Mirelladlima5278 You turned a light on for me: irritability to loud noises is called misophonia, I found out what that was a few years ago before I found Tim Fletcher, and I have that too!-but I didn’t connect it to my also getting quickly mentally drained in crowds-either we’re matching bookends or twins separated at birth! I am going to be praying for others with our damage.
Have you considered you might be a Highly Sensitive Person? I suggest you check out Dr. Elaine Aron's work, it's been eye-opening for me. And no, it's not that "empath" woo-woo, this is a model for neurological temperament. There is some overlap with (c)ptsd correlates, and indeed trauma can exacerbate sensitivity, going through cptsd myself i can certainly confirm that. But you might be highly sensistive prior to your trauma, and if thit is the case, this knowledge should inform your treatment, and even your everyday life. As soon as I understood that, for me, clubs, fairs, big crowded places, loud situations, needlessly complex or bright environments and furniture are a huge no-no, I just avoid altogether or go for very shallow dips, and my life certainly is much better. Less headaches, oversaturated eyes and ears, less exhaustion. Gnothi seauton!
Misophonia has to deal with noise in a crowded place, music playing, people talking all at the same time is maddening to me also. Also there androphobia or homophobia, that’s plain fear of crowds, like in shopping malls, museums, parks, and generally in closed spaces, even classrooms.
In recovery rooms I have heard, "If you don't deal with your trauma, it will deal with you." Also, 'talk it out or act it out.' Simple, but true. And it can take a long time, but is so worth pursuing. Thanks Tim for your videos, and thank you for wanting to help others heal.
I've listened to this entire series in one week. WOW 😳. What a FIND! Yes, Tim, this is helping immensely!!! It is amazing to have an explanation for how this works. Your work is a much needed Ministry. ❤️🙏❤️ THANK YOU
I will recommend these videos till I die.. I want the high schools to show them... I want to stop others from being abused as an adult the way I was. Covert malignant narc is awful abuse.. Insedious. It is pure psychological abuse..
Just a word to the wise. I was in the same boat awhile back. I couldn't get enough. Listen non stop it was all new info. Let's just say now I'm feeling my brain has left like I don't have racing thoughts or many at all it's been concerning to me. So now I have found there's depersonalization it's where u trauma damaged then all what u learn puts ur mind body and all in full protective mold it does it on its on all because ur nervous systems thinks it being attacked. I overloaded to much and overwhelmed my brain. It's been a rough yr hung in there. Be careful maybe listen then process before cramming so much in a little time.
‘Going into flight/fight/freeze not just in dangerous situations, but in all uncomfortable situations’ this made me feel so understood and a lot of my life just made sense with this perspective. Amazing, thank you Tim🤍
Me too..People don't realise how much an acknowledgement or an apology It's the denial. It's the cover up. It's the grin. That's right. They want to laugh, so they just smile.
15 years into “healing.” This is the most adept presentation on trauma healing I’ve seen to date. I’ve enjoyed many of your videos. I found myself in therapy at 48 years old after the 2008 market crash. My crash destroyed my career. Luckily, my husband was here and is still here to support me - after many years of thinking I was “faking it.” It’s hard for people that haven’t been through this themselves to believe the depth of the issue. We went through many years of “why can’t you just get over it.” Prayers to all on the journey and especially to those that need to find the journey. I imagine that many are the ones we see living on the streets. Sad.
Yes, I call it RantRagings where it just spouts out of their mouths, lies or not, but a continual hollaring of bullshit at you...what is that crap? Well, I went thru that for the first 20 years from my Dad, now in this Trailer Park I have it again. I am sorry, repeat, I know, but, please lord, show me the way...
Super astute and empathetic observations I feel like that's a good start of the conversation I work at st. Vincent thrift store and we help the people daily I see people and think how much abuse and trauma did this soul undergo
Seriously. Total validation when he stated "some people vibrate inside their body." Noone ever understands that I'm being extremely literal when I describe the vibration. Tim unpacked it and nailed it. Total validation.
I got up this morning realizing I need a roll model, I never had one growing up. Tim, you are now my roll model and you wouldn’t believe how old I am. Thank you so very much.😎
I had a perceived rejection today that really smarted for a while. I started using some ideas from your lecture and was able to understand myself and behave. I feel wonderful about that. Thank you so much.
@@james240878call on the name of Jesus and ask him to reveal himself to you. If your heart is searching, what do you have to lose ❤️ praying for your friend.
"Self-compassion: knowing that you have your own friendship no matter what; accepting the person you are right now. If painful emotions do not get resolved, it's too painful to stay connected to them/yourself/other people" Healing=connection + resilience (healing is not linear, there will be setbacks and triggers that are meant to turn our attention to smth important)💛 thank you🙏
Wow! such an amazing amount of expertise on healing, given clearly, humbly, and generously! Thank you, TF; tons of appreciation and gratitude (and awe) from here. Never cease!
This is so helpful. Thank you very much for sharing with us. It's tough at times. Coming out of a lot of brokeness. Having to raise my grandson who is in his teens. At times the state of being exhausted never seems to leave. To have a relationship seems mission impossible. Gladly walking with God has healed me a lot already. But I do reach points of despair and hopelessness. Constantly fighting battles. ...
Thank you ❤your sessions validate everything I endured and fought emotionally mentally for 50 yrs. I now feel I'm on the road to recovery. God bless you x
I feel so much gratitude 🙏🏻and validation to hear all that you present❣️In a sea of misinformation your gift to the world feels like a pleasure cruise❣️
I'm 71 and was the scapegoat role in a highly narcissistic family of 5 children. I could see how horrible my father was to my Mother and my siblings. He used fear to control all of us. His loud loud voice and my Mother crying was my childhood. I legally changed my name from Merle Dean to Kenji Okazaki Leach because my Mother could not pronounce my name and neither could I. That was 10 years ago and I'm finally understanding the depth of my trauma. I socially transitioned M/F almost 4 years ago. It was the "Single" most healing event in my life. I had to let go of my family, but it was the only way to heal. I live next to a beautiful park in Tulsa, Ok, manage a feral cat colony and post videos of the amazing birds. My videos show just one way I work on healing. It's a life long process, but don't give up. I know there is Hope. Bless you Tim for such good information.
Kenji okazaki leach hello my name is waiman. Im in my mid 20s, i moved to oklahoma a few years ago and also on a journy of healing. Id love to talk to you sometime if you would be willing
Complex trauma takes so much time!!!! It is such a process. Reprocessing the trauma needs to be acknowledged once in a safe place, that is why isolation and art is super therapeutic! It is not a straight line!!! The journey is such a roller coaster! Listening to this video!! I am so incredibly happy to have come across your page! I would really like to connect with you to share my story and help be of service to others!!!
For those who are struggling to heal from any traumatic experience, these videos are eyeopeners to the real aspects of what they are going through and how to gradually heal by applying the guidelines Tim has advocated and get the real therapy that supports his work🙏
All the years of therapy, all the years of research and seeking God and you, one man, have finally validated what I’m dealing with and helped me to understand that there’s hope. It’s like you’re talking to me specifically. 😂 I’m very grateful for you.
You are such a wonderful teacher! Now I am learning to understand myself and others better and my everyday life becomes smoother and healthier. Thank you!
