💔Omg thank so much for sharing this. I recently was diagnosed with the "lovely" thyroid disease. I took a step back to really take care of myself and i'm noticing this a lottttt. Some of my tightest friends are so supportive but the "bar" friends are a completely different story. I get a lot of, "so why did you stop drinking". "come on. just do a shot". I stopped to simply just take care of myself. Now I truly enjoy making them uncomfortable with my iced water. Of course it wasn't just the drinking that needed to step away from but I just wanted to take more control over every food that entered my body. It's been full of some ups and downs
💔 🥺 😓 I can most definitely relate. Just a few days ago, I realized I wanted a fresh start from all the toxic and negativity in my life. I was not sure where to pick myself back up and start. Thanks for making this video and LSF. ❤
💔🥺😓 Most definitely relate more than I thought. Just a few days ago, I got to the point that I wanted a fresh start and no longer wanted to entertain the negativity and toxicity in my life. I've learned that some people are only in your life for a season and not everyone ya meet will stay with you forever. 😊
God bless you in Jesus name! I am going through this now, Jesus is shepparding me through this season of leveling up myself and my future all-star friend team! Thank you so much for making this space to help us all be our best selves!
The thing is, they are watching your videos. Don't think they are not. Just haters, you shed the pounds, and shed the fake ass friends. Count it as a blessing, now you know who truly rocks with you.
A roommate once told me I was “lucky” to loose my 100 pounds when I was young and living with her. It triggered me so much because I was in the fight of a lifetime going to the gym, dealing with hunger and cravings and working SO hard and she used the word luck…thankfully I had the guts to tell her she was dead wrong right then and there even if I was very young and timid then❤
The other day somebody told me that I was lucky to have a great body because of my ethnicity 😵💫... Everybody in my family is obese. I was also an obese child. I workout 6 days per week and track calories, but not. Nooooo. It is my ethnicity
How dismissive of her, I've had the "you're lucky, you're naturally thin". No beesh, it takes disapline and WORK. Keep if up, the more of these people you trigger the better you are doing, rise above ❤❤❤. 🎉🎉🎉
This hits so hard. Even family members thinking you’re “weird” for bettering yourself. My daughter and husband are my best friends and the peace I feel is amazing.
I hope Katie sees this comment. As a child I was always the “third wheel” and I was bullied so badly. I so relate to being the third wheel even into my teens and adulthood. To think of Katie being one is crazy, because I so look up to her and I think of her as such a “cool girl” that I would love to be friends with. Katie, you are so inspiring. I recently started my weight loss journey, I use your workout videos every day. I have a lot of weight to lose (about sixty pounds) but you are such an encouragement. I’m so glad I found you and your channel. Also, your slumber party has changed my sleep life. I feel so much more rested. It’s the only thing that helps me. Thankyou for everything you do! You are a beautiful person inside and out.
I don't know if you'll see this but God is with you and He has been using you. I know that might sound cheesy and like a generic UA-cam comment response, but I really do see a light in you. ✨
Hi, Katie. Your experience brings this scripture to mind: "You intended to harm me, but God intended it all for good. He brought me to this position so I could save the lives of many people" (Genesis 50:20 NLT). Because of your journey, many are blessed and lives changed for the good and better. I pray that all in this community see that by you sharing your journey, their journey is doing the same. Thank you for sharing and I thank Jesus Christ for all He has and is doing in your life. Blessings 😇.
People always use others to put them down in order to fulfill their own agenda. I always noticed these sly, nasty comments towards me when wearing a cute dress that I felt confident in. They would "compliment" me, but their tone didn't quite match the words. I've always had troubles with dating and their tones never helped. I'm really sensitive to tone, which is why I picked up on it quicker. I've learned that its better to let them go because it no longer serves me. If they want to be bitter Mary's, then go for it, but I will no longer let them pull me down with me. We can always find better out there. No one should shame people for decisions they make. Good on you Katie for letting these people go!
This is a great topic because this really happens when someone decides to make a life change and we forget to talk about it. Recently a friend told me that she and other people at my work used to make fun of me when I would leave work and go work out instead of going to happy hour. I told her “Yeah, I made fun of you too - when I would leave I would think ‘keep eating and drinking and gaining weight’”. I would say that to myself to keep strong because it hurt so bad that they stopped inviting me to things.
I can relate to this SO much! I have gone through a large weight loss in my late teen years and girls who were so encouraging and supporting suddenly hated me once I was thin and fit. Now as I have had children, so many moms have not prioritized fitness and their health and food, and I have, and I get so much judgement from many moms, or passive aggressive comments for being fit still. For so many years I didn’t drink any alcohol or eat conventional “junk food” and never commented on my friends and family’s choices, but I’d get excluded because of my choices because “you don’t drink”. It’s been really hard, but I’ve realized that some women just can’t handle someone they perceive to be “better” than them. The better you look and act, the cattier other women become around you! Luckily I’ve found a few exceptions and I keep them close :)
You are so right, this does ramp back up when you enter mom life, maybe even worse for some! Glad you’ve been able to work through it and know what you are doing is best for you. We don’t live on someone else’s level, only our own!
💔 I have had some really ugly friend breakups. Most of them occurred when I quit drinking and found Jesus - I became happy and hopeful and that made them super uncomfortable. People accused me of being judgmental even though I never said anything to them - they just assumed I must be because I was living differently. It really is a sad reality! The brighter you shine the more certain people want to dim that light. But I have found people who get me and can lift me up ❤️ my husband is my biggest support and our 3 awesome kiddos 🥰 as well as my two best girl friends. I’m blessed to have them all!
This video resonates so much with me. Your true friends will be supportive no matter what. The real friends I had when I was 30 pounds heavier are still my friends. I have also lost friends and relationships with even family members who changed towards me as soon as my transformation began. You are a beautiful soul, Katie, I'm so happy to have found your channel 4 years ago. Thanks for sharing this, you got my full support always! ❤❤
in the past few months on my own health/fitness journey, I have gotten closer to certain friends and become more aligned but have lost others. it’s sad, but I know better in the end. taking a step back with drinking/partying really shows whose a real friend and whose just there for going out/fun
Omg! Your blog couldn't come out at a better time. I recently find out hypothyroidism and hormonal issues, so I cut alchohol, gluten and told my friend that I would rather go to workout classes and walk with them. At the same time, I got my dream job, and I am very busy, I feel the moment I made changes to feel better, they turned their back on me. I feel so isolated and alone, I always encourage them to better their lives, and they know this is for my health, but now they are acting poorly and make fun of me
I’ve always been the 3rd wheel friend too! Bringing people together, only for them to become good friends and leave me out. 🙈 Friendship is hard! I’m so thankful for my husband and the friendship we have! It makes navigating other relationships a bit easier knowing he’s always in my corner!
