@@cynthiasmith8461 I hope you've managed to do so by now and my real name us Cynthia as well, which I tend to forget due to being called the shortened version for many years. 😊
Also when he wants to keep the relationship behind close doors. He doesn't introduce you to any of his family or friends and doesn't want to meet any of your friends or family. You are non existent in his world. He cares NOTHING about you!!
That's so true! Warning men, when l.good woman leaves you 4 good! I'm not trying to hurt no one but it's always that boomerang effect. Real talk! You didn't ask for the pain but it comes back to him. He tries to make you feel your wrong for walking out on him
I He never was for me. I had no reason to keep myself around him so damn long. He cared nothing about me. It was all about how he can use me to care about him. I just felt so drained untill i FINALLY woke up like, why am i trying so hard to earn his attention and love? He was not even trying to do a thing for me.
You are on point. I had to learn this the hard way. It broke my heart to learn this. I don't like dating I like relationships. I get it. And I learned it by myself and picked myself back up with God. Amen
Don't settle for a person who cant communicate effectively, shuts your expressions down, makes excuses, refuses to take any accountability, is okay with "just existing" while you do all the work, and also finds it amusing to gaslight you. Leave. It is wasted energetic currency. You want a partner, not a competitor. Don't try to fix them either, and don't become the Enabler who silently obliges to their peepee poor behaviors. Thank them & move on along.
Derrick…. I swear God brings me to your videos at the exact right time. If you don’t hear from them they don’t care. It’s been a year of ups and downs for me. I keep going back and he keeps showing me who he is. This Monday, begged me to see him and work it out. I say okay, planned on dinner in the near future. Crickets since. He responded to a text I sent about are you ghosting me, with one short sentence, “sorry, been busy.” I Blocked and deleted. I’m ready for the next video tomorrow night. See you then. 🙏🏼
I have a ex, he did absolutely everything for me and my kids. Only thing he drank too much and changed when he drank. I had to leave. But he set the bar really high! And if it wasn’t for that drinking we would be together now because what I’ve been meeting out here is crap😏 Men thinking they entitled I’m so thankful I don’t need em for nothing, makes it so easy to walk away🙌 see ya ✌🏽
Thank you for this. I asked for consistency in communication and he couldn't do this for me. Made me feel like I was asking for too much! This makes me realise it wasn't me, it was him! Plus we were meant to be in a relationship! Speaks volumes!
One day we are engaged then if things go wrong not his way he wants to end it and say he's done and do the silent treatment. Well I'm tied of the silent treatment because silent is an answer. I always been there for him but I did said no and we had a argument about it and I stuck with it. He said if I don't do it by a certain day he's done. So be it I'm done 👍
Yes about three incidents with three guys for accountability. It's pure non sense and excuses. Some guys be arguing, play games and forget things alot on purpose. # Tired of it all
I can relate. My husband went 15 days without talking to me while I was out of town. He never checks to see if I made the it safely. He expects for me to call him.
Either he trusts you a lot and knows you're fine, or he's used to you calling him and updating him on what's going on with you, so it's not in his mind to call or... he doesn't really care, in any case, it doesn't matter the reason, not calling for so many days is not Acceptable in my opinion...
Consistency, plus words and actions match. We're all allowed an 'off' day. That's when a good track record can stand on its' own. When 'you're only as good as your last sale' the other person extends zero credit. Thank you for your very insightful tutorial.
No one cares about anyone , that's life but you make the best, out of your situation. Why do people feel they need to tell someone that? To try and hurt someone? Once GOD loves you, it doesn't matter who doesn't love you.
Described my kids father right here 💔 wish I knew these things when I was younger. Now I know he never cared which is why I left a year and a half ago.
Yup I’m definitely not clingy but every time I give someone a chance it’s almost never worth it . Then when I fall back they want to try to bounce back then it’s a wrap after that cause I done lost interest.
Do not ignore them red flags!!!!! You might encounter a secret from him/her and these 3 letter word will take you to your final destination. And know....and know.... that God has your back!!!!!
Hello Derrick, working s a nurse shift work etc I'm extremely busy.. But would like to express that your video was truly a revelation for me. Thank you. Vivien
You are so right it was what I could bdo for him. He then started contacting 24 or more communication. Find out he is with someone else and try to blame me. I have now block everything. It hurt but I will heal.
