who doesn’t wanna share a vulnerable moment with your significant other with hundreds of thousands of your closest friends? what could POSSIBLY go wrong?!
That part where the couple admitted they hadn’t told the kids about the breakup hit too close to home. My mother found out a few years ago that her parents had been secretly divorced since 1970 when she was 5 and my sisters, my father and I witnessed how badly it fucked with her mentally and emotionally. Can’t believe someone has to say this, but to any couples in the process of splitting, ABSOLUTELY tell your kids. Edit: thought I’d give a little update as I forgot a key piece of info. My grandfather was very manipulative and verbally abusive, so there’s a chance that not even my grandmother knew they were divorced… he’s been dead for like 15 years as well so the fact that we found out about this fairly recently only adds to what a shitty situation it is. My final point remains the same, if you and your partner are going through a divorce and you have kids together, TELL THEM.
@@winonaooh-na-na6908 unfortunately I’m not kidding. Her father was a horrible, verbally abusive man who passed about 15-16 years ago. So I wasn’t exactly surprised considering him and who he was but I definitely didn’t expect it from my grandmother who’s like the polar opposite of him.
@@annanguessan-ble6488 Yep, that’s exactly what they did. They lived together and raised her but on paper they were divorced and I can’t imagine he stayed faithful after that. He was kinda terrible to just about everyone he knew, even his own daughter and my sisters and me.
Ew doing a "prank" like pretending to break up to get a reaction to a child is disgusting. Thinking their world they've known since birth is suddenly going to be broken up is not something to joke about.
My parents were fighting a lot when I was growing up and my biggest fear was for them to break up. From what I've learned this concerns a lot of children even though their parents might be living peacefully together. So this makes me very, very uncomfortable and angry. Why the f would you put your child through something like this when your biggest task as a parent is to keep your kid safe and teach them that the world is an okay place to live in
@@julirasanen My parents aren't divorced, and I am 32, but I remember when I was around 7 or 8, my parents were in the kitchen arguing (they didn't do this often, at least not in earshot of us), I went to my two little brother's room, they were 4 and 6, but they were crying and I just remember my middle brother saying, "mom and dad are going to get divorced!". I calmed them down, told them it wasn't gonna happen. It bothered me too but as I think back on it today, as little as my parents argued just seeing what it did to my little brothers that one time.
Exactly. I remember when my parents told my sister and I they were getting a divorce when I was five. Even though they argued all the time and it was an unhealthy environment and my sister and I were definitely in a more functional environment after the divorce, it was still painful in that moment. They just put that girl through a lot of pain just for views. Absolutely disgusting.
It really struck a nerve with me. Even though my parents are happy and still married, there was a time when they were arguing and my dad did nearly walk out just to get some space. Even the suggestion that they might been heading towards separating was deeply upsetting and has stuck with me after all these years. Granted, I was a lot younger than the girl in the video and didn’t fully understand what was happening, but it’s a really fucked up ‘prank’ to pull on your child :/
I’m gonna give it to ya straight Tara. I don’t think the Cow wants to show up on camera. I know this is hard for you to hear, but the excuses after excuses after excuses from the Cow tells me that she doesn’t want to be in the videos. Now, this is likely nothing against you personally. It’s possible, even likely she’s camera shy and you two simply need to have a conversation. That’s just my two cents though, I could totally be wrong. Lovely video as always. Good, GOD thank you all for the like!
No but Tara said that the cow might appear in the next video, so I think we should wait until until that video is released to see if she is in it before we come to any conclusions
Those lines about her "giving up" on the relationship or how he's trying and she isn't just give me major flashbacks to my dad talking about his separation from my mum. It totally ignores the years she'd spent working on trying to make the relationship work and he hadnt bothered. At least to my dad, "making it work" meant he changed nothing and she just learnt to tolerate everything. It's also very walk away wife phenomenon. Those wives aren't typically leaving out of the blue and not trying. They've typically been trying for years and it hasn't been working (either due to stonewalling or just normal incompatibility). But suddenly the consequences of things not work effect the husband and *then* it's a problem that needs working on. Nah, it needed working on years earlier. Now there's nothing left to work on
Yes, I think it sucks. Maybe I'm exagerating because I felt emotionally trapped in a relationship I didn't want to be in, but I hate the idea that you should not "give up". Like when you're done, you're done. Of course it's more complicated when kids are involved, but you can't keep a person in a relationship just because you want to and you are trying. You both have to want it. And then the comments blaming her for "not trying enough", you don't know how they both handled it all these years.
when I was younger I was a huge Liza Koshi fan and I was so upset that she and David broke up but looking back, it was probably one of the best things to ever happen to her career
Are there a lot of Catholics in Southern England? I don’t know precisely where Tara lives and I’m just guessing based on the accent, but I am a huge British history nerd so I’m curious about that considering the intense history of religious fighting in the different parts of the UK.
@@laurenconrad1799 It’s def not unheard of across the UK, and also there’s internal migration so her ancestors could have been Irish based on her surname
The only thing that raised my eyebrow of suspicion was ”TELL THE AUDIENCE I DIDN’T CHEAT” but that’s probably because I don’t do public work and have thousands of potential harassers coming for me.
yeah I can see why that would look dodgy - but honestly like you said I think it's because she knew she'd get dogpiled. When you're a content creator you're ALWAYS conscious of how people will react to everything you say - so I reckon it was just that.
Omg you do not need to apologize for having sponsors! Have a sponsor on every video, get that bag! You deserve it for all the fantastic content you put out!
Agreed! UA-cam's monetization system is so fickle, creators often need sponsors to keep going. If someone doesn't want to listen, clicking forward a few times won't kill them. Also, I heard of Wren and singed up through Tara, so it's a pretty great sponsor to have.
1. dont apologize for getting sponsorships, you deserve them all 2. please once you hit a certain amount of subscribers, have someone dress up in a cow costume and be in the video as *the* cow, our favourite writer and producer
I actually saw a few comments clarifying that the guy in that relationship had a history of being extremely manipulative and considering his negging and villifying throughout their video, I believe it.
@@Froggele I agree. Unfortunately, as Tara pointed out even simply through the making of this video, people are going to judge and they have. Most have judged the woman in this scenario rather harshly, as is usually the case. I shared a little information I learned from one of their former fans and while I'm not passing any definitive judgment on him, I don't find it difficult to believe. Both were being toxic to one another in this video, but if we're already having a discussion about their dynamics, it's important to highlight the abusive tactics on display here so that others can be more aware of them. I hope that makes sense. I appreciate your heart and I admire your sense of peace.
I got that same vibe from him and noticed how passive-aggressive he was acting, and not in a wounded way, but more in a "get back at her by making subtle digs" way. That's just my opinion.
@@Cat-tastrophee Yeah, exactly. I think it's easier to spot when you've been on the receiving end already. Some of the questions he asked her were accusatory entrapment. It's not cute.
@@Cat-tastrophee I was surprised after the first clips of them, that Tara explained how the viewers had villified... her? His remarks, putting her down throughout, brought back war flashbacks.
I'm glad you talked about that first video- the "worst breakup video." I do think that she did some wrong things, but I feel like they were very obviously mutually toxic. I mean, from what I recall, didn't she literally say that he threw things at her when he got angry??? But people glossed over that, and made this into a story about her being a self-obsessed vindictive bitch and him being a nice caring guy who got screwed over, when from it really seems like it was unhealthy from both sides.