Having just left another doctor's office with the echo of me not making a choice to treat my out of control numbers I felt completely unseen...again! My cries for help with my severe ptsd is a leprosy to a world in denial of their own trauma. Yet the truth must be served no matter what...
Hah. How ironic that my therapists only want to give tools to fix the current crisis, not actually look into the cause. I'm disgusted by the failures of the world's mental health approaches. Tim is a rare one. So incredibly insightful and special.
If you want a few others for C-PTSD- Patrick Tehan, Dr. Ramani and the Crappy Childhood Fairy. Each has their own style of giving info, but I am drawn to this group. I think CPtsd is such a specialized sector, that if the counselor has not experienced it for themselves, the really have no ability to help us. I hope this helps. Also, if you have others, please share, as I am willing to explore finding people who understand and have ability to help. Blessings!
I've sent this on to my sister. I have been so frustrated thinking the medical model and now it makes so much more sense what my therapist has been saying. I am progressing. I didn't realize it. My therapist says I've been growing tremendously and I trust her. Thank God, she came into my life. I am still kind of cautious about trusting my own judgment anyway thanks Tim.
Love this. I attended a local class about this and we created a ‘soul map’ with our life’s journey. We then visited and wrote about each part of that map but bringing back in the joy. I had forgotten so many wonderful signs of love/nurture etc I received because I was focussed on the trauma. It has changed my life. A lot of my traumas I can revisit now but they feel like memories there are no big emotions attached to them x
Mr. Fletcher, thank you for putting all this content out there. I had severe trauma inside of me that I know I need to work on and fix. All this knowledge is precious and life-saving. I am so grateful. God bless you sir
Bless you, Tim, for your wonderful series on complex trauma. I see myself and so many others mirrored therein and secrets to recovery have been unlocked. The service you are providing is invaluable, including your unique guidance and perspective. By watching together with my hubby, it unveiled so many secrets I was incapable of explaining in a way he could understand and relieved a huge burden from me and us. I'm so lucky to have a safe and supportive spouse who is eager to understand and participate in a healing relationship. He is the first and only person to be that for me. I'm 65, we've been together for almost 25 years, and our healing journey is very active and ongoing, both very painful at times and also overwhelmingly rewarding. I just wanted to encourage folks to watch this together with a trusted other and see where that takes them.
Oh my! All of your talks have been so revealing to me, from my own childhood trauma to unknowingly passing along things to my children. To put it bluntly is everyone just f***** up? It seems like most or some of these aspects show up in everyone! It’s overwhelming to me. It’s almost like we have to try and heal from some things but impossible to heal from everything. 😢
Thank you so much finally God made somebody that wants to truly help others in a tangible way emotionally and spiritual the body follows ,absolutely fantastic job Oh the Holly Spirit in you can be felt !Praise and Glory to God !
I love watching all of Tim’s videos. ❤ They have been very affirming and eye opening. It helps that there is someone so talented and caring about these topics to discuss them. I love that he goes so in depth, it is very helpful.
Thank you Tim, prior to my Dad's passing he said to me "if I could go back I would not of been so hard on you" he knew he was too much bullied me & brothers, he was raised in an in-- house military school fashioned by his awesome immigrant parents, my grandparents, they had 5 children born during the depression, his family went from starving~success as commercial tuna fisherman during 40's ~late 70's early eighties. Dad accepted an athletic scholarship Stanford football economics. My brothers are so damaged it's scary they make bad decisions. My Dad suffered extreme tuff upbringing, had an older brother that bullied him ruthlessly. I need to join and get serious coupling, relationships. I self isolate picked great looking husbands on the outside, abusive so divorced them etc., really no regrets, I will try to get your help! It's so tuff to find a good therapist, that individually also connect with, but you obviously help thru connection many/myself, Thank you I've significantly healed due to you, God bless you & yours.
Thank you so much for putting this material out there for those of us who need it. ❤️ Learning so much and inspired to get back to my own journey of healing. Amazing work, Tim! Bless 🙏
Im so grateful for your knowledge u have me in tears everytine I watch one of your videos because you speak of things I couldn’t even find words for So distressing to be diagnosed with CPTSD n that’s it hers medication for depression ?! N that’s all the psychiatrist knows about it and any mental health social worker Clueless ! I’m having to study these videos in order to save my own life n I can only remember bits here n there Thanks for every video you have made and may God bless and protect you and all your loved ones 🙏🏻💜🎶🧚♀️🌹✨💕🌸🤍
Bless you Tim (& all who help with making these wonderful videos) ~ Thank you for such clarity & illumination & realisations ~ Love & Gratitude 🙏🤗 And thank you for "the Christian part" too - I've had considerable difficulty for many years with all that but am enjoying your approach & presentation - thank you ❤
I've spent years healing myself with different modalities. Blimey this is depressing as I've still got loads to do! Feels like it's never ending! I have never had any support and still don't. I think that's part of a massive problem for me. That part of me feels f@ked! What a Godsend you are thankyou
With where I am in my journey this episode spoke volumes. TYSM 🙏. In my country mental health care through a doctor is practically non-existent - leading to high suicide rates - but all I needed was this video that validates everything I’m going through. Being triggered constantly and the world no longer feels safe, I can’t work, got financial responsibilities etc that compounds the cycle. But this video will help me do some of the work myself. ❤
In my life I notice, that as I go through life events and the adult developmental stages, I have to revisit the healing process. New waves of memories trigger old wounds, and then new insights arise when I am truthful with myself. "Take captive every thought" as the Bible says.
God bless you, Tim. I used to go for talk therapy once a week for some time. I was given some tools, for sure. However, my therapist was very impatient and i even faked it for her just to keep up with the pace. I now understand why i feel like i haven't really had trauma therapy... no wondr!! Thank you & God bless you.
I am 76 years. I don’t know if it’s too late to go on this journey. I live in mental torment each moment of each and every day. I believe my pain will stop until I’m dead after living a life all alone in misery.
@janetdacruz.. Dear Janet, a biiig hug to you. I'm 53 & feeling I've messed up just about everything & out of energy too.. But we have found our ways here. & I believe there is time.. If we are alive, breathing, this life is sti going, we can make new choices, find connection & yes healing.. Ernestine Shepherd became the oldest female body builder in the Guinness book of records, she still teaches & runs every day, her motto is 'age is nothing but a number' 👍😀 I agree being alone /without effective support or even company is a tricky situation, I'm struggling with the same, I have people I speak with and message but somehow tho they are good people it seems to drain my energy, I guess I am not being 'myself'.. Lots to learn. Maybe you can find a therapist to get started, someone like Tim would be wonderful, I wish for myself too. Also have you lived with animal/s? They can be very supportive & nourishing, & a way to connect a bit more with other humans. I ended up living with a beautiful sweetheart Staffie dog named Two Sox Athena. She died suddenly last year aged 8, biggest heartbreak of my life so far, bless her, tho I 'know' the energy of all of us continues, but her waggy tail & warm furry lovingness is not here, so it's a lot to lose, & sooo many humans know that pain but the love of such a connection is deeply precious, and many dogs and other animals need loving homes and give such a lot in return. Much love to you, please persevere & know that you cAn feel better & happier. Where thought goes, energy follows. So hard when feeling down to think brighter thoughts, but is apparently the way it works, imagining what we want & how it feels to already hBd it is what helps to manifest it, and being grateful for even the smallest things we can notice helps the Universe bring us more things that we can feel grateful for, & the upward spiral slowly begins.. Including asking for help and receiving help.. I ask the Angels as it can be hard to ask humans, tho there are actually many lovely ones around who will be glad to help if they only knew how you are actually feeling. Balm to your heart, and courage, may we all be well & happy & feel supported, connected, loved 💖
Baby steps. I am 75. I was a “ giver” all my life only to eventually be the predictable scapegoat. You are alive today. Be kind to you. Start back over with Tim’s part one and listen again. Let go of the narcs in your life, and YOU start with little steps to get out of that prison. It is possible. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Thank you Tim. I’ve found your content a couple of months ago. Considering where I am in my journey currently, this was your best video so far. I have consumed a lot of CPTSD content on UA-cam with varying degrees of quality over the past year after several attempts at “fixing myself” on my own for the past 5 years or so. I really wish I had found these lectures earlier. Would have saved me a lot of trouble, frustration and from taking some misleading paths. Again, thank you for all the work you do.
