I’m a seventeen year old girl and listening do this precious lady’s advices makes me feel empowered and, most of all, comforted. thank you very much, really 🫂💖
I'm so glad u found Fumi's channel little sis ..actually I'm old enough to be your mom. So many horrible things can be avoided simply by keeping your legs closed. Being a wife before being a mother still has value. Be blessed and keep life fun and simple. Much love dear one 🥰
INDEED...PLEASE REMEMBER THE VALUABLE LESSON AND FOLD FOR NO ONE. Your true friends would respect your decision and a guy that really cares for you and respects you would understand.
Baby girl when people give you gold nuggets of wisdom listen and learn. You make my soul happy just being a young lady with character. Stay focused and brilliant always know you have a cheering squad. When a woman knows her worth that is a beautiful thing. I am so proud of you for looking for knowledge and being open-minded you will go far in life with that mindset.
This is wonderful to hear. Be assured that this is the unbridled truth about what it takes to protect your ife and put your best foot forward as a woman. I have lived almost twice as long as you to confirm no lies detected lol. You put yourself ahead of the game by taking good advice from wise women. I have been blessed with such across my life and been spared a lot of AVOIDABLE suffering by being smart enough to only seeking the counsel of respectable and wise elders in my life. Continue on my dear, it is heartening to know you are so smart and in tune with yourself at such a young age. You may not even realise it but you have a head start! 👏🥰
When a man says he doesn't want kids and marriage, don't give him access to your body. If a man isn't readily preventing impregnating women then he is responsible for his actions.
@@jedidjab4346 that’s literally what I want to know… this man said that he tells these women AFTER they get pregnant that he doesn’t want kids… well what was he saying to them beforehand? For whatever reason.. people seem to think he’s telling these women how he feels right at the beginning, before they even lay down together and I’m kind of lost where they’re getting that narrative from…
This man spoke his truth. Some women need to hear this because we are the ones that get stuck raising fatherless children. My mother always told me don’t lay down with someone simply because they paid you some attention. Be selective!
Exactly @Johna Rhodes, women need to hear this man's truth and take heed, close their legs and womb. He actually did women a favor for coming out like this, making him a marked man and a poster child for no good men.
What you are saying is simply not happening . The *reality* is that his offspring are growing up without a father , and so are thousands of other children .
Nevertheless, it puts the woman on notice. He made his intentions clear. He will not be carrying the baby. Any woman would be silly to have unprotected sex with him and then complain afterwards, when he wants nothing to do with the child. Always protect yourself.
If that be the case, let him pay. He will eventually learn to cover it up after the 8th, 9th, 10th child! In the state of NJ the man pays and they take it out of his paycheck. He has no other choice. ~M
I became a single mother at 19 and my sperm donor decided that he did not want a baby therefore he was not responsible. I was so hurt, betrayed, embarrassed, I felt like a fool for allowing him into my life. But I blame myself because I allowed this! I should have known better. As women we need to love ourselves and protect ourselves. sex is not love!!!!
The reverse of this is this man is so broken that he doesnt respect his own body enough to protect it. I wouldnt be surprised if he was abused as a child. He has even less value than his so-called "low-value" jumpoffs
Women are the gatekeepers of humanity. I’m glad we are having more of these conversations because it really starts with us. Men have to work & prove to be capable and deserving of having an offspring. Procreation is NOT a game or free for all.
That’s nonsense 😂 a woman needs to prove she’s worthy of being a man’s wife. But all that is about to change --> ua-cam.com/video/O2RIvJ1U7RE/v-deo.html
Before any date with a man, I go: emotionally happy, not hungry, and not horny. The day before or short before the date, I do it all. I do something to make myself happy. I eat something tasty. And I do the deed with a toy (I said it). This helps me see all the red flags in the first or second date. From all the dates, I have like 4-5 dudes who were "maybe" husband/daddy material and the relationship lasted more than a month. That's how sad the dating pool is nowadays. Please learn that you come first no matter what family, friends, coworkers say. Stay alerted and stay safe.
I wish my first and last name weren’t my profile but oh well. You can do all that AND do everything right. And these men will still a representative to your WHOLE self. There’s just something about a women with sparkle that broken men can’t resist. Smfh
Listen… Fumi you are so right! I hope many are listening and holding tight to what you’re saying. I’m 51 and my mom had me at 16. And my father was 0. And she moved on without him and never truly knew him. Fast forward, my mom recently retired from Wright Patt AFB, she has 6 degrees (two of them are PhD). And being that I’m the oldest sibling, I’ve seen my mom go from nothing to amazing. God has truly blessed her. And each time she graduated (since I was two because she had to drop out when I was born) I’ve seen her get her diplomas. I know not everyone will have the same testimony but I pray it will motivate someone for better. Even while being a single mom. ❤
Your mother is awesome! Can you please tell her she inspired me to go chase my dreams? Thank you for sharing! God bless you and your superhero mom!🙏🏽💝😊
My mother has 5 degress she did the same. Now mine was a dead beat because she left him! 6 months later she met her Boaz. She put God 1st and me 2nd and made it clear she was not having sex to end up in the same boat. He was thrown. My real father died May 31st 2022 they were together 42 yrs!!! Wasn't no step round here were are a family forever!!!! I'm sooo glad my mother wasn't chasing the bio trying to force a family that never was and never meant to be💯 She would've ruined my life and missed her Boaz playing house with some nigga that was a season not a life time. How many men and women we know out here still chasing a fake family trying to force a family??? I'll wait....
I'm a single parent and it is hard. I didn't plan to be a single mom but it is one of my proudest moments. I raised a young man who I'm proud to call my son. My son father is not like this man but he is not much better. He wanted his son until I no longer wanted a relationship. Be mindful of who you have children with. I love my son and I've done everything I can to make his life better. I've been blessed along the way to meet ppl who have loved my son and invested in his growth in the same manner as me. Blessings upon blessings I pray for my son.
I saw this video. And honestly. I have literally stopped talking to a guy because he had a child and spent so much time with me that I asked him when he last saw his son. Despite his child’s mother wanting him to be in his child’s life. Fast forward…an ex friend dated him and had kids with him and he no longer takes care of those kids. Moral of the story….if you can not take care of the kids you already have I don’t want anything to do with you and surely don’t want kids with you so prayerfully those women didn’t know that prior to having kids with him because of coarse not all ppl are honest about this stuff up front. Smh
@Monique F. My daughter had the same experience with a guy she was dating. My daughter could not understand how this man would want a relationship with her and not a relationship with his own flesh blood. She cut him off. And good for you, you and my daughter did the right thing
Keep talking to her. They may bump their head but when you given what they need, they regain their good sense at some point! Keep praying and talking to her! 😁 From one single mom to another. God be with you both!🥰
Given his character, I doubt he told the women he didn't want children before they got pregnant. He probably told them after the fact. Notice, he got many more women pregnant, its only these seven who kept the children. Also, people keep saying why do the women go with him knowing he has multiple children, they probably didn't know. He isn't claiming the kids so why would you think he would tell any woman he is dealing with that he has children. People forget a lot of men lie to get you into bed. I don't believe his version of this story. Anyway, women need to raise their expectations as it would weed out this type of men. They don't have the patience to keep up the façade for a long period.
Exactly! He’s a good cautionary tale. But these men lie and manipulate. We have to give women more credit. If he showed up to a date the way he showed up in this video women would run before the check came.
I guess it's just me and you that are thinking along those lines. Men lie, A LOT and with his attitude, I don't believe he was upfront from jump and this rant is his cover story to deflect. Have you met men? A man will put in mega effort to get a woman not because of genuine intentions and then turn around and gaslight and humiliate her for believing him. I don't believe him. I dated someone for 4 years when I was much younger. We were thick as thieves, there was never any talk of breaking up, we didn't fight but when he was ready to dump me, he accused me of forcing myself on him. You're constantly around me like a tick on on dog without my asking you but I forced 4 yrs on you? I vowed no man was going to humiliate me like that ever again.
