. then congratulations, cause I see people married longer than that and can't stand one another.
Levenda Barrow congratulations.. respect 🙏🏾
Here bc I care about my girl ... just need tips on showing her 😂😂💯
Ballamoney Tv ♥️ that's so sweet! Hope things are going well. Sending blessings y'all way🙏🏾
Same lol
same
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Aww!👍
He's not. day one.
Momma said a MAN who Won't take Care of you before he marries you, he definitely won't care of you after he marries you.
Old women always said: "Baby, what you see BEFORE the wedding, is what you're gonna see AFTER the wedding". If he's a "momma's boy".....RUUUUUUUNNNNNN as fast as you can away from him!!!
I felt that one all in my spirit 👏👏👏
Tammie Everhart Jones couldn’t have said it better.
Amen... Say that again, and louder for the ppl in the back
Oh girl preach
#1 A man/husband material needs a strong *spirtually* foundation........I agree 100%
Londa Hicks Amen
I knew my husband was the one on our first real date. We went to Bible study together. The Lord is still at the center of our marriage almost a decade later.
What about me I'm an atheist does that make me not husband material?
Kazaam818 NOT AT ALL. Having strong faith just makes it easier to understand their values and thought process. Because of your beliefs it just means it might be harder for people to understand your values and thought process and does not mean that you arent husband material.
That got him an instant like from me! Wholeheartedly agreed!
#1 strong spiritual connection
#2 respect for me and we heading to be or become
#3 he lets you be yourself in all the event
#4 great sex
#5 showing appreciation of what you do
Absolutely Correct! 💯💯
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Lmfao😂
Yes i totally agree
How do 1 and 4 coincide?
“that’s my corny woman and I’m still proud of her” made my heart leap 😂😂😂🙌🏾 #ThatsBae
You just described my husband!!! It took me 32 years to find the perfect man to me, but I think i choose so well. I am married for 6 years I'm still waiting for the first argument or desappointment. My advice for my friends is don't seatle for less than you deserve. And I'm not talking about money!
That's so amazing ❤. God Bless you and your marriage 💑. Disagreements/arguments can be inevitable, but a blessing 🙌as well, when you work through them and hear👂each other out.
My wish is that I (and others) can have such an beautiful relationship 🤝. God Bless 🙏
Praise God Hallelujah
Congratulations!
Does your husband have an brother who's the same way but single? 🤣🤣🤣
Also take into account how he treats others in his life like his mother, children, etc. If he doesn't love and respect others he definitely won't respect you.
Michele Smart my dad always say that
Michele Smart
Big one for me 👍🏿💫
Michele Smart
Agreed, but I would extend it to strangers too. If he is nasty to people and he doesn't even know them, that says a lot.
Ariel H That is a great point! It's all about understanding a person's true character.
#FACTS
Just open a dating site for high quality men...
Jesus Is Lord Jesus is Lord! Say that loud!
Jesus Is Lord yeah but it's not enough quality women going around. You're job and education means nothing to men. Stop thinking what you see as a quality man is what a man want in s women. Your cooking and how well you can nourish a man's kids means more. Please understand that.
Or a online course
Yes lord
🙏🙌🙏🙌🙏🙌Enough said
Im only 17 but might as well learn early 🤷🏾♂️
Same lol
Ephesians 5, The Book Of Ruth, The Book Of Esther, Proverbs 31 ... I am praying for you a Queen
I wish I had this advice when I was your age...whew!!! Please take notes young lady because THIS MAN IS SPEAKING TRUTH....TRUST ME....I KNOW!!!
Yes please do
Good for you!!! Smart!!❤
As a happily married woman of 16 years...I totally agree with this. My husband is a REAL man and more. Thanks for sharing this information with single women that are worth being treated like a woman by a real man
I'm Good with waiting....Till then I'll work on ME.
Leigh Lee White what you need to work on???
mary Jacobs I'm in school getting My degree. I have to finish some personal things b4 I'm ready is what I meant
Leigh Lee White ooooo ok 😊
Leigh Lee White same here👍👍👍👍
Working on self
Because we want to already be everything we can to our best potential when the man that has the characteristic and amazing qualities we desire come along we are already a perfect match. Be phenomenal and you will attract that. Kudos.
