I love how she described that on her wedding day she felt SAFE marrying Cornelius. Remember men are protectors. If you don't feel safe with your "protector", that might be a red flag. You should most certainly feel safe & secure with him as your husband to be. I heard someone describe a husband as a Priest, Prophet, Pastor, Provider & Protector all in one. So many women have dealt with insecurity & fear in relationships with men. You are God's precious daughter. The man for you will KNOW that. You will feel safe knowing you are in good hands! He will honor & respect you, and treat you as if your value is far above rubies. Ask yourself does he make me feel like my worth is far above rubies?? Or do I feel like a rhinestone? Ultimately, the Holy Ghost will confirm & affirm to you that you ARE in good hands. Lord, let every single on here be assured that they can trust their future husband and be safe & protected as you would have them to be, in Jesus' name ❤❤❤
I got into a relationship with a guy I believed had everything I wanted. A car, nice career, loved his Mother, and so on. I didn't really pay much attention to nothing else and God told me to break up with him in my sleep. I did, but a hour later I got back with him because I was stupid lol. 2 years later he told me he never loved me. Listen to God Ladies. Proverbs 1:33!
Yes, but everybody has the same Father who is just as faithful to the faithful and loves and has high plans and standards for all of His children the same. And from an older guy I can testify the counsel that she is sharing is pure Godly gold, that will save the adherent from a house load of pain And bestow upon them a truly blessed life
I don't believe God will force us to marry someone we're not attracted to. I do however believe He creates someone for us. I also had someone tell me to just be glad if a guy is a Christian. Um no, we need more in common than just Jesus.
Crystal G that's where the friend zone comes in your a nice guy with a good heart an caring loving but I see you as a brother you don't look like a 10 GQ hottie
LOL! I definitely agree! My friend and I always discuss this. That mind set of "he just needs to be a Christian is just religious. God definitely wants us to be wise and recognise that there is much more to look out for. This is why its only the Holy Spirit that can lead us and not man. Many will try and speak, but God has the final say.
I believe God does have that one spouse for us. We have options to choose someone else.. but if we spend time with God he will reveal the one he chose. Marriage is a ministry and God brings us together for that purpose. I think about how God put together Esther and the king it was divine for a great purpose. When a woman know's who she is called to be in God's Kingdom she'll have the discernment to know wether or not hes the one. We have free will to choose our jobs, school, friends, kill, steal, cheat, lie, choose our own spouse... but if we have a solid relationship with God we will choose what he destine for us. So many people are unhappy and going through it because they're living out of God's will. Ladies just keep serving God if you're lined up in his will you will not miss the one God chose for YOU!
Yes we have free will to accept or reject God's will. I agree that we as singles must have a growing relationship with God. We have to give ourselves to God first not just be at the church building on Sunday only. He wants more He wants us. Use our talents or simply ourselves for Him out here to a messed up world. We must delevop those spiritual characteristics or that man or woman is not coming for a marriage.
Exactly Ashlee. As God chose Rebekah for Isaac...and several other "at the well" meetings that were covenant/marriage ordained meetings. We can choose to "choose our own" or we can choose to OBEY embracing the Father's choice for us. Marriage involves bringing children into the world and the Father is very specific and concerned about who you have those children with which factors in the PURPOSE of those children born into that union which the Father is VERY concerned about (i.e generational curses and blessings; and birthing Ishmaels or Isaacs). Marriage is NOTHING to take lightly. It is not just a free-will choice to "make-do" with. The very hairs on our heads our numbered, how much more does our Father care about who we COVENANT with?! Wait for the Spirit to lead you to the well (as he did Moses to find Zipporah, Israel to find Rachel, Saul to find Samuel and covenant him to be the first King/Husband to Israel, and as Jesus did the woman at the well...meeting her was Him personally opening His marriage covenant to the Gentiles. Marriage is the entire theme of the Bible--it begins with marriage in the garden, continues with the record of all of the (chosen) marriages that brought forth the Messiah, and culminates with Jesus' birth between two special people (chosen to be) espoused, and then ends in Revelation with the ULTIMATE marriage ceremony--Jesus to His Bride!!!. The first miracle Jesus fulfilled was at a wedding!! Oh yeah, it matters. Til' DEATH. So, you can choose your own. Or you can choose to wait on the Father and choose to embrace His choice for you. Please read, "God is a Matchmaker" (available for free online in PDF form) by Derek Prince or look up his video of the same title here on UA-cam. God Bless!
Amen sis! I was scheduled to get married July 22! But Jesus saved me from that relationship even when I didn't understand at the moment. We split up about 5 months ago physically, but mentally I knew that relationship was over way before I had the courage and obedience to acknowledge it! I am forever grateful my God saved me once again! Now I am currently staying hidden in God until he picks my husband, and not my flesh! A ring does not make it better! Do not be unequally yoked with un-believers please ladies wait on the lord and stay hidden! Thanks sis for this wonderful video! ❤️
Cococure Amen sis! Stay encouraged I know our God has already worked it out for us and moving on our behalf. You're right it does get hard but we'll be fine as long as we keep our eyes and hearts postured towards him!
I got engaged this year... and God closed, rather slammed, that door lol I was not able to do it myself, even when things were not lining up. My spirit was in turmoil and my peace was pieces! But Got stepped and he ended it. It wss devastating but only a month later I can already see THAT was not God's best. I'm older and have societal pressure to rush marriage, but I rather let the holy spirit lead me and not fear or impatience. Let's stay encouraged y'all! And God's arms there when it gets tough.
"I mean I don't know, you know what I'm sayin. Ima be like a rapper" I'm DEAD!!!😂😂😂😂 Oh Lord! thank You Jesus for this word🙌 man, I'm glad I'm single and content and I'm not waiting for my husband, I'm living my life trying to acomplish my God given purpose. God will send the husband whenever He wants but I can't be stagnant talking about "I'm waiting for my husband" I got things to do for Jesus even while I'm single.
