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Trying Clothes I'll Wear When I'm "SKINNY" 3 Years Later... (emotional)
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As someone who kept the clothes for "when I'm skinnier" and then became skinnier... it's not as good as it's cracked up to be. Sure, the clothes fit, but I still had all the same insecurities when wearing them. What I found actually helped wasn't losing weight, but finding clothes that better fit my body type. There are many helpful tutorials on UA-cam for all kinds of body types! Not sure if this is helpful to other people, I just wish I had known about this long before I lost the weight
P.S. I absolutely love your new hairstyle Fei 😍
Exactly. And come to tern with that not all clothes are made for my shape because some clothes need to be made for other people's bodys and that is okej. Because as long as we have different bodies we need different shapes of clothes so we all find beautiful cloths we feel great in. No matter what size I been I never looked smashing in everything. The clothes might look the same but the other brand had somewhat different cut so fit me beautiful instead of the other one. We nees to start to think it's okej it don't fit me even if correct size because it will fit others in same size but have it different then you on the body.
Yes! I hope she sees this. I’ve learned this as well losing the weight is nice yes but the clothes you put aside doesn’t necessarily look better. You have to find your style that flatters your body type.
@@sil829 i gained weight from medc so now need to loose it because my body do not agree with the gain even when it's not that much. 1-1.5 size from my good weight. But I kept my favorites i used alot but still in good condition so I have clothes then as well. Not wealthy enough to do a complete new wardrobe. When living with pain hard to loose it again but was way to easy to gain it
Plus no one talks about the loose skin! I lost over 100lbs but even though I’m a size 10au from a 24…. I did fit in my skinny stuff but..you just idk it’s a whole other can of emotional worms 😔
Thisssss🙌🏼🙌🏼
I’ve just learned to call myself a woman not a girl. I’m a woman with rolls and stretch marks and there is nothing wrong with that!!! I’m perfect the way am I!!
Edit: I read some reply’s and just to clarify! This is about myself. I’ve struggled with my weight my whole life, so me saying that above was about me needing to accept my weight no matter how big or what I looked like bc I need to love myself. This was not about anyone or me judging how people looked or you need to look a certain way to be a woman or called a woman.
Yaaasss Danielle we are beautiful we are woman
That's fine ...until you start having health problems ....and your doctor says otherwise
@@gimmyherbert8217 rolls and stretch marks literally don’t make you unhealthy. You can be active and a normal weight and have rolls. As long as you are eating healthy and getting your vitamins and exercise you’ll live long regardless of if you are 100lbs or 300lbs. Its when you are on the extreme of either side and have health problems that weight becomes an issue
I'm healthy muscular strong blood labs good ...my doctor said need to lose weight...height weight don't fit...same with others ..... doctors go by a chart height virses weight crazy
@@gimmyherbert8217 same here. The doctors make you feel like crap just because you don’t fit the chart.
Hi fei this literally made me cry i feel u because I'm going through the same situation i just can't stop myself it's like i know I'm making bad decisions but i keep doing them anyways , btw the clothes are all so pretty hopefully you'll achieve your ideal weigh and be able to wear them love you 🥰
I feel you girl
I feel the same like I want to hide my body
Literally feel the same ❤
if you really wanna change yourself you have to learn and trust the process and make sacrifices, i know its hard but it really is the only solution
@@Leo-mt9ny i’m sure they know that, based off how they commented their feelings you can see where their self awareness lies. sometimes people know and it’s still hard. sometimes people just want to vent in a space where others can relate. and that’s fine.
you can tell from the replies this was that space prior to your comment. hopefully, my comment can help neutralize yours.
As someone whose gains almost 60lbs since 2019, my one word of advice is: it's okay not to like the skin you're in and its even okay not to immediately change that but hating yourself for the choices you made does nothing but continue the cycle. At the end of the day it's about gaining that encouragement and motivation to work to better yourself mentally and then physically. The pandemic fucked us all up so don't be too hard on yourself, we'll all get to where we need to be over time.
thank you for this
This is the best comment!! There’s no reason to dwell on the mistakes that you’ve made, it’s just discouraging. Instead, focus on the decisions you’re making now and how you’re feeling. Bodies are just little vessels that we live in, and we should focus on making them the best they can be now. There’s nothing we can do to change the past other than move forward.
I really hope i get there, I've also gained around 18 kgs since 2019 due to some health complications and poor diet choices, and everyone i met pointed out how fat I've become, i used to be really skinny and the difference of how people treat me now because of my body, is getting to me. I keep trying to lose weight but its really hard for me considering my health, and i hate having to explain to people why I'm fat now or why i can't lose weight for now, and it's driving me insane 🙁
Thank u for saying this! I really needed it!
