THE NARCISSIST LIKES YOU AND EVEN FEELS YOU DEEPLY-BUT THIS IS WHY THEY RUN FROM YOU.

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  • @ValorieBlanton
    @ValorieBlanton 7 місяців тому +36

    The Devil don’t love , he kills steals and destroys….

  • @cherrieguitar
    @cherrieguitar 11 місяців тому +14

    He told me he can't be with a woman he can't control. Then discarded me

  • @GLeon-ov9yu
    @GLeon-ov9yu Рік тому +137

    These narcs are to much work. He love bombed me, made false promises, disrupted my life and then abandoned me! We are in our 50’s.

    • @danielleadair7394
      @danielleadair7394 Рік тому

      Same here. Future fake, borrow money, hide the phone. 50 y/o f boy. With ED.

    • @aurorarene9909
      @aurorarene9909 Рік тому +19

      I dumped mine before he discarded me. I think I did scare him emotionally. It took only two weeks for me to get the strength to leave. I know how I feel when it's a toxic man because I'll feel drained and feel sick and confused from his antics.

    • @ms.c4718
      @ms.c4718 Рік тому +9

      I feel you. I did the same thing...beat him to the dag gone punch...shell shocked him real good!😂

    • @queenb3088
      @queenb3088 11 місяців тому +7

      I know the feeling. What a waste of 4 1/2 years of my life.

    • @butters0u1
      @butters0u1 10 місяців тому +1

      🎯

  • @ValorieBlanton
    @ValorieBlanton 7 місяців тому +24

    These Narcs out here Narcing they know exactly what the hell they are doing!

  • @juliahaymer
    @juliahaymer Рік тому +50

    I wish I had never met this person

    • @DeidreGeorgia
      @DeidreGeorgia 27 днів тому +2

      me too

    • @Cowboy19735
      @Cowboy19735 9 днів тому +1

      I say this every day now! Omg if I only knew!!!!

    • @doglover5519
      @doglover5519 3 дні тому +1

      Me Too!! He opened up we we're together 7 months. Things we're great he said he would marry me tomorrow and then ghosted me almost three months ago. I've been heartbroken ever since!!
      I reached out after 6 weeks to see if he would talk to me and tell me what happened or why.
      His mailbox was full and I didn't text. Haven't heard anything back. I just need closure but I don't think I'm ever going to get it. I can't believe he did this to me!!

    • @Cowboy19735
      @Cowboy19735 3 дні тому

      @doglover5519 You will never get closure. The last time I talked to Mt Narcissist Ex-Wife was on 12.31.23,,,,,, and a week later she went to the Silent Treatment! I learned later that she had a New Supply and the New Supply and my Wife at the time in September 2023 were already talking and having sex. She discarded me on 11.20.2023, divorced on 1.22.2024.
      So , I am currently in Therapy for Narcissist Abuse PTSD and coming up on a year almost to the Discard Anniversary. We were married for 8.5 years. I never knew that she was a Covert Narcissist till after the divorce months later when I was diagnosed with Narcissist Abuse PTSD. I also had blood test done to make sure that she didn't give me any STD's back in the Fall of 2023, I Tested NEGATIVE across the board! 🙏
      My advice to you, BLOCK, GO to God on the Throne and pray for him to remove the Trauma Bond/Spiritual Ties. Never except a Hoover!
      If you can afford it, find a Christian Therapist that specializes in Narcissist Abuse. I will pray for you.

  • @amymckenzie395
    @amymckenzie395 Рік тому +110

    Cuz they’re cowards who cannot face their true selves and they know they will never live up to a good woman’s standards 💯

    • @gingerelkins1268
      @gingerelkins1268 Рік тому +3

      Mine is literally stored as “Coward” in my phone.

  • @RantCulture
    @RantCulture Рік тому +176

    This is soo incredibly true. For a narcissist, you could be that one he/she never forgets. I had one, would push me away at times, say some things but truth is I could tell he really did like me he just was so scared of it. Every time he came back he never wanted me to be a side thing. He always wanted a relationship. It's sad cause I loved him despite his issues, but it isn't my job to fix him.

    • @christenyoshimura7933
      @christenyoshimura7933 Рік тому +31

      I can completely relate to this. I had a similar situation and still love him but like you said it’s not our job to fix him or be their therapist.

    • @leonrwalkerjr
      @leonrwalkerjr  Рік тому +28

      Thank you and thank you for your explanation as well. You are 100% accurate!!

    • @t.m.5635
      @t.m.5635 Рік тому +5

      Does this ever change?

    • @kimlondon6036
      @kimlondon6036 Рік тому +12

      Sounds like the narc I am in the process of divorcing.I tried but I can not help him.I love him but I have to let him go!!!

    • @RantCulture
      @RantCulture Рік тому +5

      @T. M. if you mean that they will forget you, not if you were a big person in their life ex. Kids, married etc. If you are referring to will they change, not if they don't wanna help themselves.

  • @tonieot3
    @tonieot3 Рік тому +27

    Don’t by into the little child sh%#…even people who are NOT a narcissist some have childhood issues but don’t treat men and women badly. A narcissist is just who they are period!😊

  • @Kristalwalker1972
    @Kristalwalker1972 Рік тому +14

    Why do people like this get in relationships? Get healing and help!!! Cause a lot of innocent people end up hurt and destroyed because they are broken and end up breaking others.