It's sooooo important to listen to God. I ran definitely ran ahead of God when it comes to my now husband. God told me to wait and I didn't. I felt like I was able to change my now husband and that I could do a better job. Gosh, I was so foolish. Now granted God was able to restore my marriage. However it took a lot of praying, fasting, crying, and submission. I was an emotional wreck and control freak. God had to do a lot of work in me and my husband. I am so thankful that he saved my marriage because I love my husband so much and we have 3 beautiful children together. However though, I now teach our 14 year old daughter who will be entering high school this fall, about the cost of disobedience. It so important not to be yoked with unbelievers!! When God says no it's for a reason. Sometimes we are so distracted by the fantasy of getting married, that we can't see what God is trying to save us from. We can't change anyone!! That is Gods job. Even then that person must have a willing and accepting heart. I now get the opportunity to minister to my daughter, so she doesn't make the same mistakes I did 😊😊 Quick question..... Heather is there a pinky promise for teenagers and 7/8 year old? Thanks 😊
"I felt precious, so protected and so loved." THIS is what God wants us to feel! That's great! I loved that part & that it's not going to be handed to us on what my grandma says "flower beds of ease!" (Country I know lol) Encouraging! Thanks for the vid
Thank you Heather. This video is an answered prayer. I was praying and asking God how i will know God's right man for me. I was in the middle of a confusion. I asked God to speak to me and to my suprise, i got a notification about this video. Wow. Praise God! I needed this video ❤
When she gets really passionate about her message, that ratchetry tries to creep out lol . It's so funny , I love her. "The week after you gone be a lawyer too ? Where we going ??"
Can you do more videos about being a single and succesful woman instead of relationship ones? i know this is a popular topic among christian women but can you do more about the single life, pursuing your passions and just simply enjoying it all while it last! 💕☺
i agree w/ you 100%, although I am married, i like to encourage the single ladies because it's difficult for them and they need to be taken care of. Alot of the time we love to see the outside appearance of marriage and solely focused on people in a union neglecting the singles. So this is very important.
Hi Heather, I love your channel. Waiting to meet my husband has not been an easy journey but it is worth it. I have grown and learned so much about God and the love He has for me. I really do believe that God has created one person for me. I know God has set a path for my life and part of that amazing journey is meeting the person God made for me. The bible lets us know we are predestined before the beginning of time. God does give us free will and that includes saying yes to the good gifts that He has for us. I am thankful for your ministry and how you help so many woman stay true to their call by God.
I've said this a thousand times but I really do love you Sis. Heather you are such a light to our dark generation. No one is perfect but you take your charge seriously and are inspiring us to uphold a standard. Thanks!!. I will continue to pray for you and your family. May God continue to bless you in all you do.
You did the right thing. When men are looking for a serious relationship, they observe us. We need to be led by GOD in everything and stop making rash decisions. Yes, ye shall know them by the fruit!
This is confirmation for me and it got me all the way together I feel like sometimes as being a young adult and striving for god like I do in my generation I feel like it's impossible to get married that everyone I meet looks down on me in a way cause my standards and how I go so hard for god but your right god will do things that our eyes hasn't seen and our ears haven't heard I'm going to continue to rest on his promise and work on me so when he's ready to bless me I'll be ready
Amen Heather! I felt the Holy Spirit when you said that your now husband at the time of courting and engagement was a mirror and showing you your heart etc! I'm single BUT I'm talking to someone and he is currently showing me my heart! And I do know that he is my husband! God has shown me. But the enemy has been trying hardest the past 9 months to make us go different ways! But because of God we are yet holding on. He has shown me SO much about myself vice versa and he has Pressed me to grow spiritually to the point I'm amazed! We challenge each other Spiritually and it's awesome! I love it! We didn't start off correctly BUT God dealt with the both of us and we have stop doing ALOT of things! Sex,kissing, cuddling, etc! And yes it has been hard but at the same time it's so refreshing! I thank God so much for what He is doing in our lives! Thank you for sharing this! I love you my sister in Christ! You're AMAZING!!😘
There is a book "Holding Hands Holding Hearts" by Richard D. Phillips and Sharon L Phillips that I would definitely recommend reading ladies..... "If a christian woman does not respect a man and if she cannot detect signs of sincere spiritual growth, she is a fool to place her heart into his hands"
One thing I know for sure that is definitely true about what she said is that God will show/reveal that mate to us....He has definitely done that for me....God bless you Sis Heather
I came to UA-cam this morning to find a video on how to know if a man is the one God has sent me; and here's Heather with this video right at the top of my feed! Awesome. Thank you Heather, this was helpful and encouraging. I've met a decent number of counterfeit men and I want to finally really know a genuine, Godly man when he arrives. I'm done with the foolishness and ready to be with the man God has for me. But I have to know and discern him by his fruit. Thank you.
Why does he need a helper if he isn't doing anything? Amen Heather! I have learned the hard way the importance of being equally yoked. Now it is time to look at the fruit. Thank you for sharing your story Heather. Be blessed!
Yes! This blessed my soul. I’ve recently come to the fact that I don’t NEED anything or anyone but the Lord and he’ll provide different things to me that align with my purpose after I commit to his way.
Man EVERYTIME you mention the one there is this mans face in my head and I keep saying no he's not and something says yes he is. Maybe it's just me, but I'm gonna pray on it. Thank you.
Njeri Mureithi I have tried. He doesn't want me . Any time I have tried to help him he pushes me off. He's already dating other people and I'm past out of energy for him.