Well said, you don't want it, you cover up. He wants women to put their lives at risk to abort the baby and may never have kids in the future. Men are going to jail for kids, which is not theirs. he should go to jail just for being a dead beat in general.
After having one conversation with this man the women knew he had nuthing to offer but sex. They got what they wanted it just wasn't what they thought it would be.
I absolutely agree with you! This is why it is so important to share the video with those who need to hear it! So much dross gets circulated but when I encounter true gems I share them! You better believe I have a whole tradition set up now with my girlies as well as with younger relatives, my nieces and nephews, my cousins where we watch and discuss this vital content. I share Fumi's videos in our whatsapp groups and we have some great conversations, very thought-provoking and beneficial. The whole Sister2Sister series serves as a great resource and conversation starter, makes it so easy to check in with loved ones to see how they are really doing with problems they put a brave face on as I know this content will hit them in their heart and mind. Sometimes we need to hear good advice from someone we don't know for it to resonate. So yes, hun, I have long since been disseminating these FREE courses from Fumi and I have not received a complaint yet. Quite to the contrary, our Fumi sessions keep the laughter, love and focus on self-empowerment and positive relationship building flowing! Have a beautiful day🥰
It’s the amount of pride he has boldly talking about how irresponsible he is that is ticking me off. These are the worst type of men. Oh women, my beautiful women. Please value yourself and get married before you have sex with any man. People call that old fashioned but that will save you from men like this. This is absolutely disgusting.
It would not but it would weed out some people who just want to take advantage of you. I personally know 2 women who were married but are now single moms due to other reasons. What I’m saying is, now they have protection and they get financial support from the men because they were MARRIED. Fumi talks about this all the time. Divorce is different from a break up.
@@suziedeschene5069 Marriage does not gurantee child support when you divorce. There are ways to get around paying child support and some men will go above and beyond not to pay it.
Beautiful and timely message for International Women's Day - much love to all the single Mamas doing it alone. And Happy Women's Day to you Fumi, and to us all! 🥰
Indeed. The child is going to start life disadvantaged already. The part that baffles me is the audacity the father may have to come back if later in life the child becomes rich. Like very rich.
But what about the mothers? They played a part in this too 🤷🏽♀️. Why didn’t they think about the disadvantage their children was going to start with. Like, I’m asking honestly. Why not want the best possible father for their children? I don’t get it.
I don't get it. A man "TOLD" you he doesn't want children and you went ahead to have unprotected sex without taking morning after pill. It was a contract, and you broke the agreement. So deal with it! Stop forcing babies on men that don't LOVE you. Better still close your legs like mermaid and abstain from sex. P.S: Why would any human have sex without protection? Is the sex that good that you don't care about herpes and HIV. I still don't understand the logic behind having sex with a man without protection and expect "No pregnancy". Was she thinking contraceptive wasn't necessary in this situation. What the hell were they thinking. What is wrong with us? You blame everyone but yourself.
But women should hold themselves accountable. Why are women having sex with men who have 3,4,5 etc kids. Men like that are irresponsible and so selfish so why get pregnant for someone like that. A lot of women have children knowing full well they cannot provide for children then bring the kids in poverty and hardship. That's why our community is full of drug dealers, murderers, black men so many hate black women and men like the guy in the video. Black women are destroying the black community by making dumb and poor decision. Being a single mother should be shameful and disgraceful. Not celebrated and glamorize
He is a horrible nightmare but he spoke his truth. Women need to take heed and stopping thinking a baby will change a man’s heart. So glad you called it like it is Fumi, he’s a clown for sure! You dropped straight gems for the girls, young and old. Thank you Queen! 👑🙏🏾💕
Excellent talk Fumi. The real truth is needed ASAP. It’s no fun being a single parent in fact is the biggest sacrifice, it requires all of you, and then some, including many dreams you may have. I will always say - just don’t do it unless you’ve lived your life and have built a life for yourself that truly support both you and child, mentally emotionally financially all the ‘llys’ and then you can enjoy the ride. Raising a human life is the biggest responsibility that exists.
I agree that women do ultimately need to make the decision to be more accountable and careful about who they sleep with because they do carry the baby and they are the ones who will have to care for them. However, this dummy thinks he’s completely absolved from all responsibility and that’s not true. He’s knows he don’t want kids but he’s not pulling out??? Make it make sense. He also knows he can’t make a woman have an abortion or take a plan b. Just saying you don’t want kids don’t absolve you. I hope all seven of them file for child support. Thanks to his little video, it will be an easy case. I don’t usually advocate for jail but, homeboy needs to be locked up with that messed up mindset he has. Those poor children will suffer the most. I’d never lay down with a man like that. I don’t have kids because I never married and I absolutely REFUSED to be somebody’s baby momma and bring a child into the world with a worthless father. A child deserves a better start. I understand life takes turns and twists you don’t expect, but I wanted to at least do my best to give my child a great life.
Did he tell them before they had sex? Did he tell them the morning after the deed? Or did he wait weeks and weeks to ensure that the whole experience of "getting rid of it" would be as hurtful and gut-wrenching as it can possibly be?
Eyona, morning or evening, doesn’t matter. We as Women make always the call with whom we sleeping with (unless it’s rape). We must do better, have protected sex .
"This guy is a clown." It's honestly so embarrassing really. Aunty Fumi, i love that you acknowledged that it all comes from low self esteem, loneliness, and when we search for love where it cannot be found. And the reinforcement of loving ourselves. Its really a sad, vicious cycle that we need to break in our societies. Ladies love yourselves.
Sister Fumi, you took the words right out of my mouth when you said keep your legs closed and buy a toy! To the young women who are in this situation with one child: you made a mistake choosing the wrong man but you have a beautiful child who is looking at you with love. Please don't resent the child. Love them and learn how to love yourself. Leave men out of it until you have learned your lessons. As hard as it is, I've known young women who have gone on and prospered. Their secret? Stop with that one child and focus on your precious little family. Sending love.
“Buy a toy!” Yes Fums, tell them. Don’t let temporary situations become permanent. Get on bc as soon as, and if they don’t want to wrap it up they need to keep it moving.
*A 77 year old, who's now 79, chased me (a 63 year old widower of three years), hard, for over a year. I relented and dated him for a year. I discovered that he had 14 children, five from his ex-wife and nine by others! He had the nerve to tell me that he'd get me pregnant, too, if he could 😱. I told him that even if I could, he WOULDN'T!* *Oh, and by the way, most of his children don't (understandably!) pay him any mind!*
Hi Fumi! There’s so many layers to peel off from the video you showed. As unpleasant and disturbing it is to hear, it needs to be spoken about. We all need to take heed that there are people like this roaming the world. We need to protect ourselves and our children. We need to stop the broken and unhealthy homes, the negative patterns, generational curses. We can start with us.
That guy made it plain and clear he did not want children. I recently lost my dad . We could never connect. Now I understand why… he too probably was not ready to have kids. I often thank God for the best stepdad in the world.
It’s shocking😮, but there were several points made. This man has said repeatedly that he doesn’t want any kids & yet some of these ladies said “ok”, but then got upset when he refused to support the kids financially and emotionally. I feel so bad for the kids and the ladies. I hope for the ladies sake that they got tested, because there’s no telling what he’s carrying that would pass onto them and/or their kids.
This is a no good clown and he is exposing himself and yes women need to be held accountable in this matter as well. But I don't believe this low life, degenerate man disclosed anything to these women until after the fact.
Seven children he couldn't even pick up my dog's poop much less be in my presents. When a person talk listen and take notice, they are giving you a heads up about their toxic behaviors. He is open about how he feels at least now. I don't think he is that up front beforehand because I find it hard to believe women would still have sex with the man child. He is selfish he said the 7 women are the ones who decided to keep the children, so we don't know how many babies he truly helped create. I want him to keep that same stand when the children are older, and he is old and alone. His children will return the same love he showed them none.
