I lost 30 lbs and none of my friends even some family members never said anything about it or complimented me. That moment I understood not everyone is really there for you. I just have to love myself and move forward.
It's sad, but so true!! The right supportive people will come into your life. I know how hard it can be to navigate through that at first. Congrats on your amazing weight loss!! That's something to be proud of 💖
Well for me is diferent they do said something ...and was oh you no need to lose weight ,you look like dying, and i talking about 10 pounds lost from 180 to 170 and im 5,4 so you can get the picture they just try to push me down
I've seen situations where people get mad because people DO comment positively about their weight loss (they're thinking that the person is implying that they looked bad overweight and now they look good). Damned if you do, damned if you don't. I make no assumptions about when people do or don't say anything. Only they know their intentions.
When someone changes whether it’s weight or some life change for the better, friends and family are threatened because they are then forced to look at themselves as they were comfortable in the role they played whether it was the skinny friend/family member and you as the overweight one.
People get jealous when they realize that you are capable of change. Whatever that change may be. But they ESPECIALLY get jealous when we change for the better.
Everything about this rings so true and reminds me of a quote I found a while back while cutting toxic people out of my life- “The only people who get upset about you setting boundaries are the ones who were benefiting from you having none.”
I lost my friends when I decided to go home early after meeting them for “shots” on a week night. I refused to take the shot and was made fun of and belittled. So I left. I invited them to my bridal shower and wedding and no one showed. Didn’t need them as much as they needed me. Looking back I am so much happier. Friends who use you to party and nothing else are not friends. Lesson learned.
My friend, those girls we're never your friends!!! What a shame that they would prefer taking a shot over truly appreciating a true friend that was just spending time with them! Feel BLESSED that GOD took them out of your path!!! I know it's easier said than done, but you are better off
This happened to me at my college graduation. Everyone was invited and the only people that showed up were my family. Needless to say I definitely saw who really loved me that day! Graduation and a change of life!
Same thing happened to me! Thank you for sharing, I thought I was the only one. Looking back it still hurts that my friends ditched me and still blame me for the loss of friendship, ultimately the most important thing is my life is so much better without them.
WOW! I thought I was the only one going through this. I was listening to a pastor that said there are people here just for a season and some will be with us for a lifetime. Whenever we are trying to better ourselves and live a life in positivity, the devil will throw as many obstacles and hurdles our way just to trip us up and make us turn back. He'll even resort to using the people closest to us. Like with me, I am on a weight loss journey by myself. I don't work out with friends, partners, or a trainer. Besides my doctor, I haven't even told anyone about my weight loss goals. I've just kept this between me and God. So far, I've lost 45 pounds! Hallelujah! It's best to let people see your results than hear your plans. People will fail you, but God will always be on your side. Thank you for sharing ☺️.
@Eliza H Thanks for that encouraging message. A lot of times when we're facing obstacles we see more trials. J. Osteen said that God never wants us to retreat (give up). Notice that the Armor of God girdes our front side. Even when it seems like God is not with us, it's He who is holding our hand. God bless you. Sister.
Proud of you! That's not easy to do alone and you've done it. If you haven't already, you have to check out the Love Sweat Fitness community on Instagram! Search #TEAMLSF to see everyones posts, use it on yours and the support you'll find is seriously amazing.
I saw a quote on instagram recently that says "Stepping into your light can make other people uncomfortable in the same way art does. Like art, you are not always meant to be understood, not do you exist to make other people feel comfortable."
TOTALLY lived your life in my 20's, through college and after, etc. I was a size 4, modeling, with a degree in premed, and my bf STILL cheated on me like it was his job. When I was older and a size 6 and looked 15 years younger than I was, and even when their friends hit on me, a couple of men cheated on me also. I finally realized, it wouldn't matter how "hot" I looked, some people are just schmucks and always will be. Took me 30 more years to figure out it wasn't about me. Now single, 55 and STILL look 15 years younger than I am, fitness and weight loss are for ME. What an amazing difference.
@@ctine882 myself as well I am also 61 and have such a problem patting myself on the back and giving myself credit for all that I have done. I never think it's enough I never think I'm good enough I started at 218 pounds I'm a hundred and thirty-five now but other aspects of my life I feel I'm not enough. I don't have a job I'm on disability my family is no longer in the same state as me and I'm totally alone. Trying to build up come straight and muscle and lose another ten pounds as I am five foot one. I know it is a self-love and mindset I just can't wrap myself around it
@@deborahlockwood9035 congrats on the weight loss. I have 50 lbs to lose. I know I need to do something because I'm having health issues related to my weight. I even bought an exercise bike that I've only ridden 25 times since last Dec. We need to find away to put ourselves first! It's a vicious circle. I'm depressed because I'm overweight and I'm overweight because I'm depressed!
@@ctine882 sorry you are experiencing a depressed condition but you need to build confidence no matter what. One thing a man loves is a Confident woman and people in general ❤ too. Being confident is the key no matter what size you are ,life is too short just work out hard and let no one Rob you of your peace and joy. Do more exercise and eat and drink healthy but be confident tell yourself you can do it God loves you if no one does . I'm over weight too but confident and on a weight loss journey .I'm confident . Let confident be your new attitude .one love 💘
Honestly, this is the best weight loss story I've seen on UA-cam. This is the first video I've seen of yours and I can tell you're such a genuine, kind soul. Thank you for sharing!
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Ty Katie for your vulnerability and sharing your story. When I was in my early 20s I went through a 25lb weight loss and struggled with the late nights too. That was definitely my lowest point and yes the weight gain was hard for me but it was more how I was living and who I was hanging out with that was toxic. It really is a soul journey ❤. I absolutely love you and Team LSF. This is a truly the best supportive community and I love that I have found you all to do this healthy lifestyle with.
Tomorrow is a new day so let us begin , widowed 7 years married 28 years he died unexpectedly I’m 55 now and I survived a year long narcissistic bipolar abusive relationship he cheated on me and tried to come back when the person he left me for died thank god I was strong enough to tell him he was just looking for a place to land and went right into my current relationship of 4 years he just says I want you healthy after back surgery I gained 13 pounds this relationship he says I’m depressed well he also misrepresented who he was long story
Absolutely!! Every thing goes back to childhood from abuse, people bullying u & unfortunately when we have gone through trauma we find that in a relationship until we’ve had enough & when u finally have had enough & start sticking up for yourself it throws a wrench in the plans of the people who have manipulated u for years....they don’t like it, it pisses them off because they know that they don’t have power over u anymore!!
People dont understand that the weight loss journey is NOT easy! I was so so so so ready to give up! But...I started to love myself EVEN more💗...and I went from 254 to 185, and still losing...sista girl...thank you for your testimony!
I’ve learned through my journey that often times “ break ups “ be they friends or intimate partners, is God’s way of removing what is hindering our growth. God is invested in us and wants growth and fruits from us. Certain individuals, like sucker branches , will draw the life from you and never allow you to flourish. Yes, thank you Lord that I’ve changed! Don’t need people holding me back when I was created to go up mountains and not wallow by pools of stagnant water!🙏🏽😂 Thank you for sharing.
“Humble to a fault...”! That’s a word I’ve spoke! A feeling I’ve had. I’ve put myself in some messy situations being “humble”. Not having self-love. Great message!
I lost my best friends when I gained weight, friends I had for years. When I needed support the most, the closest people in my life just disappeared. Then it put me back a while because I was sad to lose people I valued. But it brought me closer to my family because they were some of the few that supported me. I’ve started my weight loss and getting healthy plan and I’ve actually lost weight. And I know I will achieve my goals and I know I will hear or see those old friends, but I haven’t decided how I will respond. I have forgiven them. However, after losing them when I needed them the most, now it has made me be more compassionate for people in health and weight struggles. You think people will be there through thick and thin. It’s disappointing, but I realize true friends don’t disappear and I just was ignoring signs all along, for the most part. Thanks for sharing your deeper story!