Beautiful, simple, wise. Love this video. Be blessed all Daughters who will see this clip. I pray it will resonate with your spirit, and fill you with peace from God. 💖💖🙌🏼🙌🏼💖💖 #eyesongodsglory #sweetpresenceofJesusisallweneed
Amen. Jesus is definitely all we need. My prayer for myself and many women is that even once God shows us who the one is we dont move ahead of him and marry this man unfinished. Not that any man will be perfect, but there are some things he defintely needs to be delivered from before we are courting or married. Him being willing to abstain from sex is huge as well as him being kind, humble and loving are huge. In the past I, and many other women have focused so much on willingness to abstain, that we weren't noticing the other rotten fruit. We have to wait until both of us are finished. I definitely wanna wait til kiss too. Thats awesome. "Check his fruit". Yes Lord.
... I saw my parents in your words. They're the best exmaple, of TRUE REAL LOVE, that I've ever known. The last 5 minutes of this video, really touched my soul. That was everything. ... THANK YOU Heather ... :')
I loved this video! Its such a beautiful story. I'm trusting God to write my love story as well. This summer I met someone who I felt in my heart very well could be THE ONE because of how things fell into place and God felt urges, but I don't want to rush anything or take things into my own hands, risking failure. I'm putting the whole thing in God's hands because I know his timing is perfect and he knows exactly what I need and when. I'm praying that God help me be patient, not worry about what I see around me, and focus on making myself better and wife material. Its so encouraging to know that God still answers prayer and that there are women who still do things the right way! Thank you thank you, God bless!
Mannnnn I just stumble across this video I don’t even know how. I was out drinking and i don’t even know how this video popped up on my feed. For the past forever number of years I grew impatient on God and I literally have ended up taking matters into my own hands time and time again rather than (waiting) for God to do his work. Man it takes such a long time for some of us and God is into his character building thing (which is so annoying sometimes) but it’s for a good reason. You are doing this world and women a favor by setting such a good example for ladies out there who have no guidance on these things (dating) and also give hope to us men out there too that there’s some decent women out there that aren’t scandalous as all hell. Anyways to make a long story short I stumble on this video (drunk) and your words pierce me straight to my bones. Definitely a wake up for me that it’s time to get right and do right again and set a better example for. Y children and for that I say thank you to both you and Jesus Christ. - God bless you and your husband and fam thanks for the message
Girl that verse! "Do not awaken love before it's time." God had showed me that verse in my study time way earlier this year and I was in a relationship at the time and I was like God, like what? And like just throughout this whole year He has shown me what that verse means and like when you said it I was like omg 😭. So this just really kept me inspired to stay along the path I'm going and like to just let God do the work🙌🙌🙌🙌. #joyfullysingle
This opened my eyes. Everyday I ask if God has given me what I needed. Is this man the one? Maybe he is. God has proven to me every time I asked for something to share that the man I am with is worthy of my heart. He has shown me things I could not even explain to you.. and although I hold on to my insecurities and bring annoyance to our ship lol I feel regardless through it he is patient with me and still kind to me. I feel like I battle with myself more often than I battle with my hunny. I trust him. I do. But, I'm scared. So, like you said. Let God do the work... and today I think I will begin that.
I started my day off looking at videos on condos... and somehow ended up here...EVERYTHING you said has opened my eyes..my last relationship was ALL over the place and now I'm on this journey with God trying to find myself and now I know everything happens for a reason. I wanted that relationship to work so bad but God definitely has other plans for me and I felt all the positive energy from this video NEW SUBSCRIBER.. Thank You SIS !
I recently met someone in my life who I went to HS with. We're just getting to know each other & he's a Minister. 2 wks later I go to the PP in ATL2018 & rededicate myself back to God. Even though he's a Minister I didn't feel forced to practice my walk & although he'd ministered to me he never forced me to get back into practice. Since the PP conference I've been indulging myself in the Lord. I feel like this Man & I are on one accord... I've fallen back in love with Jesus & His people. The man is in another state & we're just getting to know each other. We both prayed we fulfill God's purpose for us meeting. I don't want him to be a distraction. I also don't want to catch feelings when that is not God's assignment for bringing us together. I can't deny I like him & he's the first godly man I've met that appears to walk the walk & talk the talk & just gets me without explanation. I have a child, he doesn't & he seems genuinely interested in his growth. I know God can move things fast but to bring my Husband? To also have my heart open to receive God back in completely & not be luke warm anymore? I'm in Awe. I've told God for the last few yrs I'm tired of raising my son on my own & desire marriage. I prayed my son would have 3 father's (heavenly, biological, my husband) Pray for me y'all 😇 I try not to get too excited about it & want to be in His will completely. We recently went on a fast together also to release & gain clarity on other things. I'm just in Awe of God. Heather you're inspirational. Something told me you were born near my birthday & you are 😘
This helped a lot and your testimony is amaaaazing!!! Im currently fasting from a guy to see if this is God's will. I literally asked God give me some insight when i logged into youtube and this video was the first thing i seen. Thank you!!! I hope my first kiss with whomever my husband is will be on my wedding day as well! i get jitters from the idea of it! Great video!
This was very helpful. Not only did it force me to acknowledge what I was doing wrong and the mistakes I've made in past relationships but this video will help me grow. I know will never go wrong anymore as long as I put and keep God first in ALL things!
All I can say is WOW! Exactly what I needed to hear, I am in my singleness and been struggling with this . Thank you so much for sharing your story. You have saved my mind set . Thank you God for showing me this obedient woman . Blessing to you and your faithful husband
Heather, this message is GOLD. Thank you so much for following the call of our King and delivering this powerful and magical message to all of us. A gazillion blessings to you 💜
all I wanna say is...I love you Heather❤ You're such a blessing and ur love for God just gives me hope of my own future..I appreciate your testimony!!😊😊
U said a mouth full girl, u are right on the money, the sad part is we see the red flags, the inconsistencies and we ignore them, then we're shock when they show their true colors
Heather thank you so much for your transparency. I was truly blessed. Continue to let God use you. I am single and expecting God's best in my life. God is so good!! God bless you
😭😭I love that testimony❤️❤️ Thank you Heather❤️ thats all I needed and I know I will do that too in Jesus name no kisses no sex before marriage raise the standard high, so you can see if really he/she is the one, if he/she can resist that, it means a lot even after marriage he/she will be faithful❤️❤️☺️ I’m following you on instagram but I never knew that you were on fire/pure for Jesus☺️ Keep it up doing the good work for the Kingdom, God bless you abundantly and your whole family🙌🙏
So I have to comment again at the end of the video and I am in tears because I can literally feel the love and your energy through your voice …the way you described how you felt on your wedding day and the advice that you gave... the main thing you said that stuck with me is ,"Don't awaken love before it's time" that really stuck with me.. Figure myself out and build that strong relationship with God.