I hope those 7 women can get him for child support. He needs to be arrested for being a serial impregnater. It's easy to blame women Aunty Fumi.. But understand its the mother who stays behind to take care of the child.. I'm tired of women being blamed for everything and getting stuck whilst guys go on to do the same bullsh*t to other women 🥴
If this man clearly, says he doesn't not want children, whyyyy would u go look to him for anything? He has made his choice very clear, and in the case of woman getting pregnant you have to blame them. Because he is right in saying we are the ones carrying that child, why u gonna have raw sex with a man u barely know? Then u let him cum in you? Would you do that? And if he says he don't want nothing to do with the child, would u still go to him,knowing he ain't gonna help?
I'm sorry I don't agree. Having a child with a man who has several children across different women, isn't looking after any of them doesn't work etc etc is straight up reckless and unfair on the children involved.The man is right in some sense nothing about him screams father of the year, if you choose to procreate with him it anyway surely that's on you.
As a mom raising 2 black boys, 17 and 12 I am teaching them to first and foremost love, respect, and be responsible for themselves. When you have respect and love for yourself you won’t have unprotected sex and jeopardize your life and future negatively. I’m also teaching them to be selective with who they choose to date. Who are the parents of this man 🤔
There was a 25 year old in the news, he was gunned down and he at 25 was a father of 14 children. Can anyone tell me how can he provide for this many children with different mothers... If this matter is addressed, there are people who think that it is racism, therefore it becomes a cultural and generational issue
Fumi!!!! I said the same thing to my daughter (GET A TOY!!!) who is suffering from major self esteem issues 😕 all her life. AND now she just given birth for the second time and is addicted to drugs...please pray for her. Only prayer can bring her out of this. Her self esteem is tied to her wanting to be loved by men as she suffers from daddy issues. I'm praying without ceasing
So this guy is sleeping with all these women unprotected?😳 Aren’t they even scared of diseases? How about HIV?😢 Ladies please always use protection until you are 100% sure y’all are committed. Happy international women’s day sister💕
Hello Fumi! First of all, I am living for that shirt. It is gorgeous! Great segment! You were on point for everything. I think about my life and crazy history and where I am now as a single parent, soon to be married to a wonderful man (we both chose to abstinent during our courtship of 2 years) and learning how important it is to know your value as a woman and not let 'every car park in your garage'😉. I want to be able to set an example to my son and how he should treat a woman.
Sometimes I think I’m being judged for not having a partner yet or for not being a mother. But everyone is ignoring the fact the dating pool sucks and it’s harder to date when you’re a black women in America since there’s some shitty stereotypes against us. I’m just not signing up for the struggle with a kid on the side. Lastly, are we surprised that he’s a black man? They have that deadbeat reputation
May I bring your attention to 18:12 - 19:00 in the video. The entire video is full of non-stop pearls of wisdom but this part here specifically addresses your complaints. Absolutely crucial advice! Do not award any male an automatic pass, automatic access because he 'appears' to be your tribe. He must be OBSERVABLY & CONSISTENTLY decent, have good character, be productive, caring, respectful and responsible to even be in the runnings. (Such men are not so hard to find if you cast your net wider and do not swim in pools where deadbeats abound, unchecked and free to poop where they eat, such is the disrespect!) These qualities are what define a man of good calibre worthy of a decent woman's time. You put yourself at an immediate disadvantage if as a bw you insist that the singular facet of skin colour is an overriding sign of a man being in your tribe and worthy of your attention. What about all the other qualifiers? This is the mistake many women are making and it wastes precious time and energy and only worsens the social dysfunction going on. Fumi was absolutely right on the nature of an accursed man. Do not hitch your wagon to any male who doesn't give a damn about his own life and is happy to float in society being utterly useless. If you are not useless and up for a life of struggle, don't do it! You own your life and it is up to each woman to dictate what is and isn't up to scratch. I love that Fumi dared to emphasis the simple truth of the matter, that a man can only do to you what you allow. I will put it another way: how can a bad man get in and cause damage if you do not open the door in the first place. You should have long since assessed from the peephole and his initial approach what you are dealing with to refuse entry. Great video and great discussions happening in the comments. Sharing wisdom and helping each other learn how to see better and be strong in our decision-making and empower ourselves. I love Fumination 🥰
Omg! He is the most pitiful excuse for a man, and human being! Yes they both have to take responsibility for their carelessness, and I pray women will start loving themselves as God loves them! The child is innocent, and whether the man knows the woman or not how can you not love your own flesh, and blood! Women value yourself, and get therapy so that you can stop the cycle! Single, or Double Parenting are both extremely hard, and the child deserves better! Adults have to do better!
I definitely do empathize with the moms' as well, since we often find or even place ourselves in situations and circumstances we don't want to be in. Myself I've been there and I realized this after distancing myself from men I used to date because I saw a pattern and it made me feel 'icky'. So I made a choice for myself not be in such a situation again and since 2020 I've been single, celibate and loving every minute. I never had much guidance towards separating sex and love, I had to learn it the hard way which is why I'm grateful for Sister2Sister.
He just said that the women that have him access to their bodies for free.. He did nothing for them.. He gave them crumbs or even nothing and he still slept with them for free. He even said he had no love for these women who gave him free access to their bodies. Like he literally did nothing and he got the gold. This is out of a man's mouth That's how they think of us.. How a man treats you is truly how he feels and subconsciously thinks about you.
As s single mother and looking back, I am amazed that I was able to do it, especially when the village was so brutal and unempathic. That child today is a happy professional with degrees. God is good. Bless you, Fumi❤! Blessings🙏,
This statement this conversation was needed thank you I suffer from mommy Guilt A lot. How could I do this to my child bring him in this mess . Forgiveness is hard but it must be done .
Yes Ms. Fumi, he expressed his sincere feelings on the matter. I hope his message finds every female who will consider making a decision to give a man access to her body especially one who did the “bear minimum”. May they run for their lives. My goodness this was heavy!
I respect your views on this but I don't believe that this man was being honest with these women upfront about having kids and not being willing to take care of any before he laid down with them. Sometimes, these men are incredibly dishonest and these women do not stand a chance.
...and everyone still needs to be responsible for himself or herself. Though he said himself how "irresponsible" he was/is not to use protection because he's leaving it all up to her. I mean look...casual sex or "jump off" sex says it all... so, PROTECTION, PROTECTION, PROTECTION.
@hazelboyce7230 Indeed... some women are under the guise that a baby changes and melts the heart of the man as though they are in a bona-fide relationship or marriage. Even in marriages, a baby doesn't salvage a broken marriage.
I guarantee you he didn't have the same energy with these women that he has in this video. He said out of his own mouth that he told them he didn't want children WHEN THEY WERE PREGNANT, which leads me to believe he switched up after the damage was done. I'm glad this video is making the rounds so women will see that protecting your womb is imperative and must be done at all costs. Imagine the damage and rejection those poor children would feel if they ever were to see this video.
Truth, shout it out from the rooftops!! I pray that many, many women hear this and put it to practice. Many children suffer from these careless decisions or wishful thinking. You can't give a child what you ain't even got for yourself.
Mrs. Fumi I’ll tell you a quote from Maya Angelo “When someone shows you who they are believe them”. The guy specifically told each of those women who he is and they either ignored him, didn’t care, or thought he would change. Either way he told them at the beginning.
he probably pretended w/ nice guy act up front and switched up when they got pregnant and wouldn't abort. Remember, we only have his version of events. I just don't believe most women would agree to have unprotected sex with a man who looked them in the eyes and said "I don't want kids, I don't want you, you mean nothing to me." I think he's twisting the story a bit to appear victimized.
He didn't! He lied to get them in bed! No woman is going to go in bed with a man who tells her she ain't worth the effort! Except the protection broke!
I believe he’s showed himself now on this video and I serious doubt he showed this to the women before he impregnated them. Horny men lie through their teeth for some 🐱
What I have always said. “Men do what you allow them to do.” If a man shows you who they are, trust it. Be aware of his past actions, because “what he has done to others, he can easily do to you.” Don’t be fooled into thinking he won’t do those crappy things to their past partners onto you. I have many male friends and they talking about how easy it is to get a woman to sleep with them and the moment that happens, they are off. If you want to sleep with the man, it’s your choice and I respect it, but make sure you MAKE THEM WORK FOR IT. By doing that, they will more likely to be invested in you and you are no longer just a sex object. You will hopefully then become a partner. Because men always say they want a lady in the streets but a freak in the bed. But if you give it up easily, they think you are ON the streets giving it up easily to other men. Know your own worth. Check it twice. Ladies, I send you nothing but my love, best wishes and pray that you stay safe.