I'm so happy you have come out of that even stronger Lindsey. It is surprising what people will do when you need them most, but we learn such valuable lessons. xo
I have gotten the "You've changed" comment too through different seasons of my life and I am learning to not take it personally or in a negative way. I love your simple say Thank you response to that comment! Needed this message as a reminder! 🙏💗 Thank you for sharing this with us, Katie! Keep being you!! 🥰
"Either the rules have changed or your roles..." Bingo!!!!! Thank you for articulating that so well!! In the last 10 years, this has happened to me four times - losing weight, gaining it back, deciding to pursue my dream of making music, and now becoming a mom. This video is so important, and really makes me feel less alone.
My pregnancy hormones + Katie crying + being able to relate = 😭😭😭😭 Thank you for being so honest and open about this. So many girls go through this at some point in their life and no one ever talks about it! Thank you!🙌🏼😘
I think so many women will relate with this story. Fair weather friends are the absolute worst. The worst decisions I’ve made in my life and the only things I really regret were during my “party phase”. Our health is our foundation, so drinking all the time is so much more toxic than society talks about. You go out, drink, make bad choices, over eat, wake up hung over, so you can’t be productive, and eat more crap because you feel like shit and the cycle continues. I have too many goals to have time for friends like that and a lifestyle like that. ✌🏻
Thank you for sharing, I needed this. I recently went through this and have been feeling guilty like I’m the issue. But you are right when you set boundaries and choose self love, people who have been taking advantage immediately get triggered. I feel more confident in going my own way even if it means losing friendships. You’re an inspiration to us all. ♥️
You are so welcome! You are NOT the issue...I can tell you that with 100% confidence. You're doing what is best for you and anyone that is not with that, isn't truly in your corner. Stay strong Marina.
You basically found your power, and women who have not found their power, will be threatened by that. It’s a hard lesson, but those were really not your friends. True friends will support you always to do and be what you feel is right for you, and can adapt to shifting roles in your friendship. I LOVE your story so much. Your journey is so RAW and authentic, and at the end of the day, this journey is about returning back to ourselves and loving ourselves and fully taking responsibility to take care of our bodies. Thank you for your inspiration. Your heart and growth is infectious. You are AMAZING.
“Changed the rules or changed the roles”. I relate to this so hugely. When you stop being the “fat” one or you just become more fit, more happy, more whatever you truly need, people can’t handle the change and lash out. and we have to realize that WE are worth more than that. So glad you found Ryan and founded this community. 💕💕 @joaneelife
Hi Erin! Absolutely, we are worth it and the right people will stay in your life who want the best for you. I'm so happy you are in the LSF community! 💕
You have a heart of gold. I gained a lot of weight and am now on a long journey to lose it all. I went through very difficult life changes that destroyed my self esteem and sent my stress level over the top. I finally hit rock bottom and made a decision that I can not allow myself to continue down a bad path. I’ve been eating healthy for over two months now and also committed to exercising. I’ve lost almost 30 lbs and feel so much better. I still have a long way to go but I know that I will get there. Fortunately my friends and family have been very supportive which has really helped keep me motivated. Everything you talked about is spot on. Thank you for all of your encouragement. You are a beautiful person inside and out.
This was really raw and honest! Thank you for sharing! Definitely could relate to the things you went through! Thank you for your positivity and strength!
I sought validation through men, whether it was my father or my husband/ex husband. Once I finally realized I was seeking validation from ppl incapable of providing it, everything changed. Now, I’m happy when my kids tell me they’re proud of me, because that’s just awesome, but I’m actually proud of myself and don’t require the validation of others anymore
I can super relate to this , started my journey a month and a half ago and i have lost 22pounds, but no one even family members are encouraging.. when I was thicker , they all complained now am becoming healthy, they make comments like I look too skinny and am like I just lost only 22, I havent even gotten to my goal yet.. Anyways am actually right now just holding on and continuing my journey , am doing it for me and not anyone else , I legit just wanna be healthy.. Thankyou for sharing your story
I’m sorry to hear that. 22lb is a major loss already though, so even if it’s not your goal, make sure you celebrate what you’ve already achieved 🎉. That’s also a speedy weight loss, so that may be where their concerns are coming from (hopefully). Good luck on your health journey! 💪🏻
Your inspiration to me each and everyday! I have been in those situations, I understand but it motivated me to be more fit and healthy! Thank you for motivating me!❤️ You are my role model💪🏾
you said you made changes by growing closer to the Lord, can you do a video on how your faith grew and what changes you implemented that helped you grow more towards God?
I needed to hear this today. Thank you for being so raw and honest. This is definitely a video I will comeback to. It will serve to remind myself that it's okay to change and love myself, no matter if I lose people along the way.
Katie you are incredible! One of my best friends was very unsupportive and sometimes rude. It hurt a lot but it also encouraged me to keep going and prove to her that I was strong enough!
Your rawness in this video shows how much strength you have. It really is inspirational. Thank you for being so open and vulnerable. I’m so glad you were able to realise that your “friends” (toxic people) aren’t worth having around & how damaging they can really be to your soul. Thank you for this amazing community you provide for us 💛
This honestly made my day. I have lost friends because I refused to belittle myself anymore and work on staying strong in my personal life journey. Thank you so much for your honesty and vulnerability. 🌻
This could not have come out at a better time! I decided to quit my job that I've been with for years and realized that I needed a change to better myself. I am moving states this Saturday and im scared sh*tless. Its a big change and not everyone who I thought would support is supporting me. But in my heart I know its the right thing and i am super excited to see where this new season takes me.Thank you for being amazing and reminding everyone that your self care is the most important. Love ya girl! ❤❤
Katie, wow! I absolutely love this video. I resonated with this so much. 22 minute mark really did it for me. I've learned that there is lesson in letting go and I completely agree its so HARD! But the accomplished feeling of letting go of friendships. Always praying for the right relationships because those are the ones that stick.
I believe everything happens for a reason. And here I am watching your video late at night and relating to everything that you are saying it is two years after you made video and it is so helpful to me. Thank you for sharing your story. Every time you tear up I tear up.😢 I have cut out quite a few people from my life. I was at my healthiest years ago, and these women from church made negative comments. I looked great. I felt great, my cholesterol was good and my glucose level was good. Those women really affected me, I allowed them to affect me to the point that when I looked at myself in the mirror, I thought, I look too skinny. But I was at my healthiest. And now I am at my heaviest weight of my life, and I am disappointed with myself That I allowed those women to affect me now that I’m overweight, isn’t that odd how they don’t say anything they’re not concerned about how I look now. Your weight loss story is giving me strength to really love myself again And be as successful as you have become in your weight loss journey. xx Thank you!!!
Thank you for this raw, emotional, and beautiful video. Even though I haven't gone through this with health and fitness, I've definitely gone through it with my change of career and path in life. So I loved hearing about "You've changed!" because I understand this so much. Yes, I have changed. THAT is a good thing. I'm growing into who I want to be. Again thank you, Katie. love ya! Thank you for showing us your heart!
I'm in a crazy weight loss journey and the decision I made was to disappear, yes no one other than my family has seen me yet. Best decision, i don't need anyone's opinion!
That's what my dad did. Lost the weight, ran every day. We always joke with extended family, "Happy Thanksgiving, you're fat!!" And this year, Dad sent his first picture, and he titled it, "Happy Thanksgiving! I'm not fat anymore!" And no one replied. It's okay though, Dad's HEALTH is 200% he's happy, he's talkative, people literally hit on him. His eye sight is awesome, his energy is up, his psoriasis is GONE, and he wants to buy tee shirts that fit him instead of floppy shirts and Jim shorts.
Thank you for sharing, and being real! It definitely helps me feel like I am not alone, just hearing your journey and how you have overcome it, is so inspiring! I have just started with The Love Sweat Fitness community, and it is so nice to feel supported and that it is okay to feel beautiful! Thank you so much for being such an inspiration!💖
Your transparency is absolutely beautiful. I know your story is going to help so many that have gone through or are going through the same situations. Prayers for your continued healing and also for the healing of those friends whos' chapters and seasons have ended in your life. God bless you ❤
Omg this video was needed. I’m going through a huge transformation my business picked up, my body is changing, I’m moving to a new state and last week everyone was saying little things and slights to make me second guess myself.
