Neuroscientist: Why Trying To Eliminate Anxiety WON'T SOLVE Your Problems! | Dr. Russell Kennedy
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If you ever feel anxious, whether that’s a low-level worry, a sudden fear, or full-on panic, can you sense where it’s coming from in your body? Perhaps your chest feels tight, or your gut feels uneasy. Or, perhaps, you have no idea. My guest on this episode, believes that understanding where this feeling lives inside your body is the key to treating anxiety - for good.
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Its true, my anxiety doesn't come from my mind I have known that for over 15 years, however mental health professionals don't seem to accept that.
The first indicator of my anxiety are the physical sensations in my body not the thoughts in my head!
I've been telling my therapist that my anxiety comes from my body but she doesn't believe me; I feel vindicated.
An amazing discussion, thank you! ❤
Could it be time to change therapists? IMHO, for a therapist to deny a client's feelings about the pain in her body seems like the mindset of the 1950s. Depending on where you are, there should be a therapist who knows about somatic issues. good luck!
I'm a little confused with this podcast. I deal with so much anxiety every day. I wake up with anxiety. I know exactly where it is. It's in my chest. To not know where your anxiety is seems dumb. Am i confusing where i feel the anxiety is with where it originated or something im so confused.
@@fernandes06 Look up Internal Family Systems with Richard Schwartz and have a listen to his approach. It's a blessing to know where your anxiety lives in your body. Not everyone can sense it beyond one crippling area or at all.
Mind and body are one system but they use different languages, plus we've been trained to really only pay attention to the mind and it's wants.
@@fernandes06 when as a kid u experience trauma ur mind cant process it so ur body stores it in various parts of the body to help u not to go insane. For many people it happens on a chronic basis so the mind again protects u by disconnecting u from any body sensations hence the reason people cant locate where its stored. The moment they feel they have anxiety is when they r in full blown panic attack as they had no connection to their bodily sensations to signal to them that something is brewing.
I’m a somatic psychotherapist and yes of course sensations and feelings are physiological and the body-mind are inextricably linked. Feelings and emotions are physiological ❤
If most medical docs were like Russel the world would vastly be healed ❤
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So I’ve listened to two hours of talking and anxiously describing how anxiety is stored in the body, the alarm, the love vs fear, how people who didn’t receive a strong love basis as kids live in fear, Dr Chatterjee’s super dramatic reactions and in the end ZERO SOLUTIONS??? I can’t listen all over again to decipher where the solutions are!! Less on problems more on solutions PLEASE. Thank you.
Good point. I guess he wants you to read his book. One thing is the 478 breathing and the other is working through unresolved childhood trauma with a counsellor. But I agree with you, too much fluff in this and many other long form interviews.
The solutions are mentioned all throughout the talk; yoga, vagus nerve stimulation, breath work, tapping, etc.
Those who has solutions and toolkit- they are paid.
Oh my.....'the worry is keeping me safe'. This has been the very thing that has prevented me from healing my anxiety and phobias!!!
Analytics… 70% questions and Rangan’s promos, 30% guest speaking.
This guy is brilliant, what he's figured out based on his actual experience is spot on. Thank you!
Best Podcast ever! This is the key to managing my anxiety. I look forward to applying it. Finally, someone has a real answer and explanation for anxiety. Thank you so much!
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This seems very similar to the methodology in Hilary Jacobs Hendel's book, It's Not Always Depression, a brilliant manual on the therapy called AEDP, developed by Diana Fosha. There are interesting differences from Kennedy's approach, but both have the same crucial and all too rare focus on anxiety and the body.
When I got Hendel's book, it was, pretty much overnight, the end of torturing myself with obsessive, circular, anxious thoughts. I'd been through a lot of therapy without achieving that. I couldn't believe the book's ideas weren't being discussed everywhere, instead of which it seemed to sink without a trace - and the world went on babbling neurotically about anxiety, what can you do, it's a curse, but we're stuck with it etc.
Today, Hendel and Fosha would probably be all over UA-cam in the wake of the book's publication, but it was 2017, before all these handsome-man-science-of-wellbeing podcasts. Even now, even on Huberman's podcast, beneath which I've typed a few mini-essays on this book, anxiety and this kind of address to it remain a blindspot. Hendel and Fosha, especially, who's an incredibly smart and engaging speaker, would still be worth inviting on, Oh handsome men of wellbeing science. And I'd still vigorously recommend Hendel's book - as a complement to what Kennedy offers.
Early days for me with Kennedy's approach, but very promising: I watched the podcast last night and immediately started trying out the techniques, with powerful results, including an unusually good night's sleep. I've just ordered his book.
