THE MOST POWERFUL Advice On Healing Any Trauma, Guilt & Shame
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- Опубліковано 5 лип 2020
- Sometimes a person’s most transformative life experience takes place in the pit of despair while face to face with a cockroach. At least that’s how it was for author Byron Katie. In this episode of On Purpose, Katie shares how to transform your perspective by learning to question your thoughts, not just believe them.
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“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.”
― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning
Thank you so much that is so true it's hard though but I really need to sending you many blessings 🙏🙏🌈🌈🌈🌈🌹🌹🌹🌈🌈🌈🌹🌹🌹
Hey you were alsi there on mindvalleys todays video
Thanks for the reminder!
Katie is one of those few people who is so undeniably genuine. You can’t not love her.
"Don't belief your thoughts that you are suffering. Question your thoughts". Thank you for sharing this with us!
Jay-The best inspiratiional speaker in the world.
Who else believe ?👍👇
Yes he is better than the best
I think the guy is a fraud. Better to go viral and get famous for something else. Do not use God to push your narcissistic agenda. Dude is clueless about real spirituality, truth seeking and truth telling. He’s good for Americans who want a dumbed down and watered down pop spiritual slant. 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮.
@@Rubylove48 😱😱
I don´t know how we lived before these podcasts... sincerely, hearing every episode is an awakening, a reminder, a guide... thank you so much
What a ridiculous comment, you lived by breathing. You lived because God created yoU. latching onto some guy spouting pop spirituality to get famous isn’t saving your life.
Damn Laughing Lucy, take the stick out your booty and lighten up. I'm pretty sure you KNEW she wasn't being literal. And maybe notifications to remind her about a positive podcast from helps her to stay balanced. I have tried to make a habit of praying, meditating, maybe listen to a spiritual podcasts or two, before I go about my day. It's healthier then waking up and reaching for the phone to check Facebook before even using the bathroom. It's MUCH healthier than taking time to write a judgemental , negative comment under someone's positive post. So there's that
@@corrinaamato8805 Hi sweetie, I didn´t read the comments until today! Don´t worry we can all agree to disagree. No harm was taken from any response, I got merrier and bigger things to take into account. Thanks for this interaction! Lots of love and light!
@@mariahm8526 💕
We are always so busy in their business- his/her business , that we forget and never seek to find and engage in our business... Well said👌💯
“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms-to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”
― Viktor E. Frankl
She's has to be the happiest looking person I have ever seen. She just seems so happy and exuberant with joy.
Doesn't she just exude etherealness, she is ageless beautiful inside and out?? 😍🤩🥰😇
** Oh btw, I wanted to make sure (for myself lol) that etherealness was a real word. It turns out it is 😆 and it very much explains Katie. I find it to be the perfect way to describe what I wanted to say lol:
Definition 1a & b ( seemed to really fit 😊😁) 🙏 namaste
1a : of or relating to the regions beyond the earth. b : celestial, heavenly. c : unworldly, spiritual.
Absolutely she is certainly an authentic enlightened human being
what did she just say ''when I believed my thoughts I suffered but when I didn't believe my thoughts I didn't suffer'' I think I can relate ,thank you Jay this for this tremendously valuable video!God bless you !!
So true we should always be helpful toward people no matter what not only your're doing good to that person in need, but God is seeing what your doing and is rewarding you down the line kindness is always a good thing it make your heart more pure.
If you’re doing good deeds for the reward you clearly haven’t understood God.
A great way to experience healing is to help others :)
its great to see my brothers commenting here :)
Yh that's right. 👍
Best and only way ..it's been my experience
@@MindNow 💯👌
life is certainly more fulfilling when beautiful wise souls like u Jay Shetty and Byron Katie share the profound wisdom of thoughts and words xxxxxxxxxxxxxx I a grateful Namaste
Fantastic, really interesting! We tend to be so hard on ourselves, so it's important to be self accepting, knowing we have more to offer living this way
knowing that we are NOT our thoughts! that is really important
Thanks! I love Katie ! She is my master for life ❤
My appreciation💕
In my experience ,The Work by Byron Katie gives possibility for straightway perceptions switch and ability for mind management.
Wow...Byron Katie seems like such a compassionate human being who's been through a very inspiring journey. What a wonderful discussion. Thank you Jay for inviting her to collaborate with you in this discussion.
What a coincidence today yesterday itself I finished Byron's amazing book "Love What Is" and today I got this amazing podcast
By the way it's really MAGICAL to see her teaching the lessons which I've learned from the book
It's called synchronicity!
When my life coach and my spiritual master that changed my life after cancer in 2004 and with whom I worked for from Paris and got the blessing to meet and greet, get together in a podcast and UA-cam video the only result is an enlightened world 🌎 I love you both !!!!