Best comment!!
my issue is that my body doesn't match my asthetic, specifically my large boobs. I like dressing more alternative and androgynous and large boobs just ruin it for me. Eating disorders are difficult to overcome. Thank you for being honest Fei🧡🧡🧡
Same same same. I love androgynous oversize style but I have DD-E chest and it ruins any style I try. They’re just not cute. Nothing is cute when you look too big for your own body.
Compression bras ! May be expensive to find a comfy one but when I was a double D I would wear sports bras with compression under my t shirts etc and smooths them or bodysuits under stuff
@@a.a.12945 yea I have a couple of those. I have size 36E, and it never does what I fully want it to.
I stopped wearing bras. Wearing super stretchy tanks instead, plus oversized shirts and it’s helped immensely. I cannot stand binders and compression stuff, I deserve to be comfortable. And turns out your boobs look flatter if they don’t have a ton of support anyway 🤪 nobraclub + oversized tees atw
@@InvisibleRen yea I tried that too lol it makes it worse for me somehow. I normally don't wear bras when I'm home it's just when I'm gonna be around people.
i once saw a post somewhere and it said
“you shouldn’t fit clothes, clothes should fit you”
and ever since i saw that it really stuck by me and i always believe in it when buying new clothes and it really helped me get over clothes not fitting me and needing to get bigger sizes
My family says “the fit makes the fashion.”
No one is going to see the tags to know what size you’re wearing, they’ll only notice if it fits properly or not. Wearing clothes too small for you will always look bad and often makes you look bigger than you actually are. When in doubt, it’s always better to get something slightly too big than slightly too small - it’ll look better, feel better and you can always get it altered down to perfectly fit you (you can always cut fabric off but it’s a lot harder to add fabric and make things bigger while maintaining silhouette and garment integrity).
Even at what I would deem “my hottest era” (I was finally skinny, my skin had cleared up, my hair looked great, I was more outgoing) I still was mistreated, lied to and shamed by my then boyfriend. For me, that was like a punch in the gut. I didn’t get it. I was finally everything I thought I needed to be but I wasn’t being treated like I deserved.
I may have gained 50 pounds in the last year but I lost a whopping 200 pounds of the asshole that was weighing me down. Having a true love is now just a faraway fantasy for me, and I’m treating myself as if I am my own lover. My skin isn’t clear, I have rolls and stretch marks and plenty of bad hair days BUT I love me so much more. I’m ready to pursue whatever my heart desires, whether it’s learning a second language or writing and illustrating my own graphic novels. I hype myself up and spoil myself under the pretense that I am my own girlfriend, and that babe is smokin hot and carries it well with her intellect and witty personality ;)
I just wish I could give you a hug girl because I feel what you’re going thru and I think nearly EVERYONE in your comments has felt it too. I think you’re absolutely stunning and you would look beautiful in a flour sack 😅 I think we get so caught up in trying to live up to this image we create for ourselves that we forget to love what’s right in front of us.
Thank you for sharing your insecurities with us- this has helped bring me back down to reality. We need to love and be thankful for the beautiful bodies we already have. Everything is so temporary; love it before you lose it ❤❤❤
Holy crap are you me? I made it to the "Instagram model" look after years of struggling, started dating a guy who presented himself to be completely different than he really was (he acted so kind at first, so considerate of the world and wanting to help others, progressive, etc. All lies.), I went after him even though his friends said I would never give him the time of day based on my pictures and his own looks. All that and he was BRUTAL. Made me start up a specific restrictive diet where I cut out all carbs and had to start a workout consisting of LOTS of squatting heavy weights 🙄, purposely got us lost on hikes/bike rides so I'd be forced to work out for like 4-5 hours instead of the half hour we'd planned, told me I "wasn't good enough for him but it's okay because no one would be," started obsessively keeping track of what I ate by memorizing my fridge and when things were purchased, looking through my garbage and recycling bin, etc. and it only got worse when the inevitable happened and it all back-fired into me gaining tons of weight during the pandemic. I'm legitimately traumatized by this relationship. I don't know how I could get any closer to perfect: I was the stupid, shallow societal beauty ideal, I'm in a good career, I treated my partner so well, etc. Like you said, it was huge slap in the face and one that made the fantasy of ever getting married leave for good. We need to start a support group sis! I do want to say though, it sucks that we let these guys break us. I know that there are people out there who would love and appreciate you exactly as you are. It sucks that we're so scared to try again because of our experiences. I hope you keep healing and that the right person proves themselves to you slowly when the time is right ❤
I can relate to this feeling. My weight has fluctuated so much in the past 3-4 years. It's normal. The goal is for our health and not for an aesthetic. You deserve to be happy with yourself no matter what size you are.