That moment when you listen to this and realize these are all the qualities the man you are already married to possess. *Such a calming feeling*
Nice
Good for you darling 🌺
That's awesome.
If a woman want a man that's Husband Material pray to God, and God will give you the one he created just for you. BOTTOM LINE!!
I truly hope so!! This is one of my heart's desires.
That’s a fantasy. If that were the case, black women would not be leading in stats as the least likely to be married
True
I believe this... going on with me now.
It takes more than just praying to get a husband. It's not that cut and dry. If that was the case no one would be single.
I seriously want to know where men like you & act the way you describe actually are.
Melanie Doyle I know right!!
Melanie Doyle mythological creatures
Melanie Doyle ..they not at church that's where the booty snatcher are ...lol
Melanie Doyle I would like to know also..The land is dry 😅😅😅
Do you guys think there is a woman somewhere sick of Derrick's sh!t?
I just enjoy the reaffirmations from a male perspective. You just let me know I'm not crazy or expecting too much of my future husband. Thank you!
Shida Luscious Well said, I agree :)
right, this is always a concern. Society's crazy like that makin us think we're crazy just for expecting any sort of reciprocated respect or higher standards
All I know, I'm taking it even further than that. I'm not having sex till marriage. Everyone says," Times have changed". Guess what people? God's word never changes. Every time I've had sex with a boyfriend, he changes. Let the head games begin. I'm done doing my way. It's Gods way next for me. And I don't care what anybody thinks about my decision. God bless.
The word has changed. The bible has had translations changed or removed
Amen that’s the same thing I told myself. I just ran back to God after 2 years and I told him this time I’m doing EVERYTHING right.
Twinkle Star right!! You got Support over here
Twinkle Star amennnnn!
Balzac T. Bagher LoL
Man that is husband material:
1. Strong spiritual foundation
- Faith during tough times, not a liability.
2. Respect for you and the relationship
- Focus on you and prepare for opportunity
3. Allows you to be yourself
- Respectfully checks you.
- Don't surpress yourself
4. Sex is good
- Improve overtime with increasing variety
5. Shows appreciation
- Doesn't take you for granted
- Says something of appreciation
Ready to be a mature man on your side
Derrick You should teach a class for men on how to respectfully court women! 💪🙌 your advice is always on point. ❤️👑😍
When I do meet THE ONE I'm not telling NOBODY!!!
Anjanette Potter Lol 😂😂
Anjanette Potter true 😂😩👍🏽
Anjanette Potter lol no lie bc every time I open my mouth, he messes up.
Anjanette Potter when I meet him you will know he will treat you like a queen and open ur eyes to new things .one thing I learned is don't look for him let him come to you
Yes the best plan!😅
My husband is 5/6 things mentioned. He doesn’t say it out loud he appreciates me. But luckily acts of service is my received love language. So fixing my car, cleaning, changes the air wick, cutting the grass make me feel like he appreciates me to help around the house too
Beautiful
Whatever all women portray husbands to be best on social media
@@alexandriarona2299 incel alert
God bless both of you
This gives me soooo much conformation, I broke off an engagement because it didn't feel right and I knew he wasn't right for me..Coincidentally he didn't match up with any of these traits either smh..
Me too.
Right there with you all.
Just broke off an engagement too because this man treated me like he was doing me a favor by marrying me. He doesn’t check off anything on this list. Very self centered and selfish. I don’t need to be tolerated in a marriage, I would rather be single.
Are you women still single? Just wondering
I'm glad i listened today you confirm everything I'm already doing for my woman! I got ready for her before we started dating by getting rid of people! Then I started courting her! The sex is great! We fart around each other to and laugh about it! I also give her all my attention when I'm around her so i log out of social apps and etc! Hopefully everything continues!!
John Raven 👏👏👏 good luck to you guys!
Jazmine Gandy thank you
John Raven I wish you two well. You made me laugh with the fart comment. My husband plays to much, he farted one time and trapped me under the covers with the stank. lol. Have a good one.
a.d.w. n. I was laughing when I typed it lol but we are very comfortable around each other I was cleaning and cooking in the kitchen with just my boxers on! I forgot I didn't have on clothes and she was taking pictures of me and showed me later lol!
John Raven I wish you and your partner many blessings. May God continues to give you wisdom to keep your relationship healthy, happy and a lifetime of love.