In a real bad situation now and I have realized he doesn’t care. When it comes to important things, I mention things even if it is a long time before mentioning again. He would blow up like I am an inconvenience. Everything you are describing.
I haven't seen him since August 31,2022.. So his actions tells me that he doesn't care about me. That means he didn't show up for Christmas, new years and VD.
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... his goldfish died???? 😢
As a forensic psychologist. You talk real. You better come on!!!
The minute you question if they even care about you, they don’t. The person that cares for you will never leave you confused!
Problem is, some of us have never had caring people around, so naturally we doubt our own judgement. We learn the hard way
This right here👏👏👏🇹🇹
Nor will they mistreat or use you.
OK!
🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
How a person treats you is exactly how they feel about you!
Facts
Sometimes it says more about how they feel about themselves.
True ❤@@Ravengal101
The rejection was for my PROTECTION!!!
All truth! I need to end things now
@@cynthiasmith8461 I hope you've managed to do so by now and my real name us Cynthia as well, which I tend to forget due to being called the shortened version for many years. 😊
Amen to that 🙏
I agree if they do not talk to you in 24 hrs. They don’t care! This is true.
…and he damn sure feels entitled to have you and your benefits. It’s the delusion of that for me.
Also when he wants to keep the relationship behind close doors. He doesn't introduce you to any of his family or friends and doesn't want to meet any of your friends or family. You are non existent in his world. He cares NOTHING about you!!
I know this first hand. It sucks. 💔
That's so true! Warning men, when l.good woman leaves you 4 good! I'm not trying to hurt no one but it's always that boomerang effect. Real talk! You didn't ask for the pain but it comes back to him. He tries to make you feel your wrong for walking out on him
This is a RED FLAG, "behind close doors"
@@Private-ed5qq manipulation and control...
Sooo True
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He never was for me. I had no reason to keep myself around him so damn long. He cared nothing about me. It was all about how he can use me to care about him. I just felt so drained untill i FINALLY woke up like, why am i trying so hard to earn his attention and love? He was not even trying to do a thing for me.
My story right there😢
Especially when they just string you along keeping the conversation short and surface level 😒 its like draining your good vibes and 'happiness'
My story as well!
Same!!
That's exactly what I'm going through right now 😢
He is a USER ! 🔥🔥👏
When he talks the talk but he doesn't walk the walk
That's why I choose NOT To Date 😊..
Don't have the time nor energy to deal with the shenanigans
You are on point. I had to learn this the hard way. It broke my heart to learn this. I don't like dating I like relationships. I get it. And I learned it by myself and picked myself back up with God. Amen
It's hurtful to hear, but BIG FACTS!!!!
Same if you always say yes for his needs and the one time you ask for something, he says no.
That's why I left him! And I'm soooo much better... and happier than ever !
You speak a truth that both hurts to the bone and heals to the bone. Thank you Derrick
No he doesn't. Only God's word are sharper than a two edge sword.
Don't settle for a person who cant communicate effectively, shuts your expressions down, makes excuses, refuses to take any accountability, is okay with "just existing" while you do all the work, and also finds it amusing to gaslight you.
Leave. It is wasted energetic currency. You want a partner, not a competitor. Don't try to fix them either, and don't become the Enabler who silently obliges to their peepee poor behaviors. Thank them & move on along.
Know Your Worth 💯 .
Derrick…. I swear God brings me to your videos at the exact right time. If you don’t hear from them they don’t care. It’s been a year of ups and downs for me. I keep going back and he keeps showing me who he is. This Monday, begged me to see him and work it out. I say okay, planned on dinner in the near future. Crickets since. He responded to a text I sent about are you ghosting me, with one short sentence, “sorry, been busy.” I Blocked and deleted. I’m ready for the next video tomorrow night. See you then. 🙏🏼
Forgot to say after they get what they want some of them change completely.
It's that last point for me, going 24 hours without communicating
I have a ex, he did absolutely everything for me and my kids. Only thing he drank too much and changed when he drank. I had to leave. But he set the bar really high! And if it wasn’t for that drinking we would be together now because what I’ve been meeting out here is crap😏 Men thinking they entitled I’m so thankful I don’t need em for nothing, makes it so easy to walk away🙌 see ya ✌🏽
Don't it 😄...i feel for the women who don't have a financial option to make a choice 😒 they are stuck!