Thank you for your teaching. I really really miss your Bible studies! That's what drew me to you in the first place. Hope you will add that back to your therapy. Mahalo Nui
They are such a blessing aren’t they. I cannot deny it, therapy and that biblical teaching aswell is the biggest bonus for us who believe. There are so many therapists appealing to the world and I just feel Tim strikes such a beautiful balance. ❤
@@CM7777... I have not seen him promoting psychedelics. Can you evidence this? He also agrees with Gabor Mate who is heavily new age BUT the evidence of trauma and connection to disease and illness is very clear. I have come from the new age deception to Jesus, many are. And we are very cautious of new age deception in the church.
Tim, Thank you Thank you Thank you for working with all of the pain of others and staying intact, then morphing into a master healer. Your amazing. Trae
Thank you so much Tim! I love the last comment about psychedelics. I was able to heal very deep wounds with MDMA and psilocybin, yet I still have a long way to go in changing my negative thinking and repressed emotions.
Thank you for your work. I am in the process of healing, but the ups and downs made me think maybe i am bipolar. Now i understand the mechanism a lot better.
I found emdr very helpful. It gave me thr ability to set boundaries around toxic people. Sadly it took me decades to find the right therapist who does emdr. 40 years of therapy on and off, mostly on. A lot if time. A lot of mone. A lot of therapists are useless
Great, invaluable knowledge by Tim. I'm starting my healing now, being 40 years old and getting to grips how having 2 angry parents has affected me. Please somebody help him organize his videos on his yt channel. It's so hard to navigate as it is.
58:22 i healed my trauma and mental illness by writing it down before the trip and reading it out loud during numerous psychedelic trips. but i only trip if i have THCA to destroy anxiety/future and CBD to destroy depression/past. Never use THC with psychedelics because it just dulls the trip and if it's sativa, it can increase anxiety and if it's indica it can make you sleepy. I need to tell my story and share my protocol because without THCA (and CBD) you don't have a rubber isolator under the building to protect it during emotional psychedelic earthquakes you are inducing to recollect catalyze and neutralize bad memories into inert facts. #thca from Jade Nectar.
I ❤ Tim Fletcher - sent by our Creator and our Creators universal law of attraction - dedicated with extreme detailed empathy and so very insightful - if its too late fir me at nearly 69 and in all ways of health - listen to his videos among those like him and -- -- follow his calculated words with wisdim - do not wait or slack off -
This comment is both painfully sad, and incredibly accurate. Here in the uS, it has come down to exactly that. Good healthcare is strictly for the wealthy.
Yes..but where there's a will there's a way..there are ways of getting help that are affordable..never give up and keep doing what you can...miracles are all around us. Keep the faith 🙏💗
I think it's interesting that the goal of healing is a good job and a family. Have you considered that bosses and families might be toxic? Maybe healing is being happy single. Don't settle.
The trouble is there are not enough therapists counsellors who understand the complexity of child complex PTSD, The help they provided me was one hour per week for eight weeks counselling, that adds up to one day, how can they expect people to process a life time of supressed feelings and emotions brought on by the experience's? Also the first day of counselling i was presented with a form to sign, I was like why have i got to sign a form to get counselling? I said i would take it home and read it properly before i signed it, I was so glad i did, as it was not just a form, it was a contract, and it literally said that if the individual seeking counselling was assumed to be a threat as in a "terrorist" or may commit "treason" they can send "outside agents" to come and take you away! What the heck is all that about? I did not sign that contract that is held against you for five years, how many people seeking help knew that was a contract they were signing? The therapist said I was the only one who had a problem signing it? Maybe that's because the people signing it were not able to think straight due to all their unresolved trauma! You do not always have to have anyone else to help heal from past trauma, yes its good to have someone to rebound your words off, to repeat what you have just said, as sometimes we speak and we are not aware of what we are saying. Yet there are tools we were given that we were born with that can help us to reconnect and process what the child we were had no way of processing. If we cannot find the right individual who can help us we can use the creative tools to do it. Writing down your memories can trigger of other memories that we may have forgotten, using colour, form, shapes, lines, doodles abstract painting, can reveal so much about us, dreams also helpful, write down your dreams, you can travel into your past in dreams, i went back many times to be with the little girl i once was, being chased by a vampire, i held her hand and let her know she was not alone. I even dreamt of myself as an angry sad teen, I was an adult in the dream chasing myself down the road i wanted to hug her and tell her everything would be okay, but my teen self was so full of fear, she ran away. That's when i realised i had been running away from myself, when we choose really choose in our hearts to change, even when we don't know how to change, if we put in the effort to acknowledge and to process the emotions and feelings created by the experiences we find those creative tools in the process. I was diagnosed as dyslexic as an adult, still have trouble with grammar spelling, yet i have improved so much since oi first began writing down my thoughts and feelings. At first all words were jumbled my writing made no sense what so ever, i could not even read it as the spellings were so bad. Part of me wanted to just give up! Yet that other part of me was like NO! if you give up who are you giving up on? MYself, i would be giving up on myself, so i continued, i wrote whatever i could remember down, i got a computer for the dyslexia and it helped me spell, I gave the little girl i was a voice, and a creative way to express her pain. Years of painting doodlings, produced childlike images, childlike drawings, expressions of a trouble soul. Then over the years i began to notice the changes, i also found i had a gift of writing poetry, i ad a spiritual experience that seemed to unlock my creativity, after i had cried a sea of tears over a two year period, my tears would flow like a broken tap, i could not speak at all at first the sobs were overwhelming me, i did not know how to speak? I was an adult in the body only inside i was a child who had not grown I had to learn everything again, how to express my feelings, how to communicate without swearing using profanities, they were my only language at that time. I had learnt I was not as angry and i could now go outside without people wanting to fight me, the anger within me that was a magnet to other angry lost people was diminished, the two years of crying had washed it away, and replaced it with calm crystal waters, i saw colour for the first time, colour that made me stand in awe! That may sound strange, but all i saw before that must have been black and white, grey like the way i felt. However now the colour was vibrant and i could not get over the beauty of the flowers around me. Crystal waters giving us eyes to see in colour, all that abuse had darkened and dirted my inner waters so i could not see colour, and had distorted my perception of myself and the world around me. I am 57 now, and still processing, sometimes i feel i am back in a rut, and get a tad mad at myself, but watching Tims videos has made me realise i am doing better than i thought, It maybe a longer healing process recovering on your own, yet it is achievable, using the tools mentioned, I just wanted to share that with others who may also be struggling to find the right help. Stereo Surrounded by trapped emotions My feelings and voice was unheard I was locked in this box of confusion My memories were shoddy and blurred Forward is my destination Rewind is the past that made me Play is my role in this picture Pause is my hope to be free
Everything always says you need safe, healthy community to relate to. How do you find that when you are so far past being done with trusting the wrong people that you're JUST DONE with people? I have literally made dozens of attempts at finding community; but all I've gotten are DOZENS OF FURTHER DISCONFIRMING EXPERIENCES. Really isn't anywhere for me in this world. I've been in therapy 15 years, going nowhere effective enough. I have never had basic security in my life. I am constantly treading water. I'm not sure why I bother treading water and making outreach attempts when all my attempts just keep me in water...for more treading. :(
That was a serious question by the way, I don't know how to meet good people. I have a supportive partner but she is being regularly abused by her narcissistic family and she is the scapegoat. I try to be strong for her but I feel myself nearing break down because I don't have healthy relationships. I grew up the the one that has no needs to be invisible to protect myself I don't even know how to have needs. When I was in kindergarten we were supposed to draw what we wanted to be when we got older, I sat there and didn't know what to do..I got reprimanded by the teacher for not participating, I'm super late for work so maybe I'll check back later
Tim, since you also teach in churches, what's your take on the spiritual aspects of CPTSD and many people who operate on Deliverence as a method of retrieving a person and their soul from demonic strongholds to be able to heal?
