Purging *42 SKIRTS* I Kept Until I Was Skinny & Good Enough to Wear... *4 yrs later*
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- Опубліковано 13 жов 2022
- Let it go. Don't hold onto it those clothes in your closet anymore. Those pieces of fabric no longer have power over you.
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Can't imagine how hard this was to film. when I go shopping and something doesn't fit it makes me feel so bad about myself and to do that 42 times in a row is definitely hard
This is soo true, I'm from Ghana, just got back from the market. Saw this cute top, and was soo excited to try on. After trying it on, it could not close because I'm big chested, I felt soo bad, like I was the reason I couldn't wear cute things.
You're right. If i hate going shopping bcz of that, i don't wanna see myselft trying to do this :(
Consider going to terapy because feeling bad about not fitting into a dress is not normal at all. You are probably hypersensitive.
She's super brave, and I hope she feels better
i always say that you aren’t meant to fit the clothes, the clothes are meant to fit you. so many companies have different sizing charts i can be anywhere from a medium to even plus size. i just go with what is comfortable and fits me how my body is. if i buy clothes online it’s always a variety of sizing and it honestly does make me feel bad sometimes to realize that i’m being labeled as larger than other stores. but there truly is nothing wrong with that. clothes are meant to fit your body.. it just depends on who makes them and their idea of how sizes work.
When I'm tempted to keep clothes that are way too small, I always ask myself "If you lose XX pounds, are you really going to be excited about your old stuff or will you want to buy new stuff?" and that makes it easier to part with.
Very true and good advice I should try!!
I would actually be excited about my old stuff lol, but I also went through all my clothes and measured them and stored them according to their real size so when I get to that size I can take out the pile and try some things on but I also don't constantly have them in my way when finding clothes to fit me currently so I'm not bothered everytime I enter my closet. It actually helps me lose weight because I'm more likely to get out and do things when I have clothes readily available that fit me and I'm ignoring the ones that don't, and I'll probably get rid of the clothes from my highschool years because I honestly don't want to be that size and I don't think it's attainable. If I lost weight and didn't have my old clothes, I would just make it work with the clothes that are too big for way too long because I hate shopping so that's why I just stored them XD
I've gotten rid of half my old stuff due to this mind set. I still have some I may never part with though
I don't really like buying new stuff so I just buy very stretchy clothes or clothes that looks good both fitted and oversized that I can wear even if I gain or lose weight 🤣
I actually agree, but it depends on how I'm doing economically in that moment. Maybe I won't be able to afford to replace so much, maybe I will. I know I can't right now so it's tough to get rid of clothes
Hi! I think if you had a closet full of clothes that complimented your shape, you’d feel a bit better about your body. It’s def helped me and makes you feel like a freaking model when you get dressed☺️ This video must have been so hard for you to film so thank you😊
Agree
For sure! I don’t mean it badly but I do feel like quite a few pieces she has actually don’t flatter her body shape, which makes her even more conscious.
@@oceane.booktok its difficult and something that has to be unlearned. So it will take some time, but I hope she takes your comment as constructive rather than just harsh criticism.
There is nothing wrong with her body. She has a shorter more straight shape and she keeps picking outfits for taller leaner figures. But she does herself no service by constantly trying to put her body in outfits that are not meant for her body shape, size or height. Once she starts dressing for her body, not only will she look a lot more proportionate and slim, it'll make her feel better about herself. and will probably save her more money in the end.
@@Just999Me agreed. She could try a longer skirt length in a body skimming fabric instead of a clingy fabric
A even better feeling is being healthy and trying an all different clothes that fit you like a glove , wearing clothes from your teens years and they fitting you just fine.