I saw it the other way too tho, but in general we don't know these people we don't really know whats going on, both of them seemed toxic and I think thinking too much over these people wont get anyone far
exactly - I was going to mention what she said about him throwing things but I need to be very careful about making accusations that I can't back up. But yeah - that did worry me greatly.
@@TaraMooknee That *does* make a lot of sense- We don't really know any of the details. It's super weird to me how they just vaguely mentioned a whole bunch of concerning stuff and didn't clarify any of it.....I think they rly just used their UA-cam audience as a couple's therapist honestly
The oscar and kyra breakup gave me so many flashbacks to my own parents’ relationship. They were both ridiculously immature, too young to have kids, and came from extremely dysfunctional families themselves. It was an absolute sh*tshow for years until they finally divorced. Every “attempt at therapy” was just ammunition for future fights, they refused to grow up in any capacity and broke up repeatedly without explanation, always to my relief. I don’t immediately screech “what about the children” because I begged my parents to get tf away from each other for YEARS and couldn’t fathom why they couldn’t just go their separate ways. I still have nightmares that my parents are getting back together and I’m 30. I don’t like to assume that the kids will look back on this video and be traumatized, it could offer them valuable context and help them process how immature and ridiculous their parents are/were. I’m 99% sure that being created and used for money and followers is going to f*ck with their heads much more than their parents breaking up.
Same, especially the parts about the nightmares of them getting back together or like being on family vacation with both of my parents… it’s really weird in some way that I’m happier with them being divorced but they’re both in happier relationships so it also makes sense. Them not breaking up would’ve been way more traumatizing.
This thread is oddly comforting. I still feel a little guilty for being relieved about my parents getting a divorce. Hell I even encouraged my mom to go through with it when she brought it up to me (I was the first one to know), they’re both a little bitter still but overall I think they’ve grown a lot since they separated and even though they’re not quite as financially stable/comfortable, I think they’re both a lot happier and only seem to get more so with time.
@@a1exneedsahamdleplease Same. I begged my mom to finally divorce my father after they ,tried reconciling‘ for a year. It was hell :/ my dad is still bitter but it’s slowly getting better and my mom is happier :) they both found new partners and it’s definitely for the better
@@juli5945 worse than that is the family channels that do genuine pranks on their children, the kids are desperately sobbing while the parents laugh at them asking why they are upset
The couple with 4 kids didn’t seem that bad in my opinion, I think the problem in their case is over-sharing and believing they owe an explanation to people they don’t even know. Neither of them seem like bad people; I just feel like they’re so consumed with pleasing their audience that they forget it’s okay to resolve things in private. Also, you shouldn’t be forcing people to ‘try harder’ in a relationship they genuinely want to leave for good.
Why do breakup videos exist? Because UA-cam actively markets their platform to children who don’t know better. Most adults have better things to worry about than UA-cam breakups for clout.
I called Disney's Olaf at 3AM and we BROKE UP! Story time | Saddest I have ever been! | Laptop giveaway in pinned comment (chosen winner definitely wont be one of my own throwaway accounts this time!)
Yeah I get the ones where the fans see that they aren't hanging around each other anymore and keep pestering the YTers about what happened so they unfortunately have to address it so they can leave the situation alone
Don't worry about the sponsorships, you've got to pay the bills and you've signed contracts. And a minute or two-segment about some product is worth all the free content we get
I love how she's low-key funny. It's not extremely in your face. Whenever calm people do comedy and don't laugh at their jokes, it's literally the best thing. And then when you mix that with criticism of things that are going on currently in the world, you get this channel. 💜 🖤 :-)
Must be insane to break up when your relationship is literally your job. There’s not just the emotional burden, but a direct financial consequence. Not to mention the backlash.
Can you imagine a relationship that you hate being in ALSO being your job? Everyone accused Kyra of being so "giddy" because of a honeymoon phase with a new man, but I can't imagine the weight from her shoulders that must have been lifted.
my parents broke up almost 17 years ago and I'm still fed in the head. even with therapy some wounds are hard to heal. personally, not telling your children in my humble opinion, even if they are young, is insane. i'm glad my parents told me when they did.
My parents split when I was a baby, told me outright that it wasn’t my fault, my response? Of course it’s not. They never fought over me, both stayed consistently in my life, and I honestly think it was a better upbringing than I’d get otherwise - still gave me a serious fear of change, especially as an undiagnosed autistic kid. I can’t imagine the long term effects of a divorce like that, being aired on camera.
My fiancé and I of 7 years broke up last week and this video hit some raw nerves but was perfectly timed because my now-ex and I are turning our "relationship goals" to "breakup goals"; 2 months of no contact, just plastering a text on socials without any videos, and then restarting as friends after an interim of no contact with all of her friends still my friends and vice versa. None of this awkward "We Broke Up" video bollocks
Similar thing here, so this video definitely hit some raw nerves for me as well. I broke up with my boyfriend of six years a few months ago and while it might not have gone well, at least it didn't go this poorly! Can't imagine recording my issues between me and my boyfriend, editing it, and the posting the whole mess and thinking "surely this will only bring me money and nothing else".
I hope you're ok, I just want to flag that two months no contact might not be long enough. If you resume contact and find its too much, please step away again and don't force yourself into uncomfortable positions. My friend and her partner of 7 years broke up and they tried to stay friends after a period of no contact because of the intertwined friend group but it didn't work. It was awful. It's been three years and they're only okay in group situations now - both have new partners. So please do not pressure yourself after two months. I'd be thinking more of year long timeframes.
@@PointSoldiers also it’s ok not to be friends. I wonder if people automatically assume that’s the case because it’s expected as the “best” conclusion to a breakup. At least they’re going no contact which is good, the worst thing you can do is decide “we’re friends now” right after the fact
Take all the time you need to get over the breakup, bestie. I know it took me almost a year to fully recover from my own; we were also engaged, had been together for five years and were best friends. The only thing I wanted when it happened was to remain friends with him, which thankfully didn't happen. Now, after almost three years, I look back at the situation and realize I wouldn't even want to be his friend anymore. I've changed so, sooo much that we wouldn't have anything in common now (I mean, assuming he's still the same person, which I doubt), and I'm okay with that.
In her defense, I also tend to interrupt people when I'm feeling attacked, like when I feel like people look at me in a bad light or are going to believe things about me that aren't true. It's not on purpose, I always feel awkward noticing it afterwards or when people say I'm interrupting them (also I really hate when people interrupt me myself so it makes me feel guilty) but it's just automatic when my thoughts are racing due to intense feelings.
I think my main issue with the OKBaby breakup is not that they broke up but that they are posting these videos and making it a spectacle.... Like they could have made a 2 minute video just saying "We broke up, we are going to stay in the same house and co-parent and still make vlogs, but we just wanted to let you as our audience know." But instead they are oversharing and I just feel like it's unfair to their kids to have this out there. And at one point Kyra was defending herself on Instagram live with her kid in the background. It just makes me feel so bad for the kids :( I have to wonder if they're milking it for money since they know their channel won't last post-breakup.
Can‘t they do two co-parenting channels? I feel like that would be interesting. Well, if it was a healthy relationships, here it would probably be a disaster
Listened to a podcast where the hosts were a couple, and then broke up, but continued to host the podcast together. But they just started one podcast giving us the news, telling us it wasn't our fault and they still loved us, and then continuing the podcast as normal. No details, and none needed
I got with my ex at 17 and we had a child when I was 20. We grew up and were completely wrong for each other. Getting with someone before 25 is getting with someone before your brain is fully developed along with who you truly are as a person. Also 4 kids in that time is a lot. Physically you're recommended to space kids out by at least two years for the mother's health.