Same. Your husband IS your family and your true best friend. I had two best friends, a childhood one who couldn't support me getting married to my first love so dropped off the planet with jealousy, a work colleague that became a bestie who decided l was an awful person because l wouldn't put partying before my autistic son. I needed them to show me themselves more clearer as I'm an empath. I was so glad they did. I'm so free now. Out of the darkness and into the light. When they show you who they are the first time, believe them.
This is very strong/brave of you and very meaningful/helpful for people who are going through the same thing. It's cool to know that's the reason you started LSF. To build a community of likeminded people who support each other and lift each other up. GO KATIE!! 🙏❤
It happened with me. Got in shape in 2020.. now after 4 years, working hard 5 days a week, I'm 33 yrs old and super lean.. and even my own sister doesn't seem happy seeing how much weight I lost and how in shape I got. It's kind of sad.. I believe that.. to be honest, she thought she was better than me (as she was more beautiful), and now she feels uglier for not being able to diet and exercise as much as me. This all is stupid, and makes you feel terrible.. because you see that at the end of the day.. everyone (most of all family members), say that want your happiness and the best for you.. but that's not true. they are competing with you in their minds and don't want to see your progress. (I think that when you loose weight, you become a reminder of failure and lack of commitment to people who can't stick to it.
Thank you for bringing up this subject. Jealousy of friends messed up things so many times for me. It`s heart breaking 💔 You are such a beautiful person. You deserve the greatest friends.
I don't have a lot of close friends, so I don't have any toxic or shaky relationships as I go on my journey, but there are people like coworkers who I know if I did get closer with, it could turn into that or they wouldn't be supportive of me, and I know it wouldn't be good for me. I'm glad that you always emphasize the importance of mindset in your videos and not just diet and exercise, because it's just as important! It's one of the reasons I've followed you for years and will continue to do so! Thank you so much for this video!
Thank you for sharing this and for being so real. It's hard for some people to lift others up and appreciate them for who they are or who they have become. I'm glad you have surrounded yourself now with people who support you. They seem like a better friend group with better values. "Birds of a feather flock together."
Love this and your work. Slight spin: You did not make anyone uncomfortable. You made changes for yourself, and others felt uncomfortable. You did not make them feel anything
All of this. Suddenly me documenting my work outs, lost weight, and just in general me being proud of my life changes...to some friends, has made me vain, self absorbed, etc. Since when is working towards a healthy goal something negative? I suppose it's good to boot those people out--meanwhile, I'm out there supporting everyone for all their life goals and changes. #teamlsf
💔 I've dealt with the same things growing up. It's not easy to go through. But it makes people like us stronger. I'm sorry that you had a lonely journey. But you have all of your LSF fans here with you. ❤
I completely understand what you mean. It's very hard. But the gift is, you'll be able to cherish the real friends that come through. If I could give you a hug I would.
Totally relatable I have this in friend groups as well, but frankly mine was in the home first, and that was very difficult managing and learning to walk away from people who treated you poorly and didn't want what was best for you when it's in your own family its so difficult
Katie, you have been a source of inspiration to me. There will always be those people who will try to make you feel bad as you better yourself. This is on them, not on you. Kerp doing what you do, no shame. I have been on a weight loss journey for a while and i can tell who is truly happy for my success and who is not. You have a great network of support starting at home, get rid of toxic friends!! ❤
I’ve struggled with this for so long… I think only time will give me peace. But never forget those people or „former friends“ have issues that cause their jealousy. I feel sorry for them and I try to not to be sad over someone that will always be jealous of people instead of also thriving for more in life and supporting each other. I also have friends who have come further than me and I look up to them, trying to also reach that and we hype each other up,celebrating each other’s success. Those are my real friends and partners in crime ❤
Thank You SO Much!!! I'm going through the same thing with frenemies and family. It's challenging when you know you've done nothing to deserve such treatment. I'm learning the true Blessing in having good people around you and in your personal space. It's important for your highest good, mental well-being and future. Sending Love and Light as we continue to make the necessary adjustments to heal and move forward into Brighter Days and more Beautiful Nights. 💞💞💞
Katie, you seem like such a kind person, so beautiful on the inside/outside. When we feel better on the inside, it shows and you look absolutely amazing and you’re so inspiring! My experience with haters was within my own family. When I bought a treadmill to run/lose weight bc I was too shy to run outside, (also bc I am an introvert who prefers to work out in privacy) my brothers who are a bit overweight, told me that I wouldn’t stick with it, that it was pointless and that I bought a treadmill for nothing. I am 5’2 and I weighed 142 before and wanted to work towards a goal of 125 (my pre pregnancy weight) not that the number mattered but more so just to have a goal in mind. Well I got there! 🎉 I stayed consistent and am now actually very into running. I love it and I feel so great! My husband also runs but is an avid runner who does 15-20 mile runs and he has been running for nearly a decade so I am happy I can run with him now. He has supported me through all my ups and downs and I’m so glad he’s willing to do little (to him, lol) 5k’s with me from time to time. I also want to mention that a lot of my female cousins close to my age, no longer speak to me or invite me to their gatherings/bday’s etc. and I honestly am fine with it bc I know they are just unhappy/hating and I’d rather not have people like that in my life anyway. I am proud of myself for pushing forward! And to all: Don’t ever let others negativity keep you from bettering yourself or doing what you want to do!
I’m sorry this happened to you. Often when people are hating on you, it’s because you have become the mirror reflecting back to them their own insecurities.
I loved the first video you made about losing friends, so thank you for the update. ❤ I have been there several times, especially with fake friends who just gossiped a lot and were so mean. The ones that are left are MY team of friends - they love me, support me, cheer me on when it's going great and cry with me when life gets hard. No jealousy, no backhanded compliments, no evil behaviour - just love. And that's the vibe I want. 🙏🙌
Hi 💕 As I was listening to this I really felt connected; maybe not bc of the same reasons but I have also gone through this. It’s great not to feel alone on things you’re going through, thanks!