Tim i thank yiu , once again , i really use these as a big help. What can i do to help myself with anger , and ptsd As nothing has worked. If not steps and sction steps which simply dont work ....im curious and iprn mindrd to what ? Will be affective , Is there life after trauma ? Is doesn't feel it ..
Therapy is a useful tool, but it can be invalidating how people seem to think that going to therapy is a simple solution or that sitting your butt at a therapist's office every week is making you healthier each time. If only it worked that way.
I feel like I will never going to have the opportunity to heal. Unfortunately, to be able to heal, you need to be able to afford it. And I, someone who self-destructed my own life, can barely pay rent...
Read the man who thinks he can poem by Walter D. Wintle, I’m battling with healing too one thing that stunts my growth is my defeatist mindset. If you feel defeated you already lost.
@@divine3096 I appreciate your comment. But it's not even a matter of "I can do it", I'm literally homeless and I don't have any way to get out of it. I also have health issues, eyesight issues, can't afford glasses, etc. To be able to heal, I'd have to be able to find a safe place, as Tim says it himself, have a stable life, etc. So, I think it's just too late .
May an angel sit with you in daily meditation and prayer to re-connect with the cells of your body providing strength and resiliency to its own miraculous ability to reprogram itself through FAITH
I pray and have at least some hope to the end - someone will come and break into this cruel cult surrounding me and my name throughout my life before my 70th birthday next year. I am in bad health in every way that never shouldve been. I didnt know no matter how i was abused. It hurt more to hate but they all covered it up as they do now and convince all i encounter of their bad deeds to me to blame me - for at present - the most humanly impossible sinful crimes- hideous when it began with my baby boomer siblings - and what escalated as they shut me down for most of my life- i fear they and all they still try to gaslight - are leading the overall good people presently in this world to an evil means to the end of all good- truth- love- innocense-light- kindness- spirituality way over materialism before it is too late. Please believe me. And I thank you and i pray God continues to bless *** Tim Fletcher.
Quite easy to listen to. However, I do wonder if he’s being a bit too cautious or a perfectionist in requiring a surrogate family, community and therapist in a seemingly ever lasting journey to overcoming trauma. Ideally true perhaps but then that could be said for anything in life.
Me and my 2 cats were evicted. 2 more days and my section 8 voucher expires. Still here under cruel sadistic - wildly immature bullying & manipulative life threat no one to trust - no kin ever- or friends - shut down here for over a decade by liars from😮 society's high to low - thinking- - lame in my legs - thinking good thoughts - physical moves in chores etc help -meantime - holding on minute by minute - praying too - waiting for the once in my life - help sent by the Lord's power of attraction for us - faith, hope but the best 💘
And medicare will only subsidise 5 sessions with a psychologist. This is not even enough to begin to trust the therapist, but just long enough to open a whole mess of wounds before releasing you back out into the world in a state of terror and despair. You can't do it alone, but help is not that easy to find.
Tim Fletcher is the best thing that has happened to the internet
Agreed!
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I agree. A beautiful soul💖
I wish every human understood what he teaches. So much LOVE and appreciation for him💖💖💖
Absolutely!
So true. I’m so grateful for him xxxx
I realised that my irritability to loud noises and getting quickly mentally drained in crowds was a stress response to my early childhood trauma 🙏
Thank you for saying so , I go thru this too....daily it seems ....I use buddhism tho..not any religion.❤
Mirelladlima5278 You turned a light on for me: irritability to loud noises is
called misophonia, I found out what that was a few years ago before I found Tim Fletcher, and I have that too!-but I didn’t connect it to my also getting quickly mentally drained in crowds-either we’re matching bookends or twins separated at birth! I am going to be praying for others with our damage.
Omg thanks for saying that! I deal or don’t deal with crowds or chaos very well either.
Have you considered you might be a Highly Sensitive Person? I suggest you check out Dr. Elaine Aron's work, it's been eye-opening for me. And no, it's not that "empath" woo-woo, this is a model for neurological temperament.
There is some overlap with (c)ptsd correlates, and indeed trauma can exacerbate sensitivity, going through cptsd myself i can certainly confirm that.
But you might be highly sensistive prior to your trauma, and if thit is the case, this knowledge should inform your treatment, and even your everyday life. As soon as I understood that, for me, clubs, fairs, big crowded places, loud situations, needlessly complex or bright environments and furniture are a huge no-no, I just avoid altogether or go for very shallow dips, and my life certainly is much better. Less headaches, oversaturated eyes and ears, less exhaustion. Gnothi seauton!
Misophonia has to deal with noise in a crowded place, music playing, people talking all at the same time is maddening to me also. Also there androphobia or homophobia, that’s plain fear of crowds, like in shopping malls, museums, parks, and generally in closed spaces, even classrooms.
In recovery rooms I have heard, "If you don't deal with your trauma, it will deal with you." Also, 'talk it out or act it out.' Simple, but true. And it can take a long time, but is so worth pursuing. Thanks Tim for your videos, and thank you for wanting to help others heal.
Walking in nature helps to calm the frayed nerves 🙏
Amen!
I wish people would spend as much time watching content like this instead of the garbage that fills the internet...the world would be better...😢
100%
Living so disconnected is painful too. It feels completely empty inside.
This is very helpful information.
Yes it is!❤
I've listened to this entire series in one week. WOW 😳. What a FIND!
Yes, Tim, this is helping immensely!!!
It is amazing to have an explanation for how this works.