This couldn’t be more true for me it wasn’t really my friends it was my husbands family and it’s amazing how rude and inconsiderate people can be and you yourself never once said anything to them and they take it as you pointing them out and it’s not about them at all thanks Katie please make more videos like this 😘
This is SO relatable! Love the idea of roles and rules changing and your relationships changing for the better. Thank you for sharing! Can't wait for the other videos for this series and your reno series! 💚💚💚💚
I had a friend break up about two weeks ago and you saying the sometimes people come into your life for seasons really helped me. I’ve been okay with it but it bothers me a little bit so this helped.
Your testimony really hit me hard. I have had no support on my weight loss journey so I feel this. Thank you for your honesty and I'm really sorry that anybody hurt your feelings along your journey. You're doing great work and helping a lot of people right now so keep it up!!
This is was a truly amazing video. It made me realize that I have to let of the people who don't support me and my decisions. I learned that they are not worth to keep, I need to have to people who love and support me around me. I want to change myself mentally and physically, I have had a ruff past mentally and I want to change and become happy about myself. I lost someone because they did not support me and my change in life, but I am happy that I have new friends to support me and my journey to happiness and self love
Thank you so much, Amber! I'm so happy to share this with you girls. It's so amazing you have new supportive friends cheering you on during your journey! xo
You’re story is precious and I’m so proud of you!!! I’m 22 and I look up to you. I’ve lost so many friendships, and it’s hard to not follow the decision of others and truly carve your own path.
You’re such an inspiration. I’ve Hashimoto and was just diagnosed last year. It’s been such a tough year and things get better in time. I was so obsessed with weight (still sometimes) but you’ve taught me to focus more on my health more than my weight. It will eventually come off when my body starts healing. (Of course with diet and exercise) but it needs to be healed first.
Katie your amazing..Your story is my whole life..I decided a year ago after being bullied, told I'm a bad friend that I changed I decided right then and there I didn't need her toxic friendship and what I allowed people to treat me that i wanted better for myself..I lost over 50 lbs from last year and still going strong after years of yoyo diets and an eating disorder that I struggled with in adolescent years..the loss of my grandmother 3 years ago I went into depression and turned to food and when I saw a picture of myself a year ago I decided I needed to better myself and feel better inside and out and to love myself..
This message is so important. So many people are on this journey and may not even be aware. I have to remind myself that sometimes people are just here for a season and I don't have to feel bad about that.
I love everything you stand for Katie! You are such a gem. YES to being women FOR other women and not jealous and mean over each other’s progress. You are a beautiful person inside and out! 💖
this video means so much more than just a weight loss video!i thought about all the toxic friends that i had and no longer speak to because i have changed...xxx from Greece
GURRRRRRL ! I know this was hard for you to do from watching ...and I don't comment on any page, but I have to tell you that this by far is one of my fav videos you have ever done! It's real and genuine and ON POINT for so many reasons!!! I enjoy following you because you really are the only female UA-camr that is down to earth and kind. You don't make people feel like you are better than them but you really are good about supporting good healthy positivity no matter what you have or where you're at in life. So for such a great video, I had to say Thank you and well done !!! Whenever you can get up the energy or if your ready to cry again lol pls pls do another one !!!
so true i made a conscious decision november last year to get rid of the toxic aspects and people in my life and it wasn’t easy but I am so happy and grateful for where i am
Friends of circumstances. Wow! Been there, done that and am so happy I'm out of those kinds of "friendships". Thank you for sharing this with us, it means a lot. ❤️
Probably one of the most meaningful, heartwarming, and encouraging video on UA-cam. Thank you for sharing. Thank you for your vulnerability. Thank you for your authenticity. Thank you for the hope you are imparting to so many. Thank you 💕
Your honesty is so refreshing. I watched this video even though I’ve never struggled with this specific topic. It was very convicting. I have been the person that isn’t supportive. My sister has thyroid issues and when she found out she completely changed her lifestyle. I thought her new restrictive diet was her just her being difficult/ high maintenance. I also worked with a women that wouldn’t eat anything unhealthy (even though she was super skinny), and I definitely was unkind behind her back. I will never be that unsupportive person again! When you know better, do better!! Sending all the love to you Katie 💕 you’ve definitely changed my life with LSF
That takes a lot to admit that Alex and so important. None of us are perfect and all of us have probably done this in some capacity to others. The more we talk about it and understand the impact we can have, the better we will all be to lift each other up :)
Thank you somebody for finally saying it! I’m experiencing this exact thing right now with my friend and have been feeling the exact way you are describing with people in my life from loosing weight. That now I have confidence and my friends the way they look at me is in a totally different way like they don’t like me. And that everything is always a competition. I never even talk about myself or that I lost weight. I keep quiet about it bc anytime It’s mentioned I can sense the tension & jealousy they are putting off. It’s sad that I feel I can’t be proud of the best thing I have ever accomplished in my life! (Loosing almost 40 pounds) Going from a size large to Small! I’m so happy that I did that, it took over a year and was so hard but I did it!!!They try to degrade the way I lost weight like I did it from pills and it came so easy. They are constantly saying they try to loose weight all the time and it just came so easy for me! When in reality I worked my butt off and always watched videos like yours to keep me motivated and inspired to be healthier! I worked out almost everyday and ate healthier and am still continuing to do so bc Of you I realize it’s about my health not just dieting. & Nobody ever talks about what you just did and the feeling that your life has changed and your Role in your friendships. This video really resonated with me! And I thank you for helping me realize it’s not just me.
i was bullied all through primary school for my weight as a kid, people get jealous and fearful about what they can and cant control, good on you for sticking to your path. Listening to other people and what they think never helped any one . Hugs and respect to you XX
Thank you for sharing this! I never thought weight loss would effect my relationships, but it is certainly happening to me. My partner is very controlling. He was supportive in the beginning but now that my confidence level has changed and Im more self assured, he is not in control of me like before. I think our relationship is quickly coming to an wnd after 20 years together. But i dont feel afraid like before. The "old" me would be devastated but now i feel like i need to move forward. And i realize that this relationship was really toxic from the begining. I feel more self worth now and he liked me better when i had none. I never saw this coming just from losing weight. But you bring me hope that i will find a much better relationship in the future with people that "get" me!! Thanks for sharing your expertise as i dont feel quite as alone as before...
Sometimes I feel like I don't have anyone to talk to about weight loss because I don't want to open myself up to advice and people telling me how to do it or that they don't like my plans or that it won't work. I really appreciate your heart about support.
I adore you so much! Your sweetness and honesty speaks to me! I'm a bit older (not wiser) ;) but I've gone through huge seasons (overcoming drug addiction, becoming a Christian, losing 40 lbs, constantly fighting alcoholism) that really changed me and my real people sifted themselves out. Thank you so much for sharing this story! XOXO - a previous chubby party girl.
Thank you for putting into words how I am feeling at the moment, my weight-loss journey has caused some so called friends to show their true face and I am processing the heart break at the moment. Thank you for letting me know that this happens to many people.
Thank you for saying it! I appreciate the fact that you acknowledged the fact that it is hard to process those negative comments and that people get over it in their own time.
I can sooo relate to everything you've said in this video! People who belittle you or are passive agressive and do not support your hopes and dreams of a better life are NOT your friends! I am also a major people pleaser and was always take advantage of! These people are no longer in my life and it is SOO much better! It is better to be alone then be surrounded by these toxic people! 🙌🏻💯🙏🏻
This is my favorite video! Thank you for allowing yourself to be so vulnerable in your truth. I have also allowed myself to be defined by my weight and failures and struggling with eating better around other people and their perception of me and what I am eating or not eating. Thank you!!!!!!!!
Katie, this was the best video you have ever made! Thank you for being so open and vulnerable. I’m going through a tough season in my life, but hearing all of this reaffirms that I know I’m taking care of myself and doing the right thing 🙂 Thank you!!!
