SIX WAYS TO KNOW IF A MAN IS YOUR HUSBAND by RC Blakes

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  • @charlenelawson8399
    @charlenelawson8399 Рік тому +4190

    I dated a man for 10 years that never married me. I got myself together and left that relationship. Shortly thereafter I met a man that possesses all the qualities mentioned in this video- we got engaged and married within 7 months of meeting. He’s washing me in the Word and healing me daily. Good godly men do exist, stay encouraged ladies! 💗

    • @kerrishagayle9708
      @kerrishagayle9708 Рік тому +151

      😭😭😭Sis I love the washing part that your husband does, The Lord knows I've been through a lot!!! Pray God sends me someone who's sensitive to the trauma I've been through and knows how to wash me🙇🏾‍♀️🙏🏾

    • @charlenelawson8399
      @charlenelawson8399 Рік тому +67

      @@kerrishagayle9708 I will absolutely lift you up in prayer 💗

    • @kerrishagayle9708
      @kerrishagayle9708 Рік тому +11

      @@charlenelawson8399 🙇🏾‍♀️🙏🏾

    • @colevandais
      @colevandais Рік тому +15

      Thank you Charlene

    • @luluchelor5496
      @luluchelor5496 Рік тому +4

      🙏🏼

  • @anabautista8071
    @anabautista8071 2 роки тому +4709

    1. He articulates his intentions (He believes that you're wife material; He believes that you're his wife; He believes that he's your husband). 2. He relaxes you into your feminine. 3. He's the guy you will naturally desire to help. 4. He's the guy who will earn. 5. He brings healing to you. 6. He is protective of you at all costs.

    • @kimberlysanaa25
      @kimberlysanaa25 2 роки тому +36

      Thank you!

    • @trishawallingsford4146
      @trishawallingsford4146 2 роки тому +37

      Much needed!!! Thank you my dear 🥰🥰🥰

    • @queene813
      @queene813 2 роки тому +78

      We still need to watch to get it but thank you for pulling out the points 🙏🏾

    • @jamiechavis5347
      @jamiechavis5347 2 роки тому +42

      Thank you for listing these!!!

    • @Carly-l6k
      @Carly-l6k 2 роки тому +19

      Thank you 😊

  • @paradiselivinginpurpose
    @paradiselivinginpurpose Рік тому +494

    "A grown man that is husband material - he know what he wants, he searches for it, and when he finds it, he locks it down." ~ RC Blakes, Jr. 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

    • @ArenarDomas
      @ArenarDomas Рік тому +10

      Yes! I felt that! Thanks for commenting that! That was very powerful!!

  • @taradutton8871
    @taradutton8871 2 роки тому +2291

    I have met a man who is waiting until marriage with me, who provides for me when I need anything, who puts God first, who prays for me and encourages me, who brings out a feminine part of me I’ve never known, who says you are the woman I prayed for and has said you are my wife, I honor you. I did not meet this man until I put God first!!! We are planning to get married! He absolutely articulates every intention. I guess I will update when he proposes ❤️❤️

    • @DaintyAbby
      @DaintyAbby 2 роки тому +80

      UPDATTTEEEE 👀

    • @juliawilson2480
      @juliawilson2480 2 роки тому +56

      congratulations I am so proud of you. Iama widow since 2016 and now I am dating a man with those characteristics. H really brings out the femininity...

    • @ladysoso3725
      @ladysoso3725 2 роки тому +41

      Congrats beautiful 👏❤️, I pray that God bless me with one too 🙏❤️

    • @derryfrison1337
      @derryfrison1337 2 роки тому +14

      Thank you ❤️ for the topic tonite , you are a long talker but 🙏 the point is understand.

    • @sherrysvibess
      @sherrysvibess 2 роки тому +11

      My prayer

  • @shadydolphin4827
    @shadydolphin4827 2 роки тому +1174

    It's like I'm hearing Truth for the first time! I've been with a man for 17 years, 10 years now living together and two babies. We are not married. I have been waiting for him to marry me. But he told me four years ago that if I wanted to get married I need to go find somebody else. Yet, here I still am, taking care of the kids, buying the food, paying for my own upkeep, doing the dishes, cooking, laundry, him whenever he wants. Hearing your words, I know I need to leave. He has never honored me because I have never believed that I deserved it. Time to grow and improve. Bless you and your Word. Thank you and God who is working through you.

    • @doreenmutegi2295
      @doreenmutegi2295 2 роки тому +17

      Waal i thought am alone who as been told this words

    • @successmatters1605
      @successmatters1605 2 роки тому +98

      Leave him you deserve better and he doesn't deserve any part of you. You need and deserve to experience true love ❤️ life is short.. but plan your exit. He doesn't appreciate you and he told you that, so it's time.

    • @kgoffney2
      @kgoffney2 2 роки тому +57

      Save yourself and the kids the heartache and resentment. You absolutely deserve better and you definitely know your worth honey. You can do it and are strong enough to release that energy. You owe it to yourself 🤍

    • @KKBlessed85
      @KKBlessed85 2 роки тому +42

      Don’t worry. God put this video on the Play list not by chance. We need to hear these things sometimes from someone who can help us. We’re all in the same boat. I’m learning and so will you. Just keep praying and put God first before your baby daddy. Don’t feel bad 😞 I’m not married as well and it’s been 16 years but I have my reasons. Stay blessed Sis❤

    • @barbieholly9861
      @barbieholly9861 2 роки тому +16

      I’m so sorry!

  • @Iam-eg1zi
    @Iam-eg1zi Рік тому +1342

    Six ways to know if a man is your husband.
    1. He articulates his intentions.
    2. He relaxes you into your feminism
    3. A guy you will naturally desire to help.
    4. A guy who will work for you.
    5. He brings healing to you.
    6. He is protective of you at all costs.

    • @learntoplaymusicbyfskhanye9381
      @learntoplaymusicbyfskhanye9381 Рік тому +81

      7. He is not a serial cheater

    • @remiem-iw7uk
      @remiem-iw7uk Рік тому

      2. femininity not feminism. Feminism is anti-masculinity.

    • @Jewelsessences
      @Jewelsessences Рік тому

      When you realize that even after 32 years you never met a real man and everyone you met were just clowns and low lives

    • @Jewelsessences
      @Jewelsessences Рік тому +41

      Sometimes as a woman you are your own husband who does all of that for you cuz there aren’t any real men around

    • @ekkaetteudoh3841
      @ekkaetteudoh3841 Рік тому +4

      Awesome

  • @ZenZedBodyShop
    @ZenZedBodyShop Рік тому +210

    😭😭😭😭😭i have his child(he hasnt told his family), i cook,clean, wash and give him my body whenever he wants but yesterday on our 3rd anniversary i said enough!!!! And i broke up with him, God reveal my husband🙏🏾forgive my sins, have mercy on me

    • @lindaesmerada
      @lindaesmerada 10 місяців тому +10

      God is a merciful God. He will work for you.🙏

    • @muzzmill
      @muzzmill 8 місяців тому +13

      @@lindaesmerada Well done for not wasting any more time on this guy or having more kids with him. Now you are free to find your husband , the contenders not the pretenders!!!

    • @sosookeke5559
      @sosookeke5559 8 місяців тому +7

      God will help you I am sure about this and you will be so happy that you left that user of a man. God loves you ❤

    • @SowingSeedsWithChristy
      @SowingSeedsWithChristy 8 місяців тому +12

      Now that you KNOW your absolute worth I believe that was your last bad relationship.
      Be thankful for knowing when enough was enough and for having the strength to leave. He probably thought he had you right where he wanted you. God is good.
      Now love and celebrate the one the Lord gave you who will always be by your side: you. In that way, you will show honor to the Lord, and will be a beacon shining brightly as an example for other women to see and emulate and for men to prove worthy of. God bless you!

    • @merryjore4933
      @merryjore4933 7 місяців тому +3

      I was in same relationship he never show me even one of his relatives for 4 yrs of being together I just fed up of him I am tired of his lies God have mercy on me forgive my sins its painful

  • @angelicaazp1994
    @angelicaazp1994 Рік тому +101

    It does make sense that you need to get out of your house to be able to connect with people and therefore find a man . However it is when you’re not actively seeking and trusting Gods timing when he will send the right man for you . God will send the man he has planned for you regardless of whether you’re stuck all day at home watching TV Netflix , stuck at work all the time , or going to church . God will find a way for you to meet your special person and connect regardless of the circumstance . This happened to me .