  • @hazzyandbunbun
    @hazzyandbunbun Рік тому +19

    Makes sense! He even told me before that I'm the only woman who treated him like gold yet of course he still never treats me right. Sigh

  • @fef9861
    @fef9861 Рік тому +46

    I had one tell me he was scared and I will be tested. He later told me I will be the one that got away. He wasn’t ready and when he came back, I was done. Thank you for complete closure

    • @felishapittman2778
      @felishapittman2778 4 місяці тому

      This must be a play in the book for narcissistic because I promise you I was told the exact same thing 😮

  • @paulaluna0
    @paulaluna0 14 днів тому +2

    How do narcissists get married or get in a relationship if they keep pulling back every time they get close?
    Why and how if they fear losing control of that woman / man they allow themselves to even get in a relationship?

  • @twistedreader870
    @twistedreader870 Рік тому +18

    I have to thank my narc, for whatever reason, he snapped at me and ghosted me three times, and I was able to hold back my feelings. When he ghosted me that third time, I blocked him and had no more contact with him, it hurts but in reality, there were so many red flags, I was avoiding them to be honest, but it's over and I just need to heal, everyday I get stronger.

  • @butters0u1
    @butters0u1 10 місяців тому +3

    I can appreciate this insight. At least it makes the behavior make sense but doesn’t excuse the behavior.

  • @shaylanewlife
    @shaylanewlife Рік тому +8

    I do not feel sorry for no Narcissists lol 😂

  • @nekialovelight4788
    @nekialovelight4788 Рік тому +15

    He told me he wouldn't trust me in a committed relationship. He doesn't even know how much I would have catered to and loved him and respected him. I would have never let up or let go. Now I don't have him. I lost control and now I see his face in my beautiful son everyday. I'm happy for that and I still love him dearly. But I have to love myself for our son and I lost respect for him for leaving me to raise our son alone. Maybe next lifetime. 💕

  • @donnasheppard7371
    @donnasheppard7371 Рік тому +21

    My ex was sent to a boy's infirmary at the age of 9. He did horrible things to me and my children. Cold evil things. I been on the path of forgiveness. I have prayed for his soul. All of these videos are so helpful. I don't know if you fully understand how many people you are helping. In both sides.
    What the enemy tried to use for evil God is using it for good! God continue to bless you. In Jesus's 💞 name. Amen

  • @Brooklynsho
    @Brooklynsho Рік тому +47

    My ex narc was raised in a cult he was receiving therapy and just stopped going. When I tell you the narc demon is real smh He put me through so much I wish I came across your channel yrs ago but I’m happy I’m here now. Thank you for being apart of my healing journey Leon🙏🏽

    • @laceyloops
      @laceyloops Рік тому

      It is a demon. IDC what they say. It's a demon! That's why psychologists say there is no cure. It has to be cast out

    • @leonrwalkerjr
      @leonrwalkerjr  Рік тому +8

      It’s good that you’re here now and still with us🙌🏾🙌🏾🙏🏾❤️

    • @veronicaatkins4417
      @veronicaatkins4417 Рік тому +5

      Lord a narc demon is right the cruel abuse I was put through was something some only watch in movies.

    • @reelfly
      @reelfly Рік тому +1

      Check out Dr
      Ramani here on UA-cam. An actual psychologist and expert on narcissism.

    • @jamaicanjoyh6883
      @jamaicanjoyh6883 11 місяців тому

      Had to chime in cause that's EXACTLY correct they have given themselves over to a mind with no consencious...it's seeks to lift itself "PRIDE"...very demonic...they stunt like their daddy.. period

  • @mariethomas6219
    @mariethomas6219 Рік тому +32

    I was with my ex narc for 25 yrs. I told him 7 yrs ago that he was a narc but I didnt break it off then. Now that I know more details about the disorder, I just went no contact(3 months)even though he was trying to make me his side piece. I still care and pray for him because we do have 2 kids together. Thank you Leon for all of this information. I hope and pray that one day he will have his awakening before its too late. My ex narc is very sneaky and I guess thats what took me so long to figure out his covert ways.

    • @peacefaith560
      @peacefaith560 Рік тому

      they are crazy!! and thye have babies to keep you trapped..thank god for birth control lol

    • @GLeon-ov9yu
      @GLeon-ov9yu Рік тому +14

      They all try to turn an ex into the side piece. I hate that!

    • @mariethomas6219
      @mariethomas6219 Рік тому +5

      @G. Leon I read that. He has never treated me as such during these last few months and I now realize that was the discard phase or better yet a shelfing. I dont want him anymore, I just hope he would have left me alone 20 yrs ago.

    • @leonrwalkerjr
      @leonrwalkerjr  Рік тому +9

      Hopefully he gets tired of living that way-he can but he has to want it. He’ll keep coming back too. Yes, being covert was why you didn’t see it. You got away though

    • @bellaapple2166
      @bellaapple2166 Рік тому +4

      ​@@GLeon-ov9yu Yes most likely to devalue and destroy your self worth.