Thank you so much, Catie!! It felt so good to share this with all of you. It's a part of my journey and I know so many can relate. You are absolutely doing the right thing by taking care of yourself! xo
Thank you so much for making this video. I love that you didn't cut the emotion out of it, and yes PLEASE~ please make more of these! I feel like if we take the time-gap away from these videos, they're kind of like a series of all the different categories of challenges you faced in your journey. I also love that there are so many lessons in this that can apply to any journey of change and pursuit of self-love, happiness, growth, and health, as you mentioned, outside of weight loss as well. I'm sure I speak for more than just myself when I say that this community looks up to you so much, and I'm sure there are also others like myself who so admire your relationship with Ryan, your faith, and of course, your awesome taste in house decor :p on top of LSF in all its glory, obviously! So I appreciate so much being able to learn anything from you at all, especially given your happiness and success in life. It's the reason why I buy merch-- just because it's like a small way of saying thankyou for contributing to our lives, "changing" them :p and making them so much better. Speaking of which, we need more merch please haha. You're amazing and so strong and inspirational. I thank God for your existence (: P.S. almost forgot to add. Would love a video about this journey with Ryan in it, just to sort of get a different perspective, like he could comment on what he observed of how people were with you whilst he observed what you went through as well, what support looked like, and maybe some of his experiences as well (like that corporate dinner story was great). I think a lot of us probably have partners that might be procrastinating getting on board because they are tryna avoid situations like that. Thanks heaps again~!
Hi Kasey! Thank you so much for your amazing feedback! I'm so happy this resonated with you in more than one way. Doing a series on topics like this would be really awesome! I'll have to have Ryan come on to give his perspective too. :)
This really hit home. Not actually regarding weight loss but other aspects of my life and learning to let go of people in your life who bring you down (even if those people happen to be family members). It's hard, it's sad but as you said if someone continually puts you down and tries to make you feel bad about yourself, then they aren't worth your time. Thank you for sharing this. Look forward to more talks like this.
Thank you Katie (also my oldest daughters name! So cool)! So happy to have found your channel and LSF. I've been binge watching your videos and love them all. I'm excited to gleam off of you and join LSF and continue even further and stronger into my fitness journey.
This was beautiful, thank you for being vulnerable. I’m literally going through something like this right now and it’s heartbreaking and freeing at the same time. After losing 75lbs and gaining confidence a close friend I’ve had for over 20 years became threatened by this change in roles. God revealed to me her mistreatment and lack of respect for my feelings. After confronting her about these behaviors I quickly saw how narcissistic she is. I think my low self esteem all these years made it hard to see that she wasn’t really a true friend. Very sad but I’m glad that I won’t have this toxicity in my life anymore.
Love Sweat Fitness Absolutely! Your timing on this video was golden - this friendship literally just ended this last week and I’ve been through so many emotions (still processing actually). So your tears are so relatable. It’s comforting to know I’m not the only one who’s experienced this. Everyone deserves to having loving, supportive people in their corner!
Katie, thanks so much for sharing this! I cried with you! I had a similar journey but a different thing. I finally chose to leave an abusive marriage-relationship of 13 years. It was the hardest thing I ever did. I was like you. I was taught to be humble growing up, and it was to the point where I let others control me. People would tell me I was “too nice.” It’s a long story, but I went through abuse counseling at an awesome women’s shelter. My counselor told me I would change, and my friends would see it. She said I wouldn’t have as many friends texting me and ringing up my phone, but I would be left with true friends. I didn’t know what she meant, at first. But she was right. I started inner healing and changing for the better. God took me through an amazing journey! Several friends and family members didn’t like the confident, new me. Others, including a few best friends of 15-20 years, were amazed at my change (and had gone through similar things). And the one that was amazed at my change and supported me the most ended up being my now awesome hubby. ❤️ So yeah, that friend that screamed at you that you changed, like it was a bad thing....I didn’t have that exact same thing happen, but a lot of them left. It’s ok. The friends you have now, and I have now, are our true friends. So thank you so much for being so open and true with us! It helps us to share our experiences. Thank you for creating the LSF Community! It’s one of the best groups I’ve been a part of. Love you so much! Big hugs 🤗 your way, and God bless you! 🙏 🤗 💕
Hi Marissa! Thank you SO much for sharing your story with me. I can tell how open you are with your vulnerability and that is a beautiful thing. Keep that with you throughout your health journey. I'm so glad you are a part of the LSF community ❤️
Thank you for sharing your personal story, You're beautiful inside out and look how far you have come. I admire you and your story really motivates me since I am also working on loosing weight
such deep truths here! thanks for sharing!!! and yes we are a family!!!!! i struggled with the same yo yo dieting...that and more led to me losing my trust in myself! choosing self love is truly a revolutionary act!
A wee jatie you make me cry with you, ... I know exactly how that feels and that why i decided to joint the lsf fam your amazing for creating this so we all have a space to feel good and have babes around us to support us thank you
You are so sweet ❤️ i love how authentic you are showing us your emotions and letting us in on your journey ❤️ you are wonderful and amazing and awesome 💪💪💪
I lost 30 lbs and none of my friends even some family members never said anything about it or complimented me. That moment I understood not everyone is really there for you. I just have to love myself and move forward.
It's sad, but so true!! The right supportive people will come into your life. I know how hard it can be to navigate through that at first. Congrats on your amazing weight loss!! That's something to be proud of 💖
Well for me is diferent they do said something ...and was oh you no need to lose weight ,you look like dying, and i talking about 10 pounds lost from 180 to 170 and im 5,4 so you can get the picture they just try to push me down
Jealousy baby
I've seen situations where people get mad because people DO comment positively about their weight loss (they're thinking that the person is implying that they looked bad overweight and now they look good). Damned if you do, damned if you don't. I make no assumptions about when people do or don't say anything. Only they know their intentions.
When someone changes whether it’s weight or some life change for the better, friends and family are threatened because they are then forced to look at themselves as they were comfortable in the role they played whether it was the skinny friend/family member and you as the overweight one.
People get jealous when they realize that you are capable of change. Whatever that change may be. But they ESPECIALLY get jealous when we change for the better.
That's because it brings out their insecurities which makes them feel uncomfortable.
This is so true! I love it 😻
Everything about this rings so true and reminds me of a quote I found a while back while cutting toxic people out of my life- “The only people who get upset about you setting boundaries are the ones who were benefiting from you having none.”
Hard realization, but has to happen!
Yes beautiful. Maybe from the book boundaries by henry cloud? Must read!
@@carolinex4364 Awesome!!!
Those friends that yell at you when “you’ve changed” actually miss you being their minion. They hate your growth. Been there so I understand.
Yes! Either rise up with me, or I'm going to leave down this other path. Goodbye 👋 and it's okay.
BINGO.
So true
@@janetjohnson2394 it's unfortunate but it tells us who our true friends are.
Meee tooo
I lost my friends when I decided to go home early after meeting them for “shots” on a week night. I refused to take the shot and was made fun of and belittled. So I left. I invited them to my bridal shower and wedding and no one showed. Didn’t need them as much as they needed me. Looking back I am so much happier. Friends who use you to party and nothing else are not friends. Lesson learned.
Lesson learned for sure!
My friend, those girls we're never your friends!!! What a shame that they would prefer taking a shot over truly appreciating a true friend that was just spending time with them! Feel BLESSED that GOD took them out of your path!!! I know it's easier said than done, but you are better off
You never needed them at all
This happened to me at my college graduation. Everyone was invited and the only people that showed up were my family. Needless to say I definitely saw who really loved me that day! Graduation and a change of life!
Same thing happened to me! Thank you for sharing, I thought I was the only one. Looking back it still hurts that my friends ditched me and still blame me for the loss of friendship, ultimately the most important thing is my life is so much better without them.
"Not everyone's on your side." Pretty deep stuff. Great video.
"Friends" are jealous of the power you wield over yourself because that just accentuates their lack of power over themselves.
“Friends of circumstance”. Hit me like a brick. Time to make some adjustments in my life. Thank you Katie.
WOW! I thought I was the only one going through this. I was listening to a pastor that said there are people here just for a season and some will be with us for a lifetime. Whenever we are trying to better ourselves and live a life in positivity, the devil will throw as many obstacles and hurdles our way just to trip us up and make us turn back. He'll even resort to using the people closest to us. Like with me, I am on a weight loss journey by myself. I don't work out with friends, partners, or a trainer. Besides my doctor, I haven't even told anyone about my weight loss goals. I've just kept this between me and God. So far, I've lost 45 pounds! Hallelujah! It's best to let people see your results than hear your plans. People will fail you, but God will always be on your side. Thank you for sharing ☺️.