I really liked what you said about changing who you are on the inside. That is the most important part of anyone’s journey! So many make changes to the outside but are still “ugly” on the inside.
I just realized, I know you from FitOn! This video popped up in my UA-cam suggested page. Your workout videos there are some of my favorites!❤ I can tell you have good vibes, and this video just confirms that. Thank you!!
I realized that every friend circle I've ever had, before a few quite recent and carefully selected people I've let into my life, have simply tolerated me. It really does change you. BONUS: OKAY BUT YOU'RE SO PRETTY GIRLIE, IM SOBBING ✨
I fear this about my friendships when I lose weight. We usually go out to eat or drink when we hang out, and we all have the "bigger girl" thing in common. I sincerely hope that this isn't the case, and that they'll support me no matter what.
Omg, I'm so happy I found you. Just tonight, I was told I looked sickly and that I should see a doctor after being 50 lbs overweight for years and recently losing 40. I suppose it's some sort of jealousy. I'm still 10 lbs. over the standard for my height-weight chart. Most people tell me I look great, younger, etc. My skin is better, my blood pressure is down. Now I'm being accused by this one "friend" of being suicidal, even though I'm happy, healthy, and confident. Big eye opener for me, sad and sickening.
I have a 'best friend' that I've had since preschool (I'm 47 now). I've always been the one who was down for drinking and going out and the like. When I made the decision to change me (for ME), and didn't want to always drink and snack, my 'best friend' suddenly stopped talking to me as much. She's never said anything to support me or even acknowledge the good I was doing for myself. When I took notice of this, it BROKE me. We still talk, but it's nowhere near like it used to be. I'm sad.
Yes I can relate. Before I lost weight one "friend" told me that I would never succeed. After I lost weight my other "friend" started picking on my body like telling me I have a big forehead or I have big calves or just anything to make me feel bad about myself instead of being happy for me
The thing is people see your progress and they get fearful because they see change in you and they are challenged because they see things are going to change within your friendship dynamic, pull at their sense of identity and their own limiting beliefs and habits that were working for them and now are going to change for them. Even if you directly were not trying to get them to change, your changes did effect them because it meant that your relationship dynamic was going to change. The relationship they had were based on things you did together that were no longer going to take place and that is how they knew how to relate to you.
Hi Katie, You are a pisces and very trusting!!Love you! If you can count your true friends on one hand. Then you have lived a amazing life. People are just so mean sometimes. It is hard to have only one best friend, however your very important. Toxic people just bring you down.
💔 - for sure it stung. I deeply felt the "eye-roll" felt like I wanted to disapper right in that moment. I was so rude, so uncalled for. I have wondered most of the time if maybe I had said something or did something to make her react that way. I have spoken to many talk about it to my mom often to make sure I didn't screw up. A few days after I saw your 1st video of "changes and friends" it finally dawned on me. Even when I was happy to share the new LSF I found I was shot down.. like "oh please your doing it wrong " its another gimmick or whatever." it all finally added up. But of you are ever in the situation whenever someone makes you feel very small, embarrassed , or unwelcome then you should leave. I stayed in her home and I realized now I should have just got up and left.
Love this video and hearing you open up about your story! You are truly an inspiration ❤ I’ve gone through many of the same things with friends and have come out the other side happier, healthier and able to set boundaries.
💔 it was definitely a difficult time in my life, and often I still get sad about it, but there are moments I'm thankful for the end of the friendship. It just one sided, and I needed more. Thank you for sharing!!
Thanks for sharing Katie!! I had friends in high school who I thought were nice to me but they ended up being my enemies. I had this one friend since the 6th grade but she changed when I was a sophomore. I can totally relate. My only friends now are my parents and my twin sister!
Completely relate to everything you mention here Lost all too numerous friends when I got fit &p worked in a gym..💔💚 stopped being invited places Even had one friend come straight out &tell me *Oh no time for you to comcallede over any more for chats &coffee But soons i stopped working at the gym she couldn't wait to invite me over! Fair weather friend in the opposite direction! Plus another so called friend outrightly lid telling me she was too sick to go out dancing So little did she know i went out that eve on my own...Guess whom were here! Yes the friend whom pretended to be too sick to go out These are just some examples ive had numerous countless times where thesdear bye types of things occurred Another was being made Head Girl m best friend dumping me upon my good news Sheer enviousness dear Katie when so called friends dump +exclude us God bless you yours Gloriously forevermore 💚🌼🙏
💔I feel like we've all been there and it helps so much when people share their experiences like you're doing, thank you! I felt like the 3rd wheel friend most of my childhood, and all of my teens and 20s, and ending a toxic friendship when my father became really sick sort of snapped me out of it a couple of years ago. I'm coming out of the hardest few years of my life, and really looking forward to only having positive relationships on my roster:) Thanks for being there through it all! 💕
I once lost 30 lbs and my own wife 😮 hit me with some jabs -out of nowhere! This is the beauty of UA-cam and channels like yours. Another fitness channel who gets emails from viewers said this topic was THE most emailed question. “My (insert person) is upset that I’m working out and losing weight “ or something similar. M Scott Peck said it pithily, “Evil is anti-growth.” TY for shedding light on this issue. 💪🏾🙏🏾
Hi. I'm new to your channel. I can definitely relate. My situations have been a little different but I still experienced losses. It's rough when you change for positive reasons & get this kind of feedback. But life goes on & gets better.
Thanks for sharing this important video. You look fabulous. l feel so happy for people who succeed, it excites and motivates me. You motivate me. I know what you mean, when I lost weight I, too, experienced unsupportive people who criticized what I was eating, what I was ordering, and some even told me that I had lost enough, etc. At first it made me very angry and I told some of them, but others I just ignored and spent less time with them. It is true, when we lose weight we do feel more confident and maybe to some people who are used to seeing the meeker us, don't know what to make of it, and misinterpret it as arrogance. I'll never understand it really.
Yes, this happened to me too when I started making changes. I never thought of those relationships being "friendships" of convenience but that's what they were. They're no longer in my life now. It is very isolating to go through that.