We can't change or get better if we live ignoring our issues, I judge my body because I want to change and move on, there is nothing wrong about disliiking parts of your body that can change (weight)
I was size 6 in middle school and size 12 in high school and I was never “big”, but because of how my family and growing up in a Asian community.. I felt huge. Now that I’m in my mid 20s and I’m now size 16 I realize I need to not care about what society wants from me and just be happy.
omg same, i was a 6-7 (depending on the brand) in middle school and in high school, i went up to an 8-10 thought i was huge. im now at an 18 trying to get back to a healthy weight, but im in a much better place mentally than i was at a size 6. asian families man 🥲
Im not Asian but I am from a Latino family and honestly I’ve passes through this cycle too :(
Bru same my mom always said i was fat bc i wore a size 8 in highschool
16? That is actually huge hate to break it to you girl
I really understand this. I remember being in middle school and wearing a size 6, while my friends all wore a 2-4. I *always* felt fat. Then came high school and I was then a size 10-12. And my friends never changed. It took many years of learning to accept my body is going to change many, many times in my life. I don’t want to regret not loving myself earlier. I hated my body at its smallest, and I don’t want that for myself. I don’t want to hate myself while i’m young, healthy, and beautiful. And if anyone, especially any youth, are reading this and feel called out, good. Love the way you are now so you don’t have any regrets later. You’ll never be happy with your body till you learn this!!!
A good piece of advice is to just get rid of it if you can’t fit it, PERIOD. The reason is bc if you keep it now, you’re taking up space for something that you can love AND fit. Your style will probably be different down the line anyway. And if you really want it that bad, sell it and buy one in your size!
I mean, it's pretty normal for your weight to fluctuate, though? And obviously it would be really dumb to get rid of your entire wardrobe that you love if you've temporarily gained a bit of weight you plan on losing as soon as you can, right?
@@alexbennet4195 Agreed. My weight fluctuates a lot and I've purged my closet a lot. Guess what? Now I need clothes in the size I got rid of because I was certain I wouldn't get back to that size. Does that mean I now need to get rid of all the clothes that became too small for me because I gained a tonne of weight in a short time due to a bad mental state? Hell no because I want to fit into those clothes again some day. Even though it makes me feel like shit that I can't fit into them now, I was a much healthier weight when I did so why would I just throw my hand up and say "oh well" and get rid of it all?
@@alexbennet4195 I think with Fei it's a bit different. She's struggled with her body image for a long time, so holding onto small clothes can really negatively impact her mental health.
I literally took out so many clothes from my closet yesterday, and I relate to this so much. I’m glad I was able to let go and move on.
You don’t need a BBL, be very careful if you’re gonna get it. It’s a very risky procedure. You’re so beautiful! I’m 32 and literally once I hit my 30s I’ve been on a self loving train. I’ve been getting more confident as time goes on. Give yourself time to grow. Your pov changes as you grow. Don’t do any major plastic surgeries until you love yourself! Otherwise you’ll keep trying to get more. It’s short lived happiness.
Did this recently with my pants after gaining weight and was crying the whole time. Lol I remember panicking about my new stretch marks cause I thought I had some skin disease. Then went out and bought pants that fit and flatter my current shape and felt so much more confident after.
Changes in your body are hard to accept but just because you are the weight you are now doesn't mean its gonna be like that forever. Bodies will change as long as we live.
Oof I feel this. This past year was not a good year for me and I ended up going up a size since last fall. When I pulled out my jeans and realised none of them fit I had a full mental breakdown. Eventually I pulled myself together and sucked it up and just bought new jeans.
girl i feel that, sized up to a 33 after being a 28-30 for so long, gained over 7-8 inches on my waist after being severely mentally i’ll so looking back on where i was 6 months ago i’ve come a long way since i was getting close to a 40 inch waist, but it’s still hard for me to invest in clothing or beauty or clothes because i have the mentality that this current form is temporary so it’s okay to dissociate and neglect it until a more “acceptable” me emerges who is “worthy” to be invested in
Yess the stretch marks omg!! I gained a lot of weight after college and most of it around my belly. I kinda look pregnant tbh I'm trying to accept it but it's hard.