    • @ImmalynLlanes
      @ImmalynLlanes 9 місяців тому +2

      Can u tell us the story

    • @lauraweaver40
      @lauraweaver40 8 місяців тому +4

      Your comment gave me a lot of hope! My circumstances don’t allow me to “get out” to “be seen” or get in contact with a lot of people (outside of my church) these days. I do connect with a lot of people online due to ministry, but I’m there for ministry, not to search for my man, lol. However, God certainly CAN make it happen however He wants and needs to! Yes, we need to do our part for anything in our life God expects of us, but I refuse to put Him and what He can do and how in a box of limited human capacity understanding! (I’m also really hard on myself to “figure it out,” or assume there’s always more He expects of me.) And like the other person commented, I would also love to hear your story and how you met your man!

    • @arnelevans4803
      @arnelevans4803 6 місяців тому +1

      It also happened to me as well

    • @omolaraodetoye3898
      @omolaraodetoye3898 5 місяців тому +1

      @@lauraweaver40 I think i am also someone who gets busy and don't have time to go out and meet new people aside from my church which i attend only on Sundays. I resolve to looking and meeting Christian men online but the truth is, you will still need to go out and meet them, have conversations and get to decide if they are what you looking for or not. You can't do that behind you keyboard or phone. So he is right because you will have to go out at some point for this purpose. The prayer is, may God Almighty lead us to the right one, AMEN!

    • @HaHa-tb9hd
      @HaHa-tb9hd 4 місяці тому +1

      Congrats! God bless you, really. I am also a person who stays home before and after work, doing my hobbies. I'm at the end of my thirties but haven't been sent the right man except trap men and narcissists lol

  • @tranishahollman7556
    @tranishahollman7556 Рік тому +392

    “This man will make you smile on purpose.” Love this❤

    • @priscastinfil8193
      @priscastinfil8193 Рік тому +7

      This is one of the things I wrote down in my journal telling God this is one of the things I’d love from my husband!!! ❤❤❤

    • @Godisgood683
      @Godisgood683 Рік тому +3

      Amen

  • @jamilahcooper4760
    @jamilahcooper4760 2 роки тому +1008

    TIMESTAMPS
    0:00 Intro
    5:20 Husband Energy explained
    16:02 #1 - He Articulates his intentions
    23:45 #2 - He relaxes you into your feminine
    34:45 #3 - You will naturally desire to help him
    38:08 #4 - He will work
    43:49 #5 - He brings healing to you
    47:36 #6 - He protects you at all costs
    49:42 Prayer/Closing

  • @anneliesewright662
    @anneliesewright662 Рік тому +56

    "You're going to have to discern contenders from pretenders." I love that!

    • @Carolyn100000
      @Carolyn100000 4 місяці тому +1

      Yes I am listening to this AGAIN!

  • @sadej1662
    @sadej1662 Рік тому +27

    I’m here to share my testimony, I was with a man for 6 years , he never wanted marriage, he couldn’t have children and didn’t even want to move in together .. I didn’t know my worth . I just left him recently & by following god he has brought me my husband . He’s teaching me about the good book & exudes all the traits a good husband should have , I get emotional thinking about it. God has been so good to me.

  • @Beeb7488
    @Beeb7488 2 роки тому +316

    "Any man that loves you, learns you".....Yes, come on with it!!!!!

  • @bgirl1478
    @bgirl1478 2 роки тому +991

    I love what you just said," Only clowns demand respect a real man never has to ask for respect because he lives his life in the way that commands respect. " Rc Blake's words to live by.👍💕

    • @Realness4sho
      @Realness4sho 2 роки тому +4

      Amen🥰❤️

    • @tahrehale591
      @tahrehale591 2 роки тому +3

      Yes!!!!

    • @maggiefrancis9064
      @maggiefrancis9064 2 роки тому +3

      That so called right partner does not come as a model it is all a wide range and specific function. The specification is the vital connecting quality. Like a foundation to the relationship.

    • @theiamshow_official
      @theiamshow_official 2 роки тому

      This is absolutely correct!

    • @loveurselfdream4005
      @loveurselfdream4005 2 роки тому

      🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾💗💗💗🙌🏽

  • @dissertationdevi3933
    @dissertationdevi3933 Рік тому +63

    He honors you! Honors you when he with you and when he is NOT !

  • @ayibapreyejohn6453
    @ayibapreyejohn6453 Рік тому +490

    I cried all the times I listened to this 😭😭
    Dear Lord, I know I’m not a bad person. I just need a man that relaxes me into my feminine energy.

    • @jessonthecase
      @jessonthecase Рік тому +17

      And you will find he no he will come to you it happen to me when you least expect it

    • @sharmelldb2971
      @sharmelldb2971 Рік тому +10

      So true it will happen when you least expect it

    • @cynthiareynolds1941
      @cynthiareynolds1941 Рік тому +7

      Keep praying, keep fighting

    • @shuiaburahilat4701
      @shuiaburahilat4701 Рік тому +5

      I pray for a good man too

    • @ladiiyb
      @ladiiyb Рік тому +12

      Amen! I used to tell myself "what did I do so wrong that I experienced all bad things at such a young age".

  • @RCBlakesJr.
    @RCBlakesJr.  2 роки тому +183

    WELCOME TONIGHT FAMILY! Please share and LIKE now.

    • @Abbott12
      @Abbott12 2 роки тому +3

      I always share every time I'm blessed to listen it will be so selfish just to keep to myself.

    • @nikkyshamz2696
      @nikkyshamz2696 2 роки тому +2

      We are ready to be blessed per usual 🙏🏾

    • @destinylong6134
      @destinylong6134 2 роки тому +4

      R.C can you please talk about what it means for a kingdom man to be a protector? Recently the will and jada situation has created many questions about when and how a man should protect his wife. PLEASE PLEASE ADDRESS

    • @paulettemarshall1355
      @paulettemarshall1355 2 роки тому

      My goodness. I truly enjoyed this message although it kept cutting out. Guess I just want to be loved while in earth. I know my Heavenly Father loves me. Anyway thanks to both of you.

    • @shani50
      @shani50 2 роки тому

      Thanks RC Blakes😍...I admire you and you beautiful wife!!💕💕

  • @thutomawela-dn3rm
    @thutomawela-dn3rm Рік тому +263

    Amen,after this sermon,I'm walking away from time wasters ,choosing myself & putting myself 1st.Take care of me until my Husband finds me.🙌🙏😍

    • @latorchiadiaz703
      @latorchiadiaz703 Рік тому +9

      Take care of you honey. But you have to put yourself out there to be found. No man will walk up on you and just ask for your hand in marriage my dear. You have to meet him and study each other and over time or almost instantly he knows you are his wife to be.

    • @laimieunike2146
      @laimieunike2146 Рік тому +5

      This sermon taught me a lot. 😢 Lord I will wait for your respond, you know what I have been going through. Ve wasted my time.

    • @paulinematengu5913
      @paulinematengu5913 Рік тому +5

      Put God first.

    • @pamelaholland8645
      @pamelaholland8645 Рік тому

      ​@@latorchiadiaz703😮

    • @madelinebigio7565
      @madelinebigio7565 Рік тому +1

      Please 🙏 I know men who act like that because they have a women and a grown son or kids 😅does for there wife and then he causes himself problems with his job and always loses 😊his job because he doesn’t know how to keep a job or has one and looking for other women and saying he is to busy and doesn’t take time to be with her one and if he is there he is drinking that day !or got one on the side to threatening the women that he gets another one to upset her! Believe me I see woman from all cultures giong through this And that is what they have a big boy !!

  • @margaretgrant6207
    @margaretgrant6207 2 роки тому +471

    When a man loves a woman, he works!🌹

  • @melodywalker6055
    @melodywalker6055 2 роки тому +625

    Yes! A potential husband will provide security, safety and peace in the dating phase 💕 The guy I'm dating guided me away from the street and other cars while we walked...I didn't know how to respond at first because I never experienced that. I then realized this is what protection looks like. 🙌🏾

    • @karenwalters2007
      @karenwalters2007 2 роки тому +34

      WOW
      MARRIED 28 YRS CANT RELATE SO SAD
      GETTING A DIVORCE NOW SELLING THE
      HOUSE HE WILL DIE ALONE HE DONT
      DESERVE ME THANK GOD ITS OVER
      WOMEN PROTECT YOUR HEART AND MIND

    • @________1516
      @________1516 2 роки тому +25

      Protection is way more than that. Keep vetting him. Good luck to you!

    • @melodywalker6055
      @melodywalker6055 2 роки тому +15

      @@________1516 I absolutely agree! That's just one of the examples of protection. And thank you.

    • @kelliew.4285
      @kelliew.4285 2 роки тому +6

      Melody my brothers did this often and I think sometimes my ex. Can get annoying sometimes when crossing the street but there are guys who do this.