Appreciate your honesty, and these videos really help to not feel alone! Have been watching your previous diary video several times when I've needed some perspective and strength! Thanks ❤
Isn’t it something how people just can’t be happy for other’s successes. Never have understood that!! Can you please do a wardrobe video of where you get your outfits please? Maybe your Amazon things. I love your style😘
Most of this is basic ‘growing up’. Some people are more comfortable being immature and cruel because they probably don’t like themselves, so they take it out on you. Warning: it doesn’t necessarily change as you get older. There are always people who come into and go out of our lives and over a lifetime we will have many types of friends. It’s taken me nearly 67 years to learn this and it can indeed be a difficult lesson. Two close friends removed themselves from my life recently and it hurts, no doubt about it. Both were utter cowards to my mind because they wouldn’t explain why, even when I asked “why?”. At 30, my motto became “Take shit from no one”. Of course, we all have to take some nonsense (bosses, children, etc) but putting up with negativity and meaness from so-called ‘friends’? No we do Not!!
Love the video I relate so much to this. Off topic…. I would love to see a video that’s like “what’s on my bookshelf for better health” so curious about what you recommend or like to read
Great video, Katie! Thank you for sharing this experience. It's extremely relatable. Thank you for always sharing helpful and encouraging content. You have helped me tremendously 🩷
Important subject. My experience: boys who used to bully me tried to hit on me after I lost weight. So fake. So nasty. Also: people who used to call me out for being too big had the NERVE to act worried for me I was too thin. ❤they never cared. They just felt they had the right to an opinion about me. The do not have that right. ❤❤❤❤
I can kinda relate. When I had my first child I learned real quick whoy friends were. The ones that didn't stick around I learned were just not true friends. It hurt me a lot. But now I look at is as there's a reason and that's ok.
Katie, you have been my BIGGEST and I mean my BIGGEST inspiration in my fitness journey. I have watched you for years and I mean watched your videos over and over and over especially when I was down to my lowest. To this day, I’ve continued to watch you, gotten proper test and feel better and follow so much you have shared and do share to this day. You truly are inspirational and have been what has kept me going through some of my darkest days. I also love that you Poshmark cloths, lol! I’m so glad you chose YOU because you also chose to help save so many others. What a blessing. 🤍 ps… Ryan is also amazing and you both are truly such beautiful souls and role models for this world. I wish you guys a million more blessings and that sweet baby.
💔💔💔 working through one now but everything you are saying is so true! I found out early about frememies around the same time it was first made a term in that New Radicals song. This is such a difficult part of the journey but choosing yourself is worth it, I promise! Thank you for sharing Katie! 💖
Yes.. I have failed couple of times in my health journey. Mainly because Dr Pepper is my weakness. And when I have failed, there is one person who thinks he is joking. But makes comments like "you are so wishy washy" "I thought you gave up Dr Pepper" "You'll be back on it again" like he expected me to fail. I am at it again. This is with anything kind of "fail" in life when I am trying. This time, I am doing this quietly with the support of my husband who knows what I am doing. Been at it for a month. Went from 157 lbs to 147 lbs so far. To be honest, I almost reverted to my old ways yesterday. But I had my husband take what was left of the Dr Pepper out of the house so I would not be tempted. Here is to moving forward.
I love Dr.Pepper too and thought I had to have it every weekend but after dealing with it hurting my stomach I knew I had to give it up. I stopped buying it and before I knew it, I realized I hadn’t had it in months, lol! You CAN do it!! Don’t buy it and try to find healthier options like passion fruit tea, they have one at Starbucks but I make my own with a UA-cam recipe I stumbled upon.
Proud of you! Keep that focus and block the outside noise 🙌🏻 btw have you tried the Poppi or Olipop version of Dr P? Could be a better alternative when a craving hits!
Serious question- do you drink alcohol? I gave up alcohol to become healthier about a year and a half ago & I feel this to my core. It's really hard. (Also don't mind the weird picture/name my boys have seemed to takeover my UA-cam 😮)
I do, but in moderation. Back in college and right after i drank much more frequently. Now it’s mostly 1-2x a week and only clear liquors with soda water. It can make a massive impact on your weight to cut it out though, yes!
sounds like they were the mean girls .. Bar hopping over a sunset beach walk.. really? and getting all agro over it. It’s that shallow frat party mentality
Can you relate?
💔Omg thank so much for sharing this. I recently was diagnosed with the "lovely" thyroid disease. I took a step back to really take care of myself and i'm noticing this a lottttt. Some of my tightest friends are so supportive but the "bar" friends are a completely different story. I get a lot of, "so why did you stop drinking". "come on. just do a shot". I stopped to simply just take care of myself. Now I truly enjoy making them uncomfortable with my iced water. Of course it wasn't just the drinking that needed to step away from but I just wanted to take more control over every food that entered my body. It's been full of some ups and downs
Yes i was the same way. Over years realize ppl are not supportive i have defo toughing up 💜🩷
💔 🥺 😓 I can most definitely relate. Just a few days ago, I realized I wanted a fresh start from all the toxic and negativity in my life. I was not sure where to pick myself back up and start. Thanks for making this video and LSF. ❤
💔🥺😓 Most definitely relate more than I thought. Just a few days ago, I got to the point that I wanted a fresh start and no longer wanted to entertain the negativity and toxicity in my life. I've learned that some people are only in your life for a season and not everyone ya meet will stay with you forever. 😊
God bless you in Jesus name! I am going through this now, Jesus is shepparding me through this season of leveling up myself and my future all-star friend team! Thank you so much for making this space to help us all be our best selves!
The thing is, they are watching your videos. Don't think they are not. Just haters, you shed the pounds, and shed the fake ass friends. Count it as a blessing, now you know who truly rocks with you.
Totally agree with you
A roommate once told me I was “lucky” to loose my 100 pounds when I was young and living with her. It triggered me so much because I was in the fight of a lifetime going to the gym, dealing with hunger and cravings and working SO hard and she used the word luck…thankfully I had the guts to tell her she was dead wrong right then and there even if I was very young and timid then❤
No one who loses 100 pounds is lucky. That’s WORK. Hard stop ✋ proud of you
The other day somebody told me that I was lucky to have a great body because of my ethnicity 😵💫...
Everybody in my family is obese. I was also an obese child. I workout 6 days per week and track calories, but not. Nooooo. It is my ethnicity
Hahaha lucky is apparently the new word for hardwork 😂
How dismissive of her, I've had the "you're lucky, you're naturally thin". No beesh, it takes disapline and WORK. Keep if up, the more of these people you trigger the better you are doing, rise above ❤❤❤. 🎉🎉🎉
This hits so hard. Even family members thinking you’re “weird” for bettering yourself. My daughter and husband are my best friends and the peace I feel is amazing.
