Unequally Yoked Relationships: But Heather, I can CHANGE him!!
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- Опубліковано 9 кві 2017
- In a relationship & you're hoping that the guy you're dating will change? Check out this video on Unequally Yoked Relationships.
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It's so hard when only ungodly men pursue you at every turn. When you really want a relationship and the Christian guys aint checking for you, it makes the ungodly men seem real appealing. But remember, Its the enemy who see's that your desperate for someone and will send you his options to take your eyes off God. A godly man is a *true* blessing from God and is so worth the wait in the end.
Reyaunna Williams Yesss I love your comment Amen!! It is a struggle and I've been thru it of how only ungodly men that are super nice pursue you and claim to be Christian but bear no fruit. It's not worth the heartache. We as singles are WORTH THE WAIT! Bible says wait on the Lord not a man. So stay encouraged my sister! Cause you're not thinking this only. We gotta keep our eyes on the Lord and not the distractions the enemy sends our way.
Reyaunna Williams Your comment hit the nail on the head for me. Except I am not presued by any type of man UNTIL I want to deepen my relationship with the Lord. It's so frustrating because it never fails. I can predict it before it even happens. I've never been in a relationship and I just turned 26. I'm not complaining though because you ladies have had it harder but it sucks we have to go through this. Praying for you all!
Reyaunna Williams wow that's exactly what I needed to hear. That's absolutely factual smh. I'm praying that God will help me find joy in my single life
BEAUTIFULLY SAID
MUCH TRUTH 2 THIS
Amen🙏🏽 so motivational
"Only God can change a man's nature".
Amen
I was in an unequally yoked relationship for 3 years. I also had a baby by this man. I would wanted to live God's way and he would be on board at times, but then would have an attitude after a few days of us not sleeping together. The conviction of sex during our relationship was more than I could bare. I would literally cry after sex with him because I knew it was wrong. He did not want to be involved in church like I did. He would use the excuse " God knows my heart". But I am happy to say that I finally stood up and let him go. THE PEACE I FEEL AND THE JOY!!!! Is amazing!!!! I am free to worship all day everyday. I am at church at least twice a week, I am constantly reading and growing spiritually. Even though I had a daughter with this man, she is my gift and I will raise her says the lord. I pray God will send my forever spiritual husband to cover my children and IIf you are in the wrong relationship, I encourage you to leave.
I been where you was gurl w/o the baby though and it feels so much better not to be in a relationship like that anymore.Thank the Lord he ended that.
me too!!
Toni Latrice this is great. So proud of you and this post can help a lot of other women out there struggling in this same position.
Toni Latrice 😭 you just don't know how this blesses me! Although I don't have kids with him or anyone I've been so convicted by Holy Spirit to move on I've been making so many excuses but I know we haven't had sex and he says he can til marriage but still tries to get me to go too far in other ways.. this just gave me the strength to let him go..
Ms.Elle Girl! I'm so glad. To God be the glory! Keep going and don't give up. If that man loves you he will line up for God and for you. God is going to bless your socks off for submitting your body back to him and you are going to feel sooooooo much better spiritually and emotionally. I love you sister!
This can go to friendships too! Some of us have some very toxic friends....
..and then we play the victim when we're disappointed..
Martistry R have mercy...so true
Thank you for being honest
Very true! Don't waste your life praying for someone to change who has no will to do so. Love them from a distance and pray for their soul. AMEN Heather
Love this. Hard truth. Took me 10 years to learn this.....wish I knew this a looooong time ago.
I just had to end a relationship because we were unequally yoked. It hurts so much.. Seeing that he would be a 'perfect' man from a worldly perspective... But he is not pursuing God...