Heather I met someone while flagging at church. I've been single for a loooonnnng time but I finally learned to embrace my singleness. My desire for a husband and love has always been that he first love God with all his heart and same with me. That we be complete in God before we court. I expressed this to the guy we have been friends our communication has been great concerning boundaries, God's plans, praying together... He serves at his church and outside of that works full time and started his own non profit which serves the community giving out bag lunch and mentorship programs. I fear that it's too good to be true and I have noticed some financial strains. I just really need some spiritual advice!
I saw this again today and it was so inspiring and full of wisdom. One of the first things I always look at is fruit! And that is something she mentioned here but I also saw that in her testimony how she was observing him and seeing his fruits. Ladies please look at what fruit the man is bearing. And that is something that he should be looking as well.
I do not know how I stumbled across your videos, they suddenly popped up on my main feed when I logged into UA-cam...but your videos, this one and the one you and your husband did about breaking up and your other one about "God told me he was the one", they have all spoken exactly what I am going through now. The man I believe that God is saying is going to be my husband...he came all the way from Florida to California to visit me for a week and a half and everything went so well, and we had been talking for three months straight prior to that, but I have not heard from him for a week now...and he sounds so much like how your husband described himself, how he's hurt because of his past and isn't ready to fully commit because of it, and I am feeling exactly how you were feeling back then too like okay there's other guys whatever but at the same time feeling hurt. It's crazy because almost 100% me and him relate to this. And I have just been praying so much and recently I felt God wanting me to start praying for him again and I was like seriouslyyy? But I started again. And you talked about that in your other video too and it blew me away. Thank you for your videos and encouragement. I'm just going to continue to trust in God, and that He works on both me and him and lead us together again in His timing if it truly be His will. God bless you, thank you again for your videos, what you're doing truly makes a difference for others.
I love how she described that on her wedding day she felt SAFE marrying Cornelius. Remember men are protectors. If you don't feel safe with your "protector", that might be a red flag. You should most certainly feel safe & secure with him as your husband to be. I heard someone describe a husband as a Priest, Prophet, Pastor, Provider & Protector all in one. So many women have dealt with insecurity & fear in relationships with men. You are God's precious daughter. The man for you will KNOW that. You will feel safe knowing you are in good hands! He will honor & respect you, and treat you as if your value is far above rubies. Ask yourself does he make me feel like my worth is far above rubies?? Or do I feel like a rhinestone? Ultimately, the Holy Ghost will confirm & affirm to you that you ARE in good hands. Lord, let every single on here be assured that they can trust their future husband and be safe & protected as you would have them to be, in Jesus' name ❤❤❤
Crystal Marie Amen!
Crystal Marie BOOM! Absolute truth.
Crystal Marie Amina!
Crystal Marie AMEN SIS!!
Crystal Marie Girl, You went to Church!!!! You told the TRUTH!!!! You said it ALL!!!
I got into a relationship with a guy I believed had everything I wanted. A car, nice career, loved his Mother, and so on. I didn't really pay much attention to nothing else and God told me to break up with him in my sleep. I did, but a hour later I got back with him because I was stupid lol. 2 years later he told me he never loved me. Listen to God Ladies. Proverbs 1:33!
Paris Woods wow!
Whoa..
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How did God tell you to leave him? I am hoping for your reply.:)
God bless you sis, Amen🙏🏽💗 God cares for you deeply💗
Reminder: this is HER story. Her journey. Everyone's different.
hope sparks Yes
Patterns
hope sparks
Amennnn
So true that's her testimony
Right
Yes, but everybody has the same Father who is just as faithful to the faithful and loves and has high plans and standards for all of His children the same.
And from an older guy I can testify the counsel that she is sharing is pure Godly gold, that will save the adherent from a house load of pain
And bestow upon them a truly blessed life
1. Felt safe and protected (precious and respected)
2. Checked out his fruits and patterns
3. Got attracted to him
4. Our purposes aligned
I don't believe God will force us to marry someone we're not attracted to. I do however believe He creates someone for us. I also had someone tell me to just be glad if a guy is a Christian. Um no, we need more in common than just Jesus.
I agree with you
Crystal G that's where the friend zone comes in your a nice guy with a good heart an caring loving but I see you as a brother you don't look like a 10 GQ hottie
Crystal G amen! 👏👏
LOL! I definitely agree! My friend and I always discuss this. That mind set of "he just needs to be a Christian is just religious. God definitely wants us to be wise and recognise that there is much more to look out for. This is why its only the Holy Spirit that can lead us and not man. Many will try and speak, but God has the final say.
Yep! It's mostly about about mutual attraction, chemistry, common interest, and your most deepest values.
She said tired of being in relationships that push her away from God....Same here.
Women who don't wait on God, are just signing up for A lifetime of humiliation.
Torey Burse very true
Exactly right
Lived it
I absolutely agree
Yes true, I made this mistake and I am repenting now. Now, I pray God will save my husband because we are too deep into it with two kids.
"Why he need a helper if he ain't doin' nothin'". You better preach Heather!
AMEN!