I love that! When you are at peace with it, life really opens up.
“Some people can’t handle your light and that’s okay” This is so true!
im so happy ur addressing the "friend" issue. pretty girls get hated on. people wanna see u do well but not better than them!!
I hope Katie sees this comment. As a child I was always the “third wheel” and I was bullied so badly. I so relate to being the third wheel even into my teens and adulthood. To think of Katie being one is crazy, because I so look up to her and I think of her as such a “cool girl” that I would love to be friends with. Katie, you are so inspiring. I recently started my weight loss journey, I use your workout videos every day. I have a lot of weight to lose (about sixty pounds) but you are such an encouragement. I’m so glad I found you and your channel. Also, your slumber party has changed my sleep life. I feel so much more rested. It’s the only thing that helps me. Thankyou for everything you do! You are a beautiful person inside and out.
I don't know if you'll see this but God is with you and He has been using you. I know that might sound cheesy and like a generic UA-cam comment response, but I really do see a light in you. ✨
Hi, Katie. Your experience brings this scripture to mind: "You intended to harm me, but God intended it all for good. He brought me to this position so I could save the lives of many people" (Genesis 50:20 NLT).
Because of your journey, many are blessed and lives changed for the good and better. I pray that all in this community see that by you sharing your journey, their journey is doing the same. Thank you for sharing and I thank Jesus Christ for all He has and is doing in your life. Blessings 😇.
🥺 thank you for sharing that verse! So beautiful🤍
People always use others to put them down in order to fulfill their own agenda. I always noticed these sly, nasty comments towards me when wearing a cute dress that I felt confident in. They would "compliment" me, but their tone didn't quite match the words. I've always had troubles with dating and their tones never helped. I'm really sensitive to tone, which is why I picked up on it quicker. I've learned that its better to let them go because it no longer serves me. If they want to be bitter Mary's, then go for it, but I will no longer let them pull me down with me. We can always find better out there. No one should shame people for decisions they make. Good on you Katie for letting these people go!
This is a great topic because this really happens when someone decides to make a life change and we forget to talk about it. Recently a friend told me that she and other people at my work used to make fun of me when I would leave work and go work out instead of going to happy hour. I told her “Yeah, I made fun of you too - when I would leave I would think ‘keep eating and drinking and gaining weight’”. I would say that to
myself to keep strong because it hurt so bad that they stopped inviting me to things.
I can relate to this SO much! I have gone through a large weight loss in my late teen years and girls who were so encouraging and supporting suddenly hated me once I was thin and fit. Now as I have had children, so many moms have not prioritized fitness and their health and food, and I have, and I get so much judgement from many moms, or passive aggressive comments for being fit still. For so many years I didn’t drink any alcohol or eat conventional “junk food” and never commented on my friends and family’s choices, but I’d get excluded because of my choices because “you don’t drink”. It’s been really hard, but I’ve realized that some women just can’t handle someone they perceive to be “better” than them. The better you look and act, the cattier other women become around you! Luckily I’ve found a few exceptions and I keep them close :)
You are so right, this does ramp back up when you enter mom life, maybe even worse for some! Glad you’ve been able to work through it and know what you are doing is best for you. We don’t live on someone else’s level, only our own!
Some people give up after they fall. Just because you've fallen it doesn't mean that you have to stay down. Find a way to get back up.
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I have had some really ugly friend breakups. Most of them occurred when I quit drinking and found Jesus - I became happy and hopeful and that made them super uncomfortable. People accused me of being judgmental even though I never said anything to them - they just assumed I must be because I was living differently. It really is a sad reality! The brighter you shine the more certain people want to dim that light. But I have found people who get me and can lift me up ❤️ my husband is my biggest support and our 3 awesome kiddos 🥰 as well as my two best girl friends. I’m blessed to have them all!
This video resonates so much with me. Your true friends will be supportive no matter what. The real friends I had when I was 30 pounds heavier are still my friends. I have also lost friends and relationships with even family members who changed towards me as soon as my transformation began. You are a beautiful soul, Katie, I'm so happy to have found your channel 4 years ago. Thanks for sharing this, you got my full support always! ❤❤
Love this video. Recently ended a 20+yr friendship for similar reasons and it wasn’t easy. This video was just want I needed today. Thank you!
I’m so sorry you’re going through that, but glad this could help in even a small way.
in the past few months on my own health/fitness journey, I have gotten closer to certain friends and become more aligned but have lost others. it’s sad, but I know better in the end. taking a step back with drinking/partying really shows whose a real friend and whose just there for going out/fun
Omg! Your blog couldn't come out at a better time. I recently find out hypothyroidism and hormonal issues, so I cut alchohol, gluten and told my friend that I would rather go to workout classes and walk with them. At the same time, I got my dream job, and I am very busy, I feel the moment I made changes to feel better, they turned their back on me. I feel so isolated and alone, I always encourage them to better their lives, and they know this is for my health, but now they are acting poorly and make fun of me
Better friends are available. Your leveling up❤❤❤
@@Miss_Annlaug Thank you
I’m so sorry you’re going through that, but it seams like YOU are doing great! You’re growing & glowing girl!
I’ve always been the 3rd wheel friend too! Bringing people together, only for them to become good friends and leave me out. 🙈
Friendship is hard! I’m so thankful for my husband and the friendship we have! It makes navigating other relationships a bit easier knowing he’s always in my corner!
Same girl, same!
Same. Your husband IS your family and your true best friend. I had two best friends, a childhood one who couldn't support me getting married to my first love so dropped off the planet with jealousy, a work colleague that became a bestie who decided l was an awful person because l wouldn't put partying before my autistic son.
I needed them to show me themselves more clearer as I'm an empath. I was so glad they did. I'm so free now. Out of the darkness and into the light.
When they show you who they are the first time, believe them.