    • @cindirose3390
      @cindirose3390 2 роки тому +1

      I recently learned that about myself

  • @fatoumatafatimaabubakartouray
    @fatoumatafatimaabubakartouray Рік тому +25

    Blessed is her who finds a good husband/her king

    • @fatoumatafatimaabubakartouray
      @fatoumatafatimaabubakartouray Рік тому +1

      Thank you sir. Nothing is a coincidence. The Almighty heard my thoughts... I am worthy of these attributes & I remain patient as I will not give up on "us"

  • @cynthiagroover5141
    @cynthiagroover5141 2 роки тому +239

    Amen I met my fiancé soon to be my husband I met him 6 months before my daughter passed away he was right by my side then I had to go in the hospital for emergency surgery I had to stay in the hospital for 30 days he came in the morning before work on his lunch break and after work then I had to go to rehabilitation to learn how to walk again I had to stay there 30 days he came every day he rubs my feet every day also he goes in the store and tells me to relax and he opens the door for me 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾💋💋💋💋

  • @Rampaigee
    @Rampaigee 2 роки тому +147

    “Is he too corny or are you too broken?”Oooh that hit 🔥🔥

  • @taribahonwuchekwa4665
    @taribahonwuchekwa4665 Рік тому +84

    I’ve been married for 10 years and I couldn’t put in to words why I choose my husband. But you listed all the reasons I did. Thank you this was truly a revelation from God and May God bless you for helping us understand our husbands.

  • @roxancooks7077
    @roxancooks7077 2 роки тому +103

    I love how you back everything you say with scripture.

  • @Radience100
    @Radience100 2 роки тому +292

    “Submit, submit!!!!!!” Only a clown 🤡 demands submission. But a husband commands respect not by his words, but by his actions and gentle strength.
    This right here! I’ve lived this in my previous marriage and it was a constant struggle!

    • @LethalWeapon73
      @LethalWeapon73 2 роки тому +7

      I'm living it now. 🙏

    • @emmeeks1301
      @emmeeks1301 2 роки тому +4

      I'm living it now too🙏

    • @Radience100
      @Radience100 2 роки тому +1

      @@LethalWeapon73 praying 🙏🏾

    • @Radience100
      @Radience100 2 роки тому +1

      @@emmeeks1301 praying 🙏🏾

    • @myofficespace6103
      @myofficespace6103 2 роки тому +1

      My situation now,keeps saying I should submit

  • @fieryblaze75
    @fieryblaze75 Рік тому +24

    Wow. You got me with "a man that allows her to relax into her feminine." I've never had that from a man. You're gonna get me crying at work.

  • @shinecam1
    @shinecam1 2 роки тому +175

    WoW
    This mirror's our relationship. My husband and I dated 4 months then we married. We're now in our 28th year. He's now an ordained Elder/National Adjutant and I'm a licensed Missionary. This is a testament to God and how He gains the glory I'm our lives🙌🏿. I'm thankful for him covering me and how God settled my mouth and let him lead☺. Single mothers really need to let this message sink in. Don't run your mate away by being so strong. I'm weak as water until I need to boss up😅.

    • @mz.sophisticatedlady8398
      @mz.sophisticatedlady8398 2 роки тому +10

      Beautiful testimony 🙏🏾🥰🙏🏾

    • @NA-tp7kf
      @NA-tp7kf Рік тому +3

      So happy for you sister!🥰🎇🙌

    • @tracyphillips336
      @tracyphillips336 Рік тому +6

      I'M WEAK AS WATER UNTIL I NEED TO BOSS UP....HALLELUJAH, HALLELUJAH, HALLELUJAH..AMEN
      AMEN AND AMEN AGAIN 🙏🏼 ❤️

    • @cynthiareynolds1941
      @cynthiareynolds1941 Рік тому +3

      I love your testimony . I’m praying for that same person. God is able . 🙏🏽

    • @inongekapika9267
      @inongekapika9267 Рік тому

      Amen. So helpful

  • @sondragooden8647
    @sondragooden8647 2 роки тому +338

    Amen...A man who relaxes me so I can EXHALE

  • @cdonnelly678
    @cdonnelly678 Рік тому +67

    "He relaxes you into your feminism". This is an extremely profound point. When a female earns her own income this does not mean she wants to be masculine. She still wants to look and feel beautiful and sensual. Carrying the weight of being the strongest one in the relationship all of the time is toxic and exhausting. This can stimulate a hardness in women. We do need to exhale from the burdens of life and choosing the right partner matters!

  • @angelataylor72
    @angelataylor72 2 роки тому +157

    Support without intimidation, has a gentle strength NOW that’s husband energy!!

  • @iamyoutoo1
    @iamyoutoo1 2 роки тому +547

    The first thing I noticed different on the third date with my now husband…he started openly telling me about his finances when I didn’t even ask. He started with his past money choices, how much he makes, his debt and what he owed on his house etc. I never had to ask anything and when we married he handed me the checkbook and I still keep watch on our finances 12 yrs later. We automatically just blended together as a team and are better off now. When I see couples with separate finances dividing up expenses it always a red flag. Good luck and God bless🙏

    • @LethalWeapon73
      @LethalWeapon73 2 роки тому +11

      How my parents was.

    • @florencebowden3980
      @florencebowden3980 2 роки тому +4

      Beautiful!!!!

    • @aliceervine6445
      @aliceervine6445 2 роки тому +19

      This is good however I believe in each having a decided amount of funds to do with what they want no explanation. It could to surprise one or the other with dinner, flowers, gift whatever that does not come out of the budget or whatever spontaneous cause and so on

    • @lajuandapettigrew1470
      @lajuandapettigrew1470 2 роки тому +5

      Thank you for this information God bless you, because l have seen so many red flags in my relationship 💖

    • @Realness4sho
      @Realness4sho 2 роки тому +3

      Amen! ✅🥰❤️

  • @chalaniia
    @chalaniia Рік тому +33

    God has spoken for me at this very moment. My husband is somewhere out there and I'm going to allow myself to heal with peace and serenity from these past 12 years of hurt,pain and anger. I no longer will allow myself to be in bandage. In God's name I speak these words. Amen.
    Thank you for this massage,may the lord continue to speak through you.

  • @SunShyne-of3xj
    @SunShyne-of3xj 2 роки тому +279

    I absolutely enjoy your messages! Met my soon to be husband May 23, 2021 and he most definitely exuded that HUSBAND ENERGY! He made his intentions quite clear about the direction he wished to take the relationship. He proposed February 19, 2022, we will be married May 23, 2022 a year to the date we met.
    I believe I only met him because I had come to know what I needed and wanted in my life and didn't hang on to ANY MAN who was less than I desired; no matter how good he looked on paper or how attractive he was. It was always NEXT if he didn't align to what I needed for my life. 🙏🏾🙏🏾
    This was a great message! ❤

    • @niccijanelle8319
      @niccijanelle8319 2 роки тому +20

      Omg, I just formally met a guy the end of March 2022 myself from my hometown. I’ve been knowing of him from church for a brief period time when I was about 13 and he was 21 and never even knew my existence, then he disappeared for 3 years later until saw him at this wedding practice we both were participating in and he Still didn’t notice me, which was cool, because I was underage, but I wouldn’t see him again until 25 yrs later, now at the tender age of 40 for me and 48 for him..lol.
      We were finally introduced the end of March 2022, and he was totally smitten by me when he walked through the door, and I was definitely shocked as ever, and to see him gracefully aged after all this time.☺️ So by the next day, we really hit it off and started dating since day 2 of meeting and he revealed to me that he loved me after about a couple of weeks and told me, as of today, May 9, he has intentions of marrying me. So we’ll see, until then, I’m just going to keep God 1st, enjoy, and trust the process.🥹🥰

    • @SunShyne-of3xj
      @SunShyne-of3xj 2 роки тому +8

      @@niccijanelle8319 that's awesome! Pray continually for confirmation and trust God. Each time I went to God he confirmed that he was the one. Make sure his words and actions align. 🙏🏾🙏🏾

    • @niccijanelle8319
      @niccijanelle8319 2 роки тому +2

      @@SunShyne-of3xj I surely will! Thank you so much.😊🙏🏾

    • @ttyson6658
      @ttyson6658 2 роки тому +3

      Congratulations on your upcoming marriage:)

    • @SunShyne-of3xj
      @SunShyne-of3xj 2 роки тому +1

      @@ttyson6658 thank you!!

  • @Beencouraged777
    @Beencouraged777 2 роки тому +568

    The “Relax in her femininity” is key. I was a single mother (my children are all in their mid thirties, 3 men one woman). I had to be very strong; I am still single, I have a very soft side, but my stronger side is more visible, for good reason ( I was physically and mentally abused by my ex and other relationships). I developed thick skin as a result, which I don’t think is bad. I now know why I haven’t been able to relax in my soft side. Haven’t met met the man that is God-designed for me. I am okay with it, I am in no hurry. I am currently enjoying my singleness. I spend lots of time with the Lord and mastering my gifts, hobbies and interests.

    • @ajm3821
      @ajm3821 2 роки тому +23

      Same with me. Divorced for 15 years. I had to be the man for my 2 kids otherwise we would have not survived. It was really tough, but I had to be more tough. That’s why I have a lot of masculine energy. It is hard to lighten up!