That “worst breakup” couple just seemed super young. The issues that they mentioned were things young (or young minded) people do when seeking attention/validation. Helping someone of the opposite sex with “emotional issues”, not communicating things the other is doing that bother you right off the bat and allowing resentment to build, those are things that happen when you’re not confident in yourself. You can’t figure out what the core issue is b/c you don’t know yourself well enough to figure it out. And how can you be confident in your partner if you’re not even confident in your own decisions?? They’re not bad people! They’re just normal folks telling everyone their business lol
@@abbymaddox7616 l think if the Girl Defined chicks genuinely got divorced, their version of a “break-up video” would be a bunch of videos without their husbands and then a video denying that they were ever married. “Who is this husband that my comments constantly ask about? I would never get divorced. It’s against God.” I can imagine the denial already. 😂
"Pranking" your child by making them sit in front of a camera whilst you convince them you're spitting up, and then posting that video to the internet, is a level of cruelty I'm struggling to comprehend. Like...do you hate your child? Is that why you'd do that to her?? My god, that poor kiddo, my heart breaks for her if this is the kind of "humor" her parents think is acceptable.
On this episode of people online exploiting every facet of their lives for the sake of content. It’s ridiculous that break up videos are a genre of content I’ve been consuming since I was a CHILD. What I’m trying to say is I stopped believing in love after the Liza and David break up, had me crying like a child of divorce.
Tara, this is totally unrelated, but i just wanted to thank u for uploading a video tonight of all nights, i had a pretty rough day, two people who i knew of passed away and my friend's cancer has come back, i genuinely didn't know how i was going to make thru the night, and this is a really good distraction, as short as it may seem. THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart.
My condolences to you ❤️ if you haven’t checked out Edvasian, Courtreezy and Internet Mom Ash… they are 3 of my favorite UA-camrs that get me through many hard days. Great humor, relatability, just love them. Hope these help 😊
Please don’t apologize for taking sponsors. It’s so hard out there for creators. We need to stop shaming “getting the bag” especially when you’re doing it with clearly curated and ethical choices.
For me it looked like she was just more articulate about her reasoning behind breaking up, because with her being the dumper she just got more time to think this through and he was still processing, in that post-break up sulking way. Just two people in different mindsets about situation they got themselves into - I also couldn’t understand this uninamous hate towards her. For me she maybe wasn’t emotional in appearance, but her words seemed kind of self-reflective. Thank you for voicing your mind about it, because I felt like something was wrong with me when i saw comments section 😅.
For me, I don't mind if someone "gives up" on a relationship, because that relationship probably wasn't meant to be. I also don't believe she cheated. However, there are moments that have some STRONG gaslighting vibes on her part. Like, she'll say one thing, he'll call her out, and then she'll claim she never said that. Of course, being 25 and a mom of 4? That's a lot. I'm sure that a lot goes on in that house that isn't shown on camera, and she's probably breaking down. I doubt she even realizes what she's doing.
you talk like a teacher, but i mean it in the best possible way. Like the teacher who is passionate about the subject and doesn't pick favourites, like the teacher who you can trust if you're bullied, or who actually cares about how your weekend was.
I couldn't agree more on your take, no crucifixes here! Feelings can't really be controlled, and if you are no longer in-love with the person you got together with when you were barely an adult, it's really the most respectful thing to break things off... through therapy, not on camera, lol!
Dear Tara, I feel bad that you felt the need to apologize for having sponsorships. I think it is great that you are getting paid to do these videos apart from patreon
People will do anything for views and it's truly terrifying. If two consenting adults want to capitalize on their relationship drama, that's their business, but the family channels really get to me. Those poor kids. On another note, really glad to hear you're feeling better. January tends to be a tough month, so taking space and recharge time is important. Getting paid for your work is also important, just saying. Get those sponsorships. We love to see it.
My friend started a label "Catholic Guilt Clothing" - initially just as a lockdown project to avoid climbing the walls during hundreds of days of Melbourne lockdown. I saw her first few pieces and encouraged her to consider making them for others, and the label has really taken off. The name was just perfection, I laughed so hard when she revealed that decision due to the nature of her creations... so many of the most original and gorgeous things I've seen; handmade chainmail, salvaged scraps of leather and even pieces made from a bulk lot of discarded little religious icons and crucifixes. Plus she's an extremely talented musician, singer songwriter and sound engineer so the music she adds to the fashion is sublime. Wouldn't usually promote an Insta on UA-cam, but Catholic Guilt clothing embodies everything I want of wearable art to shed some of the damage religion can do to our self-image.
I feel like in the breakup video the girl.. she mentions that he threw stuff, and yelled it makes me feel so awful for her. It clearly wasn’t a good situation to be in. I remember when I broke up with my abuser I was SO HAPPY. so if that’s the situation I totally get why she’s all smiles
Love your content, Tara. But I care about your well being more. Don't feel bad for taking the time you need to recover. I was exposed to Covid a few weeks ago and luckily tested negative, but while I was waiting for results I was so scared. You're brave AF. Take good care of yourself and the cow ❤❤❤
The best thing about preparing for the Cambridge Proficiency Exam is being able to watch your videos AND feeling productive while doing so :D No but seriously, I think my English has improved a lot by watching your videos, because you are very articulate and "challenge" my gramatical and semantic ranges more that other types of content on the platform. As always: keep up the good work! Edit 1: Don't feel bad about having sponsorships for your videos! I am genuinely sooo happy everytime you get one! You put a lot of hard work into making them, so it's only deserved that you can make a living out of them! Edit 2: Thank you all for your good wishes! Edit 3: Came here to tell you that I actually passed with a very good grade! Thank you all for the nice wishes!
I wonder what the overall statistics on that would be. I would imagine most people find being dumped harder because for a moment (depending on the relationship and how it goes) you’re in that very uncomfortable position where somone else has your feelings in their hands, it’s not a fun feeling…especially if you feel compelled to plead and beg. of course it’s been a very long time since i had to be the instigator so who knows
@@91Vault I think it depends on the person. I have Avoidant Personality Disorder so if I find out someone no longer wants to be with me, it's a painful experience just like it would be for anyone but my response is to get as far away from the pain as possible. I detach and avoid. When I've had to dump someone else, I have to be the one to create and cause the pain. I feel horribly guilty about it and then have to be the instigator of a painful, awkward experience which I want to desperately avoid at all costs, hence why it's so much harder for me to dump someone else.
how fun! my carbon footprint is 2.4 tons a year or about half the worlds's average, and if everyone lived like me, we'd reach 1.5°C by 2040 anyways! Its good for everyone to reduce their own impact, but individual action is not the solution to this crisis. we need systemic action, not some "i did may part so i can feel okay about it now" band aids. our way of living is unsustainable and pumping money into this organisation is not going to fix it. i would suggest everything from voting to civil disobedience and industrial sabotage, but i truly doubt that we can stop the momentum of the capitalist machine in time to prevent 2°C, especially considering how invested your average first world citizen is in keeping or upgrading their consumerist way of life.
Thank you for this comment! I'd rather donate to organizations that are working on changing legislation than quick fixes that, while awesome and sometimes super smart, won't change anything in the long run.
There's also a name for feeling happy about a partner's happiness with someone else (anti-jealousy, in effect): Compersion! It's only weird within the narrow framework of normative monogamy.
