Just looking at the video's title brought back a lot of memories. I remember, as kids, one time, we were playing football, and this guy just wouldn't ever pass the ball to me. I confronted him about it, and he goes "I don't know what it is about you, maybe its your face, but I just don't like you at all." I remember repeatedly feeling like there was something about me that made me have a bad impression on people. And today, I've come to the point where I've repeatedly been told that I make a really good first impression. My greatest advice to you would be to understand that this, like everything else, is a skill that can be improved. How do you improve it? Practice. The more often you put yourself in social situations, the more natural, the more relaxed, the more authentic you'll become at them. Hope that helps :)
This is true. I've been practicing being more socialable by just complementing random people and just attempting conversations when appropriate. Sometimes it's awkward and soemtiems it goes somewhere but something that is always true is it feels great.
Same thing is happening to me bro Rarely someone passes me basketball expect from by beasties... Thus I am not able to improve my skill And also my game is also going down lately... My motor skills are really trash... I need to work on them...
Notes for y'all: The reason it matters: first impressions are important for building relationships. 1. Poor Hygiene - Smelling or looking unclean will instantly turn people off of you. 2. Physique - A bad physique portrays laziness while a great physique portrays discipline. 3. Clothes - Must be clean and look presentable, if not, you’ll be seen as lazy/dirty. 4. Mannerisms - Eye contact/Body Language. 5. Not smiling - Smiling at others makes them like you. 6. Don’t restrain your laughter - People like to be laughed with, so laugh freely in conversation. 7. Authenticity - Be yourself, don’t be someone else because you want to attract someone.
workout 5 days a week and still have body that dont deserve any respect , constant for weeks , months and years . thats why i stopped caring about what other thinks about me , society.
@@Ivee. I’ve seen plenty of guys who are objectively uglier than me been much more successful socially because of their positive disposition and mannerisms.
I am genuinely grateful for this man Hamza, he doesn't accept sponsorships since he has enough money and genuinely cares about his audience. He produces quality content rather than quantity, which I believe every UA-camr should emulate. This individual is genuinely making an effort to raise awareness and help us.
I was brand new 19-year-old out of basic training in German night club, approaching Russian girl (I am Russian myself, but served in US Army). I had liquid courage in me, but not to the point of being completely trashed (just mildly tipsy). Was introduced by other Russians who hung out with her (of my age - all young mixture of both girls and guys) and mentioned we had a lot in common. Very attractive, which already made me hesitate. However as soon as I sat down, I felt not like someone who have anything in common (or any sort of confidence in talking to her) but more of like some sort of dog on the chain that was being yanked every time I opened my mouth. The girl looked more irritated and irritated, and I was starting to blurt out nonsense as if it was some sort of effective damage control, The girl simply blew up at me and walked off. The moral of the story? Sometimes you are your own worst enemy.
The way you said that at 5:07 "I don't say this to be offensive, I say it because we're here to improve" is beautiful. That approach will reach most people's hearts and make them consider their lifestyles/actions/habits because it sounds genuine and like you're trying to help, instead of just making fun of Jeffreys. This is a new "tactic" you've implemented if I'm not mistaken and I think it's going to do wonders if you keep on using it (for the channel growth and converting people to take action and take self-improvement more seriously, since softer people are going to take advice like that better). Also, the editing has really leveled up, I really like when the video cuts to the text that almost looks like it's handwritten on certain bullet points. A really great addition to the recent videos.
Hamza means well, but some of his followers are teen blokes who thinks being an asshole to "Jeffreys" somehow makes 'em wanna change themselves. A single bad actor in a large group can make the group as a whole looks bad.
@@DoMyHomework_mhm, they act like they weren't Jeffries as well. Everyone starts out as a Jeffrey before they start self improvement, atleast everyone living a bad life.
There’s a difference between hygiene and caring about what others think of you. And there is a difference between caring about what others think of you and letting that opinion rule your life.
Many successful people dress plain/ common and wear cheap clothes. But few dress like a total slob with dirty and/or baggy clothes.... you dont need to be buying $500 shirts, but even then a well fitted $5 t shirt will look better than a slobby baggy dirty $500 designer shirt
Yes, especially if someone gives you hints or straight up says something bad about you, don't just cry about it in you room wishing things were different, *make things different*
@@GoldenMushroom64 not really. how good the world would be if most people that are fucking losers wouldnt be. it would be a very happy place. sometimes i watch when like 30 people get out from train and enter the shopping mall while im eating a sandwich in subway, and i see around 90% of them are so fucking sad looking motherfuckers that it's so sad. and all this could be fixed if they watched this video and took action
Hello good sir, I have a testimony. By the time I was 16 years old, I was morbidly obese. I was 430lbs, high school drop out, bound for lots of trouble in every way. When I became a legal adult everything changed rapidly. I lost 150lbs, became a landscaping foreman, got my GED, along with several other changes. Obviously the way I was raised had something to do with my issues in my opinion. I am now 29. I stumbled upon your videos a couple months ago, and they have restarted me. As if I turned 18 again, working harder, in the gym more often, working on financial decisions, etc. Thanks a lot for the videos. They are the closest thing to therapy I have experienced.
This is a problem I have. I’m a fairly attractive guy, have a beautiful girlfriend, a decent amount of friends and good hygiene yet it seems like when people first meet me I give off a bad impression. I think it’s because I’m pretty antisocial around new people but when I try to be social it feels like I’m trying too hard and people still don’t respect me. I’m very comfortable not necessarily being liked by everyone but it does make you insecure when people just seem to not like you on first glance.
@J hey bro I've had the same problem most of my life especially fitting in and feeling interesting, especially in situations where somebody looks pretty uninterested in my company. I've found that it's kind of a bad mental cirkel, because the more you/i experience this kind of rejection the harder we think/try to make up for feeling or coming of as boring or uninteresting to other people and really I've personally found that's the thought that is self-destructive the thought that says´´You need to try harder´´ to the point that you will be trying too hard and that will come off to other people as being fake or inauthentic because people unconsciously are able to pick up signs that that isn't your true self. So what I do is that prior to/while meeting new people I focus on being myself to the fullest and then (I know this is I easier said than done I still struggle with this) ignore that feeling of not being interesting enough and stripe to be the best possible version on my self instead of overthinking the first impression. Of course, I don't know you but I hope my experiences helped you best regards Jeppe :)
The more you socialize with different kinds of people, you will learn how to socialize better and your weirdness will fall away. You have to make a conscious decision to improve on your weirdness. Also raising your general awareness in like sports, politics etc that groups like to small talk about also helps.
Holy crap Hamza, I see how the quality of your videos and content just improves every day. I really just want to thank you brother, these last three years have been extremly hard for me. I grew up very insecure and disgusted by my own self, probably because I was bullied since the age of six in my school, this feeling intensified 3 years ago when I hit puberty, I had to leave my country and I left everything I had, I moved to a village in the mountains in an eastern european country for religous reasons, I've been trough it all, heartbreak, loss, betrayal, depression, addiction, anexiety, self-hatred, poverty, identity crisis, I almost took my own life four times at the age of 14. And you brother are one of the reasons that kept me going, you've helped me become wiser, stronger, grateful , heck, even attractive!!! I'm very grateful for your life and for what you've done, I'm finally starting to become happier, and I've found the man within myself. Thanks Hamza, You are saving lives.
Let's go brother. you have been through the fire and you know what it's like to struggle and hurt, how about we make sure you never get that feeling again by creating momentum 💪🏾
i can definitely relate to when you said that people don't respect you as much if your skinny or fat, like on a number of occasions I've experienced this in the past because i was skinny, because i was skinny people would just instantly suspect im a geek and dislike me this was also probably due to my social mannerisms but now i have a much better physique/build than i had before ive also been making better first impressions on people. ive been trying to improve myself for not even a year yet and results are already showing thank you hamza for helping me :)
Congrats on 1 million again Hamza! Production quality never fails to impress me Video Summary: #1 - Poor Hygiene #2 - Your Physique #3 - Your Clothes #4 - Social Manners #5 - You Dont Smile #6 - Dont Restrain Laughter #7 - Inauthentic
those 7 points are so unrelated to the first part of the comment lol. almost as if you're saying that his poor hygiene etc impresses you 😂 edit: he edited his comment 😭
Number one, you care too much about what others think about you and let that stress you out. Biggest telltale for me is that the one person that acts big and tough around his friends is probably one of the most insecure people I see walking by on the sidewalk when they are by themselves. Don’t ever set your goals to meet someone else’s expectations and don’t give a f* about what other people think, because you will never be happy with yourself like that.
While true ideally, if you want to be successful in the corporate or business world you gotta listen to these. Your potential boss or higher ups who control your pay raises and promotions will care about many if not all of these things and it can and likely will hold you back if you dress sloppy, act weird and don't show confidence, if you stink and breathe your stinky breath in their face. Those things matter.