  • @tommyjoe136
    @tommyjoe136 Рік тому +10

    We don't GAF about the narcissist feelings, all we want to know is how to defeat them! we don't GAF about their problems. Solutions base info only!

  • @Addrine1979
    @Addrine1979 Рік тому +7

    That’s exactly what I went through for 22 years he would pretend like he was having a good time but all along he seems so scared like I was going to do something he would love me for about a week and pull back and be very rude and mean, and then start all over again the next month this went on for years very very true video. Thank you for this confirmation.

  • @samanthajames2032
    @samanthajames2032 Рік тому +3

    My first discard ,which was actually a nice discard . The ex narc told me he was scared of me ,scared of what i might do to him .

  • @christenyoshimura7933
    @christenyoshimura7933 Рік тому +59

    I needed this message. My ex would always tell me this that he was afraid to lose control and he would always say I was a good person and didn’t deserve to be manipulated and treated this way. Then he ghost and push me away. Finally it’s over because he hurt me to much and cheated got another baby on the way. He said he is sorry it was never his intention to hurt me but it’s too late. Now I have to remind myself why it ended and work on healing and starting over

    • @softandsupplecosmetics
      @softandsupplecosmetics Рік тому +4

      🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽Wishing you endless peace and blessings in the days to come‼️🥰🥰💕💕💕💕💕

    • @kevaswopes7380
      @kevaswopes7380 Рік тому +6

      Sounds like my son's father. I pray for all whom have experienced life with a narcissist. The building yourself up after that final discard is tough. I specialize in mental health and was still got by a narc. I need my students loans forgiven immediately because obviously I was overcharged for my degrees.

    • @laceyloops
      @laceyloops Рік тому +8

      😝 I was just telling my mum this yesterday. Like in the movies. When you're dating a vampire or werewolf. Just as they start turning into the monster, they tell the love of their life, "RUN!" Because he doesn't want to hurt you... But he knows he will. I got the exact same vibes. He would tell me to be strong and would actually be proud of me when I left... No matter how sad he was that I had left. It's such a twisted dynamic most people wouldn't understand even if they tried

    • @laceyloops
      @laceyloops Рік тому +5

      @@kevaswopes7380 I'm a psychologist too. There's nothing like "I have enough knowledge to make the right decisions." Life mostly moves on emotions... So it's usually just God's grace that gives us wisdom and strength to make the right decisions

    • @christenyoshimura7933
      @christenyoshimura7933 Рік тому

      @@laceyloops exactly the best way to describe it and you’re right nobody would understand the twisted dynamic unless they lived it.

  • @mariethomas6219
    @mariethomas6219 Рік тому +12

    My ex narc told me I hurt him which was around 4 months ago. He has never spoke about his feelings until that day. Im lost as to what hurt him because all I did was move and buy a home for me and my kids. I know now he must be jealous and envious of me. The whole 25years I have never done anything to him, but he put me through a lot. Im trying to heal and forgive and pray that God have mercy on his soul. I know he will definitely reap what he sow.

    • @PITTSBURGH06
      @PITTSBURGH06 Рік тому

      ITS THEIR DELUSIONAL LIES TO MANIPULATE YOU..

    • @remiem-iw7uk
      @remiem-iw7uk Рік тому +5

      Get you some dogs. Best alarm system ever.

  • @jazzybell2729
    @jazzybell2729 Рік тому +10

    Is this also why they cheat? Because they don't really trust you, they get bored easily, and a fear of losing control?

  • @Red_Tiger_Eye
    @Red_Tiger_Eye Рік тому +14

    OMG . . . I recall the narc and I having sex one day, he blurted out in a kid’s voice (this grown ass man), “Your not going to make me fall in love.”
    That mess has haunted me until this day. Great video Leon!

  • @godsgrace2187
    @godsgrace2187 Рік тому +18

    Great content🙏🏾 However, at some point adults need to take accountability & seek God/ help. As you have 🙏🏾They are blocking their own Blessings in many cases. Every woman is not out to hurt men. Some of us are actually understanding but like you stated once we keep getting rejected we lose interest✌🏽

  • @nji7772
    @nji7772 Рік тому +8

    So true! What I at first thought was care and concern was only about control 24/7.

    • @leonrwalkerjr
      @leonrwalkerjr  Рік тому +1

      Exactly!!!

    • @nji7772
      @nji7772 Рік тому +1

      @@leonrwalkerjr Thank you and God Bless. I appreciate your honest and courage. People like you are RARE and so necessary.

    • @leonrwalkerjr
      @leonrwalkerjr  Рік тому +1

      @@nji7772 I really appreciate that. This is tough but not hard and I have to continue

  • @jessawomannherdog
    @jessawomannherdog Рік тому +28

    I am struggling! I listen to your videos daily to give me strength…and they have. I dumped him but can’t block him, wanting him to reach out. I pray I get the courage. Some days I’m so angry then I think about what he went thru ( you’ve described his behavior & past in this video) and it makes me sad for him. No one I know understands what I went thru so I don’t have anyone to talk to about it. I’m just learning about narcissism. Yikes

    • @morganadavies8319
      @morganadavies8319 Рік тому +10

      Keep watching videos like these Jessica and know your not alone. Sending you much love and healing 💕

    • @jessawomannherdog
      @jessawomannherdog Рік тому +1

      @@morganadavies8319 thank you so much for your support ♥️

    • @maristahuddleston6213
      @maristahuddleston6213 Рік тому +9

      Talk with a therapist that specializes in PTSD, because psychological and emotional abuse others won't understand. Unless they have experienced it firsthand.

