Wooh is this me? Often times I think if it's me the one imagining things. He kinda told me once it was just me because "I pay too much attention to little details", but when I pay too much attention to details to make him feel special it doesn't seem to bother him. Also the other time I played his own cards and he noticed and he was the one paying attention to "little details".
@@LeahBreHappy oh my gosh girl wow. It was so hard for me to leave after only abt 2 Im sooooo proud of u 💜 please tell me more ❤️ yes we can absoLUTELY do THIS 🥰☺️🤍🤍🤍🤍
Thank you 😊! I just found out that I’m in a toxic relationship with a friend but I’m to scared to tell her that I don’t wanna be friends anymore, but thanks again!
It is important to remember that there is nothing wrong with leaving a harmful relationship. Don't let yourself get caught up just for fear of yourself or feeling bound.
Maybe u can just talk about it. Remember it’s not just the other person’s fault. U can help the person become better first before breaking up but u do what’s best for your heart and mind
Thanks a lot After seeing this I realized that I was toxic in my relationship I realised my mistake and I'll be trying to solve everything ... Thanks again You saved me, made me realise my mistake Thanks a lot God may bless you😊😊
Yes thank u it has helped I've been married 10 years and he has done that since day 1 even didn't go into restaurant,he claimed they were full ,I knew what it was. Years later he finally told me. But gaslighting is horrible, Definitely need to pray about it.
After 4 years of living togheter i just found the courage to broke up with a guy who did all this to me without I realized. I have lost myself along the way until I spoke up with family and friends who brought me back to the reality. I am finally finding myself again.
Exactly the same for me. We have been together for 2 years and lived together for 1 year. I told my friends and family about the most recent blow up and they all tell me that it isn't okay. I have the feeling that I love him but it's just not healthy, I need to get out
my boyfriend has literally hurt me so many times but this time it was just too much so I told him abt breakup but bro he's like telling me that he can't live without me, i even warned him that I'll block him but he's like yaa do it I'm still gonna call you. I completely lost my feelings abt him now he is literally proving himself idk how can I get out of this pls help
I’ve been in a toxic marriage for 13 years 😅 it’s not easy at all every day its a battle of controlling my emotions and hiding 😶🌫️ my feelings he thinks I may be too affectionate or to in touch with my feelings and see things they way they’re not but for an example yesterday we we’re outside with our neighbors across the street and I had gone inside to use the restroom and my friend too and so only the men and kids were outside when we came back down my man was talking to a stopped car and I would normally mind my own business but it was this girl he knew because of his ex best friend that passed away and we’ve been seeing 👀 her drive by and breaking her neck looking for him and I guess she seen he was basically alone no girl around and decided to stop and approach him so I came outside and stood fright next to my husband and introduced myself and my man had already gave her his number 😮 I was looking at her with a dog face like bitch u better know better like they weren’t friends they just seen each other around whatever so I asked him who approached who here cuz that is mad suspicious 🤨 to me why give her ur number like she’s a long time friend or sum 🙄😒 he was like there’s nothing wrong with that I was like if it were me even just talking without handing out my number he wouldn’t have liked that at all it’s just common sense to not do to others what u wouldn’t want being done to u 🧐 but he thinks I was over reacting for that and that I just not fear anything like why should I even trust that or be ok with that 🤯🤬😤 he the male version of a feminist I don’t know what it’s called for a man but man he gets in my nerves 😳🤦🏻♀️ I wish I could leave the man but it’s not that easy like I mentioned I’ve been married for 13 years we have two beautiful children and one on the way it’s not about not being able to support or being a single mother because that’s what I’ll be if I ever leave him he always says I know you’ll be running 🏃🏻♀️ to the next nigga when he’s no longer around but little does he know he has ran my energy low and I no longer wish to learn to get to know another significant other I really do not have the time for that especially with a baby on the way I would turn gay before I start dating another man sometimes I thinks to myself if we’re even compatible and we’ve been together for so long 😢 it’s sad it’s very toxic up in here 😶🌫️🫣😮💨😪😷😓😰
My partner forced me into a relationship last year even though they know I was with somebody already by crying and saying “am I not good enough?” And they knew I’m a person who can’t help it but help when people cry because it makes me sad and I’m scared that they’re going to do that again if I try to break up with them
Also, isolation, if they are isolating you from your friends and family that is a big sign. They do this because they dont want you to have help if you reach out with any concerns about him. By severing all your relationships, you stay because they use coarseive control to make you feel like they are the only one who will ever love you, and they are the only option for you.