I was in a relationship like this and honestly you get upset when you realise you can't move forward with the person anymore because you've grown to know them, but the relief of letting go of someone who is led by their instincts and has no relationship with God is a feeling I'll never forget; like a burden off my shoulders. And I've never been happier. If you must look, let it be for someone who has the same core beliefs as you, integrity and wants to cherish you as is led by the bible. The main thing I learned is how much I enjoy my own company rather than being with the wrong person
I literally just prayed about this about an hour ago unequally yoked relationships , and ur video just popped up ❤❤❤❤I just broke up with my children's father after 15yrs and 3 children, he doesn't believe in God, and he started dating a co-worker while living in my home, and I miss him so much and I pray for him everyday! This is literally answers to my prayers, thankyou❤❤❤
Elistar143- Stay strong sister I know it's hard but God will bless you for your obedience. I will keep you in prayer.
Wow how God confirms.. that's almost exactly the example she used in the video
Ask God to break the Soul tie with you and your children's father.You deserve God's Best.Your worth it.So please wait on God to bring the Godly husband you deserve.And don't just wait, be about God's business while waiting.I love you sister.
missb19822010 I started screaming and I was just telling my cousin this how accurate this was❤
IamfourJesus So Much Thank you ❤
I broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years last week, because I chose to commit myself to Christ. It's so difficult.. hurting someone I love, and starting over. At the same time, i feel so much freedom.
When your unequally yoked and you are feeling the Lord speak to your heart and tells you to leave him, do it. It may be hard and all but you won't regret it. God will heal your heart and bring the right one for you, but you gotta be patient and have faith. Work on you in the meantime. Great video Heather, once again, so on time❤
Alexandra E exactly what I needed to see. God told me to break up with my bf of 2 years today. I know it will hurt but God will see me through it
AccordingtoAndrea He most certainly will. It hurts to leave the familiar, you love him and all, but real love doesn't hurt. It builds, covers and supports. But when God speaks to your heart and says, leave him, rest assured, it will get easier each day and you won't regret showing yourself all the love you deserve. Believe me, I know, Spirit told me to leave mine. I'm still here and building my relationship with my Lord, which is so much more comforting. Many blessings and love for you, my sister in Christ.
Alexandra E thank you so much for the words of encouragement
But what if God tells you to be still while crying over him ?
Heather Lindsey God truly uses you through these UA-cam videos. Literally last week a man I stopped talking to because he is atheist came back in my life and I was thinking of giving him another chance and maybe ignoring the fact that he doesn't believe in God. But no your video showed up! I will be patient and keep ignoring this man until God places the right one in my path for me! So thank you heather!!!!
Angie Vargas Sister, can you please let me know how you stop talked to him? I dont want to block this guy since he hasnt do anything wrong and I want to be there for him if he needs help. In fact, we are just friends and its me who has feelings for him. Do you think I can speak out my feelings to him and saying I need some time out to get over him before we can have further contact?
TBH I told him the truth. That I am trying to walk with the Lord and if we're not on the same page then we cannot continue this. Sister it was really hard I cried for months because this guy is amazing. But at the end of the day, the Lord has someone for me that will share the same faith as me and grow in Christ along with me! And same for you!!! God has to be the center of every relationship! ❤️I will keep you in my prayers stay strong 💪🏽
Amen sisters!!! I went through the same thing. Woke up and changed my number in December and didn't give it to any guy I used to deal with. I felt so free!!!! Unfortunately I reached out to an old friend this weekend and explained why I left. This message along with some other revelations came over the last few days to confirm to me that I'm not supposed to deal with the old and wait on God to reveal who He has for me!!!!!! Be strong sis and know that you're free!!! Glory to God in Jesus' name!
Angie Vargas The Holy Spirit will use people...thank you Jesus!
Eva B 313 wow you see God knows!
This came at the right time! My family is trying to convince me to settle for this "good guy" that I don't think we are equally yoked! They say am so choosy! Am glad the Lord put this on your heart! Thank you! (The pressure is real😁)
The way I have avoided watching this video ! 😩 finally watched it. Conviction xx
Tisha Jayy Me too!!! I thought I was the only one purposely avoiding the video. I really have gotten myself into a dilemma 😩
Melissa Marie me 3! I've been seeing this video on my homepage for days but I wasn't ready to hear the truth. Today was the day 😩
Tisha Jayy hahahha same here! Glory to God in free!
Hurts so bad...