Thanks for everything you've done for us, King. I am a teenager myself, and I'm grateful for having Hamza's content in a crucial time when men are shaped and moulded under pressure. Thank you, Hamza (and Adonis)!
You shouldn't care what people think about you when it comes to how you want to live and express yourself. You SHOULD care what people think when they want you to just improve yourself, even if the way they express it is being uninterested in you.
Very good video Hamza this is very good for men from 15-25. I just wanted to mention that you should also include that special phrase "I don't care what people think" why it's bad and *false* too, but you already included it. Everyone cares for the opinion of at least a few others who are important to you. Like your parents, your crush, your mentor or your boss. This is a very good video, you have my sub.
I appreciate that you acknowledge you care about what others think of you. With so many people who say sugar coated lies like everyone is beautiful, don't care what other people think, it's a breath of fresh air to have someone say something like this. Not to be super conscious that you become inauthentic like those lies, but to go out of your way to be better.
As a guy who used to be insecure, I can now say there is a reason to be insecure. Like most of the shit people say and how they respond to you is dependent on so many things. What you can do is show them a charicature. You choose to show the person you want to be. Life is a lot more like the movie “Rango” than we think.
The 4th reason was what got me. Like I'm just out there with my boys and then we'll do like a handshake sorta thing and my brain has to try so hard to control the parts of my hand to actually perform it. You literally said it, I basically forgot the controls of my own body, which is why I'm extremely hyped to start training karate again (I trained 5 years earlier) after the holidays.
It might be worth noting that some people are socially awkward due to being on the autism spectrum. I'm one of the few who have actually grown out of my symptoms, but for a long time in childhood, it was difficult to be able to keep eye contact, smile when appropriate, etc. With a lot of therapy and early intervention from my parents, I don't really think about my mild autism anymore. If you're awkward and just can't help it, of course, try to improve yourself (study mannerisms/ body language psychology, try to avoid mannerisms that indicate insecurity) remember that the right people who are worth your time will accept you. But little changes help. For example, I learned recently that I shouldn't look down when talking to people, but look out horizontally if I need to break eye contact. Never give up on finding small things you can tweak here and there
Why people don't like you when meeting in person: 1. Poor hygiene 2. Your physique 3. Your clothes 4. Weird social mannerisms 5. You don't seem happy 6. You restrain your laughter 7. Inauthentic
You're like a sort of brother to me, as mine are older and I haven't spent much time with them before they left, so thank you so much for changing my life for the better.
Hamza, first of all thank you very much for helping me improve myself for the past 4-5 months. Anyway, a very close friend of mine, whom I know since elementary shool (we are now both 21) and whome I love dearly, has most of the faults you mentioned on the video, sadly including the hygiene one. Our friend group is consisted of men in good phsyical shape, good hygiene and social mannerisms, pretty good looks and realitively productive lives, although we all have our vices. However, that one friend, keeps denying self-improvement. He is deseprately trying to find arguments and reasons to stay in his comfort zone even though its obvious that he will never have a fullfilling sex life, among other things, if he does so. The only thing he has done, is go from the gym from time to time, without further researching how to make progress, and only managing to become a little stronger but also heavier (he is already a bit fat), menaing he does not take his diet seriously. Do you have any general or maybe even specific advice as to how I may be able to get him to decide to take the path of self-improvement and true self-respect?
Hamza has Made Videos about this, but Try to get him on one Thing First (Like good Hygiene) and slowly build upon that. Self Improvement can be a Lot when you First are introduced Just Try your best, but If nothing Works, you should carry on with your Other friends. Hope this helps
Call him out properly and show him that you care and want him to become the best version of himself. If he takes offense then there's nothing more you can do about it. You can bring a horse to water but you can't force it to drink.
You’re overthinking everything. You stop worrying about the opinions and acceptance of others when you focus on lifting and firearms in a time where people are scared of both. Stop trying to be nice and sucking up to people who always hated you. Let them know who’s in charge. Learn to fend for yourself.
You are the first person u have heard saying “I care what others think about me” I can truly relate . I have been before thinking it’s bad to think that’s way, but you explained it very well I will try my best to do as you do .
I’d say my biggest flaw is my physique, I genuinely am trying to improve it so shouldn’t be a problem. Also I’ve been watching you for a year now I love how inspiring you are and I’ve finally started improving all thanks to the people I know.
the social mannerism part was really relatable, I've always noticed I do these things somewhat of the time. Def need to practice looking at the people im interested in and smile
People should stop caring about what others think of them when they don’t stink anymore. Smelling Good = Self-Respect and that’s facts so thank you, Hamza!
Hi hamza, thank you for making these kinds of videos. About the social skills part, you actually encouraged me to stop being a guy that just stays on his PC all the time, i have been saving money to buy a scooter, and me and my friends are gonna start going to our local skate park to have fun, train our hobby, socialize and potentially gain new friends, so yeah, i'd say you took a part in that cause if it wasnt for you i wouldnt be doing this right now.
Bro this was one of your funniest videos in a while, I laughed out loud multiple times but aside from that I really feel called-out by what you said. I recognize a lot of the things you've mentioned in the way I handle social situations- obviously not nearly to the extent I used to so I did improve in all factors but not to the extent that would be sufficient. I'm not a fckn weirdo anymore thats for sure but I can see how people may feel like I come across as pissed off and I might still have some weird social mannerisms I'm not even aware of so definitely have to pay attention to that, thank you for all the insights
I needed this tbf but I also wanted some advice on something. There was this girl I've really liked for a while at my friend's bday party back in September. My main friend's at the party knew I liked her and so essentially invited her to set me up with her. I usually get extremely nervous but I've been doing more things to get more confident for the past year or so, and so I did what I could via methods I found from watching vids similar to yours. I sat next to her most of that day but was still talking to other friends as to not be too clingy and/or forward. I talked to her quite a bit, inside the party as well as when we were going to the shops. I took actual interest in what she was saying, not forced interest. I made her laugh quite a lot and I wasn't nervous around her and didn't do anything to really f*ck it up, at least nothing major as I would've remembered that. She was also touching me here and there like on my leg and whatnot and these are apparently some of the signs she's interested. She also mentioned she had a date the next day but did say she was essentially going to friendzone him. After the party I didn't message her until the day after to give her that time with him. I asked her if she wanted to go bowling with me, as a date, which i mentioned. She's usually slow to reply with everyone including some of her best friends so she took 3 4 days to reply which was fine but she replied saying that she was up for that but only as friends. So now, I need to know if I did something wrong on my part, did she lose interest in the 3 4 days in between or is she still interested and doesn't want to show it for some reason, any advice or opinions on this?
escalate more. Rather have a no to a kiss than no kiss after first date. And dont talk about other guys, make a joke change topic ur not her good friend to listen to these stuff
@@rickZ1234 When you say escalate more, do you mean try and figure out why she said no to the date? I agree with that but at the same time I only let it carry on because she mentioned she wasn't interested in him and was going to let him know that next day after the date, otherwise I probably would've changed the topic or take it as an implication as her saying she wasn't interested in me. So how do I go about asking without sounding desperate? Plus it's been a month and a half now since then so I'm not even sure it's the way to go anymore.
@@chyaboi11 Sorry i'm not native english and went way too short, probably. 1.) You need to get her the feeling you are the men. Examples: be direct, no uncleanness in your choices/decisions, one man one word and don't play her games Next Example: If she talks about her date tomorrow or like her ex. Don't try to ask her any stuff about it. You are NOT HER FRIEND, in this way. I don't know you, a joke and then change the topic. How is from personality to personality different as well as the Situation 2. Make more Contact it's a mix between Comfort, Trust and Tension. When u don't try to kiss her or better more (be careful neediness and touchy) on the first date, she won't see u as the men. Your part is to make the steps and if you are too slow you're gone For this Girl, it's already too late. You can try to make a meeting with her, don't play her only friends game, but the chances are very low. Improve yourself, go to next girl and next girl. Till you're over saturated and stop to think about one girl or to chase any
To be honest, I think not caring about other's opinions can be a good thing, but if you don't care to such a degree that you become creepy, repulsive or simply uncaring for yourself, it becomes severly detrimental to you and others. Your appearance and mannerisms matter. If you want to make friends and create lasting bonds, you will need that good first impression. I wish you all luck in your grind to the top.
these are good advice and im grateful Hamza is giving them out for free. however as a teenage boy who is still growing and trying to learn more about myself i find it hard or struggle to follow these advices. this may sound like im complaining or im just a stupid loser who can't do anything, (i've always been lazy and didn't care about my looks and everything so having this changes can be too terrifying for me), This feels like total perfection i know its just the bare minimum but still i do need help and trust me i am trying my best to change for the better but i still need help.