There are so many men like him out there... ladies use protection, better yet don’t sleep with a man that gives off so many red flags. Use your intuition! A few minutes of enjoyment are not worth all the problems that follow if you end up a single parent without any support available. Children shouldn’t be brought up in the world so carelessly.
The more you grow up, the more you begin to understand yourself. Some of this men will used sweets words to finished your head and by the time you realise that they are fooling you is too late. I thank God for social media platform because we learn a lot. Thank you Fumi 👏👏👏🤗
I'm convinced he wasn't upfront about what his expectations were in the beginning. Most of these predators will lay down with you first and subsequently tell you all these things once their mission is accomplished. They move the goal posts all the time. He might have been one of those mxn who use sympathy to reel women in and sleep with them. Once the aim is achieved, he switches up. This more common than we care to admit.
The sad thing about this is that when he FINALLY meets a woman he wants, she wont want anything to do with him once she finds out about these kids. If she does make a go with him, it won't last. Not only has he set his children up, his baby mamas, but also he set himself up. Just too stupid or doesn't care to notice. I appreciate his candor though. He confirmed what I already knew.
For him to say he takes responsibility, while knowingly having unprotected sex is mind-numbing. How he stands and speaks with pride about sleeping with "jump offs" that he sees no value in, tells me he doesn't really value himself either. I have to wonder what these women see in men like this. Just gross. 😩
Excellent video that focuses on the important stuff. I have hated seeing all the toxic and irresponsible commentary elsewhere on this man'd disgusting video. Thank you so much for bringing the focus back to women and the importance of making wise decisions and valuing your own life and personhood so you are not easy prey for lifesuckers as I like to call them. Fantastic work as always, many thanks to you Fumi 🥰
Preach brother preach. You are not the only SOB out there. Ladies we all can learn a lot from what he his saying. He is not even a valuable peice of s..t. Karma waiting on you. I am shure you are not going to get the last laugh. My only wish is for manny ladies to see this. God is a good God and he loves working miracles. Mother save his vlog for your child. His day is around the corner. Ladies put a value on your self .
Get full custody immediately while he is in that frame of thinking, that way later on in the years he can't claim rights in case he decides to interfere with the child's life.
Child support court does not ask you if you wanted children -no law that asks that. I'm sure he likely makes enough to pay for even one. RUN! do not walk from men like hime. You are worth more.
Fumi you always tell it like it is. I was a single mother. The best revenge to fools like him Sistas educate yourself get a job keep it moving. If he never give a dime they must move forward and teach their kids to stay in school succeed. One day that kid will be successful an then he will want to be recognized as the Father. SISTAS MOVE FORWARD AND SUCCEED AND FORGET THAT FOOL..GOD GOT YOU
There is no shame in him. He will reach out to his kids when he gets older. I see it so many times and if they are not by his side when he gets older then he will be a sad old man. I also see this a lot as am Er nurse
Love the shirt ❤ this man is a Fool the courts will make him pay child support! And these young women need to smarten up. They are more picky s about the close on their back, and getting their hair done more than who they lay up. with. It’s very sad women like these women have no value in their self
I don't want to imagine just how damaging his words are to his biological children. 😢 Outright rejection. I would rather cook up a story & tell my child his father died. That was Mean! 😳
I’m a new subscriber and let me tell you this was such an important message for young women. It was positive and uplifting but most of all....... imperative. So many women young in mind body and spirit allow men like this to ruin their lives. Its the best cautionary tale you can get. Self esteem and self awareness of how to really love yourself by making good choices is something I learned the hard way. U teach people how to treat you and this man I am sure is exactly the way he was in the video....in person. (Where is his Momma, Aunties and Cousins, bc ain’t no way a relative of mine could do this and still be standing lol ) Great video and love the channel, and I wish I could come meet you in London! You are fabulous!
Thank you Fumi for being auntie in my head! Great message. I do also have to say that as women we should not only fall for words, but stay around for awhile and view actions and patterns with these men, because some ( usually men like him) will lie to you! Imo, I don't think he was up front with all of these women about his parental status or possibly even in his surety that he would not be an involved father. Since he clearly has no morals, I doubt he was totally honest with these women up front. Oh, and btw...are you coming to the DMV area for your event? 🙂
Fumi, EVERY WORD you spoke is true. I pray some young sister reading this vlog will listen and take what you said to heart and govern her life that way. 🌹🌹❤❤
I’m a seventeen year old girl and listening do this precious lady’s advices makes me feel empowered and, most of all, comforted.
thank you very much, really 🫂💖
I'm so glad u found Fumi's channel little sis ..actually I'm old enough to be your mom. So many horrible things can be avoided simply by keeping your legs closed. Being a wife before being a mother still has value. Be blessed and keep life fun and simple. Much love dear one 🥰
INDEED...PLEASE REMEMBER THE VALUABLE LESSON AND FOLD FOR NO ONE. Your true friends would respect your decision and a guy that really cares for you and respects you would understand.
Baby girl when people give you gold nuggets of wisdom listen and learn. You make my soul happy just being a young lady with character. Stay focused and brilliant always know you have a cheering squad. When a woman knows her worth that is a beautiful thing. I am so proud of you for looking for knowledge and being open-minded you will go far in life with that mindset.
This is wonderful to hear. Be assured that this is the unbridled truth about what it takes to protect your ife and put your best foot forward as a woman. I have lived almost twice as long as you to confirm no lies detected lol. You put yourself ahead of the game by taking good advice from wise women. I have been blessed with such across my life and been spared a lot of AVOIDABLE suffering by being smart enough to only seeking the counsel of respectable and wise elders in my life. Continue on my dear, it is heartening to know you are so smart and in tune with yourself at such a young age. You may not even realise it but you have a head start! 👏🥰
Men like this should be eunuchs.
If a man tells you he doesn't want kids or marriage, PLEASE BELIEVE HIM!
What proves that he told those women that he did not want to have children?
Exactly
When a man says he doesn't want kids and marriage, don't give him access to your body. If a man isn't readily preventing impregnating women then he is responsible for his actions.
He just called himself a loser and a bum pffff so it’s better to avoid him then.
@@jedidjab4346 that’s literally what I want to know… this man said that he tells these women AFTER they get pregnant that he doesn’t want kids… well what was he saying to them beforehand? For whatever reason.. people seem to think he’s telling these women how he feels right at the beginning, before they even lay down together and I’m kind of lost where they’re getting that narrative from…
Men like this is why parents are strict with their girls. The world is harsher on women
This man spoke his truth. Some women need to hear this because we are the ones that get stuck raising fatherless children. My mother always told me don’t lay down with someone simply because they paid you some attention. Be selective!
Well said.
Exactly @Johna Rhodes, women need to hear this man's truth and take heed, close their legs and womb. He actually did women a favor for coming out like this, making him a marked man and a poster child for no good men.
BE SELECTIVE 🔥
I agree with you 🙏🏿 He also stated that the women never required him to use protection. 😢
It is true even if the truth is a dirty 🐕
Saying you don’t want kids, but then actively and knowingly do something to create a child, does not absolve you of the responsibility.
What you are saying is simply not happening . The *reality* is that his offspring are growing up without a father , and so are thousands of other children .
Nevertheless, it puts the woman on notice. He made his intentions clear. He will not be carrying the baby. Any woman would be silly to have unprotected sex with him and then complain afterwards, when he wants nothing to do with the child. Always protect yourself.
I agree. Use a CONDOM stupid!!
that's 100
In so many words of what this man was saying is, a man will do what a woman will allow.
Well said.