Unequally yoked marriages . Help!!!!
Wow! @HeatherLindsey! So on time! I had been on and off with a guy I met this time last year. Just recently ( a week ago) I called myself making a commited decision to court the right (godly) way. Everything felt right! I even felt liberated to do it because for so long I had been the one not willing to officially commit to the relationship( not because of infidelity). I was excited to actually share to my brother's and sisters at church and others around me that we were actually courting! ( it sounded good and right) I had brought Him to church in Oct 2016 , it's only been a year since he's been saved so he hadn't found a church home yet. He eventually joined the church I attended. I truly do believe He has genuinely drawn closer to Christ but on the expense of our relationship. In the midst of my excitement, the Holy Spirit told me , " you're telling everyone that YOU GUYS decided to go forward with the relationship but what about MY decision? Did anyone ask me or did you just decide to say a prayer and go about your day?" so then I prayed and truly asked God to MAKE IT PLAIN if we aren't to be in a relationship. Well, yesterday at service a woman who I had seen before but never connected with gave me a hug as we were praying for others at altar ( God's presence was thick in that place) as soon as we let go she started crying and I proceeded to keep praying but then she grabbed my arm and started speaking to me. She told me that the Lord loves me and doesn't see me the way I see myself etc, and that the mate God has for me IS for me but I can't rush His timing. she told me to stop trying to make things work in Myself because I don't want to look back 16 yrs from now wondering why the home seems divided. this man could be smiling and saying sweet things now but who knows what will happen once we're married. I had struggled with thoughts of settling with this man and she reminded me that the Lord sees my unspoken prayers and He knows what I desire. she spoke more but at the end she reminded me that Love WAITS, LUST doesn't! - I immediately obeyed God and cut it off! I didn't know how things would be because I Had been here before with him, and now that we had just announced to others that we were courting, I had felt embarrassed, ashamed and as if I let him down again. the Lord reminded me to give that area to Him and let Him work it out. so i did! Now I truly feel free and it had already changed the way I even think about me and Jesus's relationship. I am so grateful that He stopped something that could have been dangerous for the both of us! thank you Jesus!!!
Jessica sutherland girl that is The Power of God...His love for us is so amazingly beautiful ,sweet and strong ...He truly is The Best Gentleman #AlmightyKingsmanRedeemer
Heather this is so on time. I'm in the.same.predicament and I've been praying for God to speak. He has answered!!!!!!!! Thank you Jesus
I truly enjoyed reading this, Jessica ❤
Preach!! God removed this relationship from me. I am a woman of God and he "goes to church", listen to sermons, but doesn't really read the Bible and never been baptized. He lied a few times and I know for a fact if I was willing to have sex with him he would do it. But thanks be to Jesus for removing him from me!
I needed this. Thank you. I just cut off a relationship that meant a lot to me it was hard. I know it was for the best.
Oh my God 😦 i literally asked for a sign in a way I could not doubt it was you father and you have provided😩🙏🏾💛😭 thank you Jesus...thank you Heather
Brook Shanyh Praise the Lord !
Me too brooke. This is a sign that I have been looking for. Its so painful. But I have to leave this relationship. 😭
Thank you, heather I really needed to hear this I just put a stop to a toxic relationship by changing my number today. I was practicing celibacy and he went and slept with two different women on top of putting his hands on me which landed me in the hospital. I needed to let go but a soul tie was formed and it made it hard to move on even though I know I deserve better. I saw all the red flags but thought if I showed him Godly ways he would follow when in fact the man is supposed to lead. I know we as women go through a lot but just hearing your words is keeping me strong. I know God would never place a man in my life that would do all that he has done to me. Thank you for this message
NuNu's World you are so right,sorry about that hospital situation Sis...blessings to you
Thank you!
so many of us have made this mistake. my only hope is that i will teach my daughter the right way, the sound way and that she is obedient. i pray for her obedience. i really don't want her to go through what i have been through and so many others. and for those of us who have made better decisions and ended toxic relationships, keep moving forward dont look back, there is nothing worth returning to. be blessed. ❤
Amen! I just switched the him with her
Thank you!! I was in an unequally yoked relationship for 5 years and made all these mistakes. The only beautiful thing is our 2 children. However, he only went through the motions as well. He would even smoke weed on our way to the car after service!! I ended up leaving due to abuse and now after 2 years he attempts to cause nothing but suffering!! because he doesn't know the Lord! Now that I have been single and recommitted to the Lord our worlds are on 2 different planes! Save yourself the suffering and trust in God to bring you your loving man who will lead you and your family!