Thank you so much for this podcast, it has really helped me. I hesitated to listen to this podcast because I have always suffered with negative thoughts and it has held me back so much. To be honest it felt a little too uncomfortable to listen to it, but today I stuck it on and listened to it whilst I was cleaning my kitchen. As I listened. I just had this moment when I thought to myself the world is not against me and people aren't against me and I don't need to hang onto this negativity anymore, I can just let it go and feel worthy of good things coming into my life. Feel like a load of weight has been lifted off of me. It is such a simple switch in the mindset, yet so powerful. Thank you for allowing me to set myself free. You are both beautiful souls. Thank you xx
His speech inspires me a lot.I learned a lot from his words.I highly recommend the channel to those who are all struggling more mentally.Thanks to Jay ❣
Love Byron Katie! Been doing The Work for years and I'm so much better now. Love you too Jay Shetty!
This is sooo gorgeous! Thx Jay! I love the work u r doing, your love, your passion for bringing so much wisdom to the world. I’ve known Byron Katie’s work but now it is perfect time to put into practice. She is so authentic and fun and beautiful!!! Oh my Love her!
We r all sooo blessed w/ so much juicy wisdom all around us. It’s just which resonates most w/ us at anytime. Blessings
I am grateful and happy for this episode. When you know your true nature, you see it in everyone and everything.
Beautiful so insightful about questioning our thoughts, not judging them and realising not everything we think is true.
Thank you Katie and Jay
Thank you for the practical tips with the 4 inquiry questions. This is my favorite interview so far from your channel!
To awake and to have self esteem to equip new way of thinking and believing. And when we open our eyes the ego did not have opportunity to fill the space. Thanks for all such posts every week.
Wonderful authentic person! I am privileged to have come to hearing this. As a psychotherapist I had lost my way and listening to Byron brought me back to myself and validated who I am - thank you!
Thank you for posting this...this is really what I need at this moment...time for me to sit and take a break and think of next step
time will heal everything i hve been through such situation in my life,it's normal just be relax and wait for right time ❤️❤️👍
@Drunken Joe thanks Joe 😀...but injurious to health 😂
@@mariakhan6965 Maria thank you so much... really appreciated
I enjoyed this. Her last question to Jay Shetty was quite a powerful question I've ever heard someone ask, quite deep. Prayers to her!
She is so pure❤️ thank you for this Jay 🙇🏻♀️❤️
Aapko dekhte hi itni positivity milti hai....thanku so much
So powerful! I would love for her to explain her answers to the ending questions! Some of her answers were so deep, I'd need to think about them for a while. Gotta listen to this video again!!
I cannot for such amazing podcast by him ❤️❤️❤️💙❤️💙❤️
Feeling light hearted after hearing this beautiful message ❤️
Thank you for sharing your words and knowledge ❤️❣️🙏
Depression and anxiety is there same as good thoughts also reside within our brains.
It depends on us to question why we think what we think. If we can wake up each day and do what we do then we do not have a weak brain. It's all our choice, and we can think what we want to. Make your choices.
What an awesome interview!!!! Thank you for this!
How wonderful,, IMO Jay and Katie both have some of the most beautiful, naturally sparkling eyes. I wonder if it's a quality of the enlightened 🤔🤔?? You know what they say: 'Eyes are the windows to the soul"😇😁😊 , Such a beautiful view looking through these windows. Katie's violet color, Liz Taylor vibe , eyes. and Jay has a unique hazel/green/ grayish hue, it's hard to really identify exactly the color which makes them even more hyptnotizing. Love, Love , Love!!! Beautiful podcast, I was feeling very low, just left the house crying after a huge argument with my daughter and I did some of The Work in my head (I'm driving yall, can't write) and it really helped me see a different perspective. I cant wait to get home and see what comes out of writing this problem out. I'm less tense, my neck and shoulders aren't as tight. I've learned so much from you Katie and am glad that searching for you introduced me to Jay. Love -corrina
Jay is the best motivational speaker... And thank you for this vedio... This is very important... 👍👍👍👍Thank you Jay... 😊
Wonderful interview and added knowledge, thanks Jetty.
In know you focus interviewing celebrities, and notable people!
You would be surprised just to take a few minutes to hear from what we contribute to the society! I seek a short zoom meeting with you!
Yes, always question your thoughts. But never question another person's actions. The way they treat you really is the way they fell about you. Believe your gut feeling, not your thoughts
Every word a blessing!
Thank you😊❤🌹
Thank you 🙏
I'm in a weird situation with a man.
I think I love him,
but... I don't know
if this thing we have is actually healthy,
or really just another trauma bond.
I need prayers. Him and I both do,
that whatever this is between us,
will ultimately be for our own healing.