You dam right I'm 55yrs old with only 2kids my mother preach that and preach that she raised 4daughters so you are so right
This is no longer about a woman and a man....there is/are child(ren) involved
If that be the case, let him pay. He will eventually learn to cover it up after the 8th, 9th, 10th child! In the state of NJ the man pays and they take it out of his paycheck. He has no other choice. ~M
Oh please stop blaming women for the actions of men!
He doesn’t respect himself. The fact that you can drop your seed and leave! A savage respects his bloodline!
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I became a single mother at 19 and my sperm donor decided that he did not want a baby therefore he was not responsible. I was so hurt, betrayed, embarrassed, I felt like a fool for allowing him into my life. But I blame myself because I allowed this! I should have known better. As women we need to love ourselves and protect ourselves. sex is not love!!!!
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Learn from your mistake hun.
The reverse of this is this man is so broken that he doesnt respect his own body enough to protect it. I wouldnt be surprised if he was abused as a child. He has even less value than his so-called "low-value" jumpoffs
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Dog for the streets 😂
THANK YOOOOUUUUUU!!!!!
Facts
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Women are the gatekeepers of humanity. I’m glad we are having more of these conversations because it really starts with us. Men have to work & prove to be capable and deserving of having an offspring. Procreation is NOT a game or free for all.
Thanks so much Fumi for your advice to our younger sisters, well done dear.
I agree 100%. Women need to always protect themselves at all times when it comes to being in a relationship with someone.
FACTS 💯.
That’s nonsense 😂 a woman needs to prove she’s worthy of being a man’s wife. But all that is about to change
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I believe you
Before any date with a man, I go: emotionally happy, not hungry, and not horny.
The day before or short before the date, I do it all. I do something to make myself happy.
I eat something tasty. And I do the deed with a toy (I said it). This helps me see all the red flags in the first or second date.
From all the dates, I have like 4-5 dudes who were "maybe" husband/daddy material and the relationship lasted more than a month.
That's how sad the dating pool is nowadays. Please learn that you come first no matter what family, friends, coworkers say.
Stay alerted and stay safe.
Thank you for your transparency and your useful advice
I wish my first and last name weren’t my profile but oh well.
You can do all that AND do everything right.
And these men will still a representative to your WHOLE self.
There’s just something about a women with sparkle that broken men can’t resist. Smfh
With a toy, now I never thought of that , good one. Thanks
Listen… Fumi you are so right! I hope many are listening and holding tight to what you’re saying. I’m 51 and my mom had me at 16. And my father was 0. And she moved on without him and never truly knew him. Fast forward, my mom recently retired from Wright Patt AFB, she has 6 degrees (two of them are PhD). And being that I’m the oldest sibling, I’ve seen my mom go from nothing to amazing. God has truly blessed her. And each time she graduated (since I was two because she had to drop out when I was born) I’ve seen her get her diplomas. I know not everyone will have the same testimony but I pray it will motivate someone for better. Even while being a single mom. ❤
Your mother is awesome! Can you please tell her she inspired me to go chase my dreams?
Thank you for sharing!
God bless you and your superhero mom!🙏🏽💝😊
Kudos to your mom!! She’s amazing; what a testimony!
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My mother has 5 degress she did the same. Now mine was a dead beat because she left him! 6 months later she met her Boaz. She put God 1st and me 2nd and made it clear she was not having sex to end up in the same boat. He was thrown. My real father died May 31st 2022 they were together 42 yrs!!! Wasn't no step round here were are a family forever!!!! I'm sooo glad my mother wasn't chasing the bio trying to force a family that never was and never meant to be💯 She would've ruined my life and missed her Boaz playing house with some nigga that was a season not a life time. How many men and women we know out here still chasing a fake family trying to force a family??? I'll wait....
Amen 🙏 Thank you for sharing
I'm a single parent and it is hard. I didn't plan to be a single mom but it is one of my proudest moments. I raised a young man who I'm proud to call my son. My son father is not like this man but he is not much better. He wanted his son until I no longer wanted a relationship. Be mindful of who you have children with. I love my son and I've done everything I can to make his life better. I've been blessed along the way to meet ppl who have loved my son and invested in his growth in the same manner as me. Blessings upon blessings I pray for my son.
He needs to be added to all Sex Ed videos immediately 😮
If this isn’t a WARNING, I don’t know what it 😢
And females are still laying with him
I agree!
I saw this video. And honestly. I have literally stopped talking to a guy because he had a child and spent so much time with me that I asked him when he last saw his son. Despite his child’s mother wanting him to be in his child’s life. Fast forward…an ex friend dated him and had kids with him and he no longer takes care of those kids. Moral of the story….if you can not take care of the kids you already have I don’t want anything to do with you and surely don’t want kids with you so prayerfully those women didn’t know that prior to having kids with him because of coarse not all ppl are honest about this stuff up front. Smh
@Monique F. My daughter had the same experience with a guy she was dating. My daughter could not understand how this man would want a relationship with her and not a relationship with his own flesh blood. She cut him off. And good for you, you and my daughter did the right thing
Exactly!!!!!
@@carolynwhite9975 yes they did the right thing 👏👏👏👏👏👏
Well said!
@@carolynwhite9975 Seems like you've gave your daugther the tools to value herself.👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽💝😊
I played this loudly in my long car ride hone today for my 16 year old daughter to hear. Thank you, Fumi. You are so valuable to us. ❤️
Keep talking to her. They may bump their head but when you given what they need, they regain their good sense at some point! Keep praying and talking to her! 😁 From one single mom to another. God be with you both!🥰
Given his character, I doubt he told the women he didn't want children before they got pregnant. He probably told them after the fact. Notice, he got many more women pregnant, its only these seven who kept the children. Also, people keep saying why do the women go with him knowing he has multiple children, they probably didn't know. He isn't claiming the kids so why would you think he would tell any woman he is dealing with that he has children. People forget a lot of men lie to get you into bed. I don't believe his version of this story. Anyway, women need to raise their expectations as it would weed out this type of men. They don't have the patience to keep up the façade for a long period.
Thank youuu! 💯
Exactly! He’s a good cautionary tale. But these men lie and manipulate. We have to give women more credit. If he showed up to a date the way he showed up in this video women would run before the check came.
I guess it's just me and you that are thinking along those lines. Men lie, A LOT and with his attitude, I don't believe he was upfront from jump and this rant is his cover story to deflect. Have you met men? A man will put in mega effort to get a woman not because of genuine intentions and then turn around and gaslight and humiliate her for believing him. I don't believe him. I dated someone for 4 years when I was much younger. We were thick as thieves, there was never any talk of breaking up, we didn't fight but when he was ready to dump me, he accused me of forcing myself on him. You're constantly around me like a tick on on dog without my asking you but I forced 4 yrs on you? I vowed no man was going to humiliate me like that ever again.
Well said, you don't want it, you cover up. He wants women to put their lives at risk to abort the baby and may never have kids in the future. Men are going to jail for kids, which is not theirs. he should go to jail just for being a dead beat in general.
After having one conversation with this man the women knew he had nuthing to offer but sex. They got what they wanted it just wasn't what they thought it would be.
But this guy is forgetting that there is God in heaven.
Oh and I’m sure HE is not impressed with this man!
God will sort him out
@@elizabethletsoso2558 how??? Hes still knocking women up.
I thought I was the only one who thought this
This should be a course for all young women and repeated again every few years. Thank you Fumi for these principles for life. God bless you!!!
Yes!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
I absolutely agree with you! This is why it is so important to share the video with those who need to hear it! So much dross gets circulated but when I encounter true gems I share them! You better believe I have a whole tradition set up now with my girlies as well as with younger relatives, my nieces and nephews, my cousins where we watch and discuss this vital content. I share Fumi's videos in our whatsapp groups and we have some great conversations, very thought-provoking and beneficial. The whole Sister2Sister series serves as a great resource and conversation starter, makes it so easy to check in with loved ones to see how they are really doing with problems they put a brave face on as I know this content will hit them in their heart and mind. Sometimes we need to hear good advice from someone we don't know for it to resonate. So yes, hun, I have long since been disseminating these FREE courses from Fumi and I have not received a complaint yet. Quite to the contrary, our Fumi sessions keep the laughter, love and focus on self-empowerment and positive relationship building flowing! Have a beautiful day🥰
This grown boy is going to cry when he is aged, I hope he lives long enough. Sad 😢.
