BOYFRIEND vs HUSBAND MATERIAL... WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE?!?!

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  • @duniaassad6974
    @duniaassad6974 4 роки тому +1257

    Ik i May be still young for Marriage but on behalf of all young girls I wanna thank you for always keeping me certain that I should not follow this hookup culture and just set my standards high and not entertain no one till the guy that God chose for me comes along so thank you again all your videos actually do help us in this though times ❤️

  • @thelovingfawn
    @thelovingfawn 3 роки тому +439

    When you said “A boy has a dream but a man has a plan,” my heart jumped. So profound.

  • @ellarh_h
    @ellarh_h 4 роки тому +1144

    “He may not give you butterflies but he will give you peace”
    Sis preach!!!!!!!!!! I also love the fact that you back up your points with scriptures!! Thank you for this video

    • @Skywalker20000
      @Skywalker20000 4 роки тому +9

      They already high mileage when they come back from chasing butterflies. I recommend Virgin.

    • @godsgirl7201
      @godsgirl7201 4 роки тому +1

      Facts

    • @godsgirl7201
      @godsgirl7201 4 роки тому +3

      @@Skywalker20000 that's like one in a million

    • @mihaelabuliga9226
      @mihaelabuliga9226 4 роки тому +1

      100% right

    • @weedlady9851
      @weedlady9851 4 роки тому +3

      I will take the one that give me butterflies , sorry but live is to short and I wanna feel everything 100%

  • @mariannimoh9514
    @mariannimoh9514 4 роки тому +1950

    I wish she would do girls vs. woman. Lol. Just curious about us.

    • @charlineorozco
      @charlineorozco 4 роки тому +8

      Yes, @MarianNimoh ! 👏🏼🔥🔥

    • @blank1505
      @blank1505 4 роки тому +43

      Good suggestion. I’m curious about us too. 🕵🏽‍♀️

    • @Fredyacares
      @Fredyacares 4 роки тому +3

      Me too

    • @kpakpandoonyii1002
      @kpakpandoonyii1002 4 роки тому +51

      Me too....so I know where I need to improve

    • @sh0rt3stuf
      @sh0rt3stuf 4 роки тому +17

      Good point! We all have blind spots

  • @Shuxxxsr
    @Shuxxxsr 4 роки тому +533

    My boyfriend passed away 2 weeks ago . He was a great MAN . He was everything and more . He would have made a great husband and life partner . I’m just so devastated that I’ll never have anyone like that ever again .

    • @veronicamason5861
      @veronicamason5861 4 роки тому +71

      I am so sorry for your loss 💜 I wish I had more to say to make it better. But just know you have someone on the other side who is praying for you

    • @anoushrajabzoda7519
      @anoushrajabzoda7519 3 роки тому +23

      I hope he rests in peace🙏

    • @daveyork0
      @daveyork0 3 роки тому

      Mm. Sux2BU

    • @midekuts
      @midekuts 3 роки тому +11

      So sorry dear. May God be with you!!

    • @iambrookedebrakins4071
      @iambrookedebrakins4071 3 роки тому +9

      I am so sorry babe ❤️ I give you the deepest love from my heart right now .

  • @josofine5433
    @josofine5433 4 роки тому +622

    Love yourself so you attract someone who connects with your higher self

    • @BWBBBY
      @BWBBBY 4 роки тому +14

      Yes! I can just feel how happy I will be in my next relationship because of how happy I am becoming my higher self! 😊

    • @julianabrego5706
      @julianabrego5706 3 роки тому

      💯

    • @bedadays1763
      @bedadays1763 2 місяці тому

      Did he get your best though?

  • @zoeysarona1303
    @zoeysarona1303 4 роки тому +236

    Getting to know the person emotionally before physically.

  • @Toopalaylay
    @Toopalaylay 4 роки тому +759

    Boy vs Man:
    1. Lust / Love (chemistry doesn’t mean compatibility, you can have chemistry with a lot of people)
    2. Emotional compatibility / spiritual or moral compatibility
    - you can like the same food, same color, same favorite holiday, but that doesn’t mean y’all are soulmates. (Aka emotional “coincidence”)
    - shared believe in the same god and/or shared believe in worldview, agrees with your fundamentals, how they want to raise their children, does he believe equality, is he racist, etc. (so you know there’s something stronger than just the surface commonalities)
    3. Convenience / commitment
    4. You never have to beg a man to want you!!!!!!
    5. Money / wealth (a good mindset)
    - does he have the ability to save money? Does he have an investment mindset? A boy will want to look like he has money, a man will have the mindset of wealth and building a legacy. He has a plan and is actively working on that.
    - Man is a Self-willed & self-motivated person. A boy is constantly chasing for something new. A man has his priority in check, he’s doing what’s best for him and for his future family, not in a rush to make big money.
    7. Has a dream / has a plan
    - Boys like to always be Flexing’ on the gram, like to be popular, showing off on Snap, chase clout.
    - husband is concerned about being a standup person in society, working to be the best version of himself. What he’s doing now is for his future.

  • @nohlandlakareber430
    @nohlandlakareber430 4 роки тому +343

    A man/ husband is about actions done in life, a boyfriend is about just words

  • @MissViki96
    @MissViki96 4 роки тому +333

    I just broke up with a boy, because something just wasnt feeling right at all. I really needed this video to understand what my intuition was telling me ❤️

  • @Amethystgemz
    @Amethystgemz 4 роки тому +143

    When she said the difference between a boy and a man is the difference between lust and love that hitttt😫🗣🗣🗣

  • @The_Truth-
    @The_Truth- 4 роки тому +225

    Can we take a moment to appreciate how beautiful she is.