This was so freaking brave of you to put this vid up, for anyone to see. As a short person myself, it is SO HARD for clothes to look good sometimes! I do feel your pain! The winter fairies joke made me bust out laughing btw!
I know this was hard to film Fei, but you really do look beautiful in all the skirts you felt the most insecure in. You’re a beautiful person and I really look up to you, for how strong you are to make videos like this, you prove that we’re not alone when feeling this way, but we have each other. 🌸💗
Finally accepting my body at the size it is now. I bought clothes that are my size and that I can fit in and stopped buying stuff too small because "going a size bigger" was shameful to me. And lord does I feel better, I can dress and feel good in my clothes while looking good, so f sizes and what they "mean". Let's all be free of that together
the animal print skirt is real cute. in general with skirts, the way it fits your body is more important for me than the print, and that skirt looks real cute on you!
agree!
I just recently did this to my closet and I feel so much more free afterwards! I love seeing your growth and learning to love yourself no matter the size
Thankyou so much for making these "when I'm skinny" videos. I've worked so hard to minimise my life's possessions to feel peace and I have achieved great things and moved on from 80% of my belongings in the past 3 years. BUT! now I find my largest category of possessions are clothes. Specifically clothes that are too small and too cute/vintage/limited edition/can't get again. I haven't touched them other than to move them around or fitted into them for 6 years now. They take up so much space physically and mentally and I just can't let go. I want to let go though, I want to live in the now. I'm just struggling. Watching you be so honest in these is motivating and I pray I can use these to help push me to make a jump and just cull.
Sending you massive hugs, so much love and all my good vibes 💖 💕 💗
I fully just listened to Fei speaking out loud the same monologue I say to myself all the time and DAMN that was exposing to my own self
I love this video. It's real and it's so emotionally raw. I really needed this right now because it's so easy to feel totally alone with my body image issues. No one in my life understand the struggles of being a midsized woman AT ALL. Her confidence is really goal worthy for me and anyone else on the same journey to self love. Keep keep making these videos im obsessed
This is so real. Thank you for posting this, I know so many people go through all of these feelings you showed in the video but think they are so alone and they’ll never be thin enough or skinny enough. I body check and talk to myself in the exact same way you do in the video, I always tell myself I deserve it for not working hard enough, but seeing you talk to yourself in this way when you are clearly an amazing and funny person, who is absolutely beautiful made me feel so sad, because you don’t deserve that❤️ it will get better, you are on the right path to self love, this was a huge step to film and post, don’t give up ❤️
yeah i know the feeling. this past year i basically tossed out my ENTIRE wardrobe and had to start from scratch. i gained a significant amount of weight in 2019/2020 but was in denial until this year. but walking into my closet and seeing nothing but my "skinny" clothes/wearing clothes that didn't fit every single day was killing me mentally. now I have like 10 pieces of clothes (literally) but at least they fit.
The way it is deep though, ever since I was little I’ve loved clothing and fashion and for years I had been collecting pieces to create my perfect wardrobe. When I gained weight initially I was heartbroken that I had outgrown some of my favorite pieces. But as I kept gaining weight, the more of my clothing didn’t fit me (and I actually have like no clothing left in my wardrobe). I’m literally traumatized to go through my closet again because the last time I just ended up breaking down and crying. Not to mention when you gain weight sometimes the styles you liked on yourself before seem like they don’t match your body anymore and you’ve got find new pieces that make you feel confident/comfortable. I absolutely love these videos you’ve released talking about this, it makes me feel less alone. And damn I’m gonna have to try watching these the next time I go through my closet so I can remember to be more positive about the process. Never stop being slay 💖
Thank you.
I had a bad episode a couple years ago, and just kept the clothes.
I now fit most of it, but my happiness doesn't have anything to do with my size in some fabric.
It was when I forgot about the clothing, it started working.
I am happier 🌱
And you've always been a support!
I think I've watched you for a little over 4 years, and I absolutely loovve your growth!!