My ex boyfriend was doing all that from day 1 but as you said when he was not doing all this manipulation and gashlighting he was the best man in the world. After 4 years i was able to broke up with him to save myself.
BOG TAIM TOXIC RELATIONSHIP. How do we fix this tho… we would talk about it on Saturday but I have no idea what to say or how to fix it. He always gaslights me and I’m always the one that ends up apologising for the way I feel ( because he makes me think that I guilt Tripp him when I feel bad about whatever he is doing)
I was gaslit and only realised now. My ex pretended to have bad memory. But I now realise he gaslit me. We weren't having proper sex and I said I wanted babies and he said something along the line of "well it can't be me" (implying I was infertile at 30?? Even though he was the one who never wanted intimacy. When I told him about this later and how much this had hurt me, he said he couldn't remember saying that, but I think he apoligised, because he knew that was a horrible thing to say. The lack of progress in that toxic relationship neckex us and I am glad he apoligised because his remarck had drove me insane from hurt, frustration and loneliness and now he gave me recognition. I am dating a much better man now.
A toxic relationship might also include where they are super controlling and want to know where you are at all times who you are with suspecting you of cheating. At times going as far as forcing you to stay at home and having you cut off friendships
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
Damn I am currently under going this but I can’t believe how upright this girl changed on me, you know I believed that she cared about my feelings but to her I gotta say I’m ok and can’t let myself cry or be upset. It’s so much gaslighting I can’t believe how much of a terrible person she has become. I only plan on staying because deep down I want to see her be my one and only and hope that she turns into a wonderful human being and recovers. I am currently recovering, going viral and catching a break and I wish she was more involved with my life, it can be easily be as warm thoughtful moments and positive talks.
Just ended up a relationship with my toxic friends-classmates 🙂 Gave them a message but they still misunderstood and gaslighted me as if I'm wrong... Realized that toxic people are really hard to change, becoz its a matter of choice for them if they keep gaslighting themselves that they're never been wrong and their actions should be tolerated by people 💀 or change themselves for the better (not just for other people's peace but rather for their own good) 🙂
This is never as simple as it seems. My partner and I (or whatever the f we are) have held love for one another for over 6 years without contact. Having other partners, we never stopped loving each other. Now being back together, the love is very intense, however we have become very different over time. I am very jealous and do not feel my needs are being met and therefore instead of running away, I hold on that much tighter so as to not lose the love of my life. This idea of toxicity is clear to me, but how do you sever the heart to break away from someone who means the world to you but also crushes your whole world by just being themselves 🤦🏽♂️😢 rip mental health 😂
The worst of this ALL is when you are sitting there alone, soul searching for the answers of where you went wrong, bc you believe it's all your fault. The constant I'm sorry phrase has become the norm for you& the word please. The tendency to rock yourself b4 u fall apart, sometimes has began. You've lost who you were.. and cannot even see how in the hell it happened.The never ending ruthless internal war in your mind that's back and forth between your truth, their truth to you, and the truth-& just not knowing what you can even do. By the time you've hit the boiling point sometimes even nightly breaking down-your so broken down you fall asleep only to wake up wanting that person so much so that you feel physical pain. And you hate yourself for it Questioning yourself in every angle.. and slowly deteriorating, with time.. learning with what feels by no choice some of the hardest lessons you'll ever learm. Just my opinion... are some *SOME* OF the worst parts about this. Don't get me started on the isolation either
Ask yourself why you rather hurt your own feelings by staying with someone who is emotionally abusive? You cannot hurt feelings of abusive people because they simply move on to the next target. This behaviour has nothing to do with love therefore no feelings are hurt. I hope you get the strength to do what lifts you up rather than keeps you small. - Stef
Talk to them about it. If nothing works out then do what you have to do. But you probably do some things that are toxic that you don’t realise anyways good luck
I understand, but learning is a form of manipulation, for my relationship i notice my significant other is a little easily upset so to keep things short i help her learn why some things are happening.