    • @softandsupplecosmetics
      @softandsupplecosmetics Рік тому +4

      Same here but each and everyday we will get stronger‼️💪🏾I had been with my narc since 17 and I am now 34 and we share 4 kids. Better late than never. We got this and I know there are greater things in store for you and I both if we stay strong‼️💪🏾💪🏾Wishing endless peace and blessings to you🙏🏽🙏🏽🥰🥰🥰💕💕💕💕

    • @jessawomannherdog
      @jessawomannherdog Рік тому

      @@softandsupplecosmetics 💞 thank you!

  • @beverlyseward6918
    @beverlyseward6918 Рік тому +6

    It took all my life to not only become a senior citizen now but to meet a narcissist and fall in love with him . I didn't know anything before about narcissism/narcissist but boy o' boy I know now thanks to people like you and him. 😊

  • @NikkiBNice
    @NikkiBNice Рік тому +4

    It’s true. And when people go to prison they lose control of their lives. And also trained to manipulate.

  • @Peacealways247
    @Peacealways247 Рік тому +6

    Narc I was with was military vet, doing well, nice house, nice vehicles, etc. Our first deep conversation, I asked him if he had PTSD, asked about him going to counseling and that right there should have turned me away as he said he did and had stopped going to counseling. The relationship was a roller-coaster ride. He was fine as long as I went with his program but suddenly he told me he needed to find another job. He then began to tell others he had retired like it was planned. I began to ask questions and the lies start pouring in. One thing led to another, then came the discard. He did not like being questioned nor being held accountable. Things could have worked out but I later found out that he was supposed to be on meds. I don't care how nice they are or how well established they are, don't let that fool you. Their behavior says it all. Narc married someone else 9 mos later, probably someone from his past.

    • @leonrwalkerjr
      @leonrwalkerjr  Рік тому +3

      Classic move for sure!! All of that is true as you know. You saw it all first hand!!!

    • @thabodaciousempath
      @thabodaciousempath 4 місяці тому

      That marriage he's in is probably hell

  • @nappyfries
    @nappyfries Рік тому +3

    As someone with bpd, I can so relate to this. I feel the same way as far as fear of being in love.

    • @jxsslyy
      @jxsslyy Рік тому +4

      that’s why some narcs take advantage of us people who have bpd.

  • @deanj8870
    @deanj8870 20 днів тому +1

    Thank you for more information📖🙏🏾👑

  • @milagrosplaza7650
    @milagrosplaza7650 Рік тому +4

    Thst was deep and heartbreaking, makes me feel really bad that a narcissist doesn't really want to hurt you but how do you make sense of it?

  • @carladaughrity9291
    @carladaughrity9291 Рік тому +5

    This video right here is the bomb because I could not understand how a narc that has it going on in every aspect and on paper, still narc'ing. Thank you Leon this explains it and got to the nitty-gritty!

  • @Minister-Misty
    @Minister-Misty 27 днів тому

    Powerful! I wish I had paid more attention to NPD in my studies as a former Therapist, because it's fascinating. I believe I avoided it subconsciously. Thankful that I can now look at my experience & encounters in relationships with those suffering from NPD as lesson and a blessing. I will do something with the knowledge I've gained on the diagnosis. Thank You.🕊🙌🙏✝️

  • @enigma1487
    @enigma1487 21 день тому +1

    Nah, he can go play happy families with the other woman, 7 years of bs... I'm out.

  • @AS-on1fz
    @AS-on1fz Рік тому +2

    Omg Leon, are you talking about my ex? Lol he's exactly like this. Military, charming, people love him, ofcourse people that doesn't truly know him, house, car, good money but he's an effing Loser in his spirit because he doesn't care about the hurt that he does to other people.

  • @empathicwarriorlissy3716
    @empathicwarriorlissy3716 Рік тому +12

    Great video always giving insight to empaths thank you

  • @kendrasvibrationalhealing
    @kendrasvibrationalhealing Рік тому +9

    Thanks for being so honest and vulnerable. I really appreciate you 🙏

  • @Cristinascavern
    @Cristinascavern Рік тому +3

    Thank you for that. My ex not only is a narc but bi polar and has had significant damage to his brain which only makes it worse. He’s still in jail a few months later they’re waiting for him to get a bed in rehab so he can get the mental help he needs. I’m praying everyday for his recovery but ultimately focused on myself and our children. ❤ God bless you Leon! Stay focused on God brother

  • @jrlatina
    @jrlatina Рік тому +5

    Good morning Leon, I'm already tuned in, bring it! 😎

  • @hotstitch1
    @hotstitch1 Рік тому

    That has cleared up deep mysteries for me about a long line of Peekaboos

  • @reallifetopicsrevealed7295
    @reallifetopicsrevealed7295 Рік тому +2

    *LITERALLY did a video on the guy with 7 baby mamas. EFFECTIVE COUNSELING changed my life. I named some of the same reasons you did on why this is so common.*

  • @jayTee-zp1jn
    @jayTee-zp1jn 8 місяців тому

    Similar situation to mine. False love then he just went suddenly and then hoovered galore. NO contact.