I freaking feel you girl, like keep this or purge that, hard to have bad or weird thoughts that tells you lots of lies or disrespectful things about yourself, idk, I love how you make me feel like it’s okay to look different, new for me, like a process, taking a look at my body and how many shapes it’ll look like. love ur videos btw 🧚🏼♀️
There's something to be said for how ill-fitting clothes make us feel like absolute shit--because the opposite is also true and wearing well fit flattering clothes can make you feel amazing too! I need to do one of these purges too because of my own weight gain over the past couple of years lol.
i'm so proud of you. I held onto clothes within the past 3 years thinking that I would lose weight so I could fit them eventually too. But then I started to see my closet pile up and I took myself on a shopping spree to find clothes that flattered my body shape more to help me purge out the old stuff. Something that really helped me was thinking about how normal it was for my body to change in my mid 20's-early 30's, and working with a therapist to help me build my self esteem and confidence. For a long time I had trouble accepting that I was never going to be as skinny as I was in highschool, and that it's normal for women's' body types to change the older we get :) I really hope you take this opportunity to go out and try more comfortable feeling clothes for you that make you feel confident ❤ thank you for being so vulnerable with us.
btw: tennis skirts and Midi look SO CUTE on you! I would love a spicy shein haul bc im a thiccer gal and i've been thinking about getting some stuff from there :)
I can’t tell you how much you have helped me throughout the years! I’m so glad I came across your channel bc it truly felt like we were on this journey of loving and accepting our body the way it is and you made me feel as though I was no alone. Tysm for that, lots of love💕💕💕
Fei thank you for being so honest and real
I love that this is real. Not overly "i am strong..doesnt bother me at all"
Excuse me. Ma'am. Miss Linda. That sweat skirt? Get it in every colour!! It's soooo flattering on you omg. It took me so long to learn I need to dress my body not pick clothes I think look cute on other people. I can't wait to see how your style and fashion sense blossom from all this change you're going through. You're going to GLOW and I'm here for it!
Thank you for filminf this video Fei, alot of people can relate to this same exact situation and I hope you treated yourself gently after finishing filming this video, love you Fei !
I'm proud of you Fei!!! You always have to start somewhere and your trying. Keep trying!! Lindas are here for you ❤️
This video is so relatable. There clothes that I used to fit that I still keep in my wardrobe telling myself I'll get back into that size and after years it's still sitting there and I just feel disappointed in myself that after so long it still doesn't fit so thank you Fei for being vulnerable with us. It makes me feel less alone and at the same time I know we are not defined by our clothes. We got this girl! Love ya!
It makes me sad how hard you are on yourself and I totally get it. Thank you for filming this for us, it must have been challenging and I appreciate the honesty.
Fei!! I'm so proud of you for putting yourself out there and trying to purge some of the clothes that make you feel like shht. I know this was super hard for you and you might feel like you kept more than you intended but I think you did great! It's a start and you can keep going through your clothes every few months to reevaluate. And for me, I fluctuate weight (which now I recognize as totally normal) and I keep a few sizes of jeans and bras just so I don't have to repurchase. I just put them in a designated drawer out of my main wardrobe. Hope you're feeling better after posting this video and getting all the support from us! ❤️
Fei, I think it’s so great that you are getting rid of clothes that are causing you emotional turmoil. I had a thought though, have you ever thought of getting some of them tailored? I know the things that were already 4x too small when you bought them need to go (it’s okay, we’ve all been there buying “i’ll wear this when i’m skinny” clothes). But the clothes that you’ve worn and love that are just a size or two too small i think it could be even more healing to get them upsized rather than tossing them!!
I remember when i discovered this concept it completely changed how i see clothes. I recently learned that tossing clothes sometimes, even though on the surface is a good way to accept your body for how it looks, actually unintentionally make us believe that certain styles are only meant for certain body types and if we don’t have that body type we have to wear other clothes (like that story about you were telling about the lady and the peplum skirt). Your closet especially has so many interesting pieces that would be such a shame to get rid of and they would be such an easy fix, and it seems like you still feel attached to some of them. Same goes for downsizing, like with that nike skirt. Screw being “the right size” it’s all about the custom fit for every unique body!!