He will definitely suffer
It’s the amount of pride he has boldly talking about how irresponsible he is that is ticking me off. These are the worst type of men. Oh women, my beautiful women. Please value yourself and get married before you have sex with any man. People call that old fashioned but that will save you from men like this. This is absolutely disgusting.
Marriage won’t save women from being alone or a single mother…marriage is not accessible to everyone or the answer. Like Keke said, it’s a privilege.
It would not but it would weed out some people who just want to take advantage of you. I personally know 2 women who were married but are now single moms due to other reasons. What I’m saying is, now they have protection and they get financial support from the men because they were MARRIED. Fumi talks about this all the time. Divorce is different from a break up.
@@suziedeschene5069 Marriage does not gurantee child support when you divorce. There are ways to get around paying child support and some men will go above and beyond not to pay it.
Beautiful and timely message for International Women's Day - much love to all the single Mamas doing it alone. And Happy Women's Day to you Fumi, and to us all! 🥰
Hear, hear! 💖🙌♀🥰
can you imagine how these kids are gonna feel when they see this video of their father basically telling them to f off. throw the whole man away
This man is so disgusting, i feel sorry for the kids at the end of the day it's the kids that suffer. It don't matter who's wrong
Indeed. The child is going to start life disadvantaged already. The part that baffles me is the audacity the father may have to come back if later in life the child becomes rich. Like very rich.
But what about the mothers? They played a part in this too 🤷🏽♀️. Why didn’t they think about the disadvantage their children was going to start with. Like, I’m asking honestly. Why not want the best possible father for their children? I don’t get it.
I don't get it. A man "TOLD" you he doesn't want children and you went ahead to have unprotected sex without taking morning after pill. It was a contract, and you broke the agreement. So deal with it! Stop forcing babies on men that don't LOVE you. Better still close your legs like mermaid and abstain from sex.
P.S: Why would any human have sex without protection? Is the sex that good that you don't care about herpes and HIV. I still don't understand the logic behind having sex with a man without protection and expect "No pregnancy". Was she thinking contraceptive wasn't necessary in this situation. What the hell were they thinking. What is wrong with us? You blame everyone but yourself.
Why? At the end of the day, the kids didn't ask to be born into this mess. And he just made his case for any judge in any Child Support court.
But women should hold themselves accountable. Why are women having sex with men who have 3,4,5 etc kids. Men like that are irresponsible and so selfish so why get pregnant for someone like that. A lot of women have children knowing full well they cannot provide for children then bring the kids in poverty and hardship. That's why our community is full of drug dealers, murderers, black men so many hate black women and men like the guy in the video. Black women are destroying the black community by making dumb and poor decision. Being a single mother should be shameful and disgraceful. Not celebrated and glamorize
Black women let's do better. Love yourselves and don't let anyone disrespect you this way.
The irony of it all is that he's willing to pay for multiple abortions but won't pay for ONE vasectomy.
He is a horrible nightmare but he spoke his truth. Women need to take heed and stopping thinking a baby will change a man’s heart. So glad you called it like it is Fumi, he’s a clown for sure! You dropped straight gems for the girls, young and old. Thank you Queen! 👑🙏🏾💕
This is Sick and Dysfunctional.
Excellent talk Fumi. The real truth is needed ASAP. It’s no fun being a single parent in fact is the biggest sacrifice, it requires all of you, and then some, including many dreams you may have. I will always say - just don’t do it unless you’ve lived your life and have built a life for yourself that truly support both you and child, mentally emotionally financially all the ‘llys’ and then you can enjoy the ride. Raising a human life is the biggest responsibility that exists.
Females should always use Protection. Agree with him.
I agree that women do ultimately need to make the decision to be more accountable and careful about who they sleep with because they do carry the baby and they are the ones who will have to care for them. However, this dummy thinks he’s completely absolved from all responsibility and that’s not true. He’s knows he don’t want kids but he’s not pulling out??? Make it make sense. He also knows he can’t make a woman have an abortion or take a plan b. Just saying you don’t want kids don’t absolve you. I hope all seven of them file for child support. Thanks to his little video, it will be an easy case. I don’t usually advocate for jail but, homeboy needs to be locked up with that messed up mindset he has. Those poor children will suffer the most. I’d never lay down with a man like that. I don’t have kids because I never married and I absolutely REFUSED to be somebody’s baby momma and bring a child into the world with a worthless father. A child deserves a better start. I understand life takes turns and twists you don’t expect, but I wanted to at least do my best to give my child a great life.
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Did he tell them before they had sex? Did he tell them the morning after the deed? Or did he wait weeks and weeks to ensure that the whole experience of "getting rid of it" would be as hurtful and gut-wrenching as it can possibly be?
Eyona, morning or evening, doesn’t matter. We as Women make always the call with whom we sleeping with (unless it’s rape). We must do better, have protected sex .
"This guy is a clown." It's honestly so embarrassing really. Aunty Fumi, i love that you acknowledged that it all comes from low self esteem, loneliness, and when we search for love where it cannot be found. And the reinforcement of loving ourselves. Its really a sad, vicious cycle that we need to break in our societies. Ladies love yourselves.
Wow… this man doesn’t even care about himself. Absolute madness. I hope the courts throw him in jail for not taking care of his kids
Sister Fumi, you took the words right out of my mouth when you said keep your legs closed and buy a toy! To the young women who are in this situation with one child: you made a mistake choosing the wrong man but you have a beautiful child who is looking at you with love. Please don't resent the child. Love them and learn how to love yourself. Leave men out of it until you have learned your lessons. As hard as it is, I've known young women who have gone on and prospered. Their secret? Stop with that one child and focus on your precious little family. Sending love.
“Buy a toy!” Yes Fums, tell them. Don’t let temporary situations become permanent. Get on bc as soon as, and if they don’t want to wrap it up they need to keep it moving.
*A 77 year old, who's now 79, chased me (a 63 year old widower of three years), hard, for over a year. I relented and dated him for a year. I discovered that he had 14 children, five from his ex-wife and nine by others! He had the nerve to tell me that he'd get me pregnant, too, if he could 😱. I told him that even if I could, he WOULDN'T!*
*Oh, and by the way, most of his children don't (understandably!) pay him any mind!*
Shocking 😮😮😮😮
That's because he's a freelance sperm donor lol. Father? No.
Stay as far as you get away from that guy! I said guy because he is not a man!
Hi Fumi! There’s so many layers to peel off from the video you showed. As unpleasant and disturbing it is to hear, it needs to be spoken about. We all need to take heed that there are people like this roaming the world. We need to protect ourselves and our children. We need to stop the broken and unhealthy homes, the negative patterns, generational curses. We can start with us.
That guy made it plain and clear he did not want children. I recently lost my dad . We could never connect. Now I understand why… he too probably was not ready to have kids. I often thank God for the best stepdad in the world.
Men should kidnap him, and get him a vasectomy
It’s shocking😮, but there were several points made. This man has said repeatedly that he doesn’t want any kids & yet some of these ladies said “ok”, but then got upset when he refused to support the kids financially and emotionally. I feel so bad for the kids and the ladies. I hope for the ladies sake that they got tested, because there’s no telling what he’s carrying that would pass onto them and/or their kids.
This is a no good clown and he is exposing himself and yes women need to be held accountable in this matter as well. But I don't believe this low life, degenerate man disclosed anything to these women until after the fact.
I don’t believe him. He is the type to be playing games
Seven children he couldn't even pick up my dog's poop much less be in my presents. When a person talk listen and take notice, they are giving you a heads up about their toxic behaviors. He is open about how he feels at least now. I don't think he is that up front beforehand because I find it hard to believe women would still have sex with the man child. He is selfish he said the 7 women are the ones who decided to keep the children, so we don't know how many babies he truly helped create. I want him to keep that same stand when the children are older, and he is old and alone. His children will return the same love he showed them none.