  • @veronicaatkins4417
    @veronicaatkins4417 Рік тому +6

    I’m so grateful that you are educating us all about this💕

  • @TaraDecker-v8z
    @TaraDecker-v8z 11 місяців тому

    This is dead on for the Marine narc I was engaged to

  • @rosemarywatson2907
    @rosemarywatson2907 11 місяців тому

    Leon, we appreciate you so much.. you are an amazing man.

  • @gloriajohnson3626
    @gloriajohnson3626 Рік тому +4

    Your information is so enlightening. What you say is clearly what I experienced. Thank you.

  • @RapturereadyforJesus
    @RapturereadyforJesus Рік тому +18

    I was brutally abused, tortured, rejected during childhood. I even had a horrible adult life.
    I did not turn out narcissistic. I think narcissism takes place within the brain during conception. Something is wrong with the chemistry. And then during childhood the narc brain is consistently feed by trauma to keep the narcissism developing.
    But the good news is there is hope for all narcissism. Jesus died to set captives free!!!!!

    • @MJG159
      @MJG159 Рік тому +1

      I agree

    • @docwhoshops
      @docwhoshops Рік тому

      Amen!!!

    • @HonestyIsAVirtue7
      @HonestyIsAVirtue7 Рік тому +2

      Yes, I agree 💯💯💯... It's genetic in my humble opinion.. Generational curses are very real. And, they get passed on from generation to generation. There's more to this madness than just a bad childhood. My childhood was very destructive and painful. But, I decided not to let it change me. I'm Holy Spirit filled. And, through the Holy Spirit, I am being led and guided into truth. God has revealed the truth to me. My ex narc husband, and his whole family are narcissists. That's what the Holy Spirit has shown me. And, some of them are Coverts, and some are Overts. And, they feed off of each other like wolves, and vampires. IJS

    • @RapturereadyforJesus
      @RapturereadyforJesus Рік тому +3

      @@HonestyIsAVirtue7 I agree with you. I also grew up in a pack of narc wolves. It is difficult to understand unless our eyes are opened by the Holy Spirit. It is so demonic. My heart breaks because I am not sure who made it to heaven. That I have to leave in God’s hands.

    • @verinacudjo2684
      @verinacudjo2684 11 місяців тому

      Amen

  • @aquacantstopwontstopspiritual
    @aquacantstopwontstopspiritual Рік тому +4

    Wow you are absolutely right 💯

  • @danalinsey5544
    @danalinsey5544 Рік тому +1

    Well spoken, my ex said that he messed up real bad and was just stupid. I strongly dislike him. He lie so much cheat manipulate, gaslight and try to triangle and pop off he single okay so what you telling me this for. I won’t him so broke down it’s sad but I do I want him to feel every time he gets up he fall again. Pathetic excuse of a human he is

  • @Empress_S33
    @Empress_S33 Рік тому +2

    You have helped me so much. I knew this is how the person I care so much for feels. Thank you for sharing yourself and story with us all. You have empowered me to move forward. I can’t provide what he needs. He needs serious help.

  • @lizp5449
    @lizp5449 Рік тому +3

    You know the explanation of the childhood, mean nothing to me,most of us are scapegoats,we have scars,we took the hard road,did the right thing

  • @LoveEndures7
    @LoveEndures7 Місяць тому

    Literally him and me today... 😢 i said to him "I loved you... and we couldve had it all." He was so respectful and never forced sex on me.. and he let me go so gently. He said he couldn't be the man I needed right now but asked if he could have a chance in a couple of years when he gets himself together. .. he admitted to having vices he needed to deal with ❤. He was the most honest Narcissistic man I ever met. I walked away after he let me go because I know I cant help him. He said he didn't know how to love me.. and apologized for manipulating and lying to me... he said he was a people pleaser and he has fears he needs to deal with.. and he was still being controlled by his parents.. he wanted to be friends though but I told him I coulent be friends. I cant be a crutch to him.. but I will pray for him... ❤

    • @shelleyross2886
      @shelleyross2886 Місяць тому

      Your comment sounds so much like mine it makes me afraid to ask where you live...maybe it's the same man!! I so believe right before he left it was a gift to me feom God that he could only speak the truth. He would admit that he manipulated me to get what he wanted and that he is selfish and wants it to be about him. Married for almost 11 years. Together for 12. The gift was hard to accept but has been helping me let go. Because even after admitting , his behavior didn't change. I pray for him every day and for healing me so I don't ever form another trauma bond again. I know I loved him, the best I could with what I had an understanding of love. And I think he did the same. Love others as you love yourself. But love the Lord first with all you've got!! That's where I am going to find true love and understanding of what love really is.

  • @MZSTAR4YA
    @MZSTAR4YA Рік тому +2

    This was my situation. Only I was there for him all through school supporting him thinking we were building a life together then BOOM soon as that first big boy job check hit the mask fell completely. If there’s anything else that comes to mind about those newly established narcs plz make more vids about it.

  • @jasminesimmons1363
    @jasminesimmons1363 2 місяці тому

    I told my ex narc a long time ago, you love me but dont know how too. He just look at me quietly.