you don't know how much confidence I've developed in these past years because of u fei and I would sincerely like to thank u for it and I love you. I hope u have an amazing day or night if it's night and just know that I'm always here for u no matter what💕💕
Fei. You have become my literal internet “big sister’’. I found you about 4-ish years ago(w/ all the skin care vids😂) when I was 13 years old. And I have grown a lot w/ you. I get so excited when you post as if I’m getting a text from a good friend. I have struggled w/ my body image, weight, skin and everything else you could image a teenager goes through. I never comment on your vids cuz It makes me remember we’re not actually connected but after seeing this vid I just wanted to say thank you. I have been struggling w/ the cycle of idk life? Im so sorry, Ik im all over the place and I wish I could express to you how much these vids but YOU make me feel. Thank you for existing. ❤️💜❤️💜
Ever since I started sewing my clothes to fit my measurements I’ve felt much more confident in my skills and appearance!! Mass made clothes won’t fit every body! While I stick to designers ik and love, I also like to make my own clothes to better fit me and save money!
You have the exact same body as me and I'm so happy to have found someone with the same body type as me.
I'm learning to love myself and style my clothes so I feel good about myself.
Thank you
Fei I know no matter how many compliments and support you get you’re not going to stop seeing those insecurities that’s just how we humans are programmed and it’s sucks I know but know that you and all of your sisterly girl talk has been helping so many young women just like you🥺 so be proud of yourself. Our body is not meant to stay in one permanent form, we are meant to change and go through different phases of our figure as well as mind. The only way we can ever become comfortable with ourselves is accepting and loving every single phase your body goes through whether that’s gaining or losing weight, struggling mentally and emotionally or thriving we need to really admire our bodies because they do so much for us.❤️❤️
Thank you for the video , it’s so refreshing to see someone who is body positive also admit to the struggle of trying to be positive about our bodies , thank you for being so vulnerable ❤️
you are so incredibly beautiful. i’m so happy i found your channel. i’ve also struggled a lot with my body and have been battling eating disorders since i was a kid. i’m trying to learn how to be more body neutral and embrace myself as i am now while simultaneously making better choices to be healthier physically and mentally. you’re not alone in this fei, we’re all here with you 💜
i love this video and how honest and raw she was, my past self would've needed a video like this. But the blue dress fits her so beautifully! It cinches her waist in and gives her a hourglass figure look!
hey fei! its crazy timing getting this video now after following you for years. ive gained so much confidence from you over the years that ive dealt with body issues and my own experiences of disordered eating. ive felt ‘too big’ for so long, and when i felt ‘confident’ i felt like I was always lying to myself, and just thought that was how it was always going to be. then now after years of quarantine, eating to be happy and buying clothes to be happy and not trying to look like someone I wasn’t, I look in the mirror now and can’t help but tear up, because I don’t feel guilty for being in my own skin anymore. I don’t know what happened, I don’t know what one event triggered it, but I no longer feel bad for not being a size 0. I genuinely look in the mirror and think I am beautiful and sexy and look really good. It wasn’t one moment, or one thing that did it. I guess it was just years of finally accepting the fact that no amount of actions will change what I was given, and maintaining a look or a weight that I aspired was unhealthy and made me miserable. I’m stumbling back on this channel still getting over some demons, but remembering where I’ve come from and I hope you find somewhere in your heart to forgive yourself. it’s not lazy to try to be happy. I hope you find confidence and happiness unconditionally. Thank you for giving us so much inspiration and sharing these things with us, you’ve helped so many of us on our own journeys, and I hope soon we can all truly be happy together.
this is exactly how i feel this video is raw and open thank u so much for sharing it like the way u talk about what most of us r feeling but like to hide idk it’s like why do we weird about saying we’re not happy w our bodies and where we’ve come
Oh Fei you've always been an inspiration, how brave you are in being so vulnerable and putting this out there, I've always struggle / worry with my weight and still learning to accept it, I'm just sending love xx
Thank you for being so honest and open, you have basically said out loud all the things I think on a daily basis. You’re beautiful and I truly appreciate your message. I don’t think it’s “toxic” it’s reality, and super common. You are encouraging self growth and encouragement.
It’s wild the things we say to ourselves, because I would never look at you or anyone else and think such horrible things but I say them to myself.
I recently cleared out my closet, removing everything that made me feel crappy or that didn’t fit and stored them away out of sight. I donated some too. We deserve to own clothing that make us feel great.
I think I was avoiding your videos for a while because i could see the silent struggle you were battling and it was reminiscent of a time for me where I was down bad with an ED. I am really happy to know that you are opening up more with yourself and sharing this authenticity and just honesty with us is courageous. I feel more connected to your content again.
