Notes for y'all: 1. Broke and Unambitious You can be broke, but if a women see that your future is bright they will still be attracted. Because it seems exciting. 2. You're not mysterious Mystery brings curiosity. Always leave them wanting to know more. 3. You aren’t present Presence is being fully in the moment rather than overthinking. When you think too much, girl’s will notice and be less attracted. 4. You aren’t physically attractive Build your physique by going to the gym and eating well. 5. Personality Weirdo: bad social skills, weird mannerisms. Be yourself, but develop your social skills and mannerisms so that you don’t seem weird to women. 6. Neediness Neediness is caring too much (replying too fast/asking to hang out too much). Must have other options/other things you are working on in your life. If you aren’t where you want to be now, that’s okay, it just means you’ve got tons of room for improvement (which you can fulfill). I have an amazing video on this last concept called “It’s okay to suck, right now”. It’s only 2 min if you want to watch.
Bullshit imo, if you are ugly guy girl will not be interested in you even with your "good personality" lmao, the amount of manlet gymcels I´m seeing is so fucking big and guess what. Still no girls wants them.
#5. Weirdo or quirky? Because I like quirky guys, or guys who are 'different' in some way, from the rest. Btw, a great personality trumps physical attributes. WE can fall in love with 'physically unattractive', because the personality of the guy is so attractive... Especially if he is humorous and makes us laugh. #6. If a girl really likes you, she won't mind if you are attentive to her texts and communicating with you. If you start playing games with a girl who likes you, by making her wait and wonder, you could turn her off and lose her.
Hamza is the only UA-camr out there who always manages to sneak in the importance of mental health in every video with any topic, imo thats a great way of spreading such an important message in a subtle way which is what can really allow people who AREN'T looking in the right places for the answers to get the answers that they need. this is 100% the strategy I plan on going with in my future videos.
Romans 10:9 because, if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.sdddd
Bro, I'm so thankful for having the oportunity to hear that from another guy and make a art of a group that people actually supports you, there are so many things I wish to hear when I was at Hight School, but knowing them now it's good as well and I'm grateful that my gf actually said to me a couple days ago the that she likes my body, I didn't heard that as "only lust thing", her eyes were acually bright but not becuase of my surface but becuase she really admire me on what I'm becomeing, then I was again thankul for your advces and because of that I back to gym since I started watch your videos.
I'm 15 and I'm very blessed that I get too see videos like this to learn how to improve myself at such a young age, this december I'm finna be on that grind💪
@@en2p187 I9 think what he means is for example you tell a woman you barely know a very well kept secret of yours, like: I have a billion dollars secretly hidden away on an island, now please date me I'm desperate! Revealing everytything about yourself too much at once can seem desperate.
@@loveisthemostpowerfulforce1397 well yeah that's true but that's fairly obvious if you're too "mysterious" you can come across as a dangerous wack job. Subtlety. Don't be too eager to share everything about yourself.
I recently got my first girlfriend after starting self improvement. She noticed that I improved my physique and my mental health drastically and after 6 months (when I first started), she barely recognised me. I gave it my all in every criteria, I joined kickboxing, I started going to the gym with my girlfriend and we're constantly improving. She had severe mental health issues and she said that I hepled her tremendously. I genuenly feel like I am making my friends lives better by being there for them, I always motivate them. I couldn't have done it without you Hamza, I'm forever grateful for the help and guidance that you provided for me.
Notes for y'all: -Do not stress over women -It's good to have em but not worth stressing over and destroying yourself. -If you just improve yourself to boost your confidence then girls will be attracted to you but you have to start the convos. -Some of your first attempts at talking to women probably won't go well, you'll subconsciously act needy and all but with time you will improve. -My last point doesn't mean approach them randomly, that's creepy as fuck man. There will be a time where you can. Most people here are young so in school presents lots of opportunities to start convos. -Most important tip, act natural and don't overthink.
When it comes to neediness……the key is to match a girls effort and energy. No double texting……if she doesn’t seem to care, let her go…. If you’re always initiating conversations and she never does, move on…. It’s ok to show interest/attraction……but if all you get back is zero effort on her part, let it go……..
@@JojoThoughts eh, it’s more like just presenting yourself like you care. Don’t wanna fake it, but not be too boring about it But if you aren’t interested in the person initially, that’s gunna come out in how you interact with them
@@JojoThoughts Not at all. It's about maintaining dignity and self respect. If you're over-investing in another human being who barely put in any effort, then it will leave you feeling empty and pathetic. So yes........if you're texting her big paragraphs and she only ever texts you one sentence.... It makes you look needy. Give her what she gives you. The effort should be 50-50
i used to have a girlfriend. last year she broke up after telling me i was a negative person. First time i ever hear someone say that to me but fuck it i went on with my life but she kept connecting every 2 to 3 months. so basically in august she wanted to have a face to face talk. we did. and ended up talking again. then she broke up again this time telling me that she wasnt able to feel my love and attention and that i lacked in that part. it was always fingerpointing towards me and the reason for all of this is bc i am that nice guy…. nice guys always lose imo
I am almost 25 years old, never had a relationship, sex, kiss etc. I have a muscular athletic physique and get complimented on it regularly (working out is a passion of mine). I like reading, been a straight A student and get ocassionally complimented on my knowledge overall. I'm not a weirdo and am I not a social butterfly either. I practice all the other self improvement activities that Hamza and those alike speak of. Girls simply are not interested and I've learned to live with it
@@kabeershariff It's like they show no interest and neither do I - mutual. But focusing on intellectual, physical, financial aspects of improving. We keep on grinding
You need to improve your looks. I joined blackpill and i learnt so many things how to improve your looks and now after a while even women are cold approaching me. I am getting threated better, people respect me more and i am feeling better overall because of positive feedback.
Btw. I am not saying redpill(what Hamza teaches) doesnt work in life. In life i believe it is the only path to take. But when it comes to attracting women- improving your looks, personality(lifestyle-fun,hobbies) are the only 2 things that actually work
that part on social mannerisms was probably it for me. i needed to hear that, i always knew i was weird and friends and family members have always commented on how strange i can be (maybe partially due to my autism but that isnt stopping me). i never realised how unattractive to girls it is. thanks hamza
I started building my phisique 1 month ago,im on a bulk,and seeing progress better and better every workout.I'm extremely proud of myself because I sacrificed the days lost on video games,and made them into self improvent time.Thank you hamza for appearing that one time on my tik tok feed.