  • @Kimberly-lq3ez
    @Kimberly-lq3ez Рік тому

    I called it quits after my narcissistic ex told me I wasn’t good enough for him. Crazy enough he used to brag about how I was successful, owned my own business, have a master’s degree to his friends, but then reversed it and told me I wasn’t good enough for him. I found out he was still playing around with his kid’s mother that is an alcoholic. He lied to me and bragged about how wonderful of a person she was and tried to compare her to me playing mind games, I later found out the woman was an alcoholic. He couldn’t celebrate any of my success when I was making strides, lying saying his ex was doing better than what she was doing and finding fault in me. He had the nerve to tell his cousin he loved me and wishes me a happy holiday on every holiday. Since I told him go away I know your kid’s mother is an alcoholic he hasn’t called only texted me happy holiday’s. I used to believe in my heart he cared for me and was afraid to love me, now I’m just flat out confused. I only wish him well, but my anger towards him keeps me away. This makes absolutely no sense at all 🤷🏽‍♀️

  • @keishaedwards6779
    @keishaedwards6779 Рік тому

    THANK YOU LEON! THE MORE THAT YOU SHARE. I AM GETTING TO UNDERSTAND WHY MY BF IS THE WAY HE IS. HE WOULD COME IN AND LOVE BOMB ME. THEN A SWITCH COMES. THE BEST THING I DID FOR THE BOTH OF US IS LEAVE HIM ALONE. I AM DONE TRYING TO HELP HIM. GOD BLESS YOU LEON.

  • @Seraphim7
    @Seraphim7 7 місяців тому

    This Makes Sense!👊🤯💯

  • @riissmith5836
    @riissmith5836 Рік тому

    Thanks Leon.

  • @Vision-uz5ln
    @Vision-uz5ln Рік тому

    You are such a blessing, your videos are empowering thank you

  • @ZonyWest
    @ZonyWest Рік тому

    The Narc I Knew was married.... Yet he didn't mind developing feelings and lust for other women.

  • @larssommer5756
    @larssommer5756 6 місяців тому

    Good one. Thank you.

  • @sarahfagan7124
    @sarahfagan7124 Рік тому +2

    Thank you for sharing as I think he doesn't care.. but have a feeling he really does deep down. And also thank you for opening up.

  • @CandyStars-b9j
    @CandyStars-b9j Рік тому

    Mines left because I started physically beating him up

  • @ceecee4705
    @ceecee4705 Рік тому +1

    Thanks for the great info Leon, you have really helped me navigate my way out of this mess. At this point, I'm just letting him lose out and be the fool. I'm not dealing with any of it anymore

  • @genevaross9897
    @genevaross9897 Рік тому +1

    Thank you for your eloquent ecplanation.

  • @mariaddis9341
    @mariaddis9341 Рік тому

    This was my ex to the T!!!!! Successful, great shape athletic build ( 8 pack abs) world traveler, owns businesses, in the film industry, runs a youth Christian camp and even wrote a "self help" book if you can believe that. Perfect son, brother, uncle, brother in law. Meanwhile, over a year and a half with me he was humiliating, publicly embarrassing, abusive in all ways, a liar, a mind effer manipulater and all the while telling me he loved me. He was the quintessential Jekyll and Hyde. Funny thing is, we dated 17 years ago. I made the mistake of giving him the time of day. Also, he's been engaged twice and broke off both engagement s. Then proceeded to call them bitter.
    Thank you Leon!!! You are doing great work! Please keep it up!🙏🏾

  • @samanthajames2032
    @samanthajames2032 Рік тому

    Leon this is spot on!!

  • @Taywill1989
    @Taywill1989 Рік тому +5

    How do you deal with a narc when you have younger children? I know my ex uses our 3 year old to keep tabs on me. How do I go about healing myself from him for the sake of myself and child. Thank you leon

  • @Spruill526
    @Spruill526 Рік тому +1

    I believe you. He left me so I don’t want to reach out. But I still care for him.

    • @leonrwalkerjr
      @leonrwalkerjr  Рік тому

      And I understand that too. Just be careful

    • @Spruill526
      @Spruill526 Рік тому +1

      @@leonrwalkerjr , I’m not going to reach out. 2 things happened that are stopping me. I kind of Got it ! I’ve Woke up I mean. Thank you

    • @leonrwalkerjr
      @leonrwalkerjr  Рік тому

      @@Spruill526 major breakthrough ❤️🙏🏾🙏🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

  • @donna1493
    @donna1493 Рік тому

    I have subscribed and have appreciated so many of your videos. Your channel is one of the top narcissistic informational channels that keeps it real from someone who knows. Thank you!