  • @siminam.michile4648
    @siminam.michile4648 4 роки тому +111

    Your videos should be played in schools for young girls to understand what path they must follow in order to protect and respect themselves. There is too much focus on 'finding x in math' than learning how to become confident and kick toxicity out of your life. Gosh, there would be less broken hearted women and more powerful divas. Thanks, Breeny! You're great as usual

  • @theresahh
    @theresahh 4 роки тому +411

    100% FACTS! At times I feel hopeless thinking I'll never find a man who's willing to stay celibate until marriage. It's really hard in today's society everything is so sexualized! 😭 But I have faith God will bless me with a MAN who's sincere, willing to put in the work and ticks all my boxes! 🙌🏾🤞🏾

    • @winnieboateng5334
      @winnieboateng5334 4 роки тому +11

      👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽I agree with you. I feel the same.

    • @sidrahkausersyed7490
      @sidrahkausersyed7490 4 роки тому +6

      Sis I feeeel youuu 🥺🥺🥺

    • @theresahh
      @theresahh 4 роки тому +11

      We just have to be strong and persevere. Buying a promise ring may help! 😄💪🏾

    • @sidrahkausersyed7490
      @sidrahkausersyed7490 4 роки тому +7

      @@theresahh you saying it! We can't loose hope! God has already made the one for us, it is just a matter of time, when and where he has planned our union ❤️

    • @PinkRidingHood97
      @PinkRidingHood97 4 роки тому +1

      Amen!

  • @TheNisiu
    @TheNisiu 4 роки тому +50

    “Already in husband mode”. PERFECTLY put. The difference between my husband & past boyfriends all summed up in one sentence.

  • @violetajulbe8410
    @violetajulbe8410 4 роки тому +362

    You always make me feel so empowered!! My boyfriend just broke up with me and this helped a little💓

  • @evadhiman3477
    @evadhiman3477 4 роки тому +71

    The right one will always end up with you. No matter what your situation is

  • @jojobrown2504
    @jojobrown2504 4 роки тому +88

    I think dating apps are a blessing and a curse. We value appearance and charm over factors which will be beneficial in the long term.

  • @shaimless_ly_me
    @shaimless_ly_me 3 роки тому +26

    Some men believe that just by saying they want marriage, they qualify as "husband material" without doing the work of maturing! They expect their future wife to replace their mother and think it's perfectly acceptable to go into a marriage out of lust and not love.

  • @JudionSmith
    @JudionSmith 4 роки тому +335

    Just in case you are reading this, don't let the chaos around you into your soul. Find your peaceful place and stay there. You will need the purity of your sanity when this Covid-19 madness ends. We will come out stronger, wiser and more determined. Stay positive. Stay prayed up🤗💜.

    • @tonyak2446
      @tonyak2446 4 роки тому

      Lol you think this will end. Think again

    • @viennala2528
      @viennala2528 4 роки тому +1

      @@tonyak2446 I also feel like this will never end. 😔 vaccine takes time, more and more people sick everyday, how I should meet a guy when I cant talk to them without a mask 😔 I'm just lonely and not leaving the house, (my anxiety is not helping me at all).

    • @Dragonfly_magictarot
      @Dragonfly_magictarot 4 роки тому

      This will end. Patience is key.
      And a good attitude. Dont hang out with pesimist, they think they're always right. The optimistic, rolls with the punches and keeps it poppin-- moving forward.

  • @emanihunter1065
    @emanihunter1065 4 роки тому +68

    “ Taking you on a road to no where” Ugh she’s hitting all the targets 🎯

  • @anthonyrosario5575
    @anthonyrosario5575 4 роки тому +62

    I needed to see this. I have me a whole husband. Praise god.

    • @BreenyLee
      @BreenyLee  4 роки тому +7

      🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

  • @benevolence5521
    @benevolence5521 4 роки тому +211

    Breeny your videos have helped me a lot, like right now my boyfriend is ghosting me , he is online and it’s been 15 days without communication. He is cancelled 😂✂️. I am going to value and love myself more. And most probably get on that skill share and grow. God is Good and I know that the best is yet to come.❤️ thank you

    • @TheKrystee
      @TheKrystee 4 роки тому +61

      15 days?! You better hit him with the “who is this ?” or no response at all.. lol ✂️✂️

    • @princess_2660
      @princess_2660 4 роки тому +7

      Am on day 2 of being ghosted lol

    • @benevolence5521
      @benevolence5521 4 роки тому +3

      @TheKrystee 😂 love love!! Most definitely!

    • @benevolence5521
      @benevolence5521 4 роки тому +7

      Princess Babygirl let’s leave these boys! 😂😂

    • @princess_2660
      @princess_2660 4 роки тому +11

      @@benevolence5521 I agree 💯 not chasing any boys lol

  • @winnieboateng5334
    @winnieboateng5334 4 роки тому +213

    I want a man who is God-fearing loving, caring, supportive and that gives me peace and NOT inconsistency, disrespect, rude, dishonest, unfaithful. HELL NO I aint got time for it. Men Like that dont deserve my Worth.