And that we will co-create something
that is loving and magical and beautiful
and happy and wonderful and miraculous
and healthy, together.
Love and/or friendship
to last lifetimes...
Love from Bangladesh🇧🇩🇧🇩
This is good to know that there a
is good in this universe and there are good people we can relate to on this channel that wanna do better
toughts will not change how you feel, just you will try to escape of it to others emotions. put love, responsability and conscience on your traumas for disolve it.
What a beautiful interview
I cried towards the end at the goodbye. This is so touching. Truly the energy shared between you two explodes through the screen. Thank you both.
Thankyou for the insight on the thoughts that she said about the time wen she spoke about wen ur were young and u take on the issue will help the people with childhood emotional neglect cheers and thx going to put that into practise I am not my thoughts 🌻🌻
Right on time .. ❤️✨🙏🏼
Amazing Thank you for sharing
Thank you both sooo much you are really helping me as I'm the same really down very much anxiety sending you love and light and many blessings stay safe and well thank you for 🙏🙏🌈🌈🌈🌈🙏🙏🙏🙏🌈🌈💜💜💜🌹🌹🌹🌹
Thank you, subscribed. I liked your feelings of prayer at the end. To speak about emotions as it is what Jesus made us. I used to feel guilty less often but since turning to Christ and church groups I have started to feel guilty more often, and you know what - it is for the better. When driving away from Jesus I feel more confident but when returning to church, the guilt comes back. At church we bring it up sometimes and our group agreed that part of faith is to celebrate our guilt, because it keeps us clean and beneath Him. Encouraging guilt is be part of our Christian culture that we inherited. I would not be ashamed of guilt as it is part of being a good Christian, and those that are not guilty might not be forgiven and thus might not reach heaven. I myself often have guilty feelings of not enough faith in God but I use this guilt to ask for forgiveness so I can be saved. I don’t think we should try to overcome our guilt but recognise it as part of being a Christian, even if it is difficult to live with. Even if we feel worse with this guilt, it I better to have it and know that we are true Christians. It brings us down, but it brings us together. Together, and down. Amen.
Thank you
best thing you did!
I love you so much you inspire me so much
Wonderful interaction ❤️
Start changing your thoughts every thoughts have frequency and they attract like- Ronda Byrne The secret
Powerful❤
Holy Cow Jay! How did you book Byron Katie before Tom, Tim, and Chase?! This is a huge compliment BTw!
Thankyouu
Jay I can feel her blessing upon you. So powerful. Meeting her is like meeting an angel on earth. Her presence is so loving 🥰 and peaceful. I can’t wait for you to be in her presence. I made it my mission when dr. Dyer passed.
No story, no problem 🙏
what about a child then ... children dont ahve stories ... they have a natural response to sensations relating to their environment ... if there was trauma, a child doesnt say to itself .. 'oh I cant trust my parents, they are supposed to care for me and they hurt me ... they are just feeling sensations or fear, shock, confusion, pain .... they dont create the thoughts around such experiences, only the adult mind looking BACK on the experience creates the thoughts .. so how can any of what they are speaking of relate to childhood trauma, which happens on a deeper level.
1. when you question your thought you don't suffer but when you believe your thought you suffer.
2. if you are dealing with trauma go back and meditate to the thing you were thinking and believing that caused the trauma
3. what we are attracted to is what we are thinking and believing
4. be in the present. example: as you are reading this you must not be somewhere else at the same time. don't be in the present, in the past, and in the future at the same time
Thanks for another great lesson! Been through a lot of pain and grief lately and this is just a reminder that there is always a way to move forward from your darkest moments. "Let go of the past,but keep the lessons it taught you"-Chiara Gizzi
6:38 "An Unquestioned life is not worth living"
11:05
Let go and let god!!
Can someone ask how does this process works for decisions.. in my case that is what drives my overthinking and takes me away from present moment..
how did I create this? and why?
falling for a man: obsessed with health and fitness.
and me? diabetic. fat. overweight: my whole life.
he's vegan.
I love meat.
he's a fitness trainer.
leisure walks are the only exercise I get.
I have a bad back, I can't do much.
fitness is far from my thing.
why would I do this to myself?
fall for a man that would/could never fall for me back?
Are u kidding me 😮 these policies are fear based ! Ads suck ! Thank you for highlighting the good stuff though❤
This is basically Buddhism in a nutshell. The only thing I will say to someone suffering is what she figured out is usually much more of a process than just an instant realization. So if you are suffering what she is talking about is basically the way. Just don’t get frustrated if it takes you much more time. Also, get in touch with the body. That’s where all the emotions are stored.
I'm in a deep dark suicidal depression, friends.
