I have read so many self help books over the years (I am 40) trying to find what was wrong with me and never really did until today. I was an unloved daughter. It is so calming to hear someone put the words on what I have felt inside me. Thank you. Thank you. I finally have hope that I can heal and be happy. Thank you for your work in that field.
It took me 35 years to finally realize my mother didn’t love me and I’m a man. But I tell you what I’ve never been happier, I literally feel like I’m free. Stay strong and keep moving forward..
Really ? How did you do that ? I am a woman and I am in my 30s. I realized this since childhood but feeling so trapped in this house without a job. How did you heal ?
Anu I mean when I lived with her, I had no choice but to deal with her ways....tbh I fought for my mother’s love until I was 34 and didn’t cut ties with her until I was 35. I cut ties with her about 6 months ago and tbh how I’ve been healing is talking to other people with similar experiences it has helped me to heal and move forward. If you ever need someone to talk to...you can email me @ khristopherj@hotmail.com
Anu it took me having my own child to realize everything and to honestly reflect on my childhood trauma. She allowed me to be abused physically by my biological father and she mentally abused me throughout my childhood while I lived with her. My father was never around so I felt she was all I had growing up which is why it took me so long to figure out she was a narcissist.
Anu this was my last conversation with her before I cut ties with her....Check out this confrontational conversation with my narcissistic mother and dysfunctional family....ua-cam.com/video/52PK2vw-O2A/v-deo.html. Please like & share!
@@nextchapter3438 just reflecting is enough ? To get out of this family ,I tried to have relationship, but relationship also had same pattern of life with my parents. So I had quit relationship and stopped emotional attachment with my family .but I want to get a job and get out . But for draining attacks and unpredictable behaviour of these parents make things difficult for me even to have a career .
I think many of us look for normalcy, assimilate after leaving home, & go into helping professions because we learn young the importance of compassion.
Thank you! It took me until 38 years of age to realize this. And only after getting very ill without answers from doctors & begging Mom for some help in finding proper care..... silence - wow they care that little - only child here as well. On my own & still sick - trying to get proper medical treatment & she couldn’t care less. They moved to the other side of the country- I’m just too much work! Life is so strange.
What illness do you have? You do t have to answer if you are uncomfortable. My own young adult child is very very ill with IBD and I can’t imagine going through chronic illness without support from a parent. My heart goes out to you.
Your book did help me during the very chaotic years leading up to her suicide... Thank you. You were spot on for me abt the death of my mom. Also, great answer abt the elusive & religious laden construct of forgiveness. Letting go & not wishing harm is not absolving someone with no remorse. It puts a burden on the victim/survivor. My mom literally did text me “declaring war” when I was dealing with a major medical illness & at my most vulnerable... that time leading up to her suicide was the what had me most traumatized after living in denial (which served me well to compartmentalize) until that time & now I’m doing EMDR, bc that time was like my family of origin blew itself up.
I recently read her book Daughter Detox (also great on audible-read by the author) & it was eyeopening and so very helpful in my healing journey. Thank you for sharing this excellent interview & thank you Peg Streep for your excellent work!
Some of us can’t be categorized. Some of us had mean, chaotic, personality disordered mothers & didn’t want to live a similar life as our moms. It is true that I still wish she had been different. The self involved mother described her best but she had BPD/NPD.
So much of this I can associate to the poor relationship between my father and myself (his son). It may be a subject for your next book Peg. Thank you so much.
Hoping this videos helps me change my mind about kms as an 24 year old black petite female i feel so stupid i tired of thinkinzg about kms since i was 17 ive been trying to heal but i jusy want to let go and even forget and change my life ....car life
My mother ignored me and was emotionally unavailable until I wanted to do something to make myself *gasp* look better than her (such as learn basic life skills), then she was the most controlling, mean bitch ever.
The repetition compulsion is what tipped me off. I had three horrendous relationships in a row. I knew about attachment styles and childhood development and alcoholic families. I knew that relationships are mirrors, and what my ex's denial indicated about me.
When I had a son, I was appalled at the basics that I never saw I was missing. There was a huge blind spot. I still have it, I still have a lot of trouble with it.
I know this was a while ago but please help or respond if you have any guidance. All the unloving Mother types my Mother identified with especially the unreliable mother. Yet most if not all the the unloving mothers. I'm an adult but this is affecting me greatly. Please I don't want to be more depressed nor become suicidal. I don't want it to come to this. Please and thank you.
Common effets of Dismissive treatment... Yeah. Yeah that about sum it up. I am 20 year old. Almost 21 years old. And since I am 20 year old I really realise how my mom is stoping me from growing well
Ms. Streep does not have an education in psychology, although her story may be valuable on the surface, She is known to be a cruel bully with a Wretched mean streak. If you can relate to her it’s probably because your mother is just like her. Be wary.
Thanks for exploring these traumas.
It’s sad when you see other lovely mothers and yours was a stone of criticism and unemotional available 💔
I have read so many self help books over the years (I am 40) trying to find what was wrong with me and never really did until today. I was an unloved daughter. It is so calming to hear someone put the words on what I have felt inside me. Thank you. Thank you. I finally have hope that I can heal and be happy. Thank you for your work in that field.
It took me 35 years to finally realize my mother didn’t love me and I’m a man. But I tell you what I’ve never been happier, I literally feel like I’m free. Stay strong and keep moving forward..