@Eliza H Thanks for that encouraging message. A lot of times when we're facing obstacles we see more trials. J. Osteen said that God never wants us to retreat (give up). Notice that the Armor of God girdes our front side. Even when it seems like God is not with us, it's He who is holding our hand. God bless you. Sister.
Proud of you! That's not easy to do alone and you've done it. If you haven't already, you have to check out the Love Sweat Fitness community on Instagram! Search #TEAMLSF to see everyones posts, use it on yours and the support you'll find is seriously amazing.
Your comment inspires me : )
@@LoveSweatFitness Thanks ❤️
@@somethinggood9267 ♥️
I saw a quote on instagram recently that says "Stepping into your light can make other people uncomfortable in the same way art does. Like art, you are not always meant to be understood, not do you exist to make other people feel comfortable."
TOTALLY lived your life in my 20's, through college and after, etc. I was a size 4, modeling, with a degree in premed, and my bf STILL cheated on me like it was his job. When I was older and a size 6 and looked 15 years younger than I was, and even when their friends hit on me, a couple of men cheated on me also. I finally realized, it wouldn't matter how "hot" I looked, some people are just schmucks and always will be. Took me 30 more years to figure out it wasn't about me. Now single, 55 and STILL look 15 years younger than I am, fitness and weight loss are for ME. What an amazing difference.
Beautiful
Yep I'm 61 and been there too. Still trying to find my way concerning Self Love and a healthier life style.
@@ctine882 myself as well I am also 61 and have such a problem patting myself on the back and giving myself credit for all that I have done. I never think it's enough I never think I'm good enough I started at 218 pounds I'm a hundred and thirty-five now but other aspects of my life I feel I'm not enough. I don't have a job I'm on disability my family is no longer in the same state as me and I'm totally alone. Trying to build up come straight and muscle and lose another ten pounds as I am five foot one. I know it is a self-love and mindset I just can't wrap myself around it
@@deborahlockwood9035 congrats on the weight loss. I have 50 lbs to lose. I know I need to do something because I'm having health issues related to my weight. I even bought an exercise bike that I've only ridden 25 times since last Dec. We need to find away to put ourselves first! It's a vicious circle. I'm depressed because I'm overweight and I'm overweight because I'm depressed!
@@ctine882 sorry you are experiencing a depressed condition but you need to build confidence no matter what. One thing a man loves is a Confident woman and people in general ❤ too. Being confident is the key no matter what size you are ,life is too short just work out hard and let no one Rob you of your peace and joy. Do more exercise and eat and drink healthy but be confident tell yourself you can do it God loves you if no one does . I'm over weight too but confident and on a weight loss journey .I'm confident . Let confident be your new attitude .one love 💘
Honestly, this is the best weight loss story I've seen on UA-cam. This is the first video I've seen of yours and I can tell you're such a genuine, kind soul. Thank you for sharing!
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Love your journey!
Yes going through it right now
Ty Katie for your vulnerability and sharing your story. When I was in my early 20s I went through a 25lb weight loss and struggled with the late nights too. That was definitely my lowest point and yes the weight gain was hard for me but it was more how I was living and who I was hanging out with that was toxic. It really is a soul journey ❤. I absolutely love you and Team LSF. This is a truly the best supportive community and I love that I have found you all to do this healthy lifestyle with.
Tomorrow is a new day so let us begin , widowed 7 years married 28 years he died unexpectedly I’m 55 now and I survived a year long narcissistic bipolar abusive relationship he cheated on me and tried to come back when the person he left me for died thank god I was strong enough to tell him he was just looking for a place to land and went right into my current relationship of 4 years he just says I want you healthy after back surgery I gained 13 pounds this relationship he says I’m depressed well he also misrepresented who he was long story
Absolutely!! Every thing goes back to childhood from abuse, people bullying u & unfortunately when we have gone through trauma we find that in a relationship until we’ve had enough & when u finally have had enough & start sticking up for yourself it throws a wrench in the plans of the people who have manipulated u for years....they don’t like it, it pisses them off because they know that they don’t have power over u anymore!!
People dont understand that the weight loss journey is NOT easy! I was so so so so ready to give up! But...I started to love myself EVEN more💗...and I went from 254 to 185, and still losing...sista girl...thank you for your testimony!
I’ve learned through my journey that often times “ break ups “ be they friends or intimate partners, is God’s way of removing what is hindering our growth. God is invested in us and wants growth and fruits from us. Certain individuals, like sucker branches , will draw the life from you and never allow you to flourish. Yes, thank you Lord that I’ve changed! Don’t need people holding me back when I was created to go up mountains and not wallow by pools of stagnant water!🙏🏽😂 Thank you for sharing.
“Humble to a fault...”! That’s a word I’ve spoke! A feeling I’ve had. I’ve put myself in some messy situations being “humble”. Not having self-love. Great message!
I lost my best friends when I gained weight, friends I had for years. When I needed support the most, the closest people in my life just disappeared. Then it put me back a while because I was sad to lose people I valued. But it brought me closer to my family because they were some of the few that supported me. I’ve started my weight loss and getting healthy plan and I’ve actually lost weight. And I know I will achieve my goals and I know I will hear or see those old friends, but I haven’t decided how I will respond. I have forgiven them. However, after losing them when I needed them the most, now it has made me be more compassionate for people in health and weight struggles. You think people will be there through thick and thin. It’s disappointing, but I realize true friends don’t disappear and I just was ignoring signs all along, for the most part. Thanks for sharing your deeper story!
💕💕💛Much support from a stranger 💪🏼😊I relate a lot to this I hope you continue to reach your goals !✨
Naomì Torrez aww thank you sooo much! It means a lot! All the best for you as well!!
Lindsey LaVida Thank you💛💛💛we got this
Naomì Torrez 🙌🏼💝💝💝😊
I'm so happy you have come out of that even stronger Lindsey. It is surprising what people will do when you need them most, but we learn such valuable lessons. xo
I have gotten the "You've changed" comment too through different seasons of my life and I am learning to not take it personally or in a negative way. I love your simple say Thank you response to that comment! Needed this message as a reminder! 🙏💗 Thank you for sharing this with us, Katie! Keep being you!! 🥰
"Either the rules have changed or your roles..." Bingo!!!!! Thank you for articulating that so well!! In the last 10 years, this has happened to me four times - losing weight, gaining it back, deciding to pursue my dream of making music, and now becoming a mom. This video is so important, and really makes me feel less alone.
100% yes! It applies through so many parts of our lives. You are not alone at all!
Congratulations
@@FreshRose-z3s Thank you!!
I’m on a weight loss journey and going strong every day 😀
Congratulations! What a tremendous journey, certainly one worth embarking on! 💕🌸
My pregnancy hormones + Katie crying + being able to relate = 😭😭😭😭
Thank you for being so honest and open about this. So many girls go through this at some point in their life and no one ever talks about it! Thank you!🙌🏼😘
I think so many women will relate with this story. Fair weather friends are the absolute worst. The worst decisions I’ve made in my life and the only things I really regret were during my “party phase”. Our health is our foundation, so drinking all the time is so much more toxic than society talks about. You go out, drink, make bad choices, over eat, wake up hung over, so you can’t be productive, and eat more crap because you feel like shit and the cycle continues. I have too many goals to have time for friends like that and a lifestyle like that. ✌🏻
So feel you on this, yes! I love to have fun, but when I learned how to do that with balance...life...changer.
Katie you're amazing! Thank you for all the love, happiness and inspiration you put into the world! You are such a wonderful person ❤
This chat was honestly so heartfelt.
Thanks so much Gretchen!
Thank you for sharing, I needed this. I recently went through this and have been feeling guilty like I’m the issue. But you are right when you set boundaries and choose self love, people who have been taking advantage immediately get triggered. I feel more confident in going my own way even if it means losing friendships. You’re an inspiration to us all. ♥️
You are so welcome! You are NOT the issue...I can tell you that with 100% confidence. You're doing what is best for you and anyone that is not with that, isn't truly in your corner. Stay strong Marina.