I've gone through a breakup quite recently (in fact, it was 3 days ago) and i recognize myself in this video a lot more than i would like to. Thank you Hamza for opening my eyes. Great video.
even after more than 1 year after discovering your channel im still watching almost every video you upload. i am very thankful to you for changing my perspective and pushing me to take action and thankful to myself that i believed in the things you preach and implemented them in my life. i still have a long way to go but i am so peaceful knowing that im on the right track. tysm hamza
hamza we both at the same age but you have accomplished so many good things..confident, social skill, fitness, looks, money & masculinity. good for you man. im into this journey too, and yes it's hard but you can do it. i believe we all here can do it too. thanks for the masculine inspiration. cheers
I respect your honestly man. I actually believe you takes a man to admit that he overdoing something. Especially that subject where society puts that kind of behavior on a pedestal. Much Respect...You earned a sub from me!
Being present in the moment is magic. I've started to practice it two days ago and earlier, I was communicating like a leader in our discussion. My listening skills improved and small inconveniences didn't affect me. I think faster and feel happier.
Your story about when you were young, reminded me of my brother and my cousin. They were the same age, they were had friends but they weren’t considered bf material. My brother had a growth spurt in high school. He grew so fast the baby fat he struggle with couldn’t keep up, stretched, and he looked lean. Then he join sports and lifted weights. It seemed like over night his body went from bow to wow. Girls that barely talked to him gravitate towards him. My cousin stayed the same but learned how to converse and became fashionable and he started attracting. So physical appearance and not being awkward are spot on. For me confidence was really helped them with girls. His body transformation helped him lose the low esteem vibe. While my cousin gained confidence through getting comfortable around them. The more he tried the less it bothered him to be around girls. His posture straighten up and did not hesitate. Confidence, is knowing you will be chosen, and not an if question. If not then be ok, it wasn’t that person. The key, and I agree with you, if a guy cannot and will choose himself why would she? Learn who you are. What qualities would make you choose you? Start the confidence journey with that and confidence won’t be an issue.
Thank you, hamza, You helped me become what I am now, Better. I used to be your average Jeffrey you know watching anime all day, no social skill and not sporting. You’ve really helped me improve your advice is golden. I now sport 5times a week, read, meditate, building social skill and being outside more. First I used to be sick weekly now (it doesn’t seem much but it is) now I have just been doing everything for a month (aka not being sick). The reason I used to get sick so much was because of social situations, I’d get scared, terrified even. But you, you helped me so so much and I just wanted to thank you for that. ( and I kind of see you as my older brother)
This is maybe one of the most relatable videos i've ever watched, but i won't just cry and say i'm unattractive. I'll try to build the person i wanna be, remind me in a year
@@toxicpie3356 yo wsp bro i'm not built like a God rn but my back and my chest are WAY more massive than before, just a month of Gym can do so much holy shit
Thanks for your teachings again, Hamza, always helping us to improve ourselves, you don't see everybody doing it on UA-cam. I'd just add one more thing or maybe complement the reason 4 with good posture. If you're not in shape right now, either because you've start exercising recently or is just fucking lazy, the minimum you should have is good posture, I'd say that's even more important than being shred. Stand up straight, with your head up, even if you're not the "hot guy" rn, is already something that improves your image and, of course, health. Thanks again for your vids bro🙏
Hey Hamza, I can't say I found a lot of this helpful but that bit about being present in conversation really hit home, I'll be trying that out when I can
I’m truly and deeply grateful for you doing what you do hamza, you making a six minute video can literally change my life and it has, I love you and I truly value you in my life.
Something I have been wondering my whole life is "why I have always been single?" Here are the reasons: 1°: My mental health, I am currently working on myself and be a better human and I'm thankful for what I have achieved/learned. 2°: Worrying too much, I think this is the common overthinking process everyone complains about. 3°: My body, It doesn't matter what my body type is or it's size, what matters is that I need to be comfortable enough in an appropriate body, that's why exercising a lot makes me happy and still get to rest a little bit and eat well. 4°: Emotions, literally every man's problem. Guys, my body is getting the right treatment with my training, so practice mental health, satisfy your curiosity even on the smallest details because with proper knowledge, you'll be wiser, you'll be happier and with practice life will be much more entertaining and fulfilled. Who knows what important things you'll learn in life and how you can use it to get what you need in the future.
i love the way you engage with your viewers and they way you keep them watching ur video, the talking the gestures everything just goes together well. also the fact that you can help yourself and others with these types of videos is just amazing, all love to you hamza
Great information from Hamza as always 🔥! You should you make video discussing how to “be present” & how to stop overthinking during conversations. This would be helpful af because I literally deal with all the things you listed 2:59-3:41. It’s to the point where my conversations are just simple and I can’t make them laugh the way I want to.
Not the hamza video I found it on but the smiling and holding eye contact really works. Not staring at random girls as they pass, but holding eye contact and smiling if they look first.
You forgot low confidence. Trust me, last year in school I was not confident and decided to change that the following year. I did and I am now pulling so please also take confidence into accountability. Even if you’re not, act like it. Trust me, acting confident will make you confident. Have a good day or night and stay strong.
Here are a few extra add-ons, coming from a girl who stumbled across this video: - Even if you’re rich, if you’re unambitious girls won’t like you - Being mysterious and not needy is a really big thing. The girl would feel awkward if she feels like a guy is constantly all over her. Instead, try to play hard to get occasionally, but don’t overdo it or she’ll get the wrong hint. Like some days you can take 15 hours to reply to her snap, and other days 2 minutes. She will wonder what took you so long on those days and think about you more often ;)
I’m flat out saying i need to work on things mentioned in this video,more to physically attractiveness and I’m not upset or discouraged,it actually makes me more aware of stuff I have to improve
An often overlooked part of self improvement is the company you keep. A Roman philosopher, I believe he was Seneca, said something along the lines of "as a whetstone sharpens the blade, a man sharpens another". If you surround yourself with likeminded individuals geared towards improvement you'll get there much faster. First fix yourself, then invite someone in your life. You can't have a relationship if you're not squared away.