This kind of work was, essentially, exactly what I was looking for after reading Bessel van derk Kolk's The Body Keeps the Score back around 2014. Instead, all I could find for a couple of years was a lot of bitty clips on somatic experiencing, which - I have to agree with Kennedy - didn't do it for me, even when I went on to read Peter Levine's Waking the Tiger. Clearly important work, but, for me, far from the whole story.
Anyway, seems we might be getting there, gradually. Thanks, Russell, and thanks, Rangan, for giving this airtime
Do you have the soft copy of this book ?
@@anannaafrin2017 You mean as opposed to the hardback? Yes.
@@JohnMoseleyyeah and pdf do you have ?
@@anannaafrin2017 No, sorry.
YES!! there's only Love or Fear at the root of all kinds of emotions!👍🤟🙏
Choose Love and rid yourself of fear 🥰
That's not how anxiety works unfortunately. Fear is normal, anxiety is systemic disorder. It's happening subconsciously and cannot be influenced through cognition.
Wow wow wow. Lots of tears shed by me during this podcast. Thank you both so much. I was asked recently by my therapist "what part of me have I not forgiven yet"? Now I know the answer, " my child self" .
I start my inner child work on Monday.💛💛💛 This podcast is a huge gift to me .
Aww good luck lovely, im still awaiting an appointment to start counselling... sending much love&hugs to u xx
@@Claire_D78 💛
@@Claire_D78 💙💜💙
Good for you that you heard a solution in this very very long talk.
I only heard anxiety raising descriptions of problems, causes and more causes but little solutions for adults.
What is the inner child work and could be kind enough to to pin point where they talk about it in the interview?? THANK YOU
@@alexd1121 My journey began with me getting to know me, and pulling away from others perceptions of me from childhood. I was always living in the past, not in the moment and always projecting the future which had not yet happened, always preparing for the next chaotic episode. It takes patience and awareness to be in the moment. How I began this was being aware of my surroundings in the moment asking myself " what am I feeling about where I am?" Do I like ,or not like,what is it that I like or don't like? Where am I feeling that in my body? Am I calm and curious,or am I uncomfortable,why?
Do you have a room in your home that you don't like to spend time in? What room in your home do you like to spend time in and automatically gravitate to most? This is where you go into your body, where are you feeling what you are feeling good or bad?This is how I started to learn to be in the moment.
Another thing that I now use is breathing, bringing my focus on how I am breathing ,is it rapid(fear/ anxious) is it shallow( like hold your breath, fear/ anxiety) or is it normal ? Your focus on breathing takes you out of your head and into your body and in the present moment.
My session on " inner child " therapy was delayed to the first week in July.So I can't speak on this at the moment . For me it was the time period in my life that I learned coping mechanisms that no longer work for me as an adult. I was unable to recall any good things about my childhood till recently. I was stuck in pain ,blame,and shame.I am excited to finally release this part of myself .
I hope my ramblings help you, as at the moment my articulation is a little scattered.
I wish you success on your journey to healing yourself. Don't give up !
One of the best podcasts you have given us Dr. Chattergee!👍 I honestly feel there is hope for me.
My anxiety went into many routes. Eating disorders, panic attacks, agoraphobia, stomach issues, ibs, celiac disease, pacemaker at age 25 for sss. I developed a bone marrow disease and fibromyalgia most likely due to malnutrition. I'm in pain every day all day long. Its miserable.
Dropped to 89lbs and I'm 5' 10"
Ocd, germophobia and all that leads to depression.
Ive went through so much therapy but nothing has really given me relief. All helps a little but I'm bad off mentally. I have gained some weight up to 119lbs but still need to gain a good bit back.
I can go about 4miles from my house. I feel very unsafe all the time. Definitely had a lot of childhood trauma and then as an adult as well.
No idea whatelse i can do. Ive been in therapy for as long as i can remember and have seen many different therapists and used so many types of therapy.
Cbt, emdr, somatic experience, hypnosis, tapping, exposure therapy, mindfulness, etc
I'll look up his book and see if i can find any hope there.
Cause I'm due for my pacemaker replacement and I really dont want to do it. Ive lost hope for a future without all this weight. If i dont replace it then maybe one day morning i wont wake up. That sounds morbid but just being real. That's my mindset and I'm loosing the will to fight.
I appreciate this conversation. I look forward to reading his book and re listening to this conversation.
I'm so tired
The Crappy Childhood Fairy on UA-cam helps many, many people.
Sending love from afar.
I am so deepl😢y sorry . You sound like my dearest son .and I suffer the same . It’s horrible . It’s real. I wish it were different . Why do we suffer so much ?
My heart hearts for you ❤️ I can’t go far from my house either & my spouse is mostly out of town for work. I’m very isolated as well. Praying you have found relief 🙏🏼 Sending the biggest hugs
I’m so, so sorry. I suffer a lot also and I’m so tired as well. Don’t ever lose hope. I read the Bible and that helps me. I will be praying for you!