Your work is a much needed Ministry. ❤️🙏❤️
THANK YOU
Totally! I just came to the topic betrayal trauma and I FINALLY understand myself!
@pjsparrow8641 - couldn’t agree more with you 🙏
Amen 🙏🏾
I will recommend these videos till I die..
I want the high schools to show them... I want to stop others from being abused as an adult the way I was. Covert malignant narc is awful abuse.. Insedious. It is pure psychological abuse..
He is my favourite UA-camr now. Been listening nonstop for 2 weeks. He has been tremendousluly helpful in my healing journey. God bless.
Just a word to the wise. I was in the same boat awhile back. I couldn't get enough. Listen non stop it was all new info. Let's just say now I'm feeling my brain has left like I don't have racing thoughts or many at all it's been concerning to me. So now I have found there's depersonalization it's where u trauma damaged then all what u learn puts ur mind body and all in full protective mold it does it on its on all because ur nervous systems thinks it being attacked. I overloaded to much and overwhelmed my brain. It's been a rough yr hung in there. Be careful maybe listen then process before cramming so much in a little time.
Me too!
‘Going into flight/fight/freeze not just in dangerous situations, but in all uncomfortable situations’ this made me feel so understood and a lot of my life just made sense with this perspective. Amazing, thank you Tim🤍
Absolutely
Amen. That massive wave of anxiety, is the worst, ! I am safe. Over and over, clap your hands.
Couldn't relate more 🙌.
You just answered my question before i even listened to the video. I feel understood. I am just discovering all this
Me too..People don't realise how much an acknowledgement or an apology
It's the denial. It's the cover up. It's the grin. That's right. They want to laugh, so they just smile.
15 years into “healing.” This is the most adept presentation on trauma healing I’ve seen to date. I’ve enjoyed many of your videos. I found myself in therapy at 48 years old after the 2008 market crash. My crash destroyed my career. Luckily, my husband was here and is still here to support me - after many years of thinking I was “faking it.” It’s hard for people that haven’t been through this themselves to believe the depth of the issue. We went through many years of “why can’t you just get over it.” Prayers to all on the journey and especially to those that need to find the journey. I imagine that many are the ones we see living on the streets. Sad.
Or just next door as "crazies". Yes, long overdue for serious help and only periodically take thèir medications. And go with rant raging...
Yes, I call it RantRagings where it just spouts out of their mouths, lies or not, but a continual hollaring of bullshit at you...what is that crap?
Well, I went thru that for the first 20 years from my Dad, now in this Trailer Park I have it again. I am sorry, repeat, I know, but, please lord, show me the way...
Super astute and empathetic observations I feel like that's a good start of the conversation I work at st. Vincent thrift store and we help the people daily I see people and think how much abuse and trauma did this soul undergo
Seriously. Total validation when he stated "some people vibrate inside their body." Noone ever understands that I'm being extremely literal when I describe the vibration. Tim unpacked it and nailed it. Total validation.
Isn't it? How does he make more sense than any of the seemingly thousands of other UA-cam videos.
I got up this morning realizing I need a roll model, I never had one growing up. Tim, you are now my roll model and you wouldn’t believe how old I am. Thank you so very much.😎
I had a perceived rejection today that really smarted for a while. I started using some ideas from your lecture and was able to understand myself and behave. I feel wonderful about that. Thank you so much.
God is really real.
A weight has been lifted off me.
God's peace is amazing
I don’t personally believe in God, but this comment brought me to tears somehow
@@james240878call on the name of Jesus and ask him to reveal himself to you. If your heart is searching, what do you have to lose ❤️ praying for your friend.
I've had a complicated relationship with the Almighty. Slowly coming back to it but do not consider church to be safe.
Thank you thank you thank you.
You are refreshing my wounded soul .
God is using you to heal
"Self-compassion: knowing that you have your own friendship no matter what; accepting the person you are right now.
If painful emotions do not get resolved, it's too painful to stay connected to them/yourself/other people"
Healing=connection + resilience (healing is not linear, there will be setbacks and triggers that are meant to turn our attention to smth important)💛 thank you🙏
Wow! such an amazing amount of expertise on healing, given clearly, humbly, and generously! Thank you, TF; tons of appreciation and gratitude (and awe) from here. Never cease!
Thank you Tim ❤ see you every Friday is something beautiful in my life
This is so helpful.
Thank you very much for sharing with us.
It's tough at times. Coming out of a lot of brokeness. Having to raise my grandson who is in his teens. At times the state of being exhausted never seems to leave.
To have a relationship seems mission impossible.
Gladly walking with God has healed me a lot already.
But I do reach points of despair and hopelessness.
Constantly fighting battles.
...
Number one online value for emotional self awareness & healing.
Thank you ❤your sessions validate everything I endured and fought emotionally mentally for 50 yrs. I now feel I'm on the road to recovery. God bless you x
I feel so much gratitude 🙏🏻and validation to hear all that you present❣️In a sea of misinformation your gift to the world feels like a pleasure cruise❣️
I'm 71 and was the scapegoat role in a highly narcissistic family of 5 children. I could see how horrible my father was to my Mother and my siblings. He used fear to control all of us. His loud loud voice and my Mother crying was my childhood. I legally changed my name from Merle Dean to Kenji Okazaki Leach because my Mother could not pronounce my name and neither could I. That was 10 years ago and I'm finally understanding the depth of my trauma. I socially transitioned M/F almost 4 years ago. It was the "Single" most healing event in my life. I had to let go of my family, but it was the only way to heal. I live next to a beautiful park in Tulsa, Ok, manage a feral cat colony and post videos of the amazing birds. My videos show just one way I work on healing. It's a life long process, but don't give up. I know there is Hope. Bless you Tim for such good information.
Kenji okazaki leach hello my name is waiman. Im in my mid 20s, i moved to oklahoma a few years ago and also on a journy of healing. Id love to talk to you sometime if you would be willing
you are amazing. Keep going ❤
Complex trauma takes so much time!!!! It is such a process. Reprocessing the trauma needs to be acknowledged once in a safe place, that is why isolation and art is super therapeutic! It is not a straight line!!! The journey is such a roller coaster! Listening to this video!! I am so incredibly happy to have come across your page! I would really like to connect with you to share my story and help be of service to others!!!
For those who are struggling to heal from any traumatic experience, these videos are eyeopeners to the real aspects of what they are going through and how to gradually heal by applying the guidelines Tim has advocated and get the real therapy that supports his work🙏
All the years of therapy, all the years of research and seeking God and you, one man, have finally validated what I’m dealing with and helped me to understand that there’s hope. It’s like you’re talking to me specifically. 😂 I’m very grateful for you.
You are such a wonderful teacher! Now I am learning to understand myself and others better and my everyday life becomes smoother and healthier. Thank you!
Having just left another doctor's office with the echo of me not making a choice to treat my out of control numbers I felt completely unseen...again! My cries for help with my severe ptsd is a leprosy to a world in denial of their own trauma. Yet the truth must be served no matter what...
Hah. How ironic that my therapists only want to give tools to fix the current crisis, not actually look into the cause. I'm disgusted by the failures of the world's mental health approaches. Tim is a rare one. So incredibly insightful and special.