YESSSSSS. 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
I love how you're allowing God to use you and speak bold messages that need to be said!
How do you explain why you have to leave without him thinking you're suddenly self-righteous? Especially since I am a new believer and my valuesbhave shifted since being convicted by the Holy Spirit..
Same question. How ya doing
Do you want to please God or please man?
Thank you, Heather.
Yes.. I have been quiet for some months and thought my feelings will go away and we can stay friends.. but my feelings for him just stays. Also, he is the first and only guy I have been talking to in this two years. I took distance from contact with ALL the guys and was waiting for God sent someone to me.... then the first guy really contacted me and pursued (in the beginning) was him...
How do you deal with it by the way?
justjas161 Thanks for your reply. I already not texting him in the beginning and only he starts texting me but then I started to wait for him to text me... I will putting him to God again and again. God loves him more than I do.. he needs God more than anyone else... same goes for us.. we need God above everyone
This is confirmation to what God was putting on my spirit all weekend!!!!! I'm going to hang in there and wait and trust in God! Amen!!!
Thank you Lord for this word of confirmation and encouragement.👆🙏
This was my sign. May God bless you.
Thank you Heather Your videos are truly inspiring! This topic hits home for me ! I've pursued a unequally yoked relationship for over a year and before I even went deep into it one night he had came over i was doing some bible study and instead of him coming in to sit and learn he said maybe i should leave! That was my auction from the holy spirit to run then but i disregarded What I felt was right and a year later I am just as broken and empty before i went in....The unhealthy soul tie was so strong we can have sex and say mean and hurtful things to each other and be right around each other again! We had horrible cummunication, Trust issues, Insecurities (really bad) and We both became miserable! He was and still is a non believer. If he ain't know God and had no desire to know him which is love...he could never love me PERIOD!!!!!! I settled and compromise my faith too long but no more.... He brought more pain then anything
Wow, I needed this. In my case I’m the Godly man that was recently with an ungodly woman and it ended ugly. I needed this. I’m learning to be patient for what He truly has. That person is coming. Not only that person, but that blessing, whether it’s spirtually, financial, a job, your family, or something else you’ve been praying for. Don’t settle on something satan has right now. Remember you’re already promised all these things. Satan tempted Jesus too. Stay strong!!!!
idk. my bf took me to church and he was a believer but walked away. i was an atheist who was very hostile toward God. but once we started going to church together i totally changed. we cant change anyone but love changes people regardless of who it comes from because true love comes from God and speaks to us directly & through other people
God’s grace is amazing, but it’s not in His design to do things outside of His Word. Just because things can happen doesn’t mean they will, so we need to follow scripture. ♥️
Wow!!! Heather, all I can say is wow. You are probably the 2nd African American Heather I have seen in my life aside from myself. Lol. A few years ago, you came to my university to speak about promising to wait (Celibacy) I believe. I wanted to be there and missed it, but your name stuck out so much I had to at least find and like your Facebook. I wanted to wait for the one and gave myself to someone I thought I would marry, but God said otherwise...after that breakup last year I had rotten luck with men. I fell in love fully with a man GOD TOLD ME WAS NOT THE ONE YET. He said we were unequally yoked but I felt that I could inspire him to change. I majored in psychology and I am Christian so I thought surely I could support him and mend any brokenness he had. But I am NOT GOD. I had a good heart to be an example but I cannot change him. We broke up after 5 months and even now I wondered why I still love him when we had so many issues. But what you said has BLESSED ME. I actually accidentally clicked this...but this is what God wanted me to hear. And God told me earlier today I love him because love is unconditional. It's okay to love him. But I'm not IN LOVE with Him. I'm in love with Jesus...and I know I want a man who is like my biological father as well as my HEAVENLY Father. I need and want a man who can guide us closer to Heaven and to the feet of Christ. So Heather, thank you for such a wonderful message. The man God has for me will be equally yoked and love me for the heart God has allowed me to have. AND IT'S WONDERFUL TO BE SINGLE. It's preparation for the me God has for me to be as well as the HE God has for me. AMEN!!!