I know every inch of you. If you think I’m gaslighting you, you’re not trusting the bond we created. The bond you wanted!!! Ur addicted to me. And that’s okay
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Step 1: If you think you might be in a toxic relationship, you probably are
OMG !!
well damn, that's accurate.
POV me rn
Sure ... if you are in a relationship that makes you uncomfortable
It's a toxic one ....
Peace of mind matters
Truth
Also, when they trap you emotionally, mentally and sometimes physically because of their jealousy and paranoia.
If the person is loyal j can deal with paranoia better that then then being a flat out cheater and a lier
Cheating. .
Yep totally been there
Im in that right now.
@@Combat-Mindsetthe worst thing is when they think they're right for doing the things they do and no-one around you believes you.
Extreme highs and lows
Is a killer to our relationship
This happens on a weekly basis
me too
I'm worried abt this I think so too.... how are you now friend
@@aurora_boketto7746 still in it it’s a consistent pattern of good good good then the worst damage afterward
Wooh is this me? Often times I think if it's me the one imagining things. He kinda told me once it was just me because "I pay too much attention to little details", but when I pay too much attention to details to make him feel special it doesn't seem to bother him. Also the other time I played his own cards and he noticed and he was the one paying attention to "little details".
@@meistlazer that's gaslighting dear. I've had the same done to me as well. Thankfully I ran away.
the hot and cold thing is so true. so glad i’m not in that relationship anymore
It can hurt to leave, but life's short we gotta move on.
Ya ❤️
:) its okay we can do this
@@aurora_boketto7746 🎉🎉 I've been divorced for 13 months after 16 years of marriage. You can do it!! I have two kids and no job and I still did it
@@LeahBreHappy oh my gosh girl wow. It was so hard for me to leave after only abt 2 Im sooooo proud of u 💜 please tell me more ❤️ yes we can absoLUTELY do THIS 🥰☺️🤍🤍🤍🤍
@@aurora_boketto7746 I literally just sent prayers to the universe to get me out. Help came! I moved out and everything
When you doubt your intuition, what you see, and feel, and go against your better judgment just to be in this relationship even tho it hurts.
Gaslightling isnt denying your truth it is denying the truth.
And turning it back on you.
You read my mind!
You read my mind!
All of the above.
This is why I've been single since 2006.
I'm not going through this again for anyone
Same here
Amen
Used to be in a toxic relationship it’s not worth it they will only cause pain
#3 is a bitch, especially when you have anxiety.
OMG YES
fr
Yeah 😭😭😭
😮💨😮💨😮💨 yes yes so true
If inconsistent it aint true
IF YOUR FREEDOM HAS BEEN TAKEN AWAY, IT'S TIME TO BOUNCE.
3 is the worst shit when you think they are depressed and want to help.
Gaslighting
You didn't see what you saw
You didn't hear what you heard.
What woman? "You're crazy"
I was bot yelling, if I really yelled you’d be much more hurt.
Lol
Forgot the _"it's not what it looks like"_ 🙄 🤣🔥
@@daviedood2503 sure ...
What if it's all their imagination?
I’m done single it is!! Better than dealing with that mess
Thank you 😊! I just found out that I’m in a toxic relationship with a friend but I’m to scared to tell her that I don’t wanna be friends anymore, but thanks again!
I came here to see if I was and I came out feeling like I’m the one who’s toxic
Distress originating from a lack of empathy, which then becomes a habitual lack of compromise, is the primary sign of relationship toxicity.
Helped ALOT. ..SHES SO RIGHT....love bombed aftet not being TOUCHED for over a month at a time...
This hasn’t actually helped me, but it defines the confusing factors in a relationship I’m ending. From here, I have to help myself.
I have a toxic relationship with my boyfriend thank you for helping me I have been feeling like I have and now I'm going to go break up with him
How did it go?