This is very strong/brave of you and very meaningful/helpful for people who are going through the same thing. It's cool to know that's the reason you started LSF. To build a community of likeminded people who support each other and lift each other up. GO KATIE!! 🙏❤
It happened with me. Got in shape in 2020.. now after 4 years, working hard 5 days a week, I'm 33 yrs old and super lean.. and even my own sister doesn't seem happy seeing how much weight I lost and how in shape I got. It's kind of sad.. I believe that.. to be honest, she thought she was better than me (as she was more beautiful), and now she feels uglier for not being able to diet and exercise as much as me. This all is stupid, and makes you feel terrible.. because you see that at the end of the day.. everyone (most of all family members), say that want your happiness and the best for you.. but that's not true. they are competing with you in their minds and don't want to see your progress. (I think that when you loose weight, you become a reminder of failure and lack of commitment to people who can't stick to it.
Thank you for bringing up this subject. Jealousy of friends messed up things so many times for me. It`s heart breaking 💔 You are such a beautiful person. You deserve the greatest friends.
I don't have a lot of close friends, so I don't have any toxic or shaky relationships as I go on my journey, but there are people like coworkers who I know if I did get closer with, it could turn into that or they wouldn't be supportive of me, and I know it wouldn't be good for me.
I'm glad that you always emphasize the importance of mindset in your videos and not just diet and exercise, because it's just as important! It's one of the reasons I've followed you for years and will continue to do so! Thank you so much for this video!
Aw thank you so much! I’m so happy it helps!
Thank you for sharing this and for being so real. It's hard for some people to lift others up and appreciate them for who they are or who they have become. I'm glad you have surrounded yourself now with people who support you. They seem like a better friend group with better values. "Birds of a feather flock together."
Thats crazy I love beach walks. There's a song that says you find out who your friends are well you also find out who your friends aren't.
Thank you for being so honest and vulnerable ❤ I def can relate, this was so helpful. Appreciate you! 🥰
Love this and your work. Slight spin: You did not make anyone uncomfortable. You made changes for yourself, and others felt uncomfortable.
You did not make them feel anything
All of this. Suddenly me documenting my work outs, lost weight, and just in general me being proud of my life changes...to some friends, has made me vain, self absorbed, etc. Since when is working towards a healthy goal something negative? I suppose it's good to boot those people out--meanwhile, I'm out there supporting everyone for all their life goals and changes. #teamlsf
This video is extremely positive, about how you reclaimed your worthiness from inside out. I appreciate you sharing your positivity
💔 I've dealt with the same things growing up. It's not easy to go through. But it makes people like us stronger. I'm sorry that you had a lonely journey. But you have all of your LSF fans here with you. ❤
We’re all here for each other
I completely understand what you mean. It's very hard. But the gift is, you'll be able to cherish the real friends that come through. If I could give you a hug I would.
Totally relatable I have this in friend groups as well, but frankly mine was in the home first, and that was very difficult managing and learning to walk away from people who treated you poorly and didn't want what was best for you when it's in your own family its so difficult
💔 I’m going through this right now and I really appreciate you as an internet-friend!! Love you!! 😘
Katie, you have been a source of inspiration to me. There will always be those people who will try to make you feel bad as you better yourself. This is on them, not on you. Kerp doing what you do, no shame. I have been on a weight loss journey for a while and i can tell who is truly happy for my success and who is not. You have a great network of support starting at home, get rid of toxic friends!! ❤
I’ve struggled with this for so long… I think only time will give me peace. But never forget those people or „former friends“ have issues that cause their jealousy. I feel sorry for them and I try to not to be sad over someone that will always be jealous of people instead of also thriving for more in life and supporting each other. I also have friends who have come further than me and I look up to them, trying to also reach that and we hype each other up,celebrating each other’s success. Those are my real friends and partners in crime ❤
Thank You SO Much!!! I'm going through the same thing with frenemies and family. It's challenging when you know you've done nothing to deserve such treatment. I'm learning the true Blessing in having good people around you and in your personal space. It's important for your highest good, mental well-being and future. Sending Love and Light as we continue to make the necessary adjustments to heal and move forward into Brighter Days and more Beautiful Nights. 💞💞💞
Katie, you seem like such a kind person, so beautiful on the inside/outside. When we feel better on the inside, it shows and you look absolutely amazing and you’re so inspiring!
My experience with haters was within my own family. When I bought a treadmill to run/lose weight bc I was too shy to run outside, (also bc I am an introvert who prefers to work out in privacy) my brothers who are a bit overweight, told me that I wouldn’t stick with it, that it was pointless and that I bought a treadmill for nothing.
I am 5’2 and I weighed 142 before and wanted to work towards a goal of 125 (my pre pregnancy weight) not that the number mattered but more so just to have a goal in mind.
Well I got there! 🎉 I stayed consistent and am now actually very into running. I love it and I feel so great! My husband also runs but is an avid runner who does 15-20 mile runs and he has been running for nearly a decade so I am happy I can run with him now. He has supported me through all my ups and downs and I’m so glad he’s willing to do little (to him, lol) 5k’s with me from time to time. I also want to mention that a lot of my female cousins close to my age, no longer speak to me or invite me to their gatherings/bday’s etc. and I honestly am fine with it bc I know they are just unhappy/hating and I’d rather not have people like that in my life anyway.
I am proud of myself for pushing forward! And to all: Don’t ever let others negativity keep you from bettering yourself or doing what you want to do!
I’m sorry this happened to you. Often when people are hating on you, it’s because you have become the mirror reflecting back to them their own insecurities.
💔 so thankful for this community!
🙏🏻🙏🏻🤍🤍 same!
Recently lost 31 lbs, I’m working on my mindset. This video was great 👍
I loved the first video you made about losing friends, so thank you for the update. ❤ I have been there several times, especially with fake friends who just gossiped a lot and were so mean.
The ones that are left are MY team of friends - they love me, support me, cheer me on when it's going great and cry with me when life gets hard. No jealousy, no backhanded compliments, no evil behaviour - just love. And that's the vibe I want. 🙏🙌
Yes yes yes!!! So happy for you! Worth the pain
Hi 💕
As I was listening to this I really felt connected; maybe not bc of the same reasons but I have also gone through this. It’s great not to feel alone on things you’re going through, thanks!
I really liked what you said about changing who you are on the inside. That is the most important part of anyone’s journey! So many make changes to the outside but are still “ugly” on the inside.
100% agree!
You are such an inspiration, Katie! I hate to hear anyone would treat you this way but I’m thankful that toxic people are no longer in your life 💕
Tysm 🙏🏻🤍
I just realized, I know you from FitOn! This video popped up in my UA-cam suggested page. Your workout videos there are some of my favorites!❤ I can tell you have good vibes, and this video just confirms that. Thank you!!
