How to Heal From a Broken Heart
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- Опубліковано 18 лют 2016
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How to overcome from a broken heart.
"I don't want to be your friend!" "I'm trying to be someone's wife!!" 😂👏🏾👏🏾#PREACH
That part! That is what I needed to hear. I have kept being broken repeatedly because we share friends and I have forgiven but thought we were all supposed to be friends. Not any more.
Heard that too😂😂🙌🏻😂
Obedience is the best revenge. That's so beautiful
In summary, here are the 5 points she mentions towards the end of the video:
1. Remind yourself that there is a reason for even this heartbreak and there is a time for everything even for this season of grief (Ecclesiastes 3). It won't be like this forever.
2. God is with you and He will give you a new perspective.
3. Guard your heart. Cut contact to the best of your ability... lose his/her number, email, social media profiles etc. Consider withdrawing, for a season, from meeting mutual friends when you know he is going to be there.
4. Don't try and fill those voids with other things that won't really satisfy such as trying to work yourself to death.
5. Accountability. Get a support system who you can share with and can help pick you up when you are sad, depressed, tempted to sin or tempted to get back with your ex. This people can hold you up in prayer too.
For people who are grieving the death of a loved one, here is a quote that might help: People say time heals but it doesn't; understanding and perspective does and God will give you that.
Vera Aduongo thank you for the tips! Btw you are very beautiful ❤️! God bless you 🙏🏾!
Ain't no body got time to be friends I'm trying to be somebody's wife-so true
"Time doesn't heal; understanding and perspective does." Love it!
Just stumbled upon this video. My boyfriend of 6 years just broke up with me. Although I am totally heartbroken, I can totally resonate with everything you are saying here. I think that for a while into our relationship I felt like he was not the one for me but I so so wanted him to be. I had become so comfortable with our relationship & regardless of feeling like he wasn't the one, I wanted to be in that relationship. I had a plan for our relationship. I planned on us getting married & starting a family & spending the rest of our lives together. Now, I can clearly see that I had made my relationship & marriage & starting a family an idol. This past week, I have been trying to focus on the truth that His ways & His plans are better than mine.
Thank you for this encouragement.
I have serious mental illness and cannot get over a recent breakup. I'm severely depressed, please pray for me. God didn't want me in that union, but it still hurts
Beat Girl I'm going through that pain too :) we will get through this angel ! We gotta heal & I will pray for you :)
Beat Girl I am also going through the same. Depression + broken Heart. God is good, Everything will turn out.
Casey Davis me too, girl. we broke up two days ago.
Oh_Ornela - well I put you in my prayer journal ! God and time heals :) Just trust Him :)
I was just screaming today. Screaming! unequally yoked. I'm reaping hard. ty for prayers!!! God told me my bf was idolatry and he's a jealous God. but God was nice about it.
Just ended things with my fiancé after being together for 4 years. I know I’m being obedient to God but this is one of the hardest things I’ve had to go through. Thank you so much for this video! ❤️
I was married almost 20 years when my husband walked out. During the marriage he had not been a good husband and had infidelity issues, so the marriage's demise wasn't shocking per se, but it was devastating to me (he's unphased & dates 20 year olds - sick). I think what hurt the most is how many times I extended forgiveness and grace and then he just leaves? We have a teenage son with Aspergers and he left me in financial ruin, so we struggle terribly. It's been almost 2 years and I still feel so broken and damaged. I still cry all the time. I pray continuously for healing. I am a strong, educated woman and I know he wasn't good for me, but I just can't move forward. I miss my family as I knew it. It is scary starting over. On a potentially brighter note, I am sitting for my state's bar exam in Feb. and pray I'm successful for mine and my son's financial future. Any prayers would be appreciated.
Hi. How did the exam go? I will pray for you now :)
I'm praying for you, sister.
It's a year later trish I hope you passed the bar and I hope god healed your heart. God bless you 🙏🏾
Trish Moore how are you now?
Praying for you!
I went through this and I almost feel like you were talking to me. I pulled away from everything in order to refocus my attention on God. God's word filled me up and any time I was tempted to go astray I would tremble. God broke me in order to build me back up for his will. I dont want to Go back! Thank you for this powerful message.
omgggg this is what happens whenever I tried to get deeper with god. a MAN ALL OF A SUDDEN SHOWS UP!