I'm so touched that youre so honest with yourself. I know that I have really bad eating habits but I could never say out loud. It takes so much bravery to actually criticize yourself in that case. Especially if youre saying it to the camera and then uploading it to the internet. Youre giving me strength to be more self disciplined to try more. Love you♥️
Hi Fei, we love you!! You’re so courageous for being vulnerable with us in regards to such a sensitive topic. I hope you find happiness, peace, and confidence in yourself whether that means fitting into a dress from two years ago or throwing out all those clothes. 💕💕
Fei, I've watched you for a very long time back when you made 2NE1 makeup tutorials. I've seen you struggle with acne and body image. But just look at how far you have came. It's okay to fall back love
This video was so open and honest and identifies with a lot of people right now, including myself!
I’ve learned over the past 2 years that identifying myself by what my size is in clothing stores is a really toxic behaviour because sizes vary in every store. I might be a medium in one store and extra large in the next, but the clothes will fit me and look good in the end!
You feel what you feel, girl! I’ve been struggling with the same thing. We got this! Let’s respect our bodies and remember what it does for us and work harder to maintain healthy lives. ❤️ you!
you are just so BEAUTIFUL!!! thank you for being so vulnerable and saying the quiet part out loud for all of us.
Aww Fei..thanks for being vulnerable with us. It is hard sometimes.. may all of us find happiness every day
I understand how you feel so well.. I'm the same with my skin picking. I always think, oh I'll look so good with this dress when my skin heals, or I'll wear open back things when I stop picking but I always go back to picking. It's a horrible cycle of self blame and being unable to stop even though I have everything I need to stop.
fei your videos are truly inspiring, your vulnerability is one of the things i admire so much about you and why i have and will continue to follow you for years, no one is perfect, weight loss isn't a scale that only goes down, there are periods of up and down when other things get in the way and that is very valid, wishing the best for all of us to try our best and be happy with the body we are in
I've gone through this exact experience feii, once when i was 13 or so i finally got the guts to wear a dress id been keeping for yrs and just as i was getting ready to leave my mom dropped the bomb that it was way too tight. though it was true, not only had i gotten larger from 8-13 but because I have pcos which makes it very hard to loose weight, a constant struggle i have, i had gained a lot of weight. After the whole experience my confidence was crushed. Recently, im 16 now, i decided it was time to part with the clothes I'd saved up over the years of telling myself i'd be thin one day, and I finally donated them. I'm trying to take that small step to accepting the fact I've gained weight, not that its not hard because its been the hardest thing I've had to go through.
I'm here for you and i love you so much feii
you're such an inspiration
🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
Thank you for making this video and posting it. Thank you for being raw and real with us, I feel so honored.
☺️Yes Fei, you are understood. I struggle with body positivity as well, and I would love to make a huge change but I struggle with commitment and motivation and time. I can never get my timing right to input at least some exercise into my daily routines. Same goes for somewhat dieting to make sure I intake more of the goods and less of the bads. So I am right there with you, I wish we could hang out ( be besties ;) and exchange feelings just cuz I want to make you feel supported and not alone, like I do. These videos really do make me smile and I'm very appreciative because that's really all anyone could ever need. I really hope that you keep that smile on your face because it shows how beautiful you really are in the inside. You will find things that look just as cute on you on the outside. I know you will, you have great sense of style and I love it. Chin up, girlie. We got this. 💕
Thank you so much for opening up about your struggles, Fei.
I've been there, I know what it's like being stuck in a toxic loop.
But please don't lose hope. You're so much farther up that hill now than you were ever before. Just because you are stumbling a little right now doesn't mean all your progress up to this point is erased (I'm speaking mental mostly).
Know that you can do this, let it come to you naturally. Celebrate the small wins, they do make a huge difference.
We love you, Fei. 💗
Also - does your mom criticize your weight?
You mentioned it got worse when she was here.
I’m relieved and sad at the same time knowing someone else is also going through similar inner struggles.
Thank you so much for sharing some of your vulnerable thoughts. I’m sorry I don’t know what to say to make you feel better
I resonate with this video so much. Just like trying not to hate my body, so kind of giving up motivation to improve health, because every time I try to become healthier by losing a few pounds, it brings back those awful feelings I had towards myself when I was younger
I’m here for you fei 💗 literally cried about the same reason last night. I know that nothing will change unless I do but sometimes it’s just hard and being sad is easy which is not ok.
thanks for sharing this vulnerable moment. It was so touching, and i could relate. Fully crying. Love you
Honesty even when its brutal. There is something beautiful about that. Thank you Fei, sending nothing but love 💙🤘
I think body positivity isnt nessecarily feeling good or blindly accepting every aspect of your body, but rather understanding that your value as a person is detatched from the shape of your body. That it is the way it is right now, thats all. If you want to make changes for your health, that end up changing your body, i think no person would say that is ever bad. ❤️
Love you Feii! I’m in the same spot..I haven’t slimed back down after I had my son (who’s 9)..I’m literally in the exact same place as you. Thank you for sharing, really helps when we know we’re not alone ❤️❤️ we got this girl!!! Healthy us!! 👏🏻🙌🏻
This is the realist video i've seen and I just want to say thank you! for being vulnerable with the whole world. I'm sure this will help a lot of people.