I realized that every friend circle I've ever had, before a few quite recent and carefully selected people I've let into my life, have simply tolerated me. It really does change you.
BONUS: OKAY BUT YOU'RE SO PRETTY GIRLIE, IM SOBBING ✨
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I fear this about my friendships when I lose weight. We usually go out to eat or drink when we hang out, and we all have the "bigger girl" thing in common. I sincerely hope that this isn't the case, and that they'll support me no matter what.
My Ex husband couldn't handle it when I started my fitness journey.
Hi Katie, it was a blessing in disguise. Lol, so glad you’re you.
Omg, I'm so happy I found you. Just tonight, I was told I looked sickly and that I should see a doctor after being 50 lbs overweight for years and recently losing 40. I suppose it's some sort of jealousy. I'm still 10 lbs. over the standard for my height-weight chart. Most people tell me I look great, younger, etc. My skin is better, my blood pressure is down. Now I'm being accused by this one "friend" of being suicidal, even though I'm happy, healthy, and confident. Big eye opener for me, sad and sickening.
Oh my gosh people are so unaware. Glad you’re here babe and congratulations on your healthy changes!
Thank you. You are extremely motivating. Never expected this to be an issue.
I'm so sorry those friends treated you like that. You don't need "friends" like that.
You are so inspiring and encouraging! I'm in the middle of my journey. Watching your videos gives me a boost! I want to thank you for that!
Oh thank you! I'm so happy they can help in some way!
Change is dangerous for a lot of people, even ourselves.
Loved it 😊 thanks for sharing this
I have a 'best friend' that I've had since preschool (I'm 47 now). I've always been the one who was down for drinking and going out and the like. When I made the decision to change me (for ME), and didn't want to always drink and snack, my 'best friend' suddenly stopped talking to me as much. She's never said anything to support me or even acknowledge the good I was doing for myself. When I took notice of this, it BROKE me. We still talk, but it's nowhere near like it used to be. I'm sad.
It is truly painful and especially when you realize the reasons are so silly in the scope of things. Stay strong, it’s for the best 🤍
Yes I can relate. Before I lost weight one "friend" told me that I would never succeed. After I lost weight my other "friend" started picking on my body like telling me I have a big forehead or I have big calves or just anything to make me feel bad about myself instead of being happy for me
The thing is people see your progress and they get fearful because they see change in you and they are challenged because they see things are going to change within your friendship dynamic, pull at their sense of identity and their own limiting beliefs and habits that were working for them and now are going to change for them. Even if you directly were not trying to get them to change, your changes did effect them because it meant that your relationship dynamic was going to change. The relationship they had were based on things you did together that were no longer going to take place and that is how they knew how to relate to you.
Hi Katie, You are a pisces and very trusting!!Love you! If you can count your true friends on one hand. Then you have lived a amazing life. People are just so mean sometimes. It is hard to have only one best friend, however your very important. Toxic people just bring you down.
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💔 - for sure it stung. I deeply felt the "eye-roll" felt like I wanted to disapper right in that moment. I was so rude, so uncalled for. I have wondered most of the time if maybe I had said something or did something to make her react that way. I have spoken to many talk about it to my mom often to make sure I didn't screw up. A few days after I saw your 1st video of "changes and friends" it finally dawned on me. Even when I was happy to share the new LSF I found I was shot down.. like "oh please your doing it wrong " its another gimmick or whatever." it all finally added up. But of you are ever in the situation whenever someone makes you feel very small, embarrassed , or unwelcome then you should leave. I stayed in her home and I realized now I should have just got up and left.
You are doing the best thing for you 🤍🙌🏻 true friends are going to celebrate that!
@@LoveSweatFitness 😍 I agree
Love this video and hearing you open up about your story! You are truly an inspiration ❤ I’ve gone through many of the same things with friends and have come out the other side happier, healthier and able to set boundaries.
I love this, you’re awesome-I wish I had a friend like you!
💔 it was definitely a difficult time in my life, and often I still get sad about it, but there are moments I'm thankful for the end of the friendship. It just one sided, and I needed more. Thank you for sharing!!
Well said!
Thanks for sharing Katie!! I had friends in high school who I thought were nice to me but they ended up being my enemies. I had this one friend since the 6th grade but she changed when I was a sophomore. I can totally relate. My only friends now are my parents and my twin sister!
Completely relate to everything you mention here Lost all too numerous friends when I got fit &p worked in a gym..💔💚 stopped being invited places Even had one friend come straight out &tell me *Oh no time for you to comcallede over any more for chats &coffee But soons i stopped working at the gym she couldn't wait to invite me over! Fair weather friend in the opposite direction! Plus another so called friend outrightly lid telling me she was too sick to go out dancing So little did she know i went out that eve on my own...Guess whom were here! Yes the friend whom pretended to be too sick to go out These are just some examples ive had numerous countless times where thesdear bye types of things occurred Another was being made Head Girl m best friend dumping me upon my good news Sheer enviousness dear Katie when so called friends dump +exclude us God bless you yours Gloriously forevermore 💚🌼🙏
💔I feel like we've all been there and it helps so much when people share their experiences like you're doing, thank you! I felt like the 3rd wheel friend most of my childhood, and all of my teens and 20s, and ending a toxic friendship when my father became really sick sort of snapped me out of it a couple of years ago. I'm coming out of the hardest few years of my life, and really looking forward to only having positive relationships on my roster:) Thanks for being there through it all! 💕
watched you for years this video really spoke to me it was beautiful you are beautiful inside and out
The fringe friend, yep, been there. Plastic friends are really bad for us. ❤
I once lost 30 lbs and my own wife 😮 hit me with some jabs -out of nowhere! This is the beauty of UA-cam and channels like yours. Another fitness channel who gets emails from viewers said this topic was THE most emailed question. “My (insert person) is upset that I’m working out and losing weight “ or something similar. M Scott Peck said it pithily, “Evil is anti-growth.” TY for shedding light on this issue. 💪🏾🙏🏾
Hi. I'm new to your channel. I can definitely relate. My situations have been a little different but I still experienced losses. It's rough when you change for positive reasons & get this kind of feedback. But life goes on & gets better.