I believe God does have that one spouse for us. We have options to choose someone else.. but if we spend time with God he will reveal the one he chose. Marriage is a ministry and God brings us together for that purpose. I think about how God put together Esther and the king it was divine for a great purpose. When a woman know's who she is called to be in God's Kingdom she'll have the discernment to know wether or not hes the one. We have free will to choose our jobs, school, friends, kill, steal, cheat, lie, choose our own spouse... but if we have a solid relationship with God we will choose what he destine for us. So many people are unhappy and going through it because they're living out of God's will. Ladies just keep serving God if you're lined up in his will you will not miss the one God chose for YOU!
Ashlee A i agree 100%
Amen!
Yes we have free will to accept or reject God's will. I agree that we as singles must have a growing relationship with God. We have to give ourselves to God first not just be at the church building on Sunday only. He wants more He wants us. Use our talents or simply ourselves for Him out here to a messed up world. We must delevop those spiritual characteristics or that man or woman is not coming for a marriage.
This is hands down the greatest thing I have ever read.
Exactly Ashlee. As God chose Rebekah for Isaac...and several other "at the well" meetings that were covenant/marriage ordained meetings. We can choose to "choose our own" or we can choose to OBEY embracing the Father's choice for us. Marriage involves bringing children into the world and the Father is very specific and concerned about who you have those children with which factors in the PURPOSE of those children born into that union which the Father is VERY concerned about (i.e generational curses and blessings; and birthing Ishmaels or Isaacs). Marriage is NOTHING to take lightly. It is not just a free-will choice to "make-do" with. The very hairs on our heads our numbered, how much more does our Father care about who we COVENANT with?! Wait for the Spirit to lead you to the well (as he did Moses to find Zipporah, Israel to find Rachel, Saul to find Samuel and covenant him to be the first King/Husband to Israel, and as Jesus did the woman at the well...meeting her was Him personally opening His marriage covenant to the Gentiles. Marriage is the entire theme of the Bible--it begins with marriage in the garden, continues with the record of all of the (chosen) marriages that brought forth the Messiah, and culminates with Jesus' birth between two special people (chosen to be) espoused, and then ends in Revelation with the ULTIMATE marriage ceremony--Jesus to His Bride!!!. The first miracle Jesus fulfilled was at a wedding!! Oh yeah, it matters. Til' DEATH.
So, you can choose your own. Or you can choose to wait on the Father and choose to embrace His choice for you. Please read, "God is a Matchmaker" (available for free online in PDF form) by Derek Prince or look up his video of the same title here on UA-cam. God Bless!
Amen sis! I was scheduled to get married July 22! But Jesus saved me from that relationship even when I didn't understand at the moment. We split up about 5 months ago physically, but mentally I knew that relationship was over way before I had the courage and obedience to acknowledge it! I am forever grateful my God saved me once again! Now I am currently staying hidden in God until he picks my husband, and not my flesh! A ring does not make it better! Do not be unequally yoked with un-believers please ladies wait on the lord and stay hidden! Thanks sis for this wonderful video! ❤️
Amen Erika, you are strong!
Erika tolbert I was supposed to get married on June 3rd this year..I agree with you! God is good..it gets hard sometimes but his will is perfect!
Vivi33 Thank you! It took me a while but by his grace I'm pressing forward!
Cococure Amen sis! Stay encouraged I know our God has already worked it out for us and moving on our behalf. You're right it does get hard but we'll be fine as long as we keep our eyes and hearts postured towards him!
I got engaged this year... and God closed, rather slammed, that door lol I was not able to do it myself, even when things were not lining up. My spirit was in turmoil and my peace was pieces! But Got stepped and he ended it. It wss devastating but only a month later I can already see THAT was not God's best. I'm older and have societal pressure to rush marriage, but I rather let the holy spirit lead me and not fear or impatience. Let's stay encouraged y'all! And God's arms there when it gets tough.
"I mean I don't know, you know what I'm sayin. Ima be like a rapper" I'm DEAD!!!😂😂😂😂 Oh Lord! thank You Jesus for this word🙌 man, I'm glad I'm single and content and I'm not waiting for my husband, I'm living my life trying to acomplish my God given purpose. God will send the husband whenever He wants but I can't be stagnant talking about "I'm waiting for my husband" I got things to do for Jesus even while I'm single.
I know that's right!
Amen!
This!!!!👌👏👏
This really helped me not even necessarily for relationship but for myself... what are my patterns?what fruit am I bearing? This was awesome!
I like that🙌 turn it back on me! #noted
Oh man me too! I want to work on myself first and foremost!!
It's sooooo important to listen to God. I ran definitely ran ahead of God when it comes to my now husband. God told me to wait and I didn't. I felt like I was able to change my now husband and that I could do a better job. Gosh, I was so foolish. Now granted God was able to restore my marriage. However it took a lot of praying, fasting, crying, and submission. I was an emotional wreck and control freak. God had to do a lot of work in me and my husband. I am so thankful that he saved my marriage because I love my husband so much and we have 3 beautiful children together. However though, I now teach our 14 year old daughter who will be entering high school this fall, about the cost of disobedience. It so important not to be yoked with unbelievers!! When God says no it's for a reason. Sometimes we are so distracted by the fantasy of getting married, that we can't see what God is trying to save us from. We can't change anyone!! That is Gods job. Even then that person must have a willing and accepting heart. I now get the opportunity to minister to my daughter, so she doesn't make the same mistakes I did 😊😊 Quick question..... Heather is there a pinky promise for teenagers and 7/8 year old? Thanks 😊
"I felt precious, so protected and so loved." THIS is what God wants us to feel! That's great! I loved that part & that it's not going to be handed to us on what my grandma says "flower beds of ease!" (Country I know lol)
Encouraging! Thanks for the vid
I have never felt precious protected and so loved by a guy...they have always led me on and played games, chosen other girls, etc.
Confirmation!!! This is where I'm at...happily waiting on God for my hubby😇🙏🏽🙌🏾! I am sure of who I am in him and what I want.
"God has you hidden"
I needed to HEAR THAT!!! amen. and thank you.