Queen: I got emotional watching this. I am exactly where you are. I have about 7 outfits/clothing items that I've been holding onto for YEARS, waiting for my "skinny" moment. Not too long ago I was also in denial that I needed to go up in clothing size. The journey is HARD and will go up and down like rolling hills. You can still be body positive and also talk about health goals (some people may feel a certain kind of way, but I think it's their own personal feelings/also denial if that makes sense). Idk if you'd be down for it but I think it'd be awesome to do work out videos or maybe even do a live and go on a walk or etc! (I'm that person that will join you in working out via live or recorded video 🤣). Either way, it will never be a perfect journey. Weight fluctuates - goes up and down. As long as you keep trying and make little changes each day, you'll get to where you want to be eventually. We're all rooting you on and thank you for sharing this with us. 💖
Thank you for sharing your internal thoughts and struggle with us. It is a very hard and vulnerable moment to try on clothes you don't feel confident in and show the world. I commend you!! I also wanted to say SAME GURL to all the thoughts and emotions you are having I go through it too...for the last like 10 years! I used to wear clothes that l thought would hid my fat or areas I'm insecure about. But I think starting 2020 I started wearing clothes that I liked/where comfortable in/ are trending regardless of my size or how tight they are. Leggings were a BIG change for me to wear around shopping and stuff and tank tops - because when I gained weight those are my problem areas. But during quarantine I starting thinking life is too short for me to always avoid wearing these clothes because I didn't like the ME in the moment that was wearing them. But no more! You will get to where you want to be, for me it took time mentally as you mentioned :-)
Thank you very much for sharing this with us! I relate to this a lot and thought I was the only one feeling that way. I am so sick of myself and angry with me because I keep on making this decisions that I know I will regret. I am on a weight loss journey that really does not want to go my way, probably because of my binging (never got anything diagnosed, once tried to speak to my doctor about it but she said it seems just like stress overeating but that's on me, because I was not entirely honest about it, I hope I can be at some point) and the fact that there is a, what I like to call, "blackout-moment" where I literally black out, stuff myself until I am very sick, snap out of it and regret it all. I am still working against it but still have to find out what will work for me. It is exhausting but I know I can make it and I know you will. I learned a lot of things already and even though I have no weight loss progress or yet not really improved my eating, I learned that I still am able to listen to my body, I can aknowledge that this is not good for me and as it seems you do too, this is a good thing because a lot of people are still not even there yet because it is hard. We are with our bodies everyday and we eat everyday so to aknowledge something like this is still a step forward. I also learned that I still love my body. I love it and think it is beautiful, I just got to know that what I am doing to my body does not reflect that, a healthy diet and sports are after all important for our physical and mental health, which still does not equal that for all it is the same, moving can also mean taking long walks which already can improve our health so much and it can stay at that if one never finds "the sport". And the most important fact, literal fact: our body, our weight does not tell us our worth our anything. Our personality does, I know I am an amazing person and from what I can see through your content you seem like an amazing person too and that will not change, if you gain or lose weight, you will stay being a great person. Of course our personality also grows but I am certain that no matter what you will stay being this amazing person and a strong one to add! And for everyone reading this: I hope you all are well and aware that you are amazing, we all can feel shitty about ourselves and our bodies. Wanting to change it is okay, not wanting it is also okay, because the only thing that matters is that you are okay! That you are happy. Whatever your goals are (regarding your body, life, personality and all that) I hope you will achieve them, you deserve it! And remeber that you deserve love and are worth of so much, no matter how bad the day was, another one will follow.:)
Thank you for sharing the thoughts you’ve been feeling. Being a positive Creator who talks about self love, people can critique you for having negative feelings...but we are only human? I really felt this video because I related to *everything* you said, but it only made me love and appreciate your content more. Thanks for being real and actually showing that despite being on a journey of self love and appreciation, there are times and thoughts of negativity that can resurface, but that doesn’t mean we can’t continue trying to find self acceptance and appreciation for our current bodies, no matter what size they might be.