  • @Yee-Ndpkswwiii
    @Yee-Ndpkswwiii Місяць тому

    She said Im the one she trust with her eyes closes when ever she falls she knows I’ll catch now I know 😓

  • @rina4005
    @rina4005 11 місяців тому

    Love you Leon thank you so much for explaining everything in detail ❤

  • @Raphael0654
    @Raphael0654 Рік тому +4

    The damn sad thing is you're 100% right; when people DO feel compatible with someone, they tend to revert to feeling like their childhood self--& healthy people love it, but in the narcissist's case it starts to feel really bad after a hot second (unless/until they can heal).
    That's interesting how you mention the narcissist won't become afraid of losing control with really secure, accommodating types, though...
    In that latter case, I think they go out of control & into consumption mode--but it's not out of control in a way that feels dangerous to them; it's only dangerous for the codependent they're feeding on.
    But if the narcissist starts to heal & gains a conscience, both of these kinds of loss of control will scare them. It can feel really tricky, & can lead to a lot of unconscious emotional reactivity (i.e., lack of foresight, & unexpected fight, flight, freeze, or fawn responses).
    It basically becomes shadow work, if the narcissist is trying to become conscious & do the right thing. And it's scary, because they're not always able to control when they go into autopilot in certain situations--& they don't fully know who they are & what they'll do in some of those instances. 😬

    • @leonrwalkerjr
      @leonrwalkerjr  Рік тому +3

      Very well written, stated and conveyed. Extremely profound, deep, true, and enlightening!!!! Love this!!! Thank you, David!!!

  • @1111spiritualone
    @1111spiritualone 8 місяців тому

    You just described my ex. 😞 sad

  • @mcmjclemence738
    @mcmjclemence738 Рік тому +2

    What can we do then toward the PwNPD? The problem is that if we become too caring to reassure them, they will tend to easily discard, judging we're weak...

  • @SLily777
    @SLily777 9 місяців тому

    It kind of broke me when the man pursuing me told me he runs away because he’s falling for me and doesn’t want to get hurt. I wonder if that was true after watching this. It’s just hard to believe anything he said when he was lying to me and ghosting me and sleeping with other women. I wish he could understand these things about himself. I don’t think it was ever God’s will for me to get involved with him, but I can’t help but pray he might come to this level of awareness someday and have the chance to heal.

  • @Lolipop8686
    @Lolipop8686 Рік тому +2

    Sometimes I think my ex had narcissistic tendencies (sometimes I also think he had a strong avoidant attachment). of the One of the things he once told me that stuck with as "If I see you too much, I know I am gonna start to become angry and not be a good person". Finding time to spending quality time with him became an issue once the relationship progresses... Sometimes he would make devaluating comments (nothing extremely insulting, but equally hurtful..).. and when I broke up with him he told me "There is really not a problem with you, I know I am the problem, you deserve so much more and I don't want to hurt you).
    I wonder if he was conscious that he had a problem he just didn't know exactly why? Was it probably narcissistic tendencies? His teenage years were trouble (didn't do well at school, minor legal issues...) It's a pity it had to end because of this.

    • @leonrwalkerjr
      @leonrwalkerjr  Рік тому

      Oh…he knew something was wrong and off-he knew for sure

  • @shalontehernandez6752
    @shalontehernandez6752 Рік тому

    My ex would get drunk and cry asking me why do I love him so much? What is it about me that makes you love me? Now I understand that he knew he wasn't a good person. (a drunk man Dont lie) He would then go on to saying how he hated how he treated me and can't pin point why he does the things he do and how he loves me and wants to marry me but all a while he's living with the new woman who matches his mess but ain't leave her home (mind you he never had his own place before and he's about to be 45. His mother is the root of all his issues she's toxic and never taught him to respect and love a woman. She's controlling, unforgiving, and passifies his tail in her eyes he could do no wrong. His sister can't stand him and he cuts off anyone who tells him about himself but surrounds himself with people who will stand by him no questions asked. Til this very day this man will text my phone or send screen shots to prove he been texting me during my 2 year no contact. He would ask his family has he heard from me smh. But yet he won't leave that woman's house since he says he doesn't love her. Oh and she didn't even show up to his fathers wake, funeral or balloon release she doesn't come to his moms for mothers day not does she come for her bday parties. What kind of replacement is that?

  • @MegaLadylove2012
    @MegaLadylove2012 Рік тому +1

    My so called h.s bf was terrified of falling in love. More like falling in love with me and did everything in his power to prevent tht from happening. He would make up all these stories about seeing his friends go thru heartbreak and they described it as going thru physical pain. Like he saw his friend holding his heart and crying when his gal broke up with him or cheated and he’d been terribly afraid of going thru the same thing since. He looked me dead in the eyes whiles he saying this like smh. Like I should care. When I say he did everythin to avoid feeling anythin, he sure did. All of his friends liked me and thought I was the best gal for him and would asked him if he was in love?’ And he would respond with, ‘I love her’ but I’m not in love. This was like two three months in and it was strange to me anyways bc I thought it’s only been three months, why should he in love? Tht didn’t bother me at all until it dawn on me this ninja was doing everythin in his power to avoid feeling tht way. Anywho, years and years later I guess am one of the gfs he can’t get over smh again. I jst imagined the other day by some miracle of watever he had a chance, I would literally ripped his heart to pieces bc I feel nothin. And ain’t never goin feel nothin. All of his narc tricks and tendencies are old to me now and besides I’ve been thru many. Jst some hypothetical supernatural sayin bc lords knows it isn’t never goin happened. Besides, he claimed to be born again and knows Christ. Good for him but thts on him. This jst reminds of tht how much tht boy fought every feelings inside to prevent himself from falling in love bc he was soooooooo terrified of being heart broken but didn’t mind breaking other ppl’s heart. The same with my most recent ex narc. Always looked at me and said how scared he was of heartbreak smh. But again, also didn’t mind doing the same to someone else. They’re such pretenders