If you want a few others for C-PTSD- Patrick Tehan, Dr. Ramani and the Crappy Childhood Fairy.
Each has their own style of giving info, but I am drawn to this group. I think CPtsd is such a specialized sector, that if the counselor has not experienced it for themselves, the really have no ability to help us.
I hope this helps.
Also, if you have others, please share, as I am willing to explore finding people who understand and have ability to help.
Blessings!
I've sent this on to my sister. I have been so frustrated thinking the medical model and now it makes so much more sense what my therapist has been saying. I am progressing. I didn't realize it. My therapist says I've been growing tremendously and I trust her. Thank God, she came into my life. I am still kind of cautious about trusting my own judgment anyway thanks Tim.
Love this. I attended a local class about this and we created a ‘soul map’ with our life’s journey. We then visited and wrote about each part of that map but bringing back in the joy. I had forgotten so many wonderful signs of love/nurture etc I received because I was focussed on the trauma. It has changed my life. A lot of my traumas I can revisit now but they feel like memories there are no big emotions attached to them x
Mr. Fletcher, thank you for putting all this content out there. I had severe trauma inside of me that I know I need to work on and fix. All this knowledge is precious and life-saving. I am so grateful. God bless you sir
The scary movie & roller coaster metaphors for reprocessing trauma are brilliant
Bless you, Tim, for your wonderful series on complex trauma. I see myself and so many others mirrored therein and secrets to recovery have been unlocked. The service you are providing is invaluable, including your unique guidance and perspective. By watching together with my hubby, it unveiled so many secrets I was incapable of explaining in a way he could understand and relieved a huge burden from me and us. I'm so lucky to have a safe and supportive spouse who is eager to understand and participate in a healing relationship. He is the first and only person to be that for me. I'm 65, we've been together for almost 25 years, and our healing journey is very active and ongoing, both very painful at times and also overwhelmingly rewarding. I just wanted to encourage folks to watch this together with a trusted other and see where that takes them.
How can he be a role model if he isn't modeling in front of you day to day? He can't
Oh my! All of your talks have been so revealing to me, from my own childhood trauma to unknowingly passing along things to my children. To put it bluntly is everyone just f***** up? It seems like most or some of these aspects show up in everyone! It’s overwhelming to me. It’s almost like we have to try and heal from some things but impossible to heal from everything. 😢
Thank you so much finally God made somebody that wants to truly help others in a tangible way emotionally and spiritual the body follows ,absolutely fantastic job Oh the Holly Spirit in you can be felt !Praise and Glory to God !
I love watching all of Tim’s videos. ❤ They have been very affirming and eye opening. It helps that there is someone so talented and caring about these topics to discuss them. I love that he goes so in depth, it is very helpful.
Great work! Thank you.
Great video again Tim! Thank you!
Thank you Tim, prior to my Dad's passing he said to me "if I could go back I would not of been so hard on you" he knew he was too much bullied me & brothers, he was raised in an in-- house military school fashioned by his awesome immigrant parents, my grandparents, they had 5 children born during the depression, his family went from starving~success as commercial tuna fisherman during 40's ~late 70's early eighties. Dad accepted an athletic scholarship Stanford football economics. My brothers are so damaged it's scary they make bad decisions. My Dad suffered extreme tuff upbringing, had an older brother that bullied him ruthlessly. I need to join and get serious coupling, relationships. I self isolate picked great looking husbands on the outside, abusive so divorced them etc., really no regrets, I will try to get your help! It's so tuff to find a good therapist, that individually also connect with, but you obviously help thru connection many/myself, Thank you I've significantly healed due to you, God bless you & yours.
Thank you for these videos. I’m learning so much.
Grateful for this man and channel. Thank you
Thank you Tim Fletcher I love you ❤
I so appreciate your content. You have helped me and everyone I come in contact with. Yay God! Thank you.
Great at explaining CPTSD.
Very knowledgeable!!
Thank you 🙏 ❤️🩹
Thank you so much for putting this material out there for those of us who need it. ❤️ Learning so much and inspired to get back to my own journey of healing.
Amazing work, Tim! Bless 🙏
Im so grateful for your knowledge u have me in tears everytine I watch one of your videos because you speak of things I couldn’t even find words for
So distressing to be diagnosed with CPTSD n that’s it hers medication for depression ?!
N that’s all the psychiatrist knows about it and any mental health social worker
Clueless ! I’m having to study these videos in order to save my own life n I can only remember bits here n there
Thanks for every video you have made and may God bless and protect you and all your loved ones 🙏🏻💜🎶🧚♀️🌹✨💕🌸🤍
I was ready to go to the next level of learning and healing and i found this amazing resource on the internet. Its really helping
So, so good! 🙏🏾 This has been my journey thus far. 🙌🏾
Bless you Tim (& all who help with making these wonderful videos) ~ Thank you for such clarity & illumination & realisations ~ Love & Gratitude 🙏🤗 And thank you for "the Christian part" too - I've had considerable difficulty for many years with all that but am enjoying your approach & presentation - thank you ❤
I've spent years healing myself with different modalities. Blimey this is depressing as I've still got loads to do! Feels like it's never ending! I have never had any support and still don't. I think that's part of a massive problem for me. That part of me feels f@ked! What a Godsend you are thankyou
With where I am in my journey this episode spoke volumes. TYSM 🙏. In my country mental health care through a doctor is practically non-existent - leading to high suicide rates - but all I needed was this video that validates everything I’m going through. Being triggered constantly and the world no longer feels safe, I can’t work, got financial responsibilities etc that compounds the cycle. But this video will help me do some of the work myself. ❤
Where are you from?
@@sem1663 the UK. However, I’ve only recently been made aware that it’s my GP surgery that is being unsupportive.
In my life I notice, that as I go through life events and the adult developmental stages, I have to revisit the healing process. New waves of memories trigger old wounds, and then new insights arise when I am truthful with myself. "Take captive every thought" as the Bible says.
A M A Z I N G ! ! ! THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH!!!
Thank you, wonderful information that is so critically helpful.
God bless you, Tim. I used to go for talk therapy once a week for some time. I was given some tools, for sure. However, my therapist was very impatient and i even faked it for her just to keep up with the pace. I now understand why i feel like i haven't really had trauma therapy... no wondr!!
Thank you & God bless you.
I would love to have, and be a part of a support group
I am 76 years. I don’t know if it’s too late to go on this journey. I live in mental torment each moment of each and every day. I believe my pain will stop until I’m dead after living a life all alone in misery.
@janetdacruz.. Dear Janet, a biiig hug to you. I'm 53 & feeling I've messed up just about everything & out of energy too.. But we have found our ways here. & I believe there is time.. If we are alive, breathing, this life is sti going, we can make new choices, find connection & yes healing.. Ernestine Shepherd became the oldest female body builder in the Guinness book of records, she still teaches & runs every day, her motto is 'age is nothing but a number' 👍😀
I agree being alone /without effective support or even company is a tricky situation, I'm struggling with the same, I have people I speak with and message but somehow tho they are good people it seems to drain my energy, I guess I am not being 'myself'.. Lots to learn. Maybe you can find a therapist to get started, someone like Tim would be wonderful, I wish for myself too.