This is a great talk. Relates to majority of people. Great connection. Thank you Dr. Kennedy! TY Dr. Chatterjee
Psilocybin saved my life. I was addicted to heroin for 15 years and after Psilocybin treatment I will be 3 years clean in September. I have zero cravings. This is something that truly needs to be more broadly used in addiction treatment.
I was diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder and experience symptoms of trauma. Once I realized that for me anxiety and trauma was just me being afraid of something it made the problem (trying to avoid an experience) and the solution (choosing to approach the experience) very clear. Using principles of operant conditioning, I know longer experience generalized anxiety and have pretty much dissipated the trauma.
As a side note, generating fear about the thoughts passing through my mind (which the thoughts are just me trying to protect myself) is part of what was creating my feelings of anxiousness. I learned to get to know and get curious about the thoughts, as well as my sensations, and that also helped shift things because I learned to approach and get to know something I previously was trying to protect myself from and avoid.
These days….I greet my anxiety with…’hello I recognise you my old anxiety, fear or ….’ Resistance is very painful but getting curious and actually pinning down the feeling or sensation is really helpful.
@@sallyb9613 agreed!
Acceptance, the key to healing
Hi @bestillLittleTree, I hope You are doing well. Could you be more specific on the things that helped you, please ? Thank you so much
@@DeboraSic hi there! I am, thank you :) what has been really helpful is taking the time to notice what is going on inside of me in those anxious moments. "What's happening right now and what's going on that is making this anxiousness necessary?"
Being curious and extremely honest about that has helped me place everything on the table, so to speak, so I can start to really work with it in which ever way seems appropriate.
I hope that's helpful!
Parts of this talk made me quite emotional. I’ve always been an anxious person as was my mother & I’ve always thought it was just in the genes. There was little to no affection in my childhood, nothing awful, just no hugs or comforting touch & I came from a background of “ children should be seen & not heard”. As an adult (now 60+) I’ve never been comfortable with hugging etc as it’s just quite alien to me. Maybe if I’d had children it would’ve been different but I chose not to, for a variety of reasons. I wonder now if my anxiety has it’s roots in my childhood. Thanks for a very interesting talk.
💛I hope you can heal, reparent, your inner child. It is powerful work.
I too have had so, so much anxiety...and was deeply in denial for a long time. I definitely have realized, childhood traumas, various, multiple, have played a huge role.
I discovered I have fearful attachment style, and am working on healing my core wounds, so yoga daily (yoga with Adriene, UA-cam) write, and do a 10 minute sleep meditation each night with my youngest child.
I quit drinking any alcohol, quit social media (too triggering ) except UA-cam. I try to show up for myself, like I would a small child or a pet. It has done wonders for resetting my nervous system. I'm in tune with my body (the yoga has been transformative with that), and before was tuned out, ignoring my own body signals most of the time.
I wish you kindness and compassion. May you be held and healed.
@@Alphacentauri819 thanks for your kind words.
I could have easily written the same things. you did. No affection, no hugs, and lots of emotional abandonment early on, but everything "looked" good. I spent a small fortune on therapy and childhood was never really front and center. And, I didn't know what to call the feeling I held, and no therapist ever realized it either. Good luck. Other podcasts of Dr. Chatterjee's that would be excellent for you to listen to would be Dr. Gabor Mate and Dr. Tara Swart both offer lots of insights into how to heal. Dr. Mate profoundly understands how the lack of connection in childhood affects everything. Dr. Swart, also a neuroscientist provides practical tips on how to manage one's nervous system. Sending lots of care and comfort from afar.
@@NelaCopey2959 thanks for your kind reply. I think the lack of affection etc was probably because my own mother was also never shown any & felt unsupported as I did. I suppose I never knew anything different. Gabor Mate is so brilliant to listen to. I’ll look up the other person you mentioned. Thanks again.
Coulda woulda shoulda! Where are the remedies? The solutions? Otherwise listening to this is just masochistic.
I have way too much anxiety! I'm always on edge feeling like something bad is going to happen. I either have panic attack or edging on one every day. It has ruined my life. I have agoraphobia and haven't left my town in 3 years
I'm in a 4 mile range when no traffic is present.
Read and practice the dare response life changing book
My thyroid levels were low , it caused anxiety and panic attacks. Got the meds for it , and my anxiety left.
That’s good! I’m happy for that for you! My sister mother and grandmother all had this issue. Are you fully healed? In other words….You aren’t experiencing anxiety anymore?
I just wanna say that it is extremely powerful and helpful for me. By listening to Rangan and Russell talking simply soothes my anxiety. Very appreciated.
"Getting out of your mind" is especially important. The majority of people in the west don't know how to do that....I didn't. Books like "30 Days to Reduce Anxiety" by Harper Daniels and "The Power of Now" by Tolle helped me learn mindfulness to escape the constant influx of thoughts.