Also the biggest thing is to stop trying to get people to like you. Once I gave up caring what people thought of me is when people started to respect me. I turned into myself unconditionally no matter who I was around (with the exception of my professional life) and I think people saw that as "bold" and "courageous" even if I wasn't trying and it made people respect me more. It also minimized my social anxiety as well. If someone doesn't like me, that's their problem now and it doesn't really bother me anymore. It's kind of a paradoxical solution haha
Really great video bro, the part about social mannerisms really hit home for me, and I can say from experience that it’s true - hearing it from someone like you is the key to confirming my theories, now I am positive that I can improve on it 🤙
6:46 in my college I literally have no reasons to smile. I'm smiling sometimes but there are alot of moments when I fake my smile, and I hate this. I don't want to smile when I'm not happy or not really laughing.
For me, it’s different. I smile regardless whether I’m happy or not. But it’s not meant to be fake, I don’t see it as fake. It depends on how and why you perceive yourself to smile. But the habit of smiling, being confident, carrying yourself will convince your body or mind that you are what you act. Smiling doesn’t have to mean your happy, it can be used to show people you are friendly. And gratitude, for even the littlest things, can make you happy.
All of these points mentioned in this video or in any similar ones, are important, but you guys have to do them for yourselves for your health, for people in general not just “attracting girls”, be yourselves, workout so you have a better life, be hygienic so you don’t get sick be hygienic for your family for your homies first, if you want to change for girls, fine, but I think you should do them for yourself and for your loved ones, that’s where your priorities should be
I always go away from this channel for months on end but always come back to check on the editing and such, and am always surprised by how quickly it all progresses in proficiency outstanding
I think the first two things to change at first. Is your hygiene and Wardrobe. Trust me ladies you work with or go to school with will notice the change. Once you're confident on how you look and smell then it's easier to work on the other self-improvements like going to the gym and your social problems
I am so happy to see the old hamza that guide me every single day to be better!! thank you so much hamza for your positive and self improvement preach that changed my mindset.. I am still working on myself I know I have just started this and it will take a long way time to achieve my dream and goal...
Thank you hamza I started watching your videos and started acting on them as well and it is working great, people in school respect me I have found good friends and more girls are reaching out to me. Thanks, bro please don't stop doing these videos.
Man this is something in my life that I feel really good about. People seem to like me from meeting me once and I tend to leave a good first impression. This is one of those videos where I can happily say I don't need to address these issues.
Thank you, hamza, You helped me become what I am now, Better. I used to be your average Jeffrey you know watching anime all day, no social skill and not sporting. You’ve really helped me improve your advice is golden. I now sport 5times a week, read, meditate, building social skill and being outside more. First I used to be sick weekly now (it doesn’t seem much but it is) now I have just been doing everything for a month (aka not being sick). The reason I used to get sick so much was because of social situations, I’d get scared, terrified even. But you, you helped me so so much and I just wanted to thank you for that.
I like to recognize the issues with myself so I can solve them, and from my own look at myself I believe I’ve got issues with Physique and Style. I think socially I’m pretty well mannered and kind, I treat others how I’d like to be treated. My issues involve my weight and my choice of style, overweight with a basic style, but I’m improving over time.
Being yourself is overused advice but it's kind of true. Be yourself but be the best version of yourself, don't just be you right now. Improve yourself to the point you don't need to act like someone else for people to like you!
Yo bro, I’m like almost in highschool and I still have no real friends. Like I have good friends at school but we never hang out after school. Im going to a different highschool then all my friends next year tho so what should I change to start over?
This is good advice. When you are the best version of yourself, you radiate confidence and people are attracted to you. Also pick up a skill/talent that gives you genuine joy and get good at it and share it with people. I picked up cooking & piano playing in the pandemic and I’ve gotten quite good at both and I notice people like me more now than before.
@@k3ilan111 I guess a good idea is to improve your social skills (obviously). That improvement could come from a better physique, some new achievement of yours, a new purpose, your hobbies etc! Looking presentable is the first step of course, but then you gotta have the personality to support the appearance
5:09 I think a big factor to this is also that people don't realize that there's actually a lot of people who aren't neurotypical and their conditions probably make it more difficult for them to go with the flow of a conversation or pick up on social cues. Mind you, this is still a skill that can be worked on.
For me smiling is one of my biggest insecurities as of right now. It use to be tied with my nose but I've grown out of with my nose structure from the side profile. Even though my profile is me smiling it kinda gets me insecure but I can't change or drop a lot of money on surgery. With being uncomfortable and smiling more imma get through this and strive yuhhhh
Yeah it’s tuff when you wanna smile but something on your face messes it up, I have ugly teeth so I have to smile without showing my teeth until I get money for fixing them
I felt related to the Outsider from Lovecraft for a long time. Considered a weirdo when I was a kid. Not gonna lie, improving all these areas really helped. It is also important to have a smiling approach to people. No one wanna deal with the eternal sulking guy.
I watched this after your dangerous habits video and when I saw the picture of you and your girlfriend I got a instinctual knee jerk response of jealousy then the negative thought of "i can't ever get that" or "that'll never be me" and just like you said in the last video I simply let the thought happen. Thanks hamza.
Jealously is the number #1 enemy of success. People get jealous way too often, especially losers. And when I see jealous losers I'm not sure the Jealously is 100% of the problem but it definitely hurts their chances of ever being successful. I've never been jealous of anyone. When I see someone with a lambo or living in a crazy house or drinking $20,000 bottles of wine I dont get jealous at all. If anything, I'll think "I want that someday, what can I do to get there and do I really want to or even can do what it takes"
Reason 5 made me laugh hard. I had that time where I always acted like there was a camera filming me and I had to be the coolest, avoiding every social interaction. I thought I was the shit but looking back I realized how stupid that was.
your videos are growing on me i relate so much sometimes i think your being harsh but its the tough love being cruel to be kind i need to here that im shit i want to fix this.
Dude you are so right man I started to look forward to my hygiene and looks much much more, I never leave home unshaved, always or at least somewhat well dressed, and I try to be good and friendly to everyone i see, I just need to check my teeth because I might need to wear bracers again, Im also looking to get a nice bodyshape, Im around 16% body fat, looking forward to get to at least 11 or 12. Thx for everything Hamza, you thought me to inspire myself in good men in my family like my father and my two grandfathers, and I hope to provide to my family as they have
After having not watched Hamza for a while and trying to improve myself on my own, I really needed this video to set some shit straight. Another W from Hamza.
I think acne is one. I have acne since I was born, then after a few months they disappeared again... When I was around 12 they started appearing again. People are just offended by them, male or female, someone is going to dislike you a bit because of it... I had 10s which seemed they simply didn't care... I don't know
I’m glad Hamza says that he wants people to like him. That is authentic. I’ve grown tired of seeing people pretend it’s all for them. It’s okay to do it for other people, just be mindful of the positive changed it also has on you when you meditate.
Worth saying that improvement in these will reinforce each other. Looking well, dressing well, and smelling good will give you more confidence and you’ll come off better. If people like you, more opportunities. Do it.
sad thing about hyperhidrosis is people think that you're unhygienic, while its quite the oposite. I have it and people have called me out for being dirty because my hands get wet within minutes or i start having sweat rings on my armpits. It does destroy my confidence quite a lot
That’s really eye opening. I’ve been doing all those things, but thinking it’s for me. When i cared about others opinion i put myself down thinking it’s wrong to care. But your right , I do care , it’s for me as well as others.
I don’t have most of these but the social mannerisms is so spot on. I feel so lost in a room full of new people like I’ve forgotten how to act like a human being so I end up just doing mannerisms so I don’t look stiff
Uhm, I can't believe how much this video spreads truth. You talk about things that not everyone would have the courage or knowledge to talk about. We need men to be men, and I think you're doing a great job at helping us to become a better one. Thank you Hamza.
I'm pretty sure I've got the weird social mannerisms one. Sometimes I feel really awkward and uncomfortable myself and people pick up on it, and it hinders my social interactions. I try all the time to work on it but progress is slow.
i mostly dont watch these type of videos but damn its like your living with me the same life with the same problems so relatable respect to you hamaza for trying to help
Observe urself fr i noticed that i dont smile much when interacting nd i overthink shit too much being comfortable around people is the key u get the same vibe that u send i emproved a lot thankfully am even this little bit close to get my first girl live is good keep it up kings
In school i dont so much fit in when i joined i got immediatly bullied by my whole class. I changed my whole personality to become more "confident" which is completely fake but it is a bit working Before that i went out with my friend and he had other friends very popular, They were all standing in a circle and talking and the conversation i couldnt remember. He told his friend infront of my face " I dont like this guy, its just something about his face or so on" He ended up smashing a cup on his friends head as a joke. Later on my 2nd friend said he was gonna smash a cup on my 1 friends head and i told him sure go ahead. 2 minutes later he sneaks up behind me and does it to me. Im not sure what i do wrong and why people dislike me cuz i met every criteria here.