That being said if this is the right way for you to heal and accept yourself once again that is amazing. This is just what was more effective for me, and i thought i’d pass it along and maybe save you a few bucks along the way.
Don’t be too hard on yourself! You’re a beautiful girl and inspire all of us with your honesty and the happiness and light you radiate ❤
I gained 50 pounds after battling an illness rendering me bed bound. Working to love me at all sizes is hard for me, but seeing you do this definitely healing (by proxy).
Same for me. I learned that I need to feel confident about myself first to be able to battle with all my negativity and illnesses
Fei! You look so good in A-line skirts! When you wore that leopard print silk skirt I was like YES THIS IS IT!
I liked the not so fitted skirts for her. Those complimented her body shape better
GIRLIE YES thanks you for posting this and for having the courage to love youuuuu ❤️❤️❤️
I’m so proud of you! Once or twice a year I do something like this and it’s so draining but being able to get rid of even a few items is so freeing
This is so relatable. Please don't feel alone so many of us go through this!!
This was no doubt a really hard video to film and I want to send you all the love an support for even doing this on camera! Over the last 2 years I gained 10 pound and it is and was something really hard mentally I had to deal with and about a year ago I realized that things stopped fitting the way they did before so I hid them in a drawer and about 4 months ago I just got sick of having them there so I went through them and was able to donate what ever didn’t fit me but with that I learned a few things that I’d like to share bc they became really helpful to me when trying to get rid of clothes! First find an area in your house without a mirror and try it all on and if it won’t zip up it goes in the give away pile no exceptions and if it does zip up decide if it’s comfortable just by feel so sit down in it and just move around a bit! Once you have it narrowed down try the pieces that fit and are comfy on and maybe even make full outfits with the pieces and at that point you can see how it looks in the mirror and decide to keep or give away further ! It’s a really hard thing to do especially with pieces you really love but a lot of times if you focus less on how it looks and more on how it feels, you are more likely to make decisions that are better for your mental health and your body image! Again I know it isn’t just a simple thing to do but hopefully it on some level is helpful! Much love ❤️
We have a very similar body type and I’m around an 8/10 right now. I’ve been a size 4 most of my adult life so it’s been really hard. I’m working on losing weight in a healthy way but girl I FEEL you about clothes defining your worth. I’m so short and I feel like even when something fits me I look like a kid trying on adult clothes (skirts specifically). Like where is my torso? Ohhh right it’s buried under my giant boobs. When you said you see other people at size 10 who look beautiful but that it’s not acceptable for your body that has been my entire narrative for the past 3 years and I just want to give you a big hug. This was such a healthy and therapeutic thing for you to do and for me to watch so thank you so much ❤ I’m also really into Kpop and I so badly want to feel good in those kinds of skirts but I feel a weird extra pressure to be suuuuper skinny because most Kpop idols are who dress like that.
Anyway, I’m sending you lots of love and support ❤
You go girl, dont let clothes that make you feel ugly stick around, send them on their way!
Thank you for this ❤️ I know (from experience) this is hard to do so thank you for filming & posting this realness! ❤️❤️ Liked, subscribed and all that!
I can tell you really really love skirts, so I appreciate how difficult making this video has been. As always your honesty inspires me and do not be too hard on yourself, it is hard for anyone to let go of things that they like, even if they don't serve any purpose at the present time x
I´m really proud of you !! Lots of love
First off, great job for getting through this! You did an awesome job, even when you were starting to get frustrated. One thing I do when getting rid of clothes is ask myself when did I wear it last. If you haven't worn it in a long time or even never, toss it. I am the same, that *maybe* one day I will need this piece of clothing, but honestly when the time comes, I'd probably choose something else anyways. And as hard as getting rid of pieces you like is, just like you said in the end, clothes are meant to fit us. So don't be too hard on yourself, our bodies change, we change, life changes- if hanging onto something is bringing you negative emotions, it's not worth the pain to keep it. Sending you love
aw girl i can tell how much you like some of these skirts. honestly i would suggest tailoring! It saved a lot of the clothes that didnt fit me anymore. But it's also nice to let go because then you can go out for more shopping!