BRO HAMZA, I STARTED WATCHIN UR VIDS AND IM INSPIRED ASF, I STARTED GOING TO THE GYM AND HONESTLY OVER ALL IMPROVING ON MYSELF, AND I RLY WANNA THANK YOU FOR INSPIRIN ME
For a relationship Personality is the major factor for what keeps it together in a nice way with love. Looks, materialism and such are just what attracts but not what maintains the relationship for years or even until death
Seriously,why is it common theme that parents never give their children any social lessons,really vital ones,but later wonder "why is he so incompetent at finding relationships and such?"
You know, being present is honestly probably the most important thing to get down *immediately*. If you are present, you will learn so much without needing to be told. I've been needy, and noticed how the girl I liked just stopped responding to my texts with any enthusiasm. A girl once asked me what I do when I got home, and I was honest, I eat dinner, then play video games almost every day. Awkward for the rest of that conversation. But when you're present, when you're paying attention, you notice that kind of shit. You see where you need to improve, where you need to keep your mouth shut. Now I finally got a girlfriend, and I can see how much she is attracted to me because I've improved in these areas. I don't text her all day just for fun, when I describe my pastimes I say the interesting stuff like my instruments and workouts and make sure to avoid saying I play video games. I tell her about the job I'm studying for. I give her hints about my more controversial opinions, and even though she probably disagrees with much of it, she's interested. Pay attention. This is important for all things in life, but girls especially. How will you learn if you do not pay attention?
I’ve recently been improving to my mental health and it honestly feels great I started praying to God more going to gym more and just bettering my work ethic at my job and how I treat my gym work ethic
I feel like you are changing my life, from just a teen i went to someone who is becoming a real man, like my great grandfathers, I don't know how to thank you.
dude you are so helpfull bcs Im 13 and because of you I started going to the gym, and Im more self confident I stopped playing video games and stuff, Thank you
Didn’t realise until yesterday, lastnight when I was walking around my town with the boys getting some ice cream how many Jeffries there are. I’m not saying I’m a total degen, but I’m not an Adonis. I’m on the path of self development, a year deep. But the locals town… saw a group of year sevens, vaping… thinking they’re dead cool. Made me and my mate cringe… to the point he and myself were disgusted. Was sad to see ofc… but also a reminder I’m on the right path and not doing this shit.
I made a promise to myself that 2022 was the year I’d do something to change my 155 pound 11 year old physique. I walk 5 km to school every morning and back, my body has been experiencing incredible changes since I’ve been watching you in July 2022. I’m only 12 and I obviously am too young to go to the gym but doesn’t mean I can’t make my physical attractiveness better. Thank you hamza and for the other peoples lives you’ve changed
True, too much sex with different girls damages you spiritually speaking from experience as well, I’m still trying to heal from it and trust me it’s not easy
On number 4, I am unattractive. Am I down on myself about that? A little, but I've been working out a lot. I'm going to the gym and I will get a better physique, I disciplined myself to think that regardless if I am anxious or depressed or just having low energy, I'm still gonna go to the gym and do what I need to do. I used to be in that mindset where I was totally down on myself, but my confidence is mostly regaining. Trust me Hamza, I have goals in mind and personally, I want to run my own business eventually. That being a cannabis dispensary. For now, I'm working hard to the best of my capability. I will get from point A to point B.
@@Gaze73 No, a legal cannabis dispensary. That is exactly why in legal states, there is a limitation of what you can buy in each dispensary. I mainly want a dispensary because cannabis overall is highly profitable but simultaneously I never want consumers to overbuy and make it an addiction, which is something most tobacco companies induce. They are careless and are only there for the money, however I do care about customers and cannabis can be used to actually help people with mental illnesses/mental disorders. I know that's my pov on cannabis, but it's the truth. I never want to sell something for any harm doing.
bruv, i started watching ur videos and implementing it irl...life got soo fucking hard and boring and painful...but i believe in u and will continue them...just hoping things pay off at the end :)
Heyy Hamza, could you (or anyone here in the comments) explain what it means to be “mysterious?” Like, what’s the line between “(Edit) seeming like an aloof/not present person that doesn’t want to share anything” and “being attractive because you are a mysterious guy?”
@@Krispy4real Nah, I was just throwing out some random example where failing to be "mysterious" might backfire. Perhaps a better example would be: "How can one act mysterious without seeming aloof, not present in the moment?" When a girl (or person, generally) asks me a question, I'm a strong proponent of not giving one-word answers, and prefer to elaborate more. Though in what situations is it better to say less?
I have none of these reasons but I'm just scared to talk to girls but after they talk to me i'm completly fine. I don't know whats wrong with me because I've never been denied or rejected when it comes to approaching girls. I'm in 10th grade
@@AndroidX1X I need them too. But firstly I got into the gym because my body was weak, and I had posture problems. I was able to get girls before, but always made the mistake of loosing my ambitions and focus too much on a girl ^^. That's why I said take care of yourself first. Girls can be a nice addition to your life and should be nothing you just focus on.
The conciseness and help Hamzas Video provide is incredible. He lights the way to a better future and provides hope can not be expressed with words. Thank you for helping me on my journey to the best version of myself
You iman and tate brothers changed my life forever Just thank you And my small observation You get instantly more attractive when you dont treat her anything special When you act like she isnt only girl ever talked you You must start be living that 10/10 chiks aproach you all the time(self confident boost)(dont act like asshole) its Just sad when some guy gets aproached and acts like its his one life time chance and is too much forward Stop giving a fuck and work on something what will make you hot and proud abaut Sorry for bad english and all good for you guys!
Thanks for this hamza I have A lot of worry when talking to girls and ppl like u just help me you have helped me a lot I’ve worked out bc of u and I feel so good I owe ya one you saved my life
I'll be honest, too. Some girls/women, like me, are attracted to shy, quiet guys. The problem comes when they continue to be shy and quiet and don't come out of their shell with her and communicate!
@@timmenhoff Yes, I am, because I was terribly shy myself, and had a hard time dating in my prime because of it, so I relate and find it attractive. I still can be very shy. But eventually, you are going to have to learn how to talk to people. Just talk. Practice on strangers at the grocery store, lol. That doesn't mean you can't be quiet *together* with another introvert, or even extrovert, after you meet her and get to know her. Learn to ask questions about her, to her. Listen. Show a little interest. You might find her starting conversations with you.