    • @paulinarios3665
      @paulinarios3665 3 роки тому +5

      @Hello It's K when you fear god it means fear disobeying him. When you disobey him you have chosen the wrong path, also seen as Satans path. Remember, Satan also disobeyed god. For example, let’s say you want to kill someone but you know it breaks one of the 10 commandments. You can chose not kill that person from fear of what punishment will come after. Let’s say you decide not to kill that man and are saved from gods wrath. I’m not saying obeying god is driven by fear, it can also be driven by love. Let’s say you killed that man. You disobeyed god and now have to face your punishment. He knows you chose to do wrong, and that you have done a terrible thing. Think of it like your own parents. When you were little , you were scared of let’s say hitting your father, because you know it wrong. You were also scared of cutting your mother’s clothes and rubbing lipstick on her mirror because the punishment that would come after would be BAD. As for the Satan part, god says not to fear Satan because he is greater than him. What you should fear is becoming LIKE Satan or FOLLOWING Satan. He is the definition of evil and when you LIKE or FOLLOW evil, you are in the worst place you can be.

    • @donisede8563
      @donisede8563 3 роки тому

      Women don’t like God fearing men either 💁🏿‍♂️

    • @winnieboateng5334
      @winnieboateng5334 3 роки тому

      @@paulinarios3665 Exactly you explained it right 👏🏽

    • @winnieboateng5334
      @winnieboateng5334 3 роки тому +2

      @@donisede8563 Lol it is some

    • @foodmens
      @foodmens 3 роки тому

      What is your worth? lmao

  • @BreenyLee
    @BreenyLee  4 роки тому +438

    HELLO MY LOVES IVE MISSED YOU GUYS SO MUCH 😭 I HAD TO GET MY MIND RIGHT BUT IM BACK!! LOTS OF GOOD CONVO COMING UP! SUPER EXCITED TO BE BACK!!! ♥️♥️♥️

    • @seniorseli
      @seniorseli 4 роки тому

      We Welcome Yu Back.😊 We Missed Yu Too.

    • @Luandra3939
      @Luandra3939 4 роки тому +1

      Welcome back sis

    • @CarasPlace
      @CarasPlace 4 роки тому

      Breeny Lee ♥️♥️♥️

    • @maureenajayi607
      @maureenajayi607 4 роки тому

      Welcome back sister!

    • @noemidelemos8432
      @noemidelemos8432 4 роки тому

      GOOOOD. WELcome back!!!! Any news about The soul surgery?

  • @jackiek4159
    @jackiek4159 4 роки тому +41

    There is a HUGE difference between boys and men! The sooner us women realise the signs the simpler it will be to meet our husband! Always hitting the right points Breeny!! 🙏🏻🙌🏻💯

  • @sunvavachi
    @sunvavachi 4 роки тому +36

    No need to apologize for self care. 2020 has been mentally off for everyone. Love your videos. Keep strong and loving. :)

  • @pardisarjmandi8889
    @pardisarjmandi8889 4 роки тому +75

    Christian living in a Muslim country and I’ve been struggling so much with your second point. I can’t seem to find many men who would at least view women differently let alone be Christian. Please pray for me y’all.

    • @Lina-jx5pt
      @Lina-jx5pt 4 роки тому +21

      Hey , I'm a muslim studying & planning to live in a christian country & let me tell you. I was living in a muslim country before & I found problems for setting high standards , not partying , not smoking, not drinking , BASICALLY not following what everyone is doing in today's society. It's hard to set standards for your religion, ideologies , way of thinking , dressing etc.. JUST DO YOU. It's never about a country that has a certain religion. I was born & raised in Morocco which is a muslim country but there are a lot of christians, jewish & even atheist people. I literally quit uni in Morocco because I was the only one wearing the hijab & they discriminated me. A true muslim , a true jewish , a true christian will love you & respect you no matter what. I guess with the right timing God will bring you the right one. Enjoy your life to the fullest, Find your inner peace & don't rush something. Sending you all my love. May Allah bless you.

    • @pelindalivesonmychannel4191
      @pelindalivesonmychannel4191 4 роки тому +9

      Keep the faith baby❤✝️ the Father never gives you the wrong one, he'll bring the one who is equally yoked as you, the right one too. Take this as a little encouragement.

  • @AMYOnRECORDxNG
    @AMYOnRECORDxNG 4 роки тому +111

    Girlllll I see your ring and I can’t wait for the wedding... thank you so much for the great tips. I love you so much ❤️

  • @basma1993
    @basma1993 4 роки тому +119

    LORD JESUS THE TIMING 🙌🏼

    • @realistxoxo
      @realistxoxo 4 роки тому +1

      Always right on time🙏🏾

  • @ashleysartattack5600
    @ashleysartattack5600 4 роки тому +117

    Gosh I feel like you’re talking directly to me. I’m a sapiosexual. And I easily get charmed by very emotionally abusive and narcissistic men that have a lot of intelligence. I got broken up with earlier this year, and I just started attempting to date again but I’m trying to keep my guards up and really paying attention to what these men are saying. There’s one I really like already but I keep trying to keep it in perspective that he could just be saying what he thinks I want to hear. And with my ex, it was all lies. I have the hardest time deciphering lies because intelligent men are so good at lying.

  • @isiwiwo
    @isiwiwo 4 роки тому +31

    I've said it before and I'll say it again : you always keep it so so real Breeney, we all need content like yours especially when we're slipping! You are so valuable

  • @baybeetricia
    @baybeetricia 4 роки тому +56

    You just explained my ex (boyfriend material) and current partner (husband material) to the T!!!! Whew 🙌🏾🙌🏾. The stark difference between them is astounding and you are spot on!