So grateful for your obedience to God and willingness to speak the truth always Heather Lindsey. This is my testimony, I was in a relationship with a guy and I knew I was unequally yoked and I had no peace and found myself compromising. Thank God that I repented and turned away from that relationship and I am walking in victory in this area. It's such a blessing to experience God through walking in obedience to Him.
Great video! This video was recommended at just the right time. I'm thankful to have found this video and your channel 🙏🏾
I just bumped into this & you just do how eye opening this was .. love this so much & thank you so much for recording this for all of us! For being THAT sign . I am very very thankful for you . Praying for strength through this leap of faith .
Thank you sister for obeying the Holy Spirit. This was my sign.
This one really was for me, Heather you speak through my heart
This message was specifically spoken to me. Thank you Heather for this msg.
Such a confirming word.. just incredible. Thank you God & thank you Heather for your consistent obedience 😊
This was so meant for me at just the perfect time. You are on track Heather with your timing. Thank you so so much, this was my confirmation again to keep staying on track when the enemy comes back. You are awesome! Your videos help me soo soo much!!
This isn't just about marriage its about boyfriends and men friends that are best friends too
Thank you Heather - I love the way you explained this. 🙏🏽
I am so glad I saw this today. I really needed it! It’s so true and so hard to come to terms with...
THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!! ❤❤❤❤ I was struggling a little.😒😒😒You are a blessing!!!!
just what I needed to hear; I just made a decision regarding this! & I feel this was confirmation that I did the right thing! thank you!
Heather,
Thank you so much for this amazing video! Romans 8: 5-7 will be what I refer to everyday temptation hits me. God is love and being spiritually minded is 'life and peace'. I appreciate your messages. They really touch me in ways I cannot explain.
God bless you.
Good Word!! I trusted God and let go totally and now I'm at peace. Thank God for ministers like you that rightly divide the word of truth. God bless you big!
You are such a gift ! I cannot wait until July for The Pinky Promise Conference! You inspire me so much!
Wow! this came on time! thanks for sharing heather! :)
Thank you for this message. I needed it.
Thank you so much for doing this. This was even more confirmation for me.
Thank you . I was just reading my devotional and it was on Romans 8: 1-9 and then something was telling me to come to your channel and watch this video . It gave me chills when I realized that the scripture you was reading was the same as my devotional . Definitely not a coincidence. That was God telling me something. You are awesome and I thank God that he is allowing you to bring me his word through your videos. Thank you
Thank you so much for recording this video!! You are an answer to my prayers, delivered in God's perfect timing. My daughter is just 4 months away from committing herself to an unequally yoked marriage. She has invested the past 5 years of her life to this relationship and, even though her fiancé can quote more scripture than she can, he has no interest, nor any fruit, from a personal relationship with Christ. We have watched their lives being plagued by one crisis after another, most of them brought on by his poor decisions and their consequences. He is a "good man" in as much as he is a hard worker, dependable, helpful, and a great father. But he is proud and boastful, very competitive, and not very teachable. I can only see continued chaos and misery for my daughter, but she seems unwilling to walk away from the huge investment of her life into this relationship. I have prayed with her and counseled her, and I have now shared your video with her. I pray that God's Word and your heartfelt warning will penetrate her heart and mind--you have told her the truth in a way that I never could have. Thank you and God bless you for this!
I'm new to your channel. Love this message; I felt that you were talking to me! Thank you Heather!
Wow... just wow. Thank you so much. God bless you sister
Amen, much needed word!