In drunken state is real him...
Wow that's my life. It's the exact same thing for me. If he did drink we would be together also
7:03 I agree with you
"Convenience-ship". Excellent word.
Had one of those, it was the most humiliating experience I’ve ever had, won’t go that route again, ever
Thank you for this. I asked for consistency in communication and he couldn't do this for me. Made me feel like I was asking for too much! This makes me realise it wasn't me, it was him! Plus we were meant to be in a relationship! Speaks volumes!
Same with me.
Same here
Same. Very hard to swallow when you KNOW what you’ve brought to the table, and ask for so little on return.
@@PoopooD-lz4xo Amen
Don't let him put you in any other position than as the Sacred Woman that you are ❤
EXACTLY what I’m going through especially the no contact for 24hrs
I can't even say anything
6 days
@@anastasijabeograd3903I just broke no contact 😢
Dating is not for sex. Dating is to see if you can become engaged to move forward.
I will watch this EVERY FREAKING DAY for the next 30 days
Your right many times he only cares about the sex.
So so true...
Men are biologically wired to chase sex.
He's not looking to care for somebody just want to have fun
I'm so glad you confirm that I'm not crazy or high maintenance
One day we are engaged then if things go wrong not his way he wants to end it and say he's done and do the silent treatment. Well I'm tied of the silent treatment because silent is an answer. I always been there for him but I did said no and we had a argument about it and I stuck with it. He said if I don't do it by a certain day he's done. So be it I'm done 👍
Yes about three incidents with three guys for accountability. It's pure non sense and excuses. Some guys be arguing, play games and forget things alot on purpose. # Tired of it all
Yep had that one - don’t follow up and act like I was wrong for saying something
I can relate. My husband went 15 days without talking to me while I was out of town. He never checks to see if I made the it safely. He expects for me to call him.
How long have y'all been married?
Wow 😮
Either he trusts you a lot and knows you're fine, or he's used to you calling him and updating him on what's going on with you, so it's not in his mind to call or... he doesn't really care, in any case, it doesn't matter the reason, not calling for so many days is not Acceptable in my opinion...
when I went out of town, that was his E-ticket to cheat.
He does not care for you. He hates you. Now, now deal with this truth. Time to talk and listen to Jesus
You are so right, when he got the cookie I saw everything you just said.
Ladies guard your heart at all costs. I am into myself to get hurt, I love, me, myself and I.
I NEEDED TO HEAR THIS MESSAGE 🙏
This is so true, been single for 10 years and finally trying to date and now this, better off single. Don't have time for this
Dammit the hard truth hurts. Thank you ❤
Consistency, plus words and actions match. We're all allowed an 'off' day. That's when a good track record can stand on its' own. When 'you're only as good as your last sale' the other person extends zero credit. Thank you for your very insightful tutorial.
Bought your book " Don't forget your Crown! Reading now!!
Your right. He's not here for me.
He actually said to me once, while I was talking, “now back to me”
Say whattttts
He never care about me. I’m real good. I thank god. Speak truth to me.
No one cares about anyone , that's life but you make the best, out of your situation. Why do people feel they need to tell someone that? To try and hurt someone? Once GOD loves you, it doesn't matter who doesn't love you.
Nevermind that love yourself
You are 120 percent right in everything you say. Thank you
Love is kind all the time. Super simple.
Gosh. I gotta say this as a Grandmother; Grandson Derrick, I really, really appreciate your educating us Ladies. I needed this. Love you!
Described my kids father right here 💔 wish I knew these things when I was younger. Now I know he never cared which is why I left a year and a half ago.
I HAVE BEEN WITH HIM FOR 10 YEARS WISH I KNEW THESE THINGS.
I'm happy you left that relationship. Focus on yourself and your kids. Wishing you the best.
You are so beautiful!! Your ex is an idiot!!💯 Stay up girlie! 💪🏼💖
All of you are awesome ! 🥹 thank you guys, wish you girls the best as well !!!