Also have you lived with animal/s? They can be very supportive & nourishing, & a way to connect a bit more with other humans. I ended up living with a beautiful sweetheart Staffie dog named Two Sox Athena. She died suddenly last year aged 8, biggest heartbreak of my life so far, bless her, tho I 'know' the energy of all of us continues, but her waggy tail & warm furry lovingness is not here, so it's a lot to lose, & sooo many humans know that pain but the love of such a connection is deeply precious, and many dogs and other animals need loving homes and give such a lot in return. Much love to you, please persevere & know that you cAn feel better & happier. Where thought goes, energy follows. So hard when feeling down to think brighter thoughts, but is apparently the way it works, imagining what we want & how it feels to already hBd it is what helps to manifest it, and being grateful for even the smallest things we can notice helps the Universe bring us more things that we can feel grateful for, & the upward spiral slowly begins.. Including asking for help and receiving help.. I ask the Angels as it can be hard to ask humans, tho there are actually many lovely ones around who will be glad to help if they only knew how you are actually feeling.
Balm to your heart, and courage, may we all be well & happy & feel supported, connected, loved 💖
Never too late. I’m not much younger than you and I’m determined to live the rest of my life differently.
I'm so sorry ...I can relate and you deserve to be safe and happy ..🙏💕
@@iainpalmer4320same. And I agree with you, it’s never too late. I am 32 😊
Baby steps. I am 75. I was a “ giver” all my life only to eventually be the predictable scapegoat. You are alive today. Be kind to you. Start back over with Tim’s part one and listen again. Let go of the narcs in your life, and YOU start with little steps to get out of that prison. It is possible. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Thank you Tim. I’ve found your content a couple of months ago. Considering where I am in my journey currently, this was your best video so far.
I have consumed a lot of CPTSD content on UA-cam with varying degrees of quality over the past year after several attempts at “fixing myself” on my own for the past 5 years or so.
I really wish I had found these lectures earlier. Would have saved me a lot of trouble, frustration and from taking some misleading paths.
Again, thank you for all the work you do.
Thank you for your teaching. I really really miss your Bible studies! That's what drew me to you in the first place. Hope you will add that back to your therapy. Mahalo Nui
They are such a blessing aren’t they. I cannot deny it, therapy and that biblical teaching aswell is the biggest bonus for us who believe. There are so many therapists appealing to the world and I just feel Tim strikes such a beautiful balance. ❤
He promotes psychedelics. They open users up to demonic influence. What kind of a pastor doesn't know that?
@@CM7777... I have not seen him promoting psychedelics. Can you evidence this? He also agrees with Gabor Mate who is heavily new age BUT the evidence of trauma and connection to disease and illness is very clear. I have come from the new age deception to Jesus, many are. And we are very cautious of new age deception in the church.
Tim,
Thank you
Thank you
Thank you for working with all of the pain of others and staying intact, then morphing into a master healer.
Your amazing.
Trae
Great information. Needed this
Thanks!
Oh ❤you’re the best, finding you starting to fix me , oh my helping me understand why I keep falling for same guy different package
Thank you so much Tim!
I love the last comment about psychedelics. I was able to heal very deep wounds with MDMA and psilocybin, yet I still have a long way to go in changing my negative thinking and repressed emotions.
Thank you lm regularly tunings in to your talks.
Thank you for your work. I am in the process of healing, but the ups and downs made me think maybe i am bipolar. Now i understand the mechanism a lot better.
Thank you ❤❤❤ so helpful!
3:35 #1 Before someone can start to heal from trauma they need to feel safe.
Many thanks for all these insights and giving me hope 🙏 that I can stop this life sentence ....
I found emdr very helpful. It gave me thr ability to set boundaries around toxic people.
Sadly it took me decades to find the right therapist who does emdr.
40 years of therapy on and off, mostly on.
A lot if time. A lot of mone. A lot of therapists are useless
Thank you for this incredible video.
Great, invaluable knowledge by Tim.
I'm starting my healing now, being 40 years old and getting to grips how having 2 angry parents has affected me.
Please somebody help him organize his videos on his yt channel. It's so hard to navigate as it is.
Thank you so much! 🙏
58:22 i healed my trauma and mental illness by writing it down before the trip and reading it out loud during numerous psychedelic trips. but i only trip if i have THCA to destroy anxiety/future and CBD to destroy depression/past. Never use THC with psychedelics because it just dulls the trip and if it's sativa, it can increase anxiety and if it's indica it can make you sleepy. I need to tell my story and share my protocol because without THCA (and CBD) you don't have a rubber isolator under the building to protect it during emotional psychedelic earthquakes you are inducing to recollect catalyze and neutralize bad memories into inert facts. #thca from Jade Nectar.
I ❤ Tim Fletcher - sent by our Creator and our Creators universal law of attraction - dedicated with extreme detailed empathy and so very insightful - if its too late fir me at nearly 69 and in all ways of health - listen to his videos among those like him and -- -- follow his calculated words with wisdim - do not wait or slack off -
Thank you im getting into therapy for sure. Great advice🎉🎉🎉
Healing is for rich people who have the time and convenience.
This comment is both painfully sad, and incredibly accurate. Here in the uS, it has come down to exactly that. Good healthcare is strictly for the wealthy.
Money helps, for sure. At the same time, it brings other issues that could complicate their problems even more
Yes..but where there's a will there's a way..there are ways of getting help that are affordable..never give up and keep doing what you can...miracles are all around us. Keep the faith 🙏💗
There is some truth to this. Being able to take the steps that are most helpful in overcoming CPTSD is almost impossible without privilege
Depending on the person psychedelic mushrooms can boost this process significantly
THANK YOU!
I think it's interesting that the goal of healing is a good job and a family. Have you considered that bosses and families might be toxic? Maybe healing is being happy single. Don't settle.
Prayers
German language is not easy, I live here 31 years ago. I am still learning... VPO.. TY!
German sprache... VPO.. TY!
Sound quality makes it tough on my fried brain. Thank for the transcript/subtitle reading option 👍🙏✌️
Engine overhaul plus precision welding the cracked block back together 😉
Taking this analogy deeper… each piston(we run v12 trauma power) will need be honed(diving into trauma) and sleeved(retooling)
The trouble is there are not enough therapists counsellors who understand the complexity of child complex PTSD, The help they provided me was one hour per week for eight weeks counselling, that adds up to one day, how can they expect people to process a life time of supressed feelings and emotions brought on by the experience's?
Also the first day of counselling i was presented with a form to sign, I was like why have i got to sign a form to get counselling?
I said i would take it home and read it properly before i signed it, I was so glad i did, as it was not just a form, it was a contract, and it literally said that if the individual seeking counselling was assumed to be a threat as in a "terrorist" or may commit "treason" they can send "outside agents" to come and take you away!
What the heck is all that about?
I did not sign that contract that is held against you for five years, how many people seeking help knew that was a contract they were signing?
The therapist said I was the only one who had a problem signing it?
Maybe that's because the people signing it were not able to think straight due to all their unresolved trauma!
You do not always have to have anyone else to help heal from past trauma, yes its good to have someone to rebound your words off, to repeat what you have just said, as sometimes we speak and we are not aware of what we are saying.
Yet there are tools we were given that we were born with that can help us to reconnect and process what the child we were had no way of processing.