@@vismong102 I actually lied, i had this state of gratitude, for being on this earth alive till now, health etc and my mental state have been always so damn good from the beginning.. when i failed in my university, i was about to have a mental breakdown but, i found this cult within 1 day..so, technically my mental was never bad.. i am always happy
5 haunts me forever. I'm not that weird anymore, and it is getting better, but reputation sticks. A lot of people forgot about elementary school me, most have. But when you find someone who does remember, the rope looks friendly.
Consistency is 🔑 yet it’s difficult as our brain wants to be comfortable, but once you begin to place yourself in uncomfortable situations where you’ll gain a ton of benefits, you’ll become better which my channel advocates! 👍🏾
Hamza saved my life do the grind work on yourself, id say im still pretty skinny but its because im a fighter, im lean and relatively muscular and get a lot of compliments makes you feel better
Kings remember that getting girls should not be your main goal in life. Find your purpose and work to achieve it until you are the picture of hard work and discipline. Just like the book "The Way of the Superior Man" says,: "Your purpose must come before your relationship" Many nowadays get it wrong, self- improvement does not mean hating women, it means working on yourself and growing yourself until you are able to provide for that special someone. Video Summary : #1 - no money #2 - you are not mysterious #3 - you are not present in the moment #4 - your physical attractiveness #5 - personality #6 - you are needy
I'd love it if you could make a video elaborating on these reasons a bit more, and how to directly fix them. I think I unfortunately kind of fit in the needy category if I'm being honest. and I also wish to be a bit more mysterious... but not quite sure how.
Thank you, I now know my problem. I always knew it, but now I can describe it. It's the part where you spoke about this passive behavior, where a girl is interested in you and trys to talk to you, but you are just afk. Now I'll work on it
THIS IS A GAME-CHANGING! I wish I had seen this video early in my life. Sadly, All 6 reasons are valid for me, but It has given me insight into what is wrong with me. So now, I need a video that advises fixing my attitude.
@@Trinsicity Agreed. I meant it for the guys who desire a true relationship, who just need that extra push to get them the girl they want. Women are very visual when it comes to choosing a mate online, and first impressions could ruin their chances right away. Hunks with horrible characters don't usually look for a relationship though. Tinder should be working just fine for them. 😜
@@Trinsicity Hey, you said it yourself in your vid: "Focus on making your book cover the best it could possibly be." So now we can agree to agree 😜 And your rating system is pretty neat. Definitely better than the Tinder system. 👍 Thank you for the lovely compliment on my costume work. Much appreciated.🙏💜
what i like about hamza is that: 1) he tells you the problem (like straight up, no bullshit) 2) HE GIVES YOU SOLUTIONS AND ENCOURAGES YOU TO SOLVE THE PROBLEM thanks again hamza, great video as always brutha 👍
Notes for y'all:
1. Broke and Unambitious
You can be broke, but if a women see that your future is bright they will still be attracted. Because it seems exciting.
2. You're not mysterious
Mystery brings curiosity. Always leave them wanting to know more.
3. You aren’t present
Presence is being fully in the moment rather than overthinking. When you think too much, girl’s will notice and be less attracted.
4. You aren’t physically attractive
Build your physique by going to the gym and eating well.
5. Personality
Weirdo: bad social skills, weird mannerisms. Be yourself, but develop your social skills and mannerisms so that you don’t seem weird to women.
6. Neediness
Neediness is caring too much (replying too fast/asking to hang out too much). Must have other options/other things you are working on in your life.
If you aren’t where you want to be now, that’s okay, it just means you’ve got tons of room for improvement (which you can fulfill). I have an amazing video on this last concept called “It’s okay to suck, right now”. It’s only 2 min if you want to watch.
you're a goat for this appreciate it man
Bullshit imo, if you are ugly guy girl will not be interested in you even with your "good personality" lmao, the amount of manlet gymcels I´m seeing is so fucking big and guess what. Still no girls wants them.
Good simplification there, g. I wish I had fans like Hamza’s.
@@FakeAndTrolled Very true, but as he said in the video, it's difficult to change your face. Whereas changing your physique is possible
#5. Weirdo or quirky? Because I like quirky guys, or guys who are 'different' in some way, from the rest. Btw, a great personality trumps physical attributes. WE can fall in love with 'physically unattractive', because the personality of the guy is so attractive... Especially if he is humorous and makes us laugh.
#6. If a girl really likes you, she won't mind if you are attentive to her texts and communicating with you. If you start playing games with a girl who likes you, by making her wait and wonder, you could turn her off and lose her.
Hamza is the only UA-camr out there who always manages to sneak in the importance of mental health in every video with any topic, imo thats a great way of spreading such an important message in a subtle way which is what can really allow people who AREN'T looking in the right places for the answers to get the answers that they need. this is 100% the strategy I plan on going with in my future videos.
He explained that before
I try to too. I think it’s crucial and must be worked on heavily.
No he isnt the only youtuber. And even you know that.
Romans 10:9 because, if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.sdddd
Bro, I'm so thankful for having the oportunity to hear that from another guy and make a art of a group that people actually supports you, there are so many things I wish to hear when I was at Hight School, but knowing them now it's good as well and I'm grateful that my gf actually said to me a couple days ago the that she likes my body, I didn't heard that as "only lust thing", her eyes were acually bright but not becuase of my surface but becuase she really admire me on what I'm becomeing, then I was again thankul for your advces and because of that I back to gym since I started watch your videos.
I'm 15 and I'm very blessed that I get too see videos like this to learn how to improve myself at such a young age, this december I'm finna be on that grind💪
Go for it brother! 👍🏼
We're going to grind through December together, man. Christmas can wait
@@C4rnee yeah bro I'm free that entire month so there is no excuse for me to not get started with improving myself
why wait until december
@@ttsait November is the busiest month for me because I'm writing my final exams so my mind is totally focused on that
Hamza is like the big brother I never had
1. Broke/unambitious
2. Not mysterious / too open
3. Presence/Be in the present moment
4. Physical Attractiveness
5. Personality
6. Too Needy
I agree with this list. 2 tho is debatable. Openness is trustworthy and honest.
Jesus loves you
@@en2p187 I9 think what he means is for example you tell a woman you barely know a very well kept secret of yours, like: I have a billion dollars secretly hidden away on an island, now please date me I'm desperate! Revealing everytything about yourself too much at once can seem desperate.
@@loveisthemostpowerfulforce1397 well yeah that's true but that's fairly obvious if you're too "mysterious" you can come across as a dangerous wack job. Subtlety. Don't be too eager to share everything about yourself.