Bro the dont smile one hit me like a car dude. I swear people always tell me to smile or to stop looking sad when in reality its just my resting face. I have the most dead look in my face especially my eyes when I am not showing a specific emotion. So I got to work on that idk how I can make my eyes look less like I smoked pot for 2 hours but I will try.
Yo Hamza Ima try not to make this comment too long idk if u will read this but i've recently tried improving myself and all yours videos are so informative and the amount of people you have helped is crazy, honestly thank you for helping men so much and i clicked on this video just to see cause your vids are good, and as I was watching reason 5 bro caught my attention i do this a lot but not like in an annoying way I just look kinda cold I guess u could say towards girls to make it look like I am not chasing, but Ima try changing that up and hope it helps. Thanks for the vids and congrats on 1m
8:34 thats basically all of hospitality industry, i study in hospitality and tourism school and when we have practice we are told to be polite and thats what they teach us in classes, even if you are sad, dont show it, put a fake smile and we arent supposed to manifest any negative emotions in any circumstance(those are some basic rules of bigger hotel franchises)
So here’s how it goes for me when it comes to hygiene: I would say I am a very hygienic person. I shower every day, I regularly cut my fingernails and I brush my teeth 2-3 times a day. And I don’t have any problems with my fingernails but I don’t know what to do about showering and brushing my teeth: cause even though I shower every day especially before going somewhere, the second I am leaving the house I smell bad again (also I am using deodorant for that reason, but it doesn’t really help) and even though I brush my teeth 2-3 times a day my teeth still have a yellow tint and I really don’t know what to do about it, so if anyone has experienced these kind of problems and knows what to do about it, help would be appreciated :)
Yellow tint on your teeth is normal. It depends on what natural colour your teeth are. If you see someone with perfectly snowy-white teeth it probably means they've done some treatments.
Honestly, same. (dont mind my username) I do everything, shower twice a day as well as brush and im an extreme germophobe and…. still i look like a pissed off dude
Hamza your contents are getting better and better as the movement grows. Congrats on 1M. Perhaps you could make a video in the future on how to restore polarity with a woman you're in a relationship with, if you've somehow become depolarised. In general, a video on sexual polarity would really spice up your content.
I have so many people liking me without being ripped or 'manly' or anything lol. I'm fully straight but I still have mostly friends who are girls and quite a few of them like/liked me romantically too. So if anyone feels low because they're not as manly as 'that dude' I promise you personality matters way more in the long run. But this doesn't mean don't take care of yourself, I still exercise, follow a skincare routine and have good fashion sense and smell. As long as you are living a healthy lifestyle and not sitting in one place the whole day. You're probably quite healthy already and arguably better than most guys out there, trust me.
You missed the point completely if all you took away was get a six pack and huge muscles to get laid. Yes being ripped helps but the point is a reasonably in shape dude who dresses well and has it together had 10x the chance of a fat slob who smells like shit. If someone is guilty of a few of these, or maybe even 1 it will hurt them, and fixing it could be life changing even if they dont go full beast mode and get ripped
I struggled to fit in growing up. I would sometimes try and join in with other kids games and they would bluntly say “You’re not playing”. Other times, I would find myself bullied, teased or have horrible rumours spread about me. It just seemed like there was something that other people just detested about me. I asked people about it and they would say “you just seem weird”. I had no idea why it was happening and I thought there was something wrong with me that I didn’t know about. Over the years, I tried working on my social skills, joke telling abilities, confidence when speaking etc. which did help a bit, but even by my teens it felt like people often just politely tolerated or put up with me or ignored me completely. There was still a missing piece of the puzzle. It wasn’t until I realised that I was simply lacking on the most basic criteria of making a good impression that Hamza addressed in the video, that my life really began to change for the better... My hair was always a mess (when I was a kid I had a bowl haircut with curtains lmao) because I never bothered to style it - then in my teens it became mega greasy to add insult to injury. I had zero fashion sense and never really cared for it - I would always be confused when people spent so much time, money and effort into clothing - so I always wore mismatching or out of fashion clothing simply because I put on whatever felt comfortable - I often wore baggy trousers and crocs (because they were simple to put on and take off) as a kid, which is a fucking weird combo. Also, I was always skinny as a twig due to my fast metabolism and poor appetite which made me look unhealthy at times. I also realised that when I was a child I was a mouth breather which meant that everyone could hear me breathe in and out when they were sitting around me in assembly during primary school and my breath stank also, plus this mouth breathing resulted in a small underdeveloped jawline and crooked teeth which didn’t help my looks either. Lastly, I was self conscious about my long thin neck so I would hunch forward to try and hide it which was completely counterproductive as I developed kyphosis and rounded shoulders. Acne also was added into the mix when puberty hit. Aesthetically and looks-wise, I was a complete mess. Only when I corrected/worked on improving just the basics did things start to change. I started eating more and lifted weight to improve my physique, I put more effort into wearing decent clothing, I started mewing and worked on my posture, breathing through my nose and holding my head up high. I eliminated dairy to improve my acne and look after my skin and hair much more carefully. Without majorly working on anything else in terms of my personality, confidence, social skills etc. these differences alone completely transformed my social life and how people treated and respected me. I now have lots of great friends. I strongly agree with Hamza and believe that many people overthink or overcomplicate things when things aren’t working out for them socially or in terms of first impressions (social skills, charisma, confidence, joke telling ability etc.) when actually they just need to sort out some basic rudimentary stuff.
u are literally me. I am experiencing hairloss not that noticeable but it's still visible on looking carefully. I m skinny as hell , do not have a fashion sense, i m tall and my neck is long and thin too. I have like kind of oval face but lil bit of jawline. My teeth's crooked . the only decent thing i have is my height 6'1. It is pretty tall for where i live.
@@_the_invictus_8394 I try to embrace my giraffe neck these days lol. yeah throughout my entire life it seems the only thing that naturally I had going for me was my height but it was overshadowed by everything else for a long time, actually if anything it probably worked against me initially because it exacerbated my gawky twig like stature. When I filled out though it became a godsend. Eating lots can be hard at first but your appetite will increase as your stomach gets bigger. Tall and thin people (ectomorphs) like us unfortunately tend to have naturally smaller stomachs which makes us full more easily than any other physique.
im currently living at a boarding school with totally new people and i recently heard from one of my friends that people that ive never interacted with dont like me, and i immidiatly wrote it of as being their fault for not giving me a chance but this video has made me realise that i might be partially to blame, im a very skinny guy that dont really care about fashion but i realise now that if i want people to like me i have to work hard for it... thx
Just looking at the video's title brought back a lot of memories. I remember, as kids, one time, we were playing football, and this guy just wouldn't ever pass the ball to me. I confronted him about it, and he goes "I don't know what it is about you, maybe its your face, but I just don't like you at all."
I remember repeatedly feeling like there was something about me that made me have a bad impression on people.
And today, I've come to the point where I've repeatedly been told that I make a really good first impression.
My greatest advice to you would be to understand that this, like everything else, is a skill that can be improved. How do you improve it? Practice.
The more often you put yourself in social situations, the more natural, the more relaxed, the more authentic you'll become at them.
Hope that helps :)
This is true. I've been practicing being more socialable by just complementing random people and just attempting conversations when appropriate. Sometimes it's awkward and soemtiems it goes somewhere but something that is always true is it feels great.
Dude you are jacked af
Me personally I would definitely not let that slide
Same thing is happening to me bro
Rarely someone passes me basketball expect from by beasties...
Thus I am not able to improve my skill
And also my game is also going down lately...
My motor skills are really trash...
I need to work on them...
Man if anybody told me that I would have made sure a lesson he doesn't repeat it again, yes, that was it.
Notes for y'all:
The reason it matters: first impressions are important for building relationships.
1. Poor Hygiene - Smelling or looking unclean will instantly turn people off of you.
2. Physique - A bad physique portrays laziness while a great physique portrays discipline.
3. Clothes - Must be clean and look presentable, if not, you’ll be seen as lazy/dirty.
4. Mannerisms - Eye contact/Body Language.
5. Not smiling - Smiling at others makes them like you.
6. Don’t restrain your laughter - People like to be laughed with, so laugh freely in conversation.
7. Authenticity - Be yourself, don’t be someone else because you want to attract someone.
Great work, King.
workout 5 days a week and still have body that dont deserve any respect , constant for weeks , months and years . thats why i stopped caring about what other thinks about me , society.
Doesn't matter for me, I'm simply and factually ugly. I have the physique I could've ever hoped for, Yet nothing I can do to fix my ugly headshape.
@@Ivee. I’ve seen plenty of guys who are objectively uglier than me been much more successful socially because of their positive disposition and mannerisms.