Naomi g tell me about it
Great video! I needed this. My husband and I separated while I am 7 months pregnant. He said he didn't love me so he left. He never loved me and it showed in my marriage. Family and friends that came around seen it. It was embarrassing. I cry to God all the time asking him why. But now I praise him b/c my marriage was horrible and full of arguments. God will help me to raise my unborn son
Hurt my heart to see this. I'm praying hard for you . Stay striving more for a relationship with God and he will give you man that will actually lead and love you. Love you sister
How are you doing now? So sorry you had to go through that. This really touched my heart. I hope you’re doing much better. God bless.
Tammy Lee 👏
Bless you my Sister. Raising my child was my greatest blessing.
I needed to see ur message as much as I needed to hear her message ❤️🙏🏽 I’m going thru the same situation.. it’s hard to see the light but yet I’m still pushing thru .. ik I will get there 🤗I hope everything worked out on ur side .. please pray for me 🙏🏽❤️
I literally just got out of a very complicated relationship. Because of this video, I realized that I was trying to change him and vice versa. The fact that i was trying to lead him back to Christ became a burden upon my life. Though we were in a long distance relationship, we both tried our hardest to motivate and build up each other. But also we got involved with the distractions this world has to offer.
He actually broke up with me the other night and as a person, I wanted to take him back by just being "friends." And basically we're right now on the stage of distancing each other. And I do not know how long it will last but watching this video made me realize that it is finally finished. It was definitely a lesson over my life to really grow and build up the purpose God has called me to be.
While I was watching this video, I couldn't help but cry because I really want him back and start back to step one. But now I know God finally said "It is finished." So thank you, Mrs. Heather.
This exact thing happened to me a few years ago. I was hurt and angry with God and ended up marrying the wrong man out of my frustration and feeling unwanted and rejected. Now, I'm divorced and God has taught me a very valuable lesson, which is to be content with only Him. I pray that other young women will hear what you're saying and not make life altering decisions out of loneliness and frustration.
Thank you for your transparency sis. God bless
Heatherrrrrrrr girlllllll I don't know WHAT the anointing is that God has put on you but you get me everyyyy timeeee 😭😭 The first thing you said is EXACTLY my situation! Im in a relationship with a person I know without a shadow of a doubt that im not supposed to be with but our lifes are so intertwined! Can you keep me in prayer to push through and trust that God has something bigger for me and to be healed. God bless you so much!
Update: I prayed to God to remove him from my life. Im now out of that ungodly relationship. Re'watching your video is helping me to get through the pain I knew was comming. But it's a purifying pain and I feel exactly the same. I wanted to eat sugar to feel happy but I have the fruit of self control and so im saying no to things because I want my heart to be broken for the Lord. Thank you for this encouragement.
Esmiliaa I too am where you are. I left a relationship that was not of God. It's hard. You make excuses for your ex. You miss him and rationalize the relationship. You remember the sweet times. But God!!! God knows our hearts. He knows that man isn't for us. We must be obedient to His will and way in our lives. GREATER IS COMING. I pray you are full of Jesus and have moved on into grace. Blessings
I was the toxic person in my relationship, I had not chosen to be with Christ or the world so I was in a constant state of spiritual limbo. I didn’t know what I wanted for a long time and hurt the partner that I had on multiple occasions. I knew we needed to separate, and was okay with it until less than a month later he was starting a relationship with one of his good friends. He is not a bad person, but this has made it so much worse. I’ve been crying almost everyday for two months, I’ve lost so much weight from the lack of appetite. He has made his new relationship so public that I get to witness all of my worst nightmares come to life. I’m trying my best to keep close to God, but I feel like I’m drowning.
I know I’m not supposed to, but my dream with him has always been that when we are both ready that we might one day come back and give God and one another the best versions of ourselves. We failed miserably the first time around, but I don’t know what to do with this hope of mine :(
I'm not a Christian but this makes so much sense, from any monotheistic point of view. Am currently facing divorce but want to recover in the right way by turning to God and not wordly distractions. It's not easy but will try
Good for you I hope you find peace
I hear everything your saying. I ask God to give me a sign and I left. He was so mad I left but it wasn't right. Some people are only meant for a season not a life time. Being broken heart is awful but with faith and time it shall pass next chapter.