I was in a relationship with someone who told me not to embarrass them! So hurtful where you can't be yourself and its dehumanizing never be with someone who thinks you are an embarrassment. It tears your self- esteem down. If you're such an embarrassment then leave their ungrateful asses✌
Kamaria Cross Yeah I cant be with a man that does that to me. Or act embarrassed when the two of you or seen together. Men like that I dont take seriously and ghost their behind quickly
I get hypnotized whenever I see his videos, by his beauty but most of all his wisdom...God bless you.
Vaness LunaPiena
Yes DJ is a beautiful guy in that his heart and mind are the most attractive things about him!
I've learned over the years that, on one can do anything to me that I'd don't allow.
I will not ever let a man or anyone use me.
My goodness you are on point.
I'm Muslim, and I don't want a husband who doesn't want me to be myself, or doesn't want me to have a voice.
Well said and I've been married to this type of man for 20 years!
spinnerchic 👍😎
You're truly blessed!!
Finding relationships these days is like looking for a job, you have to be qualified for this and that to be hired. There were some things I didn't know how to do when I met my husband, like grilling, driving and cooking certain foods, but he taught me and I taught him how to sew and bake cake and cookies. He's a patient man and I'm lucky to have him.
LovelyMom 1981 that's wat you call a quality marriage. you both keep it up, you're right though, but I believe God is able to provide quality men too for other women amidst the madness #CreatoroftheUniverse#
Yesss.......im so happy u got a REAL MAN!
If u truly 💗💗💖💖💖 yo hubby...... FUCK/4Get wat anybody else has 2 say!!!👌👍👍👏👏 #2TrueLove!!....Alwayz....👍👍🤗🤗😊😊😁😁😎😎😎
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I'm a Sagittarius Girl TOO.......!!LOL
Sagittarius are the BEST!!LOL LOL 😁😁👍👍👌👌👑👑👑
@@sunshinesunny5794 Hey girlie! I find you here too! 😇😇😇😇😇😇 #GodEyeMedia
LikeMyCommentFirst ThenReply I can agree 10000% because guess what I cant cook wash dishes or wash clothes or pay bills or drive and I'm 26 but I know one thing I can do well and thats tell people about Jesus
Provider and protector, protection comes through marriage however I feel many men do not want to be providers and complain endlessly about it which is a turnoff.
Financial support, mental, emotional, spiritual, and sex...by being thoughtful and considerate...= helpful!
You need about a million clones! lol Nail on the head!
Which is exactly why I just broke up with a man I was with for over a year..I couldn't check off not one thing off this list in regards to him and he swears he did nothing wrong. Exactly. You did nothing. #Next
BrieLovesYou - this made me laughhhhhhh!! Good for you girl!
Hotzaaaaammmmnnnnnnn!!!! LOL
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Literally just dumped a boy for the same reason and said the same thing
if u want a high quality man go to the gym you are over weight...
Man where are men like you??? I appreciate everything you are putting out. You're so on point....especially having a spiritual foundation.
I almost cryed, every exemple you gave of husband material is my boyfriend, and every exemple of not husband material is my ex
Same, dead on.
Thank you for the husband material list. Everyday there is a new set of rules a woman has to follow in order to be considered an appropriate wife.
lis martin Agreed
What's happening to relationships? It's either they don't exsist or it's a struggle to be together, and it seems to be happening world wide. I know I can't be the only one that noticed.
Alicia McLean It's cold out here in these streets, hell I can't even get to the love part because I end up throwing dogs back to the wolves😅 Seems to be a never ending cycle, I give up!
AMarie I wish you well, choose wisely
Mother Earth I agree. Thats why I do not want a relationship right now. Nor have the desire to get into one.
sex is easy....relationships are easy come easy go...it all goes together and i think it may only get worse
it’s just the lack of commitment nowadays. it’s not needed anymore like it was back then. if we talkin about marriage then people probably had problems all the time but divorce wasn’t a good thing at all so people had to stay in their marriages despite hating their partner.
That's my corny woman....lol
Omg this is so true my ex didn’t have a strong spiritual foundation and when things got rough... he got going and blamed everyone else on his way out 🏃 💨
Do not be fooled. Spirituality, christianity is not a good indicator of being a good human/partner and so on.