The reason you became anxious is that once upon a time you left yourself, often to look after a parent or it was just too unbearable to be in your body. As a result, you learned to judge, abandon, blame, and shame yourself
overly simplistic and self-fulfilling prophecy
What a bunch of bullshit! Try to work in foods/corporate/community. You have no control over how your day is going to go.
That's part of it...but hugely, it is an attachment injury. The lack of safety, certainty, connection.
That triggers a primal survival mechanism...basically it feels like threat of death subconsciously.
Yes, self abandonment becomes part of the equation...but the very, very root, is the attachment injury.
@@Alphacentauri819Yes, I like what you wrote. It’s an attachment injury to our ego-mind identity (EGI) The injury causes us fear in losing what our ego-mind holds dear. We must remember we are sentient beings, an indirect fractal piece of the Creator and our EGI anchors us in this lower frequency. If we reconnect to our higher self, we will be able to dissolve our anxiety and fears.
@@WaddupBoi Not sure the reason for your comment. "overly simplistic?" It's theirs, not yours to determine the value.
This conversation has catapulted me forward in my healing journey. So grateful for this. It would be good to have something similar focusing on how to cure depression, for others in my life.
Good luck in your healing ❤
I've had low grade depression most of my long life. I've gotten a lot of relief thru nutrition and supplements. Several things in particular for me - the recommended dose of vitamin D3 is inadequate for most people. If you've tested low, then you need up to 50,000 ius per day. All the B vitamins - especially a methylated B12 (methylcobalamin) if you have the MTHFR genetic mutation that blocks absorption of B12. If you (or your loved ones) haven't already, start watching all the holistic nutrition docs on youtube. Of course they all start with a low carb high fat diet and NO ULTRA PROCESSED foods ! And movement - just walk 30 minutes a day - amazingly refreshing and makes me happy and optimistic. A search for "cure depression" here on youtube invites a plethora of videos on the subject (many of them WAY less than an hour long :)
Fabulous conversation. I work with the body to help clients release anxiety and I've also become aware of past experience living on in the alarm signature within the body. Somatic work is SO much more effective than cognitive work. Thanks both. Glad there's someone else out there doing this work.
I wish you could be my therapist.
This is a such mind opening podcast, it’s so valuable information that benefits to everyone especially for the people suffering from anxiety like me, I learned so much from dr. Kennedy, thank you so much for sharing this video ❤
I hope you find relief ❤
Thank you so much, Doctor Chattergee, for this incredibly wonderful interview with Doctor Russell Kennedy! What a total gift of healing!
I follow you both. I’ve read Dr. Kennedy’s book and am enrolled in his program., this was next level brilliant! I really enjoyed this episode and, as always, I have gleaned so much from you both.
Can you talk about the worry of dying. I am 64 and really scared of the future now that I’m getting much older.
Best conversation I have ever heard. I know what he is saying is true because I have suffered and healed it too. Life is different and I’m getting healthy finally.
How did you heal it? (I’m going through it now and am overwhelmed by theboptions and what I should do)
@@liyzette your best option is to find a therapist of some kind who is open to the exact same ideas as what are in this man’s program. Dr. Kennedy is saying all the things I learned and put into practice. Just remember this one thing : The answers are always available to us once we ask. The questions are the important things, figuring what to ask is the key to your success. Oh and Unconditional love: there is nothing a person can do to deserve it, and nothing a person can do to be undeserving of it. It just is, its part of who we are, who each of us are. Blessings to you, I wish you well. See you on the other-side of the tunnel.
@@Iamalso-OneCuriousCarnivore Thank you, Joanna.
@@liyzette I just left a probably too long post recommending Hilary Jacobs Hendel's book 'It's Not Always Depression,' which is very similar to what Kennedy's talking about. It almost instantly freed me from torturing myself with anxiety. It's not the whole story - nothing is really, and I'm finding Kennedy's approach very much has something to add - but it made a huge huge difference to me.
@@JohnMoseley Thanks so much! I will check it out for sure.
0:23: 😬 Anxiety is on the rise globally, but our current approach to dealing with it is not addressing the root cause.
11:28: 🌬 The speaker shares a breathing technique to calm anxiety.
23:34: ! The James Lang theory of emotion suggests that our feeling state dictates our thinking state more than the other way around, making it difficult to treat anxiety and depression.
35:22: 💡 Bridging connections with children and adults creates emotional resonance and a sense of connection.
47:09: 🎺 Dr. Kennedy discusses the parasympathetic effects of oral activities like playing the trumpet and how they can stimulate the vagus nerve.
58:36: 💡 The key to healing long-term is to ground ourselves in our body, bring the prefrontal cortex back online, and re-engage the social engagement system.
1:10:23: 🤔 Matthew McConaughey discusses the importance of embracing all parts of oneself.