Going through a heart break is one of the most painful feelings ever! Thank God for restoration.
Going through a divorce. Hardest time of my entire life. Needed your words. Thank you, my Sister in Christ.
Currently going through heartbreak and you made a lot of good points-I've definitely glamorized what him and I were because I tried to rationalize it, even though it was blatantly obvious at the same time that him and I weren't meant to happen. Even though my heart is still hurting, I know in my mind that it wasn't meant to be for a reason, and I need to move on from that. I can't be friends with him because I know that it'll only fuel jealousy and sadness and end in more heartbreak.
About a year and a half ago I fell in love with this guy and I was really broken and I still am. I wanted to find a way to keep him in my life but I can't. He really broke me and I know he might not be meant to be in my life. I need some emotional support and encouragement❤❤🙏🏾🙏🏾
A year later and I am mentally better. Glory to God.
I have been doing everything you were saying. My heart has been ripped out, treaded on and spat on from my bf who left me few weeks ago. Your video is so powerful. I’ve been trying to continue immersing my life on God 😓💖 but I know God will continuously be there for me ❤️
2 years later and I'm still watching this video & trying to cope with the changes that a break up brings
omg that is so me. I was bargaining with God. As If he is not all knowing. God didn't ok this relationship. So of course when my dude broke my heart I couldn't understand it. I am still healing but God has been keeping me
Why am I crying? I thought I was over the man who broke my heart but it hurts, it hurts so bad. I feel empty. At times it is comforting to know God loves me but at others it does not help at all. I forgave him for using me but I don't know if I want to love again.
I fear the same as well
Fear is not of God. You must press onward and forward. God has given us power, love, and a sound mind. Allow yourself time to heal, but never allow your past to dictate your future. Be blessed sisters!
Jacquie Nnyoung she beautiful that's how she found her husband
not trying to spread my business, i dont want things to end with my ex, we still have sex, cause i knw thats the only way to get him to really feel like love, kinda? but if i ask him to come sit over and etc he will, nail shop, he will come sometimes pay,buy me an my kids things, like its like we still together but not the title, plus i hate that he talks to other girls, an i tld him; he say he doesnt take them serious like he does me. can i get some opinions?
Do you think it could be self esteem issues within myself?
be grateful your broke up , before you got married to him than you would be a mess!! this is how you become strong!!
Man this really hit me...😔
Great message, beautiful lady. I completely understand your pain and suffering.
Young teen first loves, met at church. After a period, parents suddenly force separation. The other, in his inexperience, naivety, and heartbreak, reacts inappropriately. She confronts the boy about the events, he denies, crushing her heart. In the separation, rather than turning to God, he begins self-medicating at 16-years old. He's quickly is overtaken by the destructive lifestyle. Meanwhile, she meets a man. Marries him. The boy is crushed and "parties" even harder. Alcohol and drug fueled repetitive, loveless, cheap sexual encounters. It's time to clean up.
God, fill me up. I give you my hurt and angry heart.
I have no father
I have no mother
I have no friends
I have no lover.
All I have is you, God.
All I have is yours.
I pray you find peace and love.
I got my heart terribly broken 4 months ago and it brought me closer to god.
Me too one of the best things that ever happened to me
Beautifulsoul Amen! 💐
Love that for you❤️
Im still heartbroken and its been 2 years
I'll pray for you!
+Jacqueline Rodriguez muchas gracias Jacqueline...
praying for you sis, you're definitely not alone
Like Heather said, what have you filled that empty void with? Go deep into God's word and I promise you he will erase that heartbreak.
Me too
this is really beautiful 💕"God is near to those who are broken hearted, those who are crushed in spirit" .... thank you 💕
I've been suffering with a broken heart and as a result depression for 12 years. I enjoyed listening to what you said and I think it will help me to finally take a step forward. Thank you
if i’ve noticed NOTHING else ... one consistent thing i hear, no matter what word i’m listening to is, get in the Word, fill up w/ God and the Word, the Word this, the Word that ! i have never heard anyone say anything differently . i am a living witness that IT IS TRUE ! i can tell the difference between how i feel when in the Word, and when out of it .