    • @Toni.Latrice1988
      @Toni.Latrice1988 2 роки тому +51

      Start to relax into your soft side now. I had to learn to do that in order to attract the protector and the provider I was seeking. I like you was a single mother and had to have tough skin. Put that feminine energy out there girl! And get your man! You got this! ❤️

    • @armonykrismoore740
      @armonykrismoore740 2 роки тому +7

      You are so brave!

    • @marieingram1399
      @marieingram1399 2 роки тому +8

      I am so afraid to trust man because of my the bad experience I had been married .

    • @marieingram1399
      @marieingram1399 2 роки тому +19

      I totally agree with you , if a man loves you he will be there for you no matter what.

  • @HopeWins777
    @HopeWins777 Рік тому +83

    Every word spoken here is true. I am 62 years old this July. I have been dating a man for over 2 years when I knew that God was not at the center of the relationship and though we discussed it occasionally we never put God first. We were having such a great time after so many heartaches and trials of life. But the day before Thanksgiving last year God required me to put everything on pause. I had been ignoring it for a few weeks and I had not seen this man for that long and we were looking very much forward to spending the holiday together. His wife had died of cancer several years before the same year my mother passed and we both had sad times through the holidays. So we always made an effort to try and be together. And the Lord impressed me that the physical part of the relationship had to stop. I didn't know where it was going. I didn't feel like I had to break up. I just knew that starting that very moment I had to put God first. I had to get back into church and seeing meeting gathering with his people and get my life on track once and for all. 62 years old the day before Thanksgiving turkey bought fixings planned and I tell this man I know it's been two years but I have to stop the physical part of our relationship. I don't know what God's wanting. I don't know if I can be your girlfriend or not. I have to be friends first and we have to start this all over. And do you know what this man did? He broke up with me! Lol not what I was expecting but can you blame the guy no way I can't blame him. So yeah he broke up with me. And we spent the next few weeks and then months on and off the phone trying to figure out what on earth to do. But in the end he asked me to come to church with him. And we found a church together. And we started all over. At 62 years old - I'm going to marry this man. I still have some wounds of the past and some bills to get paid and so does he but I'm going to marry him. I'm alone for the first time in my life after being a teenage mom and raising four children. So for the first time in my life I'm alone in my home and I finally got to where I am enjoying it. But when I'm past this stage - I found the husband that I needed all along. Any man who would do that and wait for at least a year or two is someone very special. I am telling you ladies, they are out there. You get yourself right with God. You work on your past and your healing and why you've done what you've done to screw up your life. You work on being nice to people. And one day when you're happy with your life and your volunteering and you're learning an instrument and painting your artwork and doing your new business and all of a sudden this guy's going to show up. Plopped right into my life. I was like whoa buddy whoa friends first because I was happy with where I was at. But I didn't have God at the head of it all. I'm encouraging you that yes you can rewind. We did not get married right away thankfully. Without God being at the center we would have missed so so much! The physical aspect of our relationship overtook all of the getting to know one another in the important ways. And now we are learning how to troubleshoot our issues and how to deal with one another when upset and what the expectations are. We are dating two years after we met and started dating but this time we go to church every week first and then we go out to eat and run around and have some fun watching the airplanes at the airport or taking a day trip somewhere if we go to church on Sunday instead of Saturday night. His son who is autistic even asked to come to church with us! A 20-year-old who had denied God exists. He has to come with us. First for the food of course lol but just last week he confessed to me that he nearly cried when the pastor was talking about forgiving people. God's working on him like I had never dreamed would happen. I'm living a dream. But only because I had the courage to stop what we were doing and get things right with God first. I didn't know if we were going to break up or make it. It honestly didn't matter because I had given my life 1 million percent back to God. And each day I just worry about making God happy. And trying to let the past teach me good lessons for the future and for helping others who follow the road behind me. Sorry this was long but it was important. Sometimes God really does save the best for last! I've been married and divorced three times and had a child out of wedlock. I raised four children all told. And when they were all launched and countless dating mishaps over a period of 10 years. This guy shows up and we had so much fun I couldn't resist and though I knew he was a Christian we didn't talk about God much and I didn't know what kind of Christian he was and I already knew that it was important on how he worshiped God as much as it was that he knew God in a personal way not just on Sunday. And here we are kind of reborn virgins lol. He's in his '50s and I'm in my '60s and it's just been extraordinary. I can't wait to see what God's going to do next. I already can't believe what God has done. He's good. Making him happy is the only thing that matters. He made me. He picked out my talents my gifts my family my birth year he saw me make my decisions so why wouldn't I want him to run everything? He already knows the end! And so do I because he wrote it down for me. We win! Let's grab as many people as we can and bring them back home to our father, shall we? Be encouraged. God isn't finished yet.🎉🎉🎉❤🔥🔥🔥✝️

    • @SamuraAminata
      @SamuraAminata Рік тому +2

      Wow, I'm encourage

    • @sayit_withmusic8594
      @sayit_withmusic8594 Рік тому +8

      This is amazing. I am thankful that you took the time to let us know what youve been through and what God did and allowed when you made the decision to be obedient. He gives us blessings for obedience and he has such good desires and plans for us. May He continue to bless your family, and may you all continue to put him first. Thank you for sharing this.

    • @SusieQ156
      @SusieQ156 Рік тому +4

      Sweet- be happy my dear ❤

    • @doragriffin8895
      @doragriffin8895 Рік тому +3

      Wow

    • @amerokeewiya1320
      @amerokeewiya1320 Рік тому +1

      Someone actually read all of that 😂😂

  • @eclipsedeucy1144
    @eclipsedeucy1144 2 роки тому +160

    He communicates his intentions. That means I won't have to wonder. He'll let me know where we stand. That's the one that shook me.

    • @user-zx5xw4yw2e
      @user-zx5xw4yw2e Рік тому +1

      He meets all except this1 for me. Hmm

    • @Jewelsessences
      @Jewelsessences Рік тому +2

      I think a decent man will make his intentions clear but a woman has the right to ask to protect herself. She is not a public property. Any woman must ask what the f anyone wants from her

  • @msm3668
    @msm3668 2 роки тому +309

    'The (spiritual) man with husband energy finds his wife, locks her down, learns and honors her. He is the 'covenant' man who articulates his intentions. He possesses a 'gentle giant' strength and brings healing to her soul.'
    Awesome teaching. Thank you, Bishop Blakes! ❤

    • @user-zx5xw4yw2e
      @user-zx5xw4yw2e Рік тому

      What if he checks all the boxes except 'articulates his intentions' ?? 🤔 What you think??

    • @msm3668
      @msm3668 Рік тому +4

      @@user-zx5xw4yw2e
      His intentions, (the man with 'husband energy') will articulate his vision for your future with him...different from 'a promise.'
      Then, watch what his behavior dictates.

    • @user-zx5xw4yw2e
      @user-zx5xw4yw2e Рік тому +2

      @@msm3668 So it's ok if he doesn't articulate his intentions yet. I should just wait n watch his behavior .. Is that what you're saying??

    • @msm3668
      @msm3668 Рік тому

      @@user-zx5xw4yw2e
      Dating, for the sake of those who are, is a period for collecting 'data' on an individual. Where most people go wrong, they allow intercourse to take place before much data is collected about one another; they've given each other 'access' to the mindset, emotions and vulnerability when intimacy is exercised too soon. No, it is never ok for a man not to articulate his intentions. Women squash that when they 'give it up' too soon; oftentimes, that dictates how he'll treat her and how far he will go with her...manipulating everything moving forward.
      You'd be surprised at how much data is 'skipped' when that occurs. He, as a 'valued' man will share what his intentions will be with you. In fact, a high valued woman WILL ASK what his intentions are up front, and without hesitation. If this is difficult for her to ask, or for him to answer, one may want to consider working on creating boundaries and ARTICULATING them FIRST. That's something that's always understood, if they are kept. I hope this helps.

    • @user-zx5xw4yw2e
      @user-zx5xw4yw2e Рік тому +2

      @@msm3668 Yes 👍. (I wasn't concerned about the 'giving it up' part. I don't believe in that at all.)

  • @ArenarDomas
    @ArenarDomas Рік тому +14

    I cried through the whole video! Thank you so much!! My husband and I got married on February 21st. This video made it all make sense. So grateful that I saw this. I was watching fashion tips for 2023!! lol and this was waaaay better! Tyty God bless you! I'll be watching more videos

  • @Melinamiu007
    @Melinamiu007 2 роки тому +276

    It’s a sin that women aren’t learning this earlier. Thank you RC Blakes.