    • @gracee3194
      @gracee3194 4 роки тому

      baybeetricia what were the differences if you don’t mind me asking💕

    • @baybeetricia
      @baybeetricia 4 роки тому +9

      @@gracee3194 The funny thing is every single point she touched on was spot on so I'll touch on 2 main ones. Sorry if this is a bit long but I think that it would be best if I explain 2 of them with a bit of detail.
      When I met my ex (almost 12 yrs ago) I was studying for my undergraduate degree. Since I've known him, he had always told me that he wanted to go back to school to finish his degree in Accounting. Because of that, I used to pushed him to go back (don’t ever do that) but there was only so much I could say because he had a job (before I met him), he was making money, and he was listening to his friends who told him that it made no sense to go back because he already had a job and he was making money. As a result of that, he pushed his dream of going back to finish his degree on the backburner to satisfy what others were telling him. Over the next few years, I would sporadically ask him why he didn't go back (I stopped pushing because I felt that I was more invested than he was so I simply started asking) and he would never give me an answer that came from his own thought. It was always due to something someone told him and never anything that he thought of himself (that was the downfall of our relationship at that time-listening to his friends and what they thought was best for him instead of doing what he knew was best for him). So, when I went off to medical school (we had just broken up) he started thinking that he finally wanted to go back but then the excuse changed from what others said to the fact that he felt he was "too old to go back". It was just excuse after excuse (dream vs plan). Eventually he went back (apparently, I motivated him after going back to Medical School despite his apprehensions for me to go to another country *different story for a different day*) but yeah. It was just too much thoughts from others as it pertained to his own dream and not enough of thoughts and plans for himself. Currently, I’m still in school (LOL. Would have been done this past summer but Rona just making things hard for me and my clinical sites) and my current partner now also wants to go back to school (it seems I do a lot of motivating). When he first brought it up to me (yes, he brought it up to me. I did not ask) he laid it all out in full detail from start to finish, how he was going to finance it, when he was planning on starting (this spring), what he was going to use it for, and how he is going to make his (and others) lives better with his degree (he's going into Administration for Emergency Services). He laid it out to me because he wanted to get my opinion on what I thought of his plan and how, as an outsider, that would be beneficial to the healthcare industry where we are. That led to a deeper conversation on where he saw himself in the next 5 years, 10 years, etc., but that plan, in which is he is currently putting into action, was eye-opening for me. We have those conversations (future conversations) a lot so it's nice to know that he is driven and is doing what he set his mind to do, without the opinions of others, to ensure a better future not only for himself but for those around him.
      The seconds speaks on commonality vs compatibility (I think that's how Breeny classified it). My ex and I had a lot of things in common: Our birthdays are 2 days apart, he is 2 years older than I am, our mother's birthdays are a few days apart, we had a lot of similar characteristics (but still enough to set us apart) and we had a lot of history (He was my first boyfriend and the person before my current partner). That's probably why I stuck around so long (history). Either way, the older I got, the more I realized that we couldn’t talk about anything of importance. Yes, we both eventually wanted to get married and have kids and what not but the older I got the more I realized that, outside of that, we couldn't hold a real conversation about anything. Don’t get me wrong, there were moments when it happened, yes, but others, it was like talking to a brick wall. I’m a sapiosexual (thanks to Breeny I now know what I am) so intelligent conversation and communication in general is important to me. So, if I feel that something is wrong, I want to talk about it. If I have an idea that I want to build on (company-wise, workwise, etc.), I’m the kind of person to talk to you about it to get your intellectual opinion on it. It won’t dictate what I do but it will let me know if they, as my partner, think it’s possible and if they could potentially see it working out. Provide tips, etc. Most times when I did that, he never tried to engage in the discussion. Sometimes, I felt that he wasn’t listening because it had nothing to do with him. So, he was just silent. I knew he was there…but he just wasn’t there (if that makes sense). On the flipside, my current partner now, is completely different. I've known him for almost 7 years, but I never really took the time to get to know him because I just saw him, at first, as an acquaintance (I knew him through a mutual friend) who gradually became a friend over the years. We never hung out or anything, but we did talk from time to time (to see how each other was doing) and when we did, things just flowed naturally. We could talk for hours about any and everything (joking around, etc.,), he could ask me for advice, I can do the same, and it just flowed. Never anything sexual. Just good conversation. After we eventually got together (when both of us were single and we had a conversation on the potential changes to our friendship as a result of the change) we started to open up to see if there was a possibility of us being more than friends. It was then that I realized we shared the same thoughts on religion, marriage, children (even down to the number of kids), family values, education (he’s also a director of a school), philanthropy (he is a youth mentor), importance of communication, space in a relationship (no need to be up under each other all the time), end goal for a relationship, etc. Yes, all of that and more. Now, we have differences (a lot of them lol) but they don’t matter cause they’re trivial so they’re not really important. To this date, nothing has changed in our relationship. Yes, I know more about him, yes, we are together but, conversation-wise, it’s the same (if not better). So far, I have bounced off ideas about potential business opportunities and side hustles and he has been nothing but motivating. He gives me tips, sends potential clients my way, any little thing that he might stumble across - be it an article, potential funding opportunity, or even a video that talks about something that I told him, he would sends it to me with a note to let me know that he thought I would appreciate this, or he thought of me while reading/watching/looking at it….and its things that like that lets me know that he not only listens but he wants me to follow my dreams and be the best person I can be; whether it includes him or not. A complete 180 from my ex.