Thank you Heather. This video is an answered prayer. I was praying and asking God how i will know God's right man for me. I was in the middle of a confusion. I asked God to speak to me and to my suprise, i got a notification about this video. Wow. Praise God! I needed this video ❤
I need to keep praying
this couldn't have come at a better time
Peace Lillian I know right lol
This entire video is yet another confirmation. Thank you for this sis.
I finally have met someone that has all the things you are describing that you noticed in your husband. ( :
When she gets really passionate about her message, that ratchetry tries to creep out lol . It's so funny , I love her. "The week after you gone be a lawyer too ? Where we going ??"
I see what you're saying...lol
ModesTy lol!
Can you do a video on raising Godly Children?
Sure!
IAmEssence Would love to see this.
Heather Lindsey yes please woman of God make a video on raising Godly children! Thank you & God bless 💖
chug 🌐🌐🌐🏛🌏🍐
Can you do more videos about being a single and succesful woman instead of relationship ones? i know this is a popular topic among christian women but can you do more about the single life, pursuing your passions and just simply enjoying it all while it last! 💕☺
i agree w/ you 100%, although I am married, i like to encourage the single ladies because it's difficult for them and they need to be taken care of. Alot of the time we love to see the outside appearance of marriage and solely focused on people in a union neglecting the singles. So this is very important.
Hey love! Have you read my book, The Purpose Room? I have an entire book on it! :)
But SURE! I can def do more! ;)
Heartwerk Women's Ministry im already subscribed to her, but i didn't know she had a series thanks for the suggestion!
Heather Lindsey
Thanks for replying Heather! I wasn't aware you had one. ill be sure to check it out! ❤
Hi Heather, I love your channel. Waiting to meet my husband has not been an easy journey but it is worth it. I have grown and learned so much about God and the love He has for me. I really do believe that God has created one person for me. I know God has set a path for my life and part of that amazing journey is meeting the person God made for me. The bible lets us know we are predestined before the beginning of time. God does give us free will and that includes saying yes to the good gifts that He has for us. I am thankful for your ministry and how you help so many woman stay true to their call by God.
I've said this a thousand times but I really do love you Sis. Heather you are such a light to our dark generation. No one is perfect but you take your charge seriously and are inspiring us to uphold a standard. Thanks!!. I will continue to pray for you and your family. May God continue to bless you in all you do.
You're so sweet. God bless you sis! Thanks for your encouraging words!
You are so beautiful heather...
The glory of God tops her physical beauty. Double portion beauty
You did the right thing. When men are looking for a serious relationship, they observe us. We need to be led by GOD in everything and stop making rash decisions. Yes, ye shall know them by the fruit!
This video is so encouraging! I hope I feel like that on my wedding day! 😊💕
Jasmyne Tiara Beauty me too 😊
Jasmyne Tiara Beauty it was very VERY encouraging ❤️
I actually have no idea who God has for me but I trust him because I'm imperfect and make mistakes and God knows what is best for me
Patterns, fruits, consistency
This is confirmation for me and it got me all the way together I feel like sometimes as being a young adult and striving for god like I do in my generation I feel like it's impossible to get married that everyone I meet looks down on me in a way cause my standards and how I go so hard for god but your right god will do things that our eyes hasn't seen and our ears haven't heard I'm going to continue to rest on his promise and work on me so when he's ready to bless me I'll be ready
Amen Heather! I felt the Holy Spirit when you said that your now husband at the time of courting and engagement was a mirror and showing you your heart etc! I'm single BUT I'm talking to someone and he is currently showing me my heart! And I do know that he is my husband! God has shown me. But the enemy has been trying hardest the past 9 months to make us go different ways! But because of God we are yet holding on. He has shown me SO much about myself vice versa and he has Pressed me to grow spiritually to the point I'm amazed! We challenge each other Spiritually and it's awesome! I love it! We didn't start off correctly BUT God dealt with the both of us and we have stop doing ALOT of things! Sex,kissing, cuddling, etc! And yes it has been hard but at the same time it's so refreshing! I thank God so much for what He is doing in our lives! Thank you for sharing this! I love you my sister in Christ! You're AMAZING!!😘
There is a book "Holding Hands Holding Hearts" by Richard D. Phillips and Sharon L Phillips that I would definitely recommend reading ladies.....
"If a christian woman does not respect a man and if she cannot detect signs of sincere spiritual growth, she is a fool to place her heart into his hands"
everything you are saying i am a living witness! the holy spirit will lead you if you listen to HIM 😊😊😊thanks Heather!
Marjorie Canty how long have you been married if you don’t mind me asking? Just curious bc I’ve been thinking about marriage a lot
One thing I know for sure that is definitely true about what she said is that God will show/reveal that mate to us....He has definitely done that for me....God bless you Sis Heather
When I met my husband, I heard the words in my mind “this is my husband.” So I know exactly what you mean Heather ❤️❤️❤️
You look gorgeous 😍
I came to UA-cam this morning to find a video on how to know if a man is the one God has sent me; and here's Heather with this video right at the top of my feed! Awesome. Thank you Heather, this was helpful and encouraging. I've met a decent number of counterfeit men and I want to finally really know a genuine, Godly man when he arrives. I'm done with the foolishness and ready to be with the man God has for me. But I have to know and discern him by his fruit. Thank you.
Why does he need a helper if he isn't doing anything? Amen Heather! I have learned the hard way the importance of being equally yoked. Now it is time to look at the fruit. Thank you for sharing your story Heather. Be blessed!
Love this so much. Thank you for sharing. God bless you and your husband 🙏
Yes! This blessed my soul. I’ve recently come to the fact that I don’t NEED anything or anyone but the Lord and he’ll provide different things to me that align with my purpose after I commit to his way.
Thank you Heather❤🌷 You've given me confirmation that I'm on the right path #singleandsaved🙌
Carmen Coulter Yes, Single, Saved, and Satisfied!