    • @ukrainianmongoliangreatpro1776
      @ukrainianmongoliangreatpro1776 2 роки тому +3

      Your absolutely right Pastor RC Blakes, Lord I thought Ivanovitch Light( double- minded) I invested 7 years with & we never got married as he promised, but you havent mentioned any videos in regards to sexual narcisstic men?

    • @msmyrafrye9880
      @msmyrafrye9880 2 роки тому +2

      It is heartbreaking 💔

    • @mirandadavis2730
      @mirandadavis2730 2 роки тому +3

      I WISH HE WAS AOUND TO TELL ME THIS WHEN I WAS YOUNGER

    • @kimgeorge6881
      @kimgeorge6881 2 роки тому +5

      Yes it is but it is hard because parents can't teach what they themselves didn't know sadly

    • @suzanneweary9739
      @suzanneweary9739 2 роки тому +3

      We know. We're just used to men changing us into his ideal mate. Before we know it, we don't recognize ourselves. Men keep moving the goalposts, but we grow and now we know.

  • @heartwillkalephe226
    @heartwillkalephe226 2 роки тому +56

    A husband material assists you . 2 he is ready to learn more and more about you 3 he don't easily get upsets about your daily mistakes 4 he keeps coming after quarrels. And alot more.

  • @ndinelaohaitembu773
    @ndinelaohaitembu773 Рік тому +105

    I receive my marriage to the right person in the name of JESUS Amen 🙏 thank you Lord 🙏

    • @aliceharris1612
      @aliceharris1612 Рік тому +1

      Amen me too

    • @AsiimireBabra-ch4fh
      @AsiimireBabra-ch4fh Рік тому

      My husband could take me out and leave with other guys then he goes to have funs with others, i could feel more bored even more than when am at my home, i could only get attention from his fellow male friends, he did not improve even wen i told him about how i dont feel good leaving me with his male friends, who could sometimes ask me see how your husband has left you with us, yet others liked me , could disturb me, imagine, later i refused to go with him to hang out coz he did not give me his time not even at home, he knew the only attention i needed was sex of which i explained to him that this is not all about sex but having time with you, sharing i deas, chatting together, planning together but did not improve and he never liked talking about my traditional marriage after we had stayed more than ten years, later it faded for me, and i have left him, after leaving him, he is now pretending to have lost something big of which he did not show me wen i was with, i just told him, may God lord give him the woman better than me, may be i was not his type , he really nagged me, and very many nasty things he did in front of me , ohh mai God, help me , move forward!!

    • @indiad22
      @indiad22 Рік тому +1

      Amen 🙌🏽

    • @favoredgirlgrant3740
      @favoredgirlgrant3740 10 місяців тому +1

      Amen

    • @Carolyn100000
      @Carolyn100000 4 місяці тому

      Amen!

  • @TheLadyallday
    @TheLadyallday 2 роки тому +132

    This is confirmation for me I am in tears I can’t wait to marry my kingdom husband!!!

    • @cynthiareynolds1941
      @cynthiareynolds1941 Рік тому +4

      Keep praying sister God will give you the desires of your heart

    • @nabszurah8705
      @nabszurah8705 Рік тому

      Same an open reminder to the relationship iam in.

  • @KellyHunter302006
    @KellyHunter302006 2 роки тому +344

    Update: He was a liar and all ties have been cut with him. I am still hopeful for the RIGHT man for me! I have no regrets about my decision to put God and honesty first!
    Pastor, this was a Word! My husband met me at the end of March 2022 and he stated he had been watching my profile for some weeks before saying anything to me. He said he did not want to approach me until he was sure he was ready for a relationship having known it was what I wanted; April 8, 2022, this man asked me to be exclusive and he has already shown all 6 ways of not just being a husband, but being my husband! He wants to be married April 8, 2023 and we are not having sex for months (God help me) at his request! All that I desire a man to be and have prayed for is possessed in this man so I hope to share a nuptial update soon. Thank you for being selfless and sharing these lessons of life. Thank you and Lisa for just being...

  • @Always_alaze
    @Always_alaze 10 місяців тому +5

    I thank God for leading me to this precious video. I found my husband and we aren’t even married yet. I got chills, thank you thank you thank you!!!🙏🏾

  • @JenG33379
    @JenG33379 2 роки тому +220

    Hey RC, I’m a private practice therapist from Nashville TN. I wanted to jump on here to tell you that I really appreciate you. I respect you so completely. You make me a better therapist every single day.

    • @Thegripspot
      @Thegripspot 2 роки тому +6

      Hey fellow therapist and fellow Nashvillian!

  • @melissalove4785
    @melissalove4785 Рік тому +221

    As a woman in my 40s this message helped me on so many different levels! I wish I would have heard this 25 years ago! Yet it’s right on time for the good things I almost missed out on! ❤

    • @cha585
      @cha585 Рік тому +1

      Read Ephesians 5 : 20-33
      1 Peter 3:1-8

    • @hallowedbeyourname1133
      @hallowedbeyourname1133 11 місяців тому

      😊😮😮😮​@@cha585😢🎉

  • @rosemwright1958
    @rosemwright1958 Рік тому +19

    When a husband loves wife, he will protect and do what he needs to keep her safe, even if it means his family or friends speak or act unkindly towards her, he will drop them for the sake of keeping peace within his marriage. RC Blakes testimony of his love for his wife speaks so much truth about a man love and respect comes with honoring his wife. There's no deeper love than that.

    • @fatoumatafatimaabubakartouray
      @fatoumatafatimaabubakartouray Рік тому

      Indeed. I very much love and appreciates how he values, appreciates & honors his wife. She is blessed

    • @SamuraAminata
      @SamuraAminata Рік тому

      God I thank you for letting me be alive to hear this truth, bless me by your mercy to meet that bone of my bones and flesh of my fleshs

  • @denisemyers733
    @denisemyers733 2 роки тому +62

    This man will make you smile on purpose. ❤

  • @jacquelinejohnson3709
    @jacquelinejohnson3709 2 роки тому +209

    I wish I had heard this when I was a young woman. But I can still share this wisdom with other young women to help them not make the same mistakes I did.

    • @Jessica-ob9zp
      @Jessica-ob9zp 2 роки тому +1

      Glory to God.🙏

    • @heather851
      @heather851 2 роки тому +1

      Agree. Me too

    • @SheriL1
      @SheriL1 2 роки тому +1

      I feel you sistah. Wisdom is so priceless

    • @MADINAHHOODTV
      @MADINAHHOODTV 2 роки тому +1

      You're not alone me too

  • @nicoleml4491
    @nicoleml4491 10 місяців тому +8

    I have been married to the wrong guy for 8years. I prayed for true love, respect and loyalty. No drug abuse no mental abuse. I don't deserve that type of marriage. I know my true king is out there.

  • @evieisblessed5339
    @evieisblessed5339 2 роки тому +33

    1. He has husband energy! He likes being with you! Even before you get married. Love it!

  • @LImageprecious
    @LImageprecious 2 роки тому +528

    God sent me a man who is waiting till marriage with me. He speaks life into me. I have won the lottery with this one. He is a 🏆

  • @shundamcrae4569
    @shundamcrae4569 Рік тому +15

    I was scrolling and came across this video. I'm so glad I clicked on. It have me in tears right now. Thank you Sir for this message. I needed to hear this. Amen 🙏🏾

  • @lauracisco2807
    @lauracisco2807 2 роки тому +101

    This is what I need to hear. I believe I have a potentional King trying to pursue.. I think this will help me tremendously I have been fooled before by a clown.

    • @Holistretch
      @Holistretch 2 роки тому +8

      Me too!!!

    • @lovecoversallnetwork8304
      @lovecoversallnetwork8304 2 роки тому

      🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽🤗🤗🤗👑👑👑💖

    • @lauracisco2807
      @lauracisco2807 2 роки тому +5

      @StretchMarkstheSpot they always come back because they see their game is not working. My ex did same thing he has been gone awhile. So glad he exited my life and all his drama.

  • @froever4344
    @froever4344 2 роки тому +58

    Pastor you made me cry when you said for what Lisa meant to you the least you can do is open doors for her......that's powerful

  • @siya6193
    @siya6193 Рік тому +10

    God have his way of talking to us ladies. My soul needed this. Thank you Jesus for always being on time.

  • @Thedaylily
    @Thedaylily 2 роки тому +24

    This kind of information coming from a man (with a successful marriage at that) is PRICELESS! AND GOLDEN 💎

  • @we-endure5039
    @we-endure5039 2 роки тому +33

    HE puts HER In a place of of "SECURITY"
    That allows her to relax into a position of sweet "SUBMISSION"
    I'm speaking from my experience 😊

  • @soniamoreno9166
    @soniamoreno9166 Рік тому +34

    DEAR PASTOR!!✨🙏🏼✨
    I’m a spanish white woman and since the first time I found a video from you I knew I will never leave this channel.
    Lisa and you Sr are my example of union and love ❤️ ✨❤to follow!!!
    The way you both project your love for eachother It’s remarkable!!
    Thank you for all your amazing wisdom!!
    Lisa and you are my walk in love path!!✨🙏🏼✨❤️ God bless you both for ever and ever!!
    Love you with all my ❤️!!