Thank you Heather, its for me. God bless you
Amen! I'm sharing this with my family thanks!
Thank you Heather. I needed this
Went through this... not a fun lesson. Thank you Lindsey for the wise words!!!
such a great video Heather! Great channel.💛
i believe i was one of the reasons this was heavy on your heart...something i struggle In but am gaining ground.praise god he Comes to us where we are at and his patience is without limits as he sanctifies.anyone can do right....but to have an honest heart in our submissions is a whole nother thing
I have been there and trust me it hurts. I really thought God or I would change him. After 6yrs of marriage and suicidal thoughts, I got out. Today , I speak about the value of healthy relationships and just obeying God!! You keep inspiring me, thank you! subbed!
thank you for posting this!
We as women what to change a man and we think with our hearts and since we are emotional and go on how we feel often times we see their potential and dismiss their reality and then when we continue to push God on them and not realizing that makes them want to leave even more because he is unequally yoked and they feel like we are pressuring them God gives us free will with that being said we can't change a man that is the Almighty God's job...
Thank you for confirmation sister, God bless you
Thank you so much for this video. Helped me so much!
i badly needed this. this week.
Wow 🤍 I needed to hear this.
Thank you this was my sign.
Amen.. Sister speaks straight to the ❤
Thank you sooo much Heather
I really enjoyed this word, I have been married 17 yrs. we are now separated, we did the same things in beginning, but GOD called me, and he never came along side. I have ministers to many of the women he has been with. three weeks after I had him removed, he moved in with another women. but I thank GOD for this painful yet forfilling journey.
I laughed when I let the title of this video sink in. God is so good. I was looking for something else but I need to hear this. Speaking to someone at the moment who is the only one in his immediate family that has yet to give his life to Christ. It was first my friend who said, "you can encourage him to change though." I then started believing that myself but I feel as though having these half inappropriate phone conversations whenever we speak, no matter how I feel when I speak to him, it isn't doing my spirit and my relationship with God any good. God bless you for this message Heather, thank you so much!
Preach Heather Lindsey!
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well said! Her message is a true fact!! Sometimes I look back my past and think why I couldn't let them go earlier... but im free now and got a lesson. I keep eyes on the Lord♡
Julia H amen
Thank you Heather 🙏🏽
I love you....u better say it !!You give confirmation every time.
Thank You Jesus!!! This is so right on GOD's time! YES! #confirmation! ✝️🙌🏾
Im so blessed by this!
You better speak. I needed this
Thank you Heather
Good advice praise God... woman need to hear this especially when we don't see our worth and settle for less
I really liked this guy thats of the same faith as i am for 2 yrs. Well hes decided to go out of his way to pursue and date an unbeliever. It has devastated me and its tempting me to do the same.
thank you you answered so many questions I had
A great word.
Ontime message.. Thank you
Amen sister much appreciated
Love this!
Thanks for the share my sister in Christ May God continue to use and bless you in Jesus name, Amen.
I am so glad that heather made this video its so important that we stay single and keep our temples holu and pure and clean of all sexual sin and fornication and spirits . i just made a decision to end a dead end relationship that was not for me or wat god has planned it was sad n hard but my worries are not man but thst i please GOD . keep the faith us singles and lets wait on the lord for he has our best in his hands .
Wowwwwwwww I needed this.
thank you so much it open up my eyes
Thanks 🙏🏼 I needed this
Thank you Heather ♡ Your videos are always great !! You are such a blessing for us :) But I have a question: how can I see if there are fruits in someone's tree?
May God keep you :)
I wish people around me taught me these things growing up, then I would have never committed my self to wrong relationships in the past that almost destroyed me. Thanks for sharing this with us! May the Lord's wisdom be upon you.
I love your outfit
Thank God the lord pulled me out an unequally yoked maybe 2 weeks after I prayed if the lord doesn't want me in this relationship please pull me out yes the break up was hard but I'm just gonna wait for the lord
Wow God is so real I was playing another video in the shower and God changed my channel to here! Wow I love this message baba God!
Thank you Jesus for this message. Amen. Hallelujah