@@meistlazer I broke up with him and I'm with his best friend now who is certainly in prison
@Sierra Jensen after 4 years i just broke up with my ex who did all this to me and i hope you did not came back to him as well.
one minute she's telling me she never wants to speak to me again, then the next she wants to get married to me
That's called SPLITTING
It is important to remember that there is nothing wrong with leaving a harmful relationship. Don't let yourself get caught up just for fear of yourself or feeling bound.
not that being my whole relationship💀💀💀💀 and i broke up with that bish
🤣🤣🤣🤣
🤣
😂
As you should 🤣
Maybe u can just talk about it. Remember it’s not just the other person’s fault. U can help the person become better first before breaking up but u do what’s best for your heart and mind
This is so helpful to people in toxic relationships!
Thanks a lot
After seeing this I realized that I was toxic in my relationship
I realised my mistake and I'll be trying to solve everything ...
Thanks again
You saved me, made me realise my mistake
Thanks a lot
God may bless you😊😊
Thanks for explaining the gaslighting.
You're very welcome, thanks for watching!
Yes thank u it has helped I've been married 10 years and he has done that since day 1 even didn't go into restaurant,he claimed they were full ,I knew what it was. Years later he finally told me. But gaslighting is horrible, Definitely need to pray about it.
Thank you very much Angel!! Bless you 🥰🫂🍀💝
the last one is sooooo true like i am just about to give up on boys for a while.....
Thank you for your words they help to understand Mark Camero in SA.
Very helpful... Gaslighting was well explained...
I’ve always been confused about what “gaslighting” was. This was a good explanation.
After 4 years of living togheter i just found the courage to broke up with a guy who did all this to me without I realized. I have lost myself along the way until I spoke up with family and friends who brought me back to the reality. I am finally finding myself again.
Exactly the same for me. We have been together for 2 years and lived together for 1 year. I told my friends and family about the most recent blow up and they all tell me that it isn't okay. I have the feeling that I love him but it's just not healthy, I need to get out
my boyfriend has literally hurt me so many times but this time it was just too much so I told him abt breakup but bro he's like telling me that he can't live without me, i even warned him that I'll block him but he's like yaa do it I'm still gonna call you. I completely lost my feelings abt him now he is literally proving himself idk how can I get out of this pls help
Thank you. I recently met someone exactly like that. Glad I made the right choice.
I don't know.. it's just that I love him too much.. I wish it was easy to move on even from a toxic relation
Girl, I feel ya. The hold they have is so strong.
I feel in you. It took me 4 years to leave him after we have been living together as well. But is the best choice for ourselves
Yes its not easy to move on when u r so invested in relationship 😢😢
Your wellbeing and happiness is way more important. You're worth a partner that really cherishes you, not a toxic person.
Same girl 😔
tysm im getting out of a toxic relationship after 6 months i finally decided to end it today and i have no regrets
"your truth" if you want to have your own version of the truth, you should only be in a relationship with YOUR self.
I’ve been in a toxic marriage for 13 years 😅 it’s not easy at all every day its a battle of controlling my emotions and hiding 😶🌫️ my feelings he thinks I may be too affectionate or to in touch with my feelings and see things they way they’re not but for an example yesterday we we’re outside with our neighbors across the street and I had gone inside to use the restroom and my friend too and so only the men and kids were outside when we came back down my man was talking to a stopped car and I would normally mind my own business but it was this girl he knew because of his ex best friend that passed away and we’ve been seeing 👀 her drive by and breaking her neck looking for him and I guess she seen he was basically alone no girl around and decided to stop and approach him so I came outside and stood fright next to my husband and introduced myself and my man had already gave her his number 😮 I was looking at her with a dog face like bitch u better know better like they weren’t friends they just seen each other around whatever so I asked him who approached who here cuz that is mad suspicious 🤨 to me why give her ur number like she’s a long time friend or sum 🙄😒 he was like there’s nothing wrong with that I was like if it were me even just talking without handing out my number he wouldn’t have liked that at all it’s just common sense to not do to others what u wouldn’t want being done to u 🧐 but he thinks I was over reacting for that and that I just not fear anything like why should I even trust that or be ok with that 🤯🤬😤 he the male version of a feminist I don’t know what it’s called for a man but man he gets in my nerves 😳🤦🏻♀️ I wish I could leave the man but it’s not that easy like I mentioned I’ve been married for 13 years we have two beautiful children and one on the way it’s not about not being able to support or being a single mother because that’s what I’ll be if I ever leave him he always says I know you’ll be running 🏃🏻♀️ to the next nigga when he’s no longer around but little does he know he has ran my energy low and I no longer wish to learn to get to know another significant other I really do not have the time for that especially with a baby on the way I would turn gay before I start dating another man sometimes I thinks to myself if we’re even compatible and we’ve been together for so long 😢 it’s sad it’s very toxic up in here 😶🌫️🫣😮💨😪😷😓😰
Amen, I wish my son would realize this about his Covert Narcissist wife!!