You just saved 10 mins!
Have a great day!
I recently got my first girlfriend after starting self improvement. She noticed that I improved my physique and my mental health drastically and after 6 months (when I first started), she barely recognised me. I gave it my all in every criteria, I joined kickboxing, I started going to the gym with my girlfriend and we're constantly improving. She had severe mental health issues and she said that I hepled her tremendously. I genuenly feel like I am making my friends lives better by being there for them, I always motivate them. I couldn't have done it without you Hamza, I'm forever grateful for the help and guidance that you provided for me.
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🎉🎉 My guy! I’m proud of you, bro 💯 I’m trying my people with my platform to become better and find themselves a good woman!
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@@gibrilsi Don't worry brother, you'll find the right woman with enough time!
Notes for y'all:
-Do not stress over women
-It's good to have em but not worth stressing over and destroying yourself.
-If you just improve yourself to boost your confidence then girls will be attracted to you but you have to start the convos.
-Some of your first attempts at talking to women probably won't go well, you'll subconsciously act needy and all but with time you will improve.
-My last point doesn't mean approach them randomly, that's creepy as fuck man. There will be a time where you can. Most people here are young so in school presents lots of opportunities to start convos.
-Most important tip, act natural and don't overthink.
Just prioritise goals over woman. Everything else will line up smoothly
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Hamza you're literally the best self improvement youtuber, stay on the top ✊🏼
"Mother, I have paused the online game and will come downstairs to eat dinner"
-Adonis
The only online game Adonis plays is chess
@@raymo9057 and puzzle games (I love chess)
bro is stronger than we thought
"Mother, pause your online gams, i have cooked dinner."
Adonis
@@gijsjansen3645 based
When it comes to neediness……the key is to match a girls effort and energy.
No double texting……if she doesn’t seem to care, let her go…. If you’re always initiating conversations and she never does, move on….
It’s ok to show interest/attraction……but if all you get back is zero effort on her part, let it go……..
True
“Match her energy “ you’re basically saying giving her the leadership role.
@@JojoThoughts eh, it’s more like just presenting yourself like you care.
Don’t wanna fake it, but not be too boring about it
But if you aren’t interested in the person initially, that’s gunna come out in how you interact with them
@@JojoThoughts Not at all. It's about maintaining dignity and self respect. If you're over-investing in another human being who barely put in any effort, then it will leave you feeling empty and pathetic.
So yes........if you're texting her big paragraphs and she only ever texts you one sentence.... It makes you look needy. Give her what she gives you. The effort should be 50-50
problem is i find girls never start the conversation over text no matter what. Even if they are attracted to you
i used to have a girlfriend. last year she broke up after telling me i was a negative person. First time i ever hear someone say that to me but fuck it i went on with my life but she kept connecting every 2 to 3 months. so basically in august she wanted to have a face to face talk. we did. and ended up talking again. then she broke up again this time telling me that she wasnt able to feel my love and attention and that i lacked in that part. it was always fingerpointing towards me and the reason for all of this is bc i am that nice guy…. nice guys always lose imo
You repeated the same mistake twice...
I am almost 25 years old, never had a relationship, sex, kiss etc. I have a muscular athletic physique and get complimented on it regularly (working out is a passion of mine). I like reading, been a straight A student and get ocassionally complimented on my knowledge overall. I'm not a weirdo and am I not a social butterfly either. I practice all the other self improvement activities that Hamza and those alike speak of. Girls simply are not interested and I've learned to live with it
My man you don't accept and "live with it" .. Break the character that you are living ... Approach girls and be more direct with your intentions.
@@kabeershariff It's like they show no interest and neither do I - mutual. But focusing on intellectual, physical, financial aspects of improving. We keep on grinding
u need to start the conversation
You need to improve your looks. I joined blackpill and i learnt so many things how to improve your looks and now after a while even women are cold approaching me. I am getting threated better, people respect me more and i am feeling better overall because of positive feedback.
Btw. I am not saying redpill(what Hamza teaches) doesnt work in life. In life i believe it is the only path to take. But when it comes to attracting women- improving your looks, personality(lifestyle-fun,hobbies) are the only 2 things that actually work
"You can be broke and attracted to women!"- Hamza
Thanks bruv❤
Doesn't mean you should stay broke brother ❤
that part on social mannerisms was probably it for me. i needed to hear that, i always knew i was weird and friends and family members have always commented on how strange i can be (maybe partially due to my autism but that isnt stopping me). i never realised how unattractive to girls it is. thanks hamza
Crap yeah I think thats me. One time I literally sat on the seat without my back to the seat and my feet were floating off the ground 😭😭😭
W bro 💯💯🔥
Bro, this is the no bs video I’ve been looking for.
I started building my phisique 1 month ago,im on a bulk,and seeing progress better and better every workout.I'm extremely proud of myself because I sacrificed the days lost on video games,and made them into self improvent time.Thank you hamza for appearing that one time on my tik tok feed.
Keep going bro
@@jonathan-3008 came back i have insane progress 15kg bulk was done and im another human another body
I've gone through a breakup quite recently (in fact, it was 3 days ago) and i recognize myself in this video a lot more than i would like to. Thank you Hamza for opening my eyes. Great video.
even after more than 1 year after discovering your channel im still watching almost every video you upload. i am very thankful to you for changing my perspective and pushing me to take action and thankful to myself that i believed in the things you preach and implemented them in my life. i still have a long way to go but i am so peaceful knowing that im on the right track. tysm hamza
hamza we both at the same age but you have accomplished so many good things..confident, social skill, fitness, looks, money & masculinity. good for you man. im into this journey too, and yes it's hard but you can do it. i believe we all here can do it too. thanks for the masculine inspiration. cheers
I respect your honestly man. I actually believe you takes a man to admit that he overdoing something. Especially that subject where society puts that kind of behavior on a pedestal. Much Respect...You earned a sub from me!
Being present in the moment is magic. I've started to practice it two days ago and earlier, I was communicating like a leader in our discussion. My listening skills improved and small inconveniences didn't affect me. I think faster and feel happier.
How do you practice this?