1:21:47: 🧠 Practicing getting out of your mind and into your body can help address the root cause of problems and improve your ability to handle difficult situations.
1:33:21: 💊 The speaker discusses the limitations of relying solely on medication for treating mental health issues.
1:44:49: 🧠 People with anxiety and irritable bowel syndrome (IBS) have difficulty regulating their autonomic nervous system, leading to prolonged activation and difficulty returning to a normal state.
1:56:13: 🧠 The level of separation anxiety and resilience in individuals is influenced by their sensitive nervous system and the level of attuned attachment with their parents during early childhood.
2:07:47: 🧠 The speaker emphasizes the importance of acknowledging reputable institutions conducting quality studies on psychedelics, while also sharing their personal negative experience with psychedelics.
2:19:01: 📸 A helpful technique to diffuse arguments in relationships is to visualize your partner as their nine-year-old self.
Recap by Tammy AI
Thanks for the time stamps! :) 1:21 is especially important, I've been practicing mindfulness using the book "30 Days to Reduce Anxiety" by Harper Daniels and it totally helps getting out of the mind and embracing the present moment.
Thank you, I would like the author to pin this message!
Love this , is exactly what EFT( emotional freedom technique) does, you connect with your body xx
Ive moved 45 times in my life before age 32. As a child we moved a lot and my father was a extream strict preacher who was abusive. My mom, sister and i moved out for a few days all the time.
I've moved way too much too. As a child, I moved every couple of years up to the age of 12. At one point in my adult life, I added it up and realised I'd had 20 addresses in 10 years. I think this kind of thing can be a major contributor to creating the kind of rejected parts of oneself Kennedy advises working with in the video.
NLP skills here work so well for anxiety. I use it in my practice in combination with memory reprocessing. It's very effective
Loved this podcast with two wonderful doctors. Dr Russell has had an amazing journey. Wishing both doctors the best life has to offer.
One of the best , more insightful podcast ever. I had to listened twice to absorb, really amazing.
I love the example of the little one in a grocery store with their arms up wanting to be picked up....great visual 😍
Woke up with laptop running a Kennedy thing on anxiety...I paid attention and really helped husband with PTSD.
I think this is one of the best videos I have ever seen. How satisfying it is to listen a dynamic conversation between two well educated people, it's like a dance of interrelated ideas.
But I have a concern and I will try to elaborate it as best as possible so that it is well understood.
All human beings have problems with their past especially because of our relationship with our parents, that is, we are doomed from birth because no matter how well our parents do, there will always be something that traumatizes us.
My point is that there has to be some way for that not to happen, perhaps an early education that makes us emotionally stronger or "less weak". Because victimizing education doesn't help. We have to find a formula to strengthen perception of reality otherwise we will always be exposed to trauma and it will be as it is a vicious cycle for eternity.
I don't know if you understand where I am going but I say this because thinking about the harm that someone had done to me in my life I thought about what that person would have lived through that led him to do what he did and when I made that path of understanding I never had to deal with that anguish again. Rather than going to the child in me I went to the understanding and that led me to the subsequent release and believe me it did not take me long. I managed to do this after many years of suffering and I asked myself the question, if I had been taught earlier to strengthen my "spirit" I would have had a better quality of life because today we all walk though this life as victims and that is a very heavy way to live.
To embrace the child who suffered is to treat him as a victim again and because he was a victim I embrace him, on the other hand the exercise of understanding the victimizer and seeing him as a victim of his circumstances, was more powerful and strengthening than embracing the child in me. That would be an interesting subject for a video. Well, that's just a reflection.
Thanks Dr Chatterjee to make us meet these interesting, lovely and touching guests. Great talk.
Going back to the child isn't "woo" because we do that regardless. It's a conversation with that part of a person that needs to be had in order to heal...and probably had more than once 😊
Absolutely brilliant life changing conversation. Thank you to both of you
I really like the 9 year old analogy of just look who you are arguing with to open your mind and see the real need is to love away the pain both have been building up
This resonates with Goenka’s explanation of his method of meditation. He said that it was about reaching a point where the mind and body merge and the body’s issues are addressed , that other methods that merely calm the mind do not go to the root of the problem and make you feel better but temporarily. My words of course. His can be found in the first speech of his introduction to his method.
Good morning. I love and deeply appreciate your kindness and your work. I'm listening your podcast every day while walking in the forest. You are such a gentle soul!
Ive had tension in my upper right back since my early 20's. Now at age 71 i had terrible pinched nerve in my arm for 2 months. Traction helped along with neck exercises. No more back pain.
I agree with him on CBT. However, ACT therapy is consistent with much of what he talks about. The concept of locating the pain in one’s body, sitting with it as you calm the alarm in your body so you can get to the underlying desires and what is blocking them. The greater the alarm response the more likely there is something important to identify. Calming the alarm allows you to rewire your alarm system, at least you can gain tolerance of the discomfort.