My partner forced me into a relationship last year even though they know I was with somebody already by crying and saying “am I not good enough?” And they knew I’m a person who can’t help it but help when people cry because it makes me sad and I’m scared that they’re going to do that again if I try to break up with them
Break up with them it's best thing to do
@@junior5100 We’ve been broken up for a while, thank you for the advice though ☺️
@@IloveDrPepper445 he is such a , BASTARD
Spot on girl !
You just described my relationships I have with all my family members.
I got out of a relationship where I learned what gaslighting is… I’m so hurt that I went though that mental strain …
Also, isolation, if they are isolating you from your friends and family that is a big sign. They do this because they dont want you to have help if you reach out with any concerns about him. By severing all your relationships, you stay because they use coarseive control to make you feel like they are the only one who will ever love you, and they are the only option for you.
My gf always ignores me and my texts but when she doesn't ignore me she's all lovey dovey..
My ex boyfriend was doing all that from day 1 but as you said when he was not doing all this manipulation and gashlighting he was the best man in the world. After 4 years i was able to broke up with him to save myself.
Thank you for making me see thats probably my current relationship right now....
Ye for some reason I'm always in one of those
Relationships are tough to deal with
Thank you, girl ❤ It did help!
BOG TAIM TOXIC RELATIONSHIP. How do we fix this tho… we would talk about it on Saturday but I have no idea what to say or how to fix it. He always gaslights me and I’m always the one that ends up apologising for the way I feel ( because he makes me think that I guilt Tripp him when I feel bad about whatever he is doing)
Wauw it really helped thank you so much
I was gaslit and only realised now. My ex pretended to have bad memory. But I now realise he gaslit me. We weren't having proper sex and I said I wanted babies and he said something along the line of "well it can't be me" (implying I was infertile at 30?? Even though he was the one who never wanted intimacy. When I told him about this later and how much this had hurt me, he said he couldn't remember saying that, but I think he apoligised, because he knew that was a horrible thing to say. The lack of progress in that toxic relationship neckex us and I am glad he apoligised because his remarck had drove me insane from hurt, frustration and loneliness and now he gave me recognition. I am dating a much better man now.
She likes to spend time with other boys and avoids me every time. So i think your words are helpful for me 😄😔
Your right
I was in all 3. Tho I’m still recovering I am starting to feel better and be more at peace.
True!!!
It’s the third for me now I see. It took me long to realize.
Third one is so relatable! So how do we get such a person off our mind?
One of the first signs is they treat you with contempt and disrespect.
I’m not even with my baby mom anymore and she still tries to do all 3 of these things to me on a regular basis
A toxic relationship might also include where they are super controlling and want to know where you are at all times who you are with suspecting you of cheating. At times going as far as forcing you to stay at home and having you cut off friendships
TYSM
I can see all these 3 signs in my marriage ohh my God.
The point gaslighting happens all the time.
Please don't break up o....just try work on it.....seek counseling from a professional or older couple
Same here
Move on
My God help me the woman I love does exactly this to me I would have walked away but I truly love her.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
Damn I am currently under going this but I can’t believe how upright this girl changed on me, you know I believed that she cared about my feelings but to her I gotta say I’m ok and can’t let myself cry or be upset. It’s so much gaslighting I can’t believe how much of a terrible person she has become. I only plan on staying because deep down I want to see her be my one and only and hope that she turns into a wonderful human being and recovers. I am currently recovering, going viral and catching a break and I wish she was more involved with my life, it can be easily be as warm thoughtful moments and positive talks.