@@KingKhan-ez3gg I asked the Internet the same question
Your story about when you were young, reminded me of my brother and my cousin. They were the same age, they were had friends but they weren’t considered bf material. My brother had a growth spurt in high school. He grew so fast the baby fat he struggle with couldn’t keep up, stretched, and he looked lean. Then he join sports and lifted weights. It seemed like over night his body went from bow to wow. Girls that barely talked to him gravitate towards him. My cousin stayed the same but learned how to converse and became fashionable and he started attracting. So physical appearance and not being awkward are spot on. For me confidence was really helped them with girls. His body transformation helped him lose the low esteem vibe. While my cousin gained confidence through getting comfortable around them. The more he tried the less it bothered him to be around girls. His posture straighten up and did not hesitate.
Confidence, is knowing you will be chosen, and not an if question. If not then be ok, it wasn’t that person. The key, and I agree with you, if a guy cannot and will choose himself why would she? Learn who you are. What qualities would make you choose you? Start the confidence journey with that and confidence won’t be an issue.
Thank you, hamza,
You helped me become what I am now, Better. I used to be your average Jeffrey you know watching anime all day, no social skill and not sporting.
You’ve really helped me improve your advice is golden. I now sport 5times a week, read, meditate, building social skill and being outside more.
First I used to be sick weekly now (it doesn’t seem much but it is) now I have just been doing everything for a month (aka not being sick). The reason I used to get sick so much was because of social situations, I’d get scared, terrified even.
But you, you helped me so so much and I just wanted to thank you for that. ( and I kind of see you as my older brother)
Thank GOD I figured this shit out early in my 20s. Married with a kid now. Keep spreadin the good worth bruddah
This is maybe one of the most relatable videos i've ever watched, but i won't just cry and say i'm unattractive. I'll try to build the person i wanna be, remind me in a year
u got this
stay strong king. I'm also doing it right now, hope we see better ourselves asap
You got this bro
Remind you in a year !?
@@toxicpie3356 yo wsp bro i'm not built like a God rn but my back and my chest are WAY more massive than before, just a month of Gym can do so much holy shit
Thanks for your teachings again, Hamza, always helping us to improve ourselves, you don't see everybody doing it on UA-cam. I'd just add one more thing or maybe complement the reason 4 with good posture. If you're not in shape right now, either because you've start exercising recently or is just fucking lazy, the minimum you should have is good posture, I'd say that's even more important than being shred. Stand up straight, with your head up, even if you're not the "hot guy" rn, is already something that improves your image and, of course, health. Thanks again for your vids bro🙏
been watching you for some time now and I am glad you’ve given me this mindset 👏
Hey Hamza, I can't say I found a lot of this helpful but that bit about being present in conversation really hit home, I'll be trying that out when I can
Whoever does the art for hamza I love it 😂
such a great feeling to finally be able to answer "yes" to the question in Reason #4
This is probably one of the best video i ever have seen on youtube.
Thank you so much for this kind of content you're sharing!
I’m truly and deeply grateful for you doing what you do hamza, you making a six minute video can literally change my life and it has, I love you and I truly value you in my life.
Something I have been wondering my whole life is "why I have always been single?"
Here are the reasons:
1°: My mental health, I am currently working on myself and be a better human and I'm thankful for what I have achieved/learned.
2°: Worrying too much, I think this is the common overthinking process everyone complains about.
3°: My body, It doesn't matter what my body type is or it's size, what matters is that I need to be comfortable enough in an appropriate body, that's why exercising a lot makes me happy and still get to rest a little bit and eat well.
4°: Emotions, literally every man's problem.
Guys, my body is getting the right treatment with my training, so practice mental health, satisfy your curiosity even on the smallest details because with proper knowledge, you'll be wiser, you'll be happier and with practice life will be much more entertaining and fulfilled.
Who knows what important things you'll learn in life and how you can use it to get what you need in the future.
i love the way you engage with your viewers and they way you keep them watching ur video, the talking the gestures everything just goes together well. also the fact that you can help yourself and others with these types of videos is just amazing, all love to you hamza
The message you'd Convey in this Vdo was Just Awesome bro!
Will follow these stuffs!
Thank you
Today was my first day hitting the gym on my self improvement journey, wish me luck on the rest of it boys 💪
Good luck 🤞🏻.I’m starting next week never been before .
Good luck buddy🗿🫂
Great information from Hamza as always 🔥! You should you make video discussing how to “be present” & how to stop overthinking during conversations. This would be helpful af because I literally deal with all the things you listed 2:59-3:41. It’s to the point where my conversations are just simple and I can’t make them laugh the way I want to.
Not the hamza video I found it on but the smiling and holding eye contact really works. Not staring at random girls as they pass, but holding eye contact and smiling if they look first.
You earned a new subscriber never sell out to much man I get we need to make money but always keep your soul!
You forgot low confidence. Trust me, last year in school I was not confident and decided to change that the following year. I did and I am now pulling so please also take confidence into accountability. Even if you’re not, act like it. Trust me, acting confident will make you confident. Have a good day or night and stay strong.
that thumbnail 💀Good advice as always though, Hamza
Thank you bro, you gave me the motivation to exercise and actually take care if myself.
Thanks you!
Here are a few extra add-ons, coming from a girl who stumbled across this video:
- Even if you’re rich, if you’re unambitious girls won’t like you
- Being mysterious and not needy is a really big thing. The girl would feel awkward if she feels like a guy is constantly all over her. Instead, try to play hard to get occasionally, but don’t overdo it or she’ll get the wrong hint. Like some days you can take 15 hours to reply to her snap, and other days 2 minutes. She will wonder what took you so long on those days and think about you more often ;)
I’m flat out saying i need to work on things mentioned in this video,more to physically attractiveness and I’m not upset or discouraged,it actually makes me more aware of stuff I have to improve
An often overlooked part of self improvement is the company you keep. A Roman philosopher, I believe he was Seneca, said something along the lines of "as a whetstone sharpens the blade, a man sharpens another". If you surround yourself with likeminded individuals geared towards improvement you'll get there much faster. First fix yourself, then invite someone in your life. You can't have a relationship if you're not squared away.
But how do I find someone who’s like me? Who also wants to improve?
@@Rocky-hm2ho easy. Do you want to improve your physique? Hit the gym or join a martial arts class. Plenty of people there with the same mindset.
Bro your art man
It’s getting so much better!