I couldn't agree more! It's amazing how my heart literally got shattered 2 days ago and I just texted my "guy friend" to hang out.. And then I get a notification from UA-cam that you uplouded a new video. God is good. I will definitely be looking up those scriptures on loneliness. Thank you Heather! God bless you. Hope to see you soon in London.
Thank you god for me bringing me here
Thank you sister Heather. I prayed, before my ex and i broke up, for God to remove anything AND anyone that hinders me from You. The break up is only 1 week recent but i KNOW in my heart, soul and spirit that it NEEDED to happen. GOD is GOOD, through any circumstance, regardless of how i feel. God bless you sister.
This is SO where I'm at right now in my life, although, I'm on the mend now. For a little while I shut down somewhat. On the outside I was smiling and trying to put on a good face but on the inside I felt terrible. I ate whatever I wanted to comfort myself and I didn't feel like doing anything but sulking over "him". I can say that I don't feel as bad as I did a couple months ago, but I'm not exactly completely over it or him. In getting there though.
I thought I was strong... as soon as the breakup happened, I was weak. I never quit on God I just didn't know how to feel. I'm in a season of separation and I'm scared! But I will trust God! I will be obedient so that I can hear your instructions!! Thank you God
😭😭😭😭 I still love him😭😭😭😭
This message was for me God Thank you Lord!!
Thank you for giving me the courage to break off contact with a "friend" again. Thank you for being a vessel to be strong and live for JESUS!! Thank you!
Thank you for this powerful encouragement!
As a Christian Vlogger too with a new UA-cam channel, I love running into people who are being bold about their faith! God knows we need more God centered content on UA-cam.
Keep making disciples!
Thanks for this video. I'm currently going thorough a heartbreak and it's the most difficult thing I've ever had to go through. sometimes I'm ok and sometimes I just break down. So tired. can't wait for it to end....Thanks Heather.
That was so needed. Thank you God for using your daughter to speak to me.
Hey Heather, I have been struggling with heartbreak for 3 years now. Sometimes it all seems really hopeless, but God is faithful. Thank you for all your videos. They've really helped me these past few months. God bless.
I've been stuggling with that for three years as well, because I havent been able to let go
Are you in a better place now? 🥺🤗
I saw this video when it was uploaded, but I wasn't ready to watch it just yet. Today I finally did it and it was right on time! I thank you for sharing your story and for the encouragement. I pray that I learn to wholeheartedly seek God and not try to fill this void with something or someone else. I'm hoping God can help me put an end to this vicious cycle.
PLEASE pray for me to get closer to God. Recently divorced.
Thank you for this Heather. Just what I needed to hear at this moment.
I don't know if you will see this but I hope you do . I feel God talking to me to write this to you to let you know what this video meant to me. I opened up UA-cam and this video was a first suggestion . I'm dealing with a man that is disrespectful to me and my gut tells me to leave him but I haven't . This video opened my eyes and through you I feel God telling me flee and give myself to him . My whole self, not just half of it . I have become celibate for the last 3 months and it's a choice that I feel the holt spirit led me too . I want God to fill me up but I realize no matter how much it hurts or how lonely I am I need to leave this man . For a season like you said to just focus on myself and make my relationship with God more intimate . Thank you so much for this message . God bless you .
this is exactly what I have been going through for the past two weeks.. now I'm trying to fill the void with another person... wow.. this was right on time. 😢😢😢
Thank you for sharing this Heather. I needed this encouragement ❤️
Wow thank you for this heather. My so called boyfriend just blocked my number a few days ago and I'm honestly hurting inside right now but God is just telling me to be still and let him take control. It's so hard , I can't stop crying and I don't want to do anything rn 😭 I just can't believe this is happening rn 😢
Hello, Hope all is well now.
I know its two years later, but I believe it was God who prompt him to do that. I say that because if it was up to you I'm sure you would have held out in that relationship which would have done morr damage. God revealed him to you by him just blocking you like you weren't even a second thought. Image if you had wasted years or even had marry him.....I bet today you see and know it was the best thing that ever happen to you!... You deserved better!Never settle for lest than your worth!