I know this is hard for you but this does make me feel less alone. I'm currently going through my own love myself journey. Love you!
I know I have said it before but your videos bring me a lot of joy. I am built just like you, and there ABSOLUTELY is not enough representation for our shape. No clothing sites feature our silhouette! This clothing comb through is refreshing. I did the same thing a little while ago and got rid of all the clothes I wore when I was 50lbs lighter (and 13 years younger lol) and it was really liberating.
Thank you for making this video
Wow Fei~ That was amazing~ Thank you for sharing that. Felt so relatable and encouraging! Truly loved every second even of some moments were painful or sad ❤ very inspiring~~ ^^
I’ve followed your channel for a long time now and seen your ups and downs. Positive mind is very important in order to pull through everything in life. This is just a thought and it’s your choice to follow: it’s important to keep a positive mind but do not fall into “okie I am happy about my current self so I don’t have to try hard anymore…” because with this mindset, you’ll gradually lose the discipline and fall back into the state you were before. Instead, when you have that sense of positivity, think to yourself “I’m happy with myself, but I know I can push myself a little more…I know I can do better..and I know I’ll feel even better than I am now…” it doesn’t have to be something big or painful to struggle with but just a little extra effort into the day that’s adding a bit more to the current routine. For example, if you’re studying and feel like you’re not into it, tell yourself, you know I know I can squeeze in 10 min each day just to look over briefly…” and then couple days later as you’re already incorporated this, you think positively “hey I actually got some study done…maybe I can do an extra 5 min to my study session so it’ll be 15 min study time…” same with body weight management…you can keep that positive mindset but still add some challenge to yourself… “hey I look good in this skirt..maybe if I just do 5 min sit-ups each day to my usual routine, I can make it look smoother on my body…it’s only 5 minutes..I can do this!” People fail to progress because they think they’re satisfaction with their current state is enough and they can slack off a bit since they don’t think they need to try hard anymore, but this is a very bad thing to lead yourself into. Life can only continue to have the feeling of self satisfaction and accomplishment when you manage to overcome a bit of an additional challenge each time. Without challenge, there’s no goal and no sense of achievement and you’re left with the pessimistic thoughts and feeling of “what am I doing with myself?” Anywho, you can take my 2 cents or leave it. It’s up to you. I just want to encourage a more productive thought and feeling in life.
Thank you for your vulnerability because I have been slowly purging my closet and it is so hard. Like why do I think all bodies are beautiful but mine. Your example and positive words to yourself inspires me to do the same
I totally feel you with this video. I just tried some of my clothes that I was able to wear last year… And it was terrible. I know I gained weight this year but trying on clothes I was fitting at the beginning of the year was really hard, especially because it is some of my favourite clothes and I felt so confident in it. I don't have a lot of clothes and I'm not able to buy more so I'm keeping them. It reminds me my goal, I want to, at least, get back to my previous weight, be healthy and able to wear these again.
Thank you for making this video, you're very courageous and keep going, you're doing great !
I've been thinking about purging my closet of those clothes that I've been holding onto as well and this video just inspired me to do it! I feel so gross trying on clothes sometimes, I hate seeing myself in the mirror. But recently, I've begun to buy clothes that truly fit me so I don't need to feel that way anymore. Thank you for the motivation, inspiration and courage to change this mindset!! 💜💜
I really need to do the same with my closet to "start" again with my mind refreshed. Thank you Fei ♡
You and I have a very similar body shape. I recently lost weight for health reasons but I’m holding onto my old clothes bc fear of gaining it back. I’m proud of you for making this video, it couldn’t have been easy.