6:15 oh no, this is..this is so bad. It’s like going on a double date with a struggling couple who are trying to joke about their issues, but are both about to start screaming at each other, and you’re just sitting there going “Christ, someone get me out of here”. You can just feel the rage and hostility radiating off these two as they’re trying to make light of it.
Please don't apologise, prioritise your health. I love your content like so many other people but I don't think anyone wants you to feel pressured to produce said content. Take your time and get well. As for sponsors, everyone understands, you get that bread! And thanks for this nuanced take I didn't know I needed
After a break up it is SO easy for onlookers to vilify either one of the parties involved. Posting a video about it on the internet seems like a sure way to make that happen. One of them is always going to be seen as the villain
This is really cathartic because at the end of 2020 I broke up with my college girlfriend whom I’d been with for about 4 years at the time (we met in 2016) and I felt guilty or something that I’d wasted her time but it was becoming clearer and clearer we wanted different things
I cant lie, i tune in mostly because i love Tara and shes hilarious...but the other small part is because im gona absolutely lose it when i see that cow damnit lol
Don't feel bad about every video being sponsored, plenty of youtubers have every video sponsored. This is free content on a free website we really can't complain.
don't apologize girl!!! get your bag!!! you being able to financially sustain content creation just means more videos for us :) we want you to be fairly compensated for all the lovely free videos you make us
As a person whose parents got divorced by the time she was 6, the kids know SOMETHING is up. I used to think they were like roommates, they never showed affection or anything, I don't even remember them interacting at all. Those poor children aren't gonna know what's real or fake:'(
On that last note, you should not at all be sorry for having sponsored videos! It is known that UA-cam doesn't pay great (unless you post a breakup video, amirite) so please, get your bag while delivering this great content.
OK Baby’s break up video and their follow up one brought back some cringe teenage memories when “couples” who were dating for several years (from 15 to 18, for example, which is ages in the teenage world) grew away to be different people but tried to play their break up cool (aka “we are best friends and I wish you to find love but I will secretly cry for hours and bully that person in the future) in front of their shared company of friends and half-friends. I am 28, why do I keep thinking of high school kek. Maybe because this couple were so young when they were literally tied together with family and kids, maybe it didn’t let them somehow grow emotionally in the way they could do it being single. Also, don’t listen to me, little do I know 🥴
Honestly it just makes me happy to see you getting sponsors your content is so good and I don't mind a couple ads here and there so should keep getting them.
No need to apologize about the sponsorships! I 1000% understand about covid and post-covid health issues. Just keep going at a pace that's good for you, we're all here for you!! Much love to you, Ziggy, and the cow ❤
Get your money, Mooknee! I'm here to be entertained and I frequent your videos bc they're entertaining. Vice versa, you want to share your thoughts w us. This is a labor of love and you deserve to be sponsored for your efforts. Godspeed. 💕🌟
You get that coin, Tara! No need to apologize for that :) If it is not something unethical or straight up lying, then I am just happy for creators getting sponsors.
Tara, you have absolutely NO reason to apologise, you're providing us content which takes time and resources to make, it's only fair that you get compensation for that. In other words, get that bag!!
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i will offset my carbon footprint on Wren, as a treat. Thanks Tara
Great video and I hope you're doing better mentally and physically😉 Don't apologize too much, the add is never the central part of the video!
Dont apologize for doing sponsorships, especially a cool project like this. Get that coin!
I knew that barbie was where you got your outro from! The ending of toy story
This is such a cool sponsorship!
who doesn’t wanna share a vulnerable moment with your significant other with hundreds of thousands of your closest friends? what could POSSIBLY go wrong?!
I love to see my favorite youtubers interacting
@@ablablan Ikr same
Read this in your voice, made it 1,000 % better and weirder bc i didn't know i remembered what you sound like
Well hello there Queen of the sinners
This whole topic reminds of that time when, somebody who I thought was my friend, outed me in front of the entire class in school.
Sending love and support to the cow as she’s going through this breakup 💔💔💔 they were my OTP and I no longer believe in love, etc., etc.
omg its you babe ily
love is dead
Oml hi queen! Love your videos!
Omg shanspeare hey sis! I love your videos.
I think the “ect., etc.” is what really sells this comment for me
That part where the couple admitted they hadn’t told the kids about the breakup hit too close to home. My mother found out a few years ago that her parents had been secretly divorced since 1970 when she was 5 and my sisters, my father and I witnessed how badly it fucked with her mentally and emotionally. Can’t believe someone has to say this, but to any couples in the process of splitting, ABSOLUTELY tell your kids.
Edit: thought I’d give a little update as I forgot a key piece of info. My grandfather was very manipulative and verbally abusive, so there’s a chance that not even my grandmother knew they were divorced… he’s been dead for like 15 years as well so the fact that we found out about this fairly recently only adds to what a shitty situation it is. My final point remains the same, if you and your partner are going through a divorce and you have kids together, TELL THEM.
jesus christ!! your joking right?!
@@winonaooh-na-na6908 unfortunately I’m not kidding. Her father was a horrible, verbally abusive man who passed about 15-16 years ago. So I wasn’t exactly surprised considering him and who he was but I definitely didn’t expect it from my grandmother who’s like the polar opposite of him.
Did they just live and raise them together while being divorced?
@@annanguessan-ble6488 Yep, that’s exactly what they did. They lived together and raised her but on paper they were divorced and I can’t imagine he stayed faithful after that. He was kinda terrible to just about everyone he knew, even his own daughter and my sisters and me.
The f---? What is up with some people?
Ew doing a "prank" like pretending to break up to get a reaction to a child is disgusting. Thinking their world they've known since birth is suddenly going to be broken up is not something to joke about.
agreed, hi btw! 😍
My parents were fighting a lot when I was growing up and my biggest fear was for them to break up. From what I've learned this concerns a lot of children even though their parents might be living peacefully together.
So this makes me very, very uncomfortable and angry. Why the f would you put your child through something like this when your biggest task as a parent is to keep your kid safe and teach them that the world is an okay place to live in
@@julirasanen My parents aren't divorced, and I am 32, but I remember when I was around 7 or 8, my parents were in the kitchen arguing (they didn't do this often, at least not in earshot of us), I went to my two little brother's room, they were 4 and 6, but they were crying and I just remember my middle brother saying, "mom and dad are going to get divorced!". I calmed them down, told them it wasn't gonna happen. It bothered me too but as I think back on it today, as little as my parents argued just seeing what it did to my little brothers that one time.
Exactly. I remember when my parents told my sister and I they were getting a divorce when I was five. Even though they argued all the time and it was an unhealthy environment and my sister and I were definitely in a more functional environment after the divorce, it was still painful in that moment. They just put that girl through a lot of pain just for views. Absolutely disgusting.
It really struck a nerve with me. Even though my parents are happy and still married, there was a time when they were arguing and my dad did nearly walk out just to get some space. Even the suggestion that they might been heading towards separating was deeply upsetting and has stuck with me after all these years. Granted, I was a lot younger than the girl in the video and didn’t fully understand what was happening, but it’s a really fucked up ‘prank’ to pull on your child :/
I’m gonna give it to ya straight Tara. I don’t think the Cow wants to show up on camera. I know this is hard for you to hear, but the excuses after excuses after excuses from the Cow tells me that she doesn’t want to be in the videos. Now, this is likely nothing against you personally. It’s possible, even likely she’s camera shy and you two simply need to have a conversation. That’s just my two cents though, I could totally be wrong. Lovely video as always.