BRO HAMZA, I STARTED WATCHIN UR VIDS AND IM INSPIRED ASF, I STARTED GOING TO THE GYM AND HONESTLY OVER ALL IMPROVING ON MYSELF, AND I RLY WANNA THANK YOU FOR INSPIRIN ME
congrats
Ambition and discipline also fall under personality, i always say looks attract, personality keeps
For a relationship Personality is the major factor for what keeps it together in a nice way with love. Looks, materialism and such are just what attracts but not what maintains the relationship for years or even until death
today i learned that being present is a state of flow
Straight to the point. I like it, thanks
Seriously,why is it common theme that parents never give their children any social lessons,really vital ones,but later wonder "why is he so incompetent at finding relationships and such?"
They just don't know how to teach kids
You know, being present is honestly probably the most important thing to get down *immediately*. If you are present, you will learn so much without needing to be told. I've been needy, and noticed how the girl I liked just stopped responding to my texts with any enthusiasm. A girl once asked me what I do when I got home, and I was honest, I eat dinner, then play video games almost every day. Awkward for the rest of that conversation.
But when you're present, when you're paying attention, you notice that kind of shit. You see where you need to improve, where you need to keep your mouth shut.
Now I finally got a girlfriend, and I can see how much she is attracted to me because I've improved in these areas. I don't text her all day just for fun, when I describe my pastimes I say the interesting stuff like my instruments and workouts and make sure to avoid saying I play video games. I tell her about the job I'm studying for. I give her hints about my more controversial opinions, and even though she probably disagrees with much of it, she's interested.
Pay attention. This is important for all things in life, but girls especially. How will you learn if you do not pay attention?
I'll come again years later to watch the full video cuz it's too top notched..... he's got some serious points to notice fellas🙌🏻🔥💓
I’ve recently been improving to my mental health and it honestly feels great I started praying to God more going to gym more and just bettering my work ethic at my job and how I treat my gym work ethic
I feel like you are changing my life, from just a teen i went to someone who is becoming a real man, like my great grandfathers, I don't know how to thank you.
4:14 not yet, but Im getting there. 7 months of bulking done already
dude you are so helpfull bcs Im 13 and because of you I started going to the gym, and Im more self confident I stopped playing video games and stuff, Thank you
The explanation was eye opening bruh, u gave me confidence to keep on and keep fighting no matter what
Didn’t realise until yesterday, lastnight when I was walking around my town with the boys getting some ice cream how many Jeffries there are. I’m not saying I’m a total degen, but I’m not an Adonis. I’m on the path of self development, a year deep. But the locals town… saw a group of year sevens, vaping… thinking they’re dead cool. Made me and my mate cringe… to the point he and myself were disgusted. Was sad to see ofc… but also a reminder I’m on the right path and not doing this shit.
year 7s these days make me wanna puke
I made a promise to myself that 2022 was the year I’d do something to change my 155 pound 11 year old physique. I walk 5 km to school every morning and back, my body has been experiencing incredible changes since I’ve been watching you in July 2022. I’m only 12 and I obviously am too young to go to the gym but doesn’t mean I can’t make my physical attractiveness better. Thank you hamza and for the other peoples lives you’ve changed
keep going on bud.
your future self will thank you for grinding.
Improved and still improving those points. Never stop it gets easier the more Progress you made.
Hey you saved me out of that path appreciate you hamza!
True, too much sex with different girls damages you spiritually speaking from experience as well, I’m still trying to heal from it and trust me it’s not easy
wrong
That's bullshit
@@vitality4004 right
@@mustafam956 wouldnt say so
On number 4, I am unattractive. Am I down on myself about that? A little, but I've been working out a lot. I'm going to the gym and I will get a better physique, I disciplined myself to think that regardless if I am anxious or depressed or just having low energy, I'm still gonna go to the gym and do what I need to do. I used to be in that mindset where I was totally down on myself, but my confidence is mostly regaining. Trust me Hamza, I have goals in mind and personally, I want to run my own business eventually. That being a cannabis dispensary. For now, I'm working hard to the best of my capability. I will get from point A to point B.
Congrats you seem to have no problem with number one!
That's a fancy way of saying you want to be a drug dealer, lol.
@@Gaze73 No, a legal cannabis dispensary. That is exactly why in legal states, there is a limitation of what you can buy in each dispensary. I mainly want a dispensary because cannabis overall is highly profitable but simultaneously I never want consumers to overbuy and make it an addiction, which is something most tobacco companies induce. They are careless and are only there for the money, however I do care about customers and cannabis can be used to actually help people with mental illnesses/mental disorders. I know that's my pov on cannabis, but it's the truth. I never want to sell something for any harm doing.
man very helpful.. i actually am very needy i just realised.... thanks so much i'll try to change
bruv, i started watching ur videos and implementing it irl...life got soo fucking hard and boring and painful...but i believe in u and will continue them...just hoping things pay off at the end :)
Heyy Hamza, could you (or anyone here in the comments) explain what it means to be “mysterious?” Like, what’s the line between “(Edit) seeming like an aloof/not present person that doesn’t want to share anything” and “being attractive because you are a mysterious guy?”
Always say less than necessary.
Why do you think a person who doesn't share a lot about himself a douche
@@Krispy4real Nah, I was just throwing out some random example where failing to be "mysterious" might backfire. Perhaps a better example would be: "How can one act mysterious without seeming aloof, not present in the moment?"
When a girl (or person, generally) asks me a question, I'm a strong proponent of not giving one-word answers, and prefer to elaborate more. Though in what situations is it better to say less?
@@cetycon2613 it's good to engage in a conversation with a girl, but girls like the mystery of not knowing much about you.
@@cetycon2613 situations where she asks you personal questions where you can say less
I have none of these reasons but I'm just scared to talk to girls but after they talk to me i'm completly fine. I don't know whats wrong with me because I've never been denied or rejected when it comes to approaching girls. I'm in 10th grade
Chill bro. Your time will come. Girls are not everything in this World. Care for yourself first
@@BeatZerol They are you're wrong. You wouldn't have even gone to the gym if it wasn't for them let's stay honest with ourselves I need beatches.
@@AndroidX1X I need them too. But firstly I got into the gym because my body was weak, and I had posture problems. I was able to get girls before, but always made the mistake of loosing my ambitions and focus too much on a girl ^^. That's why I said take care of yourself first. Girls can be a nice addition to your life and should be nothing you just focus on.
@@AndroidX1X Then do some situps or get a girl bro
@@BeatZerol I'm trying buthey reject me
thank you so much because of you i started working on my self and i will emprofe my life and i started reading books because of you
Hamza, you should make a video on your opinion on antidepressants etc. and the alternatives.