    • @gracee3194
      @gracee3194 4 роки тому

      @@baybeetricia wow! Thank you so much for that break-down. Also congratulations on your relationship👏
      Just from what you said, the influence of opinion by other is an issue I'm my case also (I'm not even in a relationship), and those emotionally trivial coincidences like birthdays can be do detrimental without us knowing it, entirely. And yeah I've noticed I also need some degree of intellectual conversion to get a feel of who you are. I love having arguments (or debates) things like do you believe in abortion are so, so important to me.
      Thanks again🙌😁

    • @cici9873
      @cici9873 4 роки тому +1

      @@baybeetricia this was so heartwarming and lovely to read! Thank you so much for sharing this with us and going into detail like you did xx 💞💞

    • @naveenqureshi5200
      @naveenqureshi5200 4 роки тому

      I'm so glad u found a happy fulfilling relationship. 💛🔥 Much love. Xx

  • @Ikimberlina
    @Ikimberlina 4 роки тому +29

    Breeny, you don’t know how much your advice has helped me realize my worth and recognize my own faults, help me understand why I was attracting the wrong guys. I have been working on myself for the past year and it has been lonely, but it is better than having company around that makes me feel alone. Thank you 💞💖

  • @rawans3626
    @rawans3626 4 роки тому +30

    The last point hits me so much .. Fame is like a bubble ( beautiful and interesting from the outside but once you pop it .. U got Nothing )

  • @Shane3599
    @Shane3599 3 роки тому +6

    My ex promised all those husband material things but he fell short. He couldn’t live up to his promises. He also didn’t treat me right, didn’t put in effort and made me miserable. I think that even though he has good characteristics, I think how they treat you and make you feel is also important.
    Thank you for telling me these signs so I can invest in a better person.

  • @patriciascorner4686
    @patriciascorner4686 4 роки тому +13

    "His nature is to be committed" - I love that!
    I love this video ☺️

  • @angelica_babyyy
    @angelica_babyyy 4 роки тому +51

    This video was made for me. I feel stuck because I actually do see a lot of change in my boyfriend , yet I also feel like I’m still with a boy. I shouldn’t be waiting for so much change it should already be there !

    • @georgialluenrey
      @georgialluenrey 4 роки тому +9

      In the exact same position sis. It’s really draining honestly.

    • @angelica_babyyy
      @angelica_babyyy 4 роки тому +6

      @@georgialluenrey really is. It sucks too cause we know better smh

    • @georgialluenrey
      @georgialluenrey 4 роки тому +5

      @@angelica_babyyy Yeah it’s really risky. I don’t want to be hoping throughout the whole relationship that he matures. But eventually we will get our answers and decide

    • @ntrasmr87
      @ntrasmr87 4 роки тому +4

      Same situation I’m in. Well not anymore! I’ve stepped back. I just can’t raise a man . It’s draining.

    • @angelica_babyyy
      @angelica_babyyy 4 роки тому

      @@ntrasmr87 how long did it take u to decide that

  • @goldn909
    @goldn909 4 роки тому +5

    You’re a breath of fresh air in a culture that promotes toxic and struggle love! Thanks 🙏🏾

  • @girlinstyle4957
    @girlinstyle4957 4 роки тому +32

    I would love a video on “How to: stop being shallow” I’ve done a lot of self reflecting over the last couple of years and I’ve gone through all the reasons why I’m still single after almost 4 years and I realized one of the bigger reasons is because I’m a bit shallow. I’ll meet a really nice guy and he’s treating me very well and wanting to get to know me but then his physical appearance isn’t what I like or what I’m used to and I’ll write him off. I understand prioritizing personality over looks but its like why can’t I have both? Please help!

  • @franziwagner1233
    @franziwagner1233 4 роки тому +22

    look how he treats the waiter/waitress in a restaurant, that tells you how he sees other people.

  • @PLANETMO
    @PLANETMO 3 роки тому +5

    I'm 19 and listening to Bree has really helped me grow. lots of love from Namibia.

  • @ljiljanacolak8886
    @ljiljanacolak8886 4 роки тому +21

    So young and so wise, Breeny. Keep telling us as it is 🌻🌼🌻

  • @welshlady212000
    @welshlady212000 4 роки тому +21

    I needed this 25 years ago.

  • @medinapervan2928
    @medinapervan2928 4 роки тому +56

    omg finallyyyy! I was wondering where you've been. But it's good that you took time for yourself.😌

  • @ulricka2131
    @ulricka2131 4 роки тому +33

    Great points Breeny!
    Also, a man should propose between 12 and 18 months on dating. A man knows what he wants, quite quickly.
    After 18 months of dating and still thinking, you are not his wife.
    Ladies no more time to waste❗

    • @camilledbrown
      @camilledbrown 4 роки тому +4

      Exactly!

    • @Sweettoothforsuccess
      @Sweettoothforsuccess 4 роки тому

      Factssss

    • @raionhato6299
      @raionhato6299 3 роки тому

      lol

    • @liabw05
      @liabw05 3 роки тому +2

      I've heard they know within the first 3 months

    • @crazysmilingdonut804
      @crazysmilingdonut804 3 роки тому +3

      I never heard of someone proposing within 18 months. The happiest marriages I know dated for at least 5-6 years before engagement, but maybe because marriage doesnt plays a huge role in my culture. 50% of the couple I know (that last for 30+years) are not married. My grandparents dated for 10 years before getting married, my parents 8 years just like most of their best friends

  • @RealTalkRelationshipTherapy
    @RealTalkRelationshipTherapy 4 роки тому +36

    I feel this generation is getting things mixed up there is a reason there is an order court marriage kids anything not in that order statistically doesnt work out well especially for the kids. People really have to think about future generations you are creating.