Good, GOD thank you all for the like!
idk, has she secretly broken up with the cow and making excuses so she doesn't have to release a tragic break up vid??
No but Tara said that the cow might appear in the next video, so I think we should wait until until that video is released to see if she is in it before we come to any conclusions
The cow is simply far too busy to be the face of the operation! But hopefully one day..
That is some good wisdom.
But the things is, have we ever seen Tara and The Cow in the same place at the same time?! I think there is something there...
Those lines about her "giving up" on the relationship or how he's trying and she isn't just give me major flashbacks to my dad talking about his separation from my mum. It totally ignores the years she'd spent working on trying to make the relationship work and he hadnt bothered.
At least to my dad, "making it work" meant he changed nothing and she just learnt to tolerate everything.
It's also very walk away wife phenomenon. Those wives aren't typically leaving out of the blue and not trying. They've typically been trying for years and it hasn't been working (either due to stonewalling or just normal incompatibility). But suddenly the consequences of things not work effect the husband and *then* it's a problem that needs working on. Nah, it needed working on years earlier. Now there's nothing left to work on
Yeah, very well put. Men can tend to be oblivious of women's hints at trying to work things out and improve, or just see them as "nagging"
Yes, I think it sucks. Maybe I'm exagerating because I felt emotionally trapped in a relationship I didn't want to be in, but I hate the idea that you should not "give up". Like when you're done, you're done. Of course it's more complicated when kids are involved, but you can't keep a person in a relationship just because you want to and you are trying. You both have to want it. And then the comments blaming her for "not trying enough", you don't know how they both handled it all these years.
And her saying he didn’t care about her mental health struggles, him admitting to explosive anger episodes … I am glad she is out of there.
Yess! this comment should be at the top
This is so, so, so sad because you're 100% right and it's so eye opening because it perfectly describes my split with my ex.
when I was younger I was a huge Liza Koshi fan and I was so upset that she and David broke up but looking back, it was probably one of the best things to ever happen to her career
David causes my gaydar to ring off the hook 😪
Why were you a fan? what are they about?
@@TheMntnG she was a viner and started making comedy sketches on youtube iirc
@@floatinjellies i agree but i didn’t read it as antagonist, more so genuinely curious
@@sophiabrasket yeah there's a generation of people that weren't there during the vine to UA-cam exodus
The "I grew up on a diet of Catholic guilt" really hit my soul in the deep spot lmao
Are there a lot of Catholics in Southern England? I don’t know precisely where Tara lives and I’m just guessing based on the accent, but I am a huge British history nerd so I’m curious about that considering the intense history of religious fighting in the different parts of the UK.
@@laurenconrad1799 I am in the US so I'm not sure
@@laurenconrad1799 It’s def not unheard of across the UK, and also there’s internal migration so her ancestors could have been Irish based on her surname
The only thing that raised my eyebrow of suspicion was ”TELL THE AUDIENCE I DIDN’T CHEAT” but that’s probably because I don’t do public work and have thousands of potential harassers coming for me.
yeah I can see why that would look dodgy - but honestly like you said I think it's because she knew she'd get dogpiled. When you're a content creator you're ALWAYS conscious of how people will react to everything you say - so I reckon it was just that.
@@TaraMooknee thank you for giving us the input of a person capable imagening the real thing. Love your videos 🤎🤍
Omg you do not need to apologize for having sponsors! Have a sponsor on every video, get that bag! You deserve it for all the fantastic content you put out!
And Wren is an awesome sponsorship!
I was thinking the same!
Agreed! UA-cam's monetization system is so fickle, creators often need sponsors to keep going. If someone doesn't want to listen, clicking forward a few times won't kill them. Also, I heard of Wren and singed up through Tara, so it's a pretty great sponsor to have.
Fully agree!!
Fr!! Like it's not a prob, if we don't like it we can always skip
Tara, don't worry about the sponsorships
if people don't wanna be sold stuff, they can just skip it
it's fine, you're doing great
Well said
Sponsor block is a god send. Get your money Tara 🙏
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Exactly 👍 get that cash Tara
She's pretty creative. I bet she could make a sponsorship spot funny enough to watch like Mista GG.
1. dont apologize for getting sponsorships, you deserve them all
2. please once you hit a certain amount of subscribers, have someone dress up in a cow costume and be in the video as *the* cow, our favourite writer and producer
I would not object to an actual real cow 🐄
Why are you implying Cow isn't a cow? She's just a very busy lady.
@@devent10n well the cow is way too busy to join us in a video, so she could send us a representative to take her place for this specific case
I love watching two people cry about how much they don’t longer like each other
Hahahahahaha...
Humans... Oh my godless.
As a newish atheist of 4 years, and trying to swear without bringing up religion..... I'm stealing this. Thanks.
I actually saw a few comments clarifying that the guy in that relationship had a history of being extremely manipulative and considering his negging and villifying throughout their video, I believe it.
I don‘t think we should judge like this at all. We don‘t know them or their relationship and villifying him is just as toxic as villifying her.
@@Froggele I agree. Unfortunately, as Tara pointed out even simply through the making of this video, people are going to judge and they have. Most have judged the woman in this scenario rather harshly, as is usually the case. I shared a little information I learned from one of their former fans and while I'm not passing any definitive judgment on him, I don't find it difficult to believe. Both were being toxic to one another in this video, but if we're already having a discussion about their dynamics, it's important to highlight the abusive tactics on display here so that others can be more aware of them. I hope that makes sense. I appreciate your heart and I admire your sense of peace.
I got that same vibe from him and noticed how passive-aggressive he was acting, and not in a wounded way, but more in a "get back at her by making subtle digs" way. That's just my opinion.
@@Cat-tastrophee Yeah, exactly. I think it's easier to spot when you've been on the receiving end already. Some of the questions he asked her were accusatory entrapment. It's not cute.
@@Cat-tastrophee I was surprised after the first clips of them, that Tara explained how the viewers had villified... her? His remarks, putting her down throughout, brought back war flashbacks.
I'm glad you talked about that first video- the "worst breakup video." I do think that she did some wrong things, but I feel like they were very obviously mutually toxic. I mean, from what I recall, didn't she literally say that he threw things at her when he got angry??? But people glossed over that, and made this into a story about her being a self-obsessed vindictive bitch and him being a nice caring guy who got screwed over, when from it really seems like it was unhealthy from both sides.
I saw it the other way too tho, but in general we don't know these people we don't really know whats going on, both of them seemed toxic and I think thinking too much over these people wont get anyone far
People love to hate women.
exactly - I was going to mention what she said about him throwing things but I need to be very careful about making accusations that I can't back up. But yeah - that did worry me greatly.
@@TaraMooknee That *does* make a lot of sense- We don't really know any of the details. It's super weird to me how they just vaguely mentioned a whole bunch of concerning stuff and didn't clarify any of it.....I think they rly just used their UA-cam audience as a couple's therapist honestly
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The oscar and kyra breakup gave me so many flashbacks to my own parents’ relationship. They were both ridiculously immature, too young to have kids, and came from extremely dysfunctional families themselves. It was an absolute sh*tshow for years until they finally divorced. Every “attempt at therapy” was just ammunition for future fights, they refused to grow up in any capacity and broke up repeatedly without explanation, always to my relief. I don’t immediately screech “what about the children” because I begged my parents to get tf away from each other for YEARS and couldn’t fathom why they couldn’t just go their separate ways.