Dated a man like that as well in 2017.✌🏿✌🏿✌🏿
Where's the love button when you need it?
I truly appreciate all of the light that u shine on these topics, it's funny how I trust your word so much because I know that whom ever God has for me is out there, and I have to continue to be patient, I want a man that is just as u described, not just because it's what I want but it is what it deserve.
UniQue Patresa Amen 🖤
I agree with you. My girlfriend and me are cool. I am getting married next year.
Congrats hope u have a successful marriage
“That’s my corny woman” 😩😍✊🏽
so true, so many jumped and get married because a man ask... Women know when the man is not giving his all, but he'll ask knowing that a women wants to be married and at that moment it will block all the bad that he has put you through. He knows she has had several bad relationships that she thought were good and lost a man that wasn't for her. So they jump and marry the wrong man especially when they see others getting married. At the end of the day you have know your worth before finding a man that is worthy of you.
Bria Lindsay I agree. I got married way too fast. Now after 5 years I find out that I don't even like him as person. Ha!
I DON'T CARE WHAT they SAY ABOUT U in the other blogs DERRICK! U alright with me because u sir r using your gift wisely! #iamfemale
+K Alston Fuckem. Lol
Derrick Jaxn 😂👌🤗 😉HEY!!! I'M SAVING THIS! i didn't expect that response but I LIKE IT!!Thx for being YOU!
K Alston you right help me too
I agree!
People talk shit about this guy??? What the hell!?!?!? #HatingAss
Love love ❤️ this describes my husband, married going on 2yrs!! Keep doing what you doing it's always good to get a man's point of view
emotional maturity is needed! please elaborate this as well.
At 24 I now know and understand why finding a man who's first God Fearing is vital to a relationship! Nothing is worst then wasting time from the jump...I want a man who submits to God through the toughest of times, one who prays for me, and prosperity in our relationship, and from there if it's meant to be everything else will fall into place. I solid foundation is everything!
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you gonna pray for him
Pray for a genuine Godly man!
Their's so many counterfeits coming in God's name to ruin u or should I call it demonic blessings where a man comes and u think he is all Godly and good only to find out he isn't all that...
Also remember u won't get along with every man just because he is Godly
Crystal Lee Amen! young and smart!
I get married soon so I made a checklist off of everything you said & honestly the man I'm going to marry is the one 😍😍😍 thank you I feel so much better about getting married ! .
Lucky you.
Are you married just wondering?
Stewart Coleman nope! Lol
How'd it go?
Yo everybody wants to know lol.
looking for my future husband but im not gonna settle cause i domt believe in divorce
I think you're one cool guy.
Anybody who tries to spread the truth has my respect!!
that my corny woman 😂😂😂😂
I lol'd at that 😂
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That whole turnaround reply made me want to kiss him! XD I'm like yes! That's what I want a man to say and do. Let me be myself.
I think that's one of the things women want most, to not have to always be perfect, but to be embraced with their imperfection... flaws that aren't actually wrongdoing, but things that make us unique and special.
mary Jacobs lmfaooooo
ABSOLUTELY & he also needs to be financially stable. These are GREAT core values for a husband 💯👌🙌 Someday ☺🙋🙏
The jokes were corny but that's my corny woman!!!😂😂😂 Derrick is so cute!!! And hilarious!!😊😊🙏
I was Choking on my noodles when you was talking about the sex part😭 but it’s hella facts though 💯💯‼️
EVERYTHING YOU SAID IS ON POINT ! VERY MATURE FOR YOUR AGE, THERE ARE MEN MY AGE THAT DON'T HAVE A CLUE SMDH! AND IM IN MY MID 40'S . GOOD MEN ARE HARD TO FIND. THANKS FOR THE VIDEOS KEEP THEM COMING .
wow! where did you come from.... and.... are there any more of you?
Isha Swaby true never met any of them.
Isha Swaby He's creating a fantasy. I cannot take him seriously since he isn't and has never been married. I know people will come at me for this but he is telling women what they want to hear.
Braelynn Blue what's wrong with that sweetie..... we are single....
Braelynn Blue hmmmm....where dese guys at.....sometimes u get some things on d list but everything? ?...hopefully in this lifetime
I like him as he is standing for us. Nothing wrong if it's a bit ambiguous. Guys should try to grow to that level.