The first one and half minutes are gold in and of themselves.
THANK YOU!
So if you can’t go for a walk and you are about to go under general anesthesia; the awful feeling before; and seeing the operating room; and the fear is that falling before going out. I have huge anxiety and panic attacks if not being totally alert and in total control of my body. I actually panic when I had got tipsy 🤪. Maybe practicing dealing with the extreme uncomfortable feeling you KNOW you’re gonna have ? Ugh 😩 I see myself freezing ; embarrassing myself; fleeing or just saying forget it all.
I’ve been through terrible huge traumas; through worse than having a medical procedure yet this is so intrusive all day long. I feel like I’m a freak as others don’t seem to have it this badly. They are just able to be an adult. I feel like a child. It’s embarrassing 🙈
I used to suffer with a bad from of epilepsy. Grand mal seizures and I had fits in my sleep.
Our brains can be very detrimental to our mental and physical health.
We are not taught how to control our mental thought process.
I worked out what caused my fits .
And i don't suffer from them anymore.
Medically i ant supposed to be able to do this..
But ive never spoken to any professional Medical person about my unique mental wellbeing concepts.
But hopefully im going to go into teenage secondary schools.
To teach them these unique mental wellbeing concepts...
What caused your seizures? I have bad anxiety and my dog was diagnosed with epilepsy. I’m wondering if that’s connected.
Great talk, feels like another part of the puzzle. Thanks for taking the time.
Jason.
This was very informative and so it's important. Thank you for having him on....love your shows. I've got over 60 years of all of this....wish they had all of this knowledge at least 40 years ago. Love the last part about loving yourself, so important.
Wow what an inspiring podcast. Thank you so much. Absolutely brilliant!
Thank you for another great talk. It’s my life’s purpose to understand the mind better!
2:16. Pengilating does help. I learned that through art therapy. That's been my favorite type I've done. I painted my happy place and used that.
Thank You Doctors ❤
This was so Healing in of itself, simply soaking up both of your Amazing Knowledge. This was simply Brilliant - Thank You to the both of you.
It’s been emotional.
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Thank you for this incredible and thought provoking conversation ❤️🤗
I’ve been “emptying water from my boat” my entire life 😢
I did too! For 40 years!
Wow! Im really loving this podcast... everything you are both talking about i resonate with, although i have felt so misunderstood by my dr for years....who just had me on so many meds for anxiety and depression and also painkillers... im now due to start counselling which im pinning all my hopes on fixing me, as ive struggled since very early childhood due to being physically, mentally and emotionally abused by my mother. Im almost 45 and i really do feel the illness in my body 😢 especially my stomach and reproductive area... thanks for all the information ❤
Misunderstood, I can related. Count on you, let the therapists guide you, but count on you.
Find out what emotions are held in those areas and work on trying to understand why you feel the pain and anxiety in those regions
Sending love and comfort from afar. You've got this! I suggest educating yourself besides what the therapist offers you. I spent years in therapy and I'm sure it helped, but never got to the root causes - only bandaids. Great podcasts like this are plentiful both on understanding the original sin (losing your parent's full and unconditional approval) but, also how to self-regulate your nervous system
Like Nelacopey said, talk therapy on its own will only go so far to understand to a certain point. A trauma informed therapist finds the root cause of the anxiety and depression, to then heal within your nervous system. 🙂
I hope you’re no contact with this abuser.
1:25:33 Dr. Rangan you are one of the best in the league. But please don't stop the guest in between and i can understand he was showering many information.
I also know that my anxiety comes from my body...it's always a bodily reaction first and then it reaches my mind and I am overwhelmed. I was abused as a child and grew up hypervigilant. For me I cannot control the punch to the solar plexus which is how it starts. I need to take anti anxiety medication. I have felt guilty about this, but I realize that I am grateful, the medication gave me my life back. I have done mindfulness, meditation, diaphragm breathing, you name it, I've tried it. All this has helped somewhat, but it has never helped when a panic attack kicks in. My psychiatrist told me that I need to learn to manage it and live with it as studies have shown that abused children have brains that are wired differently. I realize that there is neuroplasticity but overall, that is a long, difficult process
I was told essentially the same thing and I am doing infintely better now.
The best podcast ever!
I spent 33 years in an abusive marriage and he died from cancer last year. During the last 4 months of his life, I took care of him in hospice. Before leaving this world, we got his confessions about his double secret life(and the gold digger was more than happy to be a dirty little secret). I had massive panic attacks, cracked 3 teeth from clenching, couldn’t eat, sleep…it was a horrible year alone with my thoughts. I’m finally healing from all the deceptions and betrayals, but what a sad, and painful, reality that the person you trusted the most, stabs you in the back the hardest.
sorry to hear this. people can be so cruel, expecially if they were abused in childhood. Most people that are cruel to others had horrible childhoods. Not that that excuses anything, but my experince is that hurt people Hurt people.