i think the flared/ruffly skirts look best on you. especially the light coloured one you said was like sweatpants, but as a skirt? girlll it looked soo good! i think that‘s a better shape for you than the tightly fitted ones
Fei you're so strong! I've been subscribed since maybe 2015 or '14? I can't quite remember. We're also around the same age and I feel like I grew with you!! I'll admit that I haven't watched your videos for a long while but you made so much progress and I hope you find it in you to not let these clothes define that. When getting rid of clothes that don't fit me, I treat it as an indication of spiritual and personal growth and the fact that the clothes appear to be "too small" is just the universe's sign to tell me "you have grown, you have matured, it is time to let go". You are so so so beautiful and worth so much more than these clothes.
i get this honestly. i used to be a size 12 then lost weight and became an 8 and then recently gained some back so now i’m a 10 and it’s been hard because now the jeans i wore before dont fit me and it made me feel bad. currently on a journey for self love and weight loss (for other health issues not appearance) so it’s been rough.
thank you for filming this! ik it must’ve been hard and know what you are beautiful no matter what size you are 🫂💗 currently trying to teach myself that message as well
the white tennis skirt at 7:25 looks SO GOOD on you!! it's so flattering and the length is perfect
Hey there Feii. I’m really going to try to do this. Thank you for the inspiration x
I'm so proud of you
I loved this! As someone with no but and a tummy myself I appreciate it. Not everyone has an hourglass body shape! what I did was a gave my sister who is a little bit smaller than me a bunch of clothes to “borrow” until I fit them myself if I ever do. Atleast they are getting some use! I also have a container of clothes that don’t fit stored away and everything I didn’t want got donated. everything in my closet does fit so that really helps to only have stuff that fits accessible!
You go, girl!!! 🎉
Sending you lots of hugs girl 💞🥺
I’m totally in this situation now where I’ve gained so much weight and the number on the scale isn’t budging as much. It’ll be okay ❤️
thank you for this video. it feels nice to know that a lot of people deal with this. something that helped me was blaming the clothes instead of blaming my size/body. instead of "i'm too fat for this" i changed it to "this is the wrong size/too small" and buying new clothes that fit properly was actually stress relieving. the dread of not feeling good in my clothes is gone.
To see someone who has the same body type as me and see that they go through the same thing of keeping clothes and waiting until I'll lose weight helps me see that I'm not alone. You are beautiful Fei and hopefully with time I'll realize I'm beautiful too :)
Bestie~! I don't know if I'm ready to let go of my "when I'm skinny skirts" but watching this helped push me further down the let it go direction~
So proud of you and about to go through my closet too. ❤
Thank you for this video, I honestly think that most of the skirts you didn't like looked gorgeous on you ❤
This is incredible. This is something I experienced for the first time in my life after gaining some weight during the pandemic. I bought a pair of black skinny jeans and slowly they stopped fitting, granted they were veryyyyy tight to start. I finally got rid of them last year and instead bought a pair of regular black jeans to wear that I felt more comfortable in. It was hard because I never, never had to let clothes go because of my weight before, separate from growing as a kid. Thank you for sharing, it feels good to know I isn't alone.
I followed your page because of how fun and body positive you where, it hurts to see you go through this phase of not being happy with your body. I hope you get better and see just how beautiful you are. Beauty isn't measured by weight or shape or skin tone or whatever we spend hours obsessing over. I miss the happier you, sending you 💓
This give me inspiration for a clothes clean out when I move in December! Anything that I don't feel comfortable in and haven't felt comfortable in for a while is going to second hand.