    • @HopeWaudi-f6d
      @HopeWaudi-f6d Рік тому +3

      Why did you feel you need to state your race? Just wondering

    • @nellymungu5501
      @nellymungu5501 Рік тому +1

      Please can I join your Spanish lesson ne how please?

    • @lizwilliamson4265
      @lizwilliamson4265 10 місяців тому

      Because it’s a shout out from Spain and how far this word reaches out around the globe, why did you feel the need to ask? We are all searching for the messages from a teacher here so that’s all that matters 🙏

  • @divinebeauty10
    @divinebeauty10 2 роки тому +71

    Tears are flowing. The Holy Spirit spoke to me about someone who displays these attributes. Now it led me to this video. Bless you!

    • @reginadollars4214
      @reginadollars4214 2 роки тому

      Can you pray for me please I think my husband is having a hard time finding and can’t even hear God’s voice 😢

    • @divinebeauty10
      @divinebeauty10 2 роки тому +2

      @@reginadollars4214 sure thing! OUR FATHER God. Lord this young lady is seeking your power on behalf of her husband. Lord you open his heart to recieve and hear your divine voice. We are struggle to hear your voice at times. But to have a honest desire to seek your voice is what keeps us. LORD you touch his heart and his mind to change him in YOUR time and way. Strengthen this young lady so she may be of equal yoke to her husband as you transform. In Jesus' NAME, amen.

    • @reginadollars4214
      @reginadollars4214 2 роки тому +1

      @@divinebeauty10 Amen! Thank you so much sister for your time and kindness I really appreciate you. God bless you.

    • @divinebeauty10
      @divinebeauty10 2 роки тому +1

      You're welcome. I also share that same prayer for my future husband. So its sincere. God bless you too sister! ❤️

    • @nettatelfair4922
      @nettatelfair4922 2 роки тому

      I just went thru the same thing yesterday, really, tears and all and led to this video,! I really needed this and I thank God for it, Bless you!

  • @rowdybliss
    @rowdybliss 2 роки тому +117

    Whatever your spiritual background… this is solid advice.
    Thank you, Pastor Blakes. God gave you wisdom and a teacher’s voice, and He will bless you for using both to His glory. Amen.

    • @MissJayHisDaughter
      @MissJayHisDaughter 2 роки тому +1

      AMEN.

    • @peggylynore6129
      @peggylynore6129 2 роки тому

      This resonates with us all because we already know this (deep down inside, we do), and it's written upon our heart's by God Himself.
      I pray we each find this kind of incomparable love, as God intends. Amen.
      Blessings to you courageous speaker of the truth.

  • @brendahiebert251
    @brendahiebert251 Рік тому +16

    Very good, confirms to me I’m on the right track. We are navigating together, friends for a year, waiting for marriage bed. Helping each other through every situation. Listening and praying together. ❤🎉

    • @mymoenadaniels2495
      @mymoenadaniels2495 Рік тому +2

      Hi Brenda, 1 year .. how much more time does he need to put that ring on your finger and make you his wife..

  • @honeygold1
    @honeygold1 2 роки тому +121

    I just finished watching this message and I'm nearly in tears. This is the message I needed 45 years ago . . . before I GOT IT ALL WRONG and stuck in a lifetime of disappointment and grief. My heart is BROKEN. This should be shown/taught to all adolescent/teenage girls (and boys) as The Standard Teachings for Relationships. May God continue to Bless You and use you, RC Blakes!!!

    • @theresamccoy4990
      @theresamccoy4990 2 роки тому +8

      God is able to restore your heart and redeem your time! God bless you.

    • @cynthiareynolds1941
      @cynthiareynolds1941 Рік тому +1

      🙏🏽🙏🏽

    • @graceogechi
      @graceogechi Рік тому +1

      Thanks so much sir

    • @fatoumatafatimaabubakartouray
      @fatoumatafatimaabubakartouray Рік тому +3

      The manufacturer of your heart & soul will restore it for you. Stay blessed

    • @erickabacchus4443
      @erickabacchus4443 Рік тому +3

      I actually did cry listening to this message. I repented for my ignorance. I'm in awe of the things that were said. My father died when I was 20yrs old. I was never taught these things. I'm grateful to hear this message. Thank you Jesus!

  • @deloressyoutuization
    @deloressyoutuization 2 роки тому +56

    This is deep. Had many relationships and was married but, realized I was broken and never recognized that no man “cleaved unto me”. Had some who wanted to spend time with me exclusively, but didn’t have that “husband energy” to cleave and let all those other things go. That’s key. Every time you give yourself to the wrong person it leaves you broken bc they take a small or a big piece of you. Undeniable brokenness… Thank you for this Word!

  • @beverleymcbean8337
    @beverleymcbean8337 Рік тому +23

    So appreciate this Pastor Blake! I have ventured in a long distance relationship,recently and I am learning from it, and trying hard not to let the past dictates my future with him.✝️🙏😇🌼

  • @queenleo1332
    @queenleo1332 2 роки тому +80

    I do not mind being celibate....I do not want the wrong man digging into me.....now there has been temptations in the flesh but prayer to the Almighty God changes situations, circumstances and people....AMEN

    • @LethalWeapon73
      @LethalWeapon73 2 роки тому +1

      Amen 🙏

    • @CoCoDeLaCruZ
      @CoCoDeLaCruZ 2 роки тому +1

      🙏🙌🙏

    • @EuniceJ-u2t
      @EuniceJ-u2t Рік тому

      @queenleo1332 you are soooo funny. No man is going to be digging in me either😂

    • @TamikaWilliams0109
      @TamikaWilliams0109 4 місяці тому +1

      I don't mind being celibate either. Been single for so long, I'm okay. I just pray and talk to God.

  • @irmabryant6979
    @irmabryant6979 Рік тому +16

    Amen! Some of these men want us to relax and be vulnerable yet they’ve shown no signs of integrity or reliability.

  • @kamoshiolupese5526
    @kamoshiolupese5526 Рік тому +141

    A man is a husband before the wedding and a woman is a wife before the wedding
    Got it✌️🍾🙌

  • @DanaeLaurenTolbert
    @DanaeLaurenTolbert 2 роки тому +332

    Amen. Loving this message. The way you talk about Lisa is beautiful. One thing I will stand behind is remaining abstinent during the courting phase. I have been chaste for 7 years and I cannot fathom laying down with some man that ain't my Kingdom spouse. I couldn't say that years ago. I was hot with lust. But now that I know my worth, my body is sacred. Now, the mere thought of it disgusts me. If a man cannot handle that. He ain't the one. That is a non negotiable.

    • @erikaanthony2726
      @erikaanthony2726 2 роки тому +36

      Me too and it’s going on 13 years in November and I will NOT my friends laugh at me saying I’m gonna be an old lady with cats and blah blah blah but I much rather not lay down with anyone until I’m married and I am going to be 51 I got married at 17 I have 5 grown kids and 19 grandkids and I am too old for games so I feel you 100%

    • @sweetumsDenise
      @sweetumsDenise 2 роки тому +20

      @@erikaanthony2726 You won’t even get old, those grandkids will keep you young 😄

    • @barbarahogan5726
      @barbarahogan5726 2 роки тому +7

      Amen 🙏🏾

    • @monicaparis03
      @monicaparis03 2 роки тому +5

      Amen!!!

    • @DanaeLaurenTolbert
      @DanaeLaurenTolbert 2 роки тому +12

      @@erikaanthony2726 Yes ma'am. I will be 41 in July. Congrats on your 13 years. A true King will honor your wishes and he will be doing the same. Please don't think I am being disrespectful but you may want to evaluate those "friends". Not only is it not true, it's not a kind thing to say.

  • @fluffysox6072
    @fluffysox6072 2 роки тому +141

    Everytime that Pastor Blake’s posts my whole soul just smiles. These messages are delivered with such love, purity and care. I love Pastors gentle delivery and his ability to interpret the word in practical ways. I just can’t help but to wish him and his family a lifetime of prosperity, health and endless blessings everytime I watch these. Thank you SO MUCH for your work, Pastor! May God continue to bless you.

    • @florencemamogobo2004
      @florencemamogobo2004 2 роки тому +3

      This is something that is breathtaking and eye opener for ladies and not to be blinded by love and ignore the red flags. Having said that pastor what is your take on internet dating as Christian lady.

    • @Godismysourceforever
      @Godismysourceforever 2 роки тому +4

      Amen! Amen! May my God ordained husband find these videos and teaching!