You basically found your power, and women who have not found their power, will be threatened by that. It’s a hard lesson, but those were really not your friends. True friends will support you always to do and be what you feel is right for you, and can adapt to shifting roles in your friendship. I LOVE your story so much. Your journey is so RAW and authentic, and at the end of the day, this journey is about returning back to ourselves and loving ourselves and fully taking responsibility to take care of our bodies. Thank you for your inspiration. Your heart and growth is infectious. You are AMAZING.
Thanks so much! really glad you can relate to it :)
“Changed the rules or changed the roles”. I relate to this so hugely. When you stop being the “fat” one or you just become more fit, more happy, more whatever you truly need, people can’t handle the change and lash out. and we have to realize that WE are worth more than that.
So glad you found Ryan and founded this community. 💕💕 @joaneelife
Hi Erin! Absolutely, we are worth it and the right people will stay in your life who want the best for you. I'm so happy you are in the LSF community! 💕
You have a heart of gold. I gained a lot of weight and am now on a long journey to lose it all. I went through very difficult life changes that destroyed my self esteem and sent my stress level over the top. I finally hit rock bottom and made a decision that I can not allow myself to continue down a bad path. I’ve been eating healthy for over two months now and also committed to exercising. I’ve lost almost 30 lbs and feel so much better. I still have a long way to go but I know that I will get there. Fortunately my friends and family have been very supportive which has really helped keep me motivated. Everything you talked about is spot on. Thank you for all of your encouragement. You are a beautiful person inside and out.
This was really raw and honest! Thank you for sharing! Definitely could relate to the things you went through! Thank you for your positivity and strength!
I’m so happy i can help and share these tough moments with you girls ❤️
I sought validation through men, whether it was my father or my husband/ex husband. Once I finally realized I was seeking validation from ppl incapable of providing it, everything changed. Now, I’m happy when my kids tell me they’re proud of me, because that’s just awesome, but I’m actually proud of myself and don’t require the validation of others anymore
I can super relate to this , started my journey a month and a half ago and i have lost 22pounds, but no one even family members are encouraging.. when I was thicker , they all complained now am becoming healthy, they make comments like I look too skinny and am like I just lost only 22, I havent even gotten to my goal yet..
Anyways am actually right now just holding on and continuing my journey , am doing it for me and not anyone else , I legit just wanna be healthy..
Thankyou for sharing your story
I’m sorry to hear that. 22lb is a major loss already though, so even if it’s not your goal, make sure you celebrate what you’ve already achieved 🎉. That’s also a speedy weight loss, so that may be where their concerns are coming from (hopefully). Good luck on your health journey! 💪🏻
Your inspiration to me each and everyday! I have been in those situations, I understand but it motivated me to be more fit and healthy! Thank you for motivating me!❤️ You are my role model💪🏾
You’re so sweet and I’m so happy I can help support and inspire you ❤️
you said you made changes by growing closer to the Lord, can you do a video on how your faith grew and what changes you implemented that helped you grow more towards God?
I love how you focused on the effects of self-love on your personal relationships to explain your weight loss journey.
I needed to hear this today. Thank you for being so raw and honest. This is definitely a video I will comeback to. It will serve to remind myself that it's okay to change and love myself, no matter if I lose people along the way.
So glad u connected with it!
Also hurt people, hurt people. Remember that 🥰❤️
Omg yes. This is one of my favorite sayings!!!
Love this! So true!
Katie you are incredible! One of my best friends was very unsupportive and sometimes rude. It hurt a lot but it also encouraged me to keep going and prove to her that I was strong enough!
I love taking that negativity and turning it into motivation...YES!
Your rawness in this video shows how much strength you have. It really is inspirational. Thank you for being so open and vulnerable. I’m so glad you were able to realise that your “friends” (toxic people) aren’t worth having around & how damaging they can really be to your soul. Thank you for this amazing community you provide for us 💛
You are so welcome, Katie! Being vulnerable and raw is strong! This community definitely practices this all the time 💛
This honestly made my day. I have lost friends because I refused to belittle myself anymore and work on staying strong in my personal life journey. Thank you so much for your honesty and vulnerability. 🌻
This could not have come out at a better time! I decided to quit my job that I've been with for years and realized that I needed a change to better myself. I am moving states this Saturday and im scared sh*tless. Its a big change and not everyone who I thought would support is supporting me. But in my heart I know its the right thing and i am super excited to see where this new season takes me.Thank you for being amazing and reminding everyone that your self care is the most important. Love ya girl! ❤❤
This is incredible!! You are making a change and finding your right path. That is brave. Cheering you on!! xo
This is by far one of my favorite videos on your channel. Such an important message. I'm so thankful for inspirational women like you!
Glad you enjoyed it!
Katie, wow! I absolutely love this video. I resonated with this so much. 22 minute mark really did it for me. I've learned that there is lesson in letting go and I completely agree its so HARD! But the accomplished feeling of letting go of friendships. Always praying for the right relationships because those are the ones that stick.
It really does wonders for you in all aspects of life. The right friends will always be there.
I believe everything happens for a reason. And here I am watching your video late at night and relating to everything that you are saying it is two years after you made video and it is so helpful to me. Thank you for sharing your story. Every time you tear up I tear up.😢 I have cut out quite a few people from my life. I was at my healthiest years ago, and these women from church made negative comments. I looked great. I felt great, my cholesterol was good and my glucose level was good. Those women really affected me, I allowed them to affect me to the point that when I looked at myself in the mirror, I thought, I look too skinny. But I was at my healthiest. And now I am at my heaviest weight of my life, and I am disappointed with myself That I allowed those women to affect me now that I’m overweight, isn’t that odd how they don’t say anything they’re not concerned about how I look now. Your weight loss story is giving me strength to really love myself again And be as successful as you have become in your weight loss journey. xx Thank you!!!
Thank you for this raw, emotional, and beautiful video. Even though I haven't gone through this with health and fitness, I've definitely gone through it with my change of career and path in life. So I loved hearing about "You've changed!" because I understand this so much. Yes, I have changed. THAT is a good thing. I'm growing into who I want to be. Again thank you, Katie. love ya! Thank you for showing us your heart!
Change is an amazing thing, when it makes you happy and is what is best for you. :)
@@LoveSweatFitnessGURLLL..EXACTLY!!! WE GET IT.
This is a beautiful way of healing together ❤ Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing your struggles. You are so strong!
Always!
I needed to hear this. I have or had friends that treated me like an accessory, and didn't respect my boundaries.
It is good to recognize that and distance yourself from those type of people.
We love you girl!!😊
I'm in a crazy weight loss journey and the decision I made was to disappear, yes no one other than my family has seen me yet. Best decision, i don't need anyone's opinion!
That's what my dad did. Lost the weight, ran every day. We always joke with extended family, "Happy Thanksgiving, you're fat!!" And this year, Dad sent his first picture, and he titled it, "Happy Thanksgiving! I'm not fat anymore!" And no one replied.
It's okay though, Dad's HEALTH is 200% he's happy, he's talkative, people literally hit on him. His eye sight is awesome, his energy is up, his psoriasis is GONE, and he wants to buy tee shirts that fit him instead of floppy shirts and Jim shorts.
@Draco Domitor there is power to walking in silence
@Draco Domitor how did it go??
How did people react?
This might be the exact video I needed wow... Thank you so much, you dont know how much I can relate and how much this helped
I'm so glad! I know there are so many of us struggling with this. Stay strong!
Thank you for sharing, and being real! It definitely helps me feel like I am not alone, just hearing your journey and how you have overcome it, is so inspiring! I have just started with The Love Sweat Fitness community, and it is so nice to feel supported and that it is okay to feel beautiful! Thank you so much for being such an inspiration!💖
You are so welcome! And you are NOT alone at all. This community has your back!
Your transparency is absolutely beautiful. I know your story is going to help so many that have gone through or are going through the same situations. Prayers for your continued healing and also for the healing of those friends whos' chapters and seasons have ended in your life. God bless you ❤
"Friends of circumstance". Wow. Eye opening!