When a person act like this! I mean mistreat you! Does he even care about himself..😮
Understanding these concepts will help you deal with the pain and HEAL, and going forward you will accept Nothing Less than Dior Chanel Treatment ❤
Yes. You're definitely talking to me . I don't like dating but really not sure how to date .
He goes on the block list, straight up.
Thank you! I needed reaffirmed on why I felt rather strange when I don't hear from him for a day and a half, two days at a time...
Thanks so much for this; I've being fooling myself.
Yup I’m definitely not clingy but every time I give someone a chance it’s almost never worth it . Then when I fall back they want to try to bounce back then it’s a wrap after that cause I done lost interest.
I agree
I don't like dating . I do like relationships
Me too.
Derrick this is so on point. Every single thing you pointed out was accurate. Thank you!
Yes yes yes!! Never held to any word and avoid like I was wrong to mention it
I....you definitely hit the nail.on the head.....18yrs d own the drain but praise the LORD that GOD sent me the love of my life
Do not ignore them red flags!!!!! You might encounter a secret from him/her and these 3 letter word will take you to your final destination. And know....and know.... that God has your back!!!!!
Absolutely! Completely on point! I agree 💯. Thank you so much for this message.
Thanks for clarifying my doubts about a certain someone. I can see clearly now. You are manna from heaven, sir.
This is so true even when I'm pissed i wouldn't do that
Thank you for this! I really needed to hear this right now!!
Been there D. Lesson well learned!!!! The signs are on point! 🙌🙌🙌🙌You nailed it!!!!! 💯💯💯❤️❤️❤️❤️👏👏👏👏👏👏
You are absolutely right, thank you very much my dear brother.
ABSOLUTELY YES INDEED AMEN MESSAGE I AGREE 👍
Confirmation is everything!!!!
You are so real with the people I like that" I would like to follow the truth with your master class, soon
100%! The fact that this isn't just basic information that we all know shows how low the standards are. Crazy.
Dating was a nightmare 🤦♀️
Whoop whoop. Yet in the beginning he didn't have a problem it was great then it began. Thank U for your insute
EXACTLY MEN AND WOMAN WE DESERVE SO MUCH MORE AS MEN AND WOMEN !!!! IN AN RELATIONSHIP WE ARE WORTH SO MUCH MORE
My God I've been used and abused😭
I'm sorry
Now use your new knowledge and transform into the Sacred Woman that you are ❤
@@SacredVillage1Amen
I don't like dating & the dating world sucks!! I'm happy being single for now 😊
Me too
Irene Mercure Me three! It's much easier now that I'm in my 60s, but had a lot of grief for the wasted years, which is healthy. 😊
Hello Derrick, working s a nurse shift work etc I'm extremely busy.. But would like to express that your video was truly a revelation for me. Thank you. Vivien
Derrik u speak facts as always. Everything you say hits home
You are so right it was what I could bdo for him. He then started contacting 24 or more communication. Find out he is with someone else and try to blame me. I have now block everything. It hurt but I will heal.
Realest talk 💯 I agree with every single word you say 👏 👏 👏
Facts that's why I blocked and moved on .
In a real bad situation now and I have realized he doesn’t care. When it comes to important things, I mention things even if it is a long time before mentioning again. He would blow up like I am an inconvenience. Everything you are describing.
Thank you for giving this info. This is so true
Hey Derrick, this video came right on time. I think you’re talking directly to me.
Oh Thanksgiving too. He didn't even break bread with me on Thanksgiving!
I'm done with that relationship. Just recently too 💯.
Now you can see why women do so much for themselves. Men are lovers of themselves.🎉
Listening to this has hit my core 😢
You just described the last three years of my marriage
😢
😔
Thank you, Mr. JAXN for caring enough about us real women to share your wisdom.
Call sometimes . We're good friends and the friendship is great
I am so thankful for this free information. Thank you for sharing your knowledge.
Modern technology has eradicated the window for excuses.
This is a great message!
I haven't seen him since August 31,2022.. So his actions tells me that he doesn't care about me. That means he didn't show up for Christmas, new years and VD.
Same...dang. what is wrong with these guys
A second job works out so much better than atrempting to connect with men who don't care about me.
What a nice lecture!!Hats off...
I can sooooo relate to this!
Painful to hear.. but makes so much sense.