Bro i got no idea how to fix my social skills
I am genuinely grateful for this man Hamza, he doesn't accept sponsorships since he has enough money and genuinely cares about his audience. He produces quality content rather than quantity, which I believe every UA-camr should emulate. This individual is genuinely making an effort to raise awareness and help us.
facts
he will accept sponsors as his channel grows more bcs its a lot of cash but its okay anyways
He payed you for saying that ?
@@kushie591 that's what I'm thinking . His goal is to teach us how to be a man but also he won't refuse more money lol. Doesn't make sense
@@1010BARCA1010 Refusing money is being a man?
I was brand new 19-year-old out of basic training in German night club, approaching Russian girl (I am Russian myself, but served in US Army). I had liquid courage in me, but not to the point of being completely trashed (just mildly tipsy). Was introduced by other Russians who hung out with her (of my age - all young mixture of both girls and guys) and mentioned we had a lot in common. Very attractive, which already made me hesitate. However as soon as I sat down, I felt not like someone who have anything in common (or any sort of confidence in talking to her) but more of like some sort of dog on the chain that was being yanked every time I opened my mouth. The girl looked more irritated and irritated, and I was starting to blurt out nonsense as if it was some sort of effective damage control, The girl simply blew up at me and walked off. The moral of the story? Sometimes you are your own worst enemy.
That's rough buddy.
This is me everyday
well done, stop talking to all women all together and your life will be 100x better
@@coloradostatesenatorsteven7443 I think you're missing the point of Self-improvement...
You're just not attractive
The way you said that at 5:07 "I don't say this to be offensive, I say it because we're here to improve" is beautiful. That approach will reach most people's hearts and make them consider their lifestyles/actions/habits because it sounds genuine and like you're trying to help, instead of just making fun of Jeffreys. This is a new "tactic" you've implemented if I'm not mistaken and I think it's going to do wonders if you keep on using it (for the channel growth and converting people to take action and take self-improvement more seriously, since softer people are going to take advice like that better).
Also, the editing has really leveled up, I really like when the video cuts to the text that almost looks like it's handwritten on certain bullet points. A really great addition to the recent videos.
Hamza means well, but some of his followers are teen blokes who thinks being an asshole to "Jeffreys" somehow makes 'em wanna change themselves. A single bad actor in a large group can make the group as a whole looks bad.
@@DoMyHomework_mhm, they act like they weren't Jeffries as well. Everyone starts out as a Jeffrey before they start self improvement, atleast everyone living a bad life.
"Do the hard work, especially when you dont feel like it" is the most important thing in this video.
It repeats in my head when I don’t feel like it.
There’s a difference between hygiene and caring about what others think of you. And there is a difference between caring about what others think of you and letting that opinion rule your life.
Right. It's a one-way ticket to people pleasing and loss of self if unchecked
Many successful people dress plain/ common and wear cheap clothes. But few dress like a total slob with dirty and/or baggy clothes.... you dont need to be buying $500 shirts, but even then a well fitted $5 t shirt will look better than a slobby baggy dirty $500 designer shirt
Yes, especially if someone gives you hints or straight up says something bad about you, don't just cry about it in you room wishing things were different, *make things different*
I mean yeah but it kinda sucks that we have to completely change ourselves just so people won’t be fcking assholes
@@GoldenMushroom64 not really. how good the world would be if most people that are fucking losers wouldnt be. it would be a very happy place. sometimes i watch when like 30 people get out from train and enter the shopping mall while im eating a sandwich in subway, and i see around 90% of them are so fucking sad looking motherfuckers that it's so sad. and all this could be fixed if they watched this video and took action
@@GoldenMushroom64 true
Damn that’s helpful, if only there was a way to get taller so people wouldn’t criticize me for being short
@@Leslie_-xm2vq 😂
Hello good sir, I have a testimony.
By the time I was 16 years old, I was morbidly obese. I was 430lbs, high school drop out, bound for lots of trouble in every way.
When I became a legal adult everything changed rapidly. I lost 150lbs, became a landscaping foreman, got my GED, along with several other changes. Obviously the way I was raised had something to do with my issues in my opinion.
I am now 29. I stumbled upon your videos a couple months ago, and they have restarted me. As if I turned 18 again, working harder, in the gym more often, working on financial decisions, etc. Thanks a lot for the videos. They are the closest thing to therapy I have experienced.
This is a problem I have. I’m a fairly attractive guy, have a beautiful girlfriend, a decent amount of friends and good hygiene yet it seems like when people first meet me I give off a bad impression. I think it’s because I’m pretty antisocial around new people but when I try to be social it feels like I’m trying too hard and people still don’t respect me. I’m very comfortable not necessarily being liked by everyone but it does make you insecure when people just seem to not like you on first glance.
@@user-jy5oi9bi4i Bros got the same name as me
@J hey bro I've had the same problem most of my life especially fitting in and feeling interesting, especially in situations where somebody looks pretty uninterested in my company. I've found that it's kind of a bad mental cirkel, because the more you/i experience this kind of rejection the harder we think/try to make up for feeling or coming of as boring or uninteresting to other people and really I've personally found that's the thought that is self-destructive the thought that says´´You need to try harder´´ to the point that you will be trying too hard and that will come off to other people as being fake or inauthentic because people unconsciously are able to pick up signs that that isn't your true self. So what I do is that prior to/while meeting new people I focus on being myself to the fullest and then (I know this is I easier said than done I still struggle with this) ignore that feeling of not being interesting enough and stripe to be the best possible version on my self instead of overthinking the first impression. Of course, I don't know you but I hope my experiences helped you best regards Jeppe :)
What, my name starts with J too.
how did you get a girlfriend if your antisocial around new people?
@@stormstudios1 gravity
The more you socialize with different kinds of people, you will learn how to socialize better and your weirdness will fall away. You have to make a conscious decision to improve on your weirdness. Also raising your general awareness in like sports, politics etc that groups like to small talk about also helps.
Holy crap Hamza, I see how the quality of your videos and content just improves every day.
I really just want to thank you brother, these last three years have been extremly hard for me. I grew up very insecure and disgusted by my own self, probably because I was bullied since the age of six in my school, this feeling intensified 3 years ago when I hit puberty, I had to leave my country and I left everything I had, I moved to a village in the mountains in an eastern european country for religous reasons, I've been trough it all, heartbreak, loss, betrayal, depression, addiction, anexiety, self-hatred, poverty, identity crisis, I almost took my own life four times at the age of 14. And you brother are one of the reasons that kept me going, you've helped me become wiser, stronger, grateful , heck, even attractive!!! I'm very grateful for your life and for what you've done, I'm finally starting to become happier, and I've found the man within myself. Thanks Hamza, You are saving lives.
gets better after 18 bud
Congratulations man. Lets see you shine even brighter once more!
Let's go brother. you have been through the fire and you know what it's like to struggle and hurt, how about we make sure you never get that feeling again by creating momentum 💪🏾
@@wavyjunes ❤️
man congrats really nice to hear
i can definitely relate to when you said that people don't respect you as much if your skinny or fat, like on a number of occasions I've experienced this in the past because i was skinny, because i was skinny people would just instantly suspect im a geek and dislike me this was also probably due to my social mannerisms but now i have a much better physique/build than i had before ive also been making better first impressions on people. ive been trying to improve myself for not even a year yet and results are already showing thank you hamza for helping me :)
Congrats on 1 million again Hamza! Production quality never fails to impress me
Video Summary:
#1 - Poor Hygiene
#2 - Your Physique
#3 - Your Clothes
#4 - Social Manners
#5 - You Dont Smile
#6 - Dont Restrain Laughter
#7 - Inauthentic
production of a cult leader
those 7 points are so unrelated to the first part of the comment lol. almost as if you're saying that his poor hygiene etc impresses you 😂
edit: he edited his comment 😭
What years of developing your craft does for you. It shows in his quality content 💯
1.03M now
I need understand more about 6&7
Number one, you care too much about what others think about you and let that stress you out. Biggest telltale for me is that the one person that acts big and tough around his friends is probably one of the most insecure people I see walking by on the sidewalk when they are by themselves. Don’t ever set your goals to meet someone else’s expectations and don’t give a f* about what other people think, because you will never be happy with yourself like that.
While true ideally, if you want to be successful in the corporate or business world you gotta listen to these. Your potential boss or higher ups who control your pay raises and promotions will care about many if not all of these things and it can and likely will hold you back if you dress sloppy, act weird and don't show confidence, if you stink and breathe your stinky breath in their face. Those things matter.
Thanks for everything you've done for us, King. I am a teenager myself, and I'm grateful for having Hamza's content in a crucial time when men are shaped and moulded under pressure. Thank you, Hamza (and Adonis)!