Omg this video was needed. I’m going through a huge transformation my business picked up, my body is changing, I’m moving to a new state and last week everyone was saying little things and slights to make me second guess myself.
Keep doing you, girl! Sounds like amazing things on the horizon. xo
Haters are "Your confused admirers"
Been threw similar things , I have my husband and children, and no one else, my husband is my rock and supports me 100%, thank you for sharing xxx
All the wonderful community of LSF has your back too!! The love in LSF is amazing!!
I love how you started this video so emotional to ending it with such power. You exude class ❤
This couldn’t be more true for me it wasn’t really my friends it was my husbands family and it’s amazing how rude and inconsiderate people can be and you yourself never once said anything to them and they take it as you pointing them out and it’s not about them at all thanks Katie please make more videos like this 😘
I'm so glad this resonated with you babe! We all need good friends to support us through our journey and I hope this community can do that for you! xo
You’re friends were so toxic, good for you x
For sure, really sad. But I feel stronger now going through it!
This is SO relatable! Love the idea of roles and rules changing and your relationships changing for the better. Thank you for sharing!
Can't wait for the other videos for this series and your reno series! 💚💚💚💚
I'm so glad this resonated!!! Can't wait to have more chats like this 💖
Wow….I am 50 and the things that people said and did to me when I was younger still hurt. This video really hit close to home for me. 😭
I had a friend break up about two weeks ago and you saying the sometimes people come into your life for seasons really helped me. I’ve been okay with it but it bothers me a little bit so this helped.
Your testimony really hit me hard. I have had no support on my weight loss journey so I feel this. Thank you for your honesty and I'm really sorry that anybody hurt your feelings along your journey. You're doing great work and helping a lot of people right now so keep it up!!
Thank you so much! This was so kind of you to say❤️
All i have to say is Thankyou! ❤
I feel for you Katie. I also experienced the same treatment from some friends. Thanks for sharing your stories, I stop being negative with myself.
This is was a truly amazing video. It made me realize that I have to let of the people who don't support me and my decisions. I learned that they are not worth to keep, I need to have to people who love and support me around me. I want to change myself mentally and physically, I have had a ruff past mentally and I want to change and become happy about myself. I lost someone because they did not support me and my change in life, but I am happy that I have new friends to support me and my journey to happiness and self love
Thank you so much, Amber! I'm so happy to share this with you girls. It's so amazing you have new supportive friends cheering you on during your journey! xo
You’re story is precious and I’m so proud of you!!! I’m 22 and I look up to you. I’ve lost so many friendships, and it’s hard to not follow the decision of others and truly carve your own path.
Thank you! You got this❤️
You’re such an inspiration. I’ve Hashimoto and was just diagnosed last year. It’s been such a tough year and things get better in time. I was so obsessed with weight (still sometimes) but you’ve taught me to focus more on my health more than my weight. It will eventually come off when my body starts healing. (Of course with diet and exercise) but it needs to be healed first.
Hi Maria! Totally agree with you, always important to listen to your body! xo
Katie your amazing..Your story is my whole life..I decided a year ago after being bullied, told I'm a bad friend that I changed I decided right then and there I didn't need her toxic friendship and what I allowed people to treat me that i wanted better for myself..I lost over 50 lbs from last year and still going strong after years of yoyo diets and an eating disorder that I struggled with in adolescent years..the loss of my grandmother 3 years ago I went into depression and turned to food and when I saw a picture of myself a year ago I decided I needed to better myself and feel better inside and out and to love myself..
Hi Debbie! Thank you for sharing with me. It sounds like you are making the best decisions to live your best life and making self love a priority. 💖
This message is so important. So many people are on this journey and may not even be aware. I have to remind myself that sometimes people are just here for a season and I don't have to feel bad about that.
Don't feel bad at all. Learn from them coming in and be glad to see them go.
I love everything you stand for Katie! You are such a gem. YES to being women FOR other women and not jealous and mean over each other’s progress. You are a beautiful person inside and out! 💖
Thank you so much, Sara! Right back at ya 💖
this video means so much more than just a weight loss video!i thought about all the toxic friends that i had and no longer speak to because i have changed...xxx from Greece
i love youu, im so happy that you have a relationship with the Most High our Saviour
Amen!
This was a beautiful vlog thank u for this much love ❤️
GURRRRRRL ! I know this was hard for you to do from watching ...and I don't comment on any page, but I have to tell you that this by far is one of my fav videos you have ever done! It's real and genuine and ON POINT for so many reasons!!! I enjoy following you because you really are the only female UA-camr that is down to earth and kind. You don't make people feel like you are better than them but you really are good about supporting good healthy positivity no matter what you have or where you're at in life. So for such a great video, I had to say Thank you and well done !!! Whenever you can get up the energy or if your ready to cry again lol pls pls do another one !!!
That means A LOT! Thanks for dropping a comment and sharing :) I'll for sure do more videos on my story soon.
so true i made a conscious decision november last year to get rid of the toxic aspects and people in my life and it wasn’t easy but I am
so happy and grateful for where i am
Friends of circumstances. Wow! Been there, done that and am so happy I'm out of those kinds of "friendships". Thank you for sharing this with us, it means a lot. ❤️
Absolutely!! Me too. Of course, glad you enjoyed it!
Probably one of the most meaningful, heartwarming, and encouraging video on UA-cam. Thank you for sharing. Thank you for your vulnerability. Thank you for your authenticity. Thank you for the hope you are imparting to so many. Thank you 💕
Aww thank you!! 💗
You honesty couldn’t have posted at a more perfect time ❤️❤️❤️ thank you 🥰
Of course!!
Your honesty is so refreshing. I watched this video even though I’ve never struggled with this specific topic. It was very convicting. I have been the person that isn’t supportive. My sister has thyroid issues and when she found out she completely changed her lifestyle. I thought her new restrictive diet was her just her being difficult/ high maintenance. I also worked with a women that wouldn’t eat anything unhealthy (even though she was super skinny), and I definitely was unkind behind her back. I will never be that unsupportive person again! When you know better, do better!! Sending all the love to you Katie 💕 you’ve definitely changed my life with LSF
Wow, great realization 👍 and I am sure your sister will love your realization and your new attitude towards her. All my respect for your insight. 😃💖
That takes a lot to admit that Alex and so important. None of us are perfect and all of us have probably done this in some capacity to others. The more we talk about it and understand the impact we can have, the better we will all be to lift each other up :)
Thank you somebody for finally saying it! I’m experiencing this exact thing right now with my friend and have been feeling the exact way you are describing with people in my life from loosing weight. That now I have confidence and my friends the way they look at me is in a totally different way like they don’t like me. And that everything is always a competition. I never even talk about myself or that I lost weight. I keep quiet about it bc anytime It’s mentioned I can sense the tension & jealousy they are putting off. It’s sad that I feel I can’t be proud of the best thing I have ever accomplished in my life! (Loosing almost 40 pounds) Going from a size large to Small! I’m so happy that I did that, it took over a year and was so hard but I did it!!!They try to degrade the way I lost weight like I did it from pills and it came so easy. They are constantly saying they try to loose weight all the time and it just came so easy for me! When in reality I worked my butt off and always watched videos like yours to keep me motivated and inspired to be healthier! I worked out almost everyday and ate healthier and am still continuing to do so bc Of you I realize it’s about my health not just dieting. & Nobody ever talks about what you just did and the feeling that your life has changed and your Role in your friendships. This video really resonated with me! And I thank you for helping me realize it’s not just me.
Hi Kayleigh, I love that you could relate! It gets better with time, but happiness and confidence is key :) xo
i was bullied all through primary school for my weight as a kid, people get jealous and fearful about what they can and cant control, good on you for sticking to your path. Listening to other people and what they think never helped any one . Hugs and respect to you XX
Thank you, Chezza! Sending love to you too 💕
I'm on a mental health journey.
Experiencing the same thing.
Still got the weight.
Going to get that accomplished too.
Having both problems I'd so hard but I'm doing it and I believe u can.