    • @kChoney378
      @kChoney378 2 роки тому

      😄 yes Kimberly, I'm praying the same thing. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

    • @kChoney378
      @kChoney378 2 роки тому

      Fluffysox I totally agree 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

    • @kChoney378
      @kChoney378 2 роки тому

      Florence if I may answer your question also. I feel that if we listen to understand what Bishop Blakes is teaching, we can apply these principles to anyone wherever we may find them. Those of us who are Christians and choose to sign up on internet dating sites I believe is using it as a platform to make themselves more visible. We must realize that all who are on those sites are not all Christians, and those who are may be operating in the flesh, therefore we must be mature to handle that and remain faithful to God's principles! Humble opinion 😘

  • @Coral256
    @Coral256 Рік тому +22

    I have to thank you from the depths of my heart for this message. A few months ago God told me something that was just too unbelievable. I'm currently going through a hard time where I am now living separately from the man I'm married to, and I say it that way because God asked me "You're married, but do you have a husband?" I rejected and rebuked that with everything that was in me because it sounded so ludicrous that it couldn't possibly be God. Long story short, I finally accepted it but still with a bit of doubt. This message has me in tears right now. Now, I'm not sure what to do with this new confirmation other than to keep moving forward and wait on Him. Thank you. God bless.

    • @Sudio51Babe
      @Sudio51Babe Рік тому +2

      ❤Go and what the Movie, I have no husband. I send you the link

    • @Sudio51Babe
      @Sudio51Babe Рік тому

      I just shared the movie link

    • @wandamurphy1460
      @wandamurphy1460 Рік тому

      ​@@Sudio51Babe can you please send me the the link

  • @LucyDanube
    @LucyDanube 2 роки тому +126

    After years of bad experiences, I received a good man in my life. I'd like to say I recognized my blessing, but I was too broken. He is now husband to someone else....and I thank GOD for blessing him with her. She is who I could not be. Thank you Pastor for allowing God to work through you to deliver these much needed messages. 🙏❤

    • @ELamy802
      @ELamy802 2 роки тому +29

      And please be encouraged that if there was a Good Man, there will be another. Just continue to do your work(healing). The more you heal, the more you will see what Healthy Man looks like. Be encouraged

    • @roginavaughn80
      @roginavaughn80 2 роки тому +28

      Don't give up. He was not your husband. God still has your husband. So you must began your healing so you can meet him soon.

    • @Angel-bf1ot
      @Angel-bf1ot 2 роки тому +34

      He was preparation. He was exactly what you needed to see to prepare for what’s coming. What’s for you is for “you” and cannot leave you. What isn’t for you cannot stay. Be encouraged, you haven’t been counted out. Keep praying for your husband & believe that he too is praying for you & God will align you both in due time. I pray it comes soon in Jesus name amen. ❤️🙏🏽

    • @LucyDanube
      @LucyDanube 2 роки тому +2

      @@ELamy802 Thank you for your wisdom and words of encouragement. God bless you.

    • @LucyDanube
      @LucyDanube 2 роки тому

      @@roginavaughn80 Thank you for your wisdom and words of encouragement. God bless you.

  • @rachelphillips5576
    @rachelphillips5576 2 роки тому +27

    So beautiful! I cried at the end. When you said you gently moved your wife away from the street and you took the outer part of the side walk. Geez that touched my heart. I remembered a guy did me like that. I had never experienced that before. Thanks Bishop RC Blake's. I needed to hear all this message.God bless you and your wife

  • @chanquanlewis9285
    @chanquanlewis9285 Рік тому +29

    This man is dropping jewels here. Pastor Blakes I'm so thankful for the lovely word that you share with us. It's resonate so well. May God bless you and your beautiful wife and me and my husband will most definitely see you at the top. Much love 💕

  • @sweetlady9555
    @sweetlady9555 2 роки тому +71

    When you said "This man will make you smile on purpose", it just hit my soul and I currently don't know why lol. Many of the messages I have watched of yours are usually confirmations to the wisdom God has also given me which lets me know I'm on the right track with the right set of mind. Thank you for your obedience and may God continuously bless you and your family!

  • @zurigee6
    @zurigee6 2 роки тому +69

    "Brings healing does not compound trauma". 👏👏👏👏👏There are men that listen to the trauma then exploit it for their gain. Thank you for opening eye. HEALING ♥️

    • @julietruesdell.371
      @julietruesdell.371 2 роки тому

      Sounds like a Jezebel spirit that cannot understand or sympathize with anyone's feelings let alone their own...parasites

    • @sophiaf.
      @sophiaf. 2 роки тому +1

      True

  • @tericollier8232
    @tericollier8232 Рік тому +10

    I was hesitant to listening to this video at first, just because of how long it is. But I felt compelled to open up the comments section and I came across someone else who took the time to list the points to his speech. After listening to this video, I now understand why I was drawn to this video. The speaker highlights a lot of good things about a healthy respect between two people in a marriage. Thank you for your knowledge. I now have more words to describe what I couldn't describe beforehand. I now know better on how to ideally say what has been going on in my life. ☀️🙂

    • @dorineauma4071
      @dorineauma4071 Рік тому

      i felt the same too..at first i was hesitant to listen to the whole thing..but someone had listed down and that made me stay tuned😊

  • @Stephaniekathaleen1
    @Stephaniekathaleen1 2 роки тому +68

    This is like talking to my own father. I feel each and every conversation. Thank you as a single whole woman that loves God. You are a blessing to my life.

  • @ayja4102
    @ayja4102 2 роки тому +88

    When you said she can finially drop all this weight she's had to carry, it brought me to tears.. 🙏😭 My ex never allowed me to be in my feminine and it was the most exhausting thing I've ever dealt with. After he left I'm still being the man.... I'm so glad my Dad gave me a tool box but I will not ever be with another "man" who's isn't larger than mine. Any man who refuses to work and help pay the bills for the family should never take a wife. I realized I was unequally yoked after years of trying to be a better wife and maybe it would work... I didn't want to give up on him. The Lord took him out of my life in the harshest way so I would never be able to allow him back to continue to hurt me. Thank you so much pastor Blakes. Your insight and wisdom have been so helpful in my healing journey. God bless you and your family 🙏🌈

    • @tashabr801
      @tashabr801 2 роки тому

      I feel you on this one. Mentally drain.

    • @zalinaragbir6715
      @zalinaragbir6715 2 роки тому +2

      I am doing the man jobs right now and it is exhausting!!!!
      I am tired ,3rd husband and still being treated like a door mat!!!
      Bad choices in life😔

    • @ayja4102
      @ayja4102 2 роки тому +2

      @@zalinaragbir6715 😞 Sorry.... God has a plan. Right now he's making you stronger. ❤️🙏The right man will balance you and step up to be a real parter. I pray your husband will stop treating you this way.

    • @kybeastmode
      @kybeastmode 2 роки тому

      no ones perfect id say know God spiritually and mentally activate your energy and strength and find out a loop hole you can replace the worry of needing or wanting a man.
      If you have to drink or party or try new things I'd say go for it. What I realize is that sinning will not make you miss out on your husband. I've been sinning and stealing and found my husband but he's currently with his wife which i spoke over the phone and she was full of evil. She is demanding and controls my future husband.
      But I found out what helps me to get myself from worrying and contemplating on the situation. I already know what God want me to do. to get my apartment, get a job, and go visit my son. My future husband gave me cash to go see my son. but also he gave me cash to get a hotel so he and I can spend one more time together. I never got the hotel. He wasn't mad but was asking why i didnt get the hotel. i told him I got my ID replacement to get and to buy food for myself. My favorite thing over a man is money, if I wasn't raised to be a spoiled child by my mother I'd have a car , a home and be ready and prepared for my husband. My future husband works. All the men ive dated worked his butt off. I even met a guy who I had a child with is keeping our son and has him in school and having his mother and father invest into our sons future education. I look at other women driving cars and got jobs I always wanted that kind of mental strength but each job i get I get fired. But the jobs aren't keeping me motivated and I have no man to keep me uplifted thats why I am so weak minded in not being able to keep a stable job. Only job I can do and keep is selling clothes online, and creating stuff to sell. I am a seller. So I have not yet got anywhere near enough to support myself and family.
      So i ask God to help me in that area. to help me get mentally strong in working on a job and keeping it.

    • @ayja4102
      @ayja4102 2 роки тому +1

      @@Kashay_Brinkley Hi..... uuuuu

  • @tamaralandreneau8005
    @tamaralandreneau8005 Рік тому +51

    How in the world, did your parents raise you to be such a smart, amazing , spiritual, gentle spirited man of God? You are so well balanced and so insightful.

  • @msm3668
    @msm3668 2 роки тому +55

    Pastor, this is a powerful message. It describes the 'husband' who found me. He's not mine as of yet; however, he possess the energy and has claimed me. Thank you, and may God bless you and yours.