You shouldn't care what people think about you when it comes to how you want to live and express yourself. You SHOULD care what people think when they want you to just improve yourself, even if the way they express it is being uninterested in you.
Very good video Hamza this is very good for men from 15-25. I just wanted to mention that you should also include that special phrase "I don't care what people think" why it's bad and *false* too, but you already included it. Everyone cares for the opinion of at least a few others who are important to you. Like your parents, your crush, your mentor or your boss. This is a very good video, you have my sub.
I appreciate that you acknowledge you care about what others think of you. With so many people who say sugar coated lies like everyone is beautiful, don't care what other people think, it's a breath of fresh air to have someone say something like this. Not to be super conscious that you become inauthentic like those lies, but to go out of your way to be better.
As a guy who used to be insecure, I can now say there is a reason to be insecure.
Like most of the shit people say and how they respond to you is dependent on so many things.
What you can do is show them a charicature. You choose to show the person you want to be.
Life is a lot more like the movie “Rango” than we think.
The 4th reason was what got me.
Like I'm just out there with my boys and then we'll do like a handshake sorta thing and my brain has to try so hard to control the parts of my hand to actually perform it.
You literally said it, I basically forgot the controls of my own body, which is why I'm extremely hyped to start training karate again (I trained 5 years earlier) after the holidays.
It gets better bro
This is super important, most people out there don’t know how to take care of themselves properly and never learn
man.... words aren t enough to express my gratitude for what you are doing out there for us.
It might be worth noting that some people are socially awkward due to being on the autism spectrum. I'm one of the few who have actually grown out of my symptoms, but for a long time in childhood, it was difficult to be able to keep eye contact, smile when appropriate, etc. With a lot of therapy and early intervention from my parents, I don't really think about my mild autism anymore. If you're awkward and just can't help it, of course, try to improve yourself (study mannerisms/ body language psychology, try to avoid mannerisms that indicate insecurity) remember that the right people who are worth your time will accept you. But little changes help. For example, I learned recently that I shouldn't look down when talking to people, but look out horizontally if I need to break eye contact. Never give up on finding small things you can tweak here and there
Why people don't like you when meeting in person:
1. Poor hygiene
2. Your physique
3. Your clothes
4. Weird social mannerisms
5. You don't seem happy
6. You restrain your laughter
7. Inauthentic
You're like a sort of brother to me, as mine are older and I haven't spent much time with them before they left, so thank you so much for changing my life for the better.
Hamza, first of all thank you very much for helping me improve myself for the past 4-5 months.
Anyway, a very close friend of mine, whom I know since elementary shool (we are now both 21) and whome I love dearly, has most of the faults you mentioned on the video, sadly including the hygiene one. Our friend group is consisted of men in good phsyical shape, good hygiene and social mannerisms, pretty good looks and realitively productive lives, although we all have our vices. However, that one friend, keeps denying self-improvement. He is deseprately trying to find arguments and reasons to stay in his comfort zone even though its obvious that he will never have a fullfilling sex life, among other things, if he does so. The only thing he has done, is go from the gym from time to time, without further researching how to make progress, and only managing to become a little stronger but also heavier (he is already a bit fat), menaing he does not take his diet seriously.
Do you have any general or maybe even specific advice as to how I may be able to get him to decide to take the path of self-improvement and true self-respect?
Hamza has Made Videos about this, but Try to get him on one Thing First (Like good Hygiene) and slowly build upon that. Self Improvement can be a Lot when you First are introduced Just Try your best, but If nothing Works, you should carry on with your Other friends. Hope this helps
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Call him out properly and show him that you care and want him to become the best version of himself. If he takes offense then there's nothing more you can do about it. You can bring a horse to water but you can't force it to drink.
You’re overthinking everything. You stop worrying about the opinions and acceptance of others when you focus on lifting and firearms in a time where people are scared of both. Stop trying to be nice and sucking up to people who always hated you. Let them know who’s in charge. Learn to fend for yourself.
7:26 😭😭😭 i'm dead bro
You are the first person u have heard saying “I care what others think about me” I can truly relate . I have been before thinking it’s bad to think that’s way, but you explained it very well I will try my best to do as you do .
I’d say my biggest flaw is my physique, I genuinely am trying to improve it so shouldn’t be a problem. Also I’ve been watching you for a year now I love how inspiring you are and I’ve finally started improving all thanks to the people I know.
the social mannerism part was really relatable, I've always noticed I do these things somewhat of the time. Def need to practice looking at the people im interested in and smile
People should stop caring about what others think of them when they don’t stink anymore. Smelling Good = Self-Respect and that’s facts so thank you, Hamza!
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Hi hamza, thank you for making these kinds of videos. About the social skills part, you actually encouraged me to stop being a guy that just stays on his PC all the time, i have been saving money to buy a scooter, and me and my friends are gonna start going to our local skate park to have fun, train our hobby, socialize and potentially gain new friends, so yeah, i'd say you took a part in that cause if it wasnt for you i wouldnt be doing this right now.
Bro this was one of your funniest videos in a while, I laughed out loud multiple times but aside from that I really feel called-out by what you said. I recognize a lot of the things you've mentioned in the way I handle social situations- obviously not nearly to the extent I used to so I did improve in all factors but not to the extent that would be sufficient. I'm not a fckn weirdo anymore thats for sure but I can see how people may feel like I come across as pissed off and I might still have some weird social mannerisms I'm not even aware of so definitely have to pay attention to that, thank you for all the insights
I needed this tbf but I also wanted some advice on something. There was this girl I've really liked for a while at my friend's bday party back in September. My main friend's at the party knew I liked her and so essentially invited her to set me up with her. I usually get extremely nervous but I've been doing more things to get more confident for the past year or so, and so I did what I could via methods I found from watching vids similar to yours. I sat next to her most of that day but was still talking to other friends as to not be too clingy and/or forward. I talked to her quite a bit, inside the party as well as when we were going to the shops. I took actual interest in what she was saying, not forced interest. I made her laugh quite a lot and I wasn't nervous around her and didn't do anything to really f*ck it up, at least nothing major as I would've remembered that. She was also touching me here and there like on my leg and whatnot and these are apparently some of the signs she's interested. She also mentioned she had a date the next day but did say she was essentially going to friendzone him. After the party I didn't message her until the day after to give her that time with him. I asked her if she wanted to go bowling with me, as a date, which i mentioned. She's usually slow to reply with everyone including some of her best friends so she took 3 4 days to reply which was fine but she replied saying that she was up for that but only as friends. So now, I need to know if I did something wrong on my part, did she lose interest in the 3 4 days in between or is she still interested and doesn't want to show it for some reason, any advice or opinions on this?
escalate more. Rather have a no to a kiss than no kiss after first date. And dont talk about other guys, make a joke change topic ur not her good friend to listen to these stuff
@@rickZ1234 When you say escalate more, do you mean try and figure out why she said no to the date? I agree with that but at the same time I only let it carry on because she mentioned she wasn't interested in him and was going to let him know that next day after the date, otherwise I probably would've changed the topic or take it as an implication as her saying she wasn't interested in me. So how do I go about asking without sounding desperate? Plus it's been a month and a half now since then so I'm not even sure it's the way to go anymore.
@@chyaboi11 Sorry i'm not native english and went way too short, probably.
1.) You need to get her the feeling you are the men. Examples: be direct, no uncleanness in your choices/decisions, one man one word and don't play her games
Next Example: If she talks about her date tomorrow or like her ex. Don't try to ask her any stuff about it. You are NOT HER FRIEND, in this way. I don't know you, a joke and then change the topic. How is from personality to personality different as well as the Situation
2. Make more Contact it's a mix between Comfort, Trust and Tension.
When u don't try to kiss her or better more (be careful neediness and touchy) on the first date, she won't see u as the men.
Your part is to make the steps and if you are too slow you're gone
For this Girl, it's already too late. You can try to make a meeting with her, don't play her only friends game, but the chances are very low.
Improve yourself, go to next girl and next girl. Till you're over saturated and stop to think about one girl or to chase any
To be honest, I think not caring about other's opinions can be a good thing, but if you don't care to such a degree that you become creepy, repulsive or simply uncaring for yourself, it becomes severly detrimental to you and others. Your appearance and mannerisms matter. If you want to make friends and create lasting bonds, you will need that good first impression.
I wish you all luck in your grind to the top.
Go king we all are here to improve 💪
these are good advice and im grateful Hamza is giving them out for free. however as a teenage boy who is still growing and trying to learn more about myself i find it hard or struggle to follow these advices. this may sound like im complaining or im just a stupid loser who can't do anything, (i've always been lazy and didn't care about my looks and everything so having this changes can be too terrifying for me), This feels like total perfection i know its just the bare minimum but still i do need help and trust me i am trying my best to change for the better but i still need help.