All facts! Us as Women gotta start respecting our bodies more cuz there’s so many men out here just as ignorant as this man
Fumi, the man (boy) is still accountable for where he leaves his seed. He has made a choice as well. What a weak example of a man (boy)!
I hope those 7 women can get him for child support. He needs to be arrested for being a serial impregnater. It's easy to blame women Aunty Fumi.. But understand its the mother who stays behind to take care of the child.. I'm tired of women being blamed for everything and getting stuck whilst guys go on to do the same bullsh*t to other women 🥴
If this man clearly, says he doesn't not want children, whyyyy would u go look to him for anything? He has made his choice very clear, and in the case of woman getting pregnant you have to blame them. Because he is right in saying we are the ones carrying that child, why u gonna have raw sex with a man u barely know? Then u let him cum in you? Would you do that? And if he says he don't want nothing to do with the child, would u still go to him,knowing he ain't gonna help?
Two people can be wrong at the same time. I want to know what was baby mama number 3,4,5,6 and 7 thinking? Cause fool me once etc🤷🏿
He should be in jail for the harm and mental duress he causes his children
I'm sorry I don't agree. Having a child with a man who has several children across different women, isn't looking after any of them doesn't work etc etc is straight up reckless and unfair on the children involved.The man is right in some sense nothing about him screams father of the year, if you choose to procreate with him it anyway surely that's on you.
Women use birth control, you know he's a dog in heat protect yourself because he's told you. Don't complain😉
As a mom raising 2 black boys, 17 and 12 I am teaching them to first and foremost love, respect, and be responsible for themselves. When you have respect and love for yourself you won’t have unprotected sex and jeopardize your life and future negatively. I’m also teaching them to be selective with who they choose to date. Who are the parents of this man 🤔
Black boys adhere to the teachings and morals of Black male culture...not their mothers.
There was a 25 year old in the news, he was gunned down and he at 25 was a father of 14 children. Can anyone tell me how can he provide for this many children with different mothers... If this matter is addressed, there are people who think that it is racism, therefore it becomes a cultural and generational issue
A public DEADBEAT and now everyone knows it!!!!
Men always show us who they are but we always ignore the red flags. I can bet my life he still gets women chasing him
Fumi!!!! I said the same thing to my daughter (GET A TOY!!!) who is suffering from major self esteem issues 😕 all her life. AND now she just given birth for the second time and is addicted to drugs...please pray for her. Only prayer can bring her out of this. Her self esteem is tied to her wanting to be loved by men as she suffers from daddy issues. I'm praying without ceasing
So this guy is sleeping with all these women unprotected?😳
Aren’t they even scared of diseases? How about HIV?😢
Ladies please always use protection until you are 100% sure y’all are committed.
Happy international women’s day sister💕
He doesn't care about himself either clearly
Hello Fumi! First of all, I am living for that shirt. It is gorgeous! Great segment! You were on point for everything. I think about my life and crazy history and where I am now as a single parent, soon to be married to a wonderful man (we both chose to abstinent during our courtship of 2 years) and learning how important it is to know your value as a woman and not let 'every car park in your garage'😉. I want to be able to set an example to my son and how he should treat a woman.
Happy International women's day Fumi! Thanks for your amazing message to inspire all women
Sometimes I think I’m being judged for not having a partner yet or for not being a mother. But everyone is ignoring the fact the dating pool sucks and it’s harder to date when you’re a black women in America since there’s some shitty stereotypes against us. I’m just not signing up for the struggle with a kid on the side. Lastly, are we surprised that he’s a black man? They have that deadbeat reputation
Exactly 💯
May I bring your attention to 18:12 - 19:00 in the video. The entire video is full of non-stop pearls of wisdom but this part here specifically addresses your complaints. Absolutely crucial advice! Do not award any male an automatic pass, automatic access because he 'appears' to be your tribe. He must be OBSERVABLY & CONSISTENTLY decent, have good character, be productive, caring, respectful and responsible to even be in the runnings. (Such men are not so hard to find if you cast your net wider and do not swim in pools where deadbeats abound, unchecked and free to poop where they eat, such is the disrespect!) These qualities are what define a man of good calibre worthy of a decent woman's time. You put yourself at an immediate disadvantage if as a bw you insist that the singular facet of skin colour is an overriding sign of a man being in your tribe and worthy of your attention. What about all the other qualifiers? This is the mistake many women are making and it wastes precious time and energy and only worsens the social dysfunction going on. Fumi was absolutely right on the nature of an accursed man. Do not hitch your wagon to any male who doesn't give a damn about his own life and is happy to float in society being utterly useless. If you are not useless and up for a life of struggle, don't do it! You own your life and it is up to each woman to dictate what is and isn't up to scratch. I love that Fumi dared to emphasis the simple truth of the matter, that a man can only do to you what you allow. I will put it another way: how can a bad man get in and cause damage if you do not open the door in the first place. You should have long since assessed from the peephole and his initial approach what you are dealing with to refuse entry. Great video and great discussions happening in the comments. Sharing wisdom and helping each other learn how to see better and be strong in our decision-making and empower ourselves. I love Fumination 🥰
Everyone is judged, so what. You're in control of you, not others. Live your life.
You are wise not to live your life on what others expect. Misery loves company.
@@JenSweetpea you are so very wise. I hope many read your comment.
Omg! He is the most pitiful excuse for a man, and human being! Yes they both have to take responsibility for their carelessness, and I pray women will start loving themselves as God loves them! The child is innocent, and whether the man knows the woman or not how can you not love your own flesh, and blood! Women value yourself, and get therapy so that you can stop the cycle! Single, or Double Parenting are both extremely hard, and the child deserves better! Adults have to do better!
Imagine when his kids grow up and see the video I hope he gets his karma
I definitely do empathize with the moms' as well, since we often find or even place ourselves in situations and circumstances we don't want to be in. Myself I've been there and I realized this after distancing myself from men I used to date because I saw a pattern and it made me feel 'icky'. So I made a choice for myself not be in such a situation again and since 2020 I've been single, celibate and loving every minute. I never had much guidance towards separating sex and love, I had to learn it the hard way which is why I'm grateful for Sister2Sister.
He just said that the women that have him access to their bodies for free.. He did nothing for them.. He gave them crumbs or even nothing and he still slept with them for free.
He even said he had no love for these women who gave him free access to their bodies.
Like he literally did nothing and he got the gold.
This is out of a man's mouth
That's how they think of us..
How a man treats you is truly how he feels and subconsciously thinks about you.
Well, some women who have good sense and know their worth can avoid a man like this. A man like this will be alone when he needs help the most.
You look so gorgeous- as usual! I love the shirt and hair!
Trinidad and Tobago, Yes! Can't wait to see you Fumi 🥰
As s single mother and looking back, I am amazed that I was able to do it, especially when the village was so brutal and unempathic. That child today is a happy professional with degrees. God is good. Bless you, Fumi❤! Blessings🙏,
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Happy International Women's Day Fumi & Fumination globally. Well said and on 👉. Blessings always.
Sista Fumi…this is another one where you’ve dropped SERIOUS truth bombs !!💥💥💥💥
"Only the seven kept the kids..."
He wants to have a choice too! 😮
Perhaps, his mom wanted to abort him?
I'm thinking the 7, nst be ok, if adopted out to decent parents?
Kekes son may get a nickname like DUKE later
This statement this conversation was needed thank you I suffer from mommy Guilt A lot. How could I do this to my child bring him in this mess . Forgiveness is hard but it must be done .
Yes Ms. Fumi, he expressed his sincere feelings on the matter. I hope his message finds every female who will consider making a decision to give a man access to her body especially one who did the “bear minimum”. May they run for their lives. My goodness this was heavy!
This is important for women to hear. Thanks for saying it so clearly. I hope more listen.
I respect your views on this but I don't believe that this man was being honest with these women upfront about having kids and not being willing to take care of any before he laid down with them. Sometimes, these men are incredibly dishonest and these women do not stand a chance.