I still have nightmares that my parents are getting back together and I’m 30. I don’t like to assume that the kids will look back on this video and be traumatized, it could offer them valuable context and help them process how immature and ridiculous their parents are/were. I’m 99% sure that being created and used for money and followers is going to f*ck with their heads much more than their parents breaking up.
Same, especially the parts about the nightmares of them getting back together or like being on family vacation with both of my parents… it’s really weird in some way that I’m happier with them being divorced but they’re both in happier relationships so it also makes sense. Them not breaking up would’ve been way more traumatizing.
This thread is oddly comforting. I still feel a little guilty for being relieved about my parents getting a divorce. Hell I even encouraged my mom to go through with it when she brought it up to me (I was the first one to know), they’re both a little bitter still but overall I think they’ve grown a lot since they separated and even though they’re not quite as financially stable/comfortable, I think they’re both a lot happier and only seem to get more so with time.
@@a1exneedsahamdleplease Same. I begged my mom to finally divorce my father after they ,tried reconciling‘ for a year. It was hell :/ my dad is still bitter but it’s slowly getting better and my mom is happier :) they both found new partners and it’s definitely for the better
I don't think there's a worse genre than breakup videos
What about family vlogging ,where the parents use footage of their kids crying or whatever for money
@@juli5945 worse than that is the family channels that do genuine pranks on their children, the kids are desperately sobbing while the parents laugh at them asking why they are upset
Also bad apology videos
@@taylorkramsay5929 yeah
Nah, the child exploitation videos, "prank" videos that are just abuse and harassment, and fake, disingenuous apology videos are def worse
The couple with 4 kids didn’t seem that bad in my opinion, I think the problem in their case is over-sharing and believing they owe an explanation to people they don’t even know. Neither of them seem like bad people; I just feel like they’re so consumed with pleasing their audience that they forget it’s okay to resolve things in private. Also, you shouldn’t be forcing people to ‘try harder’ in a relationship they genuinely want to leave for good.
For attention, clout, clicks, money. That's why most of them are fake too.
Yep.
Why do breakup videos exist? Because UA-cam actively markets their platform to children who don’t know better.
Most adults have better things to worry about than UA-cam breakups for clout.
I called Disney's Olaf at 3AM and we BROKE UP! Story time | Saddest I have ever been! | Laptop giveaway in pinned comment (chosen winner definitely wont be one of my own throwaway accounts this time!)
Yep
Yeah I get the ones where the fans see that they aren't hanging around each other anymore and keep pestering the YTers about what happened so they unfortunately have to address it so they can leave the situation alone
Don't worry about the sponsorships, you've got to pay the bills and you've signed contracts. And a minute or two-segment about some product is worth all the free content we get
I love how she's low-key funny. It's not extremely in your face. Whenever calm people do comedy and don't laugh at their jokes, it's literally the best thing. And then when you mix that with criticism of things that are going on currently in the world, you get this channel. 💜 🖤 :-)
That's British humour for yah!
Don't forget the editing that matches the comedic timing perfectly lol
A thousand times yes!
I'm 23 and I've never been in a relationship but honestly having to tell millions of people that it didn't work out sounds mortifying
There is no shame in getting paid! After all you are sharing these videos for free.
Must be insane to break up when your relationship is literally your job. There’s not just the emotional burden, but a direct financial consequence. Not to mention the backlash.
Can you imagine a relationship that you hate being in ALSO being your job? Everyone accused Kyra of being so "giddy" because of a honeymoon phase with a new man, but I can't imagine the weight from her shoulders that must have been lifted.
Tara you deserve the sponsorships don't feel bad! I think most of us are happy about you getting that bag in exchange for this wonderful content
my parents broke up almost 17 years ago and I'm still fed in the head. even with therapy some wounds are hard to heal. personally, not telling your children in my humble opinion, even if they are young, is insane. i'm glad my parents told me when they did.
You gotta get yours, Tara. No need to apologize for pacing or sponsorships.
Besides the sponsors are simply so good like what she sells is actually useful
Don't apologize for ads, you deserve to be paid for your work
don't apologize for having sponsorships! we want you to have money.
Yes! You deserve payment for your work. And I kind of prefer it over Patreon, but that is just my opinion and I respect everyone else’s. ❤️❤️❤️
The kitten looks like Toothless from How to Train Your Dragon in the little clip IT'S SO CUTE.
Avoid painful breakups by being single forever 🙂
My parents split when I was a baby, told me outright that it wasn’t my fault, my response? Of course it’s not. They never fought over me, both stayed consistently in my life, and I honestly think it was a better upbringing than I’d get otherwise - still gave me a serious fear of change, especially as an undiagnosed autistic kid. I can’t imagine the long term effects of a divorce like that, being aired on camera.
My fiancé and I of 7 years broke up last week and this video hit some raw nerves but was perfectly timed because my now-ex and I are turning our "relationship goals" to "breakup goals"; 2 months of no contact, just plastering a text on socials without any videos, and then restarting as friends after an interim of no contact with all of her friends still my friends and vice versa. None of this awkward "We Broke Up" video bollocks
Similar thing here, so this video definitely hit some raw nerves for me as well. I broke up with my boyfriend of six years a few months ago and while it might not have gone well, at least it didn't go this poorly! Can't imagine recording my issues between me and my boyfriend, editing it, and the posting the whole mess and thinking "surely this will only bring me money and nothing else".
I hope you're ok, I just want to flag that two months no contact might not be long enough. If you resume contact and find its too much, please step away again and don't force yourself into uncomfortable positions. My friend and her partner of 7 years broke up and they tried to stay friends after a period of no contact because of the intertwined friend group but it didn't work. It was awful. It's been three years and they're only okay in group situations now - both have new partners. So please do not pressure yourself after two months. I'd be thinking more of year long timeframes.
@@PointSoldiers also it’s ok not to be friends. I wonder if people automatically assume that’s the case because it’s expected as the “best” conclusion to a breakup. At least they’re going no contact which is good, the worst thing you can do is decide “we’re friends now” right after the fact
Take all the time you need to get over the breakup, bestie. I know it took me almost a year to fully recover from my own; we were also engaged, had been together for five years and were best friends. The only thing I wanted when it happened was to remain friends with him, which thankfully didn't happen. Now, after almost three years, I look back at the situation and realize I wouldn't even want to be his friend anymore. I've changed so, sooo much that we wouldn't have anything in common now (I mean, assuming he's still the same person, which I doubt), and I'm okay with that.
@@PointSoldiers i guess an advantage I have is the physical distance between us
In her defense, I also tend to interrupt people when I'm feeling attacked, like when I feel like people look at me in a bad light or are going to believe things about me that aren't true. It's not on purpose, I always feel awkward noticing it afterwards or when people say I'm interrupting them (also I really hate when people interrupt me myself so it makes me feel guilty) but it's just automatic when my thoughts are racing due to intense feelings.
I think my main issue with the OKBaby breakup is not that they broke up but that they are posting these videos and making it a spectacle....
Like they could have made a 2 minute video just saying "We broke up, we are going to stay in the same house and co-parent and still make vlogs, but we just wanted to let you as our audience know." But instead they are oversharing and I just feel like it's unfair to their kids to have this out there. And at one point Kyra was defending herself on Instagram live with her kid in the background. It just makes me feel so bad for the kids :(
I have to wonder if they're milking it for money since they know their channel won't last post-breakup.
Can‘t they do two co-parenting channels? I feel like that would be interesting. Well, if it was a healthy relationships, here it would probably be a disaster
Listened to a podcast where the hosts were a couple, and then broke up, but continued to host the podcast together. But they just started one podcast giving us the news, telling us it wasn't our fault and they still loved us, and then continuing the podcast as normal. No details, and none needed
How could it possibly be the audience‘s fault?