Also the biggest thing is to stop trying to get people to like you. Once I gave up caring what people thought of me is when people started to respect me. I turned into myself unconditionally no matter who I was around (with the exception of my professional life) and I think people saw that as "bold" and "courageous" even if I wasn't trying and it made people respect me more. It also minimized my social anxiety as well. If someone doesn't like me, that's their problem now and it doesn't really bother me anymore. It's kind of a paradoxical solution haha
Really great video bro, the part about social mannerisms really hit home for me, and I can say from experience that it’s true - hearing it from someone like you is the key to confirming my theories, now I am positive that I can improve on it 🤙
@@f4llenstarr I’m being more social and spending less time gaming and stuff like that
@@f4llenstarr also I’m looking for team sports to get involved with
6:46 in my college I literally have no reasons to smile. I'm smiling sometimes but there are alot of moments when I fake my smile, and I hate this.
I don't want to smile when I'm not happy or not really laughing.
For me, it’s different.
I smile regardless whether I’m happy or not. But it’s not meant to be fake, I don’t see it as fake. It depends on how and why you perceive yourself to smile.
But the habit of smiling, being confident, carrying yourself will convince your body or mind that you are what you act.
Smiling doesn’t have to mean your happy, it can be used to show people you are friendly. And gratitude, for even the littlest things, can make you happy.
All of these points mentioned in this video or in any similar ones, are important, but you guys have to do them for yourselves for your health, for people in general not just “attracting girls”, be yourselves, workout so you have a better life, be hygienic so you don’t get sick be hygienic for your family for your homies first, if you want to change for girls, fine, but I think you should do them for yourself and for your loved ones, that’s where your priorities should be
I always go away from this channel for months on end
but always come back to check on the editing and such, and am always surprised by how quickly it all progresses in proficiency
outstanding
I think the first two things to change at first. Is your hygiene and Wardrobe. Trust me ladies you work with or go to school with will notice the change. Once you're confident on how you look and smell then it's easier to work on the other self-improvements like going to the gym and your social problems
I am so happy to see the old hamza that guide me every single day to be better!! thank you so much hamza for your positive and self improvement preach that changed my mindset.. I am still working on myself I know I have just started this and it will take a long way time to achieve my dream and goal...
Thank you hamza I started watching your videos and started acting on them as well and it is working great, people in school respect me I have found good friends and more girls are reaching out to me.
Thanks, bro please don't stop doing these videos.
Huge thank you for advices and inspiration, wish I've seen your videos when I was around 14-15
Much respect to you Hamza. You are a role model to me.
Being a 16 year old, this gave me even more reasons to work towards the life I want and to become the man I would want to live as. Thank you Hamza!
king
Youre awesome, and thank you so much for getting me through some tough times.
Man this is something in my life that I feel really good about. People seem to like me from meeting me once and I tend to leave a good first impression. This is one of those videos where I can happily say I don't need to address these issues.
Don’t seek to please people, they may even be jealous of you
7:20 ...can relate bro 😭🤝🏻
Thank you, hamza,
You helped me become what I am now, Better. I used to be your average Jeffrey you know watching anime all day, no social skill and not sporting.
You’ve really helped me improve your advice is golden. I now sport 5times a week, read, meditate, building social skill and being outside more.
First I used to be sick weekly now (it doesn’t seem much but it is) now I have just been doing everything for a month (aka not being sick). The reason I used to get sick so much was because of social situations, I’d get scared, terrified even.
But you, you helped me so so much and I just wanted to thank you for that.
I like to recognize the issues with myself so I can solve them, and from my own look at myself I believe I’ve got issues with Physique and Style. I think socially I’m pretty well mannered and kind, I treat others how I’d like to be treated. My issues involve my weight and my choice of style, overweight with a basic style, but I’m improving over time.
Being yourself is overused advice but it's kind of true. Be yourself but be the best version of yourself, don't just be you right now. Improve yourself to the point you don't need to act like someone else for people to like you!
Yo bro, I’m like almost in highschool and I still have no real friends. Like I have good friends at school but we never hang out after school. Im going to a different highschool then all my friends next year tho so what should I change to start over?
Myself is annoying and weird tho
This is good advice. When you are the best version of yourself, you radiate confidence and people are attracted to you. Also pick up a skill/talent that gives you genuine joy and get good at it and share it with people. I picked up cooking & piano playing in the pandemic and I’ve gotten quite good at both and I notice people like me more now than before.
@@schabowy6149 thats why you are supposed to be the best version of you,not the weird one,the cool one
@@k3ilan111 I guess a good idea is to improve your social skills (obviously). That improvement could come from a better physique, some new achievement of yours, a new purpose, your hobbies etc! Looking presentable is the first step of course, but then you gotta have the personality to support the appearance
5:09 I think a big factor to this is also that people don't realize that there's actually a lot of people who aren't neurotypical and their conditions probably make it more difficult for them to go with the flow of a conversation or pick up on social cues. Mind you, this is still a skill that can be worked on.
For me smiling is one of my biggest insecurities as of right now. It use to be tied with my nose but I've grown out of with my nose structure from the side profile. Even though my profile is me smiling it kinda gets me insecure but I can't change or drop a lot of money on surgery. With being uncomfortable and smiling more imma get through this and strive yuhhhh
They sum ugly ass dudes, that be out here pulling females.
Yeah it’s tuff when you wanna smile but something on your face messes it up, I have ugly teeth so I have to smile without showing my teeth until I get money for fixing them
I felt related to the Outsider from Lovecraft for a long time. Considered a weirdo when I was a kid.
Not gonna lie, improving all these areas really helped. It is also important to have a smiling approach to people. No one wanna deal with the eternal sulking guy.
I watched this after your dangerous habits video and when I saw the picture of you and your girlfriend I got a instinctual knee jerk response of jealousy then the negative thought of "i can't ever get that" or "that'll never be me" and just like you said in the last video I simply let the thought happen. Thanks hamza.
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Jealously is the number #1 enemy of success. People get jealous way too often, especially losers. And when I see jealous losers I'm not sure the Jealously is 100% of the problem but it definitely hurts their chances of ever being successful.
I've never been jealous of anyone. When I see someone with a lambo or living in a crazy house or drinking $20,000 bottles of wine I dont get jealous at all. If anything, I'll think "I want that someday, what can I do to get there and do I really want to or even can do what it takes"
care about what others say but don't let it control you
Recently these videos have been much like your old videos. Good job
Reason 5 made me laugh hard. I had that time where I always acted like there was a camera filming me and I had to be the coolest, avoiding every social interaction. I thought I was the shit but looking back I realized how stupid that was.
Common hamza W
beat me to it man
Have you even watched the video?
The dick riding is crazy
@@NoGoatsNoGlory. no lol
This is why
your videos are growing on me i relate so much sometimes i think your being harsh but its the tough love being cruel to be kind i need to here that im shit i want to fix this.
last part was a personal attack that just happened to me a couple hours ago
"You should only decide to meet the expectations of which you know are for your own good" - me
love you man changed my life for the better little by little
Dude you are so right man
I started to look forward to my hygiene and looks much much more, I never leave home unshaved, always or at least somewhat well dressed, and I try to be good and friendly to everyone i see, I just need to check my teeth because I might need to wear bracers again, Im also looking to get a nice bodyshape, Im around 16% body fat, looking forward to get to at least 11 or 12.
Thx for everything Hamza, you thought me to inspire myself in good men in my family like my father and
my two grandfathers, and I hope to provide to my family as they have
After having not watched Hamza for a while and trying to improve myself on my own, I really needed this video to set some shit straight. Another W from Hamza.
I think acne is one. I have acne since I was born, then after a few months they disappeared again... When I was around 12 they started appearing again. People are just offended by them, male or female, someone is going to dislike you a bit because of it... I had 10s which seemed they simply didn't care... I don't know
I’m glad Hamza says that he wants people to like him. That is authentic. I’ve grown tired of seeing people pretend it’s all for them. It’s okay to do it for other people, just be mindful of the positive changed it also has on you when you meditate.
Worth saying that improvement in these will reinforce each other. Looking well, dressing well, and smelling good will give you more confidence and you’ll come off better. If people like you, more opportunities. Do it.
This video basically represent some of the parts of myself that I wish to improve, much love :)
sad thing about hyperhidrosis is people think that you're unhygienic, while its quite the oposite. I have it and people have called me out for being dirty because my hands get wet within minutes or i start having sweat rings on my armpits. It does destroy my confidence quite a lot
If one's different, one's bound to be lonely. ~ Aldous Huxley
Sadly
Npcs are the ppl who hate on different ppl the most
That’s really eye opening. I’ve been doing all those things, but thinking it’s for me. When i cared about others opinion i put myself down thinking it’s wrong to care. But your right , I do care , it’s for me as well as others.