@@dr.russellkennedy6330he wasn’t abused, he was over indulged. He was a self centered, beyond ungrateful, and totally selfish. I’m relieved it’s over and I can rebuild my life
Thank you for sharing your amazing knowledge Dr. Kennedy!
Incredible guest, incredible conversation.
Thank you so much 🙏
Brilliant. A great conversation.
Please do timestamps. Thank you in advance. 😊
One thing that can help a great deal with anxiety, circadian rhythm and other mental issues is fasting!
My anxiety is literally destroying me. Its wrecked me mentally and physically. My cortisol levels are high, cannot sleep because of major insomnia. Everyday is a massive struggle and each day is a mission to get through without being on edge and without rumenating. 😮😢
I've been diagnosed with Severe anxiety, I've had anorexia, Borderline personality disorder, OCD, and I'm just so tired and super sad from it alll. Yes ive seen so many docs, psychs, counsellors and I'm still suffering severely at 45. 😢
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How are you now
This was so helpful and illuminating; thank you both!
This is all very interesting and convincing. I understand where anxiety comes from. But how do you apply this? How does knowing where anxiety comes from enable you to fix it?
I'm anxious about the idea of being anxious.
Listening to this over and over again..
Thank you for this podcast. This gives so much understanding. It’s such a relief to know there’s hope to heal ourselves from anxiety. 🙏
1:35. So true! It doesn't stick. Its all about the body. Our minds get in the way.
Great interview after just recently running into his channel. I think he should have totally left out the story with psychedelics for this particular interview - for me it soured everything else he said because as he was relating about it, I cringed at the idea that - that was the way he found out for sure, where his alarm is. And from my past experience ( 2 *) with LSD in the 70s were terrifying & for me I was hoping there was another for sure way to find my alarm. He says & teaches there are other ways but still I could have done with out actually hearing for the first time, in this interview, that he found his alarm diffently then what he teaches.
Yes I've heard of the many recently published scientific studies about controlled psychedelic experiences for various healing of trauma etc. But it doesn't prevent me from still wishing he would have saved that subject for different time, different place.
Great interview. Good back and forth with thought.
Brilliant. Thankyou . Tears came down at that last tip from Dr Kennedy
I view the negative in everything it worries me regularly, waking up, evening, night, dreams, my entire life, I can't get along with people I'm too worried about doing something thats not good enough.
Can you imagine what would happen to a human body if it constantly ate food with no rest or digestive break? We do the same now with our minds but have lost the ability (almost) to "feel full". We can eat mentally without much in the way of negative consequences until it's too late to stop. At least the body has a system that will make us vomit and rethink our actions or signal to others that there's a serious problem. Actually, we often praise others for over indulging the mind, especially if it benefits us.
Listen to the body's lost language.
Really great that this podcast is in a video format with captions - as it makes it much more accessible than just an audio version if you have any sort of hearing impairment. Just wish they were slightly more edited as I suspect a lot of people won't bother with a 2 1/2 hour podcast/video even if it's transformative...
I'm a little confused with this podcast. I deal with so much anxiety every day. I wake up with anxiety. I know exactly where it is. It's in my chest. To not know where your anxiety is seems dumb. Am i confusing where i feel the anxiety is with where it originated or something im so confused.
It’s that that sensation is your inner child that was exiled into the basement of the mind and is “stored” and frozen in that part of your body. The point is to change your perception and relation to it from one of fear, resentment, despair, etc. into one of understanding, compassion, tenderness, and even appreciation. Realize that whatever your mind thinks or believes you’re anxious about is not really real or true, that it’s your inner child/part of you that is stuck in the past and doesn’t know circumstances have changed, along with your capacities to deal with things. Staying in the mind, taking the thoughts seriously, and believing that the unconscious beliefs are true will just cause you to get swept away in the usual cycle of reactionary, escalating, obsessive, compulsive, extremist thinking and behaviors, further entrenching the old pathways and patterns. So go into the body and practice sitting with it, embracing it, and calming it down, and slowly transform your relationship with it and convince it that it’s safe and that you’re there for it, will take care of it, and handle things capably. It needs to know that that was then and this is now. Anchor yourself in the present moment with conscious awareness and mindful breathing.
@@r.w.4311 ^^^THIS!!!^^^ I could not have said it better! Wow. I am so impressed with this comment!
Wow. Yes!! Great explanation! 🙏🏻 Are you a psychologist?