This truly blessed me. I wish this segment was longer.
Thank you for making this, it's really helping me right now.
I happened to find his video 1 year after it was posted. I needed this, thank you.
Thank you so much for this Heather!!!
You're a great blessing...God bless you more.
Thank you so much for being transparent.❤️
Aunt Heather we need more of these! Good word, thank you.
Thank you Heather. This helped me a lot. Makes me feel so much better!
Thank you so much Heather. This is exactly what I needed to hear.
I needed to hear this. thank you so much for this encouraging message.
Wow, this is excellent! May God continue to bless you Heather.
Thanks Heather I really needed this. I love you sis❤️ God bless!
Thank you. I can't explain how much I needed this. God bless you and your family.
Thank you for this Heather! I needed to hear this. I am crushed in spirit and heartbroken because of a relationship. I appreciate this!!
HEATHER HEATHER HEATHER! i love you so much, thank you for this sister!
thank you so much for making this video!
This really spoke to me. Let the healing begin!
This is really true. Thank you for this beautiful message. God bless Heather
Thank you so much for this! So on time Heather!
“Let me fill up on the word.” Yess!!
I needed this!!! Thanks for your obedience!
Man, she really spoke some real stuff ❤️🙌🏾
Thank you Heather!!
Thank you Heather. I was moved by the sharing
Thank you for this message!!!
My gf and I broke up but I still believe it can work. God is showing my heart and where we put each other first, we sinned in our relationship and I truly want to do things His way. In my own personal life I've given my life to Jesus and been baptized and I would love to lead her to Jesus and one day make her my wife. Our relationship didn't start off right and we tried to do things God's way but our heart wasn't right. I'm focusing on Christ and so is she and I'm just praying for her. Do you have any advice? I didn't really see a video on relationships that were wrong and where 2 people allowed God to change them.
Don't know where you are at now because obviously it has been 9 months. But praise God you have found Jesus. You clearly love/loved this woman and you want her to love Jesus which is great. However, people have free will she has to decide for herself if she wants to be with God WITHOUT YOU. You can pray for her and talk to her about God but that should be it. You should not date her to Jesus because then she only loves Jesus because she loves you and if anything happens her relationship with God will most likely deteriorate as she associates him with the negative experience of you. If she comes to accept him on her own and God says it is meant to be, you can be together. But if God says no listen to him because he is never wrong. Who knows someone else might be God's best for you and she might be with someone else and you will both be much happier. Remember a marriage should reflect God's love for the church so it is a important thing to enter into and it should not be taken lightly. If you marry unwisely your marriage will be more of a pain to you both and will not reflect God's love as witness to others. God bless :)
Brensten Lindsey there's a video on soul ties by Heather. Watch that one, hope that helps.
I needed to hear this so badly. Thank you.
I love you Heather and thank you for being such an encouragement. keeping you and your beautiful family in prayer ! ♡♡♡
Everything that you said and I mean everything was a confirmation for me! It completely matched my situation and I thank you for making this video. Amazing job!
I'm so glad I crossed pathswet with this video.
This was right on time. Thank you so much for making this video.
Thank you Heather, I really needed this!
You know how something can come around right when you're struggling? That's this video for me. Thanks so much for this, Heather.
Thank you Heather!
i need this woman in my life.
It is important to get your heart healed. Many times unforgiveness holds the broken heart in place. It is very important to forgive another person even when they are hurtful and abusive. When you forgive an abusive person, that does not mean you have to let them back in your life to continue to emotionally, spiritually, physically abuse you. Boundaries are important.
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Praise the Lord, He is so faithful! 🙌🏽Thank you Heather for sharing this it was beautiful! 💕✨
Oh my goodness,dear Lord heal my broken heart.Thank you Heather.
God bless you Heather for sharing
Heather!!! This video is so needed, you have no idea how this video is an answered prayer.
Thank you, Heather.
Amen, Heather. I come back to this video over and over.
Since I’m going through heartbreak, I’m making sure I study God’s Word which has been difficult to hear Him now which hasn’t happened before. “Obedience is the best revenge.”
Just what I needed right now. I was looking for this truth.
Thank you so much for sharing this today. I really needed to hear this.
Thanks Heather!