Listen up brothers and take notes, this is a powerful woman of God right here.
Finally, someone else who doesn't believe In "the one"! I never have. Never will. 🙏🏽
So thankful for examples of Godly relationships like you & Cornelius. May God bless your marriage & family
This message was so necessary for me. Thank you so much for your words of wisdom.
He was a mirror to you. I showed you YOU. Amazing!
Man EVERYTIME you mention the one there is this mans face in my head and I keep saying no he's not and something says yes he is. Maybe it's just me, but I'm gonna pray on it. Thank you.
I think this just showed me more of where I am in my singleness, because I don't think I'm yet qualified to be a helper.
Lol "it's the white man" 😂.
Ashley Copeland my husband says that frequently. 😞
Lol
kristen mcinnis affirm him of who he is in Christ. Be an opening ear. Don't let him suppress those emotions. It's not easy.
Njeri Mureithi I have tried. He doesn't want me . Any time I have tried to help him he pushes me off. He's already dating other people and I'm past out of energy for him.
kristen mcinnis ooh girl, you better run! You sure deserve better
I wish I heard this video 10 -20 years ago
as i read this i had to check myself. am i consistent? am i showing good fruits?
Beautiful, simple, wise. Love this video. Be blessed all Daughters who will see this clip. I pray it will resonate with your spirit, and fill you with peace from God. 💖💖🙌🏼🙌🏼💖💖 #eyesongodsglory #sweetpresenceofJesusisallweneed
So wise, Heather! Congratulations on everything: courtship - not dating, marriage, ministry and children.
Amen. Jesus is definitely all we need. My prayer for myself and many women is that even once God shows us who the one is we dont move ahead of him and marry this man unfinished. Not that any man will be perfect, but there are some things he defintely needs to be delivered from before we are courting or married. Him being willing to abstain from sex is huge as well as him being kind, humble and loving are huge. In the past I, and many other women have focused so much on willingness to abstain, that we weren't noticing the other rotten fruit. We have to wait until both of us are finished. I definitely wanna wait til kiss too. Thats awesome. "Check his fruit". Yes Lord.
... I saw my parents in your words. They're the best exmaple, of TRUE REAL LOVE, that I've ever known.
The last 5 minutes of this video, really touched my soul. That was everything.
... THANK YOU Heather ... :')
Perfect timing. Thanks for sharing Heather
I love you Heath❤Thank you so very much. I needed to hear that.
The "looking at patterns" part is soooo true. Good stuff!
I loved this video! Its such a beautiful story. I'm trusting God to write my love story as well. This summer I met someone who I felt in my heart very well could be THE ONE because of how things fell into place and God felt urges, but I don't want to rush anything or take things into my own hands, risking failure. I'm putting the whole thing in God's hands because I know his timing is perfect and he knows exactly what I need and when. I'm praying that God help me be patient, not worry about what I see around me, and focus on making myself better and wife material. Its so encouraging to know that God still answers prayer and that there are women who still do things the right way! Thank you thank you, God bless!
You are such a blessing heather may the lord continue to use you and no evil come on you or your families dwelling. Amen. Thank you
right on time!! I needed that
This right here is straight fire, spoke to me in and through ALL of this, thank you Heather for sharing 😊
I listen to this every morning to keep me motivated and focused on me💪
Mannnnn I just stumble across this video I don’t even know how. I was out drinking and i don’t even know how this video popped up on my feed. For the past forever number of years I grew impatient on God and I literally have ended up taking matters into my own hands time and time again rather than (waiting) for God to do his work. Man it takes such a long time for some of us and God is into his character building thing (which is so annoying sometimes) but it’s for a good reason. You are doing this world and women a favor by setting such a good example for ladies out there who have no guidance on these things (dating) and also give hope to us men out there too that there’s some decent women out there that aren’t scandalous as all hell. Anyways to make a long story short I stumble on this video (drunk) and your words pierce me straight to my bones. Definitely a wake up for me that it’s time to get right and do right again and set a better example for. Y children and for that I say thank you to both you and Jesus Christ. - God bless you and your husband and fam thanks for the message
Girl that verse! "Do not awaken love before it's time." God had showed me that verse in my study time way earlier this year and I was in a relationship at the time and I was like God, like what? And like just throughout this whole year He has shown me what that verse means and like when you said it I was like omg 😭. So this just really kept me inspired to stay along the path I'm going and like to just let God do the work🙌🙌🙌🙌. #joyfullysingle
This opened my eyes. Everyday I ask if God has given me what I needed. Is this man the one? Maybe he is. God has proven to me every time I asked for something to share that the man I am with is worthy of my heart. He has shown me things I could not even explain to you.. and although I hold on to my insecurities and bring annoyance to our ship lol I feel regardless through it he is patient with me and still kind to me. I feel like I battle with myself more often than I battle with my hunny. I trust him. I do. But, I'm scared. So, like you said. Let God do the work... and today I think I will begin that.
I started my day off looking at videos on condos... and somehow ended up here...EVERYTHING you said has opened my eyes..my last relationship was ALL over the place and now I'm on this journey with God trying to find myself and now I know everything happens for a reason. I wanted that relationship to work so bad but God definitely has other plans for me and I felt all the positive energy from this video NEW SUBSCRIBER.. Thank You SIS !