My soul: raped. My heart: heavy with grief.
How can a child be thinking thoughts he or she are responsible for for causing the trauma!!!!!!!! or even adults that trust predators that ruin lives, health... this is insane!
How can I get in touch with you jay
I love you Jay I have no boyfriends I'm genius love God and humanity I hate evilness in the world
👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍
what if you cannot remember the trauma or were too young to know what you were thinking or feeling then ... as a child you are not thikning and believing .. you are feeling sensations based upon traumatic experience ... so I dont think you can use this for childhood trauma .. any words we put to it are overlays by our present adult mind ...they keep taking about thinking 'this person is someone I should trust and yet they hurt me ' etc ... and that means our THOUGHTS are about not being able to trust .. but a child donest have those thoughts !!! its just a physcial sensation of shock or truama .. they arent analysing their feelings with thoughts
Respected sir please raise you voice on Sushant the India's burning issue.
If you know mothing to be true then you have not met Jesus. Seek him and you will know his truth and it will set you free
Jay shetty sir lives in which country?
U.S.A
UK
LA
So, how is this much different than CBT exactly?
That’s my thought. CBT + Louise Hay/Marissa Peer! laugh out loud! Not minimizing it; as this is transforming lives!
I don’t know CBT but I’ve heard it may have similarities. I know The Work is very spiritually oriented
Does anyone have any tips for me, I'm a 6 foot 3 guy, but I'm bad with girls, I'm also pretty shy, so does anyone have some tips for me? Would really appreciate it!
The Royal Gamerzz own all of your qualities man.
@@TheTuberQ what do you mean?
The Royal Gamerzz by what I read in your comment, its seems to me you are not content with yourself being shy. You also feel shameful or doubt yourself, because you believe you are bad with girls. Ask yourself, why are you shy? Why do you think you are shy? Is it because you want the other person to approve of you? Especially when its a girl!? Does it feel like your brain shuts off when you talk to those people?
The bottom line is that if you are shy, own that. You can always change and improve your qualities as time goes by, for instance just asking a stranger for the time (even if you know the time), just to get used to striking up conversation. But it helps first owning your shyness, to its fullest, you being 100% content with that. It’s not something that is “bad”. If you start with that attitude and then work towards attaining more social freedom, the road towards that will be a lot more joyful and fun. You will enjoy the process. The process will actually become a lot easier for you. You wont beat yourself up to much when you make a mistake. Get rid of being perfect. It doesn’t exist. It only exists in the magazines and movies where all you see is this false image of beauty and charisma. You go at your own pace my friend. I know you can do it. It’s doesn’t have to be a strenuous mission to fix your qualities you wish were better.
Heck, I also have a lot of qualities I wish i could still improve on, and I will. I will make a conscious effort to do so, and not let fear hold me back. But at the end of the day, don’t do any of this for other people. I mean, improving yourself that girls will like you more. Because this will not serve you. Do the improvements to server YOURSELF, then you will be amazed how the girls will follow. Without you even trying.
You don’t need tips on how to become better, you need to embody the will and desire to become better.
I hope this makes sense. Much love bro, peace
Telling yourself you are shy isnt a helpful thought. Accept yourself as you are. Introverts are just that: not extroverts! Someone's got to do the listening !! Try focussing outward." Is this girl someone I like? What qualities do we share, what interests do we share? Do I like HER ?" Focus outward. Comb your hair, do whatever physically you can do outwardly, and then forget your appearance. Focus outward. Pay attention to what is around you , and your gut reactions. ~ fellow introvert
You are going to have to figure out a way around it. I was shy all through highschool and it kept me from so many things. Now I cold call people and go to people's homes and meet in person for a living. First thing I can think is take quick action. See a girl, think you want to say hi. Take action within 3 seconds or your brain will shut you down. Taking quick action overrides that and puts it in play before it has a chance to shut you down. Hope that helps.
God is awesome love jesus Christ and quantum physics love art music and humanity DVD creator but not getting paid
nice lady.
the video turned into a lot of telling us about her life and her husband and generally how great her life is.
and that's fine. can make one feel even worse.
She went through a horrible depression and breakdown some years ago and that’s how TheWork came to fruition. She was in utter despair and her story is on the internet or in her books
@@beholden1663
Hi. If you have a link to her story I’d be grateful. Thanks .
@@Onlinesully her is her audiobook. Her story is in the beginning of the book
ua-cam.com/video/amt7L0HyvtE/v-deo.html
@@beholden1663
thanks
for sure I’ll give it a listen
Send me a ticket to california
Is Shetty with an " i " or " e "?
I want to talk to u ....
I don't care.
Jay this guy stole my music money he is evil stole everything
What?
what is this horrible video quality! - amazing conversation nonetheless