I’ve been having a pretty bad day mentally thinking about my eating habits and weight gain. Watching this video gave me so much peace. Hearing “it gets better” and “just love yourself as you are” only goes but so far. There’s a million videos of people showing themselves on the “other side” after they’ve overcome everything. Those videos aren’t nearly as inspirational as this was. Seeing people go through things and have honest moments of weakness and reflection is what really makes an impact. Thank you for this video!
never really comment on videos but you are very strong for opening up like this, vulnerability and insecurities and all. it's good to remember we all have moments like these where we dont feel our best, when we keep letting ourselves down for whatever reason and so starts the self guilt-tripping cycle. it's human, and like all aspects of humanity good and bad it is also fleeting. i have every confidence you will arrive at an harmonious point between your body&mind, it just takes a while to find whatever path is meant for you and to learn to walk it first with baby-steps and eventually with enormous Herculean leaps. just take every day as it comes, if it was a bad one go to sleep peacefully knowing tomorrow is a blank slate; if it was a good one wake up with the drive to make the next one even better. it's a beautiful thing to be alive but it certainly isn't easy. we are continuously trying to find our rhythm and by the time we do perhaps the song has changed; however that's the beauty & the promise of it. endless possibilities at our fingertips and the option to start doing things differently or to reinvent/reconstruct/rebirth our-selves all reside within our reach. this is all to say i wish you and anyone else going through a tough time the very best, it's a difficult trek but the view once you reach the top is superb.
Hey Fei, I've been watching your channel for years and even though we look completely different, your videos have always made me feel better about myself and given me more confidence. Its so strange the insecurities we have and how most people around us don't even see it and yet it causes us so much anguish.
You looked absolutely stunning in the first dress you tried on and it was shocking to me that it made you feel insecure. And that makes me think, what do others think of my own insecurities? In this way you have been helping me become a better and happier person all these years, by challenging how I see myself. Thank you for that, your honesty, and everything else ❤️❤️❤️
So I was cleaning out my closet and their is a lot of clothes that just don’t fit me after gaining a lot of weight due to dialysis and after watching this it gave me the courage to finally donate my old clothes and start embracing what my body is now. Thank you!
It feels good to see someone else feeling this way. I have pieces like this that I try on every now and then and still feel so disappointed in myself for making bad choices and not losing the weight. It feels good to see someone else relating to those feelings. Not sure if thats good or bad..
I’m going backwards in watching this series and I have to say your mental health journey is inspiring. You went from shaming yourself to embracing your body so much. Thank you Fei for being human and letting us see you at a vulnerable state
I know the feeling. I think it's great that you're sharing this. And share your feeling and pain. That shows me that I don't feel and am alone this way. And yes it is very hard to accept and love yourself. I think you are beautiful and a strong woman. Thanks for sharing.
We all have clothes like this in our closet. Thank you for being so vulnerable about your emotions regarding your body changes & body image. Love you Fei!
I always find body positivity so intimidating because other people seem to be able to embrace their bodies so easily while I just hate mine. I really appreciate your honesty, it definitely helps seeing the real journey rather than an ideal that's so hard to live up to.
Oh my god, i really understand what you are feeling... it is so hard to have to change and find the strengh to do it. You are not alone, i'm cheering for you and for everyone who feels the same, i hope we find hapiness and self love ♡
Love from brazil 🇧🇷🇧🇷
I am literally in the same place. I can’t take selfies anymore or I want to go out anymore, I am changing the way I feel today cause I hate this feeling. Know you are not alone in this. And clothes are expensive 😖 love you Fei make sure to not be hard on yourself ❤️❤️
We all luv you here so much. I’ve been watching ur videos for a couple of years now. Ur content and transparency has helped me with my self image.
I love all your videos but I think this is by far one of your best and I think it’s extremely inspiring for you to share something so personal that allot of people struggle with everyday.😊❤
Girl you are so damn real and I’m here for it ! I think you speak for a lot of us 😢Sending much love ❤
the blue set was so so so prettyyyyy on you Fei!!!! You're beautiful, girl
Ohhhh I hope for you the best and things might be difficult right now but don’t be hard on yourself 🫶we luv you
Fei, our stories line up so much. Thank you for sharing. I recently went up two dress sizes and I look back at old photos when I wanted to be Skinner and im so sad, I hated my body back then. Am I happy with it now? No. But I'm learning to accept it and focus on health, rather than a dress size or the scale. I'm 23 now and I've been dieting since 11. I've finally let it go. I've struggled with my health for so long that I'm now focusing on my relationship with food and my body. It's ok to have these emotions. As you said, it's how we work through it. I hope you find a path that's happiest for you 💜
Hi, Hayley 👋🏽
I love your channel. So happy and excited to be a new sub. This vid is what I needed so bad right now.