I don’t have most of these but the social mannerisms is so spot on. I feel so lost in a room full of new people like I’ve forgotten how to act like a human being so I end up just doing mannerisms so I don’t look stiff
fr man i just shut up and sit looking at random places people will think im rude not talking or something
Uhm, I can't believe how much this video spreads truth. You talk about things that not everyone would have the courage or knowledge to talk about. We need men to be men, and I think you're doing a great job at helping us to become a better one. Thank you Hamza.
I'm pretty sure I've got the weird social mannerisms one. Sometimes I feel really awkward and uncomfortable myself and people pick up on it, and it hinders my social interactions. I try all the time to work on it but progress is slow.
i mostly dont watch these type of videos but damn its like your living with me the same life with the same problems so relatable respect to you hamaza for trying to help
Observe urself fr i noticed that i dont smile much when interacting nd i overthink shit too much being comfortable around people is the key u get the same vibe that u send i emproved a lot thankfully am even this little bit close to get my first girl live is good keep it up kings
this guy truly inspires me
Man really said don't stink. love it
Definitely feeling the physique part, I'm skinny and I've been training for 6 months. I see the progress but it comes real slow keep grinding kings
Much different and useful video than other similar video that I've seen on same topic
Props to hamza 💯
In school i dont so much fit in when i joined i got immediatly bullied by my whole class.
I changed my whole personality to become more "confident" which is completely fake but it is a bit working
Before that i went out with my friend and he had other friends very popular, They were all standing in a circle and talking and the conversation i couldnt remember. He told his friend infront of my face " I dont like this guy, its just something about his face or so on" He ended up smashing a cup on his friends head as a joke. Later on my 2nd friend said he was gonna smash a cup on my 1 friends head and i told him sure go ahead. 2 minutes later he sneaks up behind me and does it to me. Im not sure what i do wrong and why people dislike me cuz i met every criteria here.
Bro the dont smile one hit me like a car dude. I swear people always tell me to smile or to stop looking sad when in reality its just my resting face. I have the most dead look in my face especially my eyes when I am not showing a specific emotion. So I got to work on that idk how I can make my eyes look less like I smoked pot for 2 hours but I will try.
Yo Hamza Ima try not to make this comment too long idk if u will read this but i've recently tried improving myself and all yours videos are so informative and the amount of people you have helped is crazy, honestly thank you for helping men so much and i clicked on this video just to see cause your vids are good, and as I was watching reason 5 bro caught my attention i do this a lot but not like in an annoying way I just look kinda cold I guess u could say towards girls to make it look like I am not chasing, but Ima try changing that up and hope it helps. Thanks for the vids and congrats on 1m
8:34 thats basically all of hospitality industry, i study in hospitality and tourism school and when we have practice we are told to be polite and thats what they teach us in classes, even if you are sad, dont show it, put a fake smile and we arent supposed to manifest any negative emotions in any circumstance(those are some basic rules of bigger hotel franchises)
Doing these things are good advice if you dislike yourself as well.
So here’s how it goes for me when it comes to hygiene: I would say I am a very hygienic person. I shower every day, I regularly cut my fingernails and I brush my teeth 2-3 times a day. And I don’t have any problems with my fingernails but I don’t know what to do about showering and brushing my teeth: cause even though I shower every day especially before going somewhere, the second I am leaving the house I smell bad again (also I am using deodorant for that reason, but it doesn’t really help) and even though I brush my teeth 2-3 times a day my teeth still have a yellow tint and I really don’t know what to do about it, so if anyone has experienced these kind of problems and knows what to do about it, help would be appreciated :)
Yellow tint on your teeth is normal. It depends on what natural colour your teeth are. If you see someone with perfectly snowy-white teeth it probably means they've done some treatments.
@@pioterek5871 hamza has snowy white teeths though
Snowy white teeth is unhealthy and makes your teeth wayy more sensitive then it should be. A slight yellow tint is natural
I have the similar problem as you. Following hee
Honestly, same. (dont mind my username) I do everything, shower twice a day as well as brush and im an extreme germophobe and…. still i look like a pissed off dude
I'll get straight to these thanks Hamza
Hamza your contents are getting better and better as the movement grows. Congrats on 1M. Perhaps you could make a video in the future on how to restore polarity with a woman you're in a relationship with, if you've somehow become depolarised. In general, a video on sexual polarity would really spice up your content.
I have so many people liking me without being ripped or 'manly' or anything lol. I'm fully straight but I still have mostly friends who are girls and quite a few of them like/liked me romantically too. So if anyone feels low because they're not as manly as 'that dude' I promise you personality matters way more in the long run.
But this doesn't mean don't take care of yourself, I still exercise, follow a skincare routine and have good fashion sense and smell. As long as you are living a healthy lifestyle and not sitting in one place the whole day. You're probably quite healthy already and arguably better than most guys out there, trust me.
I mean,bro 🤷♂️ maybe that's just your personal experience
You missed the point completely if all you took away was get a six pack and huge muscles to get laid. Yes being ripped helps but the point is a reasonably in shape dude who dresses well and has it together had 10x the chance of a fat slob who smells like shit. If someone is guilty of a few of these, or maybe even 1 it will hurt them, and fixing it could be life changing even if they dont go full beast mode and get ripped
I struggled to fit in growing up. I would sometimes try and join in with other kids games and they would bluntly say “You’re not playing”. Other times, I would find myself bullied, teased or have horrible rumours spread about me. It just seemed like there was something that other people just detested about me. I asked people about it and they would say “you just seem weird”. I had no idea why it was happening and I thought there was something wrong with me that I didn’t know about.
Over the years, I tried working on my social skills, joke telling abilities, confidence when speaking etc. which did help a bit, but even by my teens it felt like people often just politely tolerated or put up with me or ignored me completely. There was still a missing piece of the puzzle.
It wasn’t until I realised that I was simply lacking on the most basic criteria of making a good impression that Hamza addressed in the video, that my life really began to change for the better...
My hair was always a mess (when I was a kid I had a bowl haircut with curtains lmao) because I never bothered to style it - then in my teens it became mega greasy to add insult to injury. I had zero fashion sense and never really cared for it - I would always be confused when people spent so much time, money and effort into clothing - so I always wore mismatching or out of fashion clothing simply because I put on whatever felt comfortable - I often wore baggy trousers and crocs (because they were simple to put on and take off) as a kid, which is a fucking weird combo. Also, I was always skinny as a twig due to my fast metabolism and poor appetite which made me look unhealthy at times. I also realised that when I was a child I was a mouth breather which meant that everyone could hear me breathe in and out when they were sitting around me in assembly during primary school and my breath stank also, plus this mouth breathing resulted in a small underdeveloped jawline and crooked teeth which didn’t help my looks either. Lastly, I was self conscious about my long thin neck so I would hunch forward to try and hide it which was completely counterproductive as I developed kyphosis and rounded shoulders. Acne also was added into the mix when puberty hit. Aesthetically and looks-wise, I was a complete mess.
Only when I corrected/worked on improving just the basics did things start to change. I started eating more and lifted weight to improve my physique, I put more effort into wearing decent clothing, I started mewing and worked on my posture, breathing through my nose and holding my head up high. I eliminated dairy to improve my acne and look after my skin and hair much more carefully.
Without majorly working on anything else in terms of my personality, confidence, social skills etc. these differences alone completely transformed my social life and how people treated and respected me. I now have lots of great friends.
I strongly agree with Hamza and believe that many people overthink or overcomplicate things when things aren’t working out for them socially or in terms of first impressions (social skills, charisma, confidence, joke telling ability etc.) when actually they just need to sort out some basic rudimentary stuff.
u are literally me. I am experiencing hairloss not that noticeable but it's still visible on looking carefully. I m skinny as hell , do not have a fashion sense, i m tall and my neck is long and thin too. I have like kind of oval face but lil bit of jawline. My teeth's crooked . the only decent thing i have is my height 6'1. It is pretty tall for where i live.
@@_the_invictus_8394 I try to embrace my giraffe neck these days lol. yeah throughout my entire life it seems the only thing that naturally I had going for me was my height but it was overshadowed by everything else for a long time, actually if anything it probably worked against me initially because it exacerbated my gawky twig like stature. When I filled out though it became a godsend. Eating lots can be hard at first but your appetite will increase as your stomach gets bigger. Tall and thin people (ectomorphs) like us unfortunately tend to have naturally smaller stomachs which makes us full more easily than any other physique.
Please do a video going more in-depth on social mannerism. I think that's something a lot of us struggle with, especially if we're inside too much
im currently living at a boarding school with totally new people and i recently heard from one of my friends that people that ive never interacted with dont like me, and i immidiatly wrote it of as being their fault for not giving me a chance but this video has made me realise that i might be partially to blame, im a very skinny guy that dont really care about fashion but i realise now that if i want people to like me i have to work hard for it... thx
WE LOVE YOU BRO