  • @ainahaga
    @ainahaga 9 місяців тому

    I still hope my narc will work on himself and maybe actually tell me he has changed and actually prove it. I've blocked him and been no contact for 12 weeks soon. I think of him every day and I did really love him (and still do) I actually thought he was my soulmate but he was a narsisist, but he did not treat me like Should be treated so I told him he had to d work on himself. I knew he liked me but I felt he lied to me and also saw someone behind my back cause I dreamt it several times, I started been really mean to him cause he went to far so I had to block him. The last conversation I had with him was I told him I loved him and that I would never forget him but that I couldn't have contact with exes. He discarded me the last time but I discarded him also several times. I feel he think of me too even though he said nothing. I saw his soul and I know his soul is really good. and I do still love his soul but not his ego.

  • @rashidarowe7882
    @rashidarowe7882 11 місяців тому

    He tells me he loves me, but he is mean as hell to me often so I am confused. He does the push and pull and he always seems like his mind is everywhere, I just wanna lose my emotional connection to him

  • @carladaughrity9291
    @carladaughrity9291 Рік тому +1

    This narc from high school dm'd on FB and said he had been watching me for months. He's a former NFL player, 6'2", handsome salt and pepper, nice body, has his own condo and car, and a govt worker with a pension. He was going on vacation and strangely asked me was I gonna forget about him. I was puzzled because he was showing signs of insecurity but appeared to have it going on. Also, he said " I know I sound like a kid but I have a crush on you." Subsequently we went out on one date and he said I was pretty and then, like the show on the ID Channel, Disappeared! Even though that man had "everything" he was still narc'ing and insecure which has me over here smdh.

    • @nh55871
      @nh55871 Рік тому +3

      lol i love the IDChannel. Diaappeared is my favorite. Girl, he wanted that attention then disappeared to confuse you. They are so weird

  • @c.oliviamiller1681
    @c.oliviamiller1681 Рік тому +2

    This video got me in tears by the end 😭😭😭

  • @debradorsey153
    @debradorsey153 Рік тому +1

    I'm not judging anybody ,your dreams could tell you proceed with caution red light, red flags the chains , spells are no longer in the Way , you have free will 🙏🌹🌹

  • @InterconnectedUniverse
    @InterconnectedUniverse Рік тому

    Leon this information was mind blowing 🥰

  • @TekeshiaParker
    @TekeshiaParker 9 місяців тому

    Leon super handsome 😍 💙 as f beautiful we never would think 🤔 you could have went threw that love you bro for free at least you didn't turn completely crazy🙏💯💫

  • @itwasGod
    @itwasGod Рік тому +3

    You did it, again, Sir! Glory to God! TYSM🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

  • @Butterfly72890
    @Butterfly72890 5 місяців тому

    Gotta look past the pain and see what purpose you can make out of the situation. What can God do through you since you experienced this. Maybe God will do something for them too. They did have a rough life. It is not an excuse, but they have to learn how to grow from that on their own. They need therapy and Jesus we just have to remain strong with our boundaries.

  • @katie-lauranualchan3702
    @katie-lauranualchan3702 Рік тому +1

    But why do some become narcissistic and others don't 🤔.. Is it already a baseline in their personality? I've been through hell and met the devil and his demons and its made me want to protect and love people more loyally than if I'd had an easier time. Why do my exs tell me their shit that's nothing compared to mine and its an excuse to hurt me more 🤷‍♀️... I just can't

  • @reneebrown9451
    @reneebrown9451 Рік тому +4

    On one of your other video’s you said that the narcissist, the LEON’S, do not love us…… which one is it???🤔

  • @terrytrowbridge2730
    @terrytrowbridge2730 Рік тому

    I don't understand all that. I can understand having a fear of love,
    When you've been betrayed by someone you Love and trusted, but who hasn't? That's never killed anyone even if you feel like dying. You go on and finally get over it and love again. And there's been some people who's experienced unthinkable trauma yet aren't narcissist. Is it because a chemical imbalance in the brain maybe that really can't be fixed you were born with can only allow you to learn different behaviors that you know are more acceptable, yet still not be able to experience real love and emotion as most people can, nor express it?

  • @JemLifeMinistries
    @JemLifeMinistries Рік тому

    My husband childhood was crazy

  • @danitaoliver264
    @danitaoliver264 Рік тому +1

    Leon, Leon, You got that Denzel Lip Lick, I knew I seen it somewhere, I need to Stop Watching You, I have A Narc Addiction..........I'm going "Cold Turkey",........Seriously Though, you have a Funny Side to you....... it's good to Laugh Sometimes!!!!♡

  • @nicolebanks8159
    @nicolebanks8159 Рік тому

    Thanks 🙏

  • @babystagg5847
    @babystagg5847 Рік тому

    LOOK @#CHU COMING OUTTA #YA 🐚 (((MORE))) ! 😁😝🥰.
    #KEEPGOING.!!!.

  • @deb2319
    @deb2319 10 місяців тому

    These duds are wounded children that are stuck in time n space.