If we cannot find the right individual who can help us we can use the creative tools to do it.
Writing down your memories can trigger of other memories that we may have forgotten, using colour, form, shapes, lines, doodles abstract painting, can reveal so much about us, dreams also helpful, write down your dreams, you can travel into your past in dreams, i went back many times to be with the little girl i once was, being chased by a vampire, i held her hand and let her know she was not alone. I even dreamt of myself as an angry sad teen, I was an adult in the dream chasing myself down the road i wanted to hug her and tell her everything would be okay, but my teen self was so full of fear, she ran away.
That's when i realised i had been running away from myself, when we choose really choose in our hearts to change, even when we don't know how to change, if we put in the effort to acknowledge and to process the emotions and feelings created by the experiences we find those creative tools in the process. I was diagnosed as dyslexic as an adult, still have trouble with grammar spelling, yet i have improved so much since oi first began writing down my thoughts and feelings.
At first all words were jumbled my writing made no sense what so ever, i could not even read it as the spellings were so bad.
Part of me wanted to just give up!
Yet that other part of me was like NO! if you give up who are you giving up on?
MYself, i would be giving up on myself, so i continued, i wrote whatever i could remember down, i got a computer for the dyslexia and it helped me spell, I gave the little girl i was a voice, and a creative way to express her pain.
Years of painting doodlings, produced childlike images, childlike drawings, expressions of a trouble soul.
Then over the years i began to notice the changes, i also found i had a gift of writing poetry, i ad a spiritual experience that seemed to unlock my creativity, after i had cried a sea of tears over a two year period, my tears would flow like a broken tap, i could not speak at all at first the sobs were overwhelming me, i did not know how to speak?
I was an adult in the body only inside i was a child who had not grown I had to learn everything again, how to express my feelings, how to communicate without swearing using profanities, they were my only language at that time.
I had learnt I was not as angry and i could now go outside without people wanting to fight me, the anger within me that was a magnet to other angry lost people was diminished, the two years of crying had washed it away, and replaced it with calm crystal waters, i saw colour for the first time, colour that made me stand in awe! That may sound strange, but all i saw before that must have been black and white, grey like the way i felt.
However now the colour was vibrant and i could not get over the beauty of the flowers around me.
Crystal waters giving us eyes to see in colour, all that abuse had darkened and dirted my inner waters so i could not see colour, and had distorted my perception of myself and the world around me.
I am 57 now, and still processing, sometimes i feel i am back in a rut, and get a tad mad at myself, but watching Tims videos has made me realise i am doing better than i thought, It maybe a longer healing process recovering on your own, yet it is achievable, using the tools mentioned, I just wanted to share that with others who may also be struggling to find the right help.
Stereo
Surrounded by trapped emotions
My feelings and voice was unheard
I was locked in this box of confusion
My memories were shoddy and blurred
Forward is my destination
Rewind is the past that made me
Play is my role in this picture
Pause is my hope to be free
Everything always says you need safe, healthy community to relate to.
How do you find that when you are so far past being done with trusting the wrong people that you're JUST DONE with people?
I have literally made dozens of attempts at finding community; but all I've gotten are DOZENS OF FURTHER DISCONFIRMING EXPERIENCES.
Really isn't anywhere for me in this world. I've been in therapy 15 years, going nowhere effective enough.
I have never had basic security in my life. I am constantly treading water. I'm not sure why I bother treading water and making outreach attempts when all my attempts just keep me in water...for more treading. :(
Universal healthcare.
The hardest part for me is finding safe people or a support system, where are they?
That was a serious question by the way, I don't know how to meet good people. I have a supportive partner but she is being regularly abused by her narcissistic family and she is the scapegoat. I try to be strong for her but I feel myself nearing break down because I don't have healthy relationships. I grew up the the one that has no needs to be invisible to protect myself I don't even know how to have needs. When I was in kindergarten we were supposed to draw what we wanted to be when we got older, I sat there and didn't know what to do..I got reprimanded by the teacher for not participating, I'm super late for work so maybe I'll check back later
I’m asking myself the same
They're not on the internet
I feel like I want to start a support group
Tim, since you also teach in churches, what's your take on the spiritual aspects of CPTSD and many people who operate on Deliverence as a method of retrieving a person and their soul from demonic strongholds to be able to heal?
Tim i thank yiu , once again , i really use these as a big help.
What can i do to help myself with anger , and ptsd
As nothing has worked.
If not steps and sction steps which simply dont work ....im curious and iprn mindrd to what ?
Will be affective ,
Is there life after trauma ?
Is doesn't feel it ..
Therapy is a useful tool, but it can be invalidating how people seem to think that going to therapy is a simple solution or that sitting your butt at a therapist's office every week is making you healthier each time. If only it worked that way.
Thank you
Thanks
Love you❤
I feel like I will never going to have the opportunity to heal. Unfortunately, to be able to heal, you need to be able to afford it. And I, someone who self-destructed my own life, can barely pay rent...
Read the man who thinks he can poem by Walter D. Wintle, I’m battling with healing too one thing that stunts my growth is my defeatist mindset. If you feel defeated you already lost.
@@divine3096 I appreciate your comment. But it's not even a matter of "I can do it", I'm literally homeless and I don't have any way to get out of it. I also have health issues, eyesight issues, can't afford glasses, etc. To be able to heal, I'd have to be able to find a safe place, as Tim says it himself, have a stable life, etc. So, I think it's just too late .
May an angel sit with you in daily meditation and prayer to re-connect with the cells of your body providing strength and resiliency to its own miraculous ability to reprogram itself through FAITH
I pray and have at least some hope to the end - someone will come and break into this cruel cult surrounding me and my name throughout my life before my 70th birthday next year. I am in bad health in every way that never shouldve been. I didnt know no matter how i was abused. It hurt more to hate but they all covered it up as they do now and convince all i encounter of their bad deeds to me to blame me - for at present - the most humanly impossible sinful crimes- hideous when it began with my baby boomer siblings - and what escalated as they shut me down for most of my life- i fear they and all they still try to gaslight - are leading the overall good people presently in this world to an evil means to the end of all good- truth- love- innocense-light- kindness- spirituality way over materialism before it is too late. Please believe me. And I thank you and i pray God continues to bless *** Tim Fletcher.
Quite easy to listen to. However, I do wonder if he’s being a bit too cautious or a perfectionist in requiring a surrogate family, community and therapist in a seemingly ever lasting journey to overcoming trauma. Ideally true perhaps but then that could be said for anything in life.
Me and my 2 cats were evicted. 2 more days and my section 8 voucher expires. Still here under cruel sadistic - wildly immature bullying & manipulative life threat no one to trust - no kin ever- or friends - shut down here for over a decade by liars from😮 society's high to low - thinking- - lame in my legs - thinking good thoughts - physical moves in chores etc help -meantime - holding on minute by minute - praying too - waiting for the once in my life - help sent by the Lord's power of attraction for us - faith, hope but the best 💘
And medicare will only subsidise 5 sessions with a psychologist. This is not even enough to begin to trust the therapist, but just long enough to open a whole mess of wounds before releasing you back out into the world in a state of terror and despair. You can't do it alone, but help is not that easy to find.
Hearing everyone say to get professional help often sounds like telling a homeless person to just buy a home