...and everyone still needs to be responsible for himself or herself. Though he said himself how "irresponsible" he was/is not to use protection because he's leaving it all up to her. I mean look...casual sex or "jump off" sex says it all... so, PROTECTION, PROTECTION, PROTECTION.
@hazelboyce7230 Indeed... some women are under the guise that a baby changes and melts the heart of the man as though they are in a bona-fide relationship or marriage. Even in marriages, a baby doesn't salvage a broken marriage.
I guarantee you he didn't have the same energy with these women that he has in this video. He said out of his own mouth that he told them he didn't want children WHEN THEY WERE PREGNANT, which leads me to believe he switched up after the damage was done. I'm glad this video is making the rounds so women will see that protecting your womb is imperative and must be done at all costs. Imagine the damage and rejection those poor children would feel if they ever were to see this video.
@@ebonyjackson3198 EXACTLY!!!
I completely agree with you! @jayPecentage
Truth, shout it out from the rooftops!! I pray that many, many women hear this and put it to practice. Many children suffer from these careless decisions or wishful thinking. You can't give a child what you ain't even got for yourself.
Mrs. Fumi
I’ll tell you a quote from Maya Angelo “When someone shows you who they are believe them”. The guy specifically told each of those women who he is and they either ignored him, didn’t care, or thought he would change. Either way he told them at the beginning.
he probably pretended w/ nice guy act up front and switched up when they got pregnant and wouldn't abort. Remember, we only have his version of events. I just don't believe most women would agree to have unprotected sex with a man who looked them in the eyes and said "I don't want kids, I don't want you, you mean nothing to me." I think he's twisting the story a bit to appear victimized.
He didn't! He lied to get them in bed! No woman is going to go in bed with a man who tells her she ain't worth the effort! Except the protection broke!
I believe he’s showed himself now on this video and I serious doubt he showed this to the women before he impregnated them. Horny men lie through their teeth for some 🐱
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That guy is not capable of being nothing other than the cold character he shows the world.
👀…. Three words, Lord helps us!
What I have always said. “Men do what you allow them to do.” If a man shows you who they are, trust it. Be aware of his past actions, because “what he has done to others, he can easily do to you.” Don’t be fooled into thinking he won’t do those crappy things to their past partners onto you.
I have many male friends and they talking about how easy it is to get a woman to sleep with them and the moment that happens, they are off.
If you want to sleep with the man, it’s your choice and I respect it, but make sure you MAKE THEM WORK FOR IT. By doing that, they will more likely to be invested in you and you are no longer just a sex object. You will hopefully then become a partner. Because men always say they want a lady in the streets but a freak in the bed. But if you give it up easily, they think you are ON the streets giving it up easily to other men. Know your own worth. Check it twice.
Ladies, I send you nothing but my love, best wishes and pray that you stay safe.
Am saving this video to daughter, thank you so much mama and I love you.
There are so many men like him out there... ladies use protection, better yet don’t sleep with a man that gives off so many red flags. Use your intuition! A few minutes of enjoyment are not worth all the problems that follow if you end up a single parent without any support available. Children shouldn’t be brought up in the world so carelessly.
Omg Fumi you are the best person to have picked this story.I know you won't disappoint.
I can't get over the fact that he still thinks it is about him or her. It should now be about the children.
Real talk. Our young women girls really need to let what you said sink in. That last part you said really hit the target.
I love your stuff. You are so beautiful inside and out and your strength shows through! ❤️
The more you grow up, the more you begin to understand yourself. Some of this men will used sweets words to finished your head and by the time you realise that they are fooling you is too late. I thank God for social media platform because we learn a lot. Thank you Fumi 👏👏👏🤗
I'm convinced he wasn't upfront about what his expectations were in the beginning.
Most of these predators will lay down with you first and subsequently tell you all these things once their mission is accomplished. They move the goal posts all the time.
He might have been one of those mxn who use sympathy to reel women in and sleep with them. Once the aim is achieved, he switches up. This more common than we care to admit.
The sad thing about this is that when he FINALLY meets a woman he wants, she wont want anything to do with him once she finds out about these kids. If she does make a go with him, it won't last. Not only has he set his children up, his baby mamas, but also he set himself up. Just too stupid or doesn't care to notice. I appreciate his candor though. He confirmed what I already knew.
For him to say he takes responsibility, while knowingly having unprotected sex is mind-numbing. How he stands and speaks with pride about sleeping with "jump offs" that he sees no value in, tells me he doesn't really value himself either. I have to wonder what these women see in men like this. Just gross. 😩
Girl, you preached today!! Loved all the gems of light you shone.
Excellent video that focuses on the important stuff. I have hated seeing all the toxic and irresponsible commentary elsewhere on this man'd disgusting video. Thank you so much for bringing the focus back to women and the importance of making wise decisions and valuing your own life and personhood so you are not easy prey for lifesuckers as I like to call them. Fantastic work as always, many thanks to you Fumi 🥰
Women take note if you want children, run fast from men like this!
Preach brother preach. You are not the only SOB out there. Ladies we all can learn a lot from what he his saying. He is not even a valuable peice of s..t.
Karma waiting on you. I am shure you are not going to get the last laugh. My only wish is for manny ladies to see this. God is a good God and he loves working miracles. Mother save his vlog for your child. His day is around the corner. Ladies put a value on your self .
Get full custody immediately while he is in that frame of thinking, that way later on in the years he can't claim rights in case he decides to interfere with the child's life.
So right for this Woman's International Day.
How do you want to be.. as a WOMAN!
Fumi. i adore you ❤
Child support court does not ask you if you wanted children -no law that asks that. I'm sure he likely makes enough to pay for even one. RUN! do not walk from men like hime. You are worth more.
Fumi you always tell it like it is. I was a single mother. The best revenge to fools like him Sistas educate yourself get a job keep it moving. If he never give a dime they must move forward and teach their kids to stay in school succeed. One day that kid will be successful an then he will want to be recognized as the Father. SISTAS MOVE FORWARD AND SUCCEED AND FORGET THAT FOOL..GOD GOT YOU
There is no shame in him. He will reach out to his kids when he gets older. I see it so many times and if they are not by his side when he gets older then he will be a sad old man. I also see this a lot as am Er nurse
Love the shirt ❤ this man is a Fool the courts will make him pay child support! And these young women need to smarten up. They are more picky s about the close on their back, and getting their hair done more than who they lay up. with. It’s very sad women like these women have no value in their self
I don't want to imagine just how damaging his words are to his biological children. 😢 Outright rejection. I would rather cook up a story & tell my child his father died. That was Mean! 😳
Great topic Fumi. Loved the advice you are putting out here for our young girls. Great show.
I’m a new subscriber and let me tell you this was such an important message for young women. It was positive and uplifting but most of all....... imperative. So many women young in mind body and spirit allow men like this to ruin their lives. Its the best cautionary tale you can get. Self esteem and self awareness of how to really love yourself by making good choices is something I learned the hard way. U teach people how to treat you and this man I am sure is exactly the way he was in the video....in person. (Where is his Momma, Aunties and Cousins, bc ain’t no way a relative of mine could do this and still be standing lol )
Great video and love the channel, and I wish I could come meet you in London! You are fabulous!
Thank you Fumi for being auntie in my head! Great message. I do also have to say that as women we should not only fall for words, but stay around for awhile and view actions and patterns with these men, because some ( usually men like him) will lie to you! Imo, I don't think he was up front with all of these women about his parental status or possibly even in his surety that he would not be an involved father. Since he clearly has no morals, I doubt he was totally honest with these women up front.
Oh, and btw...are you coming to the DMV area for your event? 🙂
Agreed 💯💐🌹
Fumi, EVERY WORD you spoke is true. I pray some young sister reading this vlog will listen and take what you said to heart and govern her life that way. 🌹🌹❤❤
Boy bye 🙄... Use protection and ladies run from men like this THEE END 🤷
“You know what I have to comb my hair”😂😂😂