This shorts described my recently ended relationship.
Just ended up a relationship with my toxic friends-classmates 🙂 Gave them a message but they still misunderstood and gaslighted me as if I'm wrong... Realized that toxic people are really hard to change, becoz its a matter of choice for them if they keep gaslighting themselves that they're never been wrong and their actions should be tolerated by people 💀 or change themselves for the better (not just for other people's peace but rather for their own good) 🙂
Thank you
I was the victim of the 3rd
Hot and cold seems to be what's happening with me thanks I don't feel stupid
This helped more Than hours of reading on the internet ❤
This is so true💯💯💯
This is never as simple as it seems. My partner and I (or whatever the f we are) have held love for one another for over 6 years without contact. Having other partners, we never stopped loving each other. Now being back together, the love is very intense, however we have become very different over time. I am very jealous and do not feel my needs are being met and therefore instead of running away, I hold on that much tighter so as to not lose the love of my life. This idea of toxicity is clear to me, but how do you sever the heart to break away from someone who means the world to you but also crushes your whole world by just being themselves 🤦🏽♂️😢 rip mental health 😂
Yep those are all my friends 😢 especially my “bestie” she has manipulation over me and the hot and cold one is fr fr 😭😭😭
The worst of this ALL is when you are sitting there alone, soul searching for the answers of where you went wrong, bc you believe it's all your fault. The constant I'm sorry phrase has become the norm for you& the word please. The tendency to rock yourself b4 u fall apart, sometimes has began. You've lost who you were.. and cannot even see how in the hell it happened.The never ending ruthless internal war in your mind that's back and forth between your truth, their truth to you, and the truth-& just not knowing what you can even do. By the time you've hit the boiling point sometimes even nightly breaking down-your so broken down you fall asleep only to wake up wanting that person so much so that you feel physical pain. And you hate yourself for it
Questioning yourself in every angle.. and slowly deteriorating, with time.. learning with what feels by no choice some of the hardest lessons you'll ever learm.
Just my opinion... are some *SOME* OF the worst parts about this.
Don't get me started on the isolation either
Thank you so much
That’s my whole relationship but I don’t wanna hurt their feelings and break up with them
Ask yourself why you rather hurt your own feelings by staying with someone who is emotionally abusive? You cannot hurt feelings of abusive people because they simply move on to the next target. This behaviour has nothing to do with love therefore no feelings are hurt. I hope you get the strength to do what lifts you up rather than keeps you small. - Stef
Talk to them about it. If nothing works out then do what you have to do. But you probably do some things that are toxic that you don’t realise anyways good luck
Yes exactly!!
Thanks
Sounds Like A Narcissist!🤔
Last one is crucial
Great one!
glad to say, i am not toxic, (little controling and over protective)
and my gf isnt toxic either
its so toxic that im single
How you see others is a reflection of yourself.
My ex had all of these and still posts stuff saying things that hasn’t happened.
It was wonderful,I appreciate ❤
Awesome humans, their psychologies & their complex brains...🤷🏻
1st thing is, when you are in emotional abusive relationship
Was in one, just kicked him off giving him a thought that he left. I planned this and now the blames not on me.
SO TRUE 😢😢😢
Third one always happens to me
All the time.
I realized I’m toxic 😮
Thats me and my girl but we still always get back together
Thats also toxic btw
Angela.... everything you just mentioned is summed up in Angela somewhere in Kentucky
I understand, but learning is a form of manipulation, for my relationship i notice my significant other is a little easily upset so to keep things short i help her learn why some things are happening.
I know every inch of you. If you think I’m gaslighting you, you’re not trusting the bond we created. The bond you wanted!!! Ur addicted to me. And that’s okay
Yes... but the pain feels too intense and feels numb at the same time...brain is overworked...heart is barley beating...