I’m going to try this. Not sure how to change my perception of going under general anesthesia; the whole thing; day of; being wheeled into operating room; seeing all of the equipment; and ugh the moment before counting back from 10 with the mask feeling like you are falling. I get panic attacks if I’m not alert in my mind. If I get tipsy I get panic attacks. The thought of it all isn’t appealing either. Why I m not a surgeon. Not too sure how to change the perception other than grateful I won’t feel a thing. We don’t typically go to the hospital for pleasant things ; other than having a baby. Incredible good comes from that pain. I guess seeing them as helping me would work. I think I need more than that. I don’t even have a date yet still on a list waiting. It is on my mind all day and night. I’ll try to figure out some way to change perception. Great comment !!
Superb conversation looking at healing something that hides itself so deeply, superb host, absolutely superb guest
Thank you for this video Its really helpful
My mom always said, "you're lame, you're insignificant and you're clueless." But she did rub mah back.
Thank you for this.
I'm having issues with panic attacks. I have been waking up in the middle of the night with an anxious mind, shivering, can't sit or stand still, heaviness in chest, racing heart beat, and horrible nausea. Once I wake up anxious I spiral out of control. My joints even locked up once. Idk what to do anymore. I feel manic almost. I can't think rationally during the attacks.
The Diamonds are made in the firie and violent environment of enormous pressure deep inside the Earth but are strong.
Appreciate your work, thank you!
Fantastic podcast , loved it!!! Just bought the book looking forward to reading it! Thank you both … 👍
Really really helpful, but I'd also like to know how one can cope with somebody else's anxiety, especially in a professional environment where you have to deal on a daily basis with the anxiety of a lot of different people you're not emotionally connected to, such as customers, suppliers, colleagues, managers, directors, etc. I mean, you could take the opportunity to recommend both this videocast and Dr. Russell's book to all of them, but I'm afraid that's not the point.
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All semen retention did to me was made me want to f*ck everything lol. Working out will give you confidence. Semen retention will just make you horny.
I am going to listen to this on repeat ❤❤❤❤
Me too
All I can say is WOW! Looking forward to reading your book.
Thank you Rosanna!
CBT brilliant for children, in fact every child should understand that they can also decide to choose their thoughts. Gurdjieff taught me I can observe my thoughts & Grof taught me they literally are a dime a dozen. Gurdjieff also taught me I can divide myself into a three brained being, thinking, feeling and moving and I can observe any one of them, at any time and to know myself meant to observe myself. Observe my thoughts, self sensing my body, feeling my emotions whilst working in the mundane world…difficult but useful. If I am too much in my head I can sink into my chest and check out how I feel. But knowing these things, observing myself doesn’t change the fact I must transform the constant background dirge, tinnitus by now… and that this takes ages and I hang on to childhood angst because there essentially is no rational realisation of it other than to see it. But CBT is for children, it may be an ahah moment for an adult to realise thoughts are a bit nothing often but once you know this, such advice is a bit simplistic and not very useful.
Stimulating discussion. I am putting the phone down now on airplane mode..all day!
I never thought doctors suffer mentally too, I though it’s just as normal people
How can we tell the difference between intuition and anxiousness?
Funny listening to this how much it resonates. Like being ignored by parents I wonder whatvthat does for an adult i. The long run
It has been noted by some that cptsd that results from chronic stress creates similar symptoms to ADHD. This could be because chronic childhood trauma in particular causes chronic overstimulation of cortisol and adrenaline/neuro epinephrine. Maybe this affects the development the pre-frontal cortex. Or maybe the chronic overproduction stress hormones reduces the amount of neurotransmitters like dopamine and serotonin.
The sympathetic nervous system ‘freeze’ response could be related to a lack of dopamine - or could maybe affect the amount of dopamine. Because dopamine is what allows us to move and take self interested action toward a goal. ADHD is partly/mostly (?) caused by a lack of dopamine and developmental delays (arrested development?) in the executive function of the prefrontal cortex. Could the chronic suppression of dopamine in early childhood create permanent damage or loss of those particular neurotransmitters? Because its like the person often develops learned helplessness and a chronic freeze response.
CPTSD also has similairities with BPD. They both generally (but not always) stem from emotional abuse, neglect and invalidating upbringings, chronic trauma. And the symptoms are very similar.
There's been many brain studies and it shows that people with BPD do have differences in the amygdala, hippocampus and their frontal cortex.
Some people also have comorbidity with all 3 diagnosis
@@kahyui2486 Yes - that is a good point re BPD. It would be good if neuro scientists could explain why there are similarities behind the 3 diagnoses. Going on logic I would guess there are similar processes affecting cortisol, neuro epinephrine/adrenaline, dopamine & serotonin. However, you could also get a child with no (obvious cptsd) who still develops ADHD. Perhaps that could be due to the effects of stress being passed down genetically, or maybe just genetically low dopamine.
Chronic pain can cause a feeling of constant anxiety. It's like a high note being played with every step.