I recently met someone in my life who I went to HS with. We're just getting to know each other & he's a Minister. 2 wks later I go to the PP in ATL2018 & rededicate myself back to God. Even though he's a Minister I didn't feel forced to practice my walk & although he'd ministered to me he never forced me to get back into practice. Since the PP conference I've been indulging myself in the Lord. I feel like this Man & I are on one accord... I've fallen back in love with Jesus & His people. The man is in another state & we're just getting to know each other. We both prayed we fulfill God's purpose for us meeting. I don't want him to be a distraction. I also don't want to catch feelings when that is not God's assignment for bringing us together. I can't deny I like him & he's the first godly man I've met that appears to walk the walk & talk the talk & just gets me without explanation. I have a child, he doesn't & he seems genuinely interested in his growth. I know God can move things fast but to bring my Husband? To also have my heart open to receive God back in completely & not be luke warm anymore? I'm in Awe. I've told God for the last few yrs I'm tired of raising my son on my own & desire marriage. I prayed my son would have 3 father's (heavenly, biological, my husband) Pray for me y'all 😇 I try not to get too excited about it & want to be in His will completely. We recently went on a fast together also to release & gain clarity on other things. I'm just in Awe of God.
Heather you're inspirational. Something told me you were born near my birthday & you are 😘
This helped a lot and your testimony is amaaaazing!!! Im currently fasting from a guy to see if this is God's will. I literally asked God give me some insight when i logged into youtube and this video was the first thing i seen. Thank you!!! I hope my first kiss with whomever my husband is will be on my wedding day as well! i get jitters from the idea of it! Great video!
This was very helpful. Not only did it force me to acknowledge what I was doing wrong and the mistakes I've made in past relationships but this video will help me grow. I know will never go wrong anymore as long as I put and keep God first in ALL things!
"Why he need a helper if he not doing nothing" lol!!! God bless you and your word! Bringing up great points!
All I can say is WOW! Exactly what I needed to hear, I am in my singleness and been struggling with this . Thank you so much for sharing your story. You have saved my mind set . Thank you God for showing me this obedient woman . Blessing to you and your faithful husband
💖I knew he was the one because he was what I prayed for and he was hitting my LIST to the point! Yyaaahhh🏃♀️🏃♂️
I love hearing about the special feelings on the wedding day. The excitement and the feeling of being safe.
Heather, this message is GOLD. Thank you so much for following the call of our King and delivering this powerful and magical message to all of us. A gazillion blessings to you 💜
An amazing story of your journey from being single to married. Thanks for sharing what God has taught you through this whole process.
This video helped my heart rest ❤️
all I wanna say is...I love you Heather❤ You're such a blessing and ur love for God just gives me hope of my own future..I appreciate your testimony!!😊😊
This truly blessed me, I really feel like you are a digital big sister speaking with so much love and honesty! God bless you sis
Heather, can you speak on long distance relationship's.
U said a mouth full girl, u are right on the money, the sad part is we see the red flags, the inconsistencies and we ignore them, then we're shock when they show their true colors
Thank you for sharing
Practical Spiritual Lessons on Relationships
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Heather thank you so much for your transparency. I was truly blessed. Continue to let God use you. I am single and expecting God's best in my life. God is so good!! God bless you
This post has been a HUGE blessing and I think this post was made specifically for me!
You are amazing! Keep doing what you're doing !! Thank God for people like you
😭😭I love that testimony❤️❤️ Thank you Heather❤️ thats all I needed and I know I will do that too in Jesus name no kisses no sex before marriage raise the standard high, so you can see if really he/she is the one, if he/she can resist that, it means a lot even after marriage he/she will be faithful❤️❤️☺️ I’m following you on instagram but I never knew that you were on fire/pure for Jesus☺️ Keep it up doing the good work for the Kingdom, God bless you abundantly and your whole family🙌🙏
I'm being so blessed by your ministry and you've stepped into my life at the right time. God bless you and your household continuously x
"Get under the mission" the mission to do whatever I think you should do. Lol
Heather, you are so grounded and truly a light for us all. You inspire me personally, and I thank God for that.
So I have to comment again at the end of the video and I am in tears because I can literally feel the love and your energy through your voice …the way you described how you felt on your wedding day and the advice that you gave... the main thing you said that stuck with me is ,"Don't awaken love before it's time" that really stuck with me.. Figure myself out and build that strong relationship with God.
Heather I met someone while flagging at church. I've been single for a loooonnnng time but I finally learned to embrace my singleness. My desire for a husband and love has always been that he first love God with all his heart and same with me. That we be complete in God before we court. I expressed this to the guy we have been friends our communication has been great concerning boundaries, God's plans, praying together... He serves at his church and outside of that works full time and started his own non profit which serves the community giving out bag lunch and mentorship programs. I fear that it's too good to be true and I have noticed some financial strains. I just really need some spiritual advice!
Please do more videos on marriage!!!!!!!
I love how Heather keep it real and holy!
I saw this again today and it was so inspiring and full of wisdom. One of the first things I always look at is fruit! And that is something she mentioned here but I also saw that in her testimony how she was observing him and seeing his fruits. Ladies please look at what fruit the man is bearing. And that is something that he should be looking as well.
thanks for sharing Mrs. Heather Lindsey. Such an encouraging, positive video.
All things are possible❤
I do not know how I stumbled across your videos, they suddenly popped up on my main feed when I logged into UA-cam...but your videos, this one and the one you and your husband did about breaking up and your other one about "God told me he was the one", they have all spoken exactly what I am going through now. The man I believe that God is saying is going to be my husband...he came all the way from Florida to California to visit me for a week and a half and everything went so well, and we had been talking for three months straight prior to that, but I have not heard from him for a week now...and he sounds so much like how your husband described himself, how he's hurt because of his past and isn't ready to fully commit because of it, and I am feeling exactly how you were feeling back then too like okay there's other guys whatever but at the same time feeling hurt. It's crazy because almost 100% me and him relate to this. And I have just been praying so much and recently I felt God wanting me to start praying for him again and I was like seriouslyyy? But I started again. And you talked about that in your other video too and it blew me away. Thank you for your videos and encouragement. I'm just going to continue to trust in God, and that He works on both me and him and lead us together again in His timing if it truly be His will. God bless you, thank you again for your videos, what you're doing truly makes a difference for others.
Thank you for sharing those words. God bless your ministry
Sending you so much love from Houston!! Thank you for being such a blessing for women worldwide! 💘