He never showed me any appreciation so I broke the engagement
"That's my corny woman!" LMAO. I love it. Thank you SOOOO much for making this video and being so honest as a man. I really want to share this on my FB page.
PERFECT timing, sir!
I 1000% agree with this!! I wish I would've have ran across your videos years ago!!
T. Monique chile 😩😂😂
You damn sure ain’t husband material.😂😂
You are divinely gifted in what you do.
Thanks for this list, especially #1! There is nothing better than a humble man who can be lead and I can follow his example & effort to be better, not just what he says. Numbers 2-5 then makes up the complete and total package! Love it! #TeamJaxn
I love your videos!!! I was in the wrong relationship for 8 years - finally left him and you confirm I did the right thing! Thanks!!
OMG! I should've found you before I got married! #1 says it all! I'll know for next time though. Thanks!
and yes number 3, he's secure within in his own self!! secure men.
I'm grateful I discovered this channel 🙌🏽
He didn't even make me a Friday or Saturday night girl. He wanted me to be a Monday/Tuesday girl... So how is you spending your weekends, bruh? Lol I'm not stupid. Bye 👋
A. Alexander I feel you 100% I was a Saturday afternoon through Sunday afternoon girlfriend. When I requested more days that’s when it allll changed, that’s when I met the real him.
Yo listen, i have a girl that i really care for and she is real wife material. Before she came into my life i had always spent my time on friday and saturday with my best friends ever i grew up with and that became like a ritual. I am loyal to her, she is loyal to me. But she respects that i have other things (like for example these friends) i find important in life. The only thing i want you to understand is that not all guys that dont wanna chill on a friday or saturday are cheating on the girl or not caring about her enough. I love her, but in my case it just means that i wanna spend some private time with my buddies (when we chill they don't bring their girl too) because i value them too.
A. Alexander I call them pop up niggas..wanna pop up when you mad at your side bitches...in my Nene Leakes voice, the doors are closed hunnie”
@@milohaanen4670 nothing wrong with that as long as there's an understanding. I like my man to have his own things going on so that I have either alone time or space for my own things.
Thats my corny woman and I'm proud of her 😂😂😂
Yep exactly!!! This was my situation and I took everything I have learned via your channel and applied it and I am happy to report that I have left that unfit man after almost 6 years now he is sick but I ain't going back I am loving my freedom!!! Thanks for your help D.
As your talking, am shaking my head and say YES Preach! I just ended a relationship, he was what you described... Trying to change me and the sex was limited and no quality time.. Everyone need affection
OMG. This was right on time! I will NOT be marrying him. He doesn't meet ANY of these things. Thank you so much. I'm actually the one doing what's on the husband material list!! Lol! Thank you for enlightening me.
I love the second point!!!"protect what could be..."-what a perspective and thought!
I'm here due to disconnecting from what I feel (still) like is the love of my life. 36 and not trying to be so hurt again, thank you for this support and guidance! 🙏🏽
I'm from the Caribbean and guys don't ever think that way. its truly amazing what you said. keep up the good work!
I appreciate a man who stands up for us women. It has been wonky for way to long. You are bold and I like it :))
He never respected my values
He said a “mechanic” ! 😂
yes women doing too much for a title 💅
I Agree 💯 Derrick but of course for us real women that list is bigger. Lol. But great 5. Love how grounded and real you are. God Bless😘🙌💪💯
Love and Light I agree. I always been the type that prefers a man to chase and bend over backwards and see that he is committed before I even think about making him my man
I love this Derrick. Tell us why so many man don't know a good woman when they have one? Or are good women really so hard to find? Love your prospective on relationships!
This was what I needed to hear. I admitted I was depressed and took my ass to therapy. She couldn't be supportive in a healthy way, and after too many times of the BS- I walked away
You’re on point my Brother!!!😇❤️🙏🏽🔥🔥🔥🔥💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽✊🏽✊🏽✊🏽
#1 got me...I noticed that was an issue in my parents' marriage and what you said was accurate
I agree but I wouldn't marry a man that watches porn. These days woman think they need to be better than porn but they don't realise most of the woman in the porn industry take drugs and have issues with alcohol to help them cope with loveless sex. That's a wrong perception of love. Sex is beautiful when your focus on each other and you can experience new things with each other. Not getting tips off porn I mean porn has ruined heaps of marriages and makes woman feel insecure and that they need to act like these woman on these videos or look like them. Imagine when there was no porn. Ladies marry a man that loves you and only you. A man always checking out woman on the street and online ain't no husband material.