Really ? How did you do that ? I am a woman and I am in my 30s. I realized this since childhood but feeling so trapped in this house without a job. How did you heal ?
Anu I mean when I lived with her, I had no choice but to deal with her ways....tbh I fought for my mother’s love until I was 34 and didn’t cut ties with her until I was 35. I cut ties with her about 6 months ago and tbh how I’ve been healing is talking to other people with similar experiences it has helped me to heal and move forward. If you ever need someone to talk to...you can email me @ khristopherj@hotmail.com
Anu it took me having my own child to realize everything and to honestly reflect on my childhood trauma. She allowed me to be abused physically by my biological father and she mentally abused me throughout my childhood while I lived with her. My father was never around so I felt she was all I had growing up which is why it took me so long to figure out she was a narcissist.
Anu this was my last conversation with her before I cut ties with her....Check out this confrontational conversation with my narcissistic mother and dysfunctional family....ua-cam.com/video/52PK2vw-O2A/v-deo.html. Please like & share!
@@nextchapter3438 just reflecting is enough ? To get out of this family ,I tried to have relationship, but relationship also had same pattern of life with my parents. So I had quit relationship and stopped emotional attachment with my family .but I want to get a job and get out . But for draining attacks and unpredictable behaviour of these parents make things difficult for me even to have a career .
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for your work ❣️it is healing and helping me change my whole life. Thank you again ✌️🕊️🤗
It took me 35yrs to understand my mother doesn’t love me 🙏🏾
Same here.
I always knew.
Ditto but better late than never.
ravai mahenga
It took me 36- when I had my own child
And now I understand
I think many of us look for normalcy, assimilate after leaving home, & go into helping professions because we learn young the importance of compassion.
Very good interview the for sharing !
Thank you! It took me until 38 years of age to realize this. And only after getting very ill without answers from doctors & begging Mom for some help in finding proper care..... silence - wow they care that little - only child here as well. On my own & still sick - trying to get proper medical treatment & she couldn’t care less. They moved to the other side of the country- I’m just too much work!
Life is so strange.
2peacegrrrl2 ..... wow. Life is strange. I hope you find the help you need through as many resources you can find.
What illness do you have? You do t have to answer if you are uncomfortable. My own young adult child is very very ill with IBD and I can’t imagine going through chronic illness without support from a parent. My heart goes out to you.
Brilliant! I've read Daughter Detox, but seeing it presented this way was so eye-opening and helpful!
Your book did help me during the very chaotic years leading up to her suicide... Thank you. You were spot on for me abt the death of my mom. Also, great answer abt the elusive & religious laden construct of forgiveness. Letting go & not wishing harm is not absolving someone with no remorse. It puts a burden on the victim/survivor. My mom literally did text me “declaring war” when I was dealing with a major medical illness & at my most vulnerable... that time leading up to her suicide was the what had me most traumatized after living in denial (which served me well to compartmentalize) until that time & now I’m doing EMDR, bc that time was like my family of origin blew itself up.
I recently read her book Daughter Detox (also great on audible-read by the author) & it was eyeopening and so very helpful in my healing journey. Thank you for sharing this excellent interview & thank you Peg Streep for your excellent work!
Thanks for audible tip! I've been contemplating what to use my first credit on.
I can relate , "mother being happy for me going no contact "
Some of us can’t be categorized. Some of us had mean, chaotic, personality disordered mothers & didn’t want to live a similar life as our moms. It is true that I still wish she had been different. The self involved mother described her best but she had BPD/NPD.
So much of this I can associate to the poor relationship between my father and myself (his son). It may be a subject for your next book Peg. Thank you so much.
Ben Downe ☺
Hoping this videos helps me change my mind about kms as an 24 year old black petite female i feel so stupid i tired of thinkinzg about kms since i was 17 ive been trying to heal but i jusy want to let go and even forget and change my life ....car life
Thank you so much for sharing your insights
My mother ignored me and was emotionally unavailable until I wanted to do something to make myself *gasp* look better than her (such as learn basic life skills), then she was the most controlling, mean bitch ever.
Nice post, with very useful information
Thank you
The repetition compulsion is what tipped me off. I had three horrendous relationships in a row. I knew about attachment styles and childhood development and alcoholic families. I knew that relationships are mirrors, and what my ex's denial indicated about me.
When I had a son, I was appalled at the basics that I never saw I was missing. There was a huge blind spot. I still have it, I still have a lot of trouble with it.
"mistakes control for reliability."
Oohff yeah.
Great insightful video
thank you for explaining that!
Happy to help!
I know this was a while ago but please help or respond if you have any guidance. All the unloving Mother types my Mother identified with especially the unreliable mother. Yet most if not all the the unloving mothers. I'm an adult but this is affecting me greatly. Please I don't want to be more depressed nor become suicidal. I don't want it to come to this. Please and thank you.
I always knew.
WOW
Common effets of Dismissive treatment... Yeah. Yeah that about sum it up.
I am 20 year old. Almost 21 years old. And since I am 20 year old I really realise how my mom is stoping me from growing well
How can I get this book in India ?
Ms. Streep does not have an education in psychology, although her story may be valuable on the surface, She is known to be a cruel bully with a Wretched mean streak. If you can relate to her it’s probably because your mother is just like her. Be wary.