  • @alexetienne1648
    @alexetienne1648 4 роки тому +17

    Appreciate this video. I'm 16 years old and I always had a mindset thinking what's the point of dating if u don't see a future with this person because you'd just be dating for heartbreak. Videos like this help me becoming more mindful and improve myself as a man. Much love!!!

  • @MariamSalif
    @MariamSalif 4 роки тому +8

    “Popularity is a useless currency.” Whewwwww sis is pulling out all of the tea.
    Loved this video! 💕

  • @jacks7137
    @jacks7137 4 роки тому +27

    THE GOODIE GOODIE MAN OH MY GODDDDD I HATE THIS SO MUCH. They’ll be the ones that try to paint themselves to look innocent and like a good guy. But in reality he’s the total opposite towards their family and their partner.

  • @reiblake8634
    @reiblake8634 3 роки тому +3

    I'm binge watching your talks and i just wanna say who told you to call me out like that 😭😭😭
    The boyfriend material, down to the description of how he gave me butterflies was literally what happen to me until yesterday. He treated me like literal trash in the end and it sent me spiralling. It's now the next day and I had a new perspective on life. I happened to click on your video and it felt like you were speaking to my soul 😂
    I feel like in a single night I had upgraded from "princess to queen" as you described it in your last video. God really did have a calling for you, and I know God pulled me to your page. God bless 💕💕

  • @sagesims
    @sagesims 4 роки тому +22

    I don’t understand how every time I’m having some sort of crisis about my love life, you post a new video addressing it. Like how are you doing that? How do you know what I’m thinking? Thanks for the video!

  • @tylerjones2683
    @tylerjones2683 3 роки тому +3

    It is so refreshing to come across a video like this as a man. Im very happy to not feel like a piece of trash because im male (who was once a boy).. I just want it to be clear that we are all human and we all can have moments when we revert back to our childish ways...lol this got my wheels turnin PLUS she is so adorable. That mindset she got is 🔥 and that's a big part of what makes her so fine. Smh i wish

  • @obSYDIann_
    @obSYDIann_ 4 роки тому +8

    this video came right on time, I was literally just tripping over the chemistry stage of meeting someone new & struggling to keep it together. breeny you are heaven sent. i just wanna thank God

  • @MandySky
    @MandySky 4 роки тому +19

    I am literally left a boy relationship for a man relationship. One I had a child with, to a man who wanted to be a provider to me and my children. So different! It's very apparent. The connection was so slow and so deliberate but as much as my man tries he is already wanting to wed me, despite my protest lol. First sleep over today and I am up at 5am lol
    He is so kind and so caring I actually question so much about him. Keep wondering what is wrong with him because he wants to provide for me and my kids just for the sake of it.
    Taking my trauma ridden mind one step at a time since my last mind altering abusive relationship. And hes so obliging with my progress too. Difference between a boy and a man. So weird and so amazing all in the same tune. 🥰

    • @MandySky
      @MandySky 4 роки тому

      @Tracy Gilbert blessings Tracy.... I already know my ex was cheating on me for 3.5 years. He told me everything the day he left. I hadn't a clue. I work a lot and over the years had jobs making me travel all over.
      He had lied to her about me and was engaged to both of us. She got pregnant but had an abortion because of her drug habit.
      He wanted me to lie for him to her so he could get a place with her. I couldn't live with myself if I did something so horrendous to another person so I told her everything. He then ended up divulging that he'd cheated on me with 5 different people in the span of our relationship. He was very abusive, and manipulative. He was diagnosed with a personality disorder soon after.
      I am much happier without him. I have no desire to want to know what goes on in his deceptive manipulative life.
      But thank you for your msg 💗

    • @evaneichenberger845
      @evaneichenberger845 4 роки тому +1

      Don’t screw him over. Most guys won’t take on other guys kids.

  • @HelloKeianaS
    @HelloKeianaS 3 роки тому +2

    THE AMOUNT OF TRUTH BOMBS IN THIS VIDEO IS JUST RIDonCULOUS!!!! wow so good.

  • @DamienChukwuka
    @DamienChukwuka 3 роки тому +3

    I like your message. From what I've listened to, so far, you seem balanced. Your message is balanced. I appreciate that.

  • @cloudgirlart1133
    @cloudgirlart1133 4 роки тому +9

    No need to apologize. I'm glad you took the time for yourself, Breeny!

  • @amakatv7257
    @amakatv7257 4 роки тому +21

    Honestly you inspire me to keep pushing my lil channel every time you upload 😊❤️

  • @zoeysarona1303
    @zoeysarona1303 4 роки тому +24

    “A dream without a plan is like a wish”

  • @kariemacresswell6573
    @kariemacresswell6573 4 роки тому +13

    So right!! Thats why i had to leave....Relationships/Situationships No Thanks!!!

  • @addicted183
    @addicted183 4 роки тому +29

    "who cares that you have the same favorite color?" OMG 😂 I feel attacked!! Thank you for breaking down the differences between love and lust.

  • @MsBrowniepuff
    @MsBrowniepuff 4 роки тому +20

    I’d love if you could also make a video on girls vs women

    • @BreenyLee
      @BreenyLee  4 роки тому +11

      That’s coming up next ☺️

  • @slimmas4485
    @slimmas4485 4 роки тому +2

    I can just tell that your self respect and self worth levels are high😍😍 you’re an absolute inspiration girl

  • @judefl2
    @judefl2 4 роки тому +14

    Yep, I'm def a sapio sexual!! Intelligent conversation #1 and yess, if you have to force it (aka a relationship) => not meant to be, period.