The one thing relationships don't have today is god
Thank you! My man is all of those things and I love him sooo much!! I appreciate him and feel so blessed to have an amazing man like him in my life! They're rare..but do exist! What women don't realize is if you're a good woman, then you'll recognize these qualities!
OMG !!! He literally spoke the truth, us woman have to do so much just to be "good enough" to be that special one!
I disagree. The sex before marriage conversation. Well, just think... how many people have already tried that? Hows that working out for them? I think that people need to wait, based upon having a clear frame of mind when making the best choices in relationships without the distraction of sex.
CeCe Kansas that's your opinion and not everyone thinks like you. That is why he gave a disclaimer saying some of you might disagree
CeCe Kansas ..?..so if U wait for sex and later realize that he R she is Not pleasin N da bedroom.. is that a deal breaker?
Precious Luv you can work on that. if you love someone enough and y'all have bomb communication, you can teach them how to please you.
Elizabeth Hodge ..thank U
Ida Worst, I wanted to bring this to your attention because you need to know that all ladies outlook will change during different stages example 18, 20, 21, 25, 30 years old and on. Marriage decisions impact the rest of your life whether good or bad, there is also said guys don't start making up their mind till 25 years old which effect marriage. These are all hard lessons I learn too late sharing to hopefully encourage you not make the same.
I be sitting here like- hell yeah I appreciate her, I DO need to tell her more often *opens phone* "Baby I love you, you're always patient with me (I have ADHD)"
oh. I already did that.
Never too late to send another appreciation text.
I love you Derrick. You are saving women so much pain. I dont even think you know how important this is. Thank you!
You got me "hell yea'in" over here!!! LOVE the way you think! You are so right on about all of these points. Just bc a man can go down on one knee and profess his undying love doesn't in itself make him "husband material". Hence why the divorce rate is over 50%, nobody seems to ask themselves, does this person have all the qualities and values that I seek in a LIFE PARTNER?!
Whoop whoop!!!! You on the other hand...Damn, you consistently blow ME away....and I'm the one who goes by Wind. 😉 Keep being Real, straight up and Sexy as YOU!!! IM ALL ABOUT TEAM JAXN!!!!😁🙌
HI Derrick, what is your opinion on, "do not do husband things for a boyfriend."?
Paulina N Moses Firm believer in this especially in the beginning when you just first meeting a man.
@@Nekole1 what do y all consider husband things? Just wanna know what y'all mean
Just subscribed today and I’m really impressed with what you have to say. I completely agree with a man being husband material if you can be your true and authentic self with him. I know so many women who put up this crazy front and hide themselves from their sig other, and to me that means they have built their house on top of sand. Sooner or later a person will get tired of pretending and that’s when things fall apart. But a woman has to have enough self esteem to be herself to begin with, before she can find a man who accepts and appreciates her for it. In my experience, the women I know don’t ever get to that level because they are putting way too much effort into creating that perfect facade, instead of building a solid foundation with truth and transparency at its core. Keep doing what u do!
The guy I'm dating and considering making a commitment to (relationship) has all these boxes checked, without wveb trying hard to!
My hopes is that it can only get better. He is definitely on the right track😍
If he has placed God first he will follow God and will wait for you...sex after marriage. The man who will do this is definitely husband material.
Not so honey. I waited to have sex with my husband til our wedding day. He is the senior pastor of our church. He can preach a word. He knows the Bible front to back. Oh and he can realllllllllly pray. Our sex life is fantastic! With all that he is a horrible husband. He is extremely narcissistic as many pastors are and extremely selfish. Don't let refraining from sex before marriage be your meter for a good man. It is the right thing to do if you're choosing to walk in obedience to God's word but there are many successful marriages in which people did not wait. The things he stated in the video are just as important.
Loyalty, honesty, & respect so hard to find...
I checked every box✊🏾
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This would put any women to sleep yes this is music to our ears... God bless you and the momma that raised! You