I relate so much to this video! Thank you for sharing. I recently decided to get new bras since i have gained weight and trying the bras on in the change room just made me cry. It's nice to know I'm not the only one how has days where you don't like your body 🙂. I hope you feel more comfortable and confident in your body again soon ❤️
Thank you so much for voicing my inner daily thoughts and expressing the feelings so many of us hold inside. You’re so talented and made me laugh so much while also helping me accept myself. so courageous and strong, I love you!!!!
I ADORE YOU! yesss im so here for your content you are beautiful so dont ever doubt yourself thank you for being so true to yourself! we need more creators like you!
The first dress looks so good on u!!! Ur videos inspired me to start my self love journey btw love u for that!🫶🏻
I feel like I’ve learned that I don’t have to LOVE my body, but I can learn to accept her because she’s allows me to do so much. And Fei, I am grateful that your body allows you to make videos, address important issues, and talk with us. I think you are absolutely beautiful, but I understand that sometimes we have insecurities. I wish I knew how to comfort and help, but I am having similar issues. I love you 💕
You’re awesome! I felt so identified with what you said, I feel the same way. Just believe you can do it, you can be healthy, you can definitely make it! Thank you for this inspiration to become healthy as well!
I’m in a similar situation. Recently I finally bought some pieces of clothes that actually fit me as I am now and I felt SO much better when I looked in the mirror.
Also, something I noticed was that throughout the video you kept the mindset of “I’ll look good in these clothes when I’m SKINNY”. A small but significantly healthier and more compassionate change you could start trying is to think about going on a long term fitness journey not to be “skinny” but to increase your stamina, tone your muscles, get stronger, gain confidence, have more flexibility, improve your mental and physical health etc etc.
I’ve been overweight and I’ve also been underweight. The times in my life that I have felt the best about myself were actually the times where I was within a healthy, normal BMI for my height, but was really nicely toned and fit. Where I actively did cardio AND strength training and toning exercises. There are so many skinny people out there who aren’t healthy, strong, fit, or happy.
I think starting on making that switch in your head from wanting to be skinny to wanting to improve your overall health and feel more confident, would be a really great way to start taking some of the toxicity out of your feelings around fitness and body weight in general. It’s not easy but it’s worth it.
Lastly, I know you may not believe me, especially if you’re still feeling really vulnerable or upset about your size, but I wanted to say I think you genuinely look completely lovely at any weight and that I’m so proud of you for being honest and vulnerable not just with your audience but with yourself. That’s extremely brave.
As someone who is actively working on their own journey of self compassion and self love (with the help of therapy), please, be kind to yourself. You are worthy of it. ❤
Fei Ive recently found your channel and have been watching you because I feel so similar to you, and as a Korean I feel so pressured by beauty standards-but when I see your videos I always think you are so so pretty and charming and that the clothes you don’t like suit you so well. I don’t really know what I can say, but thank you for doing these videos, and remember that so many people think that you are beautiful
this video is so relatable, appreciate you fei
I do this too sometimes and it is a little toxic but sometimes it can be very motivating and help keep you on track! I gained like 20 lbs during the pandemic, while also having gained like 20 lbs from my first few years of working and I’m finally getting the scale to budge after years of trying, we’ll get there together!
Don’t forget that you still look great and to love yourself while you take time to get to the best version of yourself!
Thank you for making these videos and being okay to tell your truth about how you feel.
Hey Fei, I just wanted to say how much you helped me trough my journey of self love. My body image is not the best, and I try to be body positive/neutral. Your video's always make my day and lift my mood. I am so grateful and you are so realistic too!! You are a queen keep your head up!!! You are charming, strong minded, knowledgeable and interesting, for being you!!
I don't have much advice, becuase I struggle with the same issues, but I just want to say that you're not alone with your thoughts and feelings. Listening to this video is like listening to my own thoughts. Thank you for being open and honest.
You are so strong and gorgeous and i will support you no matter what! Keep slaying bestie 💖
Girlie👏🏻 i know exactly how you feel and in all honesty, keeping the clothes you know you wont wear or you know do not fit you only demotivates you! Have a closet make over girl! Start on a clean slate!! Holding on to expectations and burdening yourself with failed goals will only suffocate you until you crack.