Thank you for sharing this! I never thought weight loss would effect my relationships, but it is certainly happening to me. My partner is very controlling. He was supportive in the beginning but now that my confidence level has changed and Im more self assured, he is not in control of me like before. I think our relationship is quickly coming to an wnd after 20 years together. But i dont feel afraid like before. The "old" me would be devastated but now i feel like i need to move forward. And i realize that this relationship was really toxic from the begining. I feel more self worth now and he liked me better when i had none. I never saw this coming just from losing weight. But you bring me hope that i will find a much better relationship in the future with people that "get" me!! Thanks for sharing your expertise as i dont feel quite as alone as before...
Sometimes I feel like I don't have anyone to talk to about weight loss because I don't want to open myself up to advice and people telling me how to do it or that they don't like my plans or that it won't work. I really appreciate your heart about support.
I'm so sorry to hear this! This community and myself are always here for you!❤️❤️
I adore you so much! Your sweetness and honesty speaks to me! I'm a bit older (not wiser) ;) but I've gone through huge seasons (overcoming drug addiction, becoming a Christian, losing 40 lbs, constantly fighting alcoholism) that really changed me and my real people sifted themselves out. Thank you so much for sharing this story! XOXO - a previous chubby party girl.
Thank you for putting into words how I am feeling at the moment, my weight-loss journey has caused some so called friends to show their true face and I am processing the heart break at the moment. Thank you for letting me know that this happens to many people.
Thank you for saying it! I appreciate the fact that you acknowledged the fact that it is hard to process those negative comments and that people get over it in their own time.
I can sooo relate to everything you've said in this video! People who belittle you or are passive agressive and do not support your hopes and dreams of a better life are NOT your friends! I am also a major people pleaser and was always take advantage of! These people are no longer in my life and it is SOO much better! It is better to be alone then be surrounded by these toxic people! 🙌🏻💯🙏🏻
This is my favorite video! Thank you for allowing yourself to be so vulnerable in your truth. I have also allowed myself to be defined by my weight and failures and struggling with eating better around other people and their perception of me and what I am eating or not eating. Thank you!!!!!!!!
Thanks for sharing!!💗💗 I am so glad you enjoyed the video!
Katie, this was the best video you have ever made! Thank you for being so open and vulnerable. I’m going through a tough season in my life, but hearing all of this reaffirms that I know I’m taking care of myself and doing the right thing 🙂 Thank you!!!
Thank you so much, Catie!! It felt so good to share this with all of you. It's a part of my journey and I know so many can relate. You are absolutely doing the right thing by taking care of yourself! xo
Thank you so much for making this video. I love that you didn't cut the emotion out of it, and yes PLEASE~ please make more of these! I feel like if we take the time-gap away from these videos, they're kind of like a series of all the different categories of challenges you faced in your journey. I also love that there are so many lessons in this that can apply to any journey of change and pursuit of self-love, happiness, growth, and health, as you mentioned, outside of weight loss as well. I'm sure I speak for more than just myself when I say that this community looks up to you so much, and I'm sure there are also others like myself who so admire your relationship with Ryan, your faith, and of course, your awesome taste in house decor :p on top of LSF in all its glory, obviously! So I appreciate so much being able to learn anything from you at all, especially given your happiness and success in life. It's the reason why I buy merch-- just because it's like a small way of saying thankyou for contributing to our lives, "changing" them :p and making them so much better. Speaking of which, we need more merch please haha. You're amazing and so strong and inspirational. I thank God for your existence (:
P.S. almost forgot to add. Would love a video about this journey with Ryan in it, just to sort of get a different perspective, like he could comment on what he observed of how people were with you whilst he observed what you went through as well, what support looked like, and maybe some of his experiences as well (like that corporate dinner story was great). I think a lot of us probably have partners that might be procrastinating getting on board because they are tryna avoid situations like that. Thanks heaps again~!
Hi Kasey! Thank you so much for your amazing feedback! I'm so happy this resonated with you in more than one way. Doing a series on topics like this would be really awesome! I'll have to have Ryan come on to give his perspective too. :)
I needed this video. I’m definitely in the beginning stages of this & you hit so much on the head. This was perfect. Thank you.
This really hit home. Not actually regarding weight loss but other aspects of my life and learning to let go of people in your life who bring you down (even if those people happen to be family members). It's hard, it's sad but as you said if someone continually puts you down and tries to make you feel bad about yourself, then they aren't worth your time. Thank you for sharing this. Look forward to more talks like this.
Hi Lexi! I'm so glad this resonated with you in other aspects of your life. I can't wait to have more talks like this too. xo
Thank you Katie (also my oldest daughters name! So cool)! So happy to have found your channel and LSF. I've been binge watching your videos and love them all. I'm excited to gleam off of you and join LSF and continue even further and stronger into my fitness journey.
@Love Sweat Fitness Great heart warming video!!!
Glad you enjoyed it!
This was beautiful, thank you for being vulnerable. I’m literally going through something like this right now and it’s heartbreaking and freeing at the same time. After losing 75lbs and gaining confidence a close friend I’ve had for over 20 years became threatened by this change in roles. God revealed to me her mistreatment and lack of respect for my feelings. After confronting her about these behaviors I quickly saw how narcissistic she is. I think my low self esteem all these years made it hard to see that she wasn’t really a true friend. Very sad but I’m glad that I won’t have this toxicity in my life anymore.
Such an accomplishment!! Isn't amazing when you wake up and go...wow! How did I allow that? Hard, but so freeing.
Love Sweat Fitness Absolutely! Your timing on this video was golden - this friendship literally just ended this last week and I’ve been through so many emotions (still processing actually). So your tears are so relatable. It’s comforting to know I’m not the only one who’s experienced this. Everyone deserves to having loving, supportive people in their corner!
Katie, thanks so much for sharing this! I cried with you! I had a similar journey but a different thing. I finally chose to leave an abusive marriage-relationship of 13 years. It was the hardest thing I ever did. I was like you. I was taught to be humble growing up, and it was to the point where I let others control me. People would tell me I was “too nice.” It’s a long story, but I went through abuse counseling at an awesome women’s shelter. My counselor told me I would change, and my friends would see it. She said I wouldn’t have as many friends texting me and ringing up my phone, but I would be left with true friends. I didn’t know what she meant, at first. But she was right. I started inner healing and changing for the better. God took me through an amazing journey! Several friends and family members didn’t like the confident, new me. Others, including a few best friends of 15-20 years, were amazed at my change (and had gone through similar things). And the one that was amazed at my change and supported me the most ended up being my now awesome hubby. ❤️ So yeah, that friend that screamed at you that you changed, like it was a bad thing....I didn’t have that exact same thing happen, but a lot of them left. It’s ok. The friends you have now, and I have now, are our true friends. So thank you so much for being so open and true with us! It helps us to share our experiences. Thank you for creating the LSF Community! It’s one of the best groups I’ve been a part of. Love you so much! Big hugs 🤗 your way, and God bless you! 🙏 🤗 💕
Hi Marissa! Thank you SO much for sharing your story with me. I can tell how open you are with your vulnerability and that is a beautiful thing. Keep that with you throughout your health journey. I'm so glad you are a part of the LSF community ❤️
Thank you for sharing your personal story, You're beautiful inside out and look how far you have come. I admire you and your story really motivates me since I am also working on loosing weight
It makes me so happy to hear you are feeling motivated!! Keep going, girl. You're worth it 💕
such deep truths here! thanks for sharing!!! and yes we are a family!!!!! i struggled with the same yo yo dieting...that and more led to me losing my trust in myself! choosing self love is truly a revolutionary act!
Omg I sooo needed this. I felt so lost this week in my health journey. Your openness was so helpful and healing for me ❤️❤️❤️
So happy to hear that Brooke!
A wee jatie you make me cry with you, ... I know exactly how that feels and that why i decided to joint the lsf fam your amazing for creating this so we all have a space to feel good and have babes around us to support us thank you
So happy you are a part of the LSF community 💖
Love Sweat Fitness I love it thank you for everything you do :)
You are so sweet ❤️ i love how authentic you are showing us your emotions and letting us in on your journey ❤️ you are wonderful and amazing and awesome 💪💪💪
Thanks Sarah!