Thanks for sharing this important video. You look fabulous. l feel so happy for people who succeed, it excites and motivates me. You motivate me. I know what you mean, when I lost weight I, too, experienced unsupportive people who criticized what I was eating, what I was ordering, and some even told me that I had lost enough, etc. At first it made me very angry and I told some of them, but others I just ignored and spent less time with them. It is true, when we lose weight we do feel more confident and maybe to some people who are used to seeing the meeker us, don't know what to make of it, and misinterpret it as arrogance. I'll never understand it really.
Yes, this happened to me too when I started making changes. I never thought of those relationships being "friendships" of convenience but that's what they were. They're no longer in my life now. It is very isolating to go through that.
It is incredibly isolating, but that’s why I’m so glad to have this LSF community here to support each other 🤍
Appreciate your honesty, and these videos really help to not feel alone! Have been watching your previous diary video several times when I've needed some perspective and strength! Thanks ❤
I'm so glad!
Love these types of videos!!🫶🏼
I love your confidence and your honesty. 💛 Everything you share is super helpful! 💚
this is so relatable, love love you!!!! 💔 loving the more personal videos, katie!!!
Yay! Glad you like them!
Isn’t it something how people just can’t be happy for other’s successes. Never have understood that!!
Can you please do a wardrobe video of where you get your outfits please? Maybe your Amazon things. I love your style😘
Thank you for sharing! I can relate to this on so many levels. This video makes me feel motivated to keep focusing on my own growth. 💕
Thank you for sharing! Please do more sit down and talk videos ❤
Most of this is basic ‘growing up’. Some people are more comfortable being immature and cruel because they probably don’t like themselves, so they take it out on you. Warning: it doesn’t necessarily change as you get older. There are always people who come into and go out of our lives and over a lifetime we will have many types of friends. It’s taken me nearly 67 years to learn this and it can indeed be a difficult lesson. Two close friends removed themselves from my life recently and it hurts, no doubt about it. Both were utter cowards to my mind because they wouldn’t explain why, even when I asked “why?”. At 30, my motto became “Take shit from no one”. Of course, we all have to take some nonsense (bosses, children, etc) but putting up with negativity and meaness from so-called ‘friends’? No we do Not!!
I'm the same. I trust so easily and want to be friends with everyone .
I feel this
Love the video
I relate so much to this.
Off topic….
I would love to see a video that’s like “what’s on my bookshelf for better health” so curious about what you recommend or like to read
Great video, Katie! Thank you for sharing this experience. It's extremely relatable. Thank you for always sharing helpful and encouraging content. You have helped me tremendously 🩷
Glad it was helpful!
Aww I’m so sorry that happened with your friends. That sounds horrible!
Important subject. My experience: boys who used to bully me tried to hit on me after I lost weight. So fake. So nasty. Also: people who used to call me out for being too big had the NERVE to act worried for me I was too thin. ❤they never cared. They just felt they had the right to an opinion about me. The do not have that right. ❤❤❤❤
Isn’t it crazy when that happens?! Like…you think I forgot? 🙄
You are amazing ❤! I can definitely relate. 💔
Great insight!
Ooh that sports analogy was good. Such a good video and great message! ❤
I can kinda relate. When I had my first child I learned real quick whoy friends were. The ones that didn't stick around I learned were just not true friends. It hurt me a lot. But now I look at is as there's a reason and that's ok.
My changes did the same thing with my girls .. it is deeper then you can imagine xo love the Channel
Very important information! Thank you for sharing ❤
Katie, you have been my BIGGEST and I mean my BIGGEST inspiration in my fitness journey. I have watched you for years and I mean watched your videos over and over and over especially when I was down to my lowest. To this day, I’ve continued to watch you, gotten proper test and feel better and follow so much you have shared and do share to this day. You truly are inspirational and have been what has kept me going through some of my darkest days. I also love that you Poshmark cloths, lol! I’m so glad you chose YOU because you also chose to help save so many others. What a blessing. 🤍 ps… Ryan is also amazing and you both are truly such beautiful souls and role models for this world. I wish you guys a million more blessings and that sweet baby.
Appreciate your story
💔💔💔 working through one now but everything you are saying is so true! I found out early about frememies around the same time it was first made a term in that New Radicals song. This is such a difficult part of the journey but choosing yourself is worth it, I promise! Thank you for sharing Katie! 💖
Loved the New Radicals!
Thank you. What’s hard when it’s family
That is the most difficult for sure 🤍
Big hugs to my big Pisces sister 🩵🩷🌸
Yes.. I have failed couple of times in my health journey. Mainly because Dr Pepper is my weakness. And when I have failed, there is one person who thinks he is joking. But makes comments like "you are so wishy washy" "I thought you gave up Dr Pepper" "You'll be back on it again" like he expected me to fail. I am at it again. This is with anything kind of "fail" in life when I am trying. This time, I am doing this quietly with the support of my husband who knows what I am doing. Been at it for a month. Went from 157 lbs to 147 lbs so far. To be honest, I almost reverted to my old ways yesterday. But I had my husband take what was left of the Dr Pepper out of the house so I would not be tempted. Here is to moving forward.
I love Dr.Pepper too and thought I had to have it every weekend but after dealing with it hurting my stomach I knew I had to give it up. I stopped buying it and before I knew it, I realized I hadn’t had it in months, lol!
You CAN do it!! Don’t buy it and try to find healthier options like passion fruit tea, they have one at Starbucks but I make my own with a UA-cam recipe I stumbled upon.
Proud of you! Keep that focus and block the outside noise 🙌🏻 btw have you tried the Poppi or Olipop version of Dr P? Could be a better alternative when a craving hits!
💔Same experience 😢it came as the biggest and most hurtful part of my journey
Serious question- do you drink alcohol? I gave up alcohol to become healthier about a year and a half ago & I feel this to my core. It's really hard. (Also don't mind the weird picture/name my boys have seemed to takeover my UA-cam 😮)
I do, but in moderation. Back in college and right after i drank much more frequently. Now it’s mostly 1-2x a week and only clear liquors with soda water. It can make a massive impact on your weight to cut it out though, yes!
This happened to me when I got married… at 40 years old. It was so hard…. Best thing when I moved on.
sounds like they were the mean girls .. Bar hopping over a sunset beach walk.. really? and getting all agro over it. It’s that shallow frat party mentality