Girl that Yellow skirt form Shein Looks so good on you . ❤
I am glad you kept the white ones.. i think they look very good on you ☺️🌸
We love you Fei! 💖
😂 you’re so funny you said this brick wall behind here that is me all day
Faye, you’re like me! I gained weight recently and it came as a bit of a shock to me at first but then I know that as an adult human being, gaining weight is natural. I always say to myself “You gained weight. That’s true. Oh well, congratulations, I’m human!” Btw I wanna mention that you really have good taste and I love your sense of style. You’re very fashionable! I would love to see a follow up video where you go thrifting for new skirts to replace and make up for the skirts you added to your posh mark and let go. It’s okay! You still a baddie and as a fellow short girl omg mini skirts sometimes fit me perfectly cuz regular long skirts see always too long/too tall for my short legs. Love you girl! You’re awesome! 💕
It's so great to see you letting go of things you've held on to, I relate so much! A tip that I heard (I can't remember where ㅠ.ㅠ) was if you try it on and find something wrong with it, you'll use that as an excuse to not wear it later. I totally found myself doing that!! I had to pass it along. You're so beautiful, I love to see you create a wardrobe that makes you feel confident!
Related to this video really hard haha love you fei
Literally did this yesterday night. I came to terms with the fact that my body will never go back to how I was when I could fit them. Luckily I've got cousins to hand those down to (if they want any) so it makes it a little easier to let them go.
Thanks for sharing your process Fei!
I had that same yellow plaid skirt from urban and it was my FAVOORIITTE but sadly covid did me dirty and I gained so much weight especially in my tummy area that it just didn't fit the way it used to anymore 😞 It was so tough finally coming to the conclusion that I had to give it up, but seeing this video and seeing you part ways with clothes that hold so much sentimental value to you was super therapeutic and made me feel like I wasn't the only one. You've inspired me to clean out my closet of any clothes I've been hanging on to that make me less than what I am! Thank you Fae 💕💕
GIIIIRRLLLLLL im a gen z and the leopard print skirt fit you so well omg i literally gasped, im normally not very fond of animal print in general but that design and the fabric made you look so elegant and smoothed your figure in such a nice natural way.
I do this every 6 months or so. I feels shitty going through the process, but once you have a closet full of things you love and are confident in getting dressed becomes easier and more fun. You did so well and really proud of you for everything you were able to purge.
I did this last year and I’m finally loseing weight sometimes i miss those clothes especially that I can’t buy new ones now, but I felt that let them go and finally except myself is just so much comfortable and definitely the reason why i was capable to eat and lose weight. So good job fei and I’m really proud of u. someone said our closet should be full of clothes that fit us and make us comfortable not make us hate ourselves more we also deserve to wear comfy clothes.
I am like so obsessed with the animal print silk skirt. It is so cool and looks the cutest on you.
I do actually really love the maxi skirts on you! (except maybe for the winter fairy one). They seemed so comfortable and elongating
Good job fei!! ❤
I feel like I’m watching or listening to a video of myself. Hang in there girl I can only do the best we can do.
Thank you so much for posting this video and being so vulnerable. Have you considered learning how to sew? It's not going to happen overnight but the styles that you like are very simple to make once you know the basics and it's completely changed the way I view my body. There is a STEEP curve to get over the measurements thinking they should be smaller/different in certain places but once you get clothes that fit how you expect them to, it's life changing. Wishing you all the best on your continued self love journey
I know how hard it is to film these type of videos. It can’t be easy… I know how much I struggle trying on things. But can I just say how much I enjoy watching your videos? You are beautiful and funny! And you’re so real on the camera. You’re my favorite UA-camr to watch. May you continue to flourish and gain! May you continue to love yourself and gain body positivity!
The brown skirt at 7:36 looked so good on you omg, I want one now!
OMG THAT WHITE TENNIS SKIRT LOOKS AMAZING ON YOU GIRL
Thank you so much for filming this video. You inspire me to do the same 💜
Gen Z here! I loveddd so many of those skirts on you 😭 I have to say, the leopard print was a win, definitely made a good decision keeping it, it looks so good on you ❤️
Fei, we have the exact same body shape, this video was so comforting I felt like I was hanging out with my bff ❤️ you are so beautiful, so many of these skirts look so good on you!!
I LOVE YOU FEIIII
That brown skirt that you said you didn’t like looks so cute on you!!