  • @marshabaker6153
    @marshabaker6153 Рік тому +5

    Man that is soooo true about not being able to get OUT OF your masculine! My 2 husbands just sat back and let me do everything. They NEVER took the lead. So, I don't even know HOW to be feminine. I've just given up on finding anyone. At 70 it's waaay to late but I've gone 25+ years alone now. Tried one more time 3 yrs ago and nope. My "picker" is broken, lol. I give up. Thank you Pastor Blake. Wished I'd heard this 50 years ago :)

  • @reneecrotty6910
    @reneecrotty6910 2 роки тому +88

    Relax into your feminine... I'm telling you... I felt that once before and it was literally amazing. I felt like my whole body was in balance. Difficult to explain but I felt actually "healthier" because of this. RC Blakes hit the nail on the head with that one. 🇦🇺

  • @beautyjones1282
    @beautyjones1282 2 роки тому +86

    Thank you Bishop 🙏🏽. Over a year ago, I left a toxic marriage after 12 years. I’ve been healing, reflecting, praying, and falling in love with myself all over again. Your videos have been immensely helpful for me. I love your delivery on such important topics. Recently, my childhood love reached out to me after 20 years. Great chemistry. Seems to be a great man. I’m taking things slow and paying close attention to any warning signs. Using your advice, I would say so far so good.

    • @deniseobermuller637
      @deniseobermuller637 2 роки тому +1

      I love this topic I live with my husband for 35 years and we got married after living together for 30 years I'm happy just praying that he be a good husband all the time

    • @deniseobermuller637
      @deniseobermuller637 2 роки тому

      Amen

  • @jenardus2667
    @jenardus2667 Рік тому +4

    This Pastor is full of the Holy Sprit. He's speaking the absolute truth of God! Love this!

  • @shebalove24
    @shebalove24 2 роки тому +95

    This was absolutely amazing! It has been confirmed that I have been introduced to my husband. I saw him in everthing that was said here. Im so grateful!🤗😊

  • @daughteroflight8624
    @daughteroflight8624 2 роки тому +30

    @5:20 Has husband energy, he loves to dwell with you (1 Peter 3:7 & Ecclesiastes 5:31)
    @11:51 He learns you, anybody who really loves you learns you and he honours you
    Six ways to know if a man is your husband:
    1 @16:04 He articulate his intentions
    2. @
    3. @
    4. @
    5. @
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    • @nabbanjafaith5398
      @nabbanjafaith5398 2 роки тому +2

      He relaxes u into yo feminine energy

    • @nabbanjafaith5398
      @nabbanjafaith5398 2 роки тому +3

      3@A man u naturally desire to help Genesis 2:18,

    • @nabbanjafaith5398
      @nabbanjafaith5398 2 роки тому +3

      4@A man willing to work pure man energy willing to provide his wife,children Genesis 29:18

    • @nabbanjafaith5398
      @nabbanjafaith5398 2 роки тому +4

      A man who would be yo husband will bring healing to u Ephesians 5:25,27

    • @daughteroflight8624
      @daughteroflight8624 2 роки тому +3

      @@nabbanjafaith5398 wow 😀thank you so much, as I get free time I will add on the list 🌼🌼🌼

  • @sharmelwilliams4626
    @sharmelwilliams4626 Рік тому +6

    I just randomly came across this video and this my first time hearing your teaching. I so love the way u are breaking down your message. I notice and love how you talk so settle and take your time. I been married for 18 years now and was not really happy for the most part, but I can actually watch this video over and over again.

  • @tajthegreatone9326
    @tajthegreatone9326 2 роки тому +53

    *This is not only a great example of love but love and respect between a black man and a black woman. Thank you so much for this.🖤*

    • @rita4missions
      @rita4missions 2 роки тому +3

      It has nothing to do with the color of the skin, it goes for all men and women with respect and love

    • @tajthegreatone9326
      @tajthegreatone9326 2 роки тому +2

      @@rita4missions I was referring to another video. However, I stand by what I said. We need to see MORE black men loving and appreciating black women and vice versa.

    • @julietruesdell.371
      @julietruesdell.371 2 роки тому

      We need to see God fearing men and women illuminating, practicing, forgiving, and being the example for their children and society as witnesses that marriage is sacred and gets better and better as they pray together and sow n serve into the kindom; not concernedto please man's thoughts...! Amen! I understand your comment, but I didn't grow up either with both parents or grandparents that were married..the enemy isn't divided by color, so why are people...God don't tolerated that either...

  • @ashleymbanje218
    @ashleymbanje218 2 роки тому +13

    He will make you smile on purpose 🔥🔥. He learns how to assist his wife happiness.

  • @PhakamileGumede-ve4gi
    @PhakamileGumede-ve4gi Рік тому +11

    Husband material brings healing to the soul (soulmate) 🙏🏽❤️well articulated. Can't wait to meet him😍

  • @mikapickard633
    @mikapickard633 2 роки тому +34

    When I tell you this message has truly blessed my soul, I thank God for you and your wife Lisa. I’m 49 and I’ve been praying for God to prepare me while I’m in my single season. I’m praying for God’s wisdom and guidance while dating. I’m dating with the goal of marriage. God bless you, your wife, and your ministry. Thank you and may God continue to bless you both 🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @itsmelanieking
    @itsmelanieking Рік тому +52

    Thank you Lord! You spoke a Word that confirmed God had answered my prayers. You will be part of my testimony very soon. God has brought my future husband and he is everything and more you describe. God has blown my mind.🙏💙

    • @lakishademe8670
      @lakishademe8670 Рік тому +1

      My confirmation that God has answered my prayers my man does just this husband energy i love it. He proposed to me on Mother's Day and says all the time that he ready to tie the knot very soon and he can't wait. I can't wait either want He do it 🙌🙏

    • @Jewelsessences
      @Jewelsessences Рік тому

      Consider yourself lucky cuz so many women are only surrounded by low life assholes

    • @ArenarDomas
      @ArenarDomas Рік тому

  • @summerhernandez-um1jq
    @summerhernandez-um1jq Рік тому +10

    So thankful God led me to hearing this message ! Hallelujah God is so good all the time.
    Husband energy ! Coming into my own feminine energy
    the healing a man can provide together with a woman. Feels like must be part God’s plan for his purpose in creating marriage. love this message thank you

  • @ELamy802
    @ELamy802 2 роки тому +31

    Pastor RC Blakes I thank you not only for your wisdom BUT also your ability to be vulnerable in front your audience. Thank you.

  • @lindacohen9134
    @lindacohen9134 Рік тому +23

    I really enjoy ur teaching, Recently, someone has come into my life and I’m really trying hard not to get overwhelmed. He’s a good guy , I’m asking God to lead me and not to push him away. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 I really believe he’s the one, I respect him and I admire him.

  • @kekeletsomotloung9604
    @kekeletsomotloung9604 Рік тому +6

    It's refreshing to hear these words from a Godly man. I was in a relationship for 10 years, man promised to marry me and everytime I asked he would say he was not ready or not in the financial stage he wanted... fast forward, he got a job and was doing good buy never popped the question...I would have to initiate the conversation about marriage and at some point I even felt like I was forcing him...I can to the realization that it was not goingto happen for us and decided to leave...since then God has been revealing the reason why that man was not my husband and I'm happy and waiting on God to send me my husband.

  • @biblequeen4sure823
    @biblequeen4sure823 2 роки тому +13

    Pastor thank you. I'm sharing this with my granddaughter. The only men that I've encountered since my husband passed away is men children in grown bodies. I'm not co - dependent, nor am I taking on a builder man project. Nor do I like a big mouth man, spitting out venom only seeing the bad but never good. When I see any controlling attributes in a man I'm gone. If I see that he doesn't respect my boundaries he will never even get a conversation out of me. Pastor RC, you and Pastor Lisa are my example of a power couple, and if the man don't have attributes like my role model which is you, he can step. My husband that passed away did everything you do pastor and more.

    • @47shadows76
      @47shadows76 2 роки тому

      It's frightening that your sole role model as a married man who gets Paid to pander to a majority female audience.
      When this guy secures a ring for you, then trust him. Until he produces results for you and/or granddaughter, it's all talk.

    • @biblequeen4sure823
      @biblequeen4sure823 2 роки тому +1

      @@47shadows76 I'm not interested in any of these street clowns with crowns.

    • @47shadows76
      @47shadows76 2 роки тому

      @@biblequeen4sure823 Alright, stay safe out here in these streets queen.
      There's a lot of wolves who pander to women under a "spiritual" vein. When I was church leadership, the men had harems beyond their wives and used the veneer of "The Good Christian Man" to get laid.
      It's always a red flag when they exclaim how great of a man they are to their wives...to other women.
      Only God is truly Good

  • @rads361
    @rads361 2 роки тому +30

    Tears in my eyes. Thank you God for enlightening me at this moment in my life