@@Froggele They were making a joke
@@SuprousOxide Oh ok.
"...giving us the news, telling us it wasn't our fault and they still loved us..."
This is the way how every parent should inform the kids.
I got with my ex at 17 and we had a child when I was 20. We grew up and were completely wrong for each other. Getting with someone before 25 is getting with someone before your brain is fully developed along with who you truly are as a person.
Also 4 kids in that time is a lot. Physically you're recommended to space kids out by at least two years for the mother's health.
…. and people under 25 is the exact demographic this relationship drama content is marketed toward.
sending hugs 💕
@@TaraMooknee Much appreciated 💖 though I've since found someone else, remarried, and am much happier than I ever was before.
That “worst breakup” couple just seemed super young. The issues that they mentioned were things young (or young minded) people do when seeking attention/validation. Helping someone of the opposite sex with “emotional issues”, not communicating things the other is doing that bother you right off the bat and allowing resentment to build, those are things that happen when you’re not confident in yourself. You can’t figure out what the core issue is b/c you don’t know yourself well enough to figure it out. And how can you be confident in your partner if you’re not even confident in your own decisions?? They’re not bad people! They’re just normal folks telling everyone their business lol
I want fundamental CHRISTIAN break up videos. Like Girl Defined or Paul and Morgan.
oh my god
They preach against divorce so their followers would bail. They'd be more likely to get divorced and pretend they're married than do that.
@@abbymaddox7616 l think if the Girl Defined chicks genuinely got divorced, their version of a “break-up video” would be a bunch of videos without their husbands and then a video denying that they were ever married. “Who is this husband that my comments constantly ask about? I would never get divorced. It’s against God.” I can imagine the denial already. 😂
@@MaejorArray Umm it's not divorce that's the issue it's remarriage but if you have an annulment you can get remarried.
"Pranking" your child by making them sit in front of a camera whilst you convince them you're spitting up, and then posting that video to the internet, is a level of cruelty I'm struggling to comprehend. Like...do you hate your child? Is that why you'd do that to her?? My god, that poor kiddo, my heart breaks for her if this is the kind of "humor" her parents think is acceptable.
If Tara ever stops making UA-cam videos, the last video she does has to have a cow and be like, “she finally made time for such a special occasion.”
On this episode of people online exploiting every facet of their lives for the sake of content.
It’s ridiculous that break up videos are a genre of content I’ve been consuming since I was a CHILD.
What I’m trying to say is I stopped believing in love after the Liza and David break up, had me crying like a child of divorce.
Saaaame!!!
Tara, this is totally unrelated, but i just wanted to thank u for uploading a video tonight of all nights, i had a pretty rough day, two people who i knew of passed away and my friend's cancer has come back, i genuinely didn't know how i was going to make thru the night, and this is a really good distraction, as short as it may seem. THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart.
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I hope that you get through the night ok under the circumstances. I'll send all loving thoughts to you
My condolences to you ❤️ if you haven’t checked out Edvasian, Courtreezy and Internet Mom Ash… they are 3 of my favorite UA-camrs that get me through many hard days. Great humor, relatability, just love them. Hope these help 😊
Sending you hugs and love!
@@PhilippaLund tysm!
@@yakobii5166 tysm!
Please don’t apologize for taking sponsors. It’s so hard out there for creators. We need to stop shaming “getting the bag” especially when you’re doing it with clearly curated and ethical choices.
I’ve never watched a breakup video till now but holy fuck I’m so uncomfortable
For me it looked like she was just more articulate about her reasoning behind breaking up, because with her being the dumper she just got more time to think this through and he was still processing, in that post-break up sulking way. Just two people in different mindsets about situation they got themselves into - I also couldn’t understand this uninamous hate towards her. For me she maybe wasn’t emotional in appearance, but her words seemed kind of self-reflective. Thank you for voicing your mind about it, because I felt like something was wrong with me when i saw comments section 😅.
There’s no need to feel bad, you have to get your coin somehow
For me, I don't mind if someone "gives up" on a relationship, because that relationship probably wasn't meant to be. I also don't believe she cheated. However, there are moments that have some STRONG gaslighting vibes on her part. Like, she'll say one thing, he'll call her out, and then she'll claim she never said that.
Of course, being 25 and a mom of 4? That's a lot. I'm sure that a lot goes on in that house that isn't shown on camera, and she's probably breaking down. I doubt she even realizes what she's doing.
Both of them were bad for each other, the guy would throw things at her whenever he got angry
Agreed
Today is the day I have learnt about the existence of such videos. I'm scared. The world is scary.
This is where I learn cow is breaking up with me! You’re the town gossip!
as rough as it is to watch their video, I somehow find myself worrying about the mental welfare of whoever they're employing as their editor
that's a good point! must be such a weird job
they probably make their eldest child do it
@@hayleyb467 A six-year-old?
you talk like a teacher, but i mean it in the best possible way. Like the teacher who is passionate about the subject and doesn't pick favourites, like the teacher who you can trust if you're bullied, or who actually cares about how your weekend was.
I couldn't agree more on your take, no crucifixes here! Feelings can't really be controlled, and if you are no longer in-love with the person you got together with when you were barely an adult, it's really the most respectful thing to break things off... through therapy, not on camera, lol!
No need to applogize for getting your hard work supported. You give us AWESOME content for free! Thank you so much Tara, much love from Latin America
Dear Tara,
I feel bad that you felt the need to apologize for having sponsorships. I think it is great that you are getting paid to do these videos apart from patreon
People will do anything for views and it's truly terrifying. If two consenting adults want to capitalize on their relationship drama, that's their business, but the family channels really get to me. Those poor kids.
On another note, really glad to hear you're feeling better. January tends to be a tough month, so taking space and recharge time is important. Getting paid for your work is also important, just saying. Get those sponsorships. We love to see it.
"I grew up on a diet of Catholic guilt."
Literally have never felt more seen in my life. 🙌
Hard same
My friend started a label "Catholic Guilt Clothing" - initially just as a lockdown project to avoid climbing the walls during hundreds of days of Melbourne lockdown.
I saw her first few pieces and encouraged her to consider making them for others, and the label has really taken off. The name was just perfection, I laughed so hard when she revealed that decision due to the nature of her creations... so many of the most original and gorgeous things I've seen; handmade chainmail, salvaged scraps of leather and even pieces made from a bulk lot of discarded little religious icons and crucifixes.
Plus she's an extremely talented musician, singer songwriter and sound engineer so the music she adds to the fashion is sublime.
Wouldn't usually promote an Insta on UA-cam, but Catholic Guilt clothing embodies everything I want of wearable art to shed some of the damage religion can do to our self-image.
@@Skittenmeow I love this for her! Thank you for sharing, I will check out the label!
I feel like in the breakup video the girl.. she mentions that he threw stuff, and yelled it makes me feel so awful for her. It clearly wasn’t a good situation to be in. I remember when I broke up with my abuser I was SO HAPPY. so if that’s the situation I totally get why she’s all smiles
Love your content, Tara. But I care about your well being more. Don't feel bad for taking the time you need to recover. I was exposed to Covid a few weeks ago and luckily tested negative, but while I was waiting for results I was so scared. You're brave AF. Take good care of yourself and the cow ❤❤❤
Thank you so much! 💕
Break up videos have always been a horrifying concept to me.
