I’ve found that physical exercise is extremely helpful. The more I sweat the better I feel both physically and emotionally. Even just walking outside can help as well. Also read books on breakups too. Thanks for another awesome video.
Month 4 and still hurting. I don't feel rejected because she's an Anxious Avoidant. The "what could've been" and how hard we loved each other and the closeness of our kids.
Merci Alexi, I was really struggling today... every day. This really cheered me up 😘 I should mention I've been following spiritual teachers (David Hawkings and Elkhart Tolle ) to become more present with life. A lot of my old toxic identity have gone but I still get trapped by some very negative thoughts that I was not aware of until you described in this video.
3 months since i broke up with him. I still secretly wish he’d unblock me or show up at my house asking to be friends. He was not a good partner so I had to leave… but it doesn’t change the fact that i loved him with all my heart and still love him. I am trying to let go. I’ve deleted all our photos… threw away anything he ever got me. I just wish we could still love each other at a distance, like ya know… i wish you well. N let it go. I’m still upset he blocked me because he was so upset i was ending it. I feel it was so abrupt and i couldn’t even check in on him after that last phone call. Three months here I am in bed searching up videos on how or when I’ll finally be over this. I still hope one day we can be on better terms.
We were in no contact for 2 and half months. Then he found out I was sick and he called me. Then he called me on my birthday. Came once for a signature. Smiled to me when we met(we live in the same apt building). Then one night he invited me over. Said he was looking at me all evening in the garden. He really wanted to know if I have someone. I didn't give any specific answer. I tryed to leave an impression, that I'm not that into him. We were intimate. In the morning he basically told me to go. Because he had an hour to sleep and I had to get up earlier. Next day he thanked me for something I did for hes mom. And that's it. He's not contacting me for 5 days after that. Unfortunatelly I can't afford 1on1 session after my mother died. I really love the man. We've known eachother for 30 years. And in a relationship for 6 months. Would You be willing to give me some advice?🙏
I wish I could help this sounds like my boyfriend, such a painful cycle. He's a dismissive avoidant and I'm a fearful avoidant😞 The only advice I can give is to learn as much as you can about attachment theory and hopefully you can change your ways and find someone more secure. My heart goes out to you❤️
You say you tried to show you’re not attached yet you sleep with him, that’s the issue. He doesn’t need to work hard at having you. A few words and smiles and you gave up the most precious thing you have, your body. So obviously he still has you if he wants and unfortunately the way most humans work people want what they have to work for. What they feel they may lose. You need to truly attempt to move on. It’s NOT about how much you love him or value him. It’s about how much HE loves you and values you and actions speak louder than words. Love yourself as you wish to be loved
I’m 8 months and still depressed. Tried dating another guy but the connection just wasn’t the same. I WhatsApp’ed you guys about trying to get back together but I don’t think he will ever get back with me because of how I acted after the breakup 🥹. Just can’t move on…
I’ve found that physical exercise is extremely helpful. The more I sweat the better I feel both physically and emotionally. Even just walking outside can help as well.
Also read books on breakups too. Thanks for another awesome video.
Month 4 and still hurting. I don't feel rejected because she's an Anxious Avoidant. The "what could've been" and how hard we loved each other and the closeness of our kids.
Are you still hurting now? Do you make no contact? Hope you are better
@SebastianGervasoni18 Thank you for asking. It still hurts, but the sting hurts a little less. God bless
Glad to read you! Tx for your answer. I wish you the best
This particular video was so painful to hear, because it is so true. The “work” can’t be avoided…I have to face this. Thank you Alexis.
Merci Alexi, I was really struggling today... every day. This really cheered me up 😘
I should mention I've been following spiritual teachers (David Hawkings and Elkhart Tolle ) to become more present with life. A lot of my old toxic identity have gone but I still get trapped by some very negative thoughts that I was not aware of until you described in this video.
3 months since i broke up with him. I still secretly wish he’d unblock me or show up at my house asking to be friends. He was not a good partner so I had to leave… but it doesn’t change the fact that i loved him with all my heart and still love him. I am trying to let go. I’ve deleted all our photos… threw away anything he ever got me. I just wish we could still love each other at a distance, like ya know… i wish you well. N let it go. I’m still upset he blocked me because he was so upset i was ending it. I feel it was so abrupt and i couldn’t even check in on him after that last phone call. Three months here I am in bed searching up videos on how or when I’ll finally be over this. I still hope one day we can be on better terms.
this pain has been going on for 4 months now 😣
I’m a chimp that fell for an angry rhino with skin as thick as his brainless skull. 😂 (slight vent there, apologies)
April 28. 9 months and still obsessed. Help
same situation🥲
We were in no contact for 2 and half months. Then he found out I was sick and he called me. Then he called me on my birthday. Came once for a signature. Smiled to me when we met(we live in the same apt building). Then one night he invited me over. Said he was looking at me all evening in the garden. He really wanted to know if I have someone. I didn't give any specific answer. I tryed to leave an impression, that I'm not that into him. We were intimate. In the morning he basically told me to go. Because he had an hour to sleep and I had to get up earlier.
Next day he thanked me for something I did for hes mom.
And that's it. He's not contacting me for 5 days after that.
Unfortunatelly I can't afford 1on1 session after my mother died. I really love the man. We've known eachother for 30 years. And in a relationship for 6 months.
Would You be willing to give me some advice?🙏
I wish I could help this sounds like my boyfriend, such a painful cycle. He's a dismissive avoidant and I'm a fearful avoidant😞 The only advice I can give is to learn as much as you can about attachment theory and hopefully you can change your ways and find someone more secure. My heart goes out to you❤️
You say you tried to show you’re not attached yet you sleep with him, that’s the issue. He doesn’t need to work hard at having you. A few words and smiles and you gave up the most precious thing you have, your body. So obviously he still has you if he wants and unfortunately the way most humans work people want what they have to work for. What they feel they may lose.
You need to truly attempt to move on.
It’s NOT about how much you love him or value him. It’s about how much HE loves you and values you and actions speak louder than words.
Love yourself as you wish to be loved
she left me and there is nothing i can do to change that
Just know she’s hurting too. It’s a two way street.
So helpful, thank you 💙
I’m 8 months and still depressed. Tried dating another guy but the connection just wasn’t the same. I WhatsApp’ed you guys about trying to get back together but I don’t think he will ever get back with me because of how I acted after the breakup 🥹. Just can’t move on…
Are you still depressed now? Do you make no contact? Hope you are better
6 months for me and struggling as well. Feel rejected and even scared to hear about her. This feeling completely sucks and I want it to end 😪
Are you making no contact?@@lasvegasplease