Hamza, can you make a video for those who are aspiring to be an Adonis in life, but aren’t men yet? (13-16 yr olds)
That would be nice
Same principles bro
You are a man at 15
@@heissendigital I'm 14
6:27 That was me lmao, a few girls still liked me though
NNN and listening to Hamza early in the morning= productive monday
The conciseness and help Hamzas Video provide is incredible. He lights the way to a better future and provides hope can not be expressed with words. Thank you for helping me on my journey to the best version of myself
You iman and tate brothers changed my life forever
Just thank you
And my small observation
You get instantly more attractive when you dont treat her anything special
When you act like she isnt only girl ever talked you
You must start be living that 10/10 chiks aproach you all the time(self confident boost)(dont act like asshole) its Just sad when some guy gets aproached and acts like its his one life time chance and is too much forward
Stop giving a fuck and work on something what will make you hot and proud abaut
Sorry for bad english and all good for you guys!
Facts be good my friend
4:08 pause
Thanks for this hamza I have A lot of worry when talking to girls and ppl like u just help me you have helped me a lot I’ve worked out bc of u and I feel so good I owe ya one you saved my life
Thanks Hamza
I'll use these points to improve myself
And I'll be the greatest
When you relate to all of the Reasons.
Sad life 😔
Thank you Hamza
Thats all I can say
🎉
Hamza is the goat 🐐 🎉! I’ll take over his throne! I also thank Hamza for helping me and inspiring me too. 💯👑
Hamza always come in clutch with these informative videos
Just signed up for iman gadzhi event. Left me really curious, can't wait to see you participating there aswell!
I'll be honest, too. Some girls/women, like me, are attracted to shy, quiet guys. The problem comes when they continue to be shy and quiet and don't come out of their shell with her and communicate!
so you aren't actually attracted to shy, quiet guys
@@timmenhoff Yes, I am, because I was terribly shy myself, and had a hard time dating in my prime because of it, so I relate and find it attractive. I still can be very shy. But eventually, you are going to have to learn how to talk to people. Just talk. Practice on strangers at the grocery store, lol. That doesn't mean you can't be quiet *together* with another introvert, or even extrovert, after you meet her and get to know her. Learn to ask questions about her, to her. Listen. Show a little interest. You might find her starting conversations with you.
@@timmenhoff exactly? Its contradicting
6 reasons how i made my life so happy!
Reason 1: Hamza
Reason 2: Hamza
Reason 3: Hamza
Reason 4: Hamza
Reason 5: Hamza
Reason 6: Myself
😂
Reason 777: GOD
Reason 1908: GibrilSI 😂🤷🏾♂️
Adoniss
Brother start building your own foundation.. don’t be too over-reliant on hamza’s advice.. start building a network, a business
@@vismong102 I actually lied, i had this state of gratitude, for being on this earth alive till now, health etc and my mental state have been always so damn good from the beginning.. when i failed in my university, i was about to have a mental breakdown but, i found this cult within 1 day..so, technically my mental was never bad.. i am always happy
5 haunts me forever. I'm not that weird anymore, and it is getting better, but reputation sticks. A lot of people forgot about elementary school me, most have. But when you find someone who does remember, the rope looks friendly.
Thank You, for your information man. its really helpful for me
no jefferys allowed
Bottom line is the hardest part is to be and remain consistent , never get too comfortable unless you're in your 50s with grandchildren on the way
Consistency is 🔑 yet it’s difficult as our brain wants to be comfortable, but once you begin to place yourself in uncomfortable situations where you’ll gain a ton of benefits, you’ll become better which my channel advocates! 👍🏾
u can't get comfortable nither at ur 50s, cuz then u'll become sad; u'll always have to put some hard work, to make ur life happy
@@fabijangrgic9630 it depends
Hamza saved my life do the grind work on yourself, id say im still pretty skinny but its because im a fighter, im lean and relatively muscular and get a lot of compliments makes you feel better
Bro , never stop making these videos 🙏🏾
Kings remember that getting girls should not be your main goal in life. Find your purpose and work to achieve it until you are the picture of hard work and discipline. Just like the book "The Way of the Superior Man" says,: "Your purpose must come before your relationship" Many nowadays get it wrong, self- improvement does not mean hating women, it means working on yourself and growing yourself until you are able to provide for that special someone.
Video Summary :
#1 - no money
#2 - you are not mysterious
#3 - you are not present in the moment
#4 - your physical attractiveness
#5 - personality
#6 - you are needy
I'd love it if you could make a video elaborating on these reasons a bit more, and how to directly fix them. I think I unfortunately kind of fit in the needy category if I'm being honest. and I also wish to be a bit more mysterious... but not quite sure how.
Hamza could you make a video on what's the first thing to start with in self improvement? Would appreciate it
Thank you, I now know my problem. I always knew it, but now I can describe it. It's the part where you spoke about this passive behavior, where a girl is interested in you and trys to talk to you, but you are just afk. Now I'll work on it
Really needed this !!
THIS IS A GAME-CHANGING! I wish I had seen this video early in my life. Sadly, All 6 reasons are valid for me, but It has given me insight into what is wrong with me. So now, I need a video that advises fixing my attitude.
THANK YOU FOR #4!!!! 🙏THANK YOU! Plz keep telling men to work out, then most issues with women not fancying them will vanish. 👏👏👏
Doesn't work
@@Trinsicity Agreed. I meant it for the guys who desire a true relationship, who just need that extra push to get them the girl they want. Women are very visual when it comes to choosing a mate online, and first impressions could ruin their chances right away. Hunks with horrible characters don't usually look for a relationship though. Tinder should be working just fine for them. 😜
@@Trinsicity Hey, you said it yourself in your vid: "Focus on making your book cover the best it could possibly be." So now we can agree to agree 😜 And your rating system is pretty neat. Definitely better than the Tinder system. 👍 Thank you for the lovely compliment on my costume work. Much appreciated.🙏💜
Already had 2 girls this year after 5 years of no girls but still watching since I can improve even more
what i like about hamza is that:
1) he tells you the problem (like straight up, no bullshit)
2) HE GIVES YOU SOLUTIONS AND ENCOURAGES YOU TO SOLVE THE PROBLEM
thanks again hamza, great video as always brutha 👍