I wish you the best of luck on your journey! Yours and mine alike ;)
Love your content and humor Fei hope you're doing good sending much love I really enjoy your videos cause there relatable sometimes thanks for opening up to us and sharing your thoughts and feelings when you feel comfortable ❤
this video made me cry bc im in the same situation as you I don't even wanna go out bc now of my clothes don't fit like they did before and I know tht its me and my mindset but its hard when I just can't control myself. I eat as comfort and then I don't eat at all because im disappointed its like a constant cycle and I hate the way I look now but its like my motivation isn't there no matter how hard I try or how many mental breakdowns I have. and even now I don't throw out clothes that don't fit bc just like you im waiting to wear them when im skinny. I love your videos and this one is something I kinda needed as I was in denial for a bit now and I think it was eye opening for me. I hope you reach your goals and I wish you the best. Love you 💜💜
Fei you have helped me so much with body positivity and I just want to thank you for sharing these very real feeling with dealing with our journey becuase we all go through this.That being said I am on my weight lost journey again and I won't lose faith,I will keep going even of I feel like I gained some weight.Hope you feel better sending love 💞
Much love for this strong video! You will help a lot of people with this video
this video made me cry. ive always felt alone in having these feelings, thoughts, and ideas but to see you have the same experience really made me so sad because while i feel like its okay for me to be self-critical and engage in toxic thought processes, it pains me to see other women do the same to themselves. You are a wonderful woman inside and out, and I hope that you know that those clothes do not define you. ❤
Oh my goodness that blue set it so flattering on you seriously queen 🤩
You role model the vulnerabilities of many women in such a relatable way, I admire your passion to help a lot of people to feel we are not alone. You are beautiful inside and out, and no perfect 10 skinny look is ever going to be able to compete with the beauty you possess in so many ways, Be kind to yourself as you are to others.
Happy new year 🎉 ✨ 💛 miss u ..ty for being you..have a great new year
I've literally felt the same way with my own goals. I keep giving myself passes for things I genuinely want to achieve too and at the end of the day it just doesn't get done. You called me out and I'm getting it done NOW. :D
Also, it's ok if you don't fit those clothes from 3 years ago. You as a person have grown mentally and emotionally too and I think being stuck on trying to fit clothing from the past makes you put your former self on a pedestal when in reality, you're so much wiser and more fashionable now. Our bodies change and that's ok. I honestly think I made the most progress with my fitness journey after I donated my "old skinny clothes". It's like emotional baggage: once you throw it away and stop having something to compare yourself to, you actually have the confidence to go after what you want with a clean slate.
I’ve been going through the same issues but with depression in general. Its comforting to know someone else is going through the same things.
i just discovered you and i love your energy and personality, plus your smile is so pretty gurl.
Many people go through the same thing as you . You are very brave to share how you feel. You can it believe in yourself.
Hearing things like this from someone’s mouth, other than my own, solidifies that people definitely have a hard time noticing their own beauty. Thank you for sharing and putting a spotlight on the topic. You are beautiful 🥹
I can’t speak on how you feel, and if you truly feel like something needs to change, it should be up to you to chose if it’s worth making it happen. If you know it will make you happier/healthier without compromising too much, go for it! We all believe in you and know you’re capable of achieving whatever you want to. You know yourself best, no one else can truly tell you what your needs are. We will always support your decisions as long as they’re not hurting anyone, including you :) All I can say is that my first impression of you in this video was that you look amazing, and I would go as far as to say you’re looking better than ever in many ways (seems like your skin is glowing!) though you may not see it or feel like it. Thank you for always working so hard to put out videos, even when it’s hard on you. Remember to take care of yourself and give yourself the credit you deserve. We love you, no matter what 🤍
Hey, I’m sorry you’re feeling this way! So many of us have been there during weight loss. What was helpful for me was not defining myself by what I failed to do, but recognizing that each day and moment is a new opportunity. Give yourself grace! It helped me feel less terrible about myself, which contributed to more motivation. I hope this is a little helpful❤️ I know you can do it!
Girl, you're not alone. I felt everything you've said in this video and my closet is also full of clothes I refuse to get rid of because I plan to wear them when I'm skinny. Been planning for years and still am. This is hard
I love that you made this video, our bodies change and as should our wardrobes. Holding on to old clothes can be so mentally draining
I almost cried watching this. I've gained a lot the last year being an emotional eater. And my view on life changing completely and experiencing a great loss of a person that was very important to me didn't help with that. I am still in a denial of that this is what I weight now. Almost all of my clothes don't fit or look way.. worse on me now and it's really makes me feel a lot of anger towards myself.. so i know how you feel.. and i wish you lots of strength to overcome this negative feelings
I truly wish for you to see happiness in the following year and to become more secure in yourself. There's nothing wrong with wanting to work on yourself of become healthier. Just have to make sure you don't also talk down about yourself/beat yourself up while on this journey of growth.
I lost over 100 pounds so far with wls and while I wouldn't want to be where I was before weight wise. I hold so much gratitude towards the me from a year ago as she still had aspects about her that was great and just as worthy of happiness.
love you so much, feiii !!!
Fei, I feel everything you said so much and I'm sending support ♡ Can i just say how much I would LOVE if you did a video where you let someone alter clothes that are "too small" to actually fit your gorgeous body? I think it would be so cathartic.