  • @meljolly1213
    @meljolly1213 4 роки тому +4

    You NEVER know where your confirmation from the Lord will come from. I am a new subscriber and I see the vision and I am on board. I can and will pass along this message to the single women that I know and the women that are married to a boyfriend material type of boy. Thank you. This is the beginning of my new journey....

  • @nenesaidwhatshesaid3151
    @nenesaidwhatshesaid3151 3 роки тому +4

    "The mindset of legacy" that gave me chills

  • @aprilnwosu7690
    @aprilnwosu7690 3 роки тому +3

    I love your videos so much Breeny!!! You taught me how to raise the bar and set my standards high and God brought the best man into my life. Perfect husband material 1000 yards. He has all the qualities mentioned in this video, so now I'm even more reassured. Ladies, carry yourself like the Queen you are. Set your standards and have your boundaries. Good men still exist!

  • @valerieperez5642
    @valerieperez5642 4 роки тому +6

    Loved this video boo. It has made things more clear. I want a Husband not a boyfriend. Preach.😘

  • @tonitaquetaparks3304
    @tonitaquetaparks3304 4 роки тому +8

    Well what I got to say focus on you allow the right one to come unexpectedly because looking for it is exhausting. If you want a man and one who is going to want to marry you. Spend the time focusing on yourself and your goals and the right one will come along.

  • @MsHaleema
    @MsHaleema 4 роки тому +5

    Yesssss you spoke the absolute truth. People ask for relationship advice from me since I can say my boyfriend is husbanddddd material. You definitely said everything I would and moreeee!!! I gotta send this to all my girls! 💕

  • @arzosubhan205
    @arzosubhan205 4 роки тому +3

    One thing I want to add is don't judge boy and man according to thier age ...sometime a 22 year will have the mindset of husband material and sometimes a 40 year will have the boy material mindset ...being man is not about age it's all about mindset ...

  • @usernamegirljo
    @usernamegirljo 4 роки тому +7

    In my bed all sad and stuff aaaah dating is hard! It does feel like I’ll never find someone who likes me for me instead of caring about looks, social media followers or whatever...

    • @goldn909
      @goldn909 4 роки тому +1

      Exactly..but self love is the best love until then

  • @jovananedeljkovic5811
    @jovananedeljkovic5811 4 роки тому +16

    I'm 18 years old, had one boyfriend and thanks to you I just realized that deep in my heart I have always wanted a husband material.

    • @jasonnguza3245
      @jasonnguza3245 3 роки тому +1

      You 18.. life is still evolving don’t settle too early explore life

  • @sophlaney
    @sophlaney 4 роки тому +3

    👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 So articulate and powerful. Also you are physically glowing! Healthy, happy and beautiful. The inner joy seeping out 🙌🏻

  • @briannanicole9348
    @briannanicole9348 4 роки тому +2

    Girl 5 mins in and I’m screaming behind this screen !!! First woman to tell it how it is and how it shouldn’t be

  • @vamanm
    @vamanm 4 роки тому +12

    "I'm not attracted to male stars" ..... yessssss

  • @Suzannaaram
    @Suzannaaram 3 роки тому +1

    💯 truth! My fiance is already a husband and no 'dating ' involved. He was ready ..already. you're right, stop entertaining these boys.

  • @msbeedubb
    @msbeedubb 4 роки тому +16

    Literally just spent 29:13 minutes nodding my head 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

  • @erin7913
    @erin7913 4 роки тому +110

    Watching, meanwhile I don’t even have a boyfriend 😪

    • @Ketee25
      @Ketee25 4 роки тому +4

      Same here

    • @JennaCiela
      @JennaCiela 4 роки тому +26

      Perfect time to watch

    • @DianaMillan
      @DianaMillan 4 роки тому +7

      Don’t feel bad , sis. This is the best time to watch!

    • @samanthaetchie9212
      @samanthaetchie9212 4 роки тому +2

      Me too sis! In due time, God will bring the right person along!!

    • @tamisha8577
      @tamisha8577 4 роки тому +1

      Same sis lol

  • @Mackenzietkd526
    @Mackenzietkd526 4 роки тому +81

    I feel like your advice is Gods way of making up for Paul not including either Mary's books in the bible lol😘

    • @skiphopflipflopdripdrop
      @skiphopflipflopdripdrop 4 роки тому +5

      🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @nephtalie5889
      @nephtalie5889 4 роки тому +6

      I’m confused and curious. What do you mean? 🤔🤔

    • @alysha.k
      @alysha.k 4 роки тому

      @@nephtalie5889 same sis

    • @Mackenzietkd526
      @Mackenzietkd526 4 роки тому +25

      @@nephtalie5889 the bible dosen't have either Mary (Jesus mother) or Mary Magdalene (basically 13th disciple) books/gospels in the bible, imagine how helpful those would have been for women to read, lol. Bcuz we don't have those to read I was saying Breenys advice was Gods way of giving us women advice since Paul ( basically wrote bible) left those 2 ladies out.

    • @nephtalie5889
      @nephtalie5889 4 роки тому +5

      Mackenzietkd526 Righttt!!Thanks for the explanatory!!