The best thing about preparing for the Cambridge Proficiency Exam is being able to watch your videos AND feeling productive while doing so :D
No but seriously, I think my English has improved a lot by watching your videos, because you are very articulate and "challenge" my gramatical and semantic ranges more that other types of content on the platform. As always: keep up the good work!
Edit 1: Don't feel bad about having sponsorships for your videos! I am genuinely sooo happy everytime you get one! You put a lot of hard work into making them, so it's only deserved that you can make a living out of them!
Edit 2: Thank you all for your good wishes!
Edit 3: Came here to tell you that I actually passed with a very good grade! Thank you all for the nice wishes!
good luck on the exam!
Good luck! I am sure you've got this!
Best of luck!
I agree, being the dump-er is so much worse. Also catholic guilt.
I wonder what the overall statistics on that would be. I would imagine most people find being dumped harder because for a moment (depending on the relationship and how it goes) you’re in that very uncomfortable position where somone else has your feelings in their hands, it’s not a fun feeling…especially if you feel compelled to plead and beg. of course it’s been a very long time since i had to be the instigator so who knows
I would rather be the dumper. I can’t even fathom considering that worse 😅
@@91Vault I think it depends on the person. I have Avoidant Personality Disorder so if I find out someone no longer wants to be with me, it's a painful experience just like it would be for anyone but my response is to get as far away from the pain as possible. I detach and avoid.
When I've had to dump someone else, I have to be the one to create and cause the pain. I feel horribly guilty about it and then have to be the instigator of a painful, awkward experience which I want to desperately avoid at all costs, hence why it's so much harder for me to dump someone else.
get that bread, Tara! Also yes, break-up videos are bad but that "prank" video was horrendous! Poor kids :(
I don't watch blogs and for a few horrible, horrible seconds I thought they broke up on camera and if nothing else I'm glad that's not the case
how fun! my carbon footprint is 2.4 tons a year or about half the worlds's average, and if everyone lived like me, we'd reach 1.5°C by 2040 anyways!
Its good for everyone to reduce their own impact, but individual action is not the solution to this crisis. we need systemic action, not some "i did may part so i can feel okay about it now" band aids.
our way of living is unsustainable and pumping money into this organisation is not going to fix it. i would suggest everything from voting to civil disobedience and industrial sabotage, but i truly doubt that we can stop the momentum of the capitalist machine in time to prevent 2°C, especially considering how invested your average first world citizen is in keeping or upgrading their consumerist way of life.
Thank you for this comment! I'd rather donate to organizations that are working on changing legislation than quick fixes that, while awesome and sometimes super smart, won't change anything in the long run.
Omggg I went to high school with both of the people from OkBaby and it’s fucking insaneeeee to see how they changed, wow
There's also a name for feeling happy about a partner's happiness with someone else (anti-jealousy, in effect): Compersion! It's only weird within the narrow framework of normative monogamy.
6:15 oh no, this is..this is so bad. It’s like going on a double date with a struggling couple who are trying to joke about their issues, but are both about to start screaming at each other, and you’re just sitting there going “Christ, someone get me out of here”. You can just feel the rage and hostility radiating off these two as they’re trying to make light of it.
Please don't apologise, prioritise your health. I love your content like so many other people but I don't think anyone wants you to feel pressured to produce said content. Take your time and get well. As for sponsors, everyone understands, you get that bread! And thanks for this nuanced take I didn't know I needed
After a break up it is SO easy for onlookers to vilify either one of the parties involved. Posting a video about it on the internet seems like a sure way to make that happen. One of them is always going to be seen as the villain
Tara! Don't apologise for getting that coin. I actually loved learning about this Wren as I didn't know about it. much love
This is really cathartic because at the end of 2020 I broke up with my college girlfriend whom I’d been with for about 4 years at the time (we met in 2016) and I felt guilty or something that I’d wasted her time but it was becoming clearer and clearer we wanted different things
I cant lie, i tune in mostly because i love Tara and shes hilarious...but the other small part is because im gona absolutely lose it when i see that cow damnit lol
Eventually she's going to get a pet cow and show it on camera and when she does we will all explode
@Random Person You Might Know I'm patiently waiting! I wana see what kinda clever, funny, fitting name she'd have!
The only way these kinds of videos exist on my radar, is this channel.
I don't think anyone should/would be angry about having sponsorships in your videos! Do what you've gotta to get your bag
I love the cat at the end is just two green orbs floating in a void. Cute!
Don't feel bad about every video being sponsored, plenty of youtubers have every video sponsored. This is free content on a free website we really can't complain.
I can't believe I'm the same age as the goddess Tara, she has such infinite beauty and wisdom, I could never
IDC about the sponsorships, this is your job, you make quality content, you deserve compensation for it.
Couldn’t click fast enough. I knew for a fact that this was going to be involve Okbaby
don't apologize girl!!! get your bag!!! you being able to financially sustain content creation just means more videos for us :) we want you to be fairly compensated for all the lovely free videos you make us
The growth of your channel is amazing, Congratulations 🎊
Being in a long term relationship that you got into while 19… lol
Love this video! You’re so pretty!
Always enjoy your videos and please never feel bad for the sponsorships, you earned them💅🏼
As a person whose parents got divorced by the time she was 6, the kids know SOMETHING is up. I used to think they were like roommates, they never showed affection or anything, I don't even remember them interacting at all. Those poor children aren't gonna know what's real or fake:'(
my gender of the day is couch furby
I actually enjoyed hearing about your sponsor this time. I appreciate transparent advertising that targets my values.
If Tara ever stops making videos, her last upload best be a "cow reveal" or else- 🐄
On that last note, you should not at all be sorry for having sponsored videos! It is known that UA-cam doesn't pay great (unless you post a breakup video, amirite) so please, get your bag while delivering this great content.
OK Baby’s break up video and their follow up one brought back some cringe teenage memories when “couples” who were dating for several years (from 15 to 18, for example, which is ages in the teenage world) grew away to be different people but tried to play their break up cool (aka “we are best friends and I wish you to find love but I will secretly cry for hours and bully that person in the future) in front of their shared company of friends and half-friends.
I am 28, why do I keep thinking of high school kek. Maybe because this couple were so young when they were literally tied together with family and kids, maybe it didn’t let them somehow grow emotionally in the way they could do it being single. Also, don’t listen to me, little do I know 🥴
im currently going through a divorce after being with my ex for almost 17 years. i can't IMAGINE talking to him about it on camera, this is insane.
Honestly it just makes me happy to see you getting sponsors your content is so good and I don't mind a couple ads here and there so should keep getting them.
No need to apologize about the sponsorships! I 1000% understand about covid and post-covid health issues. Just keep going at a pace that's good for you, we're all here for you!! Much love to you, Ziggy, and the cow ❤
Get your money, Mooknee! I'm here to be entertained and I frequent your videos bc they're entertaining. Vice versa, you want to share your thoughts w us. This is a labor of love and you deserve to be sponsored for your efforts. Godspeed. 💕🌟
Don't apologise for your ads ...by the way great video.
You get that coin, Tara! No need to apologize for that :)
If it is not something unethical or straight up lying, then I am just happy for creators getting sponsors.
This is the first video that I've seen on this channel. And I really appreciate that we got to see both cute cats and a dog at the end! So cool!
Tara, you have absolutely NO reason to apologise, you're providing us content which takes time and resources to make, it's only fair that you get compensation for that. In other words, get that bag!!
Also happy that you adressed the nuance that is really important in literally an conversation and discussion and I am so happy about that