  • @agdollsnikki
    @agdollsnikki 3 роки тому +2

    i love her videos because as a Christian, it is hard to find a man who prefers love over lust

  • @minervag6777
    @minervag6777 4 роки тому +11

    How do you handle communicating „dating for marriage“ in the beginning? 🤔 don‘t want to sound desperate
    Great content Breeny!!! ❤️❤️ love you

  • @deborahkesmen4626
    @deborahkesmen4626 3 роки тому +2

    Omg, 😩💔...
    This video was made for me. The Lord used you to talk to me, I am crying rn. Thank you so much breeny lee, I love you. ❣❣❣

  • @alicekibibi2654
    @alicekibibi2654 4 роки тому +8

    Do girlfriend material and wife material next please!!! ♥️♥️♥️♥️ love u siss
    Also what do u think about strippers at bachelor parties?? 😴😴 I dont think ill ever understand that stupidity.

  • @JamaicanQueen876
    @JamaicanQueen876 4 роки тому

    GIRLLLLLL U HIT ME WHEN YOU MENTIONED THE SAPIOSEXUAL...this is mean thru and thru...current situation. Please continue to preach gurl. I definitely need you as my life coach.

  • @theunicornsin1144
    @theunicornsin1144 4 роки тому +14

    Sooo everything you said about husband material literally described my partner. And I must say, I feel more at ease ‘cause I’ve been feeling unsure, I needed somebody to confirm this for me. Thank you Breeny Lee♥️

    • @BreenyLee
      @BreenyLee  4 роки тому +1

      ♥️♥️♥️🙏🏾

  • @chantallcastillo7431
    @chantallcastillo7431 Рік тому

    Your video was recommended to me two days ago, and I just can’t get enough of the wisdom that God has imparted in you. ✨you coming on here and sharing the truth in ways to help so many of us who have been broken, remember our identity in Christ and obtain that discernment for high value through Love’s lenses, rather than our flesh, pain, and fogged glasses.
    Thank you so much! 😭✨

  • @2PUDDINS
    @2PUDDINS 4 роки тому +12

    Yay! Your back I missed your content. I literally checked you channel to see if I missed any vids and nope I've watched them all. 😊🙏🏽❤

  • @WISHBONEL7
    @WISHBONEL7 3 роки тому +2

    " Shared belief in the same GOD , with the same world view " . How can two walk together unless they agree " AMEN

  • @iammarisoll
    @iammarisoll 4 роки тому +10

    Wow. I stood beside a "boy" for two years after our breakup because I prayed that God would change him and help him appreciate me and everything I did for him. I wanted him to love me the way I loved him. I blocked him for the 394234th time a few weeks ago, in hopes to surrender this situation to God, whatever His plan is, will be.

    • @becca1149
      @becca1149 4 роки тому +2

      I’m in the same boat as you. Try writing and pro and con list about your relationship with him. Remind yourself daily you deserve more.

    • @becca1149
      @becca1149 4 роки тому

      I pray too that my boyfriend will change but sadly he is the only person that can make himself change..which I’m not going to hold my breath for that because I’d be dead 😂

    • @joeyanddvaness666
      @joeyanddvaness666 3 роки тому

      Stay strong girls. Peace is major 🔑 he shouldn’t take your peace, or he’s not the one

    • @goldeneagle5999
      @goldeneagle5999 3 роки тому

      If ha changes, you will get bored of him very fast. Trust me

  • @metub4u2
    @metub4u2 4 роки тому

    So encouraged by this Breeny! You preach girl! It has been really difficult waiting on the Lord and finding myself on the other side of 40, still waiting. On top of all that, my journey placed me through years of being the "woman with the issue of blood", begging God for healing. Then the answer came to you are healed, but pay with never to have children. Talk about psychological chiller. God was so gracious to introduce, to who I though was my friend and man... but truly wasn't a long-time friend and was truly a wounded child. I endured so much ridicule, judgment from family, church members, that God has brought me away from all and set me on a path to heal, refresh my life with God and retrain the brain and hear to accept myself. But oh the loneliness. So prayer will change, especially in light of your straight forward advice. Thanks for being real and truthful! Heart, Love, Blessing!

  • @MillsUE
    @MillsUE 4 роки тому +59

    Haha
    Loving this Title 😀
    Who else liked before watching !!

    • @moniquerichards1342
      @moniquerichards1342 4 роки тому

      That is just a regular for me to do on her videos now, I know its gunna be gold advice

  • @kalvin9027
    @kalvin9027 3 роки тому +1

    This was one of the greatest dating advice I've ever had.
    Everything makes sense and now I know what I want.

  • @CarasPlace
    @CarasPlace 4 роки тому +4

    19:55 ✨ a word! If he cannot see, he isn’t for you.

  • @musiclover310899
    @musiclover310899 4 роки тому +2

    Sis you helped me a lot with this. I literally realised some of these points last night and then I came across your video today. Thank God for what you do! It's not trivial and you are out here saving us from hurt.

  • @xihall2424
    @xihall2424 3 роки тому +3

    Hope everyone is healthy and staying safe ❤️❤️

  • @honeybee236
    @honeybee236 3 роки тому +2

    Girl I’ve had 7 bf’s 🤣 I know I was doing something wrong - codependency learned from my very first emotional abuser - my parent. Takes a long ass time to heal from that shit but now I’m single until I find my spouse. Your videos have reached me in divine timing, I’m telling you. Love your content.

  • @christinenzokou4367
    @christinenzokou4367 4 роки тому +3

    Your advice is amazing and reaffirms my relationship decisions. Thank you 🙏🏾 and I cannot wait for this podcast 🙌🏾🙌🏾

  • @dr.areeshababar1339
    @dr.areeshababar1339 4 роки тому +2

    Spot on! I recently met a man like that. I liked him alot. Now I'm sure about him after watching your video. I feel lucky that I found him. He is older than me ,but